Speaker 1: Made a decision.
Speaker 2: Oh pace sunny sound. I had a vision night, so wet.
Speaker 1: Hey everybody, welcome to for crying out loud. What's happening? Heeps?
We love you. We thank you guys for turning in
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Speaker 3: Yes we I mean it's it's therapy.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Are you okay? I'm with there, Stephanie. Yes, what
just happened?
Speaker 3: I just was gonna put headphones on, but then it
was too loud in the headphones. So then it was
like I had a startle, like, oh, it's really loud.
And then I was like I do I have a
whole thing with Kaylin and do I go? Hey, could
you turn it? And then I was like, oh, I'll
just not wear them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I like to wear headphones because then it helps
me here if I'm being too loud. Oh my god,
I have so much to tell you. Yeah, I can't wait, okay, Elbie.
So the biggest news is that LB got dropped off
at college. So when we last spoke and we had
LB on the show, she had we had taken all
her stuff there, but she wasn't living there yet, right,
So that was Monday. We recorded with her a one
week ago. Then Thursday morning, John took her to school
and dropped her off. And you didn't go no, because
here's why. I was the one who took her to
the move in. And I told John, like, it's probably
we don't both need to be there. The moven was
supposed to be at I can't even remember that it was.
Oh it was her move in time was two thirty.
We need to leave our house to take to pick
the kids up from the twins up from school. That's
Ray thirty. So one of us was going to have
to this. Hou was going to have to go down.
We were going to pack up the car and then
take two cars, and then I would stay with Alb
and help her like unpack all her stuff, and John
would swing back home. He doesn't want to sit there
and like unpack everything in core, pull out nick knacks
and decide what draw her underwear is going to go in,
you know, right, But I don't mind that.
Speaker 1: I'm the mom.
Speaker 3: So when we started packing up all her stuff, we
realized it's easily fits in one car. So then I
was like, well, maybe why don't you just not go
for this part of the trip. I'll do the moot.
The move in with all her bags and there's people
to help you. I was like, and then when she
goes for good, you take her and then you can
meet the roommates and you know, and leave her there.
Speaker 1: It's good. It's a good plan.
Speaker 4: It's eighteen minutes away, that's the thing. It's like, it's
not if it was at a friend's house exactly. It's
not like moving her across the country.
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't. I don't see why. And
so anyway, that's how we decided it. So then on
Thursday morning, I mean I had stuff to do. I
was like recording a podcast and stuff. And then John
was like, okay, so you ready to go? And I
was like, wait, I'm not going and he was like,
oh you're not. I was like, no, this is like
you get to you're taking her. Yeah, this is your thing.
Yeah and he said uh oh okay, like he wasn't.
He was happy. But I think I was like, if
I go, you're gonna end up kind of taking a
back seat and just you knowing her place. I was like,
I want you guys to bond. Go oh. And then
also he took her. It was cute, like he took
her to school, and then he also took her to
Trader Joe's. There's a Trader Joe's right there in Westwood
and got her a bunch of groceries for her apartment
and like, you know, so I stay had a really
good time.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's nice.
Speaker 3: And then I felt I felt really emotional that day
just because like, oh, she's officially now not living at home, right,
I have to be honest, it's not been bad at all,
Like yeah, because I was emotional that day, I did
cry a little bit. I was like, oh, like it's
for real, like right. But then she was texting me
and she's like, I forgot some stuff and I was like, okay,
when do you want me to come by? And I
was literally okay. So that was she got dropped off
on a Thursday. By Friday, she was like, hey, I
forgot It's so cute. She forgot her purple blanket, which
is her oh blanky that she's slept with since she
was Oh, I love that. My brother gave her this
purple blanket from like Creighton Barrel, I think, or Pottery
Barn or something. It was like a bait. It's like
a baby blanket and it was purple and she's slept
with it every single night. She's brought it to camp
with her like she forgot it. So she's like, I
need purple blanket. Oh, and she's like, I forgot purple blanket.
I need a frying pan, I forgot I need some silverware,
and I forgot my jewelry.
Speaker 1: Okay. So I was like done and done, done.
Speaker 3: I don't want me to come by.
Speaker 1: Get the batmobile fired up here I come. I mean, yeah, Core,
I know.
Speaker 3: I was like hell yeah, so this weekend, like, do
you want me to come by? And she was like yeah,
that'd be great. So I grabbed my friend Cecily, not
my podcast partner, but my mom friend, Cecily. I was like, hey,
do you want to go to Westwood with me? And
she was like hell yeah. So we went down there,
went and ate lunch at CPK, and then I walked.
We walked it's like two blocks to her apartment and
she brought us up and it was so funny. She
looked like such a tired college student. You know. So
the one of the looks there's the kids are the
college kids are serving? Looks?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Is these wearing oversized like jorts you've seen.
Speaker 1: This are they that they're shorts. They're they're almost.
Speaker 3: Like gauchos because they wear I'm so long, but they're
like jean shorts, but they're really long, really and they
look like dad shorts.
Speaker 1: Oh, I think, yeah, I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 3: So she looked like such a college student. She was
wearing these oversized like long hort with like a big
oversized like call it like sweatshirt, Yeah, like an Oregon
sweatshirt or some some big green oversized sweatshirt. And she
looked so tired.
Speaker 1: And already already tired and just hanging out.
Speaker 3: And she brought us up into the apartment and there
were like kids lounging in the kitchen, and then her
roommate was there, and like, you know.
Speaker 1: It's just like a yeah, prhole college experience and you
get to go through that now, you know, I know,
in a roundabout way, like you know, you get to
beat go over there sometimes to visit and experience it. Yeah.
Speaker 3: The funny thing was is like, you know, I didn't
have time to miss her. She'd just been dropped off,
so it was like it was nice. I gave her
a hug, but I wasn't like so what are we doing?
Speaker 1: Yeah right, it's only been.
Speaker 3: I'm not a regular mamm a cool mom. Hi, girls
who wants to go shopping? Let's go buy some candy now.
I was just like all right, yeah bye, yeah soon.
Speaker 1: Why do you do you know if they've been, if
they went to any parties or because don't they have?
Like yes, you know, first weekend, everybody moves in parties.
Speaker 3: So there was there was some block party in what.
I haven't talked to her yet, so I don't know
if she ended up going to this thing, but she
was so excited. She first of all, rush starts tomorrow,
so she's rushing sort gosh, wow, yeah, which is so
out of my Yeah, I know me experience. I don't care.
I don't like sororities.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't get it right, I don't think it's cool.
But what am I?
Speaker 1: What am I gonna like yet? Now? She I can't
see in a sorority?
Speaker 3: What I guess like of Elbe is like I don't
want to say she's a follower, but she's definitely not
off like Elby is like what's everybody else doing? Then
I'm going to do that?
Speaker 1: Yes, you know, everybody's rushing, so she's going to do.
Speaker 3: She's like, well, all my roommates are doing it, so
like I don't want to be the not doing it one. Yeah,
so she said, I'm going to do it. I'm going
to check it out. I'm going to see if it's
for me. If it's not for me, I won't do it.
And if I love it. A lot of her friends
have rush sororities. I don't know. I told her. I
was like, it's also expensive, and I don't know that
I want to pay for that.
Speaker 1: Oh interesting, it's like thousands of dollars. It is. I
didn't an idea about sororities.
Speaker 3: So I don't know. I just didn't want to be
like absolutely.
Speaker 1: Not right her life. Yeah, check it out.
Speaker 3: That starts Today's Monday that we're recording. That starts tomorrow
morning at eight am. She has a few days of that.
Then classes start on the twenty sixth. But yesterday there
was supposedly a block party in Westwood. I know she's
gone to like a little party at like another apartartment building.
They had people over to their apartment. This this seems
like the.
Speaker 1: Life, it does, I know, right, Yeah, I want to
be a college student, I totally. I was talking to
Natalia yesterday and she's like, I gotta go. I have
people over watching a football game. I was like, well,
how many people? And she's like, I don't know, like eight,
Like eight seems a lot with your other five roommates
or four, yeah, four roommates.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, we got a packed house. Like okay,
but yeah, she's living the life. You know, she's she's
been doing a lot of studying, which I'm happy about.
Oh okay, she did was able to add on another
class something communications, so she went back and forth with it,
but she got added on. But yeah, she's now. Then
I see like Thursday night, she's on State Street, you know,
like just like this the college town area where all
the kids were, all the restaurants and bars and uh
you know. But yeah, she's having a good time. She's
having a good time. She has a fake ID, right,
I believe.
Speaker 3: So, yeah, we talked about Elbie's fake the first time
she was on the show. She told us about her fake.
And then there's a backup to the face. Yeah, in
case they lose, in case the fake is taken away. Yeah,
we told our whole story. I don't know if Elbe's
used hers yet. That's where her anxiety still resides and
stuff like that. I think she's so scared of like
being humiliated and.
Speaker 1: At the door and getting turned away.
Speaker 3: Yeah, whereas you and I were way more.
Speaker 1: I memorized the shit out of that thing. Yes, what
year were you born? Nineteen fifty nine? You know, yeah,
it was all we had. You know, we didn't have
uh you know, I mean at the time, my friends
didn't go to school, they didn't go to college, right,
so we all just went to work. So everybody's going
to work. And now you're like nineteen twenty years old
and you go to work all week and then like
at night you want to go do something. Oh, yes,
so we all got fake id's.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, And that was our lifestyle. We didn't have
an apartment next to a rephle coach full of weed.
That was our social life, right, Like you went to
the Red Onion or you stayed home, Yes, the Red Onion.
You went for happy hour at Denim and diamonds orything
that was a little bit later, but yeahm hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So yeah, the kids are they're seemed like they
have So she's all settled in and.
Speaker 3: She's very happy. I keep like it's little things. She's
just she's so back to being her super optimistic self.
Like I sent her a text, I was like, how
was reunion with purple Blanket? And she just wrote back
like all caps like amazing, Like everything is amazing. Everything
is like best night ever, most fun I've ever had.
Everything is you know, super superlatives, super superlatives. You know,
everything is so great, Mom, I'm having so much fun.
I'm so happy here. It's hard to be sad that
your kid moved out when they're there still in their
best life, right, and when she's worked so hard and
been looking forward to this for so long. I'm just
really happy for her.
Speaker 1: Yes, we all are. Oh my god, she I mean,
she's We've been there through her trials and tribulations.
Speaker 3: How do you feel like about Natalia? Do you feel
do you miss her?
Speaker 1: I do miss her? Yeah, I miss her being around
the house. I miss you know, hanging out and going
to get something to eat, her dragging me to her plots,
classes or whatever. Yeah, I do miss her. But we're
going to drive up tomorrow on Tuesday to go visit her.
Speaker 3: You and Sonny.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so Sunny can so Sonny can say bye
to her now.
Speaker 3: So Sonny gets Adam picks him up on the twenty sixth, right.
Speaker 1: Yes, no plans are changed. Oh so, uh, I guess
the original plan, which was set like six months ago,
was that he was going to be driving Sonny to Oregon.
Speaker 3: Well, the original original plan was that you were going
to drive him to Oregon with Wendy.
Speaker 1: Oh that yeah, and then when we were starting, right,
and then he decided that he wanted to do it,
so he was going to drive him up. And uh.
Then about a couple of days ago, I find out
that they're not going to drive up. Sonny comes home
and tells me, now we're gonna we're gonna fly up
and I'm like, wait, what, So I'm packing all your stuff.
I was planning on just putting it all in little
you know, those vacuum bags or whatever, and put putting
it in the back of a car since you're driving there.
And he says no, Now, Dad's working on Friday night,
and uh, it's got a show or something on Friday,
So he was going to drive out Thursday. The plan
was them to drive out Thursday and then check into
his dorm on Friday. And then yeah, and then I
was going to fly in, uh sometime on Saturday after
his dad leaves and help him, like you know, it started.
Speaker 3: To have like a bonding trip. But wasn't Adam also
going to get him a car to make the trip?
Speaker 1: And then oh yeah that changed? Yeah, no, no more car.
Speaker 3: Okay, So he wasn't going to have a car, so
Adam was going to drive him in Adam's car, yes, okay,
So then that changed, and then they were going to fly.
But so now they're not flying.
Speaker 1: Now they're not flying, and I'm why not? Because he's
got got to He's got a gig booked for that
Friday night. So now you know, it's it's unclear. I
try to, yeah, communicate, but I don't get a lot
of information.
Speaker 3: So how's he getting to school? How's he getting there?
Speaker 5: Then?
Speaker 1: Well, now it's on me to fly him out. Oh yeah,
so now I'm flying with Sunny on Friday.
Speaker 3: You had to make a last minute.
Speaker 1: Right, I had to make a last minute booking. Well. Well,
also I bought you know, I bought dishes and silverware
and stuff like that for his place because he needs it.
I had to go return it over the weekend because
I'm not gonna, you know, ship that out, so now
I'm gonna just get it when I get there. So, yeah,
I had to do a lot of changing of plans
and returning a lot of stuff.
Speaker 3: So is he gonna just are you gonna fly him
out there with like a lot of bags.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna to pack up a bunch of suitcases.
It's mostly with sunny. It's mostly clothes and you know,
all things that once we get there, I can go
to Target. We can go to Target together and get
the stuff, the other stuff that he needs, the heavy stuff.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just it's but I had to return. Yeah,
there was a lot because it's an apartment, but he
has and he doesn't he has his own room. Yes,
he has his own apartment, but there's but there's several
roommates in the apartment. Yeah there Well there's no he's
got his own standalone, like uh, studio apartment, but it's
in a building with everybody has the same type of apartment.
Speaker 1: They're all they're all students.
Speaker 3: Okay, And the apartments are furnished.
Speaker 1: Semi furnished. There's no like, yeah, there's.
Speaker 3: A desk I'm sure it's the same as Elbe's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like a little like vinyl couch.
Speaker 3: But you have to get like a lamp. You have
to get a desk lamp.
Speaker 1: You have to get potensils, dishes, things like that. Yeah,
and we'll see once we get there too, Like.
Speaker 3: Is there a fridge in there or do you have
to buy a mini fridge?
Speaker 1: I think he has a little mini fridge. And maybe
there's a microwave like down the hall or on his floor,
you know, along with a printer on his floor they have.
So it's kind of you know, we'll see when we
get there. I just had to. I just returned everything
because I figured once we fly out, I will have
the weekend to go and get all that stuff with
him that is needed. Okay, So now yeah, like so
where are you One week before he was going to leave.
Everything changed, So plans changed? Now crying out?
Speaker 3: That's a lot?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is? Uh yeah?
Speaker 3: Is he is he upset?
Speaker 1: Oh? I think it? Yeah, I don't know, I mean,
I he Sonny doesn't listen. If it was an Italia,
her dad would have taken a hammer to that head.
You know, she would have let everybody know Sonny is
not like that. He doesn't say anything, and I think
people take him for granted because he doesn't say anything,
and people think, oh, it doesn't bother him, right, So
you know, if you look at it this way, look,
if you maybe asked, you know, his father, did it
bother you when you were a kid, Did you say
anything to your dad about things that your dad your
parents did. Were you vocal and said it bothered you? No,
but it does, but it grows up. You grow up
and it affected you. Well, I feel like maybe that
could be what's going on with Sonny that I don't know,
you know, because he doesn't say anything, right, But I
have to Yeah, I have to have a feeling like
it does you know, feel like things of being things changing,
you know, I don't know. At the last minute, kind
of feels like maybe it's not important. Just I don't know.
So I do want to say too much, but I
get it. Yeah, but you know it. But your time
with me and Sunny, I.
Speaker 3: Was gonna say, it's what you you kind of I
wanted you did. That was the plan to begin with. Yeah,
you would have driven with him though, yes, Yeah, And
it made it fun. It made it like a whole
thing like, yeah, and brought all this stuff like if
you'd had more time, but it's probably too late now
to drive out there.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Now it's just we just I booked the tickets.
We're just gonna fly. Yeah. Uh oh. But now so
the at the what I didn't I forgot to say
is that now he's gonna his dad's gonna fly out
Sunday night. I don't know if he's spending the night
Sunday night, but he's gonna fly from his other gig
to check out Sonny's place and hang out with him
on Sunday. So after I leave, Okay, Yeah, well.
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so I have yes, I feel like I'm more. Oh,
back to school night Okay, So I had to go
to two nights of back to school Night mm hmmm
because I was and make the announcement about, like, you know,
anyway about donating money for our big annual fund. And
it was fine, and I.
Speaker 5: Like, I've told you the the incoming the the co
presidents of the Parent Association basically are both so nice.
Speaker 3: I really really love them both, and it's it's easy.
But it was just kind of funny because you feel
like a bit of like a representative, like you're, you know,
like a customer representative.
Speaker 1: Yes, like customer service, you know.
Speaker 3: Like people kept coming up to me and like asking
me questions and I'm like, I don't fucking know, I'm
just a parent here too. But the funny thing is
that there was like this one girl who was with
her dad. It was not really for the kids, so
there were hardly any kids there. There was like one
mom that I was talking to for a while and
she kept talking about her kid and saying the kid's name,
and you know, I don't remember meeting the kid. The
only kid that I interacted with was this girl that
was with her dad, and she was like, seems super sweet,
and I was just like, oh, like, what what year
are you And she said she was a junior. And
I was like, oh, do you know my kids? I'm
Sadie and Xander's mom. Do you know them? And she
was like, oh yeah, like yeah, I have Xander in
this class, in this class, and I have Sadie in
this class, in this class, and I was like, oh cool,
and and that was it. That was the extent of it.
Speaker 1: Uh huh.
Speaker 3: Next day, both Stadie and Xander are like, Mom, who
were you interacting with at back to school night? Who
are you talking to? Like We've had so many people
come up to us and be like, oh my god,
your mom was asking me all these questions. And I
was like, no, I was not.
Speaker 1: Got you hate that I got to get called out
his mom.
Speaker 3: I was like, this is a false accusation. I was like,
I'm going to bring some witnesses forward to tell you
like that is not true. I was like, I talked
to one girl, one girl, and I go and she
was perfectly nice and I didn't I didn't go like,
I didn't make a scene about it. He knew you.
And I was like, in this girl's name, you know,
I said her name. I was like, Tabitha, that's the
only girl I talked to. And she's like, mom, so
and so said that you asked them like, oh do
you know, Like I don't know, a bunch of questions
and it was the the mom that I was talking to.
For a while. They claimed that I met her kid
and was giving them the third I was like, listen,
first of all, you know, I'm sober. I was like,
I haven't had a drink in fild. I know my
memory is not great, but like zintite Kaylin. I was like,
but this was last night. I did that. That did
not happen. These are lies, all lies there making shit
up about me. Keep my name out your mouth. Then
the kids were being so They're like, okay, Mom, we
believe you. But I was like, okay, I know, but
I promise you.
Speaker 1: Maybe they were drunk. Maybe I was like, I promised you.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't do that. I said, I wouldn't. I just wouldn't.
I know my kids well enough to know that I'm
not going to sit there and have calm conversations with
like high school students, especially about my like one kid,
and it was natural and that she was like hanging
out by my table where I was like selling school
merchant like. It wasn't like I went and was seeking
people out. I was like, first of all, there were
hardly any kids there. I do not remember. If you
tell me I go. I know that I chatted with
that mom for a while because I remember her saying
the name of that kid being her kid. I did
not meet that kid. The second is a liar. Who
do I I'm sending some emails?
Speaker 1: Why do we got to get tattle tailed on? I
know by these kids? Like I had the kind of
a similar thing, like we were on a girl Scout
retreat and Natalia's friend and Anna Belle, let's call her. Okay,
She's like, and I've seen Annabelle at my house many
many times, like she's one of my daughter's best friends
at the time. And I go, hey, Mama, I would
say that to her, and then natell you go, mom,
why are you calling my friends mamas? They think it's weird.
I'm like, oh, shut up, I remember that. I remember that.
Speaker 3: I remember that because like I've done it.
Speaker 1: Too, yes, and it's like, okay, so what so I called? Okay,
then I won't talk about I won't talk to Annabell.
I'll give her this stink eye how about that? But
I just won't say a word to her.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: I went and got her cold. I went and got
her summer pajamas because it was a it was everybody
brought like warm pajamas because it was supposed to be
cold and it turned out to be a heat wave
inside the gabin. Everybody was dying. I went to Target
and buughy like summer pjs. So tell Annabel, I'll take
my summer pjs back. Tell her to return them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but what I think happened is that it's not
that Annabel complained about it. I think Natalia and who knows,
maybe she was like, oh my god, it was so cute.
Your mom called me mama or anything. You know, I
love your mom. And then our kids take.
Speaker 1: That as something like embarrassing that we did act made
an ass out of ourselves or something. I know, it's enough,
So okay. So that so you told your kids like
and by either way, I'm sure your kids know you
to know.
Speaker 3: Uh, you know it's upsetting. Is it because they know
me that they believe that so easily?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 3: I was like, you, guys, I wouldn't do that. They're like, well,
maybe you were bored and you were just talking, and
I'm like, well, yeah, I was bored. I wasn't making
random conversation with people that that I don't know that
are kids, right, you know, I was just I go,
I promise you. I was like minding my business eating
a cookie because I'm back on the sugar and there
was like a lot of cookies there and I was
trying not I was focused more on the cookies than
on anything else I did. I did introduce myself to
a couple of their teachers that i'd heard about, and
I walked up and I was like, Hi. I was like,
I'm Sadie and Xander's mom. I knew that both these
teachers who were talking to each other, both of them
have my kids in their class. And I was like
and then the kids were mortified about that. I was like, guys,
I talked to them for like two seconds. And by
the way, that's what I get to do. It's back
to fucking school night. Yes, of course we're there to
meet the teacher, to meet your teachers. Like that's completely appropriate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you want us to do? Not say anything? Wait?
Speaker 3: I wasn't like, hey, are you unhinged?
Speaker 1: Can I like, you know, picking up on you married?
Speaker 2: Like what?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: I was like, I just said hello to them. I
didn't even you know, I didn't tell them even anything
about you. I was just like, yeah, I think I
said to one of them, I've heard good things. The
other one I haven't heard good things, so I didn't
say that to him. Okay, I wasn't gonna lie like,
my kids love you, and I wasn't going to be
like my kids say you're super bland and that you
talking to monotone and don't offer help. You know, that
would have been an inappropriate Did I do that?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Right, I was like, so nice to meet you guys. Yeah,
I'm like, wow, maybe I should just like not be
involved in school at all. But then I told you
my kids are the kind of kids that want me
to do stuff with them. So it's like, which is it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly right? So that was that was the Uh?
Speaker 3: That was it two nights in a row? And yeah,
why was it two nights in a row? Because the
first night was for parents of ninth and tenth graders
and the second night was for parents of eleventh and
twelfth graders slightly different program. You know, you're gonna have
certain classes, so not all the teachers had to show
up for both nights, but it was I had to
give the same speech to both sets of parents. Got
it because I'm the co chair of the fundraising committee.
Speaker 1: And how was that? Did it? Did you just did
it come out. I don't know, do you have a
good turnout?
Speaker 3: I don't know. I have such imposter syndrome, Lynette, Like
these people they're like, hey, well, first of all, I said.
One of the things that I said was like, hey,
you know you this is a tuition free school. It's
just a public school, and we're so lucky to go
here because it feels like we're at a small private school.
And I said, by the way, I just looked up
which was true, the tuition to go to Oakwood. You
know the Oakwood School.
Speaker 1: So isn't that where Kaylin.
Speaker 3: Like I went there?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I went there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so do you know that school? That's the
worst listening.
Speaker 1: Do you know the tuition?
Speaker 3: I do know the tuition.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's a lot. I know that.
Speaker 3: It was probably a lot back then, and it's a lot.
It's more now. It costs fifty three thousand dollars a
year to go to that school.
Speaker 6: I think it was thirty or thirty two when I
went there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like that. It's like going to one of the universities. Now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's like an expensive university. Yeah huh. And it's
a it's a very small school. They have small class sizes.
They have lots of like fun bells and whistles, but
not that many because there's not kids. You're not going
to have like amazing sports teams. You're gonna have.
Speaker 6: Like our volleyball team do pretty good. We're in Division
four champions.
Speaker 1: Oh really? Oh wow? Okay?
Speaker 3: It was a small school, right kids in the class?
Speaker 1: What grades did you go there? All of them? Oh wow?
Speaker 3: Okay, so if you have seventy five kids per class,
then that is three hundred kids in the school total.
That is a very small school. It is very similar
to the school that my kids go to. Okay about
the size. We also have a lot of cool bells
and whistles, like we have this insane amazing music program.
We have an incredible theater program. The the in the
theater teacher was on Broadway like years ago.
Speaker 1: But do they produce in the podcast producers like k exactly?
Is there alumni of that?
Speaker 3: So I said, I was like, hey, do you know
how much of costs I go? Our school is very
similar to Oakwood? And do you know how much of
costs to go to oak Wood while you're in Luck?
Because I just googled it and it's fifty three thousand
dollars a year and you know how much our school
is free? And I go and I guarantee you if
your kids go to Oakwood, they still hit you up
for money. They're not just like, oh, well you're paying
so much intuition, don't worry about any extras. No, I'm
sure they have fundraisers. I asked, oh yeah, So anyway,
the co president was like, we got to be really
careful not to like, you know, make people feel bad.
And I'm like, I'm making people feel good.
Speaker 1: Damn it.
Speaker 3: This inspiring. This is like motivation right right, It's like
I'm not trying to I was like, look, people are
going to give money or they're not, of course, right.
I think the principle of our school liked it, and
he was like, we are kind of like oak Wood.
We're a lot like oak Wood.
Speaker 1: I was like, it's a good angle. Yeah, that was good.
Speaker 3: I liked my angle. The parent president was a little
bit more like, oh, we got to be careful and
make everyone feel good and tell them.
Speaker 1: That everybody's so worried about everything. Yeah, yeah, what is
she What was she worried about? Like, be careful about what?
I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think she didn't want me to make anybody feel
bad who couldn't donate money. But I was like, listen,
I've I've donated money years at my kids' school, and
I've not donated money when we were in lean years
And like, you're gonna do what you're gonna do. You're
either gonna give money or you're not right. But like,
my job is just to make people realize that, like
they're in a really good situation. So if they can
give anything like it does it wouldn't matter what school
you're at, you're gonna be asked for money. And we
our school only has one fundraiser like that, and then
we have one big fall festival we call it where
there's like booths and you know, but it's not like
you have to go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like Kaylin's school where every parent has
to sign up or my school. That's how it was. Yeah,
Like at my school, everybody had to all the parents
had to sign up for a slot for the big
Hollywood Halloween fundraiser every year. Right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well at my kid's old school, at the elementary school,
you had to do a certain amount of community hours,
like as a parent, like you had to volunteer per family.
I think it was like forty hours or fifty hours,
and if you had more than one kid, it was
like double.
Speaker 1: That, right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they kind of policed it a little bit,
like they would send a thing and say, you haven't
like done any hours. Yeah, it's same with my school. Yeah,
it's like I don't have a dui, like I'm not.
It's not picking up trash on the side of the
road like.
Speaker 1: It does feel a little community service like yeah, yeah
that you have to you're you know, uh, it just
is like, but you're right if the school is free.
And our kids went to a public school which was free,
and it did feel I don't know if I want
to say go as far as a private school, but
it did have you know, had some good programs. It
had good teachers and provided a lot of services for
like my kids with the IEP and things like that. Yeah,
so you know, I was I didn't mind, you know,
donating time and money because it did kind of feel
like that kind of type of school that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you kind of have to, you know, especially
these days, there just isn't the money isn't there for
the teachers. We have a lot of teachers that listen
to us like that. A lot of these teachers have
to buy a lot of their own supplies. You know,
they're having to do these Amazon wish lists just to
get just to be able to provide for the kids,
you know, nice stuff, and a lot of kids really
can't afford the extras, and a lot of kids are
there's a lot of like socioeconomic differences, you know, especially
in Los Angeles, got kids from all different neighborhoods and
you know, levels of being able to donate money. My
speech is more for the people that can do have
the money and it's not a big deal. It's like, look,
we really do need it, yes, so if you can
afford it, please please donate some money because the you know,
we have a room full of musical instruments.
Speaker 1: For the kids.
Speaker 3: You know, there's not a lot of stuff at our
school that you have to buy yourself, right and these days,
lunch is free for everybody. I think they even have
breakfast for kids.
Speaker 5: You know that.
Speaker 3: It's like a kind of a new thing.
Speaker 1: Yes, I've heard about that.
Speaker 3: I feel like since COVID.
Speaker 1: Uh huh, yeah, I think it has been You don't have.
Speaker 3: To prove that you're poor and can't afford lunch. It's
just like it's provided whether you can afford it or not.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, my school was doing that, I think when
everybody started coming back from COVID. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think that's really good and it's really important. And
I don't know where that money comes from. I guess
the state. But a lot of kid's a lot of
kids if you're on the free or reduced lunch program
and then you have to prove it or have a
card or you know. I mean, it's embarrassing for a
lot of kids.
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I like them, except they're progressive and you know, so
when you look down, they're like the reading glasses, but
when you look straight ahead and you can drive with them, right, Okay,
So now I feel like everything is blurry blurry, even
I just got them. So I'm reading the read I'm
looking down. Everything seems blurry. I don't know what's happening.
But I am going to the eye doctor today too.
Oh okay, yeah.
Speaker 3: Well I have a lot of trouble so minor progressive
as well.
Speaker 1: But they say you got to wear them to get
used to them.
Speaker 3: It took me a while to get used to mind,
all right, But I don't think things were super blurry,
but I definitely have like weird like with my peripheral vision,
Like if i'd look around fast, I was like, I can't.
I feel like I can't see it really, But my
reading was fine. So I was wearing these same frames
a few weeks ago. Remember when you were like, why
do you have to I was having to change into
my other glasses to see, but then recently I got
I ordered the same frame but in a progressive So
now yeah, MN are fine, So I.
Speaker 1: Gotta get used to them, I guess, I guess so.
Speaker 3: But also sometimes it feels like I can't see, like
it still feels blurry. Yeah, that's what I'm sometimes, But
then other times it's fine. Are you having that?
Speaker 1: I guess I think yes, so I can see. Uh,
I am far sighted, so I needed to see up
up close. Right, So right now I'm holding the paper
in front my arm's length in front of my face.
Everything is blurry. But if I take it off, I
can I can see it better.
Speaker 3: But then now you don't have you're not near sighted,
like you can see far away without glasses. Yeah, m hm,
Well then why do you have progressives?
Speaker 1: So because so I don't have to keep Yes, the
top is regular, so the top is no prescription and
the bottom is reading glasses. Yes, but if you so
you're reading glasses are the wrong strength, then I think.
So that's why I'm going.
Speaker 3: When you go to the eye doctor, give them your
glasses and they'll check the prescription and they'll tell you
if it's the wrong prescription.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I just got them at like one point
two five. I'm just at a I just got readers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you might need a stronger prescription, yeah for the reading.
Speaker 1: Yes. Oh anyway, yeah, I feel you.
Speaker 3: I was having to do the you know, so before
my eye surgery, Like right now, I could wear contacts
and I just need to go back to the eye
doctor and get a contact prescription. But yeah, so it's
the most annoying. Eyes are so annoying.
Speaker 1: They are because you know, as you get older. I'm
sure a lot of people have this problem. I had
perfect vision my whole life. Now, you know, I think
when I was in my forties, I have to you
know that I'm on the computer on the phone, So
now you need the readers. But then the readers are
on your head, then they're down, then they're up, then
they're down. Then you can't find them. Like it's just
a pain in the ass. So I thought I would
just have I would like glasses where I can see
fine far away, but then I can look down and
have them. So anyway, that's what I'm that's my goal, right,
And yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Have a I'm pretty sure that just the reading prescription
is off. Yeah, so they and then you can send
your glasses back and have them fix the prescription.
Speaker 1: Okay, good, you can change it right right.
Speaker 3: Where did you get the original prescription or did you
just decide I think five will be good.
Speaker 1: Well, when I went to the eye doctor, I don't know,
I think it was about two or three years ago,
and he was saying he just said, like, look, all
you need are readers. You don't need anything, just go
get and he said one point two five. And then
I went and yeah, it worked.
Speaker 3: So you just ordered those, right, I see the one
point two five is probably not strong enough if that
was a couple of years ago. As we get older,
shit go sideways fast.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like once you hit fifty, you're just
walking off a cliff. Like everything starts to go wrong.
Like I think I've had all my implants in my
fifties on my teeth. My teeth are falling out. You know.
Speaker 1: I have a friend of mine, he a guy friend
of mine. He's got ear uh hearing.
Speaker 3: Aids Oh, that's the rage right now. Yeah, we're finding
out a lot of people's hearing. So a long time ago,
you didn't get hearing aids until you were like oh right,
until you were like going deaf.
Speaker 1: Yes, well, and they were like that big clunky battery
you know, right, look like you're wearing like a D
battery on the side here ear Yeah, yeah, just big, heavy, clunky.
So now well, so.
Speaker 3: People are getting them much younger because we're finding out
I went to ear doctor school. I don't know if
i'd mentioned that. We're finding out that the earlier when
you're hearing, when you start to experience hearing loss, the
earlier you correct it, it's much better for your brain.
You get better results. Also, they're finding out that cognitively,
you start losing cognitive function because apparently now just talking
on my ass right now from stuff I've heard, but
one of my good friends is a speech pathologist. So
they're finding out that you sort of get used to
not hearing as well, and you stop following along with conversations,
and it starts to affect your cognitive ability because your
brain just kind of you're like, well, I don't care here,
staying here, so you're not engaging the same way with
your surroundings. So if you correct it earlier, your brain
stays engaged and makes anyway, I'm not having that yet.
But I do know a lot of people like in
their fifties, oh, getting hearing aids.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, A couple my one guy friend and
someone else. I know. She's about five years older than me.
But yeah, and they are making them so teeny tiny
that you can even see. Yeah, I don't really have that.
I don't, I do. I guess sometimes there's uh, you know,
there's those quiet talkers, you know, and especially like when
you're at I was at a bait at uh somebody's uh, well,
Olga's grandchild's first birthday over the weekend, and I'm talking
to one of the like other moms that I haven't
seen a long time, and she's a quiet talker as
it is. But there now we're inside of a restaurant
type place. Dishes are clanking, and then there's music playing,
and then at some point they tuned the music up,
so now on top of it, it's just like I'm
waving the sos flat because I don't understand anything she's saying,
and she's going yeah, and she's talking and she's laughing
across the table and I'm like, ahh huh. And that's
when I was thinking, do I need a hearing aid
at this point? Can like if this was sunny sitting
across from her, U would she would he hear everything
she's saying? Or am I just losing my hearing?
Speaker 3: Or I don't know. It just was just Klan because
he's younger than we are.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my.
Speaker 3: God, perfect?
Speaker 1: Perfect?
Speaker 3: Kaylen. If you're in like a restaurant, okay, and there's
background music playing and there's somebody trying to have a
conversation with you and there's dishes clanking, are you still
going to be able to hear the person?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay, there you go.
Speaker 3: Well listen. I don't think it means that we're losing
our hearing. I think it's a natural. I'm way more
sensitive to noise and have trouble deciphering than I used
to be, But I don't think my hearing.
Speaker 1: Yes, how about your TV?
Speaker 3: Like, do I have to play it louder?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 1: Do you have to have the subtitles?
Speaker 3: Oh? I don't, but I know so many people that do, and.
Speaker 1: I can't live without the subtitles.
Speaker 3: Yeah. See, I find it distracting. I know so many
people love to have the subtitles, but I find that
I will just be reading it.
Speaker 1: I right, I do end up just reading it. But
I mean for the most part, unless it's like Dateline,
because date Line is always like a beat off, so
you can't follow along with it. But my kids hate
it when it's on. They have to take change it
back to normal. But I love it because there's scenes
and stuff like you will hear you could barely hear,
like somebody talking in the other room, but it shows
up on the dialogue and it's like, I wouldn't have
never heard that if I didn't see it in the
subtitles right on the screen, so you get you here.
And then also it tells you, like what songs playing
by what band?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I love it. I do like that. Yeah, that's cool.
I like it with the subtitles.
Speaker 3: I mean, I definitely. What I like to do is
just watch something with John and then constantly go like,
what did he just say? Wait, he's going where where?
I say, he's going right? And then John goes, I
don't know, let's run it back, and then we have
to rewind like ten seconds, and then you go not
far back enough. I was late to tell you that
I didn't hear the thing, and then we spend like
twenty minutes trying to figure out where we missed the
dialogue until I'm just like, just fucking just play it and.
Speaker 1: Cares went you far back? Right? Yeah? Just play it? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess I could try the subtitles again.
Speaker 1: But if it distracts you, it distracts you. But I
love it. I love it because it does it will
tell you things that you wouldn't. I mean, I don't
think I would have heard. But also, my TV is
pretty old at this point, so the it's also doing
that thing like on Netflix or whatever when you're because
it's it's for HD or or you know, the high depth,
and my TV's kind of it's pretty old, so everything
is like blurry until it takes this beat to correct itself. Okay,
same is that? What's going on with your TV?
Speaker 3: You do have the same exact problem.
Speaker 1: I hate it? Yeah.
Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes it lasts for a while.
Speaker 1: It does last why or like, is this just.
Speaker 3: How it's going to be permanently? And then all of
a sudden you're like, oh, it went back to it.
Speaker 1: Being and then it goes back to normal, goes sharp. Yeah,
what is that? I think our TVs are older? Does
that happen to your TVs? Kalen?
Speaker 3: Really?
Speaker 1: All right off, Kaylan?
Speaker 3: I what if Kaylan doesn't even know what he's answering to.
He's like fully engrossed in reading something and he's like, no,
he just knows to show gun. Oh my gosh. Well
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I have another little story for you that I'm going
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