WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:04.040 KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp the 2 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:10.519 House Whisper on demand on the iHeartRadio app. Hey, did 3 00:00:10.519 --> 00:00:14.160 you know that this very program is also the House 4 00:00:14.199 --> 00:00:18.719 Whisperer podcast. Yes, this broadcast is also the House Whisper 5 00:00:18.760 --> 00:00:21.920 podcast that you can listen to anytime, anywhere on demand, 6 00:00:22.079 --> 00:00:25.399 hundreds of episodes, all searchable by topic. It is your 7 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:28.960 home improvement reference library that we build for you week 8 00:00:29.000 --> 00:00:32.880 after week, year after year. And if you're thinking that's 9 00:00:32.920 --> 00:00:35.159 all great, but what we really need is Dean and 10 00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:39.000 Tina in our house looking at the problem, you can 11 00:00:39.039 --> 00:00:40.920 do that too. You can book an in home design 12 00:00:40.960 --> 00:00:44.000 consult with Me and the t Just go to house 13 00:00:44.119 --> 00:00:50.479 Whisperer dot design for more information. All right, welcome to 14 00:00:50.679 --> 00:00:54.600 the program. Welcome to the third hour of our little program. 15 00:00:54.920 --> 00:00:59.000 We are talking about finding your style, one of the 16 00:00:59.439 --> 00:01:05.760 most difficult topics that I could possibly cover with you. Honestly, 17 00:01:06.319 --> 00:01:11.359 all the technical stuff about concrete foundations and studs and 18 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:14.200 windows and doors and roofs and tiles, all the stuff 19 00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:16.480 that goes into building your house. This is that's easy 20 00:01:16.519 --> 00:01:20.480 peasy stuff. We could talk about architectural styles all day long. 21 00:01:21.120 --> 00:01:26.439 You know, motifs easy easy, no problem interior styles, no 22 00:01:26.599 --> 00:01:33.760 problem finding your style? Oh that is something that I 23 00:01:33.840 --> 00:01:37.040 need your help with, and you you might need my 24 00:01:37.159 --> 00:01:40.239 help as well as a designer. But the point is 25 00:01:40.239 --> 00:01:43.599 this is a collaboration in which you have to be 26 00:01:43.640 --> 00:01:48.280 willing to tackle the biggest obstacle in the way, and 27 00:01:48.319 --> 00:01:52.400 that is do you have a style? Have you defined it? 28 00:01:53.040 --> 00:01:55.760 You have a sense of what it is that is 29 00:01:55.959 --> 00:01:59.519 your style? And I don't mean by raising any of 30 00:01:59.519 --> 00:02:06.200 these questions, by the way, to imply that you that 31 00:02:06.280 --> 00:02:10.159 everybody listening needs to be walking around with you know, 32 00:02:10.599 --> 00:02:13.599 a full answer to the question of what is your style? 33 00:02:13.919 --> 00:02:17.240 You know, I'm a great example of this of what 34 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:23.599 I'm saying in that I am a highly highly eclectic 35 00:02:23.840 --> 00:02:27.319 designer and a highly eclectic person. I have a great 36 00:02:27.360 --> 00:02:32.280 appreciation for all sorts of stylings. I don't have a 37 00:02:32.360 --> 00:02:36.159 formulaic look that a lot of designers or architects have. 38 00:02:36.240 --> 00:02:38.280 In other words, I like to do this when they 39 00:02:38.599 --> 00:02:43.240 you know, if I have a reputation for a particular 40 00:02:43.400 --> 00:02:48.800 kind of structure, a particular kind of creation, it is 41 00:02:50.080 --> 00:02:53.319 my reputation that I get under your skin and get 42 00:02:53.360 --> 00:02:55.919 into your brain and figure out what's going to work 43 00:02:55.960 --> 00:02:58.800 best for you, and then we bring that to life, 44 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:02.319 and so I get it. I get how difficult it 45 00:03:02.439 --> 00:03:06.080 is and how complex it can be. I don't mean 46 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:10.800 to be oversimplifying it, just because in some facets I'm 47 00:03:10.879 --> 00:03:14.639 trying to simplify it for you so you can at 48 00:03:14.719 --> 00:03:16.639 least start to get your arms around it. So I 49 00:03:16.639 --> 00:03:19.240 hope that comes through today. I am not trying to 50 00:03:19.280 --> 00:03:22.639 oversimplify the question of style. I live in a home 51 00:03:22.680 --> 00:03:26.319 that was pre made before we got here and that 52 00:03:26.360 --> 00:03:30.520 we've done an extensive amount of remodeling to, but we 53 00:03:30.599 --> 00:03:34.120 haven't radically changed the exterior of the home that much. 54 00:03:34.199 --> 00:03:37.759 We've changed the interior quite a bit. Our own style, 55 00:03:37.879 --> 00:03:40.840 the one that Tina and I kind of gravitate toward, 56 00:03:41.520 --> 00:03:44.599 is a hybrid of a lot of different things. We 57 00:03:45.280 --> 00:03:49.800 really enjoy contemporary lines, but we have, by no shape 58 00:03:49.919 --> 00:03:55.039 or form, a contemporary interior to our home. If anything, 59 00:03:55.280 --> 00:04:02.360 we have an early twentieth century of both American and 60 00:04:02.800 --> 00:04:07.159 European and maybe a little French thrown in their stylings 61 00:04:07.360 --> 00:04:10.240 with our home. And then there are a few odd 62 00:04:10.280 --> 00:04:13.080 pieces thrown in here and there that keep it just 63 00:04:13.560 --> 00:04:18.120 healthy and eclectic. But in terms of style, and I'm 64 00:04:18.160 --> 00:04:22.560 just kind of again just sharing our own vibe with you. 65 00:04:22.560 --> 00:04:26.839 You know, we've got those general style parameters early American 66 00:04:27.040 --> 00:04:31.040 cabinetry or early twentieth century American cabinetry in our kitchen 67 00:04:31.600 --> 00:04:34.600 and on our island. We have an open island underneath, 68 00:04:34.680 --> 00:04:38.720 so that it looks more like an older kitchen without 69 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:42.759 everything enclosed and hidden away. We've got mixing bowls and 70 00:04:42.800 --> 00:04:46.480 serving platters visible underneath our island. It just gives it 71 00:04:46.519 --> 00:04:52.040 that old world vibe. Stone fireplace in the family room 72 00:04:52.480 --> 00:04:59.040 and kind of a French looking cabinet that is mounted 73 00:04:59.040 --> 00:05:02.800 on the wall. Looks like a cupboard could be, you know, 74 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:06.759 a collectible cupboard, could be a t service cupboard. Actually 75 00:05:06.800 --> 00:05:10.879 what's inside it is our flat screen TV, so that 76 00:05:10.920 --> 00:05:13.240 we don't have to be staring at the black mirror 77 00:05:13.319 --> 00:05:15.480 twenty four to seven when it's time to just sit 78 00:05:15.560 --> 00:05:18.120 in there and have conversation with other people and TV 79 00:05:18.279 --> 00:05:20.560 is not the thing. And yet when you open up 80 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:24.879 that cabinet and it's movie night, then hidden in that 81 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:29.800 room is essentially, you know, a a seven point one 82 00:05:30.759 --> 00:05:35.959 Dolby atmost surround system that kind of kicks butt in 83 00:05:36.079 --> 00:05:39.600 terms of performance for that whole experience. So it's a 84 00:05:39.639 --> 00:05:43.480 flex space, but it definitely has kind of, I hope, 85 00:05:43.519 --> 00:05:47.160 an old world charmed to it, a very simple cottage charm. No, 86 00:05:47.319 --> 00:05:52.040 nothing jaw droppingly impressive about our home, because it's it's 87 00:05:52.079 --> 00:05:54.920 a humble home. It's not a big home. It's anyways. 88 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:01.519 You like it, you like it? 89 00:06:01.639 --> 00:06:04.800 Yeah, No, the adobe at most like feature. It was 90 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:06.800 really cool and like you said to TV, being able 91 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:09.079 to be heading, I thought it was really cool. 92 00:06:10.040 --> 00:06:12.560 And just tucking it away and then you know, and 93 00:06:12.600 --> 00:06:15.000 then we love our you know, we love our garden 94 00:06:15.079 --> 00:06:17.399 in the backyard area and the fire pit and all 95 00:06:17.399 --> 00:06:20.279 of that kind of stuff. It just works with us. Yeah, 96 00:06:20.720 --> 00:06:24.639 we design mansions by day and then in the evenings 97 00:06:24.680 --> 00:06:27.519 we come home to our little cottage and we are 98 00:06:27.639 --> 00:06:30.240 well content here because it's our vibe, right and there's 99 00:06:30.319 --> 00:06:34.199 chickens in the yard, and there's beagles running around, and 100 00:06:34.240 --> 00:06:38.160 there's a tortoise up at the guesthouse right now, and 101 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:43.360 there's birds everywhere. This I think is approaching kind of 102 00:06:43.399 --> 00:06:48.240 our style. It is not utterly consistent everywhere. It is 103 00:06:48.360 --> 00:06:52.279 not utterly consistent everywhere, and we change it up a 104 00:06:52.319 --> 00:06:55.240 little bit, and you know what, that's a reflection of 105 00:06:55.319 --> 00:06:59.519 Tina and I. We are not utterly consistent everywhere we 106 00:06:59.639 --> 00:07:03.439 like to say I like to say especially you know, 107 00:07:04.040 --> 00:07:08.199 I don't deal in hypocrisy. It's very very important that 108 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:13.079 I that I for me personally, that I say what 109 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:15.759 I mean, and I mean what I say. But I also, 110 00:07:16.519 --> 00:07:19.600 in an attempt at being as humble as possible, I 111 00:07:19.680 --> 00:07:23.040 reserve the right to disagree with my former self whenever 112 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:28.079 it suits me. So I'm not utterly consistent with everything, 113 00:07:28.399 --> 00:07:32.040 and you don't have to be either, okay, Because if 114 00:07:32.079 --> 00:07:35.600 you are not in and of yourself utterly consistent in 115 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:39.959 everything in your life, your style is that. Okay. So 116 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:44.319 that's the general parameters and the outlines for what we're 117 00:07:44.360 --> 00:07:49.040 talking about when we address this subject of finding your style. 118 00:07:49.279 --> 00:07:53.079 There's one tricky question left and then and then I've 119 00:07:53.120 --> 00:07:56.040 got some other tips for you along the way. But 120 00:07:56.519 --> 00:07:59.439 one tricky question that I find a lot of people 121 00:07:59.480 --> 00:08:02.839 are concerned, and that is what if my style conflicts 122 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:06.759 with my neighbor's style. Now, I'm assuming what we're talking 123 00:08:06.759 --> 00:08:09.399 about is the outside of the house here, So let's 124 00:08:09.399 --> 00:08:12.199 have that conversation. We'll do it, But first. 125 00:08:13.000 --> 00:08:16.319 You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 126 00:08:16.399 --> 00:08:17.920 KFI AM six forty. 127 00:08:19.600 --> 00:08:23.160 Glad that you are aboard, Happy that you're here listening 128 00:08:23.199 --> 00:08:25.959 to us as we talk about all things your home, 129 00:08:26.480 --> 00:08:30.959 especially taking your ordinary house and transforming it into an 130 00:08:31.040 --> 00:08:35.919 extraordinary home. And we do that through step by step 131 00:08:35.960 --> 00:08:39.919 process of discovering your style. And that is the big 132 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:43.320 topic that we are attempting to take a chunk out 133 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:45.519 of today. And it's only a chunk that we can 134 00:08:45.559 --> 00:08:50.080 take out of it because it's it's a deep, extensive 135 00:08:50.159 --> 00:08:52.639 subject because it has to do with you, and you're 136 00:08:52.679 --> 00:08:56.440 deep and complicated, and so what I'm trying to do 137 00:08:56.519 --> 00:08:59.480 is not oversimplify it, but simplify it enough so that 138 00:08:59.519 --> 00:09:01.399 you can start to get your arms around it, because 139 00:09:01.399 --> 00:09:04.120 I don't want you to be intimidated by the idea 140 00:09:04.120 --> 00:09:06.399 of like, oh, I've got to find my style. What 141 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:09.120 is my style? I don't have a style. I'm not 142 00:09:09.159 --> 00:09:13.320 one of those people who have style. Well, as we 143 00:09:13.360 --> 00:09:14.559 said at the top of the show, and if you 144 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:16.440 weren't here with us, I'm going to repeat this because 145 00:09:16.440 --> 00:09:21.639 it's very valuable. The word style really really comes down 146 00:09:21.679 --> 00:09:27.200 to becoming a synonym for those things which we habitually 147 00:09:27.320 --> 00:09:30.480 repeat those things we do again and again, the things 148 00:09:30.480 --> 00:09:33.440 that we keep returning to again and again and again. 149 00:09:34.120 --> 00:09:36.639 When we say somebody has a certain style, it means 150 00:09:36.639 --> 00:09:40.440 that we've noticed that there's a flow, a rhythm to them, 151 00:09:40.879 --> 00:09:43.639 a rhythm that repeats itself, something that we can count 152 00:09:43.679 --> 00:09:47.879 on seeing that we can behaviors or a manner of speech. 153 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:50.840 You know, those of you who are fans of KFI. Right, 154 00:09:50.879 --> 00:09:53.279 if I was to ask you, you know, what is 155 00:09:53.320 --> 00:09:56.360 Tim Conway's style, you know, and you'd be like, well, 156 00:09:56.639 --> 00:10:00.759 you know, apart from his style of beach, which is 157 00:10:00.799 --> 00:10:05.200 like dangjong with that guy, right, Uh, that's his style. 158 00:10:05.399 --> 00:10:09.279 That's one of his you know, it's his catchphrase. It's 159 00:10:09.279 --> 00:10:12.000 just kind of the way he moves around, his you know, 160 00:10:12.120 --> 00:10:16.240 comedic way of doing things. Uh. And then also you 161 00:10:16.279 --> 00:10:19.679 know he has an obsession with high speed chases on 162 00:10:19.720 --> 00:10:22.000 the freeway. There are just a lot of things that 163 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:26.120 Tim does that is a very very much Tim And 164 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:32.159 so we find somebody's style simply when they repeat the 165 00:10:32.200 --> 00:10:35.200 same kind of maneuvers. And so, for you, how does 166 00:10:35.240 --> 00:10:39.120 this apply to you? Your style is not about oh 167 00:10:39.240 --> 00:10:42.240 you're you're on the front page of a fashion magazine. No, 168 00:10:42.360 --> 00:10:45.679 it's not that at all. It's about the questioning the 169 00:10:45.960 --> 00:10:48.279 you know what, what is it about me that keeps 170 00:10:48.320 --> 00:10:50.799 returning to this thing or to that thing that I 171 00:10:50.840 --> 00:10:52.960 love about this or I love about that? And then 172 00:10:53.000 --> 00:10:57.120 it's a real question of how can we express that 173 00:10:57.279 --> 00:11:01.639 better in your home? How can we be bold enough 174 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:04.320 to say, you know what, this is my life, this 175 00:11:04.480 --> 00:11:08.840 is my house. Why not let it fly a little 176 00:11:08.879 --> 00:11:12.320 bit more? Why not let myself out of the closet, 177 00:11:12.360 --> 00:11:18.559 as it were, and just be more fully me? And 178 00:11:18.639 --> 00:11:22.600 if you can't be fully you at home, where exactly 179 00:11:23.399 --> 00:11:26.480 are you going to be fully you? I mean, honestly 180 00:11:27.120 --> 00:11:31.799 behind your closed door at home? I want that place 181 00:11:31.840 --> 00:11:33.639 to be full of you. I want you to be 182 00:11:33.679 --> 00:11:38.320 full of you. And so the style search continues right now, 183 00:11:38.480 --> 00:11:41.879 right before the break, I asked maybe the last tough 184 00:11:42.000 --> 00:11:45.279 question of the day, which was, what if my style 185 00:11:45.480 --> 00:11:50.840 conflicts with my neighbors? Now by that, I'm assuming that 186 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:54.440 what you're talking about specifically is the exterior style of 187 00:11:54.519 --> 00:11:58.399 a home, when we're saying it conflicts with the neighbors, 188 00:11:59.120 --> 00:12:05.120 and Ah, I gotta be honest with you on this one. 189 00:12:05.639 --> 00:12:09.519 I'm torn, of course. I want you to be free, 190 00:12:10.440 --> 00:12:14.600 free to do whatever you want and to express yourself 191 00:12:15.159 --> 00:12:21.559 however you want. But honestly understand, I never want to 192 00:12:21.639 --> 00:12:27.440 be that architectural designer who the neighbors scowl at as 193 00:12:27.519 --> 00:12:30.440 I drive down the street from your house and they 194 00:12:30.480 --> 00:12:33.440 point at me and say you, you're the one that 195 00:12:33.600 --> 00:12:37.559 allowed them to build that thing in our neighborhood. I 196 00:12:37.679 --> 00:12:41.120 get that, and I'm really sensitive to that because here's 197 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:46.480 the thing. Neighborhoods have a style as well. Neighborhoods have 198 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:50.039 a flow. And do I want you to have a 199 00:12:50.039 --> 00:12:56.399 contemporary home? Yes? Should we do that concrete and glass 200 00:12:57.360 --> 00:13:02.559 thing right in the middle of of this neighborhood full 201 00:13:02.759 --> 00:13:08.360 of single story California ranch houses. I'm really torn because 202 00:13:08.440 --> 00:13:11.159 what I really want to say is no, we probably 203 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:19.200 shouldn't now now, given that, given that our coller earlier 204 00:13:19.759 --> 00:13:23.200 was a gym earlier, today, who I encourage? Hey, the 205 00:13:23.240 --> 00:13:26.960 inside of your place can be whatever it wants to be, Okay, 206 00:13:27.159 --> 00:13:28.919 it does not have to match the outside of the 207 00:13:28.960 --> 00:13:33.080 house whatsoever. I'll also go as far as to say 208 00:13:33.559 --> 00:13:36.759 that the backside and the rear facing side of your 209 00:13:36.799 --> 00:13:40.600 home can be anything you want it to be. Now, 210 00:13:40.960 --> 00:13:43.440 take me seriously when I say this. I'll give you 211 00:13:43.440 --> 00:13:47.960 a perfect example. I had a project where had a 212 00:13:48.080 --> 00:13:53.080 client loved Victorian homes, but love them from the outside, 213 00:13:53.240 --> 00:13:56.399 not from the inside Victorian homes. Once you get inside 214 00:13:56.399 --> 00:14:00.799 all that gingerbread, you realize the windows aren't very big, 215 00:14:00.919 --> 00:14:03.559 the rooms tend to be dark, they can be really boxy, 216 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:07.480 they can be really small, and they can feel very 217 00:14:07.679 --> 00:14:10.639 at times claustrophobic, depending on the style of Victorian home 218 00:14:10.679 --> 00:14:13.720 that it is. So here's a client who wants to, 219 00:14:14.360 --> 00:14:17.679 you know, find a way through this, right, Here's a 220 00:14:17.720 --> 00:14:23.320 client with a hybrid eclectic style. And so what did 221 00:14:23.360 --> 00:14:26.759 we do? What we ended up approaching the problem from 222 00:14:26.759 --> 00:14:29.799 the perspective of what do we see upfront and what 223 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:35.919 do we experience in the back. Okay, it was somebody's said, 224 00:14:36.080 --> 00:14:38.960 that's like a mullet right, party up front or business 225 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:41.919 up front party in the back, right, And so this 226 00:14:42.080 --> 00:14:45.399 was a mullet house. And it works like this. It 227 00:14:45.480 --> 00:14:49.399 works from the perspective of how you experience a home. 228 00:14:50.039 --> 00:14:52.679 You experience the front of a home from the street 229 00:14:52.879 --> 00:14:56.480 as you approach it, right, so that's its face. Once 230 00:14:56.519 --> 00:15:01.679 you're inside the home, you experience the rear yard and 231 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:07.120 the rear of the property through the windows of the home. Okay, Now, 232 00:15:07.159 --> 00:15:08.759 of course, if you walk out in the back and 233 00:15:08.799 --> 00:15:11.759 you look back, then you're seeing the style of the 234 00:15:11.799 --> 00:15:16.559 house there. But primarily, once you're inside, you experienced the 235 00:15:16.600 --> 00:15:19.200 rear of the house through its windows and through its 236 00:15:19.279 --> 00:15:22.759 portals and those apertures. So the point was this What 237 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:27.519 we did is we tastefully opened up the whole backside 238 00:15:27.559 --> 00:15:30.519 of this Victorian home. We did not change it from 239 00:15:30.720 --> 00:15:35.360 Victorian styling, but we increase the size of windows and 240 00:15:35.440 --> 00:15:39.879 door openings to the absolute maximum that we could, so 241 00:15:39.960 --> 00:15:43.480 that the front of the home maintained this absolute no 242 00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:50.320 question eighteen eighties Victorian queen Anne Gingerbread, look, no question 243 00:15:50.399 --> 00:15:55.200 whatsoever as you walk in. The thing that I was 244 00:15:55.279 --> 00:15:58.639 proudest of is that people didn't really comment on that 245 00:15:58.720 --> 00:16:01.559 the house had lost its because as they walk in 246 00:16:01.799 --> 00:16:05.279 and they're experiencing the inside of the home, they're stretching 247 00:16:05.320 --> 00:16:09.799 out and experience these beautiful English gardens in the backyard, 248 00:16:09.840 --> 00:16:13.759 but they don't realize they're looking at them through really 249 00:16:13.879 --> 00:16:20.000 really non Victorian oversized windows and glass doors and such 250 00:16:20.759 --> 00:16:23.759 in a way that would not have been traditionally eighteen 251 00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:28.799 eighties Victorian. So we transformed the hybridized style of this 252 00:16:28.919 --> 00:16:31.960 home so that it had all the light and the 253 00:16:32.000 --> 00:16:35.600 airiness and the openness and the beauty, and what they 254 00:16:35.799 --> 00:16:41.320 saw through that glass was beautiful English gardens. And so 255 00:16:43.320 --> 00:16:48.799 the magic of that Victorian vibe didn't let up, even 256 00:16:48.879 --> 00:16:53.320 though technically we were projecting that magic into the house 257 00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:58.559 through non Victorian windows and doors. Understand, there's a creative 258 00:16:58.559 --> 00:17:01.440 way to approach it all. And also we did not 259 00:17:01.639 --> 00:17:04.480 change the character of the house and mess up the 260 00:17:04.720 --> 00:17:08.799 flow of the neighborhood. So my encouragement to the question, 261 00:17:09.519 --> 00:17:13.599 what if my style, my exterior style, conflicts with my neighbors, 262 00:17:14.319 --> 00:17:17.880 I would tell you, and other designers would tell you different. Okay, 263 00:17:17.960 --> 00:17:20.960 other designers would say, what the hell do whatever the 264 00:17:20.960 --> 00:17:23.160 hell you want to do, And I would tell you, 265 00:17:24.519 --> 00:17:27.400 don't be that person on your block. Let's find a 266 00:17:27.440 --> 00:17:31.440 way if there is a way to give you that 267 00:17:31.880 --> 00:17:38.519 radically different vibe without you know, offending the rest of 268 00:17:38.559 --> 00:17:41.000 the neighbors on the street, if it's possible. Maybe it's not. 269 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:43.640 I'm just saying that's the way I tend to go. 270 00:17:44.720 --> 00:17:47.839 It's not that I'm a people pleaser. I just I 271 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:51.599 like neighborhoods that have a flow to them. And I 272 00:17:51.640 --> 00:17:54.119 don't want to be the one designer who built the 273 00:17:54.119 --> 00:17:57.960 house that everybody's like, oh yeah, yeah, you see that thing? Yeah, 274 00:17:58.240 --> 00:18:00.640 why did they build that here? And I don't want 275 00:18:00.680 --> 00:18:02.440 you to be that person either. I would encourage you 276 00:18:02.480 --> 00:18:04.960 not to be. All right, So there you go. That's 277 00:18:05.039 --> 00:18:09.519 my view on hybridizing that design. Now, right after the 278 00:18:09.559 --> 00:18:12.480 break here, let's take a look at some of the 279 00:18:12.640 --> 00:18:15.079 very very step by step practical things you can do 280 00:18:15.200 --> 00:18:18.759 to begin discovering what it is that you like and 281 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:21.480 what it is that you want, whether it's Pinterest boards 282 00:18:21.559 --> 00:18:23.119 or things like that. But I want to give you 283 00:18:23.160 --> 00:18:26.160 some instructions of how to do that so that you 284 00:18:26.279 --> 00:18:31.200 really get to the why underneath the what. Okay, because 285 00:18:31.200 --> 00:18:33.720 there is a why there, it's actually the most important question. 286 00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:36.079 We will do all of that right after. 287 00:18:36.799 --> 00:18:40.119 You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 288 00:18:40.200 --> 00:18:42.000 KFI AM six forty. 289 00:18:43.640 --> 00:18:47.279 Your Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper. We're talking 290 00:18:47.319 --> 00:18:51.039 about your home as we do every weekend Saturday morning 291 00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:55.880 six to eight Pacific time, Sundays nine to noon Pacific time, 292 00:18:56.480 --> 00:18:59.759 and we are a unique program that's I don't know 293 00:18:59.759 --> 00:19:01.480 if you you could put us in the I guess 294 00:19:01.519 --> 00:19:04.000 we're technically a home improvement show. Of course, we're a 295 00:19:04.000 --> 00:19:08.839 home improvement show, but we talk about much much more 296 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:12.720 than just how to fix leaky toilets. We get into 297 00:19:12.759 --> 00:19:18.400 the nitty gritty of transforming your home into something truly 298 00:19:18.720 --> 00:19:22.839 essentially you, and to tackle that today, we've had this 299 00:19:23.200 --> 00:19:27.079 discussion and ongoing discussion that we're still having about you 300 00:19:27.799 --> 00:19:33.160 finding your style. Okay, a couple more pieces of just 301 00:19:33.319 --> 00:19:36.920 general advice about this. I want to break it down. 302 00:19:37.079 --> 00:19:39.519 I wanted you know, I've been telling you all morning 303 00:19:39.920 --> 00:19:43.240 how important it is. And the reason that finding your 304 00:19:43.279 --> 00:19:48.000 style is important is because it allows the house that 305 00:19:48.039 --> 00:19:51.720 you live in to reflect back to you your values, 306 00:19:52.440 --> 00:19:57.240 your priorities, and it just becomes something that reinforces who 307 00:19:57.279 --> 00:20:00.519 you are, Okay, and so as a result of that, 308 00:20:00.680 --> 00:20:04.680 of course, styling and design is important for this reason. 309 00:20:04.799 --> 00:20:09.319 And like Winston Churchhill said, we shape our buildings and 310 00:20:09.359 --> 00:20:13.039 thereafter they shape us, and they do they have these 311 00:20:13.440 --> 00:20:18.839 incremental effects upon us as we live in spaces, and 312 00:20:19.039 --> 00:20:21.519 somebody like me, who's an architectural designer, I take those 313 00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:26.559 things very very seriously. Now, in contrast to that, I 314 00:20:26.599 --> 00:20:28.799 don't want you to get all bent out of shape 315 00:20:28.799 --> 00:20:34.519 and overblown on this subject. Here's a Now, guys, you 316 00:20:34.519 --> 00:20:37.559 remember Fight Club. Remember that movie Fight Club with Ed Norton. 317 00:20:37.680 --> 00:20:39.680 It was a really cool film back in the I 318 00:20:39.720 --> 00:20:45.079 don't know, nineties, was it a nineties film? Nineties? Fight 319 00:20:45.119 --> 00:20:48.279 Club was a cool film with Ed Norton and Brad 320 00:20:48.319 --> 00:20:50.279 Pitt in it. We found out in the end that 321 00:20:50.440 --> 00:20:52.960 both of them were the same guy. Oh, I'm sorry 322 00:20:53.079 --> 00:20:55.279 you've never seen fight Now. I've spoiled it for it. Hey, 323 00:20:55.359 --> 00:20:58.640 the movie's been out for like thirty years. Okay, so 324 00:20:58.839 --> 00:21:01.960 I'm not really worried about the spoiler. But there is 325 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:06.599 a point where Ed Norton's character is kind of mocking 326 00:21:06.680 --> 00:21:10.359 the whole cultural I got to look like everybody else 327 00:21:10.880 --> 00:21:17.759 flow and he he is actually mocking Ikea, the Ikea catalog. 328 00:21:18.440 --> 00:21:24.079 And he asked this question in sort of his you know, well, 329 00:21:24.880 --> 00:21:28.440 he asked this question. He said, what coffee table defines 330 00:21:28.519 --> 00:21:32.480 me as a person? And I love that quote, okay, 331 00:21:33.680 --> 00:21:38.960 And his point is that that that's kind of what 332 00:21:39.039 --> 00:21:42.359 society is forcing upon us, what coffee table defines me 333 00:21:42.400 --> 00:21:44.519 as a person. He's using it as kind of a 334 00:21:44.519 --> 00:21:48.799 as a vibe of the silliness of materialism. My answer 335 00:21:48.839 --> 00:21:52.720 is different. My answer to that question is, no coffee 336 00:21:52.759 --> 00:21:56.839 table defines you as a person. Okay, you just don't 337 00:21:57.079 --> 00:22:00.519 need to take the idea of design that far. Just 338 00:22:01.359 --> 00:22:04.359 here's the thing. Of course, there is not a coffee 339 00:22:04.400 --> 00:22:10.160 table that defines you as a person. But we're just 340 00:22:10.200 --> 00:22:13.400 looking to make a good choice that resonates with you 341 00:22:14.119 --> 00:22:17.720 in this setting, here and now. It doesn't have to 342 00:22:17.759 --> 00:22:20.359 be once and for all. Oh I have found it. 343 00:22:20.440 --> 00:22:24.680 I have found the table that will forever reflect who 344 00:22:24.720 --> 00:22:29.720 I am as a person. No, no, no, no, We're 345 00:22:29.759 --> 00:22:33.640 just looking to make a good choice, something that resonates 346 00:22:33.759 --> 00:22:38.680 with you, something that resonates with your style in this setting, 347 00:22:39.119 --> 00:22:43.440 here and now. Right. Like I was telling you before, 348 00:22:43.480 --> 00:22:45.640 TEENA and I, we live in a home whose interiors 349 00:22:45.640 --> 00:22:50.079 are various forms of like twentieth century design. Was that intentional? Yes, 350 00:22:50.119 --> 00:22:53.359 it was an intentional decision. Why Because we love that 351 00:22:53.480 --> 00:22:57.240 stuff and it's a thoughtful home. We've tried to be 352 00:22:57.359 --> 00:23:00.799 mindful about all of our choices. As a result, I 353 00:23:00.839 --> 00:23:04.599 think our home kind of tells our story. But does 354 00:23:04.640 --> 00:23:07.599 it tell our whole story? Of course not. Does the 355 00:23:07.640 --> 00:23:10.799 fact that we've chosen these expressions for this house in 356 00:23:10.839 --> 00:23:14.039 this neighborhood mean that we couldn't live in another style 357 00:23:14.079 --> 00:23:17.960 of home somewhere else, Not at all. We love so 358 00:23:18.039 --> 00:23:21.039 many different styles. All it means is that this home 359 00:23:21.720 --> 00:23:25.319 tells as much of our story as it possibly can. 360 00:23:25.839 --> 00:23:28.599 And that's really kind of it. And so we can 361 00:23:28.599 --> 00:23:31.680 take the pressure off this whole idea of like, oh 362 00:23:31.880 --> 00:23:33.759 if I don't find my style, I'm gonna live an 363 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:39.000 unfulfilled life. No. No coffee table defines you as a person, 364 00:23:39.119 --> 00:23:41.119 all right, So now how do we start picking through 365 00:23:41.160 --> 00:23:45.759 this bit by bit bit by bit Again? As I said, 366 00:23:46.400 --> 00:23:51.799 style is really about routine and about repetition. You know, 367 00:23:51.960 --> 00:23:54.599 I said that, you know, somebody's got a groove, right 368 00:23:54.920 --> 00:23:57.680 their groove. That means that they do something so often 369 00:23:57.720 --> 00:23:59.839 that it's made a groove in the floor, It's made 370 00:23:59.839 --> 00:24:01.880 a groove in the ground. They've got their groove. It's 371 00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:07.079 their way, repetition and routine. So start taking a look 372 00:24:07.119 --> 00:24:08.759 at that in your life. What are the things you 373 00:24:08.839 --> 00:24:11.880 keep coming back to? Start writing them down? Write down. 374 00:24:12.759 --> 00:24:15.000 They don't have to be architectural things. I just want 375 00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:17.880 you to write down things that you keep coming back to. 376 00:24:18.079 --> 00:24:23.960 I love to cook. Aha, there's a clue. You know, 377 00:24:24.039 --> 00:24:27.079 those things, those kinds of things. Right, I love being 378 00:24:27.119 --> 00:24:29.599 outside more than I like being inside. All right. I 379 00:24:29.640 --> 00:24:32.480 find myself sitting in this way, on this kind of 380 00:24:32.880 --> 00:24:36.680 situation more than I do anything. Okay, start writing those 381 00:24:36.720 --> 00:24:39.799 things down. Another thing is look to your wardrobe and 382 00:24:39.880 --> 00:24:42.519 you're like, okay, now you've crossed the line, deam, because 383 00:24:42.559 --> 00:24:47.759 my wardrobe is a disaster of non style. Okay, no, no, no, 384 00:24:48.240 --> 00:24:50.759 this is the thing. Take a good hard look at 385 00:24:50.839 --> 00:24:53.640 your favorite clothing items or the clothes that you wish 386 00:24:53.759 --> 00:24:58.920 that you own. That's fine too. Pay attention colors, textures, attitude. 387 00:24:59.359 --> 00:25:02.920 Are you sport? Is it more elegant, is it more conservative? 388 00:25:03.119 --> 00:25:06.799 Is it more modern? Is it playful? Is it beauty? 389 00:25:07.319 --> 00:25:11.200 Is it relaxed? Is it flirty? Okay, whatever, whatever. Just 390 00:25:11.440 --> 00:25:15.440 start paying attention to how you tend to roll in clothes, 391 00:25:15.799 --> 00:25:18.640 and it starts to give you just another clue. It's 392 00:25:18.680 --> 00:25:21.079 just a clue. Doesn't have to be the answer. It's 393 00:25:21.279 --> 00:25:22.400 just a clue. 394 00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:22.680 You know. 395 00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:25.400 I was surprised, and pleasantly surprised. I was talking to 396 00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:28.039 Amy King about this on Friday morning on wake up call, 397 00:25:28.400 --> 00:25:31.039 and she said, you know what, that's so true. Dean, 398 00:25:31.440 --> 00:25:34.400 She's like, I try. I have tried so many times 399 00:25:34.480 --> 00:25:39.680 in the past to wear prints, just floral prints and 400 00:25:39.759 --> 00:25:42.039 smaller patterns things like that. And she's like, you know, 401 00:25:42.200 --> 00:25:44.880