Speaker 1: Welcome to you are the apple of God's eye. Welcome.
Speaker 1: I hope you had a wonderful week. You're going to
Speaker 1: have a transformational weekend and this coming week God is
Speaker 1: really going to unpack some deep things for you. In
Speaker 1: Jesus' name, giving God all the honor, the glory and
Speaker 1: the praise for you. And what He's about to do
Speaker 1: today in Jesus mean, today's session is the breakup and
Speaker 1: the makeup because we sill a God about balance and
Speaker 1: God has some deep inside. If you know someone is
Speaker 1: dealing with a divorce, a breakup, they're hurting, they're suffering,
Speaker 1: they're being abused in their relationship, log them on right now.
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Speaker 1: He loves you, sir, hallelujah, welcome. I want to acknowledge
Speaker 1: my family in the Gospel, my biological family. I turn
Speaker 1: God for my wonderful cousin Marlene, my brother, and for
Speaker 1: every single person that has ever said a word of
Speaker 1: encouragement along this journey of life. I want to acknowledge
Speaker 1: my brother in the Lord, Kenvin Peters, and all my
Speaker 1: mentors and my mentees, and for every strangle in every
Speaker 1: single individual that the Lord have used you to cultivate
Speaker 1: in molding and developing me to be a counselor of compassion.
Speaker 1: I greet you all in the wonderful name of Jesus.
Speaker 1: These are my two books that the Lord have allowed
Speaker 1: me to write. I will give you some information in
Speaker 1: the future as to where you can purchase them. But
Speaker 1: today's lesson we're gonna be touching on the breakup and
Speaker 1: the wake up, and I'm pulling from some notes from
Speaker 1: the g Spot. Hallelujah, let's get ready. Father, we thank
Speaker 1: you for every soul that would lug onto the Father
Speaker 1: that you're ministering to every heart. Oh God, you're touching
Speaker 1: every life. Father, we thank you for moving by your
Speaker 1: spirit God like only you can. Father. I pray those
Speaker 1: that are hurting, that you're touching, your reaching, you're pulling,
Speaker 1: your ministering, you're pouring in your love of God like
Speaker 1: only you can. Father. I thank you God that you're
Speaker 1: moving by your spirit. Hallelujah. Thank you Jesus God. We
Speaker 1: thank you for having your way this morning. God, we
Speaker 1: thank you for mending hearts that are broken, as that
Speaker 1: are confused and they don't know. They feel they can't
Speaker 1: come out of this place of the spirit. They feel
Speaker 1: they can't live without the person. But Father, we thank
Speaker 1: you that you are God all by yourself, and you
Speaker 1: are the God in the hearts of men, and you're
Speaker 1: ministering to every soul in Jesus' name. Amen, Amen, Amen.
Speaker 1: I want to acknowledge Minister Sylvia. I want to acknowledge
Speaker 1: Minister Lindley and every single person every Sunday that luck
Speaker 1: on during the course of the week that show their
Speaker 1: support that make mention. I want to acknowledge Anti Glenda
Speaker 1: Michelle and her husband Steve that are also supporters. Pastor Anne,
Speaker 1: I acknowledge you every week you're logging and you're are
Speaker 1: praying and supporting. Malene. I love you, my ride and
Speaker 1: die my dear cousin Maline, thank you you, and for
Speaker 1: everyone my brother Junior Brown, his wife Gwenette, and his
Speaker 1: lovely arrows, for everyone that has ever spoken a word
Speaker 1: of support and encouragement. I thank you, Amen, Praise be
Speaker 1: to God. Let us get into the session the breakup
Speaker 1: and the wake up. That is some heavy stuff. Whoa Ecclesiasities,
Speaker 1: Chapter seven and eight. Ecclesiasities, Chapter seven and eight. A
Speaker 1: breakup takes more than just your heart. People of God,
Speaker 1: you need to hear this. People treat breakups as a
Speaker 1: light thing, but it is not. It takes more than
Speaker 1: just your heart. Wonderful people. Ecclesiasity is chapter seven versus eight.
Speaker 1: You know me, I'll always be coming from the King
Speaker 1: James version of the Bible. Like always. It says, better
Speaker 1: is the end of a thing than the beginning. They're
Speaker 1: off and the patient in spirit is better than the
Speaker 1: proud in spirit. In other words, let me finish the
Speaker 1: scripture is better than the proud in spirit. What that
Speaker 1: means if you're patient in spirit, it means that you're
Speaker 1: not bitter from the breakup. Yes, I know that it's
Speaker 1: easier said than done. Of course, I have been in
Speaker 1: a broke up situation. I know how that feels on
Speaker 1: both ends, being the one to break a relationship and
Speaker 1: having someone break the relationship as well, or leave or abandon.
Speaker 1: I know the pain of all of it. I don't
Speaker 1: know why the Lord chooses these topics he does. Someone
Speaker 1: asks me if I had these all alive. No. Every
Speaker 1: week the Lord tells me what to say, what to
Speaker 1: minister on, because he's only concerned about your heart, your soul,
Speaker 1: your emotions, your healing, and your well being. That's the
Speaker 1: God that we save. He loves you. Okay. So when
Speaker 1: it says it better to be patient and spirit, it
Speaker 1: means don't be bitter. And then it says, then it's
Speaker 1: better to be patient than to be proud in spirit,
Speaker 1: which means pride is a placeivle to the wounds in
Speaker 1: the soul. Did you hear that pride can be a
Speaker 1: placebo to the wounds in your soul? A placebo is
Speaker 1: a medical terminology of medication that is given. It's not
Speaker 1: a real medication, but the patient has no way of
Speaker 1: knowing that. That is something they do. Sorry, feeling a
Speaker 1: little hot. That is something they do quite often when
Speaker 1: they're doing trials on patients. To see how they react,
Speaker 1: to find out if it's really an illness, if it's psychological,
Speaker 1: or if it's all in their mind or they just
Speaker 1: do it for whatever reason. And when patients administered at
Speaker 1: Place Ebo, they're never told that. Again, that is part
Speaker 1: of their research techniques. Okay, so sometimes we're going to
Speaker 1: go into some deep things here today. Again, Blessings, I
Speaker 1: know who you are. Blessing said, good morning all online
Speaker 1: brothers and sisters. We thank you, miss Blessings for your greetings. Okay,
Speaker 1: so some of the things about breakup you might want
Speaker 1: to take notes today. Sometimes a relationship can be a
Speaker 1: decorated band aid or past time to avoid the wounds
Speaker 1: beneath or unresolved issues that keep the perpetual cycle of
Speaker 1: pain or dysfunction in various distortions of love and happiness.
Speaker 1: Some people use relationships the adrenaline, the moments, the stuff
Speaker 1: as a decoy to not deal with what's really on
Speaker 1: the inside. And that's why the breakup is so destructive
Speaker 1: or impactive. It's not just the person you love, and
Speaker 1: we're going to go into that. It's not just the
Speaker 1: person you love that has broken up with you or
Speaker 1: you thought would be there for you forever. It is
Speaker 1: not any of that, It is something deeper. And this
Speaker 1: is why God's method is He wanted us to remain
Speaker 1: single until marriage and we become whole in our whole soul.
Speaker 1: As individuals, we become whole and at the right time.
Speaker 1: Easy Gilt Chapter sixteen talks about when it was a
Speaker 1: time of love, he spread his skoits of love over
Speaker 1: us and in his timing he will present or give
Speaker 1: to us the spouse that He has for us. And
Speaker 1: there's a lot of trauma that comes from being in
Speaker 1: previous or premarital relationships, not to mention the impact of
Speaker 1: soul ties and competitiveness that comes with that. So today
Speaker 1: as little time as we have, and the Lord will
Speaker 1: stretch it out because I want to hear from you. Okay,
Speaker 1: So the next thing we want to talk about is
Speaker 1: God allows the alone time, the single of seasoness, you know,
Speaker 1: the ego by nature. When they reach a certain age
Speaker 1: posting but not pre adult in my wedding, their parents
Speaker 1: kick them out and they almost never see their parents again,
Speaker 1: and their parents kick them out into life. But understand,
Speaker 1: their parents have taught them how to stand on their
Speaker 1: tailons for them to observe. The strongest aspect of an
Speaker 1: eagle is their eyes, the ability to see. A lot
Speaker 1: of people may not notice. In the eyes of the eagle,
Speaker 1: they are four views called the plea clates. Those of
Speaker 1: you and my students have known. You've gotten that test question, plecklates.
Speaker 1: It's four dimensions inside of each eye and the period
Speaker 1: where they are eaglets. When they are babies. Baby eagles
Speaker 1: are called the eglets and they rest in the nests
Speaker 1: their parents is teaching them, teaching them the most fundamental
Speaker 1: lesson of survival in life, and that is the ability
Speaker 1: to observe, to pay attention, to look, to enhance, because
Speaker 1: their eye is what will cause them to eat, to sleep,
Speaker 1: to exist and experienced longevity. What I love about the
Speaker 1: eagles too, is that the eagles marry once and remain loyal,
Speaker 1: unlike the cobo or the crow, which is a cousin
Speaker 1: to the eagle, and people don't know that they never marry,
Speaker 1: and they have multiple birds with multiple females. Interesting and
Speaker 1: this revelation about the eagle was taken from The Eagle
Speaker 1: Christian by doctor Ken Price. I recommend everyone to get
Speaker 1: that book. It's absolutely phenomenal. He's also my publisher for
Speaker 1: my two books. But I give God praise and tanks
Speaker 1: for that. So the process of the Eagle, when the
Speaker 1: parents send them into the will for survival, it teaches
Speaker 1: them that alone season, That single season prepares them to hunt,
Speaker 1: to survive, to sleep, to save, and all of the
Speaker 1: singleness should also be cultivating that as well within us.
Speaker 1: So God allows that season of singleness or aloneeness, if
Speaker 1: you will, to hear his voice, to learn strategies on
Speaker 1: saving and building, investing, to develop your creativity, and various
Speaker 1: things the Lord will do. God allows that single season,
Speaker 1: like the ego, to equip yourself, fulfill you, empower you,
Speaker 1: and to sharpen your desirement. God also allows that season
Speaker 1: to cause you to become confident in your identity. Some
Speaker 1: things you only learn as you walk along with God,
Speaker 1: and the our own season does not have to be forever.
Speaker 1: But when you are walking confidentally in God, you don't
Speaker 1: have the knee, you don't have a void where you
Speaker 1: will just settle for anything and everything. The reason why
Speaker 1: God chooses that season of singleness or loneliness is to
Speaker 1: teach you I hear you Father, is to teach you
Speaker 1: your God identity. In him. For some people God there's
Speaker 1: a scripture where God told Jeremiah to go to the
Speaker 1: potter to the field, and he broke the potter and
Speaker 1: he made it brand new. When God is ever evolving you,
Speaker 1: sometimes you even grow out of the relationship that you're in.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the reason why the relationship has ended in a
Speaker 1: person left you is because you may not even be
Speaker 1: aware of it at the moment. But God decided to
Speaker 1: make you bigger and better. And the person is just
Speaker 1: a chicken, and God is calling you to become an ego.
Speaker 1: The chicken will only stay on the ground. But where
Speaker 1: God has called you is to so feel the presence
Speaker 1: of God is to sow into dimensions. So as long
Speaker 1: as you are aligned with the chicken, you would never
Speaker 1: even know that you were created by God to be
Speaker 1: an ego that would sow. And as long as you
Speaker 1: remain attached or connected to a chicken, you would never
Speaker 1: come into the fullness of what God ordained for you
Speaker 1: to be. Yes, if you stay I'm talking to those
Speaker 1: that are broken. If you stay broken, you will become
Speaker 1: play due for the enemy with your destiny. Because the
Speaker 1: enemy has a fieldy in pain and brokenness. He has no, sut.
Speaker 1: He does not show compassion. All he does is he
Speaker 1: how to capitalize on people, manipulate, create distorted versions, give
Speaker 1: whispers lying whispers of God that is not true or positive.
Speaker 1: He whispers lies. There was a time that I went
Speaker 1: through break I break through when I was younger, and
Speaker 1: the enemy actually convinced me that God didn't love me.
Speaker 1: In for a minute, I believe that, and thank you
Speaker 1: Holy Spirit. And one of the things that the enemy
Speaker 1: will do is that if you've had if you're a
Speaker 1: man and you've had a broken relationship with your mother
Speaker 1: or your sisters, the enemy will say to you your
Speaker 1: cities women, they're all the same, and that's not true.
Speaker 1: Or if a girl had a misplaced meant her father
Speaker 1: was not in her life, or her brothers were abusive
Speaker 1: or neglectful, or took advantage or manipulated her financially, emotionally, spirituous,
Speaker 1: psychological God as a lie of a him, you name
Speaker 1: it people of God. Then you begin to see the
Speaker 1: male role as something not trustworthy, is something you could
Speaker 1: trust in, And then the enemy will then say, oh,
Speaker 1: God is a man too, God is a spirit. Let
Speaker 1: me correct that. John four twenty four says God is
Speaker 1: a spirit, and they that worship him must worship him
Speaker 1: in spirit and in truth. That's the word. Okay after
Speaker 1: people who use relationships, after people have endorsed a delusion
Speaker 1: of happiness and a mirage of acceptance, belonging in exchange
Speaker 1: for this missing the slow time bombs. What am I saying?
Speaker 1: Some people are so broken and so hurt and so
Speaker 1: empty and so lonely on the inside that they know
Speaker 1: the relationship is destructive and abusive, But in their mind's eye,
Speaker 1: they pay their doorst and say, oh, no, that's just
Speaker 1: me overreacting. No, he really didn't punch me in my eye,
Speaker 1: or she really didn't break my foot I felt down
Speaker 1: the step. No, the person knew away hurt you. But
Speaker 1: some people are so lonely and experiencing such void of
Speaker 1: brokenness and so want to be accepted and to be
Speaker 1: loved that they willingly, they willingly endorsed that and create
Speaker 1: a mirage and tell themselves, Oh, I'm happy, this is love.
Speaker 1: And you know within yourself that this relationship is volcanic. Oh,
Speaker 1: it's a time bomb that is going to explode, and
Speaker 1: the thing with pain when it's not resolved, and it
Speaker 1: will blow up the Bible said, there's nothing under the
Speaker 1: sun that everything in secret will come to lie. That's
Speaker 1: the word of God, including the lies we tell ourselves,
Speaker 1: including the subtle and obvious abuses we endorse and tell ourselves.
Speaker 1: It's not true. It's true. And what happens is when
Speaker 1: that bumb does explode or that volcano erupts, which is
Speaker 1: the relationship, it will eventually consume you and everyone that's
Speaker 1: attached to you in the way. Today's session is the
Speaker 1: breakup and the wake up. We're addressing the breakup a
Speaker 1: little bit. We're talking about relationship dynamics, and then we're
Speaker 1: going to go into the breakup, the wake up, and
Speaker 1: the conclusion. And I'm giving allocated time for your questions,
Speaker 1: for your comments. Reflections can be a mirror. Relationships can
Speaker 1: be a reflection. It can be a mirror of truth
Speaker 1: or delusion. Relationship makes a person extremely vulnerable the blood
Speaker 1: of Jesus. That is why you cannot open your heart
Speaker 1: to someone or commit to someone that was not sent
Speaker 1: by God or or deemed by God to be your spouse.
Speaker 1: You know that I am a Christian, I am God's minister,
Speaker 1: and I believe in the Holy Bible and God's definition
Speaker 1: of a marriage is a born man marrying a born
Speaker 1: woman that were born that way, remained that way married,
Speaker 1: and kept it that way. Good. Now that we are clear.
Speaker 1: So even though we're talking about breakup and relationship, yes,
Speaker 1: God is talking about anyone's heart that is hurting from breakups.
Speaker 1: But as we go into marriage, I want you to
Speaker 1: understand biblically what specifically God is speaking about when he
Speaker 1: looks at relationships and marriage. Let's deal with the breakup, uh,
Speaker 1: Pastor Hazel Richards. I'm sorry. Doctor Hazel Richards once said
Speaker 1: when a marriage has end in divorce, it simply means
Speaker 1: that the marriage has failed, not you the individual, and
Speaker 1: that is important. Yes, the Bible does not encourage divorce,
Speaker 1: that is correct, But Jesus also did not die in
Speaker 1: a cross for you to for you to endorse any
Speaker 1: form of abuse, not sexual abuse in marriage. Yes, people
Speaker 1: are raped in marriage. Trust me as God's counselor been
Speaker 1: a room for a very long time, and I'm shocked out.
Speaker 1: There's nothing I have made physically abused, being physically beaten.
Speaker 1: I know supposes who would hold even down to what
Speaker 1: people eat in their marriage. And I'm not talking about
Speaker 1: for example, if somebody is diabetic and hiding snacks, or
Speaker 1: the hypertensive where their pressures their blood pressures is high
Speaker 1: from consuming salt, and your spouse in a place of
Speaker 1: compassion and love, wanting to preserve your life and help
Speaker 1: you removing things. I'm talking about people who in marriages
Speaker 1: where there's an argument and to punish you, they throw
Speaker 1: away your food or your clothes, or create confusion and
Speaker 1: chaos with those that you love, and plant seeds in
Speaker 1: the mind of people lies that you did not say,
Speaker 1: to disconnect all your lifelines hear me, so that you
Speaker 1: can become their prisoner where you're totally dependent on me, propheties.
Speaker 1: Are you talking serious? Yes, I am. People do those
Speaker 1: things in relationship. I know of a situation where this
Speaker 1: couple was married for over twenty years, and yes, I
Speaker 1: have a permission to discuss it. And there was a
Speaker 1: period of time in that marriage, my God, where the
Speaker 1: person just did not work and they made their wife
Speaker 1: work multiple jobs to feed all the children that they created.
Speaker 1: And eventually when it ended in divorce and the husband
Speaker 1: asked what was it was a breaking point and the
Speaker 1: wife said this when you sat home every day for
Speaker 1: multiple years and watched me go from job to job
Speaker 1: to job exhausted, and you sat down. So if somebody
Speaker 1: is being a financial burden to you or somebody that
Speaker 1: is making you a financial mule in the marriage, that
Speaker 1: is a form of abuse. So recovered physical, mental, psychological, financial.
Speaker 1: So I just need to say that. Okay, let's get
Speaker 1: into the point because time is running away from us.
Speaker 1: Take time. If you are going through a breakup, take
Speaker 1: time to heal. Excuse me and the tax the talks
Speaker 1: from a breakup, Yes, the talks. The first thing you
Speaker 1: do with the detas is you examine the relationship. You
Speaker 1: make a list of negative things that you're ex said
Speaker 1: or did to you while you were in the relationship.
Speaker 1: You see, when we're in the relationship and we're soul
Speaker 1: tied or we're call dependent, that the person is, you know,
Speaker 1: being financially there for you whatever, and now that you
Speaker 1: are not under that umbrella, because the only umbrella that
Speaker 1: is safe is the love of God and the provision
Speaker 1: of God. I'm serious, it's I have to tell you
Speaker 1: the truth. The Bible specifically says put not your trust
Speaker 1: in man. I am not married, but I tank God
Speaker 1: for the things that he has brought me through. If
Speaker 1: God choose to bless me with her husband tomorrow and
Speaker 1: my husband should leave, whether God call him home or
Speaker 1: he leave where God has made me fortified him, I
Speaker 1: will be okay, yep, because I have learnt from much
Speaker 1: trial and tribulation, from much betrayal and deception, and sometimes
Speaker 1: even people I love, when I saw what they went
Speaker 1: through in relationships. It makes your skin thick and it
Speaker 1: helps you to assess and evaluate things very deep. So
Speaker 1: you want to make a list of the negative things
Speaker 1: that you experienced and the things that was said to
Speaker 1: you in the relationship. That's the first step to healing
Speaker 1: and detoxing. You also have to ask yourself. You want
Speaker 1: to bring that list before the Lord in prayer of
Speaker 1: all the things they said, and you asked the Lord
Speaker 1: was this true? And then the second question is you
Speaker 1: want to ask the Lord why did they do and
Speaker 1: say this. I've dealt with a lot of couples and
Speaker 1: one of the things that the men have always said,
Speaker 1: the woman would be crying. And when I asked the
Speaker 1: men the husband's why did they do it? You know
Speaker 1: what they said early in the relationship. Pay attention to
Speaker 1: single people and married people. You can still correct it.
Speaker 1: They said early in the relationship, they intentionally did things
Speaker 1: and they were allowed to get away with it, so
Speaker 1: they kept put pushing the button. I know there's a cliche,
Speaker 1: whatever we tolerate, I don't know who said it. I
Speaker 1: can't take the rights for that. Whatever we tolerate grows
Speaker 1: around us. So where whatever have bloomed to a level
Speaker 1: of abuse has been tolerated by you, And we're gonna
Speaker 1: tap into some things as to why you tolerated it.
Speaker 1: Then ask yourself the second question, ask yourself why did
Speaker 1: you stay in the relationship period? Next question, why did
Speaker 1: you stay in the relationship solo? Did you stay? You
Speaker 1: have to you have to write that why did I stay?
Speaker 1: And the next question is why did I stay so long?
Speaker 1: Were you open for them to change? Were you hoping
Speaker 1: to do so much that they would that they would
Speaker 1: stop doing what they're doing or stop saying what they
Speaker 1: were saying? Did you feel you couldn't do any better?
Speaker 1: We're coming into some things. Next question, why was the
Speaker 1: environment of abuse? Where the financial, sexual, spiritual, economic, financial, emotional,
Speaker 1: mental mental. I know some people that have mental illnesses
Speaker 1: that are on medication and for their suppose to control them.
Speaker 1: They will discard their medication to keep them a leech
Speaker 1: where they can control. Yes, people, these things make me annoyed.
Speaker 1: Don't cat you tell I'm very upset. I'm heard that
Speaker 1: people have to go through these things. I'm very hood
Speaker 1: So you ask yourself why did you stay so long?
Speaker 1: The next question you ask yourself why was the environment
Speaker 1: of abuse comfortable for you? Why is the environment of
Speaker 1: abuse comfortable for you? Could it be because your foundation
Speaker 1: and your childhood and your family also had a similar
Speaker 1: environment of abuse. You might say, well, what so, prophetess,
Speaker 1: My spouse beats me, but my parents didn't beat me. No,
Speaker 1: but they probably beat you at their town. They crushed
Speaker 1: your self esteem. That made yourself esteem solo, That made
Speaker 1: you create a scent in the realms of the spirit
Speaker 1: for a narcissist or a predator to sniff you out
Speaker 1: and take you to a next dimension of abuse and destruction.
Speaker 1: Next question, why didn't I leave sooner? You have to
Speaker 1: ask yourself that sooner is the verb there? What allowed
Speaker 1: you to continue remain prolonged instead of immediately exiting. Someone
Speaker 1: who's self esteem, self worth, or people who have a
Speaker 1: support system where they have parents to back too, not
Speaker 1: just parents that are live. I'm talking to my parents
Speaker 1: that are supportive to run back too, would leave sooner.
Speaker 1: Sometimes shame would make somebody feel while I don't make
Speaker 1: my bed. One of the things in Trinidad that people
Speaker 1: love to say, as you make your bed and it
Speaker 1: you lie in it, I tell God that I serve
Speaker 1: at Jesus that can take the sheets, tear them up,
Speaker 1: break the bed, and give me a brand new bed.
Speaker 1: You do not have to say in any circumstance that
Speaker 1: does not bring glory to God or bring you joy,
Speaker 1: peace or hope. So for those of you that's been
Speaker 1: set in that bandage, I even see someone crying in
Speaker 1: the rems of the spirit. Now, for those of you
Speaker 1: that's been told that lie, endorse that lie and its
Speaker 1: riding that lie. Get off that horse today in Jesus'
Speaker 1: name and be made whole from the crown of your
Speaker 1: head to the soul of your feet in Jesus' name.
Speaker 1: And next thing. People suffer in relationships, especially women, when
Speaker 1: they have multiple children with somebody, or they're in a
Speaker 1: new relationship and had multiple children with their previous X,
Speaker 1: the man will say to them, oh, you can't go nowhere,
Speaker 1: nobody will want you with all those children. You are lying.
Speaker 1: That is the biggest lie. That's saying calories don't exist.
Speaker 1: That's how fabricated that lie is. There are some men
Speaker 1: who want women with children because to that when I've
Speaker 1: spoken with some mature men, Because to that man, a
Speaker 1: woman that have raised multiple children with multiple personalities by
Speaker 1: herself exhibited a level of degree of insight, knowledge, entrepreneurial skills,
Speaker 1: great management, maturity, compassion, fortitude. I'm telling you, I know
Speaker 1: pastors that will leave this single woman in the church
Speaker 1: or the virgin woman that's never been married, and go
Speaker 1: marry somebody that have multiple children for multiple difference, because
Speaker 1: they tell themselves, if that woman is able to raise
Speaker 1: all these personalities, I can entrust this woman as a
Speaker 1: pastor's wife to deal with the different personalities of my flock.
Speaker 1: Go Jesus, I love it when the Lord pours down
Speaker 1: deep and sweet revelation. There's some men that have injuries
Speaker 1: as boys and cannot have children and love children and
Speaker 1: want children, so they are strategically praying for the wife
Speaker 1: that God gives them have children and grandchildren. Don't believe
Speaker 1: the lie of a narcissist. Next question, why didn't I
Speaker 1: feel I could do better or that I had to
Speaker 1: accept this. One of the lies that were told growing
Speaker 1: up that people who are married say to people who
Speaker 1: look like they're prone to singleness, is that marriage is
Speaker 1: for not everybody. Let me say this. You are not
Speaker 1: God to say who is worthy of marriage. You are
Speaker 1: not just as a human being. You're looking today, listening
Speaker 1: and logging on today in the chat or whatever. If
Speaker 1: I were to ask you, was there ever a time
Speaker 1: in your life? Are you if you're twenty to forty
Speaker 1: fifty one hundred years old, was there ever morning you
Speaker 1: got up from sleep and said, you know what, I
Speaker 1: have the urge to buy a gun and kill everybody.
Speaker 1: You know what, you will say, No, Prophetess, a person
Speaker 1: that never crossed my mind. Exactly in all your years,
Speaker 1: with good and bad days, rainy days, sunny days, disappointing days,
Speaker 1: betrayal days, deception days, you have never ever entertained that
Speaker 1: thought are eunuch. The Biblical definition of a eunuch is
Speaker 1: someone that was that is not married and has no
Speaker 1: desire for marriage. They don't even have a day. So
Speaker 1: you see how you never talkt about killing someone. They
Speaker 1: never thought about having sex. They never had a fan
Speaker 1: to sit and grow up and get married and have
Speaker 1: children and have grandchildren. They never looked at a wedding
Speaker 1: dress or wedding ring and said, oh, when I get older,
Speaker 1: or as they progressed it. Never now. The Bible also
Speaker 1: talk about some men make men unich. That's a next session.
Speaker 1: That's a topic one day all by itself. M all right,
Speaker 1: So no one can tell you. And if people have
Speaker 1: spoken these things over your life, I declare that you
Speaker 1: take authority over it right now in the name of Jesus,
Speaker 1: and denounce those things. Those are giants. Those are giants
Speaker 1: that you face. You have to face the giants of
Speaker 1: your past. You have to face these giants, my God,
Speaker 1: very crazy giants are designed. God allows a giant to
Speaker 1: get big enough for you to become strong enough in
Speaker 1: his power, not you on strength in his power to
Speaker 1: be able to slay that giant. I'm going to read
Speaker 1: a little insert from chapter five, the last page of
Speaker 1: chapter five in this book for you spot a woman's
Speaker 1: emotional spot. This book is designed for men, but we're
Speaker 1: dealing with breakup. We're concluding in breakups, so we're going
Speaker 1: to address all of it. How do you slay the giants.
Speaker 1: These giants stem from I'm not reading it. These giants
Speaker 1: stem from trauma from a wounded spirit in your childhood,
Speaker 1: or a neglective, neglective environment or negative words that were
Speaker 1: declared over your life by parents, families, exes. That transforms
Speaker 1: your life into a spiral situation that releases themnic bugs
Speaker 1: or other relationships to come and make you a perpetual target. Now, Sam,
Speaker 1: what does the antilook for that? Psalms twenty three says
Speaker 1: he anoint us our head with oil, and that that
Speaker 1: revelation came from Philip Keller, that anoints my head with oil.
Speaker 1: But that book is by Philip Keller, and he talked
Speaker 1: about that the good shepherd, right before the season of
Speaker 1: spring flies will come into the nostril of the sheep.
Speaker 1: And what the shepherd will do way before the spring,
Speaker 1: somewhere between winter ending and spring dreaming to come in.
Speaker 1: He would annoying the eye, the air, and the nostril
Speaker 1: of the sheep with oil, which I imagine would feel
Speaker 1: irritating to the sheep. But what happens is when those
Speaker 1: pre springflies come and enters the eye or the nostril
Speaker 1: because of the oil, it will run out. So you
Speaker 1: have to understand the destruction of these bugs getting into
Speaker 1: the eye, the nostril of these sheep or lamb. When
Speaker 1: it gets in and there's no oil, they will bound
Speaker 1: their head against a tree and they will bleed to that. So,
Speaker 1: for everything that has been said, declared and projected over
Speaker 1: your life, that has been spoken, that the enemy wanted
Speaker 1: to make that a demonic bug in relationships to take
Speaker 1: you through a dungworld. Spinal, I am here to tell
Speaker 1: you today that you serve the God that has pre
Speaker 1: anointed you before the foundations of the earth was and
Speaker 1: we asked anointing to cast out demons. We ask all
Speaker 1: anointing to sing, we ask all anointing to preach. And
Speaker 1: I'm telling you you can ask the Lord for an
Speaker 1: anointing for the right relationship for the dessernment of anti narcissists.
Speaker 1: Whether you are male or female. How do you slay
Speaker 1: these giants? You have to go in the timing of
Speaker 1: the Lord to slay them. You must go in the
Speaker 1: strength of the Lord. When you face them, you must
Speaker 1: not have fear in you, because they'll smell the flair
Speaker 1: in you the fear, and you be defeated. When you
Speaker 1: apply the word of God to every situation in your
Speaker 1: life without doubting. This is some deep stuff. When you
Speaker 1: fight in your own annoying or mantle. There's a scripture
Speaker 1: that says that the Lord give us, gives according to
Speaker 1: our call, according to our fate. You don't try to
Speaker 1: prophesy like somebody on TV. Because I heard somebody pastors,
Speaker 1: a preacher say, you don't know what that person has overcome.
Speaker 1: So they've conquered and overcome those demons to carry the
Speaker 1: anointing they have. And I guess I would equate that
Speaker 1: to that scripture that says, according to you, each man
Speaker 1: their own measure of fate. When you are not intimidated
Speaker 1: by this giant size or height, that because when you
Speaker 1: realize some people for generation, curses or issues you have
Speaker 1: observed in your family, you see a pattern where the
Speaker 1: woman may not get married, or their first child always die,
Speaker 1: or the girls of his get rape, or the men
Speaker 1: are in prison. When you realize that is a giant,
Speaker 1: you don't care about its size or height. All you
Speaker 1: know is you have witnessed the past sufferings of the
Speaker 1: impact of that giant, and it is not going to
Speaker 1: attach itself to your daughters. It is not going to
Speaker 1: attach itself to your children or the next generation. That's it.
Speaker 1: When you are infused with faith, only then can you
Speaker 1: face and kill the giant. Again, I keep reiterating, you
Speaker 1: can never go in your own strength when you have
Speaker 1: acknowledged and maintained your deliverance by beheading the giants in
Speaker 1: your heart. We're still talking about breakup and weak up here.
Speaker 1: Slaying the giants in your heart. The giants in your
Speaker 1: heart is the secret things you don't talk about. And
Speaker 1: you another lady and me tells you you don't have
Speaker 1: to tell God. He already knows. He said this. Jesus
Speaker 1: specifically said, come and reason with me. Tell him again.
Speaker 1: The best advice I ever got as a teenager when
Speaker 1: I was going through depression and suicide and sexual abuse
Speaker 1: and mental abuse and physical abuse. Here the greatest thing,
Speaker 1: the greatest advice I was ever given to me, is
Speaker 1: that I should wake up in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1: My best friend and Peter's told me that. He said
Speaker 1: Nikola had wake up in the middle of the night
Speaker 1: when everybody's asleep, and pour your heart out to God.
Speaker 1: And every time it hurts you, tell him, tell him,
Speaker 1: tell him, until you are free of it all. And
Speaker 1: I implore you to do the exact same thing today,
Speaker 1: almost finish. When you have acknowledged and maintain your deliverance,
Speaker 1: you have to understand the lesson, and that is that
Speaker 1: you just can't get delivered, but you have to live
Speaker 1: a life that continues for deliverance to be perpetual. You
Speaker 1: can't have open doors. You can't have you can't be
Speaker 1: consultant with psychics and palm reading and reading astrology. The
Speaker 1: Bible talks about godly counsel. Your only counsel ought to
Speaker 1: come from God, the Word of God, the presence of God,
Speaker 1: the peace of God, your prayer life. I know some
Speaker 1: Christians do yoga and they think it's exercise. It is
Speaker 1: a religion. It is Hinduism and all forms of it.
Speaker 1: The blood of Jesus is enough. The blood of Jesus
Speaker 1: is enough. People, you don't need all these added things.
Speaker 1: These added things come with subtle spirits that bring sufferings
Speaker 1: and invite giants into the generations. Let me wrap this
Speaker 1: up by taking control of every stronghold, which in your
Speaker 1: thoughts and mind, the scripture says, casting down every toad
Speaker 1: that exalts itself against the knowledge of God. When the
Speaker 1: enemy bring up a memory of your ex or the
Speaker 1: trauma I'm not talking about. You have to have first
Speaker 1: cried it out before the Lord. But while God is
Speaker 1: healing you, when the enemy tries to bring up anything
Speaker 1: that rub you of your peace or your joy, and God,
Speaker 1: you say, Father, casting than every tort that exalts itself
Speaker 1: against the knowledge of God every day that ought to
Speaker 1: be something we declared daily because they are always thoughts
Speaker 1: that are not of God, that are constantly designed to
Speaker 1: bombard our mind and steal our peace every day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so we take authority over that when you daily examine
Speaker 1: yourself before the God's world, that's having a relationship with Christ.
Speaker 1: And by remembering when David threw the rock at Goliath first,
Speaker 1: then took his sword and beheaded him, we understand the
Speaker 1: way that we kill giants is by throwing the rock,
Speaker 1: which is Christ on the situation. The stone, which is
Speaker 1: the word of God is an act of fate, believing
Speaker 1: God will do what he said he will do. Hallelujah,
Speaker 1: we're winding down now. Glory be to God, Thank you Jesus.
Speaker 1: I hope that you all are getting something from this.
Speaker 1: I pray that you all can continue to grow and
Speaker 1: go on in God. Thank you Jesus. Let's deal. We
Speaker 1: have a few minutes we may go over. I will
Speaker 1: take you for a request, your question, your comments. Go
Speaker 1: go into it where it says live. Click on the
Speaker 1: life in the show, scroll all the way down to
Speaker 1: the chat box and type in your questions, your comments,
Speaker 1: or your prayer requests in the conclusion. The preconclusion the
Speaker 1: wake up. So remember when we read in Ecclesiasities earlier
Speaker 1: that the end of a thing is actually good. This
Speaker 1: is the wake up parts. The wake up sets you free.
Speaker 1: You begin to breathe a fresh breadth of air on
Speaker 1: your own and not the influence of someone that you
Speaker 1: were in a relationship with that was not ordained by
Speaker 1: God or brings glory to God. The wake up causes
Speaker 1: you to explore horizons of joy and peace and happiness
Speaker 1: in God. It's beyond contentment if you ask me. It
Speaker 1: gives you horizons of peace, happiness and joy in your
Speaker 1: soul and things you want to for granted, like yourself.
Speaker 1: Pampering you. Pampering does not include a voot. And you'll
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying for those whose confused revelation Genesis
Speaker 1: chapter thirty. God does not condone those things in singleness.
Speaker 1: Our body is a temple of the Lord, and that
Speaker 1: even though the scripture and Genesis didy you'd specifically talk
Speaker 1: about onnan and A, it also applies to females. Yes, ma'am,
Speaker 1: we don't practice those things. Every part of our temple
Speaker 1: is holy onto the Lord. The wake up. The wake
Speaker 1: up sharpens your desernment. The wake up allows you to
Speaker 1: avoid past pit falls. The mistakes you made in the past.
Speaker 1: You will never make those again. The wake up gives
Speaker 1: you in sight early. In other words, you will see
Speaker 1: the pink flags. You don't wait for the red flags
Speaker 1: your desernment from the wake up. My God does not
Speaker 1: allow you to become a victim of a red flag anymore.
Speaker 1: The wake up develops you to become and grow whole
Speaker 1: in your soul, in your spirit, in your emotions, and
Speaker 1: for some people, in your finances, and fulfilling your dreams,
Speaker 1: your passions, those things which God ordained for you to
Speaker 1: be and come into. The wake up will create a
Speaker 1: low to know tolerance, dismissal of foolishness and stupidity very
Speaker 1: early from everybody that is priceless. My last point, sorry,
Speaker 1: my second to last point. The wake Up teaches you
Speaker 1: true love. A pass a prophet is what is true love?
Speaker 1: Read in the New Testament, First Corinthians, chapter thirteen. It
Speaker 1: is known as the Love Chapter. It says love and
Speaker 1: dure it. All things bear it, all things endure it
Speaker 1: all things. Love is not harsh. Love does not hurt,
Speaker 1: Love does not keep count. Love is patient, Love is kind,
Speaker 1: Love is tolerant. Not on a good day every day.
Speaker 1: Number seven of the eight points for the wake Up.
Speaker 1: Love teaches you true love, First Corinthians thirteen. It gives
Speaker 1: you a second chance to become all that God ordained
Speaker 1: for you to become. Last point thou shalt not make
Speaker 1: your ex win or the enemy you heal, You grow,
Speaker 1: and you move on in God. Yeah, take some notes.
Speaker 1: We will be going a little over today. Want to
Speaker 1: share something about past relationships from the g spot for
Speaker 1: those of you who have it. It's on page fourteen.
Speaker 1: The human body is mostly made up of water. A
Speaker 1: woman's emotions are like the water in the human body,
Speaker 1: making up a great percentage of who she is. In men,
Speaker 1: it is not emotions but ego and the sense of
Speaker 1: self worth that drives him his identity. Neither of these
Speaker 1: is necessarily a bad thing. What matters is what you
Speaker 1: keep in mind how strong these forces are. Being mindful
Speaker 1: of the strength and role they play in our lives
Speaker 1: will help us develop a deeper understanding and enable marital intimacy.
Speaker 1: This fart is for the couples, but enjoy. Women are
Speaker 1: often told when they get married not to discuss their
Speaker 1: past relationships. I the order the co author crisis my
Speaker 1: order disagree. Sharing intimate knowledge of the past makes a relationship.
Speaker 1: I did not say share and pass intimacy issues. I
Speaker 1: said intimate things makes a relationship stronger. Understanding why a
Speaker 1: relationship ended and the characteristic and traits that hurts your
Speaker 1: spouse will provide valuable insights. Likewise, knowing why she remained
Speaker 1: in a relationship is also significant. You will discover truth
Speaker 1: is hidden in the heart of the artichoke. That was
Speaker 1: chapter one. The chapter one the Artichoke elaborated or elucidated
Speaker 1: on the fact that the woman's heart is like an artichoke,
Speaker 1: having many layers to peel off before you get to
Speaker 1: the root. Again, we will be going on a little
Speaker 1: longer today, so stay logged on. Exploring your wife's past
Speaker 1: relationship can be beneficial. Many husbands today are frustrated, are
Speaker 1: enlisted towards day and night with their wivee's emotions. However,
Speaker 1: these wars may be the remnants of past relationships. These
Speaker 1: are relationship ter night or Leprosy's things that trauma on
Speaker 1: dealt with that stem from the past. Married people, you're
Speaker 1: listening now. If your husband have to fight and disarm
Speaker 1: her monstrous insecurities and her lack of trust, you will
Speaker 1: need to equip yourself with the identity and strategy of
Speaker 1: your opponents if you are to succeed and dismantle this
Speaker 1: hold on your wife's heart, minds, and emotions. Husbands have
Speaker 1: it tough. Wives have it tough to her right, imagine
Speaker 1: your wife's heart has abandoned on it. Each bandage represented
Speaker 1: a past relationship. As she allows you to get close
Speaker 1: enough to remove them, and how she's gonna allow you
Speaker 1: to get I'm interjecting now, how she's going to allow
Speaker 1: you to get close enough to remove them is that
Speaker 1: you never expose her. You never belittle her, You never
Speaker 1: make her feel ashamed, You never divulge her personal information,
Speaker 1: even in anger. You don't be a woman. You don't
Speaker 1: emasculate him either. You don't run and tell his business
Speaker 1: to his family, or his children, or his friends and
Speaker 1: make him less than you. Don't do that, okay? As
Speaker 1: she allows you to get close enough to remove them.
Speaker 1: Upon removing the last one, as you would expect, you
Speaker 1: would see hidden under the band aid, another cut or wound.
Speaker 1: Because you what I think, after all these layers of
Speaker 1: past relationships, of working your wife or your husband through,
Speaker 1: when you finally removed the bandaid, you expect to see
Speaker 1: a wound. However, to your surprise, you see a heart
Speaker 1: with your name on it and a message attached that
Speaker 1: says I Love you. How will that make you feel?
Speaker 1: This is exactly the objective God had in mind when
Speaker 1: he presented your wife to you and your husband to you.
Speaker 1: He wanted you to discover their hidden beauty. He blessed
Speaker 1: you with the ability to hear the laughter of their
Speaker 1: heart and to see the smile radiating from their soul.
Speaker 1: It is in these moments we feel the touch of
Speaker 1: God's hands in our lives. It brings warmth into a home,
Speaker 1: It deepens our relationship and spark flames of intimacy. You
Speaker 1: have taken a jazz and step towards reaching and understanding
Speaker 1: your wife's emotional Gee, wo there to trust again? Before
Speaker 1: you can fathom the fear of trust again, you need
Speaker 1: to investigate what first shattered your spouse or your ability
Speaker 1: to trust to begin with. Every woman is different and
Speaker 1: every man is different. Their needs are unique as their personalities.
Speaker 1: Many times she or he, she or him may or
Speaker 1: may not even know why they are crying or lashing out.
Speaker 1: You will have to be prayerful, patient, and allow the
Speaker 1: Lord to make it plain to you and teach you
Speaker 1: how to bring healing into the spouse spirit. Do not
Speaker 1: lie in your future relationship and marriage. Do not I
Speaker 1: do not break promises. Do not tell someone what to
Speaker 1: do instead of making healthy, collaborative suggestions. Don't be disrespectful
Speaker 1: or worse yet, do it in the company of family
Speaker 1: and relatives, friends, or in public. Do not devalue or
Speaker 1: take someone for granted. Be mindful not to show a
Speaker 1: lack of affection or appreciation towards your spouse or the
Speaker 1: matters that concern their hearts, or to compare to another,
Speaker 1: even if it's your mother. Do not complain or compare
Speaker 1: your spouse. Men, do not tell your wives her soup
Speaker 1: does not take it's as good as your mother's.
Speaker 2: Don't do that.
Speaker 1: You want to be I don't know. Do you want
Speaker 1: to sleep in a doghouse? Do you want to be
Speaker 1: the roommate with the dog? Why would you do that?
Speaker 1: That's not worsdom to admire, notice, or compliment.
Speaker 2: Do not.
Speaker 1: Over Do not admire, notursis or compliment another member of
Speaker 1: the opposite sex in the presence or the absence of
Speaker 1: your spouse. Don't do that. Don't be too dismissive, impatient, insensitive,
Speaker 1: self absorbed, self centered, selfish, or embarrassed. There are many points,
Speaker 1: but for the sake of time, we will stop there.
Speaker 1: This article actually has twenty points, so I will let
Speaker 1: you guys know in the future when the book becomes available.
Speaker 1: In my conclusion closing comments prefdesce, Alison Jones once said,
Speaker 1: I'm back to the singles now. We have to balance
Speaker 1: it out. Amen. She said that Ishmael comes before Isaac.
Speaker 1: Preface Alison Jones said, Ishmael comes before Isaac. She further
Speaker 1: added that they look alike because they have the same father.
Speaker 1: The difference was one was born of the spirits with
Speaker 1: purpose ordained by God, and one came from a decision
Speaker 1: of the flesh because of fear. Men, wait for your ruth.
Speaker 1: Wait for God to present your abigaile to you. Don't
Speaker 1: fall pray to the delias of this world. It Proverbs
Speaker 1: after six, and women, wait for the boaz that God
Speaker 1: has for you. You don't have to settle. Okay, we
Speaker 1: are about to dismiss. I don't see any prairie quests
Speaker 1: or any questions. The second comment from blessings says, Oh, yes,
Speaker 1: God has sight beyond what we see and know what's
Speaker 1: best for us. Heavenly Father, we come before you this morning,
Speaker 1: giving you all the honor and all the glory. Father,
Speaker 1: We thank you for ministering to those that are dealing
Speaker 1: with a broken heart, for healing, for letting them know
Speaker 1: that there there is an awakening coming from pain that
Speaker 1: they feel. Holy Spirit, Lord, cause them to know that
Speaker 1: every day it's going to get easier. Let them know
Speaker 1: it is healthy for them to cry, but it's more
Speaker 1: healthy for them to journal, to spend time in prayer,
Speaker 1: to spend time in your word, being raw about how
Speaker 1: they truly feel, about how they've been felt, whether it's
Speaker 1: been justly, it's unjustly, whatever they've done, things that they
Speaker 1: are responsible for causing the relationship. And Father, let them
Speaker 1: confess these things, but let them not be condemned by it. Father.
Speaker 1: I pray, Lord, that you would minister to every heart,
Speaker 1: every heart. Father, I pray that you're going in the
Speaker 1: core of those that are married this morning, Father, and
Speaker 1: that you're moving upon their soul. Father, even those who
Speaker 1: may be dealing with issues and their marriages or God. Father,
Speaker 1: that you are God, by your power and by your spread,
Speaker 1: is going to go in and soon out the roughness.
Speaker 1: That they will begin to see each other as you
Speaker 1: see them in the name of Jesus. That they will
Speaker 1: be patient, that they will exhibit the fruits of the spirit,
Speaker 1: which is patience and kindness. And Father, I pray for
Speaker 1: the singles, that you would give them sustaining power, Lord,
Speaker 1: that you will cultivate and more them in the meantime
Speaker 1: of God. To wait on you, God, to wait for
Speaker 1: the men, that you will present to them their abigails,
Speaker 1: and they will not for a prayer to the lions
Speaker 1: of this world that will sniff out their destiny. Father God,
Speaker 1: that Lord, you will preserve those women that are in
Speaker 1: relationships with the neighbor, that you will call them out
Speaker 1: of these abusive situations and present them to the Davids
Speaker 1: that You've designed for them that comes with everything fashioned
Speaker 1: for their destiny. Or God even like boas that one
Speaker 1: that will not take and drain from them spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, sexually,
Speaker 1: or physically. Father, I pray God that everyone that is
Speaker 1: in a relationship that is not ordained by you, that
Speaker 1: you shutter right now by the blood of Jesus. Lord,
Speaker 1: we sever every soul tiede that they will be able
Speaker 1: to walk away, hold God in their soul, and that
Speaker 1: you begin to minister healing to them from the crown
Speaker 1: of their heads to the soul of their feet. In
Speaker 1: Jesus' name, we pray please continue to keep locked on.
Speaker 1: We're gonna have some upcoming events where you can physically
Speaker 1: attend with some powerful workshops where we can break down
Speaker 1: into sessions with what you are in need of to
Speaker 1: where you are and where you need to go in
Speaker 1: God and to be whole. Glory be to God. I
Speaker 1: thank all of you that love on. Every week. I
Speaker 1: pray God continue to touch even those who don't chat.
Speaker 1: But you are dere and you're praying thank you. May
Speaker 1: God continue to bless you. I see Laura said, beautiful episode,
Speaker 1: real and full of wisdom. Thank you Jesus Amen, Laura,
Speaker 1: I tank God for you. We just bless the Lord
Speaker 1: for who he is and all that he's doing. As
Speaker 1: I get ready to sign off, go back in. Recommend
Speaker 1: to somebody that you know is hurting. Send them the
Speaker 1: link that they can log onto the breakup and the
Speaker 1: wake up the signature peace. You are the apple of God.
Speaker 3: Oh you are the helpful of Gods. You are the
Speaker 3: apple of God's how he loves you soul.
Speaker 4: He'll make your soul, Yes he lives. He'll make your
Speaker 4: whole soul who.
Speaker 3: He'll dry away on your tears and give you joy.
Speaker 2: Hallo.
Speaker 3: M hmm