WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.720 --> 00:00:05.639 Hi, This is Lisa THOMASO from Mystic, Connecticut and I 2 00:00:05.759 --> 00:00:07.639 play Attnyton Country Club. 3 00:00:08.240 --> 00:00:09.800 BAFF Smarter number. 4 00:00:09.679 --> 00:00:12.439 Four hundred and eighty two published on March thirty one, 5 00:00:12.679 --> 00:00:13.560 twenty fifteen. 6 00:00:13.839 --> 00:00:18.879 Welcome to golf Smarter Mulligans, your second chance to gain 7 00:00:18.960 --> 00:00:22.519 insight and advice from the best instructors featured on the 8 00:00:22.519 --> 00:00:28.559 Golf Smarter podcast. Great Golf Instruction Never gets old. Our 9 00:00:28.640 --> 00:00:33.439 interview library features hundreds of hours of game improvement conversations 10 00:00:33.560 --> 00:00:37.079 like this that are no longer available in any podcast app. 11 00:00:37.240 --> 00:00:39.840 The only person that's possibly thinking about your three point 12 00:00:39.920 --> 00:00:42.479 in the world is you, So it's history. 13 00:00:42.479 --> 00:00:44.880 It doesn't even exist anymore. So you have to. 14 00:00:44.840 --> 00:00:48.200 Physically stop moving, take your four second time out a 15 00:00:48.200 --> 00:00:51.320 couple seconds, in, a couple seconds out, eyes closed, and 16 00:00:51.359 --> 00:00:53.960 then just revert back to what is my strategy for today? 17 00:00:54.280 --> 00:00:57.000 In my strategy for today's relax or my strategy today 18 00:00:57.039 --> 00:00:59.799 is quiet mind, or my strategy today is just total 19 00:01:00.399 --> 00:01:03.520 or my strategy to say is calm, or my strategy say. 20 00:01:03.399 --> 00:01:04.400 Is just have fun. 21 00:01:04.680 --> 00:01:08.359 So that's why having a strategy and being highly cognizant 22 00:01:08.359 --> 00:01:11.359 and aware of your and traps both on and off 23 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:13.439 the golf course is going to help you get through 24 00:01:13.480 --> 00:01:16.280 those situations. And Fred, I'm not sitting here saying it's 25 00:01:16.280 --> 00:01:18.359 going to work every single time guaranteed. 26 00:01:18.599 --> 00:01:19.640 There might be a day. 27 00:01:19.519 --> 00:01:23.599 Where you're just not allowing yourself to really buy into it, 28 00:01:23.680 --> 00:01:26.120 or you're not totally committed to your strategy. So maybe 29 00:01:26.120 --> 00:01:28.840 you're not one hundred percent there, maybe you're seventy eighty 30 00:01:28.879 --> 00:01:31.159 percent of the way there, or you just haven't done 31 00:01:31.159 --> 00:01:33.280 it enough so you're not conditioned enough to really be 32 00:01:33.400 --> 00:01:34.200 effective at this. 33 00:01:34.680 --> 00:01:37.359 It takes time, it takes practice, it takes. 34 00:01:37.159 --> 00:01:40.760 Discipline, and like physical conditioning, it's thought conditioning. You have 35 00:01:40.840 --> 00:01:43.560 to condition yourself to think better. And I have students 36 00:01:43.560 --> 00:01:45.400 who start with me and say, Hey, Greg, you know what, 37 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:47.599 I'm getting so much out of your coaching, but I 38 00:01:47.640 --> 00:01:50.000 feel like I'm thinking more. And it's not that you're 39 00:01:50.040 --> 00:01:52.159 thinking more, you're just thinking differently. 40 00:01:57.680 --> 00:02:01.400 Three step approach to play your best golf ever with 41 00:02:01.640 --> 00:02:03.519 the head coach Greg Loberto. 42 00:02:04.439 --> 00:02:06.879 This is Golf Smarter Premium. 43 00:02:07.799 --> 00:02:12.479 Here's your host, Fred Green. Welcome to the Golf Smarter Podcast. Greg. 44 00:02:13.360 --> 00:02:17.000 Hi, Fred, how are you? I am excited? 45 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:18.800 How are you tell me why you're excited? 46 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:21.879 Well, I'm talking to you number one, and I know 47 00:02:21.919 --> 00:02:24.400 that we're going to be talking about an innovative three 48 00:02:24.439 --> 00:02:27.199 step approach to help golfers play their best golf ever. 49 00:02:27.400 --> 00:02:29.960 So this is what I do, this is what I love. 50 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:32.120 To do, and there's really nothing else I'd rather be 51 00:02:32.159 --> 00:02:33.039 talking about today. 52 00:02:33.439 --> 00:02:36.759 Awesome. I'm glad that you're excited because I went through 53 00:02:36.800 --> 00:02:40.400 your book. I really enjoyed it. It reinforced so many 54 00:02:40.439 --> 00:02:43.759 things that I think about that I want to accomplish, 55 00:02:43.879 --> 00:02:47.400 and to me, it really supported everything that Golf Smarter 56 00:02:47.479 --> 00:02:49.599 has been about since episode number one. 57 00:02:50.599 --> 00:02:53.080 Great, great, So let's. 58 00:02:52.800 --> 00:02:54.080 Talk about it. Yeah, go ahead. 59 00:02:55.520 --> 00:02:57.879 You know, can we reverse the table so real quick? 60 00:02:57.879 --> 00:02:59.400 Can I ask you? Can I to start by asking 61 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:00.000 you a question? 62 00:03:00.240 --> 00:03:00.560 Oh? 63 00:03:00.599 --> 00:03:05.360 No, all right, let's hey later. 64 00:03:05.639 --> 00:03:11.960 I asked the questions you, buddy. I gotta tell you 65 00:03:11.960 --> 00:03:13.520 you're in New York, right, I gotta talk to you 66 00:03:13.560 --> 00:03:17.120 like yo, I gotta ask ask. I got to ask the. 67 00:03:17.159 --> 00:03:21.080 Questions, just trying to throw you off a game a 68 00:03:21.080 --> 00:03:21.800 little bit that. 69 00:03:22.159 --> 00:03:25.120 I'll go ahead, congratulations, No, go ahead, all right, I'll 70 00:03:25.159 --> 00:03:26.960 let you. I'll let you ask the first one and 71 00:03:26.960 --> 00:03:28.199 we'll see where it goes from there. 72 00:03:28.639 --> 00:03:30.680 And then I'm done asking questions for the rest of 73 00:03:30.680 --> 00:03:33.199 the rest of the time. What what What was your 74 00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:35.000 biggest takeaway from the book. 75 00:03:36.919 --> 00:03:40.639 Hm, I knew I don't like having tests. My biggest 76 00:03:40.680 --> 00:03:46.240 takeaway from the book was, uh, I'm reviewing right now 77 00:03:46.319 --> 00:03:52.479 my notes here to uh not not worry about what 78 00:03:52.520 --> 00:03:57.039 your playing partners are doing. Nice, you know. I I 79 00:03:57.120 --> 00:03:59.400 have an ongoing issue with my friends who want to 80 00:03:59.479 --> 00:04:02.599 play from money, and I'm like, you know what, sure, 81 00:04:02.680 --> 00:04:05.960 I'll play for money. I don't care. Tell me at 82 00:04:05.960 --> 00:04:09.080 the end of the game what we're doing, right, tell 83 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:11.479 me what I owe you, and I'm fine, but let's 84 00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:13.599 not talk about it the entire time. I don't like 85 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:15.639 to focus on the scorecard. I don't want to talk 86 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:18.680 about the scorecard. I don't want to hear oh this 87 00:04:18.759 --> 00:04:21.720 is for Birdie. No, this is for my next shot, 88 00:04:21.800 --> 00:04:23.399 you know. I mean it's like and if it's a part, 89 00:04:23.439 --> 00:04:28.040 it's a par great so to me, it reinforced that. 90 00:04:28.680 --> 00:04:31.720 Awesome, awesome, good stuff, good stuff. 91 00:04:31.800 --> 00:04:33.680 Yeah, it's I think it's an area that a lot 92 00:04:33.680 --> 00:04:37.319 of players and I was just doing a webinar with 93 00:04:37.600 --> 00:04:40.399 with a beta group for our Mental Game Assessment and 94 00:04:40.759 --> 00:04:43.480 Learning app on Friday and one of the guys was 95 00:04:43.480 --> 00:04:46.120 talking about how when he plays for money with his buddies, 96 00:04:46.160 --> 00:04:47.959 which is pretty much every time he plays golf, that 97 00:04:49.000 --> 00:04:51.519 he really allows them to get into their head and 98 00:04:51.720 --> 00:04:54.680 he does better when he's chasing as opposed to in 99 00:04:54.759 --> 00:04:58.399 the league. But he said, there's no question that playing 100 00:04:58.480 --> 00:05:01.319 for money, especially in guys that are you know, like 101 00:05:01.360 --> 00:05:04.040 to talk while they're playing, you know, so to speak 102 00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:06.920 and try to get into his head, it really impacts 103 00:05:06.959 --> 00:05:09.600 how he performs. So I think it's it's there's no question, 104 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:12.279 you know, whether it's for five dollars or five hundred 105 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:16.079 dollars or five million dollars, the dollar amount is almost irrelevant. 106 00:05:16.079 --> 00:05:19.120 It's the fact that you're playing for something other than 107 00:05:19.160 --> 00:05:21.959 maybe just you know, for trying to just play your 108 00:05:21.959 --> 00:05:25.439 best on your own. It's amazing how that little, that 109 00:05:25.680 --> 00:05:30.000 little nugget can really not only transform the way that 110 00:05:30.040 --> 00:05:32.519 you think in a negative way, but really impact the 111 00:05:33.000 --> 00:05:34.160 performance as well. 112 00:05:34.959 --> 00:05:36.920 What does it say about people or what do you 113 00:05:37.079 --> 00:05:42.279 learn from people? When there are those who excel when 114 00:05:42.360 --> 00:05:44.920 the pressure is on, you know, the guys who are like, 115 00:05:45.000 --> 00:05:48.079 give me the ball type of guy, and then they 116 00:05:48.079 --> 00:05:51.079 are the people who the pressure is just too much. 117 00:05:51.360 --> 00:05:53.240 And they completely collapse. 118 00:05:54.720 --> 00:05:57.519 And I'm sorry for what we're asking specifically about it. 119 00:05:58.240 --> 00:06:02.120 Well, what how do you identify if you're which one 120 00:06:02.160 --> 00:06:04.959 of those people? It's pretty obvious to yourself, But how 121 00:06:04.959 --> 00:06:07.560 do you get past the fact that if you're one 122 00:06:07.560 --> 00:06:09.560 of those people that crumbles under the pressure? How do 123 00:06:09.600 --> 00:06:10.319 you get past that? 124 00:06:11.160 --> 00:06:12.000 Sure? I think you know. 125 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:14.680 I think the first step is is golf is so 126 00:06:14.800 --> 00:06:18.399 much like life, and you can your perspective on it 127 00:06:18.439 --> 00:06:21.879 is everything. So let's say that you know, you go 128 00:06:21.879 --> 00:06:24.079 out and you play in a tournament, whether it's against 129 00:06:24.079 --> 00:06:28.000 your friends or if it's in competition at whatever level. 130 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:31.879 And you allow that round where. 131 00:06:31.680 --> 00:06:35.199 You think you had a very poor performance, maybe based 132 00:06:35.240 --> 00:06:37.439 on one particular swing that may have cost you the 133 00:06:37.480 --> 00:06:40.360 match at the end of the round to really impact 134 00:06:40.519 --> 00:06:44.160 how you view yourself as as a player. And I 135 00:06:44.160 --> 00:06:47.199 think a really good example is remember when Billy Horses 136 00:06:47.199 --> 00:06:50.079 showed before he won the FedEx Cup last year, he 137 00:06:50.120 --> 00:06:52.000 had put that one ball in the water and he 138 00:06:52.079 --> 00:06:54.480 lost one of the tournaments prior to that, and then 139 00:06:54.759 --> 00:06:57.199 I think it was literally the next week he bounces 140 00:06:57.240 --> 00:06:58.800 back or maybe two weeks later and he ends up 141 00:06:58.839 --> 00:07:02.959 winning the FedEx Cup. Those are the types of shots 142 00:07:02.959 --> 00:07:05.839 where you could really allow that to define yourself as 143 00:07:05.879 --> 00:07:08.879 a player, or you can say, okay, if that's my 144 00:07:08.959 --> 00:07:11.920 weakest link is not being able to perform, And that 145 00:07:12.000 --> 00:07:15.279 particular shot on the eighteenth hole, when the quote unquote 146 00:07:15.319 --> 00:07:18.279 pressure was really on, what can I do to get 147 00:07:18.279 --> 00:07:22.519 better and how can I get started? To make that happen, 148 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:25.839 you have to put yourself in those situations, number one, 149 00:07:25.920 --> 00:07:29.000 to allow yourself to perform. And everybody knows about all 150 00:07:29.040 --> 00:07:31.879 of the game winning baskets that Michael Jordan hit, but 151 00:07:31.959 --> 00:07:33.759 there's also the ones that he missed. 152 00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:36.920 Okay, so how many times are you missing? How many 153 00:07:37.000 --> 00:07:38.160 times are you performing? 154 00:07:38.680 --> 00:07:42.000 Sure that's relative to the whole conversation, but you're going 155 00:07:42.079 --> 00:07:45.439 to learn way more the times where you quote unquote 156 00:07:45.439 --> 00:07:48.279 failed to perform or you let your ants or automatic 157 00:07:48.360 --> 00:07:51.959 negative thoughts get in your own way and negatively impact 158 00:07:52.040 --> 00:07:54.199 your performance. So I'm just going to sum it up 159 00:07:54.240 --> 00:07:58.480 by saying, take that as an opportunity to improve yourself. 160 00:07:58.879 --> 00:08:01.879 Recognize that what I call an ant trap or a 161 00:08:01.920 --> 00:08:04.480 specific situation where you know you're going to have those 162 00:08:04.519 --> 00:08:07.839 negative thoughts and negative emotions, and just figure out what 163 00:08:07.879 --> 00:08:08.920 you need to do to get. 164 00:08:08.800 --> 00:08:10.360 Better the next time. And that's what we're going to 165 00:08:10.360 --> 00:08:11.079 talk about today. 166 00:08:11.600 --> 00:08:14.959 Yeah, you know, it's you talk about Michael Jordan making 167 00:08:15.000 --> 00:08:17.240 the shot or missing the shot, or anybody on the tour. 168 00:08:17.519 --> 00:08:20.360 But when Michael Jordan misses the shot on game thirty 169 00:08:20.399 --> 00:08:23.959 seven of the season, no big deal. When he makes 170 00:08:24.000 --> 00:08:26.160 the shot on game forty two to win the game, 171 00:08:26.519 --> 00:08:29.720 no big deal. It's doing it in playoff time. It's 172 00:08:29.759 --> 00:08:32.919 doing it when the shot is the end of the 173 00:08:32.960 --> 00:08:36.960 season or not. Which There's guys who like, give me 174 00:08:37.039 --> 00:08:39.919 the ball. I'm going to do this. The Lebron James 175 00:08:40.039 --> 00:08:43.200 characters right now, Steph Curry of the Warriors, it's like, 176 00:08:43.399 --> 00:08:45.000 just give me the ball. You can see it in 177 00:08:45.039 --> 00:08:47.879 their eyes. They want the ball absolutely. 178 00:08:48.159 --> 00:08:50.440 And I think you hit a key point here is. 179 00:08:51.840 --> 00:08:54.000 In golf or in any sport, when you're in that 180 00:08:54.120 --> 00:08:59.120 pressure situation, you have to want it. You really have 181 00:08:59.240 --> 00:09:03.080 to welcome that opportunity because that's all it is. It's 182 00:09:03.080 --> 00:09:06.000 an opportunity to escalate your game to the next level 183 00:09:06.039 --> 00:09:09.120 and win, lose your draw, whatever the outcome is. It's 184 00:09:09.159 --> 00:09:11.200 it is, But you have to put yourself in a 185 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:13.600 situation where number one, you want to be there and 186 00:09:13.639 --> 00:09:15.879 then you have to put yourself in a position mentally 187 00:09:15.919 --> 00:09:19.080 and emotionally where you're allowing yourself to perform in your 188 00:09:19.080 --> 00:09:22.919 in your most natural state. So very true of everything 189 00:09:23.120 --> 00:09:25.200 of what we're talking about here. But number one is 190 00:09:25.240 --> 00:09:26.879 you have to want it. And number two, if you 191 00:09:26.919 --> 00:09:29.799 do not get the outcome that you desire, it as 192 00:09:29.799 --> 00:09:31.399 a learning opportunity to improve. 193 00:09:32.519 --> 00:09:36.639 Okay, you mentioned ants. Let's you talk about ants throughout 194 00:09:36.639 --> 00:09:39.240 your book, and you just brought it up, So let's 195 00:09:39.399 --> 00:09:41.759 let's clarify that and get into depth on that. 196 00:09:42.840 --> 00:09:46.360 Sure, Yeah, where would you Where would you like to 197 00:09:46.399 --> 00:09:48.440 start with that one? Because it's a it's a it's 198 00:09:48.480 --> 00:09:52.200 a pretty broad broad concept, Fred, and I think if 199 00:09:52.559 --> 00:09:54.039 we talk, well, let's let's do this. 200 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:56.600 Let's talk about your game specifically. 201 00:09:56.679 --> 00:10:00.559 What are the one or two or maybe three whatever whatever, 202 00:10:00.799 --> 00:10:04.679 What are those situations within your game where you know 203 00:10:04.840 --> 00:10:06.960 you're going to have that negative energy you always you 204 00:10:07.000 --> 00:10:09.799 already talked about, you know, playing against certain opponents, But 205 00:10:10.200 --> 00:10:12.440 what else, and maybe it's maybe it's off the course. 206 00:10:12.519 --> 00:10:14.960 Are there certain things that you think about a certain 207 00:10:15.000 --> 00:10:18.399 ways that you feel in certain situations where you know 208 00:10:18.480 --> 00:10:21.200 you're going to have negative energy? What what comes to 209 00:10:21.240 --> 00:10:23.159 mind when you think about that for your game. 210 00:10:23.559 --> 00:10:26.960 Well, I really try to avoid the negative energy, so 211 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:30.159 I'm trying to focus on where would it be in 212 00:10:30.200 --> 00:10:35.960 my game during my round that I just you know, 213 00:10:36.039 --> 00:10:38.120 the obvious one I guess for me and for so 214 00:10:38.279 --> 00:10:42.080 many people is, oh, I have this hole always gives 215 00:10:42.120 --> 00:10:46.799 me problems. Yeah, walking up to a t box of 216 00:10:46.799 --> 00:10:50.360 a hole that I remember some of the good shots 217 00:10:50.399 --> 00:10:52.799 that I had, but of course I'll remember most of 218 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:55.799 the bad shots, including the last time I was here. 219 00:10:55.840 --> 00:10:58.840 And I always always try to remind myself that history 220 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:02.399 has nothing to do with those shot. It really is 221 00:11:02.399 --> 00:11:05.639 irrelevant to the next shot, So you know, and I 222 00:11:05.639 --> 00:11:08.919 think what happens to me is I think so hard 223 00:11:08.960 --> 00:11:14.559 about what what happened last time that that that is 224 00:11:14.960 --> 00:11:19.559 I'm overcompensating it and it introduces pressure and tension into 225 00:11:19.600 --> 00:11:23.480 my swing, which recreates the problem absolutely. 226 00:11:23.639 --> 00:11:24.399 So we'll we'll. 227 00:11:24.440 --> 00:11:26.080 You know a lot of a lot of players like 228 00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:28.840 determine as their their nemesis hole, you know that one 229 00:11:29.360 --> 00:11:31.960 that one course that you know just gets their number 230 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:36.120 every single time. So yes, there's absolutely specific holes are 231 00:11:36.440 --> 00:11:39.159 certainly one of those. I think some other common and 232 00:11:39.279 --> 00:11:42.519 traps for golfers are the first t you know, you're 233 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:45.120 standing on the first tea and maybe you know whether 234 00:11:45.159 --> 00:11:48.320 you're whether there's people there or it's just your foursome. 235 00:11:48.960 --> 00:11:51.639 Especially again if you're playing, you know, for in competition 236 00:11:51.720 --> 00:11:53.840 of any of any sort, you have that your hands 237 00:11:53.919 --> 00:11:56.000 might be shaking, you might have that pit in your stomach, 238 00:11:56.159 --> 00:11:58.600 or that you know, that tension in your shoulders or 239 00:11:58.639 --> 00:12:01.480 your grip wherever it might be, and you know, you 240 00:12:01.480 --> 00:12:03.600 have a tendency to think about all the wrong things 241 00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:06.480 in the same time. So your thoughts are a direct 242 00:12:06.559 --> 00:12:09.639 link to your emotions, and they're they're literally committing petty 243 00:12:09.720 --> 00:12:13.440 larcy on your game because the impact your performance directly. 244 00:12:13.559 --> 00:12:14.879 If you're you know, if you're standing on the first 245 00:12:14.879 --> 00:12:17.200 team and you're thinking about your opponent, or you're thinking 246 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:19.679 about the ball going out of bounds or in the 247 00:12:19.720 --> 00:12:23.200 water or maybe missing it depending on your skill set, 248 00:12:23.559 --> 00:12:26.159 those are obviously all the wrong thoughts. So you want 249 00:12:26.159 --> 00:12:29.120 to basically put yourself in a position where I call 250 00:12:29.399 --> 00:12:32.519 being one hundred percent ready, not only on the first tea, 251 00:12:32.600 --> 00:12:34.519 but on every single shot right. 252 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:35.840 And you know, the. 253 00:12:35.799 --> 00:12:37.440 Way that you do that is a process that we 254 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:40.600 talk about in the book but the very first step 255 00:12:41.279 --> 00:12:44.200 to becoming one hundred percent ready is you have to 256 00:12:44.440 --> 00:12:48.559 you have to eliminate your ants or your automatic negative thoughts, 257 00:12:48.600 --> 00:12:52.759 because there's you hear a lot of times golfers talk 258 00:12:52.840 --> 00:12:55.399 about how there's really uh, you know, Matt every talked 259 00:12:55.399 --> 00:12:58.000 about it after his when on Sunday at the Bayhill. 260 00:12:58.039 --> 00:13:01.600 He said, there's just really no room for for negative 261 00:13:01.639 --> 00:13:03.799 thoughts or negative emotions out on the golf course. 262 00:13:03.840 --> 00:13:05.919 And it's so true. It's so true. 263 00:13:05.960 --> 00:13:08.559 And you know, I like to talk to my golfing 264 00:13:08.600 --> 00:13:12.320 students about you know, compare this game to being a 265 00:13:12.360 --> 00:13:16.000 Formula one race car driver or you know, maybe you're 266 00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:21.000 doing what you know, maybe you're you're walking across a 267 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:24.840 rope or a cable like nik We Lenda does over 268 00:13:24.879 --> 00:13:27.360 a canyon or over Niagara Falls, and he has to 269 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:30.759 be totally focused and calm and confident for two to 270 00:13:30.840 --> 00:13:33.759 three minutes. You know, an F one driver is doing 271 00:13:33.759 --> 00:13:35.600 it for a couple of hours at a time. I mean, 272 00:13:35.639 --> 00:13:39.279 their focus level is at a level that is obviously, 273 00:13:39.480 --> 00:13:42.159 you know, higher than what most people can even conceive of, 274 00:13:42.279 --> 00:13:45.360 and they're doing it for an extended period of time. Now, 275 00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:48.600 golf is you're talking about seconds of time where you're 276 00:13:48.639 --> 00:13:51.600 actually swinging the golf club, and all you need to do, 277 00:13:52.919 --> 00:13:55.240 or what you really need to do first and foremost 278 00:13:55.279 --> 00:13:58.440 is you need to eliminate those conscious thought or those 279 00:13:58.440 --> 00:14:02.120 negative thoughts and just allow yourself to swing. Just swing 280 00:14:02.200 --> 00:14:04.679 the golf club. If you if you, if you have 281 00:14:04.720 --> 00:14:07.799 a repeatable swing that works on the range, the only 282 00:14:07.879 --> 00:14:10.159 reason it's not working on the golf course is because 283 00:14:10.159 --> 00:14:12.200 you're getting in your own way or you're allowing your 284 00:14:12.200 --> 00:14:16.519 own conscious thought to directly and negatively impact your swing. 285 00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:27.480 I'm so conscious of the the the jitters and the 286 00:14:29.000 --> 00:14:32.639 situations like the first t jitters, which is how you 287 00:14:32.679 --> 00:14:35.919 open your book. I'm so conscious of that that I 288 00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:39.440 embrace it and even like if I hit a ball 289 00:14:39.440 --> 00:14:41.759 in the bunker, I'll embrace that. I'll like, oh, this 290 00:14:41.799 --> 00:14:43.919 is going to be fun, And I know that helps 291 00:14:43.960 --> 00:14:46.919 me as opposed to freaking out like oh my god, 292 00:14:46.919 --> 00:14:47.840 there's people watching. 293 00:14:48.559 --> 00:14:52.000 Sure, absolutely, And that's that's where you know. 294 00:14:52.120 --> 00:14:53.879 One of the things that that you know is in 295 00:14:53.919 --> 00:14:56.399 the book is having a mental game strategy. And if 296 00:14:56.440 --> 00:14:58.919 you have a mental game strategy going into the round 297 00:14:58.960 --> 00:15:03.039 of relax or have fun or take it easy, that 298 00:15:03.120 --> 00:15:05.480 way when you're in that and trap or you hit 299 00:15:05.519 --> 00:15:06.840 that Aaron shot, and you can. 300 00:15:06.799 --> 00:15:09.360 Just say to yourself, Hey, you know what, relax. 301 00:15:09.399 --> 00:15:12.159 Just relax, just like what you're talking about, Fred, because 302 00:15:12.919 --> 00:15:16.799 it can mean the difference between number one enjoying your 303 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:21.039 round of golf at much higher level, but not allowing 304 00:15:21.320 --> 00:15:23.600 one ant to cascade into another, and all of a 305 00:15:23.639 --> 00:15:25.639 sudden you have an entire colony of ants and your 306 00:15:25.759 --> 00:15:28.320 entire round is ruined. And then what you focus on 307 00:15:28.360 --> 00:15:30.919 in the nineteenth hole is how that one shot and 308 00:15:30.919 --> 00:15:33.559 that one hole really started to allow the wheels to 309 00:15:33.919 --> 00:15:37.480 start falling. So you're basically making excuses for yourself before 310 00:15:37.519 --> 00:15:39.519 you round, during your round, and after your round as 311 00:15:39.519 --> 00:15:41.279 to why you didn't play as well as you should have. 312 00:15:41.480 --> 00:15:43.879 Oh, the word should have cut us absolutely. 313 00:15:44.159 --> 00:15:45.000 Yeah. 314 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:47.240 Yeah, And why is it that when we get to 315 00:15:47.279 --> 00:15:49.559 the nineteenth hole, And I'm not sure that's exactly what 316 00:15:49.559 --> 00:15:51.519 you're referring to in your book when you're talking about 317 00:15:51.519 --> 00:15:53.440 when you get to the nineteenth hole, everybody wants to 318 00:15:53.480 --> 00:15:56.120 talk about all the crap that went on. No one 319 00:15:56.159 --> 00:15:57.879 wants to go. I had said, you know, you didn't 320 00:15:57.879 --> 00:15:59.320 want to see the going Boy, did I have a 321 00:15:59.320 --> 00:16:02.840 great put on seventeen? Boy was I good? No, it's 322 00:16:02.919 --> 00:16:05.879 like I screwed that up. Okay? Are we allowed to 323 00:16:05.919 --> 00:16:08.080 brag it all? Or is it just taking the guy's 324 00:16:08.159 --> 00:16:10.840 money at the bar? This is all you need to do? 325 00:16:12.200 --> 00:16:14.759 Yeah, it's about listening to how you talk. 326 00:16:14.879 --> 00:16:16.679 I think it would be good to actually and I'm 327 00:16:16.679 --> 00:16:19.360 going to devn meaning to do this, but I'm going 328 00:16:19.440 --> 00:16:21.279 to do this now that we're having this conversation. I 329 00:16:21.320 --> 00:16:25.480 think if golfers were to just videotape themselves and they're 330 00:16:25.519 --> 00:16:28.799 playing partners talking on the nineteenth hole about their game, 331 00:16:28.799 --> 00:16:32.000 and then actually watching it and listening to themselves, I 332 00:16:32.000 --> 00:16:34.440 think that might be their first sign that they need 333 00:16:34.440 --> 00:16:37.960 to change their communication post round. But you know, and 334 00:16:38.600 --> 00:16:40.679 I ask the same question all the time, like why 335 00:16:40.720 --> 00:16:42.519 are golfers constantly focusing? 336 00:16:42.799 --> 00:16:43.320 Think about it. 337 00:16:43.360 --> 00:16:45.559 If you just let's say you just scored, or let's 338 00:16:45.559 --> 00:16:47.799 just say you shot the best round of your life, right, 339 00:16:48.159 --> 00:16:49.240 what are you going to do after the. 340 00:16:49.279 --> 00:16:50.879 Round is over. You're going to tell your score and 341 00:16:50.879 --> 00:16:51.759 you're gonna go, hey, I. 342 00:16:51.720 --> 00:16:54.120 Shot a you know, a seventy eight or a sixty 343 00:16:54.120 --> 00:16:56.559 two or a ninety eight, whatever the number is for you, 344 00:16:56.600 --> 00:16:59.200 it's totally irrelevant and then you're going to immediately go. 345 00:16:59.360 --> 00:17:02.960 But it could have been a yep, right, three or 346 00:17:02.960 --> 00:17:06.680 four or five strokes better. Now, I don't think Michael 347 00:17:06.759 --> 00:17:09.440 Jordan or any other great athlete, if they have a 348 00:17:09.480 --> 00:17:12.519 phenomenal performance, is going wow, you know what could have 349 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:14.720 scored four more points or you know what, I not 350 00:17:14.759 --> 00:17:17.319 only I could have had a hat trick plus, or 351 00:17:17.359 --> 00:17:19.519 you know what, I could have pitched even a little 352 00:17:19.519 --> 00:17:21.000 bit better than that perfect game. 353 00:17:21.160 --> 00:17:25.279 Oh yes, they do. Yeah, no, I think that everybody. 354 00:17:25.519 --> 00:17:27.480 But I think that's what draws us back to golf, 355 00:17:27.640 --> 00:17:30.599 is that you can always do better. That is why 356 00:17:30.680 --> 00:17:33.799 we don't quit, even though you know, we've been shooting 357 00:17:33.799 --> 00:17:35.240 in the low eighties and all of a sudden we 358 00:17:35.240 --> 00:17:37.039 shoot ninety two and it's like, that's it. I quit. 359 00:17:37.079 --> 00:17:38.799 I'm going to leave the game. No, No, you like, 360 00:17:38.960 --> 00:17:42.400 I'm going back because I know I'm better than that. Sure, 361 00:17:42.559 --> 00:17:44.759 And so I think that even when when I think 362 00:17:44.799 --> 00:17:46.960 about the time that I shot my lowest round and 363 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:50.279 I had a great round there, I still there was 364 00:17:50.319 --> 00:17:55.559 a ooh if I only you know hmm. Yeah. I try. 365 00:17:55.599 --> 00:17:58.480 I try to remain calm and not get too excited 366 00:17:58.480 --> 00:18:01.720 and let other people talk about my score then, you know, 367 00:18:01.759 --> 00:18:06.880 than me talking about it. And I think that I 368 00:18:06.920 --> 00:18:09.440 don't know, Humility's got to come in at some point. 369 00:18:09.519 --> 00:18:11.079 You just want people to patch you on the back, 370 00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:12.599 but you don't want to walk up to them and say, hey, 371 00:18:12.599 --> 00:18:13.319 pat me on the back. 372 00:18:14.880 --> 00:18:15.559 Absolutely. 373 00:18:15.759 --> 00:18:18.920 Yeah, it's uh, it's communication is is such a big 374 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:21.200 part of life, and it's it's a major part of golf. 375 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:22.599 And you know, that's I think if I were to 376 00:18:22.599 --> 00:18:24.759 sum up, you know, the book is eighteen game Changing 377 00:18:24.799 --> 00:18:26.920 Tips to Play your Best Golf Ever is a subtitle, 378 00:18:26.920 --> 00:18:30.480 but it's really about improving your communication both internally and 379 00:18:30.559 --> 00:18:32.160 externally on and. 380 00:18:32.039 --> 00:18:32.960 Off the golf course. 381 00:18:33.000 --> 00:18:35.200 Because that's really what we need to do, is we 382 00:18:35.279 --> 00:18:37.079 just need to really clean up the way that that 383 00:18:37.400 --> 00:18:38.640 we communicate about our game. 384 00:18:39.079 --> 00:18:42.559 Yeah. Yeah, and I'm again I want to pick stuff 385 00:18:42.559 --> 00:18:46.440 out of the book. What do you do about playing 386 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:50.079 to the competition? You have a chapter about playing if 387 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:54.599 you're playing partners horrible and it's interesting how sometimes you 388 00:18:54.640 --> 00:18:58.599 step up to the game when you're playing partners better 389 00:18:58.640 --> 00:19:00.839 than you and you can get maybe you do get 390 00:19:00.880 --> 00:19:03.880 more focused or do you just kind of let it 391 00:19:03.920 --> 00:19:06.720 go when you're playing with somebody that you know, you know, 392 00:19:06.920 --> 00:19:08.480 you can give him a stroke a hole and still 393 00:19:08.519 --> 00:19:09.480 beat them. 394 00:19:10.359 --> 00:19:13.440 Yeah, you know, that's a great question, because this is 395 00:19:13.480 --> 00:19:16.039 just this could certainly be a very in depth conversation, 396 00:19:16.200 --> 00:19:19.880 but we'll keep it relatively short. Let's let's think about 397 00:19:19.960 --> 00:19:24.759 again what happened this past weekend at Bayhill. Hendrick Stenson 398 00:19:25.000 --> 00:19:27.200 was in the lead after fifty four holes, and he 399 00:19:27.279 --> 00:19:29.240 was in the zone and he was just firing, just 400 00:19:29.400 --> 00:19:32.759 firing at pins on Saturday and making all of his putts, 401 00:19:32.799 --> 00:19:35.240