Speaker 1: Hey, guys, Princess here, I'm welcome to another episode of
Speaker 1: by Pumpkin Wrap Up Edition. So I don't know how
Speaker 1: these wrap ups have been going. I don't get a
Speaker 1: lot of feedback. I like, I don't get a lot
Speaker 1: of like direct feedback. I see that you guys are
Speaker 1: listening to it. I did have somebody reach out once
Speaker 1: to ask me if I was gonna do one this week,
Speaker 1: So I am assuming you guys like this. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I like it. I think it. I
Speaker 1: think yeah. It lets me get out a lot of
Speaker 1: just talk I want to do every week, just you know.
Speaker 1: And it's it's free form, so I get to like
Speaker 1: choose what I want to talk about. I'm not like
Speaker 1: really containing into a box. For the most part, I
Speaker 1: think it makes my other episode shorter because I don't
Speaker 1: have as many tangents to talk about me. I got
Speaker 1: a tangent, guys, if I'm if I got anything, it's
Speaker 1: a motherfucking tangent. I ain't got to do nothing but
Speaker 1: stay black, die and have a tangent. But I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm adding another thirty minutes or twenty minutes to
Speaker 1: an episode to talk about something that I want. That
Speaker 1: just happened. I just want to like state my opinion
Speaker 1: on so. And I don't know if that's a good
Speaker 1: experience for you guys or not. I I I almost
Speaker 1: want to be like, can somebody like send me a
Speaker 1: message and let me know? But I don't want to
Speaker 1: do that because if I do that, then that means
Speaker 1: that I will I'll probably just get people that, you know,
Speaker 1: that like it as opposed to people that do. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't think I'll get a good sampling
Speaker 1: if I do if I do something like that. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's going well. We'll see how the how
Speaker 1: it goes. Uh. So this week, let's figure out what
Speaker 1: we wanna talk about. All right, Let's start off with
Speaker 1: there's a new Black Panther in the house. Uh. If
Speaker 1: you don't know, Marvel Movies is doing a Black Panther three. Uh,
Speaker 1: and they have they have not recast Chadwick Boseman. Now
Speaker 1: that's the he's the guy who played the original Black Panther.
Speaker 1: He did it very well. We were really happy with
Speaker 1: that first movie. And he died of cancer not long after,
Speaker 1: which is never great for a Marvel actor because until
Speaker 1: they were ready to reboot you. They expect this actor
Speaker 1: to keep showing right. You're usually doing at least three
Speaker 1: or four movies, you know. I think Tom Holland is
Speaker 1: on his fourth Spider Man. I think it's gonna probably
Speaker 1: be his last Spider Man. This four Spider Man over
Speaker 1: a decade. Although Spider Man is owned by Sony and
Speaker 1: lint out tomorrow. It's a it's a little bit of
Speaker 1: a different thing. But so that movie being such a
Speaker 1: spectacular hit, uh resonating with so many, particularly black people.
Speaker 1: I mean that's who it resonated with. I'm sure lots
Speaker 1: of other people liked it, but that was its main audience.
Speaker 1: And then for him to pass on it was really hard.
Speaker 1: I say hard, like like it's harder for us than
Speaker 1: his fucking family and friends and people that lost them
Speaker 1: in their lives. I'm just saying that it was not
Speaker 1: the ideal situation. Literally, no one's fault. And then so
Speaker 1: he passed on. We had a Black Panther two in
Speaker 1: which we had to really focus on Shurry his sister.
Speaker 1: I got a lot of great lego sets out out
Speaker 1: of that fucking Black Panther too. I love my Black
Speaker 1: Panther lego sets. Guys, did you know for my birthday?
Speaker 1: I got five World Cup Lego sets, five of them.
Speaker 1: I got a US a US World Cup little kind
Speaker 1: of dow Hickey that you could put either the men
Speaker 1: or the I obviously put the women. I want to
Speaker 1: put the winning teams on there. It's really cute. I
Speaker 1: got little individual sets for Mbape, Vinnie Junior, Messi, and Ronaldo.
Speaker 1: They didn't they didn't have a belling Ham, they didn't
Speaker 1: have a haul In. They didn't they didn't have a
Speaker 1: Namar Junior. Obviously they didn't have I don't know, I
Speaker 1: can name some other people that that I'm kind of into.
Speaker 1: They didn't have them. But you know, I got five sets.
Speaker 1: I am now down. I might be down like eleven
Speaker 1: or twelve. Like I got a backlog of like twelve
Speaker 1: fucking Lego sets. I got legos back from Wicket that
Speaker 1: I ain't did yet. I got a lot of shit.
Speaker 1: I think I got a spider Man uh the big
Speaker 1: one where okay from the last spider Man movie where
Speaker 1: all the Spider Mans were fighting uh together? The so
Speaker 1: who were there were like four spider Mans for fighting
Speaker 1: together and they were fighting sand Like, I got that
Speaker 1: fucking set and there are new Spider Man sets out.
Speaker 1: Here's the issue. I don't have a ton of space
Speaker 1: right now. My husband has built me. I mean, if
Speaker 1: you saw my office, my husband has built me, uh
Speaker 1: a collection of shelves and shelving in which I get
Speaker 1: to keep legos. I don't think I'm gonna have a
Speaker 1: topsperce forever. I'm gonna have to reconfigure. I also have
Speaker 1: an attic full of dollhouses. I put my doll houses
Speaker 1: away cause something happened to them, and I was upset.
Speaker 1: Something happened to like one of my doll houses. Like,
Speaker 1: I have a doll house I haven't even put together.
Speaker 1: I think it's a pizza shop. I really needed a
Speaker 1: pizza shop. I got it for Christmas. I still didn't
Speaker 1: put it together. It's just chilling. I have an attic
Speaker 1: full of dollhouses, dolls, and accessories, and it's very specific.
Speaker 1: If you haven't heard me talk about my miniature obsession,
Speaker 1: I probably what you're what you're envisioning is not what like.
Speaker 1: I have a very specific aesthetic and I have very
Speaker 1: specific dolls. They're not like baby dolls or anything. They're
Speaker 1: I guess, I guess most people call them more like figures.
Speaker 1: I just have a very specific aesthetic. And what I
Speaker 1: really need is some of my children to grow up
Speaker 1: so I can use their rooms. I need to get out.
Speaker 1: I don't ever want my children to leave, except for
Speaker 1: when I'm thinking about setting up a room that's half
Speaker 1: legos and half miniatures. The person, you guys know, I
Speaker 1: don't give a Robin Brown. I think she's I don't
Speaker 1: think she's hitler. I think she's a medium evil lady. Jesus,
Speaker 1: a white lady with bad eyebrows. That lies a lot,
Speaker 1: all right. So she's like medium evil and so evil,
Speaker 1: but just medium evil. She's not gonna be the top
Speaker 1: of the top. She's not winning any awards for evilness.
Speaker 1: But when it came out that she bought all these
Speaker 1: fucking dollhouses, I think she bought dolls too. And I'm
Speaker 1: not literally a doll person. I like the figures in
Speaker 1: my dollhouses. When she brought all these fucking doll houses,
Speaker 1: I was like, well, hold the fuck up, we might
Speaker 1: have some this most relatable thing she's ever done. It's
Speaker 1: by two thousand dollars worth of fucking doll shit, or
Speaker 1: do you get see? But GE can just imagine if
Speaker 1: I had the space, Cause, m my dollhouses are a town,
Speaker 1: like I set them up, like I have the apartment
Speaker 1: building here and the shop, the with the with the grocery,
Speaker 1: with the bodega at the bottom. I have you know,
Speaker 1: the farm, the house, the pizza shop. I got a bookstore.
Speaker 1: I got a a coffee thing, a coffee shop. A
Speaker 1: lot of shit. And what I love to do when
Speaker 1: they're out. When they're out is what I love to
Speaker 1: do is I love to be able to cut, to
Speaker 1: set up stories, storylines throughout the thing, and just you know,
Speaker 1: every day spend like ten minutes moving forward my stories.
Speaker 1: Like I have this gay couple. Oh, I have this treehouse.
Speaker 1: Maybe this treehouse is bad ass, Okay, nobody had. I
Speaker 1: have a log cabin. I got a lot of shit.
Speaker 1: I wish I could sit down and think about how many,
Speaker 1: but they're all panantic Anyway. I have this gay couple
Speaker 1: that live in my apartment. We live in one of
Speaker 1: the apartments in my apartment building in my brownstone, And
Speaker 1: they have a son, and his son's getting bullied at school?
Speaker 1: Who is he getting bullied by the daughter of their neighbor.
Speaker 1: And she's you know why she's bullying him because her
Speaker 1: father is having an emotional affair with one of the
Speaker 1: gay dads. She found out about it, and so she's
Speaker 1: been bullying that little boy. And so they've been going
Speaker 1: to the school. I have a schoolhouse. They've been going
Speaker 1: to the school, down to the school to like talk
Speaker 1: to the principal and everything about it. And you know,
Speaker 1: like obviously the one having an affair kind of knows why,
Speaker 1: like doesn't know why, but like it is uncomfortable to connection,
Speaker 1: and the one that's not having an affair is just like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck is going on. We've
Speaker 1: been down here three times, like tell her to leave
Speaker 1: my kid alone. And so then they're in a confrontation
Speaker 1: at the coffee shop because they're all getting coffee at
Speaker 1: the same time, and you know, the one that's not
Speaker 1: in the affair is like, hey, you need to get
Speaker 1: control of your little brat over there, and the mom
Speaker 1: is like, well, who are you calling a brat? And
Speaker 1: so they're getting into it. But the two men, the
Speaker 1: two fathers that are like having an emotional affair, are
Speaker 1: like kind of sitting back because they don't they don't
Speaker 1: want to bring attention to it. So they can't just
Speaker 1: walk up on each other at the coffee. So they're like,
Speaker 1: oh no, leave it alone, leave it alone, leave it alone.
Speaker 2: And yeah, like it's drama and I have to put
Speaker 2: Like I ideally I could set up my little stories,
Speaker 2: like the cashier at the bodega, she's stealing.
Speaker 1: She's stealing, why she's dealing. She's a drug problem. Her
Speaker 1: boyfriend got her on drugs. And he lives at the
Speaker 1: top of the apartment complex, in a in a study
Speaker 1: at the apartment at the top of the Brownstone in
Speaker 1: a studio apartment. He's an artist, he plays the guitar,
Speaker 1: he has all those things in there, and like babes
Speaker 1: and she lives at home with her parents. She had
Speaker 1: to move back in with her parents, right, And it's
Speaker 1: hard though, because like her parents had her young, really young,
Speaker 1: like they were teens, right, And then they decided to
Speaker 1: stay together and like like try to make this work.
Speaker 1: But then they broke up because I mean, how are
Speaker 1: you supposed to stay together when you're like sixteen years
Speaker 1: old with a fucking baby. So they broke up, lived
Speaker 1: their lives, ended up reconnecting, Yes, reconnecting, Like when the
Speaker 1: girl was like eight years old, like a Hallmark movie.
Speaker 1: They get married, they start having more children, so she's
Speaker 1: eight years older than all of her biological children siblings. Okay,
Speaker 1: so the all event is really nice fucking house, and
Speaker 1: she just feels different because those kids have different parents
Speaker 1: than the parents she is. She was she her parents
Speaker 1: when she were little were fighting in the fucking parking
Speaker 1: lot and pick up and drop off. But now these
Speaker 1: younger kids, they just got everything. They've got a nice party,
Speaker 1: pottery barn set up that I bought from Pottery bon.
Speaker 1: It's just a really nice house. But she had to
Speaker 1: move in because she she had dropped out of school
Speaker 1: and she just really like was trying to find herself.
Speaker 1: So you move back in, but she always feels like
Speaker 1: the leftover, even though she's technically these are her biological parents,
Speaker 1: her biological siblings. This is my step parent, you know,
Speaker 1: moved onor bladed parent thing. It's just the way it happened.
Speaker 1: And so she's living with them. They don't even know
Speaker 1: she's a drug addict and addict and addict at whatever
Speaker 1: I'm saying and like, but she's stealing from the bodega,
Speaker 1: and the bodego owner, mister chen is gonna find out. Also,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking I'm thinking that maybe maybe the girl, the
Speaker 1: girl working at the bodega, the bodega girl, it's gonna
Speaker 1: leave out some of her drugs in the house, and
Speaker 1: one of her siblings is gonna get into it, and
Speaker 1: it's gonna be very Fiona in her worst season, shameless.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, I'm thinking that might happen. Or they'll buy
Speaker 1: a horse, because I do have a little farm horse. Yeah,
Speaker 1: why am I talking about that? Part of the reason,
Speaker 1: I like, I've always really loved doll houses since I
Speaker 1: was like super small, and part of the problem part
Speaker 1: is not a problem. When I was young, I just
Speaker 1: didn't get doll houses. I got one very plastically that
Speaker 1: had stickers and stuff on it that were the doors
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. But I got there when I
Speaker 1: was really young, and we you know, we're in the military,
Speaker 1: moved a lot and went told a lot of fucking
Speaker 1: schools every year. And it wasn't just being in the military,
Speaker 1: it was also my parent and like to move a
Speaker 1: lot cause we'd be at a certain station, they move
Speaker 1: a lot within that city. And I don't want to
Speaker 1: say like too like they were like, oh, you don't
Speaker 1: let's move. I think that circumstances have been life like.
Speaker 1: They moved a lot because of as a reaction to
Speaker 1: certain things. So I lost that dollhouse. But I always
Speaker 1: used to love little figurines, and I always used to
Speaker 1: love doll houses. I go to people's houses and if
Speaker 1: they have one of those big wooden doll houses, I'd
Speaker 1: like get lost in it. I wasn't really a Barbie
Speaker 1: dollhouse type of chick, but I don't hate them. I
Speaker 1: really like a smaller dimension. But yeah, I just always
Speaker 1: loved them. And part of me starting to collect dollhouses
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, maybe shit, five six, seven
Speaker 1: years ago, I was just like, yeah, I can just
Speaker 1: have a doll house if I want one, and I
Speaker 1: don't have to buy it for a kid and be
Speaker 1: like ooh, look at the dollhouse, don't you No, I
Speaker 1: could just buy my own and enjoy it. And it's
Speaker 1: been a really great reclaiming of my childhood and like
Speaker 1: a reparenting of myself. And I know that that sounds
Speaker 1: a little kooky to a lot of people that are like,
Speaker 1: I don't believe in that shit, Okay, fine, but reparenting
Speaker 1: my inner child part of it is letting her have shit,
Speaker 1: not being like if you get a cabbage patch doll,
Speaker 1: nobody here will be able to eat anymore, you know.
Speaker 1: And that's why I have lots of Legos. They really
Speaker 1: interested me. I love them. They're usually like with some
Speaker 1: really cool ip that community lego set. Ever gets off
Speaker 1: the fucking ground, Jesus Christ, I will be there for it.
Speaker 1: And the dollhouses, and you know, I used to be
Speaker 1: a kid that would that that one little dollhouse I
Speaker 1: had that didn't have any people and the furniture was
Speaker 1: all plastic and and like the windows were stickers and everything.
Speaker 1: I love that fucking dollhouse. I used to sit there
Speaker 1: and do spec stories for like just the ten of
Speaker 1: us and growing pains. I would pretend the kids were
Speaker 1: differ were different, the the f I had some like
Speaker 1: figurings that didn't go for that doll house, but they
Speaker 1: fit in there, and I would pretend like they were
Speaker 1: characters from from Golden Girls and stuff. And I would
Speaker 1: like make an episode with my dollhouses. I would. I
Speaker 1: was serious about the the lighting. I would move the
Speaker 1: lamp around, which would annoy my brothers, cause at this
Speaker 1: point we all shared a room I would move the
Speaker 1: lamp around so that I could mimic uh like sunlight
Speaker 1: pouring through the cause some of my some of my
Speaker 1: setups really needed, like the sunlight was a was was
Speaker 1: one of the characters, Okay, it was a paid actor.
Speaker 1: I needed the sunlight to stream through as the characters
Speaker 1: were talking to each other about their their you know,
Speaker 1: their boyfriends or whatever. I these things really like, like
Speaker 1: I don't know, I if there's one thing I know
Speaker 1: about myself, I'm imaginative, okay, And I love to make
Speaker 1: up a good fucking story. And that's what That's what
Speaker 1: I used to do and I loved it. And so
Speaker 1: as an adult, I have nicer doll houses, way nicer
Speaker 1: shit and obviously and I don't necessarily want to build
Speaker 1: them from scratch, you know those like green leaf doll
Speaker 1: houses and like paying everything. I mean, I don't hate
Speaker 1: that idea, right, I don't hate that idea. But also
Speaker 1: like I don't know, I I I like what I have.
Speaker 1: I just I really like to get to the story
Speaker 1: building part. So can you imagine if I just had
Speaker 1: a space in my house where I just had I
Speaker 1: was able to like really clean set that shit up,
Speaker 1: get the lighting. Real good. Not worry about somebody bringing
Speaker 1: their child to my house and them touching my doll houses.
Speaker 1: My kids, no fucking better, those are not toys for them.
Speaker 1: Although I will say this, my little bear bear, he
Speaker 1: absolutely my doll houses with out or out would be like,
Speaker 1: so do you think I could just play with this
Speaker 1: tree house and this target that's happening at this treehouse
Speaker 1: and I gild be and I'd be like, yeah, just
Speaker 1: for now. He put my stuff back, he put all
Speaker 1: the dishes back, he'd make sure my beds were made again,
Speaker 1: that sort of stuff, because I'm sorry, in my imaginary town,
Speaker 1: people make their beds like they're just not wandering around. Well,
Speaker 1: maybe the drug addict won't make her bed. No, she
Speaker 1: makes her bed. She has to. She has to keep
Speaker 1: up appearances or her parents will find out she's really
Speaker 1: doing her best. Did I to mention she was like
Speaker 1: a gifted student. She was like she was in she's
Speaker 1: she's she was like in a gifted program A plus
Speaker 1: us plus went off to college. Really fucked up. Shit, shit,
Speaker 1: just got fucked up. Met that guy, he introduced her
Speaker 1: to h Things went downhill from there, and she's just
Speaker 1: trying to make everything okay and like figure it out.
Speaker 1: But she's really in love with him. He's gonna od.
Speaker 1: I don't know when, Maybe when I get my doll
Speaker 1: houses up, she's gonna od. He's gonna od. Probably the
Speaker 1: same week her little her kid brother gets in her drugs.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Anyway, don't know why I'm talking about that. Oh,
Speaker 1: I started talking about Legos. I have a lot of
Speaker 1: l Lego sets I'm behind, and it's mostly because I'm
Speaker 1: thinking of reconfiguring my setups and some of my some
Speaker 1: of the pieces I gotta do are are pretty big.
Speaker 1: And I was thinking about Legos because I got a er.
Speaker 1: I got a n lot of nice pieces from the
Speaker 1: from from Black Panther. Anyway, back to Black Panther, Black
Speaker 1: Panther two comes out. It's it's focused on Shurry Black
Speaker 1: Panther's uh younger sister and she becomes the Black Panther.
Speaker 1: This is not I don't think this is too far
Speaker 1: from comic uh storylines. But again, these Marvel movies do
Speaker 1: not have to fit the comics. UH sometimes to give
Speaker 1: a little nod to the comics. But there, but I
Speaker 1: and adaptation is a fucking adaptation and not doesn't be exact.
Speaker 1: So anyway, she she does a lot of Black Panthers
Speaker 1: type shit, and you know, they liked her and everything.
Speaker 1: She was fine, but people really Misschad with Bozeman. And
Speaker 1: also they were filming during COVID and this bitch did
Speaker 1: not want to get a COVID. She held up production
Speaker 1: like a motherfucker real like, I don't know herbs can
Speaker 1: cure me type bitch. Okay, fine, so then we're getting
Speaker 1: Black Panther three. And at the end of Black Panther two,
Speaker 1: Carla's dead. Chap with Bowman's character is dead. But Lupita
Speaker 1: nuangey Lupita, I don't I'm not saying her name correctly.
Speaker 1: Lupita's has had his baby in secret, and Sherry finally
Speaker 1: like visits her in I don't Puerto Rico or Vinnegirta.
Speaker 1: The she's somewhere and she meets her son, and if
Speaker 1: you watch the cut scene at the he tells her
Speaker 1: my he says, my mother says you can keep secrets,
Speaker 1: the good secrets, and he goes and she's he's She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I can keep a secret, and he and he goes.
Speaker 1: My real name is Chackla Takla whatever Chakla, and that
Speaker 1: she's the she's uh, he's the son of the Black Panther.
Speaker 1: And so we've got a casting for Sea for uh,
Speaker 1: the third sequel, and it is what is his name?
Speaker 1: I've never heard of this man to day in my life.
Speaker 1: His name is David Johnson. He's a brit That's I
Speaker 1: don't know why anybody have a problem with that. They're
Speaker 1: doing fake accents in this fucking movie anyway, They're doing afrofuturism.
Speaker 1: The accents don't go together. The accents are real bad, Okay,
Speaker 1: do not. The amount of the amount of African culture
Speaker 1: in this movie is similar to the amount of African
Speaker 1: culture in coming to America, which is almost nothing. So
Speaker 1: don't go for that. But I mean, the movies are
Speaker 1: really popular and a lot of people are upset that
Speaker 1: that of who he's being cast. I mean, this is
Speaker 1: just like normal shit these days. Right, They tell you
Speaker 1: they cast someone and everyone's like, what, Oh, I don't
Speaker 1: want that one, we want this one. Meanwhile, the casting
Speaker 1: of a movie or a show is far more complicated
Speaker 1: than the than somebody that you think looks good on paper,
Speaker 1: and actually I can do the part they've got to
Speaker 1: be available, they've got to be affordable. And Ryan Kugler,
Speaker 1: I believe he wrote and directed it. I don't. Maybe
Speaker 1: he's just directed it. You know, he's been so successful
Speaker 1: with the Black Panther movies. He chose David and Off
Speaker 1: we Go. And I trust Ryan Kugler's vision for it
Speaker 1: because it is it is his, is right. Everything we've
Speaker 1: seen comes from him. It's why Michael B. Jordan was
Speaker 1: in it. Michael Jordan was in the second one, even
Speaker 1: though I think he's dead, he might be an the
Speaker 1: third one. Who knows, But there's a lot of people
Speaker 1: saying they want to Dampson Idris Idris Dampson, Gosh, he's
Speaker 1: not the guy. He's from Snowfall, the one that dated
Speaker 1: Lori Harvey. Damnson Idris is his name, and people were like,
Speaker 1: he couldn't get in because he dated Lori Harvey and
Speaker 1: Michael be Jordan's very upset and Michael Jordan Ryan Coogler
Speaker 1: are best friends. I don't know, I feel like that
Speaker 1: that's a big, big reach. I really just feel like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I wouldn't be surprised if it comes out
Speaker 1: later that's true, like that that they were like, you
Speaker 1: know what, we've been thinking about this dancing guy, and
Speaker 1: Michael B. Jordan hit the group chat with Nope, not
Speaker 1: that one. I don't know. It's possible. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: it's not possible. I just think it's might be. It's
Speaker 1: also possible he was never even considered. It's also possible
Speaker 1: he had a meeting. It was bad. It's possible, But
Speaker 1: there's just been a lot of uproar about the casting.
Speaker 1: The thing about Black Panther is, while it is a
Speaker 1: Marvel movie, it has significance that is outside of Marvel
Speaker 1: and that it is it is very sacred to black people.
Speaker 1: As a black person. When we look at pop culture,
Speaker 1: a lot of times it doesn't reflect this. We have
Speaker 1: to find ourselves in other stories. That's okay, that's a
Speaker 1: good skill to have. It's an excellent skill to be
Speaker 1: able to look at some money who doesn't reflect back
Speaker 1: to you and find yourself in that character. It breeds empathy. Okay.
Speaker 1: If you can do that, your empathy skills will be
Speaker 1: top notch. It actually makes you a better rounded person.
Speaker 1: But you know, being able to see Black Panther as
Speaker 1: a Marvel as a Marvel superhero and to also have
Speaker 1: it actually be a really good movie. I would say
Speaker 1: the second movie is not as good as the first movie,
Speaker 1: but there's a lot of reasons. I mean, it starts
Speaker 1: with the funeral. It starts with Chad with Bosman dying.
Speaker 1: I mean not on screen because he's already dead, but
Speaker 1: you know, it starts with his funeral and the grief.
Speaker 1: It's a lot, it's a lot. I believe Angela Bassett
Speaker 1: deserved that an oscar for that speech at the un
Speaker 1: that she does in there where she says that you
Speaker 1: think that we are unprotected or I think she deserves
Speaker 1: for her entire for her entire performance. The part where
Speaker 1: they've lost Sherry and the head of the general is like,
Speaker 1: you know, I basically that she sacrificed or whatever, and
Speaker 1: and Angela Bassett, who's Blackfather's mother, is essentially like, I
Speaker 1: have given my husband, I have given my son, and
Speaker 1: now you have lost my It's a great like she
Speaker 1: did a great job in it. Her accent wasn't great,
Speaker 1: but nobody's accent in his movies are good. But he
Speaker 1: doesn't bother me. I'm like whatever, I'm a suspend believe.
Speaker 1: But it's such a powerful movie for black culture. It's
Speaker 1: written in a very entertaining way. Ryan Cooler knows how
Speaker 1: to do this, really knows how to fucking do this,
Speaker 1: and I just like, we're all very excited. But I
Speaker 1: understand why people have strong feelings about the casting. But like,
Speaker 1: I really just and this goes with reality TV stars too, right,
Speaker 1: Often we're like, we don't want to see this person,
Speaker 1: we don't want to see that person. I'm fine with
Speaker 1: people saying that because I say it all the time,
Speaker 1: like there's a lot of people I don't want to
Speaker 1: see on my screen. But obviously I also understand that
Speaker 1: I am not in charge of casting the Valley. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not in charge of casting the Valley. The people
Speaker 1: who are in charge of casting the Valley have an
Speaker 1: understanding of how to do their jobs that I don't.
Speaker 1: I only know what I want to see and don't
Speaker 1: want to see. And that's very different than you should
Speaker 1: be doing this, and you should be doing that here.
Speaker 1: Let me come help you. It's very easy for me
Speaker 1: to sit at my screen and be like, eh, to
Speaker 1: see that motherfucker. But I trust that this is going
Speaker 1: to be a good casting. I don't know we're gonna
Speaker 1: get this movie I'm really mad at Marvel right now.
Speaker 1: We did not get our last Miles Morales. Uh Spider
Speaker 1: Man that came it came out in like May or June,
Speaker 1: and the second the so the first one amazing, second
Speaker 1: one really fucking good, really fucking good, like really good.
Speaker 1: I can watch it right now. In fact, i'll watch
Speaker 1: it this sin as I'm done recording. This came out
Speaker 1: in May, and we're supposed to get our third in December.
Speaker 1: They pushed it back. This was years ago. I still
Speaker 1: lived in Texas. We haven't seen it. I'm not sure
Speaker 1: what's going on. But like Miles Morales is also a
Speaker 1: very special Marvel character to a certain culture, you know,
Speaker 1: And I really just feel like I really just feel
Speaker 1: like people get their emotions get a little bit higher
Speaker 1: in those situations. So yeah, I don't know when we're
Speaker 1: gonna get Black Panther three. He's been cast. He was
Speaker 1: cast months ago, so I'm assuming they haven't started filming
Speaker 1: because if they had, we would have gotten leaked photos
Speaker 1: of him being Black Panther or Chicago's Son. I want
Speaker 1: to know how we're gonna So Angel Bass is dead
Speaker 1: in the franchise, we'll probably see her, they let dead
Speaker 1: people come back all the time. Angel Bassis is dead
Speaker 1: in the franchise, Sure he is not. That's gonna be
Speaker 1: his aunt, And I'm assuming Lapita is not. I'm calling
Speaker 1: people by their character name and then by their their
Speaker 1: Actually it's a lot. I'm assuming Lapita is not. So
Speaker 1: what are we gonna do? Age wise? I have a
Speaker 1: feeling I don't know how how old David is, but
Speaker 1: I have a feeling that he is going to be
Speaker 1: playing a little younger. Let me see how old he is,
Speaker 1: David Johnson, not Davis. He's thirty two, so I can
Speaker 1: see realistically he could play twenties early twenties without like
Speaker 1: much of a stretch. He is black, so it is
Speaker 1: hard people to figure out how old black people are.
Speaker 1: But I could see that's not the same as Black
Speaker 1: people look amazing and young for the rest of their life.
Speaker 1: It's that non black people often have trouble figure out
Speaker 1: how old black people are. They assume children are older
Speaker 1: than they are, they assume adults are younger than they are,
Speaker 1: and it's just it's difficult. It's sometimes difficult for me too, Like,
Speaker 1: but I'm assuming he's playing early twenties, which would put
Speaker 1: us fifteen ish years maybe more. Mmm, I don't know
Speaker 1: how that kid was. I want to say that kid's
Speaker 1: like eight nine years old. Ten would be pushing it,
Speaker 1: which will put us, like, you know, twelve, ten years
Speaker 1: in the future. So what does Shurry look like now?
Speaker 1: What does Lapita look like? Now? So those are questions
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have, but I'll be seated and I just
Speaker 1: want to, like, let other fans just let them fucking cook.
Speaker 1: Just let him cook, let him cook. First of all,
Speaker 1: it's going to be a huge blockbuster because we're just
Speaker 1: gonna go. When black people really we just go. We
Speaker 1: really like your movie, we really when something is really
Speaker 1: important to us, we'll just go. And so it's gonna
Speaker 1: make a lot of money no matter what. But the
Speaker 1: question is will it be good? And you know, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna trust Ryan. Uh, he's got his little Oscar, he's
Speaker 1: a little he's got he's got his little awards. He's good,
Speaker 1: he seems to be he seems to be doing very
Speaker 1: well for himself. Let's just trust to see what he's
Speaker 1: gonna do. And oh, that means I'm gonna get some
Speaker 1: more black panther like I have so many like if
Speaker 1: I because black Panther comes with like all of the sets.
Speaker 1: I have many black Panthers, I have many villains, I
Speaker 1: have a lot of series. I even have a fuck
Speaker 1: what's her name? Iron Heart? I even have iron Heart
Speaker 1: because she was introduced in the second one. They really
Speaker 1: fucked with that character. I'm upset about. She could have
Speaker 1: been a handful a lot better. But anyway, on to
Speaker 1: the next thing. So, uh, Tuskegee University is changing its
Speaker 1: dressco policy to band do rags and bonnets in the
Speaker 1: dress code on like in class and whatnot. If you
Speaker 1: don't know, Tuskegee University is a historically black university. It's HBCU.
Speaker 1: It is I would if they told me it was
Speaker 1: the oldest one. I believe it. It is incredibly important
Speaker 1: to Black history and culture. Well, I'm talking about a
Speaker 1: lot of black things today about important to Black history
Speaker 1: and culture, Black American and as an HBCU, it is,
Speaker 1: the atmosphere on campus is just a smidge different than
Speaker 1: going to a PWI, a primarily white institution. And so yeah,
Speaker 1: like there's been a lot of discourse about this, about
Speaker 1: them banning bonnets, dorects. I'm sure they're banning pajamas as
Speaker 1: well when I was going to college, when I was
Speaker 1: at ODU at first, when I started there, it was
Speaker 1: often said that because I was at a primarily white
Speaker 1: institution as opposed to an SU and so I Norfolk State,
Speaker 1: which is a more black, a black school, that the
Speaker 1: way we was very different to class because black people
Speaker 1: have this history of wanting to be seen a certain way. Right,
Speaker 1: so wearing pajamas and shit the class, which is not
Speaker 1: really a thing that they did. It's a part of
Speaker 1: respectability politics. It's it's very different now, by the way,
Speaker 1: but it's a part of respectability of politics. And we
Speaker 1: can take this.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Probably the most famous purveyor of respectability politics is Bill Cosby,
Speaker 1: although it doesn't end and begin with him, and this
Speaker 1: idea that if you look a certain way, if you
Speaker 1: present yourself a certain way, no baggy pants, no bonnets outside,
Speaker 1: no no.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: Backwards hats and things like that, if you present yourself
Speaker 1: a certain way, then you will earn the respect I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say from white people, but society at large, right,
Speaker 1: you will, Uh if you handle your life a certain way.
Speaker 1: Uh No kids outside of marriage, no baby mama's no. No,
Speaker 1: loud rap music. Make sure your kids are dressed very
Speaker 1: well and also do very well in school. This make
Speaker 1: sure that you're not loud in spaces. Make sure that
Speaker 1: you are presenting yourself as a respectable person, and you
Speaker 1: don't faull to any of the stereotypes. You can swim,
Speaker 1: you know they say black people can swim. You can swim. Uh,
Speaker 1: black people aren't educated. You're educated, that sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: And and like where I am a person who doesn't
Speaker 1: like to wear a bonnet in in public. I don't like.
Speaker 1: I don't like doing that. I'll wear a headscarf, but
Speaker 1: it's a headscarf mat for me to be in public.
Speaker 1: That's just me. And also I also won't wear pajamas
Speaker 1: in public if it's but that's because I have an
Speaker 1: inside clothes outside clothes issue. My outside clothes are not
Speaker 1: comfy clothes. They should not be in my bed. They
Speaker 1: really shouldn't be like lounging on my couch, although they
Speaker 1: could be you know, outside outside, But that's what that's
Speaker 1: the problem I'm having. And also I know that I
Speaker 1: do know that the way you present yourself is how
Speaker 1: people will will will see you. Right, you must present
Speaker 1: yourself in the way in which you want to be observed.
Speaker 1: I understand that, but I wanna say this, like, while
Speaker 1: respectabily politics were were like a huge like thing in
Speaker 1: the eighties and nineties and even the early aughts and
Speaker 1: still exists to this day, I think a lot of
Speaker 1: us as a whole have realized that there is no
Speaker 1: way you could dress to keep racist, to outrun racism.
Speaker 1: There is no black stereotype you could suppress to keep
Speaker 1: racism away from your door. It's just not how it works.
Speaker 1: And respectabily politics tells you that you can't be shot
Speaker 1: by the police. It it wouldn't happen if only you
Speaker 1: were wearing a button up and walking straight and did
Speaker 1: not have dreadlocks. Like That's that's what it tells you,
Speaker 1: and we all know that's not true. And so what
Speaker 1: I think a lot of us, when we're thinking about
Speaker 1: like respectability politics is is about performing purity and in
Speaker 1: some cases whiteness right, trying to assimilate. Although I would
Speaker 1: not say the things that respectably politics demands that you
Speaker 1: do are necessarily associated with white people. They're more associated
Speaker 1: with uh conservatism. But it's all, it's all a little
Speaker 1: melting pot over there but I think in in especially
Speaker 1: in this day and age, a lot of us just
Speaker 1: wanna be ourselves. If making sure my hair is straight
Speaker 1: and looks as close to whiteness as possible doesn't protect me,
Speaker 1: then what if I just have it the way I
Speaker 1: want to? What if when I go to the store,
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to impress anybody. I'm not ready for
Speaker 1: my new hair to come out. I my hair needs
Speaker 1: to stay protecting this bond. Because why can't I just
Speaker 1: be in this store as I am? Especially when other
Speaker 1: groups of people can do that and do not get
Speaker 1: the same judgment. The judgments they are regardless. So instead
Speaker 1: of trying to contort your life to look a certain
Speaker 1: way so that no one judges you, maybe let that
Speaker 1: go and just be who you are. And that's I
Speaker 1: think that's the pushback on it. I mean, obviously tuskege
Speaker 1: do whatever they want on campus. I think it's gonna
Speaker 1: be hard to you. I think that to police that
Speaker 1: that to police that that uh dress code, You're gonna
Speaker 1: it's gonna require instructors to do it. And you want
Speaker 1: me to instruct and grade and and classroom manage all
Speaker 1: that and be like, hey, get that bonnet off your head, Like,
Speaker 1: come the fuck, what are we gonna do? What if
Speaker 1: they don't want to, We're gonna tell them to get out.
Speaker 1: What if they don't want to, we're gonna call it.
Speaker 1: We're gonna call security on them. We don't have security
Speaker 1: incidents over do rags. I don't know. I just feel
Speaker 1: like it's just not really, it's not uncommon, don't get
Speaker 1: me wrong. You know, I live not far from Hampton University,
Speaker 1: and Hampton University is could be quite a bit more strict,
Speaker 1: but it's not new. But the fact that people are
Speaker 1: talking about bonnet culture. First of all, all of y'all
Speaker 1: can wear about it. I think most people probably should
Speaker 1: be wearing about it. But okay, fine, But I think
Speaker 1: the argument is that a lot of dress code culture
Speaker 1: is designed to keep certain groups of people out right.
Speaker 1: So where like you might have a dress code that
Speaker 1: says no sneakers, tennis shoes or anything like that, right
Speaker 1: to get into this bar. You know, most people wear
Speaker 1: athletic shoes unless and so that would affect a lot
Speaker 1: of people. But if your dress code says no Jordan's
Speaker 1: not saying only black people wear Jordans. But who are
Speaker 1: you trying to get with that. Uh, And so I
Speaker 1: wonder I understand that a lot of people find the
Speaker 1: dress code anti black. I find it unenforceable and irrelevant.
Speaker 1: But I think that a lot of people wanting to
Speaker 1: that really agree with them, like, this is how you
Speaker 1: have to be seen, this is how you have to
Speaker 1: do this. Da da da. I think they're living in
Speaker 1: a very different time. I don't think that they have
Speaker 1: realized that, uh, assimilating as much as possible is not
Speaker 1: going to keep you safe. It's not gonna guarantee success,
Speaker 1: it's not gonna do any of those things. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I saw a lot of people saying, oh, this
Speaker 1: is coming from COVID culture. First of all, everybody blames
Speaker 1: everything on those COVID years. Everyone. They're like, the kids
Speaker 1: can't read, it's COVID, that's not I don't think that.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's exactly it. I mean that there
Speaker 1: were a couple of law school years there, but I
Speaker 1: don't think so. I think I think we're we're looking
Speaker 1: at uh many factors in why you see literacy rates dropping.
Speaker 1: And I will say again, if everybody can't read, then
Speaker 1: that is not that is not a one person problem.
Speaker 1: That is a systematic failure. So the look at it
Speaker 1: on those levels not well, somebody's parents didn't read to them.
Speaker 1: I don't know, man's if you're saying everybody can't do it,
Speaker 1: I don't know why you're blaming this one this one
Speaker 1: child's parents. But you know, a lot of people, they'll
Speaker 1: blame COVID on anything. They'll blame anything on COVID. So
Speaker 1: a lot of people are like, this came from COVID.
Speaker 1: I do want I do believe that our soft pants
Speaker 1: culture definitely came from COVID of it, and like, I
Speaker 1: want to give it, like maybe five more years, somebody's
Speaker 1: jeans are gonna come back real hard. But right now
Speaker 1: most people wear soft pants. That's what they do. But
Speaker 1: they're But a lot of people are blaming this dressed
Speaker 1: down like just overall culture on COVID. But people wear
Speaker 1: pajamas to school in the nineties, I don't know about
Speaker 1: in the eighties, but definitely by the late nineties people
Speaker 1: were wearing like people wear pajamas to school. My parent,
Speaker 1: my kids hate me because I don't let them wear
Speaker 1: crocs or pajamas to school, uh cause I think it
Speaker 1: looks ugly. That's I think it looks ugly, and I
Speaker 1: think crocs are not everyday's shoes. So you know, they
Speaker 1: get upset with me. But I and again, the pajamas
Speaker 1: is the inside school. It's the inside versus outside clothes problem. Like,
Speaker 1: and so when they do have pajama day, they're often
Speaker 1: I don't always buy new pajamas, but if it's time
Speaker 1: to get to like my kids are growing, like they
Speaker 1: need new pajamas, I'll go out and buy something. You'll
Speaker 1: the first time you wear it will be to school.
Speaker 1: But in no way, shape or form, are you allowed
Speaker 1: to wear pajamas to bed, get up and go to
Speaker 1: school in those pajamas for pajama day? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: And I know there are people be like, what's the
Speaker 1: what's the harm in it? Like? Is this as bad
Speaker 1: as like I don't know them vaping all the way
Speaker 1: to school? No. If you're like, should like do I
Speaker 1: want my nine year old vaping? Or do I want
Speaker 1: them wearing pajamas to school they slept in, I guess
Speaker 1: I'm gonna chose to fucking pajamas. But so is it
Speaker 1: the worst thing in the world. No, But like, let's
Speaker 1: draw some lines in the stand in the sand. We
Speaker 1: were a proper country at one point. Bath we wear
Speaker 1: clothes that you just put on to school if you can.
Speaker 1: I know people are gonna be like, what if I'm disabled,
Speaker 1: what if I'm poor? Whatever? What if? What if? The
Speaker 1: what if they don't have any parents and they're living
Speaker 1: in a in a h in an abandoned house like
Speaker 1: Wallace from fucking the wire. Okay, fine, fine, but if
Speaker 1: you are able to not do that, let let's let's
Speaker 1: wear clean clothes to school. Le let's try that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I I We're talking a lot of bonnets online right now,
Speaker 1: and I and I'm honest to God think a lot
Speaker 1: of people who are really really anti bonnet culture, like
Speaker 1: you should not be allowed in the wah wah with
Speaker 1: your bondy. By the way, if you go to wah
Speaker 1: wah at fucking midnight to get yourself a little sandwich
Speaker 1: and and a uh and a and a little uh smoothie,
Speaker 1: everybody in there got to pajamas on. Everybody. And I'm
Speaker 1: not just talking about regular ass like they're wearing pajama
Speaker 1: pants and a bonnet. I'm talking about ass cheeks are out.
Speaker 1: Some of them are just wearing underwear Okay, yeah, they
Speaker 1: got on fuzzy slippers and they got retainers in their mouth. Everybody,
Speaker 1: not me, but everybody. So jesus, I don't know, maybe
Speaker 1: y'all go over to the wad wan start alway. So
Speaker 1: I wanna talk about this, I'm getting like served a
Speaker 1: lot of content, a lot of posts, a lot of
Speaker 1: information about people going back and forth about straight women
Speaker 1: dating by men and whether or not they will and
Speaker 1: whether or not they won't. In terms of bisexuality, as
Speaker 1: a bisexual woman is so much less. I don't wanna say,
Speaker 1: what do I wanna say the world world? As a
Speaker 1: bisexual woman, I am less marginalized than a bisexual man.
Speaker 1: People tolerate bisexuality in women in a way that he
Speaker 1: will not in men, And kind of the common theme
Speaker 1: is like, once you get a taste of dick, you
Speaker 1: don't want nothing else. But it's weird the way that
Speaker 1: they're like, if you are a man that's had sex
Speaker 1: with a man, that's what you really want, And if
Speaker 1: you are a woman that's had sex with a man,
Speaker 1: that's what you really want, even if you have sex
Speaker 1: with women as well, and you know, by women are
Speaker 1: definitely like talk shit about in the lesbian community obviously, obviously,
Speaker 1: because you know, there's plenty of by women that are
Speaker 1: only bisexual in service of a man. Okay, there's plenty
Speaker 1: of there's plenty of a cosplaying, by the way, but
Speaker 1: in terms of by men, a lot of heterosexual women
Speaker 1: will not date them, and they get plenty of reasons. Uh.
Speaker 1: A lot of them cite STDs and HIV, uh, the
Speaker 1: downlow culture and really a lot of stuff, a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff that happened like the early fucking nineties, right.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want a date to buy a
Speaker 1: band cause I don't wanna get HIV, which is that's
Speaker 1: a problematic thing to say. Uh. One, you absolutely can
Speaker 1: get a std from anybody, literally anybody. You get a
Speaker 1: std F from somebody EVE been married to for twenty
Speaker 1: years if you want to. It's possible. A lot of
Speaker 1: women end up at the at the clinic wondering why
Speaker 1: things are different. You really could get it from anybody.
Speaker 1: And so, you know, having this idea that that gay sex,
Speaker 1: because gay sex does not have the the threat of pregnancy,
Speaker 1: that this idea that every person antic that in that
Speaker 1: participates on male or male sex is not using condoms.
Speaker 1: They are spreading STDs amongst each other, and then you
Speaker 1: will get it as well if your man is by
Speaker 1: That's that's a really problematic take, but that's what somebody.
Speaker 1: That's what people bring up. Also, when I just said
Speaker 1: this idea that if he had a little bit of
Speaker 1: dick that's what he actually wants, you can't. You can't
Speaker 1: have any dick and go back. You just can't. Once
Speaker 1: you go dick, you're that's what you stick. So uh yeah.
Speaker 1: And then often this you know, this idea that men
Speaker 1: who have sex with men are not real men, and
Speaker 1: so they're having this conversation. A lot of women, a
Speaker 1: lot of heterosexual women will not date vib men. And
Speaker 1: the question has been, you know, is this homophobic or biophobic?
Speaker 1: And I think the answer is yes. And I think
Speaker 1: that's so I don't I think that's okay to admit.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's okay to be homophobic. Please don't
Speaker 1: misunderstanding me. I think that when you have a visceral
Speaker 1: reaction to something like that and someone goes, yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a that you know, that's like homophobia, that's ingrained home momophobia,
Speaker 1: internalized homophobia, externalized homophobia. I think people don't want to
Speaker 1: ever be wrong, and they don't want to ever be
Speaker 1: a problem. They don't want to ever be the problem.
Speaker 1: They don't want to ever have been wrong and fix it.
Speaker 1: They don't want any of those things. But I think
Speaker 1: someone explained to you that what you're saying has underlying
Speaker 1: homophobic tone to it. That's an excellent reason for you
Speaker 1: to unpack and like be like, Okay, so why do
Speaker 1: I think this? Like, for me, I don't have a problem.
Speaker 1: I'm dating by men, all right. I think the issue
Speaker 1: for by people in general is that people think you'll
Speaker 1: never be satisfied and I could be cheating on them
Speaker 1: with the other gender. I think a lot of people cheat.
Speaker 1: I'm always expecting people to cheat, So so that's not
Speaker 1: gonna be a problem. You know what, I what, I
Speaker 1: am not into fem men. I'm not even the fem
Speaker 1: men and I like just off the deck. It's just
Speaker 1: not something I'm attracted to. And you know what, that
Speaker 1: probably is internalized misogyny. That's probably what that is. It
Speaker 1: might even be a little bit of homophobia. But this
Speaker 1: reaction that I have to like literally not being attracted
Speaker 1: to a man, how would I say, I don't I
Speaker 1: don't know how I want to phrase this, because I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not excluding any gender expression like that's not really
Speaker 1: an issue for me. I am like I am what
Speaker 1: I am what my children refer to as omnisexual. I'd like,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't really care. I really care about
Speaker 1: the way you bring it to me. I'm not really
Speaker 1: like caring about what's between your legs. But in terms
Speaker 1: of a male expression that also has a large fem
Speaker 1: side to it, I'm not really into it. And that's
Speaker 1: what it is. I don't like. I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: like males with with short hair, I mean with long hair,
Speaker 1: even though my husband's been growing his locks a lot.
Speaker 1: And I generally do not like a fem presenting person.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about studs. I'm talking about a fem
Speaker 1: presenting person with short hair. And what is that? Probably
Speaker 1: massage any guys, Probably an underlining a homophobic idea that's
Speaker 1: deep down in my psyche. What is it about it?
Speaker 1: But here's so. What am I gonna do about it?
Speaker 1: Not a lot I can think about it. I can
Speaker 1: try to unpack it. But you're attracted to who you're
Speaker 1: attracted to, if you are or not if you have
Speaker 1: never in your life been attracted to a fat person
Speaker 1: or someone in a larger body, and you are writing
Speaker 1: in your tender profile no fats, that is fat phobic,
Speaker 1: you are free to beat. You are free to do that.
Speaker 1: Though nobody's saying you have to date fat people. Nobody's
Speaker 1: saying you have to date Asian people, nobody's saying you
Speaker 1: have to date disabled people. No one's saying you have
Speaker 1: to do any of that stuff. And I think that's
Speaker 1: what part of what the discourse is a lot of
Speaker 1: a lot of people who have those feelings that I'm
Speaker 1: never gonna date a by person because of these reasons.
Speaker 1: Often the reasons they are dipped in homophobia. They think
Speaker 1: that the people that are pushing back on that are
Speaker 1: saying no, no, no, you have to no, you don't.
Speaker 1: You get to date whoever you want to. There are
Speaker 1: no politics in the bedroom. There are no politics in
Speaker 1: your pants. A little bit of politics, a little bit
Speaker 1: of politics consent thing adults, that's some politics, but there
Speaker 1: are really no politics in your pants. Okay, but what
Speaker 1: you do what's in your pants does tell us more
Speaker 1: about who you are. It's not all you are, but
Speaker 1: it does tell us about who you are. If you
Speaker 1: are someone who is a card carrying feminist and you
Speaker 1: are deeply in love with a good old maga boy
Speaker 1: and you are in that relationship, it does say something
Speaker 1: about your values. It does say something about what you're
Speaker 1: willing to excuse and not And I think if you
Speaker 1: hear that, you're like, oh, you're calling me a bad person.
Speaker 1: I didn't say that. I said that if you are
Speaker 1: sleeping with someone who is homophobic, calling yourself an ally
Speaker 1: is probably not the move. You can't be an ally
Speaker 1: if you're fucking somebody homophobic, you just can't. Also, allies
Speaker 1: a verb kinda now, like what are you doing to
Speaker 1: be an ally? And the same like, the same goes
Speaker 1: if you are someone who is of color and you're
Speaker 1: only attracted to white people, there's something going on there.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you gotta stop, because I'm not in
Speaker 1: charge of who you get to fuck. Who you wanna
Speaker 1: fuck as song as they want to fuck you back, Okay,
Speaker 1: consent song as they're adults. But yeah, like that's not
Speaker 1: the thing. We have all kinds of shit inside of
Speaker 1: us that are that are affecting our are our decisions,
Speaker 1: and if someone points those things out to you, and
Speaker 1: your first thing is, oh, I'm a bad person. So
Speaker 1: you say I'm a bad person. You're missing the points there.
Speaker 1: You know, this journey of life is to observe ourselves,
Speaker 1: get to know ourselves better, unpack our things, and it
Speaker 1: may not change your actions, but kind of trying to
Speaker 1: understand how and why we do what we do is
Speaker 1: really important. It's hard, though, so I understand why dumb
Speaker 1: people don't want to do it, but it's important. And
Speaker 1: I just told you that when I think of the
Speaker 1: things i'm attracted to, I am not generally attracted to
Speaker 1: fem men. I'm just really not. And that does not
Speaker 1: mean I need to go out and date one. First
Speaker 1: of all, I don't. My husband doesn't let me date
Speaker 1: uh party pooper. But it doesn't mean I need to
Speaker 1: go date one. It just needs to I need maybe
Speaker 1: ask myself a few more questions about it, and if
Speaker 1: those like hidden or unconscious beliefs are there, why or
Speaker 1: else are they showing up? Get curious about it. I
Speaker 1: really respect people that when you're like, well, I think
Speaker 1: that might be a little ablest and they go, okay,
Speaker 1: it might be like instead of like immediately trying to
Speaker 1: prove that it's not. I really respect people that are
Speaker 1: just like, I'm not there yet. I'm sorry. I like,
Speaker 1: logically I know these things, but I just I'm not there.
Speaker 1: I just I don't think I could be with a
Speaker 1: by person. I respect that because you know your limitations
Speaker 1: and you are standing in what is rather than what
Speaker 1: should be. And I want I rather you tell me
Speaker 1: what it is as opposed to what you wish it
Speaker 1: was right. I want to talk about the truth. I
Speaker 1: want to talk about now and instead of trying to
Speaker 1: piss on me and tell me it's raining and it's
Speaker 1: something else. You know, yeah, I did. I don't think
Speaker 1: that discourse is about you need to start dating by man.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's what that is. I think the
Speaker 1: discourse is more about you need to ask yourself why
Speaker 1: the thought of dating a by man is so abhorrent
Speaker 1: to you? You know, all right, we're almost done. We
Speaker 1: were hitting an hour. Let's let's finish this up. Let's
Speaker 1: talk about Nara Smith. She was on call her daddy
Speaker 1: where meteor Licy goes to die. I saw that somebody
Speaker 1: said that on TikTok so I still wo it. Sorry,
Speaker 1: but it's good true repeating it you gonna call her
Speaker 1: daddy because they're not gonna ask you no hard questions,
Speaker 1: no pushback, and it's it's like doing an interview in
Speaker 1: People magazine. You know what I'm saying, like like you
Speaker 1: get to you, you'll get to get your you'll get
Speaker 1: to get your points off, no problem, You'll get to
Speaker 1: be portrayed the way you want to betrayed, be portrayed.
Speaker 1: It's notournalism. It's a talk show, which I don't think
Speaker 1: anybody on anybody looks at call her daddy and thinks, wow,
Speaker 1: this is a journalist show. I don't think it's a
Speaker 1: talk show. It's a talk show. It's like going on Ellen,
Speaker 1: Ellen's not gonna ask you no fucking hard questions about
Speaker 1: why your kids on the internet singing? Ellen's talking tonnavite
Speaker 1: you there because your kids singing got eighty million hits
Speaker 1: on YouTube. And then when you sit down and be
Speaker 1: like do you think children should be on the internet?
Speaker 1: Did your child consent to that? That's how Ellen's gonna
Speaker 1: ask you. She's gonna be like all of the songs
Speaker 1: that she know. That's that's a talk show. It's not
Speaker 1: you know, and so call her daddy. Is fine for
Speaker 1: what it is, but Nara Smith was on there, and
Speaker 1: Nara Smith, I want to say, since twenty twenty, has
Speaker 1: been on the internet doing a lot of like, uh,
Speaker 1: trad wife content, and I would say that her and
Speaker 1: Ballerina Farm are the top like trad wife influencers. I
Speaker 1: can't name a bunch of because that's just not the
Speaker 1: way my algorithm is set up. That's not something I'm
Speaker 1: interested in. She is married to a guy whose name
Speaker 1: I know but I can't say right now because I
Speaker 1: can't remember it, who comes from a very wealthy Mormon family.
Speaker 1: She's deeped in Mormon culture, and her stick was to
Speaker 1: do these weird voiceovers and get on get on camera
Speaker 1: in very expensive fashion clothes and show how she's making
Speaker 1: a fruit roll up from scratch while holding a baby.
Speaker 1: And she was often dressed in prairie chic farmhouse stuff.
Speaker 1: I mean, it was expensive, but that's what she was wearing.
Speaker 1: And I mean she was the center of the tradwife conversation.
Speaker 1: She was one of the center temples of it. And
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty six, she's gonna call her daddy saying
Speaker 1: that she never she never was promoting tradwife propaganda and
Speaker 1: which is a crazy thing to say. Uh, she was
Speaker 1: using the hashtag. It was in every piece of media
Speaker 1: about her, it was in her comments, it was all
Speaker 1: and she's she's like reading off of her phone. First
Speaker 1: of all, she's dressed like I don't know she She's
Speaker 1: dressed like the black best friend on like a CBS
Speaker 1: comedy where they all like live above a coffee shop
Speaker 1: or some shit. That's what. That's what she's dressed like.
Speaker 1: She's wearing like jeans and a and a and a
Speaker 1: sweater and a like like nothing like how she normally
Speaker 1: her branding normally is right. She and she's reading off
Speaker 1: and then she's like, I'm in LA, I'm a content
Speaker 1: for I'm an influencer. I'm I don't do dishes. Lucky does.
Speaker 1: His name is Lucky something. Lucky does the dishes. I
Speaker 1: have a nanny. I've told people have a nanny. I'm
Speaker 1: a working mom, and stop fucking playing with me, Nara,
Speaker 1: Like I do know that she's mentioned she had a
Speaker 1: a a nanny. That is not the same you mentioning
Speaker 1: that when you had one of one of She's only
Speaker 1: twenty four years old. By the way, you mentioning that
Speaker 1: when you had I won it was her fourth child.
Speaker 1: Is not the same as you portraying yourself as a
Speaker 1: working mom. You really were. And maybe it's maybe it's true.
Speaker 1: Maybe in the background he cleans the house. I don't
Speaker 1: think so. You probably have a cleaner's but it's fine.
Speaker 1: Maybe you have more of an equitable relationship. But that's
Speaker 1: not what you were doing on the internet. And for
Speaker 1: you to pretend like you don't understand why people were
Speaker 1: were saying that you were promoting trad wife content is
Speaker 1: fucking crazy. It's fucking crazy. Like if we go back
Speaker 1: and wat and watch the instances of you on the
Speaker 1: internet holding a baby while also making a pie and
Speaker 1: talking about how great it is that you got married
Speaker 1: at like nineteen years old, started popping out fucking babies
Speaker 1: and you stay at home and you take don't stop,
Speaker 1: stop stop. I know a lot of people are big
Speaker 1: fans of her. I think a lot of people are
Speaker 1: defending her in this way that like she's a woman
Speaker 1: of color, and they think that she's being like brought
Speaker 1: down because of that. This is not true. What it
Speaker 1: is is that as our country has been rolling back
Speaker 1: uh laws and rights and understandings and and things and
Speaker 1: privileges for women. As we have seen a huge rise
Speaker 1: in conservative conservative culture, and we have been inundated with
Speaker 1: with propaganda about how you don't wanna work for the man,
Speaker 1: work for your husband, stay at home, you don't wanna
Speaker 1: go to a job, you don't y, you want somebody
Speaker 1: else raising your kids like that sort of shit. And
Speaker 1: I think that part of media literacy is understanding that
Speaker 1: the content you're served up on these social medias, combined
Speaker 1: with do you guys remember like two years ago when
Speaker 1: every store you went in people are wearing like a
Speaker 1: little house on a prairie sheet, Like you could not
Speaker 1: go in a store without getting the ugliest prairie fucking
Speaker 1: dress right rolling back abortion, writes nara On with millions
Speaker 1: and millions of followers and brand identity online basically implying
Speaker 1: you don't have to say it. You were implying that
Speaker 1: it is very easy to make homemade fruit roll ups
Speaker 1: and take care of your children and homeschool them and
Speaker 1: reef in the Bible, and this is the life that
Speaker 1: people should have. This is what it's in. Being an
Speaker 1: influencer is being an influencer is not just living your
Speaker 1: particular life out loud as, as a lot of them
Speaker 1: will tell you. It is also influencing other people to
Speaker 1: do things. It's sales. Okay. There are all kinds of
Speaker 1: content that you can make. Being an influencer and being
Speaker 1: a content maker a content creator not the same thing.
Speaker 1: There's all type of content you can make that is
Speaker 1: not necessarily about influencing someone's purchase, uh decisions, someone's life decisions,
Speaker 1: that that sort of stuff. That is I some of
Speaker 1: this is very I you can make content about around
Speaker 1: sister wives and you're not an influencer. Uh. You may
Speaker 1: be talking about ideas, you may be talking about recapping shows.
Speaker 1: It's not the same as being an influencer. Narsmith is
Speaker 1: a fucking influencer, okay. And for her to show up
Speaker 1: here sick years later and be like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't know where people got that from. I know
Speaker 1: I hashtag it. I know I never said don't get
Speaker 1: an education. I never said that, Like, come on, And
Speaker 1: I think that a part of the discourse I've been
Speaker 1: seeing is that people saying that she has a right
Speaker 1: to live her life the way she wants to. She does,
Speaker 1: she absolutely does, but we're not talking about individual decisions. Right.
Speaker 1: Individual decisions are the microcosm. I'm talking macros, I'm talking overall.
Speaker 1: I'm talking systematic. You know, I have a million white
Speaker 1: friends and family members, and I have great relationships with
Speaker 1: Those relationships do not preclude racism. They don't do anything
Speaker 1: to systematic racism. Right You, having a wonderful relationship with
Speaker 1: your male partner does not mean that you have escaped patriarchy.
Speaker 1: Patriarchy is systematic. It's in the air, we breathe, we're
Speaker 1: marinating in it every day. You still will be affected
Speaker 1: by it. The fact that you got my husband is
Speaker 1: cooked every day this week and will be cooking most
Speaker 1: of next week. That does not change the nature, the
Speaker 1: overall nature of patriarchy. Lots of micro cosms changed the macro.
Speaker 1: But it's not a It's not you and then me
Speaker 1: and then that girl over here and everything's changed. It is.
Speaker 1: It has to be an overwhelming change, and the systems
Speaker 1: that uphold these things are there. And Nara herself is
Speaker 1: not the problem. The propaganda that Nara is sending out
Speaker 1: to everybody else is the problem. The influence she has
Speaker 1: is the problem. And you are responsible for your platform.
Speaker 1: Do you know what this reminds me of this is
Speaker 1: probably fucking Jenny McCarthy. Remember how Jenny McCarthy was the
Speaker 1: number one vaccines make kids autistic? Vaccines make kid autistic,
Speaker 1: and I rather my kid be dead than autistic. Remember
Speaker 1: that shit. That's not exactly what she said, but but
Speaker 1: she was on every talk show. She was constantly on
Speaker 1: the was she on Howard, she was on Serious. That's
Speaker 1: not Howray Stern's shit. Harry Stern is the biggest on
Speaker 1: siious and probably has a large share of it. But
Speaker 1: she she had a serious show about it. She I didnk.
Speaker 1: At one point, she had a talk show, she was
Speaker 1: writing books. She she was the face of do not vaccine,
Speaker 1: vaccinate your kids. And then I feel like, five years later,
Speaker 1: after all all this shit is happening, she comes out
Speaker 1: and be like, well, I didn't say vacs done, vaccinate
Speaker 1: your kids. I just said that mine is autistic and
Speaker 1: the vaccines did it. I know it. I don't have
Speaker 1: any proof. I don't have any scientific papers, I don't
Speaker 1: have any work. I don't have anybody but that one
Speaker 1: dude that says it that has been debunked many time.
Speaker 1: I don't have nothing, but I think that's what happened.
Speaker 1: And I've been saying it everywhere I fucking say it
Speaker 1: for five or seven years, and I know that there
Speaker 1: are some people who are like, well, I don't know
Speaker 1: why you're getting on her, cause she was just talking
Speaker 1: about her own experience. When you have influence over others,
Speaker 1: you have a bigger responsibility. I think that right now.
Speaker 1: Like so, when I'm seeing like the backlash about this,
Speaker 1: besides people mistaking personal choices with systematic issues, I'm seeing
Speaker 1: a lot of people being like, well, she's doing that
Speaker 1: because the trad Wife is not as is not as
Speaker 1: popular as it used to be, and blah blah blah blah. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true.
Speaker 1: First of all, I don't think trad Wife is going
Speaker 1: anywhere for a while. I don't think that's true. I
Speaker 1: think she's about to announce a divorce. Is what's gonna happen.
Speaker 1: Maybe not, maybe not in three weeks, maybe not in
Speaker 1: six months, but I I think by the end of
Speaker 1: twenty twenty six, we're gonna be hearing about them having
Speaker 1: problems and they're they're gonna split. In twenty twenty seven,
Speaker 1: at the very I think that she is prepping for
Speaker 1: her next her next stage in life, the way her
Speaker 1: branding needs to change. And I also wanna, like I said,
Speaker 1: a lot of people in the comments are like, well,
Speaker 1: she says she had a nanny. Nobody didn't think she
Speaker 1: had any Well, some of you dummies did, but nobody
Speaker 1: didn't think that. As as as we've been telling you
Speaker 1: for years that lady has a job. That's a working
Speaker 1: mom right there. She's a content maker. She makes content.
Speaker 1: You think she makes content and edits and does all
Speaker 1: this shit. And she's not a working mom. She needs help,
Speaker 1: of course she does. She is not what she is
Speaker 1: pretending to be because she has to have domestic help.
Speaker 1: She is away on work trips. She is a working mom.
Speaker 1: She's pretending for money and also influencing people. And again,
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure that you're not hearing
Speaker 1: something I'm not saying. This is not about should you
Speaker 1: be a stay at home mom? This is not about
Speaker 1: are you girl bossing it up? Right, which is also
Speaker 1: a problem. Right. This is not about those things. This
Speaker 1: is about whether we as a society are going to
Speaker 1: allow people to portray certain life choices in a way
Speaker 1: that they're not and that end up as a typical
Speaker 1: outcome being harmful to women and influencing and trying to
Speaker 1: convince women that the last thing you want to do
Speaker 1: is have to clock in somewhere, stay at home, let
Speaker 1: rely on man to take care of you. And then
Speaker 1: when they roll back, when they roll back, uh, no
Speaker 1: fault divorce, you can't get rid of them, can't get
Speaker 1: out of the fucking divorce because because you have to
Speaker 1: prove while you want to get out of the divorce
Speaker 1: and be stuck in these situations that often turn abusive,
Speaker 1: but in general really beat women down. That's that's what
Speaker 1: that's about. I think some people make really good stay
Speaker 1: at home moms. I think you have to write temperament
Speaker 1: for it, and I think a lot of you don't, right,
Speaker 1: I think a lot of you fucking don't because being
Speaker 1: a stay at home mom is a lot of fucking work.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's easy if you're not doing
Speaker 1: it correctly. I think it's easy if you're not doing much.
Speaker 1: But I guess you know, there's no there's no prize
Speaker 1: for who's the most fucking tired, So I guess, do you, babe.
Speaker 1: But it's a lot of hard work. It's not the
Speaker 1: easy way out in any way. And then we also
Speaker 1: have to think about how child care and the wage
Speaker 1: gap and those sorts of things affect women's ability to earn.
Speaker 1: And some people are at home because that's that's the
Speaker 1: smartest choice from the make right now. I also think
Speaker 1: that even that that type of content Balerie of Farm
Speaker 1: Nara Smith, I think that that type of content is
Speaker 1: even harmful to people who want to be homemakers and
Speaker 1: stay at home mothers and and that's what they want
Speaker 1: to be doing. I think it's harmful to them too,
Speaker 1: because it makes it seem like that's how it is, like,
Speaker 1: if you can't make a pie while while holding a baby,
Speaker 1: then what the fuck is wrong with you? They are
Speaker 1: showing you a lifestyle that is impossible to have with
Speaker 1: what they are showing you. Right, this is like, I
Speaker 1: don't know a fitness influencer trying to convince you if
Speaker 1: you buy their creatine and their supplements and you do
Speaker 1: their workout that you will look like them when a
Speaker 1: lot of them look like that because of genetics, and
Speaker 1: a lot more look like that because of plastic surgery.
Speaker 1: Do you, and they're claiming they're eating like fucking four
Speaker 1: thousand calories a day and they're not, and they're trying
Speaker 1: to sell you this lifestyle along with whatever product they're
Speaker 1: trying to sell. I think it's harmful too. And I
Speaker 1: think I think this grift, this treadwife grift, is it's
Speaker 1: harmful on a personal level to people looking at that
Speaker 1: and being like, wait, why isn't that working for me?
Speaker 1: And I think it's harmful on a macro level when
Speaker 1: we talk about the way our systems interact and what
Speaker 1: our rights will look like in twenty years? Right, what
Speaker 1: what what our legal system, our society, our privileges and
Speaker 1: rights will look like in twenty years Because a whole
Speaker 1: generation of people who grew up watching somebody like Nara
Speaker 1: Smith pretend like she was like she was at home
Speaker 1: grinding butter and and being perfectly happy making homemade fruit
Speaker 1: roll ups. I really fucking hate that homemade fruit roll
Speaker 1: ups thing. And here's the thing. It's not the homemade
Speaker 1: for roll ups. It's not that. It's not that because
Speaker 1: I think it might be cool if somebody showed me
Speaker 1: how to make a homemaate fruit roll up, I'm probably
Speaker 1: not gonna do it. And if I do it, i'll
Speaker 1: do it once which will be a complaint in my
Speaker 1: house because I like to conquer recipes. I like do
Speaker 1: shit one time and do it real well, or do
Speaker 1: it until I do it really well one time, and
Speaker 1: then I'm like, well, that's it. I don't need to
Speaker 1: ever need to make that again. I think that might
Speaker 1: be very cool content for a certain type of person,
Speaker 1: without the sneaky conservative propaganda also snuck in there, you know.
Speaker 1: But Ry, I'm really pissed off about it's her, I
Speaker 1: can We're a bunch of fucking idiots. I never said that.
Speaker 1: This is what they mean by media literacy or literacy
Speaker 1: crisis in general, is can you read the words? Okay,
Speaker 1: it's not can you read the words? It's can you
Speaker 1: infer things from the words? Can you look at this
Speaker 1: and can you determ whether this is a reliable narrator
Speaker 1: or not? Can you read the underlying tones between the words?
Speaker 1: Can you make comparisons and contrasts? Right, that's what they
Speaker 1: mean by literacy crisis, not whether you can read see
Speaker 1: Bob Run or whatever, although some of y'all can't do
Speaker 1: that either, and the system has failed you. But yeah,
Speaker 1: like it's so for her to show up here and
Speaker 1: be like, I'm a businesswoman. Yeah, I knew you were
Speaker 1: a business woman, but you were selling a lifestyle on
Speaker 1: a fucking farm. I don't know if she was actually
Speaker 1: on a farm, but a lifestyle of conservativism. Women doing last,
Speaker 1: women taking a step back and saying that this was
Speaker 1: the better choice. Okay, if it was the better choice,
Speaker 1: they was doing it for thousands of years. Well not
Speaker 1: all women, but some women were doing it for thousands
Speaker 1: of years. So why didn't you want to do it?
Speaker 1: No more? M hm, You so you don't have to
Speaker 1: go into the insurance office and sell auto policies. Yeah yeah, real,
Speaker 1: real lame shit, Nara, real lame shit. Is there anything
Speaker 1: else that I wanted to talk about? I don't think
Speaker 1: there is. This episode was a little more preachy than
Speaker 1: I'd like to do. Maybe next one will be a
Speaker 1: little more fun. I really am bound by the stuff
Speaker 1: that I have been consuming this week. So it is
Speaker 1: what it is, all right, guys, We'll see you in
Speaker 1: the next one later. M