Speaker 1: I made a decision. Face sunny, sum, I had vision too.
Wat welcome to for crying out loud. Oh my gosh,
is it Lynette or is it Helen? Paradise? What are
you are thoughting about? Its Stephanie? All right, so listen,
mm hmm. Yesterday I did something that I haven't done before,
an experience I had which I did not enjoy that much.
I'm gonna tell you it was. Yeah. So I got
a call from my neighbor, who I may or may
not have a little patriot. Okay, well we'll see, Okay,
we'll see how that how that goes. But so Sadie,
who I have, who like you know, never wants to
do anything, got invited to go to an escape room
with our neighbors right now. This dad, this is the
divorced dad who lives a couple doors down. Cute one
cute divorced dad. Yeah, really like this guy. He's the
one who took my kids to Disneyland for like three days.
Disneyland Dad, he's Disneyland Dad. I told him, he's Disneyland Dad.
I go, you're making all of us smile, dad. You know,
he's like, hey, who wants to go to Dojo Boo.
He's taking the kids out for all the kids out
for dinner, and he's like us in our in our
best mind, like how we want to be where He's like, Hey,
the more the merrier he gets the kids invite your friends,
like oh, I got this cousin's coming and that, but
the kids this other friend. He's like, you know, it's
like a car those dads Like why can't I be
like a dad like that? You know, like I'm always
like who's going? We had to pick who up? Me too,
you know why we had to pick them up? Can't
they drop you off? Of what? I know? Totally? You know? Yeah?
So and John is Dojo Boom like a national thing.
Speaker 2: I've never heard of it until you just said it.
Speaker 1: Okay, So Dojo Boom is like this place that has
it's like a trampoline park, except for they have even
more stuff. Okay, you know it's I don't know what.
They have like phone pits and a basketball thing and
it's like a place where kids go and like you know,
jump off of shit. Yeah. So he one day they
called and the neighbors called, hey, you want to go
to Dojo Boom. But they didn't have enough seats in
the dad's car. So John drove Sadie and Xander and
the dad drove his you know whatever the massive kids
that were coming along with them, And then John said
it was kind of funny because they, like I thought
they were going to kind of bond, like, hey, you're
gonna get some stories, you know, No so much. The
dad was like, you know whatever, rolling calls. So John
was sort of like like, all right, right, John doesn't care.
He like wrote a script, you know. Okay, So anyway, yesterday,
Sadie says, hey, can I go to an escape room
and with our neighbors, you know? And I was like sure,
But then I started feeling bad because like they this
because he's Disneyland Dad. He's been so generous. Here's another
thing too, which I hope he doesn't listen to this,
because then he's going to see behind the curtain of
how we think. But I was like, he spent so
much money on my kids, taking them to Disneyland, putting
them up in a hotel every meal, like he didn't
let them spend ANYI their own money, And I felt
like I wanted to do something nice, but I don't
know him that well. So I was like, I don't
want to get him like alcohol, like he doesn't drink,
you know, and I don't want to like what am
I going to send flowers? Like he's a dude, you know,
So not that men don't like flowers. Sorry, I'm just saying,
like the my normal go tos. Yeah, I was like,
sense right, And I don't want to just like leave
something on his port. So then there's a restaurant that
he takes his kids to sometimes, and I was thinking, oh,
you know what, maybe I'll get a gift card to
that restaurant, you know, for a couple hundred bucks. Yeah, right, Yeah.
But then I didn't do it because, you know, every
time I thought about doing it, you know why, Because
when I really thought of doing it was right before
we went to San Francisco. You know that thing where
you're like, I want to I got to do this thing,
and it's one of our things where it's like then,
every time I thought about doing it, I was like,
they don't have my online, so I have to drive
out to the right and get it. Yes, So every
time I thought about doing it, and then it started
to feel like it was too far away. I remember
like a few months ago when you took Yeah, I
guess so I hadn't done it. But now Sadie's being
invited to an escape room, and even though I have
zero interest and going to an escape room right have
avoided it thus far, don't want to start now. But
the feeling of kind of guilt came over me. I
didn't realize he had invited a bunch of kids. At
this point. It seemed like an idea that the two
girls who lived his daughters and Sadie, they'd say, hey,
let's go do this. So I text him and I go, hey,
do you want me to do? You want me to
take them to these I heard? I said, I heard
there's an escape room adventure scheduled for later today. Do
you want me to take them? I'm totally up for it. No,
I really wasn't. I know. I know where you coming from,
but I wanted to see, like, yeah, yeah, hey, you
took my kids for an amazing thing. The least I
could do is like brush, let the kids over to
an escape room and hang out outside and look at
Facebook while they're inside solving a mystery, right right? Yeah? Yeah,
So he writes back, Oh that'd be great. No, come
a come along. Oh no, no, no, that's the.
Speaker 2: Same thing that happening with me in Vegas with the
sky the ziplining and all the parents, and I was like, look, parents,
I got this. Let me take your daughter's ziplining because
this is just the beginning of the weekend, and I
know I'm gonna want to lean on you guys to
take my daughter at enough different time so I can
go back to the room. So everybody go back to
the room. I'll take these girls ziplining.
Speaker 1: Take them.
Speaker 2: We wait and line I'm killing an hour and a half.
Two hours later they go down the zip line. Who's
at the end of the zip line? But all the
other fucking parents right.
Speaker 1: Taping, like what the fuck? Witches? I thought that the
whole point was for you guys to go back to
your hotel room.
Speaker 2: Do you want to get a Masterbace session on or
watch some HBO show or something?
Speaker 1: Is there any go to the bar?
Speaker 2: Do something? You know, why hang around here for two
where are you guys for two hours?
Speaker 1: By the way, too, and how are you supposed to
be the hero? They're all there anyway, It doesn't you
don't even do it. Congratulated for thank you so much, Lynette.
We really enjoyed our afternoon of masturbating. Thank you exactly
with our kids appreciate it. I'm in a much better
mood than I'll thank you. But instead they're like, oh,
you must have really enjoyed that, from the look on
your face. Was videotaping you. I was right there too,
exactly sucks right, So I didn't even get that moment
of him going, oh my gosh, like yeah, sure, I'll
stay home, No, come along, I have I got to
find his literal text to me, because it was okay.
Speaker 2: He wrote, nobody want to go to the escape?
Speaker 1: He wrote, I wrote, Hey, let's call it, Paul, I
understand there's a scaping adventure this afternoon. Do you want
me to take them? Totally happy to and he wrote
that's so cool, come along and then and then there's
an emoji. Right, But it's not okay. I tried to.
I tried to show this to John and s get
his thoughts on this, because it's not I want to
show it to you. It's not a smile, it's not
a full on smile, but it's also not a straight
Should we get Dina Ramirez on this? Check it out?
Speaker 2: Oh, it's one of these happy faces. Oh wait, that's
so cool.
Speaker 1: Come along.
Speaker 2: But that's not a smiley face.
Speaker 1: It's just a but it's not a straight line either.
John's like, no, that's a smiley face. I'm like, it's
kind of like a half hearted smiley face. I was like,
this is what it is, mixed messages. It's like a
straight line, like or it's a little turned. It's a
little it's a little smile. It's like a little oh.
It's like hmm okay, and he goes, I'm just trying
to figure out the time, and then he says, the
girls have to do a couple of things, and basically
I don't want to reserve a time until I know
we're finished. So I'm like, okay, I guess I'm going too,
So I write so but I can't get out of
it now, so I go, sure, let me know, okay. Also,
at the same time, I have been trying to bond
with Sadie a little bit and do some things that
she wants to do, because I feel like the stuff
that I like to do, Sadie doesn't really like to do, right,
like go to TJ Max or you know, go to
CVS or go to the grocery store, go to the mall,
like Sadie's always like eh, right, you know. So since
she showed a little enthusiasm at going to an escape
room something to do, I was like, oh, that will
maybe me being part of it would be a nice
bonding thing right now. So I'm not trying to get
out of it, but I'm just trying to figure out,
like when we're going whatever. Okay. So anyway, then he
sends me the receipt, like okay, because he's sending me
the reserve time and the address for the place, and
so it's freaking like two hundred and sixty bucks and
you put it down for seven people. I go Sadie,
who's going into the escape room? Who's going? So she says, well,
the girl, her sister, their cousin, and I think a
friend and me, I'm like, okay, that's five. I'm like,
you think he's including me in this mess? And himnah,
Like are we going in the escape room? Because I'm
not planning that. I was planning to sit in my
ass on a bench outside the escape room and be like,
good luck in there, hope you make it out right. Yeah,
So I'm hoping against hope that he's added somebody to
the mix, Like I'm hoping I'm going to see two
more Rando kids. So I pull up, so we drive separately. Okay,
so we pull up and they're all like, hey, you know,
we all leave at the same time. They live two
doors down, so they're all leaving at the same time.
We get there and I was like, oh, hey, I
go I see you have it down for seven and
there's five kids. I was like, so are we going in?
And he goes, yeah, you and him. I was like, well, well,
I've never done the escape from before head and then
he says then he says, well, one parent has to
go in. Somebody has to go in with them anyway,
So I figured, you know, we'd both go. Do they
really I guess I guess one because maybe there's some
kids that are too young. I don't know. I think honestly,
I think elp uh not. Lbi Stadie was the oldest
and she's thirteen. Oh so yeah, AnyWho, we go in.
It wasn't horrible, but it made me feel so dumb
because these kids are walking around like, oh, there's a
clue you do this? And I was like, how did
you know that? Like what? And everything's kind of Harry
Potter themed sort of there's wizards and there's po and
I'm like, I have I was like, this all looks
like a foreign language to me. What's his name? Paul?
You know what I'm going to say, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, no, no,
so and Paul, you know it is like he's fun.
Speaker 2: He's really fun fun.
Speaker 1: So he was he was making like jokes and like
he's totally our speed. You really like him, and but
he's not complaining. I wanted to go. He's a fun day.
So he's like he's like trying to help them. He's
not like the same as me. It wasn't It was
not torture, Honestly. The problem was that I felt so dumb.
I was like, how am I in my fifties and
I have no idea what's going on? And these like
there's ten year olds there that are like, oh, oh
open this mirror frame. Oh I found another clue. I'm like,
what is happening? I don't And of course they want
the parents to help, and both Paul and I are
both like, it's like the beanies on the top of
your head walking in a circle and then you know,
there's constant like every so often there's like wow, there's cool.
I had a door opens and you're like, oh, good
for you guys, smarty fans. Meanwhile, I'm now like oh
this is now. I'm like, this guy's now spent a
lot more money, and now he's paid for me and
my kid to go into this. And I didn't realize
how expensive it is to go to escape room. So
I'm like, hey, let me have your venmo, like I
want to pay for this, you know, and he's like,
absolutely not, don't worry about it. And I was like, no, no, no, no,
Like you've already treated for so much stuff. He's taken
my kids out to dinner more than once, right, So
I'm like and he goes, oh, you can, you can
like pay for like ice cream or yogurt or something. Afterward,
I was like, well, that's not going to be enough,
Like that's not going to cost that much money, and
he's like sure, he's super nice, right. Yeah. So it
was kind of funny because I'm.
Speaker 2: Like plotting in my mind, what is those things like
these these these is that what it's like like these
you have to go through one room into another room
or so room. You can't leave until you figured it out.
Speaker 1: You can't. So the whole idea is that you put
together all these clues and then if you figure it
all out, it's one by one you start opening locks
for things and you get code words, and like eventually
you're opening locks to this main box and it's like
there's like six lots anyway, and then if you solve
it all, there's one main key and you and then
it opens the door to the escape room and you
get out. Okay, you have to do it in an hour.
If the hour goes by and you haven't solved it,
then you didn't successfully get out. Spoiler alert, we did
not successfully get out, but we but they were really
really close. They have like one like, if given another
three minutes, we would have gotten out. Yeah we. I
shouldn't include myself. I did nothing to help at all.
Speaker 2: Now were you able to play your game on your
phone inside the escape rooms? So?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you have to walk around and feign interest
in what's happening. You have to be like, oh, you guys,
got another clue. Oh, and then you have to kind
of walk around and like read random shit on the
wall and pretend you're interested in it and.
Speaker 2: Go like trying to tell oh, this says right.
Speaker 1: Which you're like, and then you go, hey, do these
go to anything? And like you hold up a piece
of paper you found on the floor and they're like, yeah,
we already did that, right, And then you're like, okay, moded.
Fourth thing? Is it an hour inside of that thing?
One hour? Oh that's not bad? A lot of screaming, yeah,
and the kids? Is there a yelling rooms that other? Yet?
So another room like one it ain't to do something?
And then one door opens and it's like a closet,
but then there's more clues in there. Okay, And then
like you know what happens is you get kind of
into it for a minute because you think you're helping,
and then you realize you can't figure it out. So
then you go, never mind, and I can go sit down.
So there's a place you could say, really there's like
a chair where the people are actually working and doing stuff,
but you can kind of sit there, which I did.
You're basically walking around anyway. We finish all that and
then we're driving and then he decides, Paul decides like, hey,
do you guys want to go to dinner first, So
of course I'm like sure, and I'm seeing that as
an opportunity to like chip in a little more money,
take all these assholes out for dinner. Right, So we did.
Speaker 2: This is just so typical of my life, right, Yeah,
and mom goes through this.
Speaker 1: And then we took and then we walked over and
we had yogurt, and yeah, I felt like kind of accomplished,
but at the same time sort of like a loser, right,
because I.
Speaker 2: Know that feeling. And then you go home and you're like,
why did my duty? I'm now I get to go
straight to the bedroom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, straight to the bedroom and put on a podcast, right, exactly, done,
pajamazon done, raw off. Yes, engaged with Sadie Hopefully she
felt good about that, Like, go, I'm sure you have
some YouTube videos to catch up on my job? Here
is done? Right? Yeah? The best? And then I and
then I do the I got to work tomorrow, right, No,
pull that card? Yeah? Now, so you've never been to
an escape room? No, you plan to keep it that way. Yes,
I have escaped.
Speaker 2: No, my kids went to one like it was some
you know whose it was, remember the kid pe pew pew. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So Olga.
Speaker 2: His nanny and Olga are like close at the time,
and they I remember a couple of years ago when
they were in town, they decided for his birthday instead
of aving and extravaganza in my in my driveway with
the vegan cake and the toilet paper stuffed right, And
weren't they parked in like a cycle in like a yes,
led up an RV out in front of my house.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and you weren't home yet. I don't
remember where I think they waited out from. Oh yeah.
Speaker 2: They were supposed to be there at twelve, and they
got there like eleven forty. So they just stayed out
front and Adam was like, ho's in our driveway with
the RV?
Speaker 1: Oh my god?
Speaker 2: And I was like, don't worry.
Speaker 1: I got it. I got it. I got it. Yeah,
that kid's birthday.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And so it was not the last time you saw
that kid, or was it? This was like again, like
came back again, and I.
Speaker 2: Think that was the first so one year. So this
kid lived up the street from us in our old neighborhood.
He was born like a month apart from Sunny and Natalia,
and he was sweetheart, nice family, sweet family, and his
nanny and Olga.
Speaker 1: Got to be close, just like the kids got to
be close.
Speaker 2: So Sonny and Italia were friends with this kid, but
the parents didn't put him in like traditional school. Like
they at some point moved to Paris so that the
older sister could be in her equestrian sport, right, and
so they moved and they she was homeschooling him at home.
So whenever they got to come to La and they'd
get together with Sonny and Italia, he was so like
behind because he wasn't socializing with other kids his age,
so like he came to visit and like on his
way like Sonny and Italian. Sonny was fine with him,
but Natalia is like, I don't know, you know, he's
call him Aaron. No, Aaron is just he's got this,
you know, like he just wants to play like cowboys
and Indians all the time. And Sonny chimes in, going, yeah,
you're right, he does like to do that, and then
she's like, yeah, I just who wants to do that?
Like we're you know, second Italian away. Beyond that, obviously
they were like, I don't know, in sixth grade. Fifth
now they were like in fifth sixth grade, and he's
got the mentality of still of a fourth grader who
wants to play cowboys and Indians with the guns. Pew pew, pew,
peep pe pew. Right, So anyway, and and then I
don't know, Olga just like sprung it on me that
they were coming over because it was his birthday. But
she's like, don't worry, they're bringing their own cake, right,
And I was like, boll, I didn't even.
Speaker 1: Have a gift for them.
Speaker 2: And now I'm like going in the garage looking and
like Sonny like, let's find something for him, Like, like,
let's get something. Don't you have something in your room
we could wrap up, right? And son he's like, well,
we got the like the old build the uh some
like remote control car in the garage. And now, of
course I don't have any wrapping paper or battery bets
or any batteries or any tissue paper.
Speaker 1: So I took it. I took it.
Speaker 2: Trader's Joe grocery bag. Yeah, and I took toilet stuffed it.
But my excuse was Sonny and Natalia wrapped it for him,
right me.
Speaker 1: Right, That's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 2: That was gonna be my excuse, and Sonny's like, don't
blame that shit, honey, and August.
Speaker 1: Like maybe I have time to run to the store,
and I was like, nah, it's.
Speaker 2: Fine, it's fine, you know, like we're never going to
see these people again exactly. Well, turns out they come
every summer when it's his birthday to back to La
and they want to hook up with Sonny Italian. Although
the last like two or three years now haven't heard
a peep out of them, so I'm guessing either they
heard my podcast or they got the end.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but it was so sad.
Speaker 2: So they like waiting in the driveway for us, you know,
until well, just.
Speaker 1: The nanny too. It wasn't even like the.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the mom left, the mom dropped the nan Erica
and Aaron off and she took off, and I was like,
lucky her. So yeah, So then they're standing in the
driveway holding cake. It's like listen our driveway and Olga's like, oh,
tell him to come in, tell him. So of course
they come in and he's brought his own like vegan
cake that was just sugarless and flowerless, less and joyless.
It's like, yeah, it was really really sad. So anyway,
what was I talking about them for? What are we
talking about?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't remember escape rooms?
Speaker 2: Oh, escape room escaped me?
Speaker 1: Thank you, Gaben.
Speaker 2: Yes, uh so, Olga and Erica the nanny took Aaron
and Sonny to an escape room for his birthday. For
Aaron's birthday the next year, I came back to visit. Okay,
I think they decided to up their game a little bit, like, actually,
now we're gonna have something planned. We're not coming to
your dumb house and hang out to bring our own shit.
Speaker 1: Right, And You're like, I don't even have any Trader
Joe's bag thing you saved me? Yes?
Speaker 2: So they went to an escape room. Yeah so I've
never gone, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, it's this definitely not really my thing.
Speaker 2: The worst is when you have to do shit with
other parents, you know, like.
Speaker 1: When you have to engage huh.
Speaker 2: And and the other parents. I'm sure it's just fine,
perfectly easy to get along with and stuff, but it's like,
I just I don't know, I get a headache after
a while of all that fake talk and fake interest
and fake this and fake that, which reminds me so
I'm hosting not hosting the Door of Hope who we
all know that I work with. They're doing a fundraiser
this year and it's in the backyard of one of
our neighbors. It's like right around the block from our
house and it's in their backyard. And of course it's
this woman who does everything for the community everything, So
she's at all the bdas, she's at all the shit.
It's like her, right, I mean, I don't know. She's
a nice woman, but yeah, she's a go getter, that's
for sure. So of course it's at her house, right,
So it's in her backyard. And they're like, so can
we count on you to bring so we'll give you
a table of ten, So can you fill the table
of nine? I was like, I got to get nine
other people on board with this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not good at that, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like, I like to just volunteer and do my thing, right,
I don't like your person Yeah, I'm not good at that.
And they're like, listen, we'll send you the the form letter.
You can tweak it, make it, you know, we'll send
you the invite. It's easy to email. I'm like, well,
that's not the point. The point is is I hate
asking people for this stuffy when is it? It's at
the end of this it's the Sunday, last Sunday this month,
I think the twenty sixth or something.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, because I was gonna say i'd go,
but you know what, I have Kenny, Kenny Loggins. Everybody's
got something I.
Speaker 2: Honestly do ask uh oh, that's Gina's wedding. I believe Caylin.
So that keeps you out of it, right, Yeah, I'm busy.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh my god, I would go though I was
going to ask you. I totally would have gone, but
that is the night that I have.
Speaker 2: It's something twenty six and I say it right yea, yeah, okay,
So here's my plan. So I decide, okay, so the
mom's in the area, so I hit up last night.
I sent an email to like Natalia's Mommy's friends and
Sonny's mom friends. Yeah, so where's like, I don't know
a total of ten, I guess that I invited. One
responded back right away like I would love so, thank you.
I'd love to And I was like, okay, you know,
and I was making it kind of fun, like it's
like we because I haven't seen a lot of them
in a long time. I've seen Natalia's friends' moms more
than I see on these moms because Natalia, you know,
I don't know they're they're around more often. And also
they have get together that they invite me to, you know,
so like the pogo stick competition, you know. So I
so I sent an email and we'll see.
Speaker 1: But I'll buy a seat though, Yeah, people will help you.
I'll buy a seat at your table. At the table. Yeah,
how much are they?
Speaker 2: I don't think they are charging for the seats.
Speaker 1: It's just not oh they're just auctioning stuff. No, and
it's not even going to be that. That's going to be.
Speaker 2: Like I like about them is that they they don't
have a big budget. So it's like straight to the point.
So it's two hours of just.
Speaker 1: Like selling you. Do you want to getting donations? Yes,
well I'll make a donation for you. Thank you for
the seat, all right, thanks, thank you.
Speaker 2: So it's basically like you're going to meet families that
have gone through their program and the now are on
their own. They're going to be there to tell their
stories and just basically an awareness of what they do
and that's basically it. And I don't even think they're
doing an auction, maybe like a silent OC, but not
like anything like that. It's very casual.
Speaker 1: It's in the backyard. They should do some stuff, like
some raffles or something.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm going to ask her what the deal
is there, but she did tell me, yeah, that it's
pretty scaled back. I think it's because of COVID and
the Delta and everything, like they just want people just
to just to see what they do and hear their stories,
basically bring awareness. So I'm going to start there and
if nobody, I mean, can you imagine I'm sitting there
with like one other girl. So I made it like, look,
we haven't seen each other in a long time, Like,
of course you can bring your significant other. But I
thought it would be fun if us ladies got together
and we all like, yeah, catch up, blah blah blah.
Hopefully I go down that route and everybody bites. If not,
I don't know, maybe I'll have to open it up
to the SEOL community.
Speaker 1: I know Jane'll come. Yeah, yeah, if she's around. Oh
my gosh, people would love to come with you. But
Robin's not a it. I can't. She's gonna be at
Kenny with me.
Speaker 2: Okay, So Robin, you can either come with me Gina
that's her wedding.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh boy, you're not going to her wedding. I
would love to, but.
Speaker 2: I think your boss you know, Oh Adam's going to
go so got it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Politics, which is so funny because Gina's getting married the
same weekend of is it the twenty th two days
before our.
Speaker 1: Wedding?
Speaker 2: Niver So we got married on the twenty eighth of September.
Oh well, let you know, let's hope things go differently
for Gina.
Speaker 1: Well, you know what, things didn't go that bad for
you get a good run. It's a lot of years. Yeah,
it'll be nineteen or twenty. I think it's going to
be our I don't know. He can't do the math.
You ever have friends that, uh are getting married to
somebody and you're like that is not gonna last and
it doesn't have you experienced that where you're like this
is not a good idea. Then you have to go
to their wedding and go like yay, like when you're younger,
and then you go, I give it a year, right,
and then a year later they get divorced and you
don't you can't be like fucking told you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, nobody really comes to mind, right, but I know
a lot of people definitely in relationships and stuff too,
not even just marriede.
Speaker 1: But like, uh, that's not going to work out. You know.
Have you ever been around couples that are like bickering
in front of you?
Speaker 2: Yes, sad it is uncomfortable. Gena and Jimmy all the time.
Oh they did, Oh god, it was uncomfortable. Well, especially
like he would they would yell at you other, like
she would just put him down and he would just
like tell her to fuck off, and like.
Speaker 1: I know, like yeah, and they were serious.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I have pictures of us in Hawaii on
a vacation. I just we just started like not just
but it was like the first two years of us
together and that like there's pictures of us like smiling,
and then there's Jimmy behind Gina like flipping her off,
you know, and part of me is he's joking, but
he's not though, like that's and then they'll they'll say like, well,
that's our shtick kind of thing, that's what we do,
and it's like well, it's uncomfortable. But yeah, a lot
of people. I've had other couples like that too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sometimes it's when you don't know them that well, right,
and you're like if you feel that comfortable bickering, like
and you know what the worst is, like when the
woman that this is going to sound misogynistic, but the
worst is when the woman is like one you to
bond with her because you're the other another woman and like,
I mean, can you fucking believe this guy? Like when
they're like rolling their eyes and making comments and like
this fucking guy and you're like, I'm not seeing.
Speaker 2: Right problems Like yes, I've had that, Yeah, we are
you gonna do? Go?
Speaker 1: Yeah, this guy seems like a real fucking jackass, and
you're not going to do that, right? I know? No,
I know. I know a couple that was like that.
We traveled with them and uh, he treated his wife
like shit though, like he was just and she kind
of rolled with it kind of thing, and like thought
it was funny, but it was like the other wives
were like, it's not funny, it's like disrespectful. It's not funny, it's.
Speaker 2: Respectful and what a dick you look like you know
what I mean, Like, do you really want to portray
yourself as a dick in front of all of us?
Speaker 1: Right? You know? Well that's like the opposite thing where
the guy's like you believe this this chick, like what
an airhead?
Speaker 2: Right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And no one is on your side, nobody. I know,
I know, I know. But Gina, I'm happy for very happy.
Speaker 2: Oh I couldn't have been. I mean I've known Gina
for a long time well over Ginograt.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yah yeah. And oh he's yeah I met.
Speaker 2: Him, adorable, so cute, so sweet, obviously loves her. Oh
my god, I see the Facebook and how happy they are.
Speaker 1: So happy. I mean he asked me out, but I
was like, that's probably like totally platonic. We could talk
about that on Patriot. Can you imagine? I'm like, I
think he just wants to be friends. We have a
lot in common, right, Yeah, we've been communicated, Like his
text to me are just super funny, Like it's not
even that flirty like at midnight?
Speaker 2: Right could you imagine?
Speaker 1: I'd be terrible? And I talk about it on the show.
I'm like, I'm sure she knows because they're super close,
like they're getting married. I'm sure she knows who he's
friends with.
Speaker 2: It's just so interesting to see all these people around here,
like Kaylen, Gary, Like I went to Gary's wedding and
it's just weird to see Gary get married when he
was just like this young little puppy I know, and
now he's like you can tell he totally loves Joya.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're so cute together, so cute. He's really
into being a dad. Yeah, he's a dad. Kaylin's like,
it's all right, let's up, Kaylen, what are you getting married?
I don't know. Well, it's good going on that, Kaylen.
You have a nice easy day today? Huh no, nohow no,
I don't. Yeah, you don't know. I got to work today.
You do. Is there a show today? No? But I
still have work to do, okay, all right, So you
don't have an easy day. I do not have an.
Speaker 2: Easy all right.
Speaker 1: So here's my thing I've been trying to get. This
is my theme today. Get Sadie like engaged with her,
right yeah. And it's so frustrating because she doesn't I
don't love watching movie movies anyway, but like what kid
doesn't like what? She does? Not like watching movies. It
is like torture for her to have to watch a
movie with me. So there's this new movie. It's called Koda.
Have you heard of this movie. It's with Marley Mattlins
in it. It's about this girl who wants to be
a singer and she her whole family is deaf. Her mom, dad,
and brother are deaf and they work as fishermen and
she helps them out because she's the only hearing one
in the family. But she wants to be a singer
and she has got a really beautiful voice. Anyway, it's
TOLLAPG thirteen. Like it's also funny. Yeah, it's got like
some swearing in it, Like it's not it's really good movie.
And I heard about it from a friend of mine
who's like, it's a great movie. It's got it's you're
gonna love it. Watch it with the whole family. So
I got Sadie, But it's like pulling teeth. I was like, Sadie,
just give it a chance, like just watch thirty minutes
of it, you know, and then I have to do
this thing where I have to bargain with her and go.
You can bring your phone, like you could play a
game on your phone. I don't care. I just want
to see if you like it, like maybe it'll suck
you in, you know. So she agreed, but like under duress,
you know. She was like all right. So we watched
like thirty minutes of it, and I felt like she
was liking it, like really, yeah, somebody calls someone a
twat waffle, like there are something like that. Yeah, there's
some stuff that was like on her level. Yeah, you know, yeah,
and uh. But then after like thirty minutes, she was
like all right, she was done kind of and it's
fine because I had to, like I had to go
do something else too, I can't remember what. So then
I kept bringing it up, like, hey, you want to
watch the retifite. I was like, let's finish watching CODA,
and every time she'd be like, o h, we have to.
But I decided that I was going to see it through,
even if it kind of tortured her, so I really did.
I was like, Okay, but Sadie, I really want to
watch this with you, and she was like.
Speaker 2: Why I don't want to want That's you hate when
you push something and they're like why are you being
so weird about it? Or what like Natalia will go
like what.
Speaker 1: What do you care? Why do you what? All right?
I finally told Sadie though, I was like, because I'm
trying to do something with you, and I feel like
like I want to do this, but I want to
do it with you. And then John gets on, you know,
He's like, come on, Sadie, like mom wants to watch
this movie with you, and so she's like all right, yeah,
that's no fun going into it like that. But I
was like, but then I can't. I don't want to
back down. I want to be like, fine, don't watch it. Then,
so I'm like, all right, so we're gonna watch it.
Can bring your phone, and she ended I think she
ended up enjoying it, like we started it from where
we left off and it was really good. Of course,
then I'm crying during it, touching and Sadie's like, yeah right, yeah,
my kids, all three of my kids are sociopaths. They
have no empathy or feelings. They can't understand crying for
somebody else, Like I write, I know my kids are
like that too. No I'm like no, yeah, I am
all right. I'm because you know what, I have a heart.
It's beating and this is emotional, Like, you don't think
this is emotional. She's like, I guess, yeah, but I
do think she enjoyed it. I don't know. Do you
think I won? No, I think I should.
Speaker 2: I think that that was a good thing.
Speaker 1: I was like, did you so did you like it?
Speaker 2: And she's like, yeah, maybe you could pick. Maybe she
could pick next time. Maybe you could say, like, Okay,
let's have a movie night once a month or once
every I don't know, like try and do it more consistently.
She wouldn't be down. What does she like doing? She
likes to be on YouTube?
Speaker 1: My god. I was literally talking to Paul get that dad,
and I was telling him, you know, I was like, yeah,
I wanted to come tonight because I wanted to, like,
you know, try to find some stuff that she likes
to do. And he's like, well, what does she like
to do? I was like, yeah, great fucking question. If
I knew, I wouldn't be at an escape room right now.
Did she like the escape room? I mean, she doesn't
get that fired up. There's there's very few things that
she goes that was really fun, right, right, right? Very
few things. Yeah, there's very few things she expresses interest
in trying or doing.
Speaker 2: She likes hanging out with Paul's kids though, right or
she could take it or leave it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean yeah, kind yeah, kind of, but she doesn't.
I think being around people is a lot of work
for her. I think she likes it enough, like she
she wanted to do it, she was up for it.
But I don't think she's like, oh my god, that
sounds so fun. That's the whole thing with even with Disneyland,
when it was like, hey, he's inviting you guys, she
was like, I don't know, be away from home, yeah,
two days? That doesn't She likes well, she loves dyeing
her hair different colors. She loves thinking about like, she
likes esthetics. She likes like she's she's been giving a
lot of thought to, like redecorating her room. Nice because
we're doing that build, so we go. She likes looking
at Amazon and planning, like decorating her room. Tell her
to get a.
Speaker 2: Vision board, right or start a Pinterest page.
Speaker 1: She likes looking at clothes and fashion and stuff, and
she likes so she has a passion for things. But
I feel like all kids have that, and then they
also have other interests.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well.
Speaker 1: It's hard.
Speaker 2: It's hard because the kids have everything they need at
their fingertips all the time, so it's not like when
we were growing up where we needed to find things
to do to keep us busy, you know. So it's
easy to just be like, once you have everything, you know,
when you have things that you like and you can
look at, and you know, you have YouTube in front
of you, it's easy to be like and kind of
rather especially if that's your thing and not going out
is your thing. It's easy to just go like, I'd
rather stay here and be on my YouTube page.
Speaker 1: Right, But you have the same thing with Sonny. Yes, yeah,
and Sonny is he loved basketball and that was kind
of his life. I remember he loved it so much
that he was willing to be the team assistant.
Speaker 2: Yeah right, yeah, he loves sports.
Speaker 1: Well then all but then he was.
Speaker 2: Like, eh, right, not going to do it right. Well,
now the thing is, uh so I just had their IEP. Well,
Sonny's boom testing very okay, Sonny's being tested still because
it's his triannuals Natalia, I had her IEP and they
did this thing. It's like seven forty five in the morning,
you're going to get on zoom and you're going to
be with the counselor and all her teachers, and we
require Natalia at least beyond for the first few minutes,
you know, of the of the call o kind of
like okay, So night before Natalia comes home from the
big game where everybody's chanting her and I'm like, it's
ten thirty at night, and I'm like, okay, but hold on,
slow your role. We have to be on zoom tomorrow
at seven forty five. Oh no, no, I can't tell them.
I can't tell them.
Speaker 1: I can't.
Speaker 2: I want to sleep until the very last second and
then get to school and I'm gonna be late for school.
I said, they'll let you be late. Then she's like, oh,
I can be late. I said yeah, and she's like,
all right, but I have to be on zoom on
the camera. And I said yeah, and she's like, she's like,
do I have to just just go to bed.
Speaker 1: I'll get on the zoom. I'll call you when I'm
when we're ready.
Speaker 2: So what happens is normally I don't have to think
twice about going to get Natalia up.
Speaker 1: She's up.
Speaker 2: Well, of course, put it in her brain that she
could be late. I didn't put two and two together.
So anyway, I'm doing my zoom upstairs with the teachers
and I'm on and I text Natalia, are you ready?
And I'm about to get on and she's like, I'll
be on in a few minutes. So I didn't go back,
so I start with them. Then we get through everything
I need to be on with and I'm like, okay, well,
let me go see where Natalia is. So I get
I put the I had them on my phone, I
put them down. I go downstairs. She's asleep, and I'm like,
what the fuck? I have all your teachers upstairs in
my bedroom right now waiting for you, and you're asleep
in this dark room?
Speaker 1: Get up? Are you kidding?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, now, I'm like, what the fuck do
I do? So I go back upstairs, I get the phone.
I go she's ready, but I'm just gonna have her
not on camera because she's got to get dressing and
she's getting ready, so but she can hear everybody. So
then I go down there and she's like still like
half a sleep.
Speaker 1: Her voice is like coarse because she was like.
Speaker 2: Screaming the night before I'm like and they're like Natalian,
She's like, yeah, oh my gosh, she's here.
Speaker 1: She can hear you.
Speaker 2: I'm like, Natalia left, and by the way, I'm on
the camera, so it's not like I can go, would
you you know I can't. I'm like smiling and you know. Meanwhile,
I got my hand going like get the fuck up,
get up, you know.
Speaker 1: And she's like, what are you saying. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I could come anyway. So it was working out okay.
Then Phil starts to wander in and she hates Phil
being in her bedroom and she's like trying. So now
I'm following her around the room so she could hear.
But meanwhile she's trying to get Phil. She's pulling him
by his tail, trying to get him out, and I
was like, Natalia, and I know why he's in there
because he has to go to the bathroom. Nobody let
him out yet to pee, and he's waiting for me,
so he's coming to tell me he's got to go
to the bath So all this shit's going on, and
they're like, so for your third semaster, bablah, and I'm like,
can we wrap this fucking shit up already? Finally, like
she got into a discussion with one of the counselors
about something and they were going nowhere and they could
tell like from the look on my face. Then one
and one of them just says, okay, so maybe we
should just wrap this up and then you guys can
talk off the you know, off the air or whatever
about what.
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: It's like, thank god. But so that was Natalia's IEP.
But so Sonny it's different because Sonny doesn't want to
go to college, and of course the school's like what
and then and then it's like, I'd like him to
go to college, but his dad, according to his dad,
doesn't think he needs to go to college. So I'm like,
but we haven't gotten to the IEP meeting yet. So
I sent an email and I said, Adam, you need
to Can you write something up of what because I
want Sonny to have if he's not going to go
to college, what is his goals? He's going to have
to have some goals. He's going to have to have
a direction to move towards. He's not just going to
like float around, you know what I mean? Everybody, Natalia's
got her goals. She wants to go to college.
Speaker 1: She's got to get keep her grades up, she's got
to take this class to get to that class.
Speaker 2: Sonny doesn't have any of that. But that's not I
don't want how it's going to work. And I told
this to Adam, and I said, this is what's going
to have to happen. This is no secret, Like Adam
talks about it all the time. College, this is college
that Okay, if the boy's not going to go to college,
then what is his objectives? What's his goal? What's his
you know? And what is he going to do to
achieve those goals? So I told Adam, like, his IEP's
going to come up. I think that you should be
a part of this. You should meet with the teachers.
Speaker 1: Yeah, tell them, you tell them, right, I don't want
my kid going to college, right, have like.
Speaker 2: Right, get get an outline working for Sonny, like what.
Speaker 1: Is his what? And help him? What does he think?
What does Adam think? Yeah? Why? I mean he doesn't
want him to go to college? Why because it's like,
oh that he doesn't want him to go to college.
He says it.
Speaker 2: Well, he's like, yeah, there's part of that. And then
there's also like, but he's always been that way. Jimmy
told this.
Speaker 1: Like weird anti liberal, like they're teaching them like that
to in college. But it's been it's part of that
is some of it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's been like that since day one, since
I met Adam and Jimmy for that matter, Anthony. When
my nephew graduated high school, came out for the summer.
No before he graduated, he was out for the summer,
was playing catch with Sunny with Jimmy, and Jimmy was like,
you don't need that college bullshit. You come see me
when the time is right, you come see uncle Jimmy.
I'll give you a job. If you want to work
in the entertainment industry, come work for me. Get to
work first, Like that's if that's what you want to do.
Speaker 1: Get to work if that's what they want to do,
right Listen. I'm no like huge college pusher. I didn't
go like you know it's I was like, if you're scrappy,
you can make things work. But I also feel like
I was at a disadvantage in a lot of ways
because no one was ever really pushing me. I mean,
I wasn't able to get help and tutors, and I
just thought I was bad at school, right, and so
learning more and having more homework and more teachers sounded
like a fate worse than death to me. And I
was like, I'd rather just figure it out myself, and
I did. It is possible, But I do think for kids,
especially if they don't know what they want unless they know.
Speaker 2: He thinks he knows, but if he wants to be
a sports commentator or whatever that industry, then he's got
to write.
Speaker 1: Like it's like, start.
Speaker 2: Writing then, like, or start getting those skills that you
need if you're gonna really be if you're going to
be working on First Take with Max Kellerman and whoever
the other steven A, which is Sonny's dream job. Don't
you think these guys sat there and you know, don't
you think they have some so they don't just go
on air and just start talking.
Speaker 1: It's funny because my kids, Sadie and Xander literally have
an elective called sports writing oh at their school. Really,
isn't that funny? See that's nice. Yeah, neither of my
kids want to be sports writers. That's the last thing
they would sign up for. But I'm just saying, oh,
that would be great.
Speaker 2: Yes, so writing like gets and Sonny doesn't like writing.
He doesn't look, he doesn't like pen to paper, he
doesn't mind the typing part. But it's more than that.
It's all of that, you know, just to start there,
just start there, you know.
Speaker 1: So well, I just don't love the idea of personally
of one way or the other either, being like, you
have to go to college, it's the only way. But
I also don't like, you don't need college, like a
lot of kids do need college, especially if they have
the opportunity to go exactly, you know what I mean, Like, yeah,
a lot of kids would kill to go to college.
They don't have that opportunities. So it's weird to like dissuade,
like I guess if he's just going to go on
like people doing favors and getting him a job, but
what if that right? Right?
Speaker 2: But I also like, you don't know where else?
Speaker 1: Well, also you don't know what you're gonna want.
Speaker 2: You know, he's saying this now, but maybe you know
who knows by the time he's in in senior year,
like comes with us to look at colleges for Natalia,
maybe he has a different change of art. I mean
I'm not going to stop. I'm going to keep encouraging him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all you can do, right, But if you
really get it in your head that you're not going
to go to college, then you're not going to apply
yourself in school because you're gonna be like, why right,
I'm not going to go right like me. But that's
but and then I graduated with a horrible GPY.
Speaker 2: That's why I need Adam involved in this, because he
needs to be held accountable for something. He needs to
have a direction, he needs to you know, know, what
he wants to And Sonny agrees with that, and he's like,
I'm all for that, but I just I don't see
the need of, you know, going to college when I
know what kind I have an idea of what I
want to do, all right, but so we'll see.
Speaker 1: I was sort of like that too, like I said,
but then it didn't really work out that well, I know,
and I wish I had a father in the business.
I was like, oh, I'm gonna yeah, you think it's oh,
And then honestly I got to a point where I
was like, how do people get these jobs? Like how
are people doing well in their careers? And I'm waiting
tables like, I don't understand. There's like something missing. I
think what that missing piece was like a community of
people that all graduated from the same school in any
kind of connection, right, but whatever. Yeah, my goodness, and
thanks to everybody. Thank you guys for your support and yeah,
we love you guys and we'll see you. Thanks Kaylin,
thank you for coming in on the holiday. Yeah, and
you're a parent now, don't have enough, man,