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<v Speaker 1>Hey everybody, thanks for joining us today on Pastor Rick's

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<v Speaker 1>Daily Hope. This is the Bible teaching ministry of Rick Warren,

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<v Speaker 1>and today we're starting a series called the Habits of Happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>In this series, Rick dives into the Book of Philippians

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<v Speaker 1>and helps you discover God's path to true and lasting happiness. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to get started. Here's part one of

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<v Speaker 1>a message called grow Healthy Relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>Somebody wrote me this on Facebook, Pastor Rick, I've walked

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<v Speaker 2>down many roads searching for happiness, but nothing is ever

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<v Speaker 2>as good as it promises to be. I'm frustrated. I

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<v Speaker 2>just want to be happy. Can you help me? And

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<v Speaker 2>I would say to that person, absolutely, I can help you.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to start this series by giving you what

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<v Speaker 2>I call five Laws of Happiness. And I apologize that

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't put space in your outline for this, so

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<v Speaker 2>you're just gonna have to write on the sides up

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<v Speaker 2>down the edge because it's not on your outline. I

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<v Speaker 2>added this after I wrote the outline, but I thought

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<v Speaker 2>it would be a good introduction to this series that

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to begin this week, Five Laws of Happiness.

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<v Speaker 2>When somebody says I've been searching for happiness. I've been

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<v Speaker 2>looking for happiness. I want to find happiness. This is

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<v Speaker 2>what I tell them. Number one, don't look for happiness,

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<v Speaker 2>create it. Happiness is not something you look for. Happiness

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<v Speaker 2>is something you create, and it's your choice. You're as

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<v Speaker 2>happy as you choose to be. Actually, it's quite easy created,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're going to be looking at it in this series.

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<v Speaker 2>Number two, Happiness is not a goal. It's actually the

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<v Speaker 2>result of right thinking, right living, right acting. It's the byproduct.

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<v Speaker 2>If you make happiness the goal of your life, you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to live a very self centered life, and that's

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<v Speaker 2>going to end up making you miserable. Making happiness the

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<v Speaker 2>goal of your life will guarantee that you're never going

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<v Speaker 2>to be happy. Happiness is never the goal. It is

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<v Speaker 2>always the result. It's always the byproduct of something else,

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<v Speaker 2>and so if you make it your goal, you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to be miserable. Number three, My habits create my happiness.

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<v Speaker 2>My habits create my happiness. Happiness is a choice. We

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<v Speaker 2>shape our habits and then they shape us. And we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to look at this in detail in this new series.

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<v Speaker 2>How we shape our habits and then our habits shape us,

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<v Speaker 2>and you can create the habits of happiness in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Number four fourth law, Happiness based on happenings is temporary,

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<v Speaker 2>but happiness built on habits is long lasting. I'll say

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<v Speaker 2>it again, happiness that is built on happenings is temporary.

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<v Speaker 2>I go to Disneyland, I'm happy. I come out realize

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<v Speaker 2>how much money spend. I'm not happy. I have the

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<v Speaker 2>happiness of going to see a movie. Everybody's telling me

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<v Speaker 2>is great. It's not so great. I come out not happy, disappointed.

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<v Speaker 2>Anything where you base your happiness on a happening, on

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<v Speaker 2>a circumstance, on an occasion, as soon as the occasion's over,

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<v Speaker 2>you lose your happiness, so you don't want that. Happiness

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<v Speaker 2>based on happenings is short term. It's temporary. Happiness based

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<v Speaker 2>on habits is long term. You can be happy the

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<v Speaker 2>rest of your life. Number five fifth law is this.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy habits are as addicting as bad habits, but they

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<v Speaker 2>are a whole lot more rewarding. There aren't the negatives

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<v Speaker 2>that are given to bad habits. Now, bad habits take

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<v Speaker 2>some time to develop. You don't develop them overnight, and

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<v Speaker 2>the same thing with good habits. You don't develop them overnight.

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<v Speaker 2>But happiness and the habits of happiness can be developed

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<v Speaker 2>so that they become habitual in your life. Now this weekend,

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<v Speaker 2>we're beginning this new series I'm calling the Habits of Happiness.

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<v Speaker 2>And what we're going to do is we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>go through the Book of Philippians, verse by verse, through

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<v Speaker 2>the books, through the chapters of Philippians. Now, Philippians is

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<v Speaker 2>a great book. It's the happiest book in the Bible.

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<v Speaker 2>The word joy, the word glad, the word enjoy, the

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<v Speaker 2>word rejoice, of the word happy, happiness, these words that

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<v Speaker 2>are used in various forms seventeen times in a very

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<v Speaker 2>short book. It's the happiest book in the Bible. It

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<v Speaker 2>was written by Paul. And what's amazing that this happiest

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<v Speaker 2>book in the Bible is written by Paul while he's

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<v Speaker 2>in prison in Rome, which means your happiness isn't based

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<v Speaker 2>on your happenings or your happenstances. And actually what this

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<v Speaker 2>book is is a thank you note. Paul is writing

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<v Speaker 2>that he started, he planted. He's now in prison in Rome,

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<v Speaker 2>and he's writing to thank them. He's thanking them for

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<v Speaker 2>financial gifts that they've given to him. He's fine, thanking

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<v Speaker 2>them for their prayers, for their support, for their love,

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<v Speaker 2>all these things. And it's actually the most personal book

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<v Speaker 2>in the Bible. And we're going to look at it

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<v Speaker 2>together for the next twelve weeks as we go verse

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<v Speaker 2>by verse through the Book of Philippians. Now, I want

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<v Speaker 2>to encourage you to bring your Bible with you because

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<v Speaker 2>you can mark it up as we go straight through

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<v Speaker 2>the chapters, like we do this. If you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be happy, where do you start? I mean, really, what

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<v Speaker 2>would you start with? Money? Sex? Time? What would you

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<v Speaker 2>start with? You say, we need to learn how to

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<v Speaker 2>be really happy in life. Paul starts with relationships. With relationships,

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<v Speaker 2>it is impossible to be happy while your relationships are unhappy. Iver,

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<v Speaker 2>I agree with that. You can meet all kinds of people.

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<v Speaker 2>They've got all kinds of money, they've got all kinds

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<v Speaker 2>of fame, they've got every kind of pleasure you can imagine.

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<v Speaker 2>But if they're in the middle of a divorce, they're

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<v Speaker 2>not happy. If your relationships are unhappy, your life is

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<v Speaker 2>going to be unhappy. So Paul, when he starts talking

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<v Speaker 2>about and modeling the habits of happiness, He begins right

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<v Speaker 2>off the bat the first eleven verses of Philippians chapter one,

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<v Speaker 2>talking about how do you have happy relationships? How do

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<v Speaker 2>you have healthy relationships? So we've got to start here

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<v Speaker 2>before we can go anywhere else in the Habits of Happiness. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>in the first eleven verses, Paul makes his description of

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<v Speaker 2>his relationship. He describes his relationship to the people of Philippi,

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<v Speaker 2>and he gives us four statements. And we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>come back and look at these as habits you can

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<v Speaker 2>develop to have healthier, happier relationships. Let me read it

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<v Speaker 2>to you, Philippians chapter one. This letter is from Paul

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<v Speaker 2>and Timothy, slaves of Jesus Christ. It's written to all

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<v Speaker 2>of God's people and philipp I who believe in Jesus Christ,

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<v Speaker 2>and the elders and the deacons of the church. May God,

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<v Speaker 2>our Father and Lord Jesus Christ give you grace and peace.

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<v Speaker 2>That's his introduction. Now he gets into his first subject.

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<v Speaker 2>He says, every time I think of you, I give

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<v Speaker 2>thanks to my God. I always pray for you, and

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<v Speaker 2>I make my request with a heart full of joy

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<v Speaker 2>because you've been my partners and spreading the good news

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<v Speaker 2>about Christ, from the time you first heard it until now.

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<v Speaker 2>And I am confident that God, who began this good

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<v Speaker 2>work within you, will continue his work until it's finally

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<v Speaker 2>finished on the day when Jesus Christ comes back again.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it's right that I should feel as I do

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<v Speaker 2>about all of you, for you have a very special

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<v Speaker 2>place in my heart. We've shared together the blessings of God,

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<v Speaker 2>both when I was in prison, when I was out

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<v Speaker 2>defending the truth and telling others the good news. God

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<v Speaker 2>knows how much I love you and how I long

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<v Speaker 2>for you. Can't you see the personal nature of this book,

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<v Speaker 2>how much I love you and long for you with

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<v Speaker 2>the tender compassion of Christ. Jesus and I pray that

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<v Speaker 2>your love for each other will overflow more and more.

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<v Speaker 2>And I pray that you will keep on growing in

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<v Speaker 2>your knowledge and understanding, for I want you to understand

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<v Speaker 2>what really matters, so that you may live pure and

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<v Speaker 2>blameless lives until Christ returns. And may you always be

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<v Speaker 2>filled with the fruit of your salvation, those good things

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<v Speaker 2>that are produced in your life by Jesus Christ, for

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<v Speaker 2>this will bring much glory and praise to God. Now

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<v Speaker 2>in that passage, just those few eleven verses, Paul tells

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<v Speaker 2>us four things about his relationship with the Philippians, and

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<v Speaker 2>he tells us that there are models in his life now.

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<v Speaker 2>In the first eleven verses of Philippians, Paul models four

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<v Speaker 2>relational habits that if you will just practice these things,

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<v Speaker 2>your relationships will be more enjoyable and your happiness will

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<v Speaker 2>be greater. They are easy to explain, they are simple

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<v Speaker 2>to understand, but they are incredibly hard to do because

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<v Speaker 2>when I tell you these, you go, oh, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>know this, I know this, but you don't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>And so although it's easy for me to teach them,

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<v Speaker 2>it's very hard for all of us to practice them.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you will do these four relational habits and

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<v Speaker 2>you'll build them in your life, your relationships will be

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<v Speaker 2>transformed and you'll be happy. All right, let's look at

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<v Speaker 2>it first. Number one, to be happy, The first thing

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<v Speaker 2>all says is this, I must be grateful for the

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<v Speaker 2>people in my life. I must be grateful for the

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<v Speaker 2>people in my life. Study after study after study after

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<v Speaker 2>study after study link gratitude to happiness. It's been proven

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<v Speaker 2>over and over by psychologists, sociologists, and others that the

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<v Speaker 2>more grateful you are, the more happy you are, the

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<v Speaker 2>more ungrateful you are, the more unhappy you are. And

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<v Speaker 2>if you want to have good relationships, you start with

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<v Speaker 2>the attitude of gratitude. You will be far happier. You

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<v Speaker 2>will enjoy your relationships more if you will develop the

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<v Speaker 2>habit of being grateful for the people in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>The habit of being grateful for the people in your life. Filippius,

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<v Speaker 2>Chapter one, verse three. Paul starts off with this this

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<v Speaker 2>remember he's in Rome. They're in a city called Philippi.

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<v Speaker 2>Every time I think of you, I give thanks. I

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<v Speaker 2>give thanks to my God. Paul says, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I remember the good things about you, and I focus

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<v Speaker 2>on the good times we've had friends. That simple truth

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<v Speaker 2>right there is the source of good relationships. And when

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<v Speaker 2>marriages stop doing this, they crumble. When you stop remembering

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<v Speaker 2>you to that person. When you stop remembering the good times,

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<v Speaker 2>when you stop being grateful for your mate, your marriage

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<v Speaker 2>is already on a long slide into oblivion. Paul says,

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<v Speaker 2>every time I think of you, I give thanks to

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<v Speaker 2>God for you. Let me ask you just be real, honest.

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<v Speaker 2>When you think of the people in your life, do

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<v Speaker 2>you automatically is your first thought gratitude? No, it's not. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's what do they need to do for me? Are

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<v Speaker 2>they late? Are they in a hurry? Uh? What's not right?

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<v Speaker 2>What have we had a problem with? What have we

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<v Speaker 2>got to get done? Your first thought is not gratitude,

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<v Speaker 2>Paul says. When I think of you, the first thing

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<v Speaker 2>I do is I think your gratitude. I'm grateful for

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<v Speaker 2>who you are, I'm grateful for what you've done. Now

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<v Speaker 2>here's the problem with this. The problem with this is

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<v Speaker 2>the longer you know someone number one you take them,

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<v Speaker 2>the more you take them for granted. Isn't that true?

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<v Speaker 2>The longer you know someone, the more you take them

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<v Speaker 2>for granted, the more you focus on their faults, and

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<v Speaker 2>the easier it is to remember bad times. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know why it is, but it's easier to remember bap

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<v Speaker 2>times than it is happy times. Paul says, every time

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<v Speaker 2>I think of you, I give thanks. If you would

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<v Speaker 2>just develop this habit that whenever you think of the

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<v Speaker 2>people in your life, your friends, your neighbors, your husband,

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<v Speaker 2>your wife, your kids, your relatives, whatever, that the first

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<v Speaker 2>thought is gratitude. It's going to change your relationship. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>that's a habit you have to develop. It does not

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<v Speaker 2>wanting more, wanting things to be different. Philippians, Chapter one,

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<v Speaker 2>verse five. Paul says it again, I thank God. I

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<v Speaker 2>said several times in Paul's travels, the Philippian Church was

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<v Speaker 2>funding Paul's missionaries journeys. And in this particular instance, they

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<v Speaker 2>said nearly died on the way, we'll get to that

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<v Speaker 2>later in the book. And now Paul is sending him

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<v Speaker 2>back with this thank you note to the people in Philippi,

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<v Speaker 2>and he says, I thank God for the help you

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<v Speaker 2>gave me. I just wonder what is it that you

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<v Speaker 2>have forgotten that other people have done for you. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>He didn't have a good time in Philippi. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>it was one of his roughest churches getting started. But

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<v Speaker 2>you don't get any of that in this letter. The

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<v Speaker 2>fact is when Paul went to the city to start

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<v Speaker 2>God for you, what is he doing? He is choosing

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<v Speaker 2>selective memory. This was not a happy place all at time.

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<v Speaker 2>It happened, but Paul chose not to dwell on painful memories.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you still living some painful memories with some people

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<v Speaker 2>in your life? You've never let them off the hook,

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<v Speaker 2>and you can't enjoy relationship because you're still holding on

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<v Speaker 2>to the past. Would you write this down? Memories our choice?

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<v Speaker 2>Memories our choice. I remember hearing a story one time

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<v Speaker 2>when your husband did da da da da da da da?

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<v Speaker 2>And she said, I distinctly remember forgetting that. That's a choice.

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<v Speaker 2>Your memories our choice. Now, if you want to hold

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<v Speaker 2>that painful memories. In Philip it was not a happy

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<v Speaker 2>time for everything that happened there, as they said, beaten,

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<v Speaker 2>maligned and all these things. But he says, every time

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<v Speaker 2>choosing to be grateful for the people in his life. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>in this series, I'm going to give you what I

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<v Speaker 2>here's the first one I get. I want to give

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<v Speaker 2>you the whole series. Remember the best and forget the rest.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to be happy, remember the best and

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<v Speaker 2>forget the rest. Develop selective memory. By the way, September

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<v Speaker 2>twenty one is World Gratitude Day. Did you know that?

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<v Speaker 2>people in your life and write down five or ten

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<v Speaker 2>things you can say, I'm really grateful for these things

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<v Speaker 2>in their lives. It's the first habit the attitude of

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<v Speaker 2>gratitude will transfer in a relationship. If you're not grateful,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna have all kinds of complaining, worrying, all kinds

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<v Speaker 2>of other things. I've got to be grateful for the

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<v Speaker 2>people in my life. Number two, the second habit of

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<v Speaker 2>happiness in relational happiness is this, I need to not

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<v Speaker 2>only be grateful for the people in my life. I

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<v Speaker 2>need to pray with joy for the people in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to pray joyfully. I need to pray with

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<v Speaker 2>joy for the people in my life. Now Paul is

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<v Speaker 2>praying as we just read this passage, praying for these people.

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<v Speaker 2>How would you like to have the apostle Paul praying

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<v Speaker 2>for you. You think that would help the guy who wrote

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<v Speaker 2>much of the New Testament, wouldn't you like? Don't you

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<v Speaker 2>know those Philippians thought, Hey, this is pretty cool. Paul

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<v Speaker 2>is praying for us. Doesn't it encourage you to know

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<v Speaker 2>when somebody is praying for you? Yes, yes, it does.

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<v Speaker 2>It encourages you. In fact, the thing that keeps me

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<v Speaker 2>going is your prayers. And when people say I'm praying

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<v Speaker 2>for you, pastor Rick, I take that serious because it's

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<v Speaker 2>what I move on. It is that power that I

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<v Speaker 2>move on, Paul says. In verse four, he says this,

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<v Speaker 2>I always pray for you. Now that's part of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But notice the rest of the verse. And I make

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<v Speaker 2>my request when he's praying for you, he says, with

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<v Speaker 2>a heart full of joy. Now I want you to

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<v Speaker 2>this minute, think of somebody who irritates you. Don't look

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<v Speaker 2>at him, just think of him. Okay, maybe somebody you've

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<v Speaker 2>got a strained relationship with, or they just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>rub you the wrong way. I have two questions for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Number one, do you pray for them? Okay? Do you

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<v Speaker 2>pray for it? Or do you just complain and grumble

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<v Speaker 2>and nag a nitpick. If you prayed more, you'd have

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<v Speaker 2>a lot less to grumble, complain, nagging, nitpit about. So

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<v Speaker 2>you can decide, does nagging work no? Does prayer work yes?

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<v Speaker 2>So why do you do more of the thing that

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't work than does? Paul says, I pray for you,

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<v Speaker 2>and you need to pray for the people in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>But then he says, I pray for you making requests

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<v Speaker 2>with a heartful of joy. When you do pray, do

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<v Speaker 2>you pray with joy? Now, let me give you a

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<v Speaker 2>little secret here. There are things within people's lives around

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<v Speaker 2>you you'd like to change. You don't want to change yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You want them to change. If she would just do this,

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<v Speaker 2>if she would just do that, if he would just

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<v Speaker 2>do this. And we always want to change other people.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't. You can't change anybody. You cannot change anybody.

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<v Speaker 2>They can only change themselves, and you can only change yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>So all of that trying to change your change program

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't work. But you can't pray. God can change people.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for listening to Pastor Rick's Daily Hope. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>did you know that most people look for happiness in

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<v Speaker 1>all the wrong places? You won't find it through money, fame,

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<v Speaker 1>or power. You'll only find real, lasting happiness by following

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<v Speaker 1>God's commands. And that's why Rick created the Habits of

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<v Speaker 1>Happiness Bible Study. Here's Rick to tell you more.

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<v Speaker 2>If you'd like to learn more about the Habits of Happiness,

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to discover how happiness runs deeper than any

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<v Speaker 2>It's a really powerful workbook and it's a comprehensive study

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