Speaker 1: From morecast connect in aj Benze fame. Uh, he'd liked
Speaker 1: to be walked on a leash and play really dirty
Speaker 1: kinky sex games. Is uh the guy put the cock
Speaker 1: in the peacock network. Okay, bitch, Hey, everybody AJ bens
Speaker 1: a year with fame is a bitch. This is your
Speaker 1: daily Unfiltered podcast for March seven, twenty twenty five oh
Speaker 1: three oh seven two two five three odd numbers. That's
Speaker 1: not typically the case, but here we are. But it's
Speaker 1: a good day. It's a good date. As you know,
Speaker 1: it's today. My father died in nineteen eighty five. Look
Speaker 1: at that? Is that twenty years exactly? Yeah, forty years
Speaker 1: exactly to the day, almost to the hour. He died
Speaker 1: at seven fifteen pm. But I'll get to that. Actually
Speaker 1: I'm recording this at six fifteen pm, so I'll get
Speaker 1: to that later in the show. But first by you
Speaker 1: missed a great dinner last night. I posted some pictures
Speaker 1: on the Facebook podcast obsess page. You know, we always
Speaker 1: like to make I like to make dungeness crabs and
Speaker 1: a really hot sauce adabiata sauce which means angry in
Speaker 1: Italian adabiata And it's not hard to make them all.
Speaker 1: It's just something I love to prepare. And Rosalie has
Speaker 1: one hundred staple dishes and this is one of mine.
Speaker 1: So she was shopping and she couldn't find crabs. It's
Speaker 1: out of season, and she had an inkling. There's that
Speaker 1: esp again. Let me just go to Costco and check again.
Speaker 1: And three days ago there were no crabs, and the
Speaker 1: guy said, we're gonna get them in April. She went again.
Speaker 1: Two days ago there they were. So she's like texting
Speaker 1: all of us, what should I do? I said, let's
Speaker 1: have him for the weekend. I sent. I sent her
Speaker 1: money by the you know, buy three packets fifteen crabs.
Speaker 1: She goes, Joey's working the next seven days. He's only
Speaker 1: off tonight. He says, okay, we'll make him tonight. This
Speaker 1: is like two o'clock in the afterno so everybody's rushing around.
Speaker 1: And you don't even need a pen for this. To
Speaker 1: know the recipe. It's simple. Just take the crabs typically
Speaker 1: with this top shell off, and just a crab without
Speaker 1: the top shell. You can break them in half to
Speaker 1: make two halves. Whatever's easier for you. I like to
Speaker 1: bend the legs and crack them a little bit so
Speaker 1: the sauce can seep in when it's cooking. Well, stick
Speaker 1: a knife for the big claws in the front, so
Speaker 1: they get sauce that seeps in. But it's really simple.
Speaker 1: You put them in a tin pan, you know, two
Speaker 1: or three tin pins. I cut up a whole head
Speaker 1: of garlic. We're talking twenty some odd clothes. I love it.
Speaker 1: I chop them up real fine, so the garlic is
Speaker 1: stronger and more potent, which is a terrific way to
Speaker 1: eat it. And you throw the crabs in the pan
Speaker 1: and you make your sauce. However, you make your sauce,
Speaker 1: making them out and out of sauce. No meat sauce obviously,
Speaker 1: So whoever you make your sauce, even if you want
Speaker 1: to be lazy and get jars, if you do that,
Speaker 1: then get the good brands, get the rails, get the uh.
Speaker 1: There's so many good brands of sauce out there now.
Speaker 1: They're usually eight dollars up. If you want to go
Speaker 1: that route, that's fine because it's quick and it's easy.
Speaker 1: And if you make your homemade sauce even better. But
Speaker 1: you throw your sauce on top of the crabs, throw
Speaker 1: the garlic in there, Throw a bunch of basil in it, salt, pepper,
Speaker 1: some garlic, salt. Well, I don't know because there's so
Speaker 1: much garlic, but it just feels good spreading garlic salt
Speaker 1: on on top. And that's it. You put them in
Speaker 1: the other The crabs are typically already cooked when you
Speaker 1: buy them. They're boiled, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 1: you're getting a crab that's cooked. So you just got
Speaker 1: to put them in the oven at four hundred degrees
Speaker 1: for about forty minutes. So the sauce cooks real good
Speaker 1: and it gets involved in the in the meat of
Speaker 1: the crab. That's it. You're done. Then spread some newspaper
Speaker 1: out on your table if you want to, and just
Speaker 1: have at it. Crack those crabs and have a ball.
Speaker 1: Let me just leave this message for Andrea. Hold On,
Speaker 1: can't stop, Okay, taping now, Okay, So yeah, it's thrific
Speaker 1: driven now Rosalie Days. Oh you know what I'm thinking?
Speaker 1: In addition to crabs, should we make a salad? Now?
Speaker 1: We don't need a salad. It took tears much salad
Speaker 1: with crab. We're gonna be hunched overall plates, devouring crabs.
Speaker 1: We don't need a salad. Oh, I feel like we
Speaker 1: need something else. Bro. We have last night's Scullotta fuzzle,
Speaker 1: which is you know, white canaloni beans, an escarol in
Speaker 1: a chicken stock or garlic and salt and peppin whole thing.
Speaker 1: We make a soup like that. I love scullotta fuzzle
Speaker 1: with a lot of beans and a lot of garlic
Speaker 1: and some garlic bread with that. It's a home run.
Speaker 1: We still had that left over for the night before
Speaker 1: she goes. I want to make these beef ribs. What
Speaker 1: are you doing? And Joey's like, ma, what the fuck
Speaker 1: beef rib We got crab can I just want to
Speaker 1: meet them surfing turf. I said, it's not really sot
Speaker 1: in terf row. It's not lobs from steak. It's beef
Speaker 1: ribs and crabs. Okay, man aco and of course the
Speaker 1: nieces ate some cas. He loves crab Ave is a
Speaker 1: little more finicky, but it was delicious. I had another
Speaker 1: crab this afternoon for lunch, and that was a Wednesday. Oh.
Speaker 1: We also sent I sent Joey home with not a
Speaker 1: doggie bag, but a doggie box, a box of a
Speaker 1: whole tray of cooked crabs if we didn't touch, and
Speaker 1: a big tup of wam scored a fuzzul and some
Speaker 1: beef rips. So he's working the next seven days, he'll
Speaker 1: have that for lunch, he says, or when he gets
Speaker 1: home from work early in the morning. Believe it or not,
Speaker 1: I think crabs can go for breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
Speaker 1: I'm not a crab snob at all. Seafood is the
Speaker 1: way to go. Also, throw some oregano in your crab
Speaker 1: sauce fresh basil. Do not cut the basil on a
Speaker 1: cutting board because you're losing all the flavor to your
Speaker 1: knife and the cutting board. Rip it up with your fingers.
Speaker 1: Always you can smell the aroma in your hands as
Speaker 1: you do it. But you can use dried oregano on top.
Speaker 1: Always use a regano. Fish. Don't use a regano for meat.
Speaker 1: I don't. To me, is a fish thing not a
Speaker 1: meat thing. Anyhow, On to today's stories, My goodness, David
Speaker 1: Hasselhoff's wife, his ex wife, put a bullet in her
Speaker 1: head the other day and died. Obviously, before she died,
Speaker 1: they were on good terms. His wife, his ex wife,
Speaker 1: Pamela Bach, man. She was a beauty. Do not sleep
Speaker 1: on Pamela Bach in the late eighties, My goodness. But
Speaker 1: they had a rough marriage. There was good for a while.
Speaker 1: He was high in the hog. It was after night
Speaker 1: Rider and during Baywatch. He couldn't get a bigger star
Speaker 1: than David Hasseloff. As we know, he was a huge
Speaker 1: star in Germany where he sang, which I've heard. I
Speaker 1: don't know why the Germans thickets so great. But before
Speaker 1: before she died, when the divorce kicked into effect, this
Speaker 1: couple that everybody loved and talked about and actually wanted
Speaker 1: to be. There was some real Laura d tales in
Speaker 1: their life, especially during their divorce. It got slopped because
Speaker 1: some reason, somehow personal stuff that was in their divorce
Speaker 1: papers got entered into the public and their kids were young,
Speaker 1: and the kids could see this and read about it
Speaker 1: was awful. It was a sixty six page filing by
Speaker 1: Hasselhoff's lawyers, and in those filings, his lawyers said that
Speaker 1: his ex wife Pamela tested positive for cocaine during their marriage.
Speaker 1: She was always drunk. She was even intoxicated at their
Speaker 1: daughter Taylor's sweet sixteen party. The documents also included allegations
Speaker 1: of infidelity committed by Hasseloff, as well as alcohol, drug
Speaker 1: and physical abuse by him against her across their sixteen
Speaker 1: years of marriage. Tough stuff, tough stuff, but it got personal.
Speaker 1: There was one point where some disturbing details came out,
Speaker 1: and one was that he broke her nose during a fight,
Speaker 1: during a drunken fight, and he countered back, the only
Speaker 1: person who broke my wife's nose was her plastic surgeon.
Speaker 1: She did develop a typical Beverly Hill's face. You know,
Speaker 1: obviously got too much work done. And I've been watching
Speaker 1: girls on Instagram and TikTok, mostly Instagram girls who got
Speaker 1: pretty through botox and filler and you know, procedures, and
Speaker 1: when they cry, Like I don't know about you, I've
Speaker 1: had girlfriends who when they cry, they look so beautiful.
Speaker 1: It breaks your heart even more. I hope you don't
Speaker 1: have a wife for a girlfriend who's a bad crier
Speaker 1: and an ugly crier. That's not good. But if you
Speaker 1: ever have a wife for a girlfriend that could just
Speaker 1: cry without making a face and the tears jumped out
Speaker 1: of her eyeballs, oh my god, you feel twenty times
Speaker 1: worse than what you felt without her crying. It's the
Speaker 1: worst thing, but you can still look and go what
Speaker 1: a beautiful crier she is makes you want to stay
Speaker 1: with her. These girls on Instagram, even let's stop with
Speaker 1: Kim Kardashian. They can't cry right. Their face doesn't have
Speaker 1: the typical creases in the woman's face when they cry,
Speaker 1: so their face looks like it's full of cement when
Speaker 1: they cry. It's an ugly, ugly cry, and that's going
Speaker 1: to make a man want to leave even more even quicker.
Speaker 1: I don't know if women feel a way about men crying,
Speaker 1: but uh, I don't think I looked that bad when
Speaker 1: I cry. I know I'm a messy crier, but I
Speaker 1: don't have cement in my face either way. These two
Speaker 1: had a tough marriage, and you gotta wonder if all
Speaker 1: that stuff didn't put her over the edge eventually. I mean,
Speaker 1: they broke up and she lived alone and their daughters
Speaker 1: are in their thirties now, but they were both damaged.
Speaker 1: I mean twenties somewhdd years ago after Baywatch. Remember how
Speaker 1: what a mess Hasseloff was, Remember those of him being drunk,
Speaker 1: and well she was there to pick him up by
Speaker 1: his bootstraps. There was a story where Hasseloff was slumped
Speaker 1: in front of an empty mini bar in some hotel,
Speaker 1: and you know, she she got in the phone him
Speaker 1: and managed to concentrate and have him, you know, get
Speaker 1: better and get on his feet and stop drinking. But
Speaker 1: it was bad, you know. He called and said, I'm
Speaker 1: drunk and I think I'm dying. Then the phone went dead.
Speaker 1: That's a horrible phone call to get. I got that
Speaker 1: phone call when I was first working there Mysteries and Scandals,
Speaker 1: and I was in town with Chico. He was living
Speaker 1: with me at the time in this tiny room, but
Speaker 1: he'd stay at Uncle Vinie's house. And this is when
Speaker 1: Chico's drinking really kicked off a lot. And I wasn't
Speaker 1: hardly drink. I was drinking maybe a couple of drinks
Speaker 1: at night, but that's it. But Chico was so depressed
Speaker 1: and I was the only one who would be there
Speaker 1: to help him because he didn't know anybody in California.
Speaker 1: So one night I'm working on Mysteries and Scandals Onlly
Speaker 1: with Boulevard and the E. The E executives, my producers
Speaker 1: had a cell phone that they had to have on set.
Speaker 1: I didn't have mine because I just wasn't a phone
Speaker 1: person as much. But if I needed the phone, they
Speaker 1: would hand it to me. But I kept getting phone
Speaker 1: calls from Chico because he was in peril. And one
Speaker 1: night I get a phone call. He was what does
Speaker 1: the night before two nights before doing another episode, and
Speaker 1: everybody loved him. She goes, the best, he's the best.
Speaker 1: He got crazy. He peed on some stars Walk of Fame.
Speaker 1: I forget what star he peed on, but he had
Speaker 1: a nice suit on. He took himself out of his
Speaker 1: pants and peed on the star with his back to everybody.
Speaker 1: They thought he was nuts and crazy. What she is?
Speaker 1: They never met him, they heard about stories. Now they
Speaker 1: see him in the in real life. They couldn't believe it.
Speaker 1: Two nights later, he's calling me, telling me he just
Speaker 1: drank everything out of the hotel Minibo. He checked into
Speaker 1: a hotel. So she goes, what do you mean? I
Speaker 1: drank everything in the minival arm and the bathtub. Now
Speaker 1: I'm gonna slice my wrist. I don't want to live anymore.
Speaker 1: Now you know he tried to kill himself when I
Speaker 1: was married. When I first got divorced in whatever, nineteen
Speaker 1: ninety here we are whatever. Six seven years later, he's
Speaker 1: doing it again. It's too much, so I'm like, I
Speaker 1: gotta keep talking. I gotta talk him down from the
Speaker 1: ledge and they go to ay J, we got a
Speaker 1: shoe come on, and like, I really pissed off. They
Speaker 1: would not understand that. They thought ordering pizzas was more
Speaker 1: important than my friend trying to kill himself. So I
Speaker 1: took the phone. I smashed it against the wall. They
Speaker 1: told me I was gonna have to pay for I said,
Speaker 1: the fuck out here, not paying for my friend's gonna die.
Speaker 1: Pay for a fucking phone. Where's your heart? They dropped
Speaker 1: it anyhow, crazy time, So I understand what the Pamela
Speaker 1: Hassloff must have felt getting that phone call. But this
Speaker 1: was around the same time that Hassloff was putting his
Speaker 1: wife for hill. You know, she had dropped him off
Speaker 1: two days before to Beverly Betty Ford that Betty pot
Speaker 1: sent him in Palm Springs because at the years of drinking,
Speaker 1: he finally had to admit he had a problem, and
Speaker 1: he agreed to go to rehab, which was a big
Speaker 1: relief for everybody. But then the phone call comes and
Speaker 1: he apparently checked out obviously she had to get him.
Speaker 1: She had to get a private plane that flew to
Speaker 1: from La to Palms. It's like a two hour drive,
Speaker 1: but with plane. When a plane, it's fast. She chartes
Speaker 1: a jet gets down there and he was at a
Speaker 1: local hospital. Didn't know which one she gets in the taxi.
Speaker 1: He went to every hospital in town till she I
Speaker 1: think the three hospitals out there until she found him
Speaker 1: drank the hole anymore. Like you said, a maid found
Speaker 1: him unconscious, half naked on the floor. Cops were cold.
Speaker 1: But you know, he was the most bankable TV star
Speaker 1: in the world at the time, and her contention was
Speaker 1: that she was the person who propped him up, who
Speaker 1: kept the band going without divulging his nasty drinking habit.
Speaker 1: And by the way, it's easy to laugh how cheesy
Speaker 1: Baywatch was, but you gotta remember what a big show
Speaker 1: that was. I mean, the Guinness Book the World Records
Speaker 1: I looked it up, says it's the watched TV show
Speaker 1: in history, with one point one billion viewers in one
Speaker 1: hundred and forty countries. Look helped that Pam Ands and
Speaker 1: other hot girls were jogging in one piece bathing suits,
Speaker 1: but that was you know, back then. I got her
Speaker 1: back then. It makes me think of that was what
Speaker 1: everybody wanted to come to, la It was such a
Speaker 1: dream place. Now it's probably the last destination in America
Speaker 1: anybody wants to go to, outside of people who still
Speaker 1: think they're gonna be a star. But either way, so
Speaker 1: his wife, you know, like I said, a beautiful woman.
Speaker 1: She's living with a fall down drunk and she's covering
Speaker 1: for him for years because you know, alcoholism, as many
Speaker 1: of you know, doesn't matter if you're a regular guy
Speaker 1: or a biggest, biggest TV star on the planet, it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. It destroys you either way. Remember that awful
Speaker 1: video of him trying to eat a cheeseburger when he
Speaker 1: massively intoxicated, trying to a hamburger on the floor and
Speaker 1: he could hardly get his balance, and one of his
Speaker 1: daughters is filming him pleading with him to stop drinking.
Speaker 1: When your kids are pleading with you and videotaping it,
Speaker 1: you have gone way overboard. And then she said, the drink,
Speaker 1: it just got worse. He would drink socially, and he
Speaker 1: would drink so much that you got sick. And that's
Speaker 1: the thing about alcoholics. You never know, and I can
Speaker 1: speak on this firsthand. You don't know if it's gonna
Speaker 1: be one glass or two, or it's gonna turn into
Speaker 1: a bottle. You know. It's that kind of I hate
Speaker 1: to say disease. It's that kind of illness situation. I
Speaker 1: don't like the word disease to me. Cancer, heart disease, epilepsy, diabetes,
Speaker 1: take your pit. I don't include alcoholism as a disease,
Speaker 1: but it's certainly something that people suffer from. I'll call
Speaker 1: it a horrible illness that you bring upon yourself. But
Speaker 1: you know, she didn't look. She kept a lot of
Speaker 1: secrets for a long time. But then something happened that
Speaker 1: would really change their marriage and make his drinking even
Speaker 1: more commonplace. Big motorcycle accident back in two thousand and
Speaker 1: three changed everything in their relationship. Why because he was
Speaker 1: drunk while the bike crashed and she was also on
Speaker 1: the bike. Did he escaped with scratches and bruises, no
Speaker 1: big deal. But she woke up in the hospital, stayed
Speaker 1: there for two months, had seventeen operations, two steel rods,
Speaker 1: twenty seven screws in her left leg. My wife had
Speaker 1: about six screws in her right ankle when she broke
Speaker 1: her femur and tibula horribly and it changed her life
Speaker 1: and it changed our marriage. Believe me. Six months of
Speaker 1: her in bed with her foot up, and then three
Speaker 1: months without walking, and then two months with that little
Speaker 1: scooter with your leg one knees on top of your
Speaker 1: and then crutches. She still hasn't run ever again since
Speaker 1: that day. It's life altering, some kind of injuries like that,
Speaker 1: and it changed our marriage, she really did. So of
Speaker 1: course what happened. She's in the hospital. She gets pain
Speaker 1: pills naturally, but all the shit she went through. She
Speaker 1: spends a year in bed, she's popping pain pills. She
Speaker 1: becomes less of the wife she used to be. And
Speaker 1: that's when hasselofa'sides, I want a divorce because he says,
Speaker 1: now she's a drug addict. A real shitty thing to
Speaker 1: do when she was protecting him and propping him up
Speaker 1: to be the big star on TV. But that's what
Speaker 1: he did. Tried to be supportive, but he got bored
Speaker 1: real quick of her being sick and both of them
Speaker 1: needed to be looked after. You can imagine what those
Speaker 1: kids went through, and you know, just terrible. This is
Speaker 1: how quickly things can change. If you're with somebody who
Speaker 1: drinks too much and the other person in the marriage,
Speaker 1: who is very helpful, gets hurt, and then that person
Speaker 1: needs your help and you can't provide the help because
Speaker 1: busy with the bottle. It's so nasty. Oh we gotta
Speaker 1: we gotta get happy because People magazine is doing a
Speaker 1: cover shoot. So you splash water on your face, You
Speaker 1: get the kids, you take that nice picture. As soon
Speaker 1: as photographers leave, you're back to drink, and she's back
Speaker 1: to popping pills and those it's just the poor kids. Man.
Speaker 1: But you know, she left and she moved into her
Speaker 1: own house in the Hollywood Hills. And uh, a woman
Speaker 1: like her who's had a man, a strong man, a
Speaker 1: very popular man for so many years to all of
Speaker 1: a sudden have no man in the house. Little things
Speaker 1: go unchecked. Paint needs to paint needs to be walls
Speaker 1: need to be painted. This is happening. The boiler broke
Speaker 1: down without a man around, it can be very expensive
Speaker 1: and a paint of the ass. And I'm sure she
Speaker 1: went through that for a long time. But they had
Speaker 1: a rough time. And as said as that sounds, uh,
Speaker 1: that's the way things shook out for her, and it
Speaker 1: ended for Pamela house lot and the bedroom of her
Speaker 1: small house in the Hollywood Hills with a single bullet
Speaker 1: to her head. I hate to say it because I
Speaker 1: find myself saying it a lot these last seven and
Speaker 1: a half years. But in Hollywood, where your life is
Speaker 1: all about looks and image, it's very hard to deal
Speaker 1: with aging, especially for women. You know. You think about
Speaker 1: Phil Hartman and his wife Brynn, who I told you
Speaker 1: about many times, who had expressed an interest in me.
Speaker 1: And I said to my friend who was trying to
Speaker 1: hook us up, she's married to Phil Harmon. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: they're not really together together. They're gonna separate. I'm like, ah,
Speaker 1: I don't really want to do that. Bang. Two months later,
Speaker 1: she shoots him and kills herself. Christ that I dodge
Speaker 1: a bullet. Anyhow, this story just gets me the more.
Speaker 1: Matthew Perry to me was always a slob, dressed like
Speaker 1: a slob, acted like a slob. Not on friends, but
Speaker 1: post friends. I always considered him a snobby, slobby guy,
Speaker 1: never dressed right, always out of shape, never lifted a
Speaker 1: his arms have no musculature, a potbelly, got dresses like
Speaker 1: my ass doesn't tee his shoelaces. The guys Worth Millions
Speaker 1: didn't give a shit anyhow. Ione Sky, who was once
Speaker 1: a very cuteie pie actress, she wrote a book called
Speaker 1: Say Everything. Remember that movie Say Anything where John Cusack
Speaker 1: shows up with the stereo over his head with Peter
Speaker 1: Gabriel's song in your beautiful, beautiful moment, beautiful cinematic moment.
Speaker 1: And that was for her in that movie. But she
Speaker 1: read a book and she said she met Matthew Perry.
Speaker 1: Speaking of Matthew Perry in nineteen eighty six during a
Speaker 1: comedy called A Night in the Life of Jimmy Reard,
Speaker 1: and I saw a picture. They looked so young too.
Speaker 1: By the way, did you see the picture last week
Speaker 1: of Kathy Griffin, the ugly, redheaded bitchy comic when she
Speaker 1: was dating Jack Black? Oh my god, whoever knew those
Speaker 1: two dated. They were all over each other in this picture.
Speaker 1: They were absolutely an item. My boyfriend and girlfriend. Yikes. Anyhow,
Speaker 1: So I only Sky and matt Perry. They meet. She's
Speaker 1: got a crush on him, but actually she really really
Speaker 1: interested in him because she wanted more to be with
Speaker 1: the film star River Phoenix. She had a kissing scene
Speaker 1: with him, and she was you know, River was a
Speaker 1: cute kid, smart guy, funny guy. But he was dating
Speaker 1: Martha Plimpton, who I don't know why. She has never
Speaker 1: been somebody in the good Looks department. Matter of fact,
Speaker 1: when I was doing Mysteries and Scandals, she's friends with
Speaker 1: Alice and Martine, my producer, and she came down to
Speaker 1: a few shoots and a little crush on me, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, Alison, I hope it's not for me, because
Speaker 1: I don't it's not reciprocated. No, she just likes to
Speaker 1: watch the shoot. Okay, anyhow, good actress, but not the
Speaker 1: kind of one you're gonna hang the moon on. So
Speaker 1: he's dating Martha Plimpton. So he and Ione's guy never
Speaker 1: kissed off camera. But twenty years later, she's single. She
Speaker 1: gets a phone call out of the blue from Matthew Perry.
Speaker 1: Now get this, inviting her over for a sober drink.
Speaker 1: I never heard of this. Is this the way sober
Speaker 1: celebrities do it? How you get someone to come home
Speaker 1: all of them a sober drink? I don't know, but
Speaker 1: she said, I have to think about it for approximately
Speaker 1: fifteen seconds. I don't accept booty calls normally, but you know,
Speaker 1: this was Matthew Perry, she wrote in her book. And
Speaker 1: they shared a bubbly water, shared a cigarette, and they
Speaker 1: quickly pretended to watch a movie in his bedroom before
Speaker 1: hopping into bed and creasing the sheets. She says, the
Speaker 1: sex with Perry was perfectly pleasant. I don't want that's
Speaker 1: a shitty review to get. Don't e thget. Guys, if
Speaker 1: you get that review, pick up your game. Perfectly pleasant.
Speaker 1: But she said he seemed far away because neither of
Speaker 1: them gave it there all okay. When they were done,
Speaker 1: Perry said, hey, that was fun. We should do it again. Sometimes,
Speaker 1: you see what I mean. I knew he was a prick.
Speaker 1: I always knew he was a prick with girls. So
Speaker 1: she says, hey, I'm going to return the next week
Speaker 1: in the hopes that have would become a great romance.
Speaker 1: She did come back, and it went exactly the same way.
Speaker 1: A single cigarette in the kitchen, some banter, bubbly water,
Speaker 1: watch a movie, emotionally distant sex, another cigarette. She goes
Speaker 1: home just very weird. You know, I'm reading this book,
Speaker 1: and then she says, Matthew Perry years go by, and
Speaker 1: they hadn't seen each other for a long time, and
Speaker 1: years go by. Before he died. He wrote her and say, hey,
Speaker 1: hope you well. I was meditating. I meditate now and
Speaker 1: in your eyes started playing and I instantly thought of
Speaker 1: you and how beautiful you are. I hope you're healthy
Speaker 1: and happy. That's a nice thing to send somebody. But
Speaker 1: uh no, nothing happened. This book is chocked full of
Speaker 1: her having sex with different stars. The book should have
Speaker 1: been called I'll Do Anything, not I'll say anything. But listen,
Speaker 1: they've grown ups. They can do what they want. But
Speaker 1: Matthew Perry, you know, when I first got La, I
Speaker 1: met this girl named Leilani Filipino Spanish girl, beautiful girl.
Speaker 1: I was embarrassed to ask around because at the time
Speaker 1: we just drove here, me and Chico from New York
Speaker 1: City in a U hole and all my furniture was
Speaker 1: obviously taken out of you, but we still had the uo.
Speaker 1: We hadn't returned yet because neither one of us had
Speaker 1: cars yet, So we drove the U hole around for
Speaker 1: about a week, and one night we went to Skyball,
Speaker 1: the big fancy club at the Monitrat Hotel and sunset. Blulavardh.
Speaker 1: You know what it's like, the valet a U hole.
Speaker 1: No one does that. We did it, like this is
Speaker 1: what we do. His ten bucks valet at extra tip.
Speaker 1: We go to the club, have a good time. We're
Speaker 1: leaving now and there's this knockout in a white BMW
Speaker 1: with a girlfriend. Girlfriend not that cute, but the girl.
Speaker 1: He was a stunner, and I'm looking. I go, look
Speaker 1: at that girl. Jesus Christ. She goes like, ask her.
Speaker 1: I said, I'm in a fucking U haul. I can't.
Speaker 1: She'd a BMW. I'm gonna U hole. No, I can't.
Speaker 1: I'll see her again. I just got there, like, come on,
Speaker 1: stop this. He jumps out of the hall, what are
Speaker 1: you doing? Let me alone. He goes over to a car,
Speaker 1: and I see her looking at him, and he's talking
Speaker 1: and animated talking, and she's like sodden to laugh and
Speaker 1: puts her hands in her face like oh my god,
Speaker 1: like just being like a little surprised. And apparently he
Speaker 1: told her, look, my friend thinks she'd guard this. He
Speaker 1: wants to go out with you, but he's embarrassed because
Speaker 1: the U haul we just drove for me, he said.
Speaker 1: The whole story. She thought it was sweet. She gives
Speaker 1: him her number and I called the next few days
Speaker 1: and we ended up having a fun time for a
Speaker 1: few months and fucking that night that I dated her
Speaker 1: Friends was huge the TV show. And we're on a
Speaker 1: date at a place called Birds in Hollywood, and she goes,
Speaker 1: I can't believe what she has her cell phone. My
Speaker 1: ex just keeps ringing me. He's such as was he saying?
Speaker 1: You have no idea what he's saying. David is such
Speaker 1: a he gets so mean. He's such a sweet guy,
Speaker 1: but when he gets angry, he's so mean. When you
Speaker 1: hear the message, let me hear it. She plays me
Speaker 1: the message and this guy is going ape shit, the
Speaker 1: fuck are you you fucking this? And that he threw
Speaker 1: the sea word in there. It was bad. I go,
Speaker 1: you can never see this guy again, I know, but
Speaker 1: he's still hung up on me. David. Do I know him?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just got to la Who is he?
Speaker 1: David Swimmer? Wait, that's the guy from Friends? He talks
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, I can't. I can't believe this. It's
Speaker 1: such a facade. Hollywood speaking of I only Sky, Matthew
Speaker 1: Perry and Hasselhoffs. Everybody's full of shit, you know. Anyhow,
Speaker 1: Like I said, today is a little bit of an
Speaker 1: off day for me. I do get a little despondent
Speaker 1: when my mother's death date rolls on on Christmas Day,
Speaker 1: and of course March seventh, I don't really feel great.
Speaker 1: I've had the low grade chills all day. And that
Speaker 1: sounds gay, but chills all day. Something affects me when
Speaker 1: it comes to my family's deaths and stuff, especially on
Speaker 1: the anniversary of their deaths. I'm soft like that, but
Speaker 1: I want to take you back to that day. March seventh,
Speaker 1: nineteen eighty five, exactly forty years ago today, the Great
Speaker 1: al Benza died after suffering through an incurable cancer journey
Speaker 1: for over ten years. In the last six months of
Speaker 1: his life, we're in a hospital bed where he faded away.
Speaker 1: You know. I've often said it's a very tough thing
Speaker 1: to watch your hero just fade away. But a lot
Speaker 1: of us have to do it. A lot of us
Speaker 1: should feel honored to do it. It doesn't make it
Speaker 1: any easier to be there in a front row seat,
Speaker 1: but you can't abandon them. They were there for you.
Speaker 1: It is that you're a baby, you take care of
Speaker 1: him until they act like a baby. And that's what
Speaker 1: I did for the both of them, not just me, Rosalie, Lorraine,
Speaker 1: you know, all of us did. But we don't need
Speaker 1: to go over what it was like as he was
Speaker 1: trying to deal with this horrible illness, because I've let
Speaker 1: you in and all those home remedies we tried, in
Speaker 1: addition to all the hospitals and doctors who pushed chemotherapy, radiation,
Speaker 1: some kind of mustard guess. I mean, they was shit
Speaker 1: they were pulling out that. It was like, where's this
Speaker 1: from World War One? What are you put in his body? Now?
Speaker 1: I had to stop doctors after a while, because once
Speaker 1: a person becomes once they know he's had an incurable
Speaker 1: form of cancer, then they all swarm in. Because North
Speaker 1: through Community Hospital had been Hassett, Long Island was a
Speaker 1: teaching hospital, a tremendous hospital, like five star, one of
Speaker 1: the best, maybe the best on Long Island, fifteen miles
Speaker 1: from New York City where Sloan Kettering is the big one,
Speaker 1: but North Shull was a big one. And you know
Speaker 1: it's just, uh, it's got what I was saying. Once
Speaker 1: the person is so sick, with an incurible form of cancer.
Speaker 1: They become a guinea pig. And all these doctors learning,
Speaker 1: teaching hospital, they come in with their different methods of
Speaker 1: let's try this, let's take out here. In the last
Speaker 1: few times he was giving blood, my father wasn't even awake,
Speaker 1: but he would grimace when the needle they were taking
Speaker 1: blood from his from his groin area and putting it
Speaker 1: through this long tube of skinny skinny too. I was like,
Speaker 1: enough enough, he's done enough, But he's not a fucking pincushion.
Speaker 1: Take a walk, thank you, But no thank you. You
Speaker 1: know you gotta be like a as I've often said,
Speaker 1: more of a century than a son. You gotta protect
Speaker 1: him sometimes. So he went through all sorts of things,
Speaker 1: even trial basis medications. Nothing worked. We knew it was incredable,
Speaker 1: we knew he was gonna die. For man, he were
Speaker 1: just waiting for it to happen. But what I want
Speaker 1: to focus on the day with my father's life began
Speaker 1: to unravel, and me, as his twenty one year old
Speaker 1: son at the time, I did all I could to
Speaker 1: help him to ease his pain, and U not worry
Speaker 1: as much, et cetera. But about a year before his
Speaker 1: cancer really slammed him down. I remember I come home
Speaker 1: from college one Thursday. I know it was a Thursday
Speaker 1: because Thursday was always his day off and he was off,
Speaker 1: and I came home from college early to spend time
Speaker 1: on the maybe do some gardening, whatever the hell it was,
Speaker 1: and just to be around him in the house. He
Speaker 1: usually cooked on Thursdays. He'd make a pot rows, his
Speaker 1: pizzas clam shot, and he had his signature dishes as well.
Speaker 1: And I'm walk in the kitchen, no one's home, and
Speaker 1: there's about two hundred pills scattered on the kitchen floor
Speaker 1: and about twelve fifteen different medicine bottles, orange prescription bottles.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what the I knew right away he was
Speaker 1: in trouble. He had a heart attack a few weeks
Speaker 1: before that, or a stress test that he failed. The
Speaker 1: doctor prescribed natrol glysperm pills, which typically we would put
Speaker 1: in the medicine cabinet in the kitchen to the left
Speaker 1: above the phone. He must have went looking for them
Speaker 1: because his heart hurt. He couldn't find him. That's why
Speaker 1: the pills were everywhere. So I'd get my call, go
Speaker 1: right to good Samaritan Hospital, five blocks away, not even
Speaker 1: a half mile from our house. I'm running through the hospital.
Speaker 1: I get to the ice I barged through the er.
Speaker 1: Sorry going fuck yo, I'm looking thro all the curtains.
Speaker 1: I find him finally, and I see him in the bed,
Speaker 1: his eyes, you know, kind of half masked. There's a
Speaker 1: vomit bucket at his feet on the bed, balancing at
Speaker 1: the edge of the bed. And I walked and he
Speaker 1: must have felt the wind when he had walked in,
Speaker 1: and go da, what the fuck happened? And he opened
Speaker 1: his eyes and he smiled, and he pointed to his chest.
Speaker 1: He goes, they said, I had two heart attacks. I
Speaker 1: just remember one though, but I had two. I said, okay,
Speaker 1: what are you? Then he closed his eyes immediately turned
Speaker 1: his head dramatically to his left, and he kicked the
Speaker 1: pail off the bed, and I got worried. I'm like that,
Speaker 1: what the fuck? You're right? And he laughed and he said,
Speaker 1: don't you know, I just kicked the bucket. He got it.
Speaker 1: He kicked the bucket. I don't know if he set
Speaker 1: that up or if that's really where the nurse put
Speaker 1: the bucket, but it was funny. The tension was broke.
Speaker 1: We all laughed, just as my mother and Rosalie walk
Speaker 1: in and my brother in law, Frankie come in with
Speaker 1: worried faces. My father calmly says to my mother Lily,
Speaker 1: what the fuck are the nitro glyshrian pills? Oh? During
Speaker 1: my pocketbook? He goes, how the up is that supposed
Speaker 1: to help me? So I know he was back to normal.
Speaker 1: She goes, oh, you told me to hold on to
Speaker 1: them because you'd lose them. This typical calamity at my
Speaker 1: mother and father. But he was looking for them, and
Speaker 1: it's a very That's why when I heard about Gene
Speaker 1: Hackman's wife dead with a bunch of pills on the
Speaker 1: floor around her and pill bottles, I'm like, oh god,
Speaker 1: I've seen that now. My father wasn't trying to kill himself,
Speaker 1: but I think she was, and she was successful at it,
Speaker 1: but that's a horrible sight to see. Thank god, I
Speaker 1: was only four or five blocks from the hospital to
Speaker 1: go see him. But anyhow, he recovers. They send them
Speaker 1: home with some huge heart monitor that hung around is
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. This was as big as a laptop
Speaker 1: and about six inches thick. Some archaic nineteen eighty something
Speaker 1: thing we put around your neck to monitor your vibe,
Speaker 1: those et cetera. And the docs told to look, stay
Speaker 1: off your feet, rest for a week before you go
Speaker 1: back to work. Don't be silly, Okay, I will, I will.
Speaker 1: My mother ow Lily, I will, I'll rest Rosalie, Daddy,
Speaker 1: I will. Don't worry. We get home. He goes right
Speaker 1: in the garage, get the lawnmower, pull, starts it and
Speaker 1: starts mowing the back a lawn, as if I don't
Speaker 1: do that every weekend, but now he's gonna do it
Speaker 1: in front of me with the fucking heart mine, and
Speaker 1: I hang it off his chest. I go, dad, what
Speaker 1: what do you doing? I'm fine, I'm fine with a
Speaker 1: cigarette in his mouth. This is the old I mean,
Speaker 1: you have all men like this in your life, all
Speaker 1: stubborn men who are just gonna live the way they
Speaker 1: live until they keel over. So stubborn. But let me
Speaker 1: back up for a second. My father never ever acted worried,
Speaker 1: even in the face of incurable cancer. When it became
Speaker 1: a real big problem. Then he got a little more solemn,
Speaker 1: but never worried, never said why me, never wondered how
Speaker 1: could this be? Just took it on the chin. My
Speaker 1: mother was the same way. He just always tried to
Speaker 1: be funny. That was his only emotion he wanted to be.
Speaker 1: He still told jokes, he laughed all the right things.
Speaker 1: He had a lot of fun with his nurses. By
Speaker 1: the way, there was a nurse, a wonderful black nurse
Speaker 1: named Roberta. She loved him and she was great, and
Speaker 1: all the nurses were great. And I remember north Strow
Speaker 1: Community Hospital. I still remember. His room was on the
Speaker 1: fourth floor in the BoA's Marx Pavilion. His doctor was
Speaker 1: Stephen Cohen and the other one was named Get this
Speaker 1: Willie Christ hri st. I said, Daddy's being treated by
Speaker 1: a guy named Christ. How could he lose? But he lost?
Speaker 1: But those nurses were so great with him. They would
Speaker 1: come in his room and well, first of all, there
Speaker 1: was a son on his door. This is a scary thing.
Speaker 1: I've told you guys that in the eighties I went
Speaker 1: to so many hospitals with my father. That it was
Speaker 1: during the AIDS crisis, and I saw so many homosexual
Speaker 1: men in lobbies and waiting rooms and weeping in hallways.
Speaker 1: I had that gaunt look where you lose weight in
Speaker 1: your temples and your cheeks, and I'm like, oh God,
Speaker 1: they're next. I could see it was all around me.
Speaker 1: And my father was on the aid's floor because he
Speaker 1: had this condition on his skin that looked like Carl
Speaker 1: Parsi's sarcoma, those bruises and marks that the HIV people get.
Speaker 1: It wasn't that, but it looked that way, so they
Speaker 1: had him on that floor. So I had many, many
Speaker 1: weeks and months, but a bunch of gay guys all
Speaker 1: commiserating in the hallways and the waiting rooms and getting
Speaker 1: water and making jokes. Even though it's a horrible time
Speaker 1: for everybody. You were kind of saves you. You know.
Speaker 1: There was a sign on his daughter you had to
Speaker 1: wear gloves when you entered. I never wore gloves. I
Speaker 1: would refuse to wear gloves to take care of my father.
Speaker 1: Clean his face, clean his ears, just anything to make
Speaker 1: him look good in case anybody wanted to visit. After
Speaker 1: a while, I said, there's no more visitors or daddy.
Speaker 1: I don't want people seeing him like this. I'm done
Speaker 1: with it, you know. But my college is only fifteen
Speaker 1: twelve to fifteen minutes away, so I always went to
Speaker 1: see him after school. And I did this every single
Speaker 1: day for six months until he died. And you know,
Speaker 1: I would sit next to him, feed him whatever shit
Speaker 1: the hospital kitchen put out. The nurses were, I remember everything.
Speaker 1: I wrote them a letter every year on his death
Speaker 1: day for about six years before I stopped. I'd send
Speaker 1: flowers every year to the Boasmark Pavilion and in his name,
Speaker 1: thanking them for what they did for There was Sandy,
Speaker 1: a redhead short, redheaded pixie lady. She was the head
Speaker 1: nurse Alison Nancy VICKI who I dated after he passed.
Speaker 1: She called me when she found out she was off
Speaker 1: thirty when he died and she called me. She read
Speaker 1: the papers and he was at Frederick J. Frederick Chappie's
Speaker 1: funeral home in West Issa. She called the funeral Paula
Speaker 1: and my friend Chappie Doug. Chappie's family owned the place.
Speaker 1: In ag You get a phone call from a Vicky.
Speaker 1: I A Vicky. I get to the phone and she's crying.
Speaker 1: The nurse A jambs so sorry. I wasn't in. I
Speaker 1: loved your dad, I said me. I liked her a lot.
Speaker 1: I really did, and my father knew he'd kicked me.
Speaker 1: Like look look at it, look at it, look at it. He'd
Speaker 1: make him. He'd make motion with his hands by her
Speaker 1: chest because she was like she had a nice rack.
Speaker 1: He did all that shit, you know, I I know,
Speaker 1: I know, I know. And eventually we made a date.
Speaker 1: We went out after the funeral. Just crazy times. But
Speaker 1: they had the smoking bed. Roberta, the black nurse, was
Speaker 1: the best. And this big black nurse, Roberta was so
Speaker 1: fun and she would have him try and stand up
Speaker 1: and she would bathe him and he didn't like doing that.
Speaker 1: So when she said, al Alfred Benza, it's time to
Speaker 1: bathe your ass, he would say, don't give me no flack. Roberta,
Speaker 1: get it, Roberta fleck. He had all them and stitches.
Speaker 1: They loved him. When he died, they all cried. But
Speaker 1: there was so many days when the whole lot of
Speaker 1: them would gather in his room and they would see
Speaker 1: us in there. Rosalie, Jack, my nephews, you name it,
Speaker 1: and uh Tina turned his song What's Love got to
Speaker 1: do with There was a big hit back then, and
Speaker 1: they would all dance. I have it on video, I'll
Speaker 1: never find it. It was the first my father's on
Speaker 1: one video and it's at the very end of his
Speaker 1: life when the nurses were dancing to what Love Got
Speaker 1: to Do with It? And he told his famous Scottish
Speaker 1: joke with the brogue that he always told. Jack said, pop,
Speaker 1: tell you a Scottish joke, and he remembered it and
Speaker 1: told it brilliantly. And I had it on tape. Jack
Speaker 1: had the big VCR on his hip and the camera
Speaker 1: on his shoulder, you know, the first models that came out.
Speaker 1: I'll never find that tape. That's the only thing I
Speaker 1: could see where I could see my father again, but
Speaker 1: we'll never find it. My mother's on. My mother's on
Speaker 1: two videotapes, one at my wedding, my first wedding, which
Speaker 1: I found on VHS and storage. I'm gonna get that
Speaker 1: to DVD so I can see her again. And she's
Speaker 1: on the tail end of a stickball tape where she
Speaker 1: comes to the door to scream that dinner is ready.
Speaker 1: Come on, guys, what the fuck dinner's getting cold, and
Speaker 1: we're all going, all right, calm down, one more out
Speaker 1: so perfect. You know how lucky you are you have
Speaker 1: your parents on videotape. That's a major thing. Your kids
Speaker 1: and their kids can see what Grandma, great grandma and
Speaker 1: great grandpa looked like, sounded like My kids never will
Speaker 1: and their kids won't even know who Alan will were. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm trying my best to keep them in people's memories,
Speaker 1: but you know, time marches on and people forget. But
Speaker 1: for a man who prided himself on pulling food from
Speaker 1: the bay and the ocean right in his backyard garden,
Speaker 1: it's very tough watching him eat or try and eat
Speaker 1: this tasteless meat loaf for overly salted soup, cold eggs,
Speaker 1: all that shit do you get? I mean, after a while,
Speaker 1: the hospital food smells like the hospital. Even when you
Speaker 1: get home, you can't eat because it smells like the hospital.
Speaker 1: So I would bring Carvell milkshakes to him. He loved
Speaker 1: Carvel and milkshakes. And back then my father's brother, uncle
Speaker 1: Larry knew. We put him in touch with my father's doctor,
Speaker 1: Willie Christ, who I believe was Scottish or Norwegian something
Speaker 1: like that. He had a nice accent and he was
Speaker 1: an older man with white Hey look at Santa Claus
Speaker 1: and the medicine my father needed, which would have made
Speaker 1: possibly his cancer better or going to remission. It wasn't
Speaker 1: approved by the FDA. It was called cyclosts sporin. Now
Speaker 1: it's used for the simplest things you can't even imagine.
Speaker 1: I used to buy it. I used to get go
Speaker 1: to the vet together for my dog, Cezarey, who's had
Speaker 1: had tear dug problems, and I'd give him drops of
Speaker 1: cyclists born to clear up his tear drops. It could
Speaker 1: have saved my father. I forgot to him early. But
Speaker 1: my uncle Larry got on the phone with this doctor
Speaker 1: Willie Christ and somehow he convinced this guy to send
Speaker 1: it to him. And Uncle Larry then came to Long
Speaker 1: Island and gave me a bunch of the vials. What
Speaker 1: have you. I'd not have to inject it at my father.
Speaker 1: Uncle Arry said, just put them in something that you
Speaker 1: can drink, and I said, okay, I'm gonna put it
Speaker 1: his milkshakes. So I always made it a point taking
Speaker 1: a milkshake every day at Carvell. My friend John Samedi's
Speaker 1: sister me as Amedi worked at Carvel, and I used
Speaker 1: to date the girl whose family owned it, Heidi hol Goosh.
Speaker 1: Her mother worked there. They owned it, and they always
Speaker 1: gave me free milkshakes. To my father. Fun the people
Speaker 1: you know, and a school in high school, they come
Speaker 1: to help you. It's an amazing thing. Little towns, you know.
Speaker 1: So I put that shit in his milkshake, and suddenly
Speaker 1: his skin began to clear up. Because his cancer was
Speaker 1: a cancer of the organs, all right, everything, every organ
Speaker 1: in his body was being affected by this cancer. And
Speaker 1: your skin is your largest organ. So on his skin,
Speaker 1: as I've told you many times, was bruises and welts
Speaker 1: and holes in his skin that were just cracked and broke.
Speaker 1: And you could see inside of his knee. Just awful.
Speaker 1: How this guy walked around with pants on him was
Speaker 1: a carpet salesman. I can't even imagine. So his skin
Speaker 1: began to clear up, and the doctors knew he's not
Speaker 1: gonna make it. But now that he looks okay, he
Speaker 1: really did. Mustache grew bad, his skin cleared up. They said,
Speaker 1: let's let's send him home have some fun. The summer's coming.
Speaker 1: And you know something, he didn't scratch his body anymore,
Speaker 1: no more itching, which we'd seen him go mad over
Speaker 1: for thirteen years. He looked so good, right, And there
Speaker 1: was that one summer that he had this remission, and
Speaker 1: I remember that there was just great times with him
Speaker 1: on the boat. And there was one particular day we
Speaker 1: all went to fire out Robert moses Field too, with
Speaker 1: Jackie and Joey and Me and Rosie, oh family, my mother,
Speaker 1: everybody went to the beach. My father had a little
Speaker 1: Jacques custodecap on his head. Of course he had the
Speaker 1: pot thought and it wasn't gonna go away. But he
Speaker 1: looked so happy playing with Jackie and Joey in the sand,
Speaker 1: and we all thought for a minute, maybe this is
Speaker 1: gonna work out, but we knew it wouldn't. But you know,
Speaker 1: your mind placed tricks on you, right, eventually it thought
Speaker 1: of getting bad again. He was home and he got
Speaker 1: really sick, and Mommy was working, so I was with
Speaker 1: him all day. You know, I see him from college.
Speaker 1: I actually stopped going college. It's a miracle. I got
Speaker 1: a degree because I stopped going to school. Literally my
Speaker 1: senior year I stopped. I did not go to biology.
Speaker 1: I just stopped. And I still got the plomba in
Speaker 1: the mail and I went to graduation. He went. He
Speaker 1: saw me graduate college. But I don't know how I
Speaker 1: did it because I stopped going to earn money to
Speaker 1: help pay for the mortgage and everything else around the house.
Speaker 1: So cancer picked up again. And I remember he was
Speaker 1: in the house. We had a wheelchair in the house,
Speaker 1: and he was very uncomfortable sleeping, so he sat in
Speaker 1: the chair and he was this is hard to say,
Speaker 1: but he couldn't he couldn't go to the bathroom. He
Speaker 1: was he was blocked up, and he was taking men
Speaker 1: and musal at the time in a glass of water
Speaker 1: in a kitchen, you know. But he got so bad
Speaker 1: that nothing was working that I remember one day I
Speaker 1: took him to the downstairs bathroom, the small bathroom, and
Speaker 1: I would clean him up. But he went to the
Speaker 1: bath that was you know, what what a son does,
Speaker 1: Rosie did if my mother, I did it my father.
Speaker 1: And he was so pissed off about being blocked up.
Speaker 1: And I walked to the bathroom and he was. He
Speaker 1: was eating the men of musil out of the plastic
Speaker 1: jarw no water, just swallowing powder. That's how frustrated he got.
Speaker 1: And he took him away from the bathroom, got him
Speaker 1: in his wheelchair, cleaned them up, and I brought up
Speaker 1: to the dining room window where the pool was and
Speaker 1: Beyond the pool was the canal in Rosie's house, and
Speaker 1: he said, I thought I could beat this. I thought
Speaker 1: I could beat it. It's the last thing he said
Speaker 1: back in the hospital. And on that late afternoon, early
Speaker 1: evening of March seventh, nineteen eighty five, I go to
Speaker 1: the hospital and he is just he is talking a
Speaker 1: mile a minute, not really making much sense. And I
Speaker 1: go to the nice Sandy He goes aj He's been
Speaker 1: like this whole day, but at least he's up and talking.
Speaker 1: He's not complaining, but he wasn't making sense. I've said
Speaker 1: this before. It sounded like an entry machine on your phone,
Speaker 1: the old answer machines when they re wine and you
Speaker 1: start to hear all the old messages from years before.
Speaker 1: My father was telling me stories about running track at
Speaker 1: the Utric High School in Brooklyn, being in World War
Speaker 1: Two in Antwerp, Belgium. He talked about throwing ammunitions off
Speaker 1: a burning ship in Brooklyn Harbor. He talked about. The
Speaker 1: last thing he talked about was money. He put somewhere
Speaker 1: seventy five thousand dollars. It wasn't seventy it was seventy
Speaker 1: five dollars in a winter coat somewhere, but his mind
Speaker 1: was crazy. And I said that, Dad, you're okay, I'm okay, okay,
Speaker 1: And it was just a tape winding backwards. He was
Speaker 1: talking about how many square yards this woman's house has
Speaker 1: for carpet. It's a ten by twelve room. These are
Speaker 1: actual things that he talked about in his life. They
Speaker 1: all came back to him. Well. I got the chills.
Speaker 1: I watched both my parents die. It's not as well. Thankfully,
Speaker 1: it wasn't as ugly and horrible as I thought it
Speaker 1: would be looking back down. They both died in a
Speaker 1: in a nice way. Dare I say so? I kissing
Speaker 1: the bar, Dad, I gotta go. I love you, and
Speaker 1: he said I love you too, very quickly. And I
Speaker 1: left and I'm driving home in the le my mother.
Speaker 1: I called my mother before I left. I said, no,
Speaker 1: he's not doing well. He's just talking nonsense. Gibberis all right, well,
Speaker 1: come home. We got food, we got this and that, okay,
Speaker 1: and May is here, Aleen's here all right. I'm driving
Speaker 1: on the lie that's four exits away, not even two
Speaker 1: exits away, and I go under a street light. LA
Speaker 1: has got a bunch of streetlight very well lit highway,
Speaker 1: two street lights above me. As I'm driving fast, go out, think, think,
Speaker 1: and I go, what the fuck that's a sign. There's
Speaker 1: no way. I get off the highway, make the UI,
Speaker 1: go back, head west on the Lee. Get back to
Speaker 1: the hospital. Run up the steps. It's past visiting now.
Speaker 1: They always let me in. I was AJ. They know
Speaker 1: who al Benz was. I get up the steps. Sandy, Sandy,
Speaker 1: he's fine, AJ. And we look in the room and
Speaker 1: she comes out and she says he's gone. He was
Speaker 1: just fine. We looked at him in the door five
Speaker 1: minutes ago. Excuse me, guys, I said, I knew it.
Speaker 1: I said, I knew it. The lights went out on
Speaker 1: the expressway. I felt that was a sign. I just
Speaker 1: felt it. I'm so sorry, you know, but it wasn't
Speaker 1: her fault. Nothing we could do. So then I drove
Speaker 1: home and I told my mother. As I walked in,
Speaker 1: I had my face she could see and she just said,
Speaker 1: oh no, yeah, muh. And we all hogged and kissed.
Speaker 1: And now here's the sick part. Before he went to
Speaker 1: the hospital, he left some jewelry at the house, his wristwatch.
Speaker 1: He wore a shark's tooth, a fossilized shark tooth. He
Speaker 1: wore a gold little medallion that had his three children's
Speaker 1: names on it. Rose through the rain in aj and
Speaker 1: he left up behind before he went to the hospital,
Speaker 1: and we had this little shelf in the kitchen above
Speaker 1: the toaster of it. I can still see in my mind.
Speaker 1: He died at seven thirty five PM on March seventh,
Speaker 1: nineteen eighty five. And I remember a day or two
Speaker 1: later when the dust had cleared and the weight had
Speaker 1: d probably four or five days. The wakes of all
Speaker 1: the road is leave. No more bringing food to the house,
Speaker 1: no more playing music in the dining room, no more
Speaker 1: crying and hugging. The reality sets in. He's gone. Life
Speaker 1: has to move on. I'm grabbing his jewelry, which later
Speaker 1: I got fucking stolen out of my room. I'll tell
Speaker 1: you that story. All I have was his rope ring,
Speaker 1: his gold rope ring. But anyhow, I grab his wristwatch,
Speaker 1: not a fancy watch, a black diver's watch kind of thing,
Speaker 1: you know. And the watch is stopped to date says
Speaker 1: seven and the time says seven thirty five. And this
Speaker 1: is like five six days later. That watch, if it
Speaker 1: was wound, should have said the twelfth to thirteenth, Why
Speaker 1: did it continue to roll over and do the dates
Speaker 1: and then stop at the exact moment and the day
Speaker 1: he left us. Don't tell me that's a coincidence. That's
Speaker 1: two crazy things in one. Not to mention the street
Speaker 1: lights going out above the lie. So I know I've
Speaker 1: said a lot to you guys, and you guys have
Speaker 1: asked me questions for Rosalie. One of you said, I ask,
Speaker 1: does Rosie have any of those stories? And I said,
Speaker 1: have you not been listening? She's got a bunch of them.
Speaker 1: I've told those stories about Rosalie's psychicability, but this one
Speaker 1: just beats the band and it made me feel really good.
Speaker 1: It made me feel like, holy shit, there's some other
Speaker 1: entity out there. You know. A year or so before that,
Speaker 1: I was so angry at God that I've told you
Speaker 1: the story where somebody came to my house where there's
Speaker 1: those religious people. They come in a van. They just
Speaker 1: they jump out of the van and go all over
Speaker 1: the neighbor and try to get you to convert or
Speaker 1: just be more Catholic, go to church, spread the gospel.
Speaker 1: I couldn't stand those people. My father was not religious.
Speaker 1: At all. In fact, he was anti religion, so I
Speaker 1: was anti religion. And when these people came to my
Speaker 1: door or to my lawmos was I was mowing the
Speaker 1: law and they wanted to talk to me, and I'm
Speaker 1: pissed off. Jackson the hospital At this point, my father
Speaker 1: just died. And it comes to I, ass oh, hi,
Speaker 1: can I have a moment? Son, I don't have time
Speaker 1: right now. You know, I got a lot of shit
Speaker 1: going on. Well just take a moment. I said, listen,
Speaker 1: my father's dead, my brother's in the hospital. It's not
Speaker 1: a good time. And I was big back and I
Speaker 1: had worked out, I was, I had a good physique.
Speaker 1: I was mowing the lawn with no shirt on. You know,
Speaker 1: no what that thirty two inch waist, forget about sixteen
Speaker 1: inch arms. That was a bit of a little beast.
Speaker 1: If I may say, I'm like, this guy doesn't fucking
Speaker 1: get it. I'm gonna run his feet over the lama,
Speaker 1: And sure enough, he kept coming. I stopped the moa
Speaker 1: and I press it down so the blade is facing
Speaker 1: him and I start to run at his feet. But
Speaker 1: the I was gonna drop the blade on his fucking feet.
Speaker 1: He runs away. You're crazy I said, yeah, I'm crazy,
Speaker 1: Get the fuck out of here. If God's so good?
Speaker 1: It was my father dead, wat was my brother in
Speaker 1: the hospital? What the fuck is your God doing? You know?
Speaker 1: Just I don't. I'm not proud I said that, but
Speaker 1: that's who I was back then. And then you look
Speaker 1: back on life and you realize the signs that are
Speaker 1: sent and maybe the times that God gives you to
Speaker 1: be with the people you love, how do you those
Speaker 1: are signs of God. And since then I've had five
Speaker 1: hundred thousand more signs in my life of loved ones
Speaker 1: of God existing. But back then, you couldn't tell me nothing,
Speaker 1: and I don't think I don't think many of you
Speaker 1: would have been different had you gone through. We all
Speaker 1: just went through. But that was forty years ago. A
Speaker 1: lot has happened in those forty years. I read the Bible.
Speaker 1: I read passages of the Bible. The Great Catherine Stewart
Speaker 1: sends me every day, maybe not the Bible, but passages
Speaker 1: that I find really helpful and wonderful and calming because
Speaker 1: I'm still a savage beast, even though my waist isn't
Speaker 1: thirty two and my arms aren't sixty years anymore. I'm
Speaker 1: still a crazy bastard. But anyhow, I couldn't let this
Speaker 1: day go without cave your a little story about the
Speaker 1: old man, because he was something else and he would
Speaker 1: have been my first guest on this show had he
Speaker 1: still been here, and he would have laughed your head
Speaker 1: off at his stories. You think I'm a good storyteller?
Speaker 1: Who do you think I got it from al Benza?
Speaker 1: That's true, I'm aj Benza. That's all. That was your Daily?
Speaker 1: What's it called again? On edited? I forget? What's the show?
Speaker 1: Could your Daily? Uncensored? I can't remember? What's wrong with me?
Speaker 1: I said this for seven and a half years. Either way,
Speaker 1: you know the show. I'm crazy, I'm uncensored. It's Daily unfiltered.
Speaker 1: There we go, Thank you, Thank you God. Talk to
Speaker 1: you guys. Have a good weekend. Listen to politics a bitch.
Speaker 1: We're going crazy out here with Trump and all the
Speaker 1: shit going on with the people who can't stand him.
Speaker 1: We're trying to block his way. Just do not miss
Speaker 1: p I a b It's all we got in this country. Now,
Speaker 1: this is what This is the most enjoyable, entertaining aspect
Speaker 1: of our country. Better than TV network TV. I've seen
Speaker 1: everything on Netflix and Amazon Prime. Fuck it, turn on Trump,
Speaker 1: talk to these Monday