WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.279 --> 00:00:09.119 Welcome again the Horrible Cult Nation with a Shadows Secrets 2 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:13.400 U and the True Little Weapon showing us on cold 3 00:00:13.519 --> 00:00:17.800 conspiracy as we dive deep to the underbelly of the 4 00:00:17.920 --> 00:00:23.280 unknown and challenge the narrative spinning around us. Buckles up 5 00:00:24.079 --> 00:00:34.079 because we're gearing up for a wild ride through the madness, Madam. 6 00:00:35.679 --> 00:00:37.000 The unseen world. 7 00:00:37.719 --> 00:00:42.799 This is not just a podcast, it's all. 8 00:00:42.119 --> 00:00:43.719 If you, let's lease the chaos. 9 00:01:07.000 --> 00:01:10.359 Hi, and welcome back to another episode of Deplorable Nation. 10 00:01:10.920 --> 00:01:15.920 I'm your host, Deplorable Janet, and today I have two amazing, 11 00:01:16.359 --> 00:01:22.079 fantastic returning guests. This is kind of episode three in 12 00:01:22.319 --> 00:01:25.719 our little chit chat that we've been having, and I'm 13 00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:30.640 super excited about today because with the things going on 14 00:01:30.719 --> 00:01:34.480 in the world right now, I think that a lot 15 00:01:34.519 --> 00:01:40.319 of people benefit from our conversations and hopefully people can 16 00:01:40.799 --> 00:01:44.760 share what they've learned here with other people and make 17 00:01:44.799 --> 00:01:47.920 the arms of the octopus grow longer, if that makes 18 00:01:47.959 --> 00:01:55.280 any sense. So welcome back mister John Lindhardt from floss 19 00:01:55.480 --> 00:02:00.879 dot com and mister Edmaybrey from Faith Byreason dot How 20 00:02:00.879 --> 00:02:02.239 are you gentlemen today? 21 00:02:02.799 --> 00:02:03.120 Great? 22 00:02:04.799 --> 00:02:05.719 Thanks for having us back. 23 00:02:06.200 --> 00:02:09.000 I'm super excited about this I could literally talk to 24 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:12.000 both of you every day, all the time and be 25 00:02:12.080 --> 00:02:20.360 super happy to do all that talking. Yes, yes, you're like, no, 26 00:02:20.439 --> 00:02:25.439 I don't want to talk that much. Well, I'm a talker, 27 00:02:25.639 --> 00:02:28.919 so you know it should be it should be no problem. 28 00:02:29.080 --> 00:02:33.960 But I love these conversations because you never know what 29 00:02:34.080 --> 00:02:38.319 direction it's going to take, and things come up that 30 00:02:38.479 --> 00:02:42.840 people have probably never thought of before. So when we 31 00:02:42.879 --> 00:02:50.319 did our last one about bullying an unconscious confrontation, the 32 00:02:50.360 --> 00:02:55.039 next step is happiness in the grand scheme of things, 33 00:02:55.199 --> 00:02:58.199 and so I would like to get into that today 34 00:02:58.479 --> 00:03:03.759 and hopefully give people and indication of what they can 35 00:03:03.840 --> 00:03:07.599 do to not only know who they are, know what 36 00:03:07.680 --> 00:03:11.719 drives their behavior and their mannerisms, but how they can 37 00:03:11.919 --> 00:03:19.199 change their unconscious reaction to things around to actually make 38 00:03:19.479 --> 00:03:27.199 happiness for themselves. So that John, we will start with you. 39 00:03:27.919 --> 00:03:31.039 I'll start so one of the exercises I love to 40 00:03:31.080 --> 00:03:35.240 do with people, as I say, take out a little 41 00:03:35.240 --> 00:03:41.520 sheet of paper and write down. Take like twenty seconds 42 00:03:41.800 --> 00:03:45.599 and write down your answer to the following question, what 43 00:03:45.680 --> 00:03:51.520 do you think you need to have or do to 44 00:03:51.560 --> 00:03:57.319 be happy? And then people you know, take a moment, 45 00:03:57.360 --> 00:03:59.280 they write that down and then I say to them, 46 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:01.879 now you can throw that piece of paper away. I 47 00:04:01.879 --> 00:04:04.319 don't have to see it, as I can tell you. 48 00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:07.479 I can tell you there's only one of four answers 49 00:04:08.560 --> 00:04:12.680 that you can have, and so basically they align to 50 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:17.079 the four thought processes. So the first answer is what 51 00:04:17.399 --> 00:04:22.399 basically a narcissist or the dysregulation thought process would say, 52 00:04:22.879 --> 00:04:27.879 is I need something bad to happen to an enemy, 53 00:04:28.040 --> 00:04:31.079 or something bad to happen to my competition. I need 54 00:04:31.120 --> 00:04:33.120 my competition. You know what make me happy? If my 55 00:04:33.160 --> 00:04:35.600 competition go bankrupt? You know what make me happy? As 56 00:04:35.600 --> 00:04:37.279 this person falls down a hole and dies. 57 00:04:39.879 --> 00:04:45.160 So I'm gonna say I may have in my past 58 00:04:46.519 --> 00:04:50.879 life experience with my previous marriage, I may have had 59 00:04:50.920 --> 00:04:52.279 that thought a time or two. 60 00:04:53.480 --> 00:04:55.759 Well, yeah, And you know, the thing is is that 61 00:04:56.680 --> 00:05:01.040 we will have that thought in an area of our life, 62 00:05:01.839 --> 00:05:05.079 and so it's good to recognize that. And usually that 63 00:05:05.199 --> 00:05:08.360 thought occurs when you don't feel in control at all. 64 00:05:09.480 --> 00:05:11.879 And one of the stories I tell is that I 65 00:05:11.959 --> 00:05:15.360 was coaching an eighth grade football team. Team played great. 66 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:19.079 The parents loved how much their kids loved to play 67 00:05:19.079 --> 00:05:22.639 for me, and the parents really wished I would move 68 00:05:22.720 --> 00:05:24.759 up to ninth grade because there were two eighth grade 69 00:05:24.800 --> 00:05:28.560 teams and the ninth grade coach had left, and so 70 00:05:30.120 --> 00:05:32.759 I went for the ninth grade job, and the coach 71 00:05:32.800 --> 00:05:37.639 of the other eighth grade team, who was terrible, got 72 00:05:37.639 --> 00:05:46.160 the job. There's nothing I could do about that, but I, 73 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:48.959 you know, I would say, no self esteem. This is 74 00:05:49.000 --> 00:05:51.680 like a no self esteem position in this area. I 75 00:05:51.759 --> 00:05:54.519 was no self esteem. I wanted to see bad things happen. 76 00:05:54.639 --> 00:06:00.560 So as a parent of a senior of varsity player, 77 00:06:01.360 --> 00:06:03.360 I had to sign up to do stuff. I signed 78 00:06:03.439 --> 00:06:07.639 up to run the chains at every home ninth grade 79 00:06:07.639 --> 00:06:10.199 football team, so I got to stand on the field 80 00:06:11.279 --> 00:06:16.720 with the opposition and watch that team play, and I 81 00:06:16.759 --> 00:06:20.439 would follow them away and I'd sit there and watch them, 82 00:06:20.439 --> 00:06:23.959 and this team just fell apart. They're jumping off sides. 83 00:06:24.040 --> 00:06:27.240 They looked like a third grade team. And then i'd 84 00:06:27.240 --> 00:06:29.439 walk through the stands or i'd go to the varsity 85 00:06:29.439 --> 00:06:31.439 game and walk by the parents, and the parents would go, 86 00:06:32.040 --> 00:06:34.800 my son wishes you were coaching them, And I just 87 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:37.439 couldn't get enough of that. I made sure I walked 88 00:06:37.439 --> 00:06:40.319 throughout all those parents and they all told me, man, 89 00:06:40.920 --> 00:06:42.839 the team is such a mess. You would have done 90 00:06:42.920 --> 00:06:46.040 such a better job that my son really wished he 91 00:06:46.160 --> 00:06:49.000 was playing for you. Yeah, so I'll admit it. I 92 00:06:49.040 --> 00:06:51.720 have had I have been in this thought process. 93 00:06:52.360 --> 00:06:56.399 But that made you hearing those things made you happy though, right, 94 00:06:56.519 --> 00:06:59.879 because of validation that you knew you could do about 95 00:06:59.879 --> 00:07:01.240 it job right. 96 00:07:01.279 --> 00:07:04.120 I think what John is going to probably get to 97 00:07:04.160 --> 00:07:06.759 as far as what happiness does, it's like the chemicals 98 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:08.519 release in your brain, and so those can happen. You know, 99 00:07:08.519 --> 00:07:10.519 you can have those happy chemicals released. But I think 100 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:13.560 that if you want to fill out the question completely, 101 00:07:13.560 --> 00:07:16.240 I think it should be what would what would give 102 00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:20.399 you sustained happiness? And I think in your case temporarily 103 00:07:20.800 --> 00:07:22.680 or even with John's case and myself, I've had the 104 00:07:22.720 --> 00:07:24.240 same thing where wanted bad things happened to people who 105 00:07:24.240 --> 00:07:26.360 did bad things to be You're happy for a moment, 106 00:07:26.639 --> 00:07:30.360 but that's not really solving. That's not giving me sustained 107 00:07:30.360 --> 00:07:34.399 happiness because that's okay, great, that's done, and now you 108 00:07:34.399 --> 00:07:36.000 now it's going to come from you. What is going 109 00:07:36.040 --> 00:07:37.000 to make you happy? 110 00:07:37.360 --> 00:07:37.560 You know? 111 00:07:37.720 --> 00:07:40.399 But in a moment you can be disregulated and want 112 00:07:40.439 --> 00:07:43.720 something bad to happen, but sustained happiness is I think 113 00:07:43.759 --> 00:07:47.160 what what that person should be writing down when they're 114 00:07:47.199 --> 00:07:48.399 doing John's test. 115 00:07:48.480 --> 00:07:51.800 Right, And I'm asking about you know, overall in your life. 116 00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:53.959 This is one area of my life at one time 117 00:07:54.000 --> 00:07:55.800 in my life. And I certainly wouldn't have written that 118 00:07:55.879 --> 00:07:58.439 down as my answer to this question because we're talking 119 00:07:58.519 --> 00:08:01.279 about your entire life. But I'm just saying it is 120 00:08:01.439 --> 00:08:05.680 possible because each of these four answers, it represents a 121 00:08:05.720 --> 00:08:10.079 thought process, an actual neural circuit that you use in 122 00:08:10.120 --> 00:08:13.600 your brain, because you have four thought processes. So that's 123 00:08:13.319 --> 00:08:15.639 the question we're really going to find out is what 124 00:08:15.720 --> 00:08:19.680 thought process are you habituated to for your happiness? Which 125 00:08:19.759 --> 00:08:22.959 thought process do you go to for happiness? So people 126 00:08:23.000 --> 00:08:28.079 who are narcissists, they will say this would make me 127 00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:32.240 happy if because ED and ED gives ways that really 128 00:08:32.799 --> 00:08:39.080 happiness is your brain releasing pleasure chemicals in response to 129 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:43.720 your context. So I'm really asking you what context do 130 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:47.240 you want to get your pleasure chemicals from? Right? So, 131 00:08:47.519 --> 00:08:50.799 and this is not sustainable, like I said too. So 132 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:55.200 the second area is basically, you want to have no tension, 133 00:08:55.480 --> 00:08:57.320 you want to win the lottery, you want to be 134 00:08:57.360 --> 00:09:01.159 sitting on the beach under a caban drink in my ties. 135 00:09:02.399 --> 00:09:05.960 So a lot of people call this retirement. And so 136 00:09:06.120 --> 00:09:08.879 notice a lot of people when they say retirement will 137 00:09:08.919 --> 00:09:12.759 make me happy, if their definition of retirement is I 138 00:09:12.799 --> 00:09:18.600 have no tension at all, that's this second thought process. 139 00:09:18.399 --> 00:09:22.919 It's really an addictive thought process. And so people go 140 00:09:23.000 --> 00:09:25.039 to that. We would say they're low self esteem, but 141 00:09:25.080 --> 00:09:29.440 they go to I just want to avoid tension type 142 00:09:29.440 --> 00:09:34.120 of thing in the Bible that was Solomon. Solomon had 143 00:09:34.519 --> 00:09:40.200 zero tension and he fell apart. Because what we're going 144 00:09:40.279 --> 00:09:43.200 to learn about these pleasure chemicals is that if you 145 00:09:43.200 --> 00:09:46.720 don't experience any tension, then if all you have is 146 00:09:46.480 --> 00:09:49.759 the release chemicals, you get used to them, and then 147 00:09:49.799 --> 00:09:53.360 pretty soon you can't be happy, and then you go 148 00:09:53.480 --> 00:09:57.840 to that first level. People in retirement who have no 149 00:09:57.960 --> 00:10:00.960 tension turned into the narcissist. And one of the points 150 00:10:00.960 --> 00:10:03.080 I make about a narcist, if you've ever seen anybody 151 00:10:03.159 --> 00:10:05.720 yell at somebody, hey, get off my lawn, and then 152 00:10:05.720 --> 00:10:11.159 they smile, It's like there's that first thought process. Their 153 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:15.039 brain is releasing chemicals in response to being mean to people, 154 00:10:15.519 --> 00:10:17.120 and so you really have nowhere to go. If you 155 00:10:17.200 --> 00:10:19.480 go for the no tension, you're going to end up there. 156 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:23.600 The third answer is to achieve something. It is to 157 00:10:23.639 --> 00:10:26.080 embrace the tension. The third answer is I want to 158 00:10:26.879 --> 00:10:30.360 get a degree, I want to win an award, I 159 00:10:30.399 --> 00:10:33.120 want to get a promotion. I want to you know, 160 00:10:33.240 --> 00:10:36.600 I'm going to achieve this thing. I'm going to accomplish, 161 00:10:36.679 --> 00:10:41.360 build this business, do this great thing. So that's what 162 00:10:41.399 --> 00:10:45.159 we call the human thought process. That's no pain, no gain. 163 00:10:45.679 --> 00:10:48.080 And so now what you're doing is you're introducing a 164 00:10:48.120 --> 00:10:51.360 little attention so that when you accomplish it, you get 165 00:10:51.399 --> 00:10:55.000 this big bump. And that's really what a lot of 166 00:10:55.000 --> 00:10:58.200 people would say is where everybody wants to be. You 167 00:10:58.200 --> 00:10:59.240 have a thought on that, D. 168 00:11:01.360 --> 00:11:04.440 Yeah, yeah, I do. Actually want to go back to 169 00:11:04.600 --> 00:11:08.919 the the one the previous about the the addictive process, 170 00:11:08.960 --> 00:11:11.320 because honestly, when you first asked the question, the first 171 00:11:11.320 --> 00:11:13.120 thing that popped in my mind is, oh, yeah, money, 172 00:11:13.399 --> 00:11:16.320 I have more money. But then I realized after a 173 00:11:16.320 --> 00:11:19.399 moment that that's not sustainable because and I think that 174 00:11:19.440 --> 00:11:21.799 will probably probably be the answer that most people would 175 00:11:21.960 --> 00:11:24.159 many people would have if they're not already riches. If 176 00:11:24.159 --> 00:11:28.399 I had money, but then what next. Let's say you 177 00:11:28.399 --> 00:11:30.799 do have the money and you can buy all the 178 00:11:30.799 --> 00:11:34.440 cars and houses that you want. That's not going to 179 00:11:34.639 --> 00:11:38.360 that's not going to be self sustaining happiness. And I 180 00:11:38.440 --> 00:11:40.919 told John the story before that I'm not going to 181 00:11:40.960 --> 00:11:43.279 give the person's name because he's a never give me 182 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:45.320 permission to. But you know the school I went to. 183 00:11:45.440 --> 00:11:48.360 I went to college in LA and the college I 184 00:11:48.360 --> 00:11:50.879 went to had, you know, certain celebrities would child actors 185 00:11:50.919 --> 00:11:53.320 would go there because it was it was a high 186 00:11:53.399 --> 00:11:57.039 level university. And I saw one who's very popular, and 187 00:11:57.120 --> 00:11:59.159 I happen to see him sitting on a bench. I 188 00:11:59.159 --> 00:12:01.480 walked by and I said, hey, you know, I saw you. 189 00:12:01.639 --> 00:12:03.559 I saw your TV show, big fan of yours, and 190 00:12:03.600 --> 00:12:05.200 he said great things. He started talking to me. I 191 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:07.879 know you just felt open, and he really talked about 192 00:12:07.960 --> 00:12:11.279 how unhappy he was. Now, this is the person who 193 00:12:11.360 --> 00:12:15.519 had everything, just like Solomon. He had everything the world 194 00:12:15.600 --> 00:12:17.799 told him that he should have to be happy. He 195 00:12:17.879 --> 00:12:21.240 had fame, he had money, he was well known, he 196 00:12:21.320 --> 00:12:23.840 could have, you know, girls like him because because he 197 00:12:23.879 --> 00:12:26.519 was an olrich and famous. But he wasn't happy. Because 198 00:12:26.720 --> 00:12:29.639 he had everything that the world told him he should 199 00:12:29.679 --> 00:12:32.679 have to be happy, yet he still wasn't and he 200 00:12:32.799 --> 00:12:36.799 was completely miserable because if you have everything that's supposed 201 00:12:36.799 --> 00:12:38.720 to make you happy and you still aren't, where do 202 00:12:38.759 --> 00:12:39.440 you go next? 203 00:12:40.759 --> 00:12:45.080 You know? And I'm glad that you revisited this because 204 00:12:45.440 --> 00:12:48.240 it made me think about a conversation that my husband 205 00:12:48.279 --> 00:12:54.600 and I had recently, because when I first retired, it 206 00:12:54.679 --> 00:12:57.879 was for health reasons and some other stuff, but I 207 00:12:57.960 --> 00:12:59.919 was like, what am I going to do when I read? 208 00:13:01.000 --> 00:13:03.840 Because I'm the type of person can't sit still. I'm 209 00:13:03.879 --> 00:13:08.200 always up. I have to do something. And we were 210 00:13:08.240 --> 00:13:10.840 talking about him and he's like, you know, he's like, 211 00:13:11.039 --> 00:13:15.799 I'm probably gonna work until like I die, because if 212 00:13:15.840 --> 00:13:20.159 I retire, I don't know what I would do. I 213 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:23.559 don't have hobbies. I don't like to talk to people. 214 00:13:24.320 --> 00:13:27.480 I don't you know, he's not a tinker, he's not 215 00:13:27.559 --> 00:13:32.240 a handy person. He's like, I don't know what I 216 00:13:32.240 --> 00:13:35.559 would do at all to fill up my day. And 217 00:13:35.600 --> 00:13:39.440 he's like, you are literally always busy. You're always working 218 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:44.360 on something, making something, creating something, interacting with people. And 219 00:13:44.399 --> 00:13:47.240 he's like, I don't have any of that or a 220 00:13:47.399 --> 00:13:51.759 desire to do any of that. And he's like, honestly, 221 00:13:52.399 --> 00:13:54.879 like work is what makes me happy. 222 00:13:55.879 --> 00:13:57.960 You know, that's interesting because I want to two points. 223 00:13:58.000 --> 00:14:00.240 I want to address yours on the second one maybe 224 00:14:00.679 --> 00:14:03.559 or an example, a biblical example, because John also brought 225 00:14:03.600 --> 00:14:06.360 up Solomon, and as he said, Solomon had no tension. 226 00:14:06.399 --> 00:14:09.639 God promised his father, David. You know, the King of 227 00:14:09.679 --> 00:14:12.279 Israel said, because of you, for you, David, I'm not 228 00:14:12.320 --> 00:14:14.759 going to ever I'm not going to punish your son. 229 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:17.879 And and of course Solomon was rich. He never got 230 00:14:17.879 --> 00:14:21.240 he basically, Solomon had everything that we say we want. 231 00:14:21.440 --> 00:14:24.039 He was rich, he was famous, he was respected, he 232 00:14:24.120 --> 00:14:27.559 was wise, and he was never held accountable for his actions. 233 00:14:27.960 --> 00:14:31.679 That's what everyone wants. But again, then Solomon wrote his 234 00:14:32.120 --> 00:14:34.960 last The last thing he wrote was the Book of Ecclesiastes, 235 00:14:35.000 --> 00:14:38.240 which is honestly the most depressing book in the entire Bible, 236 00:14:38.639 --> 00:14:41.200 because he in that book he says, I know what 237 00:14:41.279 --> 00:14:44.000 the answer is. The answer is to put God first. 238 00:14:44.559 --> 00:14:47.960 But I tried everything to make me happy. None of 239 00:14:47.960 --> 00:14:51.080 these things outside myself made me happy. I guess you 240 00:14:51.159 --> 00:14:53.000 not to be happy, you got to turn yourself over 241 00:14:53.039 --> 00:14:55.200 to God. But it was not said, and it was 242 00:14:55.279 --> 00:14:57.879 it was said as a point of frustration. So he 243 00:14:57.919 --> 00:15:00.440 was he was pretty miserable. But the entry same thing 244 00:15:00.519 --> 00:15:04.200 is that Solomon had what we think heaven should be 245 00:15:04.720 --> 00:15:07.919 mm hmm. And and it's actually a kind of a 246 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:10.320 straw man heaven because it's not real. It's not And 247 00:15:10.360 --> 00:15:11.840 I we'll talk about this later. I really want to 248 00:15:11.840 --> 00:15:14.200 talk once we get past well, once you give how 249 00:15:14.240 --> 00:15:16.360 some definitions of happiness and things like that, I want 250 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:19.759 to talk about how that equates to our eternity. But 251 00:15:20.080 --> 00:15:22.600 the idea of heaven, if you ask people, what is 252 00:15:22.600 --> 00:15:24.759 heaven like, Oh, we're just going to be sitting on 253 00:15:24.799 --> 00:15:27.080 a cloud, you know, worshiping God would just be happy 254 00:15:27.120 --> 00:15:29.159 all the time. But it's very, very vague. It's just 255 00:15:29.240 --> 00:15:32.720 this time of no tension. That's what they think heaven's 256 00:15:32.759 --> 00:15:37.399 going to be, because we can't imagine enjoying tension for eternity. 257 00:15:37.159 --> 00:15:37.919 Which is interesting. 258 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:40.039 I think we're going to get to that. But another 259 00:15:40.159 --> 00:15:43.480 example I think of someone who's at the next thought 260 00:15:43.480 --> 00:15:47.399 process John was just talking about the the achievement was 261 00:15:48.159 --> 00:15:51.480 a man Jesus encounter called a rich young ruler, where 262 00:15:51.480 --> 00:15:54.440 he came to Jesus and he said, you know, I 263 00:15:54.440 --> 00:15:56.120 want to I want to be more, I want to 264 00:15:56.159 --> 00:15:58.320 have I want to I want to be your follower, 265 00:15:58.720 --> 00:16:02.120 and Jesus said, okay, well obey the law, he said, 266 00:16:02.320 --> 00:16:04.720 he said, I do this. I'm achieving that I've achieved 267 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:07.759 the law. She said, okay, great, Well if you, if 268 00:16:07.799 --> 00:16:09.759 you really want to follow me, give away all of 269 00:16:09.799 --> 00:16:13.799 your stuff that you've achieved and you'll have treasure in heaven. 270 00:16:14.440 --> 00:16:17.240 He didn't want. He went away. He couldn't stand that 271 00:16:17.279 --> 00:16:19.799 because he could not he could not get his mind 272 00:16:19.919 --> 00:16:21.360 to the point where he could. He felt he could 273 00:16:21.399 --> 00:16:25.039 be happy giving up his achievements because that's what he 274 00:16:25.080 --> 00:16:27.159 thought made him happy. I've done all these things, I've 275 00:16:27.200 --> 00:16:29.720 obeyed the law, I've a mass of riches, and now 276 00:16:29.840 --> 00:16:31.480 this guy is telling me that I have to give 277 00:16:31.559 --> 00:16:34.879 all of that up and and and follow him blindly 278 00:16:34.919 --> 00:16:36.519 and follow what I think John's going to tell you 279 00:16:36.559 --> 00:16:39.279 the next answer for happiness is And he could not 280 00:16:39.360 --> 00:16:40.960 find his way to do that because he was all 281 00:16:41.000 --> 00:16:41.679 about achievement. 282 00:16:43.120 --> 00:16:46.000 Well, let's let's stay in this because I love what 283 00:16:46.039 --> 00:16:49.679 you both did here with that second level. So and 284 00:16:49.759 --> 00:16:51.720 like Janet said, you never know which way this is. 285 00:16:51.679 --> 00:16:53.039 Gonna go exactly. 286 00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:56.200 So let's go back to Solomon. Well, let me start 287 00:16:56.240 --> 00:16:57.840 with this with a lottery when I go into a 288 00:16:57.840 --> 00:17:01.559 classroom and explain what I'm explaining right now, I'd say, 289 00:17:01.879 --> 00:17:06.079 when you win the lottery, you have two choices. You 290 00:17:06.119 --> 00:17:10.960 can either be happy and go broke or not be 291 00:17:11.079 --> 00:17:15.079 happy and not go broke. And the kids are like 292 00:17:15.720 --> 00:17:16.599 what And I said. 293 00:17:16.400 --> 00:17:18.240 Well here, you're like are you crazy? 294 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:22.599 Yah? Yeah. But again, the reason why I love talking 295 00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:24.680 with you, Janet, is you really allow me to talk 296 00:17:24.720 --> 00:17:27.240 about the brain. All this stuff is in your brain. 297 00:17:28.000 --> 00:17:31.200 Penis is your brain releasing pleasure chemicals. That's exactly what 298 00:17:31.240 --> 00:17:35.559 it is. So what happens is is you win the lottery. 299 00:17:36.640 --> 00:17:39.519 Now you don't have any tension. So the only way 300 00:17:39.559 --> 00:17:41.480 to be happy is you buy something. So let's say 301 00:17:41.519 --> 00:17:46.640 you buy something for fifty thousand dollars, you're happy. That's 302 00:17:46.680 --> 00:17:47.920 where your brain works. 303 00:17:48.359 --> 00:17:51.960 You bought a boat thinking the boat would be great, 304 00:17:52.480 --> 00:17:54.720 and then you're like, oh crut, Now I have to 305 00:17:54.759 --> 00:17:55.720 clean it all the time. 306 00:17:55.960 --> 00:17:58.920 Well, then you put you got money, you hire people 307 00:17:58.960 --> 00:18:00.720 to clean it. But what happened is that there is 308 00:18:00.759 --> 00:18:03.039 that boost. You bought this book. This is great, and 309 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:06.079 you're going to feel a boost when you go buy 310 00:18:06.119 --> 00:18:09.559 something else for fifty thousand. The way your brain works 311 00:18:09.920 --> 00:18:12.720 is it gets used to stuff. That's how we have 312 00:18:12.759 --> 00:18:15.519 these drug addictions. You take a drug, get you build 313 00:18:15.519 --> 00:18:18.880 a tolerance. That works for everything. It works for your friends, 314 00:18:19.000 --> 00:18:22.000 it works for all of this. So you buy something 315 00:18:22.039 --> 00:18:26.640 for fifty thousand dollars again, you're gonna enjoy it less 316 00:18:27.839 --> 00:18:30.400 than the first time you bought a fifty thousand. If 317 00:18:30.440 --> 00:18:32.359 you play a video game and you win the game, 318 00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:35.519 you're ecstatic. If you play it again and win it, 319 00:18:36.920 --> 00:18:39.240 you feel great, but not like the first time you 320 00:18:39.279 --> 00:18:41.680 want it. So, now what do you have to do? 321 00:18:41.960 --> 00:18:45.680 You had this high for fifty eight thousand, you did 322 00:18:45.720 --> 00:18:47.319 fifteen and you didn't get that high. How do you 323 00:18:47.359 --> 00:18:49.240 get I want this high again? Well you have to 324 00:18:49.240 --> 00:18:51.720 spend one hundred thousand. So now you buy something for 325 00:18:51.759 --> 00:18:55.680 one hundred thousand, you'll all right, yeah, there's that high, 326 00:18:55.799 --> 00:18:59.039 there's I'm happy again. Well, now what do you have 327 00:18:59.079 --> 00:19:03.160 to do to do that again? Two hundred thousand? And 328 00:19:03.160 --> 00:19:06.440 that's why it's like, wait, if you stop this, you 329 00:19:06.480 --> 00:19:09.279 can't get your brain to release any chemicals and you'll 330 00:19:09.279 --> 00:19:13.440 have money. Or you chase that high and now you 331 00:19:13.440 --> 00:19:15.359 don't have your money again. But you got to feel 332 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:19.599 happy along the way. So that's how your brain actually works. 333 00:19:19.960 --> 00:19:25.000 So what happened to Solomon? When people talk about signing 334 00:19:25.039 --> 00:19:29.440 their soul over to the devil, it's really what Solomon did, 335 00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:35.079 because what that really looks like is is Solomon habituated 336 00:19:35.440 --> 00:19:40.079 to this second thought process. Like ed said, And if 337 00:19:40.079 --> 00:19:42.799 you read the story of Solomon, he also had a 338 00:19:42.839 --> 00:19:47.920 thousand wives. And God said, well, it's said in the 339 00:19:47.920 --> 00:19:53.960 Bible not to bring horses from Egypt, not to make 340 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:58.440 silveris stones, not to marry a bunch of women, because 341 00:19:58.440 --> 00:20:02.559 they'll take your heart away towards their gods. Solomon was 342 00:20:02.559 --> 00:20:05.039 supposed to make a copy of the Law as king, 343 00:20:05.920 --> 00:20:08.559 and he would have seen those commands, and there's a 344 00:20:08.720 --> 00:20:13.240 verse under Solomon that contradicts the verse and the law. 345 00:20:13.839 --> 00:20:17.599 He brought horses out of Egypt, he made SILVERI stones, 346 00:20:17.920 --> 00:20:19.640 and he married all these women, and it took his 347 00:20:19.680 --> 00:20:22.359 heart away. So it was stayed in the law of 348 00:20:22.400 --> 00:20:26.039 this would happened. He absolutely did it. So then God 349 00:20:26.279 --> 00:20:30.319 says to him, you have put up idols to other gods. 350 00:20:31.400 --> 00:20:36.440 Take them down, and I'm going to give you, you know, 351 00:20:36.920 --> 00:20:40.319 a nation, an enemy, but he'll never come into your borders. 352 00:20:40.759 --> 00:20:43.079 So even when God wanted to give him an enemy. 353 00:20:43.359 --> 00:20:45.960 It never got into Israel, it was in his borders. 354 00:20:46.400 --> 00:20:50.119 But so Solomon needed to take those things down. Like 355 00:20:50.200 --> 00:20:53.559 Yad said, he writes Ecclesiastes, and at the end of 356 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:55.319 it he says, let me tell you the whole thing. 357 00:20:56.319 --> 00:20:59.559 The only way to be happy is to do what 358 00:20:59.559 --> 00:21:04.680 God's says. He knew that, he never did. 359 00:21:04.480 --> 00:21:09.079 It putting it. But I think for a lot of people, 360 00:21:09.359 --> 00:21:13.000 like knowing that you should follow God, knowing that you 361 00:21:13.039 --> 00:21:16.200 should you know, live with the heart of kindness and 362 00:21:16.240 --> 00:21:20.200 love and all of those things, it's easier said than 363 00:21:20.279 --> 00:21:25.000 done for most people because people generally speaking, are lazy 364 00:21:25.720 --> 00:21:29.440 and they will not put that into practice. It'll be 365 00:21:29.599 --> 00:21:32.559 like in the back of their head going, yeah, I 366 00:21:32.599 --> 00:21:34.720 know I'm supposed to do these things. I know I'm 367 00:21:34.720 --> 00:21:37.039 supposed to be a good person. I know I'm supposed 368 00:21:37.079 --> 00:21:40.880 to serve others, but yeah, I don't want to. And 369 00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:44.759 then that that chronic question of why do all these 370 00:21:44.799 --> 00:21:49.359 bad things happen to me repeatedly, over and over and 371 00:21:49.440 --> 00:21:52.759 over again, And that's your answer the thing. 372 00:21:52.839 --> 00:21:54.559 So I'm going to get the first half of that though, 373 00:21:54.759 --> 00:21:57.680 So I know I should do this, but I don't 374 00:21:57.680 --> 00:22:01.880 do it. We run on energy. That's the thing to 375 00:22:01.960 --> 00:22:05.000 realize about us. We're not robots. If we're robots, we 376 00:22:05.039 --> 00:22:08.000 could tell people here's how to eat, here's how to exercise, 377 00:22:08.160 --> 00:22:12.119 and everybody would change their behavior tomorrow. We run on energy. 378 00:22:12.240 --> 00:22:15.119 If I, you know, clean the garage, I don't want to, 379 00:22:15.240 --> 00:22:18.440 that's me not having energy to do it. Solomon had 380 00:22:18.599 --> 00:22:23.880 wired his brain so much to this second thought process, 381 00:22:24.279 --> 00:22:26.440 which is this addictive thought process. And this is what 382 00:22:26.480 --> 00:22:29.720 happens is to addicts that he, like Ed said, he 383 00:22:29.759 --> 00:22:32.480 did this big proof to try to find another way. 384 00:22:33.200 --> 00:22:37.880 And he proved to himself logically, which is that third process, 385 00:22:37.960 --> 00:22:42.519 the achievement one. He proved himself logically, this is how 386 00:22:42.559 --> 00:22:45.799 to be happy. But he couldn't bring himself to do 387 00:22:45.839 --> 00:22:48.359 it because he had he had wired his brain to 388 00:22:48.440 --> 00:22:51.480 the point that he had no longer he had valued 389 00:22:51.519 --> 00:22:53.920 stuff so much he could no longer get the energy 390 00:22:53.960 --> 00:22:58.640 to do the right thing. Hundreds of years later, Josiah 391 00:22:58.920 --> 00:23:02.680 took down all of those high places that Solomon put up, 392 00:23:02.759 --> 00:23:06.440 so they stayed up for hundreds of yours. Solomon never 393 00:23:06.599 --> 00:23:12.079 took them down. Solomon opposed God, and so that ends right. 394 00:23:12.079 --> 00:23:16.119 Ecclesias is a really sad book, because Solomon had everything 395 00:23:16.240 --> 00:23:19.319 we think would make you happy, which is in this 396 00:23:19.359 --> 00:23:24.319 third achievement thought process, and then he realized, Really, Ecclesiastes 397 00:23:24.400 --> 00:23:28.200 is saying, I was in Joe, I was happy building 398 00:23:28.400 --> 00:23:32.200 God's house and building my house. But while I was 399 00:23:32.279 --> 00:23:35.960 building him, I thought I'd be happy living in my 400 00:23:36.119 --> 00:23:38.920 house and having my house. And now that I have 401 00:23:39.160 --> 00:23:43.160