WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.440 --> 00:00:01.840 Taboo science. 2 00:00:08.759 --> 00:00:12.800 When social psychologist Justin Leigh Miller surveyed more than four 3 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:18.359 thousand Americans about their sexual fantasies, he noticed one overarching 4 00:00:18.440 --> 00:00:21.800 theme to the dirty stuff in our heads, breaking the 5 00:00:21.879 --> 00:00:28.320 rules is sexy. More accurately, he wrote, quote, the American 6 00:00:28.399 --> 00:00:32.079 ID is characterized by desires to break free from cultural 7 00:00:32.119 --> 00:00:36.960 norms and sexual restraints. End quote. You know, cultural norms 8 00:00:37.039 --> 00:00:39.479 like the idea that sex is only supposed to involve 9 00:00:39.520 --> 00:00:42.799 a penis in a vagina, that it's only for making babies, 10 00:00:43.560 --> 00:00:45.920 and that it's only to be done within a monogamous, 11 00:00:45.920 --> 00:00:52.280 heterosexual human marriage in private. But just like your parents 12 00:00:52.320 --> 00:00:56.280 telling you not to curse makes cursing irresistible, it seems 13 00:00:56.320 --> 00:00:59.000 as though society telling us that this is the only 14 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:02.479 way sex should b makes a lot of things outside 15 00:01:02.520 --> 00:01:08.200 those requirements incredibly hot. This mini series has already covered 16 00:01:08.239 --> 00:01:12.319 many kinks like this. BDSM lets people play with the 17 00:01:12.359 --> 00:01:15.040 idea that a normal sex life should be gentle in 18 00:01:15.079 --> 00:01:19.599 between two equally empowered parties. Cuckholding plays with the idea 19 00:01:19.680 --> 00:01:23.079 that a normal relationship is monogamous and sex outside of 20 00:01:23.079 --> 00:01:26.640 that is a violation. Pop play and furry fetishes, and 21 00:01:26.799 --> 00:01:30.560 even age play toy with the assumed expectation that everyone 22 00:01:30.599 --> 00:01:34.120 in a sexual encounter should act like a grown human adult. 23 00:01:35.000 --> 00:01:37.879 The taboos around these kinks are what make them attractive 24 00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:41.200 to people, and today we're going to learn about seven 25 00:01:41.280 --> 00:01:45.719 other kinks that fit that category two. Because human sexuality 26 00:01:45.879 --> 00:01:49.920 is diverse, and understanding that diversity helps us understand each 27 00:01:49.959 --> 00:01:54.000 other a little better. I'm Ashley Hamer, and this is 28 00:01:54.040 --> 00:01:57.840 Taboo Science, the podcast that answers the questions you're not 29 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:21.560 allowed to ask. For long time listeners, I need to 30 00:02:21.560 --> 00:02:23.479 preface this episode to say that it's going to be 31 00:02:23.520 --> 00:02:26.199 a little different from what you're used to. Many of 32 00:02:26.240 --> 00:02:29.599 these kinks have little to no scientific research behind them, 33 00:02:29.759 --> 00:02:33.439 let alone scientific experts who can explain them, so this 34 00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:36.759 episode will mostly just be me sharing what research I can. 35 00:02:38.039 --> 00:02:40.800 Remember that the sexual kinks and fetishes that get the 36 00:02:40.879 --> 00:02:43.800 most funding for research are the ones that are harmful 37 00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:46.840 or illegal, So when a group of people just has 38 00:02:46.879 --> 00:02:50.319 an unusual way they find sexual pleasure, there isn't a 39 00:02:50.319 --> 00:02:54.319 lot of funding available to study them, which is a tragedy. 40 00:02:54.719 --> 00:02:57.680 I think this podcast has taught me that when a 41 00:02:57.719 --> 00:03:01.000 member of a sexual minority can actually learn about themselves 42 00:03:01.080 --> 00:03:04.159 and people like them, they feel less shame and just 43 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:08.680 generally greater well being overall. As sex worker and amateur 44 00:03:08.719 --> 00:03:11.960 researcher Aila said in an earlier episode. 45 00:03:11.719 --> 00:03:14.960 The complete silence on the topic made me feel like 46 00:03:15.039 --> 00:03:18.719 I was deeply fucked up and like completely alienated by 47 00:03:18.719 --> 00:03:20.960 society and like, wow, I am so unusual that people 48 00:03:21.159 --> 00:03:24.039 like won't even acknowledge my existence, Like it's I'm so 49 00:03:24.240 --> 00:03:27.080 rare that this isn't even worth being talked about. And 50 00:03:27.120 --> 00:03:29.159 I think there's something like that going on with sex research, 51 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:32.199 sort of almost spiritually, like if you have a strange 52 00:03:32.199 --> 00:03:34.599 fetish and you want to know more about yourself, it's 53 00:03:34.599 --> 00:03:38.400 dead silence. Nobody knows anything, nobody's bothered to put in 54 00:03:38.439 --> 00:03:41.639 the effort or care to learn about people like you. 55 00:03:42.199 --> 00:03:44.280 And that's just like sad. 56 00:03:45.120 --> 00:03:47.319 So while I'll do my best to get research from 57 00:03:47.319 --> 00:03:51.840 peer reviewed articles, sometimes magazines, blogs and even Reddit are 58 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:54.759 the best sources on these kinks, it's just the way 59 00:03:54.800 --> 00:04:06.080 the world is right now. And with that, I bring 60 00:04:06.120 --> 00:04:12.599 you kink number one. Exhibitionism and voyeurism. You've probably heard 61 00:04:12.599 --> 00:04:17.000 of these. Exhibitionism involves getting sexual arousal from exposing your 62 00:04:17.040 --> 00:04:21.439 genitals to a stranger and Voyeurism involves getting sexual arousal 63 00:04:21.480 --> 00:04:25.759 from secretly watching a stranger, undressing, being naked, or having sex. 64 00:04:26.600 --> 00:04:30.040 These are both considered paraphilias for a few reasons, most 65 00:04:30.040 --> 00:04:32.519 important of which is that they're done to someone else 66 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:37.439 without their consent. Exhibitionism is the older of the two, 67 00:04:37.720 --> 00:04:40.560 at least in written records, since the earliest evidence we 68 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:43.120 have of it dates back to the fifth century BC. 69 00:04:44.000 --> 00:04:47.680 That's when Greek historian Herodotus wrote about the wild party 70 00:04:47.680 --> 00:04:50.759 ships that would take people to this big festival. When 71 00:04:50.800 --> 00:04:53.680 these ships passed by neighboring towns, some of the women 72 00:04:53.759 --> 00:04:58.040 on board would flash the onlookers. We have always been 73 00:04:58.079 --> 00:05:04.120 the same. Exhibitionism was first described medically in eighteen seventy seven, 74 00:05:04.399 --> 00:05:07.920 but voyeurism didn't get its label until the late nineteen sixties. 75 00:05:08.680 --> 00:05:11.600 Its medical definition has changed over the years, and in 76 00:05:11.639 --> 00:05:14.920 the most recent edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual 77 00:05:14.959 --> 00:05:18.040 of Mental Disorders, or the DSM, it was given an 78 00:05:18.079 --> 00:05:22.120 age limit. Voyeuristic disorder only counts as a disorder if 79 00:05:22.160 --> 00:05:25.319 you're at least eighteen. The idea here is that kids 80 00:05:25.319 --> 00:05:27.959 and teens are curious, and they might end up watching 81 00:05:28.000 --> 00:05:31.120 and maybe even being aroused by nudity or people having 82 00:05:31.120 --> 00:05:35.079 sex just because they haven't seen it before. But like 83 00:05:35.240 --> 00:05:37.839 so many kinks and fetishes out there, an interest in 84 00:05:37.879 --> 00:05:42.199 exhibitionism and voyeurism tends to start young. Studies find that 85 00:05:42.240 --> 00:05:46.079 about half of exhibitionists and voyeurs discover their interest before 86 00:05:46.079 --> 00:05:49.560 the age of eighteen. We don't know what causes it, 87 00:05:49.680 --> 00:05:52.279 but one theory about kinks in general is that some 88 00:05:52.399 --> 00:05:56.240 people are born with a predisposition for certain kinks, and 89 00:05:56.279 --> 00:05:59.680 it may just take a formative sexual experience like walking 90 00:05:59.720 --> 00:06:04.079 in on the babysitter changing to trigger a lifelong interest. 91 00:06:04.959 --> 00:06:08.160 Speaking of kids, it's important to mention that children are 92 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:12.399 sometimes the targets of exhibitionism. There are three subtypes of 93 00:06:12.439 --> 00:06:16.759 exhibitionistic disorder, at least according to the DSM, A preference 94 00:06:16.800 --> 00:06:20.360 for exposing yourself to adults, to children, or to both. 95 00:06:21.199 --> 00:06:23.399 There aren't a ton of studies on how many there 96 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:26.600 are of each, but one researcher in the seventies found 97 00:06:26.600 --> 00:06:29.639 that about twenty percent of his sample had exposed themselves 98 00:06:29.720 --> 00:06:35.959 to pre pubescent children. Not great. Also, the stereotype of 99 00:06:35.959 --> 00:06:38.759 your typical exhibitionist is a creepy old dude in a 100 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:41.279 trench code, right. I mean, when you think of a 101 00:06:41.319 --> 00:06:44.879 person who gets off on exposing themselves, it's almost exclusively 102 00:06:44.920 --> 00:06:49.040 a man. Part of that is society. Women's bodies are 103 00:06:49.079 --> 00:06:52.279 seen as more sexually alluring in general than men's bodies, 104 00:06:52.720 --> 00:06:54.920 so it follows that only a man would have to 105 00:06:54.920 --> 00:06:58.519 force someone to look at him. But it turns out 106 00:06:58.600 --> 00:07:02.560 that plenty of women are exhibitionists too. In a Swedish 107 00:07:02.600 --> 00:07:05.160 study from two thousand and six, of the people who 108 00:07:05.199 --> 00:07:07.560 said that they had ever exposed their genitals to a 109 00:07:07.600 --> 00:07:10.639 stranger and been aroused by it, more than thirty percent 110 00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:15.120 or female. But this isn't all about exposing yourself in 111 00:07:15.120 --> 00:07:17.920 a park or hiding in the bushes outside a neighbor's window. 112 00:07:18.600 --> 00:07:22.120 Like many kinks that have potentially illegal elements, you can 113 00:07:22.240 --> 00:07:27.240 practice these ones safely and legally. Exhibitionists might enjoy having 114 00:07:27.279 --> 00:07:29.639 an agreement with a partner that they can send nudes 115 00:07:29.680 --> 00:07:31.800 at any time of day, so the shock of that 116 00:07:31.839 --> 00:07:34.399 person getting one during a work meeting can still pose 117 00:07:34.399 --> 00:07:39.079 a thrill. There's also OnlyFans, Reddit, porn Hub, many many, 118 00:07:39.120 --> 00:07:41.759 many places on the Internet where it is just fine 119 00:07:41.800 --> 00:07:47.360 to post explicit pictures of yourself for strangers to see. Voyeurs, meanwhile, 120 00:07:47.480 --> 00:07:50.439 can watch voyeur porn in which the whole conceit is 121 00:07:50.480 --> 00:07:54.120 that someone's watching without permission. Role Playing with a consenting 122 00:07:54.160 --> 00:07:59.439 partner is also totally an option. Sometimes that's not enough 123 00:07:59.439 --> 00:08:03.079 for people, which is totally understandable. If you're struggling with 124 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:05.800 impulses that could get you arrested, it's always a good 125 00:08:05.839 --> 00:08:15.399 idea to find a kink aware therapist. Kink number two 126 00:08:15.879 --> 00:08:22.720 Financial domination. Financial domination is a form of BDSM that 127 00:08:22.759 --> 00:08:26.720 can involve no sex, no in person contact, and nothing 128 00:08:26.839 --> 00:08:32.639 sexual exchanged at all. Instead, financial submissives, usually men, will 129 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:35.559 make payments to a financial dominatrix to get the same 130 00:08:35.679 --> 00:08:40.159 feeling of relinquishing control that any submissive does. In twenty 131 00:08:40.200 --> 00:08:42.639 twenty three, a writer for Life Hacker talk to a 132 00:08:42.679 --> 00:08:47.279 financial dominatrix also known as a finn doom goddess, money dom, 133 00:08:47.519 --> 00:08:51.440 money mistress, or cash master about what kinds of things 134 00:08:51.519 --> 00:08:54.960 men ask in return for their payments to her. Every 135 00:08:54.960 --> 00:08:58.240 customer is different, she said. Quote. Some want a gentle 136 00:08:58.320 --> 00:09:01.679 mommy dom to talk sweetly with. Others want a raging 137 00:09:01.720 --> 00:09:04.919 bitch to boss them around and demand money. End quote. 138 00:09:05.600 --> 00:09:08.799 Some pay to do humiliating tasks or pay to be 139 00:09:08.879 --> 00:09:12.039 blackmailed by her. Others just wanted to send them a 140 00:09:12.120 --> 00:09:16.000 voice message. In twenty twenty one, a writer for The 141 00:09:16.039 --> 00:09:19.840 Independent talked to a finn sub or financial sub about 142 00:09:19.840 --> 00:09:25.759 why he enjoys financial submission. Quote. The arousal factor comes 143 00:09:25.759 --> 00:09:28.639 from the thought of the dom invading the personal space 144 00:09:28.679 --> 00:09:32.080 that is your finances. People measure their self worth with 145 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:38.320 their money. It's intimacy in a very capitalistic and masochistic way. Ultimately, 146 00:09:38.360 --> 00:09:40.840 a submissive hands over his money to a dom because 147 00:09:40.879 --> 00:09:43.120 he wants to use her as a tool to access 148 00:09:43.159 --> 00:09:46.000 some emotions that provide him with a chemical high that 149 00:09:46.080 --> 00:09:49.399 only comes from feeding his addiction to self destructive behavior. 150 00:09:49.679 --> 00:09:55.120 End quote. This isn't always a purely harmless practice. Many 151 00:09:55.159 --> 00:09:58.039 finn subs have low self esteem and have troubled talking 152 00:09:58.120 --> 00:10:01.039 to romantic interests in real life, so they may be 153 00:10:01.159 --> 00:10:03.840 easy targets for fraudsters who are more in it for 154 00:10:03.879 --> 00:10:07.600 the money than the sexual gratification. In fact, according to 155 00:10:07.720 --> 00:10:10.559 Chuck Petco, an addiction counselor who started one of the 156 00:10:10.559 --> 00:10:14.600 internet's first support groups for people suffering from financial domination addiction, 157 00:10:15.200 --> 00:10:18.360 the practice has led some men to lose everything the 158 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:21.600 way they might with a gambling addiction. The shame and 159 00:10:21.639 --> 00:10:24.360 suffering that results from maxing out a credit card or 160 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:27.320 taking out a second mortgage is just yet another turn on, 161 00:10:27.879 --> 00:10:31.360 and it keeps them in a vicious cycle. Like with 162 00:10:31.440 --> 00:10:35.240 garden variety BDSM. There are responsible fin doms and there 163 00:10:35.240 --> 00:10:39.200 are quote unquote fake fin doms. Real fin dooms spend 164 00:10:39.279 --> 00:10:42.279 years honing their online personas and the skills that make 165 00:10:42.320 --> 00:10:45.320 them attractive to subs. For someone who wants to go 166 00:10:45.399 --> 00:10:48.639 this route, a little internet research is probably better than 167 00:10:48.679 --> 00:10:53.960 going with the first dom who pops up. Kink Number three. 168 00:10:54.240 --> 00:10:58.360 Wet and messy fetish, which is sometimes written as WAM. 169 00:10:58.919 --> 00:11:01.399 This is a fetish where people get off I'm getting messy, 170 00:11:01.759 --> 00:11:04.960 whether that's with food like cakes and pies, whipped cream, 171 00:11:05.159 --> 00:11:09.159 baked beans or oatmeal, or non food items like slime, 172 00:11:09.360 --> 00:11:13.279 mud shaving cream, lotion, or even motor oil. For some 173 00:11:13.399 --> 00:11:16.519 wet and messy fetishists, even getting their clothes wet can 174 00:11:16.559 --> 00:11:19.799 be a turn on. When it involves food, this fetish 175 00:11:19.840 --> 00:11:24.440 is known as sploshing. Wet and messy fetishes are different 176 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:27.960 from fetishes for bodily fluids like pea and vomit. The 177 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:30.559 appeal is less in the disgust of the mess and 178 00:11:30.600 --> 00:11:33.440 more in the tactile sensations, or the delight in seeing 179 00:11:33.480 --> 00:11:37.000 someone be degraded by a pie to the face. The 180 00:11:37.039 --> 00:11:40.840 fetish can sometimes overlap with sileerophilia, where a person gets 181 00:11:40.879 --> 00:11:44.240 sexual gratification by making the object of their desired dirty, 182 00:11:44.600 --> 00:11:47.480 dunking them in mud, ripping their clothes, that kind of thing. 183 00:11:48.559 --> 00:11:52.000 This fetish, like others, can start young. I mean, what 184 00:11:52.200 --> 00:11:55.039 kid doesn't like jumping in mud puddles or throwing food 185 00:11:55.240 --> 00:11:59.480 Despite what parents might say, there's a violation inherent in 186 00:11:59.559 --> 00:12:02.720 dirty yourself when you're supposed to stay clean, and that 187 00:12:02.919 --> 00:12:06.320 can rev someone's engine. In an interview I found from 188 00:12:06.320 --> 00:12:09.440 the leather Addie account on Medium, one wet and Messy 189 00:12:09.440 --> 00:12:13.240 fetishist recalled walking around construction sites with another kid when 190 00:12:13.240 --> 00:12:16.919 he was six years old. He said, quote, we walked 191 00:12:16.919 --> 00:12:18.879 around in the mud and I got in pretty muddy. 192 00:12:19.200 --> 00:12:21.759 It wasn't anything sexual at that point, but I remember 193 00:12:21.799 --> 00:12:24.080 it as his mom yelled at me forgetting her kid 194 00:12:24.080 --> 00:12:27.320 all muddy. End quote. When he was around ten, it 195 00:12:27.480 --> 00:12:30.279 started to become a sexual thing. He'd go out alone, 196 00:12:30.440 --> 00:12:33.519 splash around in the mud, masturbate and then feel a 197 00:12:33.519 --> 00:12:37.080 ton of shame. Afterward, as he got older, he experimented 198 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:41.240 with paint, food, and motor oil. If you've never heard 199 00:12:41.279 --> 00:12:44.039 of this kink, you may have unknowingly watched some of 200 00:12:44.039 --> 00:12:47.799 it on TikTok. Those videos of beautiful women using their 201 00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:51.240 well manicured hands to slap wet chicken breasts into a 202 00:12:51.279 --> 00:12:54.720 casserole dish full of dry pasta or spread peanut butter 203 00:12:54.799 --> 00:12:57.919 on a countertop to demonstrate a bizarre recipe that gets 204 00:12:58.039 --> 00:13:02.240 hundreds of thousands of views. Yeah, while no creators have 205 00:13:02.360 --> 00:13:05.559 confirmed they're making wet and messy fetish videos, there's a 206 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:09.519 large contingent online that believes that's how they started, and 207 00:13:09.559 --> 00:13:12.240 then the engagement was so good they just kept going. 208 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:23.960 Kink number four. Fat fetish and feederism. A fat fetish 209 00:13:24.120 --> 00:13:28.039 or a dipophilia is an attraction to overweight or obese 210 00:13:28.039 --> 00:13:32.879 people because of their size. Feederism, also known as gaining, 211 00:13:33.399 --> 00:13:37.000 is when someone gets sexual gratification from gaining or helping 212 00:13:37.039 --> 00:13:42.200 others gain body fat. Fat fetishism is a primarily heterosexual 213 00:13:42.240 --> 00:13:45.720 fetish focusing on fat women and thinner men, though there 214 00:13:45.759 --> 00:13:48.279 are plenty of gay men who have the fetish too, 215 00:13:48.519 --> 00:13:51.600 and probably gay women, but research never seems to talk 216 00:13:51.639 --> 00:13:55.679 about them. So while I can't find any peer reviewed 217 00:13:55.720 --> 00:13:59.159 statistics on it, a sex research site called bed Bible 218 00:13:59.279 --> 00:14:01.879 claims that one in fourteen men and one in one 219 00:14:01.960 --> 00:14:05.720 hundred women have a fat fetish. Fat fetishism is a 220 00:14:05.720 --> 00:14:09.159 tricky gray area because of society's views of fat people 221 00:14:09.879 --> 00:14:12.679 as a reditor in R plus size put it quote, 222 00:14:12.919 --> 00:14:16.240 assuming that everyone attracted to fat bodies has a fetish 223 00:14:16.360 --> 00:14:19.360 is fat phobic, and a lot of us have internalized 224 00:14:19.360 --> 00:14:22.559 fat phobia. That manifest says not believing anyone can be 225 00:14:22.600 --> 00:14:25.440 attracted to us without some kind of kink or fetish 226 00:14:25.600 --> 00:14:29.120 end quote. In other words, just because you're attracted to 227 00:14:29.200 --> 00:14:32.039 a fat person doesn't mean you have a fat fetish. 228 00:14:32.440 --> 00:14:34.960 It rises to the level of fetish when the fantasy 229 00:14:35.039 --> 00:14:38.320 becomes a load bearing part of your sexuality. You can't 230 00:14:38.360 --> 00:14:43.919 really get sexual gratification without it. Feederism is different. Instead 231 00:14:43.919 --> 00:14:46.759 of being attracted to a person's size, someone with this 232 00:14:46.879 --> 00:14:50.320 kink is excited by the prospect of weight gain. Here's 233 00:14:50.320 --> 00:14:53.240 a description of it from Phoebe, a social media site 234 00:14:53.240 --> 00:14:58.039 for feeders and feeds. Quote. Feeders are men or women 235 00:14:58.120 --> 00:15:01.000 who like the idea or physical act of helping someone 236 00:15:01.039 --> 00:15:04.840 else grow bigger. Feeders may be any size, fat or thin, 237 00:15:05.240 --> 00:15:09.799 and some feeders also identify as feeds. Feeders exist along 238 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:12.480 a wide spectrum, from people who just want to cook 239 00:15:12.480 --> 00:15:15.679 for someone and provide moral support to those who enjoy 240 00:15:15.759 --> 00:15:19.600 quote forcing a feede to eat copious amounts, this is 241 00:15:19.639 --> 00:15:23.840 always a consensual act. Feeder is typically a label used 242 00:15:23.879 --> 00:15:26.799 in the straight community. In the gay community, feeders are 243 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:31.080 typically called encouragers end quote. As far as feeds, the 244 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:33.720 site explains that they come in all shapes and sizes, 245 00:15:33.799 --> 00:15:36.879 with a wide variety of fantasies. Some put on large 246 00:15:36.919 --> 00:15:39.960 amounts of weight, some just fantasize about it and role 247 00:15:40.000 --> 00:15:44.320 play through padding or inflating their clothes. For some feeds, 248 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:47.799 the idea of becoming unhealthy or even immobile is part 249 00:15:47.840 --> 00:15:50.679 of the turn on, but for most, the focus is 250 00:15:50.720 --> 00:15:54.679 on staying healthy while growing bigger, which is totally possible. 251 00:15:54.919 --> 00:16:05.120 Check out the OBCD episode for more. 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Whether you want 271 00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:25.680 to reduce stress, sleep, grate feel pure euphoria, spice things 272 00:17:25.720 --> 00:17:28.400 up with your partner, or all of the above, I 273 00:17:28.599 --> 00:17:31.359 highly recommend you give them a try. T A I 274 00:17:31.720 --> 00:17:34.319 l o R. Dot Store to get thirty percent off 275 00:17:34.319 --> 00:17:37.680 your entire first order today with code Taboo at checkout. 276 00:17:37.960 --> 00:17:48.880 Check them out now. Kink number five. Lactation fetish a 277 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:53.960 lactation fetish, also known as lactophilia, erotic lactation, or breast 278 00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:58.359 milk fetishism, is where someone, usually a man, gets pleasure 279 00:17:58.400 --> 00:18:02.759 from watching women lactate, sucking on women's lactating breasts, or 280 00:18:02.799 --> 00:18:06.880 having sex with lactating women. This fetish has some crossover 281 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:10.240 with the adult baby diaper lover community since breastfeeding is 282 00:18:10.240 --> 00:18:14.119 an activity for babies, and a separate crossover with pregnancy 283 00:18:14.160 --> 00:18:18.640 fetishes where individuals are attracted to pregnant people. In fact, 284 00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:22.200 a twenty eleven study of over two thousand lactation fetishists 285 00:18:22.599 --> 00:18:26.599 found that seventy one percent reported both a pregnancy and 286 00:18:26.680 --> 00:18:30.519 a lactation preference. That study also found that the majority 287 00:18:30.519 --> 00:18:34.599 of participants had younger siblings, which suggests that, yet again, 288 00:18:35.079 --> 00:18:38.400 this fetish may have imprinted itself sometime early in life 289 00:18:38.440 --> 00:18:41.240 when they were exposed to pregnant women and saw breastfeeding 290 00:18:41.279 --> 00:18:45.400 in action. I can also say from personal experience that 291 00:18:45.519 --> 00:18:49.400 pregnancy and breastfeeding subreddits are places where photos are stolen 292 00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:53.680 and reposted on fetish sites constantly. It's never happened to me, 293 00:18:53.920 --> 00:18:56.400 but at points in my life when I regularly read 294 00:18:56.440 --> 00:18:59.880 these forums, it seems like every week someone reports finding 295 00:19:00.039 --> 00:19:04.279 their photos reposted. Here's that consent thing again. There's nothing 296 00:19:04.279 --> 00:19:07.440 wrong with an attraction, a kink or a fetish, but 297 00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:10.160 it crosses the line when it violates someone else's consent. 298 00:19:11.839 --> 00:19:15.240 There's plenty of purpose made lactation fetish porn out there anyway. 299 00:19:15.799 --> 00:19:19.440 Not only that, but some countries even have lactation bars. 300 00:19:20.200 --> 00:19:23.720 A twenty eighteen paper by heidij Nast reported on five 301 00:19:23.880 --> 00:19:28.519 bonyu or lactation bars in Tokyo. These bars hire young 302 00:19:28.599 --> 00:19:31.880 lactating women who will do everything from express their breast 303 00:19:31.880 --> 00:19:35.839 milk into a cup for drinking to allowing patrons to breastfeed, 304 00:19:36.119 --> 00:19:39.400 often caressing them and making motherly cooing sounds while they 305 00:19:39.480 --> 00:19:44.119 do it. But breastfeeding can also happen in the context 306 00:19:44.119 --> 00:19:48.759 of a relationship. Adult nursing relationships or an RS involve 307 00:19:48.839 --> 00:19:52.160 either a woman who was previously pregnant and naturally lactating, 308 00:19:52.720 --> 00:19:56.839 or one who actively worked to induce lactation, which fun fact, 309 00:19:57.160 --> 00:20:00.720 men can do too, and this isn't all solely for 310 00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:04.519 the non lactating partner. The nipples are an erogenous zone, 311 00:20:04.559 --> 00:20:07.680 and in the right sexual context, some women can reach 312 00:20:07.799 --> 00:20:13.839 orgasm from the stimulation they receive. Kink number six. Europhilia 313 00:20:14.200 --> 00:20:19.119 or the pea fetish. Europhilia, also known as eurolagnia or 314 00:20:19.240 --> 00:20:22.960 being into water sports, golden showers, or piss play, is 315 00:20:23.039 --> 00:20:26.160 when someone gets sexual pleasure from peeing on someone or 316 00:20:26.240 --> 00:20:30.279 being peed on. This fetish can also encompass bathing in urine, 317 00:20:30.440 --> 00:20:34.480 smelling someone in urine soaked clothes, or drinking someone's urine, 318 00:20:34.599 --> 00:20:38.359 whether from a container or directly from the source. According 319 00:20:38.359 --> 00:20:41.960 to Justin Leaymiller's survey of people's fantasies, this fetish is 320 00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:44.960 more popular among men than women, and among gay and 321 00:20:45.000 --> 00:20:49.279 bisexual people than heterosexual. Eight percent of heterosexual women and 322 00:20:49.400 --> 00:20:53.160 nineteen percent of heterosexual men reported fantasizing about this in 323 00:20:53.200 --> 00:20:56.799 the survey, while twenty percent of gay and bisexual women 324 00:20:56.920 --> 00:20:59.880 and forty percent of gay and bisexual men said they 325 00:20:59.880 --> 00:21:03.640 have still This was people who had ever fantasized about 326 00:21:03.680 --> 00:21:08.880 the practice. Many many fewer fantasized about it. Often, this 327 00:21:08.920 --> 00:21:11.559 fetish can have a lot of different reasons for its appeal. 328 00:21:12.240 --> 00:21:15.119 It's a popular one in BDSM, since being peed on 329 00:21:15.359 --> 00:21:18.440 or being forced to drink pea is degrading and humiliating, 330 00:21:18.799 --> 00:21:22.119 which is very hot for some people. There's also a 331 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:25.480 taboo element, both to the fluid itself and to the 332 00:21:25.519 --> 00:21:28.039 act of losing control of your bladder and allowing your 333 00:21:28.039 --> 00:21:31.240 body to release fluids that you're supposed to keep under control. 334 00:21:32.000 --> 00:21:35.519 And finally, for some, it's just a dictionary definition fetish. 335 00:21:35.839 --> 00:21:39.079 The site, smell, feel, or taste of pea has come 336 00:21:39.119 --> 00:21:43.839 to be associated with sexual arousal. Men's Health asked a 337 00:21:43.839 --> 00:21:46.559 bunch of water sports enthusiasts why they were into it, 338 00:21:46.640 --> 00:21:49.559 and a few more reasons popped up. Some said it 339 00:21:49.599 --> 00:21:52.640 was a particularly intimate form of kink play since it's 340 00:21:52.680 --> 00:21:56.240 coming directly from a partner's body. Another said there was 341 00:21:56.240 --> 00:21:59.200 something particularly sexy about seeing pea come out of a 342 00:21:59.279 --> 00:22:04.240 vulva they don't typically ejaculate like penises. And finally, there's 343 00:22:04.240 --> 00:22:08.680 the sensation quote pissing during sex is warm, wet, and squelchy. 344 00:22:08.880 --> 00:22:20.559 Who doesn't like that end quote? Finally, we come to 345 00:22:20.599 --> 00:22:25.799 the final kink kink number seven, voor or vorophelia. This 346 00:22:26.079 --> 00:22:29.119 is where people get sexual gratification from the fantasy of 347 00:22:29.200 --> 00:22:33.920 devouring others, being devoured or seeing someone be devoured. Like 348 00:22:34.000 --> 00:22:36.799 many kinks, this one doesn't always have to be sexual. 349 00:22:37.279 --> 00:22:39.880 Some people just have a deep fascination with things being 350 00:22:39.920 --> 00:22:44.279 eaten without a sexual element. Vore comes in two types 351 00:22:44.440 --> 00:22:48.839 or flavors, if you will. Soft bore involves being swallowed 352 00:22:48.880 --> 00:22:52.920 alive and whole, sometimes left unharmed, like Jonah and the 353 00:22:52.920 --> 00:22:56.160 Whale or The Grandma and Little Red riding Hood. There 354 00:22:56.200 --> 00:22:59.880 are actually a surprising number of children's stories that involves 355 00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:04.960 hard war is also sometimes known as sexual cannibalism and 356 00:23:05.039 --> 00:23:08.559 involves ripping apart a victim piece by piece as they're devoured. 357 00:23:09.039 --> 00:23:13.799 There's no coming back from hard war. War has overlaps 358 00:23:13.880 --> 00:23:17.200 with a ton of other kinks and communities. Macro or 359 00:23:17.279 --> 00:23:20.680 microphilia is a big one that is an attraction to 360 00:23:20.839 --> 00:23:25.400 unrealistically large or small individuals, since being much larger than 361 00:23:25.400 --> 00:23:29.839 your victim is helpful in making var fantasies possible. There's 362 00:23:29.920 --> 00:23:32.680 also a large overlap with the furry community and their 363 00:23:32.720 --> 00:23:36.519 interest in animal characters, since predator and pre dynamics are 364 00:23:36.559 --> 00:23:40.000 common in the animal world. There are also some overlaps 365 00:23:40.039 --> 00:23:43.880 with pregnancy fetishism, as many vorophiles focus on the pregnant 366 00:23:43.920 --> 00:23:47.599 look of an individual's belly after consuming their victim, and 367 00:23:47.720 --> 00:23:51.319 with unbirthing, which involves being sucked back up into the 368 00:23:51.319 --> 00:23:55.839 birth canal. Finally, there can be overlaps with coprophilia or 369 00:23:55.880 --> 00:23:59.079 a poop fetish, as some people prefer when victims are 370 00:23:59.119 --> 00:24:03.519 fully digestive and excreted it out. Unlike the other kinks 371 00:24:03.519 --> 00:24:07.400 on this list, voor is very difficult and usually impossible 372 00:24:07.440 --> 00:24:10.799 to actually experience in real life, though it's happened in 373 00:24:10.880 --> 00:24:15.279 at least one high profile criminal case. Armand Maivus, a 374 00:24:15.359 --> 00:24:18.119 German Man who had role played this fantasy with various 375 00:24:18.160 --> 00:24:21.160 partners until he met a man who actually consented to 376 00:24:21.200 --> 00:24:25.319 being killed and eaten by him. Sometimes the fantasy act 377 00:24:25.359 --> 00:24:28.880 is violent or vengeful, but often it's loving. Part of 378 00:24:28.920 --> 00:24:31.319 the appeal of this kink is the deep intimacy of 379 00:24:31.359 --> 00:24:34.559 having someone's entire body inside of you, or vice versa. 380 00:24:35.359 --> 00:24:39.279 Many fantasy stories published online include vivid descriptions of how 381 00:24:39.319 --> 00:24:42.319 the willing victim felt every inch of their bodies being 382 00:24:42.359 --> 00:24:44.799 touched and held snugly in the throat as they were 383 00:24:44.839 --> 00:24:49.160 swallowed as Reddit user Sucki Mimbavron put it, think of 384 00:24:49.200 --> 00:24:53.839 it like cuddling taken to the extreme. So there it is. 385 00:24:54.319 --> 00:24:57.400 Seven kinks that prove just how wild and varied human 386 00:24:57.480 --> 00:25:01.319 sexuality can be. From getting off on flashing strangers to 387 00:25:01.480 --> 00:25:05.119 fantasizing about being someone's lunch, we've covered a lot of ground. 388 00:25:05.880 --> 00:25:07.880 Some of the stuff might sound pretty out there if 389 00:25:07.880 --> 00:25:10.480 you're not into it, but as long as everyone's a 390 00:25:10.519 --> 00:25:14.079 consenting adult and nobody's getting hurt, unless, of course you're 391 00:25:14.119 --> 00:25:17.359 into that, there's no reason to yuck someone else's yum. 392 00:25:18.519 --> 00:25:21.839 Learning about these different kinks isn't just about satisfying a 393 00:25:21.880 --> 00:25:25.759 morbid curiosity. It's about building empathy and breaking down the 394 00:25:25.759 --> 00:25:29.319 shame around less mainstream sexual interests. At the end of 395 00:25:29.359 --> 00:25:32.240 the day, the more we understand about human sexuality and 396 00:25:32.279 --> 00:25:35.319 all its weird and wonderful forms, the better equipped we 397 00:25:35.359 --> 00:25:39.880 are to navigate these topics without being judgmental jerks. Because 398 00:25:39.960 --> 00:25:42.599 judgment and shame are some of the biggest hazards for 399 00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:45.599 people in these communities, and there's no reason for it. 400 00:25:46.279 --> 00:25:53.559 So let's all try to be a little more understanding. 401 00:25:56.359 --> 00:26:00.160