Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, I'm back. I'm tired. I tell you right now,
Speaker 1: I am tired. I've been gone two weeks and just
Speaker 1: going back and forth. I'm tired. I need a vacation.
Speaker 1: From the vacation. Anyways, I hope everyone is doing well.
Speaker 1: I have an episode here for you today. I know
Speaker 1: some people may listen to this episode that know me.
Speaker 1: Don't be offended by what I'm gonna say. I'm just
Speaker 1: telling you what and when I say you, I'm talking
Speaker 1: to everybody that's listening. What I know is right. I'm
Speaker 1: not here the sugar coat for anyone, whether I know
Speaker 1: you or not. I'm gonna tell you what I know
Speaker 1: is right. It's not over until the the voice is fire.
Speaker 1: So don't set yourself up. Let me say it again. Oh,
Speaker 1: I know some of you don't like this, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say it again. It's not over until the divorce
Speaker 1: is final. So don't set yourself up. Some of you
Speaker 1: get into relationships with individuals who are still married. I
Speaker 1: don't agree with that, but it's not my call. You
Speaker 1: do whatever you want to do. But you know, when
Speaker 1: a person is not divorced, anything could happen. They could
Speaker 1: go back to having a relationship with their spouse. Some
Speaker 1: of you are in relationships with individuals who live in
Speaker 1: the same house, but they're saying that they're not together.
Speaker 1: You know, they're telling you they're not together, they live
Speaker 1: in a separate room, and this and that. You really
Speaker 1: don't know what's going on on the inside of that house.
Speaker 1: So when you get in a relationship with someone who
Speaker 1: is already married, it's not over. Into the divorce is final,
Speaker 1: that's when it's over. I don't care if people are
Speaker 1: living separate in their homes or if they have not
Speaker 1: had any type of affection or intimacy or anything like
Speaker 1: that going on they're still married. Who knows. Someone may
Speaker 1: get an epiphany and realize, well, I don't want to
Speaker 1: lose my spouse, and then they could come back together.
Speaker 1: Whether where does that leave you? Where will you end up?
Speaker 1: And you can't be mad at no one but yourself,
Speaker 1: because really you set yourself up getting into the relationship
Speaker 1: with the person in the first place. I know that
Speaker 1: people don't like hearing this. People never like hearing the truth. Ever, Oh,
Speaker 1: tell me the truth. Yes, I want you to tell
Speaker 1: me the truth. Until you tell them and then they're
Speaker 1: mad about it. But you know whatever, because for me,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you the truth. It's to help you,
Speaker 1: it's never to hurt you. So when you set yourself
Speaker 1: up like that, you are the one to blame because
Speaker 1: you willfully gotten into a relationship with someone that you
Speaker 1: know was married. Some people are just too trusting, and
Speaker 1: people are too trusting because of what they've gone through.
Speaker 1: People yearn so for love, They yearn so for validation
Speaker 1: and companionship and love and things like that because of
Speaker 1: past experiences, and it causes people to just believe anything
Speaker 1: someone tells them. It could be the truth or it
Speaker 1: could be a lie, regardless of which. You should never
Speaker 1: get into a relationship with someone who's married until they
Speaker 1: are not. And I mean that's just what I believe,
Speaker 1: because a person can tell you anything, and a lot
Speaker 1: of times most times they are telling you anything because
Speaker 1: they don't take a person that long to get a divorce.
Speaker 1: Some of you've been with people who staying in the
Speaker 1: house with their with the individual they're married to for
Speaker 1: years and they're still telling you, oh, we're getting a divorce,
Speaker 1: we're not together. But I bet that other person don't
Speaker 1: feel like that. That other person think they're still together
Speaker 1: because they're lying to you. And I'm not saying that
Speaker 1: every person is lying, but they're wrong because anytime you
Speaker 1: get in a relationship when you're married, you're wrong, and
Speaker 1: the person that they got into the relationship with, they're
Speaker 1: wrong too, because it is actually adultery. He or she,
Speaker 1: the married one, is committing adultery on their spouse, and
Speaker 1: you're for dedicating with the person who's committing adultery. So
Speaker 1: I mean, it's not a good situation, and that especially
Speaker 1: it's not a good situation for people who profess Christ
Speaker 1: in their lives because we already know you don't supposed
Speaker 1: to do that. We already know you don't supposed to
Speaker 1: be with anyone intimately. I mean when I say intimately,
Speaker 1: i'm talking sexual outside of marriage, and you definitely don't
Speaker 1: supposed to be with anyone in that way, and they
Speaker 1: are married already. It's just wrong. God has nothing to
Speaker 1: do with that. There is no blessings in that at all.
Speaker 1: Now you can believe it is all day long, but
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, according to the Word of God, there isn't.
Speaker 1: You should love yourself more than that. But as I said,
Speaker 1: some people are just so wanting love and companionship and
Speaker 1: all of those things that they open themselves up to.
Speaker 1: Individuals who are married and living with their spouses, and
Speaker 1: a lot of times you're setting yourself up. I've known
Speaker 1: women who've done it, and I try to tell them
Speaker 1: and they're like, no, but he said this, he said that,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, they be out together, they be out
Speaker 1: as a family with the children. Come on, now, you
Speaker 1: got to be smarter than that. But you could not
Speaker 1: tell this nothing. She did not want to listen because
Speaker 1: she wanted what she wanted. She felt what she felt,
Speaker 1: and she wanted what she wanted, and she would not
Speaker 1: listen until she saw for herself. When she saw the
Speaker 1: dynamics of the relationship for herself, that's when it sunk in.
Speaker 1: He was lying to her and she was all in
Speaker 1: her feelings about it, And I said, why are you
Speaker 1: all bent out of shape when you should have never
Speaker 1: been in a relationship with them anyways, You set yourself up,
Speaker 1: that's what you know. It's just baffling to me how
Speaker 1: people cried and they saw hurt over something that they
Speaker 1: saw coming one hundred miles away, but they did not
Speaker 1: want to accept it. How are you hurt over a
Speaker 1: relationship that you should have never been in in the
Speaker 1: first place. But people allow us all of the time.
Speaker 1: They open themselves up to be let down all of
Speaker 1: the time. But people do it because of what's inside
Speaker 1: that mindset and that unresolved inside. People are seeking, they're
Speaker 1: chasing their yearning for love, and they just end up
Speaker 1: in a mess, heartbroken and just hurt when they set
Speaker 1: themselves up. I mean, if you allow a person into
Speaker 1: your life, they didnet just bombard their way into your life.
Speaker 1: You open yourself up to that individual, you let them in.
Speaker 1: And any time you meet someone and you find out
Speaker 1: that they're married, I don't care how much you're feeling
Speaker 1: towards them, I don't care how the chemistry is or
Speaker 1: the attraction. You should never allow it. You should never
Speaker 1: entertain it. Ever I've met along the way, I've met
Speaker 1: a couple men that I could have had attraction towards them,
Speaker 1: But once I found out that situation, I never thought
Speaker 1: about it again. For what what am I gonna sit
Speaker 1: around thinking about a guy who's in a relationship with
Speaker 1: someone ridiculous, And especially if he's a guy who's trying
Speaker 1: to get with me while he's in a relationship with
Speaker 1: someone else. Are you kidding me? To me, that's a
Speaker 1: total insult. Total, that's an insult to me that you
Speaker 1: approach me thinking I will have a relationship with you
Speaker 1: when you already married to somebody. No, I wouldn't want
Speaker 1: that ever. But so many women fall forward and men too.
Speaker 1: See a lot of times people want to just you know,
Speaker 1: talk about the women through all the fiery darts at
Speaker 1: the women. But men do it too. And guess what,
Speaker 1: unless they're gay. Every time the women do it, they're
Speaker 1: doing it with a man. So men do it too.
Speaker 1: But people want to talk about one side versus the other. No,
Speaker 1: talk about both sides because do the same thing. You
Speaker 1: go through life and you open yourself up to things
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't. You know, you shouldn't anybody in life,
Speaker 1: anyone who goes through life and you get involved. You
Speaker 1: have intuition, you have these feelings and these thoughts. You
Speaker 1: know when you're doing wrong. But see, people can't see
Speaker 1: past what they want, what they desire, what they feel,
Speaker 1: and all of those things that they are blind to
Speaker 1: because they want what they want when they wanted, and
Speaker 1: they find themselves else in this situation and they only
Speaker 1: can see when it goes bad, then it's like, well,
Speaker 1: I know I shouldn't have done it, but I was
Speaker 1: hoping that it would be different. No, think about it.
Speaker 1: Think about the situation you're in. Just think about it.
Speaker 1: You're getting into a relationship with someone who's already married.
Speaker 1: Tell me, please tell me what good you think is
Speaker 1: in that? Just tell me. I want you to think
Speaker 1: about that. What good is there to get in a
Speaker 1: relationship with someone who's already married. And some of you
Speaker 1: you just believe it and everything. Oh, we don't sleep together,
Speaker 1: we don't have no type of affection. She do her thing,
Speaker 1: I do my thing. Blah blah blah, blah blah. It
Speaker 1: should not matter. You should not want to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship with someone who's married, because it's not over
Speaker 1: until they are divorced. Period. And the Bible already told
Speaker 1: us about divorce. There's only a few little reasons people
Speaker 1: can get a divorce. And if you're the person who's
Speaker 1: committing adultery, uh, you're not it. You're not one she
Speaker 1: or he maybe, but you're not one that could get
Speaker 1: a divorce. But I don't want to get too much
Speaker 1: into that because that's another topic. And I've talked about
Speaker 1: it a little bit in some of my other episodes.
Speaker 1: You have to be mindful and be mindful of the
Speaker 1: theme you allow in your life, the people you allow
Speaker 1: into your life, the situations you put yourself in. You
Speaker 1: have to be mindful of those things, and you also
Speaker 1: have to guard your heart. Stop falling for any little thing.
Speaker 1: Oh he made me smile. Oh he's so funny, he's
Speaker 1: so nice. Stop falling for things that are superficial. Some
Speaker 1: people are masters of manipulation. They know everything to do
Speaker 1: and to say. Stop falling for those things. See. That's
Speaker 1: why you have to know who you are, and it's
Speaker 1: why you have to love yourself because when you do,
Speaker 1: you can see past all of that stuff. You really can.
Speaker 1: When you can't see past your heart, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: it can lead you into some terrible situations with some
Speaker 1: terrible people. When you have all of these feelings and
Speaker 1: emotions going on, you miss things that you should be
Speaker 1: able to see. Some of you don't want to see
Speaker 1: them because you want what you want. You like what
Speaker 1: you're feeling until it goes bad. I don't care if
Speaker 1: the person eventually gets a divorce, you still have already
Speaker 1: defiled that relationship. So it's bad from the start because
Speaker 1: you got into it the wrong way. You know, when
Speaker 1: you open yourself up to things, you have to suffer
Speaker 1: the consequence consequences of your decisions, of your choices, and
Speaker 1: eventually we all do. So I just came on here
Speaker 1: to tell you do the right thing. Stop allowing your
Speaker 1: heart to lead you into bad situations. And it's a
Speaker 1: bad situation to get into a relationship with someone who's
Speaker 1: already married. And that's for anyone. I don't care who
Speaker 1: you are, i don't care if you know me or not.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you the truth. I'm never going to
Speaker 1: be okay with that because it's wrong. And think about it.
Speaker 1: If they got into a relationship with you and their marriage,
Speaker 1: if you eventually married them, they'll get into a relationship
Speaker 1: with someone else and then you and tell that other
Speaker 1: person the same stuff they were telling you, Oh we're
Speaker 1: not together. I just want you to think about it.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying these things to hurt you or to
Speaker 1: make you upset. If it does, I mean that's on you.
Speaker 1: I'm saying it to help you and for people to
Speaker 1: open their eyes and understand why they find themselves in
Speaker 1: bad situations in unhealthy relationships because you open yourself up
Speaker 1: to it because you can't see past your feelings and wants,
Speaker 1: your desires, that self gratification of the flesh. You get bamboozed,
Speaker 1: bamboozled because of your feelings and emotions, and you think
Speaker 1: it's all good what it is. And I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: sit here and beat a dead horse, as they say,
Speaker 1: because no matter what I say, people still gonna do it.
Speaker 1: People still gonna be hurt, they gonna still be crushed.
Speaker 1: But it's all self inflicted because it is you who
Speaker 1: open yourself up to it. It is you who allowed
Speaker 1: it in your life. And no one, no one, I
Speaker 1: don't care who they are, they are not worth it.
Speaker 1: You deserve better, period, point blank. And the end, you
Speaker 1: deserve better. So that's all I'm saying on it. Thank
Speaker 1: you for listening. I hope you got something out of it.
Speaker 1: Please share this episode much much much love to each
Speaker 1: and every one of you. I in every episode the same,
Speaker 1: and I hope you do it. Think on it