WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.480 --> 00:00:05.799 Welcome to Shine Delusion Shine, the radical art of dreaming 2 00:00:05.960 --> 00:00:09.919 beyond boundaries. I am Vicki Todd, and together with doctor Pat, 3 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:12.640 we will learn to push the boundaries of our minds, 4 00:00:12.919 --> 00:00:16.320 to think delusionally and create fertile ground for our big 5 00:00:16.440 --> 00:00:20.640 dreams to seed, grow, and manifest. Each episode, we will 6 00:00:20.640 --> 00:00:25.000 gain more ability to think delusionally and cultivate beyond boundaries, 7 00:00:25.079 --> 00:00:29.239 faith that we can accomplish dreams which seem unreachable. Shine 8 00:00:29.280 --> 00:00:33.679 Delusion Shine is a springboard to believing, dreaming and thinking 9 00:00:33.799 --> 00:00:37.479 beyond the ordinary, and a catalyst to living a more fulfilling, 10 00:00:37.719 --> 00:00:41.039 destiny driven life. You were born with dreams, gifts and 11 00:00:41.119 --> 00:00:43.679 talents you are meant to use to make this world brighter. 12 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:47.840 Let your delusional dreams shine. It all starts now. 13 00:00:50.280 --> 00:00:53.119 Wow, Hey everybody, I am doctor Pat and I get 14 00:00:53.119 --> 00:00:59.119 to take this amazing journey with the most incredible artist, entrepreneur, coach, 15 00:00:59.719 --> 00:01:04.640 author and beyond. Today. This is a really important one 16 00:01:04.959 --> 00:01:10.200 because we ask for a lot, we really do. I mean, 17 00:01:11.079 --> 00:01:13.840 how many of you have already asked for something today? 18 00:01:14.519 --> 00:01:17.159 And I'm not saying just ask got loud, but how 19 00:01:17.159 --> 00:01:20.680 many like you're right, like you ask for something? Do 20 00:01:20.760 --> 00:01:25.040 you know, you're even asking what is the magic formula 21 00:01:25.480 --> 00:01:28.719 that some people seem to have where they ask and 22 00:01:28.760 --> 00:01:31.959 then they receive. Well, today Vicky is going to walk 23 00:01:32.040 --> 00:01:35.400 us through what it means to be ready to receive. 24 00:01:36.200 --> 00:01:41.000 Because think about the universe. It knows when you're just 25 00:01:41.239 --> 00:01:45.920 kidding about receiving and when you're dead serious. Vicky, Right, 26 00:01:46.400 --> 00:01:47.319 that's the truth. 27 00:01:48.000 --> 00:01:49.239 The universe knows them all. 28 00:01:52.120 --> 00:01:56.359 But let's talk about this because beliefs are core. And 29 00:01:56.719 --> 00:01:58.519 you know, there are many people in the world and 30 00:01:58.560 --> 00:02:01.959 I'm not one of them that say, oh, your beliefs 31 00:02:02.000 --> 00:02:04.480 are solid, your your core values are solid. But I 32 00:02:04.519 --> 00:02:06.359 have seen in my own life, and I've seen in 33 00:02:06.400 --> 00:02:11.919 many other places where values change and beliefs change. I 34 00:02:11.960 --> 00:02:16.840 think Bruce Lipten wrote an entire book on the biology 35 00:02:16.879 --> 00:02:21.360 of beliefs, right, But we don't tie them into whether 36 00:02:21.479 --> 00:02:25.360 or not what we're asking for we're actually going to get. 37 00:02:25.560 --> 00:02:27.840 So what is it about this that showed up in 38 00:02:27.879 --> 00:02:31.080 your life to really get you to thinking I'm going 39 00:02:31.159 --> 00:02:33.159 to talk about this journey of receiving. 40 00:02:34.039 --> 00:02:38.800 Well, it's amazing because I had already experienced some things 41 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:42.039 in my life just in the recent couple of weeks 42 00:02:42.199 --> 00:02:47.039 and then I happened to watch an OPRAH podcast with 43 00:02:47.240 --> 00:02:52.120 author Sean Aker, who is one of the happiness researchers, 44 00:02:52.479 --> 00:02:55.280 and it just blended into. 45 00:02:54.879 --> 00:02:57.560 My experiences and I was like, Oh, this is important. 46 00:02:57.599 --> 00:02:58.319 This is the show. 47 00:02:58.599 --> 00:03:01.560 But I wanted to start out with the painting that 48 00:03:01.840 --> 00:03:05.560 we have to symbolize today's theme. This is a big one, 49 00:03:05.560 --> 00:03:08.759 and so three ft three foot by four foot, it's 50 00:03:08.840 --> 00:03:12.960 called she Appeared on a Journey. And I had painted 51 00:03:13.000 --> 00:03:16.159 this the month after I moved to Santa Fe, which 52 00:03:16.199 --> 00:03:19.599 was kind of my threshold into my true artist's life. 53 00:03:20.840 --> 00:03:23.919 And so she kind of symbolizes to me, as you're 54 00:03:23.960 --> 00:03:28.240 going along this journey, you meet a new version of yourself, 55 00:03:29.280 --> 00:03:32.360 the leveled up version of your true self that you're 56 00:03:32.520 --> 00:03:34.919 not quite there yet, but you can see her, so 57 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:36.639 you know that that's in your future. 58 00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:39.719 And I had taken it to my aunt's. 59 00:03:39.319 --> 00:03:44.879 House in Texas, excuse me, and the first thing she 60 00:03:45.000 --> 00:03:48.000 said was, Oh, I really like it, but she seems 61 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:51.080 to have fear in her eyes. And my first thought was, oh, 62 00:03:51.120 --> 00:03:53.680 my gosh, what is my aunt Ruth seeing in me 63 00:03:53.879 --> 00:03:56.800 that I'm not seeing it myself, you know? And I 64 00:03:56.919 --> 00:03:58.400 thought about it, and I thought, you know as a 65 00:03:58.439 --> 00:04:01.639 memoir artist, my emails and what's happening with me tends 66 00:04:01.680 --> 00:04:03.400 to bubble up in my artwork. And I thought, well, 67 00:04:03.439 --> 00:04:06.080 you know, this is part of that journey is fear. 68 00:04:06.319 --> 00:04:08.759 You know, I thought she had had this contemplation look 69 00:04:08.800 --> 00:04:11.680 on her face, But it is fear to think, where 70 00:04:11.680 --> 00:04:13.520 am I going? Do I know how to do this? 71 00:04:14.080 --> 00:04:15.280 What do I. 72 00:04:15.280 --> 00:04:18.839 Believe I'm capable of? What is my potential? And how 73 00:04:18.879 --> 00:04:21.959 is that going to guide me forward? So the thing 74 00:04:22.040 --> 00:04:25.720 that really hit me in the last couple of weeks, 75 00:04:27.079 --> 00:04:31.079 you know, Sean Aker was talking about that our beliefs 76 00:04:31.600 --> 00:04:35.079 don't just set what we're doing right now today, but 77 00:04:35.120 --> 00:04:36.720 they predict our future. 78 00:04:37.560 --> 00:04:39.240 And you know we've talked about that. 79 00:04:39.399 --> 00:04:41.879 The words we speak, you know that I am, statements 80 00:04:41.920 --> 00:04:44.680 we say predict our future. But if you kind of 81 00:04:44.759 --> 00:04:48.279 roll that back your thoughts. Your words are set on 82 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:50.519 your thoughts, and your thoughts are set on beliefs, and 83 00:04:50.560 --> 00:04:54.079 those can be so ingrained and in there some of 84 00:04:54.120 --> 00:04:56.720 these beliefs are so deeply set that they can kind 85 00:04:56.720 --> 00:04:59.959 of surprise you. And is that, like you said, really 86 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:02.839 where you want to go? Really what you want to believe? 87 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:06.120 And how is that restricting? You from receiving and so 88 00:05:07.160 --> 00:05:10.439 you know, I had recently received the five wonderful endorsements 89 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:15.240 from you and some other ladies for my book, and 90 00:05:16.360 --> 00:05:17.879 they're wonderful endorsements. 91 00:05:18.199 --> 00:05:19.120 But when I first. 92 00:05:18.959 --> 00:05:23.600 Started getting them in, I literally pat I was reading 93 00:05:23.680 --> 00:05:26.800 the first one on the email and it was like 94 00:05:26.839 --> 00:05:28.959 a brick wall was in front of my face. I 95 00:05:29.040 --> 00:05:32.439 could not see the words. I could not see the 96 00:05:32.480 --> 00:05:35.519 positive words, and I thought, what in the world is 97 00:05:35.560 --> 00:05:39.639 going on? And I talked to my publisher about it, 98 00:05:39.680 --> 00:05:43.600 and she said, that's totally normal. You know, authors sometimes 99 00:05:43.639 --> 00:05:46.560 tend to think, well, I don't want anything bad to 100 00:05:46.560 --> 00:05:49.079 be said about my work and this new baby that 101 00:05:49.079 --> 00:05:50.120 I'm putting out into the world. 102 00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:51.839 So then I put up a wall so I don't 103 00:05:51.839 --> 00:05:52.439 see anything. 104 00:05:53.279 --> 00:05:56.120 But I realized that and I actually did this motion 105 00:05:56.199 --> 00:05:58.800 when I was talking to her on zoom. I said, 106 00:05:58.920 --> 00:06:01.800 it is so deeply in grained in me, all the 107 00:06:01.920 --> 00:06:04.040 years of my mom telling me that no one wants 108 00:06:04.079 --> 00:06:06.759 your artwork, You're going to fail. You know, I'm so 109 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:09.399 embarrassed of you. When I quit my professor job, and 110 00:06:09.439 --> 00:06:13.279 that was eleven years ago. But you know, quote unquote 111 00:06:13.319 --> 00:06:15.759 some friends or romantic partners that have also kind of 112 00:06:15.800 --> 00:06:18.680 done the same thing. I've been living like this with 113 00:06:18.800 --> 00:06:21.160 my boxing gloves up, and if you just look at 114 00:06:21.160 --> 00:06:22.560 that motion, it's shrunk back. 115 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:24.120 And so I. 116 00:06:24.120 --> 00:06:29.040 Thought, whoa, that's such a deeply ingrained belief in my system. 117 00:06:29.680 --> 00:06:32.360 I have got to get rid of that and you know, 118 00:06:32.480 --> 00:06:35.040 have more of a receiving, an open attitude and not 119 00:06:35.240 --> 00:06:39.439 this for this book to succeed. And that is so sneaky. 120 00:06:40.199 --> 00:06:42.879 You know, I didn't realize you think that. Okay, I've 121 00:06:42.920 --> 00:06:45.959 gotten over that, but that was still so strong. 122 00:06:46.959 --> 00:06:49.560 Yeah. And you know, I was just talking to somebody 123 00:06:49.600 --> 00:06:52.639 this morning, and you know in the conversation what I 124 00:06:52.680 --> 00:06:56.439 said to her, and she was studying, she's she's in 125 00:06:56.519 --> 00:07:00.000 the process of healing, so she's studying all these people, right, 126 00:07:00.639 --> 00:07:03.639 which we should do. But I set something to her 127 00:07:03.959 --> 00:07:08.240 and I said, you know, you can study all you want, yeah, 128 00:07:08.639 --> 00:07:12.480 but you must start with your mind and your mindset. Yeah, 129 00:07:12.560 --> 00:07:16.279 And I said, it's I'm talking more than a few 130 00:07:16.319 --> 00:07:18.519 affirmations mindset. 131 00:07:19.120 --> 00:07:19.360 Yeah. 132 00:07:19.439 --> 00:07:23.160 That think about those two words. You set your mind 133 00:07:24.240 --> 00:07:28.360 to a particular focus on a particular thing. You just 134 00:07:28.439 --> 00:07:33.000 described a mindset, right, You just described something that was 135 00:07:33.040 --> 00:07:37.319 going on. You caught it. And so once you catch it, 136 00:07:37.959 --> 00:07:41.040 then isn't a true VICKI then we can really do 137 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:42.079 something about it. 138 00:07:42.079 --> 00:07:44.560 Right, And I think sometimes you've got to fake it 139 00:07:44.600 --> 00:07:45.279 till you make it. 140 00:07:45.759 --> 00:07:47.759 Oh you got to oh come on, yeah, because you 141 00:07:47.800 --> 00:07:48.199 know you. 142 00:07:48.079 --> 00:07:51.120 Can't just say, okay, well I see that. 143 00:07:50.639 --> 00:07:55.800 That is a really deeply ingrained, years long negative belief pattern, 144 00:07:56.360 --> 00:07:58.639 So okay, I'm just going to change it and it 145 00:07:58.680 --> 00:08:02.360 will be done. You can't do that, and so, you know, 146 00:08:02.439 --> 00:08:04.519 to me, that's where the I am statements come in. 147 00:08:05.079 --> 00:08:08.399 You know, I am a powerful artist. I'm a powerful writer. 148 00:08:08.600 --> 00:08:09.160 What I do. 149 00:08:09.240 --> 00:08:11.639 You know, my book, the podcast, everything is going to 150 00:08:12.079 --> 00:08:15.519 you know, feed the world and so eventually it will 151 00:08:15.560 --> 00:08:18.639 start getting into your system. But some of these things 152 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:20.959 are so ingrained, you know, especially if you've had it 153 00:08:21.000 --> 00:08:24.759 since childhood, it's hard to get those out and so 154 00:08:24.800 --> 00:08:27.079 it's like, you know, kind of plucking splinters out of 155 00:08:27.079 --> 00:08:32.559 your skin really and so but yeah, acknowledging, I think, 156 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:34.960 you know, with a lot of things in life, that's 157 00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:38.279 the first step. But then you know, just working, working, 158 00:08:38.360 --> 00:08:41.080 working to say okay, I still kind of feel this, 159 00:08:41.279 --> 00:08:43.759 but I need to change it. And it's a process 160 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:46.399 and so be gentle with yourself along the way, but 161 00:08:46.480 --> 00:08:47.480 don't give up on that. 162 00:08:48.559 --> 00:08:52.960 Yeah, here's a funny story. I was attending doctor Jen Houston. 163 00:08:53.039 --> 00:08:55.879 Her passing was so sad for me, but I attended 164 00:08:55.919 --> 00:08:59.840 her first leadership thing. She had everybody there, doctor Angeli's 165 00:08:59.799 --> 00:09:03.399 Air and Donna Eden, I mean just everybody. That was 166 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:07.799 every woman teaching what Jean thought we needed to learn 167 00:09:07.799 --> 00:09:10.480 about leadership. And we had to bring in a little 168 00:09:10.519 --> 00:09:13.840 clip affirmation. So all these people brought in these clips, 169 00:09:14.480 --> 00:09:16.559 like and this is when I was just starting, like 170 00:09:16.759 --> 00:09:19.039 two thousand and four or something, right, so you have 171 00:09:19.159 --> 00:09:21.960 to put me back there. And so everybody wrote in 172 00:09:21.960 --> 00:09:25.639 these cool clips and they were ohms and mantras and songs. 173 00:09:26.240 --> 00:09:31.279 I bring in a three minute clip of Muhammad Ali. Wow, 174 00:09:32.159 --> 00:09:37.000 because that's the way my brain works, you know, And 175 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:41.000 I played it. Now, some people knew who I played, 176 00:09:41.039 --> 00:09:44.039 They knew who he was. Other people didn't. But from 177 00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:47.159 the get go, that man annoyed a lot of people 178 00:09:47.720 --> 00:09:52.200 with one phrase, I am the greatest. Yeah, yeah, but 179 00:09:53.279 --> 00:09:58.080 he was, Well, isn't that the Chicken and Eggs story? 180 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:03.440 Was he the greatest? Or by saying I am the greatest? 181 00:10:04.200 --> 00:10:07.600 Did his action and her behaviors get him to that. Now, 182 00:10:07.600 --> 00:10:10.080 I'm not here to answer that question, but that's what 183 00:10:10.159 --> 00:10:13.480 we're talking about. That's speaking it till you make it big. 184 00:10:13.320 --> 00:10:15.879 Time, absolutely, and that reminds me. 185 00:10:15.919 --> 00:10:18.559 I was listening to a podcast last night on fresh Air, 186 00:10:19.399 --> 00:10:21.879 and I can't remember the man's full name, but he 187 00:10:21.960 --> 00:10:24.480 is an eighty year old Broadway actor who's been doing 188 00:10:24.480 --> 00:10:28.360 this forever, and you know, he's won several Tonys. And 189 00:10:29.360 --> 00:10:33.759 she was asking him, you know, he's African American. He 190 00:10:34.399 --> 00:10:37.159 contracted AIDS in nineteen ninety one, and she said, did 191 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:41.720 you see yourself at that time becoming at eighty, you know, 192 00:10:41.879 --> 00:10:45.799 this major Broadway personality, an Tony Award winner, And she 193 00:10:46.000 --> 00:10:48.120 was thinking that he would say, oh no, I never 194 00:10:48.159 --> 00:10:53.480 saw myself like that, and he said absolutely, And so 195 00:10:53.799 --> 00:10:56.679 you know, he just had it in him that this 196 00:10:56.960 --> 00:11:00.159 is my destiny. I may not be there yet, may 197 00:11:00.240 --> 00:11:02.360 have a lot of these roadblocks in front of me, 198 00:11:02.879 --> 00:11:05.480 but he said, I just kept moving toward it, and 199 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:09.440 I knew that would happen. And I thought, wow, you know, 200 00:11:09.600 --> 00:11:15.120 good for you. So we all need that kind of mindset, and. 201 00:11:15.080 --> 00:11:16.639 You know, part of this is what you bring to 202 00:11:16.679 --> 00:11:20.440 the conversation today. You're mentioning the publisher, you're mentioning the book. 203 00:11:21.600 --> 00:11:24.000 And you know, here's the thing. When we ask people 204 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:26.960 for feedback, we're not always going to get what we 205 00:11:27.080 --> 00:11:29.679 think we want or deserve. But you see, we're at 206 00:11:29.679 --> 00:11:33.000 a choice point. If we don't get what we want 207 00:11:33.159 --> 00:11:35.679 or what we think we should deserve, you just dismiss it. 208 00:11:35.960 --> 00:11:38.480 See this is my thinking. People say, why you throw 209 00:11:38.519 --> 00:11:40.200 it away? I throw it away because you know, whatever 210 00:11:40.240 --> 00:11:41.840 that was said right there, that is not the truth 211 00:11:41.879 --> 00:11:43.799 to me. Yeah, I did you know that is not 212 00:11:43.919 --> 00:11:45.360 I'm not going to put that in. I'm not going 213 00:11:45.399 --> 00:11:49.480 to include that feedback. That's not what I believe. But yet, 214 00:11:49.759 --> 00:11:51.919 the laws of the universe, the universe, the God of 215 00:11:51.960 --> 00:11:54.720 your understand, I don't care what you call it. It's 216 00:11:54.759 --> 00:11:56.840 always a test, that's what I find. 217 00:11:57.200 --> 00:11:58.519 Yeah, it really is. 218 00:11:59.000 --> 00:12:03.559 There's one test after another. And you know, it was 219 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:07.360 so funny because it starts to show up in our 220 00:12:07.399 --> 00:12:11.399 everyday life. So where are we with this? Because some 221 00:12:11.480 --> 00:12:13.879 people think beliefs have ceilings. 222 00:12:14.840 --> 00:12:17.759 Yeah, and they may not know what that meaning. Yeah, 223 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:19.879 well they may not know that they have the ceiling. 224 00:12:19.919 --> 00:12:22.159 And the reason I put that down that was one 225 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:25.759 of the comments that Oprah may during the podcast, yeah, 226 00:12:25.799 --> 00:12:29.000 what is the ceiling of your beliefs? And I thought, oh, well, 227 00:12:29.000 --> 00:12:33.480 there's a good question, right, And so basically what I 228 00:12:33.519 --> 00:12:36.600 took from that with the theme of this show, whatever 229 00:12:36.639 --> 00:12:39.080 your ceiling is of what your beliefs are. I can 230 00:12:39.159 --> 00:12:42.279 only go this far. I only have this much potential 231 00:12:42.360 --> 00:12:45.879 and talent. That's going to limit what you receive, that's 232 00:12:45.919 --> 00:12:49.840 gonna limit what you ask for. And so that really 233 00:12:49.879 --> 00:12:54.080 reminded me of that story from the Old Testament about 234 00:12:54.120 --> 00:12:57.320 the widow woman that her husband had died. He left 235 00:12:57.360 --> 00:13:01.240 her with a bunch of debts. She had two small boys, 236 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:03.480 and so the creditors are saying, we'll take them as 237 00:13:03.559 --> 00:13:06.080 slaves for you to pay off these debts. And so, 238 00:13:06.200 --> 00:13:08.159 you know, they were they were in, you know, this 239 00:13:08.440 --> 00:13:13.519 tragic time, and the prophet Elisha came along and he 240 00:13:13.600 --> 00:13:16.559 asked her a very simple question, what do you have 241 00:13:16.679 --> 00:13:20.600 in your house? And so the undercurrent, the subtext of 242 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:23.320 this whole story is we have more. 243 00:13:23.120 --> 00:13:26.159 Than what we think. It may seem itty bitty, but 244 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:27.679 you have more what you think. 245 00:13:27.960 --> 00:13:30.799 And she said, all I have is this small jar 246 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:35.679 of oil. And he said, perfect, go out to your 247 00:13:35.720 --> 00:13:41.559 friends neighbors, strangers, and just gather as many jars, vessels, 248 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:45.720 whatever to you know, we'll put the oil into. Well, 249 00:13:45.759 --> 00:13:49.440 that sounds really outlandish and stupid. If I have this 250 00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:52.440 small jar of oil and you're telling me together all 251 00:13:52.480 --> 00:13:56.039 of these vessels and jars and pots, and he actually 252 00:13:56.039 --> 00:13:59.440 said borrow, not a few. Well, I don't remember the story. 253 00:13:59.519 --> 00:14:02.159 They tell tell us how many vessels and pots and 254 00:14:02.240 --> 00:14:05.600 jars that she borrowed. But everything that she gathered in 255 00:14:06.440 --> 00:14:09.120 the oil, they kept pouring and pouring and pouring the 256 00:14:09.159 --> 00:14:12.399 small amount of her little jar into these larger vessels, 257 00:14:12.919 --> 00:14:16.519 and miraculously every jar was filled, and that was enough 258 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:18.600 for them to live off of and pay the debts. 259 00:14:19.039 --> 00:14:22.480 And so there's so many levels to this story. But 260 00:14:22.600 --> 00:14:27.399 if she had gathered more, more would have been filled. 261 00:14:27.879 --> 00:14:30.240 If she had gathered like, oh, you know it's gonna work. 262 00:14:30.240 --> 00:14:33.039 I'm only going to gather too, then they would have 263 00:14:33.080 --> 00:14:37.759 had two. And so that reminds me. I remember when, 264 00:14:38.120 --> 00:14:41.159 especially when I first went to college in nineteen eighty four, 265 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:45.799 from Happy, Texas, the town without her Frown. There's a billboard, 266 00:14:46.679 --> 00:14:49.759 say so, and it's only six hundred and some odd 267 00:14:49.799 --> 00:14:53.759 people farming, ranching and When I got to school, I 268 00:14:53.799 --> 00:14:55.399 went to Texas Tech and at the time it was 269 00:14:55.440 --> 00:14:58.360 twenty six thousand students. I only graduated with a few eleven. 270 00:14:58.480 --> 00:15:01.720 So I was thrilled to only be a social Security 271 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:04.919 number and not be known and everybody knows what you're doing. 272 00:15:05.559 --> 00:15:08.600 And I was so embarrassed of being from Happy Texas. 273 00:15:08.679 --> 00:15:11.159 I would lie and say I'm from Dallas. I'm from Dallas. 274 00:15:11.159 --> 00:15:14.919 I'm a city girl. And so you know, that kind 275 00:15:14.919 --> 00:15:16.720 of went on throughout my life. 276 00:15:17.240 --> 00:15:18.879 Well here I am with this book. 277 00:15:19.200 --> 00:15:21.879 You know, Shine, Happy Shine, That's what the happy is, 278 00:15:22.440 --> 00:15:24.480 and the whole thing is about growing up in Happy 279 00:15:24.519 --> 00:15:26.799 Texas and how that affected me and my mom and 280 00:15:26.840 --> 00:15:30.080 our relationship. So that is such a small jar of 281 00:15:30.120 --> 00:15:34.360 oil that I'm now recognizing the value of and using 282 00:15:34.399 --> 00:15:37.080 it to hopefully, you know, feed the world in some way. 283 00:15:37.639 --> 00:15:40.399 So you know, we don't know exactly what we have, 284 00:15:40.600 --> 00:15:43.720 and it may seem so insignificant, but check it. You know, 285 00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:45.600 you may that may be your little gift in there 286 00:15:45.639 --> 00:15:46.399 that you can grow. 287 00:15:48.360 --> 00:15:50.200 But you know, this is a that's first of all, 288 00:15:50.240 --> 00:15:52.759 that's a great story. Let's break it down for a minute, 289 00:15:53.120 --> 00:15:56.480 because it is the same Muhammed Ali I am the 290 00:15:56.519 --> 00:16:02.320 greatest idea because think about that woman, right, think about that, 291 00:16:02.720 --> 00:16:06.600 because I can't remember part of that story was her 292 00:16:06.840 --> 00:16:09.840 to create something for him to eat. I'm probably mixing 293 00:16:09.879 --> 00:16:13.039 him up. But here's the point. That's a different widow. 294 00:16:13.120 --> 00:16:16.919 Ye these poor widows in the Bible. But in this 295 00:16:17.080 --> 00:16:21.039 particular case, she had to believe. 296 00:16:21.080 --> 00:16:21.840 Yes she did. 297 00:16:22.279 --> 00:16:27.480 She had to believe at the get go to go 298 00:16:27.559 --> 00:16:31.399 gather as many vessels let's call him that as she 299 00:16:31.559 --> 00:16:34.240 gathered to bring back and the wood and the oil 300 00:16:34.320 --> 00:16:39.000 did not stop, right, But she had to believe. And 301 00:16:39.080 --> 00:16:41.720 you see, that's where the breakdown is for a lot 302 00:16:41.799 --> 00:16:44.080 of us. And it's not that we're not going to 303 00:16:44.159 --> 00:16:47.360 get outside sources telling us. I mean, we don't know 304 00:16:47.399 --> 00:16:49.639 what the people that you got the vessels from said 305 00:16:49.639 --> 00:16:52.320 to her, Like seriously, what a joke. I mean I 306 00:16:52.320 --> 00:16:56.000 can only imagine, right, you're going out in your neighborhood 307 00:16:56.000 --> 00:16:57.840 and say, hey, I need a vessel because I got 308 00:16:58.039 --> 00:17:00.000 I got like a half a cup of oil that's 309 00:17:00.039 --> 00:17:01.159 going to fill all these vessels. 310 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:05.000 Okay, she would be like, well, I get my tupperware 311 00:17:05.119 --> 00:17:05.599 back from you. 312 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:11.240 But there's something that's hidden in that story. This is 313 00:17:11.279 --> 00:17:17.519 what I think is hidden. I'm not sure she told everybody. See, 314 00:17:17.599 --> 00:17:21.839 it's never revealed. She may or may not have. Yeah, 315 00:17:21.880 --> 00:17:26.119 but Catherine Ponder said it better than anybody. Don't dilute 316 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:29.079 your idea by outside opinions. 317 00:17:29.400 --> 00:17:30.559 Yeah, don't water it down. 318 00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:33.400 Don't water it down. And yet you and I are 319 00:17:33.480 --> 00:17:36.960 public and what we do, and yet we have to 320 00:17:37.039 --> 00:17:42.200 learn these things because we don't know. But positive thinkers, 321 00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:45.119 let's get to that. Because I imagine this woman as 322 00:17:45.160 --> 00:17:47.720 a widow that is a positive thinker. I just have 323 00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:48.920 to imagine that I have. 324 00:17:49.200 --> 00:17:53.200 So that's what I want to Her circumstance was so bad, right, 325 00:17:53.480 --> 00:17:57.160 bad for this man to come in. He's basically, you know, 326 00:17:57.200 --> 00:18:01.680 it's kind of the reflection of our higher power, you know, God, 327 00:18:01.799 --> 00:18:03.400 the universe, whoever your. 328 00:18:03.319 --> 00:18:04.160 Higher power is. 329 00:18:04.400 --> 00:18:07.680 She's trusting this prophet, and so it's trusting this higher 330 00:18:07.720 --> 00:18:10.839 power to tell you what to do, and you blindly 331 00:18:10.880 --> 00:18:13.640 go do it, you know, that childlike faith. And so 332 00:18:13.920 --> 00:18:16.559 I hope that she was a positive thinker and gathered 333 00:18:16.599 --> 00:18:19.680 a whole bunch of them. But one thing that Sean 334 00:18:19.720 --> 00:18:23.519 Aker said in his book, He said that neuroscience has 335 00:18:23.599 --> 00:18:27.680 shown that people who are positive thinkers and belief that 336 00:18:27.839 --> 00:18:30.799 good is around the corner, something great is going to happen. 337 00:18:31.400 --> 00:18:34.480 Then it's almost like the universal algorithm that more of 338 00:18:34.480 --> 00:18:36.920 that is going to pop into their lives. And so 339 00:18:37.000 --> 00:18:41.079 your brain is scanning for these things. Negative thinkers think, em, 340 00:18:41.279 --> 00:18:42.799 you know, that's not going to happen, and so they 341 00:18:42.880 --> 00:18:45.960 kind of just skip over it. And so I'm like you, 342 00:18:46.079 --> 00:18:48.519 I'm hoping this was a positive thinker and gathered a 343 00:18:48.559 --> 00:18:52.559 whole bunch. But he referenced this study from the UK 344 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:56.200 and it was literally count the photos in a newspaper story, 345 00:18:56.240 --> 00:19:01.480 which sounds really simple. Well, positive thinkers, they were flipping 346 00:19:01.519 --> 00:19:03.680 through there, and you know, since their brain is scanning 347 00:19:03.720 --> 00:19:04.720 for positive things. 348 00:19:05.039 --> 00:19:07.559 On page two they saw a thing. 349 00:19:07.400 --> 00:19:09.319 That was not a photo, but it was a little 350 00:19:09.720 --> 00:19:13.119 like ad that said stop now and collect double. They 351 00:19:13.119 --> 00:19:15.279 were supposed to get five pounds if they, you know, 352 00:19:16.640 --> 00:19:19.200 accomplish this task, and so oh, page two, I'll stop. 353 00:19:19.200 --> 00:19:22.799 I get ten pounds. Well, the negative thinkers are like, oh, well, 354 00:19:22.839 --> 00:19:24.559 you know this isn't going to really work. Who cares, 355 00:19:24.599 --> 00:19:27.240 you know, to flip flip flip the paper And they 356 00:19:27.279 --> 00:19:30.279 skipped over that, and so they finished the task, but 357 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:33.400 they got half of the pay, And so my thing 358 00:19:33.599 --> 00:19:37.400 was with combining these two. What if we're not asking, 359 00:19:37.440 --> 00:19:40.200 why if we're not looking for enough pots gathering enough pots, 360 00:19:40.319 --> 00:19:44.119 or what if we're skipping over wonderful things because our 361 00:19:44.160 --> 00:19:47.200 brains are so tunnel visioned on. Oh, I don't have 362 00:19:47.279 --> 00:19:49.519 the potential. My gifts are not good enough. I have 363 00:19:49.640 --> 00:19:52.680 nothing to offer, and that's not receiving. 364 00:19:53.160 --> 00:19:54.559 You know, I have to receive. 365 00:19:55.440 --> 00:19:58.519 Yeah, you know. I'm working with Indira who's hosting a show, 366 00:19:58.559 --> 00:20:02.279 and she's a mind step mindset mastery okay, but she 367 00:20:02.359 --> 00:20:05.839 pulls no punches. So here's the dilemma that we have 368 00:20:06.079 --> 00:20:08.759 in our thinking about I'm an optimist. I've always been 369 00:20:08.799 --> 00:20:12.319 an optimist, you know, when they asked me the critical question. 370 00:20:12.559 --> 00:20:14.799 I actually brought this up on a show and I 371 00:20:14.920 --> 00:20:17.680 was corrected, and I never bought into the correction. I 372 00:20:17.799 --> 00:20:20.119 just moved on. But I was always get asked the 373 00:20:20.119 --> 00:20:23.119 assessment question, especially if you're in HR. It's a glass 374 00:20:23.119 --> 00:20:26.079 and half empty or half full. And I remember looking 375 00:20:26.079 --> 00:20:29.240 at high paid consultant twenty five k a day. We 376 00:20:29.359 --> 00:20:32.279 hired this person to come in and I just looked 377 00:20:32.279 --> 00:20:35.519 at them with my boss, doctor ross doctor standing there. 378 00:20:35.640 --> 00:20:40.759 She hated me, and I said, what a ridiculous question. 379 00:20:41.400 --> 00:20:44.960 This is me. I'm like, what are you talking about? 380 00:20:45.240 --> 00:20:49.319 Who fills the glass halfway? I don't do that? Do 381 00:20:49.359 --> 00:20:51.640 you do that? I said? When I take a cup 382 00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:53.759 of coffee, I take a full cup of coffee. When 383 00:20:53.799 --> 00:20:56.599 I take a glass of milk, it's milk and soda. 384 00:20:56.640 --> 00:20:58.880 I've gotta pull it. Sometimes it goes over the top. 385 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:03.000 I don't understand your question. Well, boy, did I get 386 00:21:03.079 --> 00:21:03.720 dinged for that? 387 00:21:04.359 --> 00:21:05.039 Oh wow? 388 00:21:05.079 --> 00:21:09.440 But my brain truly works like that. Now when I 389 00:21:09.480 --> 00:21:12.839 get asked that question again, I still answer it that way. 390 00:21:13.400 --> 00:21:16.599 I'm not saying it's a stupid question today. But then 391 00:21:16.960 --> 00:21:20.559 I said, that's the most ridiculous question anybody is. I 392 00:21:20.599 --> 00:21:24.039 really did, and it became problematic for my company. But 393 00:21:24.079 --> 00:21:27.440 the point is this, let's talk about it because there 394 00:21:27.519 --> 00:21:32.680 is a misconception that all optimists are pollyannas. See I've 395 00:21:32.720 --> 00:21:36.359 been called Pollyanna Patty. That is not true. You can 396 00:21:36.400 --> 00:21:38.960 be an optimist and when you draw a line in 397 00:21:39.000 --> 00:21:44.119 the sand, you are standing up for yourself. Yes, I 398 00:21:44.160 --> 00:21:47.440 mean I think people like Oprah, which I think. I 399 00:21:47.480 --> 00:21:50.400 think Oprah is an optimist. I don't know. I'm no 400 00:21:50.559 --> 00:21:54.079 coaching Oprah. But my assessment is she is, but she's 401 00:21:54.160 --> 00:21:58.559