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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Hey, Sarah,

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this is vocal dfrag. We do the vocal defragging while

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on a transition walk through this beautiful forest here in

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South Charlotte, North Carolina. Defragging is simple, but at the

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same time, it's also very difficult. Ask somebody to ask

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themselves a question and then question the answer, and they'll

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look at you. They'll go what, Yeah, that inner person.

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You've got all those voices inside your head and heart,

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the ones that control every decision that you make. Let

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them ask you some questions, give them an answer, and

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then give them permission to ask you even more questions

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on that answer that you gave them. Learning how to

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defrag is breaking it down, learning to understand who you

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are as a person. Defragging is also something that I

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do with my written journals. It started in November of

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twenty seventeen. The goal was to try to figure out

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what's going on here? What, why am I falling apart?

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What led to this? How did I get here? Where

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am I going to go if I don't grow asking

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the questions, questioning the answers. Like I said, it seems

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so simple, but it's very difficult for a lot of

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people because it means identifying with your truer self and

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people you can tell. You can tell by selfies. You

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can tell by the way that you do your lawn,

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the way you cook your food, the way you put

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makeup on. You can tell. Not everybody likes themselves, so

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they try to hide behind the paint. I call that

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a plastic candy coated bathroom merror. Smile, Oh, I know

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when somebody is sharing that monkey. But you got to

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ask the questions and then you question the answers, and

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those answers are things you may not know and you

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may not like, but you still learn from it. You

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learn to grow forward. This is vocal de fright today.

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Our subject is a pretty said, but it's tough. This

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is what came to me in my daily writing. My

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sickness is not what I put on paper, it's holding back.

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Let that sink in for just a moment. Okay, Your

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sickness is not what you put on paper, what you

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put on social media, what you say in verbal, The

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verbal conversations. Your sickness is not that. It's when you

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hold back. That's where you're sick. Because we hold back

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our inner feelings are going. But I wanted to I

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wanted to say that, I really think you should know.

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But something that sensor inside of you said no, no, no, no, no, no,

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not going there. We're not going to cause any trouble today.

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We're not going to speak the truth. Let them learn

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on their own. How many times have you said it

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and or heard it? Let them learn on their own.

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They'll figure it out. You know. The thing is is

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that life doesn't come with a book. It comes with teachers.

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That's us. If somebody is doing something wrong and you

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flat out know it, why are you holding back? With

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your own heart, with compassion, the way that you hold

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on to it, come up with a creative way to

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help a person along. What you put on paper isn't

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the sickness. It's when you're holding yourself back. What are

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you doing that's forcing you to hold things back? Do

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you like life the way that it is? Do you

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enjoy the way that people treat you? What about all

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the different things that you do on an everyday basis

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that others aren't comfortable with are they holding back? And

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if they are, what are they holding back? What would

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you learn about yourself from somebody else if they just

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started talking openly. But they don't because they don't want

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to injure you. They don't want to judge you. They

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don't want to do things with you that could knock

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you off your path because we work so hard to

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be on whatever path it is that we're walking. I'm

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on this path here in South Charlotte, North Carolina, moving

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through a group of trees. I've got living things around

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me that the hawk is above me. There were deer

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out in the front part of the forest this morning.

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It's all around me. There are things moving around us.

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But if they are holding things back, that hurts me

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because what do they know about holding things back? What

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does my dog know about holding things back? When she's

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ready to go, she's ready to go, she doesn't hold back.

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But as human beings, we don't move forward. We stop

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and we hold back. The neighbors that are constantly borrowing

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things from you, but you don't say anything, the idea

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that your family could be better, but you don't say

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anything to help make things up a little bit better.

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You just accept things the way that they are. What

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you put on paper isn't the sickness. It's holding back.

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That's why I invite you to defrag. You're holding back

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on yourself. You're keeping yourself from doing what it needs

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to do in order to age. Well, oh my god,

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he went that way. We're not getting older, Yeah we are.

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What are you doing to prevent yourself from accepting you

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as you? How often do you look at yourself in

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that bathroom mirror or in that rear view mirror in

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the car you don't like what you see? Why don't

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hold back? Why just say it? Give yourself an opportunity

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to be heard. Ask the questions, and then question the answers.

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I'm thinking that's pretty fair, because if you ask the

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questions and you think that question is unfair, if you

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hold back on the answer, you're not being fair. Try

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it some time, Ask the questions, question the answer is.

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You don't have to call it d fragging. I do

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that because it's just it's just a word that came

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to me and I said, all right, I'm not going

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to hold back high marol, and that's vocal deep rag