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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and Goala GV.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host

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<v Speaker 1>Paul Fellavaledo. Hello everyone, and welcome to this seven minute

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<v Speaker 1>leadership podcast. It's episode six point fifty five. Today we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about something every leader wants more of confidence. People

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<v Speaker 1>chase it, people talk about it, people attend seminars hoping

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<v Speaker 1>someone will hand it to them like a certificate. But

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<v Speaker 1>confidence does not come from motivational quotes or standing in

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<v Speaker 1>front of a mirror repeating affirmations. Confidence comes from confidence.

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<v Speaker 1>Real leaders understand this. The most confident leaders you've ever

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<v Speaker 1>met did not wake up one morning magically confident. They

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<v Speaker 1>built that confidence through preparation, repetition, mistakes, and hard lessons.

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<v Speaker 1>Confidence is earned in the moment you understand that your

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<v Speaker 1>leadership begins to change. Let me explain something that many

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<v Speaker 1>people misunderstand. Confidence is not loud. Confidence is not arrogance.

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<v Speaker 1>Confidence is not the person in the room trying to

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<v Speaker 1>dominate every conversation. Confidence is quiet certainty. It is the

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<v Speaker 1>calm leader who walks into a chaotic situation and says

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to handle this and the team believes them.

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<v Speaker 1>Why because that leader has demonstrated confidence before. Think about

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<v Speaker 1>the last time you trusted someone completely at work. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it was a manager, maybe it was a colleague, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it was a technician who always seemed to know exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what to do. You trusted them because they knew their job.

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<v Speaker 1>They had put in the hours, they had done the homework,

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<v Speaker 1>they had learned from mistakes. They had built competence, and

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<v Speaker 1>competence builds credibility. Credibility builds trust, Trust builds confidence. One

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<v Speaker 1>of the biggest mistakes leaders make is trying to act

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<v Speaker 1>confident before they become competent. You've seen this before someone

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<v Speaker 1>gets promoted. They walk into the role with a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of swagger, a lot of big speeches, and a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of energy. But when the real work starts, the cracks

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<v Speaker 1>begin to show. They cannot answer questions, they avoid tough decisions,

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<v Speaker 1>they deflect responsibility. Their confidence starts to fade because it

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<v Speaker 1>was never built on competence, It was built on appearance.

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<v Speaker 1>Real confidence comes from knowing that you have prepared yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>It comes from doing the work when nobody is watching,

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<v Speaker 1>reading the reports, understanding the systems, learning the details of

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<v Speaker 1>your operations, talking to your team, studying the industry, and

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<v Speaker 1>listening more than you speak. These are the quiet habits

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<v Speaker 1>that build competence, and competence compounds over time. Let me

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<v Speaker 1>give you a practical example. If you want to become

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<v Speaker 1>confident running meetings, you do not become confident by hoping

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<v Speaker 1>the meeting goes well. You become confident by preparing the agenda,

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<v Speaker 1>studying the topics, anticipating questions, understanding the data, running dozens

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<v Speaker 1>of meetings, learning what works and what falls flat. Each

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<v Speaker 1>time you do it, your competence improves, and with every improvement,

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<v Speaker 1>confidence grows. This is the same pattern in every leadership skill.

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<v Speaker 1>Difficult conversations, strategic decisions, public speaking, crisis management, delegation. None

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<v Speaker 1>of these skills begin with confidence. They begin with learning. Learning,

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<v Speaker 1>then repetition, then reflection, then improvement, and eventually something interesting happens.

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<v Speaker 1>You stop worrying about whether you can handle the situation.

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<v Speaker 1>You know you can. That is confidence. Another thing leaders

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<v Speaker 1>need to understand is that your competence creates stability for

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<v Speaker 1>your team. When your team sees that you understand the work,

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<v Speaker 1>they relax, They trust your decisions, they believe your direction,

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<v Speaker 1>They feel safe following your leadership. But when leaders lack competence,

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<v Speaker 1>teams feel it immediately. People start second guessing, They look

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<v Speaker 1>for guidance somewhere else, They become hesitant, the culture starts

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<v Speaker 1>to wobble. Leadership confidence is contagious, but so is leadership uncertainty.

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<v Speaker 1>This is why great leaders stay students of their craft

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<v Speaker 1>even after years in leadership. They keep learning. They read,

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<v Speaker 1>they observe, that ask questions, They study people who are

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<v Speaker 1>better than they are, not because they lack confidence, but

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<v Speaker 1>because they understand how confidence is built through competence. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to challenge you with a question today, where in

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<v Speaker 1>your leadership do you wish you had more confidence? Think

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<v Speaker 1>about it honestly. Maybe it's communication. Maybe it's financial understanding.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's strategic planning. Maybe it's conflict resolution. Now ask

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<v Speaker 1>yourself a second question. Have you invested the time to

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<v Speaker 1>become competent in that area or have you been hoping

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<v Speaker 1>confidence would appear on its own. Confidence is not magic.

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<v Speaker 1>Confidence is the result of disciplined practice. The great news

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<v Speaker 1>is that competence is learnable. You can study, you can train,

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<v Speaker 1>you can observe great leaders, You can practice. You can

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<v Speaker 1>fail and improve every one of those steps builds competence,

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<v Speaker 1>and competence builds confidence. The leaders who seem fearless are

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<v Speaker 1>usually the leaders who prepared the most. They did the

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<v Speaker 1>work long before the spotlight appeared. That is the real secret,

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<v Speaker 1>not charisma, not personality, its preparation. So here is your

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<v Speaker 1>seven minute leadership challenge today. Pick one leadership skill where

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be more confident. Then spend the next

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<v Speaker 1>thirty days building competence in that area. Read about it,

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<v Speaker 1>practice it, ask someone experienced for their feedback, study the

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<v Speaker 1>mechanics of it. At the end of those thirty days,

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<v Speaker 1>something will change. Your knowledge will grow, your comfort will increase,

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<v Speaker 1>Your decisions will become sharper, and slowly, quietly, confidence will

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<v Speaker 1>show up, not because you chased confidence, because you built competence.

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<v Speaker 1>That is how real leaders grow. So I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to remember this confidence is not something that you claim.

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<v Speaker 1>It is something people see after you have done the work.

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<v Speaker 1>Build your competence every day, study your craft, sharpen your thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>learn the details that others ignore. Because when competence grows,

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<v Speaker 1>confidence follows, and when confidence follows, people will trust your

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<v Speaker 1>leadership in ways that speeches and slogans could never achieve.

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<v Speaker 1>This has been the seven Minute Leadership Podcast, and I

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for listening. For more Paul fell of Alito Podcasts,

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