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<v Speaker 1>Hey, the LA Talk fifteen eighty Yeah, we got jokes.

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<v Speaker 1>We said. Our topic this morning is celibacy. So much

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about this hour, and a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>are making the choice. And then on the other end

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<v Speaker 1>of the spectrum, there's a group called in cells, which

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<v Speaker 1>literally means involuntary celibate. We're being joined this morning by

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<v Speaker 1>an American stand up comic. She's from New Orleans, USA.

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<v Speaker 1>She's an actor, a singer, a writer, a host, and

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<v Speaker 1>an entrepreneur. She's also a matchmaker now in her latest incarnation,

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<v Speaker 1>Del Harrison. Welcome down and me.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for having me with in cells.

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<v Speaker 2>Involuntarily cells. So ain't nobody getting with them? I mean

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<v Speaker 2>I need more more information.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, you're not up on the in cell movement.

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<v Speaker 1>In cells there's a lot of young men, mostly young men.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they're maybe some women, but in cell refers

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<v Speaker 1>to the there's a group of young men, mostly online

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<v Speaker 1>that are involuntarily celibate, and they're angry because they feel

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<v Speaker 1>many of them I'm paraphrasing, but this is pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>how they are seen as people angry at women because

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<v Speaker 1>they feel that women owe them uh sex, love, companionship,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're not getting it. So some of them are

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<v Speaker 1>pretty and pretty misogynistic if you will.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, they got to turn off the rap music first

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<v Speaker 2>of all, okay, because a lot of that is is TTR.

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<v Speaker 2>How to just want somebody for one thing and now

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<v Speaker 2>you mad with me because you know, and and then

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<v Speaker 2>happy First of all, that group that's not just young

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<v Speaker 2>men too, I mean means some old men out here

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<v Speaker 2>involuntarily celibate too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, well, you know right exactly. They call it. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>this is from CNN, they say. The Anti Defamation League,

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<v Speaker 1>which works to address hate and extremism, defines in cells

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<v Speaker 1>as heterosexual men who blame women in society for their

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<v Speaker 1>lack of romantic success. They're described as being largely misogynistic,

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<v Speaker 1>self pitying, and they are considered dangerous according to the

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<v Speaker 1>Anti Defamation League because of their anti woman views.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what I'm talking about, guys. Hi, y'all anti women.

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<v Speaker 2>But then y'all need to lay down with us at

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<v Speaker 2>the same time. And you know what, a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>men be like that too, like they hate us. They

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<v Speaker 2>in the comments talk about y'all l this. Y'all need

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<v Speaker 2>to put some clothes on. Y'all just in that, but

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<v Speaker 2>then at the same time you still want to be

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<v Speaker 2>hell by us, and brother, you can't have it both ways.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't be out here mad with your mama deflecting

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<v Speaker 2>on me, and then I'm supposed to go over here

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<v Speaker 2>and lay down with you, you know, And then the other

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<v Speaker 2>half of y'all want to take people on days three

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<v Speaker 2>times for thirty dollars, and then I need to go

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<v Speaker 2>back home. What you do or you mad? Like who

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<v Speaker 2>taught y'all how to court? That's really the bottom line.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't know how many black men are

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<v Speaker 1>part of the insult culture. It's generally more like associated

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<v Speaker 1>with Miles. You say, yes, there are black men. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's generally more associated with white yeah, heterosexual men.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do see what you're talking about in the manisphere.

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<v Speaker 1>I made the mistake one day because I saw someone

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<v Speaker 1>that I know that I thought was a friend talking

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<v Speaker 1>on the man and it turned out to be a

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<v Speaker 1>manisphere chat where they were just spending the whole time

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<v Speaker 1>disparaging black women for wearing weaves and makeup when we

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<v Speaker 1>should be working on our inner beauty and our natural

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<v Speaker 1>our natural beauty or whatever. And I said, why are

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<v Speaker 1>you policing women's hair and makeup, and then I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they started attacking me. You know, well you're divorced, so

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<v Speaker 1>you're a failure and you know all this stuff. So

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<v Speaker 1>so that anti time. Yeah, that's right. So what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>getting at is that anti woman culture that you're talking about,

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<v Speaker 1>even though in cells aren't generally black, that anti woman,

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<v Speaker 1>that misogynist sort of undertone does exist in the black

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<v Speaker 1>online spaces. I think among men more in the manisphere

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<v Speaker 1>kind of energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't even know any Like when you first

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<v Speaker 2>said in cells, I thought of three hundred thousand black

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<v Speaker 2>men i'd have met.

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<v Speaker 1>Part so they don't know it.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, no, they don't know it. They haven't now,

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<v Speaker 2>but they didn't created the whole group, like because I

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<v Speaker 2>just met a man. I just went on one of

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<v Speaker 2>these like group runs one of these days. I met

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<v Speaker 2>a fifty five year old black man and we're just,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just talking to him about like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>every man wants a good woman, right, And he was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm fifty five, what would I want a good woman for?

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<v Speaker 2>I got five different women. Well I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like brother, you know, immediately I thought he

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<v Speaker 2>was like one of these like high functional autistic man.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I'm like, every man wants a good woman buy him.

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, well, I got five. I got a

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<v Speaker 2>woman for this, I got a woman for that. But

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, brother, you're not sleeping with all five

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<v Speaker 2>of that. I mean what I want? What I want

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<v Speaker 2>to leave? So that man is involuntary. He's been involuntarily

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<v Speaker 2>celibate so long. This man can't think straight. He can't wait.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, if he's got five different men, how

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<v Speaker 1>is I mean women? How is he celibate?

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<v Speaker 2>He because ain't nobody sleeping with no woman and sleeping

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<v Speaker 2>with that retarded mindset? You know what I'm saying, Like

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<v Speaker 2>this man, I mean I wish.

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<v Speaker 1>They might be, but they might be. I mean there

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<v Speaker 1>are there there are people that have a scarcity mentality

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<v Speaker 1>that think that there aren't enough men, or people that

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<v Speaker 1>think there aren't enough women, or that you know that

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<v Speaker 1>they they might he might Is he rich?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>He mean is he hots? No? I'm talking about the

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<v Speaker 2>rig hot or brilliant. Look he had to he had to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, got out of high school, started working at

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<v Speaker 2>the trash truck company, got demoted from driving back to Janada.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, what I'm saying and been out here with

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<v Speaker 2>the chemicals method of his brain ever fits like he

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<v Speaker 2>had you. Okay, yeah, I'm sorry, you know, because the

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<v Speaker 2>thing is even my dog she started, or.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, she started, she called it what it was.

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<v Speaker 1>I got this. I know you got some cleanup to

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<v Speaker 1>do right now, so I got well, I'll check back

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<v Speaker 1>and would you after you do that. But I mean, look,

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<v Speaker 1>here's the thing. We started talking about celibacy today. We said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, is it a punishment or is it? Is

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<v Speaker 1>it a choice? Uh? And I think that when we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about in cells, the Fahimas and the chat saying

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<v Speaker 1>they're all white and male. There's also the minis for

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<v Speaker 1>that has a Netflix movies that includes black man like

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<v Speaker 1>Myron Gains. But I mean, and I know that this

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<v Speaker 1>is a whole subculture. And I've also observed a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of women, especially on Instagram, talking about what you're saying, Dell,

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<v Speaker 1>which is that men want to have sex with us.

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<v Speaker 1>You said you want them to hold us. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think it's really just whole. I think they want to

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<v Speaker 1>have sex with women, but they want to spend all

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<v Speaker 1>their time with men. They don't really like women. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if this is a new phenomena or not.

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<v Speaker 1>But the other side of that coin is more and

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<v Speaker 1>more women and men, some men, but more and more

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<v Speaker 1>women are choosing celibacy as a dating choice, and I

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<v Speaker 1>would think that's the other side of the coin. We

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<v Speaker 1>will look at all of that when we come forward.

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<v Speaker 1>You're invited in if you've got something to say about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Eight hundred nine twoh fifteen eighty, eight hundred and nine

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<v Speaker 1>two fifteen eighty. I know that Dell Harrison has something

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<v Speaker 1>to say about something she gets done dealing with that DS.

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<v Speaker 1>It's KBLA doc fifteen eighty and you're waking up with

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<v Speaker 1>Dell Harrison and her pup Happy Monday. Yes, we're off

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<v Speaker 1>to a great start. So, Dell, you're a high profile person.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a singer, you're an actor, you're a comic, you

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<v Speaker 1>do stand up tory, do all of these things. You

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<v Speaker 1>do these mixers for black singles over forty What is

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<v Speaker 1>your personal choice? Are you celibate? Are you considering celibacy?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think it's growing in popularity? How does this

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<v Speaker 1>topic relate to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I am celibates, you know, by choice, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>because I feel like I want to be under the Covenant,

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<v Speaker 2>and I do also feel like when you are a

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<v Speaker 2>person that is on a mission, you know, like myself

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<v Speaker 2>and a lot of people are. You know, when you

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<v Speaker 2>have sex involved expectly quickly, then it's a distraction and

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<v Speaker 2>it usually takes away from your purpose. And so as

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<v Speaker 2>a Christian woman myself, I need to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>hear from the Lord. That's why I'm just like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna refrain at all times because you know, people

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<v Speaker 2>and I feel like people get this confused. People like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I've talked to men and they feel like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're celibate, you don't like sex. No, we like,

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<v Speaker 2>say most most of the women I know we like

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<v Speaker 2>sex even more than men like say, but we wanted

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<v Speaker 2>with the right person. And a lot of times, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when you're when you're laying down too quickly as a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people want you to do, you know it's

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<v Speaker 2>not the right person because sex, first of all, it

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<v Speaker 2>clouds your visions, you know, and it claws up your hearing.

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<v Speaker 2>People don't know that.

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<v Speaker 1>Huh, yeah, it claus up your hearing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Well, okay, So if you're a spiritual person like me, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to be able to hear. And when you

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<v Speaker 2>introduce sey, if it's not with the right person, you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to be introducing a lot of like distraction. You're

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<v Speaker 2>introducing a spirit. And so now where you would have

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<v Speaker 2>been sitting community hearing from the father, that is closed

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<v Speaker 2>up because you know, the male doesn't just have uh

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<v Speaker 2>you know, reproductive equipment. It's actually a wand it controls us.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, whatever he's feeling, you're gonna be feeling. Whatever

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<v Speaker 2>he's doing, he's gonna be doing. And it it's good.

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<v Speaker 2>It's that's krystonite, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So, wow, that's a lot. That's a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh so you really think that is the magic stick?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's meant to be the magic stick, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the thing. Is is meant That's how the Lord

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<v Speaker 2>built it. It's meant to be the magic stick. That's

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<v Speaker 2>why you have to have the right burn, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying. That's how the LRD built it like that,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's probably why people are so angry they don't

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<v Speaker 2>have a magic stick, you know what I'm saying. So,

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<v Speaker 2>y'all under the curve out here, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh now it's a current I'm saying, first it was

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<v Speaker 1>a magic wand now it's a it's a item of.

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<v Speaker 2>No. No. Some people I have not been hurted. Some

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<v Speaker 2>people have not received the magic wine, and so they're angry,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying. And with his angry too, well.

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<v Speaker 1>Yogi says celibacy is healthy. He says, I'm not an

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<v Speaker 1>animal and I've never had a sexual disease. Protect your

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<v Speaker 1>body and mind. Sex can kill you. Yeah, that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of things can kill you. Cars can kill you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, food can kill you. Alcohol can kill you.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of things can kill you if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>handle with care. But Morris is also saying she's right

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<v Speaker 1>about the power of sex. And look, I'm not judging

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<v Speaker 1>Shirley Strawberry went for a long period of celibacy because

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<v Speaker 1>lot of traction, like a I don't know, maybe for

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<v Speaker 1>the reasons you're saying. You know, they want to have clarity,

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<v Speaker 1>or they want to erase their body, their body count

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<v Speaker 1>and start over. I'm not sure, do you. Is it

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<v Speaker 1>your impression that more and more people are making us choice.

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<v Speaker 2>I think more and more people are making a choice

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<v Speaker 2>because once you get and the thing is, I know

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<v Speaker 2>men that are opting into celibacy too. It's not and

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<v Speaker 2>these are attractive men. It's not that they can't get anyone.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you're on a mission, when you're on purpose,

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<v Speaker 2>like purpose requires you to have a certain level of

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<v Speaker 2>So I feel like people are opting in for that

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<v Speaker 2>reason alone. It's like they're trying to get you know,

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<v Speaker 2>getting to They're not just getting to the bag. They

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<v Speaker 2>when it comes to like sex, because everybody know Howney

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<v Speaker 2>the devil will send you the exact type you're looking for.

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<v Speaker 2>You like them tall, He got them tall, wait around

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<v Speaker 2>the corner, you like them short man? Oh man? Was

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<v Speaker 2>that short man five? So I think you gotta you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to have a certain level of self control.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you need to get to the right partnership and

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<v Speaker 2>you know there's nothing like you know, chemistry, be burning

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<v Speaker 1>So how do men react? Because I know you're not

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<v Speaker 1>only have a dating sort of meet up and you've

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<v Speaker 1>got a whole app for people to meet up, you

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<v Speaker 1>do events, and I know that you yourself are looking

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<v Speaker 1>for a life partner. How do they react when you say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm celibate. Does that change your dating trajectory?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it changes it myself period. But it does help

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<v Speaker 2>to warrant because some people need to lay down, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, when you may meet these men, whether you

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<v Speaker 2>meet them online or you need honey, A lot of

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<v Speaker 2>these men need a hug. Last week, you get what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, sir, I cannot be out here resolving life problems.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>You know from the last thirteen women that rejected you,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to go back in and figure out why

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<v Speaker 2>you're not getting any hugs. And that's what the INN tells.

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<v Speaker 2>Need to figure out what is it about you in

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<v Speaker 2>particular where you're not huggible to a woman. But the

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<v Speaker 2>thing about it too with me, it helps me to

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<v Speaker 2>ward all the people that may not be a real afraid,

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<v Speaker 2>and I've had a person that has offered me, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, to come come get in his bed. Then

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh no, I'm on a life mission.

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<v Speaker 2>And then we actually got closer for me telling him

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm celibate, I need to you know, we actually

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<v Speaker 2>became friends. But guess what, what's honest with me? He

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<v Speaker 2>was like, listen, you we we're just only going to

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<v Speaker 2>be able to be friends, okay, because my girlfriend got

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<v Speaker 2>some work to do. No problem, because I will let

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<v Speaker 2>her do all the work until I determined that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe maybe we will grow closer one day and and

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<v Speaker 2>the work will shift over here. But no, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I was I respected, you know what I'm saying, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's put the expectations right. So we're you know, we're

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<v Speaker 2>we're still in contact, but you know that it's clear

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<v Speaker 2>out there. It's clear that he needs to go over

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<v Speaker 2>here and you know, and and get get the work done.

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<v Speaker 2>So he says, and I need to be over here

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<v Speaker 2>with my promise.

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<v Speaker 1>With your promise. The spooky sat behind the door, says

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<v Speaker 1>Yogie Fish twenty nineteen. Once it's a year back, the

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<v Speaker 1>gender war is officially over, just like the boss chick era.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be happy with both of those eras being over

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<v Speaker 1>for sure, but I'm not sure that I believe that.

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<v Speaker 1>He goes on to say, the overwhelming majority of men

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<v Speaker 1>are not trying to get in a permanent relationship with

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<v Speaker 1>women who have high body counts, and so that I

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<v Speaker 1>guess that's an upside of being celibate. You would seem

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<v Speaker 1>unless you did a lot of it, well as you

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<v Speaker 1>had a prolific hoe era before you became to celebrate celibate.

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<v Speaker 2>No, but what I'm talking about is with like with Spook,

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<v Speaker 2>I agree with everything you say, except for the high

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<v Speaker 2>body count, because unless she's seventeen and you just meeting her,

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<v Speaker 2>the average person is going to have a high body

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<v Speaker 2>count their eyes, unless somebody just got married when they

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<v Speaker 2>was you know, right out of high school seventeen, they

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<v Speaker 2>was together for forty years and then they just got

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<v Speaker 2>a divorced or you know, or he died that other

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<v Speaker 2>than that, when you go into relationships, said when you

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<v Speaker 2>when you're going through relationships just thinking a person is

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<v Speaker 2>the one, you could have said, Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Have my own theories about that too, because I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, you don't want to have body bags piled up.

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<v Speaker 1>But I feel like men say that when they're not

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<v Speaker 1>really into someone. If if Rihanna was liking you, you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't care what her body count was. If Beyonce was

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<v Speaker 1>liking you, you wouldn't care what her body count. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm not a man. Maybe I'm wrong?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I right?

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<v Speaker 2>Stop asking?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? Right, right, right? But it's but that doesn't have

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<v Speaker 1>anything to do with why you chose, why you yourself

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<v Speaker 1>are choosing celibacy, not trying to slow down the body count.

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<v Speaker 2>But also too, is I stopped counting okay because I

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<v Speaker 2>do what I want to do out here? And then

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<v Speaker 2>also too, is.

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<v Speaker 1>The a man?

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<v Speaker 2>You need to stop asking because that is a question

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<v Speaker 2>that hurts you. It don't hurt the woman, it hurts you.

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<v Speaker 2>She just moves right on, honey, to collect another one.

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<v Speaker 2>And guess what you out here doing the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Most of y'all got a double y'all, most of our

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<v Speaker 2>body count is double what we got, and you worried

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<v Speaker 2>about the body count. That is the wrong question, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you need you need to stop asking that. But I

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<v Speaker 2>do believe I do agree with Spoops about the you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when he mentioned the gender ward, I want them to

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<v Speaker 2>be over too, because that is what divides many people

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<v Speaker 2>from getting together. Men are are you know if you

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<v Speaker 2>like a video, one of the negative Mirron Games video,

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<v Speaker 2>which I would not let him claim that he is

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<v Speaker 2>from the Black Rays, honey, I would. You know, if

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<v Speaker 2>you like it one of those negative videos, A bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of those negative videos come up, you respond to it,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's wuld be on your timeline. And those are

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<v Speaker 2>divisive things. So that's why you know you got a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of these men. And then of course you have

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<v Speaker 2>this very masculine hip hop music. I just went to

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<v Speaker 2>this bar the other night, you know, thinking I was gonna.

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<v Speaker 1>Hear some R and B.

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<v Speaker 2>In every every song was this masculine song that was

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<v Speaker 2>very masculine attracting, and all these men was in there.

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<v Speaker 2>But the music was just like all I need her

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<v Speaker 2>to do was SUNI and see and and I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>Son. I thought. We've got news driv against sports and

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<v Speaker 1>and more. We're talking celibacy. You're invited in eight hundred

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<v Speaker 1>nine two oh, fifteen eighty KBLA Talk, fifteen eighty, j

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<v Speaker 1>BLA Talk fifteen eighty. We're talking celibacy today, Del Harrison

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<v Speaker 1>is my guest. She's a comedian, she's a writer and actress,

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<v Speaker 1>a singer, and a host. She also has an app

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<v Speaker 1>called Cambaie, which will help you find your match, and

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<v Speaker 1>she has chosen for herself celibacy. Celibacy our topic today

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<v Speaker 1>this hour, and we were talking off the air too,

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<v Speaker 1>of course you on the air, you were saying, men

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<v Speaker 1>need to stop asking about body count. This is one

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<v Speaker 1>of the areas where there's a complete double standard. You

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<v Speaker 1>got a man like well Chamberlain, how many women did

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<v Speaker 1>he say he was with ten thousand or something crazy

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<v Speaker 1>like that, And so men go around bragging about it

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<v Speaker 1>like it makes them somehow a conqueror or a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some kind of a I don't know, Romeo or something.

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<v Speaker 1>But women are shamed for it. So it's not the same.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's it's you know, it's not the same in society.

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<v Speaker 2>And we shamed for it because you know, we we

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<v Speaker 2>we generally make better decisions about sleeping with people. So

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<v Speaker 2>it does signify when a woman has a high body account.

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<v Speaker 2>It does signify in the past she's been sleeping with

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<v Speaker 2>people that didn't want her, or you know, she didn't

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<v Speaker 2>want or there was something there because generally we do

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<v Speaker 2>like to be with one man. But they are avoiding

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that, you know, some of these men are

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<v Speaker 2>slick out here and will tell you anything and will

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<v Speaker 2>make you feel like, oh, y'all might be getting married,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, in the morning, just give it up to

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<v Speaker 2>night and in the morning he is dos.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, we have to trick a man into

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<v Speaker 1>like marrying us if he was gonna be ghosts anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I feel like, I'm sure that's not

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<v Speaker 1>why you're practicing celibacy. But to me, the era of

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<v Speaker 1>playing games, I don't know. For me, it's just over.

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<v Speaker 1>Either you're you're gonna do what you say or you're not.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to do all that, not because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care, but because it doesn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>No, And I agree with you. And that's the thing is,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's why a lot of people are choosing it,

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<v Speaker 2>because if you are gonna do what you say, you're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna do what you say, regardless of the sac Because

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<v Speaker 2>the thing about it, too is you can't even get

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<v Speaker 2>to know, Like if you look at these marriage shows,

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<v Speaker 2>dominique like married at first side, Fine, me too, me too.

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<v Speaker 2>I am fascinated with the show. But all of the

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<v Speaker 2>ones that flee together right away, they usually break up

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<v Speaker 2>for some reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, fair, fair fair, But then you look at it.

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<v Speaker 1>At my friend Shirley Strawberry, she was celibate for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years, several years she finally found this man

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<v Speaker 1>and married him, and he turned out to be a crook.

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<v Speaker 1>So even the whole I do thing doesn't necessarily, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>protect you. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing about it, too is your decision. See. The

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<v Speaker 2>thing about it too is you cannot be waiting in

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<v Speaker 2>desperation now, like when you're waiting for the lawyer to

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<v Speaker 2>sing you your wife or yourself, you know, your husband

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<v Speaker 2>to find you. You can't be waiting in deceration, so

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<v Speaker 2>you marry anything. There are still signs like you know

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<v Speaker 2>that that you can look for and still lives that

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<v Speaker 2>people call because I'm sure he wasn't up, you know up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure she was laid up some nights to perspect

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<v Speaker 2>that he was. But she wanted to get married just

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<v Speaker 2>so much so she can have to say, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't know her specific situation, but that's what

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<v Speaker 2>happens to a lot of people. They miss out on

416
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<v Speaker 2>the red flags because of the thing you want, and

417
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<v Speaker 2>you can't want the thing so much that your vision

418
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<v Speaker 2>is now blinded by good You know, you you're not

419
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<v Speaker 2>making good decisions because you're desperate for their end results.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, Forensic says many wouldn't be interested

421
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<v Speaker 1>in any Rihanna anyway since she ain't FBA at all.

422
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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, Forensic earlying. I'm sorry you foundational Black American

423
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<v Speaker 1>like because she's from Barbadi and not from here. That's

424
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<v Speaker 1>just those are the things folks say when they think

425
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<v Speaker 1>Rihanna will never ever be interested in them. You know,

426
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<v Speaker 1>would you date Rihanna Miles?

427
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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

428
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<v Speaker 1>What but if but if a woman tells you I'm celibate,

429
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<v Speaker 1>would that be a red flag or a green flag

430
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<v Speaker 1>for you? That's not it.

431
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<v Speaker 4>That's not a red flag. I mean it's a conversation

432
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<v Speaker 4>to have, for sure, but I mean it does not

433
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<v Speaker 4>a red flag. I'm not holding nothing against you for that.

434
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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you know, it's it's your reasoning for everything,

435
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<v Speaker 3>for sure.

436
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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

437
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<v Speaker 2>Some people that told me they've been offended by a

438
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<v Speaker 2>man told me that he was offended when he hears

439
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<v Speaker 2>a woman is celibate, like he takes personal offense. And

440
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<v Speaker 2>see that's a man right there. He lived by his flesh.

441
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<v Speaker 2>And you know this, this man was also single. And

442
00:25:59.160 --> 00:26:01.640
<v Speaker 2>and it's because you living by the flash and you

443
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<v Speaker 2>need everybody to sleep with you.

444
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<v Speaker 1>Last week, Forensica to count and says Dominque, I'm being facetious. Okay, good,

445
00:26:09.119 --> 00:26:11.680
<v Speaker 1>because I knew that was a lie. If Rihanna came

446
00:26:11.759 --> 00:26:14.079
<v Speaker 1>up and started nibbling on your neck, it would be over.

447
00:26:15.359 --> 00:26:18.480
<v Speaker 1>Just saying, but what's the endgame? I mean, if you

448
00:26:18.599 --> 00:26:22.839
<v Speaker 1>met a woman, Miles who said I'm celibate by choice,

449
00:26:24.240 --> 00:26:26.799
<v Speaker 1>would you date her? Because I feel like that means

450
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<v Speaker 1>probably And maybe maybe I'm making an assumption, Dell, but

451
00:26:32.079 --> 00:26:34.279
<v Speaker 1>to me, it sounds like she's waiting for marriage.

452
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<v Speaker 4>I mean that's why I'm saying the conversation should be

453
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<v Speaker 4>had at that point. It's not an automatic deal breaker because,

454
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<v Speaker 4>like I say, it could be for any number of reasons,

455
00:26:41.160 --> 00:26:43.640
<v Speaker 4>your health reasons, your personal reasons, your spiritual journey.

456
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<v Speaker 3>I get it, I get and understand all of them.

457
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<v Speaker 4>I may not be the man to stick around with

458
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<v Speaker 4>you through all that, but it's worth a conversation for show.

459
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<v Speaker 3>It's not a deal breaker.

460
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<v Speaker 1>And what is what is the endgame? I mean, when

461
00:26:55.000 --> 00:26:58.880
<v Speaker 1>do you break the fasts? Dell? Are we waiting forever?

462
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<v Speaker 1>Are we waiting till we get married? Are you waiting

463
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<v Speaker 1>until you know? The Lord comes down and says, that's

464
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<v Speaker 1>your guy. You don't have to marry him. You can

465
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<v Speaker 1>sleep for them tonight, Like, what what's.

466
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<v Speaker 2>The down and say I'm gonna sleep with him tonight?

467
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<v Speaker 2>The NOOI ain't. I'm gonna come down and say that.

468
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<v Speaker 2>The thing about it, too is you know, uh, I

469
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<v Speaker 2>feel like when you are when you have an exploration

470
00:27:24.720 --> 00:27:29.519
<v Speaker 2>date is because you don't believe it's gonna happen, so

471
00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:32.440
<v Speaker 2>you just like it don't happen by this day, I'm

472
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<v Speaker 2>gonna just do it. It's gonna happen. I'm worthy of

473
00:27:36.160 --> 00:27:39.759
<v Speaker 2>a person, you know. I'm worthy of a person. First

474
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<v Speaker 2>of all, I've been married before, okay, and I'm worthy

475
00:27:43.079 --> 00:27:46.079
<v Speaker 2>of a person. So if I'm worthy of a person,

476
00:27:46.400 --> 00:27:48.880
<v Speaker 2>that means that I know that someone is out there

477
00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:51.960
<v Speaker 2>and guess what, I don't feel like my husband is

478
00:27:52.079 --> 00:27:54.720
<v Speaker 2>somewhere dumps and diving in the trash can, sleeping with

479
00:27:54.799 --> 00:27:57.680
<v Speaker 2>everybody on the first night, just until he gets to me.

480
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<v Speaker 2>I do believe that he is also a man that's

481
00:28:00.839 --> 00:28:04.279
<v Speaker 2>just like me. That's practice of self control and walking

482
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<v Speaker 2>with the law and on purpose. And I feel like

483
00:28:06.960 --> 00:28:09.799
<v Speaker 2>a lot of people are lacking, Like when you are

484
00:28:09.920 --> 00:28:13.359
<v Speaker 2>living by the flesh, you're just so desiring the flesh.

485
00:28:13.599 --> 00:28:17.119
<v Speaker 2>A lot of times you're lacking purpose, lacking.

486
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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I see Miles making a face, So Miles wants

487
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<v Speaker 1>to say, so, I'm gonna turn it over to him

488
00:28:22.079 --> 00:28:23.640
<v Speaker 1>instead of what I was about to say.

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<v Speaker 4>So, I gotta remember we're talking about celibacy, so I

490
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<v Speaker 4>want to stay on topic a little bit. But if

491
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<v Speaker 4>if a man wants to take his time before he

492
00:28:32.079 --> 00:28:33.519
<v Speaker 4>gets down on one knee and marror, you had a

493
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<v Speaker 4>time dating the end date for that before you walk away,

494
00:28:35.759 --> 00:28:37.240
<v Speaker 4>and you say, you know what, he's not the one

495
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<v Speaker 4>for you.

496
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<v Speaker 3>So I mean, what's what's wrong withold happen to end

497
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<v Speaker 3>date for it?

498
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<v Speaker 2>Having an end date for the celibacy.

499
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<v Speaker 4>The celibacy, you're saying, there's no end date for it's

500
00:28:46.880 --> 00:28:49.000
<v Speaker 4>gonna happen eventually. Just wait on it's gonna happen. To

501
00:28:49.119 --> 00:28:51.119
<v Speaker 4>act like it's not gonna happen, you being impatient. If

502
00:28:51.160 --> 00:28:53.039
<v Speaker 4>I said the same thing about getting down and getting

503
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<v Speaker 4>you that ring and making you my wife.

504
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<v Speaker 1>I love you.

505
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<v Speaker 3>It's gonna happen like I love you. We have we're

506
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<v Speaker 3>building something.

507
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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and also right, well'll let you answer his question.

508
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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but again, but if if it is gonna happen,

509
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<v Speaker 2>then we just don't wait on each other. If you

510
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<v Speaker 2>need me to, if you need me to, now hurry

511
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<v Speaker 2>up my process. So, but I need to wait on

512
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<v Speaker 2>your process, then we are not equally your So.

513
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<v Speaker 1>So no, no test drive at all. You're gonna marry

514
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<v Speaker 1>this person without ever sampling the goods?

515
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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but the thing about it too, Okay, No, No,

516
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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to answer it to you right now. First

517
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<v Speaker 2>of all, I don't be friends with you at all

518
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<v Speaker 2>unless I know it's good. But I don't need to

519
00:29:42.880 --> 00:29:45.319
<v Speaker 2>sleep with you. My instinct is, oh, I've had a

520
00:29:45.440 --> 00:29:47.400
<v Speaker 2>past life, so I can look at a man and

521
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<v Speaker 2>I can see exactly with this section is I can

522
00:29:49.960 --> 00:29:51.599
<v Speaker 2>see if you're good. I can see if you're not

523
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<v Speaker 2>within second.

524
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<v Speaker 1>So okay, well, that would be a hell of a

525
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<v Speaker 1>mistake if you were just wrong that one time. Now

526
00:30:00.519 --> 00:30:11.480
<v Speaker 1>it's okay, all right, Uh, we don't leave that right there. No,

527
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<v Speaker 1>because honestly, there's some things that are chemistry, and it

528
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<v Speaker 1>doesn't only have to do with equipment. If that's what

529
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<v Speaker 1>you're looking at, IM just saying uh anyway.

530
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<v Speaker 2>So no, no, no, but I feel like that's why

531
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<v Speaker 2>you get to know a See.

532
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<v Speaker 1>This is the thing.

533
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<v Speaker 2>The thing about it, too, is when you're getting to

534
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<v Speaker 2>know a person, these are the things that bond you

535
00:30:35.680 --> 00:30:39.359
<v Speaker 2>like you can when you's sex as one bond, But

536
00:30:39.559 --> 00:30:42.039
<v Speaker 2>there are so many other bonds that you need to

537
00:30:42.160 --> 00:30:45.839
<v Speaker 2>make before you jump over into this field, because sex

538
00:30:46.039 --> 00:30:49.079
<v Speaker 2>before you know all all these other bonds is a

539
00:30:49.160 --> 00:30:50.880
<v Speaker 2>false bar. And then you wake up in the morning,

540
00:30:51.200 --> 00:30:53.359
<v Speaker 2>you know, three months later and be like, I actually

541
00:30:53.400 --> 00:30:55.920
<v Speaker 2>hate this person. And that's what happens a lot of people.

542
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<v Speaker 2>You get you have it said, he looks so good

543
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<v Speaker 2>you it's like I just met this dude. He looks

544
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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, he is and then you'd be like,

545
00:31:04.359 --> 00:31:08.160
<v Speaker 2>wait a minute, this old on, this brother is inconsistent,

546
00:31:08.279 --> 00:31:10.440
<v Speaker 2>this brother is this. And this is not to take

547
00:31:10.519 --> 00:31:13.160
<v Speaker 2>every man, but I'm talking about when you don't take

548
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<v Speaker 2>the time.

549
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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, go ahead, Miles.

550
00:31:16.839 --> 00:31:19.559
<v Speaker 3>Is bad sex a relationship ender for you? Or do

551
00:31:19.599 --> 00:31:21.400
<v Speaker 3>you stay with mister bad sex?

552
00:31:23.319 --> 00:31:23.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh?

553
00:31:23.559 --> 00:31:27.079
<v Speaker 2>No, bad sex is a is a relationship not starter.

554
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<v Speaker 2>If I don't think it's that we don't even we

555
00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:32.599
<v Speaker 2>don't even get to know each other. We don't talk.

556
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<v Speaker 1>But since you're celeb, wouldn't know until you already said I.

557
00:31:37.920 --> 00:31:40.920
<v Speaker 2>Do, I wouldn't know immediately. I would know immediately.

558
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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well maybe you know what, Maybe I need to

559
00:31:44.279 --> 00:31:47.720
<v Speaker 1>have you vet anyway, I know. I mean, it was

560
00:31:47.759 --> 00:31:51.000
<v Speaker 1>the same question Joki said. He says, what if you're perfect,

561
00:31:51.039 --> 00:31:53.359
<v Speaker 1>man doesn't have a magic one? Is that a deal breaker?

562
00:31:53.720 --> 00:31:55.720
<v Speaker 1>But you've already said I do. You're not gonna go

563
00:31:55.799 --> 00:32:00.480
<v Speaker 1>get another divorce because the man is the fishing in

564
00:32:00.559 --> 00:32:00.960
<v Speaker 1>the sack.

565
00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:06.960
<v Speaker 2>I think that, y'all like and and and maybe it's

566
00:32:07.000 --> 00:32:10.480
<v Speaker 2>because I have had I have lived a very full

567
00:32:10.680 --> 00:32:14.839
<v Speaker 2>life in this area. My my body does not even

568
00:32:14.960 --> 00:32:19.720
<v Speaker 2>wake up until we are sexually compatible. So like, I

569
00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:22.759
<v Speaker 2>don't I know it off the break and yours doesn't either,

570
00:32:22.920 --> 00:32:26.799
<v Speaker 2>Like you know, it's something that's natural with us when

571
00:32:26.839 --> 00:32:29.279
<v Speaker 2>you when you take away the desperation, it's something that's

572
00:32:29.440 --> 00:32:32.720
<v Speaker 2>natural like and mouth, please speak to this too. It's

573
00:32:32.799 --> 00:32:36.720
<v Speaker 2>just something about your body that you know what it's

574
00:32:36.759 --> 00:32:38.480
<v Speaker 2>gonna be like with this word, It's like when I

575
00:32:38.640 --> 00:32:41.440
<v Speaker 2>meet some men something that I've had sexual relationship with,

576
00:32:42.039 --> 00:32:44.359
<v Speaker 2>I already knew it was good, Like just talking on

577
00:32:44.440 --> 00:32:46.200
<v Speaker 2>the phone. I already knew what it was gonna be like.

578
00:32:46.599 --> 00:32:49.039
<v Speaker 2>I didn't have to guess that is what you know.

579
00:32:50.519 --> 00:32:55.720
<v Speaker 1>You be delusional and sincere at the same time. If

580
00:32:55.759 --> 00:32:57.839
<v Speaker 1>you're not a vision and you're talking about getting married

581
00:32:57.880 --> 00:33:00.319
<v Speaker 1>but your celibate, I'm going to want to test drive

582
00:33:00.400 --> 00:33:00.960
<v Speaker 1>before I.

583
00:33:01.240 --> 00:33:05.519
<v Speaker 2>Buy, just saying, please test drive all day long email.

584
00:33:05.599 --> 00:33:08.119
<v Speaker 2>But are you married right now? Are you married right now?

585
00:33:08.319 --> 00:33:11.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't think he is. I think he's in our relationship,

586
00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:14.720
<v Speaker 1>test driving with no car note.

587
00:33:17.200 --> 00:33:20.079
<v Speaker 2>Going down to the dealer, just test driving it. Yes,

588
00:33:20.200 --> 00:33:24.000
<v Speaker 2>but is never gonna get an official loan. She is

589
00:33:24.119 --> 00:33:26.480
<v Speaker 2>never gonna get the car. Note that you've been pro.

590
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<v Speaker 1>Paul says, you're you're in the X Men. You got superpowers?

591
00:33:31.119 --> 00:33:33.720
<v Speaker 1>All right, we'll shoot Dale Harrison, you might need them.

592
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<v Speaker 1>We're talking celibacy. I'm not judging. I'm just trying to

593
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<v Speaker 1>understand and of course having some conversation. That's what we

594
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<v Speaker 1>do around here. We are KBLA Talk fifteen eighty DJ

595
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<v Speaker 1>Black nine or nine says A no shame in celibacy

596
00:33:50.960 --> 00:33:55.039
<v Speaker 1>and abstinence, certainly not saying there's shame in it. For me,

597
00:33:55.119 --> 00:33:56.920
<v Speaker 1>it would be like I think it would be like

598
00:33:57.480 --> 00:34:00.279
<v Speaker 1>going on a really strict diet. The minute I do that,

599
00:34:00.400 --> 00:34:03.160
<v Speaker 1>I want to eat all the time. If I'm just

600
00:34:03.279 --> 00:34:05.599
<v Speaker 1>living my life and I'm not focused on that, I'm

601
00:34:06.119 --> 00:34:08.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, just living my life and and I'm still

602
00:34:08.800 --> 00:34:11.800
<v Speaker 1>living within my morals and principles. It's not for me.

603
00:34:11.920 --> 00:34:15.320
<v Speaker 1>It's not one extreme either your dumpster diving, as del

604
00:34:15.400 --> 00:34:19.440
<v Speaker 1>Harrison so delicately put it, or you're you know, or

605
00:34:19.559 --> 00:34:22.519
<v Speaker 1>you're absin, and I fully feel like there's a there's

606
00:34:22.559 --> 00:34:27.400
<v Speaker 1>a sweet spot in between. Miles. Would you ever go celibate?

607
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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm curious that how long is it had to

608
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<v Speaker 3>be gone to you consider?

609
00:34:34.760 --> 00:34:38.079
<v Speaker 1>How long do you do without when until it's considered? Yeah,

610
00:34:38.119 --> 00:34:40.000
<v Speaker 1>that's true. I'm celibating.

611
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<v Speaker 3>The summer.

612
00:34:44.440 --> 00:34:51.320
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I think it's when it's intentional, you know,

613
00:34:52.559 --> 00:34:55.199
<v Speaker 2>when you when you just yeah, if it's on purpose,

614
00:34:55.280 --> 00:34:57.679
<v Speaker 2>then yeah, you've been celebrated. That's that's what it is.

615
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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, Okay, so even if it's minutes

616
00:35:00.679 --> 00:35:05.679
<v Speaker 1>because you intentionally said that you're celibate, it counts. Got it.

617
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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of sex, the US Supreme Court did reject Donald

618
00:35:09.800 --> 00:35:13.480
<v Speaker 1>Trump's push thank you forensic to throw out that verdict

619
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<v Speaker 1>and the sex abuse case. So celibate or otherwise, e

620
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<v Speaker 1>gen Carrol is going to keep her five point three million,

621
00:35:22.320 --> 00:35:26.039
<v Speaker 1>and she may be getting the eighty three million. So anyway,

622
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<v Speaker 1>I digress. So how's it going? Do you feel better?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you feel different? Do you? I mean you said

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<v Speaker 1>you got these spidy senses going where you can. I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't mean to question your but you you never know.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyway, are you feeling different? Is there? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>feeling the upside of this decision in your life and

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<v Speaker 1>and and seeing the benefits of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm definitely seeing the benefits. Also to Dominique, we

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<v Speaker 2>need to go out so I can go head and

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<v Speaker 2>and vc you some guys and then you can test

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<v Speaker 2>out my theory and you can let me know that

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<v Speaker 2>you got.

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<v Speaker 1>Sleeping with a bunch of guys, like what the heck?

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, I turn out the absolute one, just one.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about you saying you don't know what the

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<v Speaker 2>sex is like, and I'm making you know. We can

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<v Speaker 2>spend one night out and I could be like, ah,

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<v Speaker 2>dominate don't was okay, I think he now he gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be like, I'm telling you you need to go out

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<v Speaker 2>because I don't. You know, at this day and age,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, fighting senses is way up, but it's going way.

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<v Speaker 2>It's going well because I don't have the interference of

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<v Speaker 2>the flash constantly, you know, directing my emotion.

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<v Speaker 1>As doctor gill as Doctor gil Wyatt, the sex therapist, psychologist,

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<v Speaker 1>psychiatrist says sex is a human need like food, water,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, housing, you know, human touch and sexuality is

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<v Speaker 1>one of our needs. So you could go the other

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<v Speaker 1>way and say you're gonna get more uptight, less relax

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps less likely to make a clear eye decision if

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<v Speaker 1>you go too long without any sex.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, sex is a need, I completely agree. But just

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<v Speaker 2>like people fast from sugar.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, sure is not a need. Coffee is

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<v Speaker 1>not a need.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. But just like people fast, the body from different

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<v Speaker 2>things that they need to clear it out of, sex

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<v Speaker 2>is one of those things. It's a need, especially when

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<v Speaker 2>you have a right partner. But I'm sure if you

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<v Speaker 2>talk to Yail right now, she's like, oh, don't just

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<v Speaker 2>sleep with anybody. You're gonna have to find rightfully aligned partner.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, she does say don't just sleep with anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>But and in fact she says, when you don't have anyone,

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<v Speaker 1>you're better off pleasure in yourself than going without. But

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<v Speaker 1>that's another conversation for another day perhaps, But I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think it's you know, that's like saying, oh, hunger is

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<v Speaker 1>only a need when you have good food. No, you

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<v Speaker 1>have to have food. I mean, you know, I rather

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<v Speaker 1>you don't eat fast food, but I don't want you

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<v Speaker 1>to die.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. The thing is too is sex is not the

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<v Speaker 2>same as fast food. Sex is something that is going

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<v Speaker 2>into your body from another person. So that's why you

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<v Speaker 2>need it rightfully alive. Fast food you go over here

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<v Speaker 2>and get your own Popeyes yourself, you know, and you

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<v Speaker 2>can do whatever you want to with the fried chicken,

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<v Speaker 2>even though you're not supposed to be having it. But

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<v Speaker 2>seg it can destroy you when you are after it

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<v Speaker 2>from anyone. And that's what people got to understand is, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a need. Yeah, we need to be having And

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<v Speaker 2>this does not mean you can't meet someone. And y'all

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<v Speaker 2>not affectionate, y'all not hugging you know, y'all. I mean

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<v Speaker 2>I don't be kissing. You know I'm not I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>said I'm not a kisser or whatever, but you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a hug is extremely intimate. The kids on the forehead

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<v Speaker 2>is extremely intimate. So there are some things you can

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<v Speaker 2>experience when you're dating someone that that makes it feel

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<v Speaker 2>like say, that makes it feel just as fulfilling with

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<v Speaker 2>the touch, because it's the tail.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't leave it there because it's almost time to

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<v Speaker 1>pass the mic. Mind folks how to find you your

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<v Speaker 1>come by a app so they can find someone celibate

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<v Speaker 1>or otherwise.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, y'all find me and I am Dale Harrison. Find

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<v Speaker 2>my app AI. It is a comby Yer is not

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<v Speaker 2>the health Black singles over forty five each other in person.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're not going on the apps to anyone and

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<v Speaker 2>swipe and send out any d M. You're going on

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<v Speaker 2>there so that you could check in. The checking list

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<v Speaker 2>is available for you to find where people are and

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<v Speaker 2>then you're gonna see the heat map to see the

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<v Speaker 2>area popular singles.

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<v Speaker 1>Komb Ye Del Harrison, thank you so much. I always

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate the conversation with you. You're such a great sport.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much, and you can tap in with

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<v Speaker 1>me at Duprema Radio, d P R I, m A

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<v Speaker 1>and then radio on all platforms. You can find us

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<v Speaker 1>at KBLA fifteen eighty. It's time for me to pass

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<v Speaker 1>the mic. Doctor Cornell West End, Congresswoman Maxine Waters coming

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<v Speaker 1>up next hour. Like my mama, the late great Diane

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<v Speaker 1>da Prima used to say, the ultimate famine is the

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<v Speaker 1>starvation of the imagination. Until next time, my KBLA delegation,

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<v Speaker 1>one love,