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<v Speaker 1>One of the great things about getting older. If you

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<v Speaker 1>haven't paid attention, you get wiser. And that's something that

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<v Speaker 1>really is true. And what I mean by wiser, you

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<v Speaker 1>get wiser is certain ways, certain things and usually get

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<v Speaker 1>wiser to you experience by paying attention to what your surroundings,

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<v Speaker 1>paying attention to behaviors. It's a wonderful thing. I recent

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend has situation where people praying. People got lot

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<v Speaker 1>of stuff going on in their own individual lives. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just you know, which is just you know, their all stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>It is. Everybody has their own lives and their own

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<v Speaker 1>lives past, and you learn as you get older. One

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<v Speaker 1>of the things you get wiser with is you also

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<v Speaker 1>learn that everyone has their own agendas. And when you

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<v Speaker 1>say agenda, doesn't be anything bad necessarily, just everybody has

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<v Speaker 1>their own agendas. Everybody has their own Everybody does things

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<v Speaker 1>for different reasons, including myself. We all do stuff and

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<v Speaker 1>you learned that after a while, and it's not always bad,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes it aligns with what you're doing and what

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<v Speaker 1>you want and it works, sometimes it works against you,

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<v Speaker 1>and it all depends. It can be good or bad

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<v Speaker 1>or different. So it'sa be depends, but Also it could

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<v Speaker 1>also be very helpful when dealing with other people because

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<v Speaker 1>if you really kind of if you kind of get

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<v Speaker 1>their agenda, it can help you either in how to

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<v Speaker 1>proceed in something, how to act a certain way, how

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<v Speaker 1>to manage your emotions. It can be a great thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not gonna be a post of be like

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<v Speaker 1>griping and be upset. It's kind of like a positive post,

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<v Speaker 1>just meaning that it's funny. For me, I take everything

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<v Speaker 1>very seriously. It's you know, to a certain extent, anything

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<v Speaker 1>that I do, I'm very serious about. And people know

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<v Speaker 1>about me. I'm in a thousand percent. So if I

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<v Speaker 1>have commitments or anything, I'm very strong with them unless

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<v Speaker 1>something emergencies happen. Things happen all the time, it can happen,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm all about to be clear communication and try

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<v Speaker 1>to give you at least some kind notice if I

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<v Speaker 1>can that kind of thing. And there are people in

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<v Speaker 1>my life who I know their agendas where it's all

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<v Speaker 1>about them of course, and it's all about them and

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<v Speaker 1>how to fect them want them. And I chuckled this

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<v Speaker 1>weekend because of cold people who what I needed from

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<v Speaker 1>them was not important, nothing dire, nothing like that, just

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<v Speaker 1>they were needed for. There is something at the last minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>Suddenly it's just like, here's chaos, James, here's what. I

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<v Speaker 1>have a long story about this over here and a

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<v Speaker 1>story about this over here, and I'm going, okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even need the need for me. I'm very much

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<v Speaker 1>like this cut to the chase. I don't need a

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<v Speaker 1>long story, but I but I know from their patterns,

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<v Speaker 1>from knowing these people for a long time and knowing

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<v Speaker 1>how they are, I'm going, Okay, you didn't do certain things,

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<v Speaker 1>so you're not really prepared. So this thing comes up.

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<v Speaker 1>It's super simple. I'm gonna take that uh and go there,

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<v Speaker 1>leaving me holding the bag, so to speak. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not even super upset. I'm just kind of like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I know who you are so and it's funny, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'll act accordingly. Okay, got it, good luck. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>do I don't do much. I don't go I don't

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<v Speaker 1>go back and forth. I don't ask all these questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, Okay, we'll have fun or no problem,

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<v Speaker 1>see you next week, no problem, talk to you later.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't I mean, and I for exam.

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<v Speaker 1>People made people. Some people may think, oh, change is

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<v Speaker 1>pissy's manner. No, I moved on. I have to. I

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<v Speaker 1>have so much going on in my life that I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have a time. And that's nothing. You get older too,

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<v Speaker 1>you alstill have time to deal with solve this stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>You're just like, Okay, got it, gonna move on. This

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<v Speaker 1>is not happening. God, you gotta get over it quickly,

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<v Speaker 1>move on and small these things. Because it wasn't life

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<v Speaker 1>or distribuation. I was like, Okay, these couple of things

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<v Speaker 1>came up. I'm fine, But I have one person who

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<v Speaker 1>kept just coming at me, still pushing kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>side agenda. That made me laugh because I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>because you really really now want to do this and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested in doing it. I took care of it. Whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing it. You're trying to push this. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't push this hard ever. Now I don't think she

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<v Speaker 1>ever listened to the show, but I just I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say the name. But this person was like, for example,

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<v Speaker 1>you know I'm gonna do that. I was gonna be shady,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I'm i gonna do that. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do that because it can I don't want. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to sell a mess and probably I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>I just really want to share this as a lesson

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<v Speaker 1>for us fifty plus about just knowing people have agendas

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<v Speaker 1>and it's okay as long as you kind of get

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<v Speaker 1>an idea what those agendas are, you see their patterns,

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<v Speaker 1>you pay attention, it can save you some heartache. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the main objective of this of this podcast episode, just

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<v Speaker 1>that there are times when I expected people to do stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't do it the last wads and I was devastated, hurt, angry, bitter.

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<v Speaker 1>But I have learned to take lemons and make lemonade

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes and I did that this weekend. Also with these situations,

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<v Speaker 1>I had to deal with actually glad a lemonade. So

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<v Speaker 1>in the end, on some level it will still work

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<v Speaker 1>in my favor and there will be some winds out

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<v Speaker 1>of it, so that's still good. But the original thing

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<v Speaker 1>that I was going to do won't happen, but there

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<v Speaker 1>would be some wind It's took me some wins out

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<v Speaker 1>of it, and actually it was a smart idea of

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<v Speaker 1>what I decided to do. And I'm not playing into

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<v Speaker 1>you because I'm older and out of time. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to play into these other people's agendas that they're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to put on me. Just Okay, life is life

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<v Speaker 1>and life is good and we're gonna move on and

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<v Speaker 1>that's that. You just learned that. So I usually learn that.

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<v Speaker 1>You learn that, and it's a glorious feeling because also

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<v Speaker 1>when you change your mindset, is it being angry the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the weekend, I was like, oh, this opens up,

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<v Speaker 1>This opens up the opportunity for me to do this.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, for me, it was okay, I can now

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<v Speaker 1>go out. I need to go out in the garden

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<v Speaker 1>anyway and finish water. It's really hot, and I got

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<v Speaker 1>a new I got a new plant, and I really

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<v Speaker 1>need to water it. And so it's like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>now I actually have time cause it's earlier in the

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<v Speaker 1>day to water this plant and get out there and

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<v Speaker 1>do it, get some fresh air, and it it open

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<v Speaker 1>up all those possibilities on this stuff. Or there's another

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<v Speaker 1>thing that happened to be when I was like, why

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<v Speaker 1>do you go to bed? I'd get that sleep I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't get cause I was tired, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Like it opened up other opportunities. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you really literally say well, one door close,

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<v Speaker 1>another one opens. It's the truth, it really is. One

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<v Speaker 1>door closes, another one opens, it's it's it's no joke,

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<v Speaker 1>it really does happen. So that's a great thing too.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just wanted to say down, get that out.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fifty plus. I'm James Lott Junior. We're learning

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<v Speaker 1>lessons of education never stops, and I'll tautch you next time.