WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.600 --> 00:00:02.040 Now we go and check in with our mogul and 2 00:00:02.080 --> 00:00:04.400 training on the Friday free kick, find out what's going 3 00:00:04.440 --> 00:00:07.280 on in the life of Parky and what else is 4 00:00:07.320 --> 00:00:09.080 going on, because you know, he's having to juggle the 5 00:00:09.119 --> 00:00:13.080 Yegermeister Cup, like the actual cup, not like cups with 6 00:00:13.160 --> 00:00:16.160 Yegermeister in it. People. Come on, now, he's got a tournament. 7 00:00:16.399 --> 00:00:18.440 Although there might be benefits there, I don't know. We'll 8 00:00:18.440 --> 00:00:21.079 bring in Parky. What's up, dude? Morning? 9 00:00:21.760 --> 00:00:26.600 What sorry to hear about your scarring from juice boxes 10 00:00:26.640 --> 00:00:28.000 at the. 11 00:00:27.960 --> 00:00:30.879 Age at the age of thirteen when I was, when 12 00:00:30.879 --> 00:00:35.560 I was at the horse track. I mean, look, look 13 00:00:35.679 --> 00:00:38.560 when you go through all the juice boxes. Literally, it's like, okay, 14 00:00:38.600 --> 00:00:41.840 here's what I think. What do I know? How much 15 00:00:41.840 --> 00:00:46.520 do any of us know? Virtually nothing. So literally it's like, yeah, okay, 16 00:00:46.560 --> 00:00:49.119 this this, this sounds good, This looks good, this looks good. 17 00:00:49.119 --> 00:00:51.600 What does Nelson say? Nelson gives you numbers? I said 18 00:00:51.600 --> 00:00:54.600 what I did? What Nelson said, you went the wrong direction, 19 00:00:57.479 --> 00:00:59.799 by the way Greeks from a hotel room in Millergeral, Georgia. 20 00:00:59.840 --> 00:01:03.600 But I'm not in office, HDS. You can tell there 21 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:06.200 we go. Yes, no, it's it's that time of year 22 00:01:06.200 --> 00:01:08.920 where everything kind of blends together. Uh. And you know, 23 00:01:09.040 --> 00:01:10.640 and you know, when you're in a hotel, I'm gonna 24 00:01:10.640 --> 00:01:12.599 go ahead and lean lean to my right a little bit, 25 00:01:12.640 --> 00:01:14.519 you know. So you know, when you're in a hotel, 26 00:01:15.079 --> 00:01:17.480 you always try if you've got if you're stuck with 27 00:01:17.519 --> 00:01:20.040 this in the background, you always try to make it 28 00:01:20.040 --> 00:01:23.680 look like you made your bed. You know, even if 29 00:01:23.719 --> 00:01:25.879 you're a slob like me, It's like, okay, let's just 30 00:01:26.000 --> 00:01:27.680 make it look like it made the bed and that way. 31 00:01:27.719 --> 00:01:29.519 So if something happens and I have to look this way, 32 00:01:29.560 --> 00:01:34.439 oh it's a clean hotel room. No, not when you 33 00:01:34.680 --> 00:01:38.079 are in with college kicking back in this as we 34 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:42.079 come screeching and I burned the transmission on this transition. Uh, 35 00:01:42.359 --> 00:01:45.719 college is kicking back in. High school's back in practice, 36 00:01:46.680 --> 00:01:50.280 and everything is ramping up when it comes to you 37 00:01:50.400 --> 00:01:54.120 and Greg and your men, tees, how where is the 38 00:01:54.120 --> 00:01:56.680 pacing right now? Is it ramping up? Did it literally 39 00:01:56.760 --> 00:01:59.000 just slam on the gas and everybody hops back in 40 00:01:59.040 --> 00:02:01.239 the door. Is there a transition here or is it 41 00:02:01.280 --> 00:02:03.680 just basically like a light switch on off, on, off, 42 00:02:03.719 --> 00:02:05.840 on off When a complimentary. 43 00:02:07.920 --> 00:02:10.400 Well we do run a sale in August because we 44 00:02:10.520 --> 00:02:14.599 know seasons are starting back up and help with preparedness. 45 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:21.759 But not crazy as far as light switch style, because 46 00:02:21.759 --> 00:02:26.919 some players want to or parents want their players to 47 00:02:26.960 --> 00:02:30.080 be prepared as the preseason starts and get in the 48 00:02:30.159 --> 00:02:35.400 right mind. But often history has told us that sometimes 49 00:02:35.560 --> 00:02:39.800 athletes wait until things aren't going perfect to seek us out, 50 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:46.719 and so sometimes that needs to marinate a little bit 51 00:02:47.280 --> 00:02:51.360 within the start of a season. So based off of that, 52 00:02:51.639 --> 00:02:53.759 it's not a light switch, which is nice for us. 53 00:02:54.719 --> 00:02:59.400 Well, and does it you know, if you could and 54 00:02:59.479 --> 00:03:01.479 I don't know if if you could gently do it 55 00:03:01.520 --> 00:03:05.520 to where you're grabbing your mentees by the the lapels, 56 00:03:05.560 --> 00:03:07.960 you know, the floppy collar from like the eighties and 57 00:03:08.039 --> 00:03:10.639 nineties on the soccer jersey, and it's like, look, it's 58 00:03:10.639 --> 00:03:13.159 a twenty four to seven three sixty five thing. Pacing 59 00:03:13.240 --> 00:03:16.919 is okay. It doesn't have to be something where it's like, oh, ish, 60 00:03:17.120 --> 00:03:20.080 something's wrong. I need to go check in with mentees. 61 00:03:20.199 --> 00:03:23.759 I mean, do you have to have these Reminders's like, look, 62 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:25.759 it's okay to reach out to me in an off season. 63 00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:28.000 It's okay, it's cool. That's kind of what this development 64 00:03:28.039 --> 00:03:30.240 thing is all about. You have to remind them sometimes 65 00:03:30.280 --> 00:03:31.599 and sit there and go, yeah, it's cool to talk 66 00:03:31.599 --> 00:03:31.759 to me. 67 00:03:31.800 --> 00:03:34.840 In the off season, for sure, we send out reminders 68 00:03:34.879 --> 00:03:38.280 to families and things because you know, ideally we'd love 69 00:03:38.360 --> 00:03:41.960 to and a big part of our mentoring is trying 70 00:03:42.000 --> 00:03:45.639 to give them the tools to handle the adversity when 71 00:03:45.639 --> 00:03:50.919 the adversity hits, so that they aren't hitting the ish. 72 00:03:51.639 --> 00:03:56.520 You know. They that's tough, right, It's tough for teenagers, 73 00:03:56.639 --> 00:04:00.439 which mostly we work with right to have that mindset right. 74 00:04:00.520 --> 00:04:02.439 They just want to think about the present and what's 75 00:04:02.479 --> 00:04:05.719 going on right now. And I'm sure we were the 76 00:04:05.719 --> 00:04:08.319 same way when we were teenagers, so I get it. 77 00:04:08.319 --> 00:04:12.960 It's tough, but yeah, that's why we try and connect 78 00:04:13.000 --> 00:04:15.000 with people a little bit in the off season. I get, yeah, 79 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:17.000 you want to get away from soccer and everything, which 80 00:04:17.040 --> 00:04:20.160 is great, but you know, as the season kicks off, 81 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:23.920 we try and have a session with everyone just to 82 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:27.079 give them the tools again as a new season starts 83 00:04:27.079 --> 00:04:32.279 and expectations are there, and just figuring out their role, 84 00:04:32.360 --> 00:04:35.519 whether it's a new team or current team, or going 85 00:04:35.560 --> 00:04:37.759 into high school or going into college. It's it's all 86 00:04:37.800 --> 00:04:40.759 a challenge so some of them do, some of them don't, 87 00:04:40.800 --> 00:04:41.959 and we take it from there. 88 00:04:42.600 --> 00:04:47.360 So when you you know, when you have how many 89 00:04:47.360 --> 00:04:49.319 how many mentees? Are we talking eleven dy billion? 90 00:04:52.040 --> 00:04:53.480 Just under eleven dy billion? 91 00:04:53.639 --> 00:04:55.399 Yeah, that's the goal. 92 00:04:55.720 --> 00:04:57.279 Gets to eleven dy billion. 93 00:04:57.439 --> 00:05:00.480 And you've got you've got book on all of them, right, 94 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:03.360 you have at least some kind of a whether it's 95 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:05.680 a is it a word doc or is it written 96 00:05:05.720 --> 00:05:07.600 down like on legal pad? Or where do you keep 97 00:05:07.600 --> 00:05:10.240 your notes? Yeah? We do. 98 00:05:10.279 --> 00:05:12.319 Weard docks that way we can share I know. I'm 99 00:05:12.319 --> 00:05:15.439 sorry Google Docs. We don't do work. We don't do Microsoft. 100 00:05:15.879 --> 00:05:20.360 Yeah. Uh, So you keep running tally on all of 101 00:05:20.399 --> 00:05:24.920 your mentees when they circle back to you at the 102 00:05:24.920 --> 00:05:27.439 beginning of a season, when that first round of ish 103 00:05:27.480 --> 00:05:29.000 happens and they all of a sudden, it's like, oh, 104 00:05:29.040 --> 00:05:32.199 I got to talk about you know. Uh, you've got 105 00:05:32.199 --> 00:05:36.839 your notes there with you. Are you able to process 106 00:05:37.199 --> 00:05:41.600 progression in conversations and even how they carry themselves, whether 107 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:43.240 it's a couple of months at a time, if they 108 00:05:43.240 --> 00:05:46.879 go away and they handle themselves, they're handling themselves differently 109 00:05:46.879 --> 00:05:48.680 when they pop back in the door. Are you able 110 00:05:48.720 --> 00:05:50.759 to gauge that from the notes that you have and 111 00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:55.040 those initial conversations coming back or or is it one 112 00:05:55.079 --> 00:05:58.720 of those where I've got them intee, they're back in here. Okay, 113 00:05:58.879 --> 00:06:00.639 we're picking back up or we left off. I guess 114 00:06:00.680 --> 00:06:03.600 how much is how much is progression a part of 115 00:06:03.639 --> 00:06:05.279 it that you pick back up, and how much of 116 00:06:05.319 --> 00:06:07.240 it is like okay, literally is at the end of 117 00:06:07.279 --> 00:06:09.680 the last sentence when we last we're hanging out with 118 00:06:09.720 --> 00:06:10.120 each other. 119 00:06:10.519 --> 00:06:13.639 Yeah, it's like sixty forty seventy thirty about progression. I 120 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:17.279 think we all need reminders about things that we've learned 121 00:06:17.319 --> 00:06:19.319 in the past, right, It's it's tough for us to 122 00:06:19.399 --> 00:06:24.160 keep tally on everything. And so for sure, just especially 123 00:06:24.160 --> 00:06:27.000 where the athlete is, of going back and giving some 124 00:06:27.120 --> 00:06:31.120 reminders about certain things that maybe presented themselves multiple times 125 00:06:31.120 --> 00:06:34.120 in the past or whatever. Or we're big concerns earlier, 126 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:38.160 right checking back in see how we're doing there, and 127 00:06:38.199 --> 00:06:41.720 then we progress from there. And you know, progression might 128 00:06:41.759 --> 00:06:43.959 be the same topic, just viewing it a little bit 129 00:06:43.959 --> 00:06:46.800 differently and talking about confidence differently and what it means 130 00:06:46.839 --> 00:06:51.680 to them now. And yeah, that's so it's not all 131 00:06:51.720 --> 00:06:54.720 different topics, it's just different approaches and based off of 132 00:06:54.759 --> 00:06:57.800 who they are, where they are and things. But you know, 133 00:06:58.000 --> 00:07:00.399 we're still at a point where we're young and that 134 00:07:01.759 --> 00:07:03.319 and I don't even know if this will ever change. 135 00:07:03.319 --> 00:07:05.240 But the notes are good just to give us a 136 00:07:05.240 --> 00:07:08.480 friendly reminder. But usually when you get back on a call, 137 00:07:08.560 --> 00:07:12.360 you remember the person and kind of okay, yes, I 138 00:07:12.439 --> 00:07:17.240 remember you and what you were going through, and you 139 00:07:17.279 --> 00:07:19.319 know whether they're easy to talk to or not, or 140 00:07:19.360 --> 00:07:22.439 who's going to run the conversation? How involved are parents? 141 00:07:22.480 --> 00:07:23.399 Like all those little. 142 00:07:23.120 --> 00:07:28.519 Things, and you have all of these these issues, what 143 00:07:29.120 --> 00:07:33.720 do you think is the biggest issue that you continue 144 00:07:34.360 --> 00:07:38.839 to tackle over time? Is there one that's more constant 145 00:07:38.920 --> 00:07:41.519 than the others, or is it still the variety of 146 00:07:41.560 --> 00:07:44.160 things depending on the mentee, or is they're just one 147 00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:46.560 big thing that Yeah, this seems to be a common 148 00:07:46.600 --> 00:07:49.079 topic with mentees these days. 149 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:56.040 Confidence is always one yeah, But another big one is 150 00:07:56.160 --> 00:08:01.199 just understanding the journey is full of ups and downs, 151 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:07.560 and you know, when you zoom out, you hopefully see 152 00:08:08.120 --> 00:08:11.279 it going up, but when you zoom in you see 153 00:08:11.279 --> 00:08:12.839 some ups and downs, and up and downs and ups 154 00:08:12.879 --> 00:08:17.680 and downs and understanding, hey, these downs are normal, and 155 00:08:18.120 --> 00:08:21.439 just understanding that they're going to hit and that's okay. 156 00:08:21.759 --> 00:08:25.879 And so that's the age of social media right where 157 00:08:25.879 --> 00:08:29.000 it's like, hey, these people that are having success and 158 00:08:29.040 --> 00:08:31.399 these people that are out there having a great time, rights, 159 00:08:31.560 --> 00:08:33.759 that's just how they live life twenty four seven, and 160 00:08:33.799 --> 00:08:35.559 that's how I should we live in life twenty four seven. 161 00:08:35.679 --> 00:08:39.759 And then when you're not and challenges hit and adversity hits, 162 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:43.159 or a bad grade comes in, or a tough training 163 00:08:43.159 --> 00:08:46.159 session or whatever it might be where you get benched, right, well, 164 00:08:46.759 --> 00:08:51.440 everybody on Instagram's not doing that, so poor me type thing. 165 00:08:51.639 --> 00:08:53.799 So that's that's a big one for sure. 166 00:08:54.279 --> 00:08:59.360 Well, and how much of when you and Greg are 167 00:08:59.399 --> 00:09:04.080 talking to your mentees about the ups and downs do 168 00:09:04.159 --> 00:09:08.320 you try to remember to have your mentee remember that 169 00:09:08.399 --> 00:09:11.840 it's about trying to stay in the middle as much 170 00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:15.159 as you can because we all know and I know 171 00:09:15.200 --> 00:09:19.200 that we're surrounded by young athletes and it is the 172 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:25.600 extremes seem to rule more than the median, and success 173 00:09:25.639 --> 00:09:29.360 over time, I would imagine comes more from enjoying this 174 00:09:29.559 --> 00:09:33.000 and not locking into the bottom and remembering that that 175 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:35.919 median is always what you're what you're aiming for, and 176 00:09:35.960 --> 00:09:39.399 not getting wrapped up in the highs and lows as much. Yeah, 177 00:09:39.399 --> 00:09:43.960 I'm sure. I mean, it's just it seems like something 178 00:09:44.039 --> 00:09:47.440 that And like I said, I know that we were fifteen, sixteen, seventeen. 179 00:09:47.519 --> 00:09:49.960 I mean I was back in the seventeen nineties. But 180 00:09:51.120 --> 00:09:53.879 you know, when you have these kinds of things, how 181 00:09:54.120 --> 00:09:58.840 difficult is it to remind them about being even keeled 182 00:09:58.879 --> 00:10:01.799 because of that that you ful exuberance and wanting to 183 00:10:02.080 --> 00:10:04.240 sit there and go, yeah, I'm doing great or no, 184 00:10:04.480 --> 00:10:05.840 or no I'm not and I've got to fix it. 185 00:10:06.240 --> 00:10:09.120 How difficult is it to remind them about the happy medium? 186 00:10:10.799 --> 00:10:13.720 Sometimes it can be, for sure, and sometimes it's because 187 00:10:13.720 --> 00:10:18.320 players are constantly getting too high, more often because they're 188 00:10:18.360 --> 00:10:22.039 constantly being too hard on themselves. So it's all over 189 00:10:22.080 --> 00:10:26.279 the gambit. But regardless, Right, we talk about that median 190 00:10:26.320 --> 00:10:29.639 and that neutral line because it can serve so many 191 00:10:29.639 --> 00:10:32.600 benefits as far as just expectations if you're on the 192 00:10:32.639 --> 00:10:36.480 high side, but also it can serve as a goal 193 00:10:36.559 --> 00:10:38.159 if you're on the bottom side of it. Right, we 194 00:10:38.200 --> 00:10:42.000 don't have to get from negative ten to positive ten. Right, 195 00:10:42.039 --> 00:10:44.919 there's that zero in the middle. That's pretty good for 196 00:10:45.000 --> 00:10:48.000 most of us. Right, you're living a decent life if 197 00:10:48.000 --> 00:10:50.799 you're living right on that line, or at least you 198 00:10:50.840 --> 00:10:53.440 can be if you're viewing it that way. So you 199 00:10:53.480 --> 00:10:57.320 know that that provides hope for people that are struggling 200 00:10:57.360 --> 00:11:01.159 with confidence. Right, I don't have to go from unconfident 201 00:11:01.320 --> 00:11:05.639 to super confident. I can go from unconfident to feeling neutral, 202 00:11:06.080 --> 00:11:09.759 and from neutral I can play better, have more success, 203 00:11:09.799 --> 00:11:11.840 and gradually gain my confidence. 204 00:11:12.200 --> 00:11:14.320 How hard is that, though? I mean to remind him, 205 00:11:14.519 --> 00:11:17.200 you know, it's like we live in the extremes. Everything's 206 00:11:17.360 --> 00:11:20.600 cool or it's not. How difficult is to remind him 207 00:11:20.600 --> 00:11:23.600 that okay is okay? Because I mean it's like we 208 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:27.519 live in this idea of everything's great. Everything stinks, everything's great, 209 00:11:27.559 --> 00:11:30.879 everything stinks. Just have a just have a good day 210 00:11:31.320 --> 00:11:34.279 is having a good day and then starting that winning 211 00:11:34.279 --> 00:11:37.519 streak of good days? Is that something that you literally 212 00:11:37.559 --> 00:11:39.279 have to pound in the folks. Sometimes it's like, look, 213 00:11:39.320 --> 00:11:41.600 it's okay to have a zero. It's okay instead of 214 00:11:41.639 --> 00:11:43.559 being a minus ten or a positive ten, it's it's 215 00:11:43.600 --> 00:11:45.080 it's cool. Don't worry about it. 216 00:11:45.519 --> 00:11:45.919 Mm hmm. 217 00:11:46.720 --> 00:11:47.000 Yeah. 218 00:11:47.039 --> 00:11:50.039 I have to tell myself that even today John out 219 00:11:50.039 --> 00:11:53.440 on the golf course, right, Hey, just have an okay day. 220 00:11:53.600 --> 00:11:56.320 Don't have a shocker here, you know, don't put up 221 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:59.320 a snowman, just get a bogie. It's fine, right, But 222 00:11:59.320 --> 00:12:01.919 when you're in it, that's tough because you want to 223 00:12:01.919 --> 00:12:03.440 be good and you want to be the best, and 224 00:12:03.440 --> 00:12:05.320 you want to challenge yourself, you want to push yourself. 225 00:12:05.399 --> 00:12:09.799 So it's natural within all of us. But yes, when 226 00:12:09.799 --> 00:12:12.720 you take a step back and you say, hey, if 227 00:12:12.759 --> 00:12:17.120 my bad day was just okay and it wasn't brutal, right, 228 00:12:17.279 --> 00:12:19.960 it makes it really easier to bounce back. And that's 229 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:22.240 the biggest thing, because we're all going to have these 230 00:12:22.360 --> 00:12:26.519 off days and bad moments and bad things and whatever, right, 231 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:29.279 but how quickly can we rebound? It is usually the 232 00:12:29.320 --> 00:12:33.799 differentiator between people. And if we make it easier for 233 00:12:33.879 --> 00:12:36.440 ourselves to bounce back, and we have some tools that 234 00:12:36.480 --> 00:12:39.440 are going to help us bounce back, then we can 235 00:12:39.480 --> 00:12:42.120 try and separate ourselves and then you know, some of 236 00:12:42.159 --> 00:12:44.519 those really good days come a little bit more often. 237 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:47.879 How hard are you and Greg on yourselves when it 238 00:12:47.919 --> 00:12:51.240 comes to wanting to do right by all of your mentees. 239 00:12:54.120 --> 00:12:57.759 Yeah, it's definitely something we work on because of course 240 00:12:57.759 --> 00:13:01.080 it's only two of us and it's you know, it 241 00:13:01.120 --> 00:13:04.919 takes time, and nothing's you know, every session that we 242 00:13:05.000 --> 00:13:08.480 have is our time. It's nothing automatic here. 243 00:13:08.720 --> 00:13:09.200 And so. 244 00:13:10.639 --> 00:13:12.320 Yes, we want to be there for everyone and we 245 00:13:12.360 --> 00:13:14.200 want to do everything, but we also have to say 246 00:13:14.240 --> 00:13:17.360 no sometimes and we have to We can't partner with 247 00:13:17.399 --> 00:13:19.960 everyone and do everything, and we have to be strategic 248 00:13:19.960 --> 00:13:22.200 about things. And you know this this summer was a 249 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:24.440 good example for me, Like I did not have a 250 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:29.200 super productive summer in terms of work, but I had 251 00:13:29.240 --> 00:13:33.600 a super productive summer in terms of enjoyment and being 252 00:13:33.639 --> 00:13:37.039 around the kids and enjoying you know, one of the 253 00:13:37.120 --> 00:13:39.159 last few summers I have with them in the house 254 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:41.519 and everything. And so for me, that was the priority 255 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:45.399 this summer and just understanding and having that knowledge of hey, 256 00:13:45.840 --> 00:13:47.440 I can catch up with this work and I can 257 00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:51.159 get back on it and you know, focus more time. 258 00:13:51.320 --> 00:13:55.279 But that's that's always tough because you feel like you're 259 00:13:55.320 --> 00:14:00.519 letting someone down and you hate to do that, especially 260 00:14:00.840 --> 00:14:03.720 especially as a mentor. Right you're supposed to be helping 261 00:14:03.759 --> 00:14:06.440 other people up. And so yeah, it's it's always a struggle, 262 00:14:06.519 --> 00:14:08.679 but we just do the best you can. 263 00:14:09.279 --> 00:14:11.960 Our resident to m I t grab Michael Parkhurst hanging 264 00:14:12.000 --> 00:14:12.840 out with us. 265 00:14:12.879 --> 00:14:15.120 Did you see that, John, you seem I T. 266 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:17.960 Did you get it? Yeah? Yeah, look, M I T. 267 00:14:18.120 --> 00:14:19.879 I saw it. That's why that's why I mentioned it. 268 00:14:20.120 --> 00:14:21.039 I know, But do you did? 269 00:14:21.039 --> 00:14:21.120 You? 270 00:14:21.360 --> 00:14:23.000 Do you get it? M I T. It's not? 271 00:14:23.279 --> 00:14:26.399 I no, then what is it? What is it? M 272 00:14:26.440 --> 00:14:30.799 I T? Mobile and training and training? Awesome? Okay, cool, 273 00:14:32.559 --> 00:14:35.080 you got me. I haven't had enough caffeine. That's awesome though, 274 00:14:35.399 --> 00:14:39.480 our resident I T. I like that when it comes 275 00:14:39.519 --> 00:14:43.000 to saying no. You mentioned that for for you and 276 00:14:44.320 --> 00:14:47.080 your own personal sanity and enjoyment and time frames and 277 00:14:47.120 --> 00:14:50.159 anything like that. I know that when your mentees are 278 00:14:51.440 --> 00:14:54.399 of that age, they want to please everybody. They want 279 00:14:54.399 --> 00:14:55.919 to be They want to be in the end Click, 280 00:14:56.000 --> 00:14:57.559 They want to be in that group. They want to 281 00:14:57.559 --> 00:15:01.000 be that person that you know, the They want to 282 00:15:01.039 --> 00:15:03.600 make sure that. They want to make sure that Gretchen 283 00:15:03.600 --> 00:15:07.000 Wiener's is you know, a happy person I'm twenty four 284 00:15:06.960 --> 00:15:08.639 to seven three sixty five, and that you're in part 285 00:15:08.679 --> 00:15:10.159 of the end Click and that you're not, you know, 286 00:15:10.799 --> 00:15:13.480 outside of it. Do you tell your mentees it's okay 287 00:15:13.480 --> 00:15:15.360 to say no. Do you have those conversations? Do they 288 00:15:15.399 --> 00:15:18.120 even ask about that kind of stuff because we're in 289 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:20.120 that age group. We always want to be pleasing to 290 00:15:20.159 --> 00:15:21.840 folks and we want to sit there and be our best. 291 00:15:22.120 --> 00:15:23.679 Do you tell do you talk to them about that 292 00:15:23.759 --> 00:15:25.679 kind of thing? Rarely? 293 00:15:25.720 --> 00:15:27.919 Actually, John, that you mention it, and maybe I should. 294 00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:30.720 Maybe it's something I should kind of institute a little 295 00:15:30.720 --> 00:15:35.559 bit here and there, especially for the more adolescent teenagers, right, 296 00:15:35.600 --> 00:15:38.639 the older ones here that are, you know, sophomore June 297 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:41.720 and your seniors having choices of what they want to 298 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:44.679 do sometimes after school and who they hang out with 299 00:15:44.759 --> 00:15:47.240 and what friends are doing. I mean, for sure, we 300 00:15:47.320 --> 00:15:52.639 talk about saying no in terms of sacrifices and if 301 00:15:52.639 --> 00:15:54.360 you've got a game on a Saturday and all your 302 00:15:54.360 --> 00:15:56.559 buddies are doing something on Friday night and they're having 303 00:15:56.559 --> 00:15:59.120 a sleepover and you want to go right, and hey, 304 00:15:59.159 --> 00:16:01.440 there's sacrifices to be made in order to have success, 305 00:16:01.440 --> 00:16:05.240 and you can't have everything, so what's the priority. So 306 00:16:05.279 --> 00:16:08.240 there's there is that, but that's less of the pleasing 307 00:16:08.279 --> 00:16:12.679 thing and more towards sacrificing and dedication type stuff. So 308 00:16:13.240 --> 00:16:16.159 but no, you know, that is probably something that we 309 00:16:16.159 --> 00:16:19.759 should look into and discuss a little bit more even 310 00:16:19.799 --> 00:16:22.799 with the younger generation of hey, people pleasing and that 311 00:16:23.159 --> 00:16:28.120 what goes into that and you know versus what do 312 00:16:28.159 --> 00:16:30.600 you want to do? And who are you? And does 313 00:16:30.639 --> 00:16:32.159 this make you happy? Type stuff? 314 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:35.919 And I mean, and that was literally just from the 315 00:16:35.960 --> 00:16:38.200 conversation that we had. That was why that popped up 316 00:16:38.200 --> 00:16:41.200 into my head. I was like, well, you know, we 317 00:16:41.519 --> 00:16:44.600 we think that we're bulletproof at that age. Legitimately, doesn't 318 00:16:44.639 --> 00:16:46.559 matter how many things we got going on. We think 319 00:16:46.600 --> 00:16:49.559 that we can go until two thirty three o'clock in 320 00:16:49.559 --> 00:16:51.519 the morning, go on four hours of sleep, roll out 321 00:16:51.519 --> 00:16:54.480 of the racket seven o'clock, go to dunkin Donuts and 322 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:56.879 go to the go to the game, and everything's locked 323 00:16:56.879 --> 00:17:01.399 in and everything's fine. I mean, it's patients, it's pacing, 324 00:17:01.720 --> 00:17:06.400 its understanding. Okay, you can't. You can't go one hundred 325 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:08.640 miles an hour all the time if you want to 326 00:17:08.640 --> 00:17:13.039 be better at doing all these other things. It just 327 00:17:13.559 --> 00:17:16.359 to me, I know that I sit there and I'm 328 00:17:16.359 --> 00:17:18.279 looking at all these young athletes today and they all 329 00:17:18.319 --> 00:17:23.279 look bulletproof. They really do. But I'm just I am 330 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:28.240 in I'm in awe of what you and Greg do 331 00:17:28.680 --> 00:17:32.079 because of the level of patience that you guys piece 332 00:17:32.160 --> 00:17:35.279 together with all of these individuals and want to make 333 00:17:35.319 --> 00:17:38.480 sure that this next generation is approaching it the right 334 00:17:38.599 --> 00:17:42.240 way and that they're not you know, that nothing gets 335 00:17:42.359 --> 00:17:44.880 left out and that they continue to do things the 336 00:17:44.920 --> 00:17:47.880 way that it's supposed to be done. And I mean, 337 00:17:47.880 --> 00:17:49.920 it's just it's just something that's come across from me 338 00:17:49.960 --> 00:17:51.759 that you guys wanted to take this on in the 339 00:17:51.799 --> 00:17:55.480 first place, to do this kind of stuff. Do you 340 00:17:55.599 --> 00:17:58.200 do you feel the impact that you guys are having, 341 00:17:58.279 --> 00:17:59.720 You get I know you may not necessarily get to 342 00:17:59.759 --> 00:18:01.960 see it all the time, but do you do you 343 00:18:02.279 --> 00:18:04.160 kind of gauge the impact that you guys are having 344 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:06.279 with what you're doing there beyond goals? 345 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:11.079 Sometimes sometimes yeah, sometimes sometimes we get good feedback and 346 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:13.519 we see somebody have success. We see somebody commit to 347 00:18:13.559 --> 00:18:17.119 a college, you know, be very happy with where they're at. 348 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:20.839 You know, talking to a few pros lately that are 349 00:18:20.839 --> 00:18:24.839 in circumstances they want to change, and you know, when 350 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:28.119 something comes out of that and you know they see 351 00:18:28.119 --> 00:18:33.079 things a little more clearly, that's success in my eyes. So, uh, yeah, 352 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:35.799 you know, there's there's definitely some moments where we feel 353 00:18:35.799 --> 00:18:37.640 good about what we're doing. To get back to what 354 00:18:37.680 --> 00:18:42.279 you were saying earlier, John, about you know, telling kids 355 00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:44.079 that you know it's okay to say no. Sometimes I 356 00:18:44.079 --> 00:18:47.160 can just foresee a parent of like a twelve or 357 00:18:47.200 --> 00:18:50.039 thirteen year old saying, well, my kids said no that 358 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:51.880 I'm not going to do chores this week because that 359 00:18:51.920 --> 00:18:53.079 doesn't make me happy. 360 00:18:54.079 --> 00:18:58.039 Yeah. Yeah, you've run that. You've already run that game, haven't. 361 00:18:57.799 --> 00:19:00.440 You, bark You telling me I can say no and 362 00:19:01.119 --> 00:19:03.440 do things that make me happy and not feel pressured. 363 00:19:04.359 --> 00:19:09.920 Yes, exactly. My mentor said this. Well, I'll show you this. 364 00:19:10.079 --> 00:19:13.000 It's like, okay, Mentor, you know, all right, Mente, you 365 00:19:13.079 --> 00:19:15.000 go over there and take out the garbage. I mean, 366 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:19.519 but shoot, hey, hey, Mentor, go take out the garbage. Okay, Yeah, 367 00:19:19.559 --> 00:19:22.480 you get home after your weekend, it's like, hey, Mentor, 368 00:19:22.680 --> 00:19:24.720 Sunday night, go take out the garbage. Yes, ma'am, I 369 00:19:24.720 --> 00:19:27.799 mean that literally. But that's that's how things are. Michael 370 00:19:27.799 --> 00:19:30.400 Parker's thanking out, whether it's beyond goals entering our resident 371 00:19:30.440 --> 00:19:34.079 in our mogul in training, I noticed you got a 372 00:19:34.079 --> 00:19:36.319 banner over your your left shoulder in the office. Now 373 00:19:36.359 --> 00:19:37.000 I noticed this. 374 00:19:37.839 --> 00:19:43.680 Yes, yeah, yes, that's from the first inaugural game at 375 00:19:43.680 --> 00:19:45.200 the stadium. 376 00:19:45.599 --> 00:19:46.599 How did that feel? 377 00:19:46.880 --> 00:19:51.559 And this guy over here, I bring this out for 378 00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:56.759 all event the other day. I guess I can't hold 379 00:19:56.759 --> 00:19:59.559 it up because it kind of but that's what it is. 380 00:20:00.240 --> 00:20:05.640 All all very nice, all of that. 381 00:20:06.960 --> 00:20:09.319 Look at that good reminders. 382 00:20:09.880 --> 00:20:14.079 Yeah, okay, so since you open that box, I'll go 383 00:20:14.119 --> 00:20:17.839 through that door. When you're in a when you're in 384 00:20:18.000 --> 00:20:23.160 a situation like you're seeing with your old club, and 385 00:20:23.480 --> 00:20:27.440 it's like you're seeing improvement, but it's almost like you know, 386 00:20:27.519 --> 00:20:30.480 Schlepprock's hanging out with you, and you hit hit a crossbar, 387 00:20:30.559 --> 00:20:32.839 you hit a post, it's like you're seeing improvement, but 388 00:20:32.880 --> 00:20:35.079 it's not coming into results. I guess that's something else 389 00:20:35.079 --> 00:20:37.519 we could talk about with your mentees. What's it like 390 00:20:37.559 --> 00:20:41.240 to see the the current state of affairs with Atlanta 391 00:20:41.359 --> 00:20:43.920 United the way that it is right now, with only 392 00:20:43.960 --> 00:20:45.640 a handful of matches left at home this year. 393 00:20:47.359 --> 00:20:50.119 It's tough. Not going to sugarcoat it. 394 00:20:50.119 --> 00:20:51.680 It's tough. Thanks. 395 00:20:52.519 --> 00:20:57.240 Uh yeah, obviously a far cry from where it was 396 00:20:57.480 --> 00:21:02.480 a few years ago. But you know, I'm a half 397 00:21:02.559 --> 00:21:08.519 glass full, and you know, I understand there's huge expectations 398 00:21:08.839 --> 00:21:12.759 every season, I think, particularly going into this season, based 399 00:21:12.799 --> 00:21:15.119 off of the off season last year and the finances 400 00:21:15.160 --> 00:21:19.279 and everything, and so I think that's what makes it 401 00:21:19.319 --> 00:21:21.400