Speaker 1: Sure.
Speaker 2: What's that, beautiful people?
Speaker 1: It is your baby mama, favorite baby Mama, Stormy Pe
Speaker 1: And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip
Speaker 1: the modern day female perspective Damn Son, back at it again,
Speaker 1: back at it again, And y'all listen. I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: start straight from the hip. You get it because I
Speaker 1: like shot straight? Okay, well, ah, y'all listen. The election
Speaker 1: is over. I know some of us are happy, some
Speaker 1: of us are sad. Me I'm happy because I was
Speaker 1: sinking y'all niggas texting my phone. I have never text
Speaker 1: stop so much in my life. Okay, I was tired.
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I'm tired. First of all, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: hold y'all. Who gave all y'all my number? Who the
Speaker 1: fuck gave all y'all my number? And how did y'all
Speaker 1: keep getting it? It didn't make sense to me? But yeah,
Speaker 1: I digress. Like I said, I'm happy, the election is over,
Speaker 1: and I just want to say, from the bottom of
Speaker 1: my heart, if you did not vote.
Speaker 2: Shut the fuck up. Okay, I don't.
Speaker 1: Want to hear nothing. I don't want to hear nothing nothing.
Speaker 1: If you did not vote, I don't want to hear
Speaker 1: nothing from you. I don't give a fuck. In fact,
Speaker 1: if you did not vote, I feel like you should
Speaker 1: not be eligible for government assistance.
Speaker 2: Yeah said it, Yeah said it.
Speaker 1: If you did not vote, you should not be eligible
Speaker 1: for government assistance. That means no food stamps, no insurance,
Speaker 1: no lie heap, no medicaid, no, none of that.
Speaker 2: You don't deserve shit. You set it out. Remember remember,
Speaker 2: remember remember.
Speaker 1: When you sat out the election because you said you
Speaker 1: ain't want to choose between the lesser than two evils.
Speaker 2: Well guess what both of them said, you don't get shit.
Speaker 2: How about that. I'm just saying at this.
Speaker 1: Point, I feel like I need to run for something,
Speaker 1: because if you don't vote, I feel like you should
Speaker 1: not be eligible for any type of government assistance.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: That's it. That's my piece. That's all I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: on that. And uh, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: whether you did or did not get the turnout you
Speaker 1: were expecting, all you need to do is move a
Speaker 1: grace it don't I'm not gonna say it don't matter,
Speaker 1: but just be respectful like that's all. That's all I'm asking,
Speaker 1: that's all I'm asking. Whether you was on either side.
Speaker 1: Just be respectful. That's it. That's my piece, and we're
Speaker 1: gonna start the episode. Okay, so I know that we've
Speaker 1: all been wrapped up in Oh, thank you, Bucky frast
Speaker 1: box just for a badge, thank you.
Speaker 2: I don't got the button right here, but in post
Speaker 2: we're gonna addit it.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be like bombs dropping, my nigga. But yeah, man,
Speaker 1: today has been a recoup day. I feel like I've
Speaker 1: taken the time to you know, reflect and get back
Speaker 1: to me, get back into the groove things, and you know,
Speaker 1: practice some self care, be kind to myself, and.
Speaker 2: Really just honestly laugh a little bit. Me and me
Speaker 2: and my friends we had some laughs in.
Speaker 1: The group chat and I got back on my bullshit respectfully.
Speaker 1: And one of the things that I noticed in that moment,
Speaker 1: so many things became clear.
Speaker 2: So many things became.
Speaker 1: Clear, and not just from me, just from hearing my
Speaker 1: friends talk, hearing outsiders talk, and it's like, shit, thein'
Speaker 1: got nothing to do with their lection, but somehow applies
Speaker 1: to so many people. It's like somehow we're all living
Speaker 1: the same lives, but we're missing it. And I just
Speaker 1: want to say, you know, that person that be acting
Speaker 1: all nonchalant, hot and cold, playing hard.
Speaker 2: To get you know how I'm talking about. You know
Speaker 2: how I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: You know that person who be acting all nonchalant, playing
Speaker 1: hard to get.
Speaker 2: Hot and cold, back and forth. They available that are
Speaker 2: not available. You know what I'm talking about. Yet they
Speaker 2: don't like you. They don't like you. I know, I know,
Speaker 2: I know it's hard to hear.
Speaker 1: They don't like you. You're not the one for them.
Speaker 1: You're not You're not the one for them.
Speaker 2: Like the whole little cat and mouse thing may be doing.
Speaker 1: They don't like you. They don't like you. I know,
Speaker 1: I know, I know y'all bump billies. I know y'all
Speaker 1: share a fork when y'all go out to eat. I know,
Speaker 1: I know all these things. He might even let you
Speaker 1: meet his mom, She lets you meet her kid. Still
Speaker 1: don't like you. Still don't like you. Yeah, no, they
Speaker 1: think you're fun. They like hanging out with you. But
Speaker 1: you're not the one for them. And I need you
Speaker 1: to recognize that because you keep letting these people play
Speaker 1: in their face and in your mind you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: they just.
Speaker 2: Playing it hand again. They want me.
Speaker 1: To apply Lottle Prussia they want you to leave them alone, okay,
Speaker 1: And whether they're strong enough to say it or not,
Speaker 1: they want you to leave them alone because you're not it.
Speaker 1: You're not it, And I hate that for you. I
Speaker 1: hate that you haven't realized that. I'm gonna tell you,
Speaker 1: like something that really really stuck hard to me.
Speaker 2: In my mind, the person you want wouldn't treat you
Speaker 2: like that. Shit mine wouldn't. I don't know about y'all,
Speaker 2: but mind wouldn't.
Speaker 1: The person that I genuinely want, My person is absolutely
Speaker 1: not gonna treat me that way. Not you think the
Speaker 1: person that God put on this earth with me for
Speaker 1: me is gonna play in.
Speaker 2: My face like that? Because I don't. I don't. I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't think.
Speaker 1: Bucky Frastbox says, until then, they're gonna use you for fun.
Speaker 2: I agree. P Mackie says, facts, And.
Speaker 1: I think you hit on a really important point here,
Speaker 1: because in all actuality, they are using you for fun,
Speaker 1: and they keep bread crumbing you with these little significant
Speaker 1: but really insignificant to them, these little significant things that
Speaker 1: make you feel like, well, if they didn't like me,
Speaker 1: why would they do that? Or if they don't like me,
Speaker 1: why they just say that. Why do they have to
Speaker 1: do you know how people who like you are supposed
Speaker 1: to act because it ain't that, It ain't that, It
Speaker 1: ain't that. And I feel like sometimes our brains be
Speaker 1: trying to trick us into these rabbit holes, saying to ourselves, well, like,
Speaker 1: you know, well, technically they didn't say no. Technically they
Speaker 1: didn't say they didn't like me.
Speaker 2: Maybe they don't have to. Their actions are showing you.
Speaker 2: Their actions are showing you that they do not like you.
Speaker 1: And for some reason, you have embedded it into your
Speaker 1: brain that until they say no, it's a yes.
Speaker 2: That is not true. That is not true.
Speaker 1: Mister Lopierre says, std equals something to do, and that
Speaker 1: is exactly it. You can't have the mindset of, oh, well,
Speaker 1: if they didn't say no, it must be a yes. No,
Speaker 1: it's actually they're bored. They're bored, and nine times out
Speaker 1: of ten, the person that they actually want isn't giving
Speaker 1: them the attention that they need. So they're coming back
Speaker 1: to you to feed their ego, to make themselves feel
Speaker 1: good until they get attention from someone they actually want
Speaker 1: to get and then boom their out. Stop letting these
Speaker 1: people play with you please please. Jonathan says, it's ego.
Speaker 2: It absolutely is ego. It's ego.
Speaker 1: And the crazy part about it is sometimes they don't
Speaker 1: even be privy to the fact that they're playing with
Speaker 1: people say feelings and emotions.
Speaker 2: They don't know.
Speaker 1: They don't even know they are not Sometimes they are
Speaker 1: not emotionally intelligent to even know.
Speaker 2: What they're doing. They don't know.
Speaker 1: So when you tell them like yo, like you move
Speaker 1: them weird, your patterns changing, you're not being consistent enough
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 2: Now all of a sudden, they're gonna flipp it in.
Speaker 2: It's your fault. Now, hold on, how fuck I get this?
Speaker 2: What does this got to do with me?
Speaker 1: What does this have to do with me? Like, I
Speaker 1: haven't switched up, I've been doing the same thing. So like, yeah, y'all,
Speaker 1: I don't know who needs to hear this, but that
Speaker 1: person don't like you, not like that anyway, and which
Speaker 1: really made me reflect on like I said earlier, Bucky. Well,
Speaker 1: hold on, Bucky says, some know and don't care. I
Speaker 1: want better for you, not you in particular. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: if you feel like you are willing to be second
Speaker 1: place in somebody's heart, or you are willing to deal
Speaker 1: with that type of treatment. I went better for you,
Speaker 1: I really do, mister Lil Pierre says, I tell women,
Speaker 1: don't just.
Speaker 2: Hey big hit me when they hungry the fuck exactly
Speaker 2: because a lot of times.
Speaker 1: Ladies, I know I'm gonna put you on a spiral fast,
Speaker 1: but sometimes y'all do do that when I just be hungry,
Speaker 1: when y'all be hungry, or y'all just want to excuse
Speaker 1: to get dressed up. And you know that one guy
Speaker 1: gonna take you to the nice place, you hit him
Speaker 1: with the hay big hair.
Speaker 2: It's like, damn, what's up? Like you don't know? Mean
Speaker 2: no more high.
Speaker 1: But to be fair, niggas, y'all do the same thing,
Speaker 1: same thing, because you will see a girl post a
Speaker 1: fire picture on a gram and hit her with you
Speaker 1: be acting so hollywood, No the fuck.
Speaker 2: I don't. I really don't. I really don't. You do?
Speaker 1: And you see me looking good and just reminded, you're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: she's cool as shit, let me see what she up to.
Speaker 2: Still not you, big dog, Still not you?
Speaker 1: Okay, Outfit says, if he's only giving you backshots, he
Speaker 1: don't like you. Sis, get someone who will look you
Speaker 1: in the eyes. I'm not gonna hold y'all. I recently
Speaker 1: heard about this. I didn't know it was things. I
Speaker 1: didn't know it was a thing, and I heard about
Speaker 1: it in a group setting. These women were talking and
Speaker 1: they were like, Yo, it's one guy, like every time
Speaker 1: we doing it, he always just want to give me backshots.
Speaker 2: And I was like, that's so crazy, hmm.
Speaker 1: But I just told it was because she had a
Speaker 1: big butt, right, And then I heard from guys like no,
Speaker 1: like sometimes if like if she ain't cute, like we
Speaker 1: just only want to hit it from the back.
Speaker 2: And it's like, if she got a butt, you' were
Speaker 2: definitely only going to hit it from the back.
Speaker 1: And I was like, h niggas be trying to kiss
Speaker 1: me in my mouth.
Speaker 2: So I don't know what y'all talking about. I can't relate.
Speaker 2: I can't relate. I don't know that struggle. I'm not privy.
Speaker 2: I can't relate. But I did recently find out that
Speaker 2: this is the thing.
Speaker 1: Crazy to me, Crazy Bucky says our fans, giving out
Speaker 1: the sheet code.
Speaker 2: It's a safe space. We can share sheet cotes here, guys.
Speaker 2: It's okay. Hold on, let me swipe back up.
Speaker 1: One bullet for them, says Yes, it is a lot
Speaker 1: of men, says people using people period. Just have to
Speaker 1: know your worth a man. Amen, Jonathan says. On the
Speaker 1: other side of the spectrum, fellas, we gotta stop long
Speaker 1: stroking these chicks that were really not interested in.
Speaker 2: In a real authentic way. I agree. We're gonna clap
Speaker 2: it up for that man in that accountability. Thank you,
Speaker 2: thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: Jonathan says, I've been guilty of this myself. It's the accountability.
Speaker 1: Come on, kid, Yes, that's what we like to see here.
Speaker 2: Amen. Amen.
Speaker 1: Mister lay Pierce says, I don't know. I thought back
Speaker 1: shots was equality for all. It's a difference between backshots
Speaker 1: and then you only want to do backshots like you
Speaker 1: only wanted to do backshots.
Speaker 2: Why you don't want to look at girl on her face?
Speaker 2: What's happening?
Speaker 1: What's happening? Because I feel like we need to have
Speaker 1: an honest saut. It's a reason you don't want to look
Speaker 1: at gir on her face?
Speaker 2: Now what is it? Exactly? Exactly?
Speaker 1: But yeah, man, so I say all have to say,
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes you really have to start deciding and
Speaker 1: setting boundaries for yourself. There are things I will accept.
Speaker 1: There are things I won't accept. This is like the
Speaker 1: bare minimum that I need. And it really got me
Speaker 1: to thinking a lot of y'all are in relationships, but
Speaker 1: the ain't never asks to be in a relationship.
Speaker 2: A lot of y'all are in relationships but never got
Speaker 2: asked to be in a relationship.
Speaker 1: And I say all that to say, I don't care
Speaker 1: how many vibes we catch. You still got to ask
Speaker 1: me to be your girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't care. I don't care.
Speaker 1: I feel like this is a lost art. This is
Speaker 1: a lost art. Every we get further and further away
Speaker 1: from the Lord. Okay, I don't care how many vibes
Speaker 1: we catch, you still have to ask me to be
Speaker 1: your girlfriend. And before y'all say Stormy, you always doing
Speaker 1: the most, hold on, think about it. When the last
Speaker 1: time you asked a girl to be your girlfriend? Ladies,
Speaker 1: what's the last time somebody came and you say, hey,
Speaker 1: I appreciate you.
Speaker 2: I think we should take this to the next level.
Speaker 2: Will you be my girlfriend? What? What is exactly? Exactly exactly?
Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, I know there are some
Speaker 1: out there. I'm not talking about you. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: the majority. Okay, why are.
Speaker 2: We not asking women to be in relationships anymore? What
Speaker 2: is this? When did this happen?
Speaker 1: Like, don't get cute and trying to introduce me to
Speaker 1: your friends as your girlfriend because I'm going to.
Speaker 2: Introduce you as a joke.
Speaker 1: Don't don't do this, don't do this, don't.
Speaker 2: Make this a weird situation. Okay, I can't, I can't.
Speaker 2: Bucky fresh I says middle school. What the fuck? Middle
Speaker 2: school is crazy? Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Kyle Ogm says, yeah, this definitely happened to me and
Speaker 1: I had to say, oh, hold up, we gotta con
Speaker 1: first brother.
Speaker 2: Jonathan says, why are you being weird? Why you being
Speaker 2: aware to me?
Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, yes, Silver Surfer says, Yo, you just got
Speaker 1: a job. You trying to get a chop cheese with
Speaker 1: me and a beer.
Speaker 2: That's not it.
Speaker 1: That does not mean I'm your girlfriend. That does not
Speaker 1: That does not. Jay Knight says, should I asks now
Speaker 1: or later? Y'all get on my nerves? Seven six '
Speaker 1: two tep Guy says, who just be walking up in
Speaker 1: waking up in a relationship? People, people on god, people
Speaker 1: like if you don't believe me, ex women because they
Speaker 1: will tell you yes, ain't nobody asking no more? Hold on,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to score break down. Gu Beeg says, I'll
Speaker 1: be asking girls to marry me. Yeh, but you need
Speaker 1: a green card. That's different.
Speaker 2: We're not talking about that, okay.
Speaker 1: A lot of men says I was just telling my
Speaker 1: wife the other day. I asked, I want to be
Speaker 1: my girlfriend. You belong in jail? You at the same time,
Speaker 1: like while you currently have a wife or no, because
Speaker 1: if so, you belong in jail.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: King Corey says, I don't think it's a man thing
Speaker 1: in this generation. Outfitz says, So that's a good question.
Speaker 1: Is that the same as being exclusive?
Speaker 2: Hmmm? I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I think being exclusive and being in a relationship are
Speaker 1: different things, right, because you can date someone exclusively, but
Speaker 1: you're still trying to iron out the final pieces or
Speaker 1: tie up the last notes to realize if this is
Speaker 1: a situation that you want to turn into a relationship.
Speaker 1: So I don't I think dating exclusively and being in
Speaker 1: a relationship or two different things. Mister Lil Pier says,
Speaker 1: dead ass only getting backshots and try to qualify it
Speaker 1: for a relationship is wild. I'm crying Buggy says, one
Speaker 1: minute we vibe in, next minute, what are we? Yes,
Speaker 1: and y'all be trying clown girls? Will they be hit
Speaker 1: you with the what are we? Like? No, Sis just
Speaker 1: wants a little bit of reassurance and make sure she's
Speaker 1: not overplaying her role like anybody's trying to presure y'all. Relax,
Speaker 1: anybody trying pussy y'all. We ain't trying to rush y'all,
Speaker 1: nothing like that. Sometimes we just do a little check in.
Speaker 1: I feel like we should start using different words for
Speaker 1: our check in ladies, because what are we? For some reason,
Speaker 1: it processes in a man's mind as are we getting
Speaker 1: married tonight or what like? They don't process that well
Speaker 1: at all, So don't ask what are we? King Corey says,
Speaker 1: we as men are dead ass not asking to be
Speaker 1: in relationships.
Speaker 2: I know, I heard. I heard a Restored Purpose says
Speaker 2: no more bullying into relationships too. I agree. I just
Speaker 2: said that.
Speaker 1: I just said that a lot of men says, leave
Speaker 1: a PS five at someone house in your relationship, Yes, baby,
Speaker 1: once he start coming over to your house with that
Speaker 1: book bag with his PS five minute, Now, y'all in
Speaker 1: a relationship, once he start calling you on his lunch breaks. Now,
Speaker 1: y'all in a relationship, like, no fella. As soon as
Speaker 1: she start calling you at every minor convenience, you are now.
Speaker 2: In a relationship. You are you are okay.
Speaker 1: Once you start calling you every time she gets drunk
Speaker 1: with her girlfriends to come pick her up, Congratulations, you're
Speaker 1: in relationship.
Speaker 2: And it's like, we.
Speaker 1: Gotta get away from this. We gotta get away from this, y'all.
Speaker 1: We gotta get away from this. We gotta go back
Speaker 1: to traditional settings. Okay, oh my god. Mister PROC twenty
Speaker 1: one says, you just got to continue to court your girl.
Speaker 2: One bullet for them, says word.
Speaker 1: Bucky says that checking be somebody apply pressure real on
Speaker 1: the other side. Now that is true. Sometimes that checking
Speaker 1: do be caused because somebody else is applying pressure. And
Speaker 1: I feel like y'all be so suck on. The checking
Speaker 1: is because somebody else is applying pressure. That's you're not realizing.
Speaker 1: The checking is also her being courteous, like, yo, I
Speaker 1: don't want to disrespect you. So what are we doing
Speaker 1: so that I don't overstep or underplay my position?
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's it, But I don't know. I don't know, man,
Speaker 2: for me personally, like thinking you my man.
Speaker 1: When you have never asked me At a beach side
Speaker 1: candlelight dinner with Bois the Men singing live in the background.
Speaker 2: It's crazy to me. Crazy to me, And don't get
Speaker 2: me wrong, I'm reasonable. Ain't gotta be boised men. It
Speaker 2: can be one more, okay. You know times is tough,
Speaker 2: money is a little tight. It could be one more.
Speaker 2: I ain't even bad. It's good enough. If y'all don't
Speaker 2: know why more? You know wyan Ye from Voice the Men.
Speaker 2: He created a group with his sons, all named wan Ye,
Speaker 2: and they're fire.
Speaker 1: Though they sing fire, they saynd oh my god, so
Speaker 1: fucking amazing. This is like a shameless plug. Please will
Speaker 1: listen to one more. You are going to see. They
Speaker 1: are gonna give you all the fills. It's for my
Speaker 1: nineties R and B lovers. You're gonna love one more. Okay,
Speaker 1: but yeah, listen, Thinking you are my man when you
Speaker 1: have not asked me the correct way with Rose Padalles,
Speaker 1: how how are we in a relationship. It's not making
Speaker 1: sense to me. It's not I don't get it. I
Speaker 1: don't get it. Maybe it's a me thin Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: asking too much. I know sometimes I'll be doing the most.
Speaker 2: It's crazy to me, and.
Speaker 1: I think that my problem is this is how we
Speaker 1: get into those situations of.
Speaker 2: Which understood ain't got to be explained.
Speaker 1: And then he gonna explain his ass at the next
Speaker 1: bitch house when he's telling her that he don't really
Speaker 1: fuck with you like that because you're not in a relationship.
Speaker 2: Stop it. Let's get back to titles. Let's get back
Speaker 2: to titles like talking about the GenZ platform. Let's get
Speaker 2: back to it.
Speaker 1: We need it, y'all, we need it. Bucky says, what
Speaker 1: if he rolls pedal and still don't ask? Okay, the fuck?
Speaker 1: We're not in a relationship, like I.
Speaker 2: Need you to.
Speaker 1: I need you to specifically ask me will you be
Speaker 1: my girlfriend? Is that so hard? Is that hard? Is
Speaker 1: am I asking? Am I asking for too much?
Speaker 2: Let me know? Let me know. I can you know what.
Speaker 2: I'm a reasonable person. Let me know.
Speaker 1: So with that being said, I don't think it's recording.
Speaker 1: It's not on down here. My playback is off. It
Speaker 1: might be it might just be disconnected. I just wanted
Speaker 1: to be sure. Okay mm hmm.
Speaker 2: With that being said, you know, sometimes you will see
Speaker 2: people who have these cute little posts like oh, on
Speaker 2: this day he asked me to be his girlfriend and right,
Speaker 2: And you'll see some men like the best decision, not
Speaker 2: ever me who say asking you to be right.
Speaker 1: And if y'all can't tell I'm sorty, I be sorty.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie y'all. I follow black love feet.
Speaker 2: And sometimes sometimes they'd give me a little takes. I'd
Speaker 2: be a little sorty, like why not mean lot? It
Speaker 2: should have been me lot?
Speaker 1: And like.
Speaker 2: I realized.
Speaker 1: After having an honest conversation with myself, you know, sometimes
Speaker 1: I get just get out my salty season. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: have to get out my salty season right. And it's
Speaker 1: like instead of me having the mindset of, you know, well,
Speaker 1: why them or why her?
Speaker 2: Why him? That bitch don't even.
Speaker 1: Die, Like it's it's I really have to take a
Speaker 1: step back and says, I want what's for me? So
Speaker 1: instead of me having that mindset of, you know, she
Speaker 1: don't even pay her tides, I had to like step
Speaker 1: into I want what's for me and it's gonna come
Speaker 1: with time. And yeah, I don't know when we needs
Speaker 1: to hear this, but get off your salty season. Get
Speaker 1: out of it, Get out of it, Get out of it.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like we all have a little bit
Speaker 1: of secret hater in us, right, but we have to
Speaker 1: get out of it. We have to get out of
Speaker 1: it because, like, at the end of the day, I
Speaker 1: want what's for me?
Speaker 2: Because everybody ain't even happy like them.
Speaker 1: Sane people you see on the internet saying, those mushy
Speaker 1: goosie things be acting stinky, funky towards one another, right,
Speaker 1: and it's like they don't like each other. Get in
Speaker 1: the match of pajamas. But you know how lone he
Speaker 1: had to fight before they got in the match of pajamas.
Speaker 1: Like you know how many cheating scandals they had to
Speaker 1: deal with to get into the match of pajamas? Like
Speaker 1: do you know the lack of communication that goes into
Speaker 1: them wearing that matching pajamas? Like, shout out the secret haters.
Speaker 1: But we gotta get out our salty season.
Speaker 2: We have to. That's the only way something good is
Speaker 2: gonna come to the shaw. I know.
Speaker 1: Gee Wegg says, no, I'll wake up hayting Kiki Curly
Speaker 1: eighty nine says heavy on that. I want what's for me?
Speaker 1: Lord knows, I don't want anything he doesn't want from me.
Speaker 1: Aymn hell yeah, Bucky says, Oh, when the cam's off,
Speaker 1: it's a battle, roy, y'all. When the camera's off, she
Speaker 1: is hitting him from the top rope, okay, jumping off
Speaker 1: the first rader, knocking his head behind the fridge.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So like it's really not for everybody, Jonathan says, Lord,
Speaker 1: I've seen what you've done for others.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's my go to, my go to.
Speaker 1: Lord.
Speaker 2: I see what you're doing for others and shuitting than me, Lord,
Speaker 2: Like that's me, that is really me.
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm sure. Jones says, I'm a secret hater
Speaker 1: as well. I love that for us, I really really
Speaker 1: love that for us. Let's take it back to the fifties.
Speaker 1: Will you wear my varsity leatherman jacket. I'm crying. I'm crying.
Speaker 1: Ellis my name is, says Hey, I'm here. I called alive.
Speaker 1: I'm at the Wingstop stink what you want? Give me
Speaker 1: some limon Papa Wings. A lot of men says still fighting.
Speaker 1: Only see the image, not the behind the scenes. Caske
Speaker 1: Jack says, bedroom looking like SmackDown Monday Night.
Speaker 2: Raw you hear me?
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, A lot of Men says people still
Speaker 1: on Front Street Outfit says them pages were couples of
Speaker 1: goofy and making funny reels. I pray for hangnails and
Speaker 1: stuff toes f them from the bottom of my heart.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: Some of y'all content creators. Y'all look so cute on
Speaker 2: the Internet.
Speaker 1: Some of y'all couple content creators, like the ones in
Speaker 1: a relationship.
Speaker 2: I know what I'm talking about. You know what I'm
Speaker 2: talking about.
Speaker 1: Some of them content creators who are in a relationship
Speaker 1: and make them cute couple videos. I hope you hit
Speaker 1: your big toe on the side of the bed every morning.
Speaker 1: But then I gotta remind myself, I gotta get out
Speaker 1: my salty season.
Speaker 2: I gotta get out of my salty season. I have to.
Speaker 1: I have to because I want what's meant for me. Okay,
Speaker 1: because everybody ain't happy, and no shade, I'm not putting
Speaker 1: this on any of the couple content creators out here,
Speaker 1: but yeah, everybody ain't happy, and I just gotta I
Speaker 1: just got a weak because I don't know what happens
Speaker 1: behind the scenes, and I don't know who doing what
Speaker 1: and if they're genuinely happy. All I know is the
Speaker 1: besides that they put on for out words Internet. So mhm,
Speaker 1: I'll just say, I don't know who needs to hear this,
Speaker 1: but get out your salty season and wait for what's
Speaker 1: coming to you. A lot of men says, not the
Speaker 1: pinky toe, the pinky toe, the big toe, all the toes. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: faked ax says best place to find a good woman.
Speaker 1: Stormy in the house. I don't know, that's where were
Speaker 1: all at. We all kind of in the house. I'm oh,
Speaker 1: we don't really. Most of us don't really go outside.
Speaker 1: We hate it there. Like every once in a while
Speaker 1: I go outside to remind myself why I don't go outside,
Speaker 1: and that's.
Speaker 2: Really been like a tough thing for me. I'm trying
Speaker 2: to get over it.
Speaker 1: So I don't I'm I'm I'm a do some research
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna get back to you on that one.
Speaker 2: Is that cool? Like? Can I get get back to
Speaker 2: you on that one? Because I don't really have a
Speaker 2: good answer. I got think about it, think about it. Nah,
Speaker 2: Monday night raws for good terms. Please. A lot of
Speaker 2: men get off my phone? What's up?
Speaker 1: Blizz Ac sixty four Cassie Jack said naw that middle toe.
Speaker 1: Yeah them too, I want them to hit all of them.
Speaker 1: Jonason says, my want to find mine, so you want
Speaker 1: to find yours so you can disappear be Most says target.
Speaker 1: They add a target. Yeah that's a good answer. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go with that. I'm gonna go with that because
Speaker 1: I don't know too many good women that don't go
Speaker 1: to Target. So yeah, you want to know where the
Speaker 1: good woman that we ad target go to Target? Specifically,
Speaker 1: go to the candle owl, the fuzzy blanket owl, and
Speaker 1: every once in a while drift past like the ice
Speaker 1: cream coolers. But don't stay there long because we be
Speaker 1: trying to tell ourselves that we gotta stay in shape,
Speaker 1: So sometimes we just walk by the look and then bounce.
Speaker 1: But we definitely gonna be smelling some candles and rubbing
Speaker 1: some fuzzy blankets, so yeah, and every once in a
Speaker 1: while will stop and get some Starbucks on the.
Speaker 2: Way out, So yeah, go to Target.
Speaker 1: Ella's my name is says you want all flats or drumsticks?
Speaker 1: Stink and where is my good morning skanks gin video?
Speaker 1: I haven't been posting my regular GM videos because I
Speaker 1: got a little bloated, and I got a little selfind
Speaker 1: just because I gained five pounds. But it also might
Speaker 1: have just been the creatine because I started creating, which
Speaker 1: is also why I've been looking at of swool lately.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna start. I'm gonna start again, though, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna start again.
Speaker 2: I got you.
Speaker 1: Kiki Curly eighteen nine says in the house, Target, the
Speaker 1: grocery store, Church, But where are the solid men.
Speaker 2: At Okay, coming through with the good questions, because you
Speaker 2: ain't not a lie.
Speaker 1: The good women are definitely gonna be at church, grocery store, Target,
Speaker 1: like yes, yes, Ala Jessica says, definitely the fuzzy blanket owl.
Speaker 2: See see, I.
Speaker 1: Told y'all a lot of men, says the black hair
Speaker 1: care products out.
Speaker 2: Oh exactly. Let me tell you.
Speaker 1: Let me I'm gona give you some free game. Fellas,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get some free game. Go to Target, go
Speaker 1: in a black hair care out and just start looking confused. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know how them girls be making them videos looking
Speaker 1: confused and home depot.
Speaker 2: Go to Target and a black hair care out and.
Speaker 1: Just start doing this shit here. And if for some reason,
Speaker 1: you know, because some women like to be approached, you
Speaker 1: might have to hit a girl or too.
Speaker 2: But the excuse me, deep, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Do you have a second I'll mean it interrupt just
Speaker 1: like that. Don't come off like excuse me, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: excuse me.
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. I don't mean a rupt. Do you
Speaker 2: have a second?
Speaker 1: Boom conversation starter. There you go, There you go, There
Speaker 1: you go.
Speaker 2: Now if you want to get spicy like she look
Speaker 2: like she really into her haircare, you wouldn't not even
Speaker 2: to know if this product has alcohol in it? Do you? Oh? Oh, oh,
Speaker 2: you're welcome. You're welcome. That's it, you know, you know,
Speaker 2: you're exactly exactly because we won't like the products but
Speaker 2: alcohol in it.
Speaker 1: Okay, So yeah, there you go, you're welcome. Jonas says,
Speaker 1: do not date chicks in church. Church folks, be all
Speaker 1: in your business. Mister li Piera says, I don't know
Speaker 1: about church. A three or four final stage is a
Speaker 1: religious woman. Aaron As seventy three says that out looking
Speaker 1: for the roles, you go go to bed.
Speaker 2: Get off here, get off here, get off here, get off,
Speaker 2: get off get up here, get off, get up get
Speaker 2: off her now, goodbye, goodbye, get your ass goodbye? Okay.
Speaker 2: But yeah, So.
Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that three or four is
Speaker 1: final stage is church, because when we have these conversations
Speaker 1: of the three or fours, we also have like direct
Speaker 1: conversations about men on the other side, right, And I
Speaker 1: feel like, especially this kind of blew up with the
Speaker 1: Cam Newton and Corey Holcombe conversation, and we talked a
Speaker 1: little bit about it last week, but it was one
Speaker 1: point that I didn't really get a chance to address,
Speaker 1: and I really wanted to tap into it because I
Speaker 1: feel like not a lot of people were talking about it,
Speaker 1: and it's definitely something that more people need to address. So, like,
Speaker 1: there's no such thing as a black wealthy man who
Speaker 1: only wants to be monogamous.
Speaker 2: Right, we hear that.
Speaker 1: We hear that there's no such thing as a black
Speaker 1: wealthy man who wants to be monogamous. Once a man
Speaker 1: reaches a certain level of wealth, he just can't be
Speaker 1: like with one woman. Shut the fuck up. Okay, that's false.
Speaker 1: You don't get Okay, it's lies. It's lies. Why do
Speaker 1: y'all keep saying that? What the fuck? Who raised y'all?
Speaker 1: Who raised y'all? I hate this rhetoric of there's no
Speaker 1: such thing as a monogamous black wealthy man.
Speaker 2: That's lies, that's lies who.
Speaker 1: And you can always tell who did and didn't get
Speaker 1: girls growing up because the ones who didn't make a
Speaker 1: little bit of money and feel like they now don't
Speaker 1: have to be with just one like you. Saying black
Speaker 1: men have no desire to be monogamous is crazy because
Speaker 1: it's like men like Russell Wilson, Lebron James, like Courtney b.
Speaker 2: Vance.
Speaker 1: These people don't exist. These people don't exist. I'm confused,
Speaker 1: Like these are people that have been in long, successful,
Speaker 1: low profile relationships with what's what's what's the what's the
Speaker 1: what's the reasoning for them? Please don't let these men
Speaker 1: embarrass me. Lord, please don't let these men.
Speaker 2: Embarrass me, because I'm going to be pissed. I'm going
Speaker 2: to be pissed. I Am going to be pissed.
Speaker 1: But yeah, man, I hate when he's have these conversations
Speaker 1: like at the end of the day, if monogamy ain't
Speaker 1: your ministry, just say that, but.
Speaker 2: Stop trying to put it on all the black men
Speaker 2: that ain't real. That is not a thing. Like I
Speaker 2: hate this, I hate this.
Speaker 1: Hold on let me scrawl up. Y'all, game is in you,
Speaker 1: not in you or in your pocket. Yes, money can
Speaker 1: definitely unlock a f boyd powers, and I feel like
Speaker 1: money can't unlock a f boy powers, but money can
Speaker 1: make a corny nigga think he that nigga?
Speaker 2: Like, Bro, you're still corny, You're still fucking corny. Jonathan says.
Speaker 1: Dudes with real money want to use their money to
Speaker 1: make more money, and you need a good woman because
Speaker 1: a good woman will help you make even more money.
Speaker 1: I feel like every successful black man will tell you
Speaker 1: his woman has some sort of input or calls behind
Speaker 1: his success. Like men with actual money are gonna tell
Speaker 1: you they ambitious is expensive and it's careless. And me, personally,
Speaker 1: I don't want a man who just throws his money
Speaker 1: at every single woman, because baby, what is this gonna
Speaker 1: look like fifty years from now? Like just to me,
Speaker 1: it gives you not good with investments. I don't know, Maybe.
Speaker 2: It's just me.
Speaker 1: A lot of man, says Big Guy Hella confident. All
Speaker 1: she can say is no any extra speaks more about
Speaker 1: her than me.
Speaker 2: Good dude.
Speaker 1: Cashi casket Jack says they might they might be too
Speaker 1: stuck on the fact that the only women they attract
Speaker 1: are low vibrational women that only attracted to money. Aaron
Speaker 1: Nash says, successful men always have women throwing COUCHI at them.
Speaker 1: You gotta have self discipline, and I think that's the
Speaker 1: part that people don't talk about. Like, in order to
Speaker 1: be truly successful, you have to have some sort of discipline.
Speaker 1: And that doesn't just apply to money, bro, It gotta
Speaker 1: apply to these women too, because if it don't, now
Speaker 1: you in situations where Shorty is leaving with half. Now
Speaker 1: you're paying hundreds of thousands a month in child support,
Speaker 1: like and those aren't qualities of a good husband. To me,
Speaker 1: I don't care how much money you got. So it's
Speaker 1: like I get it, but I don't get it. And
Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with being polly, just like it's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with being monogamous. Like I said, at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, just say it's not a part of
Speaker 1: your ministry. Don't try to put that on everybody because
Speaker 1: everybody don't feel that way.
Speaker 2: That's accordy to me.
Speaker 1: Uh I hear Jimmy says, just proof money can't unlay
Speaker 1: my lamee. You just like designer clothes don't make you stylish,
Speaker 1: mister Lil Pierce says him, say that same thing. A
Speaker 1: lot of men says, money just enhance your attributes. If
Speaker 1: you're an F boy, now you're a super f boy.
Speaker 1: If you're authentic, it comes through. No matter what, ma'am,
Speaker 1: I feel like me personally. I know plenty of wealthy
Speaker 1: black men who are in successful monogamous relationships. And to
Speaker 1: all my ladies out there, I don't want you to
Speaker 1: feel like in order to have a man of a
Speaker 1: certain coliber, you have to give up certain things for some, yes,
Speaker 1: but not all. You have to have to discipline as
Speaker 1: well to weed out the ones who.
Speaker 2: Aren't interested in what you're interested in. Now, if you're
Speaker 2: willing to.
Speaker 1: Deal with a nigga who's gonna have to have a
Speaker 1: cheat day or a whole past once a month, that's
Speaker 1: on you. But if you're not, you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: have to strength to leave that nigg alone, no matter
Speaker 1: how much money he got.
Speaker 2: So balls in your court, honestly.
Speaker 1: All right, guys, So now we are going to get
Speaker 1: into the edible portion of the show. So the edible
Speaker 1: portion is where we read questions and comments that you guys,
Speaker 1: and usually on the day we record, I put up
Speaker 1: a prompt says ask me anything. And if you have
Speaker 1: something to say on one of the days that I
Speaker 1: don't put up a prompt, you always can email me
Speaker 1: at inquiries at stormype A dot com. Uh, you can
Speaker 1: DM me, But the dms are like the wild wild West,
Speaker 1: so I may see it, I may not. Uh. Instagram
Speaker 1: has started letting me see some of my dms, which
Speaker 1: is a good thing, but yeah, you know it is
Speaker 1: what it is. Uh. All right, So first question, y'all,
Speaker 1: and this one. This one was a bit of a doozy.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: When I got it, it was so interesting I had
Speaker 1: to actual So I'm gonna actu all again and live.
Speaker 1: I really want you all to tap into this because
Speaker 1: I want to hear what y'all got to say. It
Speaker 1: says my girl won't get on birth control. I use
Speaker 1: condoms anyways, but I want to be extra safe, so
Speaker 1: y'all know me. I had to get some background. So
Speaker 1: he's twenty five and going to grad school. She's twenty
Speaker 1: one and still in college. They've only been together six months,
Speaker 1: so y'all know me. I'm like, let's get into it.
Speaker 1: Is there any reason why? She says she doesn't want
Speaker 1: to get on it, and he says, she says it
Speaker 1: makes her feel funny, and she heard it makes you
Speaker 1: gain weight. I personally think she's not concerned about a baby,
Speaker 1: like she just doesn't comprehend. Like, yo, that's kind of
Speaker 1: a big deal. So I wanted to act y'all again.
Speaker 1: This fella writes in my girl won't get on birth control.
Speaker 1: I use condoms anyways, but I want to be extra safe.
Speaker 1: So what do y'all think? What do y'all think? And
Speaker 1: what do y'all think? Once again? He's twenty five going
Speaker 1: to grad school, she's twenty one, still in college. They've
Speaker 1: only been together six months now. I did extra reasoning.
Speaker 1: She said it makes her feel funny, and you know
Speaker 1: she heard it makes you gain weight. Right, So we
Speaker 1: watered alive and read some of y'all comments a little more.
Speaker 1: Mommy says, who's trying to gain weight from birth control? Though,
Speaker 1: let's be honest.
Speaker 2: Heard, okay, heard? I heard that.
Speaker 1: I heard that, because then when I gained weight, you're
Speaker 1: gonna be telling me I look like I can't bust
Speaker 1: the biscuits. And that's not that's not that's not fair.
Speaker 1: That's not fair. Because I did this for you, stink,
Speaker 1: and now it's a problem. Hold on, let's bring it back.
Speaker 1: Let's readdress like. No, I get it. I get that,
Speaker 1: Jonathan says, but there's multiple versions of birth control. Also true,
Speaker 1: also true? Uh some whack nigga. I want you to
Speaker 1: change your screenam immediately, he says. Pull out with the
Speaker 1: kind of one mm hmm. G Money says she might
Speaker 1: need the weight. She's still in senior high school jeans.
Speaker 2: Please.
Speaker 1: Caskie Jack says, I can understand that the birth control
Speaker 1: fucks with hormones and brain connection. It's more than just
Speaker 1: them taking a pill. Just keep it wrap. Bro Ella says,
Speaker 1: I'm playing babies, not the vibe. It's safer for him
Speaker 1: to use a condom versus birth control negatively impacting her health.
Speaker 2: Heard right, Hold on, y'all. The vig says, busted biscuits.
Speaker 2: Fuck y'all.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is lace says thicker than a snicker stormyt
Speaker 1: please shut up every day. Doctor three says birth control
Speaker 1: does affect women health. Use condoms and keep it wrap.
Speaker 1: Og Young D says yeah, he asking much for only
Speaker 1: six months. Okay, I felt like not enough people paid
Speaker 1: attention to that.
Speaker 2: Me personally.
Speaker 1: I really felt like not enough people paid attention to
Speaker 1: It's only been six months Outfitz says, listen here, young
Speaker 1: bull let that woman do what she wants. Birth control
Speaker 1: used to control her cycle. Keep straightened up. This is lace, says,
Speaker 1: let's go corn fed. A lot of men says her
Speaker 1: reasoning sounds legit. Now you have to respect.
Speaker 2: It or move on.
Speaker 1: So I put this up in a prompt in my
Speaker 1: stories and gave you guys a chance to chime in
Speaker 1: there too. So I wanted to read y'all a couple
Speaker 1: because I felt like they were pretty well rounded. So
Speaker 1: the first one says she might not be for you.
Speaker 1: My boy seems like.
Speaker 2: She's ready, and they spelled read e like that.
Speaker 1: We are not freeing R Kelly. Just in case you
Speaker 1: thought this was like a free R Kelly moment, it's not.
Speaker 1: We're not there. So yeah, still fuck r Kelly, but okay,
Speaker 1: go ahead, kids die. My man asks talent, but fuck him.
Speaker 1: Next one says, to be fair, she might be concerned
Speaker 1: about possible side effects, and honestly she was because she said,
Speaker 1: like YO makes her feel like she might gain weight,
Speaker 1: makes her feel funny, x Y and Z right, and
Speaker 1: I feel like her saying it makes her feel funny.
Speaker 1: Also points the fact that it's not something she hasn't
Speaker 1: explored before, so she knows her body. She knows it
Speaker 1: might not be for her. Kesture Jack says, not the
Speaker 1: kels Hey only one, Nick knack Hey, auto Blaze Ellis
Speaker 1: my name is says truck her cycle, don't go raw
Speaker 1: during ovulation. Boom, that's not a full proof fan. My
Speaker 1: guy g money says six months is kind of soon.
Speaker 1: They'll relax a little. I feel like I read that
Speaker 1: with my bad y'all. The last one says, if he
Speaker 1: wants to be safer, don't have sex. Good point, good point,
Speaker 1: and good point, good point, good point, good point. My
Speaker 1: standpoint on this was complex because I could see it
Speaker 1: from both sides, right, Like, on one hand, I know
Speaker 1: our go to is, Oh, she's trying to trap him,
Speaker 1: like slow down, slow down down, Okay. She could genuinely
Speaker 1: be concerned about her health. I don't know if you saw,
Speaker 1: but they got lawsuits coming left and right about birth
Speaker 1: control being connected to brain tumors and all types of
Speaker 1: other things, and not to mention weight loss and losing
Speaker 1: your hair and X Y and Z so she could
Speaker 1: genuinely be concerned about her body, and at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, her body her choice.
Speaker 2: Let's make that quite clear, right.
Speaker 1: But the last one really hit home for me because
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, the only safe sex
Speaker 1: is no sex. And I'm not gonna hold you, my guy,
Speaker 1: it's only been six months. Why are you trying to
Speaker 1: go raw dogs so fast? Hold on, hold on especially
Speaker 1: what you still especially with you going to grad school
Speaker 1: and her still in college. Raw dog needs to be
Speaker 1: the last thing on your mind. I know that it
Speaker 1: feels good, but that's not where we need to be
Speaker 1: concerning our grad school is expensive, motherfucker. Okay, and if
Speaker 1: you can afford grad school nine times to ten, you
Speaker 1: can't afford that and a baby. Worry about the grad school,
Speaker 1: all right, We are rooting for you.
Speaker 2: Stay focused, Okay.
Speaker 1: I know, I know you won't go a raw dog,
Speaker 1: but let's just not concern that. And honestly, if you
Speaker 1: are just hyper sensitive when it comes to having kids,
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, the base the best
Speaker 1: safe sex is no sex. Either that or you gotta
Speaker 1: keep your condom on. And I know that sometimes the
Speaker 1: condom pops, but that's just something you gonna have to
Speaker 1: deal with like it is what it is, right everyday
Speaker 1: doctor says, he said he don't want a baby. He
Speaker 1: said he don't want a baby. But it's six months
Speaker 1: sending your pressure on her to get on birth control,
Speaker 1: Like what makes you think that the condom isn't doing
Speaker 1: a good enough job? Has the condom popped already? If not,
Speaker 1: then it's given. You just want to go raw dog
Speaker 1: jamal And it's like, have you already had a scare
Speaker 1: or two? Like what's the pressure between getting her on
Speaker 1: this birth control if you're consistently using condoms. Because I
Speaker 1: don't know about yaw, but when I'm having sex with condoms,
Speaker 1: I'm not really worried about birth control because I understand
Speaker 1: how condoms are. You keep it looped, it's not gonna pop.
Speaker 1: Friction is what makes it pop at the end of
Speaker 1: the day. So either you're not ignorre knowledge in the friction,
Speaker 1: or she's not ignowedged acknowledging the friction, because that's how
Speaker 1: they pop. You can put a foot in a condom
Speaker 1: and it still won't pop. If it's popping, it's because
Speaker 1: they're friction. It's dry somewhere, so like there are other
Speaker 1: issues that we can address instead of that. A lot
Speaker 1: of men says pop pop pop goes in my mind.
Speaker 1: William Creole says, just track her cycle to know when
Speaker 1: she's ovulating. There are plenty of websites that can give
Speaker 1: you an accurate prediction each month. I use this with
Speaker 1: my ex and it was spot on every time. Rob says,
Speaker 1: I think your content is dope as fuck. Thank you, Rob,
Speaker 1: Della Prophet every day Doctor three says facts Ella says
Speaker 1: shooting the club is a wonderful thing, just saying after
Speaker 1: six months, it ain't.
Speaker 2: You don't even know that girl.
Speaker 1: You don't even know where blood type is, You don't
Speaker 1: know where how family medical history is, like cancer can
Speaker 1: run her family, schizophrenia, diabetes, hoigh blood.
Speaker 2: Press or anything like. You don't even know. You don't
Speaker 2: know her, You don't know if she has good mother tendency.
Speaker 2: She's twenty one.
Speaker 1: For God's sakes, Please please please, no shade to old girl.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying I'm sure that's not the first thing
Speaker 1: on her mind either. Like Gux says, I want five kids.
Speaker 1: Well you better get started, my guy. What you're waiting for?
Speaker 1: What you're waiting for?
Speaker 2: Next question?
Speaker 1: Are you ready for someone to take care of you?
Speaker 1: And I thought this was so funny. I think it's
Speaker 1: because of my cadence and my mannerisms. Y'all be thinking
Speaker 1: like I'm a real ass nigga, right, But I just
Speaker 1: want to be clear, And I said this a few
Speaker 1: episodes ago, like I just want to be clear, like
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: Want to be an independent woman no more. Okay, I
Speaker 2: don't want to be an independent woman no more. Okay.
Speaker 2: I'm tired.
Speaker 1: I'm tired of I'm tired of Grandpa and every day
Speaker 1: life just come back like that's.
Speaker 2: Two that I'm bad.
Speaker 1: I can't stand y'all women on out gors inner that
Speaker 1: talking about I pay my own bills. I do dah
Speaker 1: dah da da da. I don't need a man from nothing.
Speaker 1: I'm a strong good for you.
Speaker 2: I hate it, bitch, I hate it. I hate it,
Speaker 2: good for you. I hate it. I hate when y'all
Speaker 2: come on here.
Speaker 1: I do this this for myself and I pay these
Speaker 1: bills and you like that shit cause I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a strong end upendat woman
Speaker 1: all bar no bar.
Speaker 2: I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I
Speaker 2: hate it, and it's like.
Speaker 1: I don't even understand, Like how y'all have the strength
Speaker 1: to say all that, after paying all your bills and
Speaker 1: being in charge of everything, how y'all got the strength
Speaker 1: to get on outgars internet talking about I do x
Speaker 1: Y and zy girl.
Speaker 2: Fuck you in that rose. I don't care. I don't care.
Speaker 2: I don't care, Okay.
Speaker 1: Like when I say I don't need a man, I
Speaker 1: want a man, It's like no, like I want my
Speaker 1: butt rubbed, Like I don't need a man to pay
Speaker 1: my bills.
Speaker 2: No, like I want a man.
Speaker 1: I don't need a man financially, but I want a
Speaker 1: man physically, spiritually, mentally, Like huh, y'all want y'all butt wrapped?
Speaker 2: That's just me. That's just me. It's just crazy.
Speaker 1: Like I get you're an adult, because what you're saying
Speaker 1: is you're an adult.
Speaker 2: I get that you like that shit you do. I mean,
Speaker 2: it's cool if you do. But I'm just asking, like.
Speaker 1: Dah, yes, I take care of myself physically and financially,
Speaker 1: but like I want a man to take care of
Speaker 1: me in other ways, like I want a partner. I
Speaker 1: want to travel the world with somebody, Like I want
Speaker 1: to come home and spill tea to my man, like
Speaker 1: I want somebody that I can have kids with, like
Speaker 1: I want to, I want to build legacies like y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all talking all this, like y'all don't.
Speaker 2: I don't want a man. The fuck. I don't want
Speaker 2: a man. I don't know what you're talking about like that.
Speaker 2: That's not me. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I get it, but I don't get it like I
Speaker 1: want somebody to I want somebody to bild with. I
Speaker 1: want somebody to roast my kids with, Like, yo, we're
Speaker 1: gonna fuck these kids up because I'm funny as shit, Okay,
Speaker 1: Like when y'all be saying things like.
Speaker 2: This, I get it, but I don't like u. Uh.
Speaker 2: William says, what are these roses? The devil? That's what
Speaker 2: they are.
Speaker 1: Casket Jack says, rubbing a butt during a movie after
Speaker 1: a long day's top tier. Yes, getting your butt rubbed
Speaker 1: watching a movie after a long day.
Speaker 2: Top tier, top tier, top tier. Uh. The new rule,
Speaker 2: the new rose comes with hands. I hope not. I
Speaker 2: hope not. I hate that.
Speaker 1: King Savage says women want those housewife titles without doing
Speaker 1: what with it. That's a real nine to five job.
Speaker 1: Rob says fuck you in that rose. Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't care when it's late at night,
Speaker 1: who gonna hold you tight, lay in bed and rub
Speaker 1: your butt right. I don't know what song that is,
Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure that's a song. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: that's a song. G Wegg says, I'm trying to wake
Speaker 1: my kids up at five am with NERF guns. Energy
Speaker 1: energy energy, yes, energy energy, like I cannot explain.
Speaker 2: How childish I am.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, I want to wake my kids up at
Speaker 1: five am with NERF guns. And I want a man
Speaker 1: to be hide and behind a closet so when they
Speaker 1: think they're safe he do a front flip out of
Speaker 1: it and shoot him in the back of the legs.
Speaker 2: I need that. I need that. You got me bad
Speaker 2: because I got you. Okay, I got you.
Speaker 1: I need that, Like Darius the therapist says, man, it's
Speaker 1: changing to where people want to be isolated. We're losing
Speaker 1: a collective culture that our human nature drives on for survival.
Speaker 2: We don't even know that. I know that. I know
Speaker 2: that they don't know that, but I know that.
Speaker 1: William says, not the NERF guns, Yes outfit says my.
Speaker 2: Love goes back back back.
Speaker 1: Top tier of Wayans comment. If you wash the wayns,
Speaker 1: you get it, you get it, you get it, you
Speaker 1: get it. Yeah, man, long story short, I get it,
Speaker 1: but I don't get it. Uh Am I ready for
Speaker 1: someone to take care of me? Yes? Yes, and yes
Speaker 1: I'm ready for somebody to take care of me. And
Speaker 1: I don't mean financially, I mean everything else. Rub my feet.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I want somebody to mel prep every once in a while.
Speaker 1: I hate mail prepping all the damn time.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: I want somebody to fucking carry my suitcase and remind
Speaker 1: me to bring my passport when we're going out of town.
Speaker 2: Okay, like.
Speaker 1: Uh, I want somebody to take fire ass photos with
Speaker 1: and I can put on my phone and I can never
Speaker 1: show nobody that's what I want.
Speaker 2: Okay, God damn.
Speaker 1: Uh what about homing a clown with the tennis ball
Speaker 1: on the slack and the powder in it?
Speaker 2: Please? Please please? Y'all pissed me off so bad.
Speaker 1: Every time I think we're making progress, I'll just bring
Speaker 1: me back down, burn me back down. Last one, what
Speaker 1: is the number one priority you need your future husband
Speaker 1: to have?
Speaker 2: I think that.
Speaker 1: Something that's very important for me is communication, Like I
Speaker 1: need my partner to be able to communicate. All right,
Speaker 1: before you go on to sheet, tell me what you
Speaker 1: need and give me a chance to fix it. That's
Speaker 1: all I'm saying. I know, I know it sounds crazy.
Speaker 1: I know it sounds crazy and gone and stop picking
Speaker 1: fuck you. Listen to what I'm saying. Okay, I can
Speaker 1: fix anything in our relation. But if you're not telling me,
Speaker 1: I don't know that it's wrong. And I feel like
Speaker 1: men have been so conditioned, like you're not allowed to
Speaker 1: have feelings, and if you say something, it's given sassy
Speaker 1: like that. Ain't it over here, big dog? Come tell
Speaker 1: me what's on your mind, what's good, what you need?
Speaker 1: How can I make things better? And I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm not giving men a pass. But sometimes because they
Speaker 1: have been in so many environments where it wasn't a
Speaker 1: safe space to really express themselves, they shut down and
Speaker 1: that fucking sucks. I hate that for y'all. But like,
Speaker 1: I don't care about your ex You what, big mama? Now,
Speaker 1: tell me what's up? Because I got you right. And
Speaker 1: sometimes it takes such a long time, It takes so
Speaker 1: many it takes so much effort to get a man
Speaker 1: comfortable to get to that safe space, because it's like.
Speaker 2: It's like when you pick a dog up from the shelter.
Speaker 2: They don't trust nobody.
Speaker 1: Okay, but it's like, Yo, this is a good safe
Speaker 1: place you homes think, Tell me what do you need?
Speaker 1: How can I help? Because if you're not, like, it's
Speaker 1: just gonna go downhill from here. And I can tell
Speaker 1: you that this is a safe space, But what's more
Speaker 1: important is I'm gonna show you it's a safe space. Yes,
Speaker 1: you can tell me when you're not satisfied with something. Yes,
Speaker 1: you can tell me when you need more of something. Oh,
Speaker 1: you want a different dinner, you want a different lunch,
Speaker 1: Like you expect me to cook X, Y and Z,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know how Handmaid's tail.
Speaker 2: Shit.
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying, all right. I'm saying there
Speaker 1: are certain things that you can request and you can
Speaker 1: ask to be present in this space, and I don't
Speaker 1: have to comply. But that's where further conversations come along
Speaker 1: because a relationship is compromised. So it's like I can
Speaker 1: only say it so much. I need you to be
Speaker 1: willing to trust that this is a safe space. So yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it. That's what I need. I need you to
Speaker 1: be able to use your words.
Speaker 2: Use your words.
Speaker 1: I feel like since my son was like two, one
Speaker 1: of the first phrases that I really drill the to
Speaker 1: his head was use your words. Like all that crying
Speaker 1: shit that don't work over here, and all that silent shit,
Speaker 1: all that shutting down me. Macha him men, I don't
Speaker 1: have that, don't work over here. Use your words, Use
Speaker 1: your words. Keskid Jack says, Unfortunately, I wish a lot
Speaker 1: of other women understood this and men were brave enough
Speaker 1: to take that level of vulnerability. Yes, it's so hard because,
Speaker 1: like you said, like men just aren't comfortable with that
Speaker 1: level of vulnerability because a lot of women don't provide
Speaker 1: that safe space. Lost Chicago and says, praise be left
Speaker 1: from my ass under his eye. A lot of men says,
Speaker 1: sing of them damn lunchibles.
Speaker 2: But yes, you can say you sing of them damn lunchables.
Speaker 2: Yes you can. Okay.
Speaker 1: G Way says, I need twenty dollars, You got me, baby,
Speaker 1: you can have twenty five.
Speaker 2: You can have twenty five. Now what yeah what you
Speaker 2: You're gonna go get.
Speaker 1: Your haircut too? But I'll say one twenty five you
Speaker 1: good like yeah? I Rob adel One says, having somebody
Speaker 1: to do life with is everything. A lot of man says,
Speaker 1: have to be secure. Outfit says going to be a struggle.
Speaker 1: A lot of man says, speak your mind now, you
Speaker 1: a bitch ass nigga.
Speaker 2: I know, and I want to stop that. I want.
Speaker 1: I want to stop the narrative of if a man
Speaker 1: has the courage to express himself or be vulnerable, he's sassy.
Speaker 1: Stop that, Okay, that man got rights and feelings too.
Speaker 1: Kesky Jack says, definitely love that you understand this. Uh.
Speaker 1: Gordon says twenty five you big mama for real. Outfit
Speaker 1: says boiling, I hate y'all. Aaron Nash says, I don't
Speaker 1: need no man. Is saying you never had a quality
Speaker 1: man without saying it.
Speaker 2: Oh, I feel like.
Speaker 1: Saying I don't need a man and saying you've never
Speaker 1: been able to fully trust a man.
Speaker 2: I'll say that.
Speaker 1: I won't say you never had a quality man, but
Speaker 1: I will say you've never been provided a safe space
Speaker 1: to fully trust a man. Or a man has let
Speaker 1: you down in a big way, and I hate that
Speaker 1: for you, right, But we can't let one situation hinder
Speaker 1: us from the rest of the world.
Speaker 2: That was one fish in this big ass ocean. What
Speaker 2: did you learn from that?
Speaker 1: That's what's more important, Like did you take that situation
Speaker 1: and learned, Hey, this is the role I played in
Speaker 1: it and how I can prevent it from happening to
Speaker 1: me again. Or did you take it as men ain't
Speaker 1: shit because that's trash. We're not going to do that.
Speaker 1: That's not being accountable and that's not how we grow
Speaker 1: and learn from things.
Speaker 2: So let's recap.
Speaker 1: What do we learn today, ladies and gentlemen. Number One,
Speaker 1: the election is over and I don't want to hear
Speaker 1: shit if you didn't vote, Okay, In fact, if you
Speaker 1: did not vote, I don't think you should be eligible
Speaker 1: for government assistance.
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. Fuck you in on food stamps? Okay.
Speaker 2: Next thing we talked about is you know.
Speaker 1: That one person that be acting on nonchalant and hard
Speaker 1: to get they don't like you. Yeah, thanks for coming
Speaker 1: to my ted talk. Next thing, I don't care how
Speaker 1: many vibes we catch, you still have to ask me
Speaker 1: to be your girlfriend. With Rose Pedals, Campbell, Light on
Speaker 1: the Beach, Voice them In singing live in the background,
Speaker 1: I will settle for one more okay, or any other
Speaker 1: nineties R and B artist to be frank Um. We
Speaker 1: got to get out of our salty season. When we
Speaker 1: see these happy couples, we have to remind ourselves. So
Speaker 1: we have to be patient and wait for what the
Speaker 1: Lord is sending for us. I want what's meant for me.
Speaker 1: There's no such thing as a wealthy black monoga mess man.
Speaker 1: Fuck you just say monogny at a party in ministry. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's what we're going to do.
Speaker 2: Next thing.
Speaker 1: A listener had asked for some advice because his girlfriend
Speaker 1: wouldn't get on birth control, and we had advised him
Speaker 1: that her body, her choice. But we get it and
Speaker 1: we appreciate him being safe. But the best kind of
Speaker 1: safe sex is no sex. We also talked about uh am,
Speaker 1: I ready for someone to take care of me. Yes,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to be a single woman, a
Speaker 1: single independent woman no more.
Speaker 2: I hate it, hear. I want to go home.
Speaker 1: And what's the number one priority for me that my
Speaker 1: future husband needs to have. He has to be able
Speaker 1: to communicate. That's it, and that's all. My message is
Speaker 1: always gonna be the same. Follow me on a gram
Speaker 1: at story, pe at, chocolate chip and sip. And if
Speaker 1: you don't remember anything else, please remember.
Speaker 2: At your best, you are love.
Speaker 1: If you listen on audio that didn't make sense, but
Speaker 1: I got a lead your shirt on, So yeah, all right,
Speaker 1: I love you guys.
Speaker 2: I'll see next week. Peace.
Speaker 1: Sure,