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<v Speaker 1>Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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<v Speaker 1>yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,

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<v Speaker 1>hey Saro, And this is vocal dfrag. Vocal defragging is

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<v Speaker 1>asking yourself the questions and questioning the answers, building up

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship with the self that you are. So many

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<v Speaker 1>times we rely on others to help shape us, especially

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<v Speaker 1>those that are in control of our careers. They do

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<v Speaker 1>it this way, do it this way. I told you

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<v Speaker 1>to do it this way. Don't do it your way,

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<v Speaker 1>make it my way. And so we get shaped. And

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<v Speaker 1>what happens is there's a lot of disgruntled people. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of sadness. There's a lot of misguided answers

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<v Speaker 1>and questions and steps. And then we sit there and wonder, well,

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<v Speaker 1>where did I go wrong? Have you ever sat down

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<v Speaker 1>and asked yourself, real, honest to God questions and then

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<v Speaker 1>questioned the answers. That's really what the goal is. The

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<v Speaker 1>goal is to build up a better relationship with yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I keep two different DFRAG journals handwritten journal so that

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<v Speaker 1>I can have physical evidence of the questions that I

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<v Speaker 1>have asked and be a vocal d frag because I

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<v Speaker 1>need to know the empowerment of conversation, to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to listen to the inflection, the pitch, the volume, the tone.

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<v Speaker 1>This is vocal d frag very interesting subject today. It

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<v Speaker 1>came to me while writing in my morning pages. Are

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<v Speaker 1>we trying to catch up or keep up? Look around

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<v Speaker 1>you mainly look at yourself. Are you trying to catch

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<v Speaker 1>up or keep up? There's really a big difference there,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was very shocked to come across a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of research that has gone into this subject, because to

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<v Speaker 1>catch up means that you have fallen behind, and to

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<v Speaker 1>keep up means, hey, I'm equal with you, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just going to keep up with you, or keep up

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<v Speaker 1>with the expectations that you've placed on yourself. Catching up

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<v Speaker 1>is almost impossible. You can do a little bit here,

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit there, whereas keeping up is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>just maintaining the ability of keeping your disciplines in line.

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<v Speaker 1>But there are many times as a podcaster being somebody

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<v Speaker 1>who's in the movie promotions business as well as being

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who's got an essential job at a grocery store,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm trying to catch up, to get

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<v Speaker 1>back up to where I used to be. But the

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<v Speaker 1>truth of the matter is, I'm not ever going to

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<v Speaker 1>be where I used to be. It was a different

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<v Speaker 1>world when I put in all those hours in the

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<v Speaker 1>radio world, got to do the radio station promotions, got

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<v Speaker 1>to create commercials for unbelievable clients. I'm not in that

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<v Speaker 1>world anymore. But the mind has got to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to let go of where you once stood and find

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<v Speaker 1>out where you are today. So how can we transition

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<v Speaker 1>into keeping up versus catching up? By being honest with yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>by asking those questions and then questioning the answers, by

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<v Speaker 1>developing a relationship with the person that you are in

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<v Speaker 1>this present place of now. But so many people are

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<v Speaker 1>afraid of their now because they're attached to what they

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<v Speaker 1>call the good old days. Or Hey, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>invest this much time into the future because I know

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<v Speaker 1>that when the future gets here, then I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>be prepared and I'm going to reap on the savings.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not the way it works, because we all know

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<v Speaker 1>the future is controlled by everything else around us, including

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<v Speaker 1>those bosses, including people in your family and friends. Your

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<v Speaker 1>next decision, trust me, will be made by somebody else

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<v Speaker 1>and you're just in it to play along. So ask

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<v Speaker 1>yourself that question. Sit down with the tablet, pick up

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<v Speaker 1>a digital device, and just ask, am I trying to

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<v Speaker 1>catch up? Or am I just trying to keep up?

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<v Speaker 1>Break yourself down because this article that I read was

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<v Speaker 1>based on a woman's life, A woman who has a career,

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<v Speaker 1>who is a mother, who is a neighbor, who does

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<v Speaker 1>all these different things when it comes to hobbies, she

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<v Speaker 1>has so many different things and expectations that she always

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<v Speaker 1>felt like this she was trying to catch up, when

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<v Speaker 1>really the goal is to just keep up. Becoming aware

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<v Speaker 1>of who you are and how you develop your day

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<v Speaker 1>is how you stay in tune with what you expect.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, like today I was back in the podcast studio.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a Saturday. Why would I even go in there?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I was trying to catch up. I did five

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<v Speaker 1>interviews while we were camping, and those interviews had to

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<v Speaker 1>be transferred over to the hard drives. And I also

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<v Speaker 1>do a show called CTCs, which is done inside a

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store. I had to transfer those files. I was

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<v Speaker 1>in my heart behind. I needed to catch up. But

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<v Speaker 1>then when you start thinking about it, was I really

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<v Speaker 1>trying to catch up or just keep up with what

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<v Speaker 1>I normally do on a Saturday, spend a little less

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<v Speaker 1>time inside the studio, just transferring, not producing, just bringing

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<v Speaker 1>things to I didn't go in there to pay my bills.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't go in there to do anything fancy or

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<v Speaker 1>post anything that was going to get me some hits

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<v Speaker 1>on the web. The goal was to change my mindset.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to catch up. I'm just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>keep up with what I normally do. So maybe put

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<v Speaker 1>that in your process of some of the things that

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<v Speaker 1>you'll do today. Decide for yourself what you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do and how you want to execute it. How you

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<v Speaker 1>talk to yourself and how you present yourself in the

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<v Speaker 1>mirror plays a big role in this game of catch

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<v Speaker 1>up or keeping up. Be nice to yourself, look at

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<v Speaker 1>what you're doing, and change out that word, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to catch up. No, you're trying to keep up. Remember,

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<v Speaker 1>catching up means you have fallen behind. Keeping up is

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<v Speaker 1>is that you're just right there with them. You're very

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<v Speaker 1>equal and you just want to measure up. Ask the questions,

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<v Speaker 1>question the answers. I call it defragging. Get to know

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<v Speaker 1>who you are and start being better than what you

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<v Speaker 1>were yesterday. I'm Merril, and that's vocal. D freg