WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:02.439 So all right, So here here's the deal. 2 00:00:05.000 --> 00:00:07.519 We're gonna talk Open Cup first and foremost, whether whether 3 00:00:07.639 --> 00:00:09.480 with our mogul and training coming up in a second. 4 00:00:10.119 --> 00:00:13.720 So we're gonna pull back the curtain and ask about 5 00:00:13.919 --> 00:00:17.320 how these things come together. Sometimes we're gonna bring in 6 00:00:17.359 --> 00:00:21.160 Michael Parker's and find out first and foremost, how was vacation. 7 00:00:20.920 --> 00:00:27.359 Sir, Hey, John, Yeah, vacation great? 8 00:00:28.000 --> 00:00:35.479 Yeah, we made it. Yeah, I will say it was, 9 00:00:35.640 --> 00:00:38.439 of course, not without its little complications, but we made it. 10 00:00:38.520 --> 00:00:41.840 You know, you have to adjust sometimes and that's the 11 00:00:41.920 --> 00:00:45.000 name of the game. But the time we spent in 12 00:00:45.079 --> 00:00:48.840 South Carolina was great. We had good weather. The team 13 00:00:48.920 --> 00:00:51.920 did well well enough in some of the games that 14 00:00:51.960 --> 00:00:53.799 my daughter, as a freshman, got to play a little 15 00:00:53.840 --> 00:00:57.320 bit here and there, so that was great. And yeah, 16 00:00:57.320 --> 00:00:59.359 and the rest of us enjoyed the beach here and there. 17 00:01:00.479 --> 00:01:02.000 Didn't get in the water. Its freezing. 18 00:01:02.159 --> 00:01:06.959 But to take your good time, do you take your club. 19 00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:10.040 I did not take the clubs. No room in the 20 00:01:10.040 --> 00:01:11.480 car for such things, John. 21 00:01:11.560 --> 00:01:14.079 Not even on the luggage rack on the top and 22 00:01:14.120 --> 00:01:15.680 you sit there and you cover it with a tarp 23 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:17.799 or something, and people sit there and go He's repairing 24 00:01:17.799 --> 00:01:18.159 a house. 25 00:01:18.200 --> 00:01:21.519 Obviously, the wife wanted to take the tarp on top 26 00:01:22.599 --> 00:01:24.519 and I was like, no, we can stuff it all 27 00:01:24.560 --> 00:01:26.040 in the car. I don't want to dry with that 28 00:01:26.040 --> 00:01:30.079 thing on top. So we crammed it and we made 29 00:01:30.159 --> 00:01:34.840 it so. Yes, I had to sacrifice the clubs. I 30 00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:38.920 still have not yet swung a club in twenty twenty five. 31 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:39.959 It's depressing. 32 00:01:41.159 --> 00:01:41.319 Man. 33 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:43.599 We'll get there, all right. 34 00:01:43.680 --> 00:01:46.640 So you mentioned adventures in travel, so go ahead, lay 35 00:01:46.680 --> 00:01:47.959 them all out, get him off your chest. 36 00:01:48.200 --> 00:01:48.519 I don't know. 37 00:01:48.879 --> 00:01:50.359 I don't want you to. I don't want you to 38 00:01:50.480 --> 00:01:52.359 just hold it within. I want you to. I want 39 00:01:52.400 --> 00:01:54.879 you to cleanse from the adventures of travel. 40 00:01:55.239 --> 00:01:57.799 Yeah. Well, we missed an opportunity to stop by Wake 41 00:01:57.840 --> 00:02:01.079 Forest for a few hours. We planned on breaking up 42 00:02:01.120 --> 00:02:03.640 our trip and stopping at Wake for a while, but 43 00:02:04.439 --> 00:02:06.439 two out of the four of us had the stomach 44 00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:10.520 bug overnight into the morning of travel day, so we 45 00:02:10.599 --> 00:02:14.199 canceled all plans and drove straight home. And thankfully we 46 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:18.319 had no episodes in the car. So that's that's, you know, 47 00:02:18.680 --> 00:02:19.960 a big positive there. 48 00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:24.840 Yeah, See, episodes in the car would be bad because 49 00:02:25.159 --> 00:02:27.719 you know it literally and you don't know if it's 50 00:02:27.759 --> 00:02:32.479 a false alarm or not. It's like, you know, pull over, stop, stop, stop, 51 00:02:32.680 --> 00:02:34.520 you know I'm gonna do something. 52 00:02:35.159 --> 00:02:36.080 We got a couple of those. 53 00:02:36.360 --> 00:02:37.840 Oh, you had a couple of false starts. 54 00:02:38.280 --> 00:02:40.240 We had a couple of false alarms. But I'd rather 55 00:02:40.280 --> 00:02:43.439 pull over and have a false alarm than not pull 56 00:02:43.479 --> 00:02:44.759 over and have a real alarm. 57 00:02:45.039 --> 00:02:49.360 Yes, that is always good. So is uh? Was Deacon 58 00:02:49.360 --> 00:02:51.240 happy to see you when you got home? Oh? 59 00:02:51.319 --> 00:02:55.960 Deacon made the trip, John? Oh, No, Deacon made the 60 00:02:56.039 --> 00:02:58.919 trip as terrified as she was in the car for 61 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:00.120 all eleven hours of it. 62 00:03:01.159 --> 00:03:02.479 Deacon's terrified of the car. 63 00:03:02.960 --> 00:03:04.840 Yeah, it doesn't like it. 64 00:03:05.080 --> 00:03:05.639 Oh wow. 65 00:03:06.000 --> 00:03:09.240 Yeah, we didn't do well enough taking her out and 66 00:03:09.280 --> 00:03:12.599 about as a puppy apparently, so she doesn't She doesn't 67 00:03:12.639 --> 00:03:15.719 like the car, but she'd rather be with us in 68 00:03:15.759 --> 00:03:17.280 the car than not with us. 69 00:03:17.360 --> 00:03:20.199 So, yes, that is absolutely true. 70 00:03:20.439 --> 00:03:23.879 I can still she's still sleeping things off, John, Yay. 71 00:03:26.960 --> 00:03:29.919 Oh wow, I just I just have this vision of 72 00:03:30.080 --> 00:03:32.840 Deacon being out past curfew when you're on the beach 73 00:03:33.360 --> 00:03:35.360 and it's like, yeah, the door opens at like one 74 00:03:35.520 --> 00:03:38.879 thirty in the morning, Deacon's trying to sneak in. You're 75 00:03:38.960 --> 00:03:41.840 you're looking out and Deacon's like, oh, I thought you 76 00:03:41.879 --> 00:03:45.520 were asleep. Well I was till you open the door exactly. 77 00:03:45.680 --> 00:03:48.439 I just I just had this vision of Deacon partying 78 00:03:48.439 --> 00:03:51.080 on the road with the family Parkers. 79 00:03:51.479 --> 00:03:53.800 She was loving it. Came to all of our dinners. Thankfully. 80 00:03:53.800 --> 00:03:56.719 It's very dog friendly down there, beaches, restaurants and everything, 81 00:03:56.759 --> 00:03:59.919 so yeah, she got to experience everything. 82 00:04:00.080 --> 00:04:02.120 Then she's still crashed out, as she should because the 83 00:04:02.159 --> 00:04:04.680 rowdy man is absolutely crashed out right down here on 84 00:04:04.759 --> 00:04:05.520 the table. 85 00:04:06.000 --> 00:04:06.199 Oh. 86 00:04:06.400 --> 00:04:09.120 He's like literally when the boss leaves and I'm getting 87 00:04:09.159 --> 00:04:11.599 ready for the show every morning, he'll come down. He'll 88 00:04:11.599 --> 00:04:13.280 be on whatever level he's on, and he wants to 89 00:04:13.319 --> 00:04:17.279 make sure that he is in his poofy bed right 90 00:04:17.319 --> 00:04:19.600 down here, and he's crashed out and he's making sure 91 00:04:19.639 --> 00:04:22.720 that he's guarding everything and even with his eyes closed. 92 00:04:23.879 --> 00:04:24.319 Let's see. 93 00:04:24.319 --> 00:04:26.959 So Greg was on his way to Pierson on a 94 00:04:27.079 --> 00:04:30.000 train and how did that conversation go? 95 00:04:30.160 --> 00:04:32.000 Yo, dude, I don't think I'm gonna make it. Can 96 00:04:32.040 --> 00:04:32.759 you sub for me? 97 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:36.000 I saw the email and I texted him. I was like, dude, 98 00:04:36.000 --> 00:04:37.120 don't worry about it. I could jump on. 99 00:04:37.399 --> 00:04:38.240 Okay, all right. 100 00:04:38.639 --> 00:04:40.079 I didn't know if this was like a like a 101 00:04:40.360 --> 00:04:42.079 oh my god, we're gonna do a quick tagget kind 102 00:04:42.079 --> 00:04:42.279 of a. 103 00:04:42.240 --> 00:04:45.480 Thing, I was like, no, no stress, no stress. 104 00:04:45.240 --> 00:04:45.639 All right. 105 00:04:46.160 --> 00:04:50.319 So then my first question has to do with detaching 106 00:04:50.360 --> 00:04:54.079 and taking it easy when it comes to your mentees 107 00:04:54.399 --> 00:04:58.120 and parents and such. Do they find it easy to 108 00:04:58.319 --> 00:05:03.120 unplug because they need the time to unplug or because 109 00:05:03.160 --> 00:05:06.959 they're so wired into wanting to be successful. You have 110 00:05:07.040 --> 00:05:09.040 all of these type a's that you kind of have 111 00:05:09.079 --> 00:05:11.959 to talk away from being on the field and being 112 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:13.480 attached to the sport all the time. 113 00:05:14.000 --> 00:05:17.720 Yeah, I think the higher level athletes and families definitely 114 00:05:17.759 --> 00:05:21.279 have a little bit more of a challenge sometimes unplugging 115 00:05:22.560 --> 00:05:26.759 the fear of getting behind or missing a practice or 116 00:05:26.800 --> 00:05:30.759 missing a game, or just not working out for a 117 00:05:30.759 --> 00:05:36.600 few days. I really can get to people. So I 118 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:41.120 definitely see that, especially the higher the higher up you go. 119 00:05:42.480 --> 00:05:45.839 You know, there's some obviously that's you know, have no 120 00:05:45.920 --> 00:05:49.079 problem taking breaks and understand it and see it and everything. 121 00:05:49.120 --> 00:05:52.560 But yeah, there's definitely some that we work with where 122 00:05:52.560 --> 00:05:54.439 we have to encourage things and let them know, hey, 123 00:05:54.439 --> 00:05:57.319 it's going to be all right. You know. I I 124 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:01.079 played seasonally when I was growing up right. I mean 125 00:06:01.120 --> 00:06:03.519 I kicked the ball around the house constantly and all 126 00:06:03.560 --> 00:06:08.560 the time. But you know, as far as team structured stuff, yeah, seasonally, 127 00:06:08.680 --> 00:06:10.399 so you'll be just fine. 128 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:12.759 I have this I just have this vision of you 129 00:06:12.879 --> 00:06:16.319 kicking the ball around the house off season and uh, 130 00:06:16.800 --> 00:06:19.839 you know, smashing garage doors and going up against you know, 131 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:21.879 like we have the hockey players that are always in 132 00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:24.120 the basement and they're always sitting there and shooting pucks 133 00:06:24.160 --> 00:06:28.759 and hitting posts and the steel the steel poles that 134 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:30.839 are in the basement. How did you how did you 135 00:06:30.879 --> 00:06:32.600 deal with that indoors off season? 136 00:06:34.160 --> 00:06:36.680 Yeah, well, we did play a fair share of indoor soccer, 137 00:06:37.959 --> 00:06:40.040 so you know, I guess there was more than just 138 00:06:40.120 --> 00:06:41.720 you know, one or two seasons. There was a lot 139 00:06:41.720 --> 00:06:44.720 of indoor soccer. But inside my own house, yeah, there 140 00:06:44.759 --> 00:06:48.279 is a step from the porch into the actual house. 141 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:53.160 You know, the porch is covered, but a step into 142 00:06:53.199 --> 00:06:56.120 the actual house. And that step got to be used 143 00:06:57.160 --> 00:07:00.360 with a size three soccer ball. And thank you fully, 144 00:07:00.399 --> 00:07:04.199 my parents never gave me a hard time about hearing 145 00:07:04.240 --> 00:07:09.959 a constant thud, thud thud. My aunt was a different story. 146 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:13.040 Anytime she was over, it was like, can you stop 147 00:07:13.160 --> 00:07:21.000 kicking the ball, and you're like, no, yeah, what else 148 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:21.920 am I supposed to do? 149 00:07:22.399 --> 00:07:23.800 It's like, well, well, do you want me to come 150 00:07:23.800 --> 00:07:25.040 in there and hang out with you? 151 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:30.120 I have, Actually I've thought about it, John, And next 152 00:07:30.120 --> 00:07:31.879 time I'm home, I'm going to try and take like 153 00:07:31.920 --> 00:07:35.600 a picture and video of these two areas right up 154 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:38.360 my house that I put in hours and hours and 155 00:07:38.439 --> 00:07:41.079 hours of kicking a soccer ball against. So that's it 156 00:07:41.120 --> 00:07:45.040 to give other people, you know, just a vision of 157 00:07:45.079 --> 00:07:47.120 what it is. And you know, kids these days think 158 00:07:47.160 --> 00:07:49.639 they need to have you know, this net, that net, 159 00:07:49.720 --> 00:07:52.839 this bounce back. You know, I have to be at practice. 160 00:07:52.879 --> 00:07:54.800 Oh there's every excuse in the book as to what 161 00:07:54.839 --> 00:07:57.040 they need in order to get better. And I had 162 00:07:57.439 --> 00:08:00.360 a step and a concrete little wall under he's the 163 00:08:00.439 --> 00:08:03.319 siding of my house, and that was it. And it 164 00:08:03.439 --> 00:08:04.240 was just enough for. 165 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:07.920 Me back in my day exactly one of those kind 166 00:08:07.920 --> 00:08:15.240 of arguments. Back in my day, I walked uphill in 167 00:08:15.319 --> 00:08:19.160 the snow both ways to play ninety minutes of outdoor 168 00:08:19.360 --> 00:08:21.240 soccer in the middle of February. 169 00:08:22.399 --> 00:08:22.959 I just have that. 170 00:08:23.040 --> 00:08:25.800 Yeah, absolutely yeah, And I know you walked up hill 171 00:08:25.879 --> 00:08:31.120 both ways going to and from when you, and I 172 00:08:31.160 --> 00:08:34.120 still want to stick to the detachment idea and what 173 00:08:34.240 --> 00:08:37.480 it's like. So the higher the level, obviously there's always 174 00:08:37.480 --> 00:08:40.120 fomo and you're you know, sitting there going, oh my god, 175 00:08:40.120 --> 00:08:42.799 oh my god, Hm, I god, I'm falling behind. But 176 00:08:43.679 --> 00:08:47.639 when you have the talk, the talk with those higher 177 00:08:47.720 --> 00:08:53.440 level aspiration or levels of success folks, after you say 178 00:08:53.840 --> 00:08:56.080 it's okay to detach, does it sink and or do 179 00:08:56.120 --> 00:08:57.519 you have to kind of sit there and poke at 180 00:08:57.559 --> 00:08:59.440 him a couple of times and go, no, it's okay, 181 00:08:59.600 --> 00:09:02.039 I've done it, and here are my examples. Why or 182 00:09:02.080 --> 00:09:03.679 do they sit there it is it a one and 183 00:09:03.720 --> 00:09:05.039 done with them? Or do you have to kind of 184 00:09:05.039 --> 00:09:06.919 sit there and hammer at them a little bit? No, 185 00:09:07.000 --> 00:09:08.679 it's cool, you could it's okay to lay out. 186 00:09:09.279 --> 00:09:12.720 Yeah, I think rarely messages are a one and done, 187 00:09:13.440 --> 00:09:16.440 and I think it helps, no doubt right to get 188 00:09:16.480 --> 00:09:18.799 a perspective of someone that's been in their shoes and 189 00:09:18.840 --> 00:09:23.000 had higher level success. But you know, I think that 190 00:09:23.039 --> 00:09:25.600 they always think, well, times are different now, and you 191 00:09:25.639 --> 00:09:27.600 know I have to be, you know, keeping up with 192 00:09:27.600 --> 00:09:30.559 the joneses or otherwise I'll fall behind, or they just don't. 193 00:09:30.879 --> 00:09:32.559 You just don't get it what my coach is like 194 00:09:32.720 --> 00:09:34.639 or this and that that. You know, that may all 195 00:09:34.679 --> 00:09:38.919 be well and true, but yeah, I wish I could 196 00:09:38.960 --> 00:09:41.120 talk to some coaches out there as well and let 197 00:09:41.159 --> 00:09:44.000 them know, Hey, you know, if a kid's going to 198 00:09:44.039 --> 00:09:46.039 miss a game or this or that or a training 199 00:09:46.080 --> 00:09:48.679 session or whatnot, or you know, it's not the end 200 00:09:48.679 --> 00:09:51.879 of the world, like figure it out, you know. 201 00:09:52.080 --> 00:09:54.720 So so then what would you tell What would you 202 00:09:54.759 --> 00:09:58.919 tell these coaches who are as high wired as everybody else. 203 00:09:58.960 --> 00:10:02.279 It's like, because they I think they are just as 204 00:10:02.360 --> 00:10:05.720 driven toward championships and success and things like that, and 205 00:10:05.759 --> 00:10:08.679 then that feeds to wanting more championships and more success, 206 00:10:08.759 --> 00:10:11.519 and that that ending hamster wheel that's there. 207 00:10:11.559 --> 00:10:15.399 What would you tell coaches in these situations? Yeah? 208 00:10:15.519 --> 00:10:19.559 I just remember with my son when he was how 209 00:10:19.559 --> 00:10:25.679 old was he eight? Maybe nine? Max playing in Atlanta 210 00:10:25.720 --> 00:10:28.759 and he was doing baseball and soccer, you know, soccer, 211 00:10:29.720 --> 00:10:35.679 you know, the academy level soccer and baseball, and both 212 00:10:36.320 --> 00:10:39.759 coaches were like, yeah, we're he encourage multiple sports and 213 00:10:39.799 --> 00:10:42.200 it's okay, da da da. But both of them were 214 00:10:42.240 --> 00:10:44.679 basically like, you know, we encourage it, just don't miss 215 00:10:44.759 --> 00:10:51.120 my practice, don't miss my game essentially, right, Yeah, And 216 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:53.639 so yeah, it's just such a challenge, you know, you 217 00:10:53.799 --> 00:10:55.200 tie and tell them like, yeah, we're going to do 218 00:10:55.240 --> 00:10:57.360 the best we can to manage both, but there's overlap 219 00:10:57.399 --> 00:10:59.159 here and we're going to miss some stuff here and there. 220 00:10:59.200 --> 00:11:02.159 And I get that from a coaching perspective, Hey, you 221 00:11:02.200 --> 00:11:04.679 can't have six players miss a game because you know, 222 00:11:04.799 --> 00:11:09.639 then we can't play the game. You know. But there's 223 00:11:09.679 --> 00:11:12.120 got to be a better way where we can still 224 00:11:12.120 --> 00:11:16.039 allow children to play multiple sports, especially under the age 225 00:11:16.080 --> 00:11:21.440 of eleven or twelve. It's just it's just crazy, uh, 226 00:11:21.799 --> 00:11:23.799 And so I just let them know that, Hey, you know, 227 00:11:23.919 --> 00:11:26.559 it's it's not the end of the world. And you 228 00:11:26.600 --> 00:11:30.720 know you want a happy, healthy, excited player, right. I 229 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:33.480 don't care if this kid shows up to every training, 230 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:35.960 If he shows up because he's forced to and doesn't 231 00:11:36.000 --> 00:11:38.440 want to be there, you know, what good is that 232 00:11:38.519 --> 00:11:43.919 doing anyone, including the player and the family. So yeah, 233 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:46.360 it's I think they get a little bit too wrapped 234 00:11:46.440 --> 00:11:50.360 up in it and you know, too focused on results 235 00:11:50.399 --> 00:11:53.159 and winning and too much of it and for themselves, 236 00:11:53.159 --> 00:11:55.519 and like, hey, what's best for the athletes here? What's 237 00:11:55.600 --> 00:11:58.799 most important? Because you know we're not winning the World 238 00:11:58.879 --> 00:12:02.399 Cup here at you know, nine you ten U, eleven U, right, 239 00:12:02.440 --> 00:12:06.120 but could we help develop a player that might help 240 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:09.559 us win a World Cup in the future. Maybe, but 241 00:12:09.720 --> 00:12:10.960 not if they don't love the game. 242 00:12:12.639 --> 00:12:15.679 So, you know, when you have these talks with adults, 243 00:12:15.720 --> 00:12:17.759 and you know, if you have those talks with those 244 00:12:17.879 --> 00:12:20.440 kinds of those kinds of adults, hopefully it would sync 245 00:12:20.519 --> 00:12:26.879 in and when you're trying to impress upon them that 246 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:28.879 it's okay to miss a couple of things. Are you 247 00:12:28.919 --> 00:12:33.480 the Are you the parent slash mentor that is encouraging 248 00:12:33.559 --> 00:12:36.519 playing multiple sports or are you a a one person 249 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:41.000 you know sport mentor activist. How are you as a 250 00:12:41.120 --> 00:12:42.879 dad and how are you as a mentor when it 251 00:12:42.919 --> 00:12:45.919 comes to playing more than one sport and being seasonal 252 00:12:45.919 --> 00:12:46.519 about things. 253 00:12:47.720 --> 00:12:50.799 I love it, don't get me wrong. I love it 254 00:12:50.879 --> 00:12:54.200 and I encourage it, but I also know it's so difficult. 255 00:12:54.759 --> 00:12:58.200 It's so so difficult, and it's challenging, and it's expensive 256 00:12:58.279 --> 00:13:02.120 and it's a lot on families. So I honestly don't 257 00:13:02.159 --> 00:13:06.399 know how realistic it is. And I hate even saying that, right, 258 00:13:06.440 --> 00:13:11.159 because yes, it's possible. You know, if you're only doing 259 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:16.960 rec to do seasonally, right, But even with my own son, 260 00:13:17.600 --> 00:13:20.600 we had to move on from rec baseball, especially here 261 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:24.320 in Ohio. Rec baseball down the South is much different, yeah, 262 00:13:24.759 --> 00:13:27.519 but here it was you know, he was playing with 263 00:13:27.559 --> 00:13:30.039 kids who couldn't catch a ball, and you know, he's 264 00:13:30.200 --> 00:13:32.679 trying to really develop and get better and things, and 265 00:13:32.759 --> 00:13:35.960 so it was like, this isn't really helping him. He's 266 00:13:36.000 --> 00:13:38.919 not having fun going to practice doing this stuff. So 267 00:13:38.960 --> 00:13:40.559 we had to move on. And then when you get 268 00:13:40.559 --> 00:13:44.120 to a travel team, it's so difficult to play another sport. 269 00:13:44.440 --> 00:13:49.159 So as much as I encourage it, it's so unrealistic. 270 00:13:50.120 --> 00:13:53.240 Unfortunately that's the way it is right now, and so 271 00:13:53.759 --> 00:13:55.720 you know, I don't want to you know, yeah, you 272 00:13:55.759 --> 00:14:00.080 should play multiple sports, and when it's so challenging. And 273 00:14:00.360 --> 00:14:04.080 there are some players in high school that play multiple sports, 274 00:14:04.080 --> 00:14:07.399 which is great, and I see that, I even see 275 00:14:07.440 --> 00:14:11.879 it here locally, which is fantastic, But for high level 276 00:14:11.879 --> 00:14:14.399 athletes who are trying to get better, it's just so challenging, 277 00:14:14.480 --> 00:14:17.759 even from an age of like nine or ten. And 278 00:14:17.840 --> 00:14:21.279 so I feel for parents, and I feel for kids 279 00:14:21.279 --> 00:14:24.559 that wanted to play multiple sports but feel like they can't. 280 00:14:26.320 --> 00:14:27.320 So yeah. 281 00:14:27.360 --> 00:14:30.399 I mean, and is this an opinion that you've developed 282 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:34.240 over time more as a father to understand, Okay, it 283 00:14:34.360 --> 00:14:36.600 probably needs to be just locked down into one sport 284 00:14:36.679 --> 00:14:39.879 or was this something that has become something that you've 285 00:14:39.919 --> 00:14:42.879 discovered over time. Was there a moment where you're like, yeah, 286 00:14:42.919 --> 00:14:44.679 it probably needs to be just one sport or was 287 00:14:44.720 --> 00:14:46.559 it something that you've kind of just figured out. 288 00:14:48.159 --> 00:14:50.200 I think down in Atlanta when we were trying to 289 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:54.840 do NASA soccer and what was it east side baseball 290 00:14:55.440 --> 00:14:57.360 from my son. You know, we were trying to have 291 00:14:57.440 --> 00:15:01.679 him played multiple sports. And the commitment just from the parents, 292 00:15:02.159 --> 00:15:04.759 right driving him to one practice, getting him, taking him 293 00:15:04.799 --> 00:15:06.919 straight to the other practice, like having dinner in the 294 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:11.360 car in between. You know, like, that's a lot. It's 295 00:15:11.399 --> 00:15:13.679 a lot on us, it's a lot on him, and 296 00:15:14.799 --> 00:15:17.720 you know, it's just challenging. As much as he loved 297 00:15:17.720 --> 00:15:20.840 playing both and I want him to play both, it 298 00:15:20.919 --> 00:15:24.360 was just a lot. And it only gets tougher as 299 00:15:24.360 --> 00:15:27.799 they get older. And so yes, I'm still a proponent, 300 00:15:27.840 --> 00:15:30.399 and I think it's great for athletes to play multiple sports. 301 00:15:30.440 --> 00:15:34.399 I really do believe that. Number one, it's you're less 302 00:15:34.440 --> 00:15:37.679 likely to get these injuries at a younger age from overuse. 303 00:15:38.080 --> 00:15:41.120 And number two, I really do believe that there's so 304 00:15:41.200 --> 00:15:44.559 many things from multiple sports that you can learn and 305 00:15:44.840 --> 00:15:50.200 use in your main sport that it's so beneficial. But 306 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:54.440 it's tough. It's tough, and maybe as the second sport, 307 00:15:54.480 --> 00:15:58.759 you can play it recreationally and that's the that's the 308 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:01.080 way you can do it. But it's impossible to play 309 00:16:01.080 --> 00:16:05.600 two travel teams or two you know, higher level sports. 310 00:16:06.200 --> 00:16:12.159 Is there a sport that you would recommend? Abby mentions 311 00:16:12.240 --> 00:16:16.039 that you know her son continued with dances as a 312 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:20.000 sidebar to help out with soccer and skills and flexuly such. 313 00:16:20.559 --> 00:16:22.720 And that's a wild card that I would have never pictured. 314 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:25.720 But it makes a whole lot of sense if there 315 00:16:25.840 --> 00:16:30.840 was a sport that you could pair with soccer, and 316 00:16:30.919 --> 00:16:33.480 like if soccer was your a number one, you know, 317 00:16:33.559 --> 00:16:35.799 it's like, okay, this is where my bread's buttered. 318 00:16:35.840 --> 00:16:36.960 I'm going down this road. 319 00:16:37.519 --> 00:16:41.519 What sport do you think would compliment soccer the most 320 00:16:42.080 --> 00:16:44.320 when it comes to what you want to carry with you, 321 00:16:44.360 --> 00:16:48.080 whether it's skill set, mental, all of those different aspects. 322 00:16:48.080 --> 00:16:50.039 If you want soccer to be your number one, what 323 00:16:50.200 --> 00:16:52.279 sport do you think would be a good compliment, at 324 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:55.960 least recreationally to help things out, so you can still 325 00:16:55.960 --> 00:16:58.960 be number one in soccer, but still widen your skill set, 326 00:16:59.039 --> 00:17:01.039 be strong in other area those kinds of things. 327 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:04.920 Yeah, and it's a great question, John, and I think that, honestly, 328 00:17:05.000 --> 00:17:08.839 there's probably ten sports that could help out, right, because 329 00:17:08.880 --> 00:17:11.200 I played baseball growing up, and you think, like, oh, 330 00:17:11.200 --> 00:17:15.319 how could baseball help soccer? Right? But I truly believe 331 00:17:15.519 --> 00:17:18.599 because in baseball I learned before soccer, what are you 332 00:17:18.640 --> 00:17:21.279 going to do with the ball when it comes to you? Right? 333 00:17:21.440 --> 00:17:25.599 Every pitch, every pitch, guys on base different things. Right 334 00:17:25.799 --> 00:17:27.319 where am I on the field? What am I going 335 00:17:27.400 --> 00:17:29.039 to do if the ball comes to me? What am 336 00:17:29.079 --> 00:17:30.680 I going to do if it's hit short, if it's 337 00:17:30.759 --> 00:17:32.680 hit to my left, it's hit to my right? Does 338 00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:34.559 that change what I'm going to do with the ball 339 00:17:34.599 --> 00:17:37.920 when I get it? Like all those little mental things 340 00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:40.039 that I'm thinking about, And then in soccer you start 341 00:17:40.039 --> 00:17:43.680 thinking about the same thing, Okay, thinking ahead, Right, what 342 00:17:43.759 --> 00:17:44.960 am I going to do with the ball if it 343 00:17:45.400 --> 00:17:47.640 comes over to me? And so now I'm reading the 344 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:50.720 field a little bit more and seeing things, and so 345 00:17:50.839 --> 00:17:53.400 this is just one small example, Right, swimming could be 346 00:17:53.480 --> 00:17:56.000 so great for cardio, right if you have to do 347 00:17:56.440 --> 00:18:00.839 a winter sport. Right, even even karate you know jiu 348 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:05.480 jitsu right for discipline and dance for flexibility. There's so 349 00:18:05.680 --> 00:18:08.839 many different sports that can have a benefit on your 350 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:14.039 soccer play on or off the field, that it's there 351 00:18:14.119 --> 00:18:16.279 really is so many different ones. And I think that 352 00:18:16.400 --> 00:18:20.200 you can find something within every sport that can help 353 00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:22.079 you in another sport, including soccer. 354 00:18:22.759 --> 00:18:25.400 And well then you know there's golf to help you 355 00:18:25.440 --> 00:18:27.160 out with you know, geometry and. 356 00:18:28.039 --> 00:18:30.519 You know things like that. Well and no, this was 357 00:18:30.839 --> 00:18:31.240 no lie. 358 00:18:31.400 --> 00:18:35.920 I had a conversation with Molly McCarty and she's the 359 00:18:35.960 --> 00:18:39.680 girls head coach at Jefferson High School, and it hit 360 00:18:39.759 --> 00:18:43.640 me she's a geometry teacher on campus. 361 00:18:44.200 --> 00:18:46.599 And I'm thinking to myself, it it hit in my head. 362 00:18:46.599 --> 00:18:49.759 I'm like, wait a minute, You've got a geometry teacher 363 00:18:49.880 --> 00:18:53.799 teaching soccer, and so you know, a soccer coach teaching 364 00:18:53.839 --> 00:18:57.519 geometry and it's triangles and angles and approaches and all 365 00:18:57.519 --> 00:19:01.079 the and I'm like, my head basically exploded during the 366 00:19:01.160 --> 00:19:04.480 high school show because you had a geometry teacher who's 367 00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:07.359 focused on Okay, well, if your angle is this and 368 00:19:07.400 --> 00:19:09.160 this and this, then you have one hundred and eighty 369 00:19:09.160 --> 00:19:11.759 degrees and all this. And I'm like, oh my god, 370 00:19:11.920 --> 00:19:16.599 it didn't quite hit me that it doesn't matter what 371 00:19:16.759 --> 00:19:20.440 you think might not be there to help affect you 372 00:19:20.559 --> 00:19:22.319 on the field or off. You mentioned as many as 373 00:19:22.359 --> 00:19:24.519 ten different sports and talking about ten different ways to 374 00:19:24.559 --> 00:19:26.559 do things. You don't know what class is going to 375 00:19:26.640 --> 00:19:29.640 help you out, you know, mentally to figure things out. 376 00:19:29.759 --> 00:19:32.200 Whether it's geometry, it's like, oh, angles here and being 377 00:19:32.200 --> 00:19:34.680 in triangles and passing drills and things like that. You 378 00:19:34.799 --> 00:19:37.559 never know where you're gonna get hit with something that 379 00:19:37.640 --> 00:19:40.160 you think is going to help you. And so having 380 00:19:40.519 --> 00:19:42.880 an open mind about all these things I think is 381 00:19:43.000 --> 00:19:45.759 just as important as figuring out what complimentary sport can 382 00:19:45.799 --> 00:19:46.079 help you. 383 00:19:46.160 --> 00:19:49.000 In soccer totally, because I see the comments on the 384 00:19:49.039 --> 00:19:52.119 side and yeah, you think about basketball, Okay, how do 385 00:19:52.200 --> 00:19:54.400 I have success against a player that's a foot taller 386 00:19:54.440 --> 00:19:56.400 than me? If I'm twelve years old and this kid's 387 00:19:56.440 --> 00:19:58.799 way developed, then I'm not yet right, how do I 388 00:19:58.839 --> 00:20:01.960 have success on a basketball or same thing in soccer? Right? 389 00:20:02.039 --> 00:20:02.400 Golf? 390 00:20:02.759 --> 00:20:05.119 I would think what I would get the most out 391 00:20:05.160 --> 00:20:08.279 of golf is how to bounce back from mistakes. Right, 392 00:20:08.319 --> 00:20:11.079 that happened so much on the golf course, Right, but 393 00:20:11.359 --> 00:20:14.000 it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what had just happened. 394 00:20:14.279 --> 00:20:16.799 How am I going to hit my next shot? Same 395 00:20:16.839 --> 00:20:19.480 thing in soccer? Right, get over your mistakes quick. So 396 00:20:19.559 --> 00:20:23.359 it's just endless, absolutely endless. 397 00:20:23.799 --> 00:20:27.240 Get you know. And that's another thing is just kind 398 00:20:27.240 --> 00:20:29.440 of the short term memory aspect of it all that 399 00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:31.240 since you open that door. 400 00:20:32.039 --> 00:20:35.599 Short term memory is something that I know. 401 00:20:35.680 --> 00:20:38.160