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<v Speaker 1>Well, here's a little funny fun fact that we recorded

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<v Speaker 1>the Minnesota Goodbye. I got about probably twelve fifteen minutes

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<v Speaker 1>into it, and I looked up and I tried to

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<v Speaker 1>push the stop button, and the stop button wouldn't turn off,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I realized there was no wave form. So

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<v Speaker 1>it is like every three weeks or so that we

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<v Speaker 1>do the Minnesota Goodbye and so, but we're not going

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<v Speaker 1>to dwell on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's just just double check that there's a way for them.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking right now. There's a way for them. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking right now. But we're talking about funny shirts at

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<v Speaker 1>the Minnesota State Fair and some of the shirts that

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<v Speaker 1>Jenny brought it up. And then I started looking at

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<v Speaker 1>shirts yesterday. I saw one that it was a guy

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<v Speaker 1>looked like he was, you know, he was definitely from

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<v Speaker 1>Mexico or Ecuador or somewhere, and his shirt said I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not an illegal alien, I just look like one. And

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<v Speaker 1>that made me laugh. I was going to take a picture.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw another one that said that's a terrible idea,

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<v Speaker 1>what time? And I thought that was cute. Two, And

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<v Speaker 1>then I saw one that I described on the previous

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<v Speaker 1>episod so to the Minnesota Goodbye. That didn't record, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've decided not to do it because it is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like risk and offensive and a little bit insulting,

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<v Speaker 1>So we're not going to do that one.

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<v Speaker 2>What'd you see, Jenny, I saw a big dick is

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<v Speaker 2>back in town and I sent that one to you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>What's funny is I saw that picture was on a

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<v Speaker 1>regular standard looking college age kid looking guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. Yeah. Another one was my old lady was inmate

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<v Speaker 2>of the month at Lowell, Florida State Prison. I work

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<v Speaker 2>hard so my dog can have a better life. That's

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<v Speaker 2>just a cue.

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<v Speaker 1>That's cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Nope, not today. There was one that said fecal transplant

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<v Speaker 2>donor thirty pound club. That was a discuss weird, and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. There was a few others. I think

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<v Speaker 2>I started deleting the pictures I have.

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<v Speaker 3>I have a couple of friends that wear a shirt

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<v Speaker 3>that literally all it says and very plain font is

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<v Speaker 3>I really enjoy the Minnesota State Fair period And that's

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<v Speaker 3>really that's all it says. And you saw it on

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<v Speaker 3>Saturday day and you were like, see that's a shy Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>gets to the point.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, one more that I remembered that I think was

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<v Speaker 2>my favorite share was it says shut your three point

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<v Speaker 2>one four and then in a bunch of small letters

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<v Speaker 2>was all the numbers for pie or a bunch of

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<v Speaker 2>numbers for pie, and then at the end and bigger

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<v Speaker 2>letters again it's at hole. So it was shut your

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<v Speaker 2>pie hole.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut your pie hole. I like it. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>give a shout out to Lucas because he is he

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<v Speaker 1>is emailed about headphones and it's not for the Minnesota Goodbye.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not really that you know, suited for the Minnesota Goodbye.

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<v Speaker 1>But I did want to let you know, Lucas that

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<v Speaker 1>I did get your email and I appreciate it, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's not going to be on the Minnesota Goodbye.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't get new headphones, Dave, did you see them?

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<v Speaker 3>I got them and I started to rhyin stone them already,

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<v Speaker 3>so I'm moving on up.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, Bailey got really cheap headphones that kind of gave out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, they were garbage and awful, and literally when I

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<v Speaker 3>plugged these in, I could hear so much better, so

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<v Speaker 3>it's probably a good thing. But I did get them

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<v Speaker 3>on sale second hand, and the chords a little screwed up,

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<v Speaker 3>but it's worth it because I literally got them for

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<v Speaker 3>a fraction of the price that they would normally have made.

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<v Speaker 1>Very nigh.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm so proud of myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, next one, This is mostly for Jenny, and I

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<v Speaker 1>won't use their name. Okay, here we go. My belly

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<v Speaker 1>hurts some having a little trouble like freeding and not cringing. So, Jenny,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been thinking a lot about your thoughts on having

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<v Speaker 1>your own kids. As a father of three all under

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<v Speaker 1>seven and with another one on the way, I am

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<v Speaker 1>thirty six. My wife is the same age. Fortunately we

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<v Speaker 1>have not had age issues with conception, gestation, labor, anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Considering your healthy lifestyle compared to the average American, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you have plenty of time to make the best

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<v Speaker 1>choice for yourself. Philosophically, I have always thought our greatest

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<v Speaker 1>purpose as humans would be between discovery and legacy. Personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I believe discovering the world, growing ourselves, creating, exploring, and

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<v Speaker 1>bringing joy and inspiration is incredibly important. Legacy is essentially

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<v Speaker 1>pro creation, but you get an opportunity to create those

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<v Speaker 1>experiences firsthand. It makes your brain release oxytocin on the spot,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is a very tough drug to beat once

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<v Speaker 1>you've had it, But essentially that is evolutionary. That is

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<v Speaker 1>why I think discovery should come before legacy. Many of

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<v Speaker 1>the experience you have shared with me on the radio

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<v Speaker 1>it made me a better parent, and not only from

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<v Speaker 1>Dave since he has kids, but from you, Bailey and

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<v Speaker 1>Font as well. The positive things we can do have

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<v Speaker 1>more impact than we will ever understand. We create a

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<v Speaker 1>legacy every day with how we interact with our world.

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<v Speaker 1>Admittedly I have regrets. I wish I'd worked harder to

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<v Speaker 1>pursue my journalism career, considering I'm part of the overpopulation concerns.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I shouldn't have a say. My wife and I

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<v Speaker 1>are both well educated, and if and fiscally sounds so selfishly,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I think it's not so bad. All I can say,

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<v Speaker 1>Jenny is follow your heart. Our minds take over way

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<v Speaker 1>too much, spinning us in circles over doubt, but also

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<v Speaker 1>pushing us to do things we never thought possible. Whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you do, I guarantee to you it will be the

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<v Speaker 1>right choice. Thank you for all the fun you fun

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<v Speaker 1>you do, oh fun Comma period. You do so much

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<v Speaker 1>to make my day wonderful. God I'm sorry about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I just got a little twist at the end. Any

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts on his.

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<v Speaker 2>Email, Yeah, I mean, I think it's a great email.

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<v Speaker 2>A B. You should still pursue journalism if you're able to.

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<v Speaker 2>I know you got it your handful with a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of kids now. And see, I've never thought of kids

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<v Speaker 2>in that sense. On our previous record of this, I

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<v Speaker 2>brought up how a lot of people had texted in

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<v Speaker 2>it's saying like, oh, you're going to be so lonely

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<v Speaker 2>later in life if you don't have kids. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think that that's a very selfish reason to have children.

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<v Speaker 2>I can understand if that's part of the reason you

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<v Speaker 2>have children, but not if it's the main reason, then

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<v Speaker 2>that is not a reason to have kids in my eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>But the thought of a legacy being left behind, that's

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<v Speaker 2>just like a very different perspective that I've definitely never

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<v Speaker 2>thought about before. So thanks for your email. Very interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>He wrote it in such a very lovely way too,

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<v Speaker 3>So hey, if journalism's still in the cars for you,

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<v Speaker 3>like you should pursue it because you're a really good writer.

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<v Speaker 3>And that was like beautifully written in general. And I

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<v Speaker 3>want to say one thing about the legacy thing is

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<v Speaker 3>that I think you could potentially experience legacy without having

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<v Speaker 3>children as well, Like what kind of impact are you

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<v Speaker 3>making without children? Like so, but kind of to what

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<v Speaker 3>you were saying, Jenny, like you don't want to have

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<v Speaker 3>kids just so you're not lonely when you're an adult,

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<v Speaker 3>but like you also don't want to have kids just

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<v Speaker 3>so that you have a legacy to like carry on, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>because you could potentially find that legacy elsewhere.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. One thing I got as a DM. I've gotten

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of dms from people ever since talking about this,

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<v Speaker 2>so thank you. But one thing that was interesting is

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<v Speaker 2>this woman talked about how she has two boys, and

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<v Speaker 2>one boy loves to hunt, and his brother feels like

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<v Speaker 2>he should love to hunt too because he sees his

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<v Speaker 2>brother going out there and hunting. So then he goes

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<v Speaker 2>along and he hunts, and he hates it and he

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like forgets, and then he goes back out

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<v Speaker 2>and he's like, well, I want to hunt too, Like

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<v Speaker 2>he's still hunting, and then he goes and he does

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<v Speaker 2>it again, and he's like, no, I actually hate it.

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<v Speaker 2>So don't just do it because you see other people

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<v Speaker 2>who are liking it. Just make sure you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>like it too sure.

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<v Speaker 1>You know it's funny. When I had kids, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>never I never did any none of my kids I

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<v Speaker 1>ever said let's do it deliberately, except maybe Carson. With

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<v Speaker 1>Carson it was kind of like, Okay, you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>it happens, it happens. But the other three were wonderful, unexpected.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's like you know what you're doing and

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<v Speaker 1>you know it can resolve. But I never looked at

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<v Speaker 1>my kids as like, I want to have a kid

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to grow up and grow old

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<v Speaker 1>and be alone or have a kid take care of me.

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<v Speaker 1>I do think that that is one of the advantages.

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<v Speaker 1>But I will tell you this, I don't ever want

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<v Speaker 1>my kids to take care of me. If I have

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<v Speaker 1>the financial means where I'm like able to go live

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<v Speaker 1>in assisted living, I don't want my kids to have

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<v Speaker 1>to like you know, you hear about people like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he had to move back to Pennsylvania because his dad

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<v Speaker 1>ads real sick.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's great, that's very wonderful that.

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<v Speaker 3>He does spendable.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I don't want my kids to greatly disrupt

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<v Speaker 1>their life because dad is sick and dad needs, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like kidney dialysis and a rite of the whatever. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want that, and I know that my kids would

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<v Speaker 1>probably do it, especially Allison. It's always the girl, by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, it's always the girl that takes care of

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<v Speaker 1>the daughters, that take care of the aging parents. It

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<v Speaker 1>is I know somebody right now, their mom is like

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<v Speaker 1>eighty eight years old. They're not the best of health,

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<v Speaker 1>so they do all of the mom stuff. And their

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<v Speaker 1>brothers and they have several brothers. They don't do anything.

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<v Speaker 1>They just don't. But I don't want my kids. So

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<v Speaker 1>if I have the financial means and I'm like old

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<v Speaker 1>and sick, I'm going to go into a nursing home

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<v Speaker 1>or assisted living and I'll just lay there and play

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<v Speaker 1>bingo and watch prices. Right, that's like probably what you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do. And yeah, and being satisfied that my

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<v Speaker 1>kids don't have to take care of me. Okay. Next

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<v Speaker 1>one is from Jai. Jackie came to the fair over

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<v Speaker 1>the weekend. And it's not important that you do this,

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<v Speaker 1>but the first thing I noticed with Jackie and I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to bring it up because it was a

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<v Speaker 1>very old reference. I didn't want to sound like her grandfather,

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't want to embarrass her. But she looked

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<v Speaker 1>just like nineteen seventies John Denver. So I had Bailey

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<v Speaker 1>a little while ago, and I did the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>google nineteen seventies John Denver, and with the big granny

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<v Speaker 1>glasses and the hat then the blonde hair, That's exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what she looked like. But John, and You're like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she looks like a dude, and I'm like, no, John

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<v Speaker 1>Denver was a very hot lady back in the day.

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<v Speaker 1>John Denver was a hot girl back in the day. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>She goes on to say, I want to thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much for signing my shirt today. You're amazing. I

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<v Speaker 1>listened to you live on the radio during the summer,

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<v Speaker 1>and during the school year. I listened to podcasts. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a teacher. I've been listening to Minnesota Goodbye since you

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<v Speaker 1>first started. Your show is always a constant in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>and I really appreciated this summer due to some life changes.

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<v Speaker 1>I also want to release say thank you to Jenny

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<v Speaker 1>for not getting frustrated with me. I felt super rude

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<v Speaker 1>interrupting her as she was getting settled in at noon.

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<v Speaker 1>She just got there and trying to join the crew.

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<v Speaker 1>But she was so kind and quickly signed my shirt

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<v Speaker 1>as well. I always tried to get a picture with

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning Show when I get the chance at the fair.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for being kind and amazing. I wish I could

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<v Speaker 1>have gotten the chance to sit and listen to you

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<v Speaker 1>at the fair, but unfortunately I had to get back

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<v Speaker 1>to my group who was waiting for me. Sincerely, Jackie.

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<v Speaker 3>You can actually listen to that special edition State Fair Show.

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<v Speaker 3>It's on our podcast. So oh it is, yeah, on

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<v Speaker 3>the Dave Ryan Show podcast. I turned it into a podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>It's forty five minutes and forty five.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's cool. I know that somebody was either you

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<v Speaker 1>or wont we're talking about this. That's cool.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you missed us, you can listen to what

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<v Speaker 1>Let's see this one says, don't say my name. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you ever don't want me to say your name

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<v Speaker 1>and I accidentally say it, I'll go back and delete it.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you don't, then just try to put that

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<v Speaker 1>up front, because one of the first things I do

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<v Speaker 1>is look at the name in the email return whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>and I usually say it, Okay, Dave, I see your

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<v Speaker 1>perspective on wanting Adventure. We talked about how you know

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<v Speaker 1>somebody said the other day, they said, is Susan okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Is everything okay? Because you know, you said something about

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<v Speaker 1>how I don't remember what brought it up, but she's

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<v Speaker 1>not adventuresome and is everything okay? Whatever? And I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Susan doesn't like adventure, And I said, I

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<v Speaker 1>still have a lot of adventure in me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to go live this adventure. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>sit by the pool on vacation. And Jenny said, you're

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<v Speaker 1>kind of the same way. I don't mind the pool

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<v Speaker 1>for days one, three, and five, but on days two

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<v Speaker 1>and four, I want to go do something.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd say I wouldn't mind the pool in an afternoon,

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<v Speaker 3>but the rest of the time that I'm there, I

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do something. I see your perspective on

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to adventure. My husband as a job that keeps

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<v Speaker 1>him very busy, so when he's home, he wants to

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<v Speaker 1>put her around the house and yard and play with

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<v Speaker 1>the kids. I stay at home mom, So when he

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<v Speaker 1>do something. I need to leave this house. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to try new things. I don't want to keep doing

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<v Speaker 1>laundry and vacuuming all weekend when I've been doing it

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<v Speaker 1>all week and it can be frustrating that I have

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<v Speaker 1>to come up with the ideas and try to drag

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<v Speaker 1>the family to it. I would kill for my husband

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<v Speaker 1>to say, Hey, I heard about this cool new XYZ.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go check it out, and then physically start to

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<v Speaker 1>get ready to go instead of coaxing eye me coaxing

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<v Speaker 1>everyone to the car. However, as the one who is

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<v Speaker 1>managing the family, I can see myself in a few

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<v Speaker 1>years just wanting to sit and do my own thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you thought about the idea day that you spent

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<v Speaker 1>the last twenty to thirty years chasing your own hopes

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<v Speaker 1>and dreams and goals while she was the steady eddie

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<v Speaker 1>holding down a job that gave her enough stability to

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<v Speaker 1>pick the kids up from school, make dinners, maintain the

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<v Speaker 1>mental load of doctor's appointments, birthday parties. You sound like

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<v Speaker 1>a loving dad, but by your own admission, not physically

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<v Speaker 1>or mentally present for chunks of their childhood. When you

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<v Speaker 1>were working ideas, working on ideas for the show. In

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<v Speaker 1>the other room, somebody had to make dinner and get

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<v Speaker 1>homework done. Now, Susan is likely taking on the mental

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<v Speaker 1>It's possible she's burned out and this is the most

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<v Speaker 1>energy most she has energy for. She might even be

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<v Speaker 1>out of practice and she goes on for a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have a fix. Only you know what your

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<v Speaker 1>feel this worry about wasted time and occasional incompatibility with

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<v Speaker 1>the spouse's time allocation and energy. Thank you very much

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<v Speaker 1>for a very thoughtful email. No, you're right. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that Susan did used to work a full time job

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<v Speaker 1>and did most of the dinner, making, homework, doing whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Because when I was younger and the kids were really young,

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<v Speaker 1>my in my mind, my primary job was to work, work,

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<v Speaker 1>work and earn as much as I could. So I

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<v Speaker 1>would sit in the office and I would do work

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<v Speaker 1>on the show. And I've told you this story a

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<v Speaker 1>million times. And we never ate dinner together. We never

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<v Speaker 1>ate dinner together as a family. Never maybe once a

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<v Speaker 1>year or twice a year. The rest of the years,

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<v Speaker 1>the rest of the nights, maybe on Sundays, I would

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<v Speaker 1>be in the office working on the latest parody song

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<v Speaker 1>or the latest parody spot or whatever, and the kids

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<v Speaker 1>would eat at the kitchen counter by themselves after they

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<v Speaker 1>and I would eat. And I look back on that

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, what, just a fucking terrible decision to

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<v Speaker 1>give up all of those memories, not only for me

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<v Speaker 1>but for the kids. Sure of having family dinner? Did

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<v Speaker 1>you have family dinners together when you were a kid.

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<v Speaker 1>My parents were divorced, and my bitter Madison and mom.

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<v Speaker 3>Me and my sister would eat. My mom was a

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<v Speaker 3>then we would just sit at the kitchen table and

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what about you, Jenny, Yeah, we I mean before

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<v Speaker 2>my parents got divorced, we sat at the dinner table

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<v Speaker 2>every night. I mean, my parents had weird schedules, so

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes my dad worked nights or my mom worked nights

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff. But yes, when they were still together, we

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<v Speaker 2>ate at the dinner table together every chance that we

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<v Speaker 2>could get. And then that continued once my parents got divorced.

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<v Speaker 2>Just obviously, one mile was at my mom's with my mom, Dad, Dad's.

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<v Speaker 1>And believe it or not, we just had another technical

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<v Speaker 1>problem with the Minnesota Goodbye, So rather than explain it,

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<v Speaker 1>we will only say in a cheery, cheery, positive, joyful voice, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's going to do it for the Minnesota Goodbye. We

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<v Speaker 1>will see you tomorrow. Send your emails in to Ryan

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