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<v Speaker 1>This is pod popular podcast for the people, the Great

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<v Speaker 1>Love Debate. It's Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a great love to base. Hi again, everyone's Brian.

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<v Speaker 2>How you welcome to The Great Love Debate, the world's

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<v Speaker 2>number one dating or relationship podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Its twenty fifteen. I'm a little under the weather. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>playing hurt here.

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<v Speaker 2>So what I wanted to do is I get asked

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<v Speaker 2>all the time, like what are the fundamental tenets of

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<v Speaker 2>the Great Love Debate? And what should people do and

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<v Speaker 2>how should they date? So if you go way back

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<v Speaker 2>scroll through this, scroll through the episodes, and there's a

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<v Speaker 2>part one and a part two episodes of called the

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<v Speaker 2>Dating Commandments and stand by all that. But about four

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<v Speaker 2>years ago we added on to that and we did

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<v Speaker 2>something called the Dating Amendments.

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<v Speaker 1>And I went and did a.

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<v Speaker 2>Look back at that episode because I wanted to say,

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<v Speaker 2>to see what the heck were we talking about during

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<v Speaker 2>those crazy times of COVID, which I don't think people

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<v Speaker 2>look at them enough.

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<v Speaker 1>Like they were crazy times. They were crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Times, and I think we need to learn from them

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<v Speaker 2>and never do that again.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyway, the Dating Amendments episode, so.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to pop it to the top of your inbox,

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<v Speaker 2>as the kids say, I want to pop it to

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<v Speaker 2>the top of your listening box here and revisit it,

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<v Speaker 2>reimagine it, See what holds up, see what doesn't. I

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<v Speaker 2>stand by it. There's a lot of good information. If

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<v Speaker 2>you have heard it before, well listen, you listened to

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<v Speaker 2>it four years ago, so it's time for refresher.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have not, it's all relevant. It's all good information.

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<v Speaker 2>I think as you move forward towards the end of

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<v Speaker 2>this year and into the years ahead. So without further ado,

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<v Speaker 2>we are revisiting the dating amendments.

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<v Speaker 1>During this time. People keep bombarding me with questions about

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<v Speaker 1>dating during these times and quarantine dating, and if this

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<v Speaker 1>will help people get back to old fashioned getting to

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<v Speaker 1>know each other because we are forced to have video

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<v Speaker 1>chats and video dates and talk on the phone. And

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<v Speaker 1>I have getten gotten a ton of media requests to

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<v Speaker 1>do interviews about it, and my answer is pretty much no. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I think people are bored, and I think they're lonely,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think they're killing time. And that's never a

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<v Speaker 1>good way to date, because it is dating from a

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<v Speaker 1>negative place and not a positive one. And it is

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<v Speaker 1>dating because you feel bad, and it is not dating

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<v Speaker 1>because you feel good, So that does not help. That

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<v Speaker 1>does not work. Dating is dicey enough without having to

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<v Speaker 1>add a bunch of zoom and Skype issues to the situation.

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<v Speaker 1>My preference during this time. Now again, if we're doing

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<v Speaker 1>this for two years, you know, all bets are off.

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<v Speaker 1>But for two months or so, worry about something besides

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<v Speaker 1>dating or I will get to this in a second.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a better way to do it. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, dating is dicey enough without adding in

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<v Speaker 1>the tech. I would take every bit of this time

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<v Speaker 1>to work on yourself. Don't get fat, get in shape.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, half of prisoners come out of doing their

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<v Speaker 1>time in the best shape of their lives and have

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<v Speaker 1>come out in absolutely the worst shape of their lives.

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<v Speaker 1>And it all depends on probably depends on where you

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<v Speaker 1>do your time, but it all depends on how you

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<v Speaker 1>use your time. And you should use this time, this strange, confused,

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<v Speaker 1>somewhat lonely time to better you. And you know that's

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<v Speaker 1>part of what we do in this podcast, besides hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>entertaining you and engaging you, is sometimes we enlighten you

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<v Speaker 1>in ways that can better you. And on that note,

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<v Speaker 1>we unleashed a two part episode called The Dating Commandments,

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<v Speaker 1>and these were the ten things that if you did

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<v Speaker 1>them that they were indisputable, they were inarguable or inarguable.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you did these ten things, it was going

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<v Speaker 1>to change your dating life. It was to change your

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<v Speaker 1>love future. It was really going to do things for

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<v Speaker 1>the better. And we have never gotten more positive feedback

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<v Speaker 1>on any show we've ever done, any series we've ever done,

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<v Speaker 1>or any idea we've ever had than we did for

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<v Speaker 1>the Dating Commandments. That was great love debate like GLD

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<v Speaker 1>one thirty three and one thirty four. If you don't,

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<v Speaker 1>if you didn't listen, go back and listen. If you

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<v Speaker 1>did listen, just to review those ten things are as

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<v Speaker 1>I just said. Number one was make a change, do

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<v Speaker 1>the work. Number two was get rid of the words

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<v Speaker 1>not my type because your answers lie outside of your

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<v Speaker 1>comfort zone. Number three was three to two one, which

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<v Speaker 1>is a magic formula for changing your dating profile. It's

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<v Speaker 1>going to lead to a lot of love. Number four

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<v Speaker 1>was he pays, and we get into a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more detail on that. Number five was the importance of

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred hours and what one hundred hours means as

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<v Speaker 1>a body of time and a body of history between

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<v Speaker 1>two people before they can decide which to date. Number

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<v Speaker 1>six was you need to define love before you can

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<v Speaker 1>find it. What it is, what it means, and what

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<v Speaker 1>you want. Number seven was the best dating site is Earth,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't mean quarantined Earth, I mean real Earth.

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<v Speaker 1>Number eight was there is magic in maybe, which means

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<v Speaker 1>you got to stop looking for red flags and start

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<v Speaker 1>looking for green lights, that there's magic in the possibilities.

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<v Speaker 1>Number nine was to practice patient, wait, give it time,

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully get a little older before you decide to decide

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<v Speaker 1>this is the person you want to spend fifty years with,

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<v Speaker 1>So practice patients. And number ten was go all in.

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<v Speaker 1>At some point you were going to have to put

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<v Speaker 1>all your chips on the table and hope that person

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<v Speaker 1>met you. So that encompass a lot of things. We

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<v Speaker 1>stand by all of those. But just like and Alexander

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<v Speaker 1>Hamilton back in the day, and Thomas Jefferson and George

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<v Speaker 1>Washington and Ben Franklin and the gang, when they put

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<v Speaker 1>together the Constitution, which despite everything that is going on,

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<v Speaker 1>still is a pretty sturdy document and is still holding

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<v Speaker 1>up pretty well, they had to make some additions. They

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<v Speaker 1>had to make some addendums because they did not account

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<v Speaker 1>for everything. So over the last two years I have

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<v Speaker 1>been taking notes and I have been analyzing things, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what didn't we cover or what was left

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<v Speaker 1>out or what changed or or what can we add

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<v Speaker 1>to sort of tweak this. And much like the Constitution,

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<v Speaker 1>framers came up with the Bill of Rights and added

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<v Speaker 1>ten amendments. And there's ten amendments in the Bill of Rights.

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<v Speaker 1>Just to go back to your sixth grade history class,

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<v Speaker 1>there's ten amendments in the Bill of Rights, and we

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<v Speaker 1>came up with our own ten amendments. The dating amendments

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<v Speaker 1>sort of reflect what the Bill of Rights was. They

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<v Speaker 1>filled in some gaps. And if you've ever gone back

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<v Speaker 1>before I did this. I went back and just to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that the Bill of Rights was ten and

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<v Speaker 1>there was ten amendments. I wanted to look at it.

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<v Speaker 1>And all of the ten amendments in the Bill of Rights.

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<v Speaker 1>Our things were very, very familiar with freedom of speech,

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<v Speaker 1>freedom of the press. You know, no unreasonable search and seizure, plead,

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<v Speaker 1>the fifth everybody knows what the fifth Amendment is, The

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<v Speaker 1>right to speedy trial, the god awful Second Amendment that

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of you love your fucking guns,

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<v Speaker 1>but I mean, come on, the second Amendment. Everybody's very

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<v Speaker 1>familiar with most probably nine of the ten amendments, the

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<v Speaker 1>weird one in there, the strange one, the outlier in

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<v Speaker 1>there that is like, wait, what, that's one of the

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<v Speaker 1>Bill of Rights, that's one of the ten minutes. Is

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<v Speaker 1>the third Amendment? You know what the third Amendment is?

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<v Speaker 1>The third Amendment is no soldier in time of peace

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<v Speaker 1>the owner, which means somebody from the military cannot knock

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<v Speaker 1>on your door and suddenly want to get into your bed.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think there's a lot of people who wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>mind that. There's a lot of women who wouldn't mind

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<v Speaker 1>could sleep over. There's a lot of dudes who really

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't mind some military dude. If you ever live in

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<v Speaker 1>New York City during fleet week, Fleet week was when

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<v Speaker 1>you know, twenty thousand navy guys roll into town and

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<v Speaker 1>try and get laid over three days. These are the

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<v Speaker 1>most eligible menual ever find. And every single woman in

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<v Speaker 1>New York seemingly is hoping to violate the Third Amendment

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<v Speaker 1>and to be violated by the third Amendment and hoping

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<v Speaker 1>that she can quote quoter in her house with the

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<v Speaker 1>consent of the owner. So the third Amendment, just to

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<v Speaker 1>give you a little more history, is a very odd one,

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<v Speaker 1>So take it or leave it. But we're not here

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about us history. We're talking about talk about

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<v Speaker 1>dating history and most importantly, dating future. So these as

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to lay out are the ten dating amendments.

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<v Speaker 1>And I wish Keiko is here because she could give

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<v Speaker 1>us a little fanfare. But da da da, these are

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<v Speaker 1>the ten dating amendments that are going to be added

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<v Speaker 1>to the dating Commandments. So not that an amendment isn't

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<v Speaker 1>as good as a commandment, but it's sort of a

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<v Speaker 1>next step from the commandments. And these are your rights,

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<v Speaker 1>and these are inalienable rights, and these are the rights

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<v Speaker 1>that every single one of you have. So Dating Amendment

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<v Speaker 1>number one, you have the right to be afraid. You

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<v Speaker 1>have the right to feel fear. You have the right

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<v Speaker 1>to show it, you have the right to express it.

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<v Speaker 1>The most confident person in the room, in any room

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<v Speaker 1>is usually the one that's the most vulnerable. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>one who's not shy or reluctant to recognize and to

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<v Speaker 1>own whatever their weaknesses, whatever their vulnerability is, and whatever

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<v Speaker 1>our fear is. And almost all of our behaviors are

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<v Speaker 1>motivated by fear. We're afraid of being rejected, we're afraid

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<v Speaker 1>of being hurt, we're afraid of missing out, we're afraid

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<v Speaker 1>of being alone. And all of that is absolutely okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And you need to recognize that that is okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>is absolutely normal. I get asked all the time when

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<v Speaker 1>I do presses, what is the one thing that everybody

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<v Speaker 1>has in common? For people that I encounter or meet

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<v Speaker 1>or who come to our shows. And ninety nine percent

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<v Speaker 1>of the people who I meet or come to our

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<v Speaker 1>shows or listen to this podcast believe in love and

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<v Speaker 1>believe that they hopefully can find a future with one

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<v Speaker 1>other person that it laps forever and ever and ever.

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<v Speaker 1>That's about ninety nine percent of people hope for that

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<v Speaker 1>believe in that want that they're afraid it might not

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<v Speaker 1>exist for them, but they believe in it. But the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that one hundred percent of the people share without

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<v Speaker 1>exception and uh is fear and they're afraid of something,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're afraid to be with the wrong person, to

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<v Speaker 1>make the wrong move, to do certain things at the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong time. And so you're right, as one of these

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<v Speaker 1>ten amendments is that you're it's okay to be afraid,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's okay to admit that, and it's okay to

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<v Speaker 1>embrace that, but most partly, it's okay to question that.

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<v Speaker 1>And you want to know why, and you want to

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<v Speaker 1>know how that manifests itself into your day to day life,

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<v Speaker 1>and you want to know how you can turn that

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<v Speaker 1>fear into with strength, and you need to know how

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<v Speaker 1>to overcome that. I am very, very aware that I

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<v Speaker 1>am afraid of snakes, and rather than just go through

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<v Speaker 1>life afraid of snakes, I'm trying to find little ways, slowly, slowly, slowly,

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<v Speaker 1>of them. It's normal to be afraid of them. But

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<v Speaker 1>you do have the right to have fear, and you

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<v Speaker 1>do have the right to feel that because everybody does. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>now everybody admits it, everybody owns it, not everybody embraces it.

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<v Speaker 1>to dress to impress, you dress to impress. If you

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<v Speaker 1>you do that because that will give you a certain

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<v Speaker 1>kind of confidence that nothing else will. We talk all

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<v Speaker 1>how they react, good for you, Good for you. You

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<v Speaker 1>Once you realize that you have that right, you will

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<v Speaker 1>at how far that can take you in love and

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<v Speaker 1>in life, and most importantly, in your dating world. So

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<v Speaker 1>number two, you have the right to essentially be you.

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<v Speaker 1>Number three you have the right to travel baggage free,

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<v Speaker 1>and hopefully, if the airlines ever ramp up again, we're

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<v Speaker 1>probably all gonna have to travel baggage free, leave your

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<v Speaker 1>baggage behind, clean house. You don't have to clean out

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<v Speaker 1>your experiences. You do not have to eliminate your memories.

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<v Speaker 1>You do not have to forget everything you've learned. But

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<v Speaker 1>you do have the right to travel baggage free. Leave

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<v Speaker 1>it home. Everything that happened before it does not mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to happen again. And you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>have to bring this sort of all encompassing shield from

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<v Speaker 1>everything that's happened to you into either your non relationship

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<v Speaker 1>or your next relationship. You have the right to let

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<v Speaker 1>it go. There's nothing wrong with that. It's not scary

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<v Speaker 1>to do that, it's not unhealthy to do that, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not dangerous to do that. It's actually liberating and free.

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<v Speaker 1>And the more you are liberated and free, the more

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<v Speaker 1>your opportunities are going to come to and the more

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to learn, and the more you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>actually be able to live. So if you understand that

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<v Speaker 1>I have the right to move forward and look in

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<v Speaker 1>the wind shield instead of in the rear view mirror

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. My God, the change that that will

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<v Speaker 1>make for you, the change that that will make for

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<v Speaker 1>the people around you, and the change that that will

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<v Speaker 1>make for the relationships you're trying to develop. I cannot

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<v Speaker 1>emphasize that, and not so. Number three, you have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to travel without baggage. Number four, you have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to say enough, Okay. You need to know when

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<v Speaker 1>to fold them we talk. We did a whole podcast

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<v Speaker 1>about a year ago and I laid out the law

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<v Speaker 1>of twenty percent, and a few people listen to that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you remember it. For those of you who

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<v Speaker 1>did not, shame on you go back and find it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, we spent a lot of time trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get people into good relationships around here, and last year

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<v Speaker 1>we did a fair fair amount of episodes trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get people out of bad relationships, because it's just important

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<v Speaker 1>of a skill to get out of a bad relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>to know when to say enough, to know when to

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<v Speaker 1>say this is not working for me, and you have

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<v Speaker 1>the right to get the fuck out and say enough.

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<v Speaker 1>The law of twenty percent that I laid on that

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<v Speaker 1>podcast means that if you are not completely happy or

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<v Speaker 1>satisfied more if the times that you are not happy

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<v Speaker 1>and not satisfied are more than twenty percent, that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>That means that relationship is not working, which means two

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<v Speaker 1>days out of seven is twenty eight point six percent

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<v Speaker 1>to do a little math there. So if two days

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<v Speaker 1>out of a week you're not happy and you're not satisfied,

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<v Speaker 1>you have the right to make that change. And the

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<v Speaker 1>other half of that twenty percent thing was we said

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<v Speaker 1>that when it's time to make that decision, you take

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<v Speaker 1>twenty percent of the time that you were in that relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>and you look at that as okay, we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>start the clock on whether we can either fix things

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<v Speaker 1>or get out. So if you were dating somebody for

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<v Speaker 1>five months, twenty percent of five months is one month.

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<v Speaker 1>So after the five month, if you're like twenty percent

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<v Speaker 1>of the time, I'm not happy, you take twenty percent

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<v Speaker 1>of the five months and you say, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>give it one month to try and fix this. If

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<v Speaker 1>you've been with somebody for five years, same thing, you

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<v Speaker 1>give it one year. Because that's twenty percent of five

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<v Speaker 1>one you're gonna say I'm gonna give it one year,

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<v Speaker 1>and if I cannot change that, and if we cannot

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<v Speaker 1>change this, and if the work we do during that time,

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<v Speaker 1>then I'm gonna get out. And that's a very easy

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<v Speaker 1>formula to follow, and it's a very easy way to

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<v Speaker 1>assess where you are in your relationship and where you

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<v Speaker 1>are in your life and where you are in your happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>Is the law of twenty percent. And you have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to say enough. You have the right to ghost

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<v Speaker 1>you do people are such fucking babies and you're like, nah,

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<v Speaker 1>I need somebody to call me up and tell me

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<v Speaker 1>why they don't like me. No, you don't. That's your curiosity,

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<v Speaker 1>that's your need for nice closure. Somebody has the right

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<v Speaker 1>to get out. However, they have to get out whenever

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<v Speaker 1>they have to get out. Is it cowardly, sure maybe,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's their right. And they have the right to

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<v Speaker 1>do whatever they need to do to move on and

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<v Speaker 1>to be comfortable. A lot of people need to do

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<v Speaker 1>whatever they need to do is to move on and

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<v Speaker 1>be safe. So if they sense that you are a psycho,

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<v Speaker 1>essentially they're leaving the metaphorical keys on the counter and

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<v Speaker 1>they're getting the fuck out. So if they ghosted you,

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<v Speaker 1>it's over. Who gives a shit. If somebody says I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to do this anymore, that's their right and

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<v Speaker 1>they can do that, and that's all of our right.

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<v Speaker 1>You have the right to say enough and knowing when

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<v Speaker 1>it is time to fold them. As our late friend

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<v Speaker 1>Kenny Rogers said, that is such a valuable thing to recognize.

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<v Speaker 1>It's such a valuable tool in our belts that we have.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a valuable not to mix metaphors here, card

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<v Speaker 1>to play is that you have that right to say enough.

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<v Speaker 1>Number five, the fifth dating Amendment. You have the right

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<v Speaker 1>to be curious, and you need to abc always be curious.

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<v Speaker 1>You have the right to ask questions of them. You

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<v Speaker 1>have the right to ask questions of yourself. You have

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<v Speaker 1>the right to ask questions of your relationship. And asking

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<v Speaker 1>questions isn't always an inquisition. Sometimes it's to get to

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<v Speaker 1>and most of the time is get to know somebody better.

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<v Speaker 1>Is trying to get to understand a situation better. It's

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get to levels of learning and knowing and

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<v Speaker 1>sharing and growing together. So if you don't understand things

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<v Speaker 1>or something doesn't feel the way you want it to feel,

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<v Speaker 1>we're in just in case you want to try and

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<v Speaker 1>take things to another level. Whether that's in the kitchen

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<v Speaker 1>or in the bedroom, or on vacation, or just the

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<v Speaker 1>two of you sitting beside by side. You have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to do that, and you have the right to

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<v Speaker 1>be curious. And you don't have to ever wonder why

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<v Speaker 1>am I thinking this way? Or why am I feeling

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<v Speaker 1>this way? All of these things are perfectly normal, and

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<v Speaker 1>that is your right as a human being, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is your right as a dater to wonder, and wondering

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<v Speaker 1>is good. Wondering is imagination, Wondering is creativity. Wondering is

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<v Speaker 1>what leads you to the places you need to go

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<v Speaker 1>and the happily ever after. If you do not wonder,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you do not question, and if you are

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<v Speaker 1>not curious, you're never going to continue to grow and evolve.

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<v Speaker 1>That is what we should be doing, and that is

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<v Speaker 1>what you need to be doing constantly, constantly, constantly. We

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<v Speaker 1>could not emphasize that on this podcast enough. Is how

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<v Speaker 1>curiosity is the number one asset that anybody can have

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<v Speaker 1>as a dater, and is probably the number one asset

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<v Speaker 1>that everybody can have as a human being. It is

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<v Speaker 1>where you find the answers, It is where you find

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<v Speaker 1>the progress. It is where you find everything that you

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<v Speaker 1>ever wanted to find lies in curiosity. So number five,

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<v Speaker 1>you have the right to be curious. Number six, you

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<v Speaker 1>have the right to move. Literally, if you are in

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<v Speaker 1>an unhappy place in life, or you're not in a

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<v Speaker 1>happy relationship, you need to move. I personally believe every

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<v Speaker 1>person in America needs to move seven hundred miles every

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<v Speaker 1>seven years. That's my personal formula and philosophy. I have

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<v Speaker 1>not always practiced that it's time to move, but I

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<v Speaker 1>believe if every person moved seven hundred miles at least

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<v Speaker 1>every seven years, you'd get the most out of life.

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<v Speaker 1>You'd get the most out of love, you get the

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<v Speaker 1>most out of yourself, you get the most out of others.

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<v Speaker 1>You'd get the most out of your country. Your perspective

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<v Speaker 1>would grow. You do not have to stay there just

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<v Speaker 1>because you've always stayed there. You do not have to

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<v Speaker 1>live there because you grew up there. I'm always shocked

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<v Speaker 1>by the statistic of how many people still live within

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<v Speaker 1>fifty miles of where they went to high school. That's

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<v Speaker 1>shocking to me. That saddens me. That means people are

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<v Speaker 1>not moving out of their comfort zone, and your comfort

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<v Speaker 1>zone is never where the answers lie. Nobody says you

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<v Speaker 1>have to stay there, And don't give me that, Oh well,

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<v Speaker 1>my family's here. You can visit your family, and your

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<v Speaker 1>family would much rather visit you in a place if

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<v Speaker 1>it was a better place and you were happier. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're happier, that's a fun person to be around,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's always a fun place to visit. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to go visit happy. I want to go visit a

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<v Speaker 1>happy person. I want to go visit a person who's

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<v Speaker 1>exploring new things and can tell me about them. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to visit a person and I want to talk

422
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<v Speaker 1>to a person. I want to gauge with a person

423
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<v Speaker 1>who has had new experiences. And some people I don't

424
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<v Speaker 1>understand why they don't believe this is their right, or

425
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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe they can do this, or they think

426
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<v Speaker 1>it's logistically impossible. Bullshit, And don't give me that. You

427
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<v Speaker 1>have kids. Kids move all the time. And one of

428
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<v Speaker 1>the things that is going to come out of this

429
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<v Speaker 1>unfortunate situation is a lot of industries are going.

430
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<v Speaker 2>To be.

431
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<v Speaker 1>Go through a lot of upheaval, a lot of businesses

432
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<v Speaker 1>are going to be changing, a lot of people are

433
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<v Speaker 1>gonna have career paths that they might have to make

434
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<v Speaker 1>an alteration on, and that is both unfortunate and that

435
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<v Speaker 1>is also really fortunate because it's changed to it. It's

436
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<v Speaker 1>a chance to assess where you are, where you can go,

437
00:22:21.640 --> 00:22:24.359
<v Speaker 1>what you can do, and maybe who you can be

438
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<v Speaker 1>if you take it somewhere else. Pack a bag, hit

439
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<v Speaker 1>the road. You do have the right to move. Nobody

440
00:22:31.960 --> 00:22:35.519
<v Speaker 1>is forcing you there. We're spending this time feeling imprisoned

441
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<v Speaker 1>in our homes. Maybe people understand it. You are not

442
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<v Speaker 1>imprisoned in your town, you are not imprisoned in your community,

443
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<v Speaker 1>and most importantly, you are not imprisoned in your life.

444
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<v Speaker 1>So pack it up, hit the road. I'm doing that.

445
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<v Speaker 1>Be like me. Okay, probably eight years too late, but

446
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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing it. So stop procrastinating. You have the right

447
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<v Speaker 1>to move. Number seven this is a good one. You

448
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<v Speaker 1>have the right not to care. And we talked about

449
00:23:05.079 --> 00:23:07.319
<v Speaker 1>that in a podcast a few episodes ago. People care

450
00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:10.920
<v Speaker 1>about the stupidest shit kids. Remember the one we did

451
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<v Speaker 1>with the kids, like five episodes back. Kids care about

452
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<v Speaker 1>the right things. Kids care about sharing, and kids care

453
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<v Speaker 1>about learning, and kids care about playing, and kids care

454
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<v Speaker 1>about doing the right things. You have the right not

455
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<v Speaker 1>to care, not to give a fuck the I don't

456
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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck about this or that or a situation

457
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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. Stop caring about things that do not matter.

458
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<v Speaker 1>The more you care about things that do not matter,

459
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<v Speaker 1>the more you're going to forget what does matter. You

460
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<v Speaker 1>need to focus on things you should care about. And

461
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<v Speaker 1>if you don't have enough things that you should care about,

462
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<v Speaker 1>you need to figure out a way to find things

463
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<v Speaker 1>that you care about. Me I personally, it's very sad

464
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<v Speaker 1>for me how little this quarantine situation has changed a

465
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<v Speaker 1>lot of my day to day life. I don't engage

466
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<v Speaker 1>with that many people. I don't do that many things

467
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<v Speaker 1>except when I'm you know, traveling around doing the great

468
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<v Speaker 1>love to Bait. I do lead a little bit of

469
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<v Speaker 1>a hermit existence. That's a bad, bad thing. It means

470
00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:07.200
<v Speaker 1>I am not caring about the right things, and I'm

471
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<v Speaker 1>not getting all the experiences that I should. And most importantly,

472
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<v Speaker 1>I'm probably caring about the wrong things. I care too

473
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<v Speaker 1>much about Starbucks hours, I care too much about French fries,

474
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<v Speaker 1>and I gotta stop caring about that. And you have

475
00:24:23.920 --> 00:24:26.759
<v Speaker 1>the right not to care about all of those things

476
00:24:26.759 --> 00:24:29.160
<v Speaker 1>that you believe you need to care about and that's

477
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<v Speaker 1>really really important. So you need to make a list

478
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<v Speaker 1>of things, what do I care about and what don't

479
00:24:34.200 --> 00:24:36.000
<v Speaker 1>I care about? And you need to take off a

480
00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:37.960
<v Speaker 1>lot of things on the list of what you do

481
00:24:38.079 --> 00:24:40.799
<v Speaker 1>care about, and you need to add a same thing

482
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<v Speaker 1>with both lists. You need to add things that you

483
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<v Speaker 1>do not care about and make that list longer. It's

484
00:24:46.119 --> 00:24:48.240
<v Speaker 1>a good thing not to care about things. It's a

485
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<v Speaker 1>liberating thing. It's a healthy thing. Stop caring about the

486
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<v Speaker 1>wrong things, start caring about the right things. And those

487
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<v Speaker 1>lists should change. It shouldn't be the same five things

488
00:24:56.920 --> 00:24:58.759
<v Speaker 1>for fifty years of your life that you care about

489
00:24:58.839 --> 00:25:01.279
<v Speaker 1>or don't care about. They should be fluid, they should

490
00:25:01.279 --> 00:25:04.000
<v Speaker 1>be going because there should be new things, new experiences,

491
00:25:04.079 --> 00:25:07.240
<v Speaker 1>new people, new stimuli always coming in and out of

492
00:25:07.279 --> 00:25:10.319
<v Speaker 1>your world, and you should look at them and think,

493
00:25:10.640 --> 00:25:12.920
<v Speaker 1>I have the right not to care about that. Now,

494
00:25:13.119 --> 00:25:14.839
<v Speaker 1>I have the right not to care about that anymore.

495
00:25:15.200 --> 00:25:17.799
<v Speaker 1>And I have the right to not care about that ever. Again,

496
00:25:17.880 --> 00:25:19.680
<v Speaker 1>it's a really healthy thing. It's going to go a

497
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<v Speaker 1>long way in your life. It's going to go a

498
00:25:21.119 --> 00:25:25.359
<v Speaker 1>long way in dating. On the next note, and these

499
00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:29.400
<v Speaker 1>are related, but they are separate. Number eight, you have

500
00:25:29.759 --> 00:25:34.519
<v Speaker 1>the right to not be your parents. You have the

501
00:25:34.599 --> 00:25:37.440
<v Speaker 1>right to not be your parents. We're always afraid of

502
00:25:37.480 --> 00:25:39.799
<v Speaker 1>being our parents, to turning into our parents. But I'm

503
00:25:39.799 --> 00:25:43.519
<v Speaker 1>shocked at how many people are living the exact same life,

504
00:25:43.559 --> 00:25:45.319
<v Speaker 1>on the exact same path, and a lot of times,

505
00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:47.240
<v Speaker 1>I said earlier in the lots of the same place

506
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<v Speaker 1>as their parents. Good for fucking Prince Harry. You know,

507
00:25:51.240 --> 00:25:54.880
<v Speaker 1>we did foreshadow that very preciently on this podcast two

508
00:25:54.960 --> 00:25:57.759
<v Speaker 1>years ago, that he was not going to be happy

509
00:25:58.039 --> 00:26:00.359
<v Speaker 1>in his relationship and in his marriage with me Megan.

510
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<v Speaker 1>If he followed the path that Charles followed, and he

511
00:26:03.680 --> 00:26:07.000
<v Speaker 1>followed the path that his grandfather Philip followed, and if

512
00:26:07.039 --> 00:26:09.720
<v Speaker 1>he even followed the path that his brother was following,

513
00:26:10.039 --> 00:26:12.519
<v Speaker 1>he had the right to seek a different path. You

514
00:26:12.599 --> 00:26:16.079
<v Speaker 1>have the right to seek a different path. Just because

515
00:26:16.119 --> 00:26:18.599
<v Speaker 1>your parents were Episcopalian, and I'm not to pick on

516
00:26:18.640 --> 00:26:22.279
<v Speaker 1>the Episcopals, but they're the most neutral. My mother was

517
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<v Speaker 1>a Piscopalian. Again, just because my mother was Episcopalian doesn't

518
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<v Speaker 1>mean that I have to be Episcopalian. Just because my

519
00:26:28.920 --> 00:26:31.599
<v Speaker 1>father was Catholic doesn't mean that I have to be Catholic.

520
00:26:31.880 --> 00:26:34.519
<v Speaker 1>Just because my grandmother was Jewish doesn't mean I have Yeah,

521
00:26:34.519 --> 00:26:36.440
<v Speaker 1>and I'm a real mess on this stuff too. Maybe

522
00:26:36.440 --> 00:26:39.240
<v Speaker 1>that's why I don't hold all these kind of stings.

523
00:26:39.359 --> 00:26:41.039
<v Speaker 1>But you don't have to do anything. You don't have

524
00:26:41.079 --> 00:26:43.440
<v Speaker 1>to believe anything that your parents believed. You don't have

525
00:26:43.480 --> 00:26:45.400
<v Speaker 1>to do anything that your parents did. You don't have

526
00:26:45.440 --> 00:26:46.960
<v Speaker 1>to have to live the life that your parents did.

527
00:26:47.000 --> 00:26:48.640
<v Speaker 1>And you don't have to live a life or marry

528
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<v Speaker 1>the person or do whatever is expected just because your

529
00:26:52.640 --> 00:26:56.319
<v Speaker 1>parents did so or say so. The Bachelor of this season,

530
00:26:56.319 --> 00:26:58.680
<v Speaker 1>it was a huge plot line at the end where

531
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<v Speaker 1>it was about whether or not the mother approved or

532
00:27:03.039 --> 00:27:05.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, is the right one for the mother. I'm

533
00:27:05.039 --> 00:27:07.839
<v Speaker 1>one of those people, like, who gives a fuck. You

534
00:27:07.880 --> 00:27:10.279
<v Speaker 1>do what you need to do to be happy. Your

535
00:27:10.400 --> 00:27:13.720
<v Speaker 1>mother does not know how you are ninety five percent

536
00:27:13.799 --> 00:27:16.559
<v Speaker 1>of your existence from the time you left the house

537
00:27:16.559 --> 00:27:19.400
<v Speaker 1>at eighteen years old. She doesn't know you like everybody,

538
00:27:19.519 --> 00:27:22.160
<v Speaker 1>she just doesn't this whole Like your mother knows your

539
00:27:22.160 --> 00:27:24.960
<v Speaker 1>best and your family knows your best. They don't. They

540
00:27:25.000 --> 00:27:27.559
<v Speaker 1>really don't. They don't see a lot of your existence.

541
00:27:27.680 --> 00:27:29.839
<v Speaker 1>They don't understand the way your brain works. They don't

542
00:27:29.920 --> 00:27:32.480
<v Speaker 1>understand what makes you you at thirty five or forty

543
00:27:32.480 --> 00:27:34.480
<v Speaker 1>five or fifty five the way they did it. Five.

544
00:27:35.160 --> 00:27:37.720
<v Speaker 1>My mother thinks because I liked apple sauce when I

545
00:27:37.759 --> 00:27:39.559
<v Speaker 1>was three years old, that I would like it at

546
00:27:39.599 --> 00:27:43.720
<v Speaker 1>forty Like that's insane to me. But you don't have

547
00:27:43.759 --> 00:27:45.720
<v Speaker 1>to like anything the same. You don't have to like

548
00:27:45.759 --> 00:27:47.720
<v Speaker 1>things because your parents did. You don't have to do

549
00:27:47.799 --> 00:27:50.400
<v Speaker 1>things because of their expectations. And most importantly, you do

550
00:27:50.480 --> 00:27:53.359
<v Speaker 1>not have to live the life they did, and you

551
00:27:53.400 --> 00:27:55.240
<v Speaker 1>do not have to do the things they do. You

552
00:27:55.400 --> 00:27:58.720
<v Speaker 1>are you, They are them, They gave birth to you.

553
00:27:58.839 --> 00:28:00.960
<v Speaker 1>That is not a right to control your life, and

554
00:28:01.000 --> 00:28:02.400
<v Speaker 1>that is not a right to tell you how to

555
00:28:02.400 --> 00:28:04.400
<v Speaker 1>live your life. So you need to find your own path.

556
00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:06.680
<v Speaker 1>You need to grow your own thoughts, and you need

557
00:28:06.720 --> 00:28:08.720
<v Speaker 1>to create your own opportunities that are going to make

558
00:28:08.799 --> 00:28:12.240
<v Speaker 1>you happy, whether that is in love, or in your occupation,

559
00:28:12.519 --> 00:28:15.079
<v Speaker 1>or in anything you do. You have the right to

560
00:28:15.200 --> 00:28:20.799
<v Speaker 1>not be your parents. Number nine, You have the right

561
00:28:20.880 --> 00:28:25.240
<v Speaker 1>to do better, and that can be anything that could be.

562
00:28:25.279 --> 00:28:28.519
<v Speaker 1>You could do better in your in your fitness, you

563
00:28:28.519 --> 00:28:30.839
<v Speaker 1>could do better at your job, you could do better

564
00:28:30.920 --> 00:28:33.720
<v Speaker 1>in your house, you could do better in your hobbies,

565
00:28:34.039 --> 00:28:36.440
<v Speaker 1>and you have the right to do better in who

566
00:28:36.480 --> 00:28:39.759
<v Speaker 1>you date and how you date. Just because this is

567
00:28:40.000 --> 00:28:42.599
<v Speaker 1>fine or this has worked out or these are the

568
00:28:42.680 --> 00:28:45.079
<v Speaker 1>kind of people that I liked in the path doesn't

569
00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:48.000
<v Speaker 1>mean anything. Doesn't mean one thing moving forward as we

570
00:28:48.319 --> 00:28:50.359
<v Speaker 1>as we go back into the world, and God knows

571
00:28:50.359 --> 00:28:52.240
<v Speaker 1>what kind of world that's going to be, you can

572
00:28:52.279 --> 00:28:55.000
<v Speaker 1>do better. You can always do better, and you can

573
00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:56.839
<v Speaker 1>always find and I'm saying you can do better than

574
00:28:56.880 --> 00:29:01.079
<v Speaker 1>your your happily loving husband that you're with for twenty years.

575
00:29:01.119 --> 00:29:03.720
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't mean you can do better than him. It

576
00:29:03.759 --> 00:29:06.720
<v Speaker 1>means you can do better with him, or with her,

577
00:29:07.160 --> 00:29:09.519
<v Speaker 1>or from her or from the two of you. You

578
00:29:09.559 --> 00:29:14.079
<v Speaker 1>can constantly improve your status quo. Your status quo is

579
00:29:14.799 --> 00:29:17.119
<v Speaker 1>a snapshot of who you guys are. When you guys

580
00:29:17.119 --> 00:29:20.319
<v Speaker 1>are it's stagnant. You need to look where can we go?

581
00:29:20.440 --> 00:29:23.319
<v Speaker 1>What can we be? And how can we become? Everything

582
00:29:23.359 --> 00:29:26.480
<v Speaker 1>that is possible beyond what we ever thought was possible,

583
00:29:26.680 --> 00:29:29.599
<v Speaker 1>the level of possibilities in who you are and in

584
00:29:29.640 --> 00:29:32.799
<v Speaker 1>your in the two of you, or in the relationship

585
00:29:32.839 --> 00:29:36.160
<v Speaker 1>you want to get. Never stop forgetting that that you

586
00:29:36.240 --> 00:29:37.960
<v Speaker 1>have the right to do better even if you are

587
00:29:37.960 --> 00:29:40.799
<v Speaker 1>as happy as you possibly could be. And I'm a

588
00:29:40.799 --> 00:29:43.720
<v Speaker 1>pretty happy person, and I think I'm happier than most

589
00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:46.920
<v Speaker 1>people because I do think that way. I do think

590
00:29:46.920 --> 00:29:50.519
<v Speaker 1>that I'm always going to get better. I hope. I

591
00:29:50.559 --> 00:29:53.039
<v Speaker 1>do believe I have the right to get better. I

592
00:29:53.079 --> 00:29:55.799
<v Speaker 1>do believe there's opportunities to get better, and I recognize

593
00:29:55.799 --> 00:29:58.759
<v Speaker 1>those all the time. I am getting in better shape

594
00:29:58.839 --> 00:30:03.200
<v Speaker 1>during this quarantine. I am being more thoughtful during this time.

595
00:30:03.240 --> 00:30:04.759
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of this is good for me

596
00:30:04.799 --> 00:30:06.880
<v Speaker 1>because I look at this as an opportunity, and the

597
00:30:06.920 --> 00:30:09.319
<v Speaker 1>opportunity stems out of the right that we all have.

598
00:30:09.599 --> 00:30:13.559
<v Speaker 1>We have the right to be and do better. And

599
00:30:13.640 --> 00:30:18.200
<v Speaker 1>most importantly, this might seem obvious, but you know, a

600
00:30:18.240 --> 00:30:20.680
<v Speaker 1>lot of things in the Bill of Rights seem obvious,

601
00:30:20.759 --> 00:30:23.880
<v Speaker 1>but maybe they weren't, except for the soldier quartering in

602
00:30:23.920 --> 00:30:27.880
<v Speaker 1>your house. One not obvious. The tenth amendment to your

603
00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:32.160
<v Speaker 1>dating Bill of Rights is you have the right to

604
00:30:32.279 --> 00:30:37.079
<v Speaker 1>be happy and to feel loved, and to be loved

605
00:30:37.599 --> 00:30:40.279
<v Speaker 1>and to love. And all of those seem separate, but

606
00:30:40.319 --> 00:30:43.640
<v Speaker 1>they are all tied together. You be surprised at how

607
00:30:43.680 --> 00:30:46.160
<v Speaker 1>many people do not feel that they have the right

608
00:30:46.200 --> 00:30:49.559
<v Speaker 1>to this, either because they haven't experienced it, or because

609
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<v Speaker 1>they have something from their past that is leading their

610
00:30:52.880 --> 00:30:56.640
<v Speaker 1>brain or their actions or their mindset to think, I

611
00:30:56.680 --> 00:31:00.160
<v Speaker 1>don't deserve this. I don't know what this is. I

612
00:31:00.160 --> 00:31:04.319
<v Speaker 1>don't know if I'm capable of doing this stems into

613
00:31:04.319 --> 00:31:06.640
<v Speaker 1>the fear we talked about stems in the childhood we

614
00:31:06.680 --> 00:31:08.759
<v Speaker 1>talked about and yeah, I think if you go to

615
00:31:08.799 --> 00:31:12.839
<v Speaker 1>therapy like I did, you will understand that you didn't

616
00:31:12.880 --> 00:31:15.640
<v Speaker 1>necessarily do something wrong when you were seven or seventeen

617
00:31:15.799 --> 00:31:18.720
<v Speaker 1>or thirty seven, or the situation wasn't right when you

618
00:31:18.720 --> 00:31:21.519
<v Speaker 1>were eight, at eighteen or twenty eight, but you do

619
00:31:22.079 --> 00:31:25.160
<v Speaker 1>retain the right. That is the inalienable right that never

620
00:31:25.240 --> 00:31:29.920
<v Speaker 1>goes away for anybody, regardless of your life situation, regardless

621
00:31:29.960 --> 00:31:33.400
<v Speaker 1>of your dating situation. You have the right to be happy.

622
00:31:33.640 --> 00:31:35.839
<v Speaker 1>And once you understand you have the right to be happier,

623
00:31:35.920 --> 00:31:39.119
<v Speaker 1>like I deserve this, this is what I'm supposed to have,

624
00:31:39.519 --> 00:31:42.759
<v Speaker 1>then you can say how do I get this? Not that,

625
00:31:43.279 --> 00:31:49.119
<v Speaker 1>where's mine? Where's my check? Where's my happily? Ever After,

626
00:31:49.640 --> 00:31:51.480
<v Speaker 1>once you understand that you have the right to it

627
00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:56.319
<v Speaker 1>and that you own that, and that your entire happiness

628
00:31:56.799 --> 00:32:00.640
<v Speaker 1>and love, life and dating existence is in your control

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<v Speaker 1>because it is your right. I would much rather have

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<v Speaker 1>that than to believe that, you know, my next fifty

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<v Speaker 1>years of my life are out of my control because

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<v Speaker 1>of some other reason, because I want to point fingers

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<v Speaker 1>or blame somebody or wait along till fate intervenes. Fate

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<v Speaker 1>wants you to do the work. You control your own

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<v Speaker 1>fate all the time, the decisions you make, the actions

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<v Speaker 1>you take, all of it that is about you. What

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing, what you're thinking, what you're feeling, and the

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<v Speaker 1>changes that you are making. So if you believe you

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<v Speaker 1>have the right to be happy, then you need to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out how to make that happen. Here you go,

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<v Speaker 1>You're right, go ahead, leave doors open, doors open to enter,

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<v Speaker 1>and the door's open to exit either one. But it's

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<v Speaker 1>your door and you have to go through it. And

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<v Speaker 1>you have to recognize that that door is never going

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<v Speaker 1>to go away. That is the inalienable right as a

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<v Speaker 1>human being is you have the right to be happy.

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<v Speaker 1>You have the right to be loved, you have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to feel love, and all of us have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to love. So to review the ten Dating Amendments

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<v Speaker 1>to the ten dating commandments are. Number one, you have

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<v Speaker 1>the right to be afraid. Number two you have the

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<v Speaker 1>right to be you marring, meaning wear that orange and

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<v Speaker 1>fuck you if you say I don't have the right

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<v Speaker 1>to wear socks with flip flops, I absolutely do. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>consider it. People consider it Asian because it's a little exotic.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna wear it. That's my right. Three you have

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<v Speaker 1>the right to travel without baggage. Number four you have

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<v Speaker 1>the right to say enough. Five you have the right

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<v Speaker 1>to be curious. Six you have the right to move

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<v Speaker 1>literally or metaphorically. Number seven you have the right not

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<v Speaker 1>to care. Number eight you have the right to not

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<v Speaker 1>be your parents. Number nine you have the right to

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<v Speaker 1>do better. And number ten you have the right to

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<v Speaker 1>be happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>If you thought we left anything out and we need

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<v Speaker 1>to add because remember we're up to I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what are we up to? Twenty five amendments, twenty six amendments,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of amendments. Some very logical ones never get through, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>and some very crazy ones do get through. So shoot

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<v Speaker 1>us your feedback, great lovedebate at gmail dot com. Let

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<v Speaker 1>us know what you think. We believe, as always that

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<v Speaker 1>get together again because, as always at the Great Love Debate,

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<v Speaker 1>we never stopped making love. See you next time, the

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