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Speaker 1: Let me pause here. Okay. These men will try to

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They will send a bird, you block them on your phone,

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They come through your email, they come, they'll contact you

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on LinkedIn, they come through your DM and you're thinking like, wow,

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this person is really trying to get in contact with me.

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Then when they get in contact with you, hello, hello,

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can you hear me now any want? The connection is bad.

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These men will go through hell and high water to

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try to connect with you just so that you will fold.

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And when you fold, they like, checkmate, got her, got them? Hey, y'all,

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welcome back to Dear to see ya. Thank you, thank you,

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thank you here and the applause. Okay. Word on the

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street was, yeah, my little set situation ain't ain't a

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half I ain't do half bad. Okay. Word on the

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street was, y'all liked my little you know, my new esthetic.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you this. You gotta do the best

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that you can. Well what you got, okay. And I've

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heard I've heard the people say, I've heard y'all in

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the comments, and you see y'all said, hey, you said

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it wasn't half bad. So I fear I fear this

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may be permanent for a few months. You know my producer,

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I know he probably like you didn't once you could

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do it again. Okay, so I fear that this may be,

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this may be permanent for a few months. Y'all rocking

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on your roland. Okay, thank you, thank you, and you

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better stay right here. Okay. Anyways, y'all know we're gonna

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I see we inching up. We're inching up. We're inching up.

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I know we can do this. We're inching up. I

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would love to hit twenty k by my birthday. None

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of that's another that's pretty See. My birthday is on

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April twentieth, so I feel like I should have twenty

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k by the time twentieth. Doesn't that sound good? Twenty

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k by the twentieth, Let's see if we could do it. Okay,

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who knows? Who knows? You know, I may just this

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may be my overflow season. You never never know, Okay,

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but I believe in receive. So twenty k by the

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twentieth don't sound half bad. Y'all already know I'm used

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to uh not hit my goals because y'all still played

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in my face about that million four Remember last year

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twenty twenty five April twentieth when I told y'all wonted

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a million followers and I still haven't gotten it yet.

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Delay is not denial anyways. Okay, on to our review section.

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We have tours with the t Hey Girl, Hey Girl,

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I start us. I'm the first and the last, the

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beginning and the end. Okay, I start the tours on

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April twentieth, So hey tours with the tea she said

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tuned in everywhere period. I absolutely love your channel to

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see if this is what more women need to hear,

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which is stable, which is stable, insight, examples and reviews,

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and a non judgment supportive stands from a mature woman

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you know what. I think that that's a great synopsis.

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Let's read that again. She said, this is what people need,

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This is what women need to hear, which is a

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stable insight. Boom check examples and reviews. Check y'all know.

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I'll come with my receipts and in non judgment non

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judgmental SUPPORTERO stands from a mature woman. Check and check. Now,

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not too much on them. Mature What you're trying to say?

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What you? What are you trying to say?

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Speaker 3: Who?

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Speaker 1: I guess I am mature women? I say, I'm not

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telling you what I heard. I'm telling you what I know.

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That does come with maturity. Okay, you know I've been

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around the block a couple of times. Anyways, I'm still

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feeling young. I'm still feeling young. Okay, y'all jumping into

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our dear to see a voicemails. Y'all know this one

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of my This is one of my favorite segments because

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I really feel like y'all are calling into me. What

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y'all did call into me? Y'all calling in to me.

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But I don't know if y'all know this, But I

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don't listen to the voicemails until i'm actually listening to

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them right now. I don't preview on, I don't listen

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to them beforehand. I don't try to prep what I'm

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saying because I wanted to be genuine, authentic advice. Okay,

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I wanted to be genuine, authentic advice, and so I

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listened to it. This is fresh and raw, real and raw,

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straight out, straight out the voice mail phone. Okay, So

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let's see. Let's see what our good sis says. It

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is entitled. Let's see what is entitled first before I look,

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bear with me, before I get the dipping and dabbling.

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Let's talk about what is entitled. Okay, it is entitled.

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Oh there it is. How do I detach from someone

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who keeps coming back? Y'all know this is my wheelhouse.

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This is my wheelhouse. Okay, How to detach? How to

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control your emotion so your emotions don't control you? Okay,

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So let's listen to the voicemail.

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Speaker 4: Dear to see you. I'm twenty years old. I started

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talking to this guy in April. Early on, he told

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me it wasn't a good time because of his medical

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school exam. That was an excuse. I just think that

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he wasn't in the capacity to handle me. In September,

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he reached back out and apologized for ghost to me

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because we had met up before school started in August.

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he told me that he didn't feel like it tonight,

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but I gave in to him, and I didn't like that.

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That was my wake up call because now you overly

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using me. After that, he kept texting, bothering me every

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single day and I blocked him soon after I got

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tired of receiving the text. Then I unblocked him because

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I said, well he tried on another platform, this means something. No,

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he was just trying to get in any way that

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he could. Recently, I reached out to him because his

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birthday was a few weeks ago and I told him

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happy birthday. Then he said happy Founders Day for my organization.

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after and said, are you trying to do anything? My

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question is how do you fully emotionally detach from someone

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who keeps trying to read into your life, especially when

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you're young and trying to progress and leave a situationship alone.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you darling for calling in a few things

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all right. From what I heard, I don't even know

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how this got into a situationship because there was no situations.

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He basically told you that he had to work on

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his exams, and then y'all kind of hung out a

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little bit. Here's what I'm gonna say to you, sweetheart.

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You have all the information that you need, a lot

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of us. Don't actually look at the data. You have

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all of the information that you need. Let's review the

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data that you have. Number one, he already tapped out.

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He said, I got a lot on my plate. I

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got a lot going on right now. I got by exams.

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I'm out of here. The second thing he did was

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that he didn't even properly exit. He ghost at you.

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And that's per your words, he ghosted you. So we

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have a lack of communication, a lack of maturity, and

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a lack of accountability. Okay. The third piece of data

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that you had is that this man is trying to

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connect with you on all platforms, okay, and you still

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haven't gotten any emotion from him. It's not like he

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didn't went through hell and high water to try to

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get to you, and when he got for you, he

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did nothing. He did nothing, He did nothing. These men

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let me pause here, Okay. These men will try to

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They will send a bird, you block them on your phone,

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They come through your email, they come, they'll contact you

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on LinkedIn, they come through your DM and you're thinking like, wow,

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this person is really trying to get in contact with me.

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Then when they get in contact with you, Hello, hello,

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can you hear me now anyone? The connection is bad.

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These men will go through hell and high water to

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try to connect with you just so that you will fold.

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And when you fold, they like, checkmate, got her? Got them.

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They're trying to see if you're just still stupid. Okay,

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trying to see if you're still stupid. These men absolutely

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want nothing. And I'm telling you it's nothing worse. I've

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said this before. There's nothing worse than a persistent man

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that's still trying to trying to contact you from all

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these different platforms. He got your email, your text mesch

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he calling your mama, he coming through your DM, he

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got you on LinkedIn. He doing all this stuff, baby,

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but he's not going to be intentional. These type of

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men crave attention. They crave validation. And you know what's happening.

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They're getting rejected out in the street. The girls that

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he really want to talk to. He ain't got enough.

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He ain't got enough to make headway with them, all right.

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He don't actually got it to make headway with a

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woman that's not going to tolerate his bs. So now

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he coming back. It's a little video you miss dumb Danielle,

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love you me and your girl. He coming right back

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to you, miss dumb Danielle. Okay, dumb Danielle, dumb Diane,

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dumb Denise, Okay, He's coming right on back to you.

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So he can get a dopamine here, so you can

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so he can see that he can conquer somebody. Because

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the baddies that he do want in the street, the

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women that are out of his league, the women that's

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not gonna accept his foolishness, he can't get them. So

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while you think that he's pursuing you so much, no,

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he can't actually obtain the woman that he really wants.

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So he's gonna come right on back to dumb Denise,

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dumb Danielle, dumb, Hello, and he gonna come and play

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in your face. How do you emotionally detach, Babby, it

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ain't nothing to detach from. I heard you talk about,

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Oh we went on beautiful days, we were so in love.

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He's been. He meets all my checks on paper, He

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meets me check list. I haven't heard a thing. How

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you gonna attack? How you gonna attach for something that

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you've never attached to? You can't miss nothing you never had. Okay,

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this man is gonna completely waste your time, save your

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emotional vals. You have the data. Your data shows that

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he's inconsistent. He's notoriously inconsistent. Your data shows you that

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he lacks communications skills and maturity. And your data shows

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that when you did give him a chance, he didn't

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take it. Please move on. And I know that you're young,

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but this this is why. Look, Auntie is here from you.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I know that you're young. I know that you're probably like,

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well what if he changes? Well, what do you know?

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The baby? You gotta see a couple of things. My

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mother used to always say, I've been thirty, you ain't

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been sixty. I've been thirty, you ain't been sixty. Now,

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I don't know how young you'a are, Okay, but I've

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been twenty five, you ain't been thirty seven. He's gonna

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do nothing but play with you. Okay, nothing but play

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with you. You've seen enough, baby, a lot of y'all. You're

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looking at your emotions and your feelings and what you're thinking,

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what you go to the data. The survey says that

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this man does not have the capacity, And you want

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to know what really happens. And I feel so sorry

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for us women because we think that we're maybe even

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exploring them, maybe trying to see if what they said

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was true. Maybe he did have a lot on their plate.

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And you want to know what happens when a man

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cracks you like that where he's like, I know that

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if I keep calling, I know that, if I keep texting,

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I know if I come from my trap page on

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social media, I know if I hit her up on Facebook,

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I know if I contact her sister, I know if

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I drop a package y'all at our house, I'm finally

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gonna get through to this girl. That's what we think

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is gonna happen. What's actually happening is he's trying to

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see if he could make you fold again. He's trying

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to see if you are really that weak he's trying

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to use you as confirmation and affirmation that he is

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somebody that he can get somebody. Okay, these type of

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men are sad out in the streets. A man that

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truly and I say this all the time, Baby, you

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are not Beyonce. Always wonder why a man is trying

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to connect with you on all platforms after you blocked him. Okay,

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you are not Beyonce. Why do you think that this

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man is chasing you like that? If he is so

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he say he is, he could be on to the

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next one, right, Why chase you? He could be on

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to the next girl. That he's doing that because he

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actually has low self esteem and m dump dump Listen,

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I'm trying to wash my mouth. But them holes out

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in the street, it ran dry. So now who cannot coach?

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Who can run to sin shs in this space? Who

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can I run to when I NEI love you? Dumb

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Danielle and dumb Denise? Who cannot run to when the when?

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Speaker 3: When?

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Speaker 1: When the whole world dried up?

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Speaker 3: You?

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Speaker 1: You gotta you gotta think big baby. He's not trying

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to make a change, He's not trying to uh do right.

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He's trying to see if he still got it because

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he didn't feel flat on his face out in the street.

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And I tell y'all this all the time. Most men

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are lazy. Instead of pursuing a new woman, instead of

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pursuing a woman when he's evolved, he would rather prevent

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himself from fetch a new kouchie. Okay, he would rather

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prevent himself from going out and actually doing the work.

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He gonna call creep right on into the old doggy

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door that he know, baby, after he didn't ran across

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that neighborhood, ran through the alley, ran up and down

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the sewer. Okay, your little doggy door open. He gonna

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be like, yup, mm hmm, smells just like home. WHATCHU

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cooking today? Vat? You gonna make them tacos for me?

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You gonna make get get get in there and make

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them tacos. Yvat. That's what he's saying to you, baby.

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He didn't ran through the doggy door, and he's coming around,

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and he like he walking in your stuff, like yup,

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just like I left it. M she ain't got no

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roaches or nothing. I'm gonna start coming over here. He's

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not going to change. Save your youth Okay, listen to

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Aunty all right? Mm hm AnyWho, any who dare to

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see a voice smail number two. It is entitled my

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relationship is great, but grad school might take us long distance.

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Let's see what our goods this is?

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Speaker 3: Dear to see? Yup. I just want to say first,

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I really love your podcast. It is just so helpful

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to someone who's a young woman, and it really is

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giving big sister energy. I'm calling in because I am

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twenty two years old. I'm an undergrad right now, and

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I met my current boyfriend just before undergrad. We were

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doing a bridge program like the summer before college, and

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we were just friends and we just started dating. We

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just celebrated our one year anniversary. It's honestly been a dream.

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It's been everything I could hope for.

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Speaker 4: He is so sweet.

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Speaker 3: He supports me. He really encourages me to reach for

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the stars and beyond, along with all of the other

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things like always buying me flowers, and it takes me

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on dates pretty regularly despite both of us being college students.

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But we're both looking to do grad school, so we're

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both applied to grad school and we just decided to

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apply wherever our hearts want to go and kind of

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decide how we're gonna work out long distance later. But

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I honestly am not sure about long distance to be

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real with you, Like, I don't really know how it's

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gonna go, and I don't know what to do. Should

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I prepare my mind to do long distance now? Or

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should I just take the heart that like you don't

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want to be too tied down, and like maybe we

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should just we're planning on taking a break. Should we

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just take a break. I'd love to hear your advice.

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Speaker 1: Well, first of all, it makes me so happy that

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you I believe you said you're twenty two and you

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are experiencing this kind of love.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: I know we get a lot of callers in, but

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it is refreshing to hear that he's happy that you're happy.

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He's happy with you, He encourages you. You all met

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in a place that breeds just growth, evolution and maturity.

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Why you met in college? This is just I don't know,

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you just sound it so cute. So I love this

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number one. Okay, I love this. Here's what I say,

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Here's what I would say, Here's what I would say. Okay,

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distance ain't nothing to a man who want to be

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with you. Okay. A man that wants to be with

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you would clown, would climb a mountain, will cross the

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red sea, will walk on water for you. Okay. Distance

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is not going to be nothing nothing. Distance is not

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going to be anything for a person that wants to

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be with you, right. I also say that I live

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under the principle of you don't have to be here

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to be here. I have felt more connection and chemistry

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from a man that lived in a different state than

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one that I that lived ten minutes away. You don't

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have to be here to be here. Okay. He was

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more intentional. He allowed us to connect more because since

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we didn't have the luxury of proximity, he was a

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lot more intentional. I felt that man on me and

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he did not live in the same city with me. Okay,

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you can feel more chemistry, intentionality, compromise, intention affection from

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a man that lives in another state, then you can

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from a man that's living down the street. So distance

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ain't nothing to a man that wants to be with you.

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It seems like y'all have a really really good foundation,

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and it sounds like this could work if you work

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it right. I would say My advice for you is

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to really start planning on what your expectations will be right.

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You're gonna have courses, he's gonna have courses. You all

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may need to align schedules to see when will be

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a better time to talk. You have to outline when

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will you all be seeing each other's girl. If this

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is your man, your man or your man, get that

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calendar out. Let's start looking at when in spring break,

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when are we gonna see each other? When will you

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have time to come down and see me and I

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can come visit you. It can work if you work it.

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And having this distance between you all will tell you

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all that you need to know. And I'm gonna tell

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you this. Some women only have a relationship because they

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have proximity. The moment that that negro get out of

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your sight, the moment that he get out of that

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house and from up under you, you don't even got

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a relationship. Maybe he's a wild hyena. A lot of us,

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seriously only have a relationship because we have proximity. If

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the man within another city, in another state, took a

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business trip, took a look, got deployed, or whatever, babe,

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that man will be so far off of you. You

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will start seeing inconsistency, of a lack of effort. Some

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of us are all the man only really acting right

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because y'all do live in the same house. So the

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distance is gonna show you all that you need to know. Baby,

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It's gonna show you all that you need to know

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about him, his intentions, his character, his morals, his ethic,

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and where his heart really is. So this is a

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good test. And Auntie, I'll tell your story. Okay, I

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had a college sweetheart, went to college together. I came in.

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I was a freshman, he was a junior. Okay, of

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course I was still in college when he went away.

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When he graduated. He graduated, and he went to play

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basketball overseas. He played basketball at undergrad and then he

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went to play basketball overseas. I was wherever he was.

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He was in Kentucky. I was there. He was in Austria.

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Passport baby stamped up. I was in Austria with them.

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It can work if you work it. We were in love.

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We were in love, and wherever he went, I was

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with a baby. I was on the greyhound. Gray still

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had a greyhound. I was on the Greyhound going to

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see that man. We had Christmases together when he would

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come home to visit. I would spend Christmas with his family.

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He would spend baby. Look, keep coming back it works

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if you work it, clean and ring. That's a a

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what do you call it? A rehab chant that my

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father used to have? But I never forgot that. Keep

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coming back sat work. If you work it, It'll work

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if you work it. Okay, I feel excited for you.

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I feel that you shouldn't necessarily strap up to take

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distance in space from this person. Right, You don't need distance,

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You're already about to have distance. Right, So I would say,

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go in full flash committed. Just know that there are

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obstacles that are going to come your way. There are

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obstacles that are going to come your way, and if

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one of them is going to be trust, it's going

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to be do you trust this person or do you

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have your own excuse me? Do you have your own

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internal insecurities? All right? Will the relationship stand if you're

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not close to him? Okay? Do you feel more secure

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having a kind of eye on this person? This will

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also teach you a lot of things about yourself, Okay.

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And so I hope that you all enjoy this period

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and that you don't taint it with toxicity and drama

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and where were you and why didn't you answer your phone?

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Blah blah blah blah. Trust me, I ain't telling you

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what I heard. I'm telling you what I know. It

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ain't even worth it, Okay, it ain't even worth it.

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So I hope that this this that y'all can, y'all

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can got y'all got a few more years on you.

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Who knows it could be your husband, who knows, who knows?

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But I think that this is going to be a

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test for both of you all. Yeah, this is gonna

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be a test for both of you all. I was

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gonna say that there are some nuances with this that

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I would give to a young adult at twenty two

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year old about settling down this soon and staying in

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a relationship this soon. But I think that everybody, most

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women are gonna have that early twenties bid that they

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do where it's like from maybe nineteen to twenty five.

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Those may be years where you are gonna have the three,

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four or five year relationships. But I'm telling you, friend,

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after that, you don't give nobody three four, five, six, seven,

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eight years. Okay, you stick and move you stick and

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move until you roll into your thirties. Okay, anyways, there

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we go. Thanks for sharing, Thanks for sharing. I love this.

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I love talking to y'all. I truly, truly do. Okay,

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dear to see you. Voicemail number three we have. He

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wants to meet my family, but I'm not even speaking

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to them.

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Speaker 3: What did they do?

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Speaker 1: We'll see. Let's see what the girl said here, Tess.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, A little background on my relationship. I am thirty seven.

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My boyfriend is forty seven. We live about an hour

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and a half away from each other, so we don't

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spend time in person weekly. We mostly stay connected through FaceTime,

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text message, or a phone call each day. We see

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each other in person maybe every two to three weeks,

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which works for us despite our demanding work situations. So

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a little background on him. His parents passed away when

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he was nine. He was raised by his grandmother. After

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that she passed away. He has a sibling that lives

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in a different state and two children that live in

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a different state. Here, he has work and now I

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have come into his life. So when I talked about

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his family dynamic, it was a sensetive subject to him,

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and he was really emotional about it, so I said,

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I'm just not gonna bring that up anymore because he

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still is very emotional about that. I've talked to him

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about working his feelings out and being open to therapy

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to work through that process, because when my mother passed away,

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that's what it took for me, and he was very

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open to that, and that's what he's doing now. So

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he wants to be let in on my side of

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the important people in my life, which is my family

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and my close friends. Very understandable. However, my family, because

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of their behavior of these past through holidays, I'm gonna

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love them from a distance. It's no way that I

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can carry on with the same relationship that me and

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my family had due to incidents that happened on Thanksgiving

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and Christmas when they cut up bad, real bad. He's

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aware of those situations, but he's been a little pushy

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of it. I want to love them from a distance.

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I have to work out this situation when my relatives

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before I can bring you in this situation my friends.

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I said, I'm down for it. Let's meet up, let's

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hang out, let's do whatever. He's focused on my family.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I get it.

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Speaker 2: We want to meet each other's family and people closest

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to us, and he has a sensitive situation with his family.

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I'm just in a situation of I ain't messing with

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them people.

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Speaker 3: So he brings it up.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out how to have a different

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conversation with him about that. I told him where I stand,

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and he wants something different and advice, your thoughts, comments

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or anything would be appreciated in this situation.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, okay, y'all forgive me. I had to play

471
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:57,519
that back a few times. I had to play it

472
00:27:57,519 --> 00:27:59,160
back a few times because I had I had to

473
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,240
get that age, y'all. I know how to fuel about ages.

474
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:06,039
I was trying to see was thirty Was she thirty

475
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,359
seven and he was twenty seven? Or was she thirty

476
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:10,440
seven and the man was forty seven? So I had

477
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,400
to play that back a little bit and I was

478
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:16,799
able to, okay, find out that they were she's thirty seven,

479
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,279
he's forty seven. Okay. I had to clit a room

480
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:19,599
on that.

481
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:20,319
Speaker 2: Now.

482
00:28:21,319 --> 00:28:26,519
Speaker 1: A lot of times, a lot of times what people

483
00:28:26,599 --> 00:28:30,000
are saying to you is not what they are trying

484
00:28:30,079 --> 00:28:34,920
to communicate. A lot of times, what people are saying

485
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:39,359
to you is not what they are saying, if that

486
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:44,279
makes any sense. Follow me here. What someone constantly is

487
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:48,799
nagging at you about something that they're bringing up in

488
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,720
something that seemed to be a constant pillar of conversation

489
00:28:53,119 --> 00:28:57,759
for you all, there's something deeper there that they're actually

490
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:01,599
trying to say. Most time, what people are saying is

491
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,720
not what they're saying. And men are terrible at this,

492
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:08,160
right They'll say like, oh, well, you know, I just

493
00:29:08,279 --> 00:29:12,200
want to really meet your family, when it's actually something

494
00:29:12,279 --> 00:29:16,599
else there. And so my advice to you would be

495
00:29:16,759 --> 00:29:21,160
to really find out what is it that he is saying. Okay,

496
00:29:22,839 --> 00:29:25,680
it may be that he wants to, you know, make

497
00:29:25,759 --> 00:29:28,640
sure that y'all are solidifying things and moving in the

498
00:29:28,759 --> 00:29:32,720
right direction. Could very well be that. It also could

499
00:29:32,839 --> 00:29:37,359
mean that he's having his own troubles with his family,

500
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:41,680
as you shared, and he doesn't want to enter something

501
00:29:41,759 --> 00:29:45,039
else broken again, and he's hoping to get a little

502
00:29:45,119 --> 00:29:48,720
retrieved from your family because his stuff is messed up.

503
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 3: Right.

504
00:29:51,119 --> 00:29:55,039
Speaker 1: A lot of times as well, men want a kind

505
00:29:55,119 --> 00:30:00,559
of full preview before they buckle down, and men are

506
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,119
the ones that make the decision of who they want

507
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:04,960
to marry for the rest of their life. This is

508
00:30:05,039 --> 00:30:07,000
who he is. You're going to be the person that

509
00:30:07,039 --> 00:30:09,839
he's gonna propose to. So he also may be trying

510
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,880
to get a glimpse of what things will look like,

511
00:30:13,039 --> 00:30:15,839
and it may just matter to him more because he

512
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:20,119
has his own broken family dynamics. I can actually relate

513
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:24,559
to that because my family is very, very very small.

514
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:29,000
So I always hope that my partner would be able

515
00:30:29,119 --> 00:30:34,720
to gift me some family, some family dynamic that I

516
00:30:34,799 --> 00:30:36,519
may be missing, right, or that I may be in

517
00:30:36,559 --> 00:30:44,359
a deficit. Ind he also may he also may be

518
00:30:44,799 --> 00:30:48,680
trying to protect you from what he's already going through. Right.

519
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:54,880
He may be trying to shepherd you into a place

520
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:59,759
that he's already seen. Right, he may have already been

521
00:30:59,839 --> 00:31:03,720
through the depths of family issues and he's actually trying

522
00:31:03,839 --> 00:31:07,440
to shepherd you in more of a protective way to

523
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:14,720
navigate your family situation better. Right. So here's the silver lining.

524
00:31:15,359 --> 00:31:19,160
I think that you should really figure out what is

525
00:31:19,359 --> 00:31:20,319
the bottom of it.

526
00:31:20,559 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 3: Right.

527
00:31:21,559 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 1: A lot of times people that talk about something a

528
00:31:25,519 --> 00:31:27,680
lot and they kind of can't quite let it go.

529
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:32,119
There's a fear there, right, and you want to encourage

530
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:36,119
him to track his fear. What is this really about.

531
00:31:37,039 --> 00:31:41,039
Is it that you don't trust me and you want

532
00:31:41,079 --> 00:31:43,799
to make sure that this is solid. Is it that

533
00:31:44,079 --> 00:31:47,559
you are exhausted or you feel like it's been too

534
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:52,640
long since we've made kind of big, big transitions in

535
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:56,359
this relationship. Is there something that you need to see

536
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:59,119
from me so that it can help you be sure

537
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,400
about if this is something that you want to do.

538
00:32:02,119 --> 00:32:07,799
Are you afraid that you won't have the family dynamic

539
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:11,119
that you desire? Right, you need to get to the

540
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:16,680
bottom and track the fear. But most importantly, Okay, you

541
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:20,960
want to find out if this man is gonna stand

542
00:32:21,119 --> 00:32:24,839
with you, whether it is or it ain't. Okay, that

543
00:32:25,119 --> 00:32:28,359
is really the main thing. You want to make sure

544
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:32,319
that you have a partner that is going to stand

545
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:38,240
with you when your decisions directly impact him, right, when

546
00:32:38,279 --> 00:32:41,799
you're negatively and particularly right. Yeah, it will be great

547
00:32:41,799 --> 00:32:43,599
if you reconnected with your family and started talking to

548
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:46,200
everybody again, even though that they you've had grievances with them,

549
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,839
even though you have tension and discontent with them. Yeah,

550
00:32:49,839 --> 00:32:52,039
it will be great because then he gets to have

551
00:32:52,319 --> 00:32:54,160
he gets to be in that space with you. Right,

552
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,519
But what about if it never happens can you deal

553
00:32:57,599 --> 00:33:00,920
with that? Can you accept me for with that? Can

554
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,799
you walk through it with through the fire with me

555
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,200
and that component? Can you can you pick up pick

556
00:33:07,279 --> 00:33:09,519
up the pieces of my broken heart when I when

557
00:33:09,559 --> 00:33:12,720
I don't have my family, because that's hurting me as well. Okay,

558
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:16,319
there were things that happened in past holidays that have

559
00:33:17,359 --> 00:33:20,440
caused big disruption in my family dynamic. Can you stand

560
00:33:20,519 --> 00:33:25,400
with me through that? Right? So that's my advice. Number one.

561
00:33:25,519 --> 00:33:27,680
You want to figure out what is the bottom of

562
00:33:27,759 --> 00:33:30,039
the fear, What is it? Get to the bottom of it.

563
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,000
What is it that you're feeling. What is it that

564
00:33:33,519 --> 00:33:37,880
my family and meeting my family and me reconnecting with

565
00:33:38,039 --> 00:33:42,359
my family? What does it mean to you and for you? Okay?

566
00:33:43,039 --> 00:33:47,039
The second thing is if it never changed, are you down?

567
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:53,400
If I never work out that dynamic and I continue

568
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:57,839
to struggle in that department, is this something that you

569
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,839
can be down for? Is it something that you can

570
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:08,519
be down for? That's my advice. That is my advice

571
00:34:08,559 --> 00:34:11,760
to you. That's my advice to you, sweetheart. Anyways, thank

572
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:16,760
you so much for calling in our fragrance segment to

573
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,079
see if you smell good. I want't a fragrance. All, y'all,

574
00:34:19,079 --> 00:34:21,960
I think I told you I'm gonna start. I'm gonna

575
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:28,719
start reviewing and showcasing some of my new babies, my

576
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,559
new purchases. Okay, so let's get into the notes of

577
00:34:32,679 --> 00:34:36,039
this fragrance. This is this is beautiful. It's a beautiful fragrance. Okay,

578
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:40,000
so I probably should tell y'all what fragrance it is, right,

579
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:50,760
da duda Okay, So here for this beauty. Here for

580
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:56,280
this beauty, we have Duceesa by Gritty. Okay, this is

581
00:34:56,400 --> 00:35:00,400
Gritty's Duceesa. I was actually very very excited because this

582
00:35:00,559 --> 00:35:04,320
is my breakthrough into this fragrance house. I don't own

583
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:08,519
anything from Gritty, but I've heard amazing, amazing things about it.

584
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:11,440
And when I tell y'all this bottle, this bottle is heavy,

585
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:14,719
it is lux Okay, it got some weight on it.

586
00:35:15,039 --> 00:35:18,679
It has this swede velvety thing. For all the money

587
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:23,320
we spending, make sure it's bottled properly. We want performance,

588
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:28,280
we want big beyonce. Okay. I can't stand buying a

589
00:35:28,639 --> 00:35:34,320
really nice, expensive fragrance and the dangon packaging ain't worth

590
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:40,280
the hype. If I'm spending three four, five hundred y'all

591
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:44,840
better put some effort into this bottle, and they did. Okay,

592
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:49,679
they did, Okay, So this is duchessa by Gritty. Let's

593
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:55,920
read the notes, okay. The top notes are black cherry, saffron,

594
00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:06,000
bitter orange, and peach. The hart notes are hoko, jasmine clothes,

595
00:36:06,599 --> 00:36:08,840
white flowers, and star a nise.

596
00:36:09,599 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 2: Hmmm.

597
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 1: The bass notes are almond, brown, sugar, iris, and pachuli.

598
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,880
Doesn't this sound just gorgeous?

599
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:21,519
Speaker 3: So?

600
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:25,159
Speaker 1: The scent profile is cherry four with the mix of creamy,

601
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:32,119
sweet and powdery undertones, often compared to cherry marcipon or

602
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:36,679
boozy cherry liqueur. Okay, you know, cherry, you can go

603
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:40,639
right or wrong. Cherry can be right or wrong. You

604
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:44,760
don't want that cheap artificial cherry, okay. And it's only

605
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:46,960
a couple people that have done cherry right, and I

606
00:36:47,039 --> 00:36:49,639
hope that this is one of them. Okay, So let's smell.

607
00:36:51,079 --> 00:36:56,440
Let's smell our good cis. Oh, I'm excited, I'm excited.

608
00:36:56,559 --> 00:36:58,000
Let's see. I'm still trying to figure out how to

609
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,559
put my hands around. It's mike, y'all, so beer with me. Okay,

610
00:37:00,639 --> 00:37:14,559
let's smell our girl. Let's see. Oh, yes, yes, Oh

611
00:37:14,599 --> 00:37:15,960
my god. Okay, let me look at those, because I'm

612
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:19,199
gona tell you all, I'm smelling that's star anise. We

613
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,679
haven't talked about that enough to start anise. We haven't

614
00:37:22,679 --> 00:37:25,719
talked about that enough. That's that's a note that you

615
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,519
don't see a lot in fragrance. And I know this

616
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,360
smell because once upon a time, y'all, this is gonna

617
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,480
sound crazy. Once upon a time, I was going through

618
00:37:33,519 --> 00:37:39,760
some gut health, gut health issues, and the this this herbalist,

619
00:37:40,039 --> 00:37:46,840
herbalist slash like one of those organic people, you know,

620
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:51,000
a urbalish slash like, uh, holistic, that's what I'm looking for. Hello,

621
00:37:51,519 --> 00:37:54,760
holistic people put me on star anis, and so I

622
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,440
would put it in tea. I know that smell very well.

623
00:37:58,079 --> 00:38:05,800
I'm smelling the saffron. I'm smelling the black cherry. Oh,

624
00:38:08,679 --> 00:38:15,400
I'm smelling the the white flowers. I'm smelling the white flowers. Oh,

625
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:22,960
it's the cocoa. I'm smelling the cocoa. That's coca because cocoa, yes, cococoa,

626
00:38:23,199 --> 00:38:31,239
cocoa co. It is powdery, it is boozy, it is sweet,

627
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:40,480
it's creamy, y'all. I am loving this. I am loving, loving, loving,

628
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:42,880
like I do. I want to spill a little bit more.

629
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:54,199
Let's spread on me. Let me see, y'all to the front,

630
00:38:55,639 --> 00:39:03,239
gritty du chesta to the front. I'm gonna get to

631
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:08,519
the point where I am going to have my fragrance

632
00:39:08,559 --> 00:39:11,000
segment to see if you smell good, I'm gonna spray

633
00:39:11,079 --> 00:39:14,719
that fragrance. And before I get to the next fragrance

634
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:17,840
on the next episode, I'm going to tell you how

635
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:21,840
the old fragrance wore. The fragrance from the episode before work.

636
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:23,440
Y'all think I should do that. I think I should

637
00:39:23,679 --> 00:39:25,440
be cause right now I was like, hm hmm, spray

638
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:29,079
spray spray. But how did it wear? Okay? What was it?

639
00:39:29,159 --> 00:39:32,039
How did it perform? What was the siage like on it? Okay?

640
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:35,719
What was its lasting power? That's what we need to know. Hey,

641
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:40,559
no people look look cute little little sprays. We need

642
00:39:40,639 --> 00:39:43,239
to know what is a big dog fragrance or not?

643
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:47,000
How did it perform? So don't don't clock me on this,

644
00:39:47,199 --> 00:39:51,400
but I'm gonna try. I'm going to try to report

645
00:39:51,639 --> 00:39:55,239
back on the fragrance that I did the previous episode

646
00:39:55,559 --> 00:39:59,320
and let you know how it wore. Now I can't

647
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,039
confirm with the now that I'm gonna stick to this,

648
00:40:01,519 --> 00:40:03,360
but I'm gonna try because I feel like it's worth it,

649
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:10,280
right sol to the nearest buyer. Baby, anyways, do chessa

650
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,519
from gritty. I got this from Jona shop, a Joma shop.

651
00:40:17,519 --> 00:40:21,639
Call me call me. You probably ain't got nobody buying

652
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:26,000
as much fragrance from y'all as I am. Call me

653
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:36,239
Jama Shop. Send me a cold or something. AnyWho. Now, y'all,

654
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:39,440
it smells so good. It smells so good. Okay, y'all,

655
00:40:39,519 --> 00:40:43,440
we are on to our red flag report. We are

656
00:40:43,519 --> 00:40:47,400
onto our red flag report. Let me let me turn

657
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,960
this around. It's a little small. I don't wanna do

658
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:53,960
that that way. Okay, it's a little small. Let's see. Okay.

659
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:01,880
The red Flag Report is entitled the vacation post that

660
00:41:02,119 --> 00:41:07,599
raised questions. A relationship debate is going viral after a

661
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:12,920
story shared via the neighborhood Talk, originally posted by Instagram

662
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:17,719
user all Things Key. According to the post, a woman

663
00:41:18,639 --> 00:41:22,159
a woman's friend traveled to Turks and Kkos with her

664
00:41:22,199 --> 00:41:25,920
boyfriend for Valentine's Day. While they were on the trip together,

665
00:41:26,639 --> 00:41:28,920
they noticed While they were on a trip together, she

666
00:41:29,119 --> 00:41:34,360
noticed something felt a little strange. She noticed something felt

667
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:37,440
a little strange. Her boyfriend didn't post her at all

668
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:41,159
on Valentine's Day, which she initially didn't think much of.

669
00:41:41,639 --> 00:41:45,199
But the next day he posted a photo of himself

670
00:41:45,519 --> 00:41:50,280
at the gym with the caption locked in. The problem

671
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:53,960
he hasn't he wasn't at the gym.

672
00:41:54,679 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 3: Oh oh.

673
00:41:57,519 --> 00:42:00,800
Speaker 1: He posted a sephie of himself at the and said

674
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:05,920
locked in. The problem was that he wasn't actually at

675
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:10,039
the gym. He was in Turks with her when the

676
00:42:10,159 --> 00:42:14,360
picture was posted. Now the friend is starting to question

677
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:18,920
why someone would post an old photo pretending to be

678
00:42:19,159 --> 00:42:22,920
somewhere else while on their romantic trip with their partner.

679
00:42:24,199 --> 00:42:29,920
The concern is that he may be trying to hide

680
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:34,800
the trip from someone else or protect another person's feelings online.

681
00:42:35,679 --> 00:42:40,920
And that's where the red flag conversation begins, because in

682
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:44,840
today's dating culture, social media can reveal a lot about

683
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:49,960
how someone presents their relationship publicly. Some couples prefer privacy,

684
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:55,480
but when someone is actively posting misleading content about where

685
00:42:55,599 --> 00:42:58,599
they are or what they're doing, it can raise questions

686
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:04,119
about transparence see red flag question. If someone on a

687
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:08,480
romantic trip if someone is on a romantic trip with

688
00:43:08,599 --> 00:43:11,639
you but post content that makes it look like they're

689
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:16,480
somewhere else, is this just protecting privacy or a red

690
00:43:16,599 --> 00:43:19,920
flag that they may be hiding the relationship from someone else.

691
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,119
Let me tell you this. I may tell you a joke,

692
00:43:22,199 --> 00:43:24,760
by I'm never gonna tell you a lie. That man

693
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:31,760
is absolutely positively hiding that he is on that trip

694
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:35,679
with you. Okay, I'm telling what I heard, I'm telling

695
00:43:35,679 --> 00:43:37,719
you what I know, and I'm gonna tell you why.

696
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:43,039
First of all, it's not just that he didn't post

697
00:43:43,119 --> 00:43:47,480
a trip. It's not what he posted. It is what

698
00:43:47,639 --> 00:43:51,119
he didn't post as well. It's not that he didn't

699
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:55,079
post a trip of you all. He's trying to lead

700
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:59,679
somebody off track. Okay, he's trying to lead the German

701
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:03,000
chep for than the Greyhound off. He's trying to disguise,

702
00:44:03,159 --> 00:44:08,079
he's trying to throw them off. Okay, he's trying to

703
00:44:08,119 --> 00:44:11,280
put that he's in the gym when he's not. It's

704
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:15,719
a difference between not telling the truth, or it's a

705
00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:22,519
difference between not sharing and withholding the truth right or

706
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:28,159
holding that transparency that could be relevant information. Okay, now

707
00:44:28,199 --> 00:44:34,760
you have honesty and transparency. You are purposely trying to

708
00:44:35,039 --> 00:44:38,559
throw somebody off. Who you trying to throw off? We

709
00:44:38,679 --> 00:44:42,639
can only suspect probably another woman that you threw you

710
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:47,719
blowing her back out you and maybe I haven't seen

711
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:50,679
this game. I didn't see this a hundred times. You

712
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:56,000
are trying to hold and with frame information from the

713
00:44:56,159 --> 00:44:59,800
woman who you who's actually expecting Valentine's Day thing from you.

714
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:03,800
He is hiding from the woman who is asked who

715
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,320
will ask him about the Valentine's Day. He is on

716
00:45:06,599 --> 00:45:10,559
a trip in vacation with you, and he is hiding

717
00:45:11,159 --> 00:45:15,360
his vacation with you because there's another girl that's waiting

718
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:19,960
on the Valentine's Day with him. So he's trying to

719
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:26,400
throw her off by posting a picture of him in

720
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:31,519
the gym that he ain't in ironically during Valentine's Day,

721
00:45:31,679 --> 00:45:34,719
so that he can throw off the other girl. The

722
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,360
side check the other girl that he's talking to, so

723
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,800
he can throw her off because he didn't tell her

724
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:42,920
where he was. He didn't tell her that he's on vacation,

725
00:45:43,039 --> 00:45:44,400
and he definitely didn't tell her that he.

726
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:45,039
Speaker 3: Was with you.

727
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 1: He's trying to throw her off. He's trying to make

728
00:45:49,559 --> 00:45:52,480
that girl think that he's at home when he's actually

729
00:45:52,559 --> 00:45:58,079
with you. And you know what, these are the things

730
00:45:58,119 --> 00:45:59,920
that you probably will never be able to prove it.

731
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:02,760
I'm gonna ta the difference between me and you. I

732
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:04,880
know what I know, and that's all I know. I

733
00:46:05,079 --> 00:46:07,079
know what I know, and man, that's all I know.

734
00:46:09,159 --> 00:46:12,800
Shout out to uh so y G. No, that's not

735
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:16,400
why g that's uh what's his name? Don't whin I'm blanking.

736
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:20,400
I like his music. He's a day of Angela Simmons.

737
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:21,360
What's his name?

738
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:21,559
Speaker 4: Yo?

739
00:46:21,639 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 3: Gotti?

740
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,559
Speaker 1: Ha? I knew I was gonna get it, Yo, Gotti,

741
00:46:24,639 --> 00:46:26,760
Yo got he said. I know what I know, and man,

742
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,119
that's all I know. I know what I know, and

743
00:46:30,159 --> 00:46:32,599
that's all I know. See, y'all be waiting for a

744
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:35,559
man to prove to y'all, y'all be letting a man

745
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:41,119
look come through them portals, them ear portals. You know,

746
00:46:41,199 --> 00:46:43,760
there's portals of the mind, there's portals of the heart,

747
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,880
and there's portals of the ears. And y'all be letting

748
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:51,199
these men access your portals to explain and to and

749
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:54,920
to and to feed you lies. I know what I know,

750
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:56,639
and that's all I know, baby, all I gotta go

751
00:46:56,719 --> 00:47:00,360
is off a feeling. I don't need facts. Some of

752
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,119
y'all weighing too heavily on the facts that you you

753
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:06,119
didn't been with the man three five years, waiting on

754
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:10,559
facts of what you already felt. You waiting on a

755
00:47:10,639 --> 00:47:14,000
fact of what you already felt. You already felt it.

756
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:18,079
You will never be able to prove this. Don't waste

757
00:47:18,119 --> 00:47:23,639
your time, Okay, y'all, hear my stomach growling. Don't waste

758
00:47:23,639 --> 00:47:31,360
the time. He is hiding the trip with you from

759
00:47:31,599 --> 00:47:37,360
another woman, period, point in the blank, period, point in

760
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:40,719
the blank, And don't waste your time trying to find

761
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:48,239
out you got enough information. He's not just not posting

762
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:51,760
the trip. He's trying to throw somebody off the trail.

763
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,840
He's lying and being misleading and posting that he is

764
00:47:55,960 --> 00:48:02,280
where he isn't Is he ashamed of you? Is he hiding?

765
00:48:04,039 --> 00:48:05,760
What kind of man you got that don't want to

766
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:10,280
show that he out on vacation. I understand privacy, I

767
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:13,880
understand posting an arm, but you're gonna hide the whole

768
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,119
vacation and tell tell the world that you're at the gym. No,

769
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:21,079
that's a woman that's a woman that's on your body.

770
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:24,239
That's a woman that you gotta answer to. That's a

771
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:28,559
woman that you left, that you lie to and left

772
00:48:28,599 --> 00:48:31,360
her in a state of wanting told her that you

773
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:37,400
gonna y'all, y'all Valentine's they gonna be next weekend, and

774
00:48:37,519 --> 00:48:42,320
he's out with you. That's all that is, baby, And

775
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,199
you could Cary, you could take that check to the

776
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:49,039
bank and cash it and it will clear. Okay, that

777
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:53,440
man is talking to another woman, and he doesn't want

778
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:58,039
you to know, and he doesn't want her to know. Actually,

779
00:48:58,079 --> 00:49:01,840
more importantly, more importantly, he's protecting her feelings over yours.

780
00:49:04,119 --> 00:49:06,920
The moment he posts the ocean that phone gonna be ringing,

781
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:11,039
the moment that he posts that he jet skinned, that

782
00:49:11,199 --> 00:49:13,320
phone's gonna be ringing. So who do he care more about?

783
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:13,800
Speaker 3: You or her?

784
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 1: They say, you care more about the woman you lie to.

785
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:27,719
That's what Jody said. Jody, y'all, baby boy, Huh what

786
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:30,760
he's saying? He said, Well, actually, I guess, I guess

787
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:34,639
the opposite. Jody said he lied to them because he

788
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:42,440
don't care I tell he tells Yvette the truth because

789
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:46,440
I love you, Eve, So I don't know I don't know.

790
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:50,360
I haven't know if I found that theory to be correct. Okay,

791
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:55,000
maybe they lie more to the woman that they do

792
00:49:55,159 --> 00:49:55,559
care about.

793
00:49:58,480 --> 00:49:58,840
Speaker 3: I don't know.

794
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:08,280
Speaker 1: Nonetheless, that man is playing around. He is involved with

795
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:13,639
multiple women, and multiple only me, one more other than you. Okay,

796
00:50:16,199 --> 00:50:17,679
and you can cash that at the bank.

797
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:18,519
Speaker 3: Okay.

798
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 1: I didn't see it a million times. I've seen it

799
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,800
with my own twice. I listen, I talk to women

800
00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:27,199
every day, all day, all day, every day. This man

801
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:33,440
is involved with other women anyways, period. All right, we did.

802
00:50:33,599 --> 00:50:35,360
Let me make sure I'm not missing nothing. Let me

803
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:38,239
make sure I'm not missing nothing. Let me let me check.

804
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:44,760
Hold on, y'all, just see, I did it another episode

805
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:49,239
with me, me, myself and I in my new set.

806
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:52,360
Now I'm getting the lighting right, I'm getting the you know.

807
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:54,880
I'm still trying to position myself. I'm still trying to

808
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:57,880
you know, I'm getting things right. But thank y'all for

809
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:01,760
sticking with me. Thank y'all for watching another episode of

810
00:51:01,840 --> 00:51:07,119
Dear Tocilla. And don't forget to subscribe. Okay, see y'all

811
00:51:07,199 --> 00:51:28,480
next time. Love you, Bye, m