Speaker 1: One of the great things about getting older. If you
Speaker 1: haven't paid attention, you get wiser. And that's something that
Speaker 1: really is true. And what I mean by wiser, you
Speaker 1: get wiser is certain ways, certain things and usually get
Speaker 1: wiser to you experience by paying attention to what your surroundings,
Speaker 1: paying attention to behaviors. It's a wonderful thing. I recent
Speaker 1: this weekend has situation where people praying. People got lot
Speaker 1: of stuff going on in their own individual lives. It's
Speaker 1: just you know, which is just you know, their all stuff.
Speaker 1: It is. Everybody has their own lives and their own
Speaker 1: lives past, and you learn as you get older. One
Speaker 1: of the things you get wiser with is you also
Speaker 1: learn that everyone has their own agendas. And when you
Speaker 1: say agenda, doesn't be anything bad necessarily, just everybody has
Speaker 1: their own agendas. Everybody has their own Everybody does things
Speaker 1: for different reasons, including myself. We all do stuff and
Speaker 1: you learned that after a while, and it's not always bad,
Speaker 1: and sometimes it aligns with what you're doing and what
Speaker 1: you want and it works, sometimes it works against you,
Speaker 1: and it all depends. It can be good or bad
Speaker 1: or different. So it'sa be depends, but Also it could
Speaker 1: also be very helpful when dealing with other people because
Speaker 1: if you really kind of if you kind of get
Speaker 1: their agenda, it can help you either in how to
Speaker 1: proceed in something, how to act a certain way, how
Speaker 1: to manage your emotions. It can be a great thing.
Speaker 1: So it's not gonna be a post of be like
Speaker 1: griping and be upset. It's kind of like a positive post,
Speaker 1: just meaning that it's funny. For me, I take everything
Speaker 1: very seriously. It's you know, to a certain extent, anything
Speaker 1: that I do, I'm very serious about. And people know
Speaker 1: about me. I'm in a thousand percent. So if I
Speaker 1: have commitments or anything, I'm very strong with them unless
Speaker 1: something emergencies happen. Things happen all the time, it can happen,
Speaker 1: but I'm all about to be clear communication and try
Speaker 1: to give you at least some kind notice if I
Speaker 1: can that kind of thing. And there are people in
Speaker 1: my life who I know their agendas where it's all
Speaker 1: about them of course, and it's all about them and
Speaker 1: how to fect them want them. And I chuckled this
Speaker 1: weekend because of cold people who what I needed from
Speaker 1: them was not important, nothing dire, nothing like that, just
Speaker 1: they were needed for. There is something at the last minutes.
Speaker 1: Suddenly it's just like, here's chaos, James, here's what. I
Speaker 1: have a long story about this over here and a
Speaker 1: story about this over here, and I'm going, okay, I
Speaker 1: don't even need the need for me. I'm very much
Speaker 1: like this cut to the chase. I don't need a
Speaker 1: long story, but I but I know from their patterns,
Speaker 1: from knowing these people for a long time and knowing
Speaker 1: how they are, I'm going, Okay, you didn't do certain things,
Speaker 1: so you're not really prepared. So this thing comes up.
Speaker 1: It's super simple. I'm gonna take that uh and go there,
Speaker 1: leaving me holding the bag, so to speak. But I'm
Speaker 1: not even super upset. I'm just kind of like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I know who you are so and it's funny, so
Speaker 1: I'll act accordingly. Okay, got it, good luck. I don't
Speaker 1: do I don't do much. I don't go I don't
Speaker 1: go back and forth. I don't ask all these questions.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, Okay, we'll have fun or no problem,
Speaker 1: see you next week, no problem, talk to you later.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't I mean, and I for exam.
Speaker 1: People made people. Some people may think, oh, change is
Speaker 1: pissy's manner. No, I moved on. I have to. I
Speaker 1: have so much going on in my life that I
Speaker 1: don't have a time. And that's nothing. You get older too,
Speaker 1: you alstill have time to deal with solve this stuff.
Speaker 1: You're just like, Okay, got it, gonna move on. This
Speaker 1: is not happening. God, you gotta get over it quickly,
Speaker 1: move on and small these things. Because it wasn't life
Speaker 1: or distribuation. I was like, Okay, these couple of things
Speaker 1: came up. I'm fine, But I have one person who
Speaker 1: kept just coming at me, still pushing kind of a
Speaker 1: side agenda. That made me laugh because I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: because you really really now want to do this and
Speaker 1: I'm not interested in doing it. I took care of it. Whatever,
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. You're trying to push this. You
Speaker 1: don't push this hard ever. Now I don't think she
Speaker 1: ever listened to the show, but I just I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna say the name. But this person was like, for example,
Speaker 1: you know I'm gonna do that. I was gonna be shady,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm i gonna do that. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna do that because it can I don't want. I
Speaker 1: don't want to sell a mess and probably I'm just
Speaker 1: I just really want to share this as a lesson
Speaker 1: for us fifty plus about just knowing people have agendas
Speaker 1: and it's okay as long as you kind of get
Speaker 1: an idea what those agendas are, you see their patterns,
Speaker 1: you pay attention, it can save you some heartache. That's
Speaker 1: the main objective of this of this podcast episode, just
Speaker 1: that there are times when I expected people to do stuff,
Speaker 1: they don't do it the last wads and I was devastated, hurt, angry, bitter.
Speaker 1: But I have learned to take lemons and make lemonade
Speaker 1: sometimes and I did that this weekend. Also with these situations,
Speaker 1: I had to deal with actually glad a lemonade. So
Speaker 1: in the end, on some level it will still work
Speaker 1: in my favor and there will be some winds out
Speaker 1: of it, so that's still good. But the original thing
Speaker 1: that I was going to do won't happen, but there
Speaker 1: would be some wind It's took me some wins out
Speaker 1: of it, and actually it was a smart idea of
Speaker 1: what I decided to do. And I'm not playing into
Speaker 1: you because I'm older and out of time. I'm not
Speaker 1: going to play into these other people's agendas that they're
Speaker 1: trying to put on me. Just Okay, life is life
Speaker 1: and life is good and we're gonna move on and
Speaker 1: that's that. You just learned that. So I usually learn that.
Speaker 1: You learn that, and it's a glorious feeling because also
Speaker 1: when you change your mindset, is it being angry the
Speaker 1: rest of the weekend, I was like, oh, this opens up,
Speaker 1: This opens up the opportunity for me to do this.
Speaker 1: For example, for me, it was okay, I can now
Speaker 1: go out. I need to go out in the garden
Speaker 1: anyway and finish water. It's really hot, and I got
Speaker 1: a new I got a new plant, and I really
Speaker 1: need to water it. And so it's like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: now I actually have time cause it's earlier in the
Speaker 1: day to water this plant and get out there and
Speaker 1: do it, get some fresh air, and it it open
Speaker 1: up all those possibilities on this stuff. Or there's another
Speaker 1: thing that happened to be when I was like, why
Speaker 1: do you go to bed? I'd get that sleep I
Speaker 1: didn't get cause I was tired, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like it opened up other opportunities. So I was like,
Speaker 1: what do you really literally say well, one door close,
Speaker 1: another one opens. It's the truth, it really is. One
Speaker 1: door closes, another one opens, it's it's it's no joke,
Speaker 1: it really does happen. So that's a great thing too.
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to say down, get that out.
Speaker 1: It was fifty plus. I'm James Lott Junior. We're learning
Speaker 1: lessons of education never stops, and I'll tautch you next time.