WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.439 --> 00:00:06.120 Hey, thanks for joining us today on Pastor Rick's Daily Hope, 2 00:00:06.240 --> 00:00:09.919 the Bible Teaching Ministry of Rick Warren. And today we're 3 00:00:09.960 --> 00:00:14.400 continuing our series called The Habits of Happiness. In this series, 4 00:00:14.519 --> 00:00:17.480 Rick dives into the Book of Philippians and helps you 5 00:00:17.559 --> 00:00:22.199 discover God's path to true and lasting happiness. Let's get 6 00:00:22.280 --> 00:00:24.679 right to it with part one of a message called 7 00:00:24.800 --> 00:00:26.839 the Humble Path to Happiness. 8 00:00:27.480 --> 00:00:30.039 Today, we're in part three of a series, the Habits 9 00:00:30.920 --> 00:00:34.560 of Happiness, and we're going verse by verse through the 10 00:00:34.600 --> 00:00:39.880 Book of Philippians. If you were to go to out 11 00:00:39.880 --> 00:00:41.479 on the patio, or if you were to go out 12 00:00:41.479 --> 00:00:44.280 to some mall and ask people, what do you think 13 00:00:44.399 --> 00:00:48.159 is the path to happiness? Most people would probably say 14 00:00:48.159 --> 00:00:53.399 something like this, Get an education, get a job, get married, 15 00:00:53.759 --> 00:00:58.000 have a family, make a lot of money, retire. That's 16 00:00:58.039 --> 00:01:01.439 the path of happiness. But I know a lot of 17 00:01:01.479 --> 00:01:03.240 people have done all those things and they're not happy 18 00:01:03.240 --> 00:01:08.599 at all. The Bible says that the path to happiness 19 00:01:09.079 --> 00:01:12.719 is something you're never in your wildest idea, I can imagine. 20 00:01:13.159 --> 00:01:17.480 The path to happiness is through humility. He said, what 21 00:01:18.599 --> 00:01:22.439 how in the world would humility make me happy? There 22 00:01:22.439 --> 00:01:25.840 are many many reasons why humility is the key that 23 00:01:26.040 --> 00:01:30.120 unlocks true happiness and why pride is the thing that 24 00:01:30.159 --> 00:01:33.640 guarantees unhappiness in your life. And I could give you 25 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:35.760 many different reasons, but let me just give you one, 26 00:01:35.799 --> 00:01:39.280 and we're going to focus on it this weekend. One 27 00:01:39.319 --> 00:01:42.799 of the greatest kill joys in life. One of the 28 00:01:42.799 --> 00:01:47.200 greatest causes of unhappiness is conflict. Everybody agree with that 29 00:01:47.840 --> 00:01:50.519 conflict when I mean, you could have a lot of money, 30 00:01:50.680 --> 00:01:53.519 you could be famous, you could be successful, But if 31 00:01:53.560 --> 00:01:57.120 you have conflict in your relationships, your life is unhappy. 32 00:01:58.200 --> 00:01:59.840 Everything can be going great in your life and you 33 00:01:59.920 --> 00:02:02.000 have an argument with somebody you love, and all of 34 00:02:02.000 --> 00:02:06.000 a sudden, that happiness just flies out the window. If 35 00:02:06.040 --> 00:02:08.840 you're ever going to learn to be happy on a 36 00:02:08.919 --> 00:02:12.039 long term basis, you're going to learn have to how 37 00:02:12.039 --> 00:02:16.360 to reduce, how to eliminate conflict in your life. And 38 00:02:16.439 --> 00:02:20.000 that's where humility comes in. The Bible tells us that 39 00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:24.599 the habit of humility is the key to reducing conflict 40 00:02:24.599 --> 00:02:28.439 in your life, because pride is the thing that causes conflict. 41 00:02:28.719 --> 00:02:31.280 On your outline, the Bible says in Proverbs thirteen ten, 42 00:02:31.520 --> 00:02:34.080 pride always leads to arguments. How many of you agree 43 00:02:34.120 --> 00:02:37.240 with that verse? Yeah? You know this little background in 44 00:02:37.280 --> 00:02:39.159 this verse. This was the first verse K and I 45 00:02:39.280 --> 00:02:42.919 memorized when we got married thirty eight years ago. We 46 00:02:42.960 --> 00:02:48.680 actually memorized it on our honeymoon because we needed it. 47 00:02:48.719 --> 00:02:52.039 On our honeymoon, because my wife and I are so different, 48 00:02:52.319 --> 00:02:56.479 we argued about everything. We just see everything so differently. 49 00:02:57.400 --> 00:02:59.639 And so the first verse we learned was only by 50 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:03.840 pride comes contention, or in the modern translation, pride always 51 00:03:03.960 --> 00:03:07.759 leads to arguments. Now, in this passage that we're going 52 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:10.199 to look at this weekend, Philippians two one to eleven, 53 00:03:10.800 --> 00:03:15.639 we have the greatest explanation ever written on planet Earth 54 00:03:16.560 --> 00:03:23.280 about the relationship between humility and harmony and happiness. And 55 00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:26.240 this passage tells us first, it says in the first 56 00:03:26.280 --> 00:03:32.240 couple verses that harmony creates happiness, and that happiness comes 57 00:03:32.240 --> 00:03:35.120 from harmony. And then we learn in the next few 58 00:03:35.240 --> 00:03:41.240 verses that humility creates harmony, and in the last verses 59 00:03:41.360 --> 00:03:44.639 it talks about how Jesus modeled both. I'm going to 60 00:03:44.719 --> 00:03:46.719 read you the passage right now, and why don't you 61 00:03:46.840 --> 00:03:49.840 listen to see if you can pick up these themes, 62 00:03:50.080 --> 00:03:54.120 the four kinds of harmony, the four keys of humility, 63 00:03:54.560 --> 00:03:58.199 and the three examples of Jesus. Listen to this Philippians, 64 00:03:58.280 --> 00:04:02.639 Chapter two. My life in Christ give you strength? Does 65 00:04:02.639 --> 00:04:05.800 His love comfort you? Do we share together in His spirit? 66 00:04:06.280 --> 00:04:11.240 Do you have mercy and kindness? If so, make me 67 00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:14.759 very happy. Remember he's talking about the habits of happiness, 68 00:04:14.960 --> 00:04:17.879 the habits of joy. If so, make me very happy 69 00:04:17.879 --> 00:04:22.000 by having the same thoughts, sharing the same love, having 70 00:04:22.079 --> 00:04:26.639 one mind, and being of one purpose. When you do things, 71 00:04:26.680 --> 00:04:30.160 do not let selfishness or pride be your guide. Instead, 72 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:33.639 be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves. 73 00:04:33.720 --> 00:04:36.839 Don't be interested only in your own life, but be 74 00:04:36.920 --> 00:04:40.480 interested in the lives of others. In your lives, you 75 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:45.439 must think and act like Jesus Christ. Now, Christ himself 76 00:04:45.560 --> 00:04:47.480 was like God and everything, but he did not think 77 00:04:47.519 --> 00:04:52.360 that being equal with God was something to be demanded. Instead, 78 00:04:52.399 --> 00:04:54.680 he gave up his place with God, and he made 79 00:04:54.720 --> 00:04:57.480 himself nothing. And he was born to be a human 80 00:04:57.519 --> 00:05:00.879 being and became a servant. And while he was living 81 00:05:00.879 --> 00:05:03.279 on earth as a man, he humbled himself and became 82 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:07.000 fully obedient to God the Father, even when it caused 83 00:05:07.040 --> 00:05:11.920 his death, the death on the cross. So then God 84 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:15.279 raised him up to the highest place. And God made 85 00:05:15.360 --> 00:05:18.480 him his name greater than every other name, so that 86 00:05:18.680 --> 00:05:23.160 every knee will bow to the name of Jesus, everyone 87 00:05:23.199 --> 00:05:25.720 in heaven and on earth and under the earth. Now, 88 00:05:25.720 --> 00:05:30.680 one day everyone will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord 89 00:05:31.000 --> 00:05:34.279 and bring glory to the Father. Now, this is a 90 00:05:34.439 --> 00:05:39.720 very very powerful passage, and it talks about how humility 91 00:05:39.839 --> 00:05:44.360 leads to harmony and harmony leads to happiness. First, Paul 92 00:05:44.399 --> 00:05:48.879 says that God's model for relationships, God's model for your friendships, 93 00:05:48.879 --> 00:05:52.120 for your marriage, and any other relationship is four kinds 94 00:05:52.120 --> 00:05:55.399 of harmony. It's there on your outline. In verse two, 95 00:05:55.920 --> 00:06:01.639 Paul says, you will make my joy complete. In other words, 96 00:06:01.680 --> 00:06:04.519 you will create happiness. You will make me happy. You'll 97 00:06:04.519 --> 00:06:08.759 make yourself happy. You'll make my joy complete by having 98 00:06:08.800 --> 00:06:14.199 the same mind, sharing the same love, being united in spirit, 99 00:06:14.639 --> 00:06:18.920 and intent on one purpose. These are the four kinds 100 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:21.800 of intimacy God wants you to have in your marriage, 101 00:06:22.240 --> 00:06:24.959 the four kinds of unity, the four kinds of harmony 102 00:06:25.160 --> 00:06:29.399 God wants you to have in every true relationship. He says, 103 00:06:29.480 --> 00:06:32.040 I want you to have the same mind. That's mental harmony. 104 00:06:32.439 --> 00:06:35.319 You know you're united in thinking. He said, I want 105 00:06:35.319 --> 00:06:38.639 you to share the same love. That's emotional harmony. He said, 106 00:06:38.680 --> 00:06:41.920 I want you to be united in spirit. That's spiritual harmony. 107 00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:44.199 And he says, I want you to be intent on 108 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:48.079 one purpose. That's directional harmony. We're headed in the same 109 00:06:48.399 --> 00:06:52.040 direction together. Can you imagine having a marriage like that? 110 00:06:52.920 --> 00:06:57.160 He said, well, yeah, that'd be great. Why don't we 111 00:06:57.199 --> 00:06:59.560 have it? Because we don't do the things God tells 112 00:06:59.639 --> 00:07:02.399 us to do. And in the next You versus, Paul 113 00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:05.839 explains that humility is the path the harmony, and harmony 114 00:07:05.879 --> 00:07:09.000 is the path the happiness. Now, I don't know if 115 00:07:09.040 --> 00:07:12.680 you're going through conflict right now, but everybody's had conflict 116 00:07:12.680 --> 00:07:15.199 and relationships in their lives. And if you've ever gotten 117 00:07:15.240 --> 00:07:17.839 tired of the conflict, I'm just tired of always been 118 00:07:17.879 --> 00:07:20.920 in conflict. You picked a good weekend to come to 119 00:07:21.000 --> 00:07:24.600 church because we're going to look at how to reduce 120 00:07:24.759 --> 00:07:28.199 conflict with others. This is how to have more harmony 121 00:07:28.519 --> 00:07:32.439 and how to have more happiness in your relationships. And 122 00:07:32.480 --> 00:07:35.519 I want to say this, this is guaranteed to work. 123 00:07:36.680 --> 00:07:41.240 This absolutely will reduce the conflict in your life and 124 00:07:41.279 --> 00:07:43.560 will increase the happiness and harmony in your life if 125 00:07:43.600 --> 00:07:46.040 you'll do it. But I need to give you three warnings. 126 00:07:46.720 --> 00:07:49.120 First place is that what I'm going to teach you 127 00:07:49.160 --> 00:07:55.600 this weekend is one hundred percent radically counterculture. It's the 128 00:07:55.720 --> 00:08:00.399 exact opposite of everything you've been taught in your life. 129 00:08:01.439 --> 00:08:03.920 Our culture teaches the exact opposite of what the Bible 130 00:08:03.920 --> 00:08:08.759 says about relationships. Now, there aren't that many really successful 131 00:08:08.800 --> 00:08:11.600 relationships out in the world, are there. I mean, when 132 00:08:11.639 --> 00:08:14.160 I say give me five really strong marriages, you'd have 133 00:08:14.160 --> 00:08:17.279 a hard time doing that, the kind of marriages that 134 00:08:17.399 --> 00:08:22.839 have mental, emotional, spiritual, and directional harmony. Most people aren't 135 00:08:22.879 --> 00:08:24.720 very good at relationships in the world. Why because we 136 00:08:24.759 --> 00:08:27.319 don't follow what God tells us to do, and what 137 00:08:27.360 --> 00:08:29.720 God tells us to do is the exact opposite of 138 00:08:29.759 --> 00:08:32.840 what our culture tells us to do. Second reason I 139 00:08:32.879 --> 00:08:34.759 need to warn you is because this what I'm going 140 00:08:34.799 --> 00:08:38.600 to teach you to do isn't natural. It doesn't feel 141 00:08:39.039 --> 00:08:41.200 like the right thing to do, but it is the 142 00:08:41.279 --> 00:08:44.320 right thing to do because we naturally want to indulge 143 00:08:44.360 --> 00:08:47.600 ourselves and God says no, that's the wrong way. And 144 00:08:47.720 --> 00:08:49.879 third is if I teach you this, I know for 145 00:08:49.960 --> 00:08:52.559 a fact that this week you will be tested in it. 146 00:08:53.679 --> 00:08:56.480 So I'm just warning you. Get ready. You're going to 147 00:08:56.559 --> 00:09:01.600 have some conflict in relationships this week, okay, because God 148 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:05.799 is going to give you an opportunity to practice these 149 00:09:05.919 --> 00:09:12.320 four habits of humble happiness. Now. The first of the 150 00:09:12.399 --> 00:09:15.519 four habits for reducing conflict in your life, Paul says, 151 00:09:15.559 --> 00:09:18.919 is this, you right, write it down. Never let my 152 00:09:19.120 --> 00:09:23.799 pride be my guide. And no matter what the relationship is, 153 00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:28.440 I should never let my pride be my guide. Why 154 00:09:28.639 --> 00:09:31.840 because the pride is the root of every other sin. 155 00:09:31.919 --> 00:09:33.519 I don't know if you know that pride is the 156 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:35.559 root of every other sin. Pride is the sin that 157 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:39.480 got Satan got kicked out of heaven. Every conflict that 158 00:09:39.559 --> 00:09:42.759 you go through has an element of pride mixed into it. 159 00:09:43.120 --> 00:09:46.360 What is the middle letter of the word pride in English? 160 00:09:46.960 --> 00:09:51.639 I what's the middle letter of the word crime? Yeah? Yeah, 161 00:09:51.759 --> 00:09:55.639 what's the middle letter of the word sin? I you 162 00:09:56.000 --> 00:10:01.200 have an eye problem. I want what I want and 163 00:10:01.240 --> 00:10:03.639 I want it now, and that causes all kinds of problems. 164 00:10:04.039 --> 00:10:06.639 Never let pride be my guide now again, this is 165 00:10:06.679 --> 00:10:11.720 counterculture because today in our society, in modern culture, we 166 00:10:11.799 --> 00:10:19.960 reward narcissism. We do the most arrogant athletes, the most 167 00:10:20.159 --> 00:10:25.639 arrogant celebrities, the most self centered entertainers are the ones 168 00:10:25.720 --> 00:10:28.399 we pay the most money to and pay the most 169 00:10:28.399 --> 00:10:32.679 attention to. It's the way our society works today. So 170 00:10:32.759 --> 00:10:36.639 this is totally counterculture because today the people with the 171 00:10:36.639 --> 00:10:40.720 biggest egos get the biggest money and they get the 172 00:10:40.720 --> 00:10:44.120 most press. Now, the Bible says this in Philippians two three. 173 00:10:44.679 --> 00:10:50.480 Don't do anything from selfish ambition or vain conceit circle 174 00:10:50.480 --> 00:10:53.559 the word anything, don't do anything. Do you realize how 175 00:10:53.600 --> 00:10:57.200 hard it is to keep that verse, don't do anything 176 00:10:57.279 --> 00:11:01.480 from selfish ambition or vain conceite. Paul says that there 177 00:11:01.480 --> 00:11:06.799 are two conflict creating kinds of pride. One of them 178 00:11:06.879 --> 00:11:10.279 is selfish ambition and one is vain conceit. Let me 179 00:11:10.320 --> 00:11:14.360 explain them a different way. Selfish ambition is saying it's 180 00:11:14.399 --> 00:11:19.440 all about me, and vain conceit means I'm always right. 181 00:11:20.519 --> 00:11:23.279 So when you have those two attitudes it's all about 182 00:11:23.360 --> 00:11:28.120 me and I'm always right, you have selfish ambition and 183 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:33.279 vain conceit. Selfish ambition says, it's all about my needs. 184 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:36.960 It's all about my wants, it's all about my fears, 185 00:11:37.159 --> 00:11:40.320 it's all about my success, it's all about my career. 186 00:11:40.960 --> 00:11:43.279 We know people who've walked out of marriage just because 187 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:45.639 the marriage was standing in the way of their career. 188 00:11:47.039 --> 00:11:51.840 We know that sometimes boyfriends choose girlfriends simply because of 189 00:11:51.879 --> 00:11:55.039 the image it gives them. They don't really care about them. 190 00:11:55.480 --> 00:11:59.679 They just they're eye candy. Or girlfriends choose boyfriends because 191 00:11:59.799 --> 00:12:02.679 it it's all about the image. It's not about the relationship. 192 00:12:03.039 --> 00:12:05.879 It's all about me, And they're not really caring about 193 00:12:05.919 --> 00:12:10.320 the relationship. They're caring about themselves. The Bible says that 194 00:12:10.440 --> 00:12:13.440 selfish ambition causes all kinds of problems and James three 195 00:12:13.440 --> 00:12:18.080 point sixteen it says this, wherever there's jealousy or selfish ambition, 196 00:12:18.840 --> 00:12:25.279 you'll find circle, this confusion, and every other kind of evil. 197 00:12:25.519 --> 00:12:29.879 When you find confusion at your worksplace, confusion in the office, 198 00:12:30.399 --> 00:12:33.960 you can know that selfish ambition and jealousy are causing it. 199 00:12:34.879 --> 00:12:38.720 When you find confusion in your home, you can know 200 00:12:38.759 --> 00:12:43.360 that selfishness is causing that. This causes confusion everywhere It 201 00:12:43.399 --> 00:12:46.519 causes it in marriages, It causes it in politics, It 202 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:50.080 causes it in church, it causes it in homeowners' associations, 203 00:12:50.320 --> 00:12:55.480 it causes us in the shutdown of governments. If you 204 00:12:55.559 --> 00:12:57.279 won't play ball with me the way I want to 205 00:12:57.279 --> 00:13:00.600 play ball, I'll take my ball and go home. It's 206 00:13:00.639 --> 00:13:04.879 all about me selfish ambition. And then vain concede is 207 00:13:04.879 --> 00:13:08.759 that attitude of I'm always right and I'm always right 208 00:13:08.799 --> 00:13:12.879 and you're always wrong. That's being conceited. Now. I love 209 00:13:12.919 --> 00:13:16.960 the Living Bible version of this verse. There on your outline, 210 00:13:17.159 --> 00:13:20.000 it says, don't live to make a good impression on others, 211 00:13:21.519 --> 00:13:26.320 And the today's English version says, don't do anything from 212 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:29.919 a cheap desire to boast. That would be a good 213 00:13:30.039 --> 00:13:33.279 verse to look at before you post on Instagram again, 214 00:13:34.799 --> 00:13:38.960 or Facebook or any other social media. I saw I 215 00:13:38.960 --> 00:13:42.240 read an article a while back by Seana bill Heibel's daughter, 216 00:13:42.480 --> 00:13:45.399 which she said is a great article called stop tweeting 217 00:13:45.480 --> 00:13:50.320 your perfect life, because it is a great temptation on 218 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:54.039 internet to make yourself look better than you are, to 219 00:13:54.159 --> 00:13:56.440 appear better than you are. And we don't just do 220 00:13:56.480 --> 00:13:57.840 that on the internet, but we do it in lots 221 00:13:57.840 --> 00:14:01.600 of different areas. Never let my pride be my guide. 222 00:14:02.360 --> 00:14:05.919 Don't give in too vain conceit I'm always right, or 223 00:14:05.960 --> 00:14:08.600 to selfish ambition, it's all it's always about me. It's 224 00:14:08.600 --> 00:14:11.240 about my needs. The husband who says I don't care 225 00:14:11.240 --> 00:14:13.559 about my wife's needs, it's my needs. I don't care 226 00:14:13.600 --> 00:14:16.720 about my kids needs. It's my needs. That's called selfish ambition, 227 00:14:17.960 --> 00:14:21.120 you know. In Galatians, another book that Paul wrote, Paul 228 00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:25.519 lists about seventeen effects of living with pride. He calls 229 00:14:25.519 --> 00:14:28.320 it the works of the flesh. He says, when we 230 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:31.759 live this self centered, this self concern, the self indulgent life, 231 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:33.960 he said, it shows up in all kinds of ways, 232 00:14:34.240 --> 00:14:37.240 and he starts off by saying things like self indulgence 233 00:14:37.240 --> 00:14:40.639 shows up in sexual immorality and wild partying and getting 234 00:14:40.720 --> 00:14:43.879 drunk and all. You would expect those things. But most 235 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:48.039 of the things of the list are actually the sins 236 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:51.480 that we have to deal with, relational sins. Let me 237 00:14:51.519 --> 00:14:55.639 read them to you. Galatians five, nineteen twenty twenty one 238 00:14:56.360 --> 00:14:59.879 says this our self indulgent nature, in other words, my 239 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:02.480 my natural desire to think of me and not about you, 240 00:15:03.639 --> 00:15:05.519 to think I'm number one, and not worry about what 241 00:15:05.600 --> 00:15:10.879 you think. Our self indulgent nature shows itself in conflict. 242 00:15:11.360 --> 00:15:16.120 Check that one quarreling, check that one jealousy, outburst of anger, 243 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:21.480 selfish ambition. It shows up in causing divisions among people 244 00:15:21.960 --> 00:15:24.840 and the feeling that everyone else is wrong except those 245 00:15:24.840 --> 00:15:29.720 in your little own group. You know, anybody like that. 246 00:15:29.720 --> 00:15:33.759 That's because they let their pride be their guide. Paul says, 247 00:15:33.879 --> 00:15:37.320 if you're gonna have happiness, you gotta have harmony, and 248 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:40.799 if you're gonna have harmony, you gotta have humility. And 249 00:15:40.840 --> 00:15:43.759 so never let pride be your guide. Now, the second 250 00:15:44.120 --> 00:15:46.399 habit is the flip side of it. It's just another 251 00:15:46.440 --> 00:15:48.120 way of saying the same thing. But it's just write 252 00:15:48.159 --> 00:15:52.840 it down. Be humble or our stumble. I must be 253 00:15:53.000 --> 00:15:56.960 humble or our stumble. If I'm not humble, my relationship 254 00:15:57.000 --> 00:16:02.840 will crumble. Humility is the is the basis and foundation 255 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:10.600 of every great marriage and every great friendship, because in humility, 256 00:16:10.799 --> 00:16:12.919 you don't act like you know it all, and you 257 00:16:13.000 --> 00:16:15.679 treat each other with respect, and you give each other 258 00:16:15.759 --> 00:16:18.480 more honor, and you don't go fifty to fifty marriage 259 00:16:18.559 --> 00:16:21.039 is not a fifty to fifty it's one hundred and ten, 260 00:16:21.159 --> 00:16:23.000 hundred and ten. You give one hundred and ten and 261 00:16:23.039 --> 00:16:25.360 your spouse gives one hundred and ten, and you try 262 00:16:25.360 --> 00:16:28.440 to outdo each other in honor Philippians two, verse three. 263 00:16:28.519 --> 00:16:31.720 The next verse is this. It says, instead of don't 264 00:16:31.759 --> 00:16:34.480 do anything from selfish ambition or vain conceit, it says, instead, 265 00:16:34.840 --> 00:16:41.279 be humble and give more honor to others than to yourself. Now, again, 266 00:16:41.320 --> 00:16:44.320 that's the opposite about our culture teachers. Our culture teaches, 267 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:47.360 I gotta do what's best for me. I got to 268 00:16:47.399 --> 00:16:49.799 look out for number one. I gotta think about me. 269 00:16:50.600 --> 00:16:52.320 I've got to live for myself. I better do what 270 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:54.840 makes me happy. If it feels good, do it. And 271 00:16:54.919 --> 00:16:59.080 all these selfish, self centered, narcissistic rules that we've been 272 00:16:59.120 --> 00:17:02.879 taught throughout life. And Paul comes along and says, no, 273 00:17:03.039 --> 00:17:05.480 be humble and give more honor to others than yourself. 274 00:17:05.839 --> 00:17:10.359 A circular word humble, because humility is probably the most 275 00:17:10.480 --> 00:17:15.240 misunderstood quality that we need in life. A lot of 276 00:17:15.279 --> 00:17:17.880 people think humility means going around and saying, Oh, I'm 277 00:17:17.920 --> 00:17:21.559 no good, I'm nothing, I'm a zero, I'm a cipher, 278 00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:24.640 I'm a zip i can't do anything. No, No, that's 279 00:17:24.640 --> 00:17:29.480 not humility. That's false humility. That's just degrading yourself. No. 280 00:17:29.880 --> 00:17:35.759 Humility is not thinking less of yourself. Humility is thinking 281 00:17:35.839 --> 00:17:41.440 of yourself less. You're the difference. Humility is not thinking 282 00:17:41.480 --> 00:17:44.559 less of yourselther I'm no good. That's not humbility, that's 283 00:17:44.599 --> 00:17:48.880 false humility. Humility is you just don't think about yourself. 284 00:17:49.960 --> 00:17:52.720 You think about other people. The more you think about 285 00:17:52.759 --> 00:17:56.200 other people, the more humble you are. If you walk 286 00:17:56.240 --> 00:17:59.200 into this room and you think, what does everybody else 287 00:17:59.200 --> 00:18:01.880 think about me? How do I look? You're being prideful. 288 00:18:02.119 --> 00:18:04.039 If you walk into this room and you think, how 289 00:18:04.079 --> 00:18:06.359 could I help the people in this room, you're being humble. 290 00:18:06.880 --> 00:18:09.799 The focus isn't on you. The focus is on the 291 00:18:09.839 --> 00:18:11.839 other people. Humility has nothing to do with what you 292 00:18:11.920 --> 00:18:14.279 think of yourself. Humility is has what you think about 293 00:18:14.279 --> 00:18:21.359 other people. In other words, humility is not putting myself down. 294 00:18:22.119 --> 00:18:26.920 Humility is building other people up. Humble people build other 295 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:31.519 people up. Great people make people feel great. Little people 296 00:18:31.880 --> 00:18:35.839 belittle people Now, the Bible says, instead, be humble and 297 00:18:35.880 --> 00:18:38.440 give more honor to others than yourself. In other words, 298 00:18:38.559 --> 00:18:44.599 humility is not devaluing me. It's valuing others more. Let 299 00:18:44.599 --> 00:18:47.160 me say another way of saying it. Humility is not 300 00:18:47.279 --> 00:18:53.799 denying your strengths. It's being honest about your weaknesses. We're 301 00:18:53.839 --> 00:18:56.799 all a bundle of strengths and weaknesses. You have some 302 00:18:57.039 --> 00:19:02.200 great strengths, you do you have some great weaknesses. And 303 00:19:02.279 --> 00:19:04.640 humility is to being honest about both. I'm good at 304 00:19:04.640 --> 00:19:07.519 this and I'm not good at that. I'm strong in this, 305 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:11.440 I'm really weak in this. I have some really great 306 00:19:11.440 --> 00:19:16.920 strengths and i have some enormous weaknesses. Just ask my staff, 307 00:19:17.000 --> 00:19:19.599 ask my family, ask me. I'll tell you because I'm 308 00:19:19.599 --> 00:19:22.960 not trying to hide him. And humility is simply being 309 00:19:23.000 --> 00:19:27.759 honest about both. The Bible says, be humble and give 310 00:19:27.799 --> 00:19:31.000 more honor to others than yourselves. Now, why should I 311 00:19:31.079 --> 00:19:36.039 be humble? Because God makes more promises in the Bible 312 00:19:36.079 --> 00:19:41.240 about humility than anything else except generosity. Let me give 313 00:19:41.240 --> 00:19:43.559 you a few things God promises to do if you 314 00:19:44.039 --> 00:19:47.720 live a humble life, if you live dependent upon him, 315 00:19:47.759 --> 00:19:49.880 if you think about others intead of think about yourself. 316 00:19:50.359 --> 00:19:53.400 God says, I will give you my presence, I will 317 00:19:53.440 --> 00:19:56.279 give you my power, I will give you my peace. 318 00:19:57.119 --> 00:20:00.519 I will make you prosperous, I will make you successful, 319 00:20:00.839 --> 00:20:05.279 and I will give you great honor. The very thing 320 00:20:05.319 --> 00:20:08.880 everybody once in life. God says, comes not through pride, 321 00:20:09.279 --> 00:20:13.400 not through bragging, not through boasting, not through prop you know, 322 00:20:14.240 --> 00:20:17.240 pretending you're something you're not, not through posing and being 323 00:20:17.319 --> 00:20:20.640 a poser. It comes through humility. And God says, I 324 00:20:20.880 --> 00:20:25.000 bless the humble person. In fact, in James four to six, 325 00:20:25.039 --> 00:20:28.680 they're in your outline. It says this God opposes the proud, 326 00:20:29.519 --> 00:20:33.200 but he gives grace to the humble. Now notice the 327 00:20:33.200 --> 00:20:35.400 good and the bad, the carot and the stick. God 328 00:20:35.440 --> 00:20:38.559 opposes the proud, circle opposes you know what. The Bible says, 329 00:20:38.599 --> 00:20:42.720 God hates pride. Does God hate anything? Oh yeah, there's 330 00:20:42.759 --> 00:20:44.720 some things God hates. And one of the things God 331 00:20:44.799 --> 00:20:53.359 hates is ego, arrogance, pride, conceit self centeredness, self promotion. 332 00:20:53.880 --> 00:20:57.880 God hates pride, and he says God opposes that proud. 333 00:20:57.920 --> 00:21:02.160 That means anytime I am acting, saying something, or thinking 334 00:21:02.240 --> 00:21:06.720 in a prideful way, an arrogant, conceited way, I am 335 00:21:06.799 --> 00:21:09.559 on the opposite side of God. I may even have 336 00:21:09.680 --> 00:21:12.839 the right cause, but if I'm presenting it in a 337 00:21:12.880 --> 00:21:18.799 prideful way. God says you're wrong. Whoa. You may have 338 00:21:18.960 --> 00:21:21.799 all the right politics figured out, but if you're prideful 339 00:21:22.000 --> 00:21:25.480 and arrogant about it, guess what, you're wrong. You're on 340 00:21:25.559 --> 00:21:28.440 the opposite side of God. God doesn't just say, oh, 341 00:21:28.519 --> 00:21:30.039 it's okay, we'll let you get away with a little 342 00:21:30.039 --> 00:21:32.160 bit of pride. God says, I hate it, and I 343 00:21:32.240 --> 00:21:35.839 oppose it. And every time I'm prideful and every time 344 00:21:35.880 --> 00:21:38.279 you're prideful, I'm on the opposite side of God. I'm 345 00:21:38.319 --> 00:21:40.200 in a battle with God, and I'm going to lose 346 00:21:40.200 --> 00:21:42.799 that battle because your arms and my arms are too 347 00:21:42.799 --> 00:21:47.599 short to box with God. That's the negative side. The 348 00:21:47.640 --> 00:21:50.279 positive side is says God opposes the proud, but he 349 00:21:50.319 --> 00:21:54.359 gives grace to the humble. What's grace. Grace is the 350 00:21:54.400 --> 00:21:57.960 ability to forgive when I don't feel like forgiving. Grace 351 00:21:58.160 --> 00:22:00.839 is ability to resolve a conflict with my husband or 352 00:22:00.839 --> 00:22:03.119 my wife when I don't feel like it. Grace is 353 00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:06.880 the ability to compromise. Grace's the ability to get along. 354 00:22:06.960 --> 00:22:10.480 Grace's ability to build a strong relationship when everything wants 355 00:22:10.519 --> 00:22:15.160 to tear your marriage, your friendship, whatever that relationship apart. 356 00:22:16.279 --> 00:22:21.519 You need grace. The only way your relationships will last 357 00:22:21.720 --> 00:22:24.279 is with God's grace. And the only way you get 358 00:22:24.279 --> 00:22:29.160 God's grace is by being humble. So I must never 359 00:22:29.319 --> 00:22:33.799 let my pride be my guide, and I must be humble, 360 00:22:34.200 --> 00:22:38.240 or I will stumble and my relationships will crumble. Man, 361 00:22:38.279 --> 00:22:43.160 I'm a poet. This weekend number three, here's the third 362 00:22:43.200 --> 00:22:47.799 habit for overcoming conflict. This one sounds easy, but we 363 00:22:47.880 --> 00:22:52.839 don't do it. Learn the lost art of paying attention. 364 00:22:54.559 --> 00:22:57.799 If you want to have a happy life, you're going 365 00:22:57.880 --> 00:23:00.599 to have to have happy relationships. In order to have 366 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:03.279 happy relationships, you got to have humility in the middle 367 00:23:03.319 --> 00:23:06.240 of them, and part of that is learning the lost 368 00:23:06.359 --> 00:23:14.799 art of paying attention. We pay attention to screens more 369 00:23:14.839 --> 00:23:19.599 than we pay attention to people. I mean, you walk 370 00:23:19.640 --> 00:23:21.960 into a meeting and how many people are sitting there 371 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:25.960 looking at their phone texting. They're not paying attention to 372 00:23:25.960 --> 00:23:31.680 the people, They're paying attention to screen. Or you know, 373 00:23:31.839 --> 00:23:35.599 your head's always down in a video game, you know, 374 00:23:35.680 --> 00:23:39.160 looking into video game. Or you're walking across a campus 375 00:23:39.559 --> 00:23:42.079 or taking a lunch break and you got earbuds and 376 00:23:42.119 --> 00:23:44.279 you're listening to your iPod there's no way you can 377 00:23:44.319 --> 00:23:47.079 pay attention to people around you. Somebody could be dying 378 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:51.039 and in deep pain, and you're in your own little, 379 00:23:51.279 --> 00:23:55.839 self centered, self centered world. I've closed out everybody else, 380 00:23:55.960 --> 00:23:58.759 and I'm in this. I was in New York City 381 00:23:58.799 --> 00:24:01.839 a few weeks back, and down I swear everybody on 382 00:24:01.880 --> 00:24:05.480 the street was listening to something else, and I'm going 383 00:24:05.720 --> 00:24:08.680 so I could stand here and yell, you know fire, 384 00:24:08.759 --> 00:24:13.759 and nobody even know it because our technology has made 385 00:24:13.839 --> 00:24:18.279 us to no longer pay attention to people. In other words, 386 00:24:18.400 --> 00:24:21.039 you're sitting here with two friends and you're tweeting to 387 00:24:21.119 --> 00:24:26.920 twenty five and then you're really worried about is anybody 388 00:24:26.960 --> 00:24:31.200 retweeting it? Or is anybody liking my post? And what's 389 00:24:31.240 --> 00:24:36.000 that saying? It's all about me? Social media can feed 390 00:24:36.079 --> 00:24:39.200 your narcissism, can feed your pride if you let it, 391 00:24:39.559 --> 00:24:42.759 and you get distracted from seeing the people around you. 392 00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:51.839 Thank you for listening to Pastor Rick's Daily Hope. Hey, 393 00:24:51.880 --> 00:24:54.920 did you know that most people look for happiness in 394 00:24:55.119 --> 00:24:58.799 all the wrong places. You won't find it through money, fame, 395 00:24:59.000 --> 00:25:03.640 or power. You'll only find real, lasting happiness by following 396 00:25:03.680 --> 00:25:07.319 God's commands. And that's why Rick created the Habits of 397 00:25:07.400 --> 00:25:11.759 Happiness Bible Study. You'll discover how happiness runs deeper than 398 00:25:11.920 --> 00:25:18.160 any circumstance, feeling, or relationship because of God's unconditional love 399 00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:22.279 for you. This interactive, full color hardcover book is filled 400 00:25:22.319 --> 00:25:28.680 with biblical truths, scripture, practical lessons, application, exercises, and prayers 401 00:25:28.759 --> 00:25:32.160