WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:03.759 Let me teach you the real life how it really is, 2 00:00:03.839 --> 00:00:06.040 the reason why you're a loser, and the reason why 3 00:00:06.040 --> 00:00:08.759 you're not making it, and the reason why you're trying 4 00:00:08.800 --> 00:00:11.000 to go through all these I go to all these conventions, 5 00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:15.160 speak all the time. I'm looking at an audience, and 6 00:00:15.199 --> 00:00:18.440 these people sign up, sign up, sign up every year 7 00:00:18.480 --> 00:00:22.079 to go to convention, thinking they're gonna learn something different. No, 8 00:00:22.760 --> 00:00:26.839 you're lazy. You know exactly what to do, exactly what 9 00:00:26.920 --> 00:00:30.039 to do. Because even me, in my state of I 10 00:00:30.079 --> 00:00:32.960 can't read or write, I knew exactly what to do. 11 00:00:34.320 --> 00:00:39.000 It just sucks doing it. It sucks to do it. 12 00:00:39.000 --> 00:00:41.280 It sucks to wake up every morning of your life 13 00:00:41.320 --> 00:00:45.479 and say, god, man, I'm I'm not smart. So guess 14 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:47.640 what I gotta do. I gotta I gotta study the 15 00:00:47.679 --> 00:00:50.399 same shit. I get one of the highest scores in 16 00:00:50.399 --> 00:00:54.799 the nation on and do it again, do it again, 17 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:57.320 do it again. It's not just there, it's not just 18 00:00:57.359 --> 00:01:01.880 there permanently for me. So yeah, it's all stick. It's 19 00:01:02.079 --> 00:01:06.760 all stick. The only care that you have is like 20 00:01:08.400 --> 00:01:12.239 maybe maybe, because whenever I take these tests that are 21 00:01:12.319 --> 00:01:15.280 real hard, in the back of my brain is like 22 00:01:15.920 --> 00:01:18.640 the good chance you're not gonna make it. Goggins. This 23 00:01:18.760 --> 00:01:24.319 ain't you, bro, This ain't you. You weren't born like this, 24 00:01:24.319 --> 00:01:27.120 This ain't you the real you, bro? Study all you 25 00:01:27.159 --> 00:01:29.400 want you, But the second that fuck computer comes on 26 00:01:29.480 --> 00:01:33.920 with one hundred and fifty questions, this ain't you, man, 27 00:01:33.920 --> 00:01:39.640 somehow comes back. I passed, passed again, passed again, but 28 00:01:40.359 --> 00:01:44.760 that ruled me back here every time it's saying that 29 00:01:44.799 --> 00:01:48.319 ain't you, bro, that ain't you? And I have to 30 00:01:49.079 --> 00:01:52.760 outwork that voice. When I'm taking that test and I 31 00:01:52.760 --> 00:01:55.280 get to a question I don't know the answer, I'm like, 32 00:01:55.400 --> 00:01:59.560 fuck man, and then says I told you, man, that 33 00:01:59.599 --> 00:02:03.040 ain't you. Here's three hundred pounds. Man. You sit at homeie, 34 00:02:03.079 --> 00:02:05.920 figure out how to do your hair, that's what you do. 35 00:02:06.040 --> 00:02:08.719 How to come to school with the reverse baldness when 36 00:02:08.719 --> 00:02:15.520 you're sixteen. That's you. So there is no get out 37 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:19.240 of your free card. This is why I say stay hard, 38 00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:23.280 because when you weren't given the gifts, the only thing 39 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:26.759 you can do in life is stay hard. And I 40 00:02:26.840 --> 00:02:31.560 know people cannot stand me, they can't stand this talk. 41 00:02:33.039 --> 00:02:37.240 This is all you can do. There's no magic pill 42 00:02:37.560 --> 00:02:41.199 or a magic potion. All you can do is out 43 00:02:41.240 --> 00:02:45.319 work the man that God created or woman in you, 44 00:02:45.879 --> 00:02:49.879 and what that looks like is unfun. That's why I said, 45 00:02:50.000 --> 00:02:54.159 do not do a documentary on me, because people will 46 00:02:54.199 --> 00:02:57.400 not see the truth. They will see what they want 47 00:02:57.439 --> 00:02:58.960 to see. Is I don't want to live like that. 48 00:03:00.120 --> 00:03:03.759 Good good, and you will live exactly the way you 49 00:03:03.840 --> 00:03:08.080 live now, questioning who you are, wondering what is possible, 50 00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:09.520 wondering what you. 51 00:03:09.439 --> 00:03:10.560 Are capable of doing. 52 00:03:11.120 --> 00:03:14.240 That's how that looks what we obtain too cheap, we 53 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:18.800 esteem too lightly. Easy successes may be pleasant, but if 54 00:03:18.800 --> 00:03:22.599 they're the only successes you achieve, you'll come to expect quick, 55 00:03:23.240 --> 00:03:26.520 effortless results. Then when life hits you hard with a 56 00:03:26.560 --> 00:03:31.759 difficult challenge, you'll lack the mental toughness to overcome it. Moreover, 57 00:03:32.280 --> 00:03:35.520 you'll never appreciate the easy successes as much as the 58 00:03:35.520 --> 00:03:39.960 ones that require blood, sweat and tears. Does it mean 59 00:03:39.960 --> 00:03:42.479 that you should reject easy successes and seek the most 60 00:03:42.479 --> 00:03:47.039 difficult ways to accomplish your goals. Of course not. However, 61 00:03:47.560 --> 00:03:50.919 you should make sure that you don't deliberately avoid hardships, 62 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:56.000 resist the temptation to set your aims low. Scoring exclusively. 63 00:03:56.039 --> 00:03:59.599 Easy wins might feel good, but you're limiting your potential 64 00:03:59.639 --> 00:04:02.879 that way over the long term, make sure that you 65 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:06.319 always have at least one big, ambitious, and demanding goal 66 00:04:06.400 --> 00:04:10.280 in life, as that's where the power of self discipline shines, 67 00:04:10.680 --> 00:04:14.280 where most personal growth happens, and which delivers the greatest 68 00:04:14.280 --> 00:04:18.319 feeling of having accomplished something worth doing. Receive wealth or 69 00:04:18.360 --> 00:04:21.920 prosperity without arrogance, and be ready to let it go. 70 00:04:23.360 --> 00:04:26.959 Never take self discipline for granted or assume that if 71 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:31.720 you can control your urges, you're now invincible. Humility plays 72 00:04:31.759 --> 00:04:36.920 an important role in helping you maintain self control. An 73 00:04:37.040 --> 00:04:42.079 arrogant person will be more likely to unnecessarily test their willpower, 74 00:04:42.680 --> 00:04:46.680 which will eventually lead to their downfall. This happens because 75 00:04:47.560 --> 00:04:51.800 of the restraint bias, the tendency for people to overestimate 76 00:04:52.480 --> 00:04:56.879 how capable they are of controlling impulsive behaviors. Research shows 77 00:04:57.279 --> 00:04:59.959 that people who had an inflated belief in their self 78 00:05:00.199 --> 00:05:04.720 control over expose themselves to temptations such as recovering smokers, 79 00:05:04.879 --> 00:05:08.519 putting themselves in situations tempting them to smoke, which increase 80 00:05:08.639 --> 00:05:12.560 the risk of a relapse. Assume that your self discipline 81 00:05:12.600 --> 00:05:16.079 is like prosperity It's possible that it will stay with 82 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:19.920 you for a long time, but it's also possible that 83 00:05:19.959 --> 00:05:24.959 it will disappear. Consequently, you'll work harder to keep it 84 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:28.040 in your life. If it does go away when you 85 00:05:28.160 --> 00:05:31.680 make some mistakes, you'll accept it with more tranquility and 86 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:36.399 be more likely to regain it quickly. You gain strength, courage, 87 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:39.319 and confidence by every experience in which you really stop 88 00:05:39.399 --> 00:05:41.920 to look fear in the face. You are able to 89 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:45.120 say to yourself, I live through this horror. I can 90 00:05:45.120 --> 00:05:47.839 take the next thing that comes along. You must do 91 00:05:47.920 --> 00:05:51.759 the thing you think you cannot do. Self discipline is 92 00:05:51.800 --> 00:05:54.759 a lot like dealing with fear. When you face temptations, 93 00:05:54.800 --> 00:05:57.639 look them straight in the eye and send them packing. 94 00:05:58.120 --> 00:06:00.560 The next time they appear in your life, you'll be 95 00:06:00.600 --> 00:06:03.639 able to say to yourself, I managed to overcome them once, 96 00:06:04.439 --> 00:06:06.759 I can handle them this time as well. The more 97 00:06:06.800 --> 00:06:09.680 times you successfully overcome the temptations, the easier it will 98 00:06:09.720 --> 00:06:13.279 be to handle them again. Regular practice will make you 99 00:06:13.360 --> 00:06:18.000 less susceptible to temptations and even more likely to ignore them, 100 00:06:18.439 --> 00:06:20.920 just like looking fear in the face will make you 101 00:06:20.959 --> 00:06:24.920 more likely to act in spite of it. Granted, it's 102 00:06:24.959 --> 00:06:29.000 not that with enough experience, you'll become unconditionally self disciplined, 103 00:06:29.120 --> 00:06:31.639 just like you won't one day stop being afraid of anything. 104 00:06:32.199 --> 00:06:36.079 Just remember that each situation that tests you resolve is 105 00:06:36.120 --> 00:06:39.879 another experience from which you can draw inspiration to overcome 106 00:06:40.040 --> 00:06:45.759 future challenging circumstances when they occur. Never pick the easy road, 107 00:06:47.839 --> 00:06:51.120 never never, and it always goes back to kind of 108 00:06:51.240 --> 00:06:55.439 the hero mentality. Never pick the easy road ever in 109 00:06:55.480 --> 00:07:01.040 your life. That is the one road that is doom 110 00:07:01.319 --> 00:07:05.439 It is doomed if you want something like six minute 111 00:07:05.480 --> 00:07:07.800 abs all these different things, if you want it so fast, 112 00:07:08.879 --> 00:07:12.759 you may achieve what you want it, but you want 113 00:07:12.800 --> 00:07:16.959 the permanent fix. The permanent fix comes from the hard road. 114 00:07:17.720 --> 00:07:23.079 The hard road gives you permanent results. The easy road 115 00:07:23.480 --> 00:07:26.319 gives you the quick fix. You will go back to 116 00:07:26.360 --> 00:07:28.519 where you started on the easy route. 117 00:07:29.639 --> 00:07:33.360 That hard route is so permanent that it ends up 118 00:07:33.480 --> 00:07:36.439 caallessing you everywhere everywhere. 119 00:07:36.639 --> 00:07:39.680 You keep a six pack forever, Keep it because you 120 00:07:39.720 --> 00:07:43.120 know the work that goes into it. Knowledge has to 121 00:07:43.160 --> 00:07:49.560 be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or advanishes. Just like knowledge, 122 00:07:49.639 --> 00:07:54.000 you can't take self discipline for granted. Unfortunately, being a 123 00:07:54.040 --> 00:07:57.160 self disciplined person isn't a one and done kind of thing. 124 00:07:57.920 --> 00:08:00.959 Once you have learned how to live that way, you 125 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:03.759 can still lose it if you don't consistently strengthen it 126 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:09.000 by setting new challenges and rejecting instant gratification in favor 127 00:08:09.040 --> 00:08:12.800 of bigger future rewards. Never assume that you're disciplined enough. 128 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:16.040 There's always a new area in which you can improve 129 00:08:16.079 --> 00:08:20.360 your self control and further expand your comfort zone. For example, 130 00:08:21.079 --> 00:08:25.519 regular exercise poses no challenge for my self discipline. In 131 00:08:25.600 --> 00:08:29.000 order to strengthen it, I need to set bigger exercise 132 00:08:29.000 --> 00:08:33.639 related challenges for myself Instead of focusing on fitness. I 133 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:36.240 can also find a new area in which my discipline 134 00:08:36.279 --> 00:08:39.600 is lacking, such as developing more patients when dealing with 135 00:08:39.639 --> 00:08:42.799 other people, and focus on improving it until it's no 136 00:08:42.879 --> 00:08:48.120 longer a test for my resolve. Such consistent practice ensures 137 00:08:48.840 --> 00:08:52.159 that you're at least maintaining your level of self control 138 00:08:53.000 --> 00:08:58.320 and ideally always getting better at it. Hold yourself responsible 139 00:08:58.320 --> 00:09:01.360 for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. 140 00:09:01.399 --> 00:09:05.799 Never excuse yourself, never pity yourself, Be a hard master 141 00:09:05.919 --> 00:09:09.919 to yourself, and be lenient to everybody else. The only 142 00:09:09.960 --> 00:09:13.080 standards that should concern you are your own standards. If 143 00:09:13.120 --> 00:09:15.279 you act in accordance with the standards of the majority 144 00:09:15.279 --> 00:09:21.080 of people, you'll be overweight, unfit, unhealthy, lazy, hating your job, 145 00:09:21.279 --> 00:09:24.360 not having enough time for your family, and in debt. 146 00:09:25.320 --> 00:09:29.000 I sometimes get flat from my goals. You're already slim. 147 00:09:29.159 --> 00:09:31.679 Why do you still watch your diet? Why do you 148 00:09:31.720 --> 00:09:34.639 save so much money? You should live it up. Can't 149 00:09:34.639 --> 00:09:37.279 you live like a normal person instead of waking up 150 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:40.200 at five am and going to sleep as early as 151 00:09:40.240 --> 00:09:45.000 eight pm. According to my standards, the growth should never end. 152 00:09:46.039 --> 00:09:50.039 I always hold myself responsible for a higher standard, and 153 00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:53.480 this allows me to maintain success friendly habits in my 154 00:09:53.519 --> 00:09:57.559 life and achieve even more success. If you allow yourself 155 00:09:57.559 --> 00:10:00.879 to have low standards, how are you opposed to ever 156 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:05.320 achieve excellence. Exhibiting self control is one of the most 157 00:10:05.360 --> 00:10:09.960 powerful demonstrations of having high standards. Letting fleeting emotions and 158 00:10:10.080 --> 00:10:14.000 urges control your life as most people do is a 159 00:10:14.080 --> 00:10:17.279 sure fire path to mediocrity. The important thing in the 160 00:10:17.320 --> 00:10:20.840 Olympic Games is not to win, but to take part. 161 00:10:21.159 --> 00:10:25.360 The important thing in life is not triumph, but the struggle. 162 00:10:25.879 --> 00:10:28.200 The essential thing is not to have conquered, but to 163 00:10:28.279 --> 00:10:31.720 have fought well. Nobody will ever give you any grades 164 00:10:31.720 --> 00:10:35.240 for your level of self discipline. There's no finish line, 165 00:10:35.240 --> 00:10:38.120 and there's no podium for the winners. The only purpose 166 00:10:38.159 --> 00:10:42.440 of building self discipline is to conquer yourself, your own urges, 167 00:10:42.759 --> 00:10:48.320 your own weaknesses, and your own self sabotaging behaviors. It's 168 00:10:48.399 --> 00:10:50.639 easy to forget this fact and assume that when you 169 00:10:50.679 --> 00:10:53.840 reach your goals, you're done. In fact, the moment you 170 00:10:53.879 --> 00:10:57.120 make your dreams come true isn't the most important moment. 171 00:10:57.600 --> 00:11:01.080 It's important, no doubt, but without the leading to it 172 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:04.840 in itself, it means little. The most important moments are 173 00:11:04.879 --> 00:11:08.480 the moments of struggle, when you're striving to fight, even 174 00:11:08.519 --> 00:11:11.200 when you can barely stand and the whole world is 175 00:11:11.240 --> 00:11:15.080 spinning around you. It's this very act that proves your 176 00:11:15.120 --> 00:11:19.559 metal and showers you with life encompassing benefits, not the 177 00:11:19.600 --> 00:11:23.240 act of winning in itself. Whenever you find yourself frustrated 178 00:11:23.480 --> 00:11:25.879 that you're still a long way from the finish line, 179 00:11:26.000 --> 00:11:28.919 remember that it's right now, at this very moment, that 180 00:11:29.000 --> 00:11:33.080 you're collecting the biggest rewards. It's the struggle in itself 181 00:11:33.120 --> 00:11:37.120 that improves you and makes you a more successful person. Anybody, 182 00:11:37.159 --> 00:11:38.000 not just Navy. 183 00:11:37.720 --> 00:11:41.279 Says, but anybody that can accomplish anything that is hard. 184 00:11:42.399 --> 00:11:45.720 The only separator is is that they really want to 185 00:11:45.799 --> 00:11:50.240 be there. There's some people that get inspired and that 186 00:11:50.360 --> 00:11:55.399 inspiration moves them to try to do something. But the 187 00:11:55.399 --> 00:12:00.000 inspiration is very high right now in this nice environment. 188 00:12:00.080 --> 00:12:03.240 We're in a nice environment. The ocean's out there. I'm 189 00:12:03.279 --> 00:12:04.519 talking to you. If I want to go to the 190 00:12:04.679 --> 00:12:05.480 refrigerator and. 191 00:12:05.399 --> 00:12:08.840 Get something to drink, eat, I can I watch a 192 00:12:08.879 --> 00:12:13.480 movie bout some badasses. You're inspired, But the second you're 193 00:12:13.480 --> 00:12:18.600 not in this environment and you're actually doing what inspired you, 194 00:12:19.399 --> 00:12:22.720 that suck factor is now real. You can't just get 195 00:12:22.720 --> 00:12:26.000 off your couch and get a shake, or get a 196 00:12:26.039 --> 00:12:28.759 box of donuts or turn the TV. You're now there, 197 00:12:29.080 --> 00:12:33.039 and only those people who have been there a million 198 00:12:33.120 --> 00:12:37.360 times in their minds and have lived in that water 199 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:42.360 and have suffered a million times and realized my legs. 200 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:47.039 May break, my knee may break, my bones will hurt, 201 00:12:47.399 --> 00:12:49.519 I will be the coldest I've been in my life. 202 00:12:49.559 --> 00:12:52.639 I will be miserable and accept that. 203 00:12:53.399 --> 00:12:55.600 Because what happens is when you get in a horrible 204 00:12:55.639 --> 00:12:58.240 situation in life, your mind, I caught my one second decision. 205 00:12:58.879 --> 00:13:01.240 When you get a horrible situation in life, your mind 206 00:13:01.320 --> 00:13:03.360 immediately says, get out of here. 207 00:13:03.519 --> 00:13:06.799 Everybody does, even if you want to be there. But 208 00:13:07.399 --> 00:13:09.320 it starts to have all these different. 209 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:12.559 Questions in your mind that one second, and it says, Okay, 210 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:13.159 why are you here? 211 00:13:13.200 --> 00:13:13.799 Why you do this? 212 00:13:13.840 --> 00:13:14.159 Why this? 213 00:13:14.240 --> 00:13:14.600 Why that? 214 00:13:15.120 --> 00:13:17.240 And then you start to say yourself, if you don't 215 00:13:17.240 --> 00:13:19.120 want to be there, that bad, I'm a beautiful wife 216 00:13:19.159 --> 00:13:20.919 at home. Man, Why am I doing this? 217 00:13:21.480 --> 00:13:24.080 Like? This is stupid? This is gonna get these guys injured, 218 00:13:24.320 --> 00:13:26.600 like they're going to pay for this for the rest 219 00:13:26.600 --> 00:13:27.080 of their lives. 220 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:28.639 I'm not gonna break my body up to do this. 221 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:33.559 Your mind starts to say, yeah, this is stupid. But 222 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:36.720 if you have, if you are already knowing that this 223 00:13:36.799 --> 00:13:38.799 is going to happen to you, you have all the 224 00:13:38.879 --> 00:13:42.039 answers to these questions that your mind starts to give 225 00:13:42.080 --> 00:13:43.399 you when you're in suffer mode. 226 00:13:44.279 --> 00:13:48.720 To succeed, you must fail. In failure and in suffering, 227 00:13:49.399 --> 00:13:52.440 all the answers are in there, all the answers to 228 00:13:52.519 --> 00:13:56.919 all the test questions. The test is your life. All 229 00:13:57.000 --> 00:13:59.960 the answers are in there. You don't have to live 230 00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:05.840 and suffering, pain and failure all the time. You have 231 00:14:05.919 --> 00:14:09.600 to learn. Like people hate working out, you're only going 232 00:14:09.639 --> 00:14:12.399 to visit working out maybe an hour a day, twenty 233 00:14:12.679 --> 00:14:15.720 three other hours of the day you're not in it. 234 00:14:16.399 --> 00:14:19.840 But how you become in shape is you must visit suffering. 235 00:14:20.120 --> 00:14:23.639 Visit working out one hour a day. Visit suffering one 236 00:14:23.679 --> 00:14:28.480 hour a day. Visit your past failures one hour a day. 237 00:14:28.759 --> 00:14:31.320 The relationship with it is the answers are in there. 238 00:14:32.039 --> 00:14:35.080 They are in there, within the suffering. Go in there. 239 00:14:35.360 --> 00:14:38.919 I call it the live autopsy. The live autopsy how 240 00:14:38.960 --> 00:14:41.639 you find out They crack you open after you're dead. 241 00:14:42.159 --> 00:14:44.080 How you can live is do it while you're alive. 242 00:14:44.559 --> 00:14:47.080 Go back in your brain, crack it open while you're alive. 243 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:50.600 Don't wait until you're freaking dead to figure out why 244 00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:53.960 you died. Do it while you are living. Go in there, 245 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:56.840 go into the suffering, go into the pain of your life, 246 00:14:56.879 --> 00:14:59.600 and say, why does this suck for me so bad? 247 00:15:00.240 --> 00:15:02.600 Why am I afraid of all this stuff? Why have 248 00:15:02.679 --> 00:15:07.200 I shut down the whole world? I guarantee I'll tell 249 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:10.559 you why you shut down the whole world. It's in 250 00:15:10.600 --> 00:15:13.519 these nooks of the suffering within your brain and the 251 00:15:13.559 --> 00:15:15.759 scarring are all the answers to why you are on 252 00:15:15.840 --> 00:15:19.759 the couch feeling sorry for yourself. They lie within the scars. 253 00:15:20.600 --> 00:15:24.320 Visit them for at least an hour a day, Study them, 254 00:15:24.759 --> 00:15:27.360 and then you'll find out more about yourself. You will 255 00:15:27.360 --> 00:15:30.480 then grow. So don't look at it as every day 256 00:15:30.519 --> 00:15:34.159 I suffer. Go into it an hour a day. Learn 257 00:15:34.200 --> 00:15:39.159 from yourself, learn from life, learn from me, Learn from 258 00:15:39.200 --> 00:15:43.799 your failures, learn from your insecurities, learn from your self doubt. 259 00:15:44.120 --> 00:15:47.120 Don't you say I'm afraid to jump off an airplane? 260 00:15:47.360 --> 00:15:50.600 What makes you afraid of it? Study it. That's why 261 00:15:50.679 --> 00:15:53.360 I studied my mind. Why I became so powerful in 262 00:15:53.360 --> 00:15:56.600 the mind because I realized I was weak. So instead 263 00:15:56.600 --> 00:15:58.799 of running away from the mind, I dove into it 264 00:15:58.840 --> 00:16:02.360 and said, what is making me weak?