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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about. I wrote a blog years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>Called the Steal Syndromes, and I'm gonna talk about it now.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm talking about today is not necessarily what I

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<v Speaker 2>wrote in that, but the title is the same. So

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<v Speaker 2>the still syndrome, for me, is a syndrome where people

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<v Speaker 2>have become complacent.

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<v Speaker 1>And have no growth. There's no change.

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<v Speaker 2>People are remaining the same, doing the same things, thinking

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<v Speaker 2>the same things, feeling the same ways, acting the same ways.

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<v Speaker 2>To me, that is what I call the steel syndrome.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing things such as as adults.

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<v Speaker 2>Still hating self, still hating yourself because you're still.

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<v Speaker 1>Wadling in old pain. Now. I am not trying to.

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<v Speaker 2>Downplay or dismiss anything tragic that a person has gone through.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm saying is you don't have to wear it

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<v Speaker 2>like a badge of honor. You don't have to let

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<v Speaker 2>it dictate your life. You can move on and away

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<v Speaker 2>from all the hurt, pain and suffering because.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of what people hold on to is from

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<v Speaker 1>their past, and the past is gone forever. Some of

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<v Speaker 1>you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Well up in age and you're still holding on to

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<v Speaker 2>things from your childhood.

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<v Speaker 1>When your past is.

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<v Speaker 2>Gone, what you're holding on to are the memories, and

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<v Speaker 2>as long as you hold on to them, you're giving

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<v Speaker 2>power to them. And therefore you're still waterling in old pain.

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<v Speaker 2>All that does is hold you back, hold you down,

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<v Speaker 2>and keep you where you've always been. Mentally, it prevents

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<v Speaker 2>you from loving yourself. It prevents you from believing in yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>It prevents you from having confidence and self esteem. It

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<v Speaker 2>prevents you from knowing your worth and your value. It

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<v Speaker 2>leaves you full of insecurity. Okay, I'll move on. You

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<v Speaker 2>have people still lying, just lying about everything. Lie, lie, lie, lie,

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<v Speaker 2>lie so much you forget the last lie you're told.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you tell a lie about that lie because you

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<v Speaker 1>can't remember what you said.

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<v Speaker 2>Just lie, lie, lie, lie lie. Pathologically, everybody know you

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<v Speaker 2>a liar, accept you because you've deceived yourself, still lying.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what people know you for liing. You can never

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<v Speaker 2>become better by remaining the same. Nobody believes a liar.

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<v Speaker 2>The only people that believe a liar are broken individuals

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<v Speaker 2>who are seeking after something because they choose to remain

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<v Speaker 2>the same. Mentally, no growth. Therefore, when there's no growth,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't think for yourself, and when you don't think

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<v Speaker 2>for yourself, other people.

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<v Speaker 1>Will think for you.

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<v Speaker 2>And make you believe things that are not real, that

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<v Speaker 2>are not true. You have people still deceiving others. People

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<v Speaker 2>are still being deceived. It goes back to the mindset

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<v Speaker 2>that you have. I mean, it should be exhausting to

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<v Speaker 2>people to live day in, day out, month, year the

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<v Speaker 2>same next year, You're still the same person, thinking the same,

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<v Speaker 2>feeling the same, acting the same, Still in the same

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<v Speaker 2>place mentally.

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<v Speaker 1>No growth, no growth. You have people all.

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<v Speaker 2>Of their lives, starting from when they were younger, seeing

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<v Speaker 2>things and picking up those maladaptive behaviors. Now they are adults,

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<v Speaker 2>still carrying the baggage still you know, cheating, married, still

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<v Speaker 2>cheating in a relationship, still cheating. People cheat not because

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<v Speaker 2>the other person is a bad person or they've done

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<v Speaker 2>something wrong or anything like that. People cheat because of

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<v Speaker 2>who they are as individuals. What's inside of that person.

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<v Speaker 2>They're insecurities, their brokenness. That's why people cheat. You're still

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<v Speaker 2>cheating all of these years later.

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<v Speaker 1>You chosen not become better. Instead, you're still a cheating.

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<v Speaker 2>Millions of people around the world have chosen to still

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<v Speaker 2>remain broken. All of this every single thing I'm talking

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<v Speaker 2>about comes from brokenness. When I've said a million times,

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<v Speaker 2>every single day, we get to live as an opportunity

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<v Speaker 2>to become better, think better, feel better, do better, but

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<v Speaker 2>most people don't take it. So that brokenness affect your

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<v Speaker 2>life in many facets, in many ways, but people can't

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<v Speaker 2>see it because brokenness prevents them from seeing.

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<v Speaker 1>They're blind.

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<v Speaker 2>Their eyes are open, but they're wide shut.

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<v Speaker 1>They can't see because they have embraced and adopted to.

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<v Speaker 2>Their own negative behaviors and negative beliefs. People are still complaining,

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<v Speaker 2>still whining and complaining about things, but not.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing anything to improve their situations.

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<v Speaker 2>You're still whining and complaining about Oh, I don't have

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<v Speaker 2>no money, but you've done nothing to make your situation better.

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<v Speaker 2>You're still in the same daddy and job hoping you

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<v Speaker 2>get a dollar raise.

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<v Speaker 1>You're too afraid to.

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<v Speaker 2>Try something different, so you're still complaining, yet you're doing nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you think that's gonna work out?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just curious, how is it gonna work out when

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<v Speaker 2>you're only complaining but you're doing nothing to improve your situation.

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<v Speaker 1>You're still broke. You was broke last year, you were

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<v Speaker 1>broke the year before that.

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<v Speaker 2>You broke now, and you'll be broke next year if

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<v Speaker 2>you don't change your situation, if you don't change your mindset,

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't do something different. You have people still procrastinating.

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<v Speaker 1>You said you're gonna do this, you're gonna do that,

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<v Speaker 1>and you have done nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>As things power up, as your life become disorderly and disorganized,

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<v Speaker 2>you're still procrastinating, saying you're gonna do this, you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>do that, I'm gonna go to.

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<v Speaker 1>School, I'm gonna lose.

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<v Speaker 2>Weight, I'm gonna give me a job, I'm gonna do this,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do that, and you have done nothing but talk.

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<v Speaker 2>Procrastinating gets nothing done. Stop it, get up and make

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<v Speaker 2>things happen, positive things. Many people are still forty fifty

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<v Speaker 2>sixty years, still let an addiction rule their lives, rule

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<v Speaker 2>and ruin, been drinking and drugging for years, all of

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<v Speaker 2>their life and still not tiet make it make sense. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it don't make sense to me. I don't want to hear. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't know, you've never been there. Please save that

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<v Speaker 2>for the choir. I'm from a family both sides, so

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<v Speaker 2>don't tell me because I do know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've worked with.

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<v Speaker 2>Individuals with these issues. Whatever you give power to can't

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<v Speaker 2>control you, no matter what is, what it is, or

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<v Speaker 2>who it is. If you give power to that thing,

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<v Speaker 2>it can control you. Drugs and alcohol can do nothing

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<v Speaker 2>to no one. You have to pick up drugs, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to pick up alcohol. It can mysteriously or miraculously

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<v Speaker 2>go into your body. So the very thing you give

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<v Speaker 2>power to controls you. I mean, there are so many

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<v Speaker 2>people for years, like I said, forty fifty sixty years,

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<v Speaker 2>still addicted and don't want to let it go.

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<v Speaker 1>I've lost relatives. Well, if it killed me and killed

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<v Speaker 1>me and.

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<v Speaker 2>Your wish was commanded, it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>People are still.

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<v Speaker 2>Greedy and lustful, seeking self gratification, doing anything for money,

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<v Speaker 2>to get money and to keep money, anything, chasing the

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<v Speaker 2>devil for money, literally chasing the devil, worshiping the devil

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<v Speaker 2>for money, for fame, for fortune, and all you're getting is.

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<v Speaker 1>Things that don't even matter.

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<v Speaker 2>Losing your soul is the worst thing you could do.

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<v Speaker 2>All those things you gain does not matter. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>take any of it with you when you leave this world.

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<v Speaker 2>And most people got all they can have and miserable.

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<v Speaker 2>So make that makes sense. But yet you're still greedy

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<v Speaker 2>and lustful. The Bible tells us money isn't the root

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<v Speaker 2>to all evil. It's the love of money, because people

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<v Speaker 2>will do anything to get it and to keep it.

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<v Speaker 1>People are old and dirt and still.

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<v Speaker 2>Chasing the wrong things, doing the wrong things, because people

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<v Speaker 2>get so used to who they are as negative as

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<v Speaker 2>they can be. People are so used to who they

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<v Speaker 2>are are, and so comfortable with who they have become,

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<v Speaker 2>that they can't see anything wrong. It's always the other person.

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<v Speaker 2>They're pouring a finger, blaming other people when.

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<v Speaker 1>It's them, When it's you, still.

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<v Speaker 2>Chasing the wrong things, doing the wrong things, making them

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<v Speaker 2>wrong choices and decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>But you can't see it's you because, like.

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<v Speaker 2>I said many times, your mindset is your worst enemy.

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<v Speaker 2>You're blind to your own ways. You have people still

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<v Speaker 2>being used and abused by the very people who's supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to care about them, who's supposed to love them, And

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<v Speaker 2>the only reason you're being used and abused is because

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<v Speaker 2>you are allowed. I've heard people say, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>some people just don't want to speak out or speak up. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't, you get what you allow. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>make the situation better. You get what you allow people

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<v Speaker 2>to do to you. If you're in a relationship and

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<v Speaker 2>you allowing yourself to be using abused, that falls on you.

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<v Speaker 2>If you at work and you allow yourself to be

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<v Speaker 2>used and abused, that falls on you.

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<v Speaker 1>As an adult, you have the right to stand up

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself. You don't have to go along to get along.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to go along to get ahead with

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<v Speaker 1>someone using.

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<v Speaker 2>And abusing you. You do that by choice. If you

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<v Speaker 2>don't have a confidence to speak up, that tells you

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<v Speaker 2>something about yourself. There is some work you need to do,

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<v Speaker 2>inner work. People are still robbing Peter to pay Paul.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of you don't even know what that means.

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<v Speaker 1>That means you're living above your means.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have what you portray that you have. You

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<v Speaker 2>could be rich and still don't have what you pretend

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<v Speaker 2>to have. You can be rich and still robbing Peter

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<v Speaker 2>to pay Paul. You can be rich and still.

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<v Speaker 1>Broken and unhappy.

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<v Speaker 2>Some people live in paycheck to paycheck because they don't

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<v Speaker 2>have any financial wisdom. None rich people live above their

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<v Speaker 2>means because they don't have financial wisdom.

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<v Speaker 1>Still Robin Peter to pay Paul have been doing it

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<v Speaker 1>for years.

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<v Speaker 2>People make it living living off of credit cards. People

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<v Speaker 2>make a living.

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<v Speaker 1>At the cash checking places. People make a living.

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<v Speaker 2>Exchanging food steps for cash. I mean, I'm just telling you,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm telling you real, and I'm talking people of all races.

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<v Speaker 1>People willfully are lost still, people.

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<v Speaker 2>Are willfully still confused, still blind, still bamboozle, still brainwashed,

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<v Speaker 2>still deceived, and don't even know it because when you're broken,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't see these things. You just can't see it.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't understand when someone tried to tell you, because

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<v Speaker 2>that's not what your mind's eye is showing you. That's

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<v Speaker 2>why people are so easily dooped. And it's so many

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<v Speaker 2>things that could fall under this still syndrome. You can

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<v Speaker 2>just think about your own life and just think about

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<v Speaker 2>the things you're still going through, how you're still allowing

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<v Speaker 2>hurt and pain to keep you trapped in darkness. Whatever

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<v Speaker 2>situation happened years ago, and you're still allowing that hurt

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<v Speaker 2>and that pain to keep you trapped in darkness.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to talk about it. Hopefully you can.

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<v Speaker 2>Take this and look at your own life and see

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<v Speaker 2>what you're still doing, what you're still allowing, what you're

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<v Speaker 2>still accepting. The monsters you're still creating what you're still

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<v Speaker 2>allowed to hold you back.

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<v Speaker 1>And every other still and make a decision to be better,

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<v Speaker 1>be the best you that you can be.

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<v Speaker 2>Positively, nothing negative, positively. Only you can do that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a task only you can complete. That's it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's all I'm saying. Thank you for listening, much much love.

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<v Speaker 3>Please reach out to me. Go to my podcast page

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<v Speaker 3>think on It by Cherry. It will tell you what

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<v Speaker 3>would show you my email reach out.

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<v Speaker 1>I love hearing from you. Thank you again. Please share.

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<v Speaker 1>I end every episode the same. I pray you do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Think on It.