Speaker 1: It's night Side with Dan Ray on WBS Boston's Radio.
Speaker 2: Thanks very much to Cole. Indeed, probably catch the end
Speaker 2: of that game, well maybe not. Whatever the Bruins need,
Speaker 2: I didn't need to win tonight, and we need a
Speaker 2: great show tonight, that is for sure. We've had a
Speaker 2: couple of good ones this week, and I think we
Speaker 2: got a good one lined up for you tonight. My
Speaker 2: name is Dan Ray, the host of Nightside. Thanks very
Speaker 2: much to Cole, and Rob Brooks is back in the
Speaker 2: control room. As always, no calls this hour. We have
Speaker 2: four guests this hour and we will talk about four
Speaker 2: really different subjects. I enjoy doing this and I hope
Speaker 2: some of you enjoy listening to it. Let us start
Speaker 2: off with our first guest tonight, and I would like
Speaker 2: to introduce to all of you from Tough's University. He
Speaker 2: is the director of Optometry at the New England I
Speaker 2: Center at Tough's Medical Center, and it is doctor g
Speaker 2: Hey Kwan DOCTA Quan. Welcome tonight, said, it's nice to
Speaker 2: meet you.
Speaker 3: Hi, nice to meet you, Dan. Thank you for having.
Speaker 2: Me well, thank you very much. We're coming up on Halloween,
Speaker 2: and everybody knows that Halloween could be a dangerous time
Speaker 2: for the little goblins out there who are trying to
Speaker 2: get some candy. What what what should parents be thinking
Speaker 2: about as they address their little ones up for some
Speaker 2: activity on Halloween evening? What's what are some of the
Speaker 2: things they should be concerned about.
Speaker 3: Well, basically, there's just some common sense tips that parents
Speaker 3: should think about in order to avoid eye injury and
Speaker 3: infections during the holiday season. For Halloween, obviously, people are
Speaker 3: wearing lots of eye makeup and glitter and lashes as
Speaker 3: part of their costumes and masks, and you know, other
Speaker 3: types of you know, associated paraphernalia in terms of like
Speaker 3: point sword, pirate swords and things like that that you
Speaker 3: know can potentially cause eye injury. So a little bit
Speaker 3: of you know, knowledge and prevention can keep your eyes
Speaker 3: safe and healthy during the Halloween season.
Speaker 2: So I know that at this time of year there's
Speaker 2: all sorts of paraphernalia that the you know, the costumes
Speaker 2: and the pirates they have. My understanding is that if
Speaker 2: you put a patch over your eye, it can it
Speaker 2: can affect obviously your depth perception. So there's there's some
Speaker 2: other issues that deal with the eye too. For again,
Speaker 2: some of these costume accessories, including eye you know, eye patches,
Speaker 2: tell us about that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right. You know, lots of people have cool
Speaker 3: costumes and some of them include, you know, these props,
Speaker 3: and some of them are kind of pointy types of accessories.
Speaker 3: So like you mentioned earlier, like pirate swords, which is
Speaker 3: wands and light sabers, and you know, those can potentially
Speaker 3: cause eye injury, especially dim and crowded environments, and so
Speaker 3: sometimes it's worth looking at these props and especially for
Speaker 3: the little ones, making sure that you're you know, of
Speaker 3: avoiding or limiting those pointz accessories. You can put masking
Speaker 3: tape over those. And as you said, like in terms
Speaker 3: of full faced masks, pirate patches and things like that,
Speaker 3: you know, in dim environments it can actually limit people's
Speaker 3: depth perception and peripheral vision actually, and so it's important,
Speaker 3: you know, to be aware that they should be running
Speaker 3: or being you know, cautious about being in dark environments
Speaker 3: where masks may be your vision. Actually.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's one of the things that whenever it's a
Speaker 2: long time ago, when we would accompany our kids when
Speaker 2: they were young six seven years old. As they got older,
Speaker 2: of course, they wanted nothing to do with us, and
Speaker 2: they wanted to be on their own. But one of
Speaker 2: the things that is amazing is that for me, when
Speaker 2: you see the kids running, they have this sixth sense.
Speaker 2: They seem to be able to avoid things. As parents,
Speaker 2: you're walking on to properties that up paths that you're
Speaker 2: not familiar with, I guess you should caution. We should
Speaker 2: caution parents to make sure that the young ones are
Speaker 2: not just running across lawns. You know, they should just
Speaker 2: walk and take it a little easy and enjoy the
Speaker 2: night despite all of the excitement, because if they trip
Speaker 2: and fall, particularly with some of those items in their hand,
Speaker 2: you know, whether it's a broomstick or you know, pirate
Speaker 2: sword or something like that, it can be really dangerous.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right, I would agree with you. So a
Speaker 3: little bit of you know, prevention, can you know, prevent
Speaker 3: you know, other eye injuries and other injuries as well.
Speaker 2: So for sure, I know that around the fourth of
Speaker 2: July every year, we talked either to you know, someone
Speaker 2: from TV so one of the other great eye institutions
Speaker 2: here in the Greater Boston area, and they're very concerned
Speaker 2: at that time about fireworks and all of that. So
Speaker 2: fireworks is not associated with Halloween. I I guess maybe
Speaker 2: some of the older kids might throw a fire cracker
Speaker 2: here or there, but they're interested in getting that bag
Speaker 2: opening up and getting as much candy as they can. Yes,
Speaker 2: what is in your opinion is I assume probably the
Speaker 2: dangers are almost the same. I mean, they're they're a
Speaker 2: real injury dangers associated with Halloween.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, as you said in July, certainly
Speaker 3: fireworks injuries can be an issue because you certainly can
Speaker 3: get burn injuries and traumatic eye injuries from that sort
Speaker 3: of explosive type of event during the Halloween season. The
Speaker 3: things we, you know, want parents to watch out for is,
Speaker 3: you know, that kind of dnse eye makeup that makes
Speaker 3: up part of your costume and some of the glitter
Speaker 3: and things that they're using to create the costumes, and
Speaker 3: how sometimes that can end up creating you know, redness
Speaker 3: or swollen eyelids and things like that. And then also
Speaker 3: those you know, non description novelty costume contact lenses that
Speaker 3: people might be using to sort of complete their outfits.
Speaker 3: You know, if you're getting contact lenses and they're not
Speaker 3: really from a reputable seller and they have any potential
Speaker 3: you know, contamination, then that can increase your risk of
Speaker 3: you know, red eyes and abrasions and then sometimes even
Speaker 3: more serious bacterial infections actually, so we do want people
Speaker 3: to be careful about getting unregulated contact lenses which could
Speaker 3: be contaminated, and then making sure that they're purchasing lenses
Speaker 3: from retailers you know who require you know, prescriptions for
Speaker 3: them and they're selling FDA proof products. And then you know,
Speaker 3: of course like not sharing contacts and then always removing
Speaker 3: contacts before going to sleep. And then same thing with
Speaker 3: some of the other accessories like I make up, glitter
Speaker 3: fallse eye lashes, which are also very popular now. So
Speaker 3: those kinds of glitter and small particles and even lash
Speaker 3: flue can also fall into the eye and cause abrasions
Speaker 3: and conjunctivitis or red eyes and things like that as well.
Speaker 3: So again things to keep in mind to try to
Speaker 3: keep the eye or ocular surface safe from harm. And
Speaker 3: then certainly if people are getting these types of residue
Speaker 3: around the eyes, to make sure that they're washing off
Speaker 3: that makeup and flushing the eyes if there's any irritants
Speaker 3: on the surface. But yeah, all basically tips to make
Speaker 3: sure your eyes stay healthy.
Speaker 2: Well, I tell you, I think you've covered the waterfront
Speaker 2: for us with the thoroughness of your presentation. Again, it's
Speaker 2: a lot to think about for parents and particularly kids
Speaker 2: who want to outdo their friends and they want to
Speaker 2: have the wildest costume or they want to have they
Speaker 2: want to have as much face paint on their face
Speaker 2: as possible, and it can be dangerous. Thank you so much,
Speaker 2: doctor chi Ha Kwan. A pleasure to have spoken with you,
Speaker 2: Tan and love to have you have you back. Thank
Speaker 2: you so much.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, thanks so much for having me. I really
Speaker 3: appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Well, we appreciate your time tonight and we will talk again.
Speaker 2: Thanks again. All right, as happy Halloween to everyone. Coming
Speaker 2: up on the other side, we're going to talk about
Speaker 2: with a different doctor. This doctor is going to talk
Speaker 2: to us about mental health at work. I think all
Speaker 2: of us can relate to how important our jobs are
Speaker 2: in our lives, and how important having a good working
Speaker 2: environment and a job that provides you with some real
Speaker 2: sense of accomplishment. It really does play into the other
Speaker 2: portions of your life. We have our family lives, we
Speaker 2: have our social lives, but we also have our work lives,
Speaker 2: and I think they all need to work in conjunction,
Speaker 2: and we're going to talk with a doctor about mental
Speaker 2: health at works specifically right after this break on Nightside.
Speaker 1: Now back to Dan Ray live from the Window World
Speaker 1: Nightside Studios on WBZ News Radio.
Speaker 2: Well, this is a subject I think that we all
Speaker 2: can relate to happiness and a happy outlook towards your
Speaker 2: mental health at work. Joining us as doctor Ivan Meisner.
Speaker 2: Doctor Meisner, welcome to night Side. Not a minute too soon.
Speaker 2: By the way, there are a lot of people who
Speaker 2: are really being frustrated with their mental health as it
Speaker 2: relates to their work. Tell us about that. You apparently
Speaker 2: have spent a lot of time in your career dealing
Speaker 2: with this who issue. Is it getting worse getting better?
Speaker 2: Give us the overview.
Speaker 4: Well, first of all, let me tell you my PhD
Speaker 4: is an organizational behavior not psychology, so I have a
Speaker 4: business slant. But the answer your question is yes, people are,
Speaker 4: you know, getting more and more burned out. And I
Speaker 4: think there's a lot of reasons for it. I mean,
Speaker 4: I was sitting here listening to some of your commercials
Speaker 4: and they're really good commercials, and you're talking about food
Speaker 4: and what people eat. I think that really impacts people's
Speaker 4: mental health, which they don't think about, but it absolutely does.
Speaker 4: One of the things to avoid burnout from an organizational
Speaker 4: perspective is to try to focus on the things that
Speaker 4: are in your flame as much as possible, in your
Speaker 4: flame versus your wax. When you're in your flame, you're excited,
Speaker 4: you're passionate, you're excited, and people can hear it in
Speaker 4: your voice. They can see it in the way you behave.
Speaker 4: When you're in your wax, it just takes all your
Speaker 4: energy away. They can hear that in your voice, and
Speaker 4: they can see that in the way you behave. I'm
Speaker 4: a I'm.
Speaker 2: A big believer, and I want to talk about your
Speaker 2: new book, The Third Paradigm, a Radical Shift to Greater Success.
Speaker 2: I will want to talk about that, but I also
Speaker 2: like to talk to you about and I played a
Speaker 2: lot of sports as a kid, and you know, on
Speaker 2: to high school and college and your best coaches with
Speaker 2: the coaches who made you better, and you know, often
Speaker 2: a pat on the back to an athlete is a
Speaker 2: lot more effective than a kick in the butt. And
Speaker 2: you know, I've been in this business of journalism for
Speaker 2: a long time, five decades, and I've had great managers
Speaker 2: and I've had horrible managers. Most Major League Baseball players
Speaker 2: they tell you the same thing. You ask them who
Speaker 2: the best manager is, They'll always give you the name
Speaker 2: of someone if you ask them who they are worst managers. Now,
Speaker 2: I have no doubt about it. And what demand How
Speaker 2: much do managers play in the mental health of their employees?
Speaker 2: How critical a role is if a managers to understand
Speaker 2: how to motivate their employees.
Speaker 4: Yeah, listen, First of all, I would say, you can't
Speaker 4: motivate anyone. They have to motivate themselves. However, you can
Speaker 4: inspire somebody to motivate themselves. And there's a lot of
Speaker 4: research on this going back many many years. Harvard Business Review,
Speaker 4: Frederick Herzberg talking about how do you motivate people? And
Speaker 4: one of the things he talks about is keita ki
Speaker 4: t a. It's called it's an acronym, it's kick in
Speaker 4: the anatomy, he calls it. And he says, that doesn't work,
Speaker 4: that doesn't work. As matter of fact, that undermines you
Speaker 4: because when.
Speaker 2: You are that's what I just I think that's what
Speaker 2: I just proposed as a proposition.
Speaker 4: Yes it is, and I'm agreeing with you completely because
Speaker 4: what happens is people will then undermine the boss because
Speaker 4: they've been so negative with them. What works better is
Speaker 4: the is the support, is the telling them what they're
Speaker 4: doing right. These are the things that motivate people, which
Speaker 4: is very interesting. Money even money actually doesn't motivate people.
Speaker 4: It's a dissatisfier. People are unhappy because they don't make
Speaker 4: enough money, but they're never happy because they make so much.
Speaker 4: What makes people happy is the is opportunity, you know, recognition.
Speaker 4: Those are the things that make people happy. So yeah,
Speaker 4: a boss can make a big difference in someone's Like
Speaker 4: I was just talking to my wife literally ten minutes ago,
Speaker 4: but who my best boss was in my life? And
Speaker 4: it was a woman when I was twenty twenty three
Speaker 4: years old. Her first name is Annie, and she was
Speaker 4: the best boss I ever had because she was like,
Speaker 4: you just do your job, tell me when you need help,
Speaker 4: I'll be there for you. Otherwise I'm just gonna leave
Speaker 4: you alone and let you run with it. And if
Speaker 4: you if you get off track, I'll tell you otherwise go.
Speaker 5: She was a great boss. I loved her.
Speaker 2: Well, sure, I mean it's the same way I think
Speaker 2: a lot in terms of sports, and you know, you
Speaker 2: don't have to. You know, when a guy strikes out,
Speaker 2: you don't have to be all I'm saying. You know,
Speaker 2: how'd you miss that pitch? I mean, you know he
Speaker 2: strikes out, he feels.
Speaker 4: Bad enough, you know he feels better.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what, why'd you throw the slider?
Speaker 6: There?
Speaker 2: You know the books that don't throw the slider or
Speaker 2: I throw this whatever. Okay, so let's let's come back
Speaker 2: to the to the broad up question, and that is
Speaker 2: our Americans at this point, three years out of COVID
Speaker 2: or two and a half, he is However, you want
Speaker 2: to judge out cold, are we happier or less happy
Speaker 2: at work?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 4: I haven't looked at the data on that, but I
Speaker 4: would say generally, for the last twenty years, people have
Speaker 4: said they're unhappy at work because they don't feel fulfilled
Speaker 4: and they're either in the wrong job or they have
Speaker 4: they're they're doing work that they don't like, and that
Speaker 4: certainly creates a burnout. And that's been going on for
Speaker 4: some time. That's not a new phenomenon. And that's why
Speaker 4: you know, I tell people, you know, find something that
Speaker 4: you love to do. If you don't, if you're not
Speaker 4: doing something, you love to do. You're gonna you're gonna
Speaker 4: hate your work.
Speaker 2: Let me talk about your book. The third paradigm. I
Speaker 2: didn't even know what the first of the second ones,
Speaker 2: but we're onto the third radical shift to greater success.
Speaker 4: What's the things, Well, the first paradigm is a competition,
Speaker 4: and that was really the first element of business management
Speaker 4: teaching was competing and putting the guy out of business.
Speaker 4: The second is cooperation, let's work together and try and
Speaker 4: figure things out McGregor, theory X, theory Y. The third
Speaker 4: is co creation where you actually create something together as
Speaker 4: a team. Now, that inspires people by the way that
Speaker 4: gets That lights people up when they get to participate
Speaker 4: in the decision making of some important project. A good
Speaker 4: example of it is crowd sourcing. Crowdsourcing is probably the
Speaker 4: most well known example of co creation, and co creation
Speaker 4: is incredibly powerful, and that's what the book talks about.
Speaker 4: We surveyed four thousand people to get the data that
Speaker 4: we had.
Speaker 2: In that and the conclusion is to put it in
Speaker 2: language that all of us would best understand. You're talking
Speaker 2: about whether you're in a big office and you're working
Speaker 2: with fifty fellow employees or you're a small business and
Speaker 2: you're working with three or four people. If you work
Speaker 2: together as a team, it's more satisfying than the just
Speaker 2: doing your own thing in that cubicle and and not
Speaker 2: interacting with other people. That's what I'm taking from what
Speaker 2: you're telling him. How far.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Well, let's look at the actual data. Diversity of
Speaker 4: ideas is the number one factor in the survey of
Speaker 4: four thousand people. People feel like you get diverse ideas.
Speaker 4: That's powerful, learning from each other, stronger relationships, seeing areas
Speaker 4: of the business that you wouldn't otherwise see. That's powerful.
Speaker 4: In co creation, more empowered teams, increase quality of creativity,
Speaker 4: shared resources. These are all the benefits of co creation.
Speaker 4: But there are some downsides. If you want me to
Speaker 4: talk about those.
Speaker 2: Sure, once you top about the book, Yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 4: Personality conflicts In co creation, personality conflict is the number
Speaker 4: one factor that creates challenges. Well, you know, just people
Speaker 4: not getting along.
Speaker 2: I got an idea, you got an idea. I think
Speaker 2: my idea is better than your idea. And as opposed
Speaker 2: to working cooperatively, we're working against one of the because.
Speaker 4: I want exactly and undermine each other, which isn't good. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and you know, in the co creative process, the leader
Speaker 4: the manager needs to be saying, look, you can disagree
Speaker 4: without being disagreeable. So you've got to work through the
Speaker 4: issues without being disagreeable with each other. The second is
Speaker 4: dealing with egos, and that's different than personality conflicts. Personality
Speaker 4: conflicts is you know, multiple people egos. It's all you. Your
Speaker 4: ego enters the room, not you personally, but it's the individual.
Speaker 4: Their ego enters the room before they do. Poor communication,
Speaker 4: people not pulling their weight, lack of agreement, and who
Speaker 4: makes the final decision. Individuals hijacking the direction of the project,
Speaker 4: which is kind of is what you were talking about,
Speaker 4: and then a no onligne vision for the project. So
Speaker 4: there are pros and cons to co creation, but co
Speaker 4: creation overall is a powerful way to be successful in
Speaker 4: business today.
Speaker 2: You know, I hate to come back to the sports metaphor,
Speaker 2: but the bust and red sucks for many, many years.
Speaker 2: To the slogan on the team before two thousand and
Speaker 2: four was twenty five players, twenty five caps. Everybody's going
Speaker 2: twenty five one taxi cabs. They were, you know, they
Speaker 2: shared the clubhouse, they shared the dog up. But that
Speaker 2: was about it. That was the reputation of the Boston
Speaker 2: Red Sox for many years before they got we broke.
Speaker 2: They broke the curse in twenty in two thousand and four.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you're a baseball fan or not,
Speaker 2: but the idea is that every successful sports team, whether
Speaker 2: it's a college football team or basketball team, whatever professional team,
Speaker 2: if the players like each other and get along, they
Speaker 2: will play better. They will play. It comes back to
Speaker 2: the first grade when your back. Every report I remember
Speaker 2: works well with others. I'm telling you, it's all in
Speaker 2: the first grade. As far as I'm concerned, Doctor Miisda.
Speaker 2: I've really enjoyed this conversation. I know I'm a little
Speaker 2: offbeat here, but hey, I'm a Boston guy and I
Speaker 2: just worry we viewed things through kind of a weird
Speaker 2: lens back here, but I really do leave everything I
Speaker 2: said to you, and that is that you know, if
Speaker 2: you like people you work with, and you get along
Speaker 2: with people you work with, and you get rid of
Speaker 2: the petty jealousies, whatever job you're doing is going to
Speaker 2: go better, and sometimes.
Speaker 4: Question about it. The key is to whole the vision,
Speaker 4: not the obstacles, and a team can do that better
Speaker 4: than a group of individuals, no.
Speaker 2: Question, no question. I'd love to have you back on
Speaker 2: the show. I enjoyed your enthusiasm and your passion for
Speaker 2: the subject. I really the book is the third paradigm,
Speaker 2: a radical shift to greater success. I assume it's available
Speaker 2: everywhere bookstores and Amazon. Yeah, that's all we need to know.
Speaker 2: After a thousand interviews with authors, I get the drill.
Speaker 2: Thank you very much, doctor ivan Meister, Thank you very
Speaker 2: very much. Appreciate it. All right, good night. When we
Speaker 2: get back, we're going to talk about the consumer price index.
Speaker 2: Not a lot of good news here on this one
Speaker 2: coming up, folks, but you probably will be able to
Speaker 2: identify with this. Food prices up again, grow rose almost
Speaker 2: a half a percentage point last month, highest since January.
Speaker 2: And restaurant prices, if you've been at restaurants slightly, they
Speaker 2: just keep going up. Let me tell you that Berger
Speaker 2: and fries of a few years ago now is going
Speaker 2: to cost you probably twenty five bucks in most restaurants, unfortunately,
Speaker 2: unless you're going to McDonald's and there it's going to
Speaker 2: be about twelve. Anyway, we'll take a break. My name's
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Speaker 2: Well, this darn inflation, this darn inflation just doesn't seem
Speaker 2: to want to go away with us. As Greg Marsette,
Speaker 2: he's the CEO of Busy Kid, and he's here to
Speaker 2: talk about the consumer Price Index. But first of all,
Speaker 2: I got to ask you what is busy Kid?
Speaker 7: Greg, Yeah, Busy Kid is an app that we created
Speaker 7: so that we can essentially teach the next generation two
Speaker 7: primary things get off the couch, get to work and
Speaker 7: earn some money, and then once you've earn the money,
Speaker 7: how do you actually manage it in a balanced way
Speaker 7: and not just blow it all.
Speaker 5: So that's really what busy Kid's all about.
Speaker 2: Okay, So who's your audience? I mean when you say
Speaker 2: busy kid, you talking about people in their twenties, or
Speaker 2: people in their teens or even younger.
Speaker 7: We're talking about kids primarily like five to seventeen. I
Speaker 7: know that's a big window. But any kid out there,
Speaker 7: you got it?
Speaker 2: No, that's good, that's good. And is it an app
Speaker 2: that people can download? I want to give you a
Speaker 2: little publicity here.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Yeah, So it's an apple you can download. I would
Speaker 7: you know suggest essentially a parent would download it. They
Speaker 7: would give their kids chores to do, right, good old
Speaker 7: fashioned chores. Let them get out there, bust it out,
Speaker 7: earn some money. On Friday, our system sends you a
Speaker 7: notification that says, hey, you know, little Johnny has busted
Speaker 7: it out all week and.
Speaker 5: You own twelve dollars.
Speaker 7: You just press one button and we take the money
Speaker 7: right out of your second account, bring it into our system,
Speaker 7: and then we distribute it like magic, into three separate
Speaker 7: categories for this kid. So that he can learn. That's
Speaker 7: what you do with it. Instead of just earning it
Speaker 7: and burning it all, you're going to save and invest
Speaker 7: a little bit of it, you're going to share or
Speaker 7: give the charity, and then you're going to spend the
Speaker 7: rest on a card. So that's exactly what we do.
Speaker 2: Well, that sounds great, that sounds great. My kids are
Speaker 2: too old for that, but maybe I'm going to put
Speaker 2: them on it anyway during their thirties. Let's talk about
Speaker 2: the consumer price Index September again. It's we're not, you know,
Speaker 2: back to the nine percent inflation that we saw a
Speaker 2: couple of years ago. But it still keeps going up.
Speaker 2: I'm telling you, every every time I go to the
Speaker 2: grocery store, and I'm a guy that goes to the
Speaker 2: grocery store, it's appalling. It's just appalling. The numbers just
Speaker 2: stay high, and stuff that you would have gotten a
Speaker 2: year ago for buck ninety nine is now three ninety nine.
Speaker 2: I mean, it isn't a question. Nicol and Domingue. They're
Speaker 2: killing us two or three dollars at a time, and yeah,
Speaker 2: what's I don't know what the solution is. I know
Speaker 2: I'm okay, careful shopper. Tell me what the solution is.
Speaker 5: Well, I got a few ideas. Now.
Speaker 7: I know this is going to fly in the face
Speaker 7: of a guy who likes to go shopping, but maybe
Speaker 7: we should try picking up the groceries and not going
Speaker 7: inside because when I go inside, I'm usually hungry and
Speaker 7: I'm wandering around. Next thing, you know, I got donuts,
Speaker 7: I've got chips, soda, all the stuff that I probably
Speaker 7: shouldn't need anyways, and it's expensive. So what do you
Speaker 7: think about sitting down eating first and using your iPad
Speaker 7: to make one of those online pickups. I think we
Speaker 7: can be a little more focused and perhaps save a
Speaker 7: little money.
Speaker 2: Well, that's an interesting I've never done that. I always
Speaker 2: thought that was for lazy people, and.
Speaker 5: Maybe it is, but.
Speaker 3: A good idea.
Speaker 7: I'm telling you. I do it all the time, and
Speaker 7: I think it works pretty good.
Speaker 2: Well. The reason that I like to do the shopping,
Speaker 2: to be honest with him, and my wife has no
Speaker 2: interest in going there any any grocery store. I like
Speaker 2: to say hi to the clerks and people at the
Speaker 2: store that I know, but I also like to look
Speaker 2: at things because when I see something on sale, then
Speaker 2: I'll buy it. If not. I don't need it, and
Speaker 2: I will occasionally, you know, buy something for myself. Well
Speaker 2: you know, package of this, package of that, but I'm
Speaker 2: going to try that. Maybe most of these stores you
Speaker 2: just pick it up. I've seen all this stuff that
Speaker 2: they push at you. You know you're going to pick
Speaker 2: it up. But my concern is that half the stuff
Speaker 2: that I that I order, uh you know, when I,
Speaker 2: for example, buy.
Speaker 7: They're going to pick the wrong banana for you. That's
Speaker 7: what you're really worried about.
Speaker 2: No, exactly, I picked bananas that they are going to
Speaker 2: be a couple of days out to ripen because I
Speaker 2: have one cup one or two ripen home, okay, and
Speaker 2: I just yeah, no, I'm serious, because if somebody else
Speaker 2: picks it up for you, I don't know how do
Speaker 2: you deal with that. I mean, you can't pull the
Speaker 2: bananas going to get me better.
Speaker 5: Bananas, You're exactly right.
Speaker 7: You can't give them little messages to say, hey, I
Speaker 7: want bananas with only two spots on them.
Speaker 1: Whatever.
Speaker 5: You got to kind of just roll with it so
Speaker 5: I get what you go in there.
Speaker 2: But well, okay, for example, for me, that one of
Speaker 2: the greatest times of the year besides Christmas, and Thanksgiving
Speaker 2: is when Macintosh apples arrive at the supermarket. I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm not talking about those puny little ones that arrived
Speaker 2: late August. I'm talking about the good max that are
Speaker 2: there now. I like to look at those macs and
Speaker 2: pick out the ones that have been been for me,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 5: Perfect fadest. Yeah, I get it.
Speaker 2: Put those babies in the refrigerator. They come out nice
Speaker 2: and crisp, perfect, So okay, but I'm going to try
Speaker 2: that someday.
Speaker 7: But you're making try it.
Speaker 2: Is there any and insight to this or no? I mean,
Speaker 2: the food price is going up. Think you know, the big,
Speaker 2: the big long showman's strike has at least been suspended.
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's going to come back with
Speaker 2: a vengeance on January fifteenth, but that would have impacted groceries,
Speaker 2: I'm sure in some.
Speaker 5: Form of fat.
Speaker 7: Yeah, a lot of these supply chain issues are you know,
Speaker 7: giving us trouble still. But you know, at the end
Speaker 7: of the day, prices are generally speaking up still over
Speaker 7: twenty percent since COVID, and you know, groceries are bad.
Speaker 7: But the stats on fast food kind of like you know,
Speaker 7: fast fast food, like we're talking McDonald's and Taco Bell.
Speaker 7: That kind of stuff is unbelievable. I mean McDonald's prices
Speaker 7: are up almost one hundred and forty one percent, and
Speaker 7: Chick Pilate eighty percent, Taco Bell's fifty seven percent. Like
Speaker 7: these are crushing numbers for sure. When it comes to
Speaker 7: like the quick drive through stuff, so you've got to
Speaker 7: really watch out for that too if you want to
Speaker 7: save some money.
Speaker 2: It's it's it's kind of a losing battle at this point.
Speaker 2: And I actually enjoy walking past items that I normally
Speaker 2: would buy when they're not on sale. It's almost like
Speaker 2: I'm saying to myself, guess what keep it on the shelf.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you this. I know you're not from Boston.
Speaker 2: I'm looking at the area code here if you ever
Speaker 2: come to Massachusetts. It's a store here called a grocery store.
Speaker 2: It's a local chain called Market Basket. It is the
Speaker 2: most successful grocery store you've ever imagined. They have twenty aisles,
Speaker 2: you know, twenty lanes open staffed by clerks. They have
Speaker 2: no automatic checkouts. It's all done, and the prices and
Speaker 2: the quality of food is great. I should be like
Speaker 2: a spokesperson from Market Basket. It is a great store.
Speaker 2: If you know anybody from New England, they swear by it,
Speaker 2: and this sounds amazing.
Speaker 5: It's like they're stuck in the service world that we
Speaker 5: used to really love.
Speaker 2: Well, I still love it, and that's one of the
Speaker 2: reasons you google market Basket. There's a story there. They
Speaker 2: had a huge interfamilial fight about oh, I guess ten
Speaker 2: years ago, in which a couple of cousins kind of
Speaker 2: fought a death battle for control of the company, and
Speaker 2: the fella who won it. He is revered by their employees.
Speaker 2: They literally will strew Rose pedals when he walks through
Speaker 2: the store. I mean, I'm serious. It is a fabulous story.
Speaker 2: Sixteen minutes or someone like that. You come in and
Speaker 2: do a profile piece on this. It's unbelievable. I'm telling you.
Speaker 2: They have twenty lanes the store that I have to
Speaker 2: go into because it's close. Maybe there's one or two
Speaker 2: lanes open in sixteen people in each line. They force
Speaker 2: people to go to the automatic checkout machines, which I
Speaker 2: also hate. So you and I could talk about this forever. Man,
Speaker 2: this is my wheelhouse.
Speaker 5: You're already so yeah, Well, I'm.
Speaker 2: Gonna tell you I don't get compensated. But but but
Speaker 2: I'll tell you I would be a spokesman for them
Speaker 2: because I only endorse products that I really believe in,
Speaker 2: and I believe in market Basket. Greg Merst Busy Kid.
Speaker 2: It sounds like a fabulous website for kids anywhere from
Speaker 2: five to seventeen, right from the beginning of kindergarten right
Speaker 2: through high school. So important for kids to become financially literate,
Speaker 2: and it's not taught in schools these days. Busy Kid
Speaker 2: is an app Go find it if you have some kids.
Speaker 2: I may try to still put my kids on it,
Speaker 2: and they're in their thirties, but they probably were I
Speaker 2: get it. Well, yeah, they're they're doing fine. They learned
Speaker 2: a lot of stuff. You know how they you know
Speaker 2: how they learned to add. My two kids, I used
Speaker 2: to take fruit out of the sit at the get
Speaker 2: your table with them when they were three and four,
Speaker 2: and we'd add how many oranges and how many apples?
Speaker 2: And tell me if I take away two oranges, how
Speaker 2: many oranges? That's how you teach them.
Speaker 7: In my opinion, Wow, look at you always with the apples.
Speaker 7: It's all about apples with you.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you apples are the apple of my eye.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Greg, I joined a whole lot, whole lot thanks. Okay,
Speaker 2: all right, we're gonna move from my love for apples
Speaker 2: and market basket to when is the right time for
Speaker 2: love and how the dating world has changed with many
Speaker 2: searching for love on apps but mostly unhappy with results.
Speaker 2: We have a concierge matchmaker coming up on the other side.
Speaker 2: Her name is Sandy Steirnbach. I'm looking forward to this one.
Speaker 2: Not not you know, in the not in the field here,
Speaker 2: but it's really interesting. We're gonna find out a lot
Speaker 2: about matchmaking, real matchmaking. Coming up on night.
Speaker 1: Side, I'll back to Dan Way live from the Window
Speaker 1: World Nice Side Studios on WBZ News Radio.
Speaker 2: If you look at the love, you may have found
Speaker 2: the right place. We have with us a very special guest,
Speaker 2: Sandy Sternbach, who is a concierge matchmaker. I love you
Speaker 2: laugh already. She's the founder of Right Time Consultants. Tell
Speaker 2: us how the magic works, Sandy, go right ahead.
Speaker 6: The magic works, you know, by by working individually with
Speaker 6: people who are interested in doing something a little bit
Speaker 6: more strategic than just working alone solo on the apps.
Speaker 6: They reach out to the right time to see if
Speaker 6: they can expedite their agenda finding love, romance, or partnership
Speaker 6: in a in a more strategic way that is less
Speaker 6: a little less frustrating and solitary than working on apps
Speaker 6: or online And what's.
Speaker 2: Interesting You let me jump in there, you said. Okay, love, romance,
Speaker 2: or partnership. I guess those are three categories as opposed
Speaker 2: to love, romance and partnership. Most people out there looking
Speaker 2: for partnership? Is that what you find?
Speaker 6: Well, you know, it all depends on the demographics and
Speaker 6: what the particular people are looking to accomplish. Many times
Speaker 6: people come when they've been divorced or widowed and they're
Speaker 6: not quite sure what they're looking for. They want to
Speaker 6: do something different. They want to go out there and
Speaker 6: test the waters and see if they can meet someone
Speaker 6: who's compatible and who shares interests and who they can
Speaker 6: spend time with. And then if they find that person
Speaker 6: and they wind up connecting and growing something more deeper
Speaker 6: than they they venture into a wonderful, more committed long
Speaker 6: term relationship.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to ask kind of a wise guy
Speaker 2: question here, but.
Speaker 6: It's okay, I'm ready for it.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, I don't do that to
Speaker 2: my guests. But I've just got a little fun with you.
Speaker 2: So you're trying to find, if not the perfect match,
Speaker 2: you're trying to find at least a highly compatible match.
Speaker 2: I would assume you're not just throwing people together.
Speaker 6: No, absolutely not.
Speaker 2: How do you do that when you got the eight
Speaker 2: billion people in the world. I'm sure there's someone out
Speaker 2: there for everybody, you know, even like a in a
Speaker 2: big city. You got, you know, some of the big
Speaker 2: cities do three four million people or whatever? How do
Speaker 2: you figure out you know who? People will tell you
Speaker 2: what they want, but maybe that's not what they really want.
Speaker 2: This has to be a challenging job for you. I'm
Speaker 2: actually giving you.
Speaker 6: A compliment here, thank you, And I'll actually take that
Speaker 6: compliment because you know, I totally enjoy what I do. Yeah,
Speaker 6: I mean, you could look out in the world and
Speaker 6: just like with all the apps, there are lots and
Speaker 6: lots of opportunities to to find a person or someone
Speaker 6: who you can go on a date with. But what
Speaker 6: it really boils down to is who really is someone
Speaker 6: that you really want to connect with. Historically, I work
Speaker 6: with people usually anywhere from thirty five all the way
Speaker 6: up into the seventies early eighties, and most of the
Speaker 6: time they've already had relationships, whether they've been married, divorced,
Speaker 6: whether they're just dating, and so they come to us
Speaker 6: with certain requirements and prerequisites or a wish list of
Speaker 6: what they think they want. Oftentimes it turns out to
Speaker 6: be very much on spots. But what we do is
Speaker 6: in the beginning, when we meet people, we get to
Speaker 6: know them, so we do a thorough interview, they fill
Speaker 6: out profile forms, we meet, we talk, We find out
Speaker 6: what exactly they've been doing, what exactly it is that
Speaker 6: they're looking to accomplish. And then based on our expertise
Speaker 6: and the magic our database, our network, and our experience,
Speaker 6: we then what we do is we we vet and
Speaker 6: then we we have like a concierge level platform, so
Speaker 6: we present individuals that we think are highly highly likely
Speaker 6: to be good candidate. And it's from doing that.
Speaker 2: Let me put it in terms of your sort of sports,
Speaker 2: your winning record, what percentage are the people who come
Speaker 2: to right time consultants actually find someone that they can
Speaker 2: spend some time with. Not necessarily someone's going to marry
Speaker 2: or spend the rest of their life, but how often.
Speaker 2: What sort of a success rate do you think you have?
Speaker 6: Well, in twenty twenty four, my success rate is around
Speaker 6: ninety four and ninety Well, you.
Speaker 2: Do keep these stats. I like that statistic.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Here, okay, what's your guest match from the last year?
Speaker 2: Give me something a quick wait, Styll.
Speaker 4: I'll give you all.
Speaker 6: Okay. I have a client who lived in a suburb
Speaker 6: in Boston who had been widowed for probably almost ten years,
Speaker 6: A very attractive and pretty woman who had been using
Speaker 6: apps and friends and all of that to try to
Speaker 6: find someone. You know, she nothing was working. Someone suggested
Speaker 6: she reach out to me. We had an interview and
Speaker 6: she became a private client. I thought she was lovely.
Speaker 6: We did a photo shoot up in Boston with a wonderful,
Speaker 6: wonderful photographer, and we put together her profile, and then
Speaker 6: she waited a week or two, and then she said,
Speaker 6: you know, my friends are wondering what's happening. Are you
Speaker 6: going to introduce me? And I said I am. And
Speaker 6: so I had a wonderful, wonderful widower who's based actually
Speaker 6: in New York. He had a daughter who lived in Boston.
Speaker 6: And it was exactly last year in October that he
Speaker 6: told me. He was planning on going up to the
Speaker 6: Boston area for Thanksgiving, and I think ten seconds left.
Speaker 2: I gotta, I gotta get you to the end of
Speaker 2: the story. Sod thirty seconds.
Speaker 6: Thirty seconds. He went up there, took her out to
Speaker 6: lunch three times, she came back, went to New York.
Speaker 6: They're now in a long term relationship. Just came back
Speaker 6: from the Dalmatian Coast in Croatia madly in love.
Speaker 2: Wow, that's a that's a hugely successful story. So it's
Speaker 2: called Right Time Consultants. Uh yeah, at Right Time Consultants
Speaker 2: dot com.
Speaker 6: Is that the website, it's the right the Right Time
Speaker 6: Consultants dot com.
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll get the we'll get the article the Right
Speaker 2: Time Consultants dot com. Uh. And you you work across
Speaker 2: the country or do you do you focus on work across.
Speaker 6: The the country? My focus is on the Northeast on
Speaker 6: the East coast.
Speaker 2: Perfect, excellent. So we have a big listenership all up
Speaker 2: and down the East coast. So uh, standy Sternbach. I
Speaker 2: really enjoyed this conversation. Maybe some night we'll have you
Speaker 2: on and uh, we'll get some people calling in and
Speaker 2: we can we can do something and have some fun
Speaker 2: on a Friday night. Okay, I would love this. We'll
Speaker 2: work it out. I'll have my producer get in touch
Speaker 2: with your people. Okay, ex yes.
Speaker 6: My people.
Speaker 2: Have a wonderful night, you too, Sandy. We sure will.
Speaker 2: All right. When we get back, we're going to talk
Speaker 2: with a wonderful person, the State Order of the Commwealth
Speaker 2: of Massachusetts, one of my favorite Democrats, State Auditor Diana Desaglio.
Speaker 2: She is very much involved in Question one on the
Speaker 2: ballot that you'll be voting on this November. She has
Speaker 2: just walked across the state of Massachusetts in pursuit of
Speaker 2: your vote. I'll explain it all with the Auditor right
Speaker 2: after of the nine o'clock news