WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.560 --> 00:00:03.759 Are you ready to branch out, to take a leap 2 00:00:03.759 --> 00:00:07.559 of faith to love yourself and others fully? Then let 3 00:00:07.599 --> 00:00:10.400 go of whatever no longer serves you to take action 4 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:14.960 now on Get Rooted Radio with Erica Gifford Mills, Living 5 00:00:15.000 --> 00:00:18.120 it Up, loving it up, and letting it go. Erica 6 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:21.239 will energize and excite you to power up your passionate 7 00:00:21.320 --> 00:00:25.239 dream that sets your soul on fire with Erica's E 8 00:00:25.399 --> 00:00:29.440 three approach, equipping and powering and enlightening yourself so you 9 00:00:29.519 --> 00:00:33.840 can be yourself for yourself. Get ready and get rooted 10 00:00:34.119 --> 00:00:38.280 to live a life without regrets, without what ifs, without 11 00:00:38.359 --> 00:00:42.960 should have, and especially without empty feelings from a life 12 00:00:43.079 --> 00:00:47.200 on exploring this hit show helps you build powerful and 13 00:00:47.240 --> 00:00:50.079 the intentional roots to live it up, love it up, 14 00:00:50.159 --> 00:00:54.399 and let it go. Get fearlessly ready and powerfully rooted 15 00:00:54.479 --> 00:00:57.759 in your yes with your host, Erica Gifford Mills, and 16 00:00:57.840 --> 00:01:01.840 be fearless about your more and stand in your yes 17 00:01:02.520 --> 00:01:05.599 now on Get Rooted Radio. 18 00:01:09.719 --> 00:01:11.959 Welcome everyone, I am Erica Gifford Mills, and you are 19 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:14.519 listening to Get Rooted Radio, Living it up, loving it up, 20 00:01:14.599 --> 00:01:17.560 letting it go. Right here on Transformation Talk Revolution, I 21 00:01:17.599 --> 00:01:20.159 shout out to my producer today, Emily, how are you doing? 22 00:01:20.840 --> 00:01:22.560 I'm doing so great? How are you doing? 23 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:27.280 I am doing wonderful. It's you know, it's my birthday month, August. 24 00:01:27.879 --> 00:01:31.840 It's all about Leo celebrations. So how could I not 25 00:01:31.959 --> 00:01:38.640 be doing awesome? Right? It's about me? No, But I'm 26 00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:41.560 super excited to have our guest on the show today 27 00:01:41.640 --> 00:01:46.200 because we're going to talk about being unconquerable. So in 28 00:01:46.200 --> 00:01:49.519 today's episode, my guest Marla Ballard, CEO of You Two 29 00:01:49.599 --> 00:01:54.840 Shine and Unconjurable Me director, and I will be talking 30 00:01:54.879 --> 00:01:58.400 about finding resilience and what it is to be unconquerable 31 00:01:59.680 --> 00:02:04.200 from within through deep love, immense gratitude, and seeking true 32 00:02:04.200 --> 00:02:08.960 alignment instead of conformity. We will discuss courage, vulnerability, and 33 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:13.159 overcoming oz to continually transform experiences and connect to our 34 00:02:13.199 --> 00:02:16.080 true and our power. Marla, thank you so much for 35 00:02:16.120 --> 00:02:17.000 being on the show today. 36 00:02:17.560 --> 00:02:20.039 Oh, thank you so much for having me. I really 37 00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:20.879 appreciate it. 38 00:02:21.719 --> 00:02:23.919 Yes, So now during this first segment, we're going to 39 00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:27.919 talk about being rooted and responsibility. Now, normally I give 40 00:02:27.960 --> 00:02:30.599 a lot of background on you know, give a little 41 00:02:30.639 --> 00:02:34.039 bit more about my guest, but I'm want to take 42 00:02:34.080 --> 00:02:36.840 some time during this first segment to get to know you, 43 00:02:37.039 --> 00:02:40.919 right to get because your background is quite interesting. You 44 00:02:40.960 --> 00:02:43.719 grew up on a farm in Kentucky. What did that 45 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:49.000 environment teach you about discipline, resilience, and responsibility? 46 00:02:49.479 --> 00:02:52.039 Oh amazing. First of all, taking responsibility And here's the 47 00:02:52.039 --> 00:02:54.000 background noise, and I apologises. I'm just going to close 48 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:57.759 the door real quickly so it's not interfering with us. Okay, 49 00:02:58.000 --> 00:02:59.039 got it, Thank you about that. 50 00:02:59.240 --> 00:03:02.680 Okay, So growing up on a farm, you know, one 51 00:03:02.719 --> 00:03:05.240 of the things I think about working with agriculture and 52 00:03:05.599 --> 00:03:08.039 working outdoors is you really have to learn to work 53 00:03:08.080 --> 00:03:11.039 with rhythms and cycles that are beyond your control. 54 00:03:12.360 --> 00:03:16.680 And so there's a lot in that of working with 55 00:03:16.759 --> 00:03:20.840 the natural world and realizing that we can we can 56 00:03:20.879 --> 00:03:24.080 take responsibility for what we can do. Right. The thing 57 00:03:24.080 --> 00:03:29.719 we can always be responsible for is actual actually our response. Right. 58 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:34.039 But there's always going to be outside factors that we 59 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:38.159 have no control over. And so I think that there's 60 00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:43.120 something very grounding and to use your term routing, routing 61 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:47.639 into learning how to work with those natural rhythms and 62 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:49.080 having that trust. 63 00:03:49.560 --> 00:03:52.879 And it is because we can we can't control what 64 00:03:52.960 --> 00:03:55.840 happens to us, right, we control how we respond to it. 65 00:03:55.919 --> 00:03:59.800 And that is a lot that really goes into leadership. 66 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:02.439 And you stepped into that leadership at a very young 67 00:04:02.479 --> 00:04:06.479 age because you were managing operations for a thoroughbred racehorse 68 00:04:06.520 --> 00:04:10.800 farm while cleaning college. And I mean, first of all, 69 00:04:11.280 --> 00:04:15.960 how wonderful I love horses. I mean, I would have 70 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:17.959 a horse farm if I had the time to do 71 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:20.800 all that, because it is it's a lot of work. 72 00:04:20.879 --> 00:04:24.759 So what did that experience teach you about leading when 73 00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:25.639 the stakes are hot? 74 00:04:26.959 --> 00:04:30.639 Well, it was I was in the main office in operations, 75 00:04:30.639 --> 00:04:33.360 so I was doing the business management piece of it, 76 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:39.600 and so it really taught me I had to manage 77 00:04:39.600 --> 00:04:44.879 my time well, that's for sure. And I had to 78 00:04:44.920 --> 00:04:47.720 get creative. I did a lot of things outside. You know, 79 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:53.240 I've never been in the box thinker ever, never. 80 00:04:52.240 --> 00:04:53.959 Never get along right. This is why we get along, 81 00:04:54.079 --> 00:04:55.839 ye and so and so I. 82 00:04:56.199 --> 00:04:59.160 Function at my best one. I'm outside of the box now. 83 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:02.680 Very very fortunate. I had a boss who want who 84 00:05:02.759 --> 00:05:05.720 was okay with that as long as the as long 85 00:05:05.720 --> 00:05:08.240 as the metrics got met that he needed, which was 86 00:05:08.240 --> 00:05:13.000 basically making sure money was flowing right and that expenses 87 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:15.720 were down. As long as I was meeting the metrics 88 00:05:15.759 --> 00:05:18.680 he set for me. He wasn't overly controlling with me 89 00:05:18.800 --> 00:05:22.439 about how that got done. And so part of why 90 00:05:22.480 --> 00:05:24.920 that works so well is I had a lot of 91 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:30.560 latitude in that position as well, and so I was 92 00:05:30.639 --> 00:05:34.360 able to be creative and how I worked, and I 93 00:05:34.399 --> 00:05:36.920 was able. I just had to learn the discipline of 94 00:05:37.439 --> 00:05:40.079 really being careful with my time and my energy. 95 00:05:41.600 --> 00:05:43.920 Yeah, and I think that's those are two things that 96 00:05:44.079 --> 00:05:47.759 so you mentioned mentioned the working right with nature, right, 97 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:51.759 you can't always control these are at the heart of it, right, 98 00:05:51.839 --> 00:05:56.360 wild animals and even if they're domesticated, just like dogs 99 00:05:56.399 --> 00:06:02.120 and everything. So when you are with those thoroughbreads, what 100 00:06:02.160 --> 00:06:05.639 did they teach you about the energy, the trust, the intuition, 101 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:10.560 human behavior, And how did that get you confident enough 102 00:06:10.759 --> 00:06:12.560 to lead maybe even before you were ready. 103 00:06:13.319 --> 00:06:16.759 Well, you really learn I mean if whatever whatever emotions 104 00:06:16.800 --> 00:06:21.399 you're having, they're going to have very quickly, right, And 105 00:06:21.480 --> 00:06:24.079 so if you're if you're working with a horse and 106 00:06:24.120 --> 00:06:27.519 you're afraid, they're going to be jittery and nervous and 107 00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:31.360 dancing around and wanting to get away. Yes, right, And 108 00:06:31.480 --> 00:06:34.079 so so that's what you learned. The other thing you 109 00:06:34.199 --> 00:06:37.040 learn is that you know, I worked, I worked with 110 00:06:37.079 --> 00:06:40.240 some of the best horse handlers in the world. I'm 111 00:06:40.279 --> 00:06:42.000 not one of them, but I have worked with some 112 00:06:42.079 --> 00:06:44.839 of the best in the world. Right I'm very I'm 113 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:48.079 very amateur at that. I got to work with really 114 00:06:48.079 --> 00:06:51.000 amazing horses and show them at sales and everything. But 115 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:54.079 I would never say that I was I was as 116 00:06:54.160 --> 00:06:56.000 excellent as some of the people that I've worked with 117 00:06:56.040 --> 00:07:01.079 are just extraordinary, right, the most extraordinary handlers. Though even 118 00:07:01.319 --> 00:07:03.800 even you know, I'm five to two and one hundred 119 00:07:03.800 --> 00:07:06.680 and twenty pounds, so I'm very tiny, right So, but 120 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:09.519 even a guy twice my size, it's still a twelve 121 00:07:09.600 --> 00:07:13.480 hundred pound animal. He's not going to muscle it out 122 00:07:13.560 --> 00:07:16.879 anymore than I am. So you have so once you 123 00:07:17.120 --> 00:07:20.839 once you understand that that difference, you learn that you have. 124 00:07:21.000 --> 00:07:24.439 Everything has to be finessed, and it has to come 125 00:07:24.519 --> 00:07:28.439 from how calm you are, how smooth you are, how 126 00:07:28.480 --> 00:07:32.360 grounded you are, right to create this safe space that 127 00:07:32.399 --> 00:07:37.319 you can work with with the horses, and and you 128 00:07:37.480 --> 00:07:40.040 just really have to learn that it's all about being 129 00:07:40.079 --> 00:07:43.399 able to finesse it and ask and work in partnership 130 00:07:44.079 --> 00:07:48.160 rather than trying to force or demand or you know, 131 00:07:48.279 --> 00:07:51.160 and people can do that. I mean, certainly, certainly people 132 00:07:51.160 --> 00:07:54.879 can beat animals into submission, right, we've seen that. But 133 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:58.160 that's not that's not okay, and that's not the kind 134 00:07:58.160 --> 00:07:59.959 of working relationship that you want to have. 135 00:08:01.680 --> 00:08:04.079 Perspective especially, I mean, they're not going to trust you, 136 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:07.959 just like a human you treat somebody like that, they 137 00:08:08.040 --> 00:08:10.480 might comply, but yeah, you're not going to trust you, 138 00:08:10.519 --> 00:08:13.839 and you're not going to have the relationship for longevity. 139 00:08:14.560 --> 00:08:17.480 Yeah, that's it. And so so it really it really 140 00:08:17.519 --> 00:08:20.360 comes down to that, It really comes down to learning 141 00:08:20.399 --> 00:08:23.959 again that you're not in control and that you've that 142 00:08:24.040 --> 00:08:27.120 you've got to build that mutual trust and safety. Yes, 143 00:08:27.240 --> 00:08:29.720 you have to build that mutual trust and safety because 144 00:08:30.639 --> 00:08:33.279 you know more and more, I'm beginning to believe that 145 00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:38.399 that feeling safe with with anyone is an incredible gift 146 00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:42.960 of intimacy and trust. It really is. And and it's 147 00:08:43.000 --> 00:08:47.600 whether we create safety quickly in short burst of contact, 148 00:08:47.639 --> 00:08:49.759 like safety between you and I right now for this 149 00:08:49.840 --> 00:08:54.159 interview and Emily for producing it. Right, there's that's important, 150 00:08:54.240 --> 00:08:58.519 but even even in deeper, more meaningful relationships, expanding that safety. 151 00:08:58.960 --> 00:09:01.840 But I really feel that that has a lot of 152 00:09:01.840 --> 00:09:06.799 the foundation of how easily we can heal and how 153 00:09:06.840 --> 00:09:10.200 freely we can feel we can be authentic? Is it 154 00:09:10.519 --> 00:09:13.080 comes down a lot that to creating safe space for 155 00:09:13.120 --> 00:09:15.200 each other through acceptance and trust. 156 00:09:15.720 --> 00:09:19.440 And you mentioned foundation, right, What parts of everything that 157 00:09:19.799 --> 00:09:22.799 you learned growing up and through your your time in 158 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:28.240 college and through your time in business. What are some 159 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:32.159 of those things that you still do today that you 160 00:09:32.279 --> 00:09:35.399 brought forward right for the foundation for your work that 161 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:37.360 you do well. 162 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:41.279 One thing I have always done is I don't like 163 00:09:41.360 --> 00:09:47.440 either or scenarios. Even even at a young age, when 164 00:09:47.440 --> 00:09:49.799 people would tell me I could do this thing or 165 00:09:49.799 --> 00:09:52.320 that thing if I wanted to do both, I was 166 00:09:52.360 --> 00:09:56.519 always asking, well, I don't understand why can't I have both? 167 00:09:56.639 --> 00:09:59.159 Why does it have to be a you know, this 168 00:09:59.279 --> 00:10:01.919 or that equation and so and so. That's what I 169 00:10:01.960 --> 00:10:04.240 was doing, Like even you know, I went to school 170 00:10:04.279 --> 00:10:06.600 to UK to study equine science. That was what my 171 00:10:06.679 --> 00:10:09.039 degree was going to be in. I got very, very 172 00:10:09.120 --> 00:10:12.600 lucky that I was given lots of opportunities to work 173 00:10:12.639 --> 00:10:16.720 with amazing farms and veterinarians and things throughout college. In 174 00:10:16.840 --> 00:10:18.919 any downtime that I wasn't in class. That's what I 175 00:10:18.960 --> 00:10:22.440 was doing. And because of that, because that was my 176 00:10:22.559 --> 00:10:25.000 commitment and the work that I put in and the 177 00:10:25.039 --> 00:10:26.759 time that I put in, because of that, I was 178 00:10:26.799 --> 00:10:30.120 getting all kinds of amazing opportunities, which is why I 179 00:10:30.159 --> 00:10:34.039 got this opportunity eleven hours, eleven credit hours away from 180 00:10:34.039 --> 00:10:37.879 finishing my bachelors. And it was an either or scenario 181 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:42.480 because the class that I actually needed from University Kentucky 182 00:10:42.919 --> 00:10:45.559 was a ten hour class that had to be taken 183 00:10:45.679 --> 00:10:47.919 during the daytime, and I couldn't do that and take 184 00:10:47.960 --> 00:10:51.240 the job. So even at that I remember sitting at 185 00:10:51.240 --> 00:10:54.240 that crossroads and going, well, here, I'm getting the thing 186 00:10:54.279 --> 00:10:56.720 that I went to school to do, and now not 187 00:10:56.759 --> 00:11:00.559 finishing school might be the right. It was the Crey thing. 188 00:11:01.159 --> 00:11:03.320 And so I actually went to an advisor at another 189 00:11:03.440 --> 00:11:06.600 university where I had taken summer classes and asked him 190 00:11:06.799 --> 00:11:10.080 his guidance, and he said, you know what he said. 191 00:11:10.080 --> 00:11:12.639 What he said, here's what I can do. Transfer your 192 00:11:12.679 --> 00:11:18.679 credits here, take the job because this is an amazing 193 00:11:18.759 --> 00:11:23.000 opportunity that your classmates would all want and never get. 194 00:11:23.960 --> 00:11:26.600 And then write me a letter every week about what 195 00:11:26.679 --> 00:11:29.440 you're doing, and I'll give you the last eleven credit 196 00:11:29.480 --> 00:11:30.919 hours because I have it in my power to do 197 00:11:30.960 --> 00:11:32.879 that if you transfer. So I actually went to the 198 00:11:32.960 --> 00:11:37.679 UK and graduated from Western But but that has stayed 199 00:11:37.679 --> 00:11:38.000 with me. 200 00:11:38.720 --> 00:11:41.279 Right then, it's not an either an or, it was 201 00:11:41.279 --> 00:11:42.879 a both. You were able to do it. 202 00:11:43.279 --> 00:11:47.919 There's always a way through. There's always a way through, 203 00:11:48.559 --> 00:11:51.639 and and so I think that's that has informed me 204 00:11:51.720 --> 00:11:55.159 so much. And it's also informed me looking at things 205 00:11:55.159 --> 00:11:57.919 with compassion and not being locked into one way of 206 00:11:58.000 --> 00:11:58.639 doing things. 207 00:11:59.039 --> 00:12:02.200 Yeah, yeah, well we're going to take a quick break. 208 00:12:02.200 --> 00:12:04.919 But before we go, I want I want to ask 209 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:08.440 you one more question is what does it mean to 210 00:12:08.480 --> 00:12:12.080 be deeply rooted while you're still willing to evolve, right, 211 00:12:12.080 --> 00:12:13.120 you're still willing to grow. 212 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:18.000 Well, I think when we're rooted, we get rooted in 213 00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:22.159 knowing deeply who we are. And I think the most 214 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:24.120 important rooting is knowing who we are and knowing that 215 00:12:24.159 --> 00:12:27.399 we're loved and that we're mattered, that we matter, right 216 00:12:28.039 --> 00:12:32.440 And then from there, I think it becomes a lot easier, 217 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:35.679 and we forget that, we get we get thinking that 218 00:12:35.720 --> 00:12:38.480 we're separate or that we're alone, or that nobody cares. 219 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:40.639 It's so easy for us to do that. We all 220 00:12:40.679 --> 00:12:43.039 do it multiple times throughout the day, right, That's part 221 00:12:43.039 --> 00:12:46.799 of our human condition. But it's always bringing yourself back 222 00:12:46.879 --> 00:12:51.320 to remembering that we're loved and we've got this, remembering 223 00:12:51.320 --> 00:12:54.399 that we matter, remembering that we're capable, and I think 224 00:12:54.440 --> 00:12:56.000 remembering who we are at our core. 225 00:12:56.960 --> 00:12:59.159 Absolutely. So let's take a quick break and when we 226 00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:02.559 come back, we're going to talk about beyond performative strength. 227 00:13:02.799 --> 00:13:04.519 Before we go, mar let tell folks how they can 228 00:13:04.519 --> 00:13:06.720 connect with you and learn more about your services. 229 00:13:07.240 --> 00:13:10.440 Okay, you can find me on the on our company 230 00:13:10.440 --> 00:13:13.720 website at you too shine dot com. That's why you 231 00:13:14.159 --> 00:13:17.440 the number two Shine shi in e dot com. You 232 00:13:17.480 --> 00:13:20.399 can reach out to me directly over email at Marla 233 00:13:20.559 --> 00:13:24.039 at youtoshine dot com, and you can also find my 234 00:13:24.120 --> 00:13:27.279 direct page at unconquerableme dot Coach. 235 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:29.480 Perfect. 236 00:13:29.720 --> 00:13:32.320 You're listening to Get Rooted Radio with Erica Gifford Mills, 237 00:13:32.360 --> 00:13:34.639 Living it Up, Loving it Up, Letting it Go. Stay tuned, 238 00:13:34.679 --> 00:13:47.120 we'll be right back. Welcome back to Get Rooted Radio 239 00:13:47.159 --> 00:13:49.399 with Erica Gifford Mills, Living it Up, Loving it Up, 240 00:13:49.480 --> 00:13:52.159 Letting it Go. If you missed any portion of today's episode, 241 00:13:52.200 --> 00:13:54.559 you can catch it on get Rooted radio dot com. 242 00:13:54.759 --> 00:13:58.399 Don't forget to subscribe online or see the latest news, events, specials, 243 00:13:58.440 --> 00:14:00.720 and words of encouragement. Go to get a rooted radio 244 00:14:00.840 --> 00:14:04.039 dot com. Welcome back to my guest, Marla Vallard. Thank 245 00:14:04.080 --> 00:14:06.679 you so much for being on the show today. Thank 246 00:14:06.720 --> 00:14:09.799 you thanks for having me absolutely so. During our first 247 00:14:09.799 --> 00:14:11.919 segment we got to know you a little bit more 248 00:14:11.919 --> 00:14:15.159 and we talked about being rooted and responsibility. And during 249 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:19.399 this segment we're going to talk about beyond performative strength, right, 250 00:14:19.480 --> 00:14:24.960 that resilience, vulnerability and leading from within. So we often 251 00:14:25.000 --> 00:14:31.000 praise people for being strong, right, being resilient, being Oh 252 00:14:31.080 --> 00:14:33.320 look at how strong she is. But that strength can 253 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:38.039 sometimes become a performance And I know this personally. I 254 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:40.960 did it for probably a good year at least after 255 00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:44.080 my son passed. But what is the difference between that 256 00:14:44.320 --> 00:14:47.559 authentic strength and the performative strength? 257 00:14:49.200 --> 00:14:56.519 Wow? I think I think authentic strength comes from really 258 00:14:56.559 --> 00:15:00.000 having honesty and the courage to be honest with ourselves 259 00:15:00.080 --> 00:15:04.960 from within about where we are and about what we 260 00:15:05.000 --> 00:15:08.559 can and can't do. I think performative strength comes when 261 00:15:08.600 --> 00:15:13.399 we start trying to prove ourselves to other people externally, right, 262 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:16.440 and I've done both. I still do both, you know. 263 00:15:17.159 --> 00:15:20.720 I think we all have this desire to prove that 264 00:15:20.759 --> 00:15:23.840 we're trustworthy, that we can do our job, that we're competent, 265 00:15:24.000 --> 00:15:27.279 that we can show up. They get to earn trust, 266 00:15:28.480 --> 00:15:31.799 to prove that people can count on us, right, to 267 00:15:31.799 --> 00:15:35.519 prove that we'll be there. When when proving that becomes 268 00:15:35.559 --> 00:15:41.080 more important than authentic self care and honesty, I think 269 00:15:41.120 --> 00:15:42.919 that's where we get it out of balance. 270 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:47.440 And I think that's why high performing people struggle to 271 00:15:47.480 --> 00:15:51.600 admit that they are tired or overwhelmed or uncertain, because 272 00:15:52.639 --> 00:15:56.720 they don't want to be seen as not competent. But 273 00:15:57.200 --> 00:16:01.440 that's not right that. I think that's where people we 274 00:16:01.519 --> 00:16:09.639 need to understand that that vulnerability does build trust, acknowledging right, 275 00:16:09.679 --> 00:16:12.840 we need help. We can't do it all on our own. 276 00:16:13.000 --> 00:16:15.679 I mean, the world wasn't built all on your own, right. 277 00:16:15.720 --> 00:16:20.200 We we have businesses. This is why we have teams, 278 00:16:20.559 --> 00:16:23.440 and this is why we do need to help one another. 279 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:28.240 But what does vulnerability look like for someone who is 280 00:16:28.279 --> 00:16:31.679 accustomed to being that leader, the provider, or the person 281 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:32.919 everyone else relies on. 282 00:16:33.879 --> 00:16:37.360 Again, I think it's I think it's it's really being 283 00:16:37.399 --> 00:16:40.159 able to get grounded or as you say, rooted into 284 00:16:40.320 --> 00:16:43.480 reality of what we can and can't do. You know, 285 00:16:44.080 --> 00:16:46.080 one of the greatest things in the world is to 286 00:16:46.120 --> 00:16:48.000 be able to believe I can do anything, but I 287 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:54.559 can't do everything right. But a lot of us still 288 00:16:54.600 --> 00:16:56.320 have the need to prove that we no, no, I 289 00:16:56.320 --> 00:16:58.840 could do everything. We're gonna and by Gollie, we're. 290 00:16:58.879 --> 00:16:59.840 For a woman's syndrome. 291 00:17:00.080 --> 00:17:00.200 Right. 292 00:17:00.440 --> 00:17:03.279 What happened, what actually happens with high performers in a 293 00:17:03.320 --> 00:17:06.160 leadership role is you're actually robbing the other people of 294 00:17:06.200 --> 00:17:10.599 an opportunity to lead, yes, and to shine authentically themselves. 295 00:17:10.920 --> 00:17:15.200 Yeah, just like I mean within the working world and 296 00:17:15.279 --> 00:17:17.559 within your home life too. You know, you do a 297 00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:20.960 disservice if you do everything for your partner or your children, 298 00:17:21.200 --> 00:17:22.640 because how do they learn right? 299 00:17:22.680 --> 00:17:26.160 How do they shine? That's it, you know. I had 300 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:30.559 I had a really interesting experience that where this really 301 00:17:30.599 --> 00:17:34.039 where this concept really jelled for me. I was on say, 302 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:35.920 I was chairman of a board of directors for a 303 00:17:35.960 --> 00:17:39.519 nonprofit organization, and I was leading and I was leading 304 00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:47.119 a regular monthly networking meeting for business women and entrepreneurial women. Right. 305 00:17:47.160 --> 00:17:50.640 It was really incredible, but when we set that up 306 00:17:50.960 --> 00:17:53.559 for our very first board of directors meeting. When we 307 00:17:53.559 --> 00:17:56.279 were setting everything up and greeting how we wanted it 308 00:17:56.319 --> 00:17:58.759 to go. The thing that we said we wanted to 309 00:17:58.799 --> 00:18:00.880 each get out of it was to develop our own 310 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:05.039 capacities as leaders and expand that, and by doing that, 311 00:18:05.160 --> 00:18:07.680 empower the other women that were working with us to 312 00:18:07.759 --> 00:18:12.400 develop their capacity as leaders. So four years later, I 313 00:18:12.440 --> 00:18:14.920 found myself leading this networking group when I was starting 314 00:18:14.920 --> 00:18:18.920 to get really fatigued with it. I just was getting 315 00:18:18.920 --> 00:18:22.559 fatigued with it, and I went through all the iterations 316 00:18:22.559 --> 00:18:24.279 of what's wrong with me and what's wrong with them? 317 00:18:25.960 --> 00:18:27.920 Because I had been so passionate about it. How could 318 00:18:27.920 --> 00:18:29.720 I have been so passionate about it when I started? 319 00:18:29.759 --> 00:18:33.640 And suddenly it just was dreaming. It felt draining, And 320 00:18:33.680 --> 00:18:37.480 so I had an amazing conversation with the person at 321 00:18:37.480 --> 00:18:40.319 that time who was my business coach, who's the founder 322 00:18:40.319 --> 00:18:43.599 of my company, you Desheine, by the way, and she said, 323 00:18:43.640 --> 00:18:46.519 you know, I don't think there's anything wrong with you, 324 00:18:46.759 --> 00:18:49.039 and I don't think there's anything wrong with them. I 325 00:18:49.079 --> 00:18:52.839 think you've completed what you came here for, and it's 326 00:18:52.920 --> 00:18:58.079 okay to let yourself see that and move on. And 327 00:18:58.480 --> 00:19:02.440 so it was really interesting thing because within about three months, 328 00:19:02.920 --> 00:19:05.160 the ones of us that had started that four years 329 00:19:05.200 --> 00:19:09.680 ago had all expanded our capacity for leadership so much 330 00:19:09.720 --> 00:19:14.720 that we're moving into bigger spaces or global spaces, larger companies, 331 00:19:15.400 --> 00:19:17.880 and we're no longer having the time and the energy 332 00:19:18.000 --> 00:19:22.000 to devote to something that had been so meaningful. But 333 00:19:22.079 --> 00:19:24.559 we also had these other women that were practically begging 334 00:19:24.599 --> 00:19:28.960 to step up, and we were blocking them by staying right. 335 00:19:29.240 --> 00:19:32.039 And so the most beautiful realization in the world was 336 00:19:32.640 --> 00:19:34.440 we had actually accomplished what we set out to do. 337 00:19:34.559 --> 00:19:37.240 We had developed ourselves, and we had developed these other people. 338 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:40.920 But because we were hanging on so tightly do it 339 00:19:40.960 --> 00:19:43.240 having to be the same way that it was, we 340 00:19:43.240 --> 00:19:48.279 were blocking it off from going right. And so it's 341 00:19:48.319 --> 00:19:52.519 a great example, and that experience taught me so much 342 00:19:52.880 --> 00:19:58.440 about allowing yourself to follow your own authentic energy. It 343 00:19:58.480 --> 00:20:00.880 was a very vulnerable thing. There's a lot of tears, 344 00:20:01.119 --> 00:20:06.200 you know, moving on and and and saying the goodbyes 345 00:20:06.240 --> 00:20:08.599 and changing hands, and a lot of insecurity, a lot 346 00:20:08.599 --> 00:20:11.240 of them right, a lot of them. I Making the 347 00:20:11.279 --> 00:20:14.440 right decisions with all of that came into play, but 348 00:20:14.480 --> 00:20:16.279 it was so worth it, And when I look back 349 00:20:16.319 --> 00:20:19.960 on it, I know deep down that it had to 350 00:20:20.119 --> 00:20:25.359 happen and not a moment later. Sooner and not a 351 00:20:25.400 --> 00:20:25.960 moment later. 352 00:20:26.599 --> 00:20:28.480 Yeah, I mean you needed to be aligned, right, And 353 00:20:28.519 --> 00:20:31.559 I think that's you know, what are some signs that 354 00:20:31.640 --> 00:20:35.720 a person is living in conformity rather than alignment? 355 00:20:36.640 --> 00:20:39.039 Right? Well, I think you know. And again, when we're 356 00:20:39.039 --> 00:20:43.039 in conformity, it's when we're worried about, worrying more about 357 00:20:43.079 --> 00:20:46.039 what the external world thinks we should do. It's when 358 00:20:46.079 --> 00:20:50.039 we start shooting ourselves what a kind of should Yes, 359 00:20:51.079 --> 00:20:55.880 I'm a fan of not shooting yourself. Yeah, okay, So 360 00:20:55.920 --> 00:20:59.039 it's when we start shooting ourselves and so what happens, 361 00:20:59.319 --> 00:21:03.759 that's when we That's when I know I'm trying to conform, yeah, 362 00:21:04.000 --> 00:21:06.480 rather than really going inside me and going okay, but 363 00:21:06.599 --> 00:21:09.319 what do I actually want? What actually feels good? What 364 00:21:09.400 --> 00:21:13.400 am I forcing myself to sacrifice right now? And why 365 00:21:13.440 --> 00:21:15.799 am I doing? Why am I thinking this way? Like? 366 00:21:15.880 --> 00:21:19.200 Why am I wanting to do this? Well? 367 00:21:19.279 --> 00:21:23.119 Yeah, that that emotional honesty, right, And I think resilience 368 00:21:23.640 --> 00:21:28.599 can become unhealthy when it's used to avoid that emotional honesty, 369 00:21:29.440 --> 00:21:33.359 rest grief, right, And so how do you help someone 370 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:38.640 recognize the difference between that perseverance and self abandonment because 371 00:21:38.920 --> 00:21:42.279 we're trying to be resilient for the for unhealthy reasons. 372 00:21:42.799 --> 00:21:45.880 Yeah, you know, what I find is it's self abandonment. 373 00:21:46.000 --> 00:21:50.279 I also have recently learned the word self erasure. We 374 00:21:50.319 --> 00:21:54.000 erase ourselves when we're unwilling to own what our needs 375 00:21:54.079 --> 00:21:57.200 are or what our feelings are, where we just kind 376 00:21:57.200 --> 00:21:59.720 of push it aside go, I won't ask for that 377 00:21:59.759 --> 00:22:04.519 because whatever, right because because because I just won't ask 378 00:22:04.559 --> 00:22:07.240 for that, I just won't ask for help right now, 379 00:22:07.319 --> 00:22:09.119 or I won't ask for what I need right now. 380 00:22:09.279 --> 00:22:11.880 That's actually a form of not only self abandonment, but 381 00:22:11.960 --> 00:22:16.039 actually self erasure in my book, And so, I think 382 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:19.160 that one of the first things is to know our 383 00:22:19.240 --> 00:22:23.160 internal yes and our internal no. You know, in our 384 00:22:23.200 --> 00:22:25.400 no happens, we can feel it. I can usually feel 385 00:22:25.400 --> 00:22:28.319 it in my body before my brain catches up. When 386 00:22:28.319 --> 00:22:33.480 I feel an internal constriction about something, that's my cue 387 00:22:33.519 --> 00:22:37.359 to pay attention versus you know, when you're a full 388 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:40.039 yes to something, you feel everything and you leap forward 389 00:22:40.039 --> 00:22:42.079 into it. And I just had had the privilege of 390 00:22:42.119 --> 00:22:46.440 having this conversation with somebody last week and it clarified 391 00:22:46.440 --> 00:22:48.440 even more for me. But when I'm a full yes 392 00:22:48.559 --> 00:22:50.160 for something, and Eric, I know, when you're a full 393 00:22:50.240 --> 00:22:53.279 yes or something, there's just no stopping. You feel everything 394 00:22:53.279 --> 00:22:54.279 in you. I'm doing this. 395 00:22:55.680 --> 00:22:55.839 Right. 396 00:22:56.359 --> 00:23:01.079 When you're not a full yes, there's that hesitation, there's 397 00:23:01.119 --> 00:23:03.920 all the questions, there's the and that's the should. And 398 00:23:03.960 --> 00:23:06.960 so what I've I've come to believe about myself is 399 00:23:07.000 --> 00:23:10.440 if I'm not a fool yes, I'm actually a no yeah, 400 00:23:10.680 --> 00:23:12.599 and I'm a no trying to be a yes. And 401 00:23:12.640 --> 00:23:14.480 that's what's creating the internal conflict. 402 00:23:15.079 --> 00:23:18.720 Yeah, you're you're it because you think you should or 403 00:23:19.240 --> 00:23:21.880 write somebody else told you that this is a path 404 00:23:21.920 --> 00:23:24.920 you should take, and you're you're on the fence. And yes, 405 00:23:25.039 --> 00:23:27.799 for me, if you're on the fence, don't jump it, 406 00:23:27.960 --> 00:23:28.559 just get off. 407 00:23:28.839 --> 00:23:31.759 You're not you're not all in that. And so and 408 00:23:31.839 --> 00:23:33.759 so that's what I mean about having the courage to 409 00:23:33.799 --> 00:23:38.200 be honest. And and sometimes that means that is a 410 00:23:38.480 --> 00:23:42.200 is a potential consequence that we might inconvenience someone else 411 00:23:42.480 --> 00:23:46.279 or let them down or disappoint them. Yes, it absolutely is. 412 00:23:47.039 --> 00:23:51.720 But going back to where we started with responsibility. I 413 00:23:51.720 --> 00:23:55.640 can only be responsible for my response, and I gotta 414 00:23:55.720 --> 00:23:59.039 let other people be responsible for theirs. And so even 415 00:23:59.119 --> 00:24:02.519 if somebody really wants me to do something, or maybe 416 00:24:02.519 --> 00:24:06.480 even if I've committed something to something and something else 417 00:24:06.519 --> 00:24:08.400 has come that's going to interfere with that, and I 418 00:24:08.480 --> 00:24:12.559 need to adapt or adjust that commitment. I know I'm 419 00:24:12.599 --> 00:24:14.359 running the risk that someone else is going to be 420 00:24:14.400 --> 00:24:19.880 unhappy with my choice. Yep, right, But then it comes 421 00:24:19.880 --> 00:24:22.920 down to I've got to let them be responsible with 422 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:27.279 that for themselves, and I can only be responsible for me. Now. 423 00:24:27.319 --> 00:24:29.799 Can I deliver it in a caring, loving way, Yes? 424 00:24:29.839 --> 00:24:34.160 Can I do it with integrity, yes, absolutely, But I 425 00:24:34.200 --> 00:24:36.240 still can't control how they're going to respond. 426 00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:39.240 Yeah, you need to choose your alignment over their expectation 427 00:24:39.519 --> 00:24:41.480 because that's their response, right. 428 00:24:41.559 --> 00:24:42.359 Yeah, exactly. 429 00:24:43.039 --> 00:24:46.160 So I want to ask one more question before we 430 00:24:46.200 --> 00:24:49.319 go to break. And I think one of the bravest 431 00:24:49.319 --> 00:24:52.359 things that any person can do. It takes a lot 432 00:24:52.359 --> 00:24:55.599 of courage is to ask for help, but many times 433 00:24:55.599 --> 00:24:59.359 people don't want to do that because they feel like 434 00:24:59.400 --> 00:25:03.720 they're losing their strength. How can people become more emotionally 435 00:25:03.799 --> 00:25:07.039 honest without feeling that they are losing their strength or authority. 436 00:25:08.519 --> 00:25:11.119 You know, I think it comes through this. I think 437 00:25:11.160 --> 00:25:14.960 it comes through recognizing that we all have different gifts 438 00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:18.559 and talents. We all have different experiences that created us. 439 00:25:19.400 --> 00:25:21.240 And one of the greatest things that I am learning 440 00:25:21.279 --> 00:25:24.519 to do now is recognize I know where I'm highly 441 00:25:24.519 --> 00:25:28.240 gifted and talented, and I also know where I've put 442 00:25:28.279 --> 00:25:30.599 in the work to develop skills to go along with it. 443 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:35.039 The key is to also admit all the things that 444 00:25:35.119 --> 00:25:39.839 I don't know, which is actually much greater. Yes, right, 445 00:25:39.880 --> 00:25:42.279 there's so much more that I don't know and can't 446 00:25:42.279 --> 00:25:47.000 do or be skilled at. But asking for help means 447 00:25:47.039 --> 00:25:51.000 recognizing that another person might be so much better at 448 00:25:51.039 --> 00:25:54.039 it than me and giving grace to both of us 449 00:25:54.079 --> 00:25:58.119 to honor that, because that's the key is I'm actually 450 00:25:58.160 --> 00:26:02.839 suppressing talent, right. 451 00:26:02.960 --> 00:26:04.880 I mean, I love it when I have a team 452 00:26:05.400 --> 00:26:08.000 that is smarter than me, Like, yeah, I want them 453 00:26:08.000 --> 00:26:10.200 to be smarter than me. That's how we get keep going, 454 00:26:10.240 --> 00:26:13.880 and that's how I think that too many people are 455 00:26:13.920 --> 00:26:17.240 afraid are they going to shine more than me? Are 456 00:26:17.519 --> 00:26:20.720 they gonna surpass me? And as a as a leader, 457 00:26:21.599 --> 00:26:24.599 I don't feel like I'm successful unless I build and 458 00:26:24.640 --> 00:26:27.680 create other leaders that go on and do greater things. 459 00:26:28.039 --> 00:26:28.359 I think. 460 00:26:28.480 --> 00:26:29.880 I think that's really important. 461 00:26:30.079 --> 00:26:32.000 I think if you want to excel, you got to 462 00:26:32.039 --> 00:26:35.960 have have what it takes to train your replacement. Yes, 463 00:26:36.680 --> 00:26:39.839 one hundred, that's it. It's so so if you look 464 00:26:39.880 --> 00:26:42.359 at it differently that way, like a lot of people 465 00:26:42.400 --> 00:26:44.240 are like, oh, I have to guard my position and 466 00:26:44.319 --> 00:26:49.039 prove that I'm valuable. Well, actually, how you advance is 467 00:26:49.079 --> 00:26:52.480 by being replaceable where you are now so you can 468 00:26:52.519 --> 00:26:55.160 move and go move on, so you can move on 469 00:26:55.200 --> 00:26:58.319 to the next thing. And so I look at it 470 00:26:58.359 --> 00:27:00.880 just very very differently, you know, and think and grow. 471 00:27:00.960 --> 00:27:03.200 Rich Napoleon Hill talks about that a lot too. 472 00:27:04.599 --> 00:27:06.480 Well, let's take a quick break and when we come back, 473 00:27:06.519 --> 00:27:10.119 we're going to talk about identity and purpose. Before we go, Marla, 474 00:27:10.200 --> 00:27:12.680 tell folks how they can connect with you. 475 00:27:12.680 --> 00:27:15.440 You can find me at youto shine dot com. That's 476 00:27:15.480 --> 00:27:19.519 why youto shine dot com. That is our company website, 477 00:27:19.920 --> 00:27:23.519 and you can also email me directly if you want 478 00:27:23.519 --> 00:27:26.519 to make contact at Marla at you just shine dot com. 479 00:27:26.559 --> 00:27:28.759 I'm always happy to hear from you, and then you 480 00:27:28.799 --> 00:27:31.880 can find my personal page on the website at unconquerable 481 00:27:32.000 --> 00:27:33.119 me dot coach. 482 00:27:34.039 --> 00:27:36.039 Thank you so much. I'm Erica Gifford Mills, and you 483 00:27:36.079 --> 00:27:38.680 are listening to Get Rooted Radio, Living it Up, Loving 484 00:27:38.720 --> 00:27:40.960 it Up, Letting it Go. Stay tuned, We'll be right back. 485 00:27:51.240 --> 00:27:54.119 We're back on Get Rooted Radio with Erica Giffridmills, Living 486 00:27:54.160 --> 00:27:56.519 it Up, Loving it Up, Letting it Go. Don't forget 487 00:27:56.559 --> 00:27:58.680 to visit Get Rooted radio dot com to listen to 488 00:27:58.759 --> 00:28:01.079 our replay of this episode, sign up for Hubble tips 489 00:28:01.079 --> 00:28:04.279 and learn about upcoming events. That's get Rooted radio dot com. 490 00:28:04.720 --> 00:28:07.160 Welcome back to my guest, Marla Ballard. Thank you so 491 00:28:07.319 --> 00:28:08.599 much for being on the show today. 492 00:28:09.200 --> 00:28:12.640 Thank you for having me. This is amazing. So during the. 493 00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:17.440 Last segments we talked about being rooted and responsibility and resilience, 494 00:28:17.519 --> 00:28:23.319 vulnerability and becoming beyond that, performative strength and leading from within. 495 00:28:24.000 --> 00:28:27.200 And during this segment we're going to discuss identity and 496 00:28:27.240 --> 00:28:33.240 purpose more specifically who am I after the mission, So 497 00:28:34.160 --> 00:28:38.759 tell tell our listeners more about the what you do 498 00:28:38.839 --> 00:28:43.240 and the mission behind this veteran centric initiative, because I 499 00:28:43.279 --> 00:28:46.640 don't know that a lot of people know exactly what 500 00:28:46.720 --> 00:28:50.519 you do and how it can help that transition from 501 00:28:50.599 --> 00:28:52.480 military service to civilian life. 502 00:28:53.119 --> 00:28:58.480 Yeah. Well, first of all, what I'm highly committed to 503 00:28:58.640 --> 00:29:01.720 and what our company is committed to with Quantum Personal 504 00:29:01.720 --> 00:29:07.640 Development is really empowering people to be who they're uniquely 505 00:29:07.920 --> 00:29:10.559 built to be in this world, and to be able 506 00:29:10.599 --> 00:29:13.480 to work through being aligned, to express their unique gifts 507 00:29:13.519 --> 00:29:16.559 and talents, and to truly be free to do so. Right, 508 00:29:16.599 --> 00:29:20.079 It's all about freedom. You know. At one point we 509 00:29:20.200 --> 00:29:26.519 used to say we break people out of prison. I 510 00:29:26.759 --> 00:29:26.960 like that. 511 00:29:27.160 --> 00:29:29.599 I think that's funny. It's good catch. But people are like, well, 512 00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:30.319 excuse me. 513 00:29:30.720 --> 00:29:34.000 Yeah, exactly exactly. But really, if you think about it, 514 00:29:34.039 --> 00:29:37.160 when we're conforming, that is a type of a prison. Yes, 515 00:29:37.279 --> 00:29:40.160 and we all do it. And we all, you know, 516 00:29:40.359 --> 00:29:42.720 all of us that are seeking growth and development and 517 00:29:42.759 --> 00:29:45.039 expansion and wanting to get up to things in the world, 518 00:29:45.319 --> 00:29:48.160 we're all actually seeking to move past that need to 519 00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:54.359 conform and the freedom to be authentic. Right, and so 520 00:29:54.359 --> 00:29:58.440 so what when it comes down to veterans and first 521 00:29:58.480 --> 00:30:02.920 responders and their families. You know, someone once said to 522 00:30:02.960 --> 00:30:07.279 me that part of your aligned mission in the world 523 00:30:07.400 --> 00:30:09.240 is the thing that would make your heart cry when 524 00:30:09.279 --> 00:30:13.480 you think about it not being helped, and no, no, 525 00:30:13.640 --> 00:30:16.559 for me, I have so much admiration for the people 526 00:30:16.599 --> 00:30:19.720 who put themselves on the line to serve other people 527 00:30:21.480 --> 00:30:24.519 and all of the different things that they're willing to 528 00:30:24.559 --> 00:30:29.119 go through and be exposed to, and the immense personal 529 00:30:30.359 --> 00:30:35.240 sacrifice that that takes, right, and we forget, you know, 530 00:30:35.599 --> 00:30:39.400 our veterans, our military folks are willing to go into 531 00:30:40.079 --> 00:30:47.599 some of the most horrible experiences. But so are first responders, right, 532 00:30:47.640 --> 00:30:49.559 They're the ones that have to stand there and hold 533 00:30:49.599 --> 00:30:52.880 it together to put other people back together. 534 00:30:54.319 --> 00:30:59.519 Yes, and yeah, I mean they they are doing things 535 00:30:59.599 --> 00:31:07.400 that most individuals can't or won't. The things that they see. Again, 536 00:31:07.519 --> 00:31:11.759 first responders military, what they see, what they go through, 537 00:31:11.759 --> 00:31:15.039 what they carry along with them, you know, and so 538 00:31:15.119 --> 00:31:19.759 many times you've got them. They're defined by their mission, right, 539 00:31:19.799 --> 00:31:25.119 their their rank, their role, their responsibility, and that transition 540 00:31:25.279 --> 00:31:27.440 can be extremely hard. 541 00:31:27.240 --> 00:31:30.279 It can be. And so that's the first thing, is 542 00:31:30.359 --> 00:31:33.680 just the immense love and admiration I have for the 543 00:31:33.720 --> 00:31:36.039 people and for the courage that it takes to do that, 544 00:31:36.119 --> 00:31:38.559 because our military folks are willing to stand on a 545 00:31:38.640 --> 00:31:44.039 line at risk, you know, And I don't even think 546 00:31:44.039 --> 00:31:47.799 people realize we lose people just to training exercises, just 547 00:31:47.920 --> 00:31:51.000 training to do the job is dangerous, and they're willing 548 00:31:51.039 --> 00:31:53.400 to take that on. And so for those folks, their 549 00:31:53.440 --> 00:31:55.839 families and all the people that support them in their communities, 550 00:31:55.839 --> 00:31:59.319 they just I have immense love and respect. And I 551 00:31:59.359 --> 00:32:04.319 think the way what happens is is in order to 552 00:32:04.400 --> 00:32:09.319 do that, there is a deep rooting into camaraderie and 553 00:32:09.400 --> 00:32:13.640 trust with the people that are there with you, and 554 00:32:14.279 --> 00:32:17.519 a deep desire to make sure that the person to 555 00:32:17.599 --> 00:32:21.359 the left and the right of you is protected by you. Right, 556 00:32:21.400 --> 00:32:25.559 that's the deal you're making. And so same thing with 557 00:32:25.599 --> 00:32:29.640 our first responders. They're really committing to protect the public, 558 00:32:29.720 --> 00:32:31.640 to protect the other people, and to show up and 559 00:32:31.640 --> 00:32:35.759 care for them. And so that's a very special form 560 00:32:35.759 --> 00:32:40.519 of strength and resilience, encourage and bravery. But what happens 561 00:32:40.599 --> 00:32:44.839 is is when you transition out of that role, if 562 00:32:44.880 --> 00:32:47.920 that's who you've been showing up as for twenty years, 563 00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:51.240 and suddenly you're in the private sector where that's not 564 00:32:51.359 --> 00:32:58.440 even understood or acknowledged and in many times not even appreciated, right, 565 00:33:00.359 --> 00:33:03.400 And you know, it's it's a fascinating thing because we 566 00:33:03.400 --> 00:33:08.720 we assigned so many stereotypes to things too, Right, A 567 00:33:08.759 --> 00:33:11.240 lot of people automatically assume, if you're a veteran, you 568 00:33:11.279 --> 00:33:16.200 must be traumatized. Yeah, and we assign all these these 569 00:33:16.240 --> 00:33:18.559 crazy stereotypes. Or you must be really rigid if you 570 00:33:18.599 --> 00:33:22.079 were in the military, right, or you must you know, 571 00:33:22.079 --> 00:33:24.680 we assign these things. And so so I think that 572 00:33:26.559 --> 00:33:29.960 it's it's really important to recognize what it takes in 573 00:33:30.039 --> 00:33:33.640 a person and the immense amount of skill and leadership 574 00:33:34.240 --> 00:33:38.519 and commitment to service and to serve others. And so 575 00:33:38.759 --> 00:33:41.680 that's that's what I honor. But I think that it 576 00:33:41.720 --> 00:33:46.799 gets overlooked how many gifts and talents and skills that 577 00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:51.000 gives a person because it's a little different than what 578 00:33:51.079 --> 00:33:57.519 we see in a corporate world, right right, and ahead, 579 00:33:57.839 --> 00:34:00.440 no no, no, no, go ahead. And there's the huge 580 00:34:00.720 --> 00:34:04.119 So there's a huge value in two pieces of it. 581 00:34:04.480 --> 00:34:07.799 One is really helping those people really connect to the 582 00:34:07.920 --> 00:34:10.280 immense amount of gifts and talents they have that they 583 00:34:10.519 --> 00:34:14.760 may not even recognize because back to the conformity. In 584 00:34:15.119 --> 00:34:18.079 the world of conformity, they're told it's not a value. 585 00:34:18.079 --> 00:34:19.239 You know, it's not a value here. 586 00:34:19.480 --> 00:34:19.800 Yeah. 587 00:34:20.400 --> 00:34:20.599 Right. 588 00:34:20.920 --> 00:34:25.440 It's also you know, I think sharing, even having conversations 589 00:34:25.480 --> 00:34:29.559 like this and helping to empower other people that are 590 00:34:29.559 --> 00:34:31.599 outside of that world to view it differently. 591 00:34:32.320 --> 00:34:38.400 Right, Yeah, I mean, and I think you it's everybody, right, 592 00:34:38.519 --> 00:34:42.920 everybody leads differently, Different generations lead differently, people in different 593 00:34:43.360 --> 00:34:45.800 with different backgrounds. I mean, this is why we want 594 00:34:45.840 --> 00:34:51.559 the diversity, and I don't mean diversity as in diversity inclusion. Right, 595 00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:55.119 that's one way if we all were the same, how 596 00:34:55.199 --> 00:34:57.639 do we have these great ideas and these great great 597 00:34:58.039 --> 00:35:01.360 ways to move forward? And I think it can show 598 00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:05.440 up very differently in those veterans and first responders because 599 00:35:05.480 --> 00:35:09.719 they have carried enormous responsibility and they are doing a 600 00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:14.480 major life transition. So what do you tell them when 601 00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:18.239 they're looking for their why their you know what the 602 00:35:18.559 --> 00:35:20.119 purpose behind it? 603 00:35:21.679 --> 00:35:25.079 Well, first of all, I seek not to tell anybody anything. 604 00:35:25.599 --> 00:35:27.800 Yes, I was just saying, how do you help them 605 00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:30.239 get to get that out of it? 606 00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:35.320 It's really about asking about the questions that we're asking, right, 607 00:35:35.320 --> 00:35:37.880 It's really about the questions that we're asking, And so 608 00:35:37.960 --> 00:35:41.480 it's a continual question of helping a person just tune 609 00:35:41.519 --> 00:35:44.199 into what is it that they feel aligned, what are 610 00:35:44.239 --> 00:35:47.400 their values, what are their gifts, what are their talents? 611 00:35:47.599 --> 00:35:50.599 How do we help them feel empowered? Right? One of 612 00:35:50.639 --> 00:35:55.159 my favorite quotes that we use in our very exclusive 613 00:35:55.880 --> 00:35:59.599 coaching program is from Buckminster Fuller, and I love the 614 00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:01.440 question that he asks. He says, how do we make 615 00:36:01.440 --> 00:36:04.760 the world work for one hundred percent of humanity in 616 00:36:04.800 --> 00:36:11.000 the shortest possible time through spontaneous cooperation without ecological offense 617 00:36:11.119 --> 00:36:15.719 or the disadvantage of anyone? Right. That's a really incredible 618 00:36:15.800 --> 00:36:20.719 question of nonconformity, by the way, but it's continually asking, Okay, 619 00:36:20.920 --> 00:36:24.000 what is unique about me? What makes me happy? What 620 00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:27.320 lights me up? What do I want to contribute? Who 621 00:36:27.840 --> 00:36:29.719 am I? How can I help? Who do I want 622 00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:35.119 to help? It's it's really helping people feel safe and 623 00:36:35.320 --> 00:36:38.519 empowered to delve into those questions and to find the 624 00:36:38.519 --> 00:36:44.559 answers within themselves and then actually implement it, because implementation 625 00:36:44.800 --> 00:36:47.480 is important. Right. We can get all the inspiration in 626 00:36:47.480 --> 00:36:49.079 the world, but if we're not willing to take the 627 00:36:49.199 --> 00:36:54.760 actions to move it forward, then it doesn't happen right, right? 628 00:36:55.199 --> 00:36:59.760 And does how does role of community right outside of 629 00:36:59.800 --> 00:37:05.000 the as what role do they play? And we're building 630 00:37:05.039 --> 00:37:08.000 a sense of that belonging when we're looking at once 631 00:37:08.079 --> 00:37:12.159 that once that individual is navigating into their into their 632 00:37:12.440 --> 00:37:13.960 new and I hate to say it is because I 633 00:37:14.000 --> 00:37:16.760 hate this term, but new normal right, their new identity 634 00:37:17.239 --> 00:37:20.039 without changing themselves, right. 635 00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:23.440 I think I think that it's it's really important to 636 00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:27.119 start building trust with people and find relationships that can 637 00:37:27.159 --> 00:37:31.000 support you. And some some people are more gifted at 638 00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:35.400 this than others. Some people are naturally amazing connectors. Others 639 00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:38.599 may struggle with that a little bit. But it also 640 00:37:38.679 --> 00:37:42.280 comes back to I believe we also have to be 641 00:37:42.320 --> 00:37:46.519 willing to become what it is that we're seeking, right, 642 00:37:46.639 --> 00:37:50.119 And so I know that if I want to if 643 00:37:50.159 --> 00:37:53.880 I want to feel trusted, if I want people to 644 00:37:53.920 --> 00:37:56.800 trust me, I have to first become someone that people 645 00:37:56.840 --> 00:38:02.079 can trust. And so it's it's again learning finding ways 646 00:38:02.159 --> 00:38:09.199 to authentically and very courageously reach outside of yourself. And 647 00:38:09.480 --> 00:38:11.639 there is a lot of vulnerability in that, without a 648 00:38:11.719 --> 00:38:13.559 doubt for all of us. 649 00:38:14.280 --> 00:38:18.960 How does Unconquerable Me help people move from the survival 650 00:38:19.000 --> 00:38:22.880 and responsibility into inner freedom and meaningful contribution. 651 00:38:23.719 --> 00:38:28.400 A lot of it comes down to accepting our survival. Right, 652 00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:34.000 So when you look at our our trademark registered branding, 653 00:38:35.239 --> 00:38:38.679 when you look at unconquerable me or quantum me or 654 00:38:38.719 --> 00:38:40.440 any of our all of our knee brand is a 655 00:38:40.440 --> 00:38:43.480 little M and a big EE. And that brand is 656 00:38:44.000 --> 00:38:50.039 represents this. The little M is for that mortal material matter, right, 657 00:38:50.119 --> 00:38:52.559 that we are, right, we are in this physical body, 658 00:38:52.599 --> 00:38:55.320 having a physical experience on a very physical earth, right, 659 00:38:55.920 --> 00:38:58.360 and and so there's always going to be that. But 660 00:38:58.440 --> 00:39:02.840 then that the big E represents that expanding energy, that 661 00:39:03.000 --> 00:39:08.280 eternal essence. Right for me, that's love, What that is 662 00:39:08.000 --> 00:39:13.400 is pure love. Right. We're both, We're both. What happens, though, 663 00:39:13.480 --> 00:39:16.679 is a lot of times when people are sneaking for 664 00:39:16.760 --> 00:39:22.519 something higher or they're calling or their purpose, they're frustrated 665 00:39:22.599 --> 00:39:27.800 with the mortal matter that also needs to survive. And 666 00:39:27.880 --> 00:39:32.800 so it's actually making peace with being both and recognizing 667 00:39:33.960 --> 00:39:37.480 when we're when we're really in that higher expression of 668 00:39:37.519 --> 00:39:40.920 ourselves versus when we're really in survival, and being able 669 00:39:40.920 --> 00:39:43.360 to accept an honor and love both and have compassion 670 00:39:43.440 --> 00:39:47.199 for both, and as we do that within ourselves, having 671 00:39:47.199 --> 00:39:50.920 that for other people as well. Right. I know the 672 00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:55.559 things that trip my survival trigger, and I know when 673 00:39:55.559 --> 00:39:58.119 it's tripped, right, and I can act like a terrible 674 00:39:58.159 --> 00:40:01.880 person like we all do because we're and survival, right, 675 00:40:02.000 --> 00:40:08.039 but it's also going okay, little girl, step back. 676 00:40:08.519 --> 00:40:10.480 We know we just we just had our. 677 00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:13.599 Alarm system tripped. You're okay, right, and then and then 678 00:40:13.639 --> 00:40:16.039 you're remembering and re engaging a lot of it is 679 00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:17.599 the speed at which we learned to do that. 680 00:40:19.679 --> 00:40:21.320 Well, we're going to take a quick break and when 681 00:40:21.360 --> 00:40:23.320 we come back, we're going to finish out the show 682 00:40:23.400 --> 00:40:27.519 with what is sustainable success and inner freedom, creating that 683 00:40:27.679 --> 00:40:31.559 life that does not require burnout. This is Get Rooted 684 00:40:31.639 --> 00:40:34.360 Radio with Erica Gifford Mills, Living it up, loving it up, 685 00:40:34.440 --> 00:40:47.360 Letting it go. Stay tuned, We'll be right back. Welcome 686 00:40:47.360 --> 00:40:49.960 back to Get Rooted Radio with Erica Gifford Mills, Living 687 00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:52.119 it up, Loving it up, Letting it go. If you 688 00:40:52.159 --> 00:40:54.760 missed any information during the last segments, go to get 689 00:40:54.840 --> 00:40:57.239 rid of radio dot com to listen to a replay 690 00:40:57.320 --> 00:41:01.920 of this episode, other episodes, and sign up for Huffle tips, 691 00:41:02.000 --> 00:41:05.239 special events, and pricing for upcoming speaking and coaching sessions 692 00:41:05.239 --> 00:41:08.400 at getrooted radio dot com. Welcome back to my guest, 693 00:41:08.559 --> 00:41:11.159 Marla Ballard. Thank you so much for being on the 694 00:41:11.159 --> 00:41:11.719 show today. 695 00:41:12.119 --> 00:41:14.280 Thank you so much for having me Eric, I really 696 00:41:14.280 --> 00:41:14.960 appreciate it. 697 00:41:15.599 --> 00:41:19.880 Yes, tell listeners how they can learn more about you, 698 00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:25.519 You shine, the Unconquerable me just everything on how they 699 00:41:25.559 --> 00:41:28.079 can reach out to you and learn more about what 700 00:41:28.159 --> 00:41:28.960 you have to offer. 701 00:41:29.440 --> 00:41:31.440 Okay, well, and we do have a lot to offer. 702 00:41:31.559 --> 00:41:34.960 We have multiple modalities we work with that are trademarked 703 00:41:34.960 --> 00:41:38.119 and licensed in seventeen amazing coaches on our team now, 704 00:41:39.119 --> 00:41:41.679 so you can find all of us on the website 705 00:41:41.719 --> 00:41:45.920 at youtoshine dot com. That's why you too shine dot com. 706 00:41:46.280 --> 00:41:50.039 You can reach my page directly at Unconquerablemee dot coach. 707 00:41:50.840 --> 00:41:54.880 And for anybody who feels connected to anything that we're 708 00:41:54.880 --> 00:41:58.199 in conversation about today and wants to reach out, please 709 00:41:58.239 --> 00:42:00.679 feel free to email me directly at Mark Arla at 710 00:42:00.760 --> 00:42:03.840 youtuo shine dot com. That's why youto shine dot com 711 00:42:05.079 --> 00:42:05.599 so much so. 712 00:42:05.719 --> 00:42:07.519 During the last segments, in case you missed it, we 713 00:42:07.599 --> 00:42:12.679 talked about being rooted in responsibility, about resilience, vulnerability and 714 00:42:12.880 --> 00:42:16.440 beyond performing the strength and leading from within, as well 715 00:42:16.440 --> 00:42:19.559 as identity and purpose. And during this last segment, we're 716 00:42:19.559 --> 00:42:23.719 going to discuss that sustainable success and inner freedom by 717 00:42:23.760 --> 00:42:28.079 creating a life that does not require the burnout. And 718 00:42:27.800 --> 00:42:32.360 as we've mentioned, you built and scaled the successful businesses 719 00:42:32.480 --> 00:42:35.239 right coach high performers, and now you lead the you 720 00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:44.599 two shine global expansion. How do you define sustainable success? 721 00:42:44.039 --> 00:42:47.519 The sustainable success for me is when I can be 722 00:42:47.639 --> 00:42:49.199 up to the things I want to be up to 723 00:42:49.320 --> 00:42:54.280 in the world that they give me joy, frankly, and 724 00:42:54.320 --> 00:42:57.800 that I feel good about and fulfilled about in alignment 725 00:42:57.840 --> 00:43:01.199 with my values and my gifts and talents and my 726 00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:05.920 internal integrity and the ability to be authentic within it. 727 00:43:07.360 --> 00:43:08.920 Because yeah, that's. 728 00:43:08.719 --> 00:43:11.119 What success looks like when you're when you you're in 729 00:43:11.159 --> 00:43:16.039 that rooted alignment rather than that comparison or you know 730 00:43:16.119 --> 00:43:21.320 that that informity, right, And we talked a little bit 731 00:43:21.320 --> 00:43:21.800 about that. 732 00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:25.800 Yeah, yeah, whenever, whenever I am not being true to 733 00:43:25.880 --> 00:43:29.599 myself whatever, in whatever way that is, and that a 734 00:43:29.679 --> 00:43:31.920 lot of times we don't realize not being true to 735 00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:34.960 ourselves doesn't necessarily have to be a big violation of self. 736 00:43:35.519 --> 00:43:37.920 We do it, and all the time we betray ourselves 737 00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:42.039 in a lot of little, tiny ways. Right. It's those 738 00:43:42.159 --> 00:43:44.400 moments when you know you don't want to do something, 739 00:43:44.440 --> 00:43:47.000 You're like, oh, sacrifice myself for this, right, And then 740 00:43:47.039 --> 00:43:49.760 we feel so drained and so exhausted or whatever. Right, 741 00:43:49.800 --> 00:43:53.559 it's it's all those little places or or those things 742 00:43:53.599 --> 00:43:56.719 where we know something's misaligned, but rather than have the 743 00:43:56.760 --> 00:43:59.840 courage to truly be honest and explore it and then 744 00:43:59.880 --> 00:44:03.519 be vulnerable to acknowledge it with another person, we just 745 00:44:03.599 --> 00:44:06.320 decide we're gonna just I'll just take one for the team, 746 00:44:06.360 --> 00:44:08.679 and I'll just be It's okay, I can be miserable 747 00:44:08.679 --> 00:44:10.679 for a while. Right. We do a lot of that, 748 00:44:11.320 --> 00:44:13.360 But those, every single one of those little things is 749 00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:18.079 a self betrayal. Yeah, and then and so do enough 750 00:44:18.119 --> 00:44:20.960 of those, and then wonder why someone shows up in 751 00:44:21.000 --> 00:44:24.880 your life that actually betrays you. 752 00:44:24.880 --> 00:44:26.679 You're getting to do it. 753 00:44:27.119 --> 00:44:29.599 We And here's the thing, it's a very human condition. 754 00:44:29.679 --> 00:44:34.159 This is not this is not a commentary on anybody's right. 755 00:44:34.559 --> 00:44:36.639 I've done it as much as as anybody. This is 756 00:44:36.639 --> 00:44:38.480 why I'm so familiar with it. I know it very 757 00:44:38.599 --> 00:44:43.320 very well. Right. And so so when you're talking about burnout, 758 00:44:43.800 --> 00:44:47.440 the bottom line is burnout comes from energy, and that's 759 00:44:47.480 --> 00:44:50.039 what we work with really well in quantum personal development, 760 00:44:50.079 --> 00:44:52.880 by the way, is energy. But the bottom line is 761 00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:57.760 is anytime you have more energetic output than energetic output 762 00:44:57.760 --> 00:45:00.519 you're receiving back in to restore you, you're going to 763 00:45:00.519 --> 00:45:04.239 be in a state of burnout. Because that's the bottom line. 764 00:45:04.280 --> 00:45:07.559 What is depletion and fatigue. It's we've given more than 765 00:45:07.559 --> 00:45:12.920 we've replenished every time. And so one of the places 766 00:45:12.920 --> 00:45:15.840 where we create burnout the most is when we're forcing 767 00:45:15.880 --> 00:45:20.119 the energy, when we're so fixed that something has to 768 00:45:20.159 --> 00:45:23.960 happen a certain way at a certain time, and by golly, 769 00:45:24.559 --> 00:45:27.639 and and we're forcing it and we're trying to force 770 00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:31.960 everyone around us, and we feel that that's fatigue and 771 00:45:32.039 --> 00:45:36.199 that drain from that happening. That's the moment. 772 00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:40.559 Yeah, yeah, And I think that's so many driven people 773 00:45:40.679 --> 00:45:46.719 equate exhaustion with achievement or they are sacrificing their health, relationships, 774 00:45:46.760 --> 00:45:50.800 or identity to pursue those ambitious goals and that this 775 00:45:50.960 --> 00:45:54.679 quantum personal development. How how can that break through? That 776 00:45:55.079 --> 00:45:59.199 right is, how do we allow our internal beliefs and 777 00:45:59.239 --> 00:46:04.280 emotional patterns shape the results we experience externally, and how 778 00:46:04.280 --> 00:46:07.039 can we kind of get to that greater clarity. 779 00:46:07.480 --> 00:46:10.440 That's it. That's a lot of it is learning to 780 00:46:10.559 --> 00:46:17.320 realize and it's it's really delving into so much self honesty, right, 781 00:46:17.800 --> 00:46:20.880 because because what I find is it's you know, and 782 00:46:21.599 --> 00:46:24.400 it's a really interesting thing. Right now, people say, oh, 783 00:46:24.519 --> 00:46:26.960 you know, if you love yourself too much, yourself, it's 784 00:46:27.000 --> 00:46:29.360 it's all about loving others. And then others say, oh, 785 00:46:29.480 --> 00:46:31.920 you know, if you don't have enough self love, then 786 00:46:31.960 --> 00:46:36.480 you're not taking care of yourself. And it's always bulbe 787 00:46:37.119 --> 00:46:40.480 it's best not to make a distinction. Just love, just love, 788 00:46:40.639 --> 00:46:44.000 just love yourself, just love humanity, love love people, love 789 00:46:44.039 --> 00:46:47.519 what you're up to. Right, But when we're when we're 790 00:46:47.559 --> 00:46:52.760 starting to force that energy and feel the drain of that, 791 00:46:52.880 --> 00:46:55.320 the moment we feel the drain of that, that is 792 00:46:55.360 --> 00:46:59.239 the cue to take a step back for a moment 793 00:47:00.239 --> 00:47:03.039 and go, okay, what am I? What am I not seeing? 794 00:47:03.079 --> 00:47:05.639 What am I? What am I forcing here? 795 00:47:06.760 --> 00:47:06.960 Right? 796 00:47:07.559 --> 00:47:13.559 Rather than taking a deep breath and trusting have I 797 00:47:13.639 --> 00:47:17.360 done everything I know to do? And if I've done 798 00:47:17.400 --> 00:47:19.719 everything I know to do and now I'm just making 799 00:47:19.719 --> 00:47:25.079 everybody crazy trying to push hamph away past that, including myself, right, 800 00:47:25.159 --> 00:47:28.480 I'm draining my energy. Right, there is a point where 801 00:47:29.320 --> 00:47:30.920 we've done everything we know to do and we have 802 00:47:30.960 --> 00:47:31.639 to just let go. 803 00:47:33.760 --> 00:47:40.719 Yeah, Right, for the person listening, who feels exhausted, disconnected, 804 00:47:40.840 --> 00:47:44.440 or certain about their next chapter. What is one step 805 00:47:44.480 --> 00:47:46.360 that they can take today? 806 00:47:46.880 --> 00:47:49.199 I think I think the first thing is is to 807 00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:53.320 immediately stop and ask what do I need right now? 808 00:47:55.039 --> 00:47:58.599 And if it's rest or a walk or a massage 809 00:47:58.920 --> 00:48:01.440 or go sit in the sunshine, what you know, or 810 00:48:01.559 --> 00:48:04.519 nourishing meal, whatever it is, but to actually give yourself 811 00:48:04.559 --> 00:48:09.599 permission and freedom to just stop and say what do 812 00:48:09.639 --> 00:48:11.719 I need right now in this moment the most to 813 00:48:11.800 --> 00:48:17.320 restore me and then go let yourself have that, and 814 00:48:17.400 --> 00:48:20.719 then see where you are. The world is not you know, 815 00:48:20.760 --> 00:48:23.199 here's the thing, and this is hubris. I'll be frank 816 00:48:23.280 --> 00:48:28.159 with you. We don't realize it, but self sacrifice is 817 00:48:28.199 --> 00:48:31.599 actually a form of hubris and egotism, because what we're 818 00:48:31.599 --> 00:48:34.920 saying is that we're so important that the world's going 819 00:48:35.000 --> 00:48:36.960 to fall apart if we take care of ourselves, if 820 00:48:36.960 --> 00:48:41.920 we're if we're over extending ourselves. And you know, and 821 00:48:42.079 --> 00:48:44.320 I don't mean this in a diminishing way, but even 822 00:48:44.360 --> 00:48:49.199 for me, I got to realize I'm one person, and 823 00:48:49.679 --> 00:48:53.679 I'm you know, and I've got one body, and that 824 00:48:53.719 --> 00:48:56.800 body needs good food and rest and exercise. And care 825 00:48:58.719 --> 00:49:02.840 right and fun, and it's so it's it's it's realizing 826 00:49:02.880 --> 00:49:05.360 that I've got to take care of that because if 827 00:49:05.400 --> 00:49:08.440 I if I'm not okay, how am I going to 828 00:49:08.519 --> 00:49:13.679 have any sustainability with showing up for anyone else? But 829 00:49:13.960 --> 00:49:15.880 it actually, for a lot of us, takes an immense 830 00:49:15.880 --> 00:49:20.000 amount of humility to care for ourselves. It's a humbling 831 00:49:20.079 --> 00:49:25.599 thing to actually own that we're not superhuman. Sometimes, yeah, all. 832 00:49:25.559 --> 00:49:28.880 Right, complete this sentence and then then we gotta go. 833 00:49:29.679 --> 00:49:33.960 I become unconquerable when I love. 834 00:49:36.880 --> 00:49:37.400 When I love. 835 00:49:38.440 --> 00:49:40.199 Thank you Marlin for being on the show today. 836 00:49:40.960 --> 00:49:42.559 Thank you thanks for having me. 837 00:49:42.800 --> 00:49:44.360 And I want to thank you all for tuning in 838 00:49:44.440 --> 00:49:46.400 to Get Rooted Radio. If you missed any part of 839 00:49:46.440 --> 00:49:48.760 today's episode or want to listen again, go to get 840 00:49:48.840 --> 00:49:51.280 Rooted radio dot com for the podcast, and don't forget 841 00:49:51.320 --> 00:49:53.000 to tune in the first and third Monday of each 842 00:49:53.039 --> 00:49:55.840 month at five pm Eastern, four pm Central, and two 843 00:49:55.880 --> 00:49:59.159 pm Pacific right here on Transformation Talk Revolution. 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