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Speaker 1: episode of Let's Talk the Things, where we discuss personal growth, travel, music,
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Speaker 1: I'm ash and this week we are talking to things
Speaker 1: about love, relationships, and most importantly, remembering your worth. With
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day right around the corner, I know a lot
Speaker 1: of us are thinking about love and maybe feeling a
Speaker 1: little bit of pressure to do it right, or you're
Speaker 1: fomo fear of missing out. For those who aren't familiar,
Speaker 1: if you don't have a Valentine and you're trying to
Speaker 1: figure out how to navigate the holiday, I totally get it.
Speaker 1: Let's start with the most important question. Do you know
Speaker 1: your value? And I don't mean in the sense of
Speaker 1: what your career is, or how much money you make,
Speaker 1: or what your relationship status is. I mean do you
Speaker 1: truly know deep down what you are worth? It's an
Speaker 1: essential question to ask. Before you can love anyone else,
Speaker 1: before you can show up in a relationship or even
Speaker 1: celebrate Valentine's Day with anyone, you have to know that
Speaker 1: you are a treasure. You are Uxdale with extra gravy.
Speaker 1: One of the biggest mistakes I've seen women make is
Speaker 1: placing their worth outside of themselves based on what someone
Speaker 1: else thinks, or what society tells us we should be,
Speaker 1: or you know how a romantic partner makes us feel.
Speaker 1: Some of us tend to tie our value to external validation.
Speaker 1: But here's a thing. You are not what you do
Speaker 1: or what someone else says about you. You are not
Speaker 1: defined by your past, or your mistakes or your relationships status.
Speaker 1: You are inherently valuable, and that's something you need to
Speaker 1: remind yourself of every day. So here's what I want
Speaker 1: you to do. Take a moment and just think about
Speaker 1: what makes you you. What are the things that light
Speaker 1: you up inside, What are the passions that fuel your heart?
Speaker 1: What qualities do you have that are unique and make
Speaker 1: you truly happy? That is your value. The moment you
Speaker 1: start stepping into your life with that understanding a promise
Speaker 1: you everything changes. Love. We all want it right. But
Speaker 1: the truth is love starts with you. We've all heard
Speaker 1: it before. I know it's cliche, but it's the truth.
Speaker 1: It starts with the love you give yourself. And the
Speaker 1: beautiful thing about Valentine's Day is that it can be
Speaker 1: a reminder that love is literally everywhere, not just romantic love,
Speaker 1: the love that comes from your friends and family, and
Speaker 1: the love where everything flows from, the love from within.
Speaker 1: When you start loving yourself, you're not relying on someone
Speaker 1: else to make you feel a whole. You start showing
Speaker 1: up in the world with a level of confidence, grace,
Speaker 1: and strength that attracts the right people and situations into
Speaker 1: your life. We all have relationships that matter, whether it's
Speaker 1: with family, friends, colleagues, and yes, romantic partners. But one
Speaker 1: thing that I've learned, especially in the past few years,
Speaker 1: is how important it is to set boundaries. I mean,
Speaker 1: you need to become an atlas full of boundaries. Relationships
Speaker 1: really work best when they're rooted in mutual respect and
Speaker 1: healthy boundaries. I remember my dad telling me years ago
Speaker 1: that the most important thing in any relationship, no matter
Speaker 1: how old you are, is respect. It trumps love, It
Speaker 1: trumps any other emotion. You have to have respect in
Speaker 1: any and every relationship. And that's something that I try
Speaker 1: to remain and I make sure that I implement in
Speaker 1: my life because it's so true. So here's a little
Speaker 1: piece of my own advice. Don't settle for less than
Speaker 1: what you deserve. Whether you're in a romantic relationship or
Speaker 1: it's a friendship, or even a relationship you've had with
Speaker 1: a family member, If you don't feel seen, heard, or valued,
Speaker 1: it's time to have a conversation. And if you have
Speaker 1: that conversation and the behavior continues, or you continue to
Speaker 1: feel invaluable, then it may be time to remove yourself.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, healthy relationships are built
Speaker 1: on clear communication, and when you respect your own needs,
Speaker 1: you set the tone for how others will treat you.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, You cannot control their reaction or their
Speaker 1: response to your boundaries. So that's why I say, if
Speaker 1: you explain your boundaries and then you're still not abided
Speaker 1: by maybe that person just doesn't have the capacity to
Speaker 1: do so. It doesn't make them a bad person, it
Speaker 1: doesn't make them an evil person, but it just makes
Speaker 1: them not your person. The most powerful thing you can
Speaker 1: do for yourself is to choose to live your life unapologetically,
Speaker 1: to step into your purpose and your truth without fear
Speaker 1: of what others will think of you or it. You
Speaker 1: have dreams, passions, and desires, and you have the right
Speaker 1: to pursue them. So don't let anything or anyone make
Speaker 1: you doubt that. And listen. If you're worried about being alone,
Speaker 1: or like I said, fomo, being left out because of
Speaker 1: a lack of romantic love, or maybe your boundaries were
Speaker 1: disrespected or violated, remember you are whole just as you are.
Speaker 1: The love that matters most is a love that you
Speaker 1: give yourself, and eventually you will attract those people that
Speaker 1: will respect your boundaries and that will make you feel
Speaker 1: seen and valued. Don't wait for a partner or someone
Speaker 1: else to validate who you are, or to validate your
Speaker 1: dreams and your hopes and aspirations. Don't wait for someone
Speaker 1: to tell you how amazing you are or how beautiful
Speaker 1: you are. Start showing up for yourself in big and
Speaker 1: small ways, and trust me, the world will take notice.
Speaker 1: So I challenge you, especially as Valentine's Day quickly approaches,
Speaker 1: to think, how can you show yourself love this week?
Speaker 1: Maybe it's through a new self care ritual, a mask,
Speaker 1: a little red light therapy, a confidence boost through a
Speaker 1: wardrobe change or a new hairstyle, or maybe it's spending
Speaker 1: time with people who truly make you feel seen. Whatever
Speaker 1: it is, do it with intention. Don't wait for someone
Speaker 1: else to tell you how special or how loved you are.
Speaker 1: You are priceless, and it's about time that you recognize that.
Speaker 1: I know this can be a hard time of year
Speaker 1: for some people, with all the roses and the hearts,
Speaker 1: and the social media videos of extravagant Valentine's Day proposals
Speaker 1: or just anything that makes you feel left out if
Speaker 1: you don't have that in your life. But I just
Speaker 1: want you to remember, as hard as it may be,
Speaker 1: you are amazing just as you are. You don't need
Speaker 1: a partner, a fancy dinner, or even a single rose
Speaker 1: to prove your worth. And trust me, those things are nice,
Speaker 1: but if you don't have them, it's important that you
Speaker 1: remember that the love, joy, and freedom you seek starts
Speaker 1: from within you, and when you love yourself fully, everything
Speaker 1: falls into place. So this Valentine's Day, I want you
Speaker 1: to remember and be grateful for all of the friends
Speaker 1: and family who love you, and, most importantly, reflect on
Speaker 1: the love you have for yourself. If you love this
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Speaker 1: with someone who you think could use a little reminder
Speaker 1: of their own worth.