WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:06.839 From morecast connect in aj Benze fame. Uh, he'd liked 2 00:00:06.839 --> 00:00:09.119 to be walked on a leash and play really dirty 3 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:12.519 kinky sex games. Is uh the guy put the cock 4 00:00:12.800 --> 00:00:17.800 in the peacock network. Okay, bitch, Hey, everybody AJ bens 5 00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:20.079 a year with fame is a bitch. This is your 6 00:00:20.160 --> 00:00:24.160 daily Unfiltered podcast for March seven, twenty twenty five oh 7 00:00:24.239 --> 00:00:28.719 three oh seven two two five three odd numbers. That's 8 00:00:28.920 --> 00:00:33.039 not typically the case, but here we are. But it's 9 00:00:33.039 --> 00:00:35.920 a good day. It's a good date. As you know, 10 00:00:35.960 --> 00:00:39.719 it's today. My father died in nineteen eighty five. Look 11 00:00:39.759 --> 00:00:45.119 at that? Is that twenty years exactly? Yeah, forty years 12 00:00:45.119 --> 00:00:47.640 exactly to the day, almost to the hour. He died 13 00:00:47.640 --> 00:00:52.359 at seven fifteen pm. But I'll get to that. Actually 14 00:00:52.359 --> 00:00:55.759 I'm recording this at six fifteen pm, so I'll get 15 00:00:55.799 --> 00:00:57.960 to that later in the show. But first by you 16 00:00:58.039 --> 00:01:00.320 missed a great dinner last night. I posted some pictures 17 00:01:00.359 --> 00:01:03.719 on the Facebook podcast obsess page. You know, we always 18 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:08.040 like to make I like to make dungeness crabs and 19 00:01:08.120 --> 00:01:13.079 a really hot sauce adabiata sauce which means angry in 20 00:01:13.159 --> 00:01:18.400 Italian adabiata And it's not hard to make them all. 21 00:01:18.400 --> 00:01:22.000 It's just something I love to prepare. And Rosalie has 22 00:01:22.079 --> 00:01:25.040 one hundred staple dishes and this is one of mine. 23 00:01:25.159 --> 00:01:29.760 So she was shopping and she couldn't find crabs. It's 24 00:01:29.760 --> 00:01:32.359 out of season, and she had an inkling. There's that 25 00:01:32.799 --> 00:01:36.319 esp again. Let me just go to Costco and check again. 26 00:01:36.560 --> 00:01:38.439 And three days ago there were no crabs, and the 27 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:41.400 guy said, we're gonna get them in April. She went again. 28 00:01:41.599 --> 00:01:45.200 Two days ago there they were. So she's like texting 29 00:01:45.239 --> 00:01:47.280 all of us, what should I do? I said, let's 30 00:01:47.280 --> 00:01:48.959 have him for the weekend. I sent. I sent her 31 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:52.200 money by the you know, buy three packets fifteen crabs. 32 00:01:52.799 --> 00:01:55.599 She goes, Joey's working the next seven days. He's only 33 00:01:55.599 --> 00:01:58.719 off tonight. He says, okay, we'll make him tonight. This 34 00:01:58.840 --> 00:02:01.959 is like two o'clock in the afterno so everybody's rushing around. 35 00:02:02.840 --> 00:02:04.959 And you don't even need a pen for this. To 36 00:02:05.040 --> 00:02:08.960 know the recipe. It's simple. Just take the crabs typically 37 00:02:09.000 --> 00:02:12.840 with this top shell off, and just a crab without 38 00:02:12.840 --> 00:02:14.360 the top shell. You can break them in half to 39 00:02:14.400 --> 00:02:19.439 make two halves. Whatever's easier for you. I like to 40 00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:21.719 bend the legs and crack them a little bit so 41 00:02:21.800 --> 00:02:25.360 the sauce can seep in when it's cooking. Well, stick 42 00:02:25.400 --> 00:02:27.719 a knife for the big claws in the front, so 43 00:02:27.759 --> 00:02:30.759 they get sauce that seeps in. But it's really simple. 44 00:02:30.800 --> 00:02:32.639 You put them in a tin pan, you know, two 45 00:02:32.680 --> 00:02:36.280 or three tin pins. I cut up a whole head 46 00:02:36.319 --> 00:02:39.759 of garlic. We're talking twenty some odd clothes. I love it. 47 00:02:40.000 --> 00:02:42.039 I chop them up real fine, so the garlic is 48 00:02:42.120 --> 00:02:46.159 stronger and more potent, which is a terrific way to 49 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:49.000 eat it. And you throw the crabs in the pan 50 00:02:49.120 --> 00:02:52.520 and you make your sauce. However, you make your sauce, 51 00:02:52.639 --> 00:02:55.159 making them out and out of sauce. No meat sauce obviously, 52 00:02:56.000 --> 00:02:58.199 So whoever you make your sauce, even if you want 53 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:01.039 to be lazy and get jars, if you do that, 54 00:03:01.199 --> 00:03:04.080 then get the good brands, get the rails, get the uh. 55 00:03:04.639 --> 00:03:06.719 There's so many good brands of sauce out there now. 56 00:03:07.120 --> 00:03:10.479 They're usually eight dollars up. If you want to go 57 00:03:10.560 --> 00:03:13.479 that route, that's fine because it's quick and it's easy. 58 00:03:13.520 --> 00:03:16.800 And if you make your homemade sauce even better. But 59 00:03:16.840 --> 00:03:19.919 you throw your sauce on top of the crabs, throw 60 00:03:19.960 --> 00:03:23.560 the garlic in there, Throw a bunch of basil in it, salt, pepper, 61 00:03:23.719 --> 00:03:25.520 some garlic, salt. Well, I don't know because there's so 62 00:03:25.560 --> 00:03:28.800 much garlic, but it just feels good spreading garlic salt 63 00:03:28.800 --> 00:03:31.599 on on top. And that's it. You put them in 64 00:03:31.599 --> 00:03:33.800 the other The crabs are typically already cooked when you 65 00:03:33.840 --> 00:03:35.759 buy them. They're boiled, you know what I mean. So 66 00:03:35.919 --> 00:03:37.840 you're getting a crab that's cooked. So you just got 67 00:03:37.840 --> 00:03:39.840 to put them in the oven at four hundred degrees 68 00:03:39.879 --> 00:03:43.479 for about forty minutes. So the sauce cooks real good 69 00:03:43.520 --> 00:03:45.840 and it gets involved in the in the meat of 70 00:03:45.879 --> 00:03:50.280 the crab. That's it. You're done. Then spread some newspaper 71 00:03:50.319 --> 00:03:52.639 out on your table if you want to, and just 72 00:03:52.759 --> 00:03:55.840 have at it. Crack those crabs and have a ball. 73 00:03:57.000 --> 00:03:59.400 Let me just leave this message for Andrea. Hold On, 74 00:04:00.080 --> 00:04:06.400 can't stop, Okay, taping now, Okay, So yeah, it's thrific 75 00:04:06.479 --> 00:04:09.560 driven now Rosalie Days. Oh you know what I'm thinking? 76 00:04:09.960 --> 00:04:12.400 In addition to crabs, should we make a salad? Now? 77 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:14.639 We don't need a salad. It took tears much salad 78 00:04:14.680 --> 00:04:19.199 with crab. We're gonna be hunched overall plates, devouring crabs. 79 00:04:19.199 --> 00:04:21.480 We don't need a salad. Oh, I feel like we 80 00:04:21.519 --> 00:04:24.959 need something else. Bro. We have last night's Scullotta fuzzle, 81 00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:29.480 which is you know, white canaloni beans, an escarol in 82 00:04:29.519 --> 00:04:32.759 a chicken stock or garlic and salt and peppin whole thing. 83 00:04:32.759 --> 00:04:35.120 We make a soup like that. I love scullotta fuzzle 84 00:04:35.639 --> 00:04:37.480 with a lot of beans and a lot of garlic 85 00:04:37.560 --> 00:04:40.199 and some garlic bread with that. It's a home run. 86 00:04:40.639 --> 00:04:42.600 We still had that left over for the night before 87 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:46.720 she goes. I want to make these beef ribs. What 88 00:04:46.720 --> 00:04:49.920 are you doing? And Joey's like, ma, what the fuck 89 00:04:50.199 --> 00:04:53.319 beef rib We got crab can I just want to 90 00:04:53.399 --> 00:04:55.519 meet them surfing turf. I said, it's not really sot 91 00:04:55.560 --> 00:04:58.079 in terf row. It's not lobs from steak. It's beef 92 00:04:58.160 --> 00:05:01.600 ribs and crabs. Okay, man aco and of course the 93 00:05:01.720 --> 00:05:05.040 nieces ate some cas. He loves crab Ave is a 94 00:05:05.040 --> 00:05:08.040 little more finicky, but it was delicious. I had another 95 00:05:08.079 --> 00:05:12.560 crab this afternoon for lunch, and that was a Wednesday. Oh. 96 00:05:12.720 --> 00:05:15.240 We also sent I sent Joey home with not a 97 00:05:15.279 --> 00:05:19.600 doggie bag, but a doggie box, a box of a 98 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:23.120 whole tray of cooked crabs if we didn't touch, and 99 00:05:23.720 --> 00:05:27.720 a big tup of wam scored a fuzzul and some 100 00:05:27.800 --> 00:05:30.360 beef rips. So he's working the next seven days, he'll 101 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:31.759 have that for lunch, he says, or when he gets 102 00:05:31.800 --> 00:05:35.560 home from work early in the morning. Believe it or not, 103 00:05:35.680 --> 00:05:37.920 I think crabs can go for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. 104 00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:40.879 I'm not a crab snob at all. Seafood is the 105 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:44.680 way to go. Also, throw some oregano in your crab 106 00:05:44.720 --> 00:05:48.839 sauce fresh basil. Do not cut the basil on a 107 00:05:48.879 --> 00:05:50.759 cutting board because you're losing all the flavor to your 108 00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:53.120 knife and the cutting board. Rip it up with your fingers. 109 00:05:53.160 --> 00:05:56.279 Always you can smell the aroma in your hands as 110 00:05:56.279 --> 00:05:58.920 you do it. But you can use dried oregano on top. 111 00:05:59.040 --> 00:06:01.639 Always use a regano. Fish. Don't use a regano for meat. 112 00:06:02.040 --> 00:06:04.800 I don't. To me, is a fish thing not a 113 00:06:04.839 --> 00:06:10.160 meat thing. Anyhow, On to today's stories, My goodness, David 114 00:06:10.399 --> 00:06:13.839 Hasselhoff's wife, his ex wife, put a bullet in her 115 00:06:13.839 --> 00:06:17.360 head the other day and died. Obviously, before she died, 116 00:06:18.519 --> 00:06:20.759 they were on good terms. His wife, his ex wife, 117 00:06:20.800 --> 00:06:25.040 Pamela Bach, man. She was a beauty. Do not sleep 118 00:06:25.079 --> 00:06:29.160 on Pamela Bach in the late eighties, My goodness. But 119 00:06:29.600 --> 00:06:32.199 they had a rough marriage. There was good for a while. 120 00:06:32.600 --> 00:06:34.759 He was high in the hog. It was after night 121 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:37.560 Rider and during Baywatch. He couldn't get a bigger star 122 00:06:37.680 --> 00:06:40.920 than David Hasseloff. As we know, he was a huge 123 00:06:40.920 --> 00:06:44.199 star in Germany where he sang, which I've heard. I 124 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:48.000 don't know why the Germans thickets so great. But before 125 00:06:49.319 --> 00:06:52.800 before she died, when the divorce kicked into effect, this 126 00:06:52.920 --> 00:06:56.879 couple that everybody loved and talked about and actually wanted 127 00:06:56.920 --> 00:07:00.560 to be. There was some real Laura d tales in 128 00:07:00.639 --> 00:07:05.240 their life, especially during their divorce. It got slopped because 129 00:07:05.800 --> 00:07:11.120 some reason, somehow personal stuff that was in their divorce 130 00:07:11.160 --> 00:07:14.079 papers got entered into the public and their kids were young, 131 00:07:14.240 --> 00:07:16.360 and the kids could see this and read about it 132 00:07:16.399 --> 00:07:21.279 was awful. It was a sixty six page filing by 133 00:07:21.319 --> 00:07:26.680 Hasselhoff's lawyers, and in those filings, his lawyers said that 134 00:07:26.800 --> 00:07:31.319 his ex wife Pamela tested positive for cocaine during their marriage. 135 00:07:31.399 --> 00:07:34.680 She was always drunk. She was even intoxicated at their 136 00:07:34.759 --> 00:07:40.240 daughter Taylor's sweet sixteen party. The documents also included allegations 137 00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:45.199 of infidelity committed by Hasseloff, as well as alcohol, drug 138 00:07:45.360 --> 00:07:50.040 and physical abuse by him against her across their sixteen 139 00:07:50.120 --> 00:07:56.160 years of marriage. Tough stuff, tough stuff, but it got personal. 140 00:07:56.199 --> 00:07:59.759 There was one point where some disturbing details came out, 141 00:08:00.040 --> 00:08:04.639 and one was that he broke her nose during a fight, 142 00:08:05.399 --> 00:08:08.519 during a drunken fight, and he countered back, the only 143 00:08:08.560 --> 00:08:11.199 person who broke my wife's nose was her plastic surgeon. 144 00:08:12.040 --> 00:08:15.199 She did develop a typical Beverly Hill's face. You know, 145 00:08:15.879 --> 00:08:18.959 obviously got too much work done. And I've been watching 146 00:08:19.040 --> 00:08:24.759 girls on Instagram and TikTok, mostly Instagram girls who got 147 00:08:24.879 --> 00:08:30.240 pretty through botox and filler and you know, procedures, and 148 00:08:30.399 --> 00:08:33.159 when they cry, Like I don't know about you, I've 149 00:08:33.159 --> 00:08:36.919 had girlfriends who when they cry, they look so beautiful. 150 00:08:36.919 --> 00:08:40.399 It breaks your heart even more. I hope you don't 151 00:08:40.399 --> 00:08:42.679 have a wife for a girlfriend who's a bad crier 152 00:08:42.759 --> 00:08:45.639 and an ugly crier. That's not good. But if you 153 00:08:45.679 --> 00:08:47.240 ever have a wife for a girlfriend that could just 154 00:08:47.320 --> 00:08:50.120 cry without making a face and the tears jumped out 155 00:08:50.159 --> 00:08:53.159 of her eyeballs, oh my god, you feel twenty times 156 00:08:53.200 --> 00:08:55.679 worse than what you felt without her crying. It's the 157 00:08:55.679 --> 00:08:58.399 worst thing, but you can still look and go what 158 00:08:58.440 --> 00:09:01.480 a beautiful crier she is makes you want to stay 159 00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:06.080 with her. These girls on Instagram, even let's stop with 160 00:09:06.159 --> 00:09:09.799 Kim Kardashian. They can't cry right. Their face doesn't have 161 00:09:09.879 --> 00:09:12.840 the typical creases in the woman's face when they cry, 162 00:09:13.120 --> 00:09:15.720 so their face looks like it's full of cement when 163 00:09:15.720 --> 00:09:19.279 they cry. It's an ugly, ugly cry, and that's going 164 00:09:19.360 --> 00:09:22.159 to make a man want to leave even more even quicker. 165 00:09:22.639 --> 00:09:24.879 I don't know if women feel a way about men crying, 166 00:09:24.960 --> 00:09:27.879 but uh, I don't think I looked that bad when 167 00:09:27.919 --> 00:09:31.600 I cry. I know I'm a messy crier, but I 168 00:09:31.600 --> 00:09:35.039 don't have cement in my face either way. These two 169 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:40.480 had a tough marriage, and you gotta wonder if all 170 00:09:40.480 --> 00:09:42.799 that stuff didn't put her over the edge eventually. I mean, 171 00:09:42.840 --> 00:09:46.480 they broke up and she lived alone and their daughters 172 00:09:46.480 --> 00:09:50.279 are in their thirties now, but they were both damaged. 173 00:09:51.039 --> 00:09:55.960 I mean twenties somewhdd years ago after Baywatch. Remember how 174 00:09:56.639 --> 00:10:01.360 what a mess Hasseloff was, Remember those of him being drunk, 175 00:10:01.399 --> 00:10:03.480 and well she was there to pick him up by 176 00:10:03.480 --> 00:10:08.320 his bootstraps. There was a story where Hasseloff was slumped 177 00:10:08.360 --> 00:10:11.080 in front of an empty mini bar in some hotel, 178 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:16.200 and you know, she she got in the phone him 179 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:21.120 and managed to concentrate and have him, you know, get 180 00:10:21.159 --> 00:10:23.360 better and get on his feet and stop drinking. But 181 00:10:23.440 --> 00:10:25.639 it was bad, you know. He called and said, I'm 182 00:10:25.679 --> 00:10:28.559 drunk and I think I'm dying. Then the phone went dead. 183 00:10:29.279 --> 00:10:31.399 That's a horrible phone call to get. I got that 184 00:10:31.559 --> 00:10:34.679 phone call when I was first working there Mysteries and Scandals, 185 00:10:34.679 --> 00:10:36.559 and I was in town with Chico. He was living 186 00:10:36.559 --> 00:10:38.879 with me at the time in this tiny room, but 187 00:10:38.919 --> 00:10:41.679 he'd stay at Uncle Vinie's house. And this is when 188 00:10:41.720 --> 00:10:45.559 Chico's drinking really kicked off a lot. And I wasn't 189 00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:47.799 hardly drink. I was drinking maybe a couple of drinks 190 00:10:47.840 --> 00:10:52.039 at night, but that's it. But Chico was so depressed 191 00:10:52.039 --> 00:10:53.360 and I was the only one who would be there 192 00:10:53.360 --> 00:10:55.399 to help him because he didn't know anybody in California. 193 00:10:56.200 --> 00:11:00.240 So one night I'm working on Mysteries and Scandals Onlly 194 00:11:00.240 --> 00:11:06.279 with Boulevard and the E. The E executives, my producers 195 00:11:06.279 --> 00:11:08.679 had a cell phone that they had to have on set. 196 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:12.080 I didn't have mine because I just wasn't a phone 197 00:11:12.120 --> 00:11:13.799 person as much. But if I needed the phone, they 198 00:11:13.799 --> 00:11:16.080 would hand it to me. But I kept getting phone 199 00:11:16.080 --> 00:11:19.600 calls from Chico because he was in peril. And one 200 00:11:19.679 --> 00:11:21.240 night I get a phone call. He was what does 201 00:11:21.279 --> 00:11:24.440 the night before two nights before doing another episode, and 202 00:11:24.519 --> 00:11:27.039 everybody loved him. She goes, the best, he's the best. 203 00:11:27.080 --> 00:11:30.759 He got crazy. He peed on some stars Walk of Fame. 204 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:34.399 I forget what star he peed on, but he had 205 00:11:34.440 --> 00:11:36.279 a nice suit on. He took himself out of his 206 00:11:36.320 --> 00:11:38.320 pants and peed on the star with his back to everybody. 207 00:11:38.519 --> 00:11:40.360 They thought he was nuts and crazy. What she is? 208 00:11:40.399 --> 00:11:42.519 They never met him, they heard about stories. Now they 209 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:46.320 see him in the in real life. They couldn't believe it. 210 00:11:47.000 --> 00:11:49.000 Two nights later, he's calling me, telling me he just 211 00:11:49.080 --> 00:11:51.639 drank everything out of the hotel Minibo. He checked into 212 00:11:51.679 --> 00:11:53.799 a hotel. So she goes, what do you mean? I 213 00:11:53.879 --> 00:11:56.080 drank everything in the minival arm and the bathtub. Now 214 00:11:56.080 --> 00:11:58.039 I'm gonna slice my wrist. I don't want to live anymore. 215 00:11:58.200 --> 00:12:00.559 Now you know he tried to kill himself when I 216 00:12:00.600 --> 00:12:03.639 was married. When I first got divorced in whatever, nineteen 217 00:12:03.720 --> 00:12:08.080 ninety here we are whatever. Six seven years later, he's 218 00:12:08.080 --> 00:12:11.360 doing it again. It's too much, so I'm like, I 219 00:12:11.360 --> 00:12:13.159 gotta keep talking. I gotta talk him down from the 220 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:15.399 ledge and they go to ay J, we got a 221 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:18.000 shoe come on, and like, I really pissed off. They 222 00:12:18.000 --> 00:12:21.840 would not understand that. They thought ordering pizzas was more 223 00:12:21.879 --> 00:12:24.120 important than my friend trying to kill himself. So I 224 00:12:24.120 --> 00:12:26.559 took the phone. I smashed it against the wall. They 225 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:27.879 told me I was gonna have to pay for I said, 226 00:12:28.159 --> 00:12:30.720 the fuck out here, not paying for my friend's gonna die. 227 00:12:30.919 --> 00:12:33.639 Pay for a fucking phone. Where's your heart? They dropped 228 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:39.840 it anyhow, crazy time, So I understand what the Pamela 229 00:12:40.120 --> 00:12:43.120 Hassloff must have felt getting that phone call. But this 230 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:46.320 was around the same time that Hassloff was putting his 231 00:12:46.320 --> 00:12:49.279 wife for hill. You know, she had dropped him off 232 00:12:49.320 --> 00:12:53.759 two days before to Beverly Betty Ford that Betty pot 233 00:12:53.799 --> 00:12:56.519 sent him in Palm Springs because at the years of drinking, 234 00:12:56.559 --> 00:12:58.759 he finally had to admit he had a problem, and 235 00:12:58.799 --> 00:13:00.519 he agreed to go to rehab, which was a big 236 00:13:00.559 --> 00:13:04.279 relief for everybody. But then the phone call comes and 237 00:13:05.360 --> 00:13:08.720 he apparently checked out obviously she had to get him. 238 00:13:08.799 --> 00:13:10.559 She had to get a private plane that flew to 239 00:13:10.919 --> 00:13:13.000 from La to Palms. It's like a two hour drive, 240 00:13:13.039 --> 00:13:15.399 but with plane. When a plane, it's fast. She chartes 241 00:13:15.399 --> 00:13:18.159 a jet gets down there and he was at a 242 00:13:18.159 --> 00:13:21.279 local hospital. Didn't know which one she gets in the taxi. 243 00:13:21.279 --> 00:13:23.480 He went to every hospital in town till she I 244 00:13:23.480 --> 00:13:25.840 think the three hospitals out there until she found him 245 00:13:27.000 --> 00:13:29.799 drank the hole anymore. Like you said, a maid found 246 00:13:29.879 --> 00:13:33.639 him unconscious, half naked on the floor. Cops were cold. 247 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:39.000 But you know, he was the most bankable TV star 248 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:42.799 in the world at the time, and her contention was 249 00:13:42.840 --> 00:13:45.919 that she was the person who propped him up, who 250 00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:50.120 kept the band going without divulging his nasty drinking habit. 251 00:13:50.519 --> 00:13:52.919 And by the way, it's easy to laugh how cheesy 252 00:13:53.000 --> 00:13:56.080 Baywatch was, but you gotta remember what a big show 253 00:13:56.159 --> 00:13:58.279 that was. I mean, the Guinness Book the World Records 254 00:13:58.279 --> 00:14:01.440 I looked it up, says it's the watched TV show 255 00:14:01.480 --> 00:14:04.720 in history, with one point one billion viewers in one 256 00:14:04.799 --> 00:14:09.240 hundred and forty countries. Look helped that Pam Ands and 257 00:14:09.279 --> 00:14:12.200 other hot girls were jogging in one piece bathing suits, 258 00:14:12.200 --> 00:14:15.440 but that was you know, back then. I got her 259 00:14:15.799 --> 00:14:19.039 back then. It makes me think of that was what 260 00:14:19.200 --> 00:14:22.120 everybody wanted to come to, la It was such a 261 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:27.519 dream place. Now it's probably the last destination in America 262 00:14:27.559 --> 00:14:30.399 anybody wants to go to, outside of people who still 263 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:34.039 think they're gonna be a star. But either way, so 264 00:14:34.080 --> 00:14:37.440 his wife, you know, like I said, a beautiful woman. 265 00:14:38.279 --> 00:14:41.240 She's living with a fall down drunk and she's covering 266 00:14:41.279 --> 00:14:45.519 for him for years because you know, alcoholism, as many 267 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:49.360 of you know, doesn't matter if you're a regular guy 268 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:52.039 or a biggest, biggest TV star on the planet, it 269 00:14:52.080 --> 00:14:57.480 doesn't matter. It destroys you either way. Remember that awful 270 00:14:57.559 --> 00:14:59.960 video of him trying to eat a cheeseburger when he 271 00:15:00.519 --> 00:15:04.600 massively intoxicated, trying to a hamburger on the floor and 272 00:15:04.639 --> 00:15:07.759 he could hardly get his balance, and one of his 273 00:15:07.840 --> 00:15:10.759 daughters is filming him pleading with him to stop drinking. 274 00:15:10.799 --> 00:15:14.159 When your kids are pleading with you and videotaping it, 275 00:15:14.600 --> 00:15:17.960 you have gone way overboard. And then she said, the drink, 276 00:15:17.960 --> 00:15:22.159 it just got worse. He would drink socially, and he 277 00:15:22.200 --> 00:15:25.240 would drink so much that you got sick. And that's 278 00:15:25.279 --> 00:15:27.559 the thing about alcoholics. You never know, and I can 279 00:15:27.639 --> 00:15:31.679 speak on this firsthand. You don't know if it's gonna 280 00:15:31.679 --> 00:15:34.399 be one glass or two, or it's gonna turn into 281 00:15:34.600 --> 00:15:38.600 a bottle. You know. It's that kind of I hate 282 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:41.840 to say disease. It's that kind of illness situation. I 283 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:48.519 don't like the word disease to me. Cancer, heart disease, epilepsy, diabetes, 284 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:51.679 take your pit. I don't include alcoholism as a disease, 285 00:15:51.720 --> 00:15:54.600 but it's certainly something that people suffer from. I'll call 286 00:15:54.639 --> 00:15:58.960 it a horrible illness that you bring upon yourself. But 287 00:15:59.840 --> 00:16:02.360 you know, she didn't look. She kept a lot of 288 00:16:02.399 --> 00:16:08.320 secrets for a long time. But then something happened that 289 00:16:08.360 --> 00:16:12.399 would really change their marriage and make his drinking even 290 00:16:12.559 --> 00:16:18.600 more commonplace. Big motorcycle accident back in two thousand and 291 00:16:18.639 --> 00:16:22.360 three changed everything in their relationship. Why because he was 292 00:16:22.440 --> 00:16:26.039 drunk while the bike crashed and she was also on 293 00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:30.279 the bike. Did he escaped with scratches and bruises, no 294 00:16:30.320 --> 00:16:35.159 big deal. But she woke up in the hospital, stayed 295 00:16:35.159 --> 00:16:39.000 there for two months, had seventeen operations, two steel rods, 296 00:16:39.240 --> 00:16:43.120 twenty seven screws in her left leg. My wife had 297 00:16:43.159 --> 00:16:45.799 about six screws in her right ankle when she broke 298 00:16:45.840 --> 00:16:50.080 her femur and tibula horribly and it changed her life 299 00:16:50.080 --> 00:16:53.240 and it changed our marriage. Believe me. Six months of 300 00:16:53.320 --> 00:16:55.000 her in bed with her foot up, and then three 301 00:16:55.039 --> 00:16:57.480 months without walking, and then two months with that little 302 00:16:57.480 --> 00:17:00.000 scooter with your leg one knees on top of your 303 00:17:00.279 --> 00:17:04.160 and then crutches. She still hasn't run ever again since 304 00:17:04.200 --> 00:17:08.799 that day. It's life altering, some kind of injuries like that, 305 00:17:09.400 --> 00:17:13.079 and it changed our marriage, she really did. So of 306 00:17:13.079 --> 00:17:15.400 course what happened. She's in the hospital. She gets pain 307 00:17:15.519 --> 00:17:18.279 pills naturally, but all the shit she went through. She 308 00:17:18.319 --> 00:17:20.599 spends a year in bed, she's popping pain pills. She 309 00:17:20.640 --> 00:17:23.440 becomes less of the wife she used to be. And 310 00:17:23.480 --> 00:17:27.119 that's when hasselofa'sides, I want a divorce because he says, 311 00:17:27.359 --> 00:17:30.160 now she's a drug addict. A real shitty thing to 312 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:32.599 do when she was protecting him and propping him up 313 00:17:32.599 --> 00:17:34.759 to be the big star on TV. But that's what 314 00:17:34.839 --> 00:17:37.400 he did. Tried to be supportive, but he got bored 315 00:17:37.400 --> 00:17:41.519 real quick of her being sick and both of them 316 00:17:41.640 --> 00:17:43.599 needed to be looked after. You can imagine what those 317 00:17:43.680 --> 00:17:50.160 kids went through, and you know, just terrible. This is 318 00:17:50.160 --> 00:17:52.799 how quickly things can change. If you're with somebody who 319 00:17:52.880 --> 00:17:55.160 drinks too much and the other person in the marriage, 320 00:17:55.160 --> 00:17:57.839 who is very helpful, gets hurt, and then that person 321 00:17:57.920 --> 00:17:59.720 needs your help and you can't provide the help because 322 00:18:00.119 --> 00:18:04.119 busy with the bottle. It's so nasty. Oh we gotta 323 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:06.640 we gotta get happy because People magazine is doing a 324 00:18:06.680 --> 00:18:09.079 cover shoot. So you splash water on your face, You 325 00:18:09.119 --> 00:18:11.160 get the kids, you take that nice picture. As soon 326 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:13.279 as photographers leave, you're back to drink, and she's back 327 00:18:13.319 --> 00:18:16.920 to popping pills and those it's just the poor kids. Man. 328 00:18:18.359 --> 00:18:22.680 But you know, she left and she moved into her 329 00:18:22.680 --> 00:18:25.960 own house in the Hollywood Hills. And uh, a woman 330 00:18:26.079 --> 00:18:29.400 like her who's had a man, a strong man, a 331 00:18:29.559 --> 00:18:32.119 very popular man for so many years to all of 332 00:18:32.119 --> 00:18:35.920 a sudden have no man in the house. Little things 333 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:39.279 go unchecked. Paint needs to paint needs to be walls 334 00:18:39.279 --> 00:18:41.960 need to be painted. This is happening. The boiler broke 335 00:18:42.039 --> 00:18:44.400 down without a man around, it can be very expensive 336 00:18:44.400 --> 00:18:46.279 and a paint of the ass. And I'm sure she 337 00:18:46.359 --> 00:18:50.960 went through that for a long time. But they had 338 00:18:50.960 --> 00:18:55.680 a rough time. And as said as that sounds, uh, 339 00:18:56.400 --> 00:18:58.640 that's the way things shook out for her, and it 340 00:18:58.759 --> 00:19:00.680 ended for Pamela house lot and the bedroom of her 341 00:19:00.720 --> 00:19:03.000 small house in the Hollywood Hills with a single bullet 342 00:19:03.079 --> 00:19:05.920 to her head. I hate to say it because I 343 00:19:05.960 --> 00:19:08.240 find myself saying it a lot these last seven and 344 00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:11.200 a half years. But in Hollywood, where your life is 345 00:19:11.240 --> 00:19:14.559 all about looks and image, it's very hard to deal 346 00:19:14.599 --> 00:19:19.440 with aging, especially for women. You know. You think about 347 00:19:19.440 --> 00:19:22.359 Phil Hartman and his wife Brynn, who I told you 348 00:19:22.359 --> 00:19:25.480 about many times, who had expressed an interest in me. 349 00:19:25.599 --> 00:19:27.200 And I said to my friend who was trying to 350 00:19:27.200 --> 00:19:29.559 hook us up, she's married to Phil Harmon. Yeah, but 351 00:19:29.559 --> 00:19:32.160 they're not really together together. They're gonna separate. I'm like, ah, 352 00:19:32.200 --> 00:19:35.279 I don't really want to do that. Bang. Two months later, 353 00:19:35.759 --> 00:19:38.880 she shoots him and kills herself. Christ that I dodge 354 00:19:38.920 --> 00:19:45.839 a bullet. Anyhow, this story just gets me the more. 355 00:19:46.240 --> 00:19:49.119 Matthew Perry to me was always a slob, dressed like 356 00:19:49.160 --> 00:19:52.160 a slob, acted like a slob. Not on friends, but 357 00:19:52.559 --> 00:19:56.599 post friends. I always considered him a snobby, slobby guy, 358 00:19:57.079 --> 00:19:59.920 never dressed right, always out of shape, never lifted a 359 00:20:00.440 --> 00:20:05.640 his arms have no musculature, a potbelly, got dresses like 360 00:20:05.680 --> 00:20:09.200 my ass doesn't tee his shoelaces. The guys Worth Millions 361 00:20:09.759 --> 00:20:15.880 didn't give a shit anyhow. Ione Sky, who was once 362 00:20:15.920 --> 00:20:19.279 a very cuteie pie actress, she wrote a book called 363 00:20:19.319 --> 00:20:23.000 Say Everything. Remember that movie Say Anything where John Cusack 364 00:20:23.079 --> 00:20:25.000 shows up with the stereo over his head with Peter 365 00:20:25.079 --> 00:20:30.440 Gabriel's song in your beautiful, beautiful moment, beautiful cinematic moment. 366 00:20:31.279 --> 00:20:34.920 And that was for her in that movie. But she 367 00:20:34.920 --> 00:20:38.319 read a book and she said she met Matthew Perry. 368 00:20:38.720 --> 00:20:41.599 Speaking of Matthew Perry in nineteen eighty six during a 369 00:20:41.640 --> 00:20:44.119 comedy called A Night in the Life of Jimmy Reard, 370 00:20:44.160 --> 00:20:45.960 and I saw a picture. They looked so young too. 371 00:20:46.200 --> 00:20:48.400 By the way, did you see the picture last week 372 00:20:48.440 --> 00:20:54.759 of Kathy Griffin, the ugly, redheaded bitchy comic when she 373 00:20:54.880 --> 00:20:58.160 was dating Jack Black? Oh my god, whoever knew those 374 00:20:58.200 --> 00:21:01.680 two dated. They were all over each other in this picture. 375 00:21:01.680 --> 00:21:07.599 They were absolutely an item. My boyfriend and girlfriend. Yikes. Anyhow, 376 00:21:08.440 --> 00:21:11.319 So I only Sky and matt Perry. They meet. She's 377 00:21:11.319 --> 00:21:14.440 got a crush on him, but actually she really really 378 00:21:14.559 --> 00:21:17.039 interested in him because she wanted more to be with 379 00:21:17.119 --> 00:21:20.799 the film star River Phoenix. She had a kissing scene 380 00:21:20.880 --> 00:21:22.880 with him, and she was you know, River was a 381 00:21:22.920 --> 00:21:26.720 cute kid, smart guy, funny guy. But he was dating 382 00:21:26.720 --> 00:21:30.759 Martha Plimpton, who I don't know why. She has never 383 00:21:30.880 --> 00:21:33.319 been somebody in the good Looks department. Matter of fact, 384 00:21:33.319 --> 00:21:35.680 when I was doing Mysteries and Scandals, she's friends with 385 00:21:35.759 --> 00:21:38.880 Alice and Martine, my producer, and she came down to 386 00:21:38.960 --> 00:21:41.440 a few shoots and a little crush on me, and 387 00:21:41.480 --> 00:21:45.279 I'm like, Alison, I hope it's not for me, because 388 00:21:45.279 --> 00:21:48.359 I don't it's not reciprocated. No, she just likes to 389 00:21:48.359 --> 00:21:53.759 watch the shoot. Okay, anyhow, good actress, but not the 390 00:21:53.839 --> 00:21:56.559 kind of one you're gonna hang the moon on. So 391 00:21:58.079 --> 00:22:02.480 he's dating Martha Plimpton. So he and Ione's guy never 392 00:22:02.559 --> 00:22:07.400 kissed off camera. But twenty years later, she's single. She 393 00:22:07.400 --> 00:22:10.000 gets a phone call out of the blue from Matthew Perry. 394 00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:14.559 Now get this, inviting her over for a sober drink. 395 00:22:14.640 --> 00:22:17.319 I never heard of this. Is this the way sober 396 00:22:17.480 --> 00:22:20.119 celebrities do it? How you get someone to come home 397 00:22:20.200 --> 00:22:23.480 all of them a sober drink? I don't know, but 398 00:22:23.559 --> 00:22:25.559 she said, I have to think about it for approximately 399 00:22:25.599 --> 00:22:29.279 fifteen seconds. I don't accept booty calls normally, but you know, 400 00:22:29.640 --> 00:22:32.880 this was Matthew Perry, she wrote in her book. And 401 00:22:32.920 --> 00:22:36.240