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<v Speaker 1>So I'm in San Francisco and then for four day.

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<v Speaker 1>It's my fourth.

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<v Speaker 2>Day, and I really enjoying myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I really am.

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<v Speaker 2>I really really am telling you as you get older,

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<v Speaker 2>I talk to all my friends around my age, and

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<v Speaker 2>we're all feeling the same thing. Gods start choosing things

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<v Speaker 2>you wanna do for you, right. A lot of our

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<v Speaker 2>lives are serving others, our jobs, children, parents, friends, whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>because at this age, you're like, my time is valuable.

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<v Speaker 1>What am I doing with that?

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<v Speaker 2>And I said, for four you know, for me, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>used to travel, and we used to always eat out

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<v Speaker 2>of town and see other places and with other people

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<v Speaker 2>and doing stuff. And for five we'll say for four years.

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<v Speaker 2>Once it's five. For four years that has been stunted

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<v Speaker 2>by the lockdowns, pandem, I make COVID, my family issues.

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<v Speaker 2>So now I'm finally getting out. Of course, as I'm

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<v Speaker 2>getting out, they're saying COVID is running rapid again, and

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<v Speaker 2>people in my circle are I've been getting at I've had.

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<v Speaker 1>Like three times.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've survived and everything's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>For me.

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<v Speaker 2>It was not fun having it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like outside, that's the outside. I love it. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in the city. That's loud. You guys can hear that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really loud.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never stopped some of my protocols.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm not really out there running the streets so heavily.

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<v Speaker 1>Right now.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a travel portion if the streets, so to speak.

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<v Speaker 2>Where I'm at home, I go like I'm home to

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<v Speaker 2>my mom's house, come home, go to my lass house,

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<v Speaker 2>going and I'm not out there like really running the streets.

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<v Speaker 2>But i still do the same hand sancitizer. I've done

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<v Speaker 2>masking in certain places, like I've always.

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<v Speaker 1>Kept those protocols going when not going on those.

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<v Speaker 2>Trains I don't do very often anymore. Those trains are

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<v Speaker 2>so dirty in La. It's just a shame. I love

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<v Speaker 2>riding the trains, but they're so dirty and people are

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<v Speaker 2>so dirty on them going to certain areas. I just

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<v Speaker 2>don't ride them anymore to avoid all that. But when

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<v Speaker 2>I do write them, I wear masks and all. I

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<v Speaker 2>do all that stuff now and I'm seeing masking the

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<v Speaker 2>on coming back a little bit too. But I've been

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<v Speaker 2>but me being here these last you know, almost four

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<v Speaker 2>days now, I have done wonders for my self esteem,

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<v Speaker 2>my psyche, my depression, everything.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like I had.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had so much fun so far. It's been wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't gotten work done. I've sually people haven't seen

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<v Speaker 2>in years. I put some more work.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was talking to my my clients about this too,

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<v Speaker 2>about her future. Also, well she's, you know, a littler

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<v Speaker 2>than I am, but a boy my age. And I said,

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<v Speaker 2>well she wanna do next work wise? Like what is

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<v Speaker 2>she willing to do.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're younger, You're willing to do all this other stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it's like we come to the point of like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't wanna work as hard as I used to,

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<v Speaker 2>or I don't wanna live where I don't wanna live,

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<v Speaker 2>or I don't wanna put in the extra disc I

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<v Speaker 2>don't wanna give up that we start to really feel

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<v Speaker 2>that it's It's not thing stubborn.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like just I feel like it's now.

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<v Speaker 2>One of those things where you know what you want,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what you like, you know what you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, and you sho try to fit it into your life.

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<v Speaker 1>But why not. I don't see anything wrong with that?

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm down.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm sorry I'm eating that if I have to

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<v Speaker 2>eat the same time, while I'm talking to you, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>you can call it's not as rude, but I have

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<v Speaker 2>to have a baby, a cap bothering exact food.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I really really.

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<v Speaker 2>Understand it now as you get older, there's certain things

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<v Speaker 2>you're not gonna do, and certain things you are gonna do,

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<v Speaker 2>and certain things that you like. And when I gravitate

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<v Speaker 2>towards I was also with my some really good friends mine.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I know one to listen to the show, you

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<v Speaker 2>know the one he might be listening. Hi, if you're listening,

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<v Speaker 2>he might you know, I'm gonna say names. Yeah you're

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<v Speaker 2>telling you guys, but excuse me. We were talking. I

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<v Speaker 2>was watching the relationship. It's the same as is always.

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<v Speaker 2>It's been the same since for years. I've married like

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<v Speaker 2>twenty years, the same for years. But we're all older,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we're in our fifties. We're all older, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's kind of funny. It's like you come to these realizations.

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<v Speaker 2>And he was telling me, it's like, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>love her, and so I'm and I've learned a lot

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<v Speaker 2>about her all these years, and so I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>get it. So I try to remind myself of those

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<v Speaker 2>things as I work through stuff. With her, and I

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<v Speaker 2>hear that actually more than I was just gonna leave.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it. I'm done. Bye.

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<v Speaker 2>You're right yet too, of course depends on the situation

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<v Speaker 2>of it depends on the situation, of course. But I

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<v Speaker 2>always say, you know, sometimes you have to like look

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<v Speaker 2>at the whole picture, look at you, look at them,

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<v Speaker 2>look at me, and go, Okay, what is going on.

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<v Speaker 1>And isn't so bad? Is it not as bad? Or

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<v Speaker 1>is it really bad? Or it was really bad?

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<v Speaker 2>To get you to get out clearly, but sometimes there

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<v Speaker 2>are things You're like, you have to let people be

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<v Speaker 2>who they are. And I've had discussions for people my

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<v Speaker 2>age recently too when I was up here about our

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<v Speaker 2>parents and how are recurrenting conclusions of that too. You

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<v Speaker 2>have to forgive people more, have grace with people more

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<v Speaker 2>without being them, not letting them walk all over your stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>not saying that at all, not saying.

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<v Speaker 1>That out Trust me, I'm not You're not doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>But I got something my teeth. Yeah, I'm eating right

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<v Speaker 1>here alright. Something second my teeth. I can feel it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna grab a toothbrush or whatever it's I

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<v Speaker 1>get this thing out. It's like it's bothering me as

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking to you guys. I wasn't good. I should

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<v Speaker 1>I did that right.

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<v Speaker 2>It has made it worse anyway, But it's just it's

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<v Speaker 2>one of those things you have to kind of go okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, before you make hasty decisions, before you and

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<v Speaker 2>look at everything and see really what part of plays

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<v Speaker 2>in your life. And for me, it was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna forgive them, and I'm gonna forgive them, and

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<v Speaker 2>I know how they are, so I won't so now

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<v Speaker 2>I'll act accordingly.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I won't go to I won't go to them for.

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<v Speaker 2>This, Like I learned that I think I've talked about

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<v Speaker 2>on the show sometime last year.

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<v Speaker 1>When it's all blurb.

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<v Speaker 2>About many people where they are, and there's some folks

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<v Speaker 2>you love them and you.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually like them. Sometimes you like seeing them. Sometimes it's fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't gotta be around here all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I recognize we're good together once every two months,

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<v Speaker 2>we're fine.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a good time for those two.

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<v Speaker 2>Months, and at that time, at the one time, and

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<v Speaker 2>then you go out your business. You know how it

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<v Speaker 2>can be sometimes you just that there are people you're

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<v Speaker 2>just like, there are people you won't be around with more.

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<v Speaker 1>So you try to get that happen.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's also people you're just like, why why end

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<v Speaker 2>this relationship? You know, because you leave the toilet seat

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<v Speaker 2>up all the time. It buns the shit out of me.

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<v Speaker 2>But if that's the worst thing you're doing that, you've

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<v Speaker 2>done that, I think I can live.

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<v Speaker 1>I can live with that. You gotta really think I

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<v Speaker 1>can I can live with that.

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<v Speaker 2>When you really when you get older, he really is

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<v Speaker 2>about compromises and they say it, Oh, I heard that

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<v Speaker 2>all the time, and it's just it's a different You

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<v Speaker 2>have to just know what's a compromise and what isn't

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<v Speaker 2>and you just kind of figure it's different everybody. You

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<v Speaker 2>have to figure that out. And again, I have to

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<v Speaker 2>know you have to kind of look within yourself at

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<v Speaker 2>all times and go, I'm feeling a certain way right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Why.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh for me, it was, oh, I haven't gone anywhere

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<v Speaker 2>in two years. I feel stuck and tethered to my

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<v Speaker 2>situation in Los Angeles. I haven't seen it anybody that

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<v Speaker 2>I want to see in years and not coming to

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<v Speaker 2>see me.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't seen that.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's like I started identifying the issues and so

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<v Speaker 2>when I did that. Then it was like got it,

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<v Speaker 2>got it, Okay, got it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I know what's going.

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<v Speaker 2>On, and now I can act accordingly.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to just try to work on the hard part.

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<v Speaker 2>About when you as you get older and would you

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<v Speaker 2>get a stubbornness in you? You get kind of sat

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<v Speaker 2>For many people, the change is really the hardest. You've

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<v Speaker 2>liked things this way for so long. Something happens and

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, now it's forcing me to change. Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like that. I didn't ask to change. How dare me?

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<v Speaker 2>How dare you?

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<v Speaker 1>This happened? And so you fight it. You try to

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<v Speaker 1>find ways.

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<v Speaker 2>I have friends who I'm seriously they're they're they're thinking stuff, they're.

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<v Speaker 1>Trying their best to fight. They're fighting. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't see it.

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<v Speaker 2>They tell me a situation, I'm like, I don't see

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<v Speaker 2>it that way at all. I see it as it's

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<v Speaker 2>everything is happening is normal, but you're just upset because

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want it to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>So I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>But everything that's happening to you, I don't see anything

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<v Speaker 2>shady and shisty going on, And.

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<v Speaker 1>That's kind of it's very interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just I go you're fighting the change, and

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<v Speaker 2>then along when you're like, should you just I told

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<v Speaker 2>it all the time, you should just let it go

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<v Speaker 2>and and embrace it and do You're so a favorite

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<v Speaker 2>because it's all for about it's all it's not just

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<v Speaker 2>about now, it's about the future. You're your tomorrow self.

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<v Speaker 2>I see always get to care your tomorrow self. What

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<v Speaker 2>you do today will affect your tomorrow self all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>I see it all the time. But I do know

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<v Speaker 2>my right now, my tomorrow self. I think it's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be okay because I'm here today. I'm having a good time.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting stuff done. I don't do a situation. It

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<v Speaker 2>feels good. I'm embracing this. Yes, I don't ever think

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<v Speaker 2>it changed tomorrow, but I'm thinking about that. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>like embracing it today, enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 1>And there you go.

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<v Speaker 2>I love all of you out there. Thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 2>to my show fifty plus. I appreciate it. And the

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<v Speaker 2>next thing you hear from me, I'll be out of

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<v Speaker 2>San Francisco pipe back in LA. Have some more trips

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<v Speaker 2>coming up, some more musings will happen from that.

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<v Speaker 1>Follow me and James I Junior Everywhere by