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<v Speaker 1>Hi. You know, I want to talk about something today

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<v Speaker 1>that people really don't talk about publicly. And that's not

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<v Speaker 1>because of shame, it's not because of embarrassment. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>because we can't find the words. I want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about those moments when we're not failing. We are doing

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<v Speaker 1>our job and we're doing it extremely well. But those successes,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't feel like anything. They're empty, void, And that's

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<v Speaker 1>different failure when we do something wrong, When something goes wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>that has a definite texture to it, a definite feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>And yet there's moments when we do everything right there's nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>It is void, is empty. It's not burnout, it's not depression.

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<v Speaker 1>If you look at it from a functional perspective, we're

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<v Speaker 1>doing excellently, and yet we feel almost nothing. The day

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<v Speaker 1>becomes moving through a tick list. Tick one move on, tick,

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<v Speaker 1>the next move on. There is no gap between the tasks,

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<v Speaker 1>there is no gap between the completions. Each task is

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<v Speaker 1>tipped on without a moment of acknowledgment, without taking a

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<v Speaker 1>breath to contemplate what we've just done. And by doing this,

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<v Speaker 1>we're training a nervous system that completion doesn't mean anything.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, we give more attention to those moments when

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<v Speaker 1>it goes wrong than when it goes right. So the

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<v Speaker 1>day feels empty. It feels like a vacuum, not because

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<v Speaker 1>nothing happened, but because we didn't give the right things

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<v Speaker 1>the attention. This isn't this is conditioning. This is how industry,

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<v Speaker 1>how work pushes us forward. Is not a character flaw

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<v Speaker 1>within this. So today we're going to dive deeper into this. Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Damien, and welcome to the abundance frequency. So why

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<v Speaker 1>don't we take those moments? Why don't we take a

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<v Speaker 1>moment after each task, however small, after each task and

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<v Speaker 1>really just digest it for a second. In my experience

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<v Speaker 1>working with professionals, this tends to be for three reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>There's the illusion of a finite list or pause when

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<v Speaker 1>I get through this bit, but that bit never actually ends.

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<v Speaker 1>We suddenly realize that somebody's added a load of other

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<v Speaker 1>to doos on the back end of our list, so

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<v Speaker 1>we'd better get on with those. Secondly, we can see

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<v Speaker 1>pace as performance, and when we slow down, it looks

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<v Speaker 1>like we're not working hard enough, we're not working to

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<v Speaker 1>our full potential. And Thirdly, and this is probably the

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<v Speaker 1>most subjective one, if we pause, it gives an implication

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<v Speaker 1>of feeling, and that brings in other emotions and there

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<v Speaker 1>is a concerned oh well, we'll get bogged down with it.

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<v Speaker 1>So the momentum of plowing through our list is actually

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<v Speaker 1>partly efficiency and it's partly avoidance. Let me tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me share a story about Sandra. Sandra was an

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<v Speaker 1>operations director. She was meticulous. She did love her streadsheets

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<v Speaker 1>and she was excellent with them. She was reliable. She

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<v Speaker 1>hit every single deadline, She kept every plate spinning. No

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<v Speaker 1>matter what the problem was, she solved it. When there

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<v Speaker 1>was a team issue, she solved it. She was loved

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<v Speaker 1>by the board and she was loved by her team,

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<v Speaker 1>and she came to me because, as she put it,

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<v Speaker 1>she felt like she run a marathon every single day

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<v Speaker 1>but had achieved nothing. And if you looked at her day,

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<v Speaker 1>there was not a space between any of the tasks.

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<v Speaker 1>As soon as she finished one thing, she was on

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<v Speaker 1>with the next. As she just pushed through that day.

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<v Speaker 1>Because as she put it, when she stayed in motion,

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<v Speaker 1>when she kept going, it meant she didn't feel like

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<v Speaker 1>she was falling behind. It felt like she was on

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<v Speaker 1>top of everything. And the way It wasn't from the volume.

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<v Speaker 1>It was from all those little, unrested completions in the day.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what was draining her, this was what was

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<v Speaker 1>eating away at her. So let's try something right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Just take a deep breath, let it go slowly, and

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<v Speaker 1>take one moment to think of something you have done today.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't need to be huge, it doesn't need to

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<v Speaker 1>be significant. Just one thing. And rather than moving past

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<v Speaker 1>it and think, yeah, I did that, stay with it.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened, it was completed because of you, And just

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<v Speaker 1>for a moment, let your attention drift down into your body.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you notice any faint sense of satisfaction, any relief,

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<v Speaker 1>anything like? Yes, just let it come in it's own time. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you feel, however faint, however much of a thread,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the signal. It's there. That's a felt value of achievement,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's always been there. To take a moment, don't

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<v Speaker 1>don't ticket to move on to the next thing. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning of the counter practice. That's about slowly overturning

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<v Speaker 1>all those years of compression. So what have we just

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<v Speaker 1>done that We we take a moment, and we take

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<v Speaker 1>a breath, and it closes the loop, the nervous system registered,

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<v Speaker 1>something's happened, it's done. We've shifted from the sympathetic and

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<v Speaker 1>orvous system, which I've mentioned before, to the parasympathetic in

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<v Speaker 1>that one moment. Now, if we skip on, if we

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<v Speaker 1>do the next to do, we're leaving that moment open,

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<v Speaker 1>and that creates an accumulated weight, as Sandra described it,

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<v Speaker 1>that builds layer over layer, over years and over the day.

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<v Speaker 1>This trains our body to work on a task level.

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<v Speaker 1>And so by doing this, by interjecting these moments, these

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<v Speaker 1>breaths in between everything we do, our bodies eventually learned

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<v Speaker 1>to close the day as well, which makes sleep easier.

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<v Speaker 1>So we learn when something is complete, when something is done,

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<v Speaker 1>and it only takes a breath, it only takes one second.

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<v Speaker 1>Assandra said after six weeks, at the end of her day,

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<v Speaker 1>now she closes her laptop and there is a part

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<v Speaker 1>of her that closes within a part of her body

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<v Speaker 1>says my day is done, and she relaxes. This doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>need thinking about, this doesn't need cognitive willpower. We are

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<v Speaker 1>training our nervous system to do something a little different.

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<v Speaker 1>We're untraining it from doing the Let's just push through

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<v Speaker 1>keep pushing through, keep pushing through, because by keep pushing through,

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<v Speaker 1>there is no completion, there is no success. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate what we've already done. We're not recognizing our achievements.

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<v Speaker 1>Your work isn't empty. The feeling you have is caused

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<v Speaker 1>not by your work, but because there is a lack

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<v Speaker 1>of space between the tasks. A breath, a single breath

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<v Speaker 1>where you can digest what you've done and say this

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<v Speaker 1>is complete, this is done, and that space supposed nothing

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<v Speaker 1>in time, and it gives you the best return on

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<v Speaker 1>investment you can imagine. So on Sunday's episode, we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to build that pulls out that one second in the breath.

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<v Speaker 1>So we've got something different to bring back to Monday's desk,

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<v Speaker 1>so when we start on Monday, we can handle things differently.

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<v Speaker 1>seeing you on Sunday. M