WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.360 --> 00:00:05.400 Stuck at home, bored and alone. You'd think I could 2 00:00:05.480 --> 00:00:06.839 have some. 3 00:00:06.919 --> 00:00:09.919 Fun on my own, but not bold. 4 00:00:14.919 --> 00:00:17.519 If with Cecily and Stephen. 5 00:00:17.760 --> 00:00:22.359 Hello everybody, and welcome to bored a f you know 6 00:00:22.399 --> 00:00:26.359 what it is like back to basics, because we really are. 7 00:00:26.559 --> 00:00:28.719 I think I'm kind of bored. I don't know. 8 00:00:28.839 --> 00:00:32.200 I don't do well without like my routine. When my 9 00:00:32.280 --> 00:00:33.119 routine's off, do. 10 00:00:33.079 --> 00:00:38.520 You know what I mean? Yeah? Well I don't. I yeah. 11 00:00:39.039 --> 00:00:41.920 I need your vacation. I need a steak k I 12 00:00:41.960 --> 00:00:44.679 need a staycation. I need to get the flood out 13 00:00:44.759 --> 00:00:45.560 a app Well. 14 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:48.920 I'm having a vacation because I haven't had to record 15 00:00:49.000 --> 00:00:53.000 too much because uh I pre recorded for for Crying 16 00:00:53.000 --> 00:00:57.079 out Loud, and I'm realizing, like I like recording, like 17 00:00:57.240 --> 00:01:00.719 I like feeling needed. I need people to need content 18 00:01:00.799 --> 00:01:03.280 for me. I need to be doing something. Do you 19 00:01:03.399 --> 00:01:03.920 understand that. 20 00:01:04.239 --> 00:01:06.120 We're different like that. I do understand. 21 00:01:06.840 --> 00:01:09.799 I would like to go unplug somewhere and I don't 22 00:01:09.840 --> 00:01:10.200 know where. 23 00:01:10.319 --> 00:01:10.760 That's the thing. 24 00:01:10.760 --> 00:01:12.560 I you know, when you picture in your mind like 25 00:01:12.680 --> 00:01:15.120 this is ooh, I see myself with a Pina colada 26 00:01:15.159 --> 00:01:17.480 on a beach, and I don't see that. What I 27 00:01:17.560 --> 00:01:23.000 see is like wearing a coat near a volcano in Iceland. Really, 28 00:01:23.040 --> 00:01:25.439 that is what keeps it. It's calling me. Iceland's been 29 00:01:25.480 --> 00:01:28.040 calling me for years. It's definitely on my bucket list, 30 00:01:28.879 --> 00:01:31.920 and that is like a plan. But I also don't 31 00:01:31.920 --> 00:01:34.799 have a lot of money, so that's a problem when 32 00:01:34.840 --> 00:01:37.200 it comes to plants, because then when you do save 33 00:01:37.239 --> 00:01:38.879 a little money, you don't want to spend it all 34 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:43.079 on Iceland, right, you know what I'm saying. Yes, that's 35 00:01:43.120 --> 00:01:45.359 the thing where you're like, well that is the that's 36 00:01:45.400 --> 00:01:48.239 the catch. But even like this holiday season, I mean 37 00:01:48.319 --> 00:01:50.599 I didn't really have any time off, like from my 38 00:01:50.719 --> 00:01:52.959 other job. I think we had like two days off, 39 00:01:53.040 --> 00:01:54.879 but you know, you could still send stuff in if 40 00:01:54.920 --> 00:01:59.120 you wanted. So if that's on the table, like I'm like, huh, 41 00:01:59.159 --> 00:02:01.200 so I don't know, I haven't had like a what 42 00:02:01.239 --> 00:02:04.159 do you mean by if you want to Like, if 43 00:02:04.200 --> 00:02:06.040 you have articles and stuff that you've written and you 44 00:02:06.079 --> 00:02:08.520 want to send them in, you know you're not like 45 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:11.240 they can't block you from doing that. So I always 46 00:02:11.280 --> 00:02:15.080 I never really feel like I can't. I always feel 47 00:02:15.080 --> 00:02:17.719 like I have to be working with my radio jobs, 48 00:02:17.719 --> 00:02:20.080 like they're all off, they're like one of them was like, yeah, 49 00:02:20.120 --> 00:02:21.759 we're taking two weeks off, but if you want to 50 00:02:21.800 --> 00:02:23.840 send reports in we have someone filling in. And I 51 00:02:23.840 --> 00:02:25.520 want to be like, I don't want to send if 52 00:02:25.560 --> 00:02:27.800 you're taking off, right, why do I? 53 00:02:27.919 --> 00:02:29.879 But they don't say it like that, They're not. 54 00:02:29.879 --> 00:02:33.080 Like mad if I do, I feel it on myself, 55 00:02:33.159 --> 00:02:38.199 like I'll send reports and I don't want to do 56 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:40.680 shit for like one week, you know, right, the only 57 00:02:40.719 --> 00:02:42.879 thing I wanted I'll do with you. That's the best. 58 00:02:43.039 --> 00:02:46.039 That's the best thing. Like that is just us chit chatting. 59 00:02:46.319 --> 00:02:47.680 So that doesn't feel like work. 60 00:02:47.759 --> 00:02:50.560 It doesn't feel like work. Yeah, that's your point, But 61 00:02:50.639 --> 00:02:51.639 I kind of feel like that. 62 00:02:51.879 --> 00:02:54.000 I guess I feel like that with several of my 63 00:02:54.120 --> 00:02:57.680 jobs because you know, like I also miss like Lynett 64 00:02:57.680 --> 00:03:00.319 and I are not We're taking two weeks off, and 65 00:03:00.560 --> 00:03:03.199 then I miss my job, like I miss Like I'm like, 66 00:03:03.240 --> 00:03:06.240 but I have things to say, and like why am 67 00:03:06.240 --> 00:03:06.759 I not working? 68 00:03:06.879 --> 00:03:08.840 Just write them down? You write them down? Yeah, And 69 00:03:08.919 --> 00:03:11.280 I do. I write them so hard. 70 00:03:11.319 --> 00:03:14.680 I just like, I just I just write them longhand 71 00:03:14.719 --> 00:03:17.439 like I just scribble really and. 72 00:03:17.400 --> 00:03:19.599 Then crumple them up and throw them away. That's the 73 00:03:19.639 --> 00:03:21.639 best way to joke. Someone told me that once. They're like, 74 00:03:21.639 --> 00:03:24.240 when you're writing jokes, write them on an old, nasty, 75 00:03:24.319 --> 00:03:26.719 crusty receipt and then just throw away the receipt because 76 00:03:26.719 --> 00:03:27.879 you're never going to find it again. 77 00:03:28.360 --> 00:03:31.280 Like, well, yeah, because you're yeah, that's the that's the 78 00:03:31.319 --> 00:03:34.400 worst I would Okay, if I was still being a 79 00:03:34.439 --> 00:03:38.039 stand up comedian right now, it would go so badly because, 80 00:03:38.199 --> 00:03:41.080 first of all, if I'm honest with myself, I was 81 00:03:41.199 --> 00:03:44.080 never good at remembering jokes, even when I had a 82 00:03:44.120 --> 00:03:47.360 decent memory, like that was my thing, that was like 83 00:03:47.400 --> 00:03:50.400 my try. I was always scared if I had to 84 00:03:50.439 --> 00:03:53.120 do especially like a TV thing. I was always like, 85 00:03:53.159 --> 00:03:55.280 how am I going to remember the joke? Like what 86 00:03:55.280 --> 00:03:58.280 if I forget while I'm on stage? Oh my, I 87 00:03:58.319 --> 00:04:00.960 would be so happy if when I did gigs where 88 00:04:00.960 --> 00:04:04.240 there was a where they offered teleprompter, which did happen. 89 00:04:05.199 --> 00:04:07.360 There were a lot of gigs where if you did TV, 90 00:04:07.680 --> 00:04:09.479 a lot of times they would give you a teleprompter. 91 00:04:10.199 --> 00:04:12.199 God, I would feel like I'd be so lost and 92 00:04:12.199 --> 00:04:13.240 wouldn't be able to read that. 93 00:04:14.919 --> 00:04:17.120 Oh I was pretty good at teleprompter, But if you 94 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:20.519 didn't have teleprompter, then I always felt scared like that 95 00:04:20.600 --> 00:04:24.800 I might forget and then it would always be so embarrassing, like, Okay, 96 00:04:24.920 --> 00:04:27.920 what if I'm like I forget and then I'm on stage, 97 00:04:28.439 --> 00:04:31.319 like I'm in front of the camera and I don't 98 00:04:31.360 --> 00:04:33.720 remember my joke. That's just going to be so humiliating. 99 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:36.800 So I was I was always worried about a lot 100 00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:39.240 of things going on at the same time, and it 101 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:40.879 was never really that fun for me. 102 00:04:41.160 --> 00:04:42.399 But now I just think if I. 103 00:04:42.360 --> 00:04:44.000 Ever had to do it now, it would be a 104 00:04:44.160 --> 00:04:48.000 hundred times like then, I for sure would forget. 105 00:04:47.720 --> 00:04:50.279 Stuff right, and then everything's forever. It's not just going 106 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:51.959 to show up on TV one time. It's going to 107 00:04:52.000 --> 00:04:54.319 be on every TikTok. It's like if you fuck up, 108 00:04:54.439 --> 00:04:59.160 especially you're like, h everything sucks. Can I say, can 109 00:04:59.199 --> 00:05:01.759 I give you an unpop opinion? Yes, this is I've 110 00:05:01.759 --> 00:05:03.600 been thinking about this all week and I feel like 111 00:05:03.680 --> 00:05:07.120 this is going to get as canceled. Oh, and I've 112 00:05:07.199 --> 00:05:09.639 really thought about it a lot. But I was like 113 00:05:09.759 --> 00:05:16.519 scrolling insta and this instareel came up with get ready 114 00:05:16.639 --> 00:05:20.600 for to be mad? Okay, But Conan O'Brien was telling 115 00:05:20.639 --> 00:05:23.879 a story on Colbert right, and I have something about 116 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:26.360 how Letterman gave him a gift once he gave him 117 00:05:26.399 --> 00:05:31.040 a course, and I was so annoyed with Conan, like, 118 00:05:31.279 --> 00:05:33.519 I don't think I like Conan O'Brien. I'm sure he's 119 00:05:33.560 --> 00:05:36.639 a nice person, but I think he's a terrible interviewer. 120 00:05:37.079 --> 00:05:40.279 Doesn't let anyone talk. He yells, He screams every story 121 00:05:40.759 --> 00:05:43.560 so loud. You agree, I. 122 00:05:43.399 --> 00:05:48.839 Agree, I agree, I think overhyped. Not as genius as 123 00:05:48.839 --> 00:05:49.600 he thinks he is. 124 00:05:50.639 --> 00:05:53.959 He's had very good writers over the years. Yes, I'm 125 00:05:53.959 --> 00:05:56.040 sure he's a nice person. He's just so loud in 126 00:05:56.079 --> 00:05:56.560 the story. 127 00:05:56.600 --> 00:05:59.720 And you could tell the Colbert and I know, perhaps 128 00:05:59.720 --> 00:06:02.279 I'm projecting, because I felt that way, and I felt like, 129 00:06:02.519 --> 00:06:04.240 you know, you're like, I know he sees it, but 130 00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:07.519 you could see he looked exhausted. The bear looked exhausted 131 00:06:07.519 --> 00:06:09.519 in the conversation. That would be like okay, yeah, But 132 00:06:09.720 --> 00:06:13.079 then then what he was trying to lower the volume. 133 00:06:12.720 --> 00:06:15.720 By himself lowering the volume. I could tell I've. 134 00:06:15.600 --> 00:06:19.720 Been there, Oh, I just screaming. Just I almost want 135 00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:21.160 to play it for you, let me see if I 136 00:06:21.160 --> 00:06:23.279 can get it up. But like, I mean, I don't 137 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:24.800 know if that's going to be something you want? 138 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:28.079 Is there like a desperation do you think to. 139 00:06:29.639 --> 00:06:31.480 Do you know what I mean by a desperation, Like 140 00:06:31.600 --> 00:06:33.360 is there like, Oh, I haven't had a show in 141 00:06:33.399 --> 00:06:36.199 a while, so now I have to really yell my jokes. 142 00:06:37.720 --> 00:06:38.519 I don't think so. 143 00:06:38.600 --> 00:06:42.240 I think he's always I've always always annoyed me, even 144 00:06:42.279 --> 00:06:44.959 as like like when he was on and everybody was 145 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:50.839 like Team Coco, like calm down. Everybody just calmed down, Like, yeah, 146 00:06:50.959 --> 00:06:53.079 I'm glad he got a show, but he was so 147 00:06:53.399 --> 00:06:59.439 victimized by like by the tonight show a little thing. Yeah, like, yes, okay, 148 00:06:59.680 --> 00:07:02.759 I I prefer Conan to Leno if I'm looking at 149 00:07:02.800 --> 00:07:05.480 like a joke writing situation or rich one has a 150 00:07:05.480 --> 00:07:08.480 little more edge. Yeah, okay, I was on Team Coco. 151 00:07:08.639 --> 00:07:11.519 I guess I don't know why everyone in LA had 152 00:07:11.519 --> 00:07:14.480 to get T shirts made, get your own life in order. 153 00:07:14.800 --> 00:07:18.920 Don't worry that much about Conan. Like he's fine either way, 154 00:07:19.360 --> 00:07:22.720 He's totally fine. Oh my god, that is so true, 155 00:07:23.639 --> 00:07:27.319 Like it got out of hand, yes, Like what a 156 00:07:27.319 --> 00:07:29.680 pr team is that? With his face and then team 157 00:07:29.720 --> 00:07:32.319 and the people that you note writers that haven't worked 158 00:07:32.399 --> 00:07:35.959 never worked ever, like people that you knew on blind 159 00:07:36.000 --> 00:07:38.160 date that had one job and never worked again are 160 00:07:38.199 --> 00:07:39.839 wearing Team Coco shirts. 161 00:07:39.560 --> 00:07:40.839 Like what has he done for you? 162 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:41.360 Right? 163 00:07:41.879 --> 00:07:42.680 Good question. 164 00:07:43.839 --> 00:07:47.040 I thought this was going to be an unpopular opinion 165 00:07:47.120 --> 00:07:50.959 and then lo and behold not an unpopular opinion. It's 166 00:07:51.040 --> 00:07:53.160 just sometimes we just have to be brave enough to 167 00:07:53.199 --> 00:07:54.360 say it, to say the thing. 168 00:07:54.439 --> 00:07:56.920 I bet a lot of people disagree, because I've had 169 00:07:56.959 --> 00:07:58.839 people say to me that they don't care for Letterman 170 00:07:58.920 --> 00:08:01.160 and I love Letterman, and that hurts. It hurts my 171 00:08:01.279 --> 00:08:03.680 soul to hear someone say that. But I guess it's 172 00:08:03.720 --> 00:08:06.600 really doesn't matter. At the end of the day, it 173 00:08:06.680 --> 00:08:10.439 really doesn't matter. Here, I have a clip, say if 174 00:08:10.439 --> 00:08:12.000 I can play you this clip from YouTube pulled on 175 00:08:12.079 --> 00:08:15.480 there's going to be an ad first, and the ad 176 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:18.040 is AI. If you're wondering it is an AI monkey. 177 00:08:18.839 --> 00:08:22.240 Oh that's where we are. Okay, So here's Colbert is 178 00:08:22.279 --> 00:08:24.079 just talking for I'm going to talk you into it first, 179 00:08:24.079 --> 00:08:26.600 because we don't need Colbert like just sitting here. Let 180 00:08:26.680 --> 00:08:28.759 me let me okay, you're going to be mid story. 181 00:08:28.759 --> 00:08:32.879 Here's I've got applause breaks. 182 00:08:34.120 --> 00:08:34.440 Jobs. 183 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:36.919 Guys don't agree, right, hold on, let me get ahead. 184 00:08:37.039 --> 00:08:41.720 He's telling the story because you're a fellow host. Sure 185 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:46.159 before an hour before the show, you're concentrating, you're getting ready, Yeah, 186 00:08:46.240 --> 00:08:49.720 pressure cooker. Yeah, body's being waxed oiled and hold on, 187 00:08:49.799 --> 00:08:53.200 let me just go ahead and starts floaded two cowboys. 188 00:08:54.919 --> 00:08:57.639 An answer, he's searched all of the world for a 189 00:08:57.639 --> 00:08:58.399 horse named. 190 00:08:58.279 --> 00:09:07.159 Dave, and so loud. Yeah. So it just goes on 191 00:09:07.279 --> 00:09:09.600 and as a headache. He looks tired. 192 00:09:09.720 --> 00:09:12.919 He has literally his head in his hand sometimes huh, 193 00:09:12.919 --> 00:09:13.840 and he's trying to fall. 194 00:09:13.919 --> 00:09:16.120 You know, it's a it's an interesting. 195 00:09:15.720 --> 00:09:19.200 Story about how Dave was rewarding him and sent him 196 00:09:19.240 --> 00:09:22.200 a horse, had it like delivered to the lot. Kind 197 00:09:22.200 --> 00:09:24.200 of a funny story, but you don't have to yell it. 198 00:09:24.879 --> 00:09:27.519 And look, let me be clear, I think his writing 199 00:09:27.519 --> 00:09:30.519 on The Simpsons is brilliant. Maybe I just prefer him 200 00:09:30.559 --> 00:09:34.559 as a writer. Maybe I just prefer him as like 201 00:09:34.600 --> 00:09:38.639 a writer, like he definitely elevated the Simpsons, like his 202 00:09:38.799 --> 00:09:44.320 years on the show. But I just anyway, what's another 203 00:09:44.399 --> 00:09:48.080 unpopular opinion? That's so lonely to have unpopular opinions? And 204 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:49.879 you know, I feel this way a lot when we're 205 00:09:49.919 --> 00:09:54.360 watching Real housewives, Like I will dislike housewives that people 206 00:09:54.559 --> 00:09:57.200 just love and go crazy for, and then it can 207 00:09:57.240 --> 00:10:01.559 make you feel lonely. Yes, like I feel like I 208 00:10:01.559 --> 00:10:04.679 love the Counting Crows and everyone's like I always thought 209 00:10:04.679 --> 00:10:06.080 that was Hoodie or the Blowfish. 210 00:10:06.080 --> 00:10:09.960 I'm like, no, that's a different band, not the same band. 211 00:10:10.039 --> 00:10:15.039 Right right, Well that probably makes you feel like misunderstood. 212 00:10:16.039 --> 00:10:19.360 Yes, well it makes me feel misunderstood because I pride 213 00:10:19.360 --> 00:10:24.679 myself on being such a music person, not almost not snaw, 214 00:10:24.759 --> 00:10:27.679 but I like, you know, different, and so I'm you know, 215 00:10:27.879 --> 00:10:29.440 but I'm not going to get into all that again. 216 00:10:30.120 --> 00:10:32.480 Adam. That's another that's another exact version. 217 00:10:32.519 --> 00:10:35.360 Like I worried so much for so many years about 218 00:10:35.399 --> 00:10:38.840 Adam Derwitz and his depression, and like he's fine, he's 219 00:10:38.919 --> 00:10:41.679 dating like a twenty five year old or whatever. He's fine. 220 00:10:42.360 --> 00:10:44.799 I don't need to worry about him. No, he seemed 221 00:10:44.799 --> 00:10:47.440 to have a pretty good life going, so I can 222 00:10:47.480 --> 00:10:51.000 just enjoy the music and not worry about his dissociative disorder. 223 00:10:51.279 --> 00:10:55.000 Maybe that's about like being a sensitive person, an EmPATH, 224 00:10:55.039 --> 00:10:57.840 you'd say, yeah, an EmPATH, you just feel things more 225 00:10:57.879 --> 00:11:00.919 deeply than other people. You know, joke about lot of 226 00:11:00.919 --> 00:11:03.600 people We're saying this because I had a friend who 227 00:11:03.639 --> 00:11:06.120 would constantly call himself an mpath and I was like, no, 228 00:11:06.200 --> 00:11:09.840 you're just a fucking narcissist. You literally make every single 229 00:11:09.879 --> 00:11:10.519 thing about you. 230 00:11:11.600 --> 00:11:12.519 Now, is there? 231 00:11:12.679 --> 00:11:15.879 I feel like there is a fine line between like 232 00:11:16.200 --> 00:11:18.360 a sensitive person and a narcissist. 233 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:19.879 I agree with that. 234 00:11:20.120 --> 00:11:23.200 I agree with that. I think I don't know what 235 00:11:23.240 --> 00:11:24.159 I think anymore. 236 00:11:24.840 --> 00:11:25.320 I don't know. 237 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:28.960 I think I think we're all narcissist to some degree, 238 00:11:29.080 --> 00:11:30.080 some more than others. 239 00:11:30.279 --> 00:11:30.759 For sure. 240 00:11:31.639 --> 00:11:33.360 I know that I have a hard time. I mean, like, 241 00:11:33.759 --> 00:11:37.360 what is we have to redefine narcissists? Because are we all? 242 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:40.840 Like I always think of it like this, we're the 243 00:11:40.840 --> 00:11:44.039 star of our own movie, you know. So it's a 244 00:11:44.039 --> 00:11:46.480 matter of like I think one of the great things 245 00:11:46.519 --> 00:11:48.759 about like the program that you're in. 246 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:53.240 WOWS. I was going to be the anonymous part. 247 00:11:53.279 --> 00:11:55.720 But although what I like, I'm just now breaking the 248 00:11:55.759 --> 00:11:59.480 news Stephanie is sober. I do want to say that here, 249 00:11:59.519 --> 00:12:00.840 we do want to talk about we do want to 250 00:12:00.840 --> 00:12:06.679 address that today. But one of the things is the 251 00:12:06.679 --> 00:12:08.639 acts of service. And so when I think you think 252 00:12:08.679 --> 00:12:12.360 in terms of acts of service, that is a really 253 00:12:12.360 --> 00:12:16.440 good way of reframing like how because I get myself 254 00:12:16.480 --> 00:12:19.159 all jumbled up all the time, and then that is 255 00:12:19.240 --> 00:12:22.799 self centered that it is like there's no other way 256 00:12:22.799 --> 00:12:24.840 to and the only really way to snap out of 257 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:27.440 that kind of anxiety, which is in and of itself 258 00:12:27.480 --> 00:12:31.039 self involved, I guess, is to you know, do something 259 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:34.679 for someone else, or even if it's on a smaller level, 260 00:12:34.759 --> 00:12:37.159 hold the door, buy someone a cup of coffee, whatever, 261 00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:40.519 it is, like something the only way out. 262 00:12:40.759 --> 00:12:42.840 That's what I'm saying, So thank you for your service. 263 00:12:43.000 --> 00:12:46.039 Yeah, I have to say though, what something that's a 264 00:12:46.039 --> 00:12:49.320 little bit funny is that a lot of people in 265 00:12:49.480 --> 00:12:54.519 this program that I'm in, part of the thing that 266 00:12:54.559 --> 00:12:56.480 they tell you to do is like when you're you know, 267 00:12:56.559 --> 00:12:59.559 paying it forward, helping the next person. You know, it's 268 00:12:59.679 --> 00:13:03.480 always the bottom of that is like because it helps me, 269 00:13:04.440 --> 00:13:08.039 you know, Like yeah, yeah, actually that altruistic. 270 00:13:08.200 --> 00:13:10.840 At least it's something at least I think the action 271 00:13:10.960 --> 00:13:12.120 is more important than the intention. 272 00:13:13.159 --> 00:13:15.120 That's that's a Jewish thing. Did you know that? In 273 00:13:15.240 --> 00:13:16.879 judiosm it's all about the action. 274 00:13:17.240 --> 00:13:19.000 That's why there's no such thing of like at the 275 00:13:19.120 --> 00:13:21.720 end of your life, did Jesus save your soul? That 276 00:13:21.759 --> 00:13:24.240 we don't have that because it's like, no, you have you. 277 00:13:24.600 --> 00:13:26.919 It's all about being a good person. It doesn't matter 278 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:28.600 what you're thinking inside. So if you do it for 279 00:13:28.639 --> 00:13:31.279 the wrong reasons, it doesn't matter. The action is positive. 280 00:13:31.799 --> 00:13:35.960 There's no Lord like digging into our thoughts. You know 281 00:13:36.200 --> 00:13:37.120 that's crazy. 282 00:13:37.480 --> 00:13:39.519 I really like that. I do too. 283 00:13:40.000 --> 00:13:42.919 That's why I like on Young Kipoor that the whole 284 00:13:42.960 --> 00:13:45.159 idea is that it's a day of atonement when you're 285 00:13:45.200 --> 00:13:47.440 really looking at yourself and what you've what you could 286 00:13:47.480 --> 00:13:50.759 have done better. It's not about talking to like god 287 00:13:50.840 --> 00:13:52.840 quot unquote. It's like you have to talk to the 288 00:13:52.879 --> 00:13:55.519 person that you feel you have some business with. 289 00:13:56.039 --> 00:13:57.320 I'm not business like. 290 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:02.639 Trading silver right, not like not like the whole reason 291 00:14:02.720 --> 00:14:04.000 could no, but you know what I mean, Like you 292 00:14:04.000 --> 00:14:06.240 have some stuff with so you have to actually speak 293 00:14:06.279 --> 00:14:08.240 to them. It's not good enough to be like, sorry, 294 00:14:08.360 --> 00:14:11.440 Lord that I was a shit to this person. You 295 00:14:11.600 --> 00:14:15.240 like apologize to the person. So that's kind of cool. 296 00:14:15.279 --> 00:14:18.399 It's that's also twelve step. I mean that's also part 297 00:14:18.440 --> 00:14:24.759 of AA right, like you make amends. Yes, for sure, 298 00:14:25.240 --> 00:14:27.360 we've really solved a lot of Can I tell you 299 00:14:27.360 --> 00:14:29.039 one more thing serious, and then we'll move on to 300 00:14:29.080 --> 00:14:30.159 not we'll be joking again. 301 00:14:30.960 --> 00:14:34.919 This my cousin. You know I've met Claude. You know Claude. 302 00:14:35.279 --> 00:14:37.240 He's a writer, and he writes that he has a 303 00:14:37.240 --> 00:14:41.559 substack and he always has really profound things on his substack. 304 00:14:41.919 --> 00:14:44.480 And one thing I read recently was that he said 305 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:47.519 he read this somewhere someone said this to him. Is 306 00:14:47.519 --> 00:14:50.679 like we're always like when we think about resentment, like 307 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:52.960 oh god, one day karma will get them, or one 308 00:14:53.000 --> 00:14:56.039 day I'm going to get even. Right this person, he's like, 309 00:14:56.320 --> 00:14:59.360 reframe that as I'm going to get even in terms 310 00:14:59.399 --> 00:15:00.000 of kindness. 311 00:15:00.279 --> 00:15:01.480 And I thought that was the coolest thing. 312 00:15:01.519 --> 00:15:03.879 Like someone did really something very nice for you get 313 00:15:03.919 --> 00:15:06.919 even with them. That's who you get even with, Like 314 00:15:06.960 --> 00:15:08.519 the people that are good to you, be. 315 00:15:08.519 --> 00:15:10.720 As good to them as there it's not a cool 316 00:15:10.799 --> 00:15:11.759 way of like thinking. 317 00:15:11.879 --> 00:15:14.279 I never I mean obviously, but like never thought about 318 00:15:14.279 --> 00:15:15.600 it like that. 319 00:15:15.600 --> 00:15:19.240 That is really cool. I love that Yes, get yes, 320 00:15:19.320 --> 00:15:20.600 and I'll look at it. 321 00:15:20.759 --> 00:15:23.440 Find in the score, yeah, even the score by Like 322 00:15:23.480 --> 00:15:25.320 they did these wonderful things, so now you do. 323 00:15:25.399 --> 00:15:26.879 It doesn't have to be exactly the same. 324 00:15:27.200 --> 00:15:32.879 That would be weird, right, like forever, like, oh, you 325 00:15:32.960 --> 00:15:34.519 got me the sweater and you give him back the 326 00:15:34.559 --> 00:15:35.200 same sweater. 327 00:15:35.799 --> 00:15:38.039 Now you get the sweater. I'm that great. 328 00:15:38.559 --> 00:15:41.039 But yeah, we all get so tight up in our 329 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:44.279 thoughts of like, can't wait for them to get theirs? 330 00:15:45.240 --> 00:15:48.679 Fuck those people. Don't even think about those people. We 331 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:49.559 don't have time for that. 332 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:52.080 No, we don't. I mean, I'm maybe time for it, 333 00:15:52.120 --> 00:15:54.360 but yeah, I know what you're saying. Oh I did too. 334 00:15:54.840 --> 00:15:56.679 But also the way he put it too is like, god, 335 00:15:56.759 --> 00:15:59.440 you know we're here for He goes, uh, oh, how 336 00:15:59.480 --> 00:16:01.919 did he put it? He's like, basically, the earth has 337 00:16:02.039 --> 00:16:04.759 every hundred years or so, it's all new people. Never 338 00:16:04.799 --> 00:16:07.320 thought about it like that either. He's like, so fuck 339 00:16:07.399 --> 00:16:09.519 all the people that don't, Matt, you know that? Are 340 00:16:09.639 --> 00:16:10.200 did you wrong? 341 00:16:10.320 --> 00:16:12.240 Whatever? Do the other thing? Focus on that? 342 00:16:12.759 --> 00:16:14.159 But isn't that a neat way to think about it? 343 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:16.120 Every hundred years or so we have the earth has 344 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:16.879 all new people. 345 00:16:17.279 --> 00:16:18.720 Oh that's so deep. 346 00:16:19.159 --> 00:16:23.000 It's really fucking deep. Yeah, that's the act. What other 347 00:16:23.080 --> 00:16:24.240 podcast are you going to get? 348 00:16:25.159 --> 00:16:26.200 You're not conan? 349 00:16:27.440 --> 00:16:31.200 So there is somebody at uh I went to my 350 00:16:31.279 --> 00:16:34.159 meeting this morning and somebody said this thing and I'm 351 00:16:34.159 --> 00:16:36.200 going to fuck it up and I don't have I 352 00:16:36.559 --> 00:16:38.639 I went to go text her to see if I 353 00:16:38.639 --> 00:16:41.200 could ask her the exact quote, and uh, I think 354 00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:42.799 I have a really old number for her. 355 00:16:44.039 --> 00:16:47.159 You gott. I literally turned around. I was like, that 356 00:16:47.360 --> 00:16:50.720 is so fucking smart. But it was okay. So it 357 00:16:50.799 --> 00:16:53.799 was something to the effect of like my childhood. 358 00:16:54.120 --> 00:16:56.720 We were talking about like childhood and like having a 359 00:16:57.080 --> 00:16:58.480 like not the greatest childhood. 360 00:16:58.519 --> 00:16:59.759 She goes, but it doesn't have to be. 361 00:17:00.240 --> 00:17:02.440 It might not have been the greatest childhood, but it 362 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:04.799 doesn't have to be the longest childhood. 363 00:17:05.359 --> 00:17:09.200 Oh oh my god. 364 00:17:09.440 --> 00:17:13.000 What like at some point we can go, well, yeah, 365 00:17:13.000 --> 00:17:16.799 but it's done, like I'm not a child anymore, Like 366 00:17:16.839 --> 00:17:18.960 I don't live at home, like like let it let 367 00:17:19.000 --> 00:17:20.400 maybe I can let that go. 368 00:17:21.359 --> 00:17:23.359 Yes, isn't that a good one? 369 00:17:23.599 --> 00:17:23.920 Yes? 370 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:26.839 And oh my god, that's so good. Yeah, And it 371 00:17:26.839 --> 00:17:27.799 doesn't have to define you. 372 00:17:27.880 --> 00:17:30.599 And also like god, I mean I would say, you know, 373 00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:33.920 people say, well that your parents did their best at all? No, no, no, 374 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:35.519 that you're I don't think your mom did. I don't 375 00:17:35.519 --> 00:17:36.960 think our moms necessarily did. 376 00:17:37.119 --> 00:17:39.559 I don't think she did her best. No, I don't think. 377 00:17:39.799 --> 00:17:42.400 But like she did what she was capable of doing. 378 00:17:42.480 --> 00:17:44.720 I guess, yes, maybe that is the best that they 379 00:17:44.759 --> 00:17:46.319 can do, that's their capability. 380 00:17:46.400 --> 00:17:48.880 But she didn't try. She didn't ever go like, you 381 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:50.279 know what, maybe I can do better. 382 00:17:50.599 --> 00:17:52.920 And the proof is in the fact that, like, and 383 00:17:52.960 --> 00:17:55.000 this is something we were kind of talking about at 384 00:17:55.000 --> 00:18:00.319 this meeting, was like that she didn't want and I 385 00:18:00.480 --> 00:18:03.000 was trying to like make things better and go like, 386 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:04.599 I would really like to look all of some of 387 00:18:04.599 --> 00:18:06.039 this stuff. And I tried to get her to go 388 00:18:06.039 --> 00:18:09.039 to therapy with me, yes, and she was not interested, 389 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:10.599 not interested. 390 00:18:10.839 --> 00:18:13.559 No, thank you as a therapist, right, I mean that's 391 00:18:13.640 --> 00:18:15.440 the most mind boggling thing. 392 00:18:16.079 --> 00:18:19.039 Right, But it's like, okay, I mean you know what 393 00:18:19.079 --> 00:18:21.039 I mean, at a certain point you have to go, well, 394 00:18:21.279 --> 00:18:24.000 she didn't want to do that, so like I can 395 00:18:24.039 --> 00:18:26.799 either just continue being mad about it or. 396 00:18:27.519 --> 00:18:30.200 Like move the FuG on, which I did. 397 00:18:29.640 --> 00:18:32.519 But I love that and I think of that too, 398 00:18:32.519 --> 00:18:33.960 and then and then I do have something funny to 399 00:18:34.000 --> 00:18:37.440 talk about. But when I think about like mom stuff too, 400 00:18:38.359 --> 00:18:41.599 we were very different and it's like she didn't necessarily choose. 401 00:18:42.039 --> 00:18:43.880