Speaker 1: Hi, I'm John J. Murphy, and I welcome you to
Speaker 1: The Change Mastery Show with my co host, Doctor Pat. Together,
Speaker 1: we invite you to think differently about change, not as
Speaker 1: something to fear or resist, but as a powerful opportunity
Speaker 1: for growth, empowerment, joy, and life masters My vision to
Speaker 1: help millions of people shift from victimhood to leadership, from
Speaker 1: ego to spirit, and from hesitation and resistance to flow.
Speaker 1: This is an opportunity for you to get out of
Speaker 1: your own way and experience life with more courage, confidence, humility,
Speaker 1: and higher purpose. Get ready, The Change Mastery Show starts now.
Speaker 2: Hey everyone, I'm doctor Pat. This is an amazing episode.
Speaker 2: And you know I've mentioned a few things along the
Speaker 2: way the past couple years because I made statements like
Speaker 2: we had COVID, then we didn't, as if COVID never
Speaker 2: happened sometimes the way we handled it. But today's show
Speaker 2: is more than that. It's when it's time to say
Speaker 2: goodbye John. First of all, John J. Murphy is going
Speaker 2: to challenge us to be mindful about our feelings about
Speaker 2: loss and to recognize that whatever you're feeling, you are
Speaker 2: asking for more. This is a conversation about what is
Speaker 2: going on. It doesn't matter what we're talking about. It
Speaker 2: could be a child leaving home, it could be a
Speaker 2: parent passing, it could be an unexpected divorce. And in
Speaker 2: my case, I have been fired from every job I've had,
Speaker 2: so it could be that too. You know, what is
Speaker 2: it about sorrow? Celebrate that? By the way, John, that's
Speaker 2: why some of us are in our own business, right,
Speaker 2: But this is how do we go through this anxiety
Speaker 2: or appreciation, sorrow or celebration, fear or opportunity. And John,
Speaker 2: thank you for doing this topic because there's so much
Speaker 2: of this and in my opinion, there's so much so
Speaker 2: depression around this and it doesn't matter what it is
Speaker 2: because people want to really downplace some quote losses or
Speaker 2: sometimes when we leave something like I don't know what
Speaker 2: it was like for you to grow up, but sometimes
Speaker 2: people grow up with you know, honey, you just better
Speaker 2: suck it up and move on, right.
Speaker 1: That's right? Yeah, Well, you know what, we were downloaded
Speaker 1: with most of our subconscious programming by the age of six,
Speaker 1: so you know, we go through life then repeating whatever
Speaker 1: we've the programs were running on, so we wont to
Speaker 1: number one, recognize that and then the whole secret to
Speaker 1: a life of flow, which is what I like to
Speaker 1: refer to it. Everything is flowing all the time. Change
Speaker 1: is always happening, and if it wasn't, we'd all be dead. So,
Speaker 1: you know, day turns into night and back in today again,
Speaker 1: the seasons change. Everything is flowing, you know, fifty trillion
Speaker 1: cells in our body flowing, each cell doing six trillion
Speaker 1: things per second. It's mind blowing when you start looking
Speaker 1: at the science, right, and so if everything is flowing
Speaker 1: and everything is cyclical not linear, what goes around comes around.
Speaker 1: It's karmic law. Then we start to look at things
Speaker 1: like loss and saying goodbye and a whole different context. Really,
Speaker 1: it's because there's almost no such thing at the spiritual level.
Speaker 1: There's no such thing at the human level. Of course,
Speaker 1: people come and go, jobs come and go. You know,
Speaker 1: you lose. I've lost loved, beloved pets. I've lost both
Speaker 1: of my parents, I've lost all of my grandparents, my
Speaker 1: kids have gone off to college. Everything's changing. So really,
Speaker 1: I think what's important about this episode is how do
Speaker 1: we process that? How do we process that? You and
Speaker 1: I did a show earlier about two sides to the
Speaker 1: same coin. Grief comes you know. And but here's the thing.
Speaker 1: How long you're going to hold on to that grief.
Speaker 1: I know people who are holding on to grief from
Speaker 1: twenty or thirty years ago. That's not healthy. So you know,
Speaker 1: feel the grief. I love this zen teaching. I use
Speaker 1: it all the time. And that is that, you know,
Speaker 1: you let the feeling in the front door, and you
Speaker 1: let it out the back door, but you don't invite
Speaker 1: it for tea. If it's a feeling like grief, let
Speaker 1: it go. Because if you don't, and you sit and
Speaker 1: have tea with it and you carry it around with
Speaker 1: you for who knows how long. Grief has a frequency
Speaker 1: and energetic frequency. Every feeling has a frequency, and I'll
Speaker 1: just reference to doctor David Hawkins in the Map of Consciousness.
Speaker 1: We've talked about that before. But when you start to
Speaker 1: realize that every feeling has a frequency and like frequencies
Speaker 1: attract like frequencies, Einstein said, this isn't philosophy, this is physics.
Speaker 1: If you match the frequency of the reality you want,
Speaker 1: you cannot help it get that reality. It can be
Speaker 1: no other way. Albert Einstein said that, So we start
Speaker 1: to think about, well, if I'm feeling grief. If I'm
Speaker 1: not careful, I'm just going to call for more and
Speaker 1: more grief into my life. Misery loves company, right. So
Speaker 1: the idea here, doctor pat is that in my experience,
Speaker 1: and I've been practicing this for a very long time,
Speaker 1: is that you recognize the human feeling, you know, the
Speaker 1: instinct to feel afraid or to feel grief. You process
Speaker 1: it and then you let it go. But one big
Speaker 1: mistake people make, and I want to caution everybody on this,
Speaker 1: is that you don't lock the front door. You don't
Speaker 1: fight it, because it just anything you resist grows stronger.
Speaker 1: So if you fight you know, sadness, sorrow, you fight
Speaker 1: any feeling like that, it's not a good idea. So
Speaker 1: process it and let it go. That's the that's the
Speaker 1: major message for the show. And here's the thing. And
Speaker 1: a lot of times we think of loss and saying
Speaker 1: goodbye to people who've died jobs that you know, we
Speaker 1: were fired from, big changes, you know, divorces I've been
Speaker 1: through too. We could talk more about that too. But
Speaker 1: saying goodbye is like, well, I had to say goodbye
Speaker 1: to yesterday. Last night I had to say goodbye. I
Speaker 1: have to say goodbye to today, tonight at midnight, it's over.
Speaker 1: And so as we learned to just let go of
Speaker 1: anything from a day, or a lousy moment during a day,
Speaker 1: or even a celebratory moment in a day, a victory,
Speaker 1: it's gone, you know so. And then other key takeaway
Speaker 1: I want people to think about today is that when
Speaker 1: you do reflect on the past, whether it's yesterday or
Speaker 1: ten years ago, how do you feel about whatever is
Speaker 1: you're thinking? Because I like to use this formula and
Speaker 1: it's helped me immensely. The formula is simply T times
Speaker 1: E equals F. What does that mean? T is thinking,
Speaker 1: It's what we're thinking. What is E? It's the emotion
Speaker 1: fueling the thought, and the F is a feeling. So
Speaker 1: it is an example. If I think I might lose
Speaker 1: my job, AI's taken over the world. That's what I'm thinking.
Speaker 1: And it's fueled by only one or two emotions, love
Speaker 1: or fear. And I'll reference a course in miracles here
Speaker 1: and actually there's only one emotion, only one, and it's
Speaker 1: capital l love unconditional say with love, fear is the
Speaker 1: resistance to that. That's what triggers fear. So when you
Speaker 1: start boiling it down to two emotions, so to speak.
Speaker 1: If I'm thinking I might lose my job and it's
Speaker 1: fueled by fear, what's the feeling anxiety, worry, stress? Huh?
Speaker 1: What if I think I might lose my job and
Speaker 1: it's fueled by love, Well, I'm going to land on
Speaker 1: my feet. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise. I'll get
Speaker 1: through this. Maybe it's just what I need. It's a
Speaker 1: completely different reaction or feeling. Right. So, anything we think
Speaker 1: we should examine be mindful of, we become what we
Speaker 1: dwell on, and then we have to examine the emotion
Speaker 1: triggering it, because the fear based emotion is low frequency,
Speaker 1: going back to the map of consciousness, and the love frequent.
Speaker 1: And by the way, when I say love, i'm talking
Speaker 1: capital L love where it's not conditional at all. It's sacred,
Speaker 1: it's divine, and there's no forgiveness because there's no judgment.
Speaker 1: What are you supposed to forgive if there's no judgment? Yeah,
Speaker 1: no condemnation. Right, So when you think about sacred love,
Speaker 1: there's no forgiveness because there's no condemnation. That's a really
Speaker 1: strange way to think about things now, but.
Speaker 2: It's a really important though, John, because look, you have
Speaker 2: had to say goodbye countless times and I want to
Speaker 2: talk about that. But you know what, I'm really struck
Speaker 2: by on you speaking about this. I'd never thought about
Speaker 2: this before because one of those firings was after a
Speaker 2: twenty five year career, which I pretty much look back on.
Speaker 2: But I don't know if this is your example, but
Speaker 2: I want to tell you about it, maybe you could
Speaker 2: talk about yours. I remember, as my boss is ripping
Speaker 2: my badge off of my neck because I refuse to
Speaker 2: fire somebody one short short of a thirty year pension,
Speaker 2: and I was so clear about it, and she's ripping
Speaker 2: my badge off. I had a moment of peace, and
Speaker 2: my next move wasn't anger. It was this thought, I
Speaker 2: better get on the phone and call Colombia. I wonder,
Speaker 2: because she fired me. I got the whole package and everything. Hello,
Speaker 2: I wonder if they still have my application. I mean,
Speaker 2: I didn't even that was the act. It was not
Speaker 2: even a thought, It wasn't a fear. And to this day,
Speaker 2: I still don't remember how I got from New Jersey
Speaker 2: to Columbia in forty five minutes, because it wasn't thinking.
Speaker 2: It just was happening, and I was at such a
Speaker 2: place of peace, and I wonder if that's part of
Speaker 2: the unconditional love. What have you discovered in the countless
Speaker 2: times you've had to experience this?
Speaker 1: Well? Wow, I mean I've had so many signs, difficant
Speaker 1: changes and things to say goodbye. I can go back
Speaker 1: to my childhood. I was in and out of the
Speaker 1: hospital so many times. My mother wanted to put a
Speaker 1: doctor on retainer. You know, I've had all kinds of
Speaker 1: broken bones, my foot, my knee, my hip, my ribs,
Speaker 1: my my head, concussions, my neck, you know, C seven dyssectomy.
Speaker 1: I've had basically a lot of pain, so to speak, physically,
Speaker 1: career career wise, I get fired every year essentially because
Speaker 1: I'm a consultant, and my job isn't to stay along.
Speaker 1: My job is to go in and help and make different,
Speaker 1: make a positive difference, and then leave and say goodbye.
Speaker 1: I'm saying go bye all the time. And so again,
Speaker 1: I refer to this as flow. If we ride the
Speaker 1: wave of life, we ride the waves of change, and
Speaker 1: rather than resist them, first, first of all, we age
Speaker 1: a lot slower, and uh we feel a lot better. Uh,
Speaker 1: you know, Instead of worrying about I mean, getting old,
Speaker 1: and I'm you know, I just can't do what I
Speaker 1: used to do, and you just all this negative self talk. No,
Speaker 1: you know, let's say goodbye to that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: In fact, a lot of things we want to say
Speaker 1: goodbye to, like negativity, and even people who weigh us down,
Speaker 1: time to say goodbye. So in my case, you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: growing up, I had to say goodbye. Well, I thought
Speaker 1: I had to say goodbye a dream of mine, which
Speaker 1: was football, and I wanted to play at a professional level.
Speaker 1: And I, you know, I ended up running my foot
Speaker 1: through a lawnmore in high school and was told I'd
Speaker 1: never play again. And I think you've heard that story.
Speaker 1: And after you know, ten hours of surgery and a
Speaker 1: week in the hospital and all this reconstruction, I decided
Speaker 1: not to believe the doctor, and a couple of years
Speaker 1: later I was playing again. I wasn't ready to say
Speaker 1: goodbye to football just then, but then there came a
Speaker 1: time when I did have to say goodbye. But I
Speaker 1: took those skills, you know, the discipline and the strategy,
Speaker 1: the improvisation, the team building skills into my professional So
Speaker 1: I still play on Saturdays, so to speak. But not
Speaker 1: necessarily Saturdays, and not on a football field. I give keynotes,
Speaker 1: you know, and I speak to people and then guess
Speaker 1: what I have to do at the end of the keynote,
Speaker 1: say goodbye, right, move on to the next project, move
Speaker 1: on to the next assignment. So just embracing the changes,
Speaker 1: but now in my own, in my family, in my
Speaker 1: mayortal situation, I was married for twenty six years and
Speaker 1: madly in love with my wife and four wonderful children
Speaker 1: who later went off to college and now work different
Speaker 1: places around the country. And saying goodbye to that, you know,
Speaker 1: that old family living room, seeing if you will, Christmas
Speaker 1: scene or holiday scene or whatever. But you know, after
Speaker 1: twenty six years, my wife said, I don't want you anymore,
Speaker 1: you know, she wanted to go another direction. And I
Speaker 1: mean she still calls me to this day. But it
Speaker 1: was heartbreaking for me. But here's the thing, and this
Speaker 1: is a tool I share. It's an award winning book
Speaker 1: I wrote back at this time called Beyond Doubt Four
Speaker 1: Steps to Enter Piece, and I was resistant to that.
Speaker 1: Actually at the time, I think I've told you this
Speaker 1: story where in two thousand when my father passed and
Speaker 1: I had to say goodbye, and that was tough. I
Speaker 1: stopped writing for nine years. I just stopped writing, and
Speaker 1: then in two thousand and nine, I literally channeled this book.
Speaker 1: There was a sacred presence in my room insisting I
Speaker 1: write again, and I was resisting. I say no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't know what to write about it busy it persisted,
Speaker 1: and I gave in. And guess what. The four steps
Speaker 1: to interpiece were, let be, let go, let's see, and
Speaker 1: let flow. And this is right before this divorce. I'm
Speaker 1: writing this book out nowhere, and so what's let be?
Speaker 1: Essentially stop resisting so need to even write this book.
Speaker 1: I had to be present, I had to be open,
Speaker 1: and I had to let go of resistance in doubt.
Speaker 1: And when I did that, I started to see differently
Speaker 1: and then get into the flow of writing. And I
Speaker 1: wrote this book in record time. It was published and
Speaker 1: I thought, well, I guess I'm writing again, doctor pat
Speaker 1: But what I've really learned later is that, no, John,
Speaker 1: you were given a recipe for handling a very difficult
Speaker 1: period in your life. It's about to happen, and I
Speaker 1: didn't know it. So now all of a sudden, I'm
Speaker 1: served papers on a Saturday morning and she left the
Speaker 1: house and there's a tap on the door and some
Speaker 1: kid hands me an envelope and goes, good luck, dude, somebody.
Speaker 1: And a week before this, my wife was trying to
Speaker 1: get me to take her and the kids skiing out
Speaker 1: in Colorado, which we've done the prior is spring and springtime,
Speaker 1: and that meanwhile she's she's talking to a lawyer, you know,
Speaker 1: and planning a divorce. It was really mind blowing, doctor Pat.
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. What's the let be it's accept
Speaker 1: what is. You can't change what is or what was.
Speaker 1: It's it is, so you can fight it. You could
Speaker 1: say it shouldn't be that way this, you know you're wrong.
Speaker 1: I'm right all this conflict about what is, so accept it.
Speaker 1: It's like an it's like contemplative, it's neutral, it's it's
Speaker 1: it just is. I don't have to like it, but
Speaker 1: I can see it as an opportunity for improvement and
Speaker 1: accept it. So then let be is let go of
Speaker 1: the anger, the hurt, the suffering, because I was hurting,
Speaker 1: and so I had an opportunity to practice these four
Speaker 1: steps immediately, which which helped told me this this wasn't
Speaker 1: just a book to write. This was a formula, if
Speaker 1: you will, a recipe for a transformational life. Fast forward,
Speaker 1: I started to see her with more empathy and compassion,
Speaker 1: even though she and her attorney were pretty hostile. And
Speaker 1: I got into a flow state, so to speak, where
Speaker 1: life is more effortless, you're going with the flow, not
Speaker 1: against it. And fast forward, I never even got a lawyer,
Speaker 1: and we've we've found a way to settle. And I
Speaker 1: took her to court, drove her to court, and then
Speaker 1: took her out for lunch afterwards. So that's what I
Speaker 1: would call true forgiveness. And when I look back on
Speaker 1: any of the time we had together, it's positive. I'm grateful,
Speaker 1: not grieving. I feel saved, not suffered. So it's that
Speaker 1: shift in mindset about how we handle loss that makes
Speaker 1: all the difference. And this, this ring of peace, these
Speaker 1: four steps were just immensely helpful for me. This is
Speaker 1: back in twenty tens, sixteen years ago. We don't have
Speaker 1: to hate each other, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And this is what we're talking about now, is
Speaker 2: we're giving people the option to explore a healthy so
Speaker 2: to speak, you know, a healthy way to process good byes.
Speaker 2: And you know, some people maybe listen and say, oh, okay,
Speaker 2: that's just divorce. But we're giving them a way to
Speaker 2: process good byes period, and so that's what we want
Speaker 2: to make sure people understand. I love that you talked
Speaker 2: about the Ring of peace. Can you say that a
Speaker 2: little bit, say a little bit more about it? Because
Speaker 2: you just mentioned it and it sounded so cool to me.
Speaker 2: I would love for you to talk to our audience
Speaker 2: about what that ring a piece is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, it's I call it a tool, you know,
Speaker 1: and any skilled person is going to have a tool set,
Speaker 1: you know that works, and so it's a tool that
Speaker 1: we have to use to get value out of. You know,
Speaker 1: a lot of people have tools on golf clubs that
Speaker 1: sit in their garage. They never play them, or hammers
Speaker 1: and saws and screwdrivers, and you know, the tools just
Speaker 1: sit and collect us. Now, this is a tool you
Speaker 1: need to practice every single day. And the four steps
Speaker 1: I teach are not sequential. I mean they're not linear.
Speaker 1: So one, two, three, four, we're done. It's really as
Speaker 1: a it's a circular model. So we continue to do
Speaker 1: iterations of it, and the more we do, if you
Speaker 1: turn that circle this way, we ascend it. Brings our
Speaker 1: consciousness and awareness to a much higher level. So it's
Speaker 1: a tool for awakening. And the practice is in fact,
Speaker 1: I teach it in the book, which is now out,
Speaker 1: by the way, on in audio as well, so people
Speaker 1: can listen to it. I teach you.
Speaker 2: How do they get a copy of the book. Where
Speaker 2: is the book available?
Speaker 1: John, Oh, it's on audible, Spotify, it's you know, you
Speaker 1: can get through Amazon. But I teach it backwards. And
Speaker 1: the reason I do that, doctor pat is because we
Speaker 1: can all imagine and remember states of flow. So I
Speaker 1: wanted to teach it in such a way that oh,
Speaker 1: this is this is not this is way out there.
Speaker 1: I'm miserable, miserable, I can't do this. No, you've been
Speaker 1: in a state of flow before. Maybe you were dancing,
Speaker 1: maybe you were drawing pictures as a child, maybe you
Speaker 1: were writing something okay, or playing a sport, anything, playing
Speaker 1: an instrument. You get. You were in a state of timelessness.
Speaker 1: You weren't working, you were playing. So that's a big difference.
Speaker 1: You weren't in a state of resistance. You were just
Speaker 1: in a state of allowing. And so when you were
Speaker 1: we can appreciate Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I get that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been in flow. Okay, well we've just proven you can't.
Speaker 1: So now what how did you get there? Let's go
Speaker 1: backwards from that. You know, ye, well you had to
Speaker 1: see it in your mind's eye. You know, it's kind
Speaker 1: of like an architect before there's a building, there's a blueprint, right,
Speaker 1: you see it before you build it. So what did
Speaker 1: you see in your mind's eye to get you into
Speaker 1: that state of flow? Did you see yourself playing beautiful music?
Speaker 1: Did you see yourself running for a touchdown? You know?
Speaker 1: Did you see yourself painting a beautiful picture? What did
Speaker 1: you see? And so vision is in growth? So what
Speaker 1: do you see in your minds? I right now people
Speaker 1: could say, well, I see the economy is a mess.
Speaker 1: I see the earth is falling apart. I see the
Speaker 1: government doesn't know what it's doing. I see people that
Speaker 1: my neighbors are you know, they're they're they're annoying me.
Speaker 1: And really, so what do you see? And if you
Speaker 1: want to get into a real, true state of flow,
Speaker 1: you have to see it? Okay, now how do you
Speaker 1: see it? When you got all this baggage and you
Speaker 1: got you've been beating up your whole life and you're
Speaker 1: carrying all this suffering around with you, and grief and
Speaker 1: hostility and anger even hatred. You just how are you
Speaker 1: supposed to see positive when you got all this junk
Speaker 1: weighing you down? Well, guess what, you got to let
Speaker 1: it go. You got to let it go. So that's
Speaker 1: the I'm working backwards now, that's the let go step. So,
Speaker 1: and how do you know what to let go of?
Speaker 1: You've got to be present and you've got to evaluate
Speaker 1: what you're feeling. What are you feeling when you think
Speaker 1: certain thoughts? That's the back to that formula. Well, if
Speaker 1: I feel upset when I think about what somebody did
Speaker 1: to me last week, Okay, first of all, you can't
Speaker 1: change that. The only thing you can change is your
Speaker 1: mind about that because it's over. So are you what
Speaker 1: are you gonna? What are you going to let your
Speaker 1: mind do keep you in a state of misery? That's
Speaker 1: when the mind is controlling you and instead of you
Speaker 1: controlling the mind. People confuse this all the time. Who's
Speaker 1: controlling who? So when somebody says something as simple as
Speaker 1: I changed my mind about that, well, who's the eye?
Speaker 1: We've talked about this too, who's the eye? Set in
Speaker 1: that that's your true self capital I I, and you
Speaker 1: know capital s self, sacred, soulful self, not the ego self.
Speaker 1: So when we start to really think about then we
Speaker 1: reverse the ring and we say so okay, so John,
Speaker 1: the formula is this, I need to just take time
Speaker 1: each day to meditate, to stop, to just contemplate, to
Speaker 1: just evaluate my feelings. And I recommend counting your blessings.
Speaker 1: You could you could have twenty nine wonderful things are
Speaker 1: going on and one lousy thing going on, and we
Speaker 1: picked the lousy one to dwell on. No, don't go there.
Speaker 1: So get in touch with your feelings. This is essentially
Speaker 1: emotional intelligence. It's a core competency and you know, self awareness.
Speaker 1: Get in touch with how you feel, get in touch
Speaker 1: with what you're doing, Get in touch with what excites you, you know,
Speaker 1: your moments of us because that triggers flow. What do
Speaker 1: you what do you just love doing? And then what's
Speaker 1: getting in your way? What? Consider that your competition, any
Speaker 1: force against you is a form of competition, an obstacle
Speaker 1: and by the way, most of those obstacles are in
Speaker 1: your own mind, They're not out there somewhere. And then
Speaker 1: you just continue to practice this. And this is where
Speaker 1: I'm going to say something that catches people off guard sometimes,
Speaker 1: and that is that your greatest adversaries, even if you
Speaker 1: call them enemies, are your greatest teachers. Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: how am I supposed to learn anything from that person?
Speaker 1: You know, they're they're they're this, or they're that.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: The answer is, while they're teaching you something, consider that
Speaker 1: what are they teaching. Maybe they're teaching you patience, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe they're teaching you to to back, you know, to
Speaker 1: let go a little bit and try to empathize. Everybody's
Speaker 1: got a story. Do you know their story? Do you
Speaker 1: really understand what's maybe triggering their attitude? Right? No, they're
Speaker 1: just being a jerk. Well, there's something deeper than that.
Speaker 1: You might want to look into before you start condemning,
Speaker 1: you know, and again with karmic law, you condemn anyone,
Speaker 1: you're condemning yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, John, I want to take a short
Speaker 2: break here because when we come back, I want to
Speaker 2: break it down for people and let's get some examples.
Speaker 2: I mean, you've had job loss, I've had job loss.
Speaker 2: You know, we've seen merges and acquisitions. I was part
Speaker 2: of the divestiture team that helped break up the phone company,
Speaker 2: and then I was chosen to help put back the
Speaker 2: other company, which I never saw coming. So there you
Speaker 2: go with that. But there are so many things, I mean,
Speaker 2: your stories about football. And you know, here's the thing.
Speaker 2: I was told i'd never play professional table tennis again
Speaker 2: because my knee had deteriorated. But that was by somebody
Speaker 2: that didn't see the future. And the future was and
Speaker 2: is today the technology of bone body replacements. And you know,
Speaker 2: when COVID came, I was like, OMG, I won't get
Speaker 2: my two knees replaced. And so it is about a
Speaker 2: perspective and it's about what we believe, but it's also
Speaker 2: about what you said before. I think doubt is so insidious.
Speaker 2: So what I want to do is I want to
Speaker 2: take a short break and I want to come back
Speaker 2: and I want to talk with you about the things
Speaker 2: that people are carrying, even the smaller ones that they
Speaker 2: don't think are worth addressing. Right, we're talking about move
Speaker 2: I just moved from this Seattle to New Jersey and
Speaker 2: people are like why, and you know, because they don't
Speaker 2: choose to understand why I did that. Now, did I
Speaker 2: have to say goodbye. Was there a process involved? How
Speaker 2: did it feel when we come back? How did I
Speaker 2: make that decision? Was it hard? Did I agonize? Or
Speaker 2: was it something John just talked about. When we come back,
Speaker 2: we're going to talk about those things, share some stories,
Speaker 2: share some solutions, because what John is talking about works
Speaker 2: for everything. Everything, And when we come back, I honestly
Speaker 2: I had to say goodbye to the tip of my
Speaker 2: thumb because I wasn't paying attention to cutting an apple
Speaker 2: John before we go to break? How do people find
Speaker 2: out about you? How do they follow you? Some of
Speaker 2: the videos you're doing? Where did they find all of that?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Well, LinkedIn is I'm on LinkedIn quite a bit
Speaker 1: and it's John J. Murphy Mystic And then you know,
Speaker 1: I've got a YouTube channel where you can watch the
Speaker 1: replays of the show along with a lot of others.
Speaker 1: It's author John J. Murphy on YouTube. And I have
Speaker 1: a podcast called Fearless with John up on YouTube. So
Speaker 1: there's that's one way. And then people can reach me
Speaker 1: through my website, which is Johnjmurphy dot org.
Speaker 2: When we come back. A friend of mine said, mass
Speaker 2: population of fans are grieving right now. No, not about
Speaker 2: the Knicks loss last night. It's not about that. Massive
Speaker 2: amount of people are grieving right now in one particular sport.
Speaker 2: Can you guess what it is? Let's take a short break, everybody,
Speaker 2: We'll be right back.
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Speaker 1: sure how to handle it with poise, confidence and grace?
Speaker 1: Of course you have, We all have. We'll tune into
Speaker 1: The Change Mastery Show with me John J. Murphy. Together
Speaker 1: my co host Doctor Patt, and I will introduce you
Speaker 1: to a different way to think about change, not as
Speaker 1: something to fear or resist, but as a gift. Join
Speaker 1: us the second Wednesday of every month at eleven am
Speaker 1: Pacific on Transformation Talk Radio. Subscribe, share, and start your
Speaker 1: journey to mastery at Johnjmurphy dot org.
Speaker 3: We are all born with gifts that we are meant
Speaker 3: to use to improve the world. Join me, Vicky Tar
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Speaker 3: of Dreaming beyond boundaries, each fourth Thursday at eleven am
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Speaker 2: Hey everybody, welcome back. This is the Change Mastery Show
Speaker 2: with John J. Murphy and me. And this isn't a
Speaker 2: great episode. It's when it's time to say goodbye. So
Speaker 2: John here growing up with Mama Mama Doris. So yeah,
Speaker 2: tell you about my step Mama, right, she. I mean,
Speaker 2: she is a woman that gave me the purse of
Speaker 2: your persistence to learn how to read and write. Even
Speaker 2: but Mama used to say, girls, you gotta know one
Speaker 2: to hold them and no one to hold them. Well,
Speaker 2: Mama didn't say though, she used to say that, but
Speaker 2: what she was talking about, you know, And she had
Speaker 2: a million of those expressions, you know. She said, you
Speaker 2: have to know when to let go. But she never
Speaker 2: really explained to us the emotional side of this. She
Speaker 2: didn't explain how to do it. She didn't explain the
Speaker 2: process of doing it. And I think that's what we're
Speaker 2: talking about today. But I want to also talk about
Speaker 2: in this episode how to understand these human frequencies and feelings.
Speaker 2: You know, I was stuck in my dissertation a really
Speaker 2: critical moment when I'm at the point now where I
Speaker 2: had to come up with the theory that I was
Speaker 2: going to research and I have some interesting dynamics that
Speaker 2: go on with my learning and I couldn't articulate it.
Speaker 2: So I was at a school with a guy that
Speaker 2: literally talked about flow, and I used to call him
Speaker 2: doctor me. So I went over to see him and
Speaker 2: I said, listen, me. Of course that's not his name,
Speaker 2: but I couldn't pronounce his name. I did later on,
Speaker 2: but I said, listen to me. I need some help.
Speaker 2: I'm really at a roadblock here because I have to
Speaker 2: draw this diagram for theories. I got to put these
Speaker 2: theories together. He said, in a really broken tongue. What
Speaker 2: are you doing? How are you doing it? I said,
Speaker 2: I don't know. They gave me a made me do it.
Speaker 2: He said, stop. What do you like to do? Can
Speaker 2: you draw? I said, I'd love to draw. He said,
Speaker 2: do you like to speak? I said no, I'm not good.
Speaker 2: I don't like to do. I don't want to talk
Speaker 2: about now. You'd never know that, he said, but what
Speaker 2: do you like to do? Are you create? I said,
Speaker 2: I'm highly creative. I can create things. He said, I
Speaker 2: want you to go and I want you to take
Speaker 2: a flip chart. You know a flip chart? And he said,
Speaker 2: I want you to draw out in circles images. I
Speaker 2: don't care if you use animals. He was saying, I
Speaker 2: want you to draw the relationships you want to demonstrate
Speaker 2: that work. From your experience of job loss and broken promises,
Speaker 2: that was the best thing. And people might be thinking
Speaker 2: why didn't you figure that out for yourself? Well? I didn't.
Speaker 2: And what I drew out was something that had never
Speaker 2: been studied before because the box I was being put
Speaker 2: in on the professor other side of the committee was
Speaker 2: you have to study something that was done before. But
Speaker 2: he allowed me to draw out something never studied before,
Speaker 2: which has broken promises between two people at work, not
Speaker 2: a company and a person. And I draw this tart
Speaker 2: and I brought it into my chairperson advisor, doctor Charlon Granrose.
Speaker 2: She cried and we went on to do that study
Speaker 2: together post doctorate together, we published articles together, but he
Speaker 2: was the one. Now was it flow? Was I?
Speaker 1: In that moment?
Speaker 2: All I could tell you was I was in such
Speaker 2: a state of peace. I don't remember thinking about any
Speaker 2: of that.
Speaker 1: John.
Speaker 2: Now, I'm not going to underplay the amount of work
Speaker 2: had to do to do that. But in life there
Speaker 2: are things we go through. There are times we go
Speaker 2: through it. Sometimes as children, our parents pooh pooh it.
Speaker 2: Sometimes our boss is pooh pooh it. How can we
Speaker 2: help people today to turn this loss into opportunity, to
Speaker 2: turn something that may be weighing them down without judgment
Speaker 2: about how big the thing is.
Speaker 1: First of all. You know what, I believe his name's
Speaker 1: pronounced that chick mahalley. But he took you into the
Speaker 1: let's see phase, so let be let go, let's see,
Speaker 1: let flow. So it gets you into a flow state
Speaker 1: of mind. He had to challenge you to examine what
Speaker 1: do you see or what do you want to see?
Speaker 1: So get a flip chart, start drawing circles. Throw some
Speaker 1: color in there if you want. But all of these
Speaker 1: steps without the others essentially neutralizes the whole model. So
Speaker 1: you know, if all you do is focus.
Speaker 2: On letting go, then what, yeah, exactly you.
Speaker 1: Want to That's why I like to think about it backwards,
Speaker 1: because he talked to you about what really brings you
Speaker 1: the greatest.
Speaker 2: Joy in life.
Speaker 1: Yes, I called it. I call these moments of bliss,
Speaker 1: and it's just a blissful state. So to me, a
Speaker 1: true success it's not about how much money you make,
Speaker 1: or what your job title is, or even what you
Speaker 1: look like. It's how do you feel. And at the
Speaker 1: highest levels of the map of consciousness, you're just below enlightenment,
Speaker 1: which is way up there our peace and joy. And
Speaker 1: so a true successful life is where I'm at peace
Speaker 1: every day, I'm just living in a state of grace.
Speaker 1: I'm joyful, I'm appreciative. Those are very high frequencies, and
Speaker 1: you don't get there when you turn on the news
Speaker 1: or you go to some sporting event and it's you
Speaker 1: come home all angry or mad, or it's just it's temporary.
Speaker 1: If your feelings are just temper, you get moments of
Speaker 1: joy and then you're back to you know, grumpiness or whatever.
Speaker 1: Or you get you know, joy when you go out
Speaker 1: and eat a big fat meal at a nice restaurant
Speaker 1: and get all dressed up and you go home and
Speaker 1: you complain about the news or whatever. That is not
Speaker 1: that's not what I would call a true life of
Speaker 1: the life we're meant to live. You know, we're blessed
Speaker 1: from day one when we're born. We're blessed when we're conceived.
Speaker 1: We're sacred beings. We're spiritual beings in a temporary human form.
Speaker 1: And so this is when I talk about challenging assumptions,
Speaker 1: even the assumption that we die. Okay, oh we don't. Actually,
Speaker 1: you know, we leave this human skin and we move
Speaker 1: on to where we came from. It's cyclical, it's not linear.
Speaker 1: And when you start to really dig into this and
Speaker 1: you look at the science behind it. You know. I
Speaker 1: was recently at an event with Danny and Brinkley. Danny
Speaker 1: has been clinically dead three times now, wrote the best
Speaker 1: seller Saved by the Light. It's an absolutely remarkable story
Speaker 1: and I need a more Jammy. Her story is phenomenal.
Speaker 1: Evan Alexander. These are people that were essentially gone and
Speaker 1: came back to tell us, to teach us, to share
Speaker 1: with us what goes on when the body does shut down.
Speaker 1: And so I that right there challenges a paradigm that everybody,
Speaker 1: practically everybody. A lot of people think that, you know, hey,
Speaker 1: we got one life to live and that's it. Then
Speaker 1: we hear songs you know that I love YouTube, by
Speaker 1: the way, but you hear songs like I can't live
Speaker 1: with or without? You figure that out. You're alive right now,
Speaker 1: aren't you? Are you with the without? It's it's romance,
Speaker 1: you know, it's drama. But if you really want to live,
Speaker 1: if your vision is a life of peace and joy,
Speaker 1: where you bring that to other people, they just like
Speaker 1: being around you because you're you're just amazing, actually, and
Speaker 1: you have the potential to be People are attracted to that.
Speaker 1: How do you get there? First of all, you visualize
Speaker 1: it and you program it, which means you deprogram, you
Speaker 1: deleat a whole lot of stuff. Maybe you grew up
Speaker 1: with say goodbye to that. I mean, I think you
Speaker 1: could actually make a list of ten things right now
Speaker 1: to say goodbye to. Yeah, So a practical way to
Speaker 1: do to let go. There's let go phase. Take inventory.
Speaker 1: In the let be phase, be present, take take an
Speaker 1: hour to just think and contemplate. What are ten things
Speaker 1: I could let go of? Ten feelings, ten attachments. Here's
Speaker 1: the thing. You're never going to live without fear if
Speaker 1: you're attached to something that has value to you that
Speaker 1: you have no control over. So wait a minute. If
Speaker 1: I attach myself to another person, I attach myself to
Speaker 1: a job, or an identity, or a house, anything that's temporary,
Speaker 1: and anything I have no control over, I live in
Speaker 1: perpetual fear of losing it. So is that how you
Speaker 1: want to live your life? Afraid? Well, John, are you
Speaker 1: saying there's an alternative to that? Isn't everybody afraid? No? No?
Speaker 1: What are you afraid of?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 1: You know the sky might fall. Well, that's a projection
Speaker 1: of something negative. And I don't believe that. I don't
Speaker 1: think the sky's going to fall, all right. So the
Speaker 1: way we're afraid, it's because we're projecting something's going to
Speaker 1: go wrong. It's a projection, it's an assumption. Why don't
Speaker 1: you change that, let go of that belief. And I
Speaker 1: think if people sat down and they said, what are
Speaker 1: ten things right now weighing me down? Could be the
Speaker 1: name of a person that you're holding a grudge against. Okay,
Speaker 1: probably got ten of those, you know, Or maybe it's, yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe it's somebody that it's time to say goodbye. You know.
Speaker 1: I just I'm not comfortable being around this person anymore.
Speaker 2: Yeah, boy, No, I.
Speaker 1: Don't like my job. So maybe I should start thinking
Speaker 1: about saying about it that, okay, Or could be a
Speaker 1: habit that's weighing you down, you know what, Maybe I
Speaker 1: should say about it that. So I think if you
Speaker 1: just if you want to be practical, and I've said goodbye,
Speaker 1: doctor pat to so many things, you know, during the yeah,
Speaker 1: the two thousand and nine recessions.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about that for a minute, shall we.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So think about this now as a by the way,
Speaker 1: we can talk COVID too after that. But as a
Speaker 1: independent consultant. When when the recession hit, contracts dried up.
Speaker 1: Companies went on you know, into paralysis. Trainers and consultants
Speaker 1: were easily dismissed. And I got hit at the same
Speaker 1: time with the new as my wife wanted to leave
Speaker 1: a lot to let go of. And I'm living in
Speaker 1: a gorgeous, you know, eight thousand square foot waterfront home
Speaker 1: and a beautiful lifestyle, traveling the world, teaching, I mean things,
Speaker 1: just it was like amazing. And you know, the recession
Speaker 1: hit and that was rough, and then the worse and
Speaker 1: all that, but I was technically bankrupt at that point.
Speaker 1: We had to sell this house for less than we
Speaker 1: bought it eleven years earlier, and I put hundreds of
Speaker 1: thousands of dollars into it. It's a beautiful home and
Speaker 1: sold it for less than we bought it because of
Speaker 1: this dramatic recession and the money that we lost in
Speaker 1: the markets, things like that, and then the divorce. So
Speaker 1: I went from living in a seven thousand square foot
Speaker 1: home to eight thousand square foot home to an apartment
Speaker 1: with no furniture, but no furniture. But I want to
Speaker 1: tell this story too, and I think you've I've told
Speaker 1: it to you before is you know, I was being
Speaker 1: attacked in a sense over this divorce and my wife
Speaker 1: had some serious addictions, and so I've got financial papers
Speaker 1: all over the living room floor. There's like no furniture.
Speaker 1: So I'm, you know, I'm trying to figure out how
Speaker 1: to get through this. And I just stopped and I
Speaker 1: put some music on and I lit a candle that
Speaker 1: I had, and I cranked down some good music and
Speaker 1: I just started to dance. I love dancing. I get
Speaker 1: into floating. I love dancing. And then my phone rings
Speaker 1: and it's my older sister. She's calling to check on me,
Speaker 1: and you know, how are you doing? She's been through
Speaker 1: two divorces And she said what are you doing? And
Speaker 1: I said, I'm dancing. You're dancing. Who are you dancing with?
Speaker 1: I said me?
Speaker 3: Me?
Speaker 1: And she said something I'll never forget. She said, I
Speaker 1: wish I could do that, and I said, you can't.
Speaker 1: Oh no I can't. No, No I can't, No I can't.
Speaker 1: But that's the root cause to most people suffering is
Speaker 1: it's belief. You know, it's belief. So challenge your beliefs
Speaker 1: and and take ownership for your feelings. You can change them.
Speaker 1: People say, oh, no, I just feel this way. I
Speaker 1: have no control over it. What you do, Okay, you
Speaker 1: have the power of decision and the power to change
Speaker 1: the channel, and you can do it in a second.
Speaker 1: You can shift your thoughts from this person who upsets
Speaker 1: you to thoughts of bliss, something that you love. And
Speaker 1: when you do that, the moment you do that, your
Speaker 1: frequency changes. And this is measurable. I've trained under the
Speaker 1: Institute of Heartmath for years a quick coherence technique and
Speaker 1: the m wave in the Inner Balance app which you
Speaker 1: can put on your phone. It measures your frequencies and
Speaker 1: the minute you change your thought from something negative to
Speaker 1: positive or positive the negative, it reads to your heart coherence,
Speaker 1: which is the vibe you're putting out magnetically reads it
Speaker 1: in an instant and then whatever that vibe is, to
Speaker 1: quote Einstein again, you're drawing in asking for more of
Speaker 1: whatever you feel. So pay attention to what you feel,
Speaker 1: examine what you're thinking to feel that way, huh, and
Speaker 1: then take ownership for the decisions and the thoughts you
Speaker 1: choose to think. It's all about choice, and we talked
Speaker 1: choice in consequence to the last show. Yeah, there's a
Speaker 1: consequence to every choice, and every thought is a choice.
Speaker 1: And if you want to play victim and say, oh
Speaker 1: it's you know, I'm just the victim of my parents
Speaker 1: the way they raised me, or the school system or
Speaker 1: the economy. I mean I'm a victim of my wife
Speaker 1: who left me. I've just got this victim consciousness. Guess
Speaker 1: what you're just asking for more?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, John, I want to ask you about
Speaker 2: something because it came up in a previous show by
Speaker 2: a caller and they said, can you talk about the
Speaker 2: stigma of bankruptcy. Now, we don't have enough time to
Speaker 2: do a whole show on that, but what we're talking
Speaker 2: about our people that had to make a conscious decision
Speaker 2: to let go of nine times out of tend something
Speaker 2: they loved, and the stigma around it, which never was
Speaker 2: intended for that. It was it was intended for people
Speaker 2: to get a fresh start. But you know, she was saying,
Speaker 2: I have a friend who really is holding on to
Speaker 2: a company that went under during COVID And she said, look,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to support him, but I don't know how
Speaker 2: because he keeps getting more loans, pouring more money into it,
Speaker 2: and the company is not really going to make it.
Speaker 2: And there are situations in life when you have that,
Speaker 2: when you've started your dream. And you and I are entrepreneurs.
Speaker 2: We know this. We know what it's like to have
Speaker 2: to say good bye to with business and start a
Speaker 2: new one. Maybe, but this really hit my heart because
Speaker 2: I actually didn't know what to say, but I said,
Speaker 2: please listen to this show today right which she is doing.
Speaker 2: We have not even come close to address what people
Speaker 2: went through during COVID. We clearly shut the door on
Speaker 2: the financial business from nine to ten. We didn't even
Speaker 2: address that. Nobody even talked about it. And we're kind
Speaker 2: of falling in the same thank here with people that
Speaker 2: tried to recover and they did their best, but the
Speaker 2: old ways weren't working anymore. And letting go seems to
Speaker 2: be one of the most difficult things that I believe
Speaker 2: entrepreneurs and business people are going through right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think there's a couple of things that
Speaker 1: you might consider letting go of. In this case, I
Speaker 1: was technically bankrupt. I never filed, and I did pay
Speaker 1: back all of my debt. But I have siblings who
Speaker 1: did filed for bankruptcy, friends people like that, and in
Speaker 1: their case it was it was probably the best choice.
Speaker 1: I never really thought about a stigmatism to it, but
Speaker 1: I suppose there is. You know, they you know, get alone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know if you ever filed bankruptcy before things like that,
Speaker 1: I never did because I just had this deep, deep,
Speaker 1: deep conviction that I will pay back everything I ever borrow.
Speaker 1: And that's just that's so that it gets to belief.
Speaker 1: If you're if you're living your life in fear, you're
Speaker 1: asking for trouble. Okay, if you fear bankruptcy, you're probably
Speaker 1: going bankrupt. That vibe is going to call it is
Speaker 1: and I never I never feared it. I just changed
Speaker 1: the channel. I'm not going to think about bankruptcy. I'm
Speaker 1: not going to focus on it because the minute I
Speaker 1: focus on it, I'm drawing it in. Why would I
Speaker 1: do that. I'm going to focus on growth. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: during these periods of nothing and I wasn't out consulting.
Speaker 1: What was I going to focus on. I'll write a
Speaker 1: book that's positive, that's creative, that's flow. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to sit here and watch the phone and wait till
Speaker 1: it rings. Now. So every moment of every day, we
Speaker 1: have a choice to think about something positive or something negative.
Speaker 1: Something inspiring in spirit or something fearful, Okay. And the
Speaker 1: thing is is that when you look at the ego
Speaker 1: thought system, which drives just about every human being on
Speaker 1: the planet until they realize they're not the ego, it's
Speaker 1: fear based, and it's dualistic. It's us and them and
Speaker 1: right and wrong and good and bad, and it's stigmatisms
Speaker 1: things like that. And we grow up with it in sports,
Speaker 1: we grow up with it in politics. It's dualistic. Everything
Speaker 1: is dualistic. Well, at a spiritual level, it's not. Everything
Speaker 1: is atoned, it's at one. So when you start thinking
Speaker 1: about what do I'm thinking what I'm thinking about, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to think about bankruptcy. I mean, COVID just
Speaker 1: shut me down completely from travel, from consulting. What did
Speaker 1: I do? I learned how to do things online, So
Speaker 1: I'm going to develop and design some online courses. I
Speaker 1: now have an online AI twin, if you can believe that,
Speaker 1: So I have it. I have an AI twin. It's
Speaker 1: downloaded with forty years of my work, books, hundreds of articles,
Speaker 1: hundreds of videos, all of these chains, mastery shows are
Speaker 1: in my bot and and so people all over the
Speaker 1: world have twenty four to seven access to my coaching
Speaker 1: and my teaching, my training, and it's available in multiple languages.
Speaker 1: It's incredible. And I have conversations with my bot every
Speaker 1: week just to challenge it and feed it with more
Speaker 1: case studies, if you will. So the other thing docupat
Speaker 1: I'll say this is, you know, yesterday I celebrated thirty
Speaker 1: eight years since starting my company. Thirty eight years. Lots
Speaker 1: of ups and downs, lots of things I had to
Speaker 1: let go of along the way and say goodbye to.
Speaker 1: But I've done that, I think quite well. I've said
Speaker 1: goodbye to each passing day, each passing year, all the
Speaker 1: ups and the downs, to focus on the only time
Speaker 1: that ever really matters, which is what I call the
Speaker 1: eternal now, always now. And so how do I feel
Speaker 1: in the now all the time? And if my feeling
Speaker 1: in the now is agitated, worrisome, angry, grief, apathy, I
Speaker 1: mean those low frequencies, Instantly, I catch myself and it's like, John,
Speaker 1: that's not you. That's the ego. It's weighing you down.
Speaker 1: That's the ego, okay, and you need to let that go.
Speaker 1: It's not you. You're in charge, not the ego. The
Speaker 1: ego is essentially the mind controlling you, the habitual mind.
Speaker 1: So let be long enough to understand that and be aware,
Speaker 1: be awake, let go of anything that's weighing down. You
Speaker 1: have the power of choice, and when you do that,
Speaker 1: you're going to see things very different. You're not going
Speaker 1: to see bankruptcy. You're not going to see doom and gloom.
Speaker 1: You're not going to see what everybody else is complaining about.
Speaker 1: You're going to see opportunity. You and I've talked about opportunity.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, potential.
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, yeah, because each of us have it. John,
Speaker 2: this was a very very powerful what a great and
Speaker 2: thank you for addressing that. From my friend who's watching it,
Speaker 2: this was a great episode. I want to say to
Speaker 2: the audience, if you have missed any part of this,
Speaker 2: please go back now. People want to know how do
Speaker 2: I get a hold of the videos you've done, and
Speaker 2: then I'd love to know your closing message.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I'm easy to find. In fact, my website's
Speaker 1: being completely redone right now and I'm offering a free
Speaker 1: ebook as soon as the news site's up and running.
Speaker 1: It's John J. Murphy dot org. And like I say,
Speaker 1: I hang out on LinkedIn a lot John J. Murphy
Speaker 1: Mystic and my YouTube channel has over three hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty videos of lots of tips. We've talked about nutrition
Speaker 1: and health and aging gracefully and leadership and team building.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've got a huge body of work in
Speaker 1: that space, so definitely check that out and connect with me.
Speaker 1: I just say to people, connect with me. I'm a giver,
Speaker 1: doctor pat That's another important thing I'd like to close
Speaker 1: with as a message is there's given, there's take. Always
Speaker 1: give first. There are a lot of takers in life.
Speaker 1: There are people out pushing and selling and trying to
Speaker 1: you know, I get hit with dozens of people trying
Speaker 1: to sell me stuff every day, and they haven't learned
Speaker 1: that it's not a bad idea to start by with
Speaker 1: building trust, building a relationship, building credibility, because they're just
Speaker 1: shooting themselves in the foot, you know, stop pushing and
Speaker 1: start pulling. And so it's important, I think for anybody
Speaker 1: to realize that at the end of the day, it's
Speaker 1: about building healthy relationships. Change mastery is about recognizing everything
Speaker 1: is changing all the time. Don't attach you any your
Speaker 1: happiness to anything temporary, which is just about everything all right,
Speaker 1: and you're never alone. So what's guided me is I'm
Speaker 1: deeply spiritual. I read from the Doubta Ching every morning.
Speaker 1: I've studied every day, of course, in Miracles for seventeen
Speaker 1: years now. I study the teachings of the Buddha. And
Speaker 1: the most important thing I do, Doctor pat is I
Speaker 1: apply it. It's not theory for me. It's not Oh
Speaker 1: that's nice to read about forgiveness and then start condemning things. Oh,
Speaker 1: you have to practice it. So like the Ring of Peace,
Speaker 1: it's a tool. Put it to use and then observe
Speaker 1: just how powerful it is.
Speaker 2: Yeah, John, thank you so much for this. And I
Speaker 2: know my friend is grateful. I just got a text
Speaker 2: message from her, and I can't thank you enough. These
Speaker 2: shows are very powerful, And thank you for doing the
Speaker 2: work you're doing because you do help us live a
Speaker 2: life full out and you do help us understand that
Speaker 2: spirituality is the essence of so much I know. For me,
Speaker 2: it is thank you so much. Yeah for the audience
Speaker 2: out there, Like John said, he has lots of information available.
Speaker 2: So make a decision. You have a choice. You have
Speaker 2: a choice. What will you be grateful about today? I'm
Speaker 2: grateful for John J. Murphy and all of you. We'll
Speaker 2: see you next time.
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