Speaker 1: So I'm in San Francisco and then for four day.
Speaker 1: It's my fourth.
Speaker 2: Day, and I really enjoying myself.
Speaker 1: I really am.
Speaker 2: I really really am telling you as you get older,
Speaker 2: I talk to all my friends around my age, and
Speaker 2: we're all feeling the same thing. Gods start choosing things
Speaker 2: you wanna do for you, right. A lot of our
Speaker 2: lives are serving others, our jobs, children, parents, friends, whatever,
Speaker 2: because at this age, you're like, my time is valuable.
Speaker 1: What am I doing with that?
Speaker 2: And I said, for four you know, for me, I'm
Speaker 2: used to travel, and we used to always eat out
Speaker 2: of town and see other places and with other people
Speaker 2: and doing stuff. And for five we'll say for four years.
Speaker 2: Once it's five. For four years that has been stunted
Speaker 2: by the lockdowns, pandem, I make COVID, my family issues.
Speaker 2: So now I'm finally getting out. Of course, as I'm
Speaker 2: getting out, they're saying COVID is running rapid again, and
Speaker 2: people in my circle are I've been getting at I've had.
Speaker 1: Like three times.
Speaker 2: And I've survived and everything's fine.
Speaker 1: For me.
Speaker 2: It was not fun having it.
Speaker 1: It's like outside, that's the outside. I love it. I'm
Speaker 1: in the city. That's loud. You guys can hear that.
Speaker 2: It's really loud.
Speaker 1: I've never stopped some of my protocols.
Speaker 2: And I'm not really out there running the streets so heavily.
Speaker 1: Right now.
Speaker 2: It's just a travel portion if the streets, so to speak.
Speaker 2: Where I'm at home, I go like I'm home to
Speaker 2: my mom's house, come home, go to my lass house,
Speaker 2: going and I'm not out there like really running the streets.
Speaker 2: But i still do the same hand sancitizer. I've done
Speaker 2: masking in certain places, like I've always.
Speaker 1: Kept those protocols going when not going on those.
Speaker 2: Trains I don't do very often anymore. Those trains are
Speaker 2: so dirty in La. It's just a shame. I love
Speaker 2: riding the trains, but they're so dirty and people are
Speaker 2: so dirty on them going to certain areas. I just
Speaker 2: don't ride them anymore to avoid all that. But when
Speaker 2: I do write them, I wear masks and all. I
Speaker 2: do all that stuff now and I'm seeing masking the
Speaker 2: on coming back a little bit too. But I've been
Speaker 2: but me being here these last you know, almost four
Speaker 2: days now, I have done wonders for my self esteem,
Speaker 2: my psyche, my depression, everything.
Speaker 1: It's like I had.
Speaker 2: I've had so much fun so far. It's been wonderful.
Speaker 2: I haven't gotten work done. I've sually people haven't seen
Speaker 2: in years. I put some more work.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: So I was talking to my my clients about this too,
Speaker 2: about her future. Also, well she's, you know, a littler
Speaker 2: than I am, but a boy my age. And I said,
Speaker 2: well she wanna do next work wise? Like what is
Speaker 2: she willing to do.
Speaker 1: When you're younger, You're willing to do all this other stuff.
Speaker 2: Now it's like we come to the point of like, well,
Speaker 2: I don't wanna work as hard as I used to,
Speaker 2: or I don't wanna live where I don't wanna live,
Speaker 2: or I don't wanna put in the extra disc I
Speaker 2: don't wanna give up that we start to really feel
Speaker 2: that it's It's not thing stubborn.
Speaker 1: It's like just I feel like it's now.
Speaker 2: One of those things where you know what you want,
Speaker 2: you know what you like, you know what you don't.
Speaker 1: Like, and you sho try to fit it into your life.
Speaker 1: But why not. I don't see anything wrong with that?
Speaker 1: So I'm down.
Speaker 2: And I'm sorry I'm eating that if I have to
Speaker 2: eat the same time, while I'm talking to you, guys,
Speaker 2: you can call it's not as rude, but I have
Speaker 2: to have a baby, a cap bothering exact food.
Speaker 1: I just I really really.
Speaker 2: Understand it now as you get older, there's certain things
Speaker 2: you're not gonna do, and certain things you are gonna do,
Speaker 2: and certain things that you like. And when I gravitate
Speaker 2: towards I was also with my some really good friends mine.
Speaker 2: Now I know one to listen to the show, you
Speaker 2: know the one he might be listening. Hi, if you're listening,
Speaker 2: he might you know, I'm gonna say names. Yeah you're
Speaker 2: telling you guys, but excuse me. We were talking. I
Speaker 2: was watching the relationship. It's the same as is always.
Speaker 2: It's been the same since for years. I've married like
Speaker 2: twenty years, the same for years. But we're all older,
Speaker 2: you know, we're in our fifties. We're all older, and
Speaker 2: it's kind of funny. It's like you come to these realizations.
Speaker 2: And he was telling me, it's like, you know, I
Speaker 2: love her, and so I'm and I've learned a lot
Speaker 2: about her all these years, and so I kind of
Speaker 2: get it. So I try to remind myself of those
Speaker 2: things as I work through stuff. With her, and I
Speaker 2: hear that actually more than I was just gonna leave.
Speaker 1: That's it. I'm done. Bye.
Speaker 2: You're right yet too, of course depends on the situation
Speaker 2: of it depends on the situation, of course. But I
Speaker 2: always say, you know, sometimes you have to like look
Speaker 2: at the whole picture, look at you, look at them,
Speaker 2: look at me, and go, Okay, what is going on.
Speaker 1: And isn't so bad? Is it not as bad? Or
Speaker 1: is it really bad? Or it was really bad?
Speaker 2: To get you to get out clearly, but sometimes there
Speaker 2: are things You're like, you have to let people be
Speaker 2: who they are. And I've had discussions for people my
Speaker 2: age recently too when I was up here about our
Speaker 2: parents and how are recurrenting conclusions of that too. You
Speaker 2: have to forgive people more, have grace with people more
Speaker 2: without being them, not letting them walk all over your stuff,
Speaker 2: not saying that at all, not saying.
Speaker 1: That out Trust me, I'm not You're not doing that.
Speaker 1: But I got something my teeth. Yeah, I'm eating right
Speaker 1: here alright. Something second my teeth. I can feel it.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna grab a toothbrush or whatever it's I
Speaker 1: get this thing out. It's like it's bothering me as
Speaker 1: I'm talking to you guys. I wasn't good. I should
Speaker 1: I did that right.
Speaker 2: It has made it worse anyway, But it's just it's
Speaker 2: one of those things you have to kind of go okay,
Speaker 2: you know, before you make hasty decisions, before you and
Speaker 2: look at everything and see really what part of plays
Speaker 2: in your life. And for me, it was like, you know,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna forgive them, and I'm gonna forgive them, and
Speaker 2: I know how they are, so I won't so now
Speaker 2: I'll act accordingly.
Speaker 1: Now I won't go to I won't go to them for.
Speaker 2: This, Like I learned that I think I've talked about
Speaker 2: on the show sometime last year.
Speaker 1: When it's all blurb.
Speaker 2: About many people where they are, and there's some folks
Speaker 2: you love them and you.
Speaker 1: Actually like them. Sometimes you like seeing them. Sometimes it's fun.
Speaker 1: I don't gotta be around here all the time.
Speaker 2: Maybe I recognize we're good together once every two months,
Speaker 2: we're fine.
Speaker 1: We have a good time for those two.
Speaker 2: Months, and at that time, at the one time, and
Speaker 2: then you go out your business. You know how it
Speaker 2: can be sometimes you just that there are people you're
Speaker 2: just like, there are people you won't be around with more.
Speaker 1: So you try to get that happen.
Speaker 2: But it's also people you're just like, why why end
Speaker 2: this relationship? You know, because you leave the toilet seat
Speaker 2: up all the time. It buns the shit out of me.
Speaker 2: But if that's the worst thing you're doing that, you've
Speaker 2: done that, I think I can live.
Speaker 1: I can live with that. You gotta really think I
Speaker 1: can I can live with that.
Speaker 2: When you really when you get older, he really is
Speaker 2: about compromises and they say it, Oh, I heard that
Speaker 2: all the time, and it's just it's a different You
Speaker 2: have to just know what's a compromise and what isn't
Speaker 2: and you just kind of figure it's different everybody. You
Speaker 2: have to figure that out. And again, I have to
Speaker 2: know you have to kind of look within yourself at
Speaker 2: all times and go, I'm feeling a certain way right now.
Speaker 1: Why.
Speaker 2: Oh for me, it was, oh, I haven't gone anywhere
Speaker 2: in two years. I feel stuck and tethered to my
Speaker 2: situation in Los Angeles. I haven't seen it anybody that
Speaker 2: I want to see in years and not coming to
Speaker 2: see me.
Speaker 1: I haven't seen that.
Speaker 2: Like it's like I started identifying the issues and so
Speaker 2: when I did that. Then it was like got it,
Speaker 2: got it, Okay, got it.
Speaker 1: Now I know what's going.
Speaker 2: On, and now I can act accordingly.
Speaker 1: I'm going to just try to work on the hard part.
Speaker 2: About when you as you get older and would you
Speaker 2: get a stubbornness in you? You get kind of sat
Speaker 2: For many people, the change is really the hardest. You've
Speaker 2: liked things this way for so long. Something happens and
Speaker 2: you're like, now it's forcing me to change. Well, I
Speaker 2: don't like that. I didn't ask to change. How dare me?
Speaker 2: How dare you?
Speaker 1: This happened? And so you fight it. You try to
Speaker 1: find ways.
Speaker 2: I have friends who I'm seriously they're they're they're thinking stuff, they're.
Speaker 1: Trying their best to fight. They're fighting. You know, I
Speaker 1: don't see it.
Speaker 2: They tell me a situation, I'm like, I don't see
Speaker 2: it that way at all. I see it as it's
Speaker 2: everything is happening is normal, but you're just upset because
Speaker 2: you don't want it to happen.
Speaker 1: So I understand.
Speaker 2: But everything that's happening to you, I don't see anything
Speaker 2: shady and shisty going on, And.
Speaker 1: That's kind of it's very interesting.
Speaker 2: So I just I go you're fighting the change, and
Speaker 2: then along when you're like, should you just I told
Speaker 2: it all the time, you should just let it go
Speaker 2: and and embrace it and do You're so a favorite
Speaker 2: because it's all for about it's all it's not just
Speaker 2: about now, it's about the future. You're your tomorrow self.
Speaker 2: I see always get to care your tomorrow self. What
Speaker 2: you do today will affect your tomorrow self all the time.
Speaker 2: I see it all the time. But I do know
Speaker 2: my right now, my tomorrow self. I think it's gonna
Speaker 2: be okay because I'm here today. I'm having a good time.
Speaker 2: I'm getting stuff done. I don't do a situation. It
Speaker 2: feels good. I'm embracing this. Yes, I don't ever think
Speaker 2: it changed tomorrow, but I'm thinking about that. I'm just
Speaker 2: like embracing it today, enjoying it.
Speaker 1: And there you go.
Speaker 2: I love all of you out there. Thanks for listening
Speaker 2: to my show fifty plus. I appreciate it. And the
Speaker 2: next thing you hear from me, I'll be out of
Speaker 2: San Francisco pipe back in LA. Have some more trips
Speaker 2: coming up, some more musings will happen from that.
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