Speaker 1: You've seen him before. The man's smiling while dying. Not
Speaker 1: on a battlefield, not in some dramatic tragedy. No, he's
Speaker 1: right in front of you, carrying grocery bags, fixing the WiFi,
Speaker 1: nodding along while a woman disrespects him in his own home.
Speaker 1: He thinks he's being mature patient, the man she said
Speaker 1: she wanted, but he doesn't realize it. He's being erased one.
Speaker 1: It's fine at a time, and the most brutal part,
Speaker 1: he volunteered for it. Now here's the question no man
Speaker 1: dares to ask out loud. Why do women never seem
Speaker 1: to want what they say they want? She says she
Speaker 1: wants a good man, So why does she chase the
Speaker 1: one who ignores her? She says she values communication, then
Speaker 1: pulls away when you open up. She says she's looking
Speaker 1: for safety, but runs toward chaos like its oxygen. Arthur
Speaker 1: Schopenhauer didn't see this as a mistake. He saw it
Speaker 1: as nature's brutal design. Because here's the red pill most
Speaker 1: men choke on. She's not lying to you, she's not evil,
Speaker 1: she's not manipulative. She's divided. Her words belong to culture,
Speaker 1: but her desire belongs to nature, and nature does not
Speaker 1: care how kind you are. It doesn't care that you
Speaker 1: were there for her breakdown, that you skipped your dream
Speaker 1: to help her chase hers. Nature only responds to one thing.
Speaker 1: Who can survive, who can lead, not please, Who can
Speaker 1: stand firm while the world and she test him. This
Speaker 1: is the story of the modern man's slow death and
Speaker 1: Schopenhauer's warning that could resurrect him. Welcome to Why women
Speaker 1: don't mean what they say. You were taught to take
Speaker 1: her literally. She says she wants a kind man, so
Speaker 1: you become kinder. She says she wants a man who's
Speaker 1: emotionally available, so you open up like a diary with
Speaker 1: no lock. She says she's not like other women, and
Speaker 1: you believe her. But Schopenhauer knew something modern men have forgotten.
Speaker 1: What a woman says and what she responds to are
Speaker 1: two completely different languages. This isn't deception, it's biology, and
Speaker 1: biology speaks in instinct, not logic. A woman can say
Speaker 1: with complete sincerity, I want a sweet, dependable man, but
Speaker 1: that same night find herself texting the man who didn't
Speaker 1: reply for three days. She might tell her friends she's
Speaker 1: ready to settle down, while her body is drawn to
Speaker 1: the unpredictable man who won't bend to her rules. Why
Speaker 1: because her social self was trained by media schools, therapists,
Speaker 1: and a thousand romantic comedies. But her primal self was
Speaker 1: forged in three million years of evolution. And that primal
Speaker 1: self doesn't want soft It wants safe dominance, grounded leadership,
Speaker 1: unshakable gravity. That's why Schopenhauer called love, especially female love,
Speaker 1: a deception of nature for the continuation of the species
Speaker 1: he saw through the illusion, He warned that what we
Speaker 1: call romance is often a biological imperative dressed up in
Speaker 1: pretty language. When she says I want a man who listens,
Speaker 1: she doesn't mean speak more and tell me every feeling.
Speaker 1: She means be the man who hears everything without being shaken.
Speaker 1: Be the one who doesn't flinch when I test you.
Speaker 1: When she says I want emotional vulnerability, she doesn't mean
Speaker 1: constant access to your insecurities. She means show me your depth,
Speaker 1: but don't drown in it. You see the problem. Most
Speaker 1: men interpret her words like a legal contract. They think
Speaker 1: if I do exactly what she says, I'll be loved forever. Wrong.
Speaker 1: She's not giving instructions, She's expressing confusion because even she
Speaker 1: doesn't fully understand what draws her in. Her biology bypasses
Speaker 1: her intellect. It doesn't care how many good morning texts
Speaker 1: you send. It doesn't care how much effort you make.
Speaker 1: It only asks is this man worth admiring? Is he rooted?
Speaker 1: Or is he bending to win me? And the second
Speaker 1: she senses that your entire identity revolves around her validation,
Speaker 1: her body recoils. Not because she's cruel, but because nature
Speaker 1: wired her to pull away from anything that feels emotionally dependent.
Speaker 1: Dependence equals danger to her survival instincts, and survival always wins.
Speaker 1: So if you've ever wondered why she lost interest after
Speaker 1: you gave her everything, the real answer is devastatingly simple.
Speaker 1: You gave too much. You became nothing. You turned yourself
Speaker 1: into a mirror, and while she may have loved the
Speaker 1: reflection at first, she eventually realized she was staring at
Speaker 1: herself and felt nothing. This is the paradox. The more
Speaker 1: you try to become the man she says she wants,
Speaker 1: the less you remain the man her instincts respect. You
Speaker 1: thought devotion would make her love you more. You remembered
Speaker 1: every detail. She told you. You were the shoulder she
Speaker 1: cried on. You canceled plans to be there for her.
Speaker 1: You became the man who never said no, the man
Speaker 1: who would do anything just to keep the spark alive.
Speaker 1: And for a while it worked. She smiled at your effort,
Speaker 1: she thanked you, She maybe even said, I've never had
Speaker 1: a man like you before. But then something shifted. The
Speaker 1: energy changed, The sparkle in her eyes started fading. She
Speaker 1: stopped laughing at your jokes. She got quieter, more distant,
Speaker 1: and eventually she walked away, leaving you confused, heart broken,
Speaker 1: and convinced that something must be wrong with you. But
Speaker 1: Schopenhauer saw it coming. He warned that women driven by
Speaker 1: the instincts of nature are not selecting based on fairness, kindness,
Speaker 1: or consistency. They are selecting based on what moves them emotionally,
Speaker 1: not what's good for them, not what makes sense, but
Speaker 1: what stirs their biology. Here's the cold truth. Your devotion,
Speaker 1: the very thing you thought would win her, killed, the
Speaker 1: polarity that kept her attracted to you. Why because you
Speaker 1: gave her everything too easily, No friction, no edge, no mystery,
Speaker 1: just comfort, stability, predictability, and while she may have appreciated
Speaker 1: those things in theory, her nervous system didn't respond with desire.
Speaker 1: It responded with boredom. She didn't leave because you were bad,
Speaker 1: She left because you were safe, too safe. Schopenhauer wrote,
Speaker 1: men are by nature more capable of objectivity. Women act
Speaker 1: more as the instruments of the species. That sounds harsh
Speaker 1: until you understand what it really means. Women are evolutions
Speaker 1: gate keepers. They are not designed to cherish what's convenient.
Speaker 1: They are programmed to test, to challenge, to filter for strength.
Speaker 1: So when a man begins orbiting her, adjusting his every
Speaker 1: move to avoid upsetting her, abandon his edge in the
Speaker 1: name of peace, offering emotional transparency with no restraint, he
Speaker 1: triggers no desire. Not because she's evil, not because she's ungrateful,
Speaker 1: but because devotion without boundaries feels like desperation, and nothing
Speaker 1: kills attraction faster than a man who looks lost in
Speaker 1: her shadow. You think she's pulling away because you're not
Speaker 1: doing enough, but what she's really feeling is that she
Speaker 1: already has you, and now she doesn't want you because
Speaker 1: the man she admired was whole before she arrived, He
Speaker 1: had direction, boundaries, and mystery. He didn't explain himself, he
Speaker 1: didn't perform, He simply was. So when you traded your
Speaker 1: edge for approval, you didn't become more lovable. You became
Speaker 1: forgettable and the deeper tragedy. You thought this was maturity.
Speaker 1: You thought you were being a better man, but you
Speaker 1: were just becoming easier to leave. There are two women
Speaker 1: inside every woman, and most men only ever meet the first.
Speaker 1: The first is her social self, the one who speaks
Speaker 1: in values, goals and intentions, the one who says she
Speaker 1: wants emotional safety, deep connection, a man who listens. She
Speaker 1: believes this. She isn't lying, She genuinely thinks. This version
Speaker 1: of herself runs the show. But there's a second woman
Speaker 1: within her, her primal self. This one doesn't speak, she feels.
Speaker 1: She doesn't care about your good intentions, your calm tone,
Speaker 1: or your punctuality. She cares only about who you are
Speaker 1: at your core, about the gravity in your silence, the
Speaker 1: dominance in your presence, the sharpness in your boundaries. And
Speaker 1: here's where men get destroyed. They fall in love with
Speaker 1: what she says and build themselves around it. They become
Speaker 1: her therapist, her errand boy her emotional support animal. All
Speaker 1: the while, her primal self is slowly suffocating because that
Speaker 1: version of her was never attracted to safety. She craves polarity, fire, mystery, risk.
Speaker 1: Arthur Schopenhauer understood this dynamic long before dating coaches existed.
Speaker 1: He said, women exist in the main solely for the
Speaker 1: propagation of the species, and are only the means there too.
Speaker 1: In plain English, her biology doesn't care about romance. It
Speaker 1: cares about selection. She is Nature's filter, and filters don't
Speaker 1: reward effort, they reward energy. That's why the man who
Speaker 1: tries too hard is punished, while the man who simply
Speaker 1: is is often the one she can't stop thinking about.
Speaker 1: And it drives the modern man insane. You think, but
Speaker 1: I'm doing everything right, and she thinks, I just don't
Speaker 1: feel it any more. It's because she's living in two realities.
Speaker 1: Her social self wants to want you, but her primal
Speaker 1: self doesn't respond. And the worst part, she doesn't know
Speaker 1: how to explain it, because how do you explain that
Speaker 1: you're no longer drawn to the man who loves you
Speaker 1: the most? So she rewrites the story. She says, you changed,
Speaker 1: you got too emotional I just need space. But what
Speaker 1: really happened is that you collapsed your polarity. You became
Speaker 1: too known, too predictable, too explainable, and the feminine cannot
Speaker 1: be magnetized by a man. She fully understands, because her
Speaker 1: deepest emotional desire isn't clarity, it's mystery within strength. She
Speaker 1: wants to feel your edges, not your apologies. She wants
Speaker 1: to orbit a man who knows who he is, not
Speaker 1: one who asks her to define him. And she wants
Speaker 1: to surrender, but only to a man whose presence makes
Speaker 1: surrender feel like safety, not sacrifice. You see now, her
Speaker 1: words and her biology are at war, and if you
Speaker 1: only respond to the first, you'll lose to the second.
Speaker 1: Every time you keep listening to her words, and that's
Speaker 1: why you keep losing her. You believed her when she said,
Speaker 1: I just want you to be more emotionally available, so
Speaker 1: you opened up. You told her your fears, your wounds,
Speaker 1: your doubts. You gave her honesty, transparency, even tears, and
Speaker 1: instead of leaning in, she leaned away. Now you're confused.
Speaker 1: You feel punished for doing the right thing. You did
Speaker 1: what she asked, So why does it feel like a
Speaker 1: trap because brother, and she doesn't speak the language of words.
Speaker 1: She speaks the language of energy. That means she doesn't
Speaker 1: hear what you say. She feels what you are. And
Speaker 1: what most men don't realize is this. You can say
Speaker 1: all the perfect things, but if your energy is off,
Speaker 1: she'll feel it and retreat. Schopenhauer didn't speak in modern
Speaker 1: emotional vocabulary, but he saw through the illusion with laser precision.
Speaker 1: He understood that women are attuned not to what is logical,
Speaker 1: but to what is felt. Their biology is scanning always
Speaker 1: for one question. Is this man safe to surrender to?
Speaker 1: Not emotionally soft, not endlessly talkative, not sensitive to the
Speaker 1: point of self erasure. She's testing for presents the kind
Speaker 1: of presence that calm storms, not joins them. So when
Speaker 1: you spill your soul out of panic, hoping it will
Speaker 1: draw her closer, what she actually feels is instability, not
Speaker 1: because you're broken, but because you're offering your rawness without
Speaker 1: any structure to hold it. You've become chaos. And two
Speaker 1: chaotic energies don't create safety, they ignite panic. What she
Speaker 1: was actually asking for when she said emotional availability was this,
Speaker 1: can you feel deeply and still lead. Can you stay
Speaker 1: rooted while I'm overwhelmed? Can you let me fall apart
Speaker 1: without falling apart with me? That's emotional leadership, and very
Speaker 1: few men have it. Most men either shut down entirely
Speaker 1: or become too open, too fast, too much. Both are
Speaker 1: unattractive because both signal that you haven't tamed your own storm.
Speaker 1: What she wants, even if she can't articulate it, is
Speaker 1: a man who has felt the fire within him and
Speaker 1: can contain it, who can be vulnerable not because he's
Speaker 1: falling apart, but because he's already healed enough to offer it,
Speaker 1: not bleed it. She doesn't want to be your emotional crutch.
Speaker 1: She wants to lean into your strength. She wants to
Speaker 1: admire your composure under pressure. She wants to feel your
Speaker 1: stillness when her world is spinning. But the moment you
Speaker 1: place her on a pedestal and ask her to regulate
Speaker 1: your emotions, you kill the polarity. You stop being her
Speaker 1: flame and become her burden. She's not trying to break you.
Speaker 1: She's trying to feel you, to test the depth of
Speaker 1: your core, not through conversation, but through conflict, emotion, silence.
Speaker 1: This is the emotional language she actually speaks, not words,
Speaker 1: but resonance, not explanations, but energy. If you can't speak it,
Speaker 1: you'll never truly touch her soul. No matter how much
Speaker 1: you say. She said you were everything she ever wanted.
Speaker 1: You believed her, so you gave everything, your time, your loyalty,
Speaker 1: your heart. You worked every day to prove you were
Speaker 1: worthy of her love. And then without warning, she left,
Speaker 1: not in a firestorm, not in a dramatic betrayal, but quietly,
Speaker 1: like a flame that simply stopped burning. You thought, oh,
Speaker 1: what did I do wrong? But the answer was never
Speaker 1: about what you did. It was who you became. Schopenhauer wrote,
Speaker 1: a man can be himself only so long as he
Speaker 1: is alone. That's not a call for isolation, it's a warning.
Speaker 1: The moment a man shapes himself around the approval of
Speaker 1: a woman, he loses the very essence that made him
Speaker 1: desirable in the first place. Because when a man gives everything,
Speaker 1: he doesn't just give gifts or affection. He gives his spine.
Speaker 1: And that's the moment she begins to look at him differently,
Speaker 1: not because he failed her, but because he abandoned himself
Speaker 1: to please her. She didn't leave you because you weren't enough.
Speaker 1: She left because you stopped being a mountain. Came the
Speaker 1: mud beneath her feet, and no woman can desire what
Speaker 1: she walks on. Here's the paradox. The more available you became,
Speaker 1: the more invisible you became. The man she adored wasn't
Speaker 1: the one texting all day. He wasn't the one begging
Speaker 1: for clarity. He wasn't the one over explaining, over accommodating, overgiving. No.
Speaker 1: The man who made her melt was centered. His energy
Speaker 1: was a gravitational pull. He didn't need her love to
Speaker 1: be whole. He invited her in but never collapsed around her,
Speaker 1: and she felt that. She felt it in the way
Speaker 1: he took up space, in the way he held eye
Speaker 1: contact without flinching, in the way he made decisions without
Speaker 1: seeking permission. He was rooted in mission, not in her approval.
Speaker 1: That energy is intoxicating, but it's also terrifying to a
Speaker 1: man who's been raised to believe that nice guys win.
Speaker 1: In the end. Let's be honest. You weren't trying to
Speaker 1: manipulate her. You were trying to earn her love with effort.
Speaker 1: But effort is not the currency of attraction. Presences and
Speaker 1: the more effort you poured out, the more she realized
Speaker 1: you were no longer leading, you were all biting. That's
Speaker 1: when the respect died, not because you weren't good enough,
Speaker 1: but because you were too accessible, too explainable, too comfortable.
Speaker 1: And comfort without strength becomes boring. Boring becomes predictable. Predictable
Speaker 1: becomes unnoticeable. So she drifted not because she stopped loving you,
Speaker 1: but because she stopped feeling you. You became her emotional employee,
Speaker 1: and no woman stays in love with an employee. This
Speaker 1: is the tragedy no one prepares men for. That unconditional giving,
Speaker 1: without grounding doesn't make her fall harder, It makes her
Speaker 1: fall away. She'll never say it, not out loud, not directly,
Speaker 1: not in words you can hold on too, like a compass,
Speaker 1: but deep in her biology, beneath the language, beneath the logic.
Speaker 1: She's begging for a man she can admire, not one
Speaker 1: who bends, not one who begs, not one who gives
Speaker 1: and gives, hoping to be chosen. She wants to feel
Speaker 1: drawn to you, not out of guilt, not out of duty,
Speaker 1: but out of awe. And that only happens when you
Speaker 1: stop asking who you need to be for her, and
Speaker 1: finally decide who you are for yourself. Schopenhauer said, a
Speaker 1: man who is not master of himself is not fit
Speaker 1: to be the master of anything, least of all a
Speaker 1: woman's heart. You were never supposed to be her emotional crutch.
Speaker 1: You were supposed to be her anchor, her frame of
Speaker 1: reference for what strength looks like. If you're constantly trying
Speaker 1: to fix things, explain yourself, win her love, you've already
Speaker 1: lost the polarity. You've traded admiration for access. You've become known,
Speaker 1: and what is fully known can never again be mysterious.
Speaker 1: And without mystery, there is no magnetism. So stop trying
Speaker 1: to be the man she tells you to be, and
Speaker 1: start becoming the man who doesn't need to be told lead. Decide,
Speaker 1: build your code, live by it, and let her orbit
Speaker 1: something real. Because the truth is, when a man steps
Speaker 1: fully into his sovereignty, she feels it before you speak,
Speaker 1: before you act, before you touch her. She senses it
Speaker 1: in your being. That's what she respects, That's what reignites
Speaker 1: her admiration. That's what brings her back, not because she
Speaker 1: owns you, but because she trusts you. And if you've
Speaker 1: lost yourself trying to keep her. It's time to walk
Speaker 1: back into your own fire.