WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.720 --> 00:00:05.679 It's Night Side with Dan Ray on WBZ Radio. 2 00:00:06.120 --> 00:00:09.160 Well, thank you for my intro. I'm used to having 3 00:00:09.199 --> 00:00:12.160 now with me on Saturday because i have my own show, 4 00:00:12.240 --> 00:00:16.440 The Morgan Show, ten to midnight every Saturday here on WBZ. 5 00:00:17.199 --> 00:00:19.120 But I'm here filling in for Dan. I filled in 6 00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:22.120 last night, obviously, I'm filling in now and I'll be 7 00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:27.199 here tomorrow and Polka dot December dates. I have seven 8 00:00:27.760 --> 00:00:34.479 Dan Rays. I'll be filling in in December, primarily several 9 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:41.039 days before Christmas, Christmas, and several days after Christmas. I'll 10 00:00:41.039 --> 00:00:45.640 give you this specific as we get closer. You heard 11 00:00:45.799 --> 00:00:50.960 the news. You heard the story about people at the 12 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:55.240 Pine Street Inn. It is quite common this time of 13 00:00:55.320 --> 00:01:03.399 year to have people that are depressed, they're homeless, they 14 00:01:03.399 --> 00:01:06.120 don't get calls. I guarantee you I get at least 15 00:01:06.159 --> 00:01:09.200 a dozen calls today, and they made about a dozen 16 00:01:09.239 --> 00:01:13.799 more telling people in my world Happy Thanksgiving, and people 17 00:01:13.799 --> 00:01:19.200 in my world telling me the same thing. That isn't 18 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:24.040 fair for so many people, that there's such a focus 19 00:01:24.120 --> 00:01:33.040 on connection a friend, Happy Thanksgiving. I've got a doctor 20 00:01:33.079 --> 00:01:38.719 here who deals with depression and issues related to depression, 21 00:01:39.400 --> 00:01:42.000 and she's here to help all of us know more 22 00:01:42.920 --> 00:01:45.920 about how to deal with people in our world who 23 00:01:45.959 --> 00:01:48.719 are depressed. Doctor round the good deal. Thank you for 24 00:01:48.760 --> 00:01:50.200 coming on BZ once again. 25 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:56.079 Hello, so glad to be back Lorgan and Happy Thanksgiving. 26 00:01:57.400 --> 00:01:58.920 Happy Thanksgiving to you too. 27 00:02:00.200 --> 00:02:02.920 I do think that, as you said, I mean, this 28 00:02:03.079 --> 00:02:06.439 time of year is very mixed back for some people. 29 00:02:06.519 --> 00:02:11.120 It does bring up a lot of issues. Depression, tiredness, 30 00:02:11.199 --> 00:02:13.719 stresses a lot of issues that people deal with in 31 00:02:13.800 --> 00:02:16.879 the holidays, and we can give them a little bit 32 00:02:16.919 --> 00:02:19.199 of ideas of what might make things a little bit better. 33 00:02:19.199 --> 00:02:21.039 By the way, one of the things you did which 34 00:02:21.319 --> 00:02:24.400 also helps people is when you call someone and wish 35 00:02:24.439 --> 00:02:28.080 them a happy Thanksgiving. Doing something for someone else actually 36 00:02:28.120 --> 00:02:31.520 makes your a day better, not just what it does 37 00:02:31.560 --> 00:02:34.199 for the other person. So that is a good thing 38 00:02:34.280 --> 00:02:37.039 to do. Let's say someone doesn't feel like they want 39 00:02:37.080 --> 00:02:38.800 to be home, they really don't want to deal with 40 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:40.719 a lot of people, but even calling one person and 41 00:02:40.759 --> 00:02:43.599 wishing them a happy Thanksgiving will actually do something for you. 42 00:02:44.120 --> 00:02:47.639 I agree with that. Yeah, I do that every year 43 00:02:48.400 --> 00:02:54.520 for every holiday. I do it for Mother's Day. Women 44 00:02:54.879 --> 00:02:57.080 that I know in my world who are moms I 45 00:02:57.120 --> 00:03:03.879 do that for Obviously, Smith's and Harnikuah. You know, I 46 00:03:04.039 --> 00:03:08.520 just feel that the simple four seconds of a phone 47 00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:10.719 call can mean something to somebody. 48 00:03:11.080 --> 00:03:14.159 And particularly at this time of years. Sometimes this time 49 00:03:14.240 --> 00:03:17.360 of year does bring up to people the loss losses 50 00:03:17.400 --> 00:03:20.520 they've experienced, what they don't have. And I what I 51 00:03:20.560 --> 00:03:23.120 want to say, I mean, you know, is that it's 52 00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:26.080 very it's very high sometimes in this time of year 53 00:03:26.159 --> 00:03:30.960 to have realistic expectations on ourselves. And so sometimes I 54 00:03:31.000 --> 00:03:34.039 just say, give yourself a break, you know, if you 55 00:03:34.159 --> 00:03:36.680 only can do want to do one thing out of five, 56 00:03:36.800 --> 00:03:40.280 it's okay, right, it's all right. I'm guessing it's okay, 57 00:03:40.319 --> 00:03:42.680 you know. You know, so I think that's a lot 58 00:03:42.719 --> 00:03:45.360 of it is what we think we should do. We 59 00:03:45.439 --> 00:03:48.199 have the primary thing everybody should think about. If we 60 00:03:48.199 --> 00:03:51.120 don't take care of ourselves, then we can't do anything 61 00:03:51.159 --> 00:03:51.800 for anybody. 62 00:03:52.919 --> 00:03:58.800 And I'm guessing one of the things that causes depression 63 00:04:00.199 --> 00:04:05.479 is not having enough money to celebrate the event, the 64 00:04:05.599 --> 00:04:09.719 event of the day, to buy enough food. There are 65 00:04:09.759 --> 00:04:13.319 some people who just couldn't buy enough food to have 66 00:04:13.360 --> 00:04:17.439 a family dinner for Thanksgiving. There are some people listening 67 00:04:18.120 --> 00:04:21.800 who will not be They've got a husband or a 68 00:04:21.839 --> 00:04:27.160 wife and children. That's three gifts. If you have two 69 00:04:27.240 --> 00:04:31.560 children and they don't have the extra money it takes 70 00:04:32.240 --> 00:04:36.120 to buy a nice gift, they can buy a gift, 71 00:04:36.879 --> 00:04:39.279 but they want to buy a nice gift. And you 72 00:04:39.319 --> 00:04:40.160 see the commercial. 73 00:04:40.439 --> 00:04:42.600 You know, I think you're right, and I think what. 74 00:04:42.680 --> 00:04:45.000 There's a couple of things I'd say. I think all 75 00:04:45.000 --> 00:04:46.800 of us remember this and know. In one of the 76 00:04:46.800 --> 00:04:49.720 courses I teach in development, I have a lot of adults, 77 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:52.439 and one of the things I ask them always in 78 00:04:52.480 --> 00:04:55.279 this question is when you go through your life, they're 79 00:04:55.279 --> 00:04:59.040 all like over twenty five to like fifty five, sixty five, 80 00:04:59.560 --> 00:05:01.600 I say, tell me the gifts that really meant a 81 00:05:01.639 --> 00:05:05.839 lot to you, And almost all of them this is 82 00:05:05.839 --> 00:05:08.240 still people listening who don't have money. Almost all of 83 00:05:08.319 --> 00:05:12.519 them mentioned being with some person, not a physical gift, right, 84 00:05:12.639 --> 00:05:15.199 that was the gift. So what I want to point 85 00:05:15.240 --> 00:05:19.079 out to people is the thing that makes the most, 86 00:05:19.319 --> 00:05:22.360 what merely means the most to most people, is being 87 00:05:22.399 --> 00:05:26.600 with them, laughing with them, taking a walk with them, 88 00:05:27.040 --> 00:05:28.480 playing a mind. 89 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:28.800 Game with them. 90 00:05:28.920 --> 00:05:33.480 You know, it could be anything simple, you know, you 91 00:05:33.519 --> 00:05:37.560 know sometimes you know it's just like I don't know today, 92 00:05:37.759 --> 00:05:39.759 I was with my own granddaughter and all we did 93 00:05:39.800 --> 00:05:42.000 was play Shoots and lives in between the getting ready 94 00:05:42.040 --> 00:05:44.920 to Thanksgiving. But the thing is, I just want to 95 00:05:44.959 --> 00:05:47.680 point out that it's simple things and people when they 96 00:05:47.720 --> 00:05:49.360 go and if I want them to think back in 97 00:05:49.399 --> 00:05:51.399 their life and think of the things that really meant 98 00:05:51.439 --> 00:05:55.240 something to them, because sometimes we get so caught up 99 00:05:55.240 --> 00:05:56.680 and we have to get the right gift and we 100 00:05:56.759 --> 00:05:58.480 have to get this, and we have to get that. 101 00:05:59.319 --> 00:06:02.399 When I asked them to remember something from their child 102 00:06:02.439 --> 00:06:04.800 to this was amazing to me because we always think 103 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:07.199 when we have these kids seven nine times, they don't 104 00:06:07.240 --> 00:06:10.519 even have many memories before it can for one thing, 105 00:06:11.120 --> 00:06:14.759 and they definitely don't have to do with gifts. They 106 00:06:14.800 --> 00:06:15.920 don't have to do with gifts. 107 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:19.439 Well, let's do an experiment right now. I want people 108 00:06:19.480 --> 00:06:22.480 to think about the question doctor Gooddale just put to you, 109 00:06:24.800 --> 00:06:27.319 call and talk about again. I'm going to break it 110 00:06:27.399 --> 00:06:31.920 into two. A gift you received as a child any 111 00:06:31.959 --> 00:06:38.240 age second, third, fourth grade, ninth, tenth, eleventh grade, just 112 00:06:38.319 --> 00:06:43.079 say a child, a gift that you received, and as well, 113 00:06:43.800 --> 00:06:49.600 a gift that you received as an adult. 114 00:06:47.759 --> 00:06:49.720 And what meant what really meant something to you? 115 00:06:50.199 --> 00:06:52.319 It packed a punch that you got that when you 116 00:06:52.360 --> 00:06:56.319 open the box or the package is like, oh, you 117 00:06:56.439 --> 00:07:01.720 shouldn't have you gasp, you lose a breath. Call me, 118 00:07:02.199 --> 00:07:05.720 call me tonight right now six one, seven, two, five, four, 119 00:07:05.839 --> 00:07:09.480 ten thirty or eight eight, eight, nine to nine, ten 120 00:07:09.600 --> 00:07:12.519 thirty and share with thirty eight states. And that's the 121 00:07:12.560 --> 00:07:17.519 other thing. Sharing, sharing the news about that gift, whether 122 00:07:17.600 --> 00:07:24.120 it was a tennance bracelet or a ten cent candy 123 00:07:24.199 --> 00:07:27.160 necklace that your your four or five year old kid 124 00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:32.439 gave you share some of those momentous memories with doctor 125 00:07:32.519 --> 00:07:34.040 Ronda Goodell and myself. 126 00:07:34.240 --> 00:07:36.480 Yes, please here on WBZ. 127 00:07:37.079 --> 00:07:40.600 I'll let doctor Goodell talk more about depression. But let's 128 00:07:40.600 --> 00:07:43.120 see if we can get people who are brave enough 129 00:07:44.079 --> 00:07:49.240 to share here on night side time and temperature nine 130 00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:52.319 fourteen forty two degrees. 131 00:07:53.920 --> 00:07:56.879 Now back to Dan Ray Live from the Window World 132 00:07:57.040 --> 00:07:59.959 Night Sike Studios on WBZ Newswaiting. 133 00:08:00.399 --> 00:08:03.279 I'm Morgan Morgan White Junior, filling in for Dan Ray. 134 00:08:03.759 --> 00:08:06.199 He's got tonight off, he had the last I think 135 00:08:06.240 --> 00:08:08.839 he said the whole week off. I'll be here tomorrow 136 00:08:08.920 --> 00:08:14.120 night and he should be returning on Monday, third of December. 137 00:08:15.160 --> 00:08:18.920 No second of December will be Monday. I've got doctor 138 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:21.959 ron a good deal here. And a few minutes ago 139 00:08:22.000 --> 00:08:25.879 she and I put a question to the audience. Can 140 00:08:25.920 --> 00:08:30.800 you remember a gift that was given to you while 141 00:08:30.839 --> 00:08:36.720 you were a kid? I'll target it second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, 142 00:08:36.759 --> 00:08:40.360 eighth grade, somewhere in there, and as an adult, a 143 00:08:40.399 --> 00:08:43.519 gift that really meant something to you. It could have 144 00:08:43.559 --> 00:08:48.399 been from a parent, a loved one, a school teacher. 145 00:08:48.480 --> 00:08:51.320 I don't know. And Chris from Winthrop is the first 146 00:08:51.360 --> 00:08:57.519 to call in. Hello Chris, Hello, Chra, Hi, how are 147 00:08:57.559 --> 00:09:00.600 you happy? Thanks? Heving you? 148 00:09:02.360 --> 00:09:03.480 Hey, thank you so much. 149 00:09:03.600 --> 00:09:03.799 Yeah. 150 00:09:03.840 --> 00:09:07.000 I loved the program, and so yeah, I guess I'll 151 00:09:07.080 --> 00:09:09.799 just talk about, you know, a couple of my favorite 152 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:14.519 gifts growing up one and uh yeah for sure and 153 00:09:14.519 --> 00:09:18.559 and uh oh for me, it was a big family, 154 00:09:18.639 --> 00:09:22.159 two brothers and two sisters, and so Christmases for us 155 00:09:22.240 --> 00:09:26.000 were well, they were amazing. You know, I have wonderful parents. 156 00:09:26.039 --> 00:09:30.120 And certainly I remember one of my favorite gifts was 157 00:09:30.559 --> 00:09:34.919 a bicycle, I remember correctly. Yeah, it was like a 158 00:09:35.000 --> 00:09:40.200 quick silver bikeycle. Yeah, you know, and and that was 159 00:09:40.320 --> 00:09:45.480 just you know, one of my favorite memories growing up. 160 00:09:45.600 --> 00:09:48.840 For sure is getting that bicycle for Christmas were you 161 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:50.519 looking forward to for a long time? 162 00:09:50.679 --> 00:09:52.440 Was a surprise? How did that happen? 163 00:09:54.480 --> 00:09:55.240 I would say. 164 00:09:55.159 --> 00:09:57.000 Yes, because you know, a lot of the other neighbor 165 00:09:57.320 --> 00:10:01.720 viewed kids, you know, had bikes new by and it 166 00:10:01.840 --> 00:10:04.519 was just something that I wasn't sure if I would 167 00:10:04.559 --> 00:10:06.679 be able to get it, you know, because my parents, 168 00:10:07.360 --> 00:10:09.279 my dad made a good living, but you know, we 169 00:10:09.279 --> 00:10:12.759 weren't wealthy by any stretch, and you know, having the 170 00:10:13.480 --> 00:10:17.840 siblings that we had, but my parents always found a 171 00:10:17.879 --> 00:10:23.720 way to provide us with great Christmases and birthdays and 172 00:10:23.759 --> 00:10:27.840 things like that, so it was it was amazing. I 173 00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:30.000 just remember, what. 174 00:10:29.960 --> 00:10:32.080 Are some of the memories you have of the what 175 00:10:32.200 --> 00:10:34.600 was great about them these holidays? What was what was 176 00:10:34.639 --> 00:10:35.519 the things you remember? 177 00:10:37.440 --> 00:10:37.679 Well? 178 00:10:37.759 --> 00:10:40.399 I think one of the biggest things I remember is 179 00:10:40.440 --> 00:10:43.360 my brother John and I like used to kind of 180 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:46.039 crawl down the hallway to try and seek it out 181 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:49.240 gifts that very literally in the morning, and it would creak, 182 00:10:49.320 --> 00:10:51.480 and my parents she'd be like, get back to bed, 183 00:10:51.600 --> 00:10:55.159 week to ship me up all night. My mom rathroom presidents, 184 00:10:55.200 --> 00:10:58.240 and she would hear us trying to creep down the 185 00:10:58.240 --> 00:11:01.759 hallway and and being excited as kids and never wanted 186 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:04.399 to go to sleep because you know, it was right around. 187 00:11:04.440 --> 00:11:08.960 We still believed in Santa and so and then uh, 188 00:11:09.679 --> 00:11:12.399 you know, they used to separate the gifts on the coach, 189 00:11:12.600 --> 00:11:14.320 like I would be on the left side, my brother 190 00:11:14.320 --> 00:11:15.759 would be on the right side, and it's just the 191 00:11:15.840 --> 00:11:18.399 father will be on the chair and it would be 192 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:22.000 like just an amazing morning of the presents that were 193 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:24.480 wrapped and unwrapped. It was unbelievable. 194 00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:26.279 You know. 195 00:11:26.440 --> 00:11:29.480 It sounds like the presence were great in the sharing 196 00:11:29.519 --> 00:11:31.960 of it and the anticipation and all of it. 197 00:11:33.960 --> 00:11:38.840 That's so true. Absolutely, yep, yep. We you know, lived 198 00:11:38.879 --> 00:11:40.960 in the same place for twenty five years and that 199 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:44.120 was really special for us to to you know, always 200 00:11:44.159 --> 00:11:47.320 be in the same home as kids and not having 201 00:11:47.320 --> 00:11:50.000 to really move around and growing up with all urniahblehood 202 00:11:50.039 --> 00:11:53.639 friends and that meant a lot for me. That'smorrowing up 203 00:11:53.759 --> 00:11:54.639 for sure, all. 204 00:11:54.600 --> 00:11:57.159 Right, Chris. The other part, christ the other part of 205 00:11:57.200 --> 00:12:01.240 the question was as an adult, is there a gift 206 00:12:01.320 --> 00:12:04.399 you can look back upon and say that was a 207 00:12:04.480 --> 00:12:05.440 wow gift? 208 00:12:06.879 --> 00:12:13.240 Absolutely? Absolutely. I was probably I was maybe thirty years old, 209 00:12:13.720 --> 00:12:18.720 and I believe it was a birthday present. My mother 210 00:12:18.840 --> 00:12:23.200 had got me a bosewave radio with a six CD 211 00:12:23.480 --> 00:12:28.240 changer and that was the I still have it actually 212 00:12:28.279 --> 00:12:32.159 to this day, twenty deep plus years later. It still 213 00:12:32.240 --> 00:12:36.679 works great. And I couldn't believe the present I knew 214 00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:41.120 I was. It was expensive back then to get a 215 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:44.399 boswave radio, you know, with the four speakers and the 216 00:12:44.559 --> 00:12:48.679 sixth dis CD changer. Because I've always loved music growing 217 00:12:48.759 --> 00:12:54.600 up a lot of concerts, and that was an amazing present, 218 00:12:54.799 --> 00:12:57.960 and you know, it was such a special memory for sure. 219 00:12:59.360 --> 00:13:01.600 That's great, especially that you got it for me mom. 220 00:13:01.799 --> 00:13:02.320 That's great. 221 00:13:03.519 --> 00:13:03.759 Chris. 222 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:08.000 Absolutely, thank you so much. I appreciate it, and. 223 00:13:07.960 --> 00:13:10.159 I want this holiday season for you to be the 224 00:13:10.200 --> 00:13:11.159 best you've ever had. 225 00:13:12.080 --> 00:13:14.960 Yeah, please have a great holiday. Oh. 226 00:13:15.000 --> 00:13:17.399 I certainly will appreciate it. Going to California in a 227 00:13:17.480 --> 00:13:20.960 couple of weeks and here you go, be back in time. Yeah, 228 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:24.000 and my daughter and my grandkids and my family. So 229 00:13:24.000 --> 00:13:27.639 I appreciate you all too, and have a great holiday season. 230 00:13:27.639 --> 00:13:28.879 Thank you so much, Chris. 231 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:31.840 Thank you for your call. 232 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:33.879 And doctor, I've got an answer for each. 233 00:13:35.799 --> 00:13:35.960 Oh. 234 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:43.240 I was raised by my mother and grandmother, and we 235 00:13:43.240 --> 00:13:46.039 were not rich by any stretch of the imagination to 236 00:13:46.440 --> 00:13:55.399 steal Chris's quote. But we weren't poor, and the stores 237 00:13:56.440 --> 00:14:00.519 gave away stamps, the grocery stores and some other stores 238 00:14:01.399 --> 00:14:07.200 SNH Green Stamps, plaid stamps, et cetera. So we always saved. 239 00:14:07.879 --> 00:14:11.919 And that's how I got my bike. I was in 240 00:14:12.039 --> 00:14:20.759 the side and the bike came from sn H Green Stamps, 241 00:14:20.840 --> 00:14:25.240 and they had a redemption store in Cambridge. I went 242 00:14:25.320 --> 00:14:29.799 with them. Now you think they're going to bring out 243 00:14:29.799 --> 00:14:33.720 a bike for you, they brought brought out a huge 244 00:14:34.000 --> 00:14:39.240 box that barely fit, barely fit in the car, and 245 00:14:39.399 --> 00:14:42.399 we had to take it someplace to be assembled. They said, 246 00:14:42.519 --> 00:14:45.720 they suggested the place to take it, and they said 247 00:14:45.720 --> 00:14:48.399 it might cost you a couple of bucks, which it did. 248 00:14:49.000 --> 00:14:54.639 But I had this brand new Murray brand name Mike 249 00:14:54.720 --> 00:15:01.360 Schwinn Red bicycle, and all my friends had bikes, and 250 00:15:01.440 --> 00:15:06.120 I would stay at my best friend's house until around 251 00:15:07.200 --> 00:15:09.159 five point thirty when my mother would get off work 252 00:15:09.200 --> 00:15:12.799 and pick me up. So they all rode bikes, and 253 00:15:12.840 --> 00:15:16.279 there was an extra bike that didn't have brakes that 254 00:15:16.600 --> 00:15:20.919 I was allowed to ride around on. Now no breaks, 255 00:15:21.480 --> 00:15:26.279 so I couldn't go fast, and it was not the 256 00:15:26.720 --> 00:15:30.440 best bike in the world, So now here I am 257 00:15:30.639 --> 00:15:33.840 and I could keep my bike at Winston's house. That 258 00:15:33.919 --> 00:15:37.399 was my friend's name, and they are about three or 259 00:15:37.399 --> 00:15:39.639 four or five of us, and we would ride all 260 00:15:39.799 --> 00:15:43.879 over the South End, up and down Saint Ptol's Street, 261 00:15:44.639 --> 00:15:51.799 down mass around the Christian Science Complex. And that is probably, 262 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:55.159 as a kid, the best gift I ever got. 263 00:15:56.279 --> 00:15:56.840 Wow. 264 00:15:57.200 --> 00:16:04.600 And as an adult, I was married on Saturday, it 265 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:09.039 was Valentine's Day. I'm watching sitting on the floor in 266 00:16:09.080 --> 00:16:14.799 my bedroom watching college basketball, and I hear my wife 267 00:16:14.799 --> 00:16:20.320 come in and I heard a noise that didn't make 268 00:16:20.360 --> 00:16:24.559 any sense to me. It's like clicking down the hallway. 269 00:16:24.559 --> 00:16:28.679 There's a about eight nine feet of a hallway from 270 00:16:28.720 --> 00:16:33.440 the front door to the bedroom. And in came this puppy, 271 00:16:35.840 --> 00:16:40.399 a German shepherd puppy, a ball of fur, and he 272 00:16:40.519 --> 00:16:45.559 came right up to me and started to nustle me 273 00:16:47.200 --> 00:16:52.759 and jump on me. And I named him hack hjck, 274 00:16:53.600 --> 00:16:57.639 which is a basketball term for somebody who fowls a lot. 275 00:16:57.720 --> 00:17:04.039 And I used to have that nickname playing basketball. And 276 00:17:04.279 --> 00:17:07.000 she said, you know, I didn't know if I should 277 00:17:07.000 --> 00:17:11.039 get him or his sister, And I said, well, why 278 00:17:11.039 --> 00:17:15.039 didn't you get them both? She said, you can't handle both. 279 00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:21.680 I said, I'll buy a book on training, which I did. 280 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:26.200 She went back to where she got Hack and brought 281 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:32.240 back his sister, Honey. And that's the best gift as 282 00:17:32.240 --> 00:17:37.519 an adult. I ever got Hack and Honey, and they 283 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:40.400 were my babies, and I trained them. I bought a 284 00:17:40.400 --> 00:17:44.960 book on training German shepherds and a videotape on how 285 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:49.359 to train German shepherds. I trained them both on verbal 286 00:17:49.400 --> 00:17:54.759 commands and hand commands, and they were well behaved dogs. 287 00:17:55.279 --> 00:17:57.039 We lived in the city and I could walk with 288 00:17:57.079 --> 00:18:01.480 them without fear of them being destroyed by people, of 289 00:18:01.559 --> 00:18:09.599 pigeons or squirrels. And they were my children. So there, 290 00:18:09.640 --> 00:18:10.720 I've answered your question. 291 00:18:11.880 --> 00:18:14.240 You know what, I think it's great, and I think 292 00:18:14.279 --> 00:18:17.200 you know it's listening to you the association of who 293 00:18:17.240 --> 00:18:19.680 gave it to you and what you did with it, 294 00:18:19.759 --> 00:18:22.559 and how long it is, how the type of meaning 295 00:18:22.559 --> 00:18:25.720 it adds to you long before that long long more 296 00:18:25.720 --> 00:18:27.799 than that one day. Just like the bicycle for that kid, 297 00:18:27.839 --> 00:18:29.319 it gave them a lot of experiences. 298 00:18:29.680 --> 00:18:36.480 Yeah, oh, you brought me back, But I'm on the 299 00:18:36.599 --> 00:18:38.759 radio and I got to focus, like for an example, 300 00:18:38.759 --> 00:18:41.119 in about a minute after take a break. So when 301 00:18:41.119 --> 00:18:43.920 we come back and want you to focus on giving 302 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:49.119 people clues. So heads up, how we can recognize that 303 00:18:49.359 --> 00:18:56.000 our friend, our family member may be in depression denial 304 00:18:56.400 --> 00:18:58.680 because a lot of people, How are you doing today? Oh, 305 00:18:58.720 --> 00:19:02.359 I'm fine, don't worry about me. That's a standard answer. 306 00:19:02.440 --> 00:19:06.720 That's a deflecting answer. How do we dig under that deflection? 307 00:19:07.720 --> 00:19:10.960 Okay, we can talk about that. Yeah, right, definitely, And. 308 00:19:10.880 --> 00:19:13.240 If anybody wants to call in, you want to call 309 00:19:13.279 --> 00:19:15.799 in and share memory, but a gift you received or 310 00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:17.880 something that's. 311 00:19:17.839 --> 00:19:20.680 Definite, even telling us how you yourself have dealt with 312 00:19:20.759 --> 00:19:23.599 if you've had depression, So how you've dealt with the holidays? 313 00:19:23.599 --> 00:19:24.160 Please share? 314 00:19:24.640 --> 00:19:28.880 Six one, seven, five, four, ten thirty eight eight eight, nine, two, nine, 315 00:19:28.880 --> 00:19:32.680 ten thirty. I am Morgan. My guest is doctor doctor 316 00:19:33.680 --> 00:19:37.599 Rhonda Gooddal, and she's here to help. I've used sir 317 00:19:38.240 --> 00:19:42.039 in many circumstances, just to help ease our minds. Time 318 00:19:42.119 --> 00:19:46.759 and temperature on night Side nine thirty forty two degrees. 319 00:19:48.119 --> 00:19:52.799 It's night Side with Boston's News Radio. 320 00:19:53.039 --> 00:19:55.960 Welcome back, I am speaking. Well, let me back up 321 00:19:56.039 --> 00:19:59.039 a second. Let me tell you who I am. Some 322 00:19:59.119 --> 00:20:01.279 of you are used to hearing Dan Ray in this 323 00:20:01.400 --> 00:20:04.440 time slot. He's on vacation this week. My name is 324 00:20:04.440 --> 00:20:08.559 Morgan Morgan White Junior. I have been filling in for 325 00:20:08.599 --> 00:20:11.559 the past day and a half yesterday today, and I'll 326 00:20:11.559 --> 00:20:14.720 be here tomorrow filling in for Dan Ray on night side. 327 00:20:15.200 --> 00:20:22.000 My guest doctor Ronda good Dale. She's here and I 328 00:20:22.039 --> 00:20:26.279 always bring around when there are subjects that a licensed 329 00:20:26.400 --> 00:20:32.839 psychologist can help my listeners handle whatever circumstance. And the 330 00:20:32.880 --> 00:20:36.880 holidays bear some bitter fruit. A lot of people get 331 00:20:36.920 --> 00:20:40.559 depressed for variety of reasons, and that's why I have 332 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:43.920 the doctor here and I've got a call. Let's see 333 00:20:44.000 --> 00:20:48.279 what Joe in Belmont wants to say. So Joe, welcome 334 00:20:48.359 --> 00:20:48.680 upon you. 335 00:20:48.759 --> 00:20:53.400 Ye Hi, Hi Morgan, and Hi doctor Ronda. I'd like 336 00:20:53.480 --> 00:20:57.880 to offer two cures that helped me with being down 337 00:20:57.960 --> 00:21:04.799 and depressed. Okay. For first, You're got to get yourself 338 00:21:04.839 --> 00:21:07.839 out of the house. And what I do is I 339 00:21:07.880 --> 00:21:10.799 go to a Burger King, a McDonald's or a Wendy's 340 00:21:11.000 --> 00:21:14.240 or a Duncan Donuts or any coffee shop in the 341 00:21:14.279 --> 00:21:18.880 center or town, and I have conversations with people. Some 342 00:21:18.960 --> 00:21:22.160 people will ignore you but that's the price you have 343 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:24.839 to pay. You know, they don't want to talk, but 344 00:21:24.880 --> 00:21:28.039 that'll help you in depression. And a lot of times 345 00:21:28.400 --> 00:21:34.799 I when I walk around the a reservoir in my neighborhood, 346 00:21:36.440 --> 00:21:40.000 I say hi to people. And would you believe that 347 00:21:40.119 --> 00:21:43.079 a lot of people thank me for saying hi to them? 348 00:21:43.359 --> 00:21:44.920 That's how bad off they are. 349 00:21:45.119 --> 00:21:49.200 I believe that. I believe that, as. 350 00:21:49.079 --> 00:21:51.839 I said earlier, just a little greeting to someone can 351 00:21:51.920 --> 00:21:55.119 mean a tremendous difference of people just acknowledging you're here. 352 00:21:55.599 --> 00:21:58.200 Yes, So what do you think of my going to 353 00:21:58.319 --> 00:22:01.400 coffee shops and stuff like that to fight depression? 354 00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:04.720 Great? And it helps the house. 355 00:22:05.240 --> 00:22:08.799 I forced myself to get out. You can't be isolated. 356 00:22:09.559 --> 00:22:12.559 And it's so great what you're saying here, because I mean, 357 00:22:12.759 --> 00:22:17.640 it shows people listening that it's small things they're getting out, 358 00:22:17.759 --> 00:22:20.240 saying hello to this own person. They can change things. 359 00:22:20.400 --> 00:22:22.839 And it changes in two things that you're doing something 360 00:22:22.839 --> 00:22:25.240 to take care of yourself, you're walking, you're getting out, 361 00:22:25.839 --> 00:22:28.079 and the other thing, you're doing something for someone else 362 00:22:28.119 --> 00:22:29.279 and making their day better. 363 00:22:30.599 --> 00:22:36.039 Happy Thanksgiving guys, Happy Thanksgiving to you, and happy holiday. 364 00:22:36.480 --> 00:22:41.000 Take care. Write back at ya, thank you. All right, 365 00:22:41.039 --> 00:22:45.839 So doctor, what that pair of suggestions about just greeting. 366 00:22:45.440 --> 00:22:48.480 People don't have a very good idea. 367 00:22:48.480 --> 00:22:52.039 Intimidate people, because some people are intimidated if a stranger 368 00:22:52.079 --> 00:22:56.400 speaks to them. But just a simple hello, greeting and 369 00:22:56.839 --> 00:22:59.160 getting out the house, that's part of it. 370 00:22:59.160 --> 00:23:03.000 Absolutely, yep. I mean you said a couple I want 371 00:23:03.039 --> 00:23:04.559 to say a couple of things. I mean in one 372 00:23:04.559 --> 00:23:06.200 of the things he's saying, which is really too it 373 00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:09.119 can be very small things that can make us feel better. 374 00:23:09.200 --> 00:23:12.079 It doesn't have to be huge things. It can be 375 00:23:12.119 --> 00:23:15.039 looking at a window of decorations, it can be just 376 00:23:15.200 --> 00:23:17.640 calling a friend, I mean, and the major thing in 377 00:23:17.680 --> 00:23:20.160 the holidays, because people get so overwhelmed with the gifts 378 00:23:20.160 --> 00:23:23.440 and the work, just do a little do you know, 379 00:23:23.559 --> 00:23:25.920 do one thing. It doesn't have to be a lot 380 00:23:25.960 --> 00:23:29.759 of things. One thing, because you know, it's like with anybody, 381 00:23:29.799 --> 00:23:31.519 like they need to clean the house, they say, oh 382 00:23:31.559 --> 00:23:33.920 it's overwhelming. Do one thing. Say I'm going to spend 383 00:23:33.960 --> 00:23:37.279 five minutes and give away one thing. Do one thing. 384 00:23:37.680 --> 00:23:40.039 I'm going to take five minutes and call someone and 385 00:23:40.079 --> 00:23:43.400 then I'm going to relax. So it's one little thing 386 00:23:43.440 --> 00:23:46.960 at a time. It's not like overwhelming stuff and people 387 00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:50.079 should you know, whether it's a walk going out and 388 00:23:50.200 --> 00:23:53.680 just being happy for that moment you're alive that you're 389 00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:57.440 able to be able to walk. I think those you 390 00:23:57.480 --> 00:23:59.960 know are very important. The other thing that you said, 391 00:24:00.039 --> 00:24:02.160 which I think is important for people to know. We 392 00:24:02.240 --> 00:24:05.079 said before the break. If you see people all of 393 00:24:05.119 --> 00:24:08.480 a sudden that you know well of losing interest in things, 394 00:24:09.359 --> 00:24:12.559 and they have seen to be persistently sad or they're 395 00:24:12.599 --> 00:24:15.960 not they're reporting they don't sleep well, and they don't 396 00:24:15.960 --> 00:24:19.119 seem to be eating much, and they have a lack 397 00:24:19.160 --> 00:24:23.079 of concentration, it says they may be in a depression. 398 00:24:24.599 --> 00:24:27.599 They may be in a depression, and you know, you 399 00:24:27.720 --> 00:24:31.680 want them to basically make sure that those individuals are 400 00:24:31.759 --> 00:24:37.079 getting some help, you know, because and one of the 401 00:24:37.079 --> 00:24:38.720