WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.399 --> 00:00:02.960 Karen, Yes, is it just me? 2 00:00:03.160 --> 00:00:03.439 Yes? 3 00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:07.200 No, it's not. It's not just me never. Okay, it 4 00:00:07.280 --> 00:00:09.640 might actually be just me. But are we seriously overdue 5 00:00:09.679 --> 00:00:14.480 for a good old fashioned mind expanding, soul shaking, quantum 6 00:00:14.599 --> 00:00:19.120 jumping conversation? Yes we are, We are right overdue. Well, 7 00:00:19.640 --> 00:00:22.519 we are in luck because our guest today she's like 8 00:00:22.800 --> 00:00:26.679 Abraham Hicks, Oh, doctor Joe Despenza, and your favorite yoga 9 00:00:26.719 --> 00:00:28.920 teacher all mixed in together. 10 00:00:29.120 --> 00:00:30.280 Wow, why is in bendy? 11 00:00:32.320 --> 00:00:34.359 I hadn't thought of it that way, nor did I 12 00:00:34.399 --> 00:00:36.039 mean it that way, but I guess it makes sense. 13 00:00:36.320 --> 00:00:40.520 But she also happens to run leadership academies, and she's 14 00:00:40.560 --> 00:00:43.000 the host of a metaphysical TV show as well. 15 00:00:43.439 --> 00:00:43.640 Nice. 16 00:00:43.920 --> 00:00:47.719 Yeah, She's spent over twenty years diving into the deep 17 00:00:47.799 --> 00:00:52.200 end of spirituality, personal development, and science. And spoiler alert, 18 00:00:52.359 --> 00:00:55.200 she didn't just find all the answers. She actually rewrote 19 00:00:55.359 --> 00:00:56.320 some of the questions. 20 00:00:56.679 --> 00:00:58.359 I love that, I know me too. 21 00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:01.320 She's got a book endorsed by names like Michael Beckwith 22 00:01:01.479 --> 00:01:04.920 and Anita Mujani. She talks about banning reality with your thoughts, 23 00:01:04.959 --> 00:01:08.760 and she's got this way of explaining metaphysics that makes 24 00:01:08.760 --> 00:01:11.280 you go wait a second, how does that make sense? 25 00:01:12.959 --> 00:01:15.640 And am I the one creating this reality? To which 26 00:01:15.640 --> 00:01:19.239 the answer is, of course yes. Buckle up, buttercup, because 27 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:21.879 if you've ever wanted to unlock the cheat codes of 28 00:01:21.920 --> 00:01:25.280 the universe without needing to move to a mountaintop or 29 00:01:25.319 --> 00:01:29.519 grow a third eye, this one is for you. My 30 00:01:29.599 --> 00:01:33.840 name is Will and unlike Boulder and Scully, so we've 31 00:01:33.840 --> 00:01:35.439 embarked in a journey of discovery. 32 00:01:35.519 --> 00:01:38.079 We've talked to people deeply entrenched in the spiritual and 33 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:38.959 metaphysical world. 34 00:01:39.000 --> 00:01:42.319 We've thrown ourselves into weird and wonderful experiences. I even 35 00:01:42.359 --> 00:01:43.760 joined a coven of witches. 36 00:01:43.519 --> 00:01:46.400 And wait, you joined a coven yep, all on. 37 00:01:46.439 --> 00:01:49.400 The interests of finding something, anything that will prove that 38 00:01:49.439 --> 00:01:51.480 there's something beyond this physical. 39 00:01:51.159 --> 00:01:52.799 Three dimensional world we all live in. 40 00:01:53.000 --> 00:02:09.240 This is the Skeptic Metaphysicians. Hey there on, Will thank 41 00:02:09.280 --> 00:02:11.639 you for coming back and hitting play on this episode 42 00:02:11.680 --> 00:02:13.719 of the Skeptic Motivisations. We are always thrilled to have 43 00:02:13.759 --> 00:02:16.840 you on board with us. Our guest today, well, she's 44 00:02:16.879 --> 00:02:21.120 a powerhouse of personal transformation and metaphysical magic. Her name 45 00:02:21.360 --> 00:02:24.280 is Chris Ashley and she is a coach, an author, 46 00:02:24.479 --> 00:02:28.199 a speaker, a podcast host and a TV host who 47 00:02:28.280 --> 00:02:31.800 has spent over two decades diving into the deep end 48 00:02:31.800 --> 00:02:36.120 of spirituality, science, and expanded consciousness. She's the author of 49 00:02:36.240 --> 00:02:38.960 Change Your Mind, to Change Your Reality. That this book 50 00:02:39.120 --> 00:02:41.879 was endorsed, like I mentioned, by spiritual heavy hitters like 51 00:02:41.919 --> 00:02:46.280 Michael Beckworth, Marcy Scheimoff, and Anita Mujani. And she's here 52 00:02:46.400 --> 00:02:49.199 to help us unlock the quantum code to living our 53 00:02:49.479 --> 00:02:54.840 high most aligned awakened lives. It's a big shoe to phil, 54 00:02:54.919 --> 00:02:57.039 but I know that she's going to do it because 55 00:02:57.039 --> 00:03:00.919 whether she's hosting her own TV show, Beyond Reality, leading retreats, 56 00:03:01.039 --> 00:03:03.159 or breaking down the law of attraction like a boss, 57 00:03:03.280 --> 00:03:06.240 Chris is all about empowering people to shift their inner 58 00:03:06.280 --> 00:03:10.039 world so that their outer world transforms. Chris Ashley, Welcome 59 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:12.759 to the show. Great. 60 00:03:13.120 --> 00:03:16.120 I think that was the best introduction I've ever gotten. 61 00:03:17.439 --> 00:03:19.560 It's like, you do this professionally. No, that was amazing. 62 00:03:19.599 --> 00:03:21.520 I was over here like cracking up. You just called 63 00:03:21.520 --> 00:03:23.800 me and Joe Despenser across with Abraham Hicks. 64 00:03:23.840 --> 00:03:27.039 I'm like how You're like, yes I am. 65 00:03:27.240 --> 00:03:29.439 As a matter of fact, you got to own it, baby, 66 00:03:29.479 --> 00:03:32.919 You create your own reality. Right, this is I am 67 00:03:32.960 --> 00:03:34.960 in awe of all the things that you're doing, and 68 00:03:35.120 --> 00:03:37.759 I have a had a sneak peek at your show 69 00:03:37.840 --> 00:03:40.759 and it is wonderful. So the world is in for 70 00:03:40.759 --> 00:03:43.439 a treat and we couldn't be happier than we are 71 00:03:43.479 --> 00:03:45.879 to have you on the show. So thank you for 72 00:03:45.919 --> 00:03:46.599 saying yes. 73 00:03:47.280 --> 00:03:49.520 Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited 74 00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:51.759 to be here. I love the work that you're doing 75 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:55.280 in the world. It's amazing and I'm excited to. 76 00:03:55.199 --> 00:03:56.520 Be a part of it. Wow. 77 00:03:56.759 --> 00:03:59.199 Thank you. We will dive into that in a little bit, 78 00:03:59.240 --> 00:04:02.199 but I really want to talk about the really exciting 79 00:04:02.280 --> 00:04:07.319 stuff like creating your own reality. Right, This is something 80 00:04:07.319 --> 00:04:13.280 that you are expert level at. The problem is that 81 00:04:13.319 --> 00:04:16.639 there is so much chitter chatter out there about how 82 00:04:16.680 --> 00:04:20.519 to do certain things that the message gets lost. So 83 00:04:21.199 --> 00:04:23.079 let's just dive right in the deep end of the woo. 84 00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:26.839 How can we create our reality that is aligned with 85 00:04:26.879 --> 00:04:28.000 our highest selves. 86 00:04:28.319 --> 00:04:30.319 Yeah, let's dive right into the biggest question. 87 00:04:30.439 --> 00:04:33.800 I love Welcome to Skeptic of Positions, Chrizy. 88 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:37.399 I love it. And you know, I'm assuming your audience 89 00:04:37.639 --> 00:04:41.360 has a basic understanding of the law of attraction. But 90 00:04:41.560 --> 00:04:45.480 just in case they don't. We live in this intelligent 91 00:04:45.680 --> 00:04:51.079 universe that can bring us anything that we want or 92 00:04:51.399 --> 00:04:53.680 want to be, or want to do or want to have, 93 00:04:54.519 --> 00:04:56.920 and it knows how to do this in a really simple, 94 00:04:57.000 --> 00:04:59.959 straightforward way. Like as humans, we think we kind of 95 00:05:00.160 --> 00:05:01.800 complicate things, right, We think we have to go from 96 00:05:01.839 --> 00:05:03.879 A to B to C. We have to make one 97 00:05:03.920 --> 00:05:06.319 hundred thousand dollars this year to make two hundred thousand 98 00:05:06.360 --> 00:05:08.800 dollars next year. But the universe knows how to move 99 00:05:08.839 --> 00:05:11.240 us from A to Z, right, it knows how to 100 00:05:11.519 --> 00:05:14.839 move mountains. You just have to have the right formula. 101 00:05:15.000 --> 00:05:18.120 And like you said, you know, I love books and 102 00:05:18.160 --> 00:05:20.639 movies like The Secret that brought the Law of attraction 103 00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:22.759 to the masses. Like you said, I had three people 104 00:05:22.879 --> 00:05:26.360 from The Secret endorse my book. But what I think 105 00:05:26.399 --> 00:05:29.279 The Secret and a lot of you know, gurus out 106 00:05:29.319 --> 00:05:32.639 there are missing is they treat the law of attraction 107 00:05:32.879 --> 00:05:35.680 or the universe kind of like a genie in a bottle. Right, 108 00:05:35.759 --> 00:05:37.279 you just tell it what you want, then you kind 109 00:05:37.279 --> 00:05:39.319 of sit back, kick your feet up, and just like 110 00:05:39.399 --> 00:05:41.680 wait for it to drop into your lab. But there's 111 00:05:41.720 --> 00:05:44.240 actually a formula that you need to follow and it's 112 00:05:44.319 --> 00:05:46.160 not a complicated formula. 113 00:05:46.040 --> 00:05:51.279 We get a penhang on, hang on, Okay, I am ready. 114 00:05:52.120 --> 00:05:53.720 Yeah, you speak slowly. 115 00:05:54.439 --> 00:05:56.439 Right, Formulas and me don't mix, so I need to 116 00:05:56.480 --> 00:05:58.480 write it down otherwise I'm lost. So go ahead. 117 00:05:58.519 --> 00:06:01.000 We need like a whiteboard with a greechy marker. Right. 118 00:06:01.199 --> 00:06:05.439 Oh, that's next on our but to buy list for sure. 119 00:06:06.079 --> 00:06:06.319 Yeah. 120 00:06:06.360 --> 00:06:08.519 Wait, I could see you in the background making formula. 121 00:06:08.560 --> 00:06:11.720 It's while Karen interviews. Yeah, you know, there's simple things. 122 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:14.439 The first thing is it's so obvious, but a lot 123 00:06:14.439 --> 00:06:17.279 of people miss it. Is you have to know what 124 00:06:17.319 --> 00:06:20.079 you want, right. You have to get really clear on 125 00:06:20.120 --> 00:06:21.839 your vision. You have that, you have to have that 126 00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:25.439 north star. And so many people don't really know what 127 00:06:25.480 --> 00:06:28.079 they want. They'll say something like, oh, I want to 128 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:30.240 have a lot of money, or you know, like I 129 00:06:30.279 --> 00:06:33.800 want happiness. But it's like money is a tool, right, 130 00:06:33.920 --> 00:06:40.279 It's a symbol of freedom or pride or adventure or 131 00:06:40.439 --> 00:06:42.439 peace of mind or whatever you want it to be. 132 00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:44.439 And it's not really money you want. It's like a 133 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:48.000 specific thing, right. So it's about getting really clear on 134 00:06:48.040 --> 00:06:51.879 your visions. You have that north star, and then it's 135 00:06:51.920 --> 00:06:54.639 about fueling the emotions of having it already. 136 00:06:55.199 --> 00:06:55.360 Right. 137 00:06:55.399 --> 00:06:57.759 You mentioned doctor Joe Despenser. He talks about that he's 138 00:06:57.800 --> 00:07:00.480 the master at this, right, because if we can feel 139 00:07:00.519 --> 00:07:04.040 gratitude for having something that we don't have yet, it 140 00:07:04.160 --> 00:07:08.439 tricks our mind into believing that it's real, and we 141 00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:10.439 attract that into our life, and then we're on that 142 00:07:10.480 --> 00:07:13.560 frequency of gratitude, so we attract so much more things 143 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:17.759 into our life that make us grateful. Right, yeah, go ahead. 144 00:07:17.800 --> 00:07:20.199 So it's kind of like that whole adage that says 145 00:07:20.399 --> 00:07:24.000 fake it to humique it. You got to fool day 146 00:07:25.120 --> 00:07:29.120 a dog. No, I am learning French. 147 00:07:29.439 --> 00:07:32.319 You talk about a dodges while eating pistachios. 148 00:07:32.839 --> 00:07:34.600 What you make in fun of me? I don't understand. 149 00:07:35.759 --> 00:07:38.120 That is how you say pistachios. That's how you say 150 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:40.639 the words. So anyway, Chris, sorry, go ahead. 151 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:43.160 No, no, no, no, I love it. I didn't understand 152 00:07:43.199 --> 00:07:46.639 what word you were saying either, And then I was like, oh, no. 153 00:07:46.639 --> 00:07:48.199 Fair, I'm helping provide clarity. 154 00:07:48.319 --> 00:07:48.759 This is. 155 00:07:51.920 --> 00:07:55.759 Like banging up, right, No fair, we met, we hung, 156 00:07:55.879 --> 00:07:56.720 we like worked like this. 157 00:07:56.839 --> 00:08:02.759 Ye can't hold that against me though, that's not fair. 158 00:08:03.319 --> 00:08:04.439 We're guiding you. 159 00:08:04.279 --> 00:08:06.680 All right, fine your head person. 160 00:08:06.839 --> 00:08:09.040 But you know what, You're totally right. I love that phrase. 161 00:08:09.079 --> 00:08:12.439 Fake it to you make it. It's kind of like 162 00:08:12.480 --> 00:08:15.800 one of the secrets to unlocking all of this. But 163 00:08:15.920 --> 00:08:18.160 one of the big things that the Lava tra not sorry, 164 00:08:18.199 --> 00:08:21.480 the secret missed is you have to take action, right, 165 00:08:21.519 --> 00:08:24.839 You have to take steps towards your vision because action 166 00:08:25.160 --> 00:08:27.839 inspires the universe. Like right, you create a little bit 167 00:08:27.879 --> 00:08:30.639 of momentum, and the universe meets you where you're at 168 00:08:30.680 --> 00:08:34.360 and like wooshes you forward. And it doesn't have to 169 00:08:34.360 --> 00:08:37.080 be a big step, Like never underestimate the power of 170 00:08:37.080 --> 00:08:40.720 a small step. From one small step, you might meet 171 00:08:40.759 --> 00:08:43.799 people on your path who can help you further. You know, 172 00:08:44.200 --> 00:08:47.720 tools might appear to you that weren't there before, Opportunities 173 00:08:47.799 --> 00:08:50.759 might drop into your lap. So it's really about just 174 00:08:51.320 --> 00:08:53.919 taking that little bit of a step. And then it's 175 00:08:53.919 --> 00:08:59.320 about surrendering, letting go, trusting right that doors that didn't 176 00:08:59.360 --> 00:09:02.879 even exist will appear and unlock for you, and that 177 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:07.480 pathways will open up. So that's the basic formula, and 178 00:09:07.519 --> 00:09:09.279 then there's a whole lot more to get into. But 179 00:09:09.320 --> 00:09:11.759 I'll pause and let you kind of ponder that. 180 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:15.360 Yeah, so you said you were talking about being specific 181 00:09:15.399 --> 00:09:17.919 with what you want and how money is a tool 182 00:09:19.000 --> 00:09:22.000 and a lot of people don't know. But what if 183 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:24.320 it is that you want to be happy? I mean, 184 00:09:24.360 --> 00:09:26.720 and you don't know necessarily what's going to make you happy, 185 00:09:26.759 --> 00:09:29.440 so it's hard to ask for that specific thing. You 186 00:09:29.519 --> 00:09:32.759 just want to feel that feeling. How do you put 187 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:34.399 that out there? Girl? 188 00:09:34.399 --> 00:09:37.399 I gotta good answer for it. So there's this exercise 189 00:09:37.440 --> 00:09:39.639 that I love to do that helps people get clear 190 00:09:39.679 --> 00:09:42.840 on their vision. And this is going to be depending 191 00:09:42.840 --> 00:09:45.960 on when this airs. This might be a sneak peek, 192 00:09:46.000 --> 00:09:48.559 but otherwise you should come to this amazing summit. I 193 00:09:48.600 --> 00:09:53.399 heard about that new reality TV's putting on and you 194 00:09:53.480 --> 00:09:56.759 might learn more about this. But what I do is 195 00:09:57.000 --> 00:10:01.039 I have people divide their life into some in different categories, 196 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:08.279 things like career, romantic relationships, relationships with everyone else, health, leisure, 197 00:10:08.360 --> 00:10:12.480 like what you do for your hobbies, tangibles, things you 198 00:10:12.480 --> 00:10:14.879 can touch and if I forgot one or two, you'll 199 00:10:14.879 --> 00:10:17.600 find them out at the summit. But I have people 200 00:10:17.759 --> 00:10:20.519 rate their life on a scale of one to ten 201 00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:23.919 in each of these areas and be really honest with themselves, 202 00:10:23.919 --> 00:10:26.240 because then they find that baseline and then they can 203 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:28.799 measure where they go from there, right, So one is 204 00:10:28.879 --> 00:10:33.039 like horrible, miserable, you can't go on ten is like, 205 00:10:33.480 --> 00:10:35.600 oh my gosh, this is perfect. I'm living the dream, 206 00:10:35.720 --> 00:10:38.879 like nothing could make this better. And a lot of 207 00:10:38.919 --> 00:10:41.720 people are really surprised by how they rate these categories. 208 00:10:42.600 --> 00:10:44.440 And then what I have people do is say, Okay, 209 00:10:44.840 --> 00:10:47.360 you've got your rating. Now I want you to make 210 00:10:47.399 --> 00:10:50.879 a list of what you would need to rate each 211 00:10:50.919 --> 00:10:54.639 of these a ten out of ten, and like put 212 00:10:54.679 --> 00:10:58.519 your disbelief aside. Don't be like, oh, this can't happen, 213 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:00.320 or oh I'm not going to make this happen until 214 00:11:00.320 --> 00:11:03.080 I like pay off my student loans or whatever it is, 215 00:11:03.159 --> 00:11:05.480 or put the kids through college. It's like no, just 216 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:08.399 like put aside the critical analytical mind and just like 217 00:11:08.600 --> 00:11:10.639 let it flow from your heart, like what would make 218 00:11:10.679 --> 00:11:12.159 you rate each of those a ten out of toen 219 00:11:13.000 --> 00:11:16.679 And it's it's amazing how that helps you clarify your vision. 220 00:11:17.879 --> 00:11:20.200 I what I love about what you just said is 221 00:11:20.240 --> 00:11:24.759 you gave actionable steps to move that in the right direction. 222 00:11:24.840 --> 00:11:27.480 And that is why we are thrilled to have you 223 00:11:27.519 --> 00:11:29.240 on the show, because we knew that was going to happen. 224 00:11:29.320 --> 00:11:31.360 They're clear steps. It's not like, oh, how do I 225 00:11:31.399 --> 00:11:33.879 go about that? I pick the list? Yeah, and what 226 00:11:33.919 --> 00:11:35.840 would improve it? That's fantastic, thank you. 227 00:11:36.600 --> 00:11:39.120 So beyond the obvious, what would you say? Is the 228 00:11:39.120 --> 00:11:41.440 one thing that's holding most people back from creating their 229 00:11:41.440 --> 00:11:42.120 own reality. 230 00:11:42.639 --> 00:11:46.240 So there's the stat that I read recently that ninety 231 00:11:46.320 --> 00:11:50.200 percent of people don't achieve their dreams or their goals. 232 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:54.279 And that is for two reasons. One because the first 233 00:11:54.519 --> 00:11:58.679 sign of adversity or maybe rejection, or maybe a little 234 00:11:58.720 --> 00:12:02.600 bump or failure, they just get. Number Two, they are 235 00:12:02.679 --> 00:12:05.120 so fearful to get started in the first place that 236 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:10.399 they don't even begin. So I think lack of adaptability 237 00:12:10.639 --> 00:12:15.440 and resilience and then fear, and it all boils down 238 00:12:15.480 --> 00:12:18.519 to and I think this ties back to the amazing 239 00:12:18.519 --> 00:12:21.399 conversation Karen and I had. It all ties back to 240 00:12:21.679 --> 00:12:25.120 wanting to be loved. Because people are afraid that if 241 00:12:25.200 --> 00:12:29.639 they change, then the people in their lives might not 242 00:12:29.759 --> 00:12:34.960 love them right, or that other people will come at 243 00:12:34.960 --> 00:12:37.919 them with their opinions right, like the Internet trolls or whatever. 244 00:12:38.600 --> 00:12:42.879 Like they're so afraid of other people's opinions and failure. 245 00:12:42.960 --> 00:12:46.320 But it's really about like being afraid that you're not 246 00:12:46.360 --> 00:12:48.960 going to be loved whether you change or stay the same. 247 00:12:49.799 --> 00:12:52.840 So that's why it's really great to have amazing people 248 00:12:52.840 --> 00:12:56.000 in your life who support you and to not listen 249 00:12:56.039 --> 00:12:57.759 to those opinions online. 250 00:12:59.000 --> 00:13:02.639 Or those opinions people are brave behind their computers. 251 00:13:02.799 --> 00:13:07.399 Yeah, false bravery, right, but okay, so full disclosure. I 252 00:13:07.440 --> 00:13:12.559 have been doing all kinds of abundance activations and meditations, 253 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:15.000 and I even created a meditation that I'm about to 254 00:13:15.039 --> 00:13:20.039 release also just to help cement everything. What I've been 255 00:13:20.039 --> 00:13:22.919 hearing from people is will I've been doing everything that 256 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:26.159 you're talking about. I've been doing everything the right way. 257 00:13:26.200 --> 00:13:30.279 I've been listening to Abraham and Joe Despenza and all 258 00:13:30.360 --> 00:13:33.000 these teachers and been doing exactly what I'm being told 259 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:38.080 to do, and yet nothing is coming. If someone follows 260 00:13:38.120 --> 00:13:43.159 your formula, how confident are you that things will come? 261 00:13:43.679 --> 00:13:45.399 So this is that second part where I was like, 262 00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:48.360 there's a lot more to unpack. That was the basic formula. 263 00:13:48.559 --> 00:13:51.240 And I'm really really glad that you asked this questions. 264 00:13:51.279 --> 00:13:55.360 It's a great question. If I were coaching that person, 265 00:13:55.440 --> 00:13:57.080 the first thing I would say is, let's look at 266 00:13:57.080 --> 00:14:01.120 our language. Right, this never happens, aren't coming right? Like 267 00:14:01.159 --> 00:14:04.919 our language is so important. Language we use when we speak, 268 00:14:05.000 --> 00:14:07.240 when we think, when we write right, they call it 269 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:09.519 spelling because you're casting spells out. I don't know who 270 00:14:09.519 --> 00:14:11.240 made that up, but it's amazing and I steal it 271 00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:16.480 all the time. But it's so true, right because if 272 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:21.159 you're I mean, we all know these people that are like, oh, good, 273 00:14:21.159 --> 00:14:23.639 things never happen, or like this always happens to me, 274 00:14:23.840 --> 00:14:26.399 or things always go wrong, and then it's like things 275 00:14:26.519 --> 00:14:30.039 always go wrong, right, like they always go wrong. So 276 00:14:30.080 --> 00:14:32.200 getting your language laser tight is the first thing I 277 00:14:32.240 --> 00:14:35.080 would say to those people. But there are some things 278 00:14:35.120 --> 00:14:39.000 that can block the law of attraction from happening, and 279 00:14:40.000 --> 00:14:43.039 a lot of it has to do with repressed emotions. Right, 280 00:14:43.240 --> 00:14:46.000 if we are holding on to things like anger or 281 00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:50.440 guilt or shame. Not only do these things stay in 282 00:14:50.480 --> 00:14:53.240 our bodies and they can cause emotional stress, they can 283 00:14:53.279 --> 00:14:56.960 cause physical disease, but they also create this filter through 284 00:14:57.000 --> 00:15:00.919 which we view the world. So if you're you're viewing 285 00:15:00.960 --> 00:15:03.399 everything through this lens of anger, and that seeps into 286 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:06.279 your manifesting, right, it's that unconscious that Joe Despenser likes 287 00:15:06.320 --> 00:15:10.600 to talk about. Second forgiveness is a really big thing. 288 00:15:10.759 --> 00:15:14.000 It's something I talk about probably more than anything these days, 289 00:15:14.919 --> 00:15:18.159 because if you're holding onto grudges, that's poison, right, and 290 00:15:18.200 --> 00:15:20.799 holding onto poison only hurts you. And it's that same thing. 291 00:15:20.879 --> 00:15:24.720 It's going to seep through your unconscious and then your 292 00:15:24.720 --> 00:15:30.279 belief systems. Right especially kids before the age of seven, 293 00:15:30.320 --> 00:15:33.720 they're in theta brain wave mode. They're just downloading. They're programmable. 294 00:15:33.879 --> 00:15:37.000 So the opinions of the adults you grew up around 295 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:40.120 cultural conditioning, that teacher that said you're a great singer, 296 00:15:40.159 --> 00:15:42.320 but you're not good at math, you know, whatever, it is. 297 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:45.919 All of that becomes your inner voice, your lens through 298 00:15:45.919 --> 00:15:51.399 which you view the world, and it creates your thoughts, 299 00:15:51.399 --> 00:15:54.440 which create your emotions, which create your reality. So it's 300 00:15:54.480 --> 00:15:58.879 about changing your story, changing your perspective, kind of unlearning 301 00:15:59.000 --> 00:16:01.879 all of these things so that you can be free 302 00:16:02.200 --> 00:16:05.720 to manifest and not think that there's like some unconscious 303 00:16:05.759 --> 00:16:09.799 program running which can sabotage you. 304 00:16:09.799 --> 00:16:11.919 You know, it's interesting that you mentioned grudges because I 305 00:16:11.919 --> 00:16:14.960 really hadn't thought about that, but thinking about it now, 306 00:16:15.360 --> 00:16:17.600 you know, you get into a quarrel with somebody and 307 00:16:17.600 --> 00:16:19.200 then they go off on their merry way and you're 308 00:16:19.279 --> 00:16:21.200 just really pissed at them, and you hold on to that, 309 00:16:21.440 --> 00:16:23.080 and it eats at you and it's almost like a 310 00:16:23.159 --> 00:16:26.200 like you almost wear it like a pride, like ha. Meanwhile, 311 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:28.039 they could care less. They're off doing their thing, happy 312 00:16:28.080 --> 00:16:30.000 as a clam. And yet it's making you have all 313 00:16:30.000 --> 00:16:31.960 the quarters on all these hormones that get released and 314 00:16:32.200 --> 00:16:34.919 everything else. And now oh now it's you're telling us. 315 00:16:34.960 --> 00:16:38.759 It's affecting being able to manifest. So it's man Tho's grudges. 316 00:16:38.799 --> 00:16:39.639 You just gotta let them go. 317 00:16:39.759 --> 00:16:42.120 Yeah. I heard someone say that. That's like, hey, I'm 318 00:16:42.159 --> 00:16:44.279 living rent free in your mind when I'm not even 319 00:16:44.279 --> 00:16:45.240 thinking about you at all. 320 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:46.519 So I like that. 321 00:16:46.679 --> 00:16:50.679 I mean, I don't like it, and I love that, Chris, 322 00:16:50.720 --> 00:16:53.200 because I even I tell our daughter all the time, 323 00:16:53.559 --> 00:16:56.000 be careful what you say after the words I am, 324 00:16:56.720 --> 00:16:59.879 because I am as a powerful activation that whatever you 325 00:17:00.200 --> 00:17:03.120 say after those words is going to be something that 326 00:17:03.159 --> 00:17:06.319 you're telling the universe you are, and the universe is 327 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:08.200 going to give you what you believe that you are. 328 00:17:08.359 --> 00:17:11.000 So instead of saying I am and then going on 329 00:17:11.039 --> 00:17:13.079 to say how tired you are, you can say I 330 00:17:13.279 --> 00:17:17.279 feel exhaustion. I feel like I need to rest more. 331 00:17:17.319 --> 00:17:21.200 But I am. That's key because I am is the 332 00:17:21.240 --> 00:17:22.039 word of God. Right. 333 00:17:22.119 --> 00:17:23.880 It's like our nephew said, you know, I don't say 334 00:17:23.920 --> 00:17:26.680 I am sorry, say I apologize. 335 00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:29.319 Right right right, super important. So I love that because 336 00:17:29.319 --> 00:17:32.480 we don't talk about that enough. We are so free 337 00:17:33.079 --> 00:17:36.759 with our words without realizing the damage that we're actually doing. 338 00:17:36.920 --> 00:17:39.400 That it's a great reminder, So thank you. I need 339 00:17:39.400 --> 00:17:41.680 to write that down and put it on posting notes everywhere. 340 00:17:41.279 --> 00:17:42.920 And then just even an extra thing, like as a 341 00:17:42.960 --> 00:17:45.720 mom to a fourteen year old or even you know 342 00:17:46.119 --> 00:17:48.759 whatever age, I remember thinking I can't ever you know, 343 00:17:48.759 --> 00:17:49.880 you look in the mirror and I'm just like, I 344 00:17:49.920 --> 00:17:51.599 look like crap today. But I can't ever let her 345 00:17:51.720 --> 00:17:53.680 hear me say that, because in my mind I was 346 00:17:53.720 --> 00:17:56.119 doing this to protect her and not wanting her to 347 00:17:56.160 --> 00:17:58.599 start talking to herself like that. But meanwhile I'm like, oh, 348 00:17:58.599 --> 00:18:00.960 I should protect myself too, because that, like you're saying, 349 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:02.960 it's it's creating, it's changing who I am. 350 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:06.160 Yeah, absolutely, yeah, totally. And you know, also for those 351 00:18:06.200 --> 00:18:08.960 people that are like it's not working, even just like 352 00:18:09.720 --> 00:18:12.799 using the phraseic up until now, this hasn't worked like 353 00:18:12.920 --> 00:18:15.480 something like that, just like frees up the future, right, 354 00:18:15.559 --> 00:18:16.720 like these little tricks. 355 00:18:17.440 --> 00:18:19.720 That's a little trick. That's a big trick, a big trick. 356 00:18:19.759 --> 00:18:21.039 It's like a big little trick. 357 00:18:21.160 --> 00:18:23.880 Yeah, that's awesome. Okay, So when NIXT questions a little 358 00:18:23.880 --> 00:18:27.759 bit on the controversial side, because there's lots of lots 359 00:18:27.799 --> 00:18:30.519 of question marks around this. But there are those that say, 360 00:18:31.200 --> 00:18:34.799 we all believe that we create on reality and things 361 00:18:34.799 --> 00:18:38.680 like that. But then what are your thoughts on trauma 362 00:18:39.079 --> 00:18:44.359 or illnesses that we are that are terrible for people? 363 00:18:45.359 --> 00:18:49.400 Do you believe that we truly bring these, we manifest 364 00:18:49.400 --> 00:18:52.440 these onto ourselves or is there some other mechanism in 365 00:18:52.480 --> 00:18:53.119 the works here. 366 00:18:53.960 --> 00:18:56.359 Yeah. I think that's a really important question because it's 367 00:18:56.400 --> 00:19:00.759 the number one pushback that I see people getting when 368 00:19:00.799 --> 00:19:04.759 they share law of attraction content, and people can get 369 00:19:04.839 --> 00:19:07.880 really triggered by it, like you said, really defensive. They'll say, oh, 370 00:19:07.960 --> 00:19:10.119 but this, this and this other thing have gone wrong 371 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:13.039 in my life or like my ancestors went through this, 372 00:19:13.200 --> 00:19:16.519 and it's like everyone has a story, right, every family 373 00:19:16.599 --> 00:19:21.480 tree has a story too, but we get to choose 374 00:19:21.599 --> 00:19:24.119 our reality. Well, let me back up and just get 375 00:19:24.160 --> 00:19:25.519 like a little bit woo woo, And I know you're 376 00:19:25.519 --> 00:19:30.720 okay with that. Believe I believe personally that we choose 377 00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:34.880 what we're going to look like, our avatars, who our 378 00:19:34.920 --> 00:19:37.799 parents are going to be, some big life circumstances that 379 00:19:37.799 --> 00:19:40.319 we're going to go through, and the way we exit 380 00:19:40.480 --> 00:19:44.559 before we incarnate, and all of this is to kind 381 00:19:44.559 --> 00:19:47.279 of ready the soil, plant the seeds to give us 382 00:19:47.319 --> 00:19:50.440 the opportunity to grow. But free will exist, right like 383 00:19:50.559 --> 00:19:53.240 we choose if we're going to grow from adversities or not. 384 00:19:53.799 --> 00:19:57.799 But Earth is a school, So every single tragedy, every 385 00:19:57.880 --> 00:20:01.480 heartbreak in life contains within it hidden easter egg. And 386 00:20:01.519 --> 00:20:05.160 once you discover that easter egg, tremendous healing, leveling up 387 00:20:05.200 --> 00:20:10.759 and growth takes place. Now, bad things quote unquote, bad 388 00:20:10.759 --> 00:20:14.079 things happen, right like everyone goes through trauma. Everyone has 389 00:20:14.119 --> 00:20:17.039 a story. And when you go through things, you have 390 00:20:17.119 --> 00:20:22.160 two choices. You can become bitter, you can become resentful, 391 00:20:22.279 --> 00:20:25.400 you can become more unconscious, or you can use that 392 00:20:25.440 --> 00:20:31.440 opportunity to become kinder, more empathetic, practice forgiveness, get healthier, 393 00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:34.039 get better, level up, And it's always a choice. You 394 00:20:34.079 --> 00:20:38.559 have a choice. Now there are millions of realities that exist, 395 00:20:39.279 --> 00:20:42.640 and you get to choose the reality that you want, 396 00:20:42.720 --> 00:20:45.200 and the more that you focus on the reality you want, 397 00:20:45.680 --> 00:20:48.519 the more the reality handed to you by default sort 398 00:20:48.519 --> 00:20:53.039 of fades into the background. So there's there's always things 399 00:20:53.119 --> 00:20:55.480 going on in the world, Like if you are looking 400 00:20:55.559 --> 00:20:57.559 for a reason to be angry, like you're going to 401 00:20:57.640 --> 00:20:58.119