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Speaker 1: All right, welcome to another episode that I feel create. Uh,

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we're gonna wake it up though, we're gonna wake it up.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna wake it up. My kids woke me up

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at four thirty to day.

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Speaker 1: The thing about kids, bro, they have no regard to

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how the night went before, even though they caused the

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night before. Regardless, if they stay up late, if they

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want to run around scream all day that they'll ruin

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your whole day. Go to sleep, wake up, and then

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it's a clean slate. So every morning, every fucking morning,

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I'm in here with my brothers DJ AKA Mike Haney.

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He ain't got no Mike, and that's good. I'm in

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here with my brother Harry.

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Speaker 2: What's up, bro, Yo, what's good? Wake it up? Bro?

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I'm up man, I'm up up here, I'm here, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: And we have two guests. They got too, that's Edema

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and Vania, a demon. Say how you say how to

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the people?

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Speaker 3: Hello? People?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? How you doing today?

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Speaker 3: I'm doing wonderful.

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Speaker 1: I like how you. I like how you how you

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got your hair done to the shape of your head?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 2: I really fuck with that, thank you, because a lot

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of people do not do that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know about them.

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Speaker 2: You know what some motherfuckers that and the lashes is

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two tong.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I got some orange and blacket.

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Speaker 2: See that's the niggas, don't. I can't just bro I'm

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just falling.

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Speaker 3: You know what your thoughts is.

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Speaker 1: I'm just falling, motherfucker. I said, I saw a girl

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that I like with our lashes. I thought that bitch

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had cancer. I don't like it, don't because don't they

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look like.

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Speaker 2: But that's probably because she wore last year so much

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that when she's pull them off and take the real last.

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Speaker 3: The same way. I hope I don't beat that bitch.

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Speaker 2: You're bugs flying on her face. She ain't got no defenses.

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Speaker 3: Noning, Okay, all she got is her nose hairs.

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Speaker 2: Bless you ever seen a girl with long nose hair, period? No,

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I don't think I've never looked close enough. Now that

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you just said that, I'm about to start looking for those.

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I don't think I've ever thought to even look at that.

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Speaker 4: Now.

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Speaker 2: You don't put that in my head down. I saw

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a trans. I saw a trans yesterday at Target, and

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it was a girl going into a boy and she

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had small titties, but she had a full beard, she

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was built like a pepper.

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Speaker 5: Ah, So how do you know that it was a

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girl going to a boy and not a boy going

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to the girl and already has top surgery? I never know,

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So like when they be like call me, they them,

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I'd be like, all right.

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Speaker 2: That motherfucking beard looked like it was rented.

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Speaker 3: I'm done.

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Speaker 2: The way that she was walking looked like it was ready.

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She was ready. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't even know when you started dressing the genders differently,

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Like when if if you still got a we wi

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and you want to be identified as a girl, why

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how how I'm supposed to know if you're walking around

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with a beard we wei and titties.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I was about to say, I don't. I

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think I just use very broad words like I won't

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say ma'am or sir. I'll just be like, hey, yeah,

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nothing after that, nothing, Because I dealt with that at Target.

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I had to hire one and I wasn't even about

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to bother asking what they preferred, so I just kept

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it very simple.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to my cousin. She gay and uh and

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we're close. We're close. So when I be asking her

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questions about being gay. She'd be like, why are you

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asking me this stuff? I'm like, who the fuck else

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I'm I supposed to ask? I'm trying. I'm trying to

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be I'm trying to be respectful, and I'm trying to

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be knowledgeable about your situation and what you go through.

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And how can I not make you feel uncomfortable by

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making jokes?

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Speaker 2: Or you're just making jokes because she were Jordan Shorts.

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Speaker 5: You gotta make jokes. So did you make jokes with

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everybody else?

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Speaker 2: So I don't make jokes about your sexuality though.

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Speaker 5: Well not about their sexuality individuality. But you know, like

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my oldest nephew was gay, okay, and you know in

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the room he's twenty seven.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 6: Most gay men have a sense of fashion.

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Speaker 5: And I do stand up comedy and I told him,

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you have no sense of fashionnefyt.

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Speaker 6: I was like, so what's the point?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just getting fucked. That's crazy, that's just a crime.

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That's not the top. Are you just a free Yeah?

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Speaker 2: He just fucking He was a comedian.

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Speaker 6: Y'all do a little hodgepodge of things.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's nice that that hodgepodge just showed your age

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because what the fuck is that?

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Speaker 2: How?

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Speaker 1: How how is it being in Indianapolis? And both of

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you got followings bigger than all of ours, So how

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in Indianapolis? Like people notice me when I go places

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and my ship ain't nowhere near like that. Y'all go

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places and motherfuckers, but like you're so and you're so

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and so if you get noticed.

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Speaker 4: I didn't been that since I worked at Georgetown Market.

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I done got a couple of people that come in

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there and they're like, I follow you, and I'm like.

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Speaker 3: Are you doing?

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Speaker 4: They like, yeah, look it up, I'm looking at And

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I probably didn't even follow him back.

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Speaker 3: But it's so many people, and you'd be surprised.

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Speaker 4: I just be like, hell, I don't even go and

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think think about the social media, you know, I'll be

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forgetting when people come up to me. But you got

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some people who will side out of your ass like

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you ain't nobody, no for real, for really, Yeah, the

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mother fucker don't even want to respect you or even

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talk to you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's weird.

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Speaker 3: It is. That's Indianapolis. Though.

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Speaker 2: To me a lot of people probably see y'all too

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and know who y'are and don't say anything. Yeah, like

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I've seen Vania, right, I've seen you before after DJ

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just showed me a video he did for you, and

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I of course recognized you, but I wasn't. I feel

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like that's kind of fanning out and not necessary, like, hey,

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my partner did your video. That's it didn't Yeah, it.

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Speaker 6: Didn't feel like I am an approachable person in general.

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Speaker 5: People probably wouldn't say that though I don't look necessarily

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real friendly in real life. But I've been in the airport,

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like I went to uh Puerto Rico and somebody was

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like silver Fox and I stopped it around, like what.

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Speaker 3: The fuck they talking to? They talk to me?

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Speaker 5: I mean because I go by silber Fox sometimes and

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I was like, Hi.

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Speaker 1: Why why I'll be acting shot though I don't I.

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Speaker 5: Be on their bullshit and I okay, it was never

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an intention for me to build a following. I've posted, Yeah,

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I be like when I first started working out, it

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was a reminder for myself to motivate myself, right okay,

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And so sometimes you got to laugh to keep from crying,

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and so I would post it that I thought was

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funny or that I was just like, Wow, this is dumb.

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I can't believe but I don't got this fat and

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everything clapping when I'm trying to work out, And you

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realize how many other people think that way, you know,

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And it's still weird to me that people technically know

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me that don't know me, because they'll say hey, Vanya

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and not be like, I don't know Vanya. But I

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don't correct them because that lets me know that I

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don't know them in real life.

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Speaker 2: So you separate your internet personality from the real youth

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in a way or no.

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Speaker 6: No, I'm me. I just be on that. I mean,

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I'd be sitting around bullshitting in real life.

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Speaker 5: But I'm not a linear person, and I think with

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the Internet, people expect you to be linear, and so

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because of that, people are always like you should talk more.

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Speaker 6: I hate my voice?

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Speaker 3: Why most Yeah, most.

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Speaker 1: Women hate their voice. I record women for a living,

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and everybody I don't like my voice. I tell the

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motherfucker he whisper in my ear.

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Speaker 2: Talking about the first time y'all heard y'allselves talk like

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through a recording or something. Is that how you? Because

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I didn't know I sounded how I sound until I

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started doing this, and I was like, I never you

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never really what you hear in your head is not

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what everybody else hears.

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Speaker 6: I heard a recording of me and I thought it

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was an old white lady, and I.

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Speaker 2: Can hear that. I can hear that. What would her

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name be?

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Speaker 5: People used to when I used to answer the phone people,

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I'll be like, hello, thank you for calling whatever, whatever

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this is Vinia.

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Speaker 6: They'd be like, hey, Denise, I'm okay, okay.

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Speaker 1: People are weird. People are weird. Yeah, I think I

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think a lot of women don't. Like when I lived

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in Atlanta and in Hawaii, I missed black women from

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Indianapolis saying when you just talk to a girl you like,

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and she was like, I went to I want to

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target to that, And I missed that. I missed just

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that little piece. And I don't think a lot of

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because I listened to audio all day every day. I

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don't think black women, especially black women from here, realized

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that the dialect that y'all have is.

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Speaker 2: Niggas like it. I want.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have dated anybody that's not from here because

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I don't like the way they talk.

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Speaker 6: Somebody told me I had an accent. I was like,

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what the fuck is it?

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Speaker 2: You do have an accent?

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Speaker 3: That's the same overhead n me.

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, I mean I can definitely, you know,

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switch it up though, you know, if I want to

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get into a different crowd, I'm gonna definitely switch it

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up for him.

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Speaker 2: Everything you're part of that busy crowd. No, you ain't

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fo boosy.

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Speaker 4: I did fucking boosy that one song walked out side. Look,

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I'm tired of this man.

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Speaker 2: So who you listen to?

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Speaker 3: I listened to a lot of motivational affirmation on me.

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Speaker 2: When you listen when you was young, Now.

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Speaker 3: You know, I listened to that. Everything a little ratchet.

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Speaker 2: He was a little ratchet.

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Speaker 3: I mean, everybody had that moment in there.

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Speaker 4: Ye came, I was, I had some young thug heir

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rich On KWin What.

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Speaker 2: Why she is thirty three?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Okay, you said when you was young and he was like.

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Speaker 2: Rich On early twenties.

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Speaker 3: That is all right. I tell you you couldn't nobody

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stop that at that moment.

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Speaker 1: Man, they did rest in peace. How do y'all feel

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about all the black men that are dying? When y'all

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when it comes to entertainment, Because when we was younger,

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it was just easy e Tupac and Biggie and that

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was and Tupac and Biggie was the only two that

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was close. But he was like years before that, and

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now it's like every six months, every three months.

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Speaker 6: Like the black men in general.

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Speaker 5: I want you to take better care of yourselves, your health,

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your mental My brother had an aneurysm, and when he

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passed away, people assumed that he died from violence. And

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because of that, when you see things in the news,

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people always assume the worst. Oh, they were on drugs,

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and I'm like, you know, it's not always that. Sometimes

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it's high blood pressure, especially for black men. Sometimes it's stress,

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which is high blood pressure exactly. Sometimes it's stress that

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leads to drug abuse or substance abuse of some sort.

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Speaker 6: And it's sad because these men are young.

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Speaker 1: The problem is is that I think that at least

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my generation, we didn't grow up with emotionally responsible or

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physically responsible men around. Like niggas was drinking hennessy, niggas

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was drinking malt liquor you feel me, old English type

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shit like like it wasn't really like a thing to

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be healthy. And then I think life was just fucking

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niggas all which ways, but proper and I think that

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the only thing that we the only thing that black

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men seem to pass on this anger. We talked about

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that last time, Like, I don't think that. Like when

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I ride my bike, I don't see other black men

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riding unless they're old as fuck. I'm going to MO

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nine and I see old black men riding. I don't

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see men my age or people my age.

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Speaker 6: The Black Men Run club, I don't run, So no, there's.

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Speaker 5: Black men bike. I follow a guy that's in black

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Men Bike. I follow several men that are you know,

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black men run and I love to see it. However,

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before I started working out, that wasn't something that came

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across my timeline.

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Speaker 6: For sure, if you're interested in it, you'll see it.

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Speaker 5: But if you're not, those are not things that are

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going to, you know, be on your radar to even notice.

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Speaker 2: Is that a good thing or a bad thing.

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Speaker 6: It's bad.

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Speaker 4: It is because every sense I've typed up pixie cuts.

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Speaker 3: That's all I see you. All my for you is

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all pixies, and I want everyone.

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Speaker 2: Your algorithm is definitely going to give you what you want.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, keep I'm looking for And it just gives the

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assumption that black people in general, are not healthy, that

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black women don't go to the gym, that you know,

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black men only passed down anger or they you know,

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aren't sufficient fibers and ship like that. When that's the

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furthest thing from the truth, because I know at this age,

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you know a black man that's a good father.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know many black men that got working

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out from their father. They got they got it from

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being playing sports. So like I feel like the thirty

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eight and down maybe your agent down. I feel like

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if they played sports or football or basketball, then they

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created a routine to start working out. But I don't

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really be seeing old black men work out like I

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see a lot of old white men.

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Speaker 3: Working out thirty eighth Street, LA.

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Speaker 2: I actually can agree with that because even my dad

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was an athlete growing up, but like once my dad

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started laying, he did not work out. And like I

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still work out consistently and now my son, you know,

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I trained him and all that, but like, yeah, I

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didn't get working out, like going to the gym, running

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lifting weights for my dad at all. He was athlete.

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His basketball career was way better than mine was. So

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it's I that is that could be a true statement.

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Speaker 5: Did he utilize that basketball career for health or was

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he utilizing it as a platform too. It was go

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to school or go to college, get a better job,

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to socialize. So we have to look at the reason,

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you know, why that older generation was Invola.

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Speaker 2: It was definitely an outlet to and that's why when

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it was finished, it was finished. It was like he

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was kind of, what's life going to do now? And

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that's one thing I will say that I made sure

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I didn't do. When I was done playing in college,

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I was at that crossroad with like, damn, what's next?

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But I knew it would be something versus trying to

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figure it out forever type thing.

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Speaker 5: But you know, as black people, we're not raised to

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think about that. We're raised we need to make it

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through today.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't.

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Speaker 6: Worry about tomorrow because you don't even know if you're

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gonna make it.

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Speaker 5: And when we think about health, you think about things

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like life insurance, the longevity of those things. But today

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as black people, you know, my mom is not that old.

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My mom is sixty three and she didn't graduate from

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high school. She didn't know anything about, you know, saving money,

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She didn't know anything about working out. She knew about work. Yeah,

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she knew about raising her kids. She knew about you know,

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being that right hand to her husband.

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Speaker 3: That was it.

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Speaker 5: And even as a grown woman, I ask her, you know,

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what dreams did you have? Like, I didn't have none

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of I just want to raise my kids. I just

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wanted to be married.

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Speaker 1: Niggas didn't have band with the dream. Yeah, they didn't

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really have a band. Like when I'd be thinking, I'm like, man,

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y'all ain't had an internet. So if y'all, if y'all lost,

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y'all job, y'all had to go to the paper, y'all

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had to It wasn't no I'm about to get out

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here and start a baking company and just you know,

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I mean get on social media and you know, handing

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the fist type shit. So a lot of the times

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I'd be like really feeling bad for them because their world.

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Speaker 2: Was their world.

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Speaker 1: There was no algorithm chance of showing you something completely different.

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And then now when you grow up and you have

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all these aspirations, they'd be so scared to have you

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fly out and try some new ship because they never

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even seen it or even even thought about that ship.

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My cousin was talking to his mom the other day Sunday,

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and he was like, yeah, I don't just want to work.

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I want to I want to travel this, this and that.

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And she was like, son, you got to go somewhere.

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He just came back from Mexico. He said, you want

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to keep doing it. She was like, son, I've never

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been to Mexico until I was fifty. So the fact

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that you're going now, you already surpassed. You already surpassed

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you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: She ain't.

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Speaker 1: They ain't going on motherfucking vacation when they were thirty three.

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They had to take care of kids.

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Speaker 2: Bro. Bro. My parents literally, I tell people all the time.

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I can count on one hand probably how many times

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my parents went out to like a bar or a club.

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Like they legit worked and we're parents. That was it.

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There was no extracurricular, extracurricular weekend parties, none of that.

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Speaker 3: They literally went to work and we're parents.

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Speaker 2: That was it. So it's definitely a generational change when

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it comes to that. And sometimes I don't know if

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it's a good or bad thing, honestly, because sometimes I

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look up and I feel like people in there, you know,

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mid thirties late thirties or even early forties aren't focused

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on the parenting enough.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes, Yeah, I feel that they too worried about traveling, yeah,

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or going to the book.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, how are you out every weekend? And you

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got kids?

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Speaker 3: I'd be thinking the same day.

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Speaker 2: I don't have Saturday night movie nights as a family.

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Speaker 1: I just be wanting to know how women be fucking

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these niggas with all these kids.

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Speaker 2: Listen, listen because why are you doing that? Cause because why?

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Because why he not with his.

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Speaker 6: Kids exactly what he gonna do with you?

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Speaker 1: They look but they look like him. They look like him.

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They got the same DNA as him. He want to

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see the motherfuckers once a week. What do you think

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you're about to get?

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Speaker 5: So you know, I said, my brother passed away in

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twenty one. I don't have any biological children, but I

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have custody of my nephew.

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Speaker 6: So when I got him, he was.

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Speaker 2: He looked like that brother.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, damn.

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Speaker 5: My brother has four kids, so I'm sorry for your

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lost thank you. He's the youngest of the four, and

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I got a trash ass baby mama, so I'm a

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baby daddy down. But anyway, that's another story. For another day.

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Speaker 3: You're father, You're a baby marvel you hear me.

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Speaker 5: So the idea of having to change my entire life

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overnight without I didn't get no baby shower and you know, gifts,

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I get shit I got. I got a kid that

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was grieving while fighting my own grief and took a

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lot of strength it did, but also trying to readjust

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my entire life because I come and go as I please,

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I do what I want. My house was not child friendly.

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I wanted to be rich Auntie always on vacation. Oh no,

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that's right, Okay, you still are though.

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Speaker 3: Listen.

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Speaker 5: I just took my first trip with my family and

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the child, and I forgot that the child was with

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me like that I was the responsible kid for the kid,

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and I was like, oh shit, and he's just like hey, Auntie, and.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, oh, Auntie.

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Speaker 6: Man. We went to Boston.

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Speaker 5: The older kids my brother's older kids, like I took

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them to Mexico, right, but they were My niece was

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graduating in high school, my oldest nephew was graduating college

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and in the middle when nothing was in middle school

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or something like that. But I'm fun, Auntie, So it's different.

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You know they were in Mexico.

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Speaker 6: They're like, can we drink?

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Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, Now this little one when he's like seventeen,

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I'm gonna be like, hell no, you can't drink.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 6: It's like I'm a mom.

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Speaker 5: And it's it's a little bit different because I still

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sometimes want to be fun. He got in trouble at

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school yesterday talking and I'm like, why every morning we

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do our affirmations, we say, you know, stay seated, be quiet,

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do what you're supposed to do, okay, and you get

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to school clowning all day.

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Speaker 6: Teacher gotta call me now you're quiet?

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Speaker 3: Now you quiet?

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Speaker 6: You ain't got nothing to say.

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Speaker 3: You didne did all that at school?

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Speaker 5: You want to explain to me what you've been in

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class doing. And you know, I can't really talk like

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I want to talk because the teacher got me on

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speakerphone and be like, hey, listen, listen, quit playing with me.

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You up here acting crazy that.

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Speaker 2: Quit playing with me and scare mother fucker straight. Yeah,

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quit playing with me.

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Speaker 3: I don't scare my three year old.

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Speaker 2: Oh you got to kick them, fary kick.

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Speaker 6: You gotta pinch him right up here under that little.

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Speaker 1: Once I started pinching my son. Anytime I motherfucking measure something,

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he start to, yeah, I need you to, and I'll

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be trying to and I'll be trying to tell my wife, like,

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look when you say shut the fuck up, regardless of

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what language you use to say shut the fuck up.

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He needs to understand to shut the fuck up, because

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once he leaves this house and somebody tells him to

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shut the fuck up, it's usually a cop, a teacher,

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some type of authority authority figure and if they if

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he doesn't understand to listen, then his ass gonna be

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kneeled down to the motherfucking ground with motherfucking people around him.

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And I don't think that enough people understand. Like my

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wife was like, he's the My wife and her sister

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they daddy was nice and they don't got no brothers,

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so they they they didn't get whoopings because they wasn't bad.

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Speaker 2: They probably didn't see much aggressive and then see none

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of that aggressive pants.

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Speaker 1: So here I come. This nigga is running up and downstairs.

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I'm like, you can't do that, not only because your

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safety is in jeopardy, but your little sisters who are

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too are going to try to do that and if

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they fall, I'm gonna fuck you up. So I'm like,

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you have to stop, and then he just lie. I'm like, bro,

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they want him to be a kid. And I said, okay,

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maybe maybe the audience can tell me if I'm tripping.

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When the fuck are you supposed to start teaching young

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children how to be respectful period? Because life, if you

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let your if you let your kid get away with

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bullshit until he five, you don't have five years of

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being trash. He's gonna be a clown ass nigga. And

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only until I had a son did I realize how

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pivotal these early years of their life really are. Like

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my son, he was soon as learned how to walk.

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We got a big ass plant. He walked to the plant.

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He was sleepy. I know that niggas get I know

471
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half the niggas in jail are in jail because they

472
00:21:54,799 --> 00:21:57,839
were sleepy. But the nigga went to the fuck. The

473
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:00,200
nigga went to the plant. He didn't take and that.

474
00:22:00,319 --> 00:22:02,279
He went to the plant. I said, do not put

475
00:22:02,279 --> 00:22:05,519
your hand in that plant. He looked at me, looked

476
00:22:05,519 --> 00:22:08,880
at the plant, looked at his mama, looked at the plant,

477
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,160
walked away and grab dragged his hand after mother I said,

478
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:15,799
oh okay, oh okay, And he only do bad ship

479
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:18,880
when he's fucking sleepy, you don't do if he's fully rested.

480
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,279
He's the greatest kid. But I feel like a lot

481
00:22:21,319 --> 00:22:25,880
of the times, kids, especially black boys, grow up with

482
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,759
motherfuckers letting them just get away with shit.

483
00:22:29,079 --> 00:22:31,920
Speaker 4: What about mixed breed kids, though, my son, they're all crazy.

484
00:22:32,039 --> 00:22:35,960
My son is African American. They're all crazy, literally, so

485
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,359
he's like the African and I'm American.

486
00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 3: His dad's African.

487
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, just talking about light skin and

488
00:22:43,519 --> 00:22:45,559
black and white, black and white, black.

489
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:49,279
Speaker 1: And white skin. It's about black and white. They're crazy.

490
00:22:49,559 --> 00:22:52,799
I made the same. I ain't at the same mixed person.

491
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:57,279
Speaker 4: Yet he was got African and black, they would be

492
00:22:57,319 --> 00:22:59,079
you know what I'm saying, co incide together?

493
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,319
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, the same. He definitely had to nip

494
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:04,799
shit in the butter, like I had to get my

495
00:23:04,839 --> 00:23:07,400
son together real bad at about three months ago because

496
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,720
he uh, you know, you know, a little box bag

497
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,599
or the boxes chips that come like eighteen slop bags,

498
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,319
they just be randomly coming up missing, and he swear

499
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,119
up and down and don't begin like, all right, so

500
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:20,799
a couple months ago, you know, I'm just in his

501
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:24,319
room kind of seeing how he's keeping it together. I

502
00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:28,079
open his top drawer. It's about forty five empty chip bag.

503
00:23:28,319 --> 00:23:29,079
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

504
00:23:30,279 --> 00:23:35,759
Speaker 2: So he already trembling as he see me. Look since

505
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,160
so I just I just start taking him out, dropping

506
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,440
him on the floor, and I'm just looking at him.

507
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:44,279
He like, oh shit. So I didn't even physically do

508
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,839
much to at this time because I'm like, Okay, this

509
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,119
is a bigger problem that I don't even think he understands.

510
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:54,559
Number one, you've been lying about eating them. Yeah. Number two,

511
00:23:55,319 --> 00:23:57,880
you think you're sneaky trying to hide your ship, and

512
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,319
you ain't even getting rid of evidence, like you don't

513
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,200
want to take the trash out, so you should be

514
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:05,559
smart enough to know, I mean gravity and stuff I'm

515
00:24:05,559 --> 00:24:08,000
in here. And number three, I was like, if you

516
00:24:08,039 --> 00:24:09,759
think you can get away with shit like this now

517
00:24:09,799 --> 00:24:12,200
at ten, in two or three years, you gonna think

518
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:15,480
you can have a gun in here, drugs kind of shit.

519
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:21,039
So I had a very serious what were you disappointed about?

520
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,839
Just the fact that if you want chips and you ask,

521
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,039
you disappointed at the wrong thing. No, but the wrong

522
00:24:28,079 --> 00:24:31,839
thing because it is a forty I'm about the most

523
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:33,039
at ten years old.

524
00:24:33,079 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 1: What was with the back of chips in there? What

525
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,359
was the most disappointed things? Soon as you open to

526
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:38,119
what you say.

527
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,599
Speaker 2: I'm disappointed in the fact that you've been doing this

528
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:45,359
ship for this long and I think I think, I think,

529
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,880
I think me I would have been like, you don't

530
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,240
know how to steal better than this at tea, No,

531
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,240
I would have That's what I'd have been working, Like, Nigga,

532
00:24:53,279 --> 00:24:57,960
you're a bad criminal, like you're i'ma have to come

533
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,559
and get you soon. Take the trash out. So if

534
00:25:00,599 --> 00:25:03,240
you know you got bags up here, I don't pay,

535
00:25:03,319 --> 00:25:05,640
I don't watch you take out the trash stuff in

536
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:10,599
your pocket, feel walking off steal. I'm like, you're not

537
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,759
even a good criminal teteal. But it was I had

538
00:25:13,799 --> 00:25:16,440
to make him understand, like don't you ever think you're

539
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:19,160
gonna get shipped by me? Like that's what We're gonna

540
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,000
have to figure this out right now because Nigga'm gonna

541
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:23,359
catch you sooner or later. And you're, like I said,

542
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,680
you're clearly not good at the sneaky ship. So if

543
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,720
you want to just eat the chips, you can ask

544
00:25:27,799 --> 00:25:29,680
ten times and you might get ten those or maybe

545
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:31,319
on the ninth one, I might be like, go ahead,

546
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,200
you better off doing that than trying this ship, because

547
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,599
now I'm checking your ship every day. I just let

548
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:38,960
my son eat all the chips and then he gonna

549
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:40,559
come back and be like, can we have some chips? No?

550
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:48,119
You only get eighteen bags a month. Thirteen.

551
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:53,839
Speaker 1: That's the way to you keep asking me for I

552
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:55,920
want to I went to cotch It and got some

553
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:58,960
jelly beans. This nigga, you don't keep smacking the bag.

554
00:25:59,039 --> 00:26:01,799
I'm looking at the back. Hey, this is it until

555
00:26:01,839 --> 00:26:05,640
the first Yeah, it's the seventeenth. You better chill out.

556
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,160
You're like, I can't get no more.

557
00:26:07,759 --> 00:26:08,559
Speaker 2: No, you can't.

558
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: But I think a lot of even even in that,

559
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:14,599
just teaching the responsibility of oh, you don't have endless supply.

560
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 2: Of this ship.

561
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, and just because it's there, it don't mean I

562
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:19,960
mean you eat it right then?

563
00:26:20,039 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 3: Yeah?

564
00:26:20,319 --> 00:26:25,839
Speaker 1: Not eat it all. Make your stomach hurt, because I

565
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:27,519
have to teach you the response. I have to teach

566
00:26:27,559 --> 00:26:29,160
you the consequences of some of the things that you

567
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:31,160
swear you want, because I don't want you thinking that

568
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,319
I'm a bad. I'm just mean because I can be mean,

569
00:26:34,559 --> 00:26:36,319
because I need to be mean sometimes. But I don't

570
00:26:36,319 --> 00:26:38,519
want you think I'm saying no because i'm being mean. No,

571
00:26:38,599 --> 00:26:43,400
I'm trying to spare your asshole. Yeah, I had to

572
00:26:43,559 --> 00:26:45,880
his older sister, my daughter, she had to get a

573
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:46,279
root corn.

574
00:26:46,279 --> 00:26:48,799
Speaker 2: Now because you don't brush your teeth consistently enough, and

575
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:51,240
ain't the price for it? I tell you'll make sure

576
00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:51,920
you brush your teeth.

577
00:26:52,039 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 4: That's clear.

578
00:26:52,519 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 2: Now you waking up crying in pain. You gotta go

579
00:26:54,519 --> 00:26:57,119
to the dentist and get a damn to surgery. This

580
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:58,480
is what happened when you don't listen.

581
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 1: So what's the big It's difficulties you'll run into being

582
00:27:01,519 --> 00:27:05,200
mothers and entrepreneurs are fun, auntie entrepreneur.

583
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 4: It's probably time management. I mean, probably haven't enough. Like

584
00:27:09,519 --> 00:27:11,599
you know, you get up, get the kids started at school.

585
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:14,039
You still got to have time for yourself to figure

586
00:27:14,079 --> 00:27:16,000
out what your day gonna be like. You gotta set

587
00:27:16,039 --> 00:27:18,160
the moods. You got to set your day. And then

588
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,279
leaving from your job, your work, whatever you got going on,

589
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:22,920
you could have had a hect the gas day. You

590
00:27:23,039 --> 00:27:25,359
come home, you still got the kids, you still got

591
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,400
the food, you still got, laundry, still got you still

592
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,680
got to hear the bickering back and forth, you know

593
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:32,960
what I mean. And I think not trying to say dads,

594
00:27:33,319 --> 00:27:36,839
but y'all literally y'all have it really good sometimes because

595
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,640
the kids don't want you, They want mama.

596
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,839
Speaker 2: You just that's that's that's bad on the dad part.

597
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:44,799
Speaker 4: No, I'm saying most of the time, if a kid

598
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,279
is sick and the mama is sick, they don't want

599
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,079
daddy to take care of them. They still want mama

600
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:52,960
because mama gonna be exactly that that maybe.

601
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 2: I'm a bitch.

602
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 3: Then you have daughters though, right.

603
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,519
Speaker 1: I got daughters in the sun. My daughters want daddy

604
00:27:59,559 --> 00:28:02,599
to daddy, they want me to hold me, come come

605
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:06,839
to Yeah. Boys, my son he only go to his

606
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,519
mama when he wants when he trying to get away.

607
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:09,359
Speaker 6: With some ship, exactly.

608
00:28:09,559 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 2: Definitely.

609
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 6: The others are much more forgiving. Yeah, and they know

610
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:13,319
we can get over.

611
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,599
Speaker 5: Unfortunately, because I've seen a lot of men that were

612
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,400
raised by mothers that cannot stand on their own because

613
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,559
they look for women to always be forgiving, he always

614
00:28:22,599 --> 00:28:23,319
be accommodated.

615
00:28:23,519 --> 00:28:25,079
Speaker 2: Let's speak on that. Let's speak on that let's speak,

616
00:28:25,519 --> 00:28:30,160
because that got us fucked up. Listen, I'm harsh. Always

617
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,839
women got us fucked up. Black black women got us.

618
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:37,400
Speaker 5: And I'm gonna tell you what though, as a black woman,

619
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,640
if I had sons and I was raising them today,

620
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,599
I'm in fear of the police. I'm in fear when

621
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:46,839
they go to school and they're labeled as bad children,

622
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,799
if they have anxiety or if they have depression, they

623
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:53,200
don't get grace right. So I want to save my

624
00:28:53,319 --> 00:28:55,720
black son. I want him to know that he can

625
00:28:55,759 --> 00:28:57,759
come to me with his problems, with his issues, with

626
00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:59,640
his stress, with his sorrows.

627
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:03,559
Speaker 1: We often, we often talk about people being emotionally intelligent. Today,

628
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:07,000
I saw a picture when I was like eight nine,

629
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:10,000
and I don't remember this picture. I don't remember taking

630
00:29:10,039 --> 00:29:12,880
this picture obviously, but it was me and my sister

631
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:16,079
and my cousin and my son does this thing that

632
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:19,240
when he's anxious, he starts to grab stuff or grab whatever.

633
00:29:19,359 --> 00:29:22,000
And I was doing it and I looked exactly like

634
00:29:22,119 --> 00:29:24,960
my son in the picture, and I'm like, damn, I

635
00:29:25,119 --> 00:29:27,559
was uncomfortable in this picture. And my mom was like, no,

636
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,720
you wasn't. And then I just left it at that

637
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,559
like you never even learned. No, you didn't even And

638
00:29:34,079 --> 00:29:36,599
that's cool because you might not have been emotionally intelligent enough.

639
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:38,240
She had me when she was young, so I'm not

640
00:29:38,559 --> 00:29:41,799
that's not on her. But even still, you still ain't learned.

641
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,359
So if you can't identify that in your son, then

642
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,720
you can't date. Because you can't identify that in a man.

643
00:29:48,799 --> 00:29:50,759
You don't know what he's said, when he depressed, when

644
00:29:50,799 --> 00:29:52,599
he's anxious, when he got a lot on his mind.

645
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,839
You can't identify that. And I think I think a

646
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:58,640
lot of people don't understand that there was a system

647
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,279
in place that that wanted to take the black man

648
00:30:01,359 --> 00:30:04,039
out of the house because they understood the value of

649
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,880
the value of the black man. So I'm gonna take

650
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,799
this nigga out of the house, and I'm gonna make

651
00:30:08,839 --> 00:30:11,400
it to where black women have incentives to keep him

652
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,160
out of the house. And then I'm gonna throw cracking there,

653
00:30:14,519 --> 00:30:16,480
and then i throw rap music in there, and then

654
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,759
I'm gonna throw gold teeth in there, and then I'm

655
00:30:18,759 --> 00:30:22,079
gonna throw all these things in this pot. And then

656
00:30:22,359 --> 00:30:25,079
these black boys are gonna grow up and women are

657
00:30:25,119 --> 00:30:27,680
going to pacify them. And then when they get of

658
00:30:27,759 --> 00:30:30,960
age and they want to date the women that are

659
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,759
being raised by women that are now hustlers, that are

660
00:30:33,799 --> 00:30:37,559
now motherfucking scammers, that are now motherfucking shooting, Like you

661
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,279
got all these Black women that got all this entrepreneurial

662
00:30:40,519 --> 00:30:44,160
spirit because they mama came in the house from work, cooked,

663
00:30:44,519 --> 00:30:45,039
wash clothes.

664
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 2: All this is just name. Black women are watching their

665
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,279
mama do that day in day out, day in day out.

666
00:30:50,319 --> 00:30:52,759
Speaker 1: One thing they didn't watch their mama do is love

667
00:30:52,799 --> 00:30:56,319
a nigga, Trust a nigga, hold a nigga, big up

668
00:30:56,319 --> 00:30:57,839
a nigga. So now they don't know how to do

669
00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,799
none of this shit. And now they're trying to date

670
00:30:59,839 --> 00:31:01,240
and they trying to find a nigga, and they don't

671
00:31:01,279 --> 00:31:03,720
realize that they got a big up a nigga. Care

672
00:31:03,799 --> 00:31:07,200
for a nigga. I can't be mancho every day, especially

673
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,200
when I never had the hope teaching me how to

674
00:31:09,279 --> 00:31:11,119
be mancho. So a lot of the shit that I'm

675
00:31:11,119 --> 00:31:13,119
going through in life, I don't have anybody that I

676
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:14,839
can ask for help. And then when I come to

677
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,039
my woman, I'm afraid because I don't want you thinking

678
00:31:17,119 --> 00:31:19,200
that I can't share this stip and I don't want

679
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:20,799
you thinking that I'm a bitch ass nigga Da da

680
00:31:20,839 --> 00:31:22,680
da da da dah. So a lot of the times

681
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,680
black men don't even say what's wrong, because what's wrong

682
00:31:25,839 --> 00:31:27,440
is I don't even know if I'm going in the

683
00:31:27,519 --> 00:31:29,319
right direction. And I don't want you to think that

684
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:33,000
I'm not man enough for you when I'm just lost

685
00:31:33,079 --> 00:31:36,119
because I don't get that grace as a man my son.

686
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,920
I tell my wife all the time, I wish that

687
00:31:39,079 --> 00:31:41,279
I had the same grace that you give my son.

688
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,640
I wish that when you frustrated with me, you talk

689
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:46,400
to me the same way you talk to our son,

690
00:31:46,799 --> 00:31:49,799
because you talk to me like and I'm not saying

691
00:31:49,839 --> 00:31:52,359
that my wife is a bee word. I'm saying that

692
00:31:52,559 --> 00:31:56,079
she don't consider me being still that young little boy

693
00:31:56,279 --> 00:31:59,319
Eric that don't know I might be seeing as the

694
00:31:59,359 --> 00:32:01,359
grown man. And I'm post to know this shit.

695
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 5: But I'm gonna tell you on the flip side of

696
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:07,960
that is my parents were married for twenty seven years

697
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:09,480
before they got divorced, so I grew up in a

698
00:32:09,519 --> 00:32:10,519
household with both parents.

699
00:32:11,279 --> 00:32:12,279
Speaker 3: Both my parents.

700
00:32:12,079 --> 00:32:15,279
Speaker 5: Worked, both my parents cooked, did they shared auto, you know,

701
00:32:15,359 --> 00:32:18,319
house should responsibilities and shit. So when I became an

702
00:32:18,359 --> 00:32:21,000
adult and old enough to date, I expected that to

703
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,079
always be how it was, and I was naive to

704
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,640
the fact that a lot of people are not raised

705
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:30,920
out of love. They raised at a survival, and they

706
00:32:31,039 --> 00:32:33,039
not raised out of love, They raised out a survival.

707
00:32:34,799 --> 00:32:35,599
Speaker 2: It's different.

708
00:32:35,839 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 5: That was a bar, no, straight up, because you know,

709
00:32:38,759 --> 00:32:40,720
when you try to communicate with people, and I pride

710
00:32:40,759 --> 00:32:44,279
myself on being a good communicator now when I was young,

711
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,079
not so much when I was twenty five and had

712
00:32:46,079 --> 00:32:49,960
an abusive boyfriend, not so much. Now at forty three

713
00:32:50,039 --> 00:32:53,839
years old, I'm asking, did I offend you? Did I

714
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,240
do something? Is there something that I can do to

715
00:32:56,359 --> 00:32:59,039
help you? And I'm very specific. But what I found

716
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,640
is a lot of black men cannot respond to that,

717
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:05,200
and instead they shut down and they think that I

718
00:33:05,319 --> 00:33:07,839
am pointing a finger and I'm just trying to understand

719
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,960
so I can recognize what I'm missing. If I'm looking

720
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:13,519
at the men and say, ooh, I want that one

721
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,200
and he's going through something and can't deal with life

722
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:20,240
and I miss that, explain to me what I missed

723
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,680
so I don't repeat that same mistake in the next meeting.

724
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's really important. I'm more like I

725
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,559
read the room. I grew up with a survival type

726
00:33:29,559 --> 00:33:31,640
of love growing up. You know, my family, it was

727
00:33:31,759 --> 00:33:34,200
not the richest and we listen the poorest, but what

728
00:33:34,359 --> 00:33:37,200
we did have Willi's love. So me growing up, I

729
00:33:37,319 --> 00:33:39,279
just thought I would have a daughter forever and I

730
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,720
had two sons. So my tenure, oh he was ten

731
00:33:42,799 --> 00:33:45,559
at the time. But like I was working at the

732
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,960
job for eight years, four years. I stayed there on

733
00:33:48,119 --> 00:33:50,000
second shift, and I kept on saying, hey, I gotta

734
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,920
get on first. I gotta get on first. So I

735
00:33:52,039 --> 00:33:54,119
made it go like by the fifth year, I better

736
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,559
get on the fucking first shift or I'm leaving this place.

737
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,960
So I tell them that I get on first shift.

738
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,720
Stayed there for four and a half years. I leave

739
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:04,240
at my eighth year. Almost I was making like thirty

740
00:34:04,279 --> 00:34:06,799
dollars an hour, but I was missing time out of

741
00:34:06,839 --> 00:34:10,079
my son's life. When like June third, I said that

742
00:34:10,199 --> 00:34:12,760
was my last day. July to fourth, my son got

743
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:19,119
shot on like just some dumb senseless violence shit on Jely,

744
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,559
like over there on Arlington on July fourth, they had

745
00:34:21,559 --> 00:34:22,920
a kid event. It was an eight year old, a

746
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:24,320
ten year old kid that got shot.

747
00:34:24,679 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 3: That was my son.

748
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:28,559
Speaker 4: I got shot, So I'm like, damn, I'm thinking shit,

749
00:34:28,679 --> 00:34:31,039
before that happened, he was getting bullied, but I was

750
00:34:31,159 --> 00:34:34,480
reading when y'all say emotions and all that, I'm reading him.

751
00:34:34,519 --> 00:34:36,760
I'm like, what's going on? How you feeling? So we

752
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:40,760
start doing affirmations every day. So before that time led

753
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:44,039
up to being shot, it was like, in my heart,

754
00:34:44,079 --> 00:34:46,639
I'm thinking I lost my son. But in my mind,

755
00:34:46,679 --> 00:34:48,840
I'm like, hell, I know he too strong for that,

756
00:34:49,079 --> 00:34:51,239
Like we didn't already been through this. That bully shit

757
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,199
wasn't nothing. So by the time I get there, I'm

758
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,519
like one hundred percent real ass mom. So I'm like,

759
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:57,239
did you think he was gonna die?

760
00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,519
Speaker 2: He was like no, I'm like.

761
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 4: Good because the bullet went through his legging out, so

762
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,159
I'm like he just only had like a blood transfusion.

763
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:09,000
But after that, it was like I had took a

764
00:35:09,079 --> 00:35:11,320
leap of faith though I didn't know that my son

765
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:13,719
was gonna get shot. I don't fear gun violence because

766
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:16,239
it's all around us. I don't fear anything for our

767
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,119
black men because it's people like us that want better

768
00:35:19,199 --> 00:35:20,920
for these black men. But in the same time, do

769
00:35:21,039 --> 00:35:24,880
black men want better for theyself' that's the bottom part though,

770
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,679
you know, like we can unlearn to relearn, we gotta

771
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,559
break the cycle so we can start a new one,

772
00:35:29,599 --> 00:35:30,119
you know what I mean.

773
00:35:30,199 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 3: So it's like what we all been through.

774
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,559
Speaker 4: I could have been on food sins, I could have

775
00:35:34,599 --> 00:35:36,280
did all the same shit that I seen my mama do,

776
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:39,280
but instead I set a go for myself, like, hey, look,

777
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,599
I'm gonna be so different. I'm gonna do something better.

778
00:35:41,639 --> 00:35:43,880
My daddy was a crackhead. When I met him, he

779
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,440
was in jail. I told him, if you want to

780
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:47,400
be in my life. It was like I was thirteen.

781
00:35:47,599 --> 00:35:48,800
I'm like, if you want to be in my life,

782
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,280
you need to change your life. So he got off drugs.

783
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,159
He moved through us. Only that was my first time

784
00:35:53,199 --> 00:35:55,679
I ever traveled in my life. My mama never traveled.

785
00:35:56,119 --> 00:35:58,920
My stepdad never traveled. So it was like he hell,

786
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:00,760
he never travel unless he was going to jail. But

787
00:36:01,199 --> 00:36:04,519
other than that, for real, Other than that, I'm like,

788
00:36:04,639 --> 00:36:06,719
go to Arizona so I can have somewhere to travel.

789
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,519
But it was really me seeing life for the better

790
00:36:09,599 --> 00:36:11,960
picture than what I seen was around me, the violence

791
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:12,679
I grew up with it.

792
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 3: I lived in Brightwood. You feel me. Everybody get killed

793
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:16,400
every day, That's what it was.

794
00:36:16,559 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 4: Then I lost my brother on like twenty sixteen in December,

795
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,360
and I had lost my my sister in twenty fifteen

796
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:27,239
and my dad in twenty fifteen. So going through all

797
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:30,199
that and still pushing forward, it was like I felt

798
00:36:30,199 --> 00:36:32,760
like it was a test though, Like shit is here

799
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:34,920
to defeat you, but you have to have a strong

800
00:36:35,039 --> 00:36:38,119
gas mind to be undefeated. Like nothing can touch you,

801
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:39,159
nothing can stop you.

802
00:36:39,519 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 1: Let me add to that though, Yeah, when you get online, Yeah,

803
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:47,679
there is a lot of black woman environment shit all

804
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:53,920
day every day to help black women overcome whatever mental obstacles.

805
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,639
They're going through fitness obstacles, and they got cheap wigs.

806
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:01,719
Now you look people they got. It's so much. It's

807
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:05,599
so much ship that make black women feel and look good.

808
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,320
We don't have no black boy rock.

809
00:37:08,519 --> 00:37:09,760
Speaker 6: Whose responsibility is it?

810
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:12,280
Speaker 2: Who's I don't know whose responsibility is?

811
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:15,280
Speaker 5: Looking forward? It's out there, it's out there. But as

812
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:19,000
a black man or a black boy, if you desire change,

813
00:37:19,079 --> 00:37:19,679
you have to be this.

814
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 1: Y'all still sleep, No hold on, you're still sleep. They're

815
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:27,679
still an agenda at play there are still there are

816
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:32,599
there are there are there are jobs that only how

817
00:37:32,639 --> 00:37:36,159
to hire black women, regardless of if if the black

818
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,920
man is suitable for the job or not. And it's

819
00:37:39,159 --> 00:37:41,639
I feel like I feel like we think it's better,

820
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:45,079
but behind behind the glass, I feel like there are

821
00:37:45,159 --> 00:37:49,519
still strings being pulled because there is a divide. There

822
00:37:49,599 --> 00:37:51,840
is a there's a huge divibe amongst black men and

823
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:53,679
black women. And I'm not saying that it's I'm not

824
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:55,840
saying that it's not my responsibility for Black Boy Rock,

825
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,400
But I'm just saying there is a woman. There is

826
00:37:58,440 --> 00:37:59,880
a feminist movement going on.

827
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,079
Speaker 2: So you think the rise of the black woman is

828
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,360
causing the fall of the black man in a.

829
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:10,679
Speaker 1: Way, I wouldn't say that it's the I wouldn't say

830
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,079
or it's just well, I think this, I think this.

831
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,280
I don't think that black women. I don't think that

832
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:18,199
black women or women in general. Let's take it off

833
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,880
of black women. You put a black woman on top

834
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:23,760
of the mountain and you give her all of these

835
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:27,039
things that women never had. Like I said last time,

836
00:38:27,119 --> 00:38:30,840
we have to reevaluate the purpose of the man. If

837
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,360
you give the woman everything the man was supposed to

838
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,360
bring to the table. So now, if you're making one

839
00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:37,000
hundred and free thousand dollars a year, why you need

840
00:38:37,079 --> 00:38:38,760
him to make that? If you're doing all of this,

841
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:40,360
why you need him to do that? And I think

842
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:43,559
that women have this power now and now they're looking

843
00:38:43,599 --> 00:38:45,400
at us to say, we need you to have the

844
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:48,400
same amount of power or more or more, even though

845
00:38:48,519 --> 00:38:50,840
the society is not going to you know what I'm saying,

846
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:54,679
Like it's just some women, it's a lot of women.

847
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,800
Speaker 4: I mean probably a lot of women. You surround yourself

848
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:58,679
because our conscious mind is what we attract.

849
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:01,320
Speaker 2: So I'm mary, I'm not I'm talking about just in Internet,

850
00:39:01,559 --> 00:39:02,159
like I feel you.

851
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:04,760
Speaker 4: But that's Internet. It's center turning purposes only. So that's

852
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,960
what we're gonna see on that right. But like on

853
00:39:07,119 --> 00:39:09,480
my end, I mean out of I was with my

854
00:39:09,599 --> 00:39:12,119
first son father for like twelve years. Whatever he lacked,

855
00:39:12,119 --> 00:39:13,880
I make sure I stayed there to teach him. So

856
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:16,079
then the next woman he gets, he's able to be

857
00:39:16,159 --> 00:39:18,320
able to understand that, Hey, look it didn't work with us,

858
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,199
so this is how we're gonna fix it. Well, my

859
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,119
husband right now, he's African, so it's like we got

860
00:39:23,199 --> 00:39:26,000
a culture barrier. So it takes a lot of patience

861
00:39:26,039 --> 00:39:28,840
and understanding to be able to understand. You speak French,

862
00:39:29,039 --> 00:39:32,199
I don't, but I understand that whatever is comfortable for you,

863
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,639
I have to make sure it's comfortable for me too.

864
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:37,880
But it's like the first three years was rocky because hell,

865
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:38,760
how you was raised.

866
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:40,679
Speaker 3: I was not raised. And we can't listen to you.

867
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,280
Speaker 4: Feel me some good music and vibe together. I got

868
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,239
to listen to that African shit and I'm vibing with

869
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,079
it too, though it's given me more.

870
00:39:48,079 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 1: Public Okay, but you know, you know what you said

871
00:39:50,039 --> 00:39:54,679
that is the most underrated. You said two things, patience

872
00:39:55,000 --> 00:40:00,800
and understanding. Yeah, the fact that like me, me and

873
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:04,119
Perry had this conversation when uh a little billion and

874
00:40:04,119 --> 00:40:06,360
then was when they left he was we was talking

875
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:10,280
about how we from the were from the trenches and

876
00:40:10,440 --> 00:40:12,800
we not like the niggas that surround us in the trenches.

877
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,519
We don't do none of the things that they did

878
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:19,239
in those environments. We had to learn how to communicate

879
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:21,719
to these niggas that I come in peace.

880
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 2: I don't want.

881
00:40:24,039 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 1: And it's patience and understand it. And I feel like

882
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:32,840
women nowadays have a lot more patience than say, when

883
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:34,639
they were back it was against the wall back and

884
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:37,320
you know, back when when it was just survival mode.

885
00:40:37,679 --> 00:40:41,840
I think now that I think that we were still surviving,

886
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,400
but we surviving together. It's no, it's no longer my

887
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,119
back is the wall. Move move out the way. It's

888
00:40:47,159 --> 00:40:49,480
it's a come over here and let's and let's put

889
00:40:49,519 --> 00:40:52,239
our backs together opposed to But I feel like a

890
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,519
lot of people do not understand, like we said last time,

891
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:55,199
that it's.

892
00:40:55,119 --> 00:40:55,639
Speaker 2: A team thing.

893
00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 6: You don't want men to understand that it's not in

894
00:40:58,199 --> 00:40:58,719
every woman.

895
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 3: It's not a writer.

896
00:41:01,199 --> 00:41:03,199
Speaker 2: And that goes to what I said last week about

897
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,519
the value your system. If you value this man or

898
00:41:06,559 --> 00:41:08,360
the man values this woman, then you're going to have

899
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:11,800
that patience. You don't know it don't take some time.

900
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,519
Speaker 5: But also as a woman, I've been there, and I've

901
00:41:14,559 --> 00:41:17,599
been the writer for somebody who was not deserving. And

902
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:20,400
it's a discernment that we all have to learn. Definitely

903
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:23,400
how long it's too long, It depends on the person

904
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,559
in the situation. Because I'm gonna tell you what I

905
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:30,719
was with a man for from sixteen to twenty four

906
00:41:31,159 --> 00:41:33,480
and then got back together from twenty eight to thirty

907
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:34,840
twenty eight to thirty.

908
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:38,599
Speaker 6: I realized this is not the person for me because.

909
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:42,119
Speaker 5: Who I was before, the gullible, the naive, the I'm

910
00:41:42,159 --> 00:41:44,239
gonna give you my whole check. I'm gonna pay all

911
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:47,360
the bills. This nigga barely kept a job, but in

912
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,199
my mind, I'm like, I see it, Ea, I like him. No,

913
00:41:52,519 --> 00:41:55,639
he was in the National Guard. He was in the

914
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:59,000
National Guard. He was working like he hit a spot

915
00:41:59,079 --> 00:42:00,760
where the spot it was.

916
00:42:02,079 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry, I don't want to cut you off,

917
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,280
but I want to see what it's like to be

918
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:14,360
a bum ass nigga, to be taken care of for

919
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:15,320
at least six months.

920
00:42:15,519 --> 00:42:17,559
Speaker 5: He wasn't a bomb ass nigga when I met him, though, Okay,

921
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:24,760
I'm sorry. Niggas who have the pipe, Yeah, that's what

922
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:26,440
That's why they provide the service.

923
00:42:26,559 --> 00:42:26,840
Speaker 3: That's it.

924
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:29,519
Speaker 4: That's what I'm telling my sister. She stayed with a

925
00:42:29,559 --> 00:42:32,079
bomb ass. He was Puerto Rican. He looked at he

926
00:42:32,199 --> 00:42:35,519
showed it. She's got her ass beat because it was

927
00:42:35,599 --> 00:42:36,400
the pipe.

928
00:42:36,559 --> 00:42:36,760
Speaker 2: It was.

929
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:40,119
Speaker 3: I would never be dicnatized for no nigga. That's just

930
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:41,119
me now.

931
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 5: But he's been the same mind. I'm sorry that men

932
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:48,079
have an eater, right, would you marry her?

933
00:42:48,679 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 2: No?

934
00:42:49,119 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 6: But she's gonna suck the skin off that dick, and

935
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:52,800
you're gonna be like, I'm gonna give a little.

936
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 2: Ship.

937
00:42:54,599 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 3: No, not all men.

938
00:42:59,119 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 1: I see what you're getting, that she can suck the

939
00:43:02,599 --> 00:43:06,039
meat off this motherfucker. But if it's a ring around

940
00:43:06,079 --> 00:43:10,840
that tub, you guys, I don't know. I don't take

941
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:12,840
you serious, but exactly, but.

942
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,119
Speaker 2: Women, but women and nigga won't have a place to

943
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,199
a nigga won't have a place to stay, and what

944
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:22,280
they can save and with that motherfucking dick out and

945
00:43:22,559 --> 00:43:27,199
and the girls. I think I want to expose myself.

946
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 3: I think, I think people, I think I think women.

947
00:43:30,199 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 4: They we fall for the potential exact But once you

948
00:43:33,079 --> 00:43:36,159
get rid of that potential, once you get rid of potential,

949
00:43:36,199 --> 00:43:36,920
and you see.

950
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 3: What the purpose and what your your your mission is

951
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:40,639
with this person.

952
00:43:40,679 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 4: If it don't align to me, like we on two

953
00:43:43,039 --> 00:43:45,280
different waves here, you know what I'm saying, Like you

954
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:47,800
then probably gave me some. It's good, but after two

955
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:49,440
weeks and you ain't dish it with your life, you

956
00:43:49,519 --> 00:43:49,880
gotta go.

957
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 2: Weeks.

958
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:56,599
Speaker 3: No, I'm just saying now, Listen, listener, understanding. I'm to

959
00:43:56,639 --> 00:43:58,159
give you a week to go find a job. That

960
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,400
next week you better have an interview. That's what I'm saying.

961
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:01,679
Speaker 2: That's not happening.

962
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 3: Work today, paid today. Hello, shit, y'all.

963
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:07,559
Speaker 2: Y'all was just talking about patients and understanding.

964
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,639
Speaker 4: We were talking about we were talking about grown men

965
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:13,159
because I was always told this. My daddy said, it's

966
00:44:13,199 --> 00:44:15,280
a nigga fervery bitch and a woman for every man.

967
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,599
Your real father, my crack. He was clean though after

968
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:21,880
after he told he was.

969
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 2: He when did you tell you? When did he tell

970
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:27,239
you that straight way? That's a bar? I got to

971
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:29,960
get what was the what's he said?

972
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 4: At the time my father passed cancer though, But at

973
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,079
the time he had told me when I was dating anybody,

974
00:44:37,159 --> 00:44:39,400
he was like, just remember, it's a nigga fervery bitch

975
00:44:39,559 --> 00:44:41,119
and a woman for every man. It's a lot of

976
00:44:41,199 --> 00:44:44,239
niggas out here looking for bitches or women. And then

977
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:46,239
it's a lot of women out here looking for niggas,

978
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,360
but they really need a man. So it's like, you

979
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:51,760
got the qualities and the things, that's different. But really

980
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,920
it's really the self value though, you know what I'm saying,

981
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:55,440
a lot of people that don't value ship but the

982
00:44:55,559 --> 00:44:58,360
material stuff. They don't value nothing but the likes, the looks,

983
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,320
all that. That's all they gonna get out if it

984
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:01,360
is just so hard.

985
00:45:02,039 --> 00:45:10,280
Speaker 1: So you said something earlier in regards to understanding what

986
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:13,719
you needed out of out of this person. You said

987
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:15,840
something along those lines, and we said it before.

988
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:22,880
Speaker 2: I don't. I just don't think that people know what

989
00:45:23,079 --> 00:45:24,840
they know. That's not what I'm talking about.

990
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:28,800
Speaker 1: You said that, you said black men need to something

991
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,360
along the lines of want better for themselves.

992
00:45:33,199 --> 00:45:34,039
Speaker 2: I don't think that.

993
00:45:35,159 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 6: You can want it.

994
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 3: How do you get it?

995
00:45:37,519 --> 00:45:37,559
Speaker 2: That?

996
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: And I don't even think that black men understand the

997
00:45:40,119 --> 00:45:42,280
power that's within like that, and they and they, and

998
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:45,400
if you look around and you see on the news

999
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,960
then getting killed every other week on the news, or

1000
00:45:49,039 --> 00:45:51,920
every week that look like you same age as you,

1001
00:45:52,639 --> 00:45:57,440
or they on drugs, or women that you are around

1002
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:01,360
speaking badly of them sometimes that it can't affect the

1003
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:06,000
way that you view your importance. I agree with that

1004
00:46:06,199 --> 00:46:09,480
period so to to so to to try to think

1005
00:46:09,519 --> 00:46:13,199
about the sky as the limit, it's like shit, bro,

1006
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:17,119
I'm I never even heard black women. I never heard

1007
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:19,599
black women speak life into me like that. And I

1008
00:46:19,639 --> 00:46:22,039
think that now in y'all talking about affirmations, I'm realizing

1009
00:46:22,119 --> 00:46:24,280
that I never really nigga. I ain't even I ain't

1010
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,000
hear that I was handsome until I was thirty.

1011
00:46:26,519 --> 00:46:28,719
Speaker 5: And you know, I have to tell my nephew every day,

1012
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:34,280
you're smart, you're handsome, You're kind, kind to yourself, kind

1013
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,639
to others, consider it considered of yourself.

1014
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:39,800
Speaker 1: A lot of the times, the only thing that black

1015
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:43,000
men here constantly is you stupid. Like whatever it is

1016
00:46:43,119 --> 00:46:45,920
being said when you get a whooping, that's those that

1017
00:46:46,079 --> 00:46:49,000
shit is what you hear more often than not.

1018
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:52,639
Speaker 5: He called somebody stupid or something stupid, and supposedly says

1019
00:46:52,639 --> 00:46:53,199
stupid ass.

1020
00:46:53,199 --> 00:46:54,119
Speaker 6: I'm not really sure yet.

1021
00:46:54,639 --> 00:46:56,599
Speaker 5: At school yesterday and I'm like, where are you hearing

1022
00:46:56,639 --> 00:46:59,639
stupid at because I talk like that right, And I

1023
00:46:59,840 --> 00:47:03,000
was more upset than he's calling something or someone stupid

1024
00:47:04,079 --> 00:47:07,079
than him singing ass. I cussed a lot, but I

1025
00:47:07,079 --> 00:47:08,760
don't cuss at home. I don't cussing for my parents,

1026
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:09,599
and I don't cussing.

1027
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 3: From the show.

1028
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:11,760
Speaker 2: I cuss him from everything, but I don't.

1029
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:16,199
Speaker 5: Now my favorite word is fucked. But you know, in

1030
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:19,840
every every variation there are. But I am mindful of

1031
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:22,719
that and respectful of people, you know what I mean.

1032
00:47:23,199 --> 00:47:26,800
So for him to say something or somebody is stupid.

1033
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:27,639
Speaker 2: I was up.

1034
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:29,199
Speaker 5: I'm like, I need to know where you heard this.

1035
00:47:29,679 --> 00:47:32,199
Somebody's saying this to you, you know, where are you

1036
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:34,119
getting this? Because we can't have that.

1037
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 2: I really like the fact that my son copied me,

1038
00:47:37,079 --> 00:47:39,239
copies me on how I speak to my wife and

1039
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:44,800
my daughter's hey babies, Hey ladies, yea look good today, like,

1040
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:48,119
and I'm like, damn. The reason why niggas is only

1041
00:47:48,199 --> 00:47:50,760
calling women bitches is because the only time they ever

1042
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:55,079
heard men or rap songs. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

1043
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,199
Speaker 1: Whoever, whoever that that black lady was that didn't want

1044
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:01,639
rap to be a thing, she was right a little

1045
00:48:01,639 --> 00:48:04,320
bit in regards to how she wanted to censor because

1046
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:07,960
it plays a it plays a different role in the

1047
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:11,920
psyche of black boys and girls, you know, like, yeah,

1048
00:48:13,119 --> 00:48:15,920
less sexy red just be all over the internet. I

1049
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:17,840
can't stand that, but that's what I'm saying, Like, we

1050
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:19,360
just we're just gonna My son.

1051
00:48:19,199 --> 00:48:21,840
Speaker 3: Can't even stand that. He twelve, so yeah, he don't

1052
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,119
like I don't know, like I.

1053
00:48:24,159 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 4: Always hear who you surround yourself around, that's who you

1054
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,199
would be in five years, you know what I'm saying.

1055
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:32,159
So like surrounding as black men, black women, It don't

1056
00:48:32,199 --> 00:48:35,039
matter what you are with race. If you surrounding yourself

1057
00:48:35,079 --> 00:48:38,039
around the gun, violence, drugs, all that bullshit, that's what

1058
00:48:38,079 --> 00:48:40,000
you're gonna keep on seeing around you, you know what

1059
00:48:40,039 --> 00:48:42,320
I'm saying. But if you surrounding yourself around with yourself,

1060
00:48:42,639 --> 00:48:45,599
but you pouring into yourself positive things, You're poring into

1061
00:48:45,639 --> 00:48:47,559
yourself a lot of things that you want to see

1062
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:49,639
come to futation from yourself.

1063
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:51,039
Speaker 3: It's like that's what you surround yourself.

1064
00:48:51,119 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 4: That's why when we were speaking about, you know, the

1065
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:55,039
music from back then, like I knew back then when

1066
00:48:55,039 --> 00:48:57,360
I was listening to that rap shit, I was really

1067
00:48:57,440 --> 00:48:59,639
you know what I'm saying, probably a little raunchy ghetto

1068
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:01,639
had gold teeth talking.

1069
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,159
Speaker 1: Like really you gotta belt with your name on it? Yeah,

1070
00:49:10,599 --> 00:49:18,000
it's okay, on fucking wrap my wife Jordan's every pair.

1071
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 3: Nah, I didn't have the amazing thing.

1072
00:49:20,519 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 2: What shoo did you wear Melissa's.

1073
00:49:22,599 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 3: No, honestly, I didn't have. I didn't.

1074
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:30,159
Speaker 4: I was literally probably all jelly be I was probably

1075
00:49:30,199 --> 00:49:33,039
a bum. They didn't know though. A lot of people

1076
00:49:33,119 --> 00:49:37,280
they didn't know that because I'm I had a great attitude.

1077
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:40,280
I had roaches at home, I had I didn't have.

1078
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,159
I mean, it was bad, but it was good because

1079
00:49:43,159 --> 00:49:45,119
I knew my family loved me. I knew my mom

1080
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:45,719
was doing the best.

1081
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:50,199
Speaker 1: The roaches don't. The roaches don't seem as bad when

1082
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,400
your environment in the house is like they just live

1083
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:52,719
here too.

1084
00:49:53,360 --> 00:50:02,760
Speaker 3: They bring nobody over. Hello. I'm just I'm going crazy

1085
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:03,960
for me.

1086
00:50:04,119 --> 00:50:06,679
Speaker 6: My childhood was opposite because we didn't have money, but

1087
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:07,119
we didn't.

1088
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:10,559
Speaker 5: People assumed that we did because if they heard me

1089
00:50:10,679 --> 00:50:14,320
speak and like, I sound proper now, but then I

1090
00:50:14,519 --> 00:50:17,840
was super proper, and people just assumed, like, oh, your

1091
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:18,679
parents got money.

1092
00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:20,639
Speaker 6: Your parents are there, y'all like the Cosby Show.

1093
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 3: That's what they thought. Like crazy, my brother shared a bedroom.

1094
00:50:27,519 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 2: That's crazy that people assume that people with both parents

1095
00:50:32,559 --> 00:50:33,000
were rich.

1096
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, my dad was a hustler. My dad was out

1097
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:38,880
here getting it. And we used to move a lot

1098
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:40,840
because your dad in the service, I said, no, he

1099
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:45,719
was a common So like we moved state to state

1100
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:49,000
to state. We moved every year in elementary school, we

1101
00:50:49,119 --> 00:50:51,920
moved like every other year, like middle school, high school,

1102
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:54,599
and when we moved back to Indiana, they tried to

1103
00:50:54,679 --> 00:50:56,960
keep us in the same district because we had no friends.

1104
00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:00,599
And so again when we talk about people knowing, it's

1105
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:03,039
so weird to me because I've always been the quiet one.

1106
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:05,840
I've always just kind of minded my business, and now

1107
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:07,719
I feel like I still mind my own business.

1108
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:09,119
Speaker 6: I don't know why the fuck these people watch me.

1109
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:11,199
I really ain't that funny.

1110
00:51:12,039 --> 00:51:14,760
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm a little funny, but I mean, and again,

1111
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:19,199
you know, when you look at physical appearance, you know,

1112
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,280
physical ass is ass. I get it, you know, But

1113
00:51:23,199 --> 00:51:25,239
I try to drop a little knowledge every now and again.

1114
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:28,000
You know, I don't want to just always, which is

1115
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:31,159
again people thinking you're linear. Oh you got titties today, ass,

1116
00:51:31,159 --> 00:51:33,719
that's all you want here for. I like to draw

1117
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:35,320
people in and now come on in and sit on

1118
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:36,519
my black let's have a conversation.

1119
00:51:41,639 --> 00:51:42,599
Speaker 6: I want you to be better.

1120
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:44,800
Speaker 5: I want you to learn something. So anytime you meet me,

1121
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:47,360
I want you to leave better. I don't want to

1122
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:48,239
damage anybody.

1123
00:51:49,360 --> 00:51:51,119
Speaker 7: I want to go back to the affirmations that you

1124
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:54,079
was talking about. So you said you never had anybody

1125
00:51:54,119 --> 00:51:58,440
speak affirmations into you no nigga, not even as a kid. No,

1126
00:51:59,079 --> 00:52:00,440
you feel like that would have made you a better

1127
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:01,159
man if you did.

1128
00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 2: No nigga.

1129
00:52:04,039 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 1: Because my environment didn't look like what they whatever they

1130
00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:11,880
was telling me, whatever I I was, it wasn't that

1131
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:13,360
people were speaking bad things.

1132
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:15,639
Speaker 2: And to me, I just think that we were kids.

1133
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,519
Speaker 1: We were a byproduct that we were there while they

1134
00:52:18,559 --> 00:52:22,239
were still trying to figure it out. So kind of

1135
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:23,800
like when you said that you went on a trip

1136
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:25,719
and you was like, oh shit, my nephew. I feel

1137
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,280
like a lot of parents be like, oh shit, I

1138
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:30,800
was supposed to speak life until my kid this whole time,

1139
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,840
or I was supposed to teach my kid these habits

1140
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:36,280
this whole time, or I was supposed to And I

1141
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,360
think that now my auntie realizes that because she has

1142
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:42,840
a grandson and she's like, oh so every time I

1143
00:52:42,840 --> 00:52:44,320
see her, she'd be like, oh, my handsome son, and

1144
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:46,280
she'd be like, oh, my handsome grandson should call my

1145
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,519
son and her grandson. But I don't think that when

1146
00:52:48,559 --> 00:52:50,679
we were growing up, it was got a haircut and

1147
00:52:50,880 --> 00:52:54,400
oh you handsome, or you don't know what you don't know.

1148
00:52:54,519 --> 00:52:57,280
But I'm thinking like shit, Well, y'all telling niggas that

1149
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:59,079
they was handsome. You know what I'm saying Because I

1150
00:52:59,159 --> 00:53:02,840
was telling my wife, like I cut my hair, and

1151
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:04,800
then she'd be like, two days later, did you cut

1152
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:06,719
your hair? And I'd be like, if you walked in

1153
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:09,880
this motherfucking house with your with your ends clipped and

1154
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:11,920
I never said anything, you would have thought I was

1155
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:16,159
fucking another bitch. If if if if I didn't notice

1156
00:53:16,199 --> 00:53:17,760
that you had on new shoes or something like that,

1157
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:19,880
you would have thought. But I feel like a lot

1158
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:23,400
of the times women just think that men do not

1159
00:53:23,599 --> 00:53:23,880
need that.

1160
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:27,480
Speaker 5: You know what's funny is in the other day. I

1161
00:53:27,599 --> 00:53:29,760
posted something the other day about you know, it was

1162
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:32,320
a repost. You know, black men deserve love. Black men

1163
00:53:32,440 --> 00:53:36,360
deserve you know, emotional support, and you know, to be

1164
00:53:36,519 --> 00:53:38,199
told that they're great and that they're needed.

1165
00:53:38,519 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 6: And I had so many black men in back me

1166
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:41,320
time about this is a lie.

1167
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:43,239
Speaker 5: Well, I don't know what kind of black women you

1168
00:53:43,360 --> 00:53:45,760
deal with, but I am the black woman that I

1169
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:49,400
try to do those things. They said that black men

1170
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,960
aren't supported, that black men aren't needed, that black men

1171
00:53:52,039 --> 00:53:53,800
aren't love, that black men that.

1172
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 2: They aren't that they are not they are not and

1173
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:57,599
as a collective.

1174
00:53:57,760 --> 00:54:00,360
Speaker 6: As a collective, yes, but what I I said, I

1175
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:01,320
have to be the change.

1176
00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:03,079
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the same. Right.

1177
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 5: If I'm putting it out, I'm not playing it like

1178
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,199
I mean that ship, you know what I mean. And

1179
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:09,880
when people say you're a strong black woman, know the

1180
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:11,800
fuck I have not, nigga. I don't want to take

1181
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:15,000
no trash. I do it because I have to. You know,

1182
00:54:15,119 --> 00:54:16,760
I don't want to go home to an empty home

1183
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:18,280
every day, but I do it because I have to.

1184
00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:21,559
When I bought my house, and it was like, oh, okay,

1185
00:54:21,639 --> 00:54:23,599
well you bought a house and it's a good investment, but.

1186
00:54:25,199 --> 00:54:26,079
Speaker 2: Cut the grass.

1187
00:54:29,159 --> 00:54:31,760
Speaker 5: When we take the service part out right, take the

1188
00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:34,519
service part out of a partner, the things that you

1189
00:54:34,639 --> 00:54:35,320
physically can do.

1190
00:54:35,559 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 6: There's no love in my home.

1191
00:54:37,599 --> 00:54:38,159
Speaker 2: It's just me.

1192
00:54:38,559 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 6: I desire a man.

1193
00:54:40,199 --> 00:54:40,320
Speaker 4: Now.

1194
00:54:40,519 --> 00:54:42,280
Speaker 5: I get approached by more white men than I do

1195
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:46,480
black men, you know, the black because I feel like

1196
00:54:46,480 --> 00:54:48,639
a lot of times black men that approach me are

1197
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:51,199
doing so in a sexual manner, and it's an immediate

1198
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:52,960
turn off. I know I got tits and ask and

1199
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:56,360
I know you want to have sex with me. That's natural, okay, right,

1200
00:54:56,719 --> 00:55:00,400
I don't know what they want the same thing, but

1201
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:04,079
they willing to invest in, so they're really they will.

1202
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:05,320
Speaker 2: What do you mean by that?

1203
00:55:06,599 --> 00:55:10,280
Speaker 4: But yeah, I mean I feel like everybody you encounter

1204
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,119
with this, you will either an investment or they investment.

1205
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:15,800
If you can gain conversation, if you're gonna gain a

1206
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:19,480
negative energy anything, like I think everything that surrounded us

1207
00:55:19,559 --> 00:55:22,199
is an investment. Like I feel like my husband invested

1208
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:24,360
in me, and I invested in him. He works on cars,

1209
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:26,360
he does a lot, he's an engineer. I learned how

1210
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:27,960
to work on cars, so he think he could speed

1211
00:55:28,039 --> 00:55:31,039
up his process. So I invested in learning that, and

1212
00:55:31,119 --> 00:55:33,400
then he invested in my nail business so I can

1213
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:36,440
make money also, so we both business entrepreneurs. But he

1214
00:55:36,559 --> 00:55:38,639
still work a job. I still work a job. So

1215
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,039
it's like it's an investment. And then you've got people

1216
00:55:41,079 --> 00:55:43,559
who just be together just to be together, and a

1217
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:47,280
shit else going on with no problem, none or everybody's

1218
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:51,199
afraid to grow, like unlearn to relearn, that's my whole thing.

1219
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:53,800
Like he forty eight, I'm thirty three, So it's like

1220
00:55:54,639 --> 00:55:56,840
that age gap. It's like he got to unlearn a

1221
00:55:56,880 --> 00:55:58,800
lot of shit just so he can relearn it, and

1222
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:02,000
I have to relearn some stuff and unlearn some stuff too,

1223
00:56:02,199 --> 00:56:05,360
So it's like really a hand in hand thing if

1224
00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:08,559
you're willing. But like I didn't try to talk to

1225
00:56:08,679 --> 00:56:11,199
a white person and they just you just can run

1226
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:12,119
over a white man.

1227
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:14,159
Speaker 6: I just don't want them walking me in the closet

1228
00:56:14,199 --> 00:56:15,360
to me they're sexual company.

1229
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:17,440
Speaker 2: Behind this black man.

1230
00:56:17,480 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 4: You can run over too, I mean yeah, but in

1231
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:21,559
the same sense the white man, he gonna give you

1232
00:56:21,639 --> 00:56:24,760
patience and grace. That black man, once you figure out

1233
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:26,199
you're trying to run over here, gonna go upside your

1234
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:26,840
mop on your head.

1235
00:56:27,679 --> 00:56:33,880
Speaker 2: If the white man might kill you, okay, definitely dam

1236
00:56:35,119 --> 00:56:41,039
eat your coochie and then eat your lig we're talking about.

1237
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 5: It gets weird because even when I was growing up,

1238
00:56:45,039 --> 00:56:47,280
my friends, my very best friends, be like, you'ren marry

1239
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:47,639
white man.

1240
00:56:47,679 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 1: I'm like no, but I mean I don't like that,

1241
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:52,079
because why the fuck you saying some stupid ass ship

1242
00:56:52,159 --> 00:56:54,360
like that. I will go out and they be like, oh,

1243
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:56,239
you ain't you you don't date black girls?

1244
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 2: Huh.

1245
00:56:56,599 --> 00:57:00,280
Speaker 1: I'm like, why because I have an opinion? Or why

1246
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:02,639
because I have a dry sense of humor, Like you

1247
00:57:02,679 --> 00:57:05,360
don't think black women watch Seinfeld at all. You don't

1248
00:57:05,400 --> 00:57:10,199
think that they understand common sense, Like I just didn't.

1249
00:57:10,320 --> 00:57:12,800
I didn't like black women saying, Oh, you're gonna date

1250
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:14,119
or marry a white woman?

1251
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 2: What's wrong with that? Though? I mean, you can't help

1252
00:57:17,239 --> 00:57:19,039
you follow you, it is something wrong with it.

1253
00:57:19,199 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 1: You're trying to you're trying to throw shots because you

1254
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:25,320
think that you think that my personality personality is just

1255
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:27,039
not suitable for a black black one.

1256
00:57:27,119 --> 00:57:27,920
Speaker 6: That's what I get a lot.

1257
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 4: I probably that's probably why I'm with African because a

1258
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:33,800
lot of black men used to say, oh girl, you

1259
00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:36,679
don't do ship. You know, you don't be outside.

1260
00:57:38,119 --> 00:57:41,679
Speaker 3: Right, but like around house, like an it's a good thing.

1261
00:57:41,960 --> 00:57:44,760
Speaker 5: And so you can't meet anybody if I'm still single,

1262
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:47,559
exact where do I go to even meet anybody of substance?

1263
00:57:47,679 --> 00:57:52,519
Speaker 2: Your d ms? No? There? You better? You better host

1264
00:57:52,519 --> 00:57:55,079
the motherfucking one. They didn't get a dating show.

1265
00:57:55,159 --> 00:57:56,840
Speaker 6: They send in dicks and no money.

1266
00:57:57,079 --> 00:57:59,639
Speaker 2: What's the worst, what's the worst? What's the worst? You

1267
00:57:59,719 --> 00:58:03,599
ever get? Up? Man? What these niggas were saying?

1268
00:58:03,719 --> 00:58:07,599
Speaker 5: Listen, So now I've graduated, right, So people send me

1269
00:58:07,719 --> 00:58:10,760
unsolicited pictures all the time, and so I'm going to

1270
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:12,679
counter that by saying, listen, you want me to be

1271
00:58:12,719 --> 00:58:15,400
impressed by this, I'm not send me the video with

1272
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:16,719
the sound on, with some action on.

1273
00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 6: It could have good lighting, so at least then I

1274
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:19,360
can judge it.

1275
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:20,800
Speaker 2: I want.

1276
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 6: You want to hear bulls.

1277
00:58:23,400 --> 00:58:27,039
Speaker 5: Shouldn't send me these pictures, you you know, okay with

1278
00:58:27,159 --> 00:58:29,079
the angles, that's all get out of my face.

1279
00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:32,480
Speaker 2: The words they just send a dick.

1280
00:58:32,719 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 3: They just in a dick.

1281
00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:36,159
Speaker 5: And I have a business, you know, email and a

1282
00:58:36,199 --> 00:58:40,000
business phone number right listed business. I will they will

1283
00:58:40,039 --> 00:58:41,719
send it to business, and you know, I'll reply back

1284
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:43,800
and say, hey, there's a man that monitors this account.

1285
00:58:44,239 --> 00:58:47,480
I'm lying, but you know, because I want to know

1286
00:58:47,559 --> 00:58:49,719
what type of shit are you on to send your

1287
00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:52,480
penis to a complete perfect shoundering. You don't even have

1288
00:58:52,559 --> 00:58:54,920
any confirmation that this is truly my phone number.

1289
00:58:55,519 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 4: Don't care either they doing it. I probably got a

1290
00:58:58,079 --> 00:59:02,239
whole bunch of like I want to have conversations, and

1291
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:05,119
it never ends. It's like just oh god, paragraphs of

1292
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:07,639
oh my god, you just so all that.

1293
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:10,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is what I told your asked earlier

1294
00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:12,920
about me not wanting to open up. That can of

1295
00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:16,000
worms of people talking to me, because why do you think.

1296
00:59:15,920 --> 00:59:16,719
Speaker 3: You can talk to me?

1297
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:18,679
Speaker 6: But you know, I try to be polite.

1298
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:21,800
Speaker 2: That's the problem. I'm not probably I'm about to start

1299
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:24,519
blocking motherfuckers. I don't. I don't block three people this

1300
00:59:24,639 --> 00:59:29,280
morning before nine o'clock, before before before eight, because I

1301
00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:30,679
was up at four thirty. I was.

1302
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 1: I just opened up Snap and I was like, you

1303
00:59:33,119 --> 00:59:34,920
know what, I no longer want to hear from you.

1304
00:59:35,639 --> 00:59:41,280
You you you, because I do a Eurotic podcast called

1305
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:43,599
Black Widow. And I think the problem is that I

1306
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:46,760
keep forgetting that these holes are fans of mine. Yeah,

1307
00:59:47,119 --> 00:59:50,280
so I'm trying to be polite, and then now they

1308
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:54,360
talking to me and going left, they ain't never really

1309
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:56,719
even going left. The problem is like, look, I'm married.

1310
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:59,639
If you want to fuck me, then understand that I'm married,

1311
00:59:59,679 --> 01:00:02,440
and be and and and go about it the right way.

1312
01:00:02,519 --> 01:00:06,000
Because even because even because even if even you talking

1313
01:00:06,039 --> 01:00:08,039
to me, it's gonna get me fucked up. Okay, So

1314
01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:11,000
if you if you want to keep the conversation limited,

1315
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,199
use code words. And then I asked my wife, can

1316
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:16,840
I have permission to fuck you? But you trying to

1317
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:18,199
hold conversations to get.

1318
01:00:18,079 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 2: To know me. I don't know how I'm I don't

1319
01:00:23,360 --> 01:00:25,280
want to know. I don't want to know, you bitch.

1320
01:00:27,159 --> 01:00:29,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, but that's what because people want to make it

1321
01:00:29,840 --> 01:00:32,440
what it is. Yeah, Like, I'm just trying to be

1322
01:00:32,519 --> 01:00:34,480
a kind person about it, and you want to tell

1323
01:00:34,519 --> 01:00:36,079
me about your whole I'm just trying to be kind.

1324
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:40,960
Speaker 2: Motherfuckers tould be like, because you're motherfuckers, see your page

1325
01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:42,920
and be like, oh, I like your nail business. You'll

1326
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:44,760
be like, I like your nail pictures. You'll be like, oh,

1327
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:46,440
thank you so much, and then they'll go into.

1328
01:00:46,320 --> 01:00:49,639
Speaker 3: The whole day what you're doing today?

1329
01:00:50,079 --> 01:00:50,559
Speaker 2: They good?

1330
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:55,079
Speaker 4: How I have to delete that ship like I'm like,

1331
01:00:55,480 --> 01:00:57,039
and then I have to tell some people like this

1332
01:00:57,199 --> 01:00:59,280
is for interturning purposes only. I just hope you have

1333
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:04,440
a great Day's the philtery down again, Hudson. I love

1334
01:01:04,519 --> 01:01:06,840
black men, and some of the responses that I receive

1335
01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:08,800
you as a man want me to be a black

1336
01:01:08,840 --> 01:01:09,239
man hater.

1337
01:01:09,360 --> 01:01:09,599
Speaker 3: I'm not.

1338
01:01:09,719 --> 01:01:11,400
Speaker 6: I want you to be kind. I want you to heal,

1339
01:01:11,679 --> 01:01:12,639
but you couldn't do it here.

1340
01:01:14,079 --> 01:01:16,519
Speaker 1: Motherfuckers want you to be evil. They want you to

1341
01:01:16,599 --> 01:01:19,079
be evil like their mama. That's what they want niggas

1342
01:01:19,119 --> 01:01:20,280
want to fuck their moms.

1343
01:01:20,800 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 2: That's the problem.

1344
01:01:21,679 --> 01:01:23,960
Speaker 6: They only sndrome carry it.

1345
01:01:24,239 --> 01:01:25,360
Speaker 2: I used to. I used to.

1346
01:01:25,679 --> 01:01:28,000
Speaker 1: I grew up in Hallville and I used to love

1347
01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:33,800
fucking hood rats some because that was the polite girls

1348
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:37,239
will be too quiet, and then the hood rats they

1349
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:37,920
in your face.

1350
01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:43,480
Speaker 2: They want to wrestle, they want to be aggressive. But

1351
01:01:43,760 --> 01:01:44,079
I did.

1352
01:01:44,280 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 1: I felt like I was an ugly duckling because they

1353
01:01:47,559 --> 01:01:50,159
didn't recognize the love that I was trying to give

1354
01:01:50,199 --> 01:01:52,480
them like that, I want to talk, I want to

1355
01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:53,920
write notes something about.

1356
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:56,280
Speaker 2: You can't do that with a hood right now.

1357
01:01:56,840 --> 01:01:57,599
Speaker 4: You can.

1358
01:01:58,280 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 2: No, you can't because my wife is my wife. My

1359
01:02:02,880 --> 01:02:04,840
wife is a hood rash. She was just a gerbil.

1360
01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:10,440
There's different. But back to the right.

1361
01:02:10,760 --> 01:02:12,800
Speaker 1: They didn't recognize the love that I was given because

1362
01:02:12,800 --> 01:02:15,119
they daddy never wrote the notes. Good morning, I love y'all,

1363
01:02:15,159 --> 01:02:19,119
see you later. So don't they don't understand this, nigga.

1364
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:27,000
Speaker 2: Saw that's because you're supposed to do that. I'm aggress' aggressive.

1365
01:02:27,039 --> 01:02:28,880
I'm too aggressive for the polite girls.

1366
01:02:29,559 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 5: So that that's funny though, because people will tell me

1367
01:02:31,519 --> 01:02:33,679
that I'm polite, but they will also tell me I'm aggressive,

1368
01:02:34,400 --> 01:02:36,960
Like that you know, my personality demands attention and not.

1369
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:39,239
Speaker 2: Be like your personality demands respect.

1370
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:41,400
Speaker 5: They gotta be a ballan, But I just be mint

1371
01:02:41,400 --> 01:02:43,039
of my business. I'm a kind person, but I don't

1372
01:02:43,039 --> 01:02:45,480
pillow talk. So if you're asking me how I suckdict

1373
01:02:45,599 --> 01:02:48,440
at your business, because you ain't gonna never experience it, right,

1374
01:02:48,679 --> 01:02:49,599
I'm not that kind of woman.

1375
01:02:49,639 --> 01:02:51,079
Speaker 6: I'm not gonna get on here and say ooh I do,

1376
01:02:51,280 --> 01:02:51,679
X Y and Z.

1377
01:02:52,119 --> 01:02:54,199
Speaker 5: Y'all don't need to know right right, but just know

1378
01:02:54,320 --> 01:02:56,800
that whatever man I have it satisfied and even if

1379
01:02:56,840 --> 01:02:58,360
I don't have no more, he will always come back

1380
01:02:58,360 --> 01:02:59,440
if I did.

1381
01:02:59,679 --> 01:03:03,519
Speaker 6: That's that's I mean, that's how you know.

1382
01:03:03,719 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 3: That's how you know.

1383
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:06,559
Speaker 4: If you know, you know, it's a lot of people

1384
01:03:06,639 --> 01:03:08,760
out there that still wish they could have, would have,

1385
01:03:08,960 --> 01:03:11,360
should have with that one chick that they didn't.

1386
01:03:11,639 --> 01:03:13,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had to block. I had to block down

1387
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:16,559
because I don't I don't. I had to block ain't.

1388
01:03:17,519 --> 01:03:17,559
Speaker 4: No.

1389
01:03:17,679 --> 01:03:21,440
Speaker 2: If you're in the past, in the past, well I

1390
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:21,719
don't know.

1391
01:03:21,840 --> 01:03:25,119
Speaker 3: But what if you cross paths again, like damn that

1392
01:03:25,199 --> 01:03:26,079
bit from the past.

1393
01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:29,920
Speaker 2: Hello, how you doing? And I don't hustle backwards.

1394
01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:33,480
Speaker 5: I don't hustle backwards. But I got one to hustle for.

1395
01:03:34,400 --> 01:03:37,559
I got one that if I call you better what

1396
01:03:37,679 --> 01:03:37,920
it is?

1397
01:03:38,880 --> 01:03:39,719
Speaker 3: You know what you know?

1398
01:03:40,079 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 6: And I'm gonna tell you what because I'm not I

1399
01:03:41,480 --> 01:03:44,119
don't get crazy, but I can be right and so.

1400
01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:46,880
Speaker 2: Proper person.

1401
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 3: I've only get real. It gets serious, real.

1402
01:03:50,280 --> 01:03:52,360
Speaker 5: Serious because they know I'm an cut a niggas. But

1403
01:03:53,000 --> 01:03:55,519
I've only been crazy for two niggas like it just

1404
01:03:55,599 --> 01:03:59,440
got stories right because them is the ones that you

1405
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:02,280
really carry you, you don't care about if your bitch

1406
01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:07,119
ain't never got crazy about you with you, with you really, yeah,

1407
01:04:07,199 --> 01:04:07,480
I did.

1408
01:04:07,480 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 3: It's probably the crazy making.

1409
01:04:08,800 --> 01:04:11,159
Speaker 2: Me re evaluate all the motherfuckers I.

1410
01:04:11,280 --> 01:04:14,719
Speaker 5: Used to if they got I got one and still

1411
01:04:15,559 --> 01:04:18,199
like we we polite in passing, Hey, what's up?

1412
01:04:18,239 --> 01:04:18,639
Speaker 3: What's good?

1413
01:04:18,679 --> 01:04:18,840
Speaker 2: You know?

1414
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:21,440
Speaker 5: Keep it moving, no conversation. But I'm gonna tell you what.

1415
01:04:21,480 --> 01:04:24,679
If that nigga call me or I'll call him, it

1416
01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:28,039
is what it is. I acted ignorant. I snatched the

1417
01:04:28,119 --> 01:04:28,960
door off the hinges.

1418
01:04:30,440 --> 01:04:33,039
Speaker 4: I had one eye to cry. I took empty trash

1419
01:04:33,079 --> 01:04:34,480
and put it in front of his house. So when

1420
01:04:34,519 --> 01:04:36,639
you get out the car, you gotta get out his

1421
01:04:36,719 --> 01:04:38,320
car to go to his house because I put in

1422
01:04:38,400 --> 01:04:39,840
the drive's crazy.

1423
01:04:39,840 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 3: But it wasn't. I wasn't violent.

1424
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:42,199
Speaker 6: I wasn't violent.

1425
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 3: I wasn't that trash my trash and leaving it in

1426
01:04:48,320 --> 01:04:52,159
front of your house. Get yours over here.

1427
01:04:52,360 --> 01:04:56,079
Speaker 2: You know, if I ripped the door off this motherfucker,

1428
01:04:56,159 --> 01:04:56,719
I'm going.

1429
01:04:56,599 --> 01:05:04,039
Speaker 7: To wash shouting police after I fuck you crazy fifteen dollars.

1430
01:05:05,480 --> 01:05:09,280
Speaker 3: This was a commercial building. Oh ship, kick that damn thing.

1431
01:05:09,719 --> 01:05:11,679
Speaker 5: I snatched that my fucker off. And this is the

1432
01:05:11,760 --> 01:05:13,719
thing that I don't like what helped after that. I

1433
01:05:13,760 --> 01:05:15,840
don't like what happened after that. So I didn't talk

1434
01:05:15,880 --> 01:05:17,360
to him for a while. After that, that nigga was

1435
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:19,320
mad and I was like, I don't give back. You

1436
01:05:19,440 --> 01:05:22,519
deserve that ship. But then it I was mad for

1437
01:05:22,599 --> 01:05:25,679
probably six months and then you had to call him back.

1438
01:05:26,519 --> 01:05:27,920
I mean, we didn't even really talk about it.

1439
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:31,000
Speaker 3: It was just like it happened on a whimsical I'm

1440
01:05:31,039 --> 01:05:31,400
on the way.

1441
01:05:31,719 --> 01:05:34,599
Speaker 2: That's because sometimes you gotta pop out.

1442
01:05:34,559 --> 01:05:38,119
Speaker 5: And show me exactly because because I'm a nice girl,

1443
01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:39,400
I'm an light.

1444
01:05:39,519 --> 01:05:42,159
Speaker 6: I consider it and I want to help.

1445
01:05:42,360 --> 01:05:45,320
Speaker 1: I like, I like, I like when a woman I

1446
01:05:45,440 --> 01:05:49,880
think that I'm trash and then she goes out and

1447
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:53,400
realized that I wasn't trash. The niggas that she keep

1448
01:05:53,480 --> 01:05:56,639
coming across is way worse than me. And she was like, well, damn,

1449
01:05:56,760 --> 01:05:57,280
I guess.

1450
01:05:57,199 --> 01:06:00,679
Speaker 6: It's the circus. I call the niggas pass niggas.

1451
01:06:00,719 --> 01:06:05,199
Speaker 2: What did we be saying? Girl, give me that, girl

1452
01:06:05,239 --> 01:06:05,639
give me that.

1453
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:09,280
Speaker 5: This is a fucking clown my best friend. I'd be like, ship,

1454
01:06:09,400 --> 01:06:10,840
you know, I went and join the circus again.

1455
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:12,880
Speaker 3: She'd be like, keep your.

1456
01:06:12,840 --> 01:06:14,679
Speaker 6: Red nose a wig in a car, and I was.

1457
01:06:16,559 --> 01:06:19,239
Speaker 3: I said, I leave that wig in the car because

1458
01:06:19,519 --> 01:06:21,840
I ain't got nothing. I'm crazy.

1459
01:06:22,320 --> 01:06:25,320
Speaker 5: But when I had when he gives me the respect

1460
01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:29,840
that I'm desire, but because I'm passive for the most part,

1461
01:06:29,880 --> 01:06:30,239
it's like.

1462
01:06:30,280 --> 01:06:34,199
Speaker 3: Oh, she' you know what? But then what are you

1463
01:06:34,280 --> 01:06:36,119
talking about it? When I pop out the.

1464
01:06:36,119 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 5: Show niggas and it's like, why do you want me

1465
01:06:38,360 --> 01:06:39,599
to behave this way? I don't want to be like

1466
01:06:39,639 --> 01:06:40,360
these bitches.

1467
01:06:41,119 --> 01:06:44,679
Speaker 7: Like I am scared. I would like the fucker come

1468
01:06:44,800 --> 01:06:48,239
in here and knock this door off. I'm calling the police.

1469
01:06:48,440 --> 01:06:50,000
Speaker 3: He probably should. That day, I was on.

1470
01:06:51,559 --> 01:06:55,920
Speaker 2: Everything because ma'am everybody, but.

1471
01:06:55,960 --> 01:06:58,639
Speaker 5: I don't act like that normally, right, So that day

1472
01:06:58,840 --> 01:07:01,000
I just learned something new about you. That day, shit

1473
01:07:01,159 --> 01:07:04,559
was up. But my boy had to tell me, bitch,

1474
01:07:04,639 --> 01:07:06,880
you box for real, You're gonna go to jail.

1475
01:07:08,280 --> 01:07:11,079
Speaker 4: Yeah, certain people bring out certain things though, you know

1476
01:07:11,119 --> 01:07:13,760
what I'm saying. So it's like that's something that's why

1477
01:07:13,800 --> 01:07:14,320
I don't.

1478
01:07:14,639 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 2: I had a.

1479
01:07:15,000 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 5: Conversation with that nigga, This bitch I had a problem with.

1480
01:07:18,119 --> 01:07:19,360
I went to her place to be. I was in

1481
01:07:19,440 --> 01:07:22,480
there clowning like and then and then I was embarrassed

1482
01:07:23,440 --> 01:07:24,679
after you climbed, I claimed.

1483
01:07:24,719 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 3: I was embarrassed. Put on the whole show.

1484
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:28,159
Speaker 6: Boy ready to go to jail.

1485
01:07:28,360 --> 01:07:29,920
Speaker 4: Me and that nigga after I did the trash, so

1486
01:07:30,079 --> 01:07:32,559
we damned near boxed it out. He came busted in

1487
01:07:32,599 --> 01:07:35,440
the house. He was crazy though, and I'm like, you

1488
01:07:35,559 --> 01:07:37,639
know what, I had to pay that nigga to get.

1489
01:07:37,559 --> 01:07:38,239
Speaker 2: Out of my life.

1490
01:07:39,360 --> 01:07:43,280
Speaker 3: No, listen. That was after that. After that we made up.

1491
01:07:43,360 --> 01:07:45,199
Speaker 4: We was cool after that, but it was like I

1492
01:07:45,199 --> 01:07:46,800
didn't want to be as woman no more because I

1493
01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:48,519
was tired of the crazy shit, and I'm like, bro,

1494
01:07:48,880 --> 01:07:50,760
you gotta get your life together. So I was trying

1495
01:07:50,800 --> 01:07:53,800
to help him. We lived together, and then we I

1496
01:07:53,960 --> 01:07:55,719
was like in fabtruy, I'm like, hey, bro, you're gonna

1497
01:07:55,719 --> 01:07:57,559
go move back into your house. I'm gonna pay your

1498
01:07:57,639 --> 01:07:59,920
first month's rent so you can move back in there.

1499
01:08:00,079 --> 01:08:01,760
Speaker 2: Now, who you know? Where you? Who are you giving

1500
01:08:01,760 --> 01:08:04,440
this pussy to? Who? That's what I say.

1501
01:08:04,559 --> 01:08:06,119
Speaker 3: That's the same.

1502
01:08:06,719 --> 01:08:09,159
Speaker 2: Now I'm not going to get my life together. Yeah,

1503
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:10,880
what did Webb say?

1504
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:11,599
Speaker 3: Listen?

1505
01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:13,320
Speaker 2: Give me that listen.

1506
01:08:13,519 --> 01:08:16,159
Speaker 4: No, it was look, it was that was it for him.

1507
01:08:16,399 --> 01:08:18,720
I pay Look, I pay him nine hundred dollars. He

1508
01:08:19,039 --> 01:08:22,239
used to just get ship face drunk and I couldn't

1509
01:08:22,279 --> 01:08:24,760
deal with that ship. So I'm like, get your ass out,

1510
01:08:24,960 --> 01:08:25,720
you off.

1511
01:08:26,119 --> 01:08:27,880
Speaker 3: I bought them all. Hell yeah, I will buy a

1512
01:08:27,960 --> 01:08:28,600
nigga good bye.

1513
01:08:29,279 --> 01:08:32,960
Speaker 6: If you out there are listening, ain't little change off.

1514
01:08:34,640 --> 01:08:35,920
Speaker 3: He's starting at nine hundred.

1515
01:08:36,800 --> 01:08:41,680
Speaker 2: That's the fucker.

1516
01:08:41,720 --> 01:08:42,640
Speaker 3: We went to the casino.

1517
01:08:42,920 --> 01:08:45,359
Speaker 4: I helped this nigga win at the casino eleven hundred.

1518
01:08:45,399 --> 01:08:47,159
He like, that's what made me have to give him

1519
01:08:47,159 --> 01:08:49,560
a nine because I was telling him before we went there, like, hey,

1520
01:08:49,760 --> 01:08:52,439
I pay you to go back into your house.

1521
01:08:52,800 --> 01:08:53,880
Speaker 3: He's going, no, fuck you.

1522
01:08:54,079 --> 01:08:56,319
Speaker 4: And then all of a sudden, we get to the

1523
01:08:56,359 --> 01:08:59,119
casino he hit. The first thing he said is now,

1524
01:08:59,239 --> 01:09:01,399
can I buy some I was like, hell no.

1525
01:09:02,000 --> 01:09:04,800
Speaker 3: He was like, give me that Mo fucking hundred. I'm like,

1526
01:09:04,920 --> 01:09:07,239
this is not the place. This is not the place

1527
01:09:07,279 --> 01:09:09,039
I need to give you this money. You fucked up.

1528
01:09:09,359 --> 01:09:10,359
Guess what we got in a car.

1529
01:09:10,399 --> 01:09:11,720
Speaker 4: He gonna cry when you get in the car. He

1530
01:09:11,880 --> 01:09:14,640
had no more fucking money after this casino. He threw

1531
01:09:14,680 --> 01:09:17,119
that Mo fucking Wallace so fast. I'm like, you're still

1532
01:09:17,159 --> 01:09:19,880
going to your new house. That's your nigga, Like when

1533
01:09:19,920 --> 01:09:21,640
you got out, he had to get out the fucking

1534
01:09:21,720 --> 01:09:22,119
my life.

1535
01:09:22,359 --> 01:09:25,199
Speaker 1: What's the what's the Have you ever had an experience

1536
01:09:25,800 --> 01:09:29,000
where y'all was fucking with a nigga and y'all just knew, like,

1537
01:09:30,039 --> 01:09:32,439
I shouldn't be fucking with you. Rather it be because

1538
01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:34,680
of the sex, rather it be because it was somebody's

1539
01:09:35,319 --> 01:09:36,000
X or something like that.

1540
01:09:36,159 --> 01:09:37,560
Speaker 2: Have you ever had an experience where you like, I

1541
01:09:37,640 --> 01:09:38,720
know I should not be fucking with you.

1542
01:09:38,920 --> 01:09:46,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, my clown ass nigga. She said, though, it's because

1543
01:09:46,319 --> 01:09:49,000
it's like we we were never in a relationship. We

1544
01:09:49,159 --> 01:09:52,960
was just cool and nigga just kind of evolved. But

1545
01:09:53,079 --> 01:09:55,800
it's been like so many years that you'd be like, well,

1546
01:09:56,920 --> 01:09:58,960
but then I realized that he's a clown ass niggas.

1547
01:09:59,000 --> 01:10:01,199
I would never want him to be by man, Definitely,

1548
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:02,359
I think I.

1549
01:10:02,359 --> 01:10:03,680
Speaker 2: Think that's just like a good time.

1550
01:10:03,880 --> 01:10:04,079
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1551
01:10:04,520 --> 01:10:06,520
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people when they ask about

1552
01:10:06,560 --> 01:10:09,399
friends with benefits, I never really heard the story about

1553
01:10:09,479 --> 01:10:13,000
when the benefits stops. Well, nah, I don't hear that,

1554
01:10:13,159 --> 01:10:16,640
but it just goes on. You just do not understand

1555
01:10:16,720 --> 01:10:18,319
how much time and energy you give them.

1556
01:10:18,319 --> 01:10:18,720
Speaker 2: Motherfucker.

1557
01:10:18,800 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 1: Let's say, y'all, fuck, once a month, they got hols,

1558
01:10:21,479 --> 01:10:24,399
you got hoes, and then it becomes twice a month.

1559
01:10:24,479 --> 01:10:26,119
And then you look up and I'm like, then we've

1560
01:10:26,119 --> 01:10:28,880
been fucking with each other for like five years we've

1561
01:10:28,880 --> 01:10:31,800
been and I ain't never get I ain't never gave

1562
01:10:31,800 --> 01:10:32,760
you know, a birthday gift.

1563
01:10:32,920 --> 01:10:35,960
Speaker 2: I don't even know your favorite teller. I'm like, God,

1564
01:10:36,680 --> 01:10:37,760
I'm like, what the fuck?

1565
01:10:38,640 --> 01:10:41,920
Speaker 1: But then then after that five years, Look, I didn't

1566
01:10:41,960 --> 01:10:43,560
talk about on the last part because I didn't want

1567
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:44,079
to be judged.

1568
01:10:44,159 --> 01:10:48,279
Speaker 2: I got time today. Don't on that fifth year, don't

1569
01:10:48,439 --> 01:10:52,000
fucking start liking me and asking me like, why the

1570
01:10:52,119 --> 01:10:54,279
fuck are you asking me to this?

1571
01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:54,720
Speaker 3: Nigga?

1572
01:10:54,800 --> 01:10:56,439
Speaker 6: Hit me a message and was like, you all right?

1573
01:10:56,520 --> 01:10:59,159
Speaker 3: And I was like, we don't why we don't ask

1574
01:10:59,239 --> 01:10:59,800
these questions?

1575
01:11:00,239 --> 01:11:00,920
Speaker 2: Keep it A and B.

1576
01:11:01,199 --> 01:11:03,560
Speaker 3: I was like, what's wrong? He was like, I was just,

1577
01:11:03,640 --> 01:11:04,319
you know, checking on you.

1578
01:11:04,359 --> 01:11:08,000
Speaker 6: I'm like, it's two ways and it's feelings.

1579
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:11,720
Speaker 1: Why are you making me feel See? The difference between

1580
01:11:12,199 --> 01:11:14,920
men and women is that I've never dealt with this,

1581
01:11:15,079 --> 01:11:18,520
or maybe I could attest to this, but women, they'll

1582
01:11:18,600 --> 01:11:23,760
make you feel bad for not retaining micro. I only

1583
01:11:23,880 --> 01:11:27,720
see you, bitch between twelve and three for eleven and three.

1584
01:11:28,079 --> 01:11:31,039
So you asking me about your favorite movie, your favorite color,

1585
01:11:31,119 --> 01:11:34,560
your favorite dish, your favorite I don't fucking know, Pam.

1586
01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:37,680
I do know that you like your ass smacked this way.

1587
01:11:37,840 --> 01:11:40,000
I do know you're like a pussy eight this way,

1588
01:11:40,079 --> 01:11:42,520
but all of this others, I don't fucking I don't know.

1589
01:11:43,239 --> 01:11:43,520
Speaker 3: Fuck.

1590
01:11:43,760 --> 01:11:47,880
Speaker 5: So, there's an expectation right for certain whatever role, whatever

1591
01:11:47,920 --> 01:11:50,760
your role is, And so I tried to I was

1592
01:11:50,840 --> 01:11:53,199
kicking it with one guy right and like we were dating,

1593
01:11:53,680 --> 01:11:55,680
but then it I felt like it wasn't really gonna

1594
01:11:55,720 --> 01:11:56,920
be nothing. So I'm like, hey, you know you just

1595
01:11:56,960 --> 01:11:59,800
want to fuck And he was offended. This niggasa that

1596
01:11:59,800 --> 01:12:02,079
don't talk to me like that. And I'm like, what

1597
01:12:02,279 --> 01:12:05,199
you mean, Like, obviously a relationship is not gonna work.

1598
01:12:05,199 --> 01:12:06,840
And I don't like to have sex with multiple people.

1599
01:12:06,840 --> 01:12:07,720
I don't want to you know what I mean, be

1600
01:12:07,800 --> 01:12:11,239
out here whatever. And he was truly offended by it.

1601
01:12:11,319 --> 01:12:13,319
And I said, because listen, you don't need to meet

1602
01:12:13,319 --> 01:12:15,520
my family. We don't need to hang out. I don't

1603
01:12:15,560 --> 01:12:19,880
care about your day. I'm not like, no, I don't

1604
01:12:19,880 --> 01:12:21,680
get about none of that. I'm gonna say what I'm

1605
01:12:21,680 --> 01:12:22,760
gonna say, what's up? What's good?

1606
01:12:22,960 --> 01:12:27,560
Speaker 6: You know what that means? Your equipment, do the job

1607
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:29,159
and get the fucking tripod.

1608
01:12:29,359 --> 01:12:31,920
Speaker 2: And but I think a lot of the times when

1609
01:12:31,960 --> 01:12:35,239
it comes down to that, like I wish that why

1610
01:12:35,319 --> 01:12:37,680
we gotta do this song and dance? Why do we even?

1611
01:12:38,079 --> 01:12:42,560
Speaker 1: And I'll be asking motherfucker's like, yo, why do you

1612
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:44,560
feel like you got to have a relationship with everybody

1613
01:12:44,600 --> 01:12:47,039
that you fucked? Because sometimes you just want to bust

1614
01:12:47,079 --> 01:12:49,079
it up and you're not in the space to have

1615
01:12:49,159 --> 01:12:52,079
a relationship. I'm on the phone with this dumb broad

1616
01:12:52,600 --> 01:12:56,439
and she's telling me about, Oh, I was minding my business.

1617
01:12:56,880 --> 01:12:59,159
I was staying out the way I was on my

1618
01:12:59,239 --> 01:13:02,199
fitness ship and then here come this nigga big in

1619
01:13:02,279 --> 01:13:04,439
this game, and then he knocked me off my square.

1620
01:13:04,680 --> 01:13:06,479
I said, then, why didn't you just fuck him and

1621
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:08,960
just leave him alone? Why if you know that you

1622
01:13:09,119 --> 01:13:11,439
can't do two things at once, if you can't get

1623
01:13:11,479 --> 01:13:15,000
your life together and fuck somebody, then you should not

1624
01:13:15,119 --> 01:13:17,800
be fucking nobody while you're trying to get your life together.

1625
01:13:18,000 --> 01:13:22,640
Don't blame Keith, because your pussy runs directly to your

1626
01:13:22,760 --> 01:13:25,199
brain and it's making you make dumb decisions.

1627
01:13:25,239 --> 01:13:27,840
Speaker 5: This is the problem, though, When you were in that mode,

1628
01:13:28,600 --> 01:13:30,600
you have to fuck the person that you don't really like,

1629
01:13:30,760 --> 01:13:34,720
like that you fucking somebody that you like, you like

1630
01:13:35,880 --> 01:13:36,079
At this.

1631
01:13:36,119 --> 01:13:39,000
Speaker 3: Point, I've been thinking about you, Okay, I've been thinking

1632
01:13:39,079 --> 01:13:39,399
about you.

1633
01:13:40,720 --> 01:13:42,760
Speaker 2: That's why. That's why most friends will benefits and you

1634
01:13:42,840 --> 01:13:45,720
gotta be ugly. I can't look over at you and

1635
01:13:45,880 --> 01:13:48,720
be like, I see a future with you because if

1636
01:13:48,760 --> 01:13:51,840
she's because if she pretty, if she pretty, and that

1637
01:13:51,960 --> 01:13:55,039
pussy good, and we just friends with benefits, I'm gonna

1638
01:13:55,039 --> 01:13:58,079
start feeling like motherfucking Marcus from motherfucking Boomerang, Like what

1639
01:13:58,199 --> 01:14:00,560
the fuck? Why are you using me? Like this because

1640
01:14:01,000 --> 01:14:05,039
because I'm eating your pussy slow protisseri. This is I'm

1641
01:14:05,119 --> 01:14:09,880
going I'm going crazy. I'm trying to show you something home.

1642
01:14:12,600 --> 01:14:15,119
You gotta be. I have to not see potential in you.

1643
01:14:15,199 --> 01:14:17,920
If I see potentially you and that cout you good. Yeah.

1644
01:14:18,560 --> 01:14:22,000
Speaker 7: I had a situation like that. Swere to god. It

1645
01:14:22,159 --> 01:14:26,800
started off strictly fucking, starting to like me too much.

1646
01:14:28,039 --> 01:14:29,840
You don't take me out on the date, you know,

1647
01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:32,720
do X, Y and Z. It did not start like that.

1648
01:14:33,399 --> 01:14:37,600
Speaker 2: Man. You cannot go halfway in fucking and then starting

1649
01:14:37,680 --> 01:14:39,000
trying to do ship ship.

1650
01:14:39,119 --> 01:14:40,680
Speaker 1: So look, I said that. I said this on the pod.

1651
01:14:41,439 --> 01:14:44,279
I said that when I want to visit my mom. Recently,

1652
01:14:44,359 --> 01:14:45,760
me and my brother was talking about a girl that

1653
01:14:45,840 --> 01:14:49,000
I was fucking with in college, and I said, I

1654
01:14:49,199 --> 01:14:52,239
think I did her wrong. So I reached out to

1655
01:14:52,319 --> 01:14:55,840
her and I said I apologized. So were texting, nothing sexual,

1656
01:14:56,000 --> 01:14:58,479
nothing like that. But she texted me one night and

1657
01:14:58,640 --> 01:15:03,199
was like, I got a question, why didn't you What

1658
01:15:03,439 --> 01:15:06,560
was it about me that you didn't didn't want to

1659
01:15:06,600 --> 01:15:10,239
be my man? I said, because we started off friends

1660
01:15:10,399 --> 01:15:13,520
with benefits. I said it, and I meant the regardless.

1661
01:15:13,560 --> 01:15:15,039
If I needed to sleep on your couch now, and

1662
01:15:15,079 --> 01:15:18,199
you let me regardless if we regardless of whatever happened,

1663
01:15:18,520 --> 01:15:21,640
we set these ground rules and then you went about

1664
01:15:21,680 --> 01:15:24,560
it in the awkward way and then you started doing

1665
01:15:24,600 --> 01:15:26,880
shit out of spite. And now I don't trust you,

1666
01:15:27,399 --> 01:15:29,680
and I would never trust you enough to be your man,

1667
01:15:29,840 --> 01:15:31,840
but I trust you enough to fuck you with a condom.

1668
01:15:31,880 --> 01:15:33,000
Speaker 2: Mo I do that.

1669
01:15:33,479 --> 01:15:36,279
Speaker 1: But I think that a lot of the times women.

1670
01:15:36,960 --> 01:15:39,000
I think a lot of the times people think that, oh,

1671
01:15:40,760 --> 01:15:44,079
I'm good enough to change your mind, and no, my

1672
01:15:44,239 --> 01:15:45,439
mind is my mind.

1673
01:15:45,319 --> 01:15:46,079
Speaker 2: And it's made up.

1674
01:15:46,479 --> 01:15:49,960
Speaker 1: And if you're being honest, shit, wasn't slapping like that,

1675
01:15:51,560 --> 01:15:53,520
because if you had a lot of the times like

1676
01:15:53,760 --> 01:15:57,279
if I like a girl, I like this girl and

1677
01:15:57,439 --> 01:15:59,000
I try to change her mind, I done made the

1678
01:15:59,039 --> 01:16:03,239
bitch breakfast, have pancakes, bacon, eggs, all type of orange juice,

1679
01:16:03,239 --> 01:16:05,399
and shit, dick on the table, mouth on it.

1680
01:16:05,479 --> 01:16:08,359
Speaker 2: I'm giving her the works. And she was like, no

1681
01:16:08,520 --> 01:16:12,279
matter what you do, yeah, no matter what you do.

1682
01:16:13,000 --> 01:16:15,640
And I was like, I appreciated that because that was

1683
01:16:15,640 --> 01:16:17,520
the first time that I've ever been in that situation

1684
01:16:17,720 --> 01:16:19,600
to where she was like, it just.

1685
01:16:19,640 --> 01:16:20,279
Speaker 3: Ain't gonna work.

1686
01:16:22,199 --> 01:16:24,359
Speaker 5: I had a nigga like that I fucked for years

1687
01:16:24,399 --> 01:16:26,960
and I was just like, he had to grow on

1688
01:16:27,159 --> 01:16:28,520
and she called me. I was like, grow I don't

1689
01:16:28,520 --> 01:16:30,119
want the man. She's like, but I know he would

1690
01:16:30,159 --> 01:16:30,680
do right for you.

1691
01:16:31,079 --> 01:16:34,359
Speaker 2: Can you just And I was like, no, no, what

1692
01:16:35,000 --> 01:16:35,600
what does she want?

1693
01:16:35,960 --> 01:16:38,560
Speaker 5: He was mad at her and they was having problems

1694
01:16:38,600 --> 01:16:40,720
at home, and she thought that if I was back

1695
01:16:40,840 --> 01:16:42,239
nice to him that it would fix it.

1696
01:16:43,439 --> 01:16:45,359
Speaker 2: You should have charged her, Yes, I could do that,

1697
01:16:45,520 --> 01:16:51,279
a consultation fee. This is what you need to do

1698
01:16:51,399 --> 01:16:52,119
for that nigga to act.

1699
01:16:52,720 --> 01:16:53,640
Speaker 3: No, but it wasn't that.

1700
01:16:53,920 --> 01:16:56,399
Speaker 6: She felt like, if I was back involved with him,

1701
01:16:56,680 --> 01:16:58,720
you'd be happy to be happy with her.

1702
01:16:59,000 --> 01:17:00,640
Speaker 2: If he was cheating with her, the thing should be

1703
01:17:00,680 --> 01:17:01,079
back happy.

1704
01:17:01,439 --> 01:17:01,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1705
01:17:02,119 --> 01:17:04,640
Speaker 5: That And I'm like, I'm nothing. I don't, I mean,

1706
01:17:04,680 --> 01:17:06,319
I don't. I mean he told the chick that she

1707
01:17:06,359 --> 01:17:08,760
couldn't cut her hair. I buzzed my ship off. I

1708
01:17:08,760 --> 01:17:10,760
don't give a fuck. I had a whole black power,

1709
01:17:11,239 --> 01:17:13,640
my fucking mini afro and ship like I'm out here,

1710
01:17:14,239 --> 01:17:14,720
I'm gonna do.

1711
01:17:16,560 --> 01:17:19,920
Speaker 2: That's it a fucking sponge and just knocking their foods off.

1712
01:17:20,039 --> 01:17:22,439
How do y'all deal with control issues? From a man.

1713
01:17:24,640 --> 01:17:25,159
Speaker 5: Mm hmmm.

1714
01:17:25,840 --> 01:17:29,600
Speaker 2: For control issue, it is, I don't what kind of control.

1715
01:17:29,720 --> 01:17:30,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's when you.

1716
01:17:30,560 --> 01:17:32,960
Speaker 2: Control, just overbearing.

1717
01:17:33,239 --> 01:17:35,239
Speaker 3: Just I don't do I don't don't.

1718
01:17:36,039 --> 01:17:39,159
Speaker 2: You can't do that where you going follow you every

1719
01:17:39,239 --> 01:17:40,319
five minutes where you at.

1720
01:17:40,479 --> 01:17:43,680
Speaker 4: We won't be together because that showed me you insecure

1721
01:17:43,720 --> 01:17:46,039
with something in your damn self to me, like if

1722
01:17:46,079 --> 01:17:47,720
you if you know what kind of woman I am,

1723
01:17:47,840 --> 01:17:50,079
and you know what I provide, how I stamp, how

1724
01:17:50,239 --> 01:17:52,039
you know what I'm saying my self worth, then I

1725
01:17:52,119 --> 01:17:54,159
feel like if you got all that ship going on,

1726
01:17:54,239 --> 01:17:56,720
I had dealt with somebody before like that, and it

1727
01:17:56,920 --> 01:17:59,399
just grinds my gears because I could be having an

1728
01:17:59,439 --> 01:18:03,039
excellent day. They like, send me a picture. They're like, damn,

1729
01:18:03,119 --> 01:18:04,680
you just exposing.

1730
01:18:04,199 --> 01:18:06,680
Speaker 3: Everything, ain't you. I'm like, damn, this is my my

1731
01:18:06,760 --> 01:18:09,520
fucking body. I aren't exposing ship. Ain't no nipples out,

1732
01:18:09,640 --> 01:18:10,880
ain't no right.

1733
01:18:11,199 --> 01:18:11,800
Speaker 2: This is just me.

1734
01:18:12,279 --> 01:18:15,319
Speaker 4: If I work out and I love how I look,

1735
01:18:15,680 --> 01:18:17,520
I feel like as a woman we should embrace it.

1736
01:18:17,560 --> 01:18:20,640
It's people that's bigger than me that love who they

1737
01:18:20,720 --> 01:18:23,600
are and they were some more whatever, and I be

1738
01:18:23,680 --> 01:18:25,479
looking at them like damn, I want to be like

1739
01:18:25,600 --> 01:18:27,399
that I want to have that confidence.

1740
01:18:28,239 --> 01:18:36,000
Speaker 3: No, I'm not here sure now of that confidence.

1741
01:18:35,560 --> 01:18:37,560
Speaker 2: Is the type of a friend to be like you

1742
01:18:37,680 --> 01:18:40,720
know you No, No, I want my I want my

1743
01:18:40,800 --> 01:18:43,000
friends to feel bad. I'm running ten miles every other day.

1744
01:18:43,039 --> 01:18:44,880
I'm I'm trying to live here so I can go

1745
01:18:45,000 --> 01:18:50,199
ride seventeen. I want people to feel bad about well,

1746
01:18:50,439 --> 01:18:50,720
I don't.

1747
01:18:51,359 --> 01:18:52,000
Speaker 3: It didn't work out.

1748
01:18:52,600 --> 01:18:55,720
Speaker 1: But look, are we if we're friends? If we're friends, right,

1749
01:18:56,560 --> 01:18:58,159
and we and we're not in school no more, And

1750
01:18:58,239 --> 01:19:01,520
so the likelihood of meeting PEP people just randomly is

1751
01:19:01,720 --> 01:19:04,439
far in between as we started creating content. Unless he

1752
01:19:04,479 --> 01:19:07,720
brings two motherfuckers in here and now we're cool, that's

1753
01:19:07,960 --> 01:19:10,359
very far in between because it probably won't happen again.

1754
01:19:10,840 --> 01:19:12,479
So now I gotta deal with the fact that my

1755
01:19:12,640 --> 01:19:15,720
friends don't think working out is cool. I mean, I

1756
01:19:15,760 --> 01:19:17,920
gotta go to your funeral sooner because you don't. Yeah,

1757
01:19:18,399 --> 01:19:20,560
like I'm thinking about the long term, I'm not necessarily

1758
01:19:20,600 --> 01:19:21,880
thinking about the physique.

1759
01:19:22,159 --> 01:19:25,079
Speaker 2: If we're gonna try to be here until we sixty

1760
01:19:25,159 --> 01:19:28,640
five seventy, then you gotta start changing some shit up and.

1761
01:19:28,840 --> 01:19:31,439
Speaker 4: To the Georgetown market. I'm plant based, so I've been

1762
01:19:31,560 --> 01:19:34,600
plant based in September last year, we didn't do that

1763
01:19:34,600 --> 01:19:35,119
ass food.

1764
01:19:35,199 --> 01:19:36,479
Speaker 2: Now I just stay on the.

1765
01:19:36,960 --> 01:19:41,359
Speaker 5: That's okay, that's fucked too. This stuff now, I'm going

1766
01:19:41,399 --> 01:19:44,960
to get both with the men with insecurities. When I

1767
01:19:45,079 --> 01:19:49,039
was younger, I was very thin, always tall, but very thin,

1768
01:19:49,439 --> 01:19:51,520
so I wore what I thought looked nice on me.

1769
01:19:52,119 --> 01:19:54,279
And the guy that I dated again from sixteen to

1770
01:19:54,479 --> 01:19:59,319
you know, basically thirty, had those insecurities and he'd be like,

1771
01:20:00,079 --> 01:20:01,600
take that shit off. He'll be like, oh, you look

1772
01:20:01,640 --> 01:20:05,640
good at first, and then it got progressively like controlling, Well,

1773
01:20:05,680 --> 01:20:06,319
why you're wearing that?

1774
01:20:06,399 --> 01:20:07,000
Speaker 6: You need to change.

1775
01:20:07,039 --> 01:20:09,960
Speaker 5: I'd be like, okay, because I'm accommodating, you know, I'm

1776
01:20:10,000 --> 01:20:11,960
not a confrontational person like that. And I would just

1777
01:20:12,000 --> 01:20:13,880
be like okay, you know, no big deal whatever till

1778
01:20:13,880 --> 01:20:15,760
that just started getting worse. And then the first time

1779
01:20:15,800 --> 01:20:18,399
that nigga hit me, I was like, wait a minute, okay,

1780
01:20:19,000 --> 01:20:19,600
we're doing this.

1781
01:20:20,079 --> 01:20:22,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm gonna tell you what, what is it?

1782
01:20:22,680 --> 01:20:24,760
Speaker 2: What do you what goes to your mind as a

1783
01:20:24,840 --> 01:20:25,840
woman when the nigga.

1784
01:20:25,680 --> 01:20:28,640
Speaker 5: Hits you for the first listen, I felt like I

1785
01:20:28,760 --> 01:20:30,760
was in a dream because I was like this nigga

1786
01:20:30,920 --> 01:20:31,279
just hit me.

1787
01:20:31,359 --> 01:20:33,359
Speaker 3: I felt like a doll. When that nigga first hit me,

1788
01:20:33,479 --> 01:20:37,720
I was like, I was one hundred pounds. I was like,

1789
01:20:39,840 --> 01:20:40,760
straight up, I was.

1790
01:20:41,560 --> 01:20:44,479
Speaker 5: His grandmothers was in the driveway. We was in my

1791
01:20:44,600 --> 01:20:46,479
car and this is when we have snatched out radios.

1792
01:20:47,439 --> 01:20:50,760
That niggas hit me. I was like, no, ship, this

1793
01:20:50,840 --> 01:20:53,079
nigga snatched the face off my radio, jumped out the

1794
01:20:53,199 --> 01:20:56,760
cars through that motherfucker actually bent it doing across the yard.

1795
01:20:56,840 --> 01:21:00,239
Speaker 6: His granny was like no, no, no, stop on the

1796
01:21:00,279 --> 01:21:01,520
car to my fucking days.

1797
01:21:01,399 --> 01:21:04,000
Speaker 2: Like what happened?

1798
01:21:04,079 --> 01:21:06,159
Speaker 3: Why did Why did he put his hands on you

1799
01:21:06,520 --> 01:21:07,279
because of what you had on?

1800
01:21:07,399 --> 01:21:10,920
Speaker 5: Because niggas is angry, because he was angry aby down

1801
01:21:11,000 --> 01:21:15,479
to so he had insecurities. You know, he had gotten

1802
01:21:15,479 --> 01:21:18,399
out of the guard. He couldn't find a job, he

1803
01:21:18,399 --> 01:21:21,039
couldn't find a bus to stay. He you know, he

1804
01:21:21,119 --> 01:21:22,760
had a lot of ship like came home and ship

1805
01:21:22,880 --> 01:21:25,800
just kind of blew up. And my like I told you,

1806
01:21:25,880 --> 01:21:29,239
my parents was married for twenty seven years. When my

1807
01:21:29,319 --> 01:21:30,880
senior year of high school, I found out my dad

1808
01:21:30,920 --> 01:21:34,199
was smoking crack. I said, was you recreationally smoking it

1809
01:21:34,279 --> 01:21:36,159
this whole time? And we just didn't realize it because

1810
01:21:36,159 --> 01:21:38,399
he always worked, you know whatever, but you know, hanging

1811
01:21:38,399 --> 01:21:39,920
around white people at this job and shit, you know

1812
01:21:39,920 --> 01:21:40,640
white people can.

1813
01:21:40,600 --> 01:21:42,359
Speaker 2: Do say smoke, crack, What do you mean?

1814
01:21:42,600 --> 01:21:43,239
Speaker 3: I mean the pipe?

1815
01:21:43,640 --> 01:21:47,359
Speaker 2: The pipe? Okay, yeah, cause somebody called somebody called a

1816
01:21:47,439 --> 01:21:48,880
person that does coke a crackhead.

1817
01:21:48,920 --> 01:21:52,039
Speaker 4: I said that who the motherfucker who I paid to

1818
01:21:52,039 --> 01:21:53,439
get out of my left that was a coke head.

1819
01:21:53,520 --> 01:21:55,840
And when I called him adulfe and crackhead, he damned

1820
01:21:55,880 --> 01:21:56,840
to try to break my neck.

1821
01:21:56,960 --> 01:21:59,119
Speaker 3: They seriously when it came to the crack and I

1822
01:21:59,159 --> 01:21:59,720
don't show up.

1823
01:22:01,119 --> 01:22:01,800
Speaker 2: I just held.

1824
01:22:05,199 --> 01:22:08,720
Speaker 3: Exactly. I had a damn ner beat him with the

1825
01:22:08,800 --> 01:22:12,560
boot like. Ship was serious though, but like I think, I'm.

1826
01:22:12,439 --> 01:22:14,199
Speaker 5: Gonna tell you, after the first time he hit me

1827
01:22:14,279 --> 01:22:18,119
though he it wasn't like just continuous. After that, I

1828
01:22:18,239 --> 01:22:19,319
let the nigga move in with me.

1829
01:22:19,640 --> 01:22:22,880
Speaker 3: Damn after that, like some sense in you listen.

1830
01:22:22,920 --> 01:22:25,239
Speaker 5: When I said you I was in that mother seeing stars,

1831
01:22:25,840 --> 01:22:31,279
I was like to do Okay, that ship was good

1832
01:22:31,359 --> 01:22:34,840
for about six months after that, that nigga started rocking

1833
01:22:34,880 --> 01:22:35,239
my ship.

1834
01:22:35,319 --> 01:22:37,039
Speaker 6: And then once like I was.

1835
01:22:39,720 --> 01:22:42,039
Speaker 5: Yes and I had two jobs and I was going

1836
01:22:42,039 --> 01:22:44,279
to school this nigga wasn't doing ship but driving around

1837
01:22:44,279 --> 01:22:48,119
and my mother fucking pontiacs some fire not even good dack.

1838
01:22:48,680 --> 01:22:51,079
Speaker 3: He beating the ship out of her, now, yeah, and

1839
01:22:51,479 --> 01:22:52,960
giving her a beating. That's it.

1840
01:22:53,079 --> 01:22:55,239
Speaker 5: And so I like one day I woke up and

1841
01:22:55,359 --> 01:22:58,439
I was just like, I'm I'm too embarrassed to tell anybody, right,

1842
01:22:58,479 --> 01:23:00,720
because everybody's like, you're a strong person and you're resilient,

1843
01:23:00,800 --> 01:23:04,960
you're this year that, and I was, and so who

1844
01:23:05,000 --> 01:23:08,079
can I tell because people would never expect me to

1845
01:23:08,119 --> 01:23:08,720
be in a situation.

1846
01:23:08,960 --> 01:23:11,079
Speaker 2: If I tell them, then they're gonna be like, damn,

1847
01:23:11,159 --> 01:23:12,800
the person who I thought you was, you ain't even

1848
01:23:12,840 --> 01:23:14,159
that believe you.

1849
01:23:14,720 --> 01:23:17,760
Speaker 6: They would not have believed so my apparents.

1850
01:23:17,600 --> 01:23:19,399
Speaker 2: Because they think they look at her as a strong

1851
01:23:19,479 --> 01:23:24,000
jo who you thought wouldn't gonna believe you.

1852
01:23:24,239 --> 01:23:26,359
Speaker 3: They would have been like, what would you do? Or

1853
01:23:26,359 --> 01:23:28,760
why'd you stay? Why did you stay? Would you do?

1854
01:23:29,039 --> 01:23:30,680
Speaker 5: And I'm like, I didn't do ship. Literally I came

1855
01:23:30,760 --> 01:23:35,880
the nigga just came in the house and was like, question, do.

1856
01:23:35,920 --> 01:23:39,079
Speaker 2: Y'all like make this stallion? Does she annoy y'all?

1857
01:23:39,479 --> 01:23:41,880
Speaker 5: I don't really with none of the I'm just talking

1858
01:23:41,880 --> 01:23:45,520
about her that she annoys me. I feel like she

1859
01:23:45,640 --> 01:23:47,159
is a young person and she has a lot of

1860
01:23:47,199 --> 01:23:47,800
growing to do.

1861
01:23:49,720 --> 01:23:54,039
Speaker 3: But she a stallion. Ain't that a man? Yes, it is, okay,

1862
01:23:54,960 --> 01:23:56,399
because she could she be tranced.

1863
01:23:56,920 --> 01:24:00,199
Speaker 1: Okay, you tripping, but you're right, I have. But I

1864
01:24:00,319 --> 01:24:02,479
just asked that because when she got shot in the foot.

1865
01:24:02,760 --> 01:24:05,479
When she got shot in the foot, I didn't believe her.

1866
01:24:05,800 --> 01:24:07,800
I was like, no, that she lying. And then my homegirl,

1867
01:24:07,840 --> 01:24:11,079
who was in a domestic relationship, she was like, that's

1868
01:24:11,159 --> 01:24:13,600
the problem with men right there. As soon as somebody

1869
01:24:13,680 --> 01:24:15,720
say something, y'all don't believe him. I said, even if

1870
01:24:15,800 --> 01:24:18,560
it doesn't make sense. She was like, what do you mean?

1871
01:24:18,680 --> 01:24:21,079
I said, nigga, If I stub my toe, I'm not

1872
01:24:21,159 --> 01:24:24,840
walking period. If I hit my toe too hard on

1873
01:24:24,880 --> 01:24:26,920
the motherfucking edged the bed, I'm not walking for the

1874
01:24:26,960 --> 01:24:27,520
rest of the day.

1875
01:24:28,000 --> 01:24:31,520
Speaker 6: Broke my foot that was out here, Okay.

1876
01:24:31,840 --> 01:24:33,159
Speaker 3: I don't know how. I just said that to my

1877
01:24:33,239 --> 01:24:33,960
husband the other day.

1878
01:24:34,039 --> 01:24:37,279
Speaker 4: Like with a man's power and strength, once you get

1879
01:24:37,319 --> 01:24:39,439
a back ache, or once you get an ache or

1880
01:24:39,479 --> 01:24:42,800
you sick, it's like your whole life is over.

1881
01:24:43,039 --> 01:24:43,359
Speaker 2: You know what?

1882
01:24:43,560 --> 01:24:45,239
Speaker 3: As a woman, Why.

1883
01:24:45,319 --> 01:24:48,000
Speaker 1: Because monthly, y'all have something that reminds y'all that y'all

1884
01:24:48,039 --> 01:24:51,760
are human as a man. If you have something that's

1885
01:24:51,840 --> 01:24:55,439
preventing you from standing up straight, you feel like you're

1886
01:24:55,439 --> 01:25:00,000
about to die because you finally feel, you finally feel,

1887
01:25:00,159 --> 01:25:03,319
and you don't feel invincible no more. You're reminded that

1888
01:25:03,720 --> 01:25:05,880
you are here that nigga, you get hurt, you can die.

1889
01:25:06,319 --> 01:25:08,600
And I think that, and back to the health thing,

1890
01:25:08,640 --> 01:25:10,960
I think a lot of the times when niggas feel pain,

1891
01:25:12,159 --> 01:25:14,279
they think they're about to die because what is this

1892
01:25:14,560 --> 01:25:16,880
it's opposed to and then you go to the doctor.

1893
01:25:18,199 --> 01:25:19,000
Speaker 2: No, no, no.

1894
01:25:19,079 --> 01:25:20,920
Speaker 1: I had back pain for a year. I went to

1895
01:25:21,000 --> 01:25:23,399
the doctor. They didn't know what the fuck was going on.

1896
01:25:23,680 --> 01:25:25,119
And then one day I just woke up at three

1897
01:25:25,159 --> 01:25:27,600
in the morning, went to the gym. Two weeks later,

1898
01:25:27,840 --> 01:25:30,039
no pain, no nothing. And I'm telling you, they gave

1899
01:25:30,079 --> 01:25:31,680
me all types of pills, this, this and that and

1900
01:25:31,800 --> 01:25:34,079
that they could have affected my health. So I'm thinking

1901
01:25:34,119 --> 01:25:37,000
if a man was in this back against the wall

1902
01:25:37,079 --> 01:25:38,880
type of situation and he and his pain and he

1903
01:25:38,920 --> 01:25:40,399
goes to the doctor and they can't figure it out,

1904
01:25:40,560 --> 01:25:43,840
nigga might think you about to die, Like for real, man,

1905
01:25:43,920 --> 01:25:46,439
But y'all got y'all cramps, y'all gotta go to work.

1906
01:25:46,479 --> 01:25:48,479
Still got y'all they dealing with it.

1907
01:25:48,560 --> 01:25:50,359
Speaker 4: Y'all got y'all yeah, but we got to push that

1908
01:25:50,520 --> 01:25:52,880
even more to take care of the man too. That's

1909
01:25:52,920 --> 01:25:54,760
what I was saying, Like, y'all could be going through

1910
01:25:55,159 --> 01:25:58,720
a mental or physical breakdown, and then the woman she

1911
01:25:58,800 --> 01:26:00,800
could be going through the same thing, but y'all won't

1912
01:26:00,840 --> 01:26:02,600
know she's going through it because she's gonna put on

1913
01:26:02,680 --> 01:26:04,720
this fasage that everything is okay.

1914
01:26:04,880 --> 01:26:06,079
Speaker 3: I want to make sure you're healed.

1915
01:26:07,079 --> 01:26:09,640
Speaker 2: But y'all grew up and seeing a woman, even if.

1916
01:26:09,560 --> 01:26:12,880
Speaker 6: You will expect other women to take care of the woman.

1917
01:26:13,319 --> 01:26:15,760
Speaker 3: Mm hmm, you exactly.

1918
01:26:16,479 --> 01:26:17,640
Speaker 6: So I couldn't even call my mom.

1919
01:26:17,680 --> 01:26:19,800
Speaker 5: I getting my ass kicked because my mama gonna be like, girl,

1920
01:26:19,840 --> 01:26:21,279
you ain't never seen your dad hit me?

1921
01:26:21,359 --> 01:26:23,000
Speaker 3: Why that's me? My mama?

1922
01:26:23,079 --> 01:26:24,800
Speaker 4: When I call her, it was over, She's like, what

1923
01:26:25,000 --> 01:26:28,000
I dressed up one day? Real pretty like, well, that's it?

1924
01:26:28,199 --> 01:26:28,840
Speaker 3: She like, what's it?

1925
01:26:29,000 --> 01:26:31,840
Speaker 4: I'm like shit, They was like you look amazing. I'm

1926
01:26:31,880 --> 01:26:33,760
like I'm glad I look like what I've been through.

1927
01:26:33,800 --> 01:26:35,800
They're like, what the fuck you've been through. I'm like,

1928
01:26:35,880 --> 01:26:38,199
I've been getting my ass beat. I'm about to get evicted.

1929
01:26:38,359 --> 01:26:41,119
Look out hell and bro clues. They're like, whoa, you

1930
01:26:41,199 --> 01:26:43,960
didn't carry that shit? Well, my mother was pissed.

1931
01:26:44,359 --> 01:26:45,000
Speaker 3: My mama was.

1932
01:26:45,319 --> 01:26:47,359
Speaker 6: My mother came and sign on nigga and my mother

1933
01:26:47,600 --> 01:26:48,399
is five three.

1934
01:26:48,640 --> 01:26:50,640
Speaker 1: I don't want my daughters to ever feel like that.

1935
01:26:50,880 --> 01:26:53,039
I want them as soon as a nigga cough at

1936
01:26:53,119 --> 01:26:54,640
you all, we're going to get that whistle.

1937
01:26:54,800 --> 01:26:57,399
Speaker 4: If my daddy was alive, she that nigga wouldn't stay

1938
01:26:57,439 --> 01:26:59,319
a chance. Even if my brother was, he would never

1939
01:26:59,359 --> 01:27:01,359
stood a chance. But going through something that I never

1940
01:27:01,479 --> 01:27:03,800
heal from, I think like that healing part when it

1941
01:27:03,880 --> 01:27:06,359
comes to spending that time with yourself to regain who

1942
01:27:06,439 --> 01:27:09,319
you are after you've lost yourself with somebody, that is

1943
01:27:09,560 --> 01:27:12,920
very important. I mean, you sometimes create a life that

1944
01:27:13,000 --> 01:27:15,039
you probably thought you would never live based off of

1945
01:27:15,079 --> 01:27:15,640
the people.

1946
01:27:15,439 --> 01:27:18,039
Speaker 3: That you involve yourself with. You can you can involve

1947
01:27:18,119 --> 01:27:20,199
yourself with people who's gonna uplift you all the time.

1948
01:27:20,279 --> 01:27:22,000
Speaker 4: You can involve yourself with people that's gonna just bring

1949
01:27:22,079 --> 01:27:24,039
you down, Like motherfucker be saying, like y'all know that

1950
01:27:24,119 --> 01:27:26,159
song by Slim Thug with Joe All standing on it.

1951
01:27:26,560 --> 01:27:29,439
Speaker 3: Okay, we know you don't like somebody you said.

1952
01:27:29,319 --> 01:27:34,079
Speaker 2: That knows the song with Slim Thug and.

1953
01:27:35,119 --> 01:27:37,239
Speaker 4: It's called Church though, And he was saying that you

1954
01:27:37,319 --> 01:27:39,239
got to soar with eagles. You can't be sitting around

1955
01:27:39,279 --> 01:27:41,640
with birds if you want to soar with eagles, like

1956
01:27:42,159 --> 01:27:44,079
he says, look at your friends, that's who you are

1957
01:27:44,159 --> 01:27:47,199
in five years. Like that song, it literally tell us

1958
01:27:47,279 --> 01:27:49,399
that if we keep on going through the same shit,

1959
01:27:49,520 --> 01:27:52,119
we not breaking a cycle. We gonna keep on finding

1960
01:27:52,159 --> 01:27:54,840
them sane people that's gonna either bring us down or

1961
01:27:54,960 --> 01:27:55,640
take us down.

1962
01:27:56,000 --> 01:27:58,520
Speaker 5: And you know, I lack the self awareness. I lacked

1963
01:27:58,600 --> 01:28:04,840
self confidence, and unfortunately I don't. People don't expect that.

1964
01:28:05,159 --> 01:28:07,039
They're like, oh, you're so confident, you're this year that,

1965
01:28:07,119 --> 01:28:07,680
And I'm like, I'm not.

1966
01:28:07,920 --> 01:28:09,960
Speaker 1: I'm that saying here, what do y'all do on them

1967
01:28:10,039 --> 01:28:11,800
days when y'all wake up and it's not one hundred

1968
01:28:11,800 --> 01:28:12,319
percent in there?

1969
01:28:12,640 --> 01:28:13,560
Speaker 6: You're gonna get what I got.

1970
01:28:14,079 --> 01:28:16,000
Speaker 4: I go on to marryl and I tell myself, I

1971
01:28:16,079 --> 01:28:18,239
love myself ten times. I brush my teeth with the

1972
01:28:18,279 --> 01:28:21,560
opposite hand. I'm left handed and I take ten good

1973
01:28:21,640 --> 01:28:23,520
deep breaths and I keep on going after that.

1974
01:28:24,760 --> 01:28:25,359
Speaker 3: I need to do that.

1975
01:28:25,439 --> 01:28:31,880
Speaker 2: Who the fuck are you Jesus Christ? Who knew that

1976
01:28:31,960 --> 01:28:33,520
you can grew up with roaches and turn out this.

1977
01:28:35,199 --> 01:28:37,720
Speaker 3: Right here?

1978
01:28:39,560 --> 01:28:40,760
Speaker 2: You know you don't like positive people?

1979
01:28:44,920 --> 01:28:47,520
Speaker 4: If I swear that is so true, because growing up

1980
01:28:48,079 --> 01:28:50,600
I was just around like negative you know what I'm saying,

1981
01:28:50,680 --> 01:28:52,560
So me having to be a positive Like when you

1982
01:28:52,600 --> 01:28:54,760
said you spoke proper my sister, and I'm like, you

1983
01:28:54,880 --> 01:28:56,000
do not need to speak like that.

1984
01:28:56,239 --> 01:28:57,520
Speaker 3: You need to stop talking like that.

1985
01:28:58,239 --> 01:28:59,960
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I think our family at the first

1986
01:29:00,000 --> 01:29:04,359
people to clip our wings. I've been called I've been asshole,

1987
01:29:04,560 --> 01:29:07,239
arrogance since I can remember, and I'm just like, the

1988
01:29:07,359 --> 01:29:10,640
last time somebody called me that the last two times

1989
01:29:10,720 --> 01:29:14,159
my mom was once and then my cousin. My mom

1990
01:29:14,680 --> 01:29:17,359
had a saxophonist for a birthday. He had this long

1991
01:29:17,439 --> 01:29:19,960
ass list of songs that you know. So my dumb,

1992
01:29:20,039 --> 01:29:22,359
drunk ass cousin gonna be like, can you take a quest?

1993
01:29:23,039 --> 01:29:26,399
And I said that literally makes no fucking sense, because

1994
01:29:26,439 --> 01:29:28,159
how the fuck is he gonna know this song that

1995
01:29:28,239 --> 01:29:28,960
you just randomly?

1996
01:29:29,119 --> 01:29:32,960
Speaker 2: Can you play? Right? No, he has a listen, you

1997
01:29:33,279 --> 01:29:34,279
gotta be a smart ass.

1998
01:29:34,560 --> 01:29:39,319
Speaker 1: And I'm like, Okay, now that I'm older, I realized

1999
01:29:39,319 --> 01:29:42,199
that I gotta start setting some boundaries. If you don't

2000
01:29:42,239 --> 01:29:45,279
want these palls put on you, then don't call me out,

2001
01:29:45,359 --> 01:29:47,399
especially with my kids in here, because I'm not gonna

2002
01:29:47,399 --> 01:29:49,640
call you no drunk bitch even though you are right.

2003
01:29:51,560 --> 01:29:53,640
So that's what I'm saying. Like, I'm like, yo, why

2004
01:29:54,560 --> 01:29:57,359
some women not all think that it's okay to call

2005
01:29:57,439 --> 01:30:01,720
a man an asshole because of them not understanding his

2006
01:30:01,800 --> 01:30:04,000
sense of humor or his forwardness or whatever. But I

2007
01:30:04,079 --> 01:30:05,960
can't turn around and call you a bitch because you

2008
01:30:06,079 --> 01:30:08,239
being for it or you being this. And I think

2009
01:30:08,319 --> 01:30:12,079
that a lot of the times black, I gotta stop

2010
01:30:12,119 --> 01:30:17,680
saying Black. Well, black women don't understand humor outside of Martin.

2011
01:30:18,560 --> 01:30:20,640
Speaker 3: I don't even I didn't even watch Martin, but.

2012
01:30:21,000 --> 01:30:23,159
Speaker 1: I'm talking about that. I'm talking about that slapstick, that

2013
01:30:23,359 --> 01:30:26,039
that nigga comedy. A lot of women do not understand

2014
01:30:26,119 --> 01:30:29,560
anything outside of that. So anytime somebody brings a different

2015
01:30:29,600 --> 01:30:32,439
type of humor or different I find different things funny

2016
01:30:32,479 --> 01:30:35,760
they felt they feel because why why are you talking

2017
01:30:35,760 --> 01:30:36,159
to me like that?

2018
01:30:36,560 --> 01:30:38,039
Speaker 2: What? Like type ship.

2019
01:30:38,079 --> 01:30:40,279
Speaker 5: People will be like, what's your favorite movie, and I'm like, oh, brother,

2020
01:30:40,720 --> 01:30:42,439
there and they'd be like what, I'm like as funny

2021
01:30:42,439 --> 01:30:44,199
as fuck, Like you gotta watch it.

2022
01:30:44,359 --> 01:30:48,239
Speaker 3: It's just clarious. If you don't know, I don't even

2023
01:30:48,239 --> 01:30:48,880
know what the fuck that is.

2024
01:30:49,000 --> 01:30:56,439
Speaker 2: What is like, that's a great movie. That's one of

2025
01:30:56,479 --> 01:30:57,680
the highest grossing movies ever.

2026
01:30:58,239 --> 01:31:02,359
Speaker 4: The way that I have here backlash mama, everybody like,

2027
01:31:02,520 --> 01:31:04,000
fuck that two hour movie.

2028
01:31:05,039 --> 01:31:12,680
Speaker 2: I'm like, so to most black people never seen Color Purple.

2029
01:31:12,640 --> 01:31:13,479
Speaker 3: And I love that movie.

2030
01:31:13,520 --> 01:31:15,199
Speaker 4: But I used to carry around the fucking why do

2031
01:31:15,319 --> 01:31:17,920
Fools Fall in Love? On the VHS though that was

2032
01:31:18,359 --> 01:31:19,920
that was my ship, and I'm like, can we put

2033
01:31:19,960 --> 01:31:22,119
this in your VCR? They like, hell, no, girl, what

2034
01:31:22,199 --> 01:31:25,560
are you doing with that movie? Asked Yeah, I mean yeah,

2035
01:31:25,840 --> 01:31:28,399
like Color Purple? Asked I think that was the beginning.

2036
01:31:28,439 --> 01:31:30,800
We're start teaching people about lesbian and it was just

2037
01:31:30,920 --> 01:31:32,119
in decoded because you.

2038
01:31:32,159 --> 01:31:33,640
Speaker 3: Know, sug and whooping.

2039
01:31:33,800 --> 01:31:37,319
Speaker 1: You know, I just think that motherfuckers get a WHOOPI Goldberg,

2040
01:31:37,399 --> 01:31:40,319
WHOOPI Goldberg, and Oprah passes all these movies, they y'all

2041
01:31:40,359 --> 01:31:44,720
because Beloved was asked too, like yeah, what.

2042
01:31:44,800 --> 01:31:47,159
Speaker 4: About the Tyler Perry ship though, how he bringing black

2043
01:31:47,199 --> 01:31:49,760
people like I mean, I heard a lot of backlash

2044
01:31:49,840 --> 01:31:53,319
about that too, with Tyler Perry bringing the black community down.

2045
01:31:53,560 --> 01:31:56,720
Speaker 1: I think that black people don't like seeing It's kind

2046
01:31:56,760 --> 01:31:58,920
of like seeing them true selves. You don't need to

2047
01:31:58,960 --> 01:32:01,039
be acting, don't be don't be showing these people that

2048
01:32:01,239 --> 01:32:04,960
are whatever the saying is is. Don't be showing out

2049
01:32:04,960 --> 01:32:07,319
in front of these people. They don't want the trauma

2050
01:32:07,399 --> 01:32:09,920
to be broadcasted like that. There's an audience for it.

2051
01:32:09,960 --> 01:32:11,880
And I think that a lot of people ignore that

2052
01:32:12,319 --> 01:32:15,439
there is a specific audience for this shit because every

2053
01:32:15,439 --> 01:32:17,720
time the nigga posts some shit on Netflix or et

2054
01:32:18,560 --> 01:32:18,920
watch that.

2055
01:32:19,960 --> 01:32:20,720
Speaker 3: I never watched it.

2056
01:32:20,800 --> 01:32:23,520
Speaker 5: So when I started doing comedy, I went to it

2057
01:32:23,640 --> 01:32:27,119
was predominantly white people, right, And I know that I

2058
01:32:27,199 --> 01:32:27,399
have a.

2059
01:32:27,399 --> 01:32:28,439
Speaker 6: Strange sense of humor.

2060
01:32:28,439 --> 01:32:30,640
Speaker 5: I'm kind of morbid a little bit sometimes, and things

2061
01:32:30,720 --> 01:32:33,279
like that white people ate that shit up. The first

2062
01:32:33,359 --> 01:32:36,880
time that the first time I did, uh, you know,

2063
01:32:37,279 --> 01:32:39,760
majority black audience, I was nervous. I had never been

2064
01:32:39,800 --> 01:32:43,119
nervous before. But black people are not gonna give y'all

2065
01:32:43,119 --> 01:32:46,680
ass no charity laughs. Okay, So I was scared because

2066
01:32:46,680 --> 01:32:48,479
I was like man, I'm not really fun I never

2067
01:32:48,520 --> 01:32:49,880
really thought I was funny. I'd just be up there

2068
01:32:49,920 --> 01:32:52,239
talking my shit. But it was just like I was

2069
01:32:52,359 --> 01:32:54,840
nervous because I'm like, you know, black people are gonna

2070
01:32:54,920 --> 01:32:56,760
judge me. They're gonna judge how I'm dressed, They're gonna

2071
01:32:56,840 --> 01:32:59,079
judge how I stand, They're gonna judge my edges, what

2072
01:32:59,239 --> 01:33:00,560
you're saying everything.

2073
01:33:01,680 --> 01:33:02,960
Speaker 2: They gonna look at you. Are you black?

2074
01:33:03,159 --> 01:33:05,039
Speaker 3: There you go, yeah, that's as soon as you say

2075
01:33:05,079 --> 01:33:06,520
something like gonna black, she's not black.

2076
01:33:06,680 --> 01:33:09,399
Speaker 5: So the thing is, when I would do these shows,

2077
01:33:10,000 --> 01:33:12,600
almost every white male comedian would get up there and

2078
01:33:12,680 --> 01:33:17,199
do one of those. And so I remember I was

2079
01:33:17,279 --> 01:33:19,479
so pissed off one day that I got up to

2080
01:33:19,560 --> 01:33:21,239
do my set and I said, you know, I really

2081
01:33:21,319 --> 01:33:24,000
want to know where are you meeting these black people,

2082
01:33:24,039 --> 01:33:26,159
because I don't know any black women that behaved that way.

2083
01:33:27,279 --> 01:33:29,199
I don't know any black women that are walking around

2084
01:33:30,479 --> 01:33:36,640
hitting a scalpery even when I visited the hood, but

2085
01:33:36,720 --> 01:33:40,479
I visited mom like that might be one out of

2086
01:33:40,560 --> 01:33:47,760
one hundred. But even the hook, even the hoods had coops,

2087
01:33:48,279 --> 01:33:51,119
you know what I'm saying, They had some kind of coofs.

2088
01:33:51,560 --> 01:33:51,840
Speaker 2: I think.

2089
01:33:51,920 --> 01:33:54,359
Speaker 1: I think the first time, the first time I saw

2090
01:33:54,439 --> 01:33:56,960
activity like that is when I moved to Atlanta, and

2091
01:33:57,039 --> 01:33:57,960
I didn't see it from women.

2092
01:33:58,000 --> 01:33:58,840
Speaker 2: I saw it from gay men.

2093
01:33:59,239 --> 01:34:00,760
Speaker 6: Exactly, who are are you emulating?

2094
01:34:01,199 --> 01:34:02,960
Speaker 2: My wife asked, the shit, It's like, who the fuck

2095
01:34:03,039 --> 01:34:05,279
are they even? Because it's not they're not acting like women,

2096
01:34:05,319 --> 01:34:06,399
because women don't act like that.

2097
01:34:06,760 --> 01:34:08,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, they take it to a whole other level.

2098
01:34:09,079 --> 01:34:11,640
Speaker 2: I saw a gay bomb the first day I was

2099
01:34:11,680 --> 01:34:15,399
in Atlanta. The nigga had his shirt and his shirt.

2100
01:34:15,399 --> 01:34:18,560
Speaker 3: Like gonna show up.

2101
01:34:19,720 --> 01:34:23,640
Speaker 2: I was very interesting, not interested, very interesting. I just

2102
01:34:23,840 --> 01:34:24,239
my mom.

2103
01:34:24,520 --> 01:34:26,800
Speaker 7: When I was growing up, my mom had best friends

2104
01:34:26,880 --> 01:34:30,479
that was like gay, and the gay guys back then

2105
01:34:30,680 --> 01:34:34,079
are totally different than the gay. Oh yeah, it gay me.

2106
01:34:34,159 --> 01:34:35,800
And back then you didn't even know they was gay

2107
01:34:36,199 --> 01:34:37,560
unless they told you they was gay.

2108
01:34:38,279 --> 01:34:41,279
Speaker 5: He would have been one the hairdresser and that, like

2109
01:34:41,399 --> 01:34:43,319
it was just an unspoken thing, like you knew he

2110
01:34:43,479 --> 01:34:45,239
was gay. This nigga in here doing hair, but he's

2111
01:34:45,239 --> 01:34:46,199
still dressed as a man.

2112
01:34:46,319 --> 01:34:48,600
Speaker 3: The first sound you sound like girl.

2113
01:34:48,720 --> 01:34:52,319
Speaker 1: My mom went to school with Jesse Powell, really and

2114
01:34:52,439 --> 01:34:56,239
when that song came out, I found he gay.

2115
01:34:56,279 --> 01:34:58,399
Speaker 2: You know that, right, I said, what.

2116
01:34:58,960 --> 01:35:01,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's my favorite song too, But you will never know.

2117
01:35:03,039 --> 01:35:05,680
Speaker 4: No, but the motherfucker I would ever know who was

2118
01:35:05,720 --> 01:35:07,520
the dude that sings the song and said I'm a

2119
01:35:07,600 --> 01:35:11,239
man now. You know what I'm talking about in the church.

2120
01:35:11,560 --> 01:35:14,359
It's a it's a is he it's a man, but

2121
01:35:14,520 --> 01:35:17,560
he sounds like a woman. And he say, I'm a man.

2122
01:35:17,560 --> 01:35:18,520
Speaker 3: Now in a song.

2123
01:35:18,640 --> 01:35:22,000
Speaker 2: But like you know, it's the old school.

2124
01:35:22,239 --> 01:35:23,960
Speaker 3: It's an old school song. And he's singing.

2125
01:35:24,439 --> 01:35:28,439
Speaker 2: I'll be sure, no, sure, no, he's not sure.

2126
01:35:29,199 --> 01:35:31,399
Speaker 3: What's is? Damn No, I'm for real. He is singing.

2127
01:35:31,520 --> 01:35:33,840
He starts singing, and in the background he say, I'm

2128
01:35:33,880 --> 01:35:35,640
a man now. But this whole time I was I'm

2129
01:35:35,680 --> 01:35:37,920
thinking it was a woman, and I never really there

2130
01:35:38,000 --> 01:35:41,880
you get I won that. Yeah, that's the song. That's

2131
01:35:41,920 --> 01:35:46,640
the song, the song that was crazy. I don't know what.

2132
01:35:50,960 --> 01:35:52,119
Speaker 2: Y'all got life sucked up.

2133
01:35:54,920 --> 01:35:56,840
Speaker 3: Time sitting.

2134
01:35:58,000 --> 01:36:00,880
Speaker 2: I think who was playing at your dad, your stepdaddy?

2135
01:36:00,960 --> 01:36:05,159
Speaker 3: No, no, the elder bars, elder, bar, there you go, bar,

2136
01:36:05,560 --> 01:36:05,960
there you go.

2137
01:36:06,159 --> 01:36:08,479
Speaker 4: My mama played it, and I would I never paid

2138
01:36:08,520 --> 01:36:10,800
attention to Maniga.

2139
01:36:10,920 --> 01:36:11,359
Speaker 2: It was.

2140
01:36:13,039 --> 01:36:15,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, who the fuck is this woman? She was like,

2141
01:36:15,479 --> 01:36:16,119
that's a man.

2142
01:36:17,000 --> 01:36:19,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, what our old school singers sound.

2143
01:36:19,560 --> 01:36:22,479
Speaker 3: Like they had that they did, but that was normal.

2144
01:36:22,560 --> 01:36:25,079
Speaker 6: So I think I thought Tim's was a man. And

2145
01:36:25,760 --> 01:36:27,600
to my dad was like, no, that's a woman.

2146
01:36:28,199 --> 01:36:31,279
Speaker 4: My husband was like that's he was like, look at her,

2147
01:36:31,520 --> 01:36:33,359
that's a woman. I'm like, yeah, she built like a

2148
01:36:33,479 --> 01:36:35,720
staging for real, big motherfucker.

2149
01:36:36,079 --> 01:36:36,279
Speaker 2: You know.

2150
01:36:36,439 --> 01:36:38,720
Speaker 6: I thought she was so much taller, she's my height.

2151
01:36:39,159 --> 01:36:40,720
Speaker 5: Really yeah, And I said, I wonder if that's how

2152
01:36:40,760 --> 01:36:42,520
my fuckers be looking at me, like that's a big bitch.

2153
01:36:44,039 --> 01:36:46,800
Probably what got I went out Saturday. I had on

2154
01:36:46,880 --> 01:36:52,119
some five minu chills. Probably every short man climbed that tree.

2155
01:36:52,239 --> 01:36:54,439
Speaker 3: Hello, I bet they were. They drink that water. This

2156
01:36:54,560 --> 01:36:55,159
tree is not for.

2157
01:36:55,840 --> 01:37:00,319
Speaker 2: Should have said, I snatched doors off and run. Yeah.

2158
01:37:00,399 --> 01:37:03,199
Speaker 6: And I told I told this little man. I was like, sorry, listen,

2159
01:37:04,039 --> 01:37:04,640
all that's true.

2160
01:37:06,159 --> 01:37:09,720
Speaker 3: I had, little man, I will bench press you.

2161
01:37:09,960 --> 01:37:12,680
Speaker 7: You was there when I told yeah, you caught a

2162
01:37:12,720 --> 01:37:15,960
little that guy in the room doing comedy. I said, damn,

2163
01:37:16,119 --> 01:37:19,119
And he felt small. He had to get back mask

2164
01:37:19,359 --> 01:37:20,439
a little bit with.

2165
01:37:20,600 --> 01:37:22,560
Speaker 3: No bas in your voice. Let your balls drop, deer.

2166
01:37:25,000 --> 01:37:27,800
Speaker 1: This has been this was more entertaining than I thought

2167
01:37:27,840 --> 01:37:30,880
it would be. I ain't gonna fo I hate recording

2168
01:37:30,920 --> 01:37:31,319
with people.

2169
01:37:32,000 --> 01:37:34,720
Speaker 3: We know you told us that if you do, this

2170
01:37:35,000 --> 01:37:35,640
is true.

2171
01:37:36,159 --> 01:37:39,199
Speaker 2: Because you know why, because people think that they are

2172
01:37:39,319 --> 01:37:40,840
fucking celebrities bro.

2173
01:37:40,960 --> 01:37:45,000
Speaker 1: Like they have this this or like the best thing

2174
01:37:45,119 --> 01:37:47,600
in the world type ship. You know how you said

2175
01:37:47,720 --> 01:37:50,039
that you don't know, you said. You just post what

2176
01:37:50,119 --> 01:37:54,279
you post and then it just comes pause. Some people,

2177
01:37:55,640 --> 01:38:01,800
some people, I think that they are talented because that happens.

2178
01:38:02,439 --> 01:38:03,960
So I've been looking at women. I'm like, you know,

2179
01:38:04,039 --> 01:38:09,720
they're following you because they want to fuck. Yeah, okay,

2180
01:38:09,920 --> 01:38:10,960
you're like whatever.

2181
01:38:11,039 --> 01:38:13,000
Speaker 5: People get so mad that I don't have only fans

2182
01:38:13,119 --> 01:38:16,920
what I want to want. I'm on here in a bikini.

2183
01:38:17,720 --> 01:38:20,800
I work out. I did bodybuilding. All the poses I

2184
01:38:20,840 --> 01:38:26,560
didn't even give. I said I didn't even give. I'll

2185
01:38:26,680 --> 01:38:31,680
post posted skinny. I'll posted when I was muscular. You

2186
01:38:31,800 --> 01:38:37,800
trying to see I've got okay little to work video

2187
01:38:37,920 --> 01:38:39,840
on here when I because I used to teach poldings

2188
01:38:39,840 --> 01:38:40,760
and classes.

2189
01:38:40,399 --> 01:38:44,159
Speaker 3: Too, and you wonder why they think what you can

2190
01:38:44,239 --> 01:38:45,600
do on all listen.

2191
01:38:45,600 --> 01:38:47,880
Speaker 5: I am an accountant. I used to work for the

2192
01:38:47,960 --> 01:38:49,920
I R. S. I am a nerd account for me

2193
01:38:50,000 --> 01:38:55,600
wanting to fuck. That's fine because I'm not naive to

2194
01:38:55,720 --> 01:39:00,239
that exactly. I'm not naive to that. But I'm not

2195
01:39:00,359 --> 01:39:02,199
doing on only fans because I have a career. I

2196
01:39:02,279 --> 01:39:05,159
have a real job, and I'm not discrediting or discounting

2197
01:39:05,239 --> 01:39:05,760
only fans.

2198
01:39:06,039 --> 01:39:06,800
Speaker 3: Get it, how you live.

2199
01:39:07,199 --> 01:39:09,199
Speaker 6: I'm just not gonna be pussy popping on the head stick.

2200
01:39:09,319 --> 01:39:12,199
Speaker 2: I'm not out of money. Six six billion.

2201
01:39:12,439 --> 01:39:15,039
Speaker 3: Every time I think about it, I'd be like, I'll

2202
01:39:15,079 --> 01:39:18,039
just be, but I don't want to live with that.

2203
01:39:19,039 --> 01:39:20,960
Speaker 1: Mother fucking will be the one example where they make

2204
01:39:21,000 --> 01:39:22,640
all these videos and don't make no money.

2205
01:39:22,720 --> 01:39:26,399
Speaker 6: Not here, some bitches.

2206
01:39:26,439 --> 01:39:27,079
Speaker 3: He can't do it right.

2207
01:39:27,119 --> 01:39:29,520
Speaker 4: And I was like, I ain't no all that for nothing,

2208
01:39:29,920 --> 01:39:33,039
nothing for twenty dollars everybody three years paying five hundred

2209
01:39:33,119 --> 01:39:33,479
you hear.

2210
01:39:33,520 --> 01:39:35,479
Speaker 2: Me, three dollars? Crazy?

2211
01:39:35,680 --> 01:39:40,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, Threads, the whole Threads is now ship.

2212
01:39:40,600 --> 01:39:43,279
Speaker 4: They can go on there and pop some koochies like

2213
01:39:43,640 --> 01:39:46,880
I'm saying, like yeah, Twitter and thrests, but Threads, if

2214
01:39:46,920 --> 01:39:47,640
you got it in your.

2215
01:39:47,640 --> 01:39:50,319
Speaker 3: Man, I'm gonna say, whatever monetization you can get.

2216
01:39:50,199 --> 01:39:52,159
Speaker 2: Paid from three you can post porn on Threads, man.

2217
01:39:52,239 --> 01:39:56,880
Speaker 3: I mean, I'll be saying, bitches, that's my post. I'm sorry.

2218
01:39:56,960 --> 01:40:00,439
Speaker 5: I don't know you could post porn on anything. You can,

2219
01:40:00,680 --> 01:40:03,279
like I get flagged for. You know, some of my

2220
01:40:03,399 --> 01:40:05,840
model pictures, like the chocolate shoot, they flag of my

2221
01:40:05,880 --> 01:40:08,239
ship all the time, and I said, it's somebody on

2222
01:40:08,359 --> 01:40:11,000
here literally much ass. You know what's crazy is I

2223
01:40:11,159 --> 01:40:12,760
normally I never turned around in my pictures.

2224
01:40:12,840 --> 01:40:15,359
Speaker 2: It's too much. We got.

2225
01:40:17,359 --> 01:40:18,079
Speaker 3: Then dropped you.

2226
01:40:18,279 --> 01:40:23,119
Speaker 2: I've seen I've seen the girl pull the her bikini

2227
01:40:23,319 --> 01:40:24,920
to where the list was. Mother.

2228
01:40:26,600 --> 01:40:29,800
Speaker 4: I have seen a chick on Instagram put a deal

2229
01:40:29,920 --> 01:40:32,920
though inside her swimming suit and she got prince and

2230
01:40:33,000 --> 01:40:34,960
she just popping like this with it in there.

2231
01:40:35,079 --> 01:40:36,399
Speaker 3: Take the damn deal though out.

2232
01:40:36,600 --> 01:40:40,000
Speaker 1: Honestly, I've seen the girl with the motherfucking sheer skirt

2233
01:40:40,119 --> 01:40:41,520
on and her pussy lips.

2234
01:40:41,560 --> 01:40:45,279
Speaker 2: You can see it. I haven't seen nothing. Does y'all

2235
01:40:45,319 --> 01:40:45,600
see this?

2236
01:40:45,760 --> 01:40:49,479
Speaker 6: That was a challenge. I don't know none of this everything.

2237
01:40:49,560 --> 01:40:51,199
Speaker 3: To see her, it was a challenge. And I'm like,

2238
01:40:51,279 --> 01:40:53,399
and y'all here trying to send to me, I don't know.

2239
01:40:53,560 --> 01:40:54,800
Speaker 6: I got it's my little chocolate.

2240
01:40:57,159 --> 01:40:59,479
Speaker 3: That was Instagram me.

2241
01:40:59,680 --> 01:41:02,039
Speaker 4: Yes A for just saying sometimes I picked my booty

2242
01:41:02,119 --> 01:41:04,199
up and jiggle it like it was a post.

2243
01:41:04,279 --> 01:41:05,199
Speaker 3: Isn't doing that?

2244
01:41:05,800 --> 01:41:08,039
Speaker 6: I'll do that. I'm gotta make sure it's still you know,

2245
01:41:08,560 --> 01:41:10,359
still there, firm but juicy.

2246
01:41:10,560 --> 01:41:14,640
Speaker 2: Exactly, I say Instagram, right, yeah, definitely exactly.

2247
01:41:16,079 --> 01:41:18,560
Speaker 1: You know I got the videos now or the pictures now?

2248
01:41:18,760 --> 01:41:22,239
Where on the videos now where it's maybe like six

2249
01:41:22,359 --> 01:41:25,560
seconds of nothing but like a millisecond of them being naked.

2250
01:41:25,800 --> 01:41:28,079
Speaker 5: Yeah, And it's like a game because you got to

2251
01:41:28,079 --> 01:41:29,880
be able to stop it to do the screenshot.

2252
01:41:30,560 --> 01:41:35,000
Speaker 3: I ain't on that ship. Yeah, really, looking is.

2253
01:41:34,960 --> 01:41:37,680
Speaker 2: Different because of Black Widow. Yeah, my shit, real different.

2254
01:41:37,720 --> 01:41:39,039
Speaker 6: I don't know why I'll be seeing ship like that.

2255
01:41:40,159 --> 01:41:43,520
Speaker 3: It's really probably pixies and some motivational ship.

2256
01:41:43,600 --> 01:41:46,439
Speaker 5: I get a lot of workout stuff, I get some accounting,

2257
01:41:47,039 --> 01:41:48,359
a lot of Excel tips.

2258
01:41:48,920 --> 01:41:50,600
Speaker 2: But you know it only pops up because that's what

2259
01:41:50,680 --> 01:41:52,279
you're looking at you right.

2260
01:41:52,760 --> 01:41:55,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, on your Google if you ever on Google.

2261
01:41:55,520 --> 01:41:57,079
Speaker 5: But why do I be getting all the dicks and

2262
01:41:57,119 --> 01:41:59,960
stuff like Google? Which Google didn't?

2263
01:42:00,039 --> 01:42:01,119
Speaker 3: What you be on porn?

2264
01:42:02,000 --> 01:42:05,760
Speaker 4: You be on that born It's somebody in that ralgorithm

2265
01:42:05,840 --> 01:42:10,520
that's Instagram be on there listen guessing that they know

2266
01:42:10,640 --> 01:42:12,359
you sing Instagram.

2267
01:42:15,439 --> 01:42:18,960
Speaker 5: No, no, like my my algorithm, like, I mean, it

2268
01:42:19,079 --> 01:42:24,479
be prints in there. But you know, fitness people sometimes

2269
01:42:24,560 --> 01:42:25,600
really go left and they.

2270
01:42:25,880 --> 01:42:29,479
Speaker 4: You know, oh my goodness, Yeah, I'm past the fitness

2271
01:42:29,600 --> 01:42:32,399
part when it comes to the left and the right

2272
01:42:32,520 --> 01:42:36,279
and just I'll just be like, you know, anything they

2273
01:42:36,399 --> 01:42:38,399
do and it gets a little out of control.

2274
01:42:38,520 --> 01:42:41,520
Speaker 5: Now, Ship, it's like, wow, okay, that's what we're doing.

2275
01:42:41,600 --> 01:42:44,880
That's not even a real fucking workout muscles at all.

2276
01:42:45,119 --> 01:42:46,359
You're gonna hurt your damn self.

2277
01:42:47,159 --> 01:42:48,960
Speaker 3: That's that's pretty much it.

2278
01:42:49,239 --> 01:42:51,279
Speaker 2: Well, I do appreciate you pulling up today. Man, this

2279
01:42:51,399 --> 01:42:53,920
has been This has been fun. Man, this has been

2280
01:42:54,000 --> 01:42:57,159
really really fun, really fun. How you feel about that, Mike,

2281
01:42:58,399 --> 01:43:02,319
It's funny, as I just say, uh, it was.

2282
01:43:02,439 --> 01:43:06,439
Speaker 7: It's crazy because this is my first time meeting a demon, Yeah,

2283
01:43:06,600 --> 01:43:10,680
my first time. She had followed the I created podcast

2284
01:43:10,800 --> 01:43:13,840
page and immediately I went to her profile.

2285
01:43:14,920 --> 01:43:19,119
Speaker 2: Was cute because you don't because I know he's not

2286
01:43:19,239 --> 01:43:29,520
Like if.

2287
01:43:24,520 --> 01:43:27,600
Speaker 1: It wasn't, I'm saying, I click on pages that if

2288
01:43:27,720 --> 01:43:31,079
you got a pretty picture, yeah, I'm but if you don't.

2289
01:43:31,399 --> 01:43:34,119
Speaker 7: Yeah, And it was like it wasn't, like, oh damn

2290
01:43:34,119 --> 01:43:35,920
she cute, let me highlight her. It was more like, damn,

2291
01:43:35,920 --> 01:43:37,159
I want to see what she about. And then I

2292
01:43:37,239 --> 01:43:40,560
seen it she did nails, and then I was like okay.

2293
01:43:40,840 --> 01:43:43,199
And then I watched a couple of her videos. I'm like, oh, damn,

2294
01:43:43,279 --> 01:43:46,520
she's a whole light out here. And I was like

2295
01:43:46,720 --> 01:43:49,239
hm hmm, okay, and then I was talking to you.

2296
01:43:49,560 --> 01:43:51,279
We got on the pot, Vania.

2297
01:43:51,720 --> 01:43:54,880
Speaker 2: Uh. We have been talking about getting you on, I

2298
01:43:55,000 --> 01:44:00,920
think recently, right on the pot just a day. Y'all

2299
01:44:01,000 --> 01:44:01,960
missing out on too much.

2300
01:44:02,119 --> 01:44:04,239
Speaker 6: When I was doing like fitness heavy when I was competing.

2301
01:44:04,279 --> 01:44:06,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, yea, yeah, yeah, yeah, because I've done some of

2302
01:44:06,840 --> 01:44:09,319
her videos. Y'all missing out on. Y'all missing out on

2303
01:44:10,119 --> 01:44:11,720
We'll talk about it when we cut the camera off.

2304
01:44:11,920 --> 01:44:14,119
Y'all just missing out on so many opportunities and and

2305
01:44:14,319 --> 01:44:16,159
and and until you meet.

2306
01:44:16,880 --> 01:44:19,600
Speaker 1: It's one thing to be on the pod with somebody

2307
01:44:19,640 --> 01:44:22,640
who does pods, versus I want to start a pod

2308
01:44:22,800 --> 01:44:24,439
and didn't having to figure all of this ship out

2309
01:44:24,680 --> 01:44:26,399
because I know some people that started the pod and

2310
01:44:26,479 --> 01:44:27,960
I was giving them all the game and they just

2311
01:44:28,159 --> 01:44:30,840
was they listen and then and then it ted it off.

2312
01:44:31,479 --> 01:44:34,479
But the fact that the fact that people have followings

2313
01:44:34,720 --> 01:44:37,560
and they don't be like you did any of y'all

2314
01:44:37,560 --> 01:44:41,960
watch Atlanta, the episode where paper Boy and the girl

2315
01:44:42,119 --> 01:44:44,239
she wanted to faker relationship type ship and he was like,

2316
01:44:44,319 --> 01:44:45,520
I'm not about to do all of that, and she

2317
01:44:45,640 --> 01:44:48,920
was like why. I mean, it's mutually beneficial. I think

2318
01:44:48,960 --> 01:44:51,760
a lot of the times people don't think about collab

2319
01:44:51,960 --> 01:44:54,840
in that way. Hey you got six months, Yeah you got,

2320
01:44:55,039 --> 01:44:57,039
you got, you gotta you got a day a week

2321
01:44:57,199 --> 01:45:01,000
for six months, because it could drastically change the income

2322
01:45:01,159 --> 01:45:04,079
that comes to our business, the visibility to come to

2323
01:45:04,159 --> 01:45:06,640
our pages, because we can sit down for an hour

2324
01:45:06,640 --> 01:45:08,279
and a half, come out with ten clips, and then

2325
01:45:08,560 --> 01:45:11,560
now we could post every single day, all day for

2326
01:45:11,680 --> 01:45:13,640
the next week, for the next week, and still and

2327
01:45:13,720 --> 01:45:16,479
we still gotta We still have to record next week

2328
01:45:16,560 --> 01:45:19,800
and this for six months. Now you've got brand opportunities

2329
01:45:19,800 --> 01:45:22,920
because the following match the likes and this and this

2330
01:45:23,039 --> 01:45:24,720
and that. A lot of people do not understand that.

2331
01:45:24,840 --> 01:45:28,800
But it takes somebody like Mike to be social because

2332
01:45:28,800 --> 01:45:32,239
I'm not, and then me to get in the room

2333
01:45:32,279 --> 01:45:34,600
and say, this is how this works. Do you have

2334
01:45:34,720 --> 01:45:36,720
the capacity to do it? And a lot of the

2335
01:45:36,840 --> 01:45:39,479
times people don't like the forward and it's kind of like, hey,

2336
01:45:39,520 --> 01:45:40,840
do you want to fuck? I don't want to be

2337
01:45:40,920 --> 01:45:42,840
with you, but this is what it can be. And

2338
01:45:42,920 --> 01:45:44,720
a lot of the times when it comes to pot

2339
01:45:45,039 --> 01:45:46,640
when it comes to videos, when it comes to shit

2340
01:45:46,720 --> 01:45:49,239
like that, a lot of the people, especially here, they

2341
01:45:49,279 --> 01:45:51,239
don't really understand that you got to look a certain way,

2342
01:45:51,640 --> 01:45:52,760
you got to talk a certain way.

2343
01:45:52,920 --> 01:45:54,680
Speaker 2: It got to be produced. And I keep telling Mike

2344
01:45:55,000 --> 01:45:57,800
the shit got to be intentional, and you talk about

2345
01:45:57,840 --> 01:46:00,920
intention a lot like it has to be gold setting.

2346
01:46:01,159 --> 01:46:03,359
Then everybody around you got to be on the same

2347
01:46:03,439 --> 01:46:06,199
accord and it can't be a lot of people don't

2348
01:46:06,239 --> 01:46:10,439
like me because I'm too aggressive with it. Hey man,

2349
01:46:10,560 --> 01:46:12,600
this is I love doing this shit out of call it.

2350
01:46:12,840 --> 01:46:16,760
I don't think it's aggressive. It's just passion. Yeah, you don't.

2351
01:46:18,720 --> 01:46:20,920
Speaker 7: But a lot of people that he that he may

2352
01:46:21,000 --> 01:46:23,800
be speaking to or speaking about like, they will say

2353
01:46:23,800 --> 01:46:24,319
that about him.

2354
01:46:24,479 --> 01:46:28,840
Speaker 2: Perfection, he's just too much. Perfection exists, Perfection can exist.

2355
01:46:29,119 --> 01:46:31,600
It's just passion. He's passionate about this shit right now.

2356
01:46:31,840 --> 01:46:33,800
Speaker 1: It could be perfect to you right now, and as

2357
01:46:33,840 --> 01:46:35,479
soon as you put it out, you can hear something different,

2358
01:46:35,560 --> 01:46:37,479
then the next one. It could be perfect again until

2359
01:46:37,479 --> 01:46:40,079
you hear it and learn something perfection exists. I think

2360
01:46:40,159 --> 01:46:42,079
a lot of the times we tell people that, oh,

2361
01:46:42,199 --> 01:46:44,880
it ain't got to be perfect. You ain't even trying

2362
01:46:44,920 --> 01:46:45,600
to get close.

2363
01:46:46,039 --> 01:46:48,520
Speaker 5: And that's part of my problem because when I got

2364
01:46:48,600 --> 01:46:50,840
on social media again, it was never my intention to

2365
01:46:50,960 --> 01:46:54,000
have a following, you never my intention to do anything

2366
01:46:54,079 --> 01:46:54,279
with it.

2367
01:46:54,479 --> 01:46:54,640
Speaker 2: You know.

2368
01:46:54,920 --> 01:46:58,239
Speaker 5: I started training people because I had a passion for it,

2369
01:46:58,640 --> 01:47:00,199
and then I realized how many people really y out

2370
01:47:00,199 --> 01:47:01,640
here bullshitting, So I was like, fuck this, I'm not

2371
01:47:01,720 --> 01:47:04,800
doing that. When I saw life insurance, I had a

2372
01:47:04,880 --> 01:47:07,159
passion for it. I had a passion for financial education.

2373
01:47:07,720 --> 01:47:10,199
You realize that people the services that they pay for,

2374
01:47:10,359 --> 01:47:12,520
they don't really value it, like that they want you

2375
01:47:12,600 --> 01:47:14,159
to give them shit for free, but then they don't

2376
01:47:14,239 --> 01:47:16,680
use it, you know what I mean. And so once

2377
01:47:16,720 --> 01:47:19,319
I started getting a following, and it was like, Okay,

2378
01:47:19,359 --> 01:47:21,359
what am I supposed to do with it? Because I

2379
01:47:21,520 --> 01:47:23,920
just be out here bullshitting and they're like, put out

2380
01:47:23,960 --> 01:47:25,439
a calendar, do that, and then I'm like, what the

2381
01:47:25,520 --> 01:47:28,079
fuck gonna look at this calendar? But then I get

2382
01:47:28,119 --> 01:47:31,640
people constantly asking me about it. Calendars, I did, calendars,

2383
01:47:32,159 --> 01:47:35,640
t shirts, various merch. Even when I do my stand up,

2384
01:47:35,680 --> 01:47:37,439
they like, you ain't got no merch, and I'm like, nah,

2385
01:47:38,159 --> 01:47:39,560
but people asked me for that's the.

2386
01:47:39,680 --> 01:47:43,239
Speaker 1: And that's the community thing I think for me. For me,

2387
01:47:43,319 --> 01:47:44,800
I seen it when I started doing a pot in

2388
01:47:44,840 --> 01:47:48,119
twenty fifteen and with ignorant philosophy, and then when I

2389
01:47:48,159 --> 01:47:51,159
started getting into these rooms, I realized that the sitting

2390
01:47:51,159 --> 01:47:52,880
around and talking wasn't going to be enough for me.

2391
01:47:52,960 --> 01:47:56,000
Speaker 2: It wasn't fulfilling. So then I started writing script and

2392
01:47:56,079 --> 01:47:57,800
then I started getting into different rooms, and then I

2393
01:47:57,840 --> 01:48:00,079
started to realize that it wasn't about the talking and

2394
01:48:00,199 --> 01:48:02,720
it wasn't about the scripts. It was about they trying

2395
01:48:02,760 --> 01:48:05,680
to sell ad space and do you have enough following

2396
01:48:05,880 --> 01:48:08,199
for me to sell ad space? And now that I

2397
01:48:08,359 --> 01:48:10,279
understand that, it's like, okay, I can put a show

2398
01:48:10,359 --> 01:48:13,840
together based off of what everybody trying to accomplish. The

2399
01:48:13,960 --> 01:48:15,840
problem is is that when you sit niggas down and

2400
01:48:15,920 --> 01:48:18,920
ask them because I asked a demon guy, yo, what

2401
01:48:20,039 --> 01:48:21,479
how can this benefit you? Or what?

2402
01:48:21,840 --> 01:48:23,880
Speaker 1: And has she had this question last week? She would

2403
01:48:23,920 --> 01:48:26,199
have came today with a different answer than you know

2404
01:48:26,199 --> 01:48:29,159
what I mean. Just but it's like, okay, if you

2405
01:48:30,000 --> 01:48:32,319
if y'all know, y'all don't know me from a campaign,

2406
01:48:33,119 --> 01:48:35,319
then now when you listen to she'd be like, oh ship,

2407
01:48:35,520 --> 01:48:37,960
Now when I say, okay, what do what? How can

2408
01:48:38,039 --> 01:48:40,359
we use this to benefit y'all and benefit at at

2409
01:48:40,359 --> 01:48:42,920
the same time, because y'all need pictures, y'all need videos,

2410
01:48:43,000 --> 01:48:44,680
y'all need content, y'all need all of the ship. And

2411
01:48:44,760 --> 01:48:46,319
I think a lot of the times people be like,

2412
01:48:47,399 --> 01:48:49,399
you need me more than I need you. Yeah, but

2413
01:48:49,439 --> 01:48:51,079
the ship that the ship that you need me for

2414
01:48:51,359 --> 01:48:53,439
is a lot. It's valuable. You gotta pay for have

2415
01:48:53,479 --> 01:48:54,560
to pass for me. You know what I'm saying. You

2416
01:48:54,600 --> 01:48:57,960
gotta pay for this ship somehow another. And I think

2417
01:48:58,000 --> 01:49:01,119
that's why I like, uh rocking with Mike so much,

2418
01:49:01,239 --> 01:49:04,319
is because Mike is a hustler. I'm a homebody. I'm

2419
01:49:04,359 --> 01:49:07,600
a creator and I'm not I don't really like being

2420
01:49:07,640 --> 01:49:09,880
social like that because I just feel everything Pause. But

2421
01:49:11,039 --> 01:49:15,399
this pot off, this part, like this episode has shown

2422
01:49:15,439 --> 01:49:19,239
me like I have grown Pause, and I have learned

2423
01:49:19,279 --> 01:49:22,119
how to communicate with people, meeting them instantly.

2424
01:49:21,840 --> 01:49:25,039
Speaker 3: And you wonderful and you know about affirmation.

2425
01:49:26,479 --> 01:49:31,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know powerful all that good ship.

2426
01:49:32,399 --> 01:49:33,560
Speaker 3: I don't know how mine started.

2427
01:49:33,680 --> 01:49:36,560
Speaker 4: Actually I had really I had bad skin, and I

2428
01:49:36,640 --> 01:49:39,079
started making my own face products. And then when I

2429
01:49:39,119 --> 01:49:41,159
started making my own face products, it was like all right,

2430
01:49:41,199 --> 01:49:42,800
people like let me buy it, let me buy it.

2431
01:49:42,840 --> 01:49:45,479
I'm selling some here and there. Then all of a sudden,

2432
01:49:45,520 --> 01:49:48,119
it was like, okay, if they are in tune with

2433
01:49:48,239 --> 01:49:50,520
what I'm doing here, then how else. I'm just a

2434
01:49:50,600 --> 01:49:54,479
positive motivational person. That's literally every day all my life.

2435
01:49:54,520 --> 01:49:56,279
I try to look at the good not the bad,

2436
01:49:56,439 --> 01:49:58,960
you know, I try to turn everything around. So like

2437
01:49:59,119 --> 01:50:02,479
every morning my stories, I would always post like greatness

2438
01:50:02,600 --> 01:50:04,359
is coming, the process is necessary.

2439
01:50:04,840 --> 01:50:07,079
Speaker 3: Like I did that probably for three six months straight.

2440
01:50:07,279 --> 01:50:10,520
Speaker 4: And I take pieces of songs and I literally post

2441
01:50:10,600 --> 01:50:12,560
a positive part of that song because I listened to

2442
01:50:12,640 --> 01:50:16,279
affirmation motivational songs. So like a lot of people out

2443
01:50:16,319 --> 01:50:17,920
here that you said, a lot of men don't know

2444
01:50:18,079 --> 01:50:21,039
that they're important. So they got a real that says

2445
01:50:21,079 --> 01:50:23,359
I love you black man. Every time I see that,

2446
01:50:23,439 --> 01:50:25,760
I posted in our attacks and friends that I do know,

2447
01:50:25,960 --> 01:50:27,399
so they know that they loved.

2448
01:50:27,159 --> 01:50:28,800
Speaker 2: You know, and somebody needed that.

2449
01:50:29,199 --> 01:50:31,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, And it'd be a lot of people that comment

2450
01:50:31,600 --> 01:50:33,840
on some positive shit like you know what. I look

2451
01:50:33,920 --> 01:50:36,119
forward to these messages every day and I thank you.

2452
01:50:36,199 --> 01:50:38,239
And it was somebody that was making a huge amount

2453
01:50:38,279 --> 01:50:41,600
of donations you feel me last year just me being positive.

2454
01:50:41,680 --> 01:50:44,079
I never had to send no picture, never had to

2455
01:50:44,119 --> 01:50:45,640
do nothing. It was just like, I want to just

2456
01:50:45,680 --> 01:50:47,359
support you on what you got going on.

2457
01:50:47,640 --> 01:50:50,319
Speaker 2: And I was, I was.

2458
01:50:51,039 --> 01:50:53,880
Speaker 5: I was intimidated by it. They would be like, can

2459
01:50:53,920 --> 01:50:55,640
I see you lunch? Can I can I send you

2460
01:50:55,680 --> 01:50:56,039
some money?

2461
01:50:56,039 --> 01:50:56,840
Speaker 3: I'd be like, nah, for what?

2462
01:50:57,119 --> 01:50:58,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, because they trying to feed to the wagon.

2463
01:50:59,079 --> 01:51:01,760
Speaker 3: But yeah, they playing her own wagons.

2464
01:51:01,880 --> 01:51:04,119
Speaker 5: That's what I'm dragging and that's why I would be like,

2465
01:51:04,479 --> 01:51:06,079
I don't need shit, I'm good over here.

2466
01:51:06,279 --> 01:51:07,319
Speaker 6: Like what do you want from me.

2467
01:51:11,600 --> 01:51:12,199
Speaker 3: Too? Yeah?

2468
01:51:12,279 --> 01:51:12,479
Speaker 4: I was.

2469
01:51:12,640 --> 01:51:16,760
Speaker 5: So I was very apprehensive about accepting those things. And

2470
01:51:17,359 --> 01:51:20,000
my mom was like, you're missing your blessing. But because

2471
01:51:20,119 --> 01:51:22,439
now I've been I'm not a social person either. I'm

2472
01:51:22,479 --> 01:51:25,680
not an extrovert, but people assume that I am doing comedy.

2473
01:51:25,800 --> 01:51:27,439
Was a challenge for myself because when I say I

2474
01:51:27,520 --> 01:51:29,439
am an accountant, I mean pocket protector.

2475
01:51:29,520 --> 01:51:30,279
Speaker 6: Have my thick gas.

2476
01:51:30,319 --> 01:51:32,640
Speaker 5: Glasses and briefcase and shit, like that's truly who I

2477
01:51:32,720 --> 01:51:36,359
am at part, and so exactly so when I tell

2478
01:51:36,399 --> 01:51:38,479
people like this was a challenge to myself to be

2479
01:51:38,600 --> 01:51:42,640
more open, to be more approachable, and so even on

2480
01:51:42,720 --> 01:51:44,680
the Internet, I forget that people are looking at it.

2481
01:51:44,840 --> 01:51:45,319
Speaker 2: I do too.

2482
01:51:45,520 --> 01:51:49,680
Speaker 5: I just be in my own world and so a

2483
01:51:49,760 --> 01:51:52,399
lot of things that I post are to help me.

2484
01:51:53,000 --> 01:51:54,600
I'm trying to try to help myself.

2485
01:51:56,680 --> 01:51:59,039
Speaker 4: But it really start here though, like once you start

2486
01:51:59,079 --> 01:52:01,880
seeing that you was having audience, right, you like, shit,

2487
01:52:01,960 --> 01:52:03,840
you don't even know how you got the audience really,

2488
01:52:03,960 --> 01:52:06,159
or how you keeping them, because some people get followings

2489
01:52:06,199 --> 01:52:08,359
and then people unfollowed. Some people get followings, and then

2490
01:52:08,399 --> 01:52:11,560
people get their page took and down. Like I literally,

2491
01:52:12,600 --> 01:52:15,239
I'm grateful for the followings that I have. I'm grateful

2492
01:52:15,279 --> 01:52:17,239
for the income that I make. But every day I

2493
01:52:17,359 --> 01:52:19,520
used to tell myself, since I worked at a job

2494
01:52:19,600 --> 01:52:21,399
that was making thirty dollars, I'm like, damn, I want

2495
01:52:21,439 --> 01:52:23,520
to make money in my sleep. Yeah this is before

2496
01:52:23,520 --> 01:52:26,159
I left, So as I start waking up every day

2497
01:52:26,199 --> 01:52:27,760
like damn, how can I make money in my sleep?

2498
01:52:28,000 --> 01:52:30,079
I bought that book, the three sixty nine book, and

2499
01:52:30,199 --> 01:52:31,680
it was just a minute ye.

2500
01:52:35,760 --> 01:52:37,800
Speaker 3: Old with it. No, not that that was the song.

2501
01:52:37,880 --> 01:52:39,720
Speaker 4: But I had bought this book and I had started

2502
01:52:39,720 --> 01:52:42,680
writing everything like I went to a nail school.

2503
01:52:43,119 --> 01:52:43,520
Speaker 3: Finished.

2504
01:52:43,560 --> 01:52:46,960
Speaker 6: I'm like, shit, I went you did. Now that's what

2505
01:52:47,039 --> 01:52:49,199
I'm talking about, Paja things.

2506
01:52:49,520 --> 01:52:51,279
Speaker 3: That's what it means. I Didne did a hodge of

2507
01:52:51,359 --> 01:52:51,920
Paja things.

2508
01:52:52,000 --> 01:52:54,960
Speaker 4: So it's like just having that mindset that you already

2509
01:52:55,039 --> 01:52:57,359
got it and that it's already yours, and you set

2510
01:52:57,479 --> 01:52:59,960
in a goal literally and you're not doubting the goal

2511
01:53:00,159 --> 01:53:01,800
that you said, and you know what I'm saying, and

2512
01:53:02,159 --> 01:53:05,000
you like literally you putting that into yourself every single day,

2513
01:53:05,039 --> 01:53:06,600
like all right, this week, we're going to get five

2514
01:53:06,720 --> 01:53:07,119
k more.

2515
01:53:07,439 --> 01:53:08,079
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

2516
01:53:08,119 --> 01:53:11,000
Speaker 4: I started off like I was really crazy, but Steve

2517
01:53:11,079 --> 01:53:12,800
Harvey said, if you get a book and you write

2518
01:53:12,840 --> 01:53:15,399
down five hundred things in that book, it could be anything.

2519
01:53:15,560 --> 01:53:17,520
Once you get to two hundred and seventy five, those

2520
01:53:17,560 --> 01:53:19,119
two hundred and seventy five is gonna come off that

2521
01:53:19,159 --> 01:53:22,279
book without even seeing it, without even noticing that it's off.

2522
01:53:22,720 --> 01:53:25,319
I had started that, left that damn job, next thing,

2523
01:53:25,359 --> 01:53:27,119
you know everything, I'm like, I need to get a

2524
01:53:27,199 --> 01:53:28,800
hundred K. When I got to a hundred K. I

2525
01:53:28,840 --> 01:53:31,039
couldn't even believe I was at a hundred K because

2526
01:53:31,039 --> 01:53:33,199
I wasn't even looking at the followers no more. Every

2527
01:53:33,239 --> 01:53:36,079
time somebody like, what's your Instagram, I'm like, this Instagram

2528
01:53:36,199 --> 01:53:37,960
don't even like, I don't even need.

2529
01:53:37,960 --> 01:53:39,960
Speaker 3: The damn you got followed.

2530
01:53:40,560 --> 01:53:42,239
Speaker 4: It ain't even that big to me. But I'm so

2531
01:53:42,399 --> 01:53:44,840
thankful that you see that it's something that you want

2532
01:53:44,880 --> 01:53:46,640
to do too. But every day I was doing that

2533
01:53:46,760 --> 01:53:49,439
looking at people, looking at their content to build me

2534
01:53:49,600 --> 01:53:51,680
up to have the same type of motive and drive

2535
01:53:51,800 --> 01:53:52,239
to do the same.

2536
01:53:53,800 --> 01:53:57,000
Speaker 2: For sure, I'm definitely gonna produce y'all because it bad.

2537
01:53:57,159 --> 01:53:59,079
Somebody just told me they was like, you need to

2538
01:53:59,119 --> 01:54:03,319
stop trying to do ship, just do it. No need

2539
01:54:03,399 --> 01:54:04,760
to become who you want to become.

2540
01:54:04,960 --> 01:54:06,039
Speaker 3: That's it. That's true.

2541
01:54:06,159 --> 01:54:10,119
Speaker 1: Like if if me me asking y'all about some ship,

2542
01:54:10,239 --> 01:54:14,279
no won't work for you. No, no, no, it is, Hey,

2543
01:54:14,319 --> 01:54:16,319
I got this opposed to me coming to y'all with

2544
01:54:16,359 --> 01:54:18,640
an idea and not getting your email a number and

2545
01:54:18,680 --> 01:54:20,800
then not sending y'all a PDF or how it's supposed

2546
01:54:20,800 --> 01:54:24,600
to work. That's who I am. I need to become that, hey,

2547
01:54:24,640 --> 01:54:26,399
this is going to be beneficial for this, this, this,

2548
01:54:26,520 --> 01:54:28,039
this and this. All I need from this, this, this,

2549
01:54:28,119 --> 01:54:29,680
this and this and this that we could do this this,

2550
01:54:29,800 --> 01:54:33,439
this is this opposed to opposed to opposed to being like,

2551
01:54:33,520 --> 01:54:36,920
oh I got an idea. Okay, nigga, everybody got ideas.

2552
01:54:36,960 --> 01:54:39,239
Speaker 2: What's that? But the fact that you ain't sat down

2553
01:54:39,319 --> 01:54:42,439
and try to like, don't don't just type of Microsoft

2554
01:54:42,520 --> 01:54:45,960
word up like that's that's what I can't forget a picture,

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you know what I'm saying. Get this fun?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this is why I reach out to people like

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Mike because I lack creativity.

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Speaker 6: I don't I don't have it in me.

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Speaker 2: So when people got he barely got it.

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Speaker 3: That's why he got him. He actually.

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Speaker 6: What I don't know, utilize your resource.

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Speaker 3: All the time.

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Speaker 7: We've been cool for a while, but we actually like

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becoming friends. That's probably happens just top of the year

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this year. That's good because you just sometimes you gotta.

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Speaker 2: Be like because you.

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Speaker 3: You just gotta be like, you just gotta be like

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we'all are thank y'all for.

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Speaker 1: Listening to this episode. I am Eric Dizzy. This is

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Mike Haney a KA mister h d himself a demon.

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Speaker 3: Hello, goodbye mss V.

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Speaker 2: Can I tell you that you call me?

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Speaker 3: V all? Got one a silber five.

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Speaker 4: I got one more thing though before we get out

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of here, and that's it, shut out. If you can't

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find a nice person, it's easy to be one and

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like that's really simple.

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Speaker 3: Though not for you.

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Speaker 4: I don't know because that's just my kids said. Though

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a nice person one. Yeah, that's it, Like, that's that's

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really saying.

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Speaker 2: If you can't find a bad bitch, b.

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Speaker 3: One who beat that beat the bad bitch?

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Speaker 2: What's your Instagram handles? They're not gonna follow it. I'm

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gonna just put it in the likes.

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Speaker 1: That never works. That never works. People be doing that.

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I'm like, bro, I'm not about I'm not about to

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sit here and try to rewind the ship. No, put

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it to where I can click it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's cool, Yeah for sure.

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Speaker 2: But y'all, y'all are light. Both of y'all are.

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Speaker 6: I appreciate you.

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Speaker 2: She's just dark as fuck.

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Speaker 3: Wow, I mean color wise.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I wasn't even talking about the color ship.

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Speaker 3: I don't see no darkness, so I only see lights

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and I got pretty skin.

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Speaker 2: So could you talk shit? Getting back you feel me.

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Speaker 3: We got mo.

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Speaker 2: See.

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Speaker 1: And this is why I like working out, because my

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next line is going to say, let's take off our

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cloves and looks.

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Speaker 3: Completely. And y'all, when I got thumb, that's what I got.

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Speaker 2: At the gates. Y'all next week, bro, that was fun.

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Speaker 3: Spanish, Spanish,