WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.439 Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My 2 00:00:02.520 --> 00:00:05.000 name is Lisha Gogin, the host of the Globe Seecres podcast, 3 00:00:05.080 --> 00:00:07.240 where I help you expand your mind and become more 4 00:00:07.280 --> 00:00:09.640 self awares that you can glow up into the best 5 00:00:09.720 --> 00:00:13.800 version of yourself. THEO already wants to be on camera. 6 00:00:14.599 --> 00:00:15.359 If you're listening to. 7 00:00:15.359 --> 00:00:18.239 This on audio listen, you gotta go to the YouTube chan. 8 00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:22.280 THEO just got his second round with shots. He's almost 9 00:00:22.440 --> 00:00:24.839 a well he's technically a teenage boy in my eyes 10 00:00:24.960 --> 00:00:28.760 because he grows every day, but he's almost gonna be 11 00:00:28.800 --> 00:00:30.879 able to go out and play with the boys and 12 00:00:30.920 --> 00:00:31.399 the girls. 13 00:00:31.480 --> 00:00:31.879 Either way. 14 00:00:31.920 --> 00:00:33.240 He did really good at the VET and now he's 15 00:00:33.280 --> 00:00:35.079 having the zoo muses as soon as I'm getting on camera. 16 00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:36.359 Okay, So I want. 17 00:00:36.240 --> 00:00:41.119 Today's episode to be a question to see, like if 18 00:00:41.159 --> 00:00:43.159 you guys are also going through this at all, or 19 00:00:43.200 --> 00:00:45.920 if you resonate, but more so a message because I 20 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:49.960 do feel that this is the era that a lot 21 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:52.280 of us are in right now and you might need 22 00:00:52.320 --> 00:00:54.799 to hear this. I feel like I have needed to 23 00:00:54.840 --> 00:00:58.200 hear this and I need to speak it out, and 24 00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:02.920 that is taking a life life seriously and locking in 25 00:01:03.000 --> 00:01:06.120 and leveling up. I just feel like I have really 26 00:01:06.159 --> 00:01:10.359 been feeling like I want to take every aspect of 27 00:01:10.359 --> 00:01:14.359 my life seriously. And I think it started when I 28 00:01:14.400 --> 00:01:18.640 started taking my discipline more seriously and getting back into 29 00:01:18.640 --> 00:01:21.239 the gym and getting into a routine and just really 30 00:01:21.359 --> 00:01:25.959 pushing myself past my limits based off of real limits, 31 00:01:26.079 --> 00:01:28.239 based off of things that have been happening in my life. 32 00:01:28.719 --> 00:01:32.239 But I feel like, no matter what happens in your life, 33 00:01:32.239 --> 00:01:34.799 like if you have a low, or you go through loss, 34 00:01:35.079 --> 00:01:38.040 or you've been really sick, whatever the case is, there's 35 00:01:38.040 --> 00:01:39.879 always going to be in like up point, like you're 36 00:01:39.879 --> 00:01:43.640 going to have to kind of pull yourself out, and naturally, 37 00:01:43.719 --> 00:01:46.239 if you just allow yourself, like you'll naturally kind of 38 00:01:46.239 --> 00:01:47.760 come out of it. Like you never want to push 39 00:01:47.760 --> 00:01:50.680 yourself too much, too far, too soon, especially when you 40 00:01:50.719 --> 00:01:52.920 are sick or let's say you're grieving like I was 41 00:01:52.920 --> 00:01:56.879 and I still am, But there is also always going 42 00:01:56.920 --> 00:01:58.560 to be a part of you that does have to 43 00:01:58.599 --> 00:02:01.920 push yourself a little bit out of that identity of 44 00:02:02.239 --> 00:02:06.079 being really sad or depressed or you know, sick or whatever, 45 00:02:06.120 --> 00:02:08.479 because that also is going to give you the strength 46 00:02:08.479 --> 00:02:12.199 to be able to really be resilient through hard times. 47 00:02:12.280 --> 00:02:15.240 So I feel like that's there that I've been in 48 00:02:15.719 --> 00:02:19.960 for I would say like a solid month and a half, 49 00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:21.520 but I would say like a solid month. 50 00:02:21.599 --> 00:02:23.639 And of course, once. 51 00:02:23.719 --> 00:02:26.520 You get a little bit more disciplined and you start 52 00:02:26.560 --> 00:02:29.520 taking one area of your life seriously, it's kind of 53 00:02:29.520 --> 00:02:32.319 like a domino effect. It's almost like you want to 54 00:02:32.400 --> 00:02:36.960 do better in every other area. And for me, and 55 00:02:37.000 --> 00:02:40.159 I've been talking to my friend Joeye, my best friend 56 00:02:40.240 --> 00:02:43.439 Joy about this, how it is so important that when 57 00:02:43.439 --> 00:02:45.719 you are taking something like the gym. 58 00:02:45.560 --> 00:02:47.400 Or we could take work, because I think I look 59 00:02:47.439 --> 00:02:48.000 at those the. 60 00:02:47.919 --> 00:02:52.240 Same, working out and caring more about your health and 61 00:02:52.360 --> 00:02:54.639 you know, really grinding it out at work or whatever 62 00:02:54.680 --> 00:02:57.759 you're doing, maybe you're working on something outside of work, 63 00:02:57.800 --> 00:03:00.080 like a side hustle, or you're starting something new, what 64 00:03:00.080 --> 00:03:04.039 ever it is, it is so important that you have 65 00:03:04.199 --> 00:03:05.960 proper rest from these things. 66 00:03:06.360 --> 00:03:08.159 And we burn. 67 00:03:07.919 --> 00:03:10.879 Ourselves out, even if we don't think we're burnt out. 68 00:03:10.919 --> 00:03:14.240 I swear we burn ourselves out when it comes to 69 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:18.159 goals in the form of changing ourselves, like self improvement, 70 00:03:18.319 --> 00:03:22.759 anything realistically. And you know, I was talking to my 71 00:03:22.800 --> 00:03:26.439 best friend about this, how sometimes what we'll do. And 72 00:03:26.479 --> 00:03:28.319 we've done this a lot, I would say, like the 73 00:03:28.639 --> 00:03:32.080 past year of entrepreneurship, even though we've been well, I've 74 00:03:32.080 --> 00:03:35.240 been working for myself for longer than she has, but 75 00:03:35.319 --> 00:03:37.400 we've both been doing it for longer than the year, 76 00:03:37.439 --> 00:03:40.400 I believe for her, but for me. Yeah, But this 77 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:42.759 past year we've really kind of seen our own patterns 78 00:03:42.800 --> 00:03:45.280 when it comes to being entrepreneurs and how you have 79 00:03:45.360 --> 00:03:47.240 so much time freedom, so you really have to discipline 80 00:03:47.240 --> 00:03:50.840 yourself like so much more. Even if you've been somebody 81 00:03:50.840 --> 00:03:53.800 that's really disciplined, and we have both been really disciplined 82 00:03:53.840 --> 00:03:55.120 girls throughout our entire lives. 83 00:03:55.120 --> 00:03:56.080 We have just had to be. 84 00:03:56.240 --> 00:03:59.319 But it definitely is a different experience of discipline, and 85 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:02.919 sometimes it can go wonky or sideways. You either can 86 00:04:03.000 --> 00:04:05.680 like lose discipline and or you can have too much. 87 00:04:05.719 --> 00:04:09.120 It's just it's an interesting way of living. But what 88 00:04:09.240 --> 00:04:12.000 we have noticed within ourselves, and I can just bring 89 00:04:12.039 --> 00:04:15.879 back to myself, what I've noticed within myself is if 90 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:19.399 I am not just as strict when it comes to 91 00:04:19.879 --> 00:04:23.079 letting myself live and slowing down, whether that's self care 92 00:04:23.319 --> 00:04:27.720 or seeing friends or having a relationship or just doing 93 00:04:27.759 --> 00:04:31.639 things outside of work. Then I end up I end 94 00:04:31.720 --> 00:04:36.240 up burning myself out in work because I will not 95 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:38.879 give myself that time, like that true time to just 96 00:04:38.920 --> 00:04:42.120 relax or whatever, So I'll always just be on autopilot 97 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:45.040 or always going. And we're both saying like, that's where 98 00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:47.800 we tend to catch ourselves doing a lot of procrastination. 99 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:52.040 And we're doing a lot of procrastination because the work 100 00:04:52.160 --> 00:04:54.519 in our minds that we have created never really stops. 101 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:57.480 Because we don't take the slowing down seriously, We don't 102 00:04:57.519 --> 00:05:01.120 take other aspects of life really that seriously. We just 103 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:03.920 kind of always automatically go back to just working, like, oh, 104 00:05:03.920 --> 00:05:05.879 there's always something to do, so I'll always work. I'll 105 00:05:05.879 --> 00:05:08.000 always do something, and it's not a bad thing. And 106 00:05:08.040 --> 00:05:10.079 you have to grind in your life and we have 107 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:13.319 and that has gotten us so far in so many aspects. 108 00:05:13.360 --> 00:05:16.279 But I think that like, even if you're not an entrepreneur, 109 00:05:16.360 --> 00:05:19.319 like I'm sure you can see how sometimes like you 110 00:05:19.399 --> 00:05:23.079 end up being so unproductive by telling yourself you have 111 00:05:23.160 --> 00:05:25.680 to be so productive. Because you're telling yourself you have 112 00:05:25.680 --> 00:05:27.680 to be so productive all the time hitting goals, is 113 00:05:27.720 --> 00:05:30.600 that it's overwhelming, and then you tend to procrastinate like 114 00:05:30.600 --> 00:05:32.000 you don't want to do it, you don't look forward 115 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:34.839 to it. Why because there's no off realistically, Like you 116 00:05:34.920 --> 00:05:37.120 might tell yourself, Okay, well, I'll do all this stuff 117 00:05:37.199 --> 00:05:38.759 during the week, and then the weekend I'll do something. 118 00:05:38.759 --> 00:05:40.759 But then if you're that person that is just so 119 00:05:40.959 --> 00:05:44.279 like obsessed with your goal, still you don't really turn off, 120 00:05:44.319 --> 00:05:47.839 like you don't really prioritize that slowing down unless you 121 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:49.839 really say, like, you know what, as serious as I 122 00:05:49.920 --> 00:05:53.480 am about taking my work life seriously or my goals 123 00:05:53.560 --> 00:05:55.959 or whatever you want, like whatever you're wanting to lock 124 00:05:56.040 --> 00:05:58.279 in on or level up on, you really have to 125 00:05:58.319 --> 00:06:02.600 take that other side seriously as well, for many reasons. 126 00:06:02.639 --> 00:06:05.480 One so that you don't burn out, but two so 127 00:06:05.519 --> 00:06:09.120 that you can live Like we are not black and 128 00:06:09.160 --> 00:06:11.800 white people, you know it. As much as we really 129 00:06:11.800 --> 00:06:13.839 want to like go all in on one thing, like 130 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:17.920 whether it's health, fitness, whatever, it's not the entirety of 131 00:06:17.920 --> 00:06:20.480 our lives. It doesn't need to be. And you know, 132 00:06:21.240 --> 00:06:23.199 I think when you create a little bit more balance 133 00:06:23.199 --> 00:06:24.839 in your life, you tend to not go up and 134 00:06:24.879 --> 00:06:28.160 down so frequently and start and stop things so frequently, 135 00:06:29.240 --> 00:06:31.439 like health and fitness or like hitting goals and stuff, 136 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:35.360 because you have that balance in that cycle and that 137 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:39.160 ritual of doing all really good things in your life. 138 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:41.480 So I'm trying to like move away from the high 139 00:06:41.519 --> 00:06:44.079 of doing everything one hundred percent all the time, even 140 00:06:44.120 --> 00:06:47.240 though I am being very serious about my discipline and 141 00:06:47.279 --> 00:06:49.279 about the things that I want to be like serious 142 00:06:49.319 --> 00:06:53.199 with in my life. But again, I want to slow 143 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:55.839 it down on that other hand. And so if you're 144 00:06:55.839 --> 00:06:59.079 struggling with like slowing down, I think just one reminding 145 00:06:59.079 --> 00:07:02.160 yourself and just like calling yourself out and really looking 146 00:07:02.199 --> 00:07:05.879 at how unproductive you actually are when you're not serious 147 00:07:05.920 --> 00:07:09.680 about slowing down and self care days and days where 148 00:07:09.680 --> 00:07:12.639 you're off, and just thinking about how productive you can 149 00:07:12.680 --> 00:07:16.560 be when you are truly, truly, truly rejuvenated. And I 150 00:07:16.560 --> 00:07:18.120 think about this when it comes to the gym. You 151 00:07:18.199 --> 00:07:21.839 have to take rest days, you do, and honestly, I 152 00:07:21.920 --> 00:07:24.000 used to sometimes not do that. Really again, I used 153 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:25.720 to not take rest days seriously when I was really 154 00:07:25.759 --> 00:07:28.199 into fitness because I was so obsessed with needing to 155 00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:29.959 get into the gym, like I have to. I can't stop, 156 00:07:29.959 --> 00:07:33.879 like I can't stop. But you really do see the 157 00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:37.480 best results, like really good healthy results in any area 158 00:07:37.480 --> 00:07:40.800 of your life when you actually take the other side seriously. 159 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:42.959 And so that's what I want for myself and for 160 00:07:43.000 --> 00:07:45.240 you guys. And I guess I could give you an 161 00:07:45.240 --> 00:07:47.399 example of one thing that I've been doing in my life, 162 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:48.160 and it's hard. 163 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:49.879 By the way, like you like. 164 00:07:49.839 --> 00:07:52.959 What you're gonna learn on a journey of taking like 165 00:07:53.079 --> 00:07:56.920 self care and slowing down seriously and even discipline, is 166 00:07:56.959 --> 00:07:59.199 that it is hard, and you will have stories in 167 00:07:59.199 --> 00:08:00.639 your head. You have stories in your head when it 168 00:08:00.639 --> 00:08:02.360 comes to slowing down, being like I shouldn't do it, 169 00:08:02.759 --> 00:08:04.879 I'm not productive. And then also you'll have stories in 170 00:08:04.879 --> 00:08:07.519 your head when you're trying to be disciplined and it'll 171 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:08.680 be like, oh, you can't do it. 172 00:08:08.680 --> 00:08:09.480 It's gonna be too. 173 00:08:09.439 --> 00:08:12.639 Hard to start, and they're all bullshit, like they don't 174 00:08:12.639 --> 00:08:14.319 have to be true. You just have to kind of 175 00:08:14.319 --> 00:08:17.160 rewrite those stories and expect those stories to come up, 176 00:08:17.360 --> 00:08:19.759 but know that you can change them and over time 177 00:08:19.959 --> 00:08:22.279 they will lessen. And so like recently, I've really been 178 00:08:22.360 --> 00:08:25.759 enjoying working during the week and then on Fridays is 179 00:08:25.839 --> 00:08:29.319 kind of like have a quote unquote half day. I 180 00:08:29.439 --> 00:08:33.159 do this because realistically, I am somebody who works for myself, 181 00:08:33.399 --> 00:08:35.360 and there is always things I need to do, and 182 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:36.919 there might be things that I need to do on 183 00:08:36.960 --> 00:08:39.960 a Friday, but what I practice doing is at least 184 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:42.200 like half the day, Like I'll wake up and I'll 185 00:08:42.200 --> 00:08:45.039 get my work done, and sometimes I have therapy on Fridays, 186 00:08:45.080 --> 00:08:47.080 Like every two weeks, I'll have therapy on Friday. So 187 00:08:47.240 --> 00:08:49.039 I'll do my therapy and then maybe I'll finish up 188 00:08:49.039 --> 00:08:51.399 a little bit more work, and then for the rest 189 00:08:51.440 --> 00:08:53.360 of the day, I'm letting myself do whatever I want. 190 00:08:53.440 --> 00:08:55.960 Sometimes I'll even garden like here and there, and you 191 00:08:56.000 --> 00:08:58.720 guys know the fall time, I think I made a 192 00:08:58.799 --> 00:09:01.879 video on gardening, and so if you're interested in my 193 00:09:02.919 --> 00:09:04.559 I mean, I don't really go too deep into like 194 00:09:04.600 --> 00:09:08.039 my relationship with it, but if you want to have 195 00:09:08.080 --> 00:09:10.759 a healthy relationship with any of these things or stop 196 00:09:10.799 --> 00:09:12.879 any of those things, and I can leave that down below, 197 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:16.799 gardening is smoking w I just don't want to really 198 00:09:16.799 --> 00:09:21.360 say it on YouTube or the podcast. And I've changed 199 00:09:21.399 --> 00:09:24.000 my relationship with that so much, so I can also 200 00:09:24.120 --> 00:09:26.720 maybe talk about that in a different episode if you 201 00:09:26.720 --> 00:09:30.320 guys are interested. But anyways, I have sometimes even been 202 00:09:30.440 --> 00:09:32.679 letting myself do that on the days where it's like 203 00:09:32.720 --> 00:09:35.240 a half day and I'm doing like an everything shower 204 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:38.320 and I'm relaxing and I'm cleaning my space, I just 205 00:09:38.360 --> 00:09:42.639 really give myself time to reset and just decompress and 206 00:09:43.080 --> 00:09:45.639 move away from the things that I keep telling myself 207 00:09:45.679 --> 00:09:47.960 to do and let myself do what I want. Like, 208 00:09:48.039 --> 00:09:51.240 it's not about every half day on Friday, I need 209 00:09:51.279 --> 00:09:53.279 to clean, and then I need to do self care, 210 00:09:53.320 --> 00:09:55.200 and then I need to do this and that. No, 211 00:09:55.360 --> 00:09:57.759 like the day is basically whatever I want it to be, 212 00:09:58.039 --> 00:10:00.480 but I just go in the direction of what feel good. 213 00:10:00.519 --> 00:10:03.399 So even just thinking about how you can give yourself 214 00:10:03.440 --> 00:10:06.360 a little bit more allotted time to be serious about 215 00:10:06.840 --> 00:10:10.240 things like slowing down, but also discipline if that's where 216 00:10:10.279 --> 00:10:13.279 you're at in your life as well. Now one other area, 217 00:10:13.759 --> 00:10:17.000 and I think you guys are probably all feeling this too, 218 00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:20.519 is kind of getting back into like glowing up a 219 00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:24.440 little bit and taking more care of yourself like physically, 220 00:10:24.519 --> 00:10:26.559 like the way that we look like dressing up and 221 00:10:26.600 --> 00:10:28.799 doing our makeup again or whatever, you know. And so 222 00:10:28.919 --> 00:10:31.279 like what I was talking about before is self care, right, 223 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:34.000 you know, slowing it down, giving yourself a moment to 224 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:36.399 just relax and have your night in, watch your reality 225 00:10:36.440 --> 00:10:39.360 TV and have a bath, or doing everything shower, or 226 00:10:39.360 --> 00:10:41.200 have a day where it's like a shopping day, or 227 00:10:41.200 --> 00:10:43.039 are you going to see a friend whatever, those type 228 00:10:43.080 --> 00:10:44.919 of things. But again I was talking to my friend 229 00:10:44.960 --> 00:10:48.159 about this, how there is something about looking good. Okay, 230 00:10:48.200 --> 00:10:51.000 when you look good, obviously you feel good. And I 231 00:10:51.080 --> 00:10:54.159 think for both of us we just went on autopilot 232 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:57.279 again and we went very efficientcy mode, especially in the 233 00:10:57.320 --> 00:10:59.039 water time. I feel like this can happen. We would 234 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:01.279 maybe get ready one a week, and that once a 235 00:11:01.320 --> 00:11:03.919 week was just so that we could film or you know, 236 00:11:04.039 --> 00:11:06.759 get the bare minimum done or just get work done. 237 00:11:06.840 --> 00:11:09.440 Like prioritizing work was always in the forefront of our minds. 238 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:11.000 And it's not to say that it's not like we're 239 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:12.759 very much so hard working. 240 00:11:12.799 --> 00:11:13.600 I think we all are. 241 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:15.440 Like you guys that listen to the podcast and whatever 242 00:11:15.480 --> 00:11:17.879 you guys do, you take your goals seriously. But I 243 00:11:17.919 --> 00:11:19.600 feel like sometimes when you do that and you start 244 00:11:19.600 --> 00:11:22.200 burning yourself out, it's like I don't want to get ready, 245 00:11:22.320 --> 00:11:24.440 I don't want like I just want to do everything efficiently. 246 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:26.240 If I got to go and grab Aaron's I'm gonna 247 00:11:26.279 --> 00:11:27.799 do that quickly, and I'm not going to care about 248 00:11:27.799 --> 00:11:29.440 what I look and let me just go and quickly 249 00:11:29.440 --> 00:11:30.600 get it because I want to get back and I 250 00:11:30.600 --> 00:11:32.200 want to speed up, and I want to rush through 251 00:11:32.200 --> 00:11:33.919 my day and I want to hit my goals and that, 252 00:11:34.279 --> 00:11:38.360 and listen, I'm one who I don't care to look 253 00:11:38.360 --> 00:11:41.240 good every single day doing a million things, because yes, 254 00:11:41.320 --> 00:11:43.480 I do need to be efficient and I want to work, 255 00:11:43.519 --> 00:11:46.159 and there's more to life than also just like always 256 00:11:46.200 --> 00:11:49.039 caring about your looks and everything like that. And honestly, 257 00:11:49.039 --> 00:11:51.559 sometimes you just got to go outside look like a bum. Okay, 258 00:11:51.639 --> 00:11:52.600 like it is what it is. 259 00:11:53.159 --> 00:11:55.559 But well we're doing that like day after day after 260 00:11:55.639 --> 00:11:56.360 day after day. 261 00:11:57.399 --> 00:11:59.159 You know, it does affect you a little bit. And 262 00:11:59.200 --> 00:12:01.279 I was thinking about this when it comes to my nails. Actually, 263 00:12:01.639 --> 00:12:04.159 I wear press on nails. I've been wearing them for 264 00:12:04.159 --> 00:12:06.639 about a year, the impressed nails. I really love them. 265 00:12:06.639 --> 00:12:09.320 I've saved so much money but also so much time 266 00:12:09.399 --> 00:12:11.440 just not going to nail salon and you know, like 267 00:12:11.440 --> 00:12:14.919 getting your nails like gel nails, they kind of ruin 268 00:12:14.960 --> 00:12:17.360 your nails whatever, but it's nice to get your nails 269 00:12:17.360 --> 00:12:19.960 done right, and so I was just using them at 270 00:12:19.960 --> 00:12:22.399 home whatever. But because they're press on, is that I 271 00:12:22.399 --> 00:12:25.000 can basically put them on whenever I need. I started 272 00:12:25.039 --> 00:12:28.799 to only put them on really when I needed if 273 00:12:28.799 --> 00:12:30.759 I was like going to an event, and every other 274 00:12:30.799 --> 00:12:32.840 day I wasn't wearing them, or like I would let 275 00:12:32.840 --> 00:12:34.759 the set like sit on my nails and take them 276 00:12:34.799 --> 00:12:37.000 off and not really like touch them. And I also 277 00:12:37.080 --> 00:12:39.120 wasn't being very social. And then sometimes it get to 278 00:12:39.120 --> 00:12:40.200 the point where it's like I don't really need to 279 00:12:40.200 --> 00:12:42.639 put on the nails for the podcast, like I want whatever. 280 00:12:43.000 --> 00:12:45.799 And again it's not to say that I need the nails. 281 00:12:45.799 --> 00:12:47.279 It's not to say that I need to like wear 282 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:48.639 the makeup for them, especially. 283 00:12:48.320 --> 00:12:48.919 For the podcast. 284 00:12:48.960 --> 00:12:51.639 Like it's just there's more important things, right, The message 285 00:12:51.679 --> 00:12:54.000 is more important, not every day you're perfect. 286 00:12:54.600 --> 00:12:57.120 I am like a preacher of that. But I was saying, 287 00:12:57.120 --> 00:12:57.639 how you know. 288 00:12:57.600 --> 00:13:00.679 What I do miss when my nails are always I 289 00:13:00.799 --> 00:13:04.440 do always love when I get ready and I look good, 290 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:06.519 I want to take more photos. 291 00:13:06.799 --> 00:13:08.919 I'm kind of down to go for a hot girl walk. 292 00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:10.279 I'm ready for life. 293 00:13:10.399 --> 00:13:13.120 And then when I'm looking good, like when I'm getting 294 00:13:13.159 --> 00:13:15.759 ready and I'm going to the gym, like I'm taking 295 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:18.399 my life seriously. Then I'm like, damn, Like I want 296 00:13:18.440 --> 00:13:20.600 a new outfit, I want this, I want that. I 297 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:22.879 want to work harder, I want to meet people. 298 00:13:22.919 --> 00:13:25.200 I want to have fun. I want to live life. 299 00:13:25.799 --> 00:13:27.360 And I think this is what it really just comes 300 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:29.840 down to, you, right, It's like just getting serious about life. 301 00:13:29.840 --> 00:13:30.600 I think sometimes we. 302 00:13:30.600 --> 00:13:34.080 Can go on autopilot and we're just we're actually like 303 00:13:34.200 --> 00:13:37.320 far removed from being present here now and just living 304 00:13:37.360 --> 00:13:40.120 and like doing the things and taking the action, you know, 305 00:13:40.200 --> 00:13:43.000 taking care of our health and doing our makeup or 306 00:13:43.000 --> 00:13:44.759 doing our hair and whatever. And it doesn't have to 307 00:13:44.759 --> 00:13:48.000 be anything crazy. We're all very unique. And some people 308 00:13:48.039 --> 00:13:49.879 love to get ready like to the nines and some 309 00:13:49.919 --> 00:13:52.159 people not so much. I take like ten minutes getting ready, 310 00:13:52.200 --> 00:13:54.440 but it's still that ten minutes that changes so much 311 00:13:54.440 --> 00:13:56.440 for me. I want to read a quote that was 312 00:13:56.480 --> 00:14:00.919 pertaining to slowing down actually from Pinterest, and it says, 313 00:14:01.320 --> 00:14:04.360 I've seen women insist on cleaning everything in the house 314 00:14:04.399 --> 00:14:07.039 before they could sit down to write. And you know, 315 00:14:07.159 --> 00:14:09.759 it's a funny thing about house cleaning. It never comes 316 00:14:09.799 --> 00:14:12.279 to an end. Perfect way to stop a woman. A 317 00:14:12.279 --> 00:14:15.240 woman must be careful to not allow over responsibility or 318 00:14:15.279 --> 00:14:20.519 over respectability to steal her necessary creative rests, rifts and ruptures. 319 00:14:20.559 --> 00:14:22.759 She simply must put her foot down and say no 320 00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:25.120 to half of what she believes she should be doing. 321 00:14:25.279 --> 00:14:28.279 Art is not meant to be created in stolen moments only. 322 00:14:28.639 --> 00:14:31.240 And obviously, like if you're not a woman, you I'm 323 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:33.600 sure anyone can really identify with this in some sense 324 00:14:33.639 --> 00:14:36.720 of the matter. Like, you know, even when it comes 325 00:14:36.759 --> 00:14:39.879 to just work in productivity culture, there's always going to 326 00:14:39.919 --> 00:14:42.879 be something to do. Entrepreneurship always going to be something 327 00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:45.720 to do. And that's a great way to never live 328 00:14:45.720 --> 00:14:48.759 your life if you're only going to do things once 329 00:14:48.799 --> 00:14:51.759 they're done, because they're never really done, Like your work's 330 00:14:51.759 --> 00:14:53.840 never really done. You're gonna go back to work on 331 00:14:53.879 --> 00:14:55.639 Monday if you work on an end to five, or 332 00:14:55.840 --> 00:14:58.279 there's gonna be another bill to pay, another thing. 333 00:14:58.159 --> 00:14:59.840 To do, another goal to accomplish. 334 00:15:00.039 --> 00:15:03.320 So why don't we just try to enjoy, you know, 335 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:05.799 and work hard and enjoy the work that we do 336 00:15:05.919 --> 00:15:08.600 and creates and you know, week after week and we're 337 00:15:08.679 --> 00:15:12.559 hitting goals, new goals, things like that. But allowing ourselves 338 00:15:12.559 --> 00:15:15.679 to do that by using rest and taking it seriously, 339 00:15:15.720 --> 00:15:18.480 and also just understanding like life is to belived. Go 340 00:15:18.600 --> 00:15:21.320 on that trip, go make plans with your friends. There's 341 00:15:21.399 --> 00:15:24.279 gonna be another moment, another free day to do something 342 00:15:24.399 --> 00:15:27.360 or to work more. Even when it comes to like 343 00:15:27.440 --> 00:15:29.399 spending money, I think sometimes obviously you have to be 344 00:15:29.480 --> 00:15:32.440 careful with this, and everyone's situation is different, so you 345 00:15:32.440 --> 00:15:35.120 can't just take blanket advice from people online. But sometimes 346 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:37.639 I feel like we're saving and we're waiting for the 347 00:15:37.679 --> 00:15:40.559 perfect time, but it doesn't really exist. Like, obviously, yes, 348 00:15:40.720 --> 00:15:42.320 you want to save up a certain amount of money 349 00:15:42.399 --> 00:15:43.919 so you don't go into debt if you want to, 350 00:15:44.000 --> 00:15:46.480 let's say, go on a trip, but there's a lot 351 00:15:46.480 --> 00:15:49.759 of us who you know, we're not going to move 352 00:15:49.799 --> 00:15:53.240 the goalpost that much if we continue to wait anyways, 353 00:15:53.279 --> 00:15:56.039 and sometimes you just need to go on the trip, 354 00:15:56.279 --> 00:15:57.879 of course if you have the money, but it's like 355 00:15:58.240 --> 00:16:01.519 you don't have to wait so long or wait for 356 00:16:01.559 --> 00:16:04.120 the most perfect time. I also think about this when 357 00:16:04.120 --> 00:16:07.000 it comes to your goals in the gym and like 358 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:09.039 your health and wellness and things like that, like don't 359 00:16:09.720 --> 00:16:12.320 hold yourself back from living life just because maybe you 360 00:16:12.360 --> 00:16:15.120 haven't hit that goal. Yet, because I think holding yourself 361 00:16:15.159 --> 00:16:19.200 back and not living will make the work even more 362 00:16:19.240 --> 00:16:21.960 difficult or more boring, and sometimes it actually hinders you, 363 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:23.840 Like you actually need to go live your life so 364 00:16:23.919 --> 00:16:25.840 that you can come back refreshed. I think about this 365 00:16:25.840 --> 00:16:28.559 when it comes to content. I can't post every single 366 00:16:28.559 --> 00:16:31.399 second of my life. Then I'll just feel so drained. 367 00:16:31.440 --> 00:16:32.960 But if I go out and live my life, if 368 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:35.879 I have good conversations, if I go through something right 369 00:16:35.919 --> 00:16:37.639 thinking about hard times in your life, if you go 370 00:16:37.720 --> 00:16:41.039 through something that's going to allow you to up level 371 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:42.960 in ways you would not be able to up level 372 00:16:43.000 --> 00:16:45.639 if you were just always the same person or always 373 00:16:45.679 --> 00:16:49.799 experience the same thing. So it's about taking your opposite 374 00:16:49.879 --> 00:16:50.919 days seriously. 375 00:16:51.200 --> 00:16:54.279 They all count. Also your down days. 376 00:16:54.799 --> 00:16:56.840 Understanding is a part of life, So there's not a 377 00:16:56.879 --> 00:16:59.559 point in you creating more suffering than need be. When 378 00:16:59.600 --> 00:17:02.200 you have pain, just accepting that pain and working with 379 00:17:02.240 --> 00:17:04.839 that pain instead of saying it shouldn't be here. Sometimes 380 00:17:04.839 --> 00:17:06.839 pain happens. Sometimes you need to slow down. I think 381 00:17:06.839 --> 00:17:09.079 about this when it comes to my period, like why 382 00:17:09.200 --> 00:17:11.279 cycle sink? So yes, there's going to be a few 383 00:17:11.319 --> 00:17:13.000 days out of the month where I have to slow down. 384 00:17:13.039 --> 00:17:14.839 And you know that's just the name of the game. 385 00:17:14.839 --> 00:17:16.319 But you know what, my energy is going to come 386 00:17:16.359 --> 00:17:18.160 back up and I'm going to be renewed. But if 387 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:21.839 I work against myself month after month, if I push 388 00:17:21.920 --> 00:17:25.640 past my cycle, if I push past my tiredness level, 389 00:17:25.720 --> 00:17:28.119 if I don't give myself the time to rest, I'm 390 00:17:28.119 --> 00:17:30.039 going to be burnt out. And then my work's going 391 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:31.640 to be half fast. My life is going to be 392 00:17:31.640 --> 00:17:33.680 half fast, my workouts are going to be half fast, 393 00:17:33.720 --> 00:17:37.079 my recovery everything because I'm not taking the adequate rest 394 00:17:37.160 --> 00:17:39.839 and I'm not enjoying life, you know. So anyways, that's 395 00:17:39.839 --> 00:17:41.880 really all I wanted to say. I wanted to know 396 00:17:41.960 --> 00:17:45.079 if anyone is currently in this type of phase of 397 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:47.200 you know, just seeing your life and being like, I 398 00:17:47.240 --> 00:17:50.960 want to take things seriously, but all things seriously. Yes, 399 00:17:51.039 --> 00:17:53.640 the discipline and yes, the working out, but also the play. 400 00:17:53.720 --> 00:17:56.920 I think sometimes it's really motivating and you work harder 401 00:17:56.960 --> 00:18:00.480