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<v Speaker 1>You know, the FDA is called psilocybin therapy as a

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<v Speaker 1>breakthrough therapy, right and has fast tracked that through the FT.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's because there are so many studies. This has

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<v Speaker 1>been the most studied psychiatric medicine in the history of psychiatry,

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<v Speaker 1>right in fifties and sixties, of one hundred thousand participants

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<v Speaker 1>in over a thousand studies and recently studies by John Hopkins, Harvard,

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<v Speaker 1>Imperial College of London. You name it, over many different psychedelics,

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<v Speaker 1>over many different ailments, PTSD, depression, even physical ailments. It

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<v Speaker 1>seems like it's a panacea of such a broad benefit

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<v Speaker 1>to whatever it is. We get people who are some

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<v Speaker 1>of the top performing CEOs in the world, right, Silicon

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<v Speaker 1>value uniforms, Unicorn startups, vcs, et cetera. We also get

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<v Speaker 1>combat veterans with complex PTSD. We get first responders, we

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<v Speaker 1>get teachers, we get starving artists, and everybody comes for

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<v Speaker 1>their own unique reason.

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<v Speaker 2>So welcome to this anther life.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm really excited to have on the program with me today,

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<v Speaker 3>Austin Mao, so really really thrilled to talk with you.

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<v Speaker 3>You're a serial entrepreneur, author, a poet, and a co

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<v Speaker 3>founder of Ceremonial, which is a spiritual sanctuary out in

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<v Speaker 3>the wonderful city of Denver, Colorado, which I love very much.

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<v Speaker 3>And what you offer here is these really interesting transformative

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<v Speaker 3>experiences that are pulling in a bunch of different kinds

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<v Speaker 3>of holistic healing modalities and pathways, including with psychedelics like

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<v Speaker 3>hyahuasca and psilocybin. What brings a lot of these together,

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<v Speaker 3>I think is this connection between kind of science and

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<v Speaker 3>spirituality when you talk about kind of pulling in ancient

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<v Speaker 3>to shamanism and modern wisdom. So all that to say, Austin,

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<v Speaker 3>excited to have you on the pod, and thanks.

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<v Speaker 2>For joining me today.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Adam. Really happy to be here. Yeah, excited

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<v Speaker 1>to chat with an anthropologist. I was just with a

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<v Speaker 1>dear friend Eric and Beads, who like was number two

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<v Speaker 1>to Tony Robbins and he's an anthropologist and just having

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<v Speaker 1>this wealth of knowledge of how we came to be

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<v Speaker 1>who we are today, the collective we It was so fascinating.

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<v Speaker 1>Every time I opened up a topic with him, I hoped.

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<v Speaker 2>It kind of hang in with that that level of cool.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that you know that idea too, in terms

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<v Speaker 3>of how do we think about both our own stories

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<v Speaker 3>and the collective we and the and the individual eye

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<v Speaker 3>is one of the really profound areas that spirituality helps

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<v Speaker 3>us think about. And so as part of that, I'd

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<v Speaker 3>love to kind of get your your own take, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes to talk about this as your superhero origin story,

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<v Speaker 3>but just you know, how do you find yourself moving

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<v Speaker 3>from kind of tech entrepreneurship into this this kind of

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<v Speaker 3>space that brings together science and spirituality and then ultimately

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<v Speaker 3>to opening an up entheogenic church.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, my story is one of happenstance and circumstance. In

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty, I was invited to a retreat in Ayahuascar,

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<v Speaker 1>retreat for founders, and at that time I already had

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of recreational psychedelic experiences, so I had a

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<v Speaker 1>chip on my shoulder. I remember reading the prep documents

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<v Speaker 1>and events and I'm sitting there in a restaurant in

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<v Speaker 1>Mexico and it's like, take this seriously, right, Like do

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<v Speaker 1>this diet, do this thing, don't drink caffeine, don't drink alcohol.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was like, this is stupid. I closed

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<v Speaker 1>the laptop and I took a sip of my Margarita.

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<v Speaker 1>And so going into the retreat, I was in this

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<v Speaker 1>frame of mind of I'm here for a networking opportunity,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you've ever sat in ceremony, let me tell

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<v Speaker 1>you that is not a networking opportunity, right. So it

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<v Speaker 1>was in the second ceremony that my life completely changed.

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<v Speaker 1>Before that ceremony, I had very little recollection of my memory.

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<v Speaker 1>In a morning workshop, the facilitator said, recollect a memory

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<v Speaker 1>of you as a child that was really impactful for you.

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<v Speaker 1>And there's something weird about my brain because what it

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<v Speaker 1>went to is a memory of me in front of

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<v Speaker 1>an electrical outlet as a little baby and then putting

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<v Speaker 1>my penis inside of it and getting zapped, and and

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<v Speaker 1>my and my mom was like, Okay, well he's never

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<v Speaker 1>doing that again. But everything before and after was like

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<v Speaker 1>a fog was blank, you know, and and and so

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<v Speaker 1>I got curious about that, like even a couple months back,

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<v Speaker 1>and my memory was was really foggy. So under the medicine,

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<v Speaker 1>I started reliving my my memories in vivid detail. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I could remember turning my locker combination in school, I

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<v Speaker 1>could remember the books that I read. I could remember

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<v Speaker 1>my first kiss and just like, you know, how you're

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<v Speaker 1>in a dream and it's it's not like you're observing

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<v Speaker 1>it on his screen and you're like living the thing. Yeah, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what was happening for me in my in

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<v Speaker 1>my revisiting of my memory, going back and back in

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<v Speaker 1>time until I was it was completely dark, I was

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<v Speaker 1>horny and I popped up and I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is weird. There's no outlet around here. And then

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<v Speaker 1>when I went back in, I realized I was sexually

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<v Speaker 1>touched by someone, my mother's boyfriend at the time, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was completely unaware. And it was such a huge aha,

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<v Speaker 1>because at that moment it became clear to me why

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<v Speaker 1>I repressed all of my memory. I threw the baby

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<v Speaker 1>out with the bathwater, you know, And it was that

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<v Speaker 1>one traumatic incident that led me to feel guilt and

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<v Speaker 1>shame and confusion and pleasure and all these things a

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<v Speaker 1>four year old would have known nothing to do with.

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<v Speaker 1>And I started going forward in time and seeing how

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<v Speaker 1>I was a bully as a kid, had sexual confusion

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<v Speaker 1>as a teenager. I couldn't keep relationships because I just

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<v Speaker 1>simply couldn't remember all the good times we created together,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, all the way forward in time to this moment,

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<v Speaker 1>to that moment where I was on a yoga matt

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<v Speaker 1>in the jungle, surrounded by forty nine other founders going

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<v Speaker 1>through their own process. There was some guy that was

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<v Speaker 1>running around naked screaming, and I was like, Okay, that's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>And I had these tears in my eyes and I

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<v Speaker 1>told the shaman, the facilitator at the time, what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, oh my god, I'm so sorry. And I said, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't understand. I feel like I was secured of Alzheimer's,

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<v Speaker 1>like this gaping hole, this black hole of memory that

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have. And then all of a sudden came

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<v Speaker 1>flooding back, and that moment was the beginning of the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of my life. I started writing again. It's now

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<v Speaker 1>one of my great passions in life. I repaired my

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with my bomb, I repaired my relationship with ex girlfriend,

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<v Speaker 1>and a major ex girlfriend was now one of my

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<v Speaker 1>closest friends. Like on and on and on, and just

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<v Speaker 1>who I was before. It wasn't like a new chapter

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. It was a It was a new

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, that's that's that's really powerful.

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<v Speaker 3>I thank you for sharing that and being vulnerable and

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<v Speaker 3>sharing that as well, because I think that's something that

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<v Speaker 3>it strikes me because I've I've both sat for ayahuasca

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<v Speaker 3>and psilocybin ceremonies as well, and you know, the first

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<v Speaker 3>time I did ayahuasca too. I just moved to Peru

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<v Speaker 3>for for Fieldberg actually for for PhD research.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I was gonna be there for a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of years.

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<v Speaker 3>And and I happened to accidentally move in with with

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<v Speaker 3>a shaman. I mean, I rented a room from from

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<v Speaker 3>his mother in terms out he lived there too, And

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<v Speaker 3>it's also there's the aauska ceremonies.

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<v Speaker 2>In my living room every two weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, you know, it was this uh you know, funny

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<v Speaker 3>how the universe works sometimes, you know. But there's this

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<v Speaker 3>moment I remember too, because like I was feeling this

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<v Speaker 3>this profound sense of loneliness because like I just I'm leaving,

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<v Speaker 3>like I guess the sequel kind of like leaving this

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<v Speaker 3>that moment and moving to a whole new space. And

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<v Speaker 3>you know, that idea around the notions of memories and

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<v Speaker 3>like who we are and things that we kind of

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<v Speaker 3>either repressed or put off or like to protect ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>Is a really you know both on one of the hand,

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<v Speaker 3>powerful mechanism that we have to help help ourselves heal

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<v Speaker 3>and to move on. But then at the same time,

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<v Speaker 3>when we could see plant medicines like this that offer

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<v Speaker 3>us ways to kind of reconnect or retouch, rekind of

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<v Speaker 3>revisit those pieces, and I recall something like that too,

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<v Speaker 3>is that, you know, I was leaving my you know

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<v Speaker 3>again this this again profound sense of like do I

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<v Speaker 3>feel very disconnected from my past in this sense?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>And then I remember at this like the like kind

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<v Speaker 3>of you know, peak moments there. It was like I

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<v Speaker 3>was a you know, sitting there in the bathroom by myself, crying,

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<v Speaker 3>and then my family came to.

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<v Speaker 2>Visit me as balloons.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know why they were balloons, but they you know,

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<v Speaker 3>they floated by and they're just like my grandfather passed away,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, came and said, hey, joint, you know that

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<v Speaker 3>we're still I'm still here with you, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, bowling, but also just like this amazing sense

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<v Speaker 3>of like unity right as part of the power of

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<v Speaker 3>the medicine too, of like kids, like, it's okay to

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<v Speaker 3>let go of those things and your loneliness in like

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<v Speaker 3>the fear, because we're actually all here with you anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I'm wondering about this too in terms of

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<v Speaker 3>the idea of your story too, of like the idea

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<v Speaker 3>of unification or kind of you know, I'll think about

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<v Speaker 3>integration slightly separately, But unification in terms of bringing our

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<v Speaker 3>kind of whole selves back is is that something is

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<v Speaker 3>that kind of how you feel the experience works are, like,

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<v Speaker 3>that's one of the potential powers of these kinds of

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<v Speaker 3>medicines is to kind of help bring about our the

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<v Speaker 3>rest of ourselves back together again.

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<v Speaker 2>Like how do you think about them?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, first of all, I'm just gonna say, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go deep with that, okay, And I I'm I

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<v Speaker 1>have an assumption as story of your listeners that they

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<v Speaker 1>are deep listeners too. So I think of there being

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<v Speaker 1>three qualities to this concept we know as enlightenment, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Those three qualities are wholeness, nothingness, and oneness slash allness.

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<v Speaker 1>Wholeness being the complete reintegration of all the parts of

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves that we've repressed, we've projected out, we've suppressed. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So all the all the grief, all the anger, the shame,

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<v Speaker 1>all the guilt, all the voices inside of us, the

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<v Speaker 1>parts that carry the burdens of I'm not good enough

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, I don't matter, or I'm ugly or

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<v Speaker 1>you know, those like really tender, inner child, wounded, inner

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<v Speaker 1>child voices in internal family systems we call exiled parts.

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<v Speaker 1>Bringing those back into the fold in this integration of self.

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<v Speaker 1>I think of nothingness or emptiness as what Ramdas calls

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<v Speaker 1>becoming nobody, right, And Ramdas says, you've got to become

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<v Speaker 1>somebody in order to become nobody. And what that is

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<v Speaker 1>is it's a releasing of our identity, because every time

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<v Speaker 1>you interact with the outside world, you're holding an identity. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I get into and we're constantly shifting identities. It was

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<v Speaker 1>just Father's Day yesterday, by the way, Happy Father's Day

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<v Speaker 1>to you. And and you know you have an identity

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<v Speaker 1>with your newborn and that's now as a caretaker as

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<v Speaker 1>a father. Right, you get in the passenger's seat of

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<v Speaker 1>a car, now you have an identity as a passenger.

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<v Speaker 1>So on and so forth, Right, and The way that we

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<v Speaker 1>interact with things is we interact through the lens of

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<v Speaker 1>our identity. So if I'm holding money and I'm looking

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<v Speaker 1>a successful man, or a struggling man, et cetera, et cetera. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>by relaxing our identities, we are able to embrace the

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<v Speaker 1>world with greater openness. Right. And a very obvious one

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<v Speaker 1>And the third level is oneness or allness, which is

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<v Speaker 1>qualities I think are worked on by different psychedelics. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe that psilocybin and ayahuasca are really good at wholeness. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, the pathway to wholeness is hard. Yeah, you

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<v Speaker 1>think that LSD works particularly well on the level of

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's beautiful and that was a deepest that was

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<v Speaker 3>For showing that because I think that is there there

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<v Speaker 3>it's purely chemical, but I'm also not a that's interesting

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<v Speaker 3>there are certain receptors and pieces of our neurochemistry in

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<v Speaker 3>that can then provide these these kind of levels of

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<v Speaker 3>Think it's interesting because people you know, I've heard too

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<v Speaker 3>many pathways to enlighten, right, in many pathways up the mountain,

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<v Speaker 3>as it were, right, meditation is one way that you

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<v Speaker 3>The metaphor I like sometimes is that it catapults you

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and totally you know, like that's interesting that

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<v Speaker 3>think there's there's something like really important about uh, the

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<v Speaker 3>kind of resurgence I guess of psychedelics into mental health

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<v Speaker 3>and into approaching questions and things like enlightenment today that

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<v Speaker 3>history of practice in uh Central South America, ayahuasca in Peru,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, in another places like eboge in Africa, right,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, an LC and kedemine that came through us

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<v Speaker 3>through some of the magic of chemistry today. And there's

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<v Speaker 3>really interesting kind of pieces that there's a long history there,

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<v Speaker 3>but like they're all kind of coming together now, I

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<v Speaker 3>think in these interesting ways, you know, And so I

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<v Speaker 3>think the ceremony and the work that you're doing there

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<v Speaker 3>too is is kind of one pathway in one literal

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<v Speaker 3>place right where we can help see the different modalities

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<v Speaker 3>come together. And so I'm kind of curious to think

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<v Speaker 3>about that. You know, you have different pathways that you

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<v Speaker 3>work with, folks, So I mean, hey, I want to

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<v Speaker 3>talk about what what what you do with ceremonial and

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<v Speaker 3>then we kind of talk to some of the different

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<v Speaker 3>transformative pathways that you that you work on there, because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm kind of curious how you integrate different healing modalities,

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<v Speaker 3>medicines and other kind of practices as part of that.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's start a little bit like what is what what?

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<v Speaker 2>What is ceremonial to you? And how does it? How

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<v Speaker 2>does it work?

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<v Speaker 1>So we recently launched a podcast called Modern Enlightenment, and

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<v Speaker 1>this idea of it, it's really under the idea that

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<v Speaker 1>a hundred years ago, if you wanted to reach enlightenment,

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<v Speaker 1>which is you know, often related to as a as

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<v Speaker 1>an ex infinite feeling of peace and joy and love

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<v Speaker 1>and gratitude. Right. Who doesn't want to feel that? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>But in order to do that, you'd have to be

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<v Speaker 1>a horny monk on the mountaintop, right, Yeah, and really bold,

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<v Speaker 1>right for decades, and then with the discovery or sort

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<v Speaker 1>of the modern discovery of psychedelics versus in the fifties

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<v Speaker 1>and sixties, and then now in the resurgence in what

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<v Speaker 1>we often relate to as the psychedelic renaissance. Now like

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<v Speaker 1>there are more accelerated options, right. But what's what's really

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<v Speaker 1>interesting is that we're in what's called the third wave

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<v Speaker 1>of psychology. The first wave was pavlov I ring a bell,

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<v Speaker 1>here for dinner, you guys. The second is cognitive behavioral therapy,

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<v Speaker 1>this idea that our thoughts can influence our feelings, right.

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<v Speaker 1>And the third wave is this more integrated model, which

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<v Speaker 1>internal family systems, constual therapy, somatic experiencing, so on and

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<v Speaker 1>so forth. Right, And what's fascinating is that the third

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<v Speaker 1>wave of psychology is starting to converge with the thousands

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<v Speaker 1>that's really mainstream now and has lots of courses in

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<v Speaker 1>what's so exciting about this is that these like thousands

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<v Speaker 1>so forth are now starting to like make sense in

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<v Speaker 1>a way with modern science. Yeah, aka psychotherapy. Right. And

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<v Speaker 1>there's this great book called The Way of the Psychoonot

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<v Speaker 1>by Stanis Lofgrowth, and he writes in this in the

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<v Speaker 1>in the preface, he's like, science is always catching up

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<v Speaker 1>to mysticism. Right when before Newton observed the apple falling

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<v Speaker 1>everyone thought it was something mystical that was happening. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And so we're in this really exciting time where the

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<v Speaker 1>old and the new are converging, and I believe it's

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<v Speaker 1>incumbent upon practitioners to integrate that because if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have the ancient wisdom, let's say, ketamine clinics are a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of that, right, if you don't have the modern techniques,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a disservice that's happening to yourself, to myself as

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<v Speaker 1>a facilitator, and to the participants because there's so much

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think that's that's a really important point in that,

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<v Speaker 3>like we have a wealth, you know, in like our

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<v Speaker 3>toolbox is huge, right, and kind of thinking about that,

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<v Speaker 2>I think I love that point too, that we're kind

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<v Speaker 3>Science is sort of always kind of catching up, and

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<v Speaker 3>I guess as a tool of discovery that makes sense, right,

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<v Speaker 3>And how can we talk about that and how can

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<v Speaker 2>And it is interesting too that like at the same time,

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<v Speaker 3>That kind of you know, modern tool kuld of using

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<v Speaker 3>using science to talk about what neuropathways work, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and how this like how we can have psycho psychedelics,

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<v Speaker 3>psycho psycho psychosystems, psychedelic therapy, and so hard to say

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<v Speaker 3>all these things together, right, but having psychedelics along with

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<v Speaker 3>with therapists and and and practitioners, you know, tells us

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<v Speaker 3>So there's an interesting piece it also seems around validating

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<v Speaker 3>then there's also important new information coming about how and

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<v Speaker 3>why this crop goes well with that crop, and why

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<v Speaker 3>plant here versus there, and like seasonal changes and things

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<v Speaker 3>like that, Why that's on the same set of knowledge

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<v Speaker 3>at least we need to put on the same level

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<v Speaker 3>as kind of new agriculture agricultural like agro scientific knowledge, right,

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<v Speaker 3>therefore we're going to throw out the old indigenous wisdom

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<v Speaker 3>curious in your thoughts too about like when kind of

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<v Speaker 3>helping people open up to these the possibilities of you know,

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<v Speaker 3>when we can seek a form of enlightenment. I guess

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<v Speaker 3>are folks kind of coming when you're thinking about running

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<v Speaker 3>ceremonies or sessions. I'm curious do folks kind of pop

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<v Speaker 3>in say I'm looking for enlightenment or they're saying I'm

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<v Speaker 3>working through a problem, or I'm trying to figure out

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<v Speaker 3>like where I'm at, you know, because I know you

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<v Speaker 3>kind of have you have awaken and transcend the different

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<v Speaker 3>kind of pathways that folks can go through. So how

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<v Speaker 3>do folks like find their way to what you what

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<v Speaker 3>you help them do?

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<v Speaker 2>I guess, you know, how do people show up on

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<v Speaker 2>the door?

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's a mixed bag. And it's really interesting because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the FDA is called psilocybin therapy as a

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<v Speaker 1>breakthrough therapy, right and has fast tracked that through the

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<v Speaker 1>fd And that's because there are so many studies. This

435
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<v Speaker 1>has been the most studied psychiatric medicine in the history

436
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<v Speaker 1>of psychiatry. Right in the fifties and sixties, over one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred thousand participants in over a thousand studies and recently

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<v Speaker 1>studies by John Hopkins, Harvard, Imperial College of London. You

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<v Speaker 1>name it, right, and it's so fascinating that over many

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<v Speaker 1>different psychedelics, over many different ailments PTSD, depression, even physical ailments,

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<v Speaker 1>it seems like it's a panacea of of such a

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<v Speaker 1>broad benefit to whatever it is. Right. So similarly, we

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<v Speaker 1>get people who are some of the top performing CEOs

444
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<v Speaker 1>in the world. Right, we've facilitated a great deal of

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<v Speaker 1>founders Fortune five hundred executives, Silicon Valley, uniforms, Unicorn startups, vcs,

446
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<v Speaker 1>et cetera. We also get combat veterans with complex PTSD UH,

447
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<v Speaker 1>we get first responders, we get teachers, we get starving artists,

448
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<v Speaker 1>and everybody comes for their own unique reason. Right, it

449
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<v Speaker 1>could be like I we had we had someone who

450
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<v Speaker 1>came who was about to start chemo treatment the month

451
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<v Speaker 1>after our retreat and was you know, had end what

452
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<v Speaker 1>what we call in psychology end of life anxiety. I mean,

453
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<v Speaker 1>such an extraordinary amount of anxiety you can imagine, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And and she came and in the process was able

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<v Speaker 1>to have a conversation with her cancer and actually feel

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<v Speaker 1>unconditional love in herself and pour that into her cancer,

457
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<v Speaker 1>just sitting with that, giving it unconditional love like a

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<v Speaker 1>warm embrace of a mother for hours. And I just

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<v Speaker 1>spoke with her the other day and we're on FaceTime

460
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<v Speaker 1>and she's going through treatment. You know, her head's bald,

461
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<v Speaker 1>et cetera. And she shared like she doesn't believe that

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<v Speaker 1>she would have survived this without that experience. Meanwhile, at

463
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<v Speaker 1>the same time, we had one of the top female

464
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<v Speaker 1>founders in the world come. This woman is on boards

465
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<v Speaker 1>and you know, very sought out right, can't name names,

466
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<v Speaker 1>and she comes and she she almost didn't show up

467
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<v Speaker 1>because she gives me a call two weeks in advance

468
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<v Speaker 1>and says, hey, I can't make it. Have a double booking.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm invited to a private dinner with Prince Harry and

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<v Speaker 1>Megan Merkle and I'm It's like, okay, well, let's break

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<v Speaker 1>this down. You know what's happening for you, Like how

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<v Speaker 1>often do you delay your personal needs for some business opportunity?

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<v Speaker 1>And she's like, okay, I'm coming, And in the process

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<v Speaker 1>was also experienced a level of unconditional love, self generated

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that she had never experience before. It and

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<v Speaker 1>has since gone on to found other companies with this

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<v Speaker 1>intention of spreading that love. And and so everyone comes

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<v Speaker 1>in the top of the funnel with their own unique

479
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<v Speaker 1>what they want to work on. Do they want greater

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<v Speaker 1>performance in their workplace or do they want to heal

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<v Speaker 1>from some traumatic incident. But everybody finds the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the that's the crazy thing, and as WU and

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<v Speaker 1>there's the WU side of me that I can say

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<v Speaker 1>it's just love, right, But really the answer is they

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<v Speaker 1>find themselves. The healing agent is not the medicine or

486
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<v Speaker 1>a teacher or a facilitator even a practice. The medicine

487
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<v Speaker 1>is to find that you are the medicine, right mm

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<v Speaker 1>hmmm m And it's it's a very interesting game because

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<v Speaker 1>we're in the business of of facilitating you to not

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<v Speaker 1>need us anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>Successful if you don't ever need anything like this anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make sense? It does?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's funny. I mean I was.

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<v Speaker 3>I was thinking about this the other day too, in

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<v Speaker 3>the sense that I think that the best businesses that

497
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<v Speaker 3>should be their model, right, that we shouldn't exist.

498
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<v Speaker 2>We don't need like art is to solve the problems.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't need to exist right, It's an interesting idea

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<v Speaker 3>of like, rather than perpetuating your need for my soda,

501
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<v Speaker 3>like I want you to not need the soda, right,

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<v Speaker 3>or to get your thirst quench or whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, totally. But by the way, do you know

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<v Speaker 1>do you know that coke has so much sodium in

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<v Speaker 1>it and you know, and so much sugar in it

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<v Speaker 1>because it has so much sodium in it and there's

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<v Speaker 1>so much sodium in it originally so that it can

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<v Speaker 1>make you thirsty, so you could want more coke, damn it.

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<v Speaker 3>See that makes perfmal sense though, right, yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>and then but I think I mean that perhaps is

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<v Speaker 3>also the perhaps a great metaphor for contemporary society too, right,

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<v Speaker 3>that we build the addiction in to need more of something,

513
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<v Speaker 3>right versus versus like let me arrive to me and

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<v Speaker 3>then let the rest of it, Let the rest of

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<v Speaker 3>it be, you know, totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Sly something and this field is not is not free

517
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<v Speaker 1>from that. There you know something that is unique about

518
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<v Speaker 1>what we've do. So tomorrow we're about to start our

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<v Speaker 1>twenty ninth retreats in two years, okay, And like any

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<v Speaker 1>good founder, we've iterated every single retreat and what we've

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<v Speaker 1>kind of honed in on that works. Is something that

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<v Speaker 1>I think of as content versus process. Right, if you

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<v Speaker 1>go to a therapist, you go to shaman, you go

524
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<v Speaker 1>you know, and and they're holding space for you. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Think think of the image of a person sitting on

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<v Speaker 1>a therapist couch, right, and you're sharing your content. You're

527
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<v Speaker 1>sharing your stories, your beliefs, your your emotions, and that

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<v Speaker 1>person is taking notes and asking you questions and helping

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<v Speaker 1>you with the release of your content. Valuable experience. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>get me wrong. Therapy is everyone should do therapy, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>But what is long term valuable is if you had

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<v Speaker 1>a process. Imagine if you went to a psychology school

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<v Speaker 1>and learned how to facilate yourself such that in the future,

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<v Speaker 1>when life's unknowns throw you a curveball and you are

535
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<v Speaker 1>in the suck, right, You're you're in the fight flight

536
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<v Speaker 1>or freeze, you know what to do with it instead

537
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<v Speaker 1>of fight flight or freezing. Right. That process is the

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<v Speaker 1>number one thing to learn to practice ahead of a

539
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<v Speaker 1>psychedelic experience, because the psychedelic experience is inherently unpredictable. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know about you, but you know I've said in

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<v Speaker 1>hundreds of ceremonies now every single time I feel some

542
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<v Speaker 1>level of anxiety or fear, I know on the other

543
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<v Speaker 1>side is joy and love and peace. But going into it,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Okay, what the heck's gonna come up right now?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Yeah, And so if if

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<v Speaker 1>you had the process of knowing what to do with yourself,

547
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<v Speaker 1>no matter the challenge in life, right, then your capacity

548
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<v Speaker 1>to meet yourself, to meet a psychedelic experience is is

549
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<v Speaker 1>so much deeper. So you can go deeper with less medicine,

550
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<v Speaker 1>or you can hold more medicine without getting into a

551
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<v Speaker 1>bad trip. Does that make sense?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Yeah, I think it's I think it's a great point,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, because it's like it reminds me that that

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<v Speaker 3>the the entry point for a lot of folks, I

555
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<v Speaker 3>think are more mainstream artists. I guess I would say

556
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<v Speaker 3>into into thinking about psychedelic strict was Michael Pollins How

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<v Speaker 3>to Change Your Mind, And and I think one of

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<v Speaker 3>the pieces I was glad that he brought up in

559
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<v Speaker 3>that book too, is just the importance of set and

560
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<v Speaker 3>setting it also, right, it's like understanding that one these

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<v Speaker 3>are going to be inherently unpredictable experiences. And then on

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<v Speaker 3>top of that or with that that you know, being

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<v Speaker 3>with the right place that you feel safe, you know

564
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<v Speaker 3>that you feel secure enough to be vulnerable, right, is

565
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<v Speaker 3>I think really what that is? And then and then

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<v Speaker 3>being amongst the right the right people, right whether it's

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<v Speaker 3>you know, uh, therapists or loved ones or they're a

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<v Speaker 3>safe community as part of that. And I love this

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<v Speaker 3>idea too of like I'm just putting that in my

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<v Speaker 3>head together with the idea of content versus process, right,

571
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<v Speaker 3>and like being able to extract or work with the

572
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<v Speaker 3>process of that that understanding how you go through something,

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<v Speaker 3>especially something.

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<v Speaker 2>That is inherently unpredictable.

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<v Speaker 3>Then it's less about what is it that I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to experience, but more of how am I going to

577
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<v Speaker 3>go through that process?

578
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<v Speaker 2>And it's it's something that you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know that some yoga teachers have shared with me that

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<v Speaker 3>I was I found really valuable over the past year

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<v Speaker 3>in in a in a different kind of practice, but

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<v Speaker 3>just getting the sense that like simple but a truth

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<v Speaker 3>for that, like we can't we can't choose what happens

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<v Speaker 3>to us.

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<v Speaker 2>But we can choose what we how we react, Right,

586
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<v Speaker 2>we can choose we can choose what.

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<v Speaker 3>We do with what happens to us, and the more

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<v Speaker 3>we can kind of get a handle on that process

589
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<v Speaker 3>to then be able to just I feel an emotion,

590
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<v Speaker 3>I accept it as it is, and I'm watching it,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I can choose what to do with that,

592
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<v Speaker 3>and may I then choose in a way that helps me,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, fulfill my heart's purpose or kind of act

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<v Speaker 3>out of love in some way. Right, it sounds a bit,

595
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<v Speaker 3>but at the same time, you know, it's it's understanding

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<v Speaker 3>a bit about once on process and that in that piece,

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<v Speaker 3>and so it's like being able to kind of put

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<v Speaker 3>some of those elements together with these these other questions

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<v Speaker 3>of like if you're going into an unpredictable space or

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<v Speaker 3>adventure or roller coaster, being willing and able to kind

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<v Speaker 3>of be okay with that processing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's that's a really powerful point.

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<v Speaker 3>And a lot of this, too, I think, is helping

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<v Speaker 3>folks get a sense of that, like to understand that's

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<v Speaker 3>that is a bit of what this process is, especially

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<v Speaker 3>the psychedelic part of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we may do other hiteing motalities that are

609
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<v Speaker 3>not quite as psychoactive, but you know how they can

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<v Speaker 3>kind of work together. I think it's something that that's

611
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<v Speaker 3>really powerful. So I love I love that idea. The

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<v Speaker 3>thing something I wanted to ask you about with that too,

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<v Speaker 3>is that you know, I was going through your blog

614
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<v Speaker 3>and looking at some other other other stuff that you've written.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, I'm glad that you're writing and and

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<v Speaker 2>that you noted that in.

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<v Speaker 3>Twenty twenty three years your your burning Man and ending message,

618
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<v Speaker 3>and I was that I was at burning Man last

619
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<v Speaker 3>year also, and the great burning Man flood right of

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<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty three has a very strange experience, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>but I appreciated you know that what you had written

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<v Speaker 3>about there too is like thinking about you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>said you kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of committed doing a sober burn for.

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<v Speaker 3>Twenty twenty three, and so I want to think a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit about that too, because like other things that

627
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<v Speaker 3>you wrote, you said you wanted to kind of be

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00:32:01.640 --> 00:32:03.319
<v Speaker 3>more in tune in on our signals of your body

629
00:32:03.440 --> 00:32:05.119
<v Speaker 3>that it was showing you and like if you're tired

630
00:32:05.160 --> 00:32:06.920
<v Speaker 3>of take a rest. You know, this is interest, It

631
00:32:06.960 --> 00:32:09.079
<v Speaker 3>is funny, I guess for me particularly this is interesting

632
00:32:09.079 --> 00:32:11.400
<v Speaker 3>because this is exactly how I went into twenty twenty three. Also,

633
00:32:11.480 --> 00:32:12.920
<v Speaker 3>and you know, I know we didn't know each other then,

634
00:32:13.200 --> 00:32:14.759
<v Speaker 3>but like that was also my like I'm gonna go

635
00:32:14.759 --> 00:32:16.599
<v Speaker 3>to Bernie Man this year, and like I don't need

636
00:32:16.599 --> 00:32:18.839
<v Speaker 3>to take psychedelics if they called me, sure, but like

637
00:32:18.880 --> 00:32:20.720
<v Speaker 3>they didn't and I didn't expect them to, and and

638
00:32:20.759 --> 00:32:22.319
<v Speaker 3>that was okay. You know, I did a bunch of

639
00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:25.759
<v Speaker 3>other I had some other great experiences, and I think

640
00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:27.200
<v Speaker 3>in part because of that, you know, but there was

641
00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:30.000
<v Speaker 3>this interesting piece. I'm curious, like how you even thought

642
00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:31.480
<v Speaker 3>about this too, right, because I know we're I guess

643
00:32:31.480 --> 00:32:33.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm asking because we're talking a lot about sadelics. But

644
00:32:33.240 --> 00:32:36.079
<v Speaker 3>then also like we don't always have to do that, right,

645
00:32:36.119 --> 00:32:37.920
<v Speaker 3>There can be other ways of kind of, as you.

646
00:32:37.920 --> 00:32:40.319
<v Speaker 2>Said, kind of getting to the getting to the quest

647
00:32:40.359 --> 00:32:40.759
<v Speaker 2>of enlightenment.

648
00:32:40.799 --> 00:32:42.799
<v Speaker 3>So I guess coming to your like your enlightenment a

649
00:32:42.799 --> 00:32:46.000
<v Speaker 3>piece too, I guess of you know, what was that?

650
00:32:46.079 --> 00:32:47.559
<v Speaker 3>What was that like for you to kind of say, Okay,

651
00:32:47.559 --> 00:32:50.720
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go into a typically like psychedelic space, I

652
00:32:50.759 --> 00:32:52.640
<v Speaker 3>mean Burning Man psychedelic if you're not in drugs anyway,

653
00:32:52.680 --> 00:32:56.160
<v Speaker 3>But you know what that what that process was like

654
00:32:56.160 --> 00:32:57.559
<v Speaker 3>for you, and how you how you kind of think

655
00:32:57.559 --> 00:33:00.480
<v Speaker 3>about how to listen to yourself. I guess thinking about

656
00:33:00.519 --> 00:33:02.599
<v Speaker 3>this process question too, right, like learning how to listen

657
00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:04.079
<v Speaker 3>to ourself, I feel like as part of that process.

658
00:33:04.119 --> 00:33:06.039
<v Speaker 3>But is that how that that tracks for you in

659
00:33:06.119 --> 00:33:08.079
<v Speaker 3>terms of your experiences?

660
00:33:08.440 --> 00:33:12.160
<v Speaker 1>Last year was my twelfth burning Man in a row. Right,

661
00:33:12.279 --> 00:33:14.519
<v Speaker 1>I got it, that's engaged at burning Man. I got

662
00:33:14.559 --> 00:33:18.240
<v Speaker 1>married at burning Man. I had my first LSD experience

663
00:33:18.279 --> 00:33:23.480
<v Speaker 1>at burning Man, So you know, it was committing to

664
00:33:23.559 --> 00:33:26.480
<v Speaker 1>going into a sober burn was something very new for me.

665
00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:30.400
<v Speaker 1>The year prior was when burning Men reopened to the

666
00:33:30.400 --> 00:33:34.279
<v Speaker 1>masses right after the Renegade, et cetera. And I remember

667
00:33:34.359 --> 00:33:38.759
<v Speaker 1>floating around burning Men disembodied. What I mean by that

668
00:33:38.839 --> 00:33:41.799
<v Speaker 1>is I was chasing, right, I was chasing after experience,

669
00:33:41.880 --> 00:33:44.559
<v Speaker 1>chasing this art car, this party, this event, so on

670
00:33:44.640 --> 00:33:47.640
<v Speaker 1>and so forth, and I wasn't being present. And even

671
00:33:47.680 --> 00:33:49.359
<v Speaker 1>though that was a really tough burning Man from an

672
00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:51.400
<v Speaker 1>environmental standpoint, I don't know if you were there, it

673
00:33:51.480 --> 00:33:53.400
<v Speaker 1>was really warm, there was a lot of yeah, the

674
00:33:53.480 --> 00:33:58.400
<v Speaker 1>roads were terrible, et cetera. What I ultimately remember is

675
00:33:58.480 --> 00:34:03.079
<v Speaker 1>not remembering experience, and that's because I was not present.

676
00:34:03.759 --> 00:34:08.400
<v Speaker 1>And so going into last year's Burning Men first, just

677
00:34:08.440 --> 00:34:11.519
<v Speaker 1>a caveat like I did a boga two days before

678
00:34:11.559 --> 00:34:14.960
<v Speaker 1>burning men started, So that was part of it. That's

679
00:34:15.000 --> 00:34:17.719
<v Speaker 1>a that's a powerful West African plant medicine. That's a

680
00:34:17.760 --> 00:34:22.400
<v Speaker 1>thirty six hour ceremony. That's a whole nother conversation. But

681
00:34:24.719 --> 00:34:27.519
<v Speaker 1>what I have been moving my life towards as a

682
00:34:27.519 --> 00:34:31.719
<v Speaker 1>whole is greater intentionality. Right. I often get asked by

683
00:34:32.480 --> 00:34:36.119
<v Speaker 1>you know, alumni that come through our program, like do

684
00:34:36.159 --> 00:34:39.280
<v Speaker 1>you drink anymore? Like what do you? What is it

685
00:34:39.280 --> 00:34:42.239
<v Speaker 1>okay for me to have a glass of wine? And

686
00:34:42.519 --> 00:34:45.239
<v Speaker 1>I share a story of how when I first started

687
00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:48.320
<v Speaker 1>to do this work, I was like, I'm going super healthy,

688
00:34:48.320 --> 00:34:52.159
<v Speaker 1>I'm swearing off everything. I went vegetarian, et cetera. And

689
00:34:52.199 --> 00:34:56.159
<v Speaker 1>then I recognized the instances where when I would have

690
00:34:56.199 --> 00:34:59.559
<v Speaker 1>a craving, I would immediately feel guilt and then there

691
00:34:59.559 --> 00:35:01.639
<v Speaker 1>would be a crown of shame. Right, oh, I'm not

692
00:35:01.679 --> 00:35:04.039
<v Speaker 1>doing this good enough, or I shouldn't even be craving

693
00:35:04.079 --> 00:35:08.840
<v Speaker 1>this thing, et cetera. And and then I I remember

694
00:35:08.960 --> 00:35:13.280
<v Speaker 1>Ramdas talking about this Ramdass spiritual teacher, and he shared

695
00:35:15.199 --> 00:35:20.079
<v Speaker 1>that for people that are quitting smoking, right, something to

696
00:35:20.159 --> 00:35:23.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm paraphrasing, He's like, you're not If you don't die

697
00:35:24.199 --> 00:35:29.639
<v Speaker 1>from the cigarette, you're gonna die from a tightness, you know. Yeah,

698
00:35:29.679 --> 00:35:32.079
<v Speaker 1>And so what I what I decided is I I'm

699
00:35:32.199 --> 00:35:34.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to bring intentionality. So I have a

700
00:35:34.239 --> 00:35:37.639
<v Speaker 1>glass of wine every now and then, but I always

701
00:35:37.679 --> 00:35:41.039
<v Speaker 1>but as I pay attention, as I bring into awareness,

702
00:35:41.320 --> 00:35:43.480
<v Speaker 1>what happens when I want the second glass of wine

703
00:35:44.039 --> 00:35:47.719
<v Speaker 1>or the third it's usually because I'm trying to escape something,

704
00:35:48.480 --> 00:35:51.599
<v Speaker 1>escape feeling something. You could call it relax I can

705
00:35:51.639 --> 00:35:54.880
<v Speaker 1>call it relaxing right after a heart after a long

706
00:35:54.960 --> 00:35:58.840
<v Speaker 1>day's work. But the reality is I'm could be meditating,

707
00:35:59.719 --> 00:36:01.960
<v Speaker 1>I could be reading a book, I could be present

708
00:36:02.039 --> 00:36:05.679
<v Speaker 1>with my experience. Instead I am wanting to not be

709
00:36:05.760 --> 00:36:10.400
<v Speaker 1>here right and and so going into Burning Men, I

710
00:36:10.440 --> 00:36:12.559
<v Speaker 1>was like, Okay, my intention is to really be here.

711
00:36:13.559 --> 00:36:16.679
<v Speaker 1>And the rain that happened actually really facilitated that. When

712
00:36:16.719 --> 00:36:19.920
<v Speaker 1>it started rating, I was like, this is really nice

713
00:36:20.559 --> 00:36:22.960
<v Speaker 1>because all I did is my wife and I were

714
00:36:23.119 --> 00:36:27.400
<v Speaker 1>in our airstream and we just camped and we enjoyed

715
00:36:27.400 --> 00:36:30.039
<v Speaker 1>the company of each other and our friends next door,

716
00:36:30.199 --> 00:36:33.280
<v Speaker 1>and it slowed everything down. I was like, oh, this

717
00:36:33.360 --> 00:36:36.239
<v Speaker 1>is what burning men can be when we slow our

718
00:36:36.280 --> 00:36:39.800
<v Speaker 1>lives down, right. Yeah, And there's a lesson in that.

719
00:36:39.719 --> 00:36:46.159
<v Speaker 2>Too totally that that was beautiful. I yeah, I I

720
00:36:46.199 --> 00:36:46.760
<v Speaker 2>feel the same.

721
00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:48.800
<v Speaker 3>It is that like there was there's something that's just

722
00:36:48.800 --> 00:36:51.360
<v Speaker 3>really important, you know about it was it was my

723
00:36:51.400 --> 00:36:53.920
<v Speaker 3>wife's first burn was twenty twenty three and so like,

724
00:36:53.960 --> 00:36:55.599
<v Speaker 3>and that was what a burn to start with, because

725
00:36:55.639 --> 00:36:59.039
<v Speaker 3>it's like two burning mans in one, right, But it's

726
00:36:59.079 --> 00:37:02.000
<v Speaker 3>like that that it was. I think it's powerful for

727
00:37:02.000 --> 00:37:03.440
<v Speaker 3>a number of reasons. But I think that was that's

728
00:37:03.480 --> 00:37:06.000
<v Speaker 3>exactly right too, where it's like everything had to shut

729
00:37:06.000 --> 00:37:07.599
<v Speaker 3>down and actually like for us to have found that

730
00:37:07.599 --> 00:37:08.679
<v Speaker 3>because we were we were in a camp of one

731
00:37:08.760 --> 00:37:10.760
<v Speaker 3>hundred and fifty people and that that's a lot of people.

732
00:37:12.000 --> 00:37:13.639
<v Speaker 3>You know, it's like you won't even see everybody in

733
00:37:13.679 --> 00:37:15.760
<v Speaker 3>your camp. But then when when the rains came, like

734
00:37:15.800 --> 00:37:17.920
<v Speaker 3>and we literally couldn't go anywhere, you know, we had

735
00:37:17.960 --> 00:37:19.920
<v Speaker 3>we hadn't yet invented our our trash bag shoes.

736
00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:21.320
<v Speaker 2>You know, that came came the next day.

737
00:37:22.239 --> 00:37:24.719
<v Speaker 3>You know, there was something about being all together right,

738
00:37:24.880 --> 00:37:26.960
<v Speaker 3>and that it was also we don't know what's gonna happen,

739
00:37:27.239 --> 00:37:29.840
<v Speaker 3>and then you know, so it's an element unpredictability because

740
00:37:29.880 --> 00:37:31.159
<v Speaker 3>we all did not bring up a bunch of rain

741
00:37:31.199 --> 00:37:35.760
<v Speaker 3>ponchos and galoshes, you know. But then also we were

742
00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:37.800
<v Speaker 3>camping together to your point, and there was there was

743
00:37:37.880 --> 00:37:40.079
<v Speaker 3>it was this weird point of like, yeah, this is

744
00:37:40.079 --> 00:37:42.079
<v Speaker 3>actually what this could and should be also right, like

745
00:37:42.119 --> 00:37:44.000
<v Speaker 3>that we can all be here together in this space

746
00:37:44.039 --> 00:37:45.920
<v Speaker 3>and and and I think all of us hadn't realized

747
00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:46.400
<v Speaker 3>we were.

748
00:37:46.280 --> 00:37:48.000
<v Speaker 2>Not being intentional about spending time together.

749
00:37:48.320 --> 00:37:48.480
<v Speaker 1>You know.

750
00:37:48.519 --> 00:37:49.840
<v Speaker 3>It's like I wanna go run off with awsto go

751
00:37:49.880 --> 00:37:51.639
<v Speaker 3>run out with Adam. I'll run off with Lou over here,

752
00:37:51.679 --> 00:37:53.400
<v Speaker 3>like who we can go see. It was like always

753
00:37:53.440 --> 00:37:57.159
<v Speaker 3>about getting out versus like being in. And there's something

754
00:37:57.199 --> 00:37:59.719
<v Speaker 3>that was very i don't know, cathartic about like stay

755
00:37:59.719 --> 00:38:02.360
<v Speaker 3>put stay here now totally.

756
00:38:02.480 --> 00:38:05.320
<v Speaker 1>You know. One of the the important things that we

757
00:38:05.400 --> 00:38:07.760
<v Speaker 1>explore maybe that you could say the underpinning of what

758
00:38:08.199 --> 00:38:13.079
<v Speaker 1>ceremonia is is this idea of connection. Okay, and yeah

759
00:38:13.119 --> 00:38:14.719
<v Speaker 1>I was. I was just with Esther Perel. Do you

760
00:38:14.760 --> 00:38:15.679
<v Speaker 1>know what that is? Oh?

761
00:38:15.760 --> 00:38:16.280
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah.

762
00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:18.639
<v Speaker 1>She's considered one of the top relationship psychologists in the

763
00:38:18.679 --> 00:38:22.159
<v Speaker 1>world and a New York Times bestselling author on relationships,

764
00:38:22.559 --> 00:38:26.000
<v Speaker 1>and she she's like, she asked the question, what's the

765
00:38:26.079 --> 00:38:28.039
<v Speaker 1>last thing you stroke at night and the first thing

766
00:38:28.079 --> 00:38:32.079
<v Speaker 1>you caressed in the morning, And it's your phone, you know.

767
00:38:32.440 --> 00:38:35.480
<v Speaker 1>And the crazy thing is like, the people that we

768
00:38:35.559 --> 00:38:39.800
<v Speaker 1>love the most are often the ones that we most ignore. Right.

769
00:38:40.360 --> 00:38:43.360
<v Speaker 1>And and one of the big revelations that people often

770
00:38:43.440 --> 00:38:47.159
<v Speaker 1>have coming out of a ceremonia or treat is how

771
00:38:47.199 --> 00:38:53.760
<v Speaker 1>can I be experience connection? Here's the thing. Everybody creeps connection, everybody,

772
00:38:54.000 --> 00:38:57.280
<v Speaker 1>whether you are a child or you're an elderly person. Right,

773
00:38:57.840 --> 00:38:59.800
<v Speaker 1>But a lot of people don't actually know what can

774
00:39:00.039 --> 00:39:04.119
<v Speaker 1>a truly feels like if I were to ask ten

775
00:39:04.159 --> 00:39:07.239
<v Speaker 1>people on the street, how are you? What's the answers?

776
00:39:07.280 --> 00:39:13.039
<v Speaker 1>I would get okay, fine, good, okay, great, And they

777
00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:15.760
<v Speaker 1>could be miserable, they could be depressed, be angry, and

778
00:39:15.800 --> 00:39:19.039
<v Speaker 1>they'll still say fine, right yeah, And it's and it's

779
00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:26.119
<v Speaker 1>there's this unavailability of self when we're often interacting with

780
00:39:26.159 --> 00:39:27.800
<v Speaker 1>people out in the world, and part of that comes

781
00:39:27.840 --> 00:39:32.119
<v Speaker 1>from our own unavailability or misattainment of our own selves.

782
00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:32.599
<v Speaker 2>Right.

783
00:39:33.800 --> 00:39:37.880
<v Speaker 1>Developing connection begins with awareness. You can only consciously change

784
00:39:38.199 --> 00:39:41.440
<v Speaker 1>what you're aware of, because if you didn't have self awareness,

785
00:39:41.440 --> 00:39:44.719
<v Speaker 1>if you didn't have mindfulness, fine is an appropriate answer

786
00:39:44.960 --> 00:39:47.960
<v Speaker 1>because fine is basically blah, it's neutral, there's nothing, there's

787
00:39:48.239 --> 00:39:49.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't know about you. I've never felt fine one

788
00:39:49.840 --> 00:39:52.199
<v Speaker 1>moment in my life. I've been pissed off, I've been depressed,

789
00:39:52.199 --> 00:39:55.800
<v Speaker 1>I've been joyous and comedic. But what's fine?

790
00:39:56.039 --> 00:39:56.239
<v Speaker 2>Right?

791
00:39:57.639 --> 00:40:02.880
<v Speaker 1>And so by first developing awareness, yes, and then developing

792
00:40:02.960 --> 00:40:07.039
<v Speaker 1>the aspects of connection, which are being curious, being compassionate

793
00:40:07.280 --> 00:40:10.760
<v Speaker 1>in presence with each other. Do you notice Well, you're

794
00:40:10.760 --> 00:40:13.480
<v Speaker 1>an anthropologist, so which is which is form of science? Right?

795
00:40:14.159 --> 00:40:17.239
<v Speaker 1>Do you notice like if you're speaking with somebody in

796
00:40:17.280 --> 00:40:20.119
<v Speaker 1>your field and they're telling a story of the past,

797
00:40:20.440 --> 00:40:22.800
<v Speaker 1>let's say, telling a story of someone you don't even know,

798
00:40:24.000 --> 00:40:26.159
<v Speaker 1>do you ever have that experience of like your your

799
00:40:26.199 --> 00:40:28.679
<v Speaker 1>awareness is zooming out. You're just like they're becoming a

800
00:40:28.719 --> 00:40:30.840
<v Speaker 1>little seback and you're just zoning out. You know what

801
00:40:30.840 --> 00:40:31.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about?

802
00:40:31.719 --> 00:40:36.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's away you know the planet exactly.

803
00:40:36.440 --> 00:40:40.760
<v Speaker 1>That's because you are no longer feeling yourself. Because you're

804
00:40:40.800 --> 00:40:43.760
<v Speaker 1>not feeling them, it's hard to relate to them. But

805
00:40:43.800 --> 00:40:46.840
<v Speaker 1>if I were to share with you, like I'm you know,

806
00:40:46.960 --> 00:40:50.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling this ticklishness in my body right now, and

807
00:40:51.280 --> 00:40:54.559
<v Speaker 1>there's this rising energy from my heart to my throat

808
00:40:54.559 --> 00:40:58.320
<v Speaker 1>and it feels like inspiration. And I'm just relating to

809
00:40:58.360 --> 00:41:00.599
<v Speaker 1>you what it's like to be me right now. That's

810
00:41:00.639 --> 00:41:05.159
<v Speaker 1>the basis of connection because we're here together, you in

811
00:41:05.239 --> 00:41:09.159
<v Speaker 1>me describing that. I imagine you're feeling me more in this moment,

812
00:41:09.400 --> 00:41:12.000
<v Speaker 1>right And if I hear from you the impact of that,

813
00:41:12.079 --> 00:41:16.880
<v Speaker 1>like how you feel like, oh, suddenly we have this reciprocity.

814
00:41:16.960 --> 00:41:20.679
<v Speaker 1>It's something we're really missing in our modern world. Connection.

815
00:41:21.800 --> 00:41:25.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think that's a beautiful point. And I think

816
00:41:25.840 --> 00:41:28.440
<v Speaker 3>you're also right, you know that there is there's so

817
00:41:28.519 --> 00:41:31.400
<v Speaker 3>much that we're looking for, right And even like you know,

818
00:41:31.639 --> 00:41:34.920
<v Speaker 3>as you kind of were talking about how you were

819
00:41:35.440 --> 00:41:37.880
<v Speaker 3>reflecting on like Bernie Man twenty twenty two versus twenty three,

820
00:41:37.960 --> 00:41:39.639
<v Speaker 3>it's like there's this feeling of chasing, right or always

821
00:41:39.719 --> 00:41:41.519
<v Speaker 3>kind of rushing after something also, and like, I think

822
00:41:41.519 --> 00:41:44.000
<v Speaker 3>that that reflects this idea too, that we often feel

823
00:41:44.039 --> 00:41:48.119
<v Speaker 3>that profound disconnection, right, and that I think it's echoed

824
00:41:48.320 --> 00:41:50.639
<v Speaker 3>in this idea of trying to always chase something. And

825
00:41:50.960 --> 00:41:53.400
<v Speaker 3>you know, that's where the idea fomo comes comes from too,

826
00:41:53.400 --> 00:41:56.440
<v Speaker 3>I think, you know, and like, but I think it's

827
00:41:56.679 --> 00:42:00.199
<v Speaker 3>a profound idea for us to even think about. As

828
00:42:00.199 --> 00:42:01.639
<v Speaker 3>we describe and even as you said that, you think

829
00:42:01.639 --> 00:42:03.039
<v Speaker 3>of this energy kind of cold comeing up fro your

830
00:42:03.039 --> 00:42:04.719
<v Speaker 3>heart tooth throat as this like this, you know, this

831
00:42:04.800 --> 00:42:07.440
<v Speaker 3>feeling of of inspiration and excitement.

832
00:42:07.440 --> 00:42:09.360
<v Speaker 2>It's like immediately is like you know, beginning to.

833
00:42:10.079 --> 00:42:13.079
<v Speaker 3>You know, empacthtically trying to feel that that that vibe too,

834
00:42:13.119 --> 00:42:14.599
<v Speaker 3>and it's like that, actually that feels great, you know.

835
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<v Speaker 3>Or even if you if you had said, like I

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<v Speaker 3>feel super weird or awkward and unhappy right now our stuff,

837
00:42:18.400 --> 00:42:20.519
<v Speaker 3>I could say, well, okay, you know, like I'd say, okay,

838
00:42:20.559 --> 00:42:21.199
<v Speaker 3>what does that feel like?

839
00:42:21.360 --> 00:42:22.760
<v Speaker 2>How do I feel? How do I feel that as well?

840
00:42:22.800 --> 00:42:22.960
<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>And so it is interesting too, it's like we almost

842
00:42:25.320 --> 00:42:27.079
<v Speaker 3>we do a disservice to ourselves often to just say

843
00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:32.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm fine right like on it's it's you know, leaving

844
00:42:32.320 --> 00:42:33.880
<v Speaker 3>that kind of wall of this connection up and like

845
00:42:33.920 --> 00:42:36.079
<v Speaker 3>both between I think two or more people, but then

846
00:42:36.079 --> 00:42:39.559
<v Speaker 3>also between self, you know, and and and what you're expressing, right,

847
00:42:39.559 --> 00:42:41.679
<v Speaker 3>because it's often like that this is not even how

848
00:42:41.719 --> 00:42:43.599
<v Speaker 3>I feel right, because you're right. I've never just been like, oh,

849
00:42:43.760 --> 00:42:45.599
<v Speaker 3>I feel I feel five out of ten right now.

850
00:42:45.920 --> 00:42:46.079
<v Speaker 2>You know.

851
00:42:46.159 --> 00:42:48.679
<v Speaker 3>It's like that's not really a very common thing that

852
00:42:48.760 --> 00:42:51.360
<v Speaker 3>we do, but we kind of have this blase answer

853
00:42:51.960 --> 00:42:55.280
<v Speaker 3>because on the other side, too, no one's on the

854
00:42:55.280 --> 00:42:57.320
<v Speaker 3>street actually asking how you're doing right, you know. And

855
00:42:57.320 --> 00:42:59.239
<v Speaker 3>it's this funny point, like I don't about I always

856
00:42:59.239 --> 00:43:00.920
<v Speaker 3>feel a tempted to tell when actually how I do feel.

857
00:43:00.960 --> 00:43:03.159
<v Speaker 3>You know, I'm having a terrible day, but like you,

858
00:43:03.320 --> 00:43:05.480
<v Speaker 3>you want to give them something beside the fine, you know,

859
00:43:05.559 --> 00:43:07.119
<v Speaker 3>when when if you if you're passing with someone, like

860
00:43:07.159 --> 00:43:08.159
<v Speaker 3>you know, I'm not going to make you stop and

861
00:43:08.199 --> 00:43:10.440
<v Speaker 3>talk to me for thirty minutes about my day necessarily,

862
00:43:10.519 --> 00:43:11.880
<v Speaker 3>but like you want to be you want to have

863
00:43:11.920 --> 00:43:13.920
<v Speaker 3>a more moment of human connection as part of that too.

864
00:43:13.960 --> 00:43:16.880
<v Speaker 3>And I think that there's like, uh, I see craving

865
00:43:16.920 --> 00:43:18.119
<v Speaker 3>for that a lot, you know, and in both in

866
00:43:18.159 --> 00:43:19.800
<v Speaker 3>the clients that I work for. But then then I'll

867
00:43:20.079 --> 00:43:22.079
<v Speaker 3>work with but then also you know, yeah again talking

868
00:43:22.119 --> 00:43:25.079
<v Speaker 3>to a friend on the street, this this uh, this need,

869
00:43:25.079 --> 00:43:28.639
<v Speaker 3>and so I think there's there's something important there that

870
00:43:29.119 --> 00:43:31.079
<v Speaker 3>I'm excited to hear the kind of ceremony of finds

871
00:43:31.280 --> 00:43:32.880
<v Speaker 3>like and even g like that this is.

872
00:43:32.840 --> 00:43:34.280
<v Speaker 2>Like an area of intentionality.

873
00:43:34.360 --> 00:43:36.199
<v Speaker 3>Is that like how do we bring that connectivity back

874
00:43:36.880 --> 00:43:38.960
<v Speaker 3>in so many it seems like of these modalities too,

875
00:43:38.960 --> 00:43:40.880
<v Speaker 3>because I was excited to see that you have Dick

876
00:43:40.880 --> 00:43:43.280
<v Speaker 3>Schwartz from from you know, Integrated Family Systems will be

877
00:43:43.320 --> 00:43:45.320
<v Speaker 3>on your podcast soon and like, and I think that's

878
00:43:45.360 --> 00:43:48.400
<v Speaker 3>there's been such a really interesting uh form of psychotherapy

879
00:43:48.400 --> 00:43:50.880
<v Speaker 3>that's come out too in terms of like rethinking about

880
00:43:51.519 --> 00:43:53.599
<v Speaker 3>different parts of oneself as integrating into a whole. But

881
00:43:53.639 --> 00:43:55.360
<v Speaker 3>like there's different family members, you know, or kind of

882
00:43:55.360 --> 00:43:58.840
<v Speaker 3>playing different roles, and you know, I think that like

883
00:43:59.000 --> 00:44:00.880
<v Speaker 3>there's these again to come back to your kind of

884
00:44:00.920 --> 00:44:03.280
<v Speaker 3>enlightenment models to think with two where it's like this

885
00:44:03.360 --> 00:44:06.519
<v Speaker 3>idea of connectivity and wholeness, like are such these important

886
00:44:06.519 --> 00:44:08.280
<v Speaker 3>parts that we.

887
00:44:08.239 --> 00:44:09.199
<v Speaker 2>Can we can bring in?

888
00:44:09.239 --> 00:44:12.039
<v Speaker 3>And so I guess, like how can I think about

889
00:44:12.039 --> 00:44:15.519
<v Speaker 3>connectivity across like it is of wholeness, nothingness, emptiness and

890
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:17.719
<v Speaker 3>and oneness, Like does does connectivity connect to the three

891
00:44:17.760 --> 00:44:18.239
<v Speaker 3>of them together?

892
00:44:18.280 --> 00:44:21.599
<v Speaker 2>Do do I feel all them kind of you know,

893
00:44:21.679 --> 00:44:23.199
<v Speaker 2>bringing bringing me through all of them?

894
00:44:23.199 --> 00:44:24.519
<v Speaker 3>Like I'm trying to think about how I can put

895
00:44:24.599 --> 00:44:27.840
<v Speaker 3>connected connectedness with with those other elements.

896
00:44:29.000 --> 00:44:35.079
<v Speaker 1>Yes. Absolutely so. We have a window next to our

897
00:44:35.079 --> 00:44:37.920
<v Speaker 1>workshop room and it's full of post its, okay, And

898
00:44:38.000 --> 00:44:41.239
<v Speaker 1>in these post its we have our participants, right, a

899
00:44:41.360 --> 00:44:46.119
<v Speaker 1>memorable line that they heard in our in our integration

900
00:44:46.280 --> 00:44:50.000
<v Speaker 1>process in the workshops, et cetera. And their lines like

901
00:44:50.519 --> 00:44:55.400
<v Speaker 1>of course or you know, uh, I love myself again

902
00:44:55.519 --> 00:44:57.920
<v Speaker 1>or something like that. But a line that keeps recurring

903
00:44:58.559 --> 00:45:03.000
<v Speaker 1>in our journey is it's okay to not be okaymm

904
00:45:03.639 --> 00:45:06.760
<v Speaker 1>think about that. It's okay to not be okay. When

905
00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:10.079
<v Speaker 1>someone says I'm fine, what's happening is there's a blockage

906
00:45:10.119 --> 00:45:13.559
<v Speaker 1>to their vulnerability, right, because in that moment, I might

907
00:45:13.599 --> 00:45:16.840
<v Speaker 1>not feel safe to tell you that I'm having a

908
00:45:16.840 --> 00:45:20.519
<v Speaker 1>really shitty day, right, and I feel and I've been

909
00:45:20.559 --> 00:45:22.719
<v Speaker 1>struggling with depression and I've been you know, whatever it

910
00:45:22.800 --> 00:45:28.320
<v Speaker 1>is for that individual, right, And so why is it

911
00:45:28.440 --> 00:45:32.119
<v Speaker 1>hard for me to share that? Well, you're an anthropologist.

912
00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:36.000
<v Speaker 1>Maybe the reason why is if I revealed to you

913
00:45:36.199 --> 00:45:40.360
<v Speaker 1>that I'm vulnerable, aka, I'm revealing my neck to you,

914
00:45:40.360 --> 00:45:42.960
<v Speaker 1>you might be a predator that's going to kill me. Right.

915
00:45:43.039 --> 00:45:47.599
<v Speaker 1>That's an evolutionary, like, that's some evolution that happened, right,

916
00:45:48.559 --> 00:45:51.880
<v Speaker 1>And so much of the path of adulting is to

917
00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:55.519
<v Speaker 1>be okay, knowing that you're going to be okay, right,

918
00:45:56.159 --> 00:46:00.679
<v Speaker 1>that the safety that we seek outside is actually we're

919
00:46:00.760 --> 00:46:06.639
<v Speaker 1>constantly trying to fill an infinitely deep black hole inside

920
00:46:07.079 --> 00:46:09.639
<v Speaker 1>because this because we get to find the safety that

921
00:46:09.679 --> 00:46:15.199
<v Speaker 1>we feel inwards. The first emotional psychologist, Plectrick, he made

922
00:46:15.199 --> 00:46:18.599
<v Speaker 1>this beautiful, colorful emotional wheel. I used to have it

923
00:46:18.639 --> 00:46:20.840
<v Speaker 1>on my as a refrigerator magnet. If you've seen it, it

924
00:46:20.840 --> 00:46:25.880
<v Speaker 1>says like here the six primary emotions joy, sadness, or disgusting, right,

925
00:46:25.920 --> 00:46:29.639
<v Speaker 1>and then like secondary emotions, et cetera. And he says

926
00:46:29.639 --> 00:46:34.559
<v Speaker 1>that love is equal to safety plus joy. Think about

927
00:46:34.599 --> 00:46:37.679
<v Speaker 1>that for a moment, right, safety plus joy. In order

928
00:46:37.760 --> 00:46:40.519
<v Speaker 1>for you to feel love, you need to feel safe.

929
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:44.039
<v Speaker 1>And it makes sense. All of life seeks to create life.

930
00:46:44.199 --> 00:46:46.880
<v Speaker 1>In order for life to evolve, it needs to feel safe.

931
00:46:46.920 --> 00:46:50.480
<v Speaker 1>Like if you watch a dog taking a shit, that

932
00:46:50.519 --> 00:46:53.400
<v Speaker 1>dog is looking every which way for predators. It's the

933
00:46:53.480 --> 00:46:57.159
<v Speaker 1>most vulnerable moment for that dog, right, and this and

934
00:46:57.320 --> 00:47:01.079
<v Speaker 1>we're not that much different except we hide behind and

935
00:47:01.119 --> 00:47:04.840
<v Speaker 1>so so much of the pathway to connection is connecting

936
00:47:04.880 --> 00:47:09.159
<v Speaker 1>with ourselves, right, And the first step again is awareness,

937
00:47:09.199 --> 00:47:15.559
<v Speaker 1>but the second step is attention. Attention is power. Where

938
00:47:15.599 --> 00:47:17.760
<v Speaker 1>you put your attention and how you command other people's

939
00:47:17.760 --> 00:47:21.920
<v Speaker 1>attention is your power. Right. And if if there is

940
00:47:21.960 --> 00:47:23.960
<v Speaker 1>a trigger that you have where you would normally fight,

941
00:47:24.000 --> 00:47:27.840
<v Speaker 1>flight or freeze, imagine what you would be available to

942
00:47:27.840 --> 00:47:29.679
<v Speaker 1>you if you were able to put that attention on

943
00:47:29.719 --> 00:47:33.719
<v Speaker 1>yourself with loving kindness. So rom Dos tells the story

944
00:47:34.000 --> 00:47:37.599
<v Speaker 1>of coming back to New York City after being in

945
00:47:37.599 --> 00:47:41.280
<v Speaker 1>India with his guru Maharaji. And he's walking around New

946
00:47:41.360 --> 00:47:43.800
<v Speaker 1>York barefoot in all white robe. He's got a long

947
00:47:44.199 --> 00:47:48.039
<v Speaker 1>you know, gray beard, right, And and he gets in

948
00:47:48.079 --> 00:47:50.760
<v Speaker 1>a car with his father, in a taxi with his father,

949
00:47:50.920 --> 00:47:52.719
<v Speaker 1>and then in the back seat and his father looks

950
00:47:52.760 --> 00:47:57.119
<v Speaker 1>at him, He's like, Richard, when are you going to

951
00:47:57.159 --> 00:48:01.719
<v Speaker 1>get a job? And in that moment, he gets triggered

952
00:48:02.079 --> 00:48:04.280
<v Speaker 1>and he and then he laughs at himself. He says

953
00:48:04.559 --> 00:48:08.239
<v Speaker 1>to himself in his own mind, oh, oh, rom Dous,

954
00:48:08.280 --> 00:48:11.719
<v Speaker 1>you think you're so enlightened, right, try spending an evening

955
00:48:11.800 --> 00:48:17.519
<v Speaker 1>with your family. I relate that story because these triggers

956
00:48:17.639 --> 00:48:21.960
<v Speaker 1>are opportunities for us to see the parts of ourselves

957
00:48:22.039 --> 00:48:26.440
<v Speaker 1>that we don't want to see, and wholeness is about

958
00:48:26.840 --> 00:48:30.400
<v Speaker 1>loving those parts, giving ourselves love for those parts instead

959
00:48:30.400 --> 00:48:32.000
<v Speaker 1>of seeking that externally.

960
00:48:32.480 --> 00:48:36.079
<v Speaker 3>Right, Yeah, I think that that's Yeah, that makes me

961
00:48:36.119 --> 00:48:40.119
<v Speaker 3>think that there is there's actould a blog post that

962
00:48:40.119 --> 00:48:42.480
<v Speaker 3>you've written also that that got that really hit me too,

963
00:48:42.480 --> 00:48:44.960
<v Speaker 3>where you were talking about the learning to embrace anger

964
00:48:44.960 --> 00:48:47.559
<v Speaker 3>actually as a potential like not not to be angry.

965
00:48:47.360 --> 00:48:49.400
<v Speaker 2>But just like to It's similar to the idea that

966
00:48:49.400 --> 00:48:49.960
<v Speaker 2>we may.

967
00:48:49.880 --> 00:48:51.679
<v Speaker 3>Find parts of ourselves that we don't want to embrace

968
00:48:51.960 --> 00:48:54.000
<v Speaker 3>or bring up right, but then the right kind of

969
00:48:54.039 --> 00:48:55.840
<v Speaker 3>therapy or medicine are there bodies can bring us there

970
00:48:55.880 --> 00:48:57.679
<v Speaker 3>right and kind of help us come back to them.

971
00:48:58.079 --> 00:48:59.960
<v Speaker 3>And in this post you were talking about this this idea,

972
00:49:00.119 --> 00:49:03.920
<v Speaker 3>like this interesting kind of use of anger in terms

973
00:49:03.960 --> 00:49:05.559
<v Speaker 3>of like we're able to have a kind of practice

974
00:49:05.559 --> 00:49:07.639
<v Speaker 3>like you're working with with three other folks I think

975
00:49:08.079 --> 00:49:10.480
<v Speaker 3>you're and your partner and then like figuring out what

976
00:49:10.480 --> 00:49:12.239
<v Speaker 3>it meant to like kind of talk angrily like you like,

977
00:49:12.280 --> 00:49:13.920
<v Speaker 3>And part of it was not to be mad, but

978
00:49:14.039 --> 00:49:16.440
<v Speaker 3>just like to say that we hide parts of ourselves

979
00:49:16.440 --> 00:49:18.360
<v Speaker 3>that we that we think are ugly of ourselves, right,

980
00:49:18.400 --> 00:49:20.159
<v Speaker 3>and anger can often be one of those which is

981
00:49:20.199 --> 00:49:22.800
<v Speaker 3>interesting and obviously in a challenging space because it's like

982
00:49:23.360 --> 00:49:25.079
<v Speaker 3>I don't want either want to be aggressive or be

983
00:49:25.119 --> 00:49:27.360
<v Speaker 3>seen as angry or whatever it is for to other people,

984
00:49:27.440 --> 00:49:31.400
<v Speaker 3>especially to our most loved ones. But I'm curious like

985
00:49:31.719 --> 00:49:34.280
<v Speaker 3>about that too, right, And that because something that you

986
00:49:34.320 --> 00:49:36.199
<v Speaker 3>said that was really really profound in there in one

987
00:49:36.199 --> 00:49:39.760
<v Speaker 3>of your fightings too, is that like, only by not

988
00:49:39.800 --> 00:49:41.880
<v Speaker 3>wanting to share that part of yourself or that pathway

989
00:49:41.920 --> 00:49:44.079
<v Speaker 3>of expression that you ultimately then we're not taking care

990
00:49:44.079 --> 00:49:46.679
<v Speaker 3>of yourself or your relationship, right because by by hiding

991
00:49:46.679 --> 00:49:49.000
<v Speaker 3>a part of yourself or like basically disintegrating or keeping

992
00:49:49.000 --> 00:49:52.000
<v Speaker 3>something that we thought was ugly out didn't help us.

993
00:49:52.039 --> 00:49:54.360
<v Speaker 3>And this is a really really powerful thing just to

994
00:49:54.400 --> 00:49:58.239
<v Speaker 3>even think about again, in like the broader conversation of

995
00:49:58.679 --> 00:50:01.199
<v Speaker 3>the integrative practice, right for kind of bringing ourselves to

996
00:50:01.239 --> 00:50:05.360
<v Speaker 3>be more whole. That we can take a psychoedely Liken therapeuticapath,

997
00:50:05.400 --> 00:50:08.559
<v Speaker 3>we can also take a like, let's practice expressing anger

998
00:50:08.599 --> 00:50:12.360
<v Speaker 3>healthily right in a certain way. So I'm curious to

999
00:50:12.400 --> 00:50:14.599
<v Speaker 3>kind of get your experience there to it, and like

1000
00:50:15.480 --> 00:50:17.320
<v Speaker 3>helpfulks kind of walk through that idea too. Of like that,

1001
00:50:17.320 --> 00:50:18.800
<v Speaker 3>we can also we can take an emotion that we

1002
00:50:18.840 --> 00:50:21.159
<v Speaker 3>don't think, we think it's ugly, right, and recognize by

1003
00:50:21.199 --> 00:50:23.440
<v Speaker 3>doing that if we try to shine it away, we're

1004
00:50:23.440 --> 00:50:26.920
<v Speaker 3>actually blocking something else important about ourselves in our relationships.

1005
00:50:27.559 --> 00:50:31.760
<v Speaker 1>Totally. The keyword that you use there is healthily because

1006
00:50:31.880 --> 00:50:35.519
<v Speaker 1>anger is an emotion. Anger actually, as we're communicating, is

1007
00:50:35.519 --> 00:50:38.440
<v Speaker 1>a word. Yea. It's a word and words vocabulary or

1008
00:50:38.480 --> 00:50:42.400
<v Speaker 1>frameworks for trying to communicate an idea. Right, But if

1009
00:50:42.440 --> 00:50:45.239
<v Speaker 1>you look at what's underneath the idea, the emotion, the

1010
00:50:45.239 --> 00:50:48.960
<v Speaker 1>feeling of anger, imagine that that is an energy that's

1011
00:50:49.119 --> 00:50:52.480
<v Speaker 1>trapped in your body. Okay, and anger can come out

1012
00:50:52.719 --> 00:50:56.800
<v Speaker 1>explosively or it can come out in microaggressions. And I

1013
00:50:56.840 --> 00:51:01.400
<v Speaker 1>was certainly the latter. I remember with my wife there

1014
00:51:01.400 --> 00:51:07.039
<v Speaker 1>were a string of days where I was getting more

1015
00:51:07.079 --> 00:51:10.440
<v Speaker 1>and more upset at having an expectation of like, Okay,

1016
00:51:10.440 --> 00:51:12.800
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna get out the door at six pm. I

1017
00:51:12.840 --> 00:51:14.840
<v Speaker 1>don't know how many guys have had this experience. We're

1018
00:51:14.840 --> 00:51:17.599
<v Speaker 1>gonna get out the door at six pm at six ten, Oh,

1019
00:51:17.639 --> 00:51:20.760
<v Speaker 1>I'll just be another five minutes, six twenty, just another

1020
00:51:20.800 --> 00:51:23.239
<v Speaker 1>five minutes. I was like, that was fifteen minutes ago.

1021
00:51:23.719 --> 00:51:26.599
<v Speaker 1>She didn't know that. And then I kept my mouth shut.

1022
00:51:26.639 --> 00:51:28.239
<v Speaker 1>I kept my mouth shut to keep the peace, keep

1023
00:51:28.239 --> 00:51:30.000
<v Speaker 1>the peace, and you know, partially because maybe I just

1024
00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:34.159
<v Speaker 1>want to get laid that night. I don't know, dea so.

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00:51:34.239 --> 00:51:38.800
<v Speaker 1>But the next day I remember like observing myself, I'd

1026
00:51:38.800 --> 00:51:42.280
<v Speaker 1>be like, hey, hey, babe, did you wash the dishes?

1027
00:51:42.599 --> 00:51:44.480
<v Speaker 1>I knew full well that she didn't wash the dishes

1028
00:51:45.199 --> 00:51:47.440
<v Speaker 1>and she had committed to, right, did you let it

1029
00:51:47.559 --> 00:51:49.159
<v Speaker 1>let out the dog? I knew full well she didn't,

1030
00:51:49.400 --> 00:51:54.800
<v Speaker 1>and I was merely saying it to generate guilt in her. Right.

1031
00:51:55.159 --> 00:51:59.360
<v Speaker 1>That's a microaggression. And and you know, I've related this story.

1032
00:52:00.079 --> 00:52:02.519
<v Speaker 1>I was on a podcast with a half million downloads

1033
00:52:02.519 --> 00:52:04.760
<v Speaker 1>where I was sharing a letter that I wrote around

1034
00:52:04.760 --> 00:52:08.199
<v Speaker 1>this story. And it's like so many people could relate,

1035
00:52:08.239 --> 00:52:14.000
<v Speaker 1>because whatever your flavor of discharging that energy is, it

1036
00:52:14.039 --> 00:52:16.920
<v Speaker 1>either comes out in a conscious way or an unconscious way,

1037
00:52:17.719 --> 00:52:20.239
<v Speaker 1>or it doesn't come out. And that's even worse because

1038
00:52:20.280 --> 00:52:22.679
<v Speaker 1>when it doesn't come out, let's say anger that we

1039
00:52:22.719 --> 00:52:25.679
<v Speaker 1>have towards our parents, right, And let's say that's something

1040
00:52:25.679 --> 00:52:27.880
<v Speaker 1>that gets trapped for a really long time, that gets

1041
00:52:27.880 --> 00:52:31.000
<v Speaker 1>trapped in our bodies, and that energy that gets trapped

1042
00:52:31.000 --> 00:52:33.920
<v Speaker 1>in our bodies. There's great science, a book called Body

1043
00:52:33.960 --> 00:52:38.639
<v Speaker 1>Keeps the Score that shows that that trapped energy can

1044
00:52:38.719 --> 00:52:44.199
<v Speaker 1>lead to ill health, to cancer, to heart attacks, to sickness,

1045
00:52:44.199 --> 00:52:50.719
<v Speaker 1>to disease, to the degradation of our immune system. Right now,

1046
00:52:51.000 --> 00:52:53.840
<v Speaker 1>there's a healthy way to communicate anger, and I'll do

1047
00:52:53.880 --> 00:52:58.800
<v Speaker 1>it for you right now. Ready, Hey, Adam, I'm feeling

1048
00:52:58.880 --> 00:53:03.920
<v Speaker 1>anger right now, and I have this need to feel

1049
00:53:04.679 --> 00:53:11.960
<v Speaker 1>seen and heard and honored. And when I experienced getting

1050
00:53:12.159 --> 00:53:16.199
<v Speaker 1>cut off or interrupted by you, then I just I

1051
00:53:16.280 --> 00:53:21.320
<v Speaker 1>felt like minimized. And my request is that we slow

1052
00:53:21.360 --> 00:53:24.360
<v Speaker 1>down our conversation and acknowledge what each of us says.

1053
00:53:24.719 --> 00:53:26.519
<v Speaker 1>By the way, this is hypothetical, You've been doing great.

1054
00:53:26.840 --> 00:53:32.679
<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, yeah, you know, like that's a form

1055
00:53:32.840 --> 00:53:34.400
<v Speaker 1>of healthily sharing anchor.

1056
00:53:34.920 --> 00:53:39.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, that's that's really important too, because it's oftentimes

1057
00:53:39.320 --> 00:53:41.360
<v Speaker 3>we have, you know, that that that fight or flight

1058
00:53:41.400 --> 00:53:42.760
<v Speaker 3>moment where it's like I get mad and I want

1059
00:53:42.760 --> 00:53:45.119
<v Speaker 3>to I want to just throw something out because I

1060
00:53:45.119 --> 00:53:47.039
<v Speaker 3>think exactly as you said too, Like the healthy way

1061
00:53:47.079 --> 00:53:49.320
<v Speaker 3>is to say, I would like to be seen and

1062
00:53:49.400 --> 00:53:51.519
<v Speaker 3>heard versus I'm going to snap out so that you

1063
00:53:51.599 --> 00:53:55.119
<v Speaker 3>see and hear me and can't deny that I'm.

1064
00:53:54.960 --> 00:53:55.320
<v Speaker 2>Here, right.

1065
00:53:55.360 --> 00:53:58.599
<v Speaker 3>I think it's it's interesting to recognize that we're seeking

1066
00:53:58.599 --> 00:54:00.480
<v Speaker 3>to accomplish the same goal there, right, but like the

1067
00:54:00.519 --> 00:54:04.159
<v Speaker 3>pathway that through which we do that is fundamentally different.

1068
00:54:05.320 --> 00:54:06.960
<v Speaker 3>And I also appreciate what you said there too in

1069
00:54:07.039 --> 00:54:10.159
<v Speaker 3>terms of the it can be explosive or these these

1070
00:54:10.159 --> 00:54:13.639
<v Speaker 3>microaggressions too that we often sometimes don't even recognize, Like

1071
00:54:13.639 --> 00:54:15.280
<v Speaker 3>we know I'm mad, so therefore'm gonna say the thing,

1072
00:54:15.320 --> 00:54:16.679
<v Speaker 3>I know you didn't do the dishes, but did you

1073
00:54:16.719 --> 00:54:19.000
<v Speaker 3>do the dishes? Not because I want you to know

1074
00:54:19.079 --> 00:54:20.519
<v Speaker 3>that I know you didn't do the dishes, but because

1075
00:54:20.519 --> 00:54:22.960
<v Speaker 3>I want you to feel guilty about it. And like

1076
00:54:23.840 --> 00:54:26.480
<v Speaker 3>recognizing that that pathway also think is really really a

1077
00:54:26.519 --> 00:54:28.679
<v Speaker 3>powerful thing to recognize, Like what what am I doing?

1078
00:54:28.760 --> 00:54:28.920
<v Speaker 2>Right?

1079
00:54:28.960 --> 00:54:31.519
<v Speaker 3>And it's like can I pause to say, why am

1080
00:54:31.559 --> 00:54:34.559
<v Speaker 3>I choosing to express this feeling that way? Like why

1081
00:54:34.559 --> 00:54:37.360
<v Speaker 3>am I choosing to like go down this like sneaky

1082
00:54:37.480 --> 00:54:39.639
<v Speaker 3>side pathway that like or a think of being sneaky

1083
00:54:40.079 --> 00:54:43.360
<v Speaker 3>right to get because I want to get something else

1084
00:54:43.400 --> 00:54:45.239
<v Speaker 3>out and so like it is really interesting kind of

1085
00:54:45.239 --> 00:54:47.800
<v Speaker 3>piece for us to kind of think about that when

1086
00:54:47.840 --> 00:54:50.440
<v Speaker 3>we're trying to kind of bring ourselves together. Right, It's

1087
00:54:50.480 --> 00:54:52.599
<v Speaker 3>that it's that there's there's these parts of us that

1088
00:54:52.639 --> 00:54:54.639
<v Speaker 3>can be these shadow sides, right, or the kind of

1089
00:54:54.639 --> 00:54:56.159
<v Speaker 3>shadow work or dark sides, and like they can but

1090
00:54:56.159 --> 00:54:58.480
<v Speaker 3>they can even be like these entrance points, like these

1091
00:54:58.480 --> 00:55:01.920
<v Speaker 3>more negative emotions that we or that we call quote

1092
00:55:01.960 --> 00:55:03.880
<v Speaker 3>unquote negative. Right, But you know, even I think, as

1093
00:55:03.920 --> 00:55:06.480
<v Speaker 3>you very wonderfully demonstrated there, like there's ways to let

1094
00:55:06.559 --> 00:55:10.400
<v Speaker 3>those go or to move past them and say and yeah.

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00:55:10.199 --> 00:55:12.159
<v Speaker 2>And how yeah, and.

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00:55:12.159 --> 00:55:15.800
<v Speaker 1>How often have we inhibited ourselves from connection because we

1097
00:55:15.920 --> 00:55:21.199
<v Speaker 1>haven't mustered the courage or or embodied the curiosity to

1098
00:55:21.199 --> 00:55:23.480
<v Speaker 1>to say or explore what we're actually feeling?

1099
00:55:23.719 --> 00:55:25.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, right, that's totally true.

1100
00:55:25.280 --> 00:55:26.920
<v Speaker 3>And I think that comes to the safety question, right

1101
00:55:26.920 --> 00:55:28.199
<v Speaker 3>that I don't it's if part of it is like

1102
00:55:28.199 --> 00:55:31.440
<v Speaker 3>do I feel safe expressing actually what I feel or not?

1103
00:55:31.800 --> 00:55:35.639
<v Speaker 3>You know, and like, and I think that's a magical

1104
00:55:35.639 --> 00:55:37.599
<v Speaker 3>moment there too, of like how can we learn to

1105
00:55:37.599 --> 00:55:39.719
<v Speaker 3>do that for ourselves? But then also like, because it's

1106
00:55:39.719 --> 00:55:42.159
<v Speaker 3>always in conversation either with us with ourselves or with

1107
00:55:42.239 --> 00:55:44.039
<v Speaker 3>with others, right, and a lot of it we like

1108
00:55:44.119 --> 00:55:46.440
<v Speaker 3>learn society tells us don't talk like that, don't don't

1109
00:55:46.480 --> 00:55:48.679
<v Speaker 3>don't actually tell somebody how you're how your day is, right,

1110
00:55:48.679 --> 00:55:50.320
<v Speaker 3>say I'm fine. You know, we get we get all

1111
00:55:50.360 --> 00:55:52.920
<v Speaker 3>these like subtle and not those little cues of how

1112
00:55:52.960 --> 00:55:55.360
<v Speaker 3>we're quote unquote supposed to actually that we internalize a

1113
00:55:55.360 --> 00:55:58.760
<v Speaker 3>lot of those. And then you know, to your point too,

1114
00:55:58.800 --> 00:56:00.880
<v Speaker 3>like we may take some anger with our parents that

1115
00:56:00.880 --> 00:56:02.760
<v Speaker 3>we didn't he realized we had when we were sixteen

1116
00:56:02.840 --> 00:56:06.039
<v Speaker 3>or twelve or ten, and then it pops up, you know,

1117
00:56:06.039 --> 00:56:08.400
<v Speaker 3>when we're thirty five or forty in a really weird

1118
00:56:08.400 --> 00:56:10.159
<v Speaker 3>way that we relate with our spouse or our best

1119
00:56:10.159 --> 00:56:14.519
<v Speaker 3>friend or something. And it's always interesting to have these

1120
00:56:14.519 --> 00:56:15.960
<v Speaker 3>moments when you when you hear people to come back

1121
00:56:15.960 --> 00:56:17.599
<v Speaker 3>to you your sequel point from the beginning, right that,

1122
00:56:17.679 --> 00:56:20.880
<v Speaker 3>like when there's these moments of profound transformation when like

1123
00:56:20.920 --> 00:56:23.079
<v Speaker 3>we didn't just change the chapter, but like the book

1124
00:56:23.159 --> 00:56:25.199
<v Speaker 3>ended and now we're in like part two. You know

1125
00:56:25.920 --> 00:56:29.840
<v Speaker 3>that that you know, are are I think really powerful

1126
00:56:29.840 --> 00:56:31.199
<v Speaker 3>for us? And then said this is like why am

1127
00:56:31.199 --> 00:56:33.480
<v Speaker 3>I why and how can I make make a change?

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00:56:33.480 --> 00:56:35.320
<v Speaker 3>And so I don't know, I'm just I'm relating this

1129
00:56:35.360 --> 00:56:37.400
<v Speaker 3>back to the in like this this point, I think

1130
00:56:37.440 --> 00:56:39.599
<v Speaker 3>it's it's very powerful to even kind of think with

1131
00:56:39.639 --> 00:56:42.840
<v Speaker 3>your story too, and then how we can take something

1132
00:56:42.880 --> 00:56:44.480
<v Speaker 3>that opens us up in a way that makes us

1133
00:56:44.519 --> 00:56:49.119
<v Speaker 3>very vulnerable and then create a powerful you know, new pathway,

1134
00:56:49.159 --> 00:56:51.719
<v Speaker 3>new wave, you know in new new uh you know,

1135
00:56:51.840 --> 00:56:54.079
<v Speaker 3>opening for others too. So I just want to say

1136
00:56:54.199 --> 00:56:55.679
<v Speaker 3>I applaud the work that you're doing. Anythink this is

1137
00:56:55.679 --> 00:56:57.199
<v Speaker 3>this has been a great conversation.

1138
00:56:57.480 --> 00:57:00.000
<v Speaker 2>So far, and I'm excited.

1139
00:57:00.039 --> 00:57:02.199
<v Speaker 3>I did to know that you've got a book coming

1140
00:57:02.199 --> 00:57:04.159
<v Speaker 3>out also in like that we can we can hopefully

1141
00:57:04.199 --> 00:57:05.719
<v Speaker 3>dive into that when when that comes out as well

1142
00:57:05.719 --> 00:57:08.079
<v Speaker 3>too and kind of think and dive deeper into the

1143
00:57:08.079 --> 00:57:10.880
<v Speaker 3>idea of hondering light makes it's to be such an

1144
00:57:10.880 --> 00:57:13.960
<v Speaker 3>exciting place. And also like what does it mean to

1145
00:57:14.000 --> 00:57:17.039
<v Speaker 3>provide new spiritual spaces for folks? You know, I mean

1146
00:57:17.079 --> 00:57:18.880
<v Speaker 3>and uh, maybe you have a few minutes, I'd love

1147
00:57:18.920 --> 00:57:20.880
<v Speaker 3>to talk about that too, real quickly, just like this

1148
00:57:20.880 --> 00:57:24.000
<v Speaker 3>this idea of like how we can bring those about.

1149
00:57:24.079 --> 00:57:25.840
<v Speaker 3>You know the fact that this is you're working with

1150
00:57:25.840 --> 00:57:28.360
<v Speaker 3>an entheogenic church that you've created like that that idea,

1151
00:57:28.440 --> 00:57:30.119
<v Speaker 3>like you have to go through these like odd legal

1152
00:57:30.159 --> 00:57:32.679
<v Speaker 3>structures in the United States and to be able to

1153
00:57:32.719 --> 00:57:35.880
<v Speaker 3>have a certain kind of business practice, right, but then

1154
00:57:35.920 --> 00:57:39.000
<v Speaker 3>on top of that, like a therapeutic and plant medicine practice,

1155
00:57:39.960 --> 00:57:40.960
<v Speaker 3>I get, I don't know, so, I mean, it's like,

1156
00:57:40.960 --> 00:57:42.159
<v Speaker 3>I don't know my question there is it? Just like

1157
00:57:42.159 --> 00:57:43.719
<v Speaker 3>it's been such a such an interesting journey to me

1158
00:57:43.760 --> 00:57:44.960
<v Speaker 3>to the kind of have to go through that that

1159
00:57:45.000 --> 00:57:49.440
<v Speaker 3>process given the odd structures that we have, and like

1160
00:57:49.519 --> 00:57:51.960
<v Speaker 3>you know, we are seeing the FDA change their stance

1161
00:57:52.079 --> 00:57:56.079
<v Speaker 3>slowly on plant medicines and psychedelics. But then also you

1162
00:57:56.119 --> 00:57:57.840
<v Speaker 3>know that you took that bold step of saying, you

1163
00:57:57.880 --> 00:58:00.320
<v Speaker 3>know what, well, I've had some found changes to do

1164
00:58:00.360 --> 00:58:03.400
<v Speaker 3>something new. Let me take this this curious path that

1165
00:58:03.519 --> 00:58:05.480
<v Speaker 3>is U I don't know, were you following your curiosity?

1166
00:58:05.519 --> 00:58:07.599
<v Speaker 3>Like how did you know in anthogemic church had that

1167
00:58:07.599 --> 00:58:09.280
<v Speaker 3>become the answer of the next thing to do?

1168
00:58:10.079 --> 00:58:13.440
<v Speaker 1>Well? Being a church is actually a very meaningful status

1169
00:58:13.599 --> 00:58:16.039
<v Speaker 1>for us, and it's it's so much more than a

1170
00:58:16.119 --> 00:58:20.039
<v Speaker 1>legal status. One of the participants that we that came

1171
00:58:20.039 --> 00:58:22.880
<v Speaker 1>through our container was the president of Unity Church, which

1172
00:58:22.880 --> 00:58:25.719
<v Speaker 1>is a mega Christian Church on on on the East coast.

1173
00:58:26.440 --> 00:58:32.760
<v Speaker 1>And I'll never forget such a gracious man he had

1174
00:58:32.800 --> 00:58:34.920
<v Speaker 1>on his altar. An altar is like just something next

1175
00:58:34.920 --> 00:58:39.519
<v Speaker 1>to your mats as you're undergoing the the psilocybin. In ceremony,

1176
00:58:39.840 --> 00:58:42.960
<v Speaker 1>a picture, a framed picture of Jesus, right, and in

1177
00:58:43.000 --> 00:58:49.000
<v Speaker 1>our center we have religious symbols from all religions, Buddhism, Islam, Christianity,

1178
00:58:49.400 --> 00:58:55.119
<v Speaker 1>hindu Ism, Egyptian like, Greek like all over and and

1179
00:58:55.159 --> 00:58:57.840
<v Speaker 1>I remember seeing this beautiful smile on his face as

1180
00:58:57.840 --> 00:58:59.880
<v Speaker 1>he was looking up. And he shared with me later

1181
00:59:00.320 --> 00:59:03.639
<v Speaker 1>that he felt the greatest connection to Christ that he's

1182
00:59:03.679 --> 00:59:06.360
<v Speaker 1>ever felt in his life. And what's so fascinating is

1183
00:59:06.400 --> 00:59:08.920
<v Speaker 1>his story is not unique. One of our co facilitators

1184
00:59:08.960 --> 00:59:11.159
<v Speaker 1>was a Catholic priest for twenty years, then a zen

1185
00:59:11.199 --> 00:59:14.119
<v Speaker 1>Buddhist monk, and then became one of the world's top

1186
00:59:14.159 --> 00:59:17.800
<v Speaker 1>psychologists and IFS trainers. Right and coming through our container

1187
00:59:17.840 --> 00:59:21.360
<v Speaker 1>first as a participant, he rediscovered his spirituality, which he

1188
00:59:21.400 --> 00:59:25.079
<v Speaker 1>had lost in when he was running un refugee programs

1189
00:59:25.079 --> 00:59:28.639
<v Speaker 1>in East Africa for the Catholic Church. I mean, so

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00:59:30.079 --> 00:59:32.039
<v Speaker 1>you know, if you really think about, like, what is

1191
00:59:32.079 --> 00:59:34.760
<v Speaker 1>a church. As an anthropologist, you must know this, like

1192
00:59:34.800 --> 00:59:36.880
<v Speaker 1>the church was the safe haven, it was the gathering

1193
00:59:36.920 --> 00:59:42.159
<v Speaker 1>place of community. Right in wartime, both sides could gather

1194
00:59:42.320 --> 00:59:46.719
<v Speaker 1>in a church and be safe from killing each other.

1195
00:59:47.079 --> 00:59:50.239
<v Speaker 1>Right in peacetime, people would gather in a church and

1196
00:59:50.280 --> 00:59:52.920
<v Speaker 1>that's where the community would get together. That's where we

1197
00:59:52.960 --> 00:59:55.280
<v Speaker 1>would support each other, so on and so forth. So

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00:59:55.519 --> 00:59:59.119
<v Speaker 1>in our church number one, as a we have a

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<v Speaker 1>beliefs published on o website, Ceremoniouscircle dot org. But we've

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01:00:03.679 --> 01:00:06.599
<v Speaker 1>summarized it into a few points and I'll summarize it

1201
01:00:06.599 --> 01:00:09.960
<v Speaker 1>even further for you. It's really that when we let

1202
01:00:10.079 --> 01:00:13.599
<v Speaker 1>go of our protective parts, we are able to feel

1203
01:00:13.639 --> 01:00:17.119
<v Speaker 1>ourselves more. And when we feel ourselves more, that is

1204
01:00:17.119 --> 01:00:22.599
<v Speaker 1>what feels like spirituality. Right. And we say that truth

1205
01:00:22.719 --> 01:00:25.679
<v Speaker 1>is subjective like what you experience as your truth is

1206
01:00:25.719 --> 01:00:28.159
<v Speaker 1>yours and no one can deny that. But there's also

1207
01:00:28.199 --> 01:00:34.960
<v Speaker 1>an objective truth there that when it's experienced, feels like love, gratitude, peace, harmony, unity, right,

1208
01:00:35.719 --> 01:00:38.920
<v Speaker 1>And that subjective and objective truth begin to merge the

1209
01:00:38.920 --> 01:00:41.679
<v Speaker 1>more that we let go of the things inhibiting us

1210
01:00:41.719 --> 01:00:46.400
<v Speaker 1>from ourselves, and then these plant sacraments of psilocybin and

1211
01:00:46.440 --> 01:00:49.960
<v Speaker 1>ayahuasca are accelerants to help us commune with that that feeling.

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01:00:51.840 --> 01:00:55.440
<v Speaker 1>We gather every Sunday our integration process, in fact, preparation

1213
01:00:55.519 --> 01:00:58.719
<v Speaker 1>and integration is literally we meet in community every Sunday.

1214
01:00:59.159 --> 01:01:01.760
<v Speaker 1>First the pot luck that's sharing your challenges and celebrations,

1215
01:01:01.760 --> 01:01:05.800
<v Speaker 1>than the practice called circling, which is a workshop that

1216
01:01:05.840 --> 01:01:10.239
<v Speaker 1>we run in our in our program. And so you know,

1217
01:01:10.840 --> 01:01:15.519
<v Speaker 1>people have this transformative experience, this profound experience which culminates

1218
01:01:16.679 --> 01:01:19.760
<v Speaker 1>ninety nine times of one hundred in a deep spiritual experience,

1219
01:01:20.159 --> 01:01:23.679
<v Speaker 1>and then they're able to come back to church, to community,

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01:01:23.840 --> 01:01:27.599
<v Speaker 1>to supporting each other, you know, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 3>And I love that too because it's that it's bringing

1222
01:01:30.840 --> 01:01:33.760
<v Speaker 3>all the things that I remember from church as a kid.

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01:01:33.920 --> 01:01:35.960
<v Speaker 3>You know, it's I guess what, it's a very similar

1224
01:01:36.000 --> 01:01:38.800
<v Speaker 3>story for many you know, I don't know many folks

1225
01:01:38.880 --> 01:01:41.079
<v Speaker 3>that like maybe have grown up religious but then found

1226
01:01:41.079 --> 01:01:42.800
<v Speaker 3>their way out of it for various reasons, right, and

1227
01:01:42.840 --> 01:01:47.559
<v Speaker 3>then found some sort of reconnections to spirituality through different means, right,

1228
01:01:47.599 --> 01:01:51.199
<v Speaker 3>but then recognizing that like some of the fundamental powers

1229
01:01:51.880 --> 01:01:54.760
<v Speaker 3>and social goods of church communities themselves are what you're

1230
01:01:54.800 --> 01:01:56.840
<v Speaker 3>describing there too right of like that it's a safe

1231
01:01:56.840 --> 01:01:58.880
<v Speaker 3>place that people can come together to build a community,

1232
01:01:58.880 --> 01:02:02.239
<v Speaker 3>to build a sense of shared identity, and to integrate

1233
01:02:02.320 --> 01:02:04.239
<v Speaker 3>right into their lives, those deeper those deeper meetings. I

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01:02:04.239 --> 01:02:06.559
<v Speaker 3>think that that's actually really cool. But Alstin, thank you

1235
01:02:06.559 --> 01:02:08.039
<v Speaker 3>so much joining me on the podcast. This has been

1236
01:02:08.320 --> 01:02:11.920
<v Speaker 3>an enlightening conversation and I've really enjoyed chatting with you,

1237
01:02:12.039 --> 01:02:13.960
<v Speaker 3>and I hope we can do it again, especially when

1238
01:02:13.960 --> 01:02:16.119
<v Speaker 3>you when your book comes out and deep dive from there.

1239
01:02:16.119 --> 01:02:17.519
<v Speaker 2>But thanks again for joining me. That's been been a

1240
01:02:17.559 --> 01:02:17.920
<v Speaker 2>lot of fun.

1241
01:02:18.079 --> 01:02:20.320
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Adam. This has been great. Yeah, I really

1242
01:02:20.360 --> 01:02:20.920
<v Speaker 1>appreciate you.
