Speaker 1: Well, here's a little funny fun fact that we recorded
Speaker 1: the Minnesota Goodbye. I got about probably twelve fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: into it, and I looked up and I tried to
Speaker 1: push the stop button, and the stop button wouldn't turn off,
Speaker 1: and then I realized there was no wave form. So
Speaker 1: it is like every three weeks or so that we
Speaker 1: do the Minnesota Goodbye and so, but we're not going
Speaker 1: to dwell on it.
Speaker 2: Let's just just double check that there's a way for them.
Speaker 1: I'm looking right now. There's a way for them. I'm
Speaker 1: looking right now. But we're talking about funny shirts at
Speaker 1: the Minnesota State Fair and some of the shirts that
Speaker 1: Jenny brought it up. And then I started looking at
Speaker 1: shirts yesterday. I saw one that it was a guy
Speaker 1: looked like he was, you know, he was definitely from
Speaker 1: Mexico or Ecuador or somewhere, and his shirt said I'm
Speaker 1: not an illegal alien, I just look like one. And
Speaker 1: that made me laugh. I was going to take a picture.
Speaker 1: I saw another one that said that's a terrible idea,
Speaker 1: what time? And I thought that was cute. Two, And
Speaker 1: then I saw one that I described on the previous
Speaker 1: episod so to the Minnesota Goodbye. That didn't record, and
Speaker 1: I've decided not to do it because it is kind
Speaker 1: of like risk and offensive and a little bit insulting,
Speaker 1: So we're not going to do that one.
Speaker 2: What'd you see, Jenny, I saw a big dick is
Speaker 2: back in town and I sent that one to you, guys.
Speaker 1: What's funny is I saw that picture was on a
Speaker 1: regular standard looking college age kid looking guy.
Speaker 2: Right. Yeah. Another one was my old lady was inmate
Speaker 2: of the month at Lowell, Florida State Prison. I work
Speaker 2: hard so my dog can have a better life. That's
Speaker 2: just a cue.
Speaker 1: That's cute.
Speaker 2: Nope, not today. There was one that said fecal transplant
Speaker 2: donor thirty pound club. That was a discuss weird, and
Speaker 2: I don't know. There was a few others. I think
Speaker 2: I started deleting the pictures I have.
Speaker 3: I have a couple of friends that wear a shirt
Speaker 3: that literally all it says and very plain font is
Speaker 3: I really enjoy the Minnesota State Fair period And that's
Speaker 3: really that's all it says. And you saw it on
Speaker 3: Saturday day and you were like, see that's a shy Yeah,
Speaker 3: gets to the point.
Speaker 2: Okay, one more that I remembered that I think was
Speaker 2: my favorite share was it says shut your three point
Speaker 2: one four and then in a bunch of small letters
Speaker 2: was all the numbers for pie or a bunch of
Speaker 2: numbers for pie, and then at the end and bigger
Speaker 2: letters again it's at hole. So it was shut your
Speaker 2: pie hole.
Speaker 1: Shut your pie hole. I like it. I'm going to
Speaker 1: give a shout out to Lucas because he is he
Speaker 1: is emailed about headphones and it's not for the Minnesota Goodbye.
Speaker 1: It's not really that you know, suited for the Minnesota Goodbye.
Speaker 1: But I did want to let you know, Lucas that
Speaker 1: I did get your email and I appreciate it, but
Speaker 1: it's not going to be on the Minnesota Goodbye.
Speaker 3: I don't get new headphones, Dave, did you see them?
Speaker 3: I got them and I started to rhyin stone them already,
Speaker 3: so I'm moving on up.
Speaker 1: Well, Bailey got really cheap headphones that kind of gave out.
Speaker 3: Yes, they were garbage and awful, and literally when I
Speaker 3: plugged these in, I could hear so much better, so
Speaker 3: it's probably a good thing. But I did get them
Speaker 3: on sale second hand, and the chords a little screwed up,
Speaker 3: but it's worth it because I literally got them for
Speaker 3: a fraction of the price that they would normally have made.
Speaker 1: Very nigh.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so proud of myself.
Speaker 1: Okay, next one, This is mostly for Jenny, and I
Speaker 1: won't use their name. Okay, here we go. My belly
Speaker 1: hurts some having a little trouble like freeding and not cringing. So, Jenny,
Speaker 1: I've been thinking a lot about your thoughts on having
Speaker 1: your own kids. As a father of three all under
Speaker 1: seven and with another one on the way, I am
Speaker 1: thirty six. My wife is the same age. Fortunately we
Speaker 1: have not had age issues with conception, gestation, labor, anything.
Speaker 1: Considering your healthy lifestyle compared to the average American, I
Speaker 1: think you have plenty of time to make the best
Speaker 1: choice for yourself. Philosophically, I have always thought our greatest
Speaker 1: purpose as humans would be between discovery and legacy. Personally,
Speaker 1: I believe discovering the world, growing ourselves, creating, exploring, and
Speaker 1: bringing joy and inspiration is incredibly important. Legacy is essentially
Speaker 1: pro creation, but you get an opportunity to create those
Speaker 1: experiences firsthand. It makes your brain release oxytocin on the spot,
Speaker 1: and that is a very tough drug to beat once
Speaker 1: you've had it, But essentially that is evolutionary. That is
Speaker 1: why I think discovery should come before legacy. Many of
Speaker 1: the experience you have shared with me on the radio
Speaker 1: it made me a better parent, and not only from
Speaker 1: Dave since he has kids, but from you, Bailey and
Speaker 1: Font as well. The positive things we can do have
Speaker 1: more impact than we will ever understand. We create a
Speaker 1: legacy every day with how we interact with our world.
Speaker 1: Admittedly I have regrets. I wish I'd worked harder to
Speaker 1: pursue my journalism career, considering I'm part of the overpopulation concerns.
Speaker 1: Maybe I shouldn't have a say. My wife and I
Speaker 1: are both well educated, and if and fiscally sounds so selfishly,
Speaker 1: maybe I think it's not so bad. All I can say,
Speaker 1: Jenny is follow your heart. Our minds take over way
Speaker 1: too much, spinning us in circles over doubt, but also
Speaker 1: pushing us to do things we never thought possible. Whatever
Speaker 1: you do, I guarantee to you it will be the
Speaker 1: right choice. Thank you for all the fun you fun
Speaker 1: you do, oh fun Comma period. You do so much
Speaker 1: to make my day wonderful. God I'm sorry about that.
Speaker 1: I just got a little twist at the end. Any
Speaker 1: thoughts on his.
Speaker 2: Email, Yeah, I mean, I think it's a great email.
Speaker 2: A B. You should still pursue journalism if you're able to.
Speaker 2: I know you got it your handful with a bunch
Speaker 2: of kids now. And see, I've never thought of kids
Speaker 2: in that sense. On our previous record of this, I
Speaker 2: brought up how a lot of people had texted in
Speaker 2: it's saying like, oh, you're going to be so lonely
Speaker 2: later in life if you don't have kids. And I
Speaker 2: think that that's a very selfish reason to have children.
Speaker 2: I can understand if that's part of the reason you
Speaker 2: have children, but not if it's the main reason, then
Speaker 2: that is not a reason to have kids in my eyes.
Speaker 2: But the thought of a legacy being left behind, that's
Speaker 2: just like a very different perspective that I've definitely never
Speaker 2: thought about before. So thanks for your email. Very interesting.
Speaker 3: He wrote it in such a very lovely way too,
Speaker 3: So hey, if journalism's still in the cars for you,
Speaker 3: like you should pursue it because you're a really good writer.
Speaker 3: And that was like beautifully written in general. And I
Speaker 3: want to say one thing about the legacy thing is
Speaker 3: that I think you could potentially experience legacy without having
Speaker 3: children as well, Like what kind of impact are you
Speaker 3: making without children? Like so, but kind of to what
Speaker 3: you were saying, Jenny, like you don't want to have
Speaker 3: kids just so you're not lonely when you're an adult,
Speaker 3: but like you also don't want to have kids just
Speaker 3: so that you have a legacy to like carry on, Yeah,
Speaker 3: because you could potentially find that legacy elsewhere.
Speaker 2: Yeah. One thing I got as a DM. I've gotten
Speaker 2: a lot of dms from people ever since talking about this,
Speaker 2: so thank you. But one thing that was interesting is
Speaker 2: this woman talked about how she has two boys, and
Speaker 2: one boy loves to hunt, and his brother feels like
Speaker 2: he should love to hunt too because he sees his
Speaker 2: brother going out there and hunting. So then he goes
Speaker 2: along and he hunts, and he hates it and he
Speaker 2: kind of like forgets, and then he goes back out
Speaker 2: and he's like, well, I want to hunt too, Like
Speaker 2: he's still hunting, and then he goes and he does
Speaker 2: it again, and he's like, no, I actually hate it.
Speaker 2: So don't just do it because you see other people
Speaker 2: who are liking it. Just make sure you're going to
Speaker 2: like it too sure.
Speaker 1: You know it's funny. When I had kids, I didn't
Speaker 1: never I never did any none of my kids I
Speaker 1: ever said let's do it deliberately, except maybe Carson. With
Speaker 1: Carson it was kind of like, Okay, you know, if
Speaker 1: it happens, it happens. But the other three were wonderful, unexpected.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's like you know what you're doing and
Speaker 1: you know it can resolve. But I never looked at
Speaker 1: my kids as like, I want to have a kid
Speaker 1: because I don't want to grow up and grow old
Speaker 1: and be alone or have a kid take care of me.
Speaker 1: I do think that that is one of the advantages.
Speaker 1: But I will tell you this, I don't ever want
Speaker 1: my kids to take care of me. If I have
Speaker 1: the financial means where I'm like able to go live
Speaker 1: in assisted living, I don't want my kids to have
Speaker 1: to like you know, you hear about people like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he had to move back to Pennsylvania because his dad
Speaker 1: ads real sick.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean that's great, that's very wonderful that.
Speaker 3: He does spendable.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't want my kids to greatly disrupt
Speaker 1: their life because dad is sick and dad needs, you know,
Speaker 1: like kidney dialysis and a rite of the whatever. I
Speaker 1: don't want that, and I know that my kids would
Speaker 1: probably do it, especially Allison. It's always the girl, by
Speaker 1: the way, it's always the girl that takes care of
Speaker 1: the daughters, that take care of the aging parents. It
Speaker 1: is I know somebody right now, their mom is like
Speaker 1: eighty eight years old. They're not the best of health,
Speaker 1: so they do all of the mom stuff. And their
Speaker 1: brothers and they have several brothers. They don't do anything.
Speaker 1: They just don't. But I don't want my kids. So
Speaker 1: if I have the financial means and I'm like old
Speaker 1: and sick, I'm going to go into a nursing home
Speaker 1: or assisted living and I'll just lay there and play
Speaker 1: bingo and watch prices. Right, that's like probably what you
Speaker 1: want to do. And yeah, and being satisfied that my
Speaker 1: kids don't have to take care of me. Okay. Next
Speaker 1: one is from Jai. Jackie came to the fair over
Speaker 1: the weekend. And it's not important that you do this,
Speaker 1: but the first thing I noticed with Jackie and I
Speaker 1: didn't want to bring it up because it was a
Speaker 1: very old reference. I didn't want to sound like her grandfather,
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to embarrass her. But she looked
Speaker 1: just like nineteen seventies John Denver. So I had Bailey
Speaker 1: a little while ago, and I did the same thing
Speaker 1: google nineteen seventies John Denver, and with the big granny
Speaker 1: glasses and the hat then the blonde hair, That's exactly
Speaker 1: what she looked like. But John, and You're like, you know,
Speaker 1: she looks like a dude, and I'm like, no, John
Speaker 1: Denver was a very hot lady back in the day.
Speaker 1: John Denver was a hot girl back in the day. Anyway,
Speaker 1: She goes on to say, I want to thank you
Speaker 1: so much for signing my shirt today. You're amazing. I
Speaker 1: listened to you live on the radio during the summer,
Speaker 1: and during the school year. I listened to podcasts. I'm
Speaker 1: a teacher. I've been listening to Minnesota Goodbye since you
Speaker 1: first started. Your show is always a constant in my life,
Speaker 1: and I really appreciated this summer due to some life changes.
Speaker 1: I also want to release say thank you to Jenny
Speaker 1: for not getting frustrated with me. I felt super rude
Speaker 1: interrupting her as she was getting settled in at noon.
Speaker 1: She just got there and trying to join the crew.
Speaker 1: But she was so kind and quickly signed my shirt
Speaker 1: as well. I always tried to get a picture with
Speaker 1: the Morning Show when I get the chance at the fair.
Speaker 1: Thanks for being kind and amazing. I wish I could
Speaker 1: have gotten the chance to sit and listen to you
Speaker 1: at the fair, but unfortunately I had to get back
Speaker 1: to my group who was waiting for me. Sincerely, Jackie.
Speaker 3: You can actually listen to that special edition State Fair Show.
Speaker 3: It's on our podcast. So oh it is, yeah, on
Speaker 3: the Dave Ryan Show podcast. I turned it into a podcast.
Speaker 3: It's forty five minutes and forty five.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's cool. I know that somebody was either you
Speaker 1: or wont we're talking about this. That's cool.
Speaker 3: So if you missed us, you can listen to what
Speaker 3: we said.
Speaker 1: Let's see this one says, don't say my name. And
Speaker 1: if you ever don't want me to say your name
Speaker 1: and I accidentally say it, I'll go back and delete it.
Speaker 1: But if you don't, then just try to put that
Speaker 1: up front, because one of the first things I do
Speaker 1: is look at the name in the email return whatever,
Speaker 1: and I usually say it, Okay, Dave, I see your
Speaker 1: perspective on wanting Adventure. We talked about how you know
Speaker 1: somebody said the other day, they said, is Susan okay?
Speaker 1: Is everything okay? Because you know, you said something about
Speaker 1: how I don't remember what brought it up, but she's
Speaker 1: not adventuresome and is everything okay? Whatever? And I said,
Speaker 1: you know, Susan doesn't like adventure, And I said, I
Speaker 1: still have a lot of adventure in me, and I
Speaker 1: want to go live this adventure. I don't want to
Speaker 1: sit by the pool on vacation. And Jenny said, you're
Speaker 1: kind of the same way. I don't mind the pool
Speaker 1: for days one, three, and five, but on days two
Speaker 1: and four, I want to go do something.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel you there for sure, I wouldn't want to.
Speaker 3: I'd say I wouldn't mind the pool in an afternoon,
Speaker 3: but the rest of the time that I'm there, I
Speaker 3: want to do stuff.
Speaker 1: I want to do something. I see your perspective on
Speaker 1: wanting to adventure. My husband as a job that keeps
Speaker 1: him very busy, so when he's home, he wants to
Speaker 1: put her around the house and yard and play with
Speaker 1: the kids. I stay at home mom, So when he
Speaker 1: gets home, I feel like, let's go out and go
Speaker 1: do something. I need to leave this house. I want
Speaker 1: to try new things. I don't want to keep doing
Speaker 1: laundry and vacuuming all weekend when I've been doing it
Speaker 1: all week and it can be frustrating that I have
Speaker 1: to come up with the ideas and try to drag
Speaker 1: the family to it. I would kill for my husband
Speaker 1: to say, Hey, I heard about this cool new XYZ.
Speaker 1: Let's go check it out, and then physically start to
Speaker 1: get ready to go instead of coaxing eye me coaxing
Speaker 1: everyone to the car. However, as the one who is
Speaker 1: managing the family, I can see myself in a few
Speaker 1: years just wanting to sit and do my own thing.
Speaker 1: Have you thought about the idea day that you spent
Speaker 1: the last twenty to thirty years chasing your own hopes
Speaker 1: and dreams and goals while she was the steady eddie
Speaker 1: holding down a job that gave her enough stability to
Speaker 1: pick the kids up from school, make dinners, maintain the
Speaker 1: mental load of doctor's appointments, birthday parties. You sound like
Speaker 1: a loving dad, but by your own admission, not physically
Speaker 1: or mentally present for chunks of their childhood. When you
Speaker 1: were working ideas, working on ideas for the show. In
Speaker 1: the other room, somebody had to make dinner and get
Speaker 1: homework done. Now, Susan is likely taking on the mental
Speaker 1: and emotional load of helping her daughter with her own kids.
Speaker 1: It's possible she's burned out and this is the most
Speaker 1: energy most she has energy for. She might even be
Speaker 1: out of practice and she goes on for a little bit.
Speaker 1: I don't have a fix. Only you know what your
Speaker 1: relationship is just saying I think a lot of us
Speaker 1: feel this worry about wasted time and occasional incompatibility with
Speaker 1: the spouse's time allocation and energy. Thank you very much
Speaker 1: for a very thoughtful email. No, you're right. I think
Speaker 1: that Susan did used to work a full time job
Speaker 1: and did most of the dinner, making, homework, doing whatever.
Speaker 1: Because when I was younger and the kids were really young,
Speaker 1: my in my mind, my primary job was to work, work,
Speaker 1: work and earn as much as I could. So I
Speaker 1: would sit in the office and I would do work
Speaker 1: on the show. And I've told you this story a
Speaker 1: million times. And we never ate dinner together. We never
Speaker 1: ate dinner together as a family. Never maybe once a
Speaker 1: year or twice a year. The rest of the years,
Speaker 1: the rest of the nights, maybe on Sundays, I would
Speaker 1: be in the office working on the latest parody song
Speaker 1: or the latest parody spot or whatever, and the kids
Speaker 1: would eat at the kitchen counter by themselves after they
Speaker 1: went to bed and I was done working, then Susan
Speaker 1: and I would eat. And I look back on that
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what, just a fucking terrible decision to
Speaker 1: give up all of those memories, not only for me
Speaker 1: but for the kids. Sure of having family dinner? Did
Speaker 1: you have family dinners together when you were a kid.
Speaker 1: My parents were divorced, and my bitter Madison and mom.
Speaker 3: Me and my sister would eat. My mom was a
Speaker 3: working mom, so she'd come home make us food and
Speaker 3: then we would just sit at the kitchen table and
Speaker 3: eat it.
Speaker 2: Okay, what about you, Jenny, Yeah, we I mean before
Speaker 2: my parents got divorced, we sat at the dinner table
Speaker 2: every night. I mean, my parents had weird schedules, so
Speaker 2: sometimes my dad worked nights or my mom worked nights
Speaker 2: and stuff. But yes, when they were still together, we
Speaker 2: ate at the dinner table together every chance that we
Speaker 2: could get. And then that continued once my parents got divorced.
Speaker 2: Just obviously, one mile was at my mom's with my mom, Dad, Dad's.
Speaker 1: And believe it or not, we just had another technical
Speaker 1: problem with the Minnesota Goodbye, So rather than explain it,
Speaker 1: we will only say in a cheery, cheery, positive, joyful voice, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's going to do it for the Minnesota Goodbye. We
Speaker 1: will see you tomorrow. Send your emails in to Ryan
Speaker 1: Show at KDIWB dot com. If you want a staff
Speaker 1: rider sticker and you don't have one, we read your email.
Speaker 1: We'll put your address in your email and we'd be
Speaker 1: happy to send you one