1 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 1: Hey babes, Welcome back to Vanity Farraware. Today. My name 2 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:12,560 is Chris, and I will be talking about ninety Day Fiance, 3 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:18,960 Season twelve, Episode eleven, Meeting the Family. I loved this episode. Wow, 4 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,120 what a treat. So many pictures I have. This will 5 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:23,920 be a long episode. I'm sure part two coming your 6 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,719 way up because I have so much to talk about. 7 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:31,079 I mean, my goodness, gracious woo honey. Now, it's hard 8 00:00:31,519 --> 00:00:34,640 to deal with what we know in real life because 9 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,560 we exist in the universe and we've been hearing some 10 00:00:38,719 --> 00:00:43,960 things off the streets. So to watch it now certainly 11 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,920 feels like, well, I think, I know, I can't get 12 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:49,399 my hopes up about certain things, so I don't want 13 00:00:49,439 --> 00:00:51,240 to spoil it for you. But at the same time, 14 00:00:51,399 --> 00:00:53,399 we're all in the same universe, you know, So if 15 00:00:53,399 --> 00:00:56,520 it's like if we were best friends in real life 16 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,560 or just like at least acquaintances and we had found 17 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:02,320 that we will watched this episode and I learned what 18 00:01:02,399 --> 00:01:05,599 I did from, you know, my natural tendencies on the 19 00:01:05,599 --> 00:01:09,879 Internet and whatnot. I would say in conversation with you 20 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:12,959 unless you were like, don't tell me anything, and then 21 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,840 I'd be like, well and I would if you told 22 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:17,519 me that, I'd be like, oh god, other, you're not fun. 23 00:01:18,519 --> 00:01:21,319 He want why you want to be like in some 24 00:01:21,359 --> 00:01:25,120 sort of weird ignorance that the producers have for you. 25 00:01:25,159 --> 00:01:26,640 I mean, come on, you know it's it's not real. 26 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:29,840 It's not real life, and that's what the show should be. 27 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:33,439 It's it's real. It's a dog you series. It's not 28 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,239 like a love competition show. They're not on some island, unless, 29 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:39,040 of course, it's a Hunt for Love, in which case 30 00:01:39,079 --> 00:01:41,959 they are on an island like that, or of course 31 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:45,280 Love and Paradise if they ever bring that show back around. 32 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:53,879 Ah so, babes, let's talk Marissa and Edward. Now he 33 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:57,640 comes out and he looks supers cute in like a beige, 34 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:02,439 monochromatic outfit, and she's like, no, no, go back, And 35 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:06,599 I don't like this look. It's too one thing. I'm 36 00:02:06,599 --> 00:02:08,680 gonna be wearing one thing, and I want you to 37 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:12,639 match me, even though we're both marrying, wearing primary colors 38 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:15,800 that are neutral and still go together. But whatever gubblishes 39 00:02:15,879 --> 00:02:19,400 one spy versus spy. She's like, go put black pants 40 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:23,479 on and also take off those bracelets, those ethnic bracelets. 41 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:29,159 No we're gonna you're gonna be amongst wealth advisors whatever. 42 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:31,360 I mean, She's just so sometimes I'm like, let the 43 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,800 man just be him, Like, how about you don't control 44 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:38,039 what he wears. You would hate if someone did that 45 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,759 to you, and he looks fine, like you know, like 46 00:02:42,039 --> 00:02:44,680 obviously if you're with someone and you're trying to wear 47 00:02:44,719 --> 00:02:47,560 something absolutely crazy darcy or something where it's just like, 48 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:49,879 you know, can can that titty go inside? Or can 49 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,719 you not wear flip flops at my father's retirement party? 50 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:55,800 Who knows, I'm not quite sure. I'm just saying, of 51 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,400 course you'd be like no. But he looked totally normal, 52 00:02:58,479 --> 00:03:02,840 totally fine, and she just is imposing so much of 53 00:03:02,879 --> 00:03:10,680 her unnecessary will on him. Lipstick on my teeth, I 54 00:03:10,719 --> 00:03:16,400 saw it, Okay. So anyway, he tries to make some 55 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,840 joke how like you know, like she's blonde and he's 56 00:03:19,879 --> 00:03:22,039 like black or whatever that joke I mean, you know 57 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,319 whatever he however, he was saying it like a wordplay, 58 00:03:25,599 --> 00:03:27,000 and she wanted to know part of it. She's like, 59 00:03:27,039 --> 00:03:33,840 whatever you say. The cameras right there. So anyways, she's 60 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:36,759 late to her cocktail party. That's being well, not her, 61 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:39,719 it's her friend's cocktail party being thrown, and she's like, 62 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,960 why am I always late? It's like, say, underestimate the 63 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:47,240 steps and time getting ready. Here's the thing, Yeah, me too, 64 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:54,319 almost inevitably, not just that I underestimate how long like 65 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,639 parking will take or how long will take me to 66 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,280 find the place or like where it is, and like, 67 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:10,840 you know, like traffic, multiple outfits or steaming something. I like, 68 00:04:10,879 --> 00:04:13,800 you know, like the actually put an outfit together from 69 00:04:13,879 --> 00:04:17,160 scratch like takes a long time. And I mean that 70 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,120 in the way you're supposed to considerately put like an 71 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:23,759 outgoing outfit together, like and I'm saying, like, is there 72 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:27,800 an outer layer? Is there? Accessories? Is are you changing 73 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:29,720 your bag if you're you know, like if you have 74 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:32,839 a bag on you like, are you putting different jewelry on? 75 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:36,319 Like all of that, like to consider it and triumph 76 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,560 it takes so much time, but you are me, me, mursa, 77 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:44,920 both of us we're like not forty five minutes, but 78 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:51,720 it's two hours if not, you know, God bless. And 79 00:04:51,759 --> 00:04:56,839 that's like freshly showered hair already like blown dry. Okay, 80 00:04:56,920 --> 00:05:04,160 So anyways, she then is like, don't get sloppy drunk, 81 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,879 although I got admit, I've never seen you that way. 82 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,360 I'm like, well, then don't tell him that. Don't get 83 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,879 possessed by an evil demon. I mean, you know, like 84 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:16,319 you haven't seen it. So, I mean he's a grown 85 00:05:16,319 --> 00:05:21,519 ass man. Why would you think he would he? Okay, 86 00:05:21,759 --> 00:05:23,560 So anyway, She's just then like I just feel like 87 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:25,439 it's so everything is so rude. And she picks up 88 00:05:25,439 --> 00:05:27,240 in the fact that she's rude. But we'll get into 89 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,399 why she makes it a him problem. Okay, good bless. 90 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:33,720 So then she's like, this is a normal party. So 91 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:35,720 you know what I'm saying, Like this is a normal party, 92 00:05:35,759 --> 00:05:37,279 Like it's not just for you, Like it's not like 93 00:05:37,319 --> 00:05:39,720 a welcome to the world party like Edward, you know, 94 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:43,279 like it's for everyone here, including me, and you know, 95 00:05:43,399 --> 00:05:45,959 all of us including me. Don't want you to talk 96 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:50,879 about baseball all the time and talk about them. Okay, 97 00:05:50,959 --> 00:05:53,399 A couple of interesting things. It makes me feel like 98 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:55,319 she thinks that he doesn't know how to talk to 99 00:05:55,360 --> 00:06:01,560 people when he worked in a hospitality environment. Second thing is, 100 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,279 even if you don't like baseball, odds are a couple 101 00:06:07,319 --> 00:06:11,839 of those dudes there love baseball? I mean, odds are 102 00:06:11,959 --> 00:06:17,519 you know I'm saying, like that's a sport like that 103 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,879 is a huge arm in a conversation or tentacle to 104 00:06:20,959 --> 00:06:22,879 be used, you know, like I'm trying to think of, 105 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:25,199 you know what, Okay, here's I was thinking about this 106 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:30,680 the other day. Things to talk about in conversation that 107 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:34,720 isn't you know, you know, awkward choices or can be 108 00:06:34,759 --> 00:06:37,199 awkward choices, And that's like, okay, so awkward choices or 109 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:41,720 you know what could be historically is like religion, politics, money, Okay, 110 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,800 so God bless to take those off the table. And 111 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:47,759 then it's like, what are the things you can talk 112 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:54,240 about that will bridge people together? Sports is like a 113 00:06:54,480 --> 00:07:00,279 huge one because if it's a whole for well, like 114 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:03,720 people follow the sport, people like no keep I'm sure 115 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:08,920 knows what's happening in American you know, like East Coast 116 00:07:09,399 --> 00:07:12,560 baseball teams like Yankees and Mets like those are big 117 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:16,639 ass conversation people, I'm sorry, conversation starters for people like that. 118 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,040 And by people like that, I mean men like if 119 00:07:20,079 --> 00:07:22,800 you're in LA and you can talk about Lakers or Dodgers, good, 120 00:07:23,199 --> 00:07:24,560 you know, if you want to, like, you know, just 121 00:07:24,839 --> 00:07:27,560 mingle amongst other people, especially if you're a dude, I'm 122 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:29,519 just being honest. I mean, here's another one. I'm just 123 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,519 gonna say, pop culture. You know, like if you're just 124 00:07:32,639 --> 00:07:35,360 like somewhat adversed and or you know, if someone if 125 00:07:35,399 --> 00:07:37,839 you're like up to date in pop culture, like you 126 00:07:37,959 --> 00:07:40,720 know what movies are big deals and you've gone to 127 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:42,920 see them, like you know, like this is boring, but 128 00:07:43,279 --> 00:07:46,519 if you can bring up conversation about obsession or I 129 00:07:46,519 --> 00:07:53,360 don't know, some like the Disclosure Day, you know, or yeah, 130 00:07:53,399 --> 00:07:57,360 do you listen to the new Madonna album? What songs 131 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,720 do you like right now? I were like Madison Beer's 132 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:04,759 fifteen Minutes, I do Slater's Dance, I do you know? 133 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:07,240 It's like oh, okay, Well, like I mean, I don't 134 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:09,920 know about it. For every demographic of person, those are 135 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,920 the answers. But you know, I mean insert your own 136 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,079 like oh did you see those so and so's playing 137 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,319 the so and so in town? You know, it's like 138 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:20,439 all of that pop culture, music, entertainment, sports, those are 139 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:22,160 huge things. So I'm like, why are you telling this 140 00:08:22,199 --> 00:08:24,480 man not to talk about baseball? Thing that he knows 141 00:08:24,519 --> 00:08:27,759 a lot about. That's a lot for me to talk about. 142 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:30,079 But just like everything about her and all her notes 143 00:08:30,079 --> 00:08:32,159 to him are intense. It's like, I wish that you 144 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:35,360 would put all these notes into you getting better people 145 00:08:35,759 --> 00:08:39,519 to help around the house in situations where you have 146 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:42,799 to have a professional do it and then not, you know, 147 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:45,120 it's like, put that energy into getting those people to 148 00:08:45,159 --> 00:08:48,120 do that and also get better serveware. Let's talk about 149 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:50,080 the surveware. So she, by the way, is wearing a 150 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:52,120 very sexy black dress, and I do get that she 151 00:08:52,159 --> 00:08:55,200 looks great. The house that we go to for her 152 00:08:55,279 --> 00:08:59,639 friend's cocktail party is massive, huge, huge, very traditional gorgeous. 153 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:01,919 We walk in. Some of the very b shots we 154 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:06,879 get are things either catered or she had the person 155 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:11,519 that owns this house, which are sterling silver food warmers 156 00:09:11,799 --> 00:09:16,039 and buffet like, you know, just fancy ass service wear, 157 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:20,600 which I'm like, Marisa, you need this. This is the 158 00:09:20,639 --> 00:09:23,080 exact thing you need so when your friends and family 159 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:28,080 come over, you serve them hot baked city that you 160 00:09:28,159 --> 00:09:32,320 removed from that tinfoil situation. You're just pretending that you cooked, 161 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,559 you know what I'm saying. Anyway, but we do are 162 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:42,200 going to get more about her cooking coming up. So 163 00:09:42,279 --> 00:09:45,600 they seem to separate very early on, which you know, 164 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:47,919 is the course of this party. And he's being inundated 165 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,080 by this blonde moment in this coral dress and like 166 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:52,799 her husband and like various other people, and they're asking 167 00:09:52,879 --> 00:09:57,360 him questions like do you like Meerica? And he's like yeah, 168 00:09:57,399 --> 00:10:00,840 of course. Can you imagine him being like, no, bitch, 169 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:04,879 you women, that's what you have here anyway? No, But 170 00:10:04,919 --> 00:10:08,200 he's like yeah. And then they're like do you cook? 171 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:11,679 Does she cook? Who cooks in your household? You know? Anyway? 172 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:13,919 And he's like, well, she does. And at first I 173 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,360 was scared because I thought blondes don't cook. And when 174 00:10:17,399 --> 00:10:21,840 he says that, the men at the party love him 175 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:26,360 because one of the other tentacles and conversations amongst men 176 00:10:26,759 --> 00:10:38,639 is misogyny. He sports misogyny cars. It's like kind of 177 00:10:38,879 --> 00:10:44,559 me watches, I don't know what do you think? Anyway? Okay, 178 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:50,399 So the blonde woman that he's talking to is like, aha, 179 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:53,279 you got me there, you know, ha ha. And then 180 00:10:53,399 --> 00:10:59,240 some other guy off camera is like, so, uh, what 181 00:10:59,279 --> 00:11:04,320 would you do here, Edwin? Talking about of course, what 182 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:09,840 Edward would just do career wise, I guess in America 183 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:12,600 and just a couple of things. Edwin is such a 184 00:11:12,639 --> 00:11:16,679 funny name. Not funny name. If you if your name Edwin. 185 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:18,559 I'm not saying your name is funny in itself. It's 186 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:22,639 just like that Edward was changed to Edwin. Oh what 187 00:11:22,639 --> 00:11:29,679 would you do with Dwin? Hey? Edwin? Would you do? 188 00:11:30,879 --> 00:11:33,039 I want to know what your plans are in America? 189 00:11:33,759 --> 00:11:36,679 Name freedom? Are you going to try and work on 190 00:11:36,759 --> 00:11:40,960 the mechanic? What are you gonna do? Edwin? Edwin? I 191 00:11:41,039 --> 00:11:45,759 mean Edwin just sounds so uk like these are my sons, 192 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:52,559 Charles and Edwin, Charles Edwin Curtsey for the people I 193 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:56,639 don't know, just made laugh. Okay, So God was like, okay, 194 00:11:57,639 --> 00:12:01,639 everything about this party? These people like please, I can't like, 195 00:12:03,879 --> 00:12:05,399 I don't know, like none of this is fun. Like 196 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,919 she's overdressed for this party a hund do percent in 197 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:12,200 like Pennsylvania. I realize she's stressed, like if she's gonna 198 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,679 go out to New York, I guess, or like you know, 199 00:12:15,159 --> 00:12:17,840 like Vegas, Like this is like too sexy of a dress? 200 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:22,320 What looks like this backyard? Nice cocktail party? For sure? Nice? 201 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:26,279 It's just that you know, it's there's here's what I say. 202 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,480 There's no need for you to be that sexy for 203 00:12:29,639 --> 00:12:34,200 this environment with all of these like couples, you can 204 00:12:34,279 --> 00:12:36,639 be like there's a little more chill, a little more comfortable, 205 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:39,360 Like there's a part of her that really wants to 206 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:44,440 project and very much cares what other people think. Also, 207 00:12:44,639 --> 00:12:48,679 she is so obsessed with like what the people I 208 00:12:48,799 --> 00:12:51,879 do and hang out with, what they talk about and 209 00:12:51,879 --> 00:12:55,200 what they're interested in. And it's like, all right, you're 210 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:58,759 you know you're. But your stepdad worked in bridal stuff 211 00:12:58,799 --> 00:13:01,080 like started David's Bride. Then he worked there as a 212 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:09,159 CEO NEPO like Bridal Baby, and then like okay, which 213 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:10,840 was great. You know, God bless we all. You know, 214 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:12,879 it's a nice inn. I'm just saying it's a nice 215 00:13:12,879 --> 00:13:14,759 in I'm happy for you. And then you know, you 216 00:13:14,799 --> 00:13:16,799 worked God bless I client fields for like what seems 217 00:13:16,799 --> 00:13:19,679 like two seconds. God bless. But then at the same time, 218 00:13:21,879 --> 00:13:24,679 I'm I'm confused, why, like you being like a bar 219 00:13:24,879 --> 00:13:30,879 method basic instructor is making you so far beyond and 220 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:37,399 Edwin just getting Edward's life conversation topics ability to understand, 221 00:13:39,759 --> 00:13:43,240 I wonder, and this is what I mean, like how 222 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:47,639 much did they talk on the phone? She doesn't she 223 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:50,440 She in her like early episode, she was like I 224 00:13:50,519 --> 00:13:53,039 met him and then we talked a lot, like you know, 225 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:57,360 I came back a bunch and then we just you know, 226 00:13:57,399 --> 00:13:59,879 stopped talking. We're out of touch. And then I rano 227 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:02,679 went traveling again and randomly texted him, and then we 228 00:14:02,759 --> 00:14:05,159 started talking again. And I guess I want to know, 229 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:10,039 were they the kind of couple that talked on the 230 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:12,879 phone or facetimed multiple times a day and or at 231 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:14,840 night for like an hour or something like that. And 232 00:14:14,919 --> 00:14:19,480 the reason why is what are you talking about in 233 00:14:19,519 --> 00:14:29,120 those phone conversations? Are you just like superficially talking back 234 00:14:29,159 --> 00:14:32,279 and forth or just talking about how hot you guys 235 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:34,600 are you think you guys are to each other, or 236 00:14:34,679 --> 00:14:38,159 reminiscing about sex times in the past, or I guess 237 00:14:38,399 --> 00:14:42,000 planning your sex CapAids in the future. Like was there 238 00:14:42,039 --> 00:14:46,960 no intellectual stimulation or just like connection that happened over 239 00:14:47,919 --> 00:14:50,440 I don't know values that you guys have or I 240 00:14:50,519 --> 00:14:54,879 already mentioned conversation topics. We definitely know it wasn't baseball. Spiritually, 241 00:14:54,879 --> 00:15:02,639 like you know, I don't know spirituality, values, family, I 242 00:15:02,639 --> 00:15:05,759 don't know. Did you guys just not talk on the 243 00:15:05,759 --> 00:15:08,360 phone that much or was it just not deep? Because 244 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:12,240 I want to say, like, this whole next part is 245 00:15:12,279 --> 00:15:17,919 about her saying that she intellectually needs something that he's 246 00:15:18,039 --> 00:15:27,000 not providing, and I want to know what that looks like, 247 00:15:31,399 --> 00:15:33,960 because I can't imagine that she needs to like I can't. 248 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:37,440 It seems like through her ex husband. Also, she has 249 00:15:37,559 --> 00:15:47,399 like a certain type and they're not like rocket scientists anyway, 250 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:49,159 God bless you know her. One of her friends is 251 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:50,879 her wealth manager, and one of her friends is like 252 00:15:50,919 --> 00:15:54,639 an insurance guy, you know, And definitely Edward's like, oh, 253 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:56,559 these are people that I would be serving in the 254 00:15:56,600 --> 00:16:03,360 dr And he's talking about hitting baseball. Something's in a cage, 255 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:04,919 and then she walks up and he's talking about it. 256 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:06,840 We think where she's gonna get really upset, but she's 257 00:16:06,879 --> 00:16:11,440 like whatever about it. She has her girl time where 258 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:13,639 she really lets loose, and this is where she says 259 00:16:13,679 --> 00:16:17,039 a whole bunch of things like that he is just 260 00:16:18,879 --> 00:16:24,720 not culturally experienced, and she wonders if, and often has 261 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:27,080 been thinking that she's made a mistake, if she'll ever 262 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:31,840 be satisfied with his intellectual capability to like stimulate her 263 00:16:31,879 --> 00:16:39,080 and be with her, you know, She's like, I wonder 264 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:45,200 if I'm just going to regret all this. I mean 265 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:47,879 to him all the time, and her friends are like, 266 00:16:48,159 --> 00:16:50,919 oh my god, stop being mean to yourself, girl, No, 267 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,440 and then she's just like, you, guys, right, I am 268 00:16:53,480 --> 00:16:56,200 being so mean to myself. I'm being mean to myself, 269 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:58,039 but I'm being mean to him, And so why am 270 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:01,159 I so mean to him? And me? Why am I mean? Me? Nas? 271 00:17:01,159 --> 00:17:08,960 And stopping me? Nas me? Okay? It's crazy, crazy, crazy crazy, 272 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:10,920 Like there's a bunch of betties around her looking at her, 273 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,319 and they're just like, yeah, that's you know, like you 274 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:16,119 really are so different, Like I've never seen you like this, 275 00:17:16,240 --> 00:17:19,799 like literally like you're you're you look slutty, you know, 276 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,039 like why do you what do you want? You know? 277 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:24,720 Like she's I don't know. It's just so interesting. I'm like, 278 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:27,799 what is this friend circle like in real life? Because 279 00:17:28,119 --> 00:17:34,599 this group of women travel all the time together. They 280 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:36,920 spend whoever amount of money. I wonder if they all 281 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,160 fly like first class, they all get like a PJ 282 00:17:40,279 --> 00:17:42,599 and then go on girls trips, And of course, one 283 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:46,319 of the girl's trips resulted in Edward being here. But 284 00:17:48,920 --> 00:17:51,720 it's such a funny situation where it's like, is it 285 00:17:51,839 --> 00:17:55,279 that are all these people on the same block and 286 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:57,559 the same could sac like how do they all know 287 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:01,319 each other? Or some bar method ladies are people part 288 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:03,559 of a friend group where those guys know each other, 289 00:18:03,839 --> 00:18:06,279 you know, like what is holding these people together? Is 290 00:18:06,279 --> 00:18:12,720 it just the neighborhood. So basically, Marissa is like, I'm 291 00:18:12,799 --> 00:18:16,279 changed and I don't like the person I am, and 292 00:18:16,759 --> 00:18:19,680 isn't your partner is supposed to bring out the best 293 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:21,680 part of you, Well, this person is bringing out the 294 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:23,160 worst part of me. So I have to get rid 295 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:26,440 of him because I know I'm great usually, so it's 296 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:32,720 his fault that I'm horrible to him, and then me 297 00:18:32,759 --> 00:18:36,799 talking about it and being so mean about it about myself, 298 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:45,000 it's also being mean to me. Okay, god bless She's like, 299 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:48,079 will he ever be that guy that I can take 300 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:52,200 to a black tie event or a rodeo, not that 301 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:53,640 I ever go to rodeos, And it's like, yeah, he 302 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:55,839 absolutely can't take him to a rodeo first of all, 303 00:18:56,039 --> 00:18:57,720 and you can't take him to a black tie event. 304 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:00,799 He's like a handsome, strapping man that he's dressed totally 305 00:19:00,839 --> 00:19:03,440 fine for this and also by the way a lot 306 00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:06,240 of dudes need to like rent a black tie suit 307 00:19:06,279 --> 00:19:09,640 for a black tie event, so you would just go 308 00:19:10,039 --> 00:19:14,279 and rent him a black tie suit. That's like his measurements. 309 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:19,960 That's one of the unfortunate advantages that I have to 310 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:23,680 succumb to for some reason. Like as a female or 311 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:29,440 as someone who presents female, both you have. You have 312 00:19:29,519 --> 00:19:32,200 a lot of like looks, you have a lot of 313 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:35,039 like dresses. You look a lot of like that kind 314 00:19:35,039 --> 00:19:37,000 of thing like, and if you go to a black 315 00:19:37,039 --> 00:19:40,039 tie gala, like you really can only wear a couple 316 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:44,240 over and over again before people are like whm, and 317 00:19:44,279 --> 00:19:46,799 you usually own them, Like, you definitely can rent them, 318 00:19:46,839 --> 00:19:48,480 but you know, a lot more people, a lot of 319 00:19:48,519 --> 00:19:52,640 more ladies or friend presenting own stuff like that, where 320 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:57,559 dudes or men presenting peeps can just rent them. They 321 00:19:57,599 --> 00:20:03,640 all look the exact same, just a black guy suit 322 00:20:04,839 --> 00:20:08,599 with whatever accoutrements in the neck part they want. That's 323 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:10,240 just all all it has to do is just be 324 00:20:10,319 --> 00:20:15,680 black and tailored to them. Oh wow, you know, and 325 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,240 you just wear the same thing over and over again. 326 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:19,680 It's like it's the un It's funny. It's like we 327 00:20:19,799 --> 00:20:22,480 think about uniforms for schools all the time, Like at 328 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:26,440 the school school girl uniform, I can't talk Catholic school 329 00:20:26,519 --> 00:20:31,680 girl uniform, and I wore that uniform a lot, And 330 00:20:31,799 --> 00:20:39,000 yet different schools had different colors. But men remote Again, 331 00:20:39,039 --> 00:20:41,599 all that said before, when they go to events, they 332 00:20:41,599 --> 00:20:46,519 had the exact same uniform usually isn't that crazy? Okay anyway, 333 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:48,960 and they get rended, as I already said, so crazy, 334 00:20:49,079 --> 00:20:56,160 So great for them, great, good for you, Okay. She 335 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,559 just really is leading into the fact that she feels 336 00:20:58,559 --> 00:21:02,799 like she made a mistake and and because of that, 337 00:21:03,279 --> 00:21:06,519 it was a whole conversation with people to even get 338 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:08,960 people to be on board with him, with him being 339 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:11,240 over here, with like her bringing him here. So now 340 00:21:11,279 --> 00:21:15,640 she's afraid of people judging her about that. Oh God, 341 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:25,319 poor Marissa, Poor Marissa, Marisa, so sad for you. And 342 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:27,440 she's like, even like, I don't even understand this guy's 343 00:21:27,519 --> 00:21:29,240 so nice to me. All he wants to do is 344 00:21:29,279 --> 00:21:32,400 fuck me. He loves me so much. He'll eat my 345 00:21:32,519 --> 00:21:35,200 like dry ass chicken and steak or whatever. And I 346 00:21:35,319 --> 00:21:38,759 mean that, you know, theoretically, and you know figuraily, you 347 00:21:38,839 --> 00:21:40,000 know what I mean all of it. And at the 348 00:21:40,039 --> 00:21:42,920 same time, it's like, I'm so cold. I was just 349 00:21:43,039 --> 00:21:46,599 this most disgusting hard boiled eggs and he takes it all, 350 00:21:46,759 --> 00:21:53,960 takes it, and then I just I don't want him now. 351 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:58,799 Would it be horrible if she was like, you know who, 352 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:03,079 I do want my ex husband now? He doesn't fit 353 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,920 the bill. I do think it maybe her ex husband 354 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:08,279 would be like somewhat around at a rodeo. I don't know 355 00:22:08,279 --> 00:22:10,720 why she's said the rodeo situation. I don't know if 356 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:15,559 she's just like, here's the thing, remember how cowboys were 357 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:19,119 the hottest thing in a certain part of like twenty 358 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:24,680 twenty five. Is this that is she just like been 359 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:28,559 scrolling on TikTok and like cowboys and cowboying has been 360 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:31,119 like on a algorithm, and she's like, that's what I want. 361 00:22:31,599 --> 00:22:38,440 Yellowstone Bella hadide Bellahdide has a cowboy. I want a cowboy. 362 00:22:38,759 --> 00:22:46,359 I'm Marisa, So we both a supermodels deserve a skinny 363 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:57,400 supermodels doing bar riding cowboys. So anyways, uh, okay, I'm 364 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:02,319 so sorry, truly, am I you know whatever? A little bit. Okay, 365 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,880 let's move on to Katie and Josh. This can be 366 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:10,519 a long hard too. So her family is having Easter 367 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:15,240 for all of them, and before they get there, he 368 00:23:15,279 --> 00:23:18,759 says he's going to cook for them a mint sauce 369 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:24,119 and sausage roll, so her mom needs the grocery list. 370 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:29,640 I found this interesting. I found this interesting. I sometimes 371 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:37,279 I think it's interesting when guests cook for hosts in 372 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:44,599 their home, not in the the following capacities makes sense 373 00:23:44,599 --> 00:23:48,880 for me. He seems to be cooking this for them, 374 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:50,720 like this for a dinner. It doesn't feel like he's 375 00:23:50,759 --> 00:23:53,160 cooking it, or maybe I don't understand. It's just a 376 00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,039 side of one of the Easter things. And he's like, yeah, 377 00:23:56,079 --> 00:24:00,519 you guys get the Easter ham and the happen. I 378 00:24:00,559 --> 00:24:06,160 don't know what happens with an Easter potato potatoes. And 379 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:09,720 I'll get the sausage roll with mint sauce. And they 380 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:13,079 were like, yeah, you get that. Like sausage rolled mint 381 00:24:13,079 --> 00:24:16,599 sauce doesn't even sound something that we eat here now. 382 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,319 Mint sauce is interesting in itself, Like the only time 383 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:22,079 I hear of anyone eating mint sauce is my dad. 384 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:27,319 He'll eat mint jelly with cork chops, So what you 385 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:30,599 do I think so or it was something that he 386 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,440 used to do like, at least what feels like fifteen 387 00:24:33,519 --> 00:24:40,000 years ago. If I was Katie's mom, M'd be like, Oh, 388 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,319 it's okay, Moundy, we got it. Don't worry. You're our 389 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,359 guest to we got it. Just sit back, relax, make 390 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,279 our daughter happy. She already asks a bunch out of you, 391 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,400 so just pay attention to her, give her attention, pay 392 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:56,119 attention to her. Get her off our hands. That's what 393 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,119 we're asking. That's all we need. That's all you need 394 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:03,519 to continue to do. We'll get everything from here. So anyway, 395 00:25:03,519 --> 00:25:06,720 God bless. Before she gets there, though, Katie drops the 396 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:11,039 fact that she's very Luthrin, very Luthrim and wants her 397 00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:16,799 kids to go Lutheran or go bust, but she definitely 398 00:25:16,839 --> 00:25:19,359 wants them all to go to church. She's like, huh really, 399 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,920 She's like, yep, and it's a deal breaker if you 400 00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,480 say no. And at this point we're like, well you 401 00:25:23,559 --> 00:25:25,200 just try to say pick up things out of the 402 00:25:26,319 --> 00:25:29,160 ether and being like it's a deal breaker, you know 403 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:36,960 what I need? I need someone who thought Clueless was 404 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,319 the best movie of all time. Deal breaker. I mean, 405 00:25:39,319 --> 00:25:40,799 that is the best movie of all time. But like 406 00:25:40,799 --> 00:25:42,680 I'm trying to think of like somebody would just be like, oh, 407 00:25:42,759 --> 00:25:45,440 that's arbitrary. I mean know, I know that religion is 408 00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:47,880 an arbitrary, but she doesn't seem to be anyone who's 409 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,079 like paid a lot of attention to it thus far 410 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:59,359 or uses it or talks about it ever. Hever, So 411 00:26:01,079 --> 00:26:03,039 she's like it's a deal breaker though, so you know what, 412 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:05,440 get out now. But she is like, I did talk 413 00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:10,319 about this once. He's like, yeah, early on, I wonder 414 00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,079 how she did talk about it, Like if she was like, hey, Josh, 415 00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:15,440 just so you know, if it ever comes up, it's 416 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,720 incredibly important that we always stay Lutheran, that you become 417 00:26:18,759 --> 00:26:20,680 Lutheran or at least we go to church sometimes, and 418 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,799 if we ever have kids, they're gonna be Lutheran. Period. 419 00:26:24,039 --> 00:26:28,119 So remember this. If that conversation happened, then God bless her. 420 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,240 She did it. She did what she would had to do. 421 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:37,880 She communicated. But in this moment, he's like, you don't 422 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:47,039 go to church regularly at all, he says, So we 423 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,319 realize what we think is true, which is that she 424 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:53,319 doesn't go to church regularly though at all. So like 425 00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,640 it's like this, I don't go to Catholic church regularly 426 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:03,640 at all. If I was to get married, would I 427 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,759 kind of like to get married a Catholic church? Yes? 428 00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,160 Why because the one I want to get married into, 429 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:13,000 which is like Melchites Byzantine, like in the valley, is gorgeous. 430 00:27:13,079 --> 00:27:19,240 It's not beige nothing, It's not boring. I'm not you know, 431 00:27:19,279 --> 00:27:21,519 there's a lot of great looking Catholic churches, and there's 432 00:27:21,559 --> 00:27:23,960 a lot of like whatever looking Catholic churches. And there's 433 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,960 a lot of like Gothic looking Catholic churches, truly beautiful ones. 434 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,039 This one's like a Byzantine one. It's crazy, it's gorgeous. 435 00:27:30,079 --> 00:27:31,599 So I wouldn't want to get married there. Plus I 436 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:33,039 have history. I'm not saying I have to, but I'm 437 00:27:33,039 --> 00:27:34,400 saying I would like to. Would I got want to. 438 00:27:34,559 --> 00:27:36,480 I wouldn't want to get married in any other church 439 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,559 unless it was like some for some reason, super beautiful 440 00:27:39,599 --> 00:27:42,119 Catholic church. But other than that, like, no, I'm not 441 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,400 going to ride it. I'm not gonna be Lutheran, and 442 00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:50,480 I'm definitely not gonna be what Asia is. Period. So 443 00:27:50,599 --> 00:27:56,839 all that to say, but you know, I wouldn't make 444 00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:59,799 someone go to church with me if that person didn't 445 00:27:59,839 --> 00:28:04,039 want to and I would kind of want to, baby, 446 00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,839 I'm sorry, baptize my kids just because this sounds horrible 447 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:13,319 because I want them to have a godparent. Okay, well, whatever, Goupless, 448 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,880 this is the Catholic you know. So I'm a culturally Catholic. 449 00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:17,720 That's fine. But Dna said that and I was like, oh, yeah, 450 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,319 that's what I am. I'm definitely culturally Catholic. Okay, Goupless, 451 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,400 but you know I'm not. Whatever. Okay, get out of this, Chris, 452 00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,599 stop talking about it. Okay. Good. The next morning, they 453 00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,720 are rushing to get to the airport and they have 454 00:28:29,759 --> 00:28:31,160 one of those like kind of tickets where you can 455 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:33,200 just change your flight, like your number, real fast, like 456 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:36,799 the like I guess there's like, you know, multiple flights 457 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,160 leaving because they're in Portland and they had to just 458 00:28:39,279 --> 00:28:42,119 fly down to what looks like San France Airport, so 459 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:45,559 you know, can you imagine there's probably like flights every 460 00:28:45,599 --> 00:28:51,279 fifteen minutes. And she's taking her time because this is 461 00:28:52,319 --> 00:28:55,400 highly triggering for her the transition, or at least it 462 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,839 is for me, and I get it, but packing and 463 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,440 triggering and having to get to there by certain time 464 00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:04,279 now also breaking down and having to leave your place, 465 00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:09,160 you know, like especially for a couple of days, means 466 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:15,279 cleaning out refrigerator and taking out the trash and maybe 467 00:29:15,319 --> 00:29:17,519 putting away the things that you were packing from the 468 00:29:17,599 --> 00:29:19,240 night before or if you were packing. You have to like, 469 00:29:19,279 --> 00:29:21,799 you know, like try and make your place look livable 470 00:29:21,839 --> 00:29:25,559 and not like torn asunder. You know all that now 471 00:29:25,599 --> 00:29:29,759 we all know, and if you're listening to this, Katie, 472 00:29:30,759 --> 00:29:34,720 it is imperative that us folks that don't love that 473 00:29:34,839 --> 00:29:41,680 executive functioning do things the night before, or that we 474 00:29:41,839 --> 00:29:48,400 go to bed cleanly, happily, serenely knowing that almost all 475 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:53,519 of our work is done and that work hopefully has 476 00:29:53,559 --> 00:29:57,079 been checked off from like a check off list, an 477 00:29:57,119 --> 00:29:59,440 anton check off list, No, like where you've had a 478 00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,440 to do list where you've really been astute about what 479 00:30:02,519 --> 00:30:04,759 you've packed, because you know, you're like, do I have 480 00:30:04,799 --> 00:30:08,559 my charges? Do I have my meds? Do I have meds? Katie? 481 00:30:09,119 --> 00:30:10,799 Do I have you know, like whatever, do I have 482 00:30:10,839 --> 00:30:13,680 my underwear? All the things? Do I have in place? 483 00:30:15,319 --> 00:30:19,000 Put that all together, break down whatever you can in 484 00:30:19,039 --> 00:30:23,319 your apartment, or get it settled so that you can 485 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,279 run and do it in the morning after. I know, 486 00:30:25,319 --> 00:30:26,799 like you know, like sometimes like taking out your trash, 487 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,839 you have to like wait until the moment you leave 488 00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:33,079 because you have trash. We're trash making people. So Josh 489 00:30:33,119 --> 00:30:36,359 is upset because she has expressed that she has these 490 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,559 issues and he has never lived it day to day 491 00:30:39,599 --> 00:30:43,119 to know how it manifests. So it manifests in things 492 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,599 like this where he is upset and he leaves to 493 00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:48,960 go get a donut because he's been ready and he 494 00:30:49,039 --> 00:30:50,920 told her to be ready on time and she was, 495 00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,759 what not ready on time? So she got mad at 496 00:30:53,799 --> 00:30:55,440 him in short with him and was like, you could 497 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,720 just change it, asshole, Just fucking change the flight. And 498 00:30:58,759 --> 00:31:01,039 then he does, and then he's still being an asshole 499 00:31:01,039 --> 00:31:02,759 and she's like, I don't get it because now that 500 00:31:02,799 --> 00:31:05,200 he's changed the flight, we're gonna be there so early. 501 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:11,079 So just live and let live live and let die, 502 00:31:11,319 --> 00:31:14,359 you know, I don't know. But they talk in the 503 00:31:14,359 --> 00:31:18,359 airport and he's like, you need to just calm the 504 00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:23,680 fuck down. She's like, Okay, I apologize. I get it. 505 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:35,480 She seemingly doesn't take accountability for the ways in which 506 00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:42,359 her dysfunction manifests and affects other people. And we are 507 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:48,640 a social beings so like, surely what we do and 508 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,279 say and the way we say things and the tones 509 00:31:51,519 --> 00:31:55,160 and the words we use, like all of that like 510 00:31:55,359 --> 00:32:00,480 is all read behavior by someone else. And it's interesting 511 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:07,160 to know that you have some you know, challenges or 512 00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:13,519 issues when it comes to obsessive thoughts and that sort 513 00:32:13,519 --> 00:32:19,839 of regimented thinking and not being able to sort of 514 00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:24,079 like let go and let be that is in your 515 00:32:24,119 --> 00:32:28,279 head sort of like you know, is how you see 516 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:34,519 other people and their behavior. But they don't have to 517 00:32:34,559 --> 00:32:38,119 live by your standards and your inner thoughts. They get 518 00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:42,079 to live by themselves. And like you know, like especially 519 00:32:42,079 --> 00:32:47,319 in relationships, you have to sort of find that boundary 520 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:51,000 and appreciate your inner thoughts where you say what you 521 00:32:51,039 --> 00:32:54,480 want to on your mind and you just like you're 522 00:32:54,519 --> 00:32:59,759 like okay, and then you go about your business and 523 00:32:59,799 --> 00:33:02,160 you allow whatever they want to do to be whatever. 524 00:33:02,519 --> 00:33:05,480 And at the same time, you have to also compromise, 525 00:33:05,599 --> 00:33:08,400 because if you tell someone that you're going to do 526 00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:10,480 something or be ready by a certain time, you have 527 00:33:10,519 --> 00:33:14,160 to do that. Now you have to also understand that 528 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,119 you're going to have to be ready in your mind 529 00:33:16,519 --> 00:33:23,839 fifteen minutes before because things always come up always. That's 530 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:29,359 the yeah always. I mean I wonder if there's some 531 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,160 like executive Functioning manual where you'd like, first things first, 532 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,839 get air tags on anything you possibly can that's important 533 00:33:35,839 --> 00:33:40,279 to you, your phone, your wallet, your sorry phone, your keys, 534 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:45,599 your wallet, your god bless any gym bag, your computer, 535 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,319 you know bag, but also your computer being there but 536 00:33:48,359 --> 00:33:52,759 if it's closed or whatever. And also, like I said, 537 00:33:53,039 --> 00:33:55,960 packing for everything that night before, picking out outfits the 538 00:33:56,039 --> 00:33:59,279 night before, pre steaming or doing anything like making sure 539 00:33:59,319 --> 00:34:01,319 whatever you have to do you know where is ready 540 00:34:01,319 --> 00:34:07,400 the night before, paying bills on auto pay as much 541 00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:12,920 as you possibly can, designating time throughout your week as 542 00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:14,800 like a time scheduled thing for you to do certain 543 00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,800 things and adhering to them like the Bible, so that 544 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:20,400 they get done, and also inserting time to rest so 545 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:23,079 you're not overstimulated and overworked. I don't know, you gotta 546 00:34:23,079 --> 00:34:26,119 really do all those things and then sleep enough. I'm 547 00:34:26,119 --> 00:34:29,480 going to water and some social time and some vitamin 548 00:34:29,559 --> 00:34:34,480 D from the sun, some movement. Okay, So they lay 549 00:34:34,559 --> 00:34:37,360 in San Jose Airport and we meet her mama where 550 00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,639 I've been. We've been so excited to meet her parents. 551 00:34:39,679 --> 00:34:42,960 Also to be like, what's happening here because who's co 552 00:34:43,119 --> 00:34:45,800 siting this and who's not saying what we've been screaming. 553 00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,119 And the truth of the matter is, now we know 554 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:53,400 she has parents. They understand they've been saying the things 555 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,480 that we've been saying. She either hears it or doesn't 556 00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:59,039 hear it, or doesn't subscribe like any sort of like 557 00:34:59,599 --> 00:35:07,559 important to it. Therein lies the rub okay. Her mom 558 00:35:07,679 --> 00:35:09,760 was like, as a kid, let me tell you. I 559 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:10,960 get it. I mean I want to tell you, but 560 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:13,599 I mean I will tell you right now. She was super, 561 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:19,599 super bossy, and I like Josh for her because she's 562 00:35:19,639 --> 00:35:22,000 always asked obviously I had to tell people how things 563 00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:25,119 were and how things should be. But he seems to 564 00:35:25,159 --> 00:35:28,760 make her think less of herself and more towards others. 565 00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,239 She's just like a bossy ass kid. And that was 566 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,000 a character flaw that she has had her entire life. 567 00:35:35,559 --> 00:35:40,000 And so her mom's like, if you don't watch out 568 00:35:41,039 --> 00:35:43,039 with this bad behavior, with what you've told me that 569 00:35:43,119 --> 00:35:45,679 you did for your birthday, which was tequila and kissing people, 570 00:35:45,679 --> 00:35:48,920 if you don't fucking stop that, you're gonna hurt someone. 571 00:35:49,559 --> 00:35:56,679 And that's when Katie says, like murder now we are 572 00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:59,719 rational people, so we have to assume that that is 573 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:04,599 in fact dark humor. Is it dark humor meant to 574 00:36:04,679 --> 00:36:08,880 distract from the kind of real conversation we're happening right now. 575 00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:16,119 Maybe she plays it so dryly that you know, her 576 00:36:16,119 --> 00:36:19,079 mom is like, no, maybe not no, not murdered, like 577 00:36:19,199 --> 00:36:23,760 hurting someone's feelings spiritually, And she's like, oh, it's so 578 00:36:27,079 --> 00:36:29,920 on the nose for like a sort of naive person 579 00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,440 that you couldn't imagine it to be true, that she 580 00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:38,360 wouldn't think that like her behavior would affect anyone badly. Besides, 581 00:36:38,639 --> 00:36:40,760 in her only option was like if she had murdered 582 00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:44,320 someone being too drunk, would she also considered could be 583 00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:54,679 a possibility that was the first possibility is a little crazy. 584 00:36:54,800 --> 00:37:02,000 So her family are followers, like she said, which is 585 00:37:02,039 --> 00:37:05,599 like horrible but brillianto him. And their house is really 586 00:37:05,639 --> 00:37:07,760 really nice. I mean obviously they have like you know, 587 00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:12,400 some financial security there. You know, there's brick, there's Spanish Chile, 588 00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:17,840 and her parents have been knowing that she can be 589 00:37:19,119 --> 00:37:23,000 over the top too much. Her mom says that she's 590 00:37:23,039 --> 00:37:26,239 lost multiple friends, that she's just too much and people 591 00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,960 just get sick of it. Her dad is like, you know, 592 00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,000 it's great to have her for the first two or 593 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:35,480 three days because she's energetic and Mike flyun fun lively. 594 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,039 But then after that third day, how do You're just like, 595 00:37:38,119 --> 00:37:41,079 get them out of here. I want to watch TV 596 00:37:41,159 --> 00:37:42,559 and piece I don't want to hear it. I don't 597 00:37:42,559 --> 00:37:45,960 want to have to deal with you, which I thought 598 00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:51,199 was interesting. Yeah, they're all like we have probably been 599 00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,800 through her shenanigans and how to deal with her, and 600 00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:57,159 they're probably very happy she doesn't live amongst them. I'm 601 00:37:57,159 --> 00:38:02,000 surprised they've all allowed themselves to be on the show. Definitely. 602 00:38:02,039 --> 00:38:08,559 Obviously they're like, Josh, please stay please, you know, if 603 00:38:08,559 --> 00:38:11,480 this is a rodeo, honey, I mean, please ride this bull. 604 00:38:11,599 --> 00:38:13,159 You know what I'm saying, like, get her, you know, 605 00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,960 to just chill out, to think of other people, teach 606 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:22,679 her the ways, you know, And he seemingly knows that 607 00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:25,920 he's with someone who is who needs that on like 608 00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:34,760 a visceral level, Like it's like teaching someone who hopefully 609 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:40,719 cares and wants to be taught how to consider others others, 610 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,960 But it's it's I don't know enough about like OCD 611 00:38:45,199 --> 00:38:48,000 or what not. To understand like or what other things 612 00:38:48,039 --> 00:38:55,599 like you know, neiral divergent things can be massaged, you know, 613 00:38:55,800 --> 00:39:02,000 like I've seen on like you know, like I love 614 00:39:02,039 --> 00:39:07,559 on the Spectrum show where people on the show are 615 00:39:09,559 --> 00:39:17,159 seemingly cognitive behaviorally guided towards decision making or changing their 616 00:39:17,199 --> 00:39:22,679 thought patterns to consider others and be a little more 617 00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:27,360 like socially upped in that way. And I wonder what 618 00:39:27,599 --> 00:39:32,639 her parents did, like therapy wise, for her seem they 619 00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:36,679 know they her mom is very much like when you drink, 620 00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:42,599 you make bad decisions. And she seemingly told her mom 621 00:39:43,079 --> 00:39:46,599 what her birthday was like in a way that made 622 00:39:46,599 --> 00:39:48,599 it seem like she thought her mom would be like, wow, 623 00:39:48,679 --> 00:39:54,880 you did what girl? No, no, Katie, girl, no, don't 624 00:39:54,920 --> 00:40:04,199 do that. Ough crazy though, Like every time she says that, 625 00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:07,559 you think she's considering that to be the reaction her 626 00:40:07,559 --> 00:40:12,960 mom's like that makes me sad. Makes me sad that 627 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,800 you drank tequila with your fiance present and then try 628 00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:18,920 to make out with other people when this is something 629 00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:20,519 that you know that you have a problem with so 630 00:40:21,039 --> 00:40:24,039 and you haven't changed, makes me sad. And you're telling 631 00:40:24,039 --> 00:40:30,360 me this right now, almost proud of it. She's like, Oh, 632 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:35,559 I'm sorry, I didn't realize it would upset you. And 633 00:40:35,639 --> 00:40:37,800 that's what is weird about it. You're like, what is 634 00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:42,280 Katie's mindset? What's her point of view behind that you 635 00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,920 didn't think it'd be upsetting to your mom? That you 636 00:40:46,039 --> 00:40:50,920 make decisions that are like really cruel and human humiliating 637 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:58,480 for someone to have to deal with And has anyone 638 00:40:58,519 --> 00:41:02,239 ever discussed rehab with you? Because that, I feel like 639 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:05,960 is the next conversation she needs to be in. I 640 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:10,800 mean like i'd be like, Katie, before we before you 641 00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:15,079 get married, do you think that you should go away 642 00:41:15,159 --> 00:41:18,079 and like see if we can nip this in the bud? 643 00:41:18,559 --> 00:41:23,920 Or do you think he can stop drinking? It occurred 644 00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:28,119 to me when he was unpacking at her parents' house. 645 00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:32,320 She was like, do you need anything from me? And 646 00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:34,039 he was like, just a kiss maybe, and then she 647 00:41:34,079 --> 00:41:37,400 gave him that kiss. We know that she's insecure, right, 648 00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,039 Like the whole thing about why she wants to make 649 00:41:39,079 --> 00:41:41,519 go with people is because she sometimes feels insecure and 650 00:41:41,599 --> 00:41:44,880 bar situations, specifically of course, with alcohol, where she then 651 00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:49,400 wants to feel better by putting her lips on other people. 652 00:41:50,519 --> 00:41:56,239 But he's also insecure, and I think that that common 653 00:41:56,320 --> 00:42:02,440 denominator is the common denominator of their entire relationship, is 654 00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,840 that they both feed a need for each other, is 655 00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:11,440 that they're both insecure people, and together they're less and 656 00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:16,119 secure because they, you know, make each other feel whole good. 657 00:42:16,639 --> 00:42:27,679 Right scene, fucked loved buity boops. Okay, so, oh my god, 658 00:42:28,159 --> 00:42:31,119 we have so many more people to talk about. Okay, 659 00:42:33,559 --> 00:42:36,119 all right, my loves. That means this is the end 660 00:42:36,119 --> 00:42:39,480 of part one. Thank you so much for listening. If 661 00:42:39,519 --> 00:42:41,199 you have a yet, please go ahead give me five 662 00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:44,199 stars wherever you listen to podcasts, as well as follow me. 663 00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:49,360 I'm at Chris Elfarah on TikTok, on Instagram, on YouTube. 664 00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,519 Speaker 2: Of course, I have a Facebook. You can like my 665 00:42:51,599 --> 00:42:54,559 page Chris Farrah or join my group Vanity Farah there 666 00:42:55,159 --> 00:42:57,800 and at the same time give me five dollars on 667 00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:01,920 patreon dot com slash Farah. Thank you guys so much. 668 00:43:02,599 --> 00:43:05,480 All right, babes, I will talk to you later and 669 00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:07,079 go ahead listen to part too. 670 00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:09,239 Speaker 1: Bye.