Speaker 1: Let me pause here. Okay. These men will try to
They will send a bird, you block them on your phone,
They come through your email, they come, they'll contact you
on LinkedIn, they come through your DM and you're thinking like, wow,
this person is really trying to get in contact with me.
Then when they get in contact with you, hello, hello,
can you hear me now any want? The connection is bad.
These men will go through hell and high water to
try to connect with you just so that you will fold.
And when you fold, they like, checkmate, got her, got them? Hey, y'all,
welcome back to Dear to see ya. Thank you, thank you,
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Speaker 1: I guess I am mature women? I say, I'm not
telling you what I heard. I'm telling you what I know.
That does come with maturity. Okay, you know I've been
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feeling young. I'm still feeling young. Okay, y'all jumping into
our dear to see a voicemails. Y'all know this one
of my This is one of my favorite segments because
I really feel like y'all are calling into me. What
y'all did call into me? Y'all calling in to me.
But I don't know if y'all know this, But I
don't listen to the voicemails until i'm actually listening to
them right now. I don't preview on, I don't listen
to them beforehand. I don't try to prep what I'm
saying because I wanted to be genuine, authentic advice. Okay,
I wanted to be genuine, authentic advice, and so I
listened to it. This is fresh and raw, real and raw,
straight out, straight out the voice mail phone. Okay, So
let's see. Let's see what our good sis says. It
is entitled. Let's see what is entitled first before I look,
bear with me, before I get the dipping and dabbling.
Let's talk about what is entitled. Okay, it is entitled.
Oh there it is. How do I detach from someone
who keeps coming back? Y'all know this is my wheelhouse.
This is my wheelhouse. Okay, How to detach? How to
control your emotion so your emotions don't control you? Okay,
So let's listen to the voicemail.
Speaker 4: Dear to see you. I'm twenty years old. I started
talking to this guy in April. Early on, he told
me it wasn't a good time because of his medical
school exam. That was an excuse. I just think that
he wasn't in the capacity to handle me. In September,
he reached back out and apologized for ghost to me
because we had met up before school started in August.
And then the second time after we met up in September,
he told me that he didn't feel like it tonight,
but I gave in to him, and I didn't like that.
That was my wake up call because now you overly
using me. After that, he kept texting, bothering me every
single day and I blocked him soon after I got
tired of receiving the text. Then I unblocked him because
I said, well he tried on another platform, this means something. No,
he was just trying to get in any way that
he could. Recently, I reached out to him because his
birthday was a few weeks ago and I told him
happy birthday. Then he said happy Founders Day for my organization.
And after that, that's when he texted a few hours
after and said, are you trying to do anything? My
question is how do you fully emotionally detach from someone
who keeps trying to read into your life, especially when
you're young and trying to progress and leave a situationship alone.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you darling for calling in a few things
all right. From what I heard, I don't even know
how this got into a situationship because there was no situations.
He basically told you, or maybe y'all were dating before.
He basically told you that he had to work on
his exams, and then y'all kind of hung out a
little bit. Here's what I'm gonna say to you, sweetheart.
You have all the information that you need, a lot
of us. Don't actually look at the data. You have
all of the information that you need. Let's review the
data that you have. Number one, he already tapped out.
He said, I got a lot on my plate. I
got a lot going on right now. I got by exams.
I'm out of here. The second thing he did was
that he didn't even properly exit. He ghost at you.
And that's per your words, he ghosted you. So we
have a lack of communication, a lack of maturity, and
a lack of accountability. Okay. The third piece of data
that you had is that this man is trying to
connect with you on all platforms, okay, and you still
haven't gotten any emotion from him. It's not like he
didn't went through hell and high water to try to
get to you, and when he got for you, he
did nothing. He did nothing, He did nothing. These men
let me pause here, Okay. These men will try to
They will send a bird, you block them on your phone,
They come through your email, they come, they'll contact you
on LinkedIn, they come through your DM and you're thinking like, wow,
this person is really trying to get in contact with me.
Then when they get in contact with you, Hello, hello,
can you hear me now anyone? The connection is bad.
These men will go through hell and high water to
try to connect with you just so that you will fold.
And when you fold, they like, checkmate, got her? Got them.
They're trying to see if you're just still stupid. Okay,
trying to see if you're still stupid. These men absolutely
want nothing. And I'm telling you it's nothing worse. I've
said this before. There's nothing worse than a persistent man
that's still trying to trying to contact you from all
these different platforms. He got your email, your text mesch
he calling your mama, he coming through your DM, he
got you on LinkedIn. He doing all this stuff, baby,
but he's not going to be intentional. These type of
men crave attention. They crave validation. And you know what's happening.
They're getting rejected out in the street. The girls that
he really want to talk to. He ain't got enough.
He ain't got enough to make headway with them, all right.
He don't actually got it to make headway with a
woman that's not going to tolerate his bs. So now
he coming back. It's a little video you miss dumb Danielle,
love you me and your girl. He coming right back
to you, miss dumb Danielle. Okay, dumb Danielle, dumb Diane,
dumb Denise, Okay, He's coming right on back to you.
So he can get a dopamine here, so you can
so he can see that he can conquer somebody. Because
the baddies that he do want in the street, the
women that are out of his league, the women that's
not gonna accept his foolishness, he can't get them. So
while you think that he's pursuing you so much, no,
he can't actually obtain the woman that he really wants.
So he's gonna come right on back to dumb Denise,
dumb Danielle, dumb, Hello, and he gonna come and play
in your face. How do you emotionally detach, Babby, it
ain't nothing to detach from. I heard you talk about,
Oh we went on beautiful days, we were so in love.
He's been. He meets all my checks on paper, He
meets me check list. I haven't heard a thing. How
you gonna attack? How you gonna attach for something that
you've never attached to? You can't miss nothing you never had. Okay,
this man is gonna completely waste your time, save your
emotional vals. You have the data. Your data shows that
he's inconsistent. He's notoriously inconsistent. Your data shows you that
he lacks communications skills and maturity. And your data shows
that when you did give him a chance, he didn't
take it. Please move on. And I know that you're young,
but this this is why. Look, Auntie is here from you.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: I know that you're young. I know that you're probably like,
well what if he changes? Well, what do you know?
The baby? You gotta see a couple of things. My
mother used to always say, I've been thirty, you ain't
been sixty. I've been thirty, you ain't been sixty. Now,
I don't know how young you'a are, Okay, but I've
been twenty five, you ain't been thirty seven. He's gonna
do nothing but play with you. Okay, nothing but play
with you. You've seen enough, baby, a lot of y'all. You're
looking at your emotions and your feelings and what you're thinking,
what you go to the data. The survey says that
this man does not have the capacity, And you want
to know what really happens. And I feel so sorry
for us women because we think that we're maybe even
exploring them, maybe trying to see if what they said
was true. Maybe he did have a lot on their plate.
And you want to know what happens when a man
cracks you like that where he's like, I know that
if I keep calling, I know that, if I keep texting,
I know if I come from my trap page on
social media, I know if I hit her up on Facebook,
I know if I contact her sister, I know if
I drop a package y'all at our house, I'm finally
gonna get through to this girl. That's what we think
is gonna happen. What's actually happening is he's trying to
see if he could make you fold again. He's trying
to see if you are really that weak he's trying
to use you as confirmation and affirmation that he is
somebody that he can get somebody. Okay, these type of
men are sad out in the streets. A man that
truly and I say this all the time, Baby, you
are not Beyonce. Always wonder why a man is trying
to connect with you on all platforms after you blocked him. Okay,
you are not Beyonce. Why do you think that this
man is chasing you like that? If he is so
he say he is, he could be on to the
next one, right, Why chase you? He could be on
to the next girl. That he's doing that because he
actually has low self esteem and m dump dump Listen,
I'm trying to wash my mouth. But them holes out
in the street, it ran dry. So now who cannot coach?
Who can run to sin shs in this space? Who
can I run to when I NEI love you? Dumb
Danielle and dumb Denise? Who cannot run to when the when?
Speaker 3: When?
Speaker 1: When the whole world dried up?
Speaker 3: You?
Speaker 1: You gotta you gotta think big baby. He's not trying
to make a change, He's not trying to uh do right.
He's trying to see if he still got it because
he didn't feel flat on his face out in the street.
And I tell y'all this all the time. Most men
are lazy. Instead of pursuing a new woman, instead of
pursuing a woman when he's evolved, he would rather prevent
himself from fetch a new kouchie. Okay, he would rather
prevent himself from going out and actually doing the work.
He gonna call creep right on into the old doggy
door that he know, baby, after he didn't ran across
that neighborhood, ran through the alley, ran up and down
the sewer. Okay, your little doggy door open. He gonna
be like, yup, mm hmm, smells just like home. WHATCHU
cooking today? Vat? You gonna make them tacos for me?
You gonna make get get get in there and make
them tacos. Yvat. That's what he's saying to you, baby.
He didn't ran through the doggy door, and he's coming around,
and he like he walking in your stuff, like yup,
just like I left it. M she ain't got no
roaches or nothing. I'm gonna start coming over here. He's
not going to change. Save your youth Okay, listen to
Aunty all right? Mm hm AnyWho, any who dare to
see a voice smail number two. It is entitled my
relationship is great, but grad school might take us long distance.
Let's see what our goods this is?
Speaker 3: Dear to see? Yup. I just want to say first,
I really love your podcast. It is just so helpful
to someone who's a young woman, and it really is
giving big sister energy. I'm calling in because I am
twenty two years old. I'm an undergrad right now, and
I met my current boyfriend just before undergrad. We were
doing a bridge program like the summer before college, and
we were just friends and we just started dating. We
just celebrated our one year anniversary. It's honestly been a dream.
It's been everything I could hope for.
Speaker 4: He is so sweet.
Speaker 3: He supports me. He really encourages me to reach for
the stars and beyond, along with all of the other
things like always buying me flowers, and it takes me
on dates pretty regularly despite both of us being college students.
But we're both looking to do grad school, so we're
both applied to grad school and we just decided to
apply wherever our hearts want to go and kind of
decide how we're gonna work out long distance later. But
I honestly am not sure about long distance to be
real with you, Like, I don't really know how it's
gonna go, and I don't know what to do. Should
I prepare my mind to do long distance now? Or
should I just take the heart that like you don't
want to be too tied down, and like maybe we
should just we're planning on taking a break. Should we
just take a break. I'd love to hear your advice.
Speaker 1: Well, first of all, it makes me so happy that
you I believe you said you're twenty two and you
are experiencing this kind of love.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: I know we get a lot of callers in, but
it is refreshing to hear that he's happy that you're happy.
He's happy with you, He encourages you. You all met
in a place that breeds just growth, evolution and maturity.
Why you met in college? This is just I don't know,
you just sound it so cute. So I love this
number one. Okay, I love this. Here's what I say,
Here's what I would say, Here's what I would say. Okay,
distance ain't nothing to a man who want to be
with you. Okay. A man that wants to be with
you would clown, would climb a mountain, will cross the
red sea, will walk on water for you. Okay. Distance
is not going to be nothing nothing. Distance is not
going to be anything for a person that wants to
be with you, right. I also say that I live
under the principle of you don't have to be here
to be here. I have felt more connection and chemistry
from a man that lived in a different state than
one that I that lived ten minutes away. You don't
have to be here to be here. Okay. He was
more intentional. He allowed us to connect more because since
we didn't have the luxury of proximity, he was a
lot more intentional. I felt that man on me and
he did not live in the same city with me. Okay,
you can feel more chemistry, intentionality, compromise, intention affection from
a man that lives in another state, then you can
from a man that's living down the street. So distance
ain't nothing to a man that wants to be with you.
It seems like y'all have a really really good foundation,
and it sounds like this could work if you work
it right. I would say My advice for you is
to really start planning on what your expectations will be right.
You're gonna have courses, he's gonna have courses. You all
may need to align schedules to see when will be
a better time to talk. You have to outline when
will you all be seeing each other's girl. If this
is your man, your man or your man, get that
calendar out. Let's start looking at when in spring break,
when are we gonna see each other? When will you
have time to come down and see me and I
can come visit you. It can work if you work it.
And having this distance between you all will tell you
all that you need to know. And I'm gonna tell
you this. Some women only have a relationship because they
have proximity. The moment that that negro get out of
your sight, the moment that he get out of that
house and from up under you, you don't even got
a relationship. Maybe he's a wild hyena. A lot of us,
seriously only have a relationship because we have proximity. If
the man within another city, in another state, took a
business trip, took a look, got deployed, or whatever, babe,
that man will be so far off of you. You
will start seeing inconsistency, of a lack of effort. Some
of us are all the man only really acting right
because y'all do live in the same house. So the
distance is gonna show you all that you need to know. Baby,
It's gonna show you all that you need to know
about him, his intentions, his character, his morals, his ethic,
and where his heart really is. So this is a
good test. And Auntie, I'll tell your story. Okay, I
had a college sweetheart, went to college together. I came in.
I was a freshman, he was a junior. Okay, of
course I was still in college when he went away.
When he graduated. He graduated, and he went to play
basketball overseas. He played basketball at undergrad and then he
went to play basketball overseas. I was wherever he was.
He was in Kentucky. I was there. He was in Austria.
Passport baby stamped up. I was in Austria with them.
It can work if you work it. We were in love.
We were in love, and wherever he went, I was
with a baby. I was on the greyhound. Gray still
had a greyhound. I was on the Greyhound going to
see that man. We had Christmases together when he would
come home to visit. I would spend Christmas with his family.
He would spend baby. Look, keep coming back it works
if you work it, clean and ring. That's a a
what do you call it? A rehab chant that my
father used to have? But I never forgot that. Keep
coming back sat work. If you work it, It'll work
if you work it. Okay, I feel excited for you.
I feel that you shouldn't necessarily strap up to take
distance in space from this person. Right, You don't need distance,
You're already about to have distance. Right, So I would say,
go in full flash committed. Just know that there are
obstacles that are going to come your way. There are
obstacles that are going to come your way, and if
one of them is going to be trust, it's going
to be do you trust this person or do you
have your own excuse me? Do you have your own
internal insecurities? All right? Will the relationship stand if you're
not close to him? Okay? Do you feel more secure
having a kind of eye on this person? This will
also teach you a lot of things about yourself, Okay.
And so I hope that you all enjoy this period
and that you don't taint it with toxicity and drama
and where were you and why didn't you answer your phone?
Blah blah blah blah. Trust me, I ain't telling you
what I heard. I'm telling you what I know. It
ain't even worth it, Okay, it ain't even worth it.
So I hope that this this that y'all can, y'all
can got y'all got a few more years on you.
Who knows it could be your husband, who knows, who knows?
But I think that this is going to be a
test for both of you all. Yeah, this is gonna
be a test for both of you all. I was
gonna say that there are some nuances with this that
I would give to a young adult at twenty two
year old about settling down this soon and staying in
a relationship this soon. But I think that everybody, most
women are gonna have that early twenties bid that they
do where it's like from maybe nineteen to twenty five.
Those may be years where you are gonna have the three,
four or five year relationships. But I'm telling you, friend,
after that, you don't give nobody three four, five, six, seven,
eight years. Okay, you stick and move you stick and
move until you roll into your thirties. Okay, anyways, there
we go. Thanks for sharing, Thanks for sharing. I love this.
I love talking to y'all. I truly, truly do. Okay,
dear to see you. Voicemail number three we have. He
wants to meet my family, but I'm not even speaking
to them.
Speaker 3: What did they do?
Speaker 1: We'll see. Let's see what the girl said here, Tess.
Speaker 2: Yeah, A little background on my relationship. I am thirty seven.
My boyfriend is forty seven. We live about an hour
and a half away from each other, so we don't
spend time in person weekly. We mostly stay connected through FaceTime,
text message, or a phone call each day. We see
each other in person maybe every two to three weeks,
which works for us despite our demanding work situations. So
a little background on him. His parents passed away when
he was nine. He was raised by his grandmother. After
that she passed away. He has a sibling that lives
in a different state and two children that live in
a different state. Here, he has work and now I
have come into his life. So when I talked about
his family dynamic, it was a sensetive subject to him,
and he was really emotional about it, so I said,
I'm just not gonna bring that up anymore because he
still is very emotional about that. I've talked to him
about working his feelings out and being open to therapy
to work through that process, because when my mother passed away,
that's what it took for me, and he was very
open to that, and that's what he's doing now. So
he wants to be let in on my side of
the important people in my life, which is my family
and my close friends. Very understandable. However, my family, because
of their behavior of these past through holidays, I'm gonna
love them from a distance. It's no way that I
can carry on with the same relationship that me and
my family had due to incidents that happened on Thanksgiving
and Christmas when they cut up bad, real bad. He's
aware of those situations, but he's been a little pushy
of it. I want to love them from a distance.
I have to work out this situation when my relatives
before I can bring you in this situation my friends.
I said, I'm down for it. Let's meet up, let's
hang out, let's do whatever. He's focused on my family.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I get it.
Speaker 2: We want to meet each other's family and people closest
to us, and he has a sensitive situation with his family.
I'm just in a situation of I ain't messing with
them people.
Speaker 3: So he brings it up.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out how to have a different
conversation with him about that. I told him where I stand,
and he wants something different and advice, your thoughts, comments
or anything would be appreciated in this situation.
Speaker 1: Thank you, okay, y'all forgive me. I had to play
that back a few times. I had to play it
back a few times because I had I had to
get that age, y'all. I know how to fuel about ages.
I was trying to see was thirty Was she thirty
seven and he was twenty seven? Or was she thirty
seven and the man was forty seven? So I had
to play that back a little bit and I was
able to, okay, find out that they were she's thirty seven,
he's forty seven. Okay. I had to clit a room
on that.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: A lot of times, a lot of times what people
are saying to you is not what they are trying
to communicate. A lot of times, what people are saying
to you is not what they are saying, if that
makes any sense. Follow me here. What someone constantly is
nagging at you about something that they're bringing up in
something that seemed to be a constant pillar of conversation
for you all, there's something deeper there that they're actually
trying to say. Most time, what people are saying is
not what they're saying. And men are terrible at this,
right They'll say like, oh, well, you know, I just
want to really meet your family, when it's actually something
else there. And so my advice to you would be
to really find out what is it that he is saying. Okay,
it may be that he wants to, you know, make
sure that y'all are solidifying things and moving in the
right direction. Could very well be that. It also could
mean that he's having his own troubles with his family,
as you shared, and he doesn't want to enter something
else broken again, and he's hoping to get a little
retrieved from your family because his stuff is messed up.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: A lot of times as well, men want a kind
of full preview before they buckle down, and men are
the ones that make the decision of who they want
to marry for the rest of their life. This is
who he is. You're going to be the person that
he's gonna propose to. So he also may be trying
to get a glimpse of what things will look like,
and it may just matter to him more because he
has his own broken family dynamics. I can actually relate
to that because my family is very, very very small.
So I always hope that my partner would be able
to gift me some family, some family dynamic that I
may be missing, right, or that I may be in
a deficit. Ind he also may he also may be
trying to protect you from what he's already going through. Right.
He may be trying to shepherd you into a place
that he's already seen. Right, he may have already been
through the depths of family issues and he's actually trying
to shepherd you in more of a protective way to
navigate your family situation better. Right. So here's the silver lining.
I think that you should really figure out what is
the bottom of it.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: A lot of times people that talk about something a
lot and they kind of can't quite let it go.
There's a fear there, right, and you want to encourage
him to track his fear. What is this really about.
Is it that you don't trust me and you want
to make sure that this is solid. Is it that
you are exhausted or you feel like it's been too
long since we've made kind of big, big transitions in
this relationship. Is there something that you need to see
from me so that it can help you be sure
about if this is something that you want to do.
Are you afraid that you won't have the family dynamic
that you desire? Right, you need to get to the
bottom and track the fear. But most importantly, Okay, you
want to find out if this man is gonna stand
with you, whether it is or it ain't. Okay, that
is really the main thing. You want to make sure
that you have a partner that is going to stand
with you when your decisions directly impact him, right, when
you're negatively and particularly right. Yeah, it will be great
if you reconnected with your family and started talking to
everybody again, even though that they you've had grievances with them,
even though you have tension and discontent with them. Yeah,
it will be great because then he gets to have
he gets to be in that space with you. Right,
But what about if it never happens can you deal
with that? Can you accept me for with that? Can
you walk through it with through the fire with me
and that component? Can you can you pick up pick
up the pieces of my broken heart when I when
I don't have my family, because that's hurting me as well. Okay,
there were things that happened in past holidays that have
caused big disruption in my family dynamic. Can you stand
with me through that? Right? So that's my advice. Number one.
You want to figure out what is the bottom of
the fear, What is it? Get to the bottom of it.
What is it that you're feeling. What is it that
my family and meeting my family and me reconnecting with
my family? What does it mean to you and for you? Okay?
The second thing is if it never changed, are you down?
If I never work out that dynamic and I continue
to struggle in that department, is this something that you
can be down for? Is it something that you can
be down for? That's my advice. That is my advice
to you. That's my advice to you, sweetheart. Anyways, thank
you so much for calling in our fragrance segment to
see if you smell good. I want't a fragrance. All, y'all,
I think I told you I'm gonna start. I'm gonna
start reviewing and showcasing some of my new babies, my
new purchases. Okay, so let's get into the notes of
this fragrance. This is this is beautiful. It's a beautiful fragrance. Okay,
so I probably should tell y'all what fragrance it is, right,
da duda Okay, So here for this beauty. Here for
this beauty, we have Duceesa by Gritty. Okay, this is
Gritty's Duceesa. I was actually very very excited because this
is my breakthrough into this fragrance house. I don't own
anything from Gritty, but I've heard amazing, amazing things about it.
And when I tell y'all this bottle, this bottle is heavy,
it is lux Okay, it got some weight on it.
It has this swede velvety thing. For all the money
we spending, make sure it's bottled properly. We want performance,
we want big beyonce. Okay. I can't stand buying a
really nice, expensive fragrance and the dangon packaging ain't worth
the hype. If I'm spending three four, five hundred y'all
better put some effort into this bottle, and they did. Okay,
they did, Okay, So this is duchessa by Gritty. Let's
read the notes, okay. The top notes are black cherry, saffron,
bitter orange, and peach. The hart notes are hoko, jasmine clothes,
white flowers, and star a nise.
Speaker 2: Hmmm.
Speaker 1: The bass notes are almond, brown, sugar, iris, and pachuli.
Doesn't this sound just gorgeous?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 1: The scent profile is cherry four with the mix of creamy,
sweet and powdery undertones, often compared to cherry marcipon or
boozy cherry liqueur. Okay, you know, cherry, you can go
right or wrong. Cherry can be right or wrong. You
don't want that cheap artificial cherry, okay. And it's only
a couple people that have done cherry right, and I
hope that this is one of them. Okay, So let's smell.
Let's smell our good cis. Oh, I'm excited, I'm excited.
Let's see. I'm still trying to figure out how to
put my hands around. It's mike, y'all, so beer with me. Okay,
let's smell our girl. Let's see. Oh, yes, yes, Oh
my god. Okay, let me look at those, because I'm
gona tell you all, I'm smelling that's star anise. We
haven't talked about that enough to start anise. We haven't
talked about that enough. That's that's a note that you
don't see a lot in fragrance. And I know this
smell because once upon a time, y'all, this is gonna
sound crazy. Once upon a time, I was going through
some gut health, gut health issues, and the this this herbalist,
herbalist slash like one of those organic people, you know,
a urbalish slash like, uh, holistic, that's what I'm looking for. Hello,
holistic people put me on star anis, and so I
would put it in tea. I know that smell very well.
I'm smelling the saffron. I'm smelling the black cherry. Oh,
I'm smelling the the white flowers. I'm smelling the white flowers. Oh,
it's the cocoa. I'm smelling the cocoa. That's coca because cocoa, yes, cococoa,
cocoa co. It is powdery, it is boozy, it is sweet,
it's creamy, y'all. I am loving this. I am loving, loving, loving,
like I do. I want to spill a little bit more.
Let's spread on me. Let me see, y'all to the front,
gritty du chesta to the front. I'm gonna get to
the point where I am going to have my fragrance
segment to see if you smell good, I'm gonna spray
that fragrance. And before I get to the next fragrance
on the next episode, I'm going to tell you how
the old fragrance wore. The fragrance from the episode before work.
Y'all think I should do that. I think I should
be cause right now I was like, hm hmm, spray
spray spray. But how did it wear? Okay? What was it?
How did it perform? What was the siage like on it? Okay?
What was its lasting power? That's what we need to know. Hey,
no people look look cute little little sprays. We need
to know what is a big dog fragrance or not?
How did it perform? So don't don't clock me on this,
but I'm gonna try. I'm going to try to report
back on the fragrance that I did the previous episode
and let you know how it wore. Now I can't
confirm with the now that I'm gonna stick to this,
but I'm gonna try because I feel like it's worth it,
right sol to the nearest buyer. Baby, anyways, do chessa
from gritty. I got this from Jona shop, a Joma shop.
Call me call me. You probably ain't got nobody buying
as much fragrance from y'all as I am. Call me
Jama Shop. Send me a cold or something. AnyWho. Now, y'all,
it smells so good. It smells so good. Okay, y'all,
we are on to our red flag report. We are
onto our red flag report. Let me let me turn
this around. It's a little small. I don't wanna do
that that way. Okay, it's a little small. Let's see. Okay.
The red Flag Report is entitled the vacation post that
raised questions. A relationship debate is going viral after a
story shared via the neighborhood Talk, originally posted by Instagram
user all Things Key. According to the post, a woman
a woman's friend traveled to Turks and Kkos with her
boyfriend for Valentine's Day. While they were on the trip together,
they noticed While they were on a trip together, she
noticed something felt a little strange. She noticed something felt
a little strange. Her boyfriend didn't post her at all
on Valentine's Day, which she initially didn't think much of.
But the next day he posted a photo of himself
at the gym with the caption locked in. The problem
he hasn't he wasn't at the gym.
Speaker 3: Oh oh.
Speaker 1: He posted a sephie of himself at the and said
locked in. The problem was that he wasn't actually at
the gym. He was in Turks with her when the
picture was posted. Now the friend is starting to question
why someone would post an old photo pretending to be
somewhere else while on their romantic trip with their partner.
The concern is that he may be trying to hide
the trip from someone else or protect another person's feelings online.
And that's where the red flag conversation begins, because in
today's dating culture, social media can reveal a lot about
how someone presents their relationship publicly. Some couples prefer privacy,
but when someone is actively posting misleading content about where
they are or what they're doing, it can raise questions
about transparence see red flag question. If someone on a
romantic trip if someone is on a romantic trip with
you but post content that makes it look like they're
somewhere else, is this just protecting privacy or a red
flag that they may be hiding the relationship from someone else.
Let me tell you this. I may tell you a joke,
by I'm never gonna tell you a lie. That man
is absolutely positively hiding that he is on that trip
with you. Okay, I'm telling what I heard, I'm telling
you what I know, and I'm gonna tell you why.
First of all, it's not just that he didn't post
a trip. It's not what he posted. It is what
he didn't post as well. It's not that he didn't
post a trip of you all. He's trying to lead
somebody off track. Okay, he's trying to lead the German
chep for than the Greyhound off. He's trying to disguise,
he's trying to throw them off. Okay, he's trying to
put that he's in the gym when he's not. It's
a difference between not telling the truth, or it's a
difference between not sharing and withholding the truth right or
holding that transparency that could be relevant information. Okay, now
you have honesty and transparency. You are purposely trying to
throw somebody off. Who you trying to throw off? We
can only suspect probably another woman that you threw you
blowing her back out you and maybe I haven't seen
this game. I didn't see this a hundred times. You
are trying to hold and with frame information from the
woman who you who's actually expecting Valentine's Day thing from you.
He is hiding from the woman who is asked who
will ask him about the Valentine's Day. He is on
a trip in vacation with you, and he is hiding
his vacation with you because there's another girl that's waiting
on the Valentine's Day with him. So he's trying to
throw her off by posting a picture of him in
the gym that he ain't in ironically during Valentine's Day,
so that he can throw off the other girl. The
side check the other girl that he's talking to, so
he can throw her off because he didn't tell her
where he was. He didn't tell her that he's on vacation,
and he definitely didn't tell her that he.
Speaker 3: Was with you.
Speaker 1: He's trying to throw her off. He's trying to make
that girl think that he's at home when he's actually
with you. And you know what, these are the things
that you probably will never be able to prove it.
I'm gonna ta the difference between me and you. I
know what I know, and that's all I know. I
know what I know, and man, that's all I know.
Shout out to uh so y G. No, that's not
why g that's uh what's his name? Don't whin I'm blanking.
I like his music. He's a day of Angela Simmons.
What's his name?
Speaker 4: Yo?
Speaker 3: Gotti?
Speaker 1: Ha? I knew I was gonna get it, Yo, Gotti,
Yo got he said. I know what I know, and man,
that's all I know. I know what I know, and
that's all I know. See, y'all be waiting for a
man to prove to y'all, y'all be letting a man
look come through them portals, them ear portals. You know,
there's portals of the mind, there's portals of the heart,
and there's portals of the ears. And y'all be letting
these men access your portals to explain and to and
to and to feed you lies. I know what I know,
and that's all I know, baby, all I gotta go
is off a feeling. I don't need facts. Some of
y'all weighing too heavily on the facts that you you
didn't been with the man three five years, waiting on
facts of what you already felt. You waiting on a
fact of what you already felt. You already felt it.
You will never be able to prove this. Don't waste
your time, Okay, y'all, hear my stomach growling. Don't waste
the time. He is hiding the trip with you from
another woman, period, point in the blank, period, point in
the blank, And don't waste your time trying to find
out you got enough information. He's not just not posting
the trip. He's trying to throw somebody off the trail.
He's lying and being misleading and posting that he is
where he isn't Is he ashamed of you? Is he hiding?
What kind of man you got that don't want to
show that he out on vacation. I understand privacy, I
understand posting an arm, but you're gonna hide the whole
vacation and tell tell the world that you're at the gym. No,
that's a woman that's a woman that's on your body.
That's a woman that you gotta answer to. That's a
woman that you left, that you lie to and left
her in a state of wanting told her that you
gonna y'all, y'all Valentine's they gonna be next weekend, and
he's out with you. That's all that is, baby, And
you could Cary, you could take that check to the
bank and cash it and it will clear. Okay, that
man is talking to another woman, and he doesn't want
you to know, and he doesn't want her to know. Actually,
more importantly, more importantly, he's protecting her feelings over yours.
The moment he posts the ocean that phone gonna be ringing,
the moment that he posts that he jet skinned, that
phone's gonna be ringing. So who do he care more about?
Speaker 3: You or her?
Speaker 1: They say, you care more about the woman you lie to.
That's what Jody said. Jody, y'all, baby boy, Huh what
he's saying? He said, Well, actually, I guess, I guess
the opposite. Jody said he lied to them because he
don't care I tell he tells Yvette the truth because
I love you, Eve, So I don't know I don't know.
I haven't know if I found that theory to be correct. Okay,
maybe they lie more to the woman that they do
care about.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Nonetheless, that man is playing around. He is involved with
multiple women, and multiple only me, one more other than you. Okay,
and you can cash that at the bank.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: I didn't see it a million times. I've seen it
with my own twice. I listen, I talk to women
every day, all day, all day, every day. This man
is involved with other women anyways, period. All right, we did.
Let me make sure I'm not missing nothing. Let me
make sure I'm not missing nothing. Let me let me check.
Hold on, y'all, just see, I did it another episode
with me, me, myself and I in my new set.
Now I'm getting the lighting right, I'm getting the you know.
I'm still trying to position myself. I'm still trying to
you know, I'm getting things right. But thank y'all for
sticking with me. Thank y'all for watching another episode of
Dear Tocilla. And don't forget to subscribe. Okay, see y'all
next time. Love you, Bye, m