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Speaker 1: Well, well, well, welcome back, besties. It's mother. I am

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so excited for this episode, you guys. It is one

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with one of my comedy besties and we had a

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really wonderful chat and I hope you guys enjoyed it

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as much as I enjoyed having it. Please enjoy this

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episode with Tara Cannis Stracy.

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Speaker 2: I did a video where my husband announced the one

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thing he did in the house.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and you did.

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Speaker 2: You translated more times than the Bible or the Alchemist.

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I'm not kidding. That thing was translated into like forty

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seven languages.

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Speaker 1: It went so viral. It was so funny.

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Speaker 2: Though.

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Speaker 1: You're like, because he's like, babe, I'm taking out the

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trash or whatever. And then like every time you announced something,

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you're like.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, did you just announce the one thing you

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do in this house? One?

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Speaker 1: Sure? Oh well okay, yeah no, it's like, did you

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just announce the one thing? The one thing?

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Speaker 2: One thing?

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Speaker 1: But they need they need it, they need like the

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positive reinforcement. They're like puppies, like we need a treat. Now,

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I need something. I'm like, what do you want me

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sending you a picture of my Let's.

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Speaker 2: Do a parade drug. So the other day I'll throw

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I'll throw myself on the floor and pretime I'm masturbating,

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like because it's so hot what you just did? Yeah,

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I'm like, old, let me throw my panties that you're

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gonna hold out here you go.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I know. I'm like, do you want

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a picture of my tips? Because you're doing the to

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do list that I usually do.

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Speaker 2: And then we have to think about Like they don't

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have to think about it because we tell them. The

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men sometimes I'm so exhausted from just having to think

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about everything that has to get done.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, they don't. They've never had one of those thoughts. Nope,

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never had one of those thoughts a day in their life. No,

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how long have you been married for now?

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Speaker 2: We were supposed to be married in twenty twenty, but

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we have a limit together the whole time. We got

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married in twenty twenty two, so it's three years, it's

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going to be.

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Speaker 1: Four years and needs how much older than you?

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Speaker 2: Five? It feels more.

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Speaker 1: Older, I mean it feels like more time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels like more time.

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Speaker 1: And that's what jail sentences are.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, like how many years do you have so I

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get out, but five years older. But it's still there's

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no like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, I know. I think about that, and

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I'm like, would an older man be more mature? And

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I was like, no, I dated older men and they

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were less mature. Like he is wildly mature for his age.

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It's just they all need to grow up.

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Speaker 2: All gonna need it, I mean at any age.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I was talking to my sponsor yesterday and she said,

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I think all men in some capacity are disappointments, and

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it was like that is the real shit I've ever heard.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, And it's like a.

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Speaker 1: Bit of let down and it's not intentional. They're doing

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their best.

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Speaker 2: Like I always say, I'm like I got a good one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so do I yeah, yeah, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Like I got a good one, but it's I have

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a great one. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But it's just like still, I think it's just as

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women were used to doing so much more and taking

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on so much more, and I think we're always undervalued.

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Speaker 2: And I think it doesn't change, Like I triangle, why

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am I so overwhelmed? And it's like it doesn't make

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a difference if I'm you know, career oriented, if I

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was educated, if I was. I still have like there's

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part of me that maybe I don't know if it's

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like a societal norm or like my traditional family background,

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that like I added so much more to my plate

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mm hmm, Like I felt like I had to do

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so much more domestically, right that like our like this

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wasn't the way it always was. Yeah that now it's

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like I don't think women are like I don't think

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it's I think we just like completely burn out.

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Speaker 1: Well yeah, because it used to be before all we

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did were the domestic chores was and we didn't have

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to work to make the money too, And now we

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do both and it's exhausting, and I'm like, I want

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to go back to just doing domestic chores. I just

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guess what, I'll pop a fucking kaylude and hire equating lady.

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Speaker 2: I did a whole bit on it, but I'm like

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JU and Klever, what was you know? Yeah, what you

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have to do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it was.

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Speaker 2: It's terrible, But here we are, and.

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Speaker 1: Here we are so you used to before you did.

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You're so funny.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Should we tell the story about how we met?

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Speaker 2: Oh are about how we didn't meet? Is that more

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like how excited I was to meet from person.

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Speaker 1: Okay, and then time out.

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Speaker 2: Let me expend myself.

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Speaker 1: I have the memory of a fucking fig Newton.

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Speaker 2: I'm the one who did test to it now, yeah, yeah,

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I'm the.

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Speaker 1: One who DMD you. Excited to meet you at the show.

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Speaker 2: And then I walked in the green room and I'm like,

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there she is, and you were like and then that

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was it. That was if you guys missed it, because

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it was real. It was like that. And then you

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walked into the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Because I forgot even though I d I d MD

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you before the show, so I had found there.

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Speaker 2: I was there in the physical form.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I had bound you online. I thought you were

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so funny. You do all this stuff from you know,

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East Coast Bronx sort of just like funny shit. And

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I was like, oh this girls hilarious. Followed you followed

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me back whatever. And then we were booked on a

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show together, and I was like, oh my god, I

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get to meet her. This is so exciting. And then

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in the drive over to the show, I forgot that

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you were on the show.

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Speaker 2: Well, the White LOADUS finale, there was a lot going on.

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There was a lot going on in I understand. I

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was understood kid.

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Speaker 1: To the White Loatus finale. No, I got there, and

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I usually just get there, du sets and leave, but

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I specifically told you I was excited to see you.

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I go into the green room. I did have to

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take a ship.

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Speaker 2: And I walked, understood.

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Speaker 1: Into the green room bathroom and took a ship, which

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is in comedy, like one of the cardinal sins of comedy,

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shitting in the green room. So I had to like

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quickly exit before you. And then I left and then

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Speaker 2: My set, and then you actually came by my table

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because I sat and watched you.

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Speaker 1: Right like a good friend would, like a good about

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me friend would. And you were with Craig Robinson, who

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I was talking to before the show, like actually having

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full conversation with him before the show, and he's lost

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a lot of weight, so he looks very different. So

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when you two were together, I thought you were an

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inter racial couple. And then when I was walking back

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to the green room, you grab my arm and you're like,

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good send.

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Speaker 2: I was like thanks, like thanks fan.

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Speaker 1: Like literally thanks. I literally was.

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Speaker 2: Like thanks, peasant, literally thank you. Thanks following me at

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Brittany and then you laughed and I was like, that

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was a weird exchange for someone who said they were

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excited to meet me. I was like, you know you

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felt like that girl, like the boy was going to

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ask you to dance at the prom, and then he

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just didn't. Just did joe up to problem d he

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left with somebody else. I was like, this is I

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got dressed up for this. I do my hair.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm so sorry that was I mean, it's a

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funny I love.

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Speaker 2: It is a funny.

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Speaker 1: It's a very funny story. But then when I got

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home and you, I think I then realized what I

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had done and I was like, oh.

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Speaker 2: You were like, oh shit, you like DM me and

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You're like I owe you coffee.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I was like, I am so sorry, such a monster,

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like I got very I have such a bad memory.

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I think I need to see a doctor.

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Speaker 2: I don't know me too, but not like for some

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things only I can. I mean, I don't know if

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it's made me my age now if I'll walk into room,

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have no idea why I am there. But I'm like

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could lock in and remember so much when it comes

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to comedy, but like not other real life things.

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Speaker 1: See, I can't even remember comedy. Here's what happens. Take

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this walk with me after I film a special and

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I get the joke out of my body. I forget it.

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Speaker 2: I know because I was going over something with you

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you're like, well, I don't remember those jokes? Yeah, And

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I was like, but they're your joke, and then that

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has happened to me. Yeah, But like where I go,

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Speaker 1: I think I must. My brain must look like Swiss

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cheese from how many drugs I did in my twenty

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I just don't think there's there's like two brain cells.

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Speaker 2: Or is it just they're going back to the first

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topic of like we're just doing so much that it wasn't.

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Speaker 1: I don't see. I wish it was that, but I

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don't have that much going on. I don't remember. Like

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my friends will get like legitimately mad at me. They'll

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Speaker 2: Care, right, it's a certain extent, right, I.

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Speaker 1: Either don't care or something is severely wrong with my brain,

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because who does that? Who DMS somebody and is like,

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I can't wait to meet you, goes to the show,

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forgets blank slate like it's literally like the Men like

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the Men in blackstick is like the little zapper that

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just deletes your memory is every day of my life.

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Speaker 2: But you do. You said you've had hard time, like

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recognizing even famous people.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I do have a hard time. I can

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be talking to somebody and they'll be like, do you

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know that was Whitney Houston. I'm like, no, shit, well

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not anymore. But anyway, I killed it. Yeah, yeah, No,

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I'm not facial blind, but something something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's something something's off, something wrong with all of us.

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Speaker 1: Is something wrong with it? Which brings me to my

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next topic. You used to be a therapist, I did.

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Speaker 2: I used to be counselor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're certified.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and then I did it in the schools guidance.

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Speaker 1: What would kids come in and ask you?

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Speaker 2: I worked in the I mean I worked in the bronx.

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I went from elementary to middle I mean in middle school,

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they'd come in my office, you know, fully developed, being like,

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can you get pregnant if you swallow? I'd be like, yes,

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actually exactly how that happens. If your mother would a spit,

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you wouldn't be here. Now, get out of my office

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and don't do that. Protect them at all costs. I had, Yeah, right,

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I had a lot of hard situations. Yeah, you know

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where with the demo of where I was and you know,

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poverty and immigration, it was a lot of yeah, a

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lot of kids with a lot of issues.

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Speaker 1: And how does how do you I always wonder this

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with therapists, no matter what they deal with, but especially children,

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how does your heart break every single day?

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Speaker 2: You know? I got unfortunately, unfortunately, no, no, no, unfortunately,

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unfortunately I didn't get desensitized.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I did carry so much of it with me,

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which was really hard to then moonlight doing comedy because

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I started started comedy while I was still a counselor. Yeah,

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it was very hard. It was very hard to separate

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the two, you know, and not care. And I wasn't conventional.

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I wasn't like sitting behind a desk or filing or

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writing reports or things. I was very They kind of

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took me as a wild card and I stayed for

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as long as I did because I got to do

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things the way I saw fit. But it was very

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hard it's very hard to deal with, you know, kids

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going through you know abuse. You know, I went to

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a deli the weekend of my wedding. I was ordering breakfast,

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of course, because I was thinking about what will my

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husband and all of the guys eat, you know, at

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the house. Guys can't friend for themselves. So I went

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to Delhi to to breakfast and I got to the

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counter and I was like, hi, I called her eli

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door to breakfast, and some like young beautiful twenty one

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year old girl was like he was kindistracy, and I

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was like and then like she like ran away, and

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the guy in behind you know, the counter was looking

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at me like I just yelled her. I was like,

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I have no idea what I just did, Like, I don't,

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I don't know. I didn't recognize her. And then she

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told me her name, and I did and it was

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a girl that was severely abused. And I got right

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of the situation, and I you know, had by the time,

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you know, you I hate to say that I didn't

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recognize it was ten years, twelve years, you know, And

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right then I got to go behind the you know,

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the counter and talk to her and hear her story

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and hear how I impacted her, and it was like,

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this is fucking heavy, Like I can't you know, It's like, man,

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did I go through that? Like you know, yeah, but.

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Speaker 1: That's so special. I think that's such a special impact

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on the world, to like change a child's life for

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the good is I think?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do that? I mean, it's it was very hard,

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you know. You know, you want to do the best

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you can. You're limited by certain things. I definitely did

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things that were not you know, I wasn't supposed to

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do right.

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Speaker 1: But see I would have a hard time playing by

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the rules too, especially if I knew a child was

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getting abused right show up with an.

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Speaker 2: Oh it was like I was insane, I had, you know,

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I was. There was a lot of things I did

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that were not conventional.

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Speaker 1: But what was the least conventional thing?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I would go to kids houses, the mother

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would let me in whatever. I can't get them up

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or do this, I'm like, let's go get up. Like

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I go in kids' bedrooms, like you know, under the

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covers and they're on the way. I like, let's go,

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let's go. And don't got time for you to not

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show up for yourself, like they're like, holy shit, you know,

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Like I definitely called the cops on kids and like

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had them pretend like they were gonna take the kids

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because they weren't doing what they were supposed to do,

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thinking they're going to jail and hanging off my hang

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it over, hanging off my leg like again, and I'm like, please, office,

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don't take them. You know I was. I was when

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I think about the ship, what it did, when I

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think about the that I did to scare them straight,

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but I don't. I don't regret it. Listen. I left

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towards the end because obviously I was doing how many

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full time and I didn't know how I was doing it,

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and the principal and the administration were like because I

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kept getting offers to like advance and they wanted me

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to run like district things. I'm like, I tell Dick

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jokes at night, like I don't and there has to

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be a limitation on what I can do. But it

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just became too much and I was like, you know,

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I can't. I have to. I have to let go.

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But it was really hard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really hard to you miss that work.

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Speaker 2: I still miss it, Yeah, Like I have all stuff

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there still I was there for so long. I won't

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go back and get it because I don't even want

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to walk in the building. I think I'm getting better

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this year now that I've left. Yeah, it was like

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I can go back and not want to go back.

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Plus things, you know, as things happen for you, you go, Okay,

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this is where I'm supposed to be. But really hard

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to like lose that part of your identity.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: I always say, like I'll joke in the Bronx I'm

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more famous as Miss kennist Tracy Entia canis Tracy, but

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it's kids find you online. It's so, you know, miss Candistracy,

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you're living your dream, you know, like because they get

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older and they become young adults, and I'm like, you're

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part of the dream, you know. Yeah, it's just a

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different different different yeah, a different way to pay yeah yeah,

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yeah right, And I think that's what helps. And I

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know you get this from people who because you share

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so much of yourself online. But people come over to

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me at a comedy show and be like, you know,

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I I've lost a child and I haven't been able

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to go out with my husband, but I found you

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online and I'm working through doing things and you're like,

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holy shit, you know, we're just somebody at a bad

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day and just needed a break, you know, And they

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get to come to comedy show and laugh and literally

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escape for ninety minutes. Right, it is a actor. I

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do think what we do is a life of service. Yeah,

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it is, it is, it really is. It's you know,

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and once you have that mentality, it's a you get

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even better on stage, right, Yeah, because you appress about

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you you know, Well that's the thing.

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Speaker 1: It's such an egotistical pursuit. But if you take the

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ego out of it, the pursuit, it's more enjoyable. So

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it is such a like me me me, give me

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the attention, give me the laughs, whatever, it's foundation. I

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need piece of me that's broken, and I need you

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to love me because my mom didn't, you know. Whatever

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it is, but that part. But then, yeah, I think

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I think part of evolving as a comedian is realizing

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it's not about you at all. It's about the people

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you can help in the audience. And I always say this,

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if I if I offend four or five people, but

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I can heal thousands, Like I'll take those odds.

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Speaker 2: You're going to make everybody happy. Everybody's going to be

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if they're offends by the way I pronounce words like okay, okay,

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all right.

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Speaker 1: Is everyone okay right, okay, quick answer? No, starting with

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me there, right, starting with me? I am not well

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you are my sense though, yes, you have to become.

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Speaker 2: Raising you this past here. You know it's hard as

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the same a mom, but it's just been, you know,

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one of the greatest choice of my life. Challenging, challenge,

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but up.

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Speaker 1: At all hours you are You're always you always know

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where I am and what I'm doing.

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Speaker 2: As I finally understand because I have childless before Brittany,

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and it's like you're never You're only as happy as

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your least unhappy child, and that's what least happy child.

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That's what's that's what's happening with Brittany these days. The

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other day, I don't know what you called. It was

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like not something serious, but I thought it was And

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I was like, I have to sit And I was like,

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did I just have to take a seat because I

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thought you were giving me bad news?

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Speaker 1: Literally? Is that all I call it? I was just

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like calling you about.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, you just seemed yeah. I was like, I

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hate the scouch. And I was like, all right. I

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thought like, yeah, it was Max and the family, Like

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I'm gonna have to go to Pond Beach right now,

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Like I'm gonna have to get on a plane. Couch

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is so it's just not it's not the couch.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, all right, it's furniture.

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Speaker 2: I can take this. I can do furniture from from La.

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I'd have to get on a plane if it was

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something else. All right, We're good.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, No, but you are. You're just so wise.

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You're so wise, and you always have the.

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Speaker 2: Best nice way to say old the decade on this

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little girl.

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Speaker 1: You don't just I do fine whatever. Maybe you do, yeah,

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but you don't look it. But you don't look it.

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Forty what's your birthday?

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Speaker 2: Last week?

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Speaker 1: Did I miss your fucking posted?

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Speaker 2: Or tell anybody? I didn't posted. I literally I flew home,

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did a reading from a movie I wrote, and flew out.

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Didn't Why would you not tell me it's your birthday?

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I can't tell anybody. I wouldn't even repost people's posts.

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Speaker 1: Online because you don't want people to know your agent.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't care about the age. I just don't

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want all the attention.

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Speaker 1: I deeply understand that, and I think we need to

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talk about this now. I hate more than anything when

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people call me on my.

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Speaker 2: Birthday too, like it's my It's like.

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Speaker 1: Why am I now obligated to you to talk to you.

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I haven't talked to you in weeks, maybe months, maybe

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since my last birthday, and now I have to give

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you a piece of my day.

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Speaker 2: Because I was born, I would I would hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, then you have to tell me when you're right.

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Speaker 2: Can tell you what the date is, March fifth, Okay,

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but but I would happy.

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Speaker 1: This is a song that all my friends get it

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on the birthday. So here it comes you ready, We're ready.

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Happy birthday, Hey, fee birthday, hae birthday, eapy birthday, heavy birthday, Hey,

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happy birthday.

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Speaker 2: That's exactly how I would expect it. That is the

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exact method.

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Speaker 1: But I do it with the memoji, and it's always

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the unicorn.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So just.

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Speaker 1: Imagine those two things.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I can see it.

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Speaker 1: Imagine the chaos of that. It's my best friend Claudia's

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fortieth birthday today. Called her this morning. She didn't answer me,

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and I deeply understood that. I was like, I get it.

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Speaker 2: No, yeah, something, I mean, I could hear from certain people,

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but I just I didn't even want the follow words

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to you know, feel like it's like I just want

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to work, and that's.

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Speaker 1: What I did.

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Speaker 2: I flew in.

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Speaker 1: I work, But do you actually want to work as

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much as you're working?

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Speaker 2: You know? I burnt out this past Monday, Yeah, because

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Sunday was like a sixteen hour travel day because our

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flights got canceled from Rochester and we had to take

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a tour bus from Rochester to Secaucus and they couldn't

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get a car to get me back to Westchester.

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Speaker 1: Is this what Joe?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Joel was this on joke Oil. And then I

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got to JFK, booked two different flights and on whatever

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flight could get me back to LA at four in

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the morning.

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Speaker 1: And I was just like, yeah, that's a burnout. That's

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a burnout bout, but that's not a burnout from work.

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That's a travel fuck up here. Also, it was mercury retrograde.

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Everything goes wrong.

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Speaker 2: I'm not kidding. I felt that on another level. Now,

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I think it's I have I suffer from PMDD, which

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is like PMS on steroids before.

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Speaker 1: It's not even PMS. It's like once a month you

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become so suicidal.

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Speaker 2: It's it's by pole.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's something else, like it needs real recognition because

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PMDD is the scariest thing ever. I had that before

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I got my IUD and probably my antidepressance. I took

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a loose lexapro in my purse earlier because I remembered

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I forgot it. Yeah, so you had PMDD and mercury.

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Speaker 2: Retrograde and okay, m mercury retrograde.

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Speaker 1: So this retrograde is especially tricky and sticky because let

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me pull it up. I'll let me tell you why.

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So it always is going to fuck up traveling communication.

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So you'll notice, like when you're trying to book flights

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and you're trying to like open stuff up, things won't open,

472
00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:38,319
apps won't open.

473
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:40,960
Speaker 2: I'm having problems with all my flights and booking this month.

474
00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:43,039
Speaker 1: Flights are gonna get weird. Like literally, when I flew

475
00:20:43,079 --> 00:20:45,720
out here, I knew because it was mercury retrograde. I

476
00:20:45,839 --> 00:20:49,240
was like, we're going to have delays and shit's gonna

477
00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,000
go wrong when we get there. I just knew it.

478
00:20:51,559 --> 00:20:55,240
And because I mentally prepared myself that way. I wasn't

479
00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:58,359
mad when it happened because I got delayed out of

480
00:20:58,599 --> 00:21:00,519
Palm Beach. And this is like a tricky because it's

481
00:21:00,519 --> 00:21:03,079
almost like a reverse red eye. I left at eight.

482
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:05,200
It was supposed to be leaving at eight forty pm

483
00:21:05,279 --> 00:21:07,839
out of Palm Beach, getting in here at midnight, which

484
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:12,960
is Palm Beach time three am. So it was delayed

485
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,559
an hour. And then when we got here it was

486
00:21:15,599 --> 00:21:17,839
like lax was shut down because it was so late,

487
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,559
and they had to find somebody to come get us

488
00:21:20,559 --> 00:21:22,480
a jet bridge, and when they got there, the jet

489
00:21:22,519 --> 00:21:24,200
bridge didn't work. So we all were sitting on the

490
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,559
airplane and everyone's like huffing and puffing, and I'm run

491
00:21:27,599 --> 00:21:27,880
and I just.

492
00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:29,920
Speaker 2: Sat there and I was like, I knew this was

493
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:30,920
gonna add mercury.

494
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Baby, I just wanted to stand up and be like,

495
00:21:33,759 --> 00:21:37,359
it's marcury retrograde. Everybody take a seat. Okay, So this

496
00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:42,599
is the most intense mercury retrograde of the year. If

497
00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:45,920
it's fake, forced, fragile, it's all about to fall apart.

498
00:21:46,079 --> 00:21:48,880
So things in your life that aren't supposed to be

499
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,920
there are going to leave in this retrograde. And it's

500
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,359
interesting because I don't know if you've had any experiences

501
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,119
with this, but I had a big experience obviously with

502
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,200
my designers, where people that I thought would be in

503
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,279
my life for the rest of my life it fell

504
00:22:03,319 --> 00:22:06,480
apart in a really big way during this there's retrograde.

505
00:22:07,599 --> 00:22:11,000
Eclipse season is also within this retrograde, so it's like

506
00:22:13,079 --> 00:22:17,559
the adding mercury retrograde to an eclipse. Eclipses are already crazy.

507
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,440
Like people who don't believe in this stuff, that's fine,

508
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,200
but just scientifically, if you believe in the fact that

509
00:22:23,319 --> 00:22:25,880
the Moon controls the ocean and the ocean is water

510
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,200
and worse, seventy percent water, then like it's not.

511
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,440
Speaker 2: Really a belief systety, right, it's science.

512
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 1: Science, Okay, So you can't fake stability right now, it's

513
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,799
a karmic cleanup and it's a fire horse here, so

514
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:41,359
that energy doesn't tolerate confusion, so only strong foundations will

515
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:45,119
survive that energy. So what's being removed now was never

516
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,240
meant to be with you. Retrograde doesn't destroy. It exposes

517
00:22:48,279 --> 00:22:53,240
weak boundaries, unspoken to expectations, unstable dynamics. It's clarity, not cruelty.

518
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:57,440
It's correction. So it's like your life in these few

519
00:22:57,519 --> 00:23:01,440
weeks just course correcting, and people will fall by the wayside,

520
00:23:01,519 --> 00:23:04,799
relationships will fall by the wayside, and things are gonna

521
00:23:04,799 --> 00:23:07,599
be really uncomfortable because when people and things you like

522
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:11,119
the one shit falls apart, it doesn't feel good. But

523
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:13,640
it is not meant for you. It's not meant to

524
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,839
come into this fire horse you're with you. So what

525
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:21,480
you should expect is technology obviously chooses violence, travel plans,

526
00:23:21,519 --> 00:23:25,319
testing your patients, miscommunication, so like if you're talking to

527
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:26,400
somebody a lot.

528
00:23:26,519 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 2: It has been so much miscommunication currently with my message

529
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,799
SMID that made me like everybody's gonna go everybody's going

530
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:33,319
this week.

531
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:35,480
Speaker 1: Like yeah, yeah, but you can't do that, I know

532
00:23:35,839 --> 00:23:38,440
till the twenty I know. Okay, so you cannot fire

533
00:23:38,559 --> 00:23:41,720
anyone or sign any contracts or do anything major until

534
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,039
the twentieth because this energy is not it's not the

535
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:49,640
time to do it. Old connections will check back in

536
00:23:49,799 --> 00:23:51,759
during this retrograde. I don't know if you've had any

537
00:23:51,799 --> 00:23:54,839
of that. I actually don't think I have agreements falling

538
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:58,079
through brain buffering, meaning like you have a slow time

539
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:02,079
thinking mm hmm. Messages being misunderstood. That's kind of the

540
00:24:02,079 --> 00:24:06,079
same thing delayed replies, secret slipping out. And again it's

541
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,440
just like, uh, it's the moon is in Pisces, so

542
00:24:09,559 --> 00:24:13,880
you should after this have emotional clarity. Uh, dreams will

543
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:18,920
feel more real and prophetic during this time. Heightened sensitivity,

544
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:23,960
old emotions resurfacing, subtle truths rising, and your body reacting

545
00:24:24,039 --> 00:24:28,359
before your mind understands. Pisces doesn't shout, it dissolves what

546
00:24:28,559 --> 00:24:31,559
isn't real. If it feels off, it is off. So

547
00:24:31,759 --> 00:24:37,119
this is like a major time of like uncertain energy. Yeah,

548
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:41,640
it's but it's almost done. Is twentieth, so we got

549
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:42,279
nine more days.

550
00:24:42,279 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 2: I have nine d I have the time this comes out,

551
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,079
will have like this is the only conversation I'm gonna have, say,

552
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:49,400
and then I'm gonna go on stage and that's the

553
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,279
only other time I'm gonna talk today. Yeah, I told

554
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:56,160
everybody today nothing against anybody. I'm not talking to anybody today. Yeah.

555
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: I mean, you didn't even tell me when you're on

556
00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,279
your way. I didn't even know if you're coming. Well,

557
00:25:00,759 --> 00:25:02,559
I know she'll be here because she asked for the address,

558
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:03,720
but I just.

559
00:25:03,799 --> 00:25:05,759
Speaker 2: Well, I'm like I can't talk to anybody. I don't

560
00:25:05,759 --> 00:25:09,079
want to talk to anybody. I'm like, I'm just shut down,

561
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:09,920
and that's okay.

562
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 1: I think it's good in life to know that every

563
00:25:12,519 --> 00:25:14,599
once in a while you do you are the chrysalist,

564
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,440
not the butterfly, Like you have to take time to

565
00:25:17,559 --> 00:25:20,279
protect yourself and nurture yourself and care for yourself and

566
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,279
shut down and turn off and not be available to

567
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,319
everyone at all times. Like I've gotten better with texting.

568
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,759
So I used to be somebody who would respond to

569
00:25:28,839 --> 00:25:31,839
texting immediately every time. It was like almost it felt

570
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:33,880
like and it didn't matter how much I respected the

571
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:36,839
person or liked the person, they weren't even if they

572
00:25:36,839 --> 00:25:38,720
weren't a priority to me, I would respond to them.

573
00:25:38,759 --> 00:25:41,119
I only respond to fans like really, and not that

574
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,480
they're not priorities. I love them, but like I'll be like, oh, no,

575
00:25:43,559 --> 00:25:45,440
they messaged me, I have to message back. I have

576
00:25:45,519 --> 00:25:47,640
to message back, and I'm like no, no, no, I

577
00:25:47,759 --> 00:25:51,160
have to like keep my energy to myself for myself sometimes.

578
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,039
Speaker 2: Which is great that you learned that ten years younger

579
00:25:54,079 --> 00:25:54,559
than I did.

580
00:25:55,319 --> 00:25:58,039
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think it's really hard being a people pleaser.

581
00:25:58,079 --> 00:26:00,359
I think you grew up in a chaotic family. Many

582
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,200
of us did. And here's the reality I think about life, right, Like,

583
00:26:03,319 --> 00:26:05,279
even whether you grew up in a chaotic home or

584
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,279
a stable home, as humans, we create chaos if it

585
00:26:08,319 --> 00:26:11,920
doesn't exist already, you know. So I think everyone has

586
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:13,920
their own version of chaos. Like everyone can be like, well,

587
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,359
I didn't grow up that way, but I am also

588
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,720
that way, like I blah blah blah. But but when

589
00:26:17,759 --> 00:26:20,680
you do grow up in chaos specifically, you're a people

590
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:25,000
pleaser in that you learn early that you have to

591
00:26:25,319 --> 00:26:27,680
caretake other people's emotions. And one way to do that

592
00:26:27,839 --> 00:26:30,720
is making sure everyone gets what they want, neglecting what

593
00:26:30,839 --> 00:26:31,160
you want.

594
00:26:31,759 --> 00:26:32,680
Speaker 2: And and so.

595
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,880
Speaker 1: That I see even in our friendship with you, where

596
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,759
like I'll be like and then I'm like, what's going

597
00:26:40,799 --> 00:26:41,119
on with you?

598
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:41,519
Speaker 2: Like what's it?

599
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:45,160
Speaker 1: You're just like I'm good, everything's good, and I'm just like, okay,

600
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:46,240
how about the truth this time?

601
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 2: Like aout I've hit you with some yeah, I know

602
00:26:49,079 --> 00:26:49,319
you have.

603
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 1: But there are also times when you're like, no, everything's good,

604
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:52,759
and I'm like, I know it's not, but I'm not

605
00:26:52,799 --> 00:26:53,720
going to push further.

606
00:26:53,599 --> 00:26:56,160
Speaker 2: Because like it's just because it's it's either the same

607
00:26:56,319 --> 00:26:58,440
or like I don't even know. Yeah, I think this

608
00:26:58,599 --> 00:27:01,319
year from like right from this start went like completely

609
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:02,960
in a different direction for me, and I was like,

610
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,519
hold on, like I don't know what's happened, But it

611
00:27:04,599 --> 00:27:04,960
went in the.

612
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,839
Speaker 1: Direction that I knew it would go for you. I

613
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,000
knew it was going to because it was like at

614
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:10,359
the end of last year, You're like, I have zero

615
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,279
dates on my calendar. I have nothing going on. I

616
00:27:12,759 --> 00:27:14,519
am I even a comedian, which is by the way,

617
00:27:14,519 --> 00:27:16,000
I wake up every morning and I'm like, am I

618
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:16,920
a comedian?

619
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 2: No?

620
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,279
Speaker 1: Like I don't, am I even doing this?

621
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,519
Speaker 2: No? And I'll tell you, do I know how to

622
00:27:22,599 --> 00:27:23,119
do comedy?

623
00:27:23,279 --> 00:27:24,279
Speaker 1: Yeah? No?

624
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:28,319
Speaker 2: And I just respond no, absolutely not absolutely not no,

625
00:27:28,559 --> 00:27:30,079
but go get him not com dead.

626
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 1: No. But I knew because you were, you know, going

627
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:36,039
back and forth with JOKOI last year, and I just

628
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:38,960
knew it was a matter of like it wasn't if

629
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,880
it was when right, and he hit you up and

630
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,759
you did what you're really great at doing, which is

631
00:27:44,839 --> 00:27:47,079
making yourself available for things that are important to you.

632
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,680
And you were there. You showed up, You did your job,

633
00:27:50,799 --> 00:27:53,079
You did it the best of your t to the

634
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,559
best of your ability, and you crushed it, and he

635
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,759
loves you, and now you're on tour with him, and

636
00:27:57,839 --> 00:27:58,519
that's so special.

637
00:27:58,759 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 2: It is special.

638
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 1: That's so fun special because Joe seems like and I

639
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,640
don't know him, but he does seem like one of

640
00:28:04,759 --> 00:28:09,480
the five guys in comedy. It's like genuinely nice and

641
00:28:10,079 --> 00:28:14,839
has a massive following. And he doesn't seem to have

642
00:28:15,079 --> 00:28:19,680
a crazy ego or an agenda or any of the

643
00:28:19,839 --> 00:28:22,680
things that all of these mentally ill comics have. He

644
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,279
just is such a special person.

645
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 2: And I just what, like I said, I wanted, that's

646
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:28,720
what you wanted.

647
00:28:28,799 --> 00:28:31,039
Speaker 1: That's what you deserve, because that's also what you give

648
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,960
to your friends, Like you are just so kind and

649
00:28:34,079 --> 00:28:37,880
generous with your time and with your spirit building and

650
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,680
morale building. And like, I'm just so happy that somebody

651
00:28:41,119 --> 00:28:42,799
you know at such a high level as kind of

652
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:43,680
doing the same thing to.

653
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,799
Speaker 2: You, which is what we will need.

654
00:28:46,279 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: We all need mentorship. Right.

655
00:28:48,319 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 2: It's like I always say, like I'm a student of

656
00:28:50,519 --> 00:28:53,000
this game still, I don't care I'm older, or if

657
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,440
I'm doing it for fifteen years or whatever it is.

658
00:28:56,559 --> 00:29:00,519
It's like I want, I always want, I want to

659
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,440
get better for myself, like I wanna you know, I

660
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,759
just constantly evolving. Yeah, and so it was just a

661
00:29:06,799 --> 00:29:09,720
great opportunity. Of course, the audience is so huge and

662
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,200
he's you know, everything you said, and then to still

663
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,319
be like, Okay, I still have this tour that I

664
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,680
committed to for myself, which I wasn't didn't think I

665
00:29:17,759 --> 00:29:19,559
was getting dates, and all of a sudden it was like, oh,

666
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,279
I have the first half of the year. I have

667
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,559
that was date these dates that makes one of us, right,

668
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,759
But but new markets and like just you know, it's

669
00:29:28,839 --> 00:29:31,880
still all like and I try and tell myself like

670
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,680
a slow build will make for a strong foundation. But

671
00:29:34,759 --> 00:29:37,119
it's just really hard because I feel and you know this,

672
00:29:37,359 --> 00:29:41,119
I feel like we have to do everything, not everything

673
00:29:41,319 --> 00:29:43,119
like professionally.

674
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 1: It's like I, yeah, it's hard because it's like we

675
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,960
used to as comedians and I don't know because I

676
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:50,000
didn't exist in this time, but just do comedy and

677
00:29:50,079 --> 00:29:51,720
you could have the same set for a decade, for

678
00:29:51,799 --> 00:29:54,559
fifteen years, for twenty years. Some comedians just did the

679
00:29:54,599 --> 00:29:57,160
same jokes their whole life, and you didn't have to

680
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,279
have new, new, new, new new. But the social media

681
00:29:59,319 --> 00:30:01,440
of it all me, you have to churn out, churn out,

682
00:30:01,559 --> 00:30:04,599
churn out, and I just you know, it's it's just

683
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:04,960
a lot.

684
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 2: It's a lot like social media. Number one is it's

685
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:11,279
completely owned animal. Yeah, and then just the new material

686
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,920
and the you know, back end of things like just

687
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,319
it's just a different game. It's you know, from branding

688
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:22,519
and you know, photos and just everything that goes into

689
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:27,920
scheduling and touring. It's like, you know, unless you're at

690
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,319
a level whereas the other people can literally do it

691
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,039
for you, and even at that point, if you care enough,

692
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:37,880
it's still mental anguish, right. I'd love to get to

693
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:41,079
a point where I could just create, and wouldn't we all?

694
00:30:41,359 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think people that are in the position

695
00:30:44,039 --> 00:30:46,720
where they can just create still feel that way. I

696
00:30:46,839 --> 00:30:48,720
think it's kind of a rat race till the end.

697
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:53,200
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do it just for general hair health once a week.

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00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:22,039
It'll help. It'll help with breakage. So you wipe, you

709
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:24,640
rub it all over all of the hair and then

710
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,720
do the scalp. That'll help with growth and growth simulation.

711
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712
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713
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the code Brit Thank me later. So on that note,

714
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:40,119
let's talk about looking younger.

715
00:31:40,599 --> 00:31:41,519
Speaker 2: Oh, let's do it.

716
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 1: Let's talk about our cosmetic, our favorite cosmetic procedures. You

717
00:31:46,279 --> 00:31:46,519
and I.

718
00:31:48,039 --> 00:31:50,359
Speaker 2: Share our love for skincare.

719
00:31:50,559 --> 00:31:53,079
Speaker 1: Skincare. Let's get into it because that's what the girly

720
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:54,759
The girly pops don't want to hear about how hard

721
00:31:54,799 --> 00:31:56,200
comedy is now. I don't know about that.

722
00:31:56,640 --> 00:32:00,279
Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with skincare. Obsessed. Hell us.

723
00:32:00,319 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 1: Your routine, double cleans, double cleans in the morning morning.

724
00:32:06,559 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 2: Morning water just water, no that if I do a

725
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:12,799
little up, I do feel like I need a little

726
00:32:12,839 --> 00:32:15,160
something I'll do in oil cleans okay, because.

727
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,799
Speaker 1: I feel like I have grime from my night terrors

728
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,240
on me. I'm just violently. I woke up with anxiety

729
00:32:21,359 --> 00:32:23,519
at five am. I was having a nightmare about a

730
00:32:23,559 --> 00:32:28,039
fight I was having with my boyfriend. Didn't ever happen,

731
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,440
but right, oh yeah yeah, and then I woke up

732
00:32:31,759 --> 00:32:35,480
mad at him and so anxious, covered in sweating. It's

733
00:32:35,519 --> 00:32:38,519
like sweating, like fucking shock at the foul line. Literally,

734
00:32:38,559 --> 00:32:44,640
I was just like like, I fucking can't okay. So no, usually,

735
00:32:44,839 --> 00:32:46,519
no cleanser in the morning.

736
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 2: That's done, the whole full routine at night, okay. And

737
00:32:50,319 --> 00:32:53,240
then I've got this new product that I really it's

738
00:32:53,359 --> 00:32:55,480
like my favorite thing. It's supposed to be a mask,

739
00:32:55,599 --> 00:32:57,640
but I put it on anyway. It's called like Vans

740
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:01,839
La Vants. It's like this lotion out of France.

741
00:33:02,039 --> 00:33:04,799
Speaker 1: Okay. The French know what the fuck they're doing with

742
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,759
skin cream. That's why they chane smoked cigarettes and they

743
00:33:07,759 --> 00:33:08,799
all look like yeah twenty.

744
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 2: Right, like until there's seventy yeah, and drink coffee. But

745
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,759
I've been using that. I do like I So. My

746
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:23,480
favorite skincare product was Vitamin C Serrum until I took

747
00:33:23,559 --> 00:33:27,559
too much leposomal vitamin C once while I was sick,

748
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:30,960
and I became allergic to topical vitamin C. Oh. My

749
00:33:31,079 --> 00:33:33,279
biggest advice to people is, if you could use vitamin

750
00:33:33,359 --> 00:33:34,240
C serrum, use it.

751
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's but you're only supposed to use viaancy serum

752
00:33:37,839 --> 00:33:40,400
in the morning because it's like brightens. And if you

753
00:33:40,559 --> 00:33:43,680
use it at night, I can't remember why you're not Swiss.

754
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:45,680
That night I was listening to a doctor tell me why,

755
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:46,720
and I think.

756
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 2: I used to use a blacked out because I have

757
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:48,720
a bad memory.

758
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 1: But I got But I did get the important part,

759
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:52,519
which is only.

760
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 2: Use it in the morning and then always SPF always.

761
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:57,759
Speaker 1: But that's the last step.

762
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, we gotta give a hyaluron or a hyloonic serum.

763
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:05,119
But this this, with this new mask, I skip a

764
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:05,720
lot of things.

765
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:11,599
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, if I'm doing it quick, I'll do a wash,

766
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,280
no cleans no cleanser, just get my face really nice

767
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:16,719
in the morning, to get a really hot rag and

768
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,000
just press it on there. I think cold would wake

769
00:34:19,039 --> 00:34:21,119
me up more, but warm is just like more soothing

770
00:34:21,199 --> 00:34:24,199
to my soul. And then if I'm like really in

771
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:28,760
a hurry, I will just do SPF like just yeah,

772
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:30,800
because I'm like, that's the most important thing. But the

773
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:33,480
SPF with moisturized with SPS, yes, yes, yes, yeah.

774
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:37,599
Speaker 2: I need an oil. Okay, I need something on my skin.

775
00:34:37,639 --> 00:34:39,320
I'll do a face oil if I don't do the

776
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:43,840
cream from France I need. I'm at an age where

777
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:47,039
I need oil. I need I need to be fully moisturized.

778
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get it. And are you doing the hand routines?

779
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,559
So everyone needs to be doing this? Didn't know this.

780
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:58,000
Hands are like the neck in that they age first.

781
00:34:58,199 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 2: This is I've tried everything I could hear. It's a

782
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:04,440
lost cause I'm going to need a new Yeah, I'm

783
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,440
gonna be like I need.

784
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:11,639
Speaker 1: A cadaver chest. Well that was dark, but I was

785
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,000
going to say something even darker. I'm not going to No,

786
00:35:14,079 --> 00:35:15,639
I feel like I need a whole new one. Like

787
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,119
when I get my ponytail facelift, I'm also going to

788
00:35:18,119 --> 00:35:19,159
be like lift my.

789
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:23,199
Speaker 2: Chest and get my friends going for a ponytail in Toronto? Yeah?

790
00:35:23,519 --> 00:35:27,199
Is that the move? Because I was a full facelift?

791
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:28,360
Is that why you just do this?

792
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:28,760
Speaker 1: Just?

793
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 2: You know?

794
00:35:33,079 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 1: Because I'm getting to the age where when I'm putting

795
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,599
on makeup. My skin's moving with the brush, you know,

796
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:40,559
and it's like, especially the eyes.

797
00:35:40,639 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 2: I'm like, what is this? I want to lower bluff.

798
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 1: I was interested in a bluff until I saw Bradley

799
00:35:47,079 --> 00:35:51,960
Cooper's bluff. Did you see Bradley Cooper's Oh no, he

800
00:35:52,079 --> 00:35:54,639
got the worst plastic surgery. And the biggest part of

801
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:56,760
the plastic surgery snaffhoo is the bluff.

802
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:01,639
Speaker 2: So the ponytail. He was a doctor in La. He

803
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:02,960
was so famous for it.

804
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,199
Speaker 1: Oh oh, and he's denying that he got it. I'm like,

805
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,519
don't it. I mean, come on, pust on my back,

806
00:36:09,559 --> 00:36:10,639
but don't tell me it's raining.

807
00:36:11,119 --> 00:36:12,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, terrible, But that.

808
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,280
Speaker 1: The problem is the bleff because they hollowed out so

809
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,679
like men that sort of skin sagging and their eyes,

810
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,559
the skin sagging and their eyes like it looks good

811
00:36:21,599 --> 00:36:23,360
on them because it's like, you know, it gives the

812
00:36:23,559 --> 00:36:26,920
age that he just hollowed it out and now he looks.

813
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,679
Speaker 2: Spooky, spooky. I want this the lower though.

814
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: Okay, fine, I'll allow it, but I don't think you

815
00:36:31,559 --> 00:36:31,800
need it.

816
00:36:32,039 --> 00:36:34,079
Speaker 2: No, I need to hear we discussed. I have like

817
00:36:34,159 --> 00:36:34,920
the whole mark.

818
00:36:35,119 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, fine, yeah, hollow it but but I

819
00:36:39,519 --> 00:36:41,679
would do if your facelift is on the docket, I

820
00:36:41,679 --> 00:36:42,440
would do that first.

821
00:36:42,599 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 2: The pail not you don't need it yet?

822
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: No, no, I know.

823
00:36:46,039 --> 00:36:49,159
Speaker 2: I want to not need it for a while. That's

824
00:36:49,159 --> 00:36:51,000
why the skincare I think is so important.

825
00:36:51,119 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 1: But what do you know about this?

826
00:36:52,599 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 2: No, no, it doesn't even look that different. I don't

827
00:36:57,039 --> 00:36:57,880
know if I even like it.

828
00:36:59,159 --> 00:37:01,679
Speaker 1: Okay, well did you see hant Anne Hathaway's before and afters?

829
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:05,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, she looks great, she looks perfect, and so she

830
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:06,920
looks as good as Anne Hathaway could have looked. I

831
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:07,599
don't think she was.

832
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 1: I don't know that's so savage. I think she looks hot.

833
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,639
I think she looks hotter than she did before the face.

834
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:14,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she looks better because I don't think

835
00:37:14,679 --> 00:37:15,480
I never thought she was.

836
00:37:15,639 --> 00:37:19,119
Speaker 1: Like sure, I understand what you're saying. Yeah, but but

837
00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:22,159
she looks Storlenn Storn.

838
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:25,760
Speaker 2: Oh, the guy in New York is the one that

839
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,639
everybody's gone with, Chris Jenner Stevens.

840
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I blew the fucking lid off him.

841
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,159
Speaker 2: I don't even know what the pictures on his site heard.

842
00:37:34,159 --> 00:37:39,039
He's like starting at one hundred or probably me that's

843
00:37:39,079 --> 00:37:39,880
an actual in that.

844
00:37:40,119 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 1: I believe in that one hundred percent. Here's the thing.

845
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,400
You don't ever chince out. Can you say that word

846
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,119
now or is that you know, never go cheap on

847
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:50,599
plastic surgery. Never?

848
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,199
Speaker 2: Never. I'm like, yeah, my wait, what is that like?

849
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know if chintz is something

850
00:37:55,559 --> 00:37:57,599
you can't say, right, they take all the words away

851
00:37:57,639 --> 00:38:01,800
from us. But you don't ever go cheap on plastic surgery.

852
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:03,199
I remember I had a friend who was going to

853
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,599
get a nose job and the surgeon was too expensive,

854
00:38:05,679 --> 00:38:07,199
and she's like, I'm just gonna go to a cheaper one.

855
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:08,519
And I'm like, oh, you could just.

856
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:11,039
Speaker 2: Suck her face center of your face for the middle

857
00:38:11,159 --> 00:38:11,719
of your face.

858
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:13,039
Speaker 1: Yeah, fucked her whole face up.

859
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:13,519
Speaker 2: Ah.

860
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:20,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, So you don't ever. I'm like, if there's ever

861
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:22,920
a time to spend fifty racks, yeah, yeah, it's if

862
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:24,320
you're going to fix it center.

863
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 2: There's a way to do it, Like there's payment plant

864
00:38:27,519 --> 00:38:28,760
there is, it's an investment.

865
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:32,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. Also, here's the other thing I'm gonna say. This

866
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:36,119
is controversial and not at all. It's the antithesis to

867
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,880
everything we were just saying. I remember when I was young,

868
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:40,440
and I would look at my grandma, and my grandma

869
00:38:40,599 --> 00:38:42,960
was just this beautiful woman, like she got her she

870
00:38:43,079 --> 00:38:45,000
did her hair every day and like her makeup, and

871
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,039
she always looked so pretty and so stunning. And I

872
00:38:47,119 --> 00:38:49,599
remember at every age she got prettier and prettier. And

873
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,679
she never did any botox, she never did any surgeries.

874
00:38:53,079 --> 00:38:57,400
She just aged gracefully and she work beautiful. Did she work?

875
00:38:57,480 --> 00:38:57,559
Speaker 2: Now?

876
00:38:57,639 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 1: She didn't work? Fuck? Yeah, you're right.

877
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 2: When I need a facelift, oil of volet baby, and

878
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:06,039
that's what they used. My grandmother used like all these

879
00:39:06,119 --> 00:39:10,440
old school products you can get in CBS, and skin

880
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:16,559
was beautiful. My mother's mother had very few wrinkles, aged beautifully,

881
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,400
always dyed her hair, she tried her hair very red

882
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:24,960
and it was just stunning. But yeah, she didn't work, grandma.

883
00:39:25,679 --> 00:39:28,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, never mind. Fuck her life was hard though.

884
00:39:28,199 --> 00:39:32,280
Speaker 2: I mean she what ethnicity, So she's British she was born,

885
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,320
which is rare, no offense. I think white women age

886
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,000
worse than ethnic women.

887
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, obviously she was British and she here's the thing,

888
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,920
I think she aged beautifully. Who knows, because I just

889
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:45,320
loved her.

890
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:45,840
Speaker 2: You love her.

891
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 1: I loved her so much.

892
00:39:47,119 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 2: She was a real maternal figure.

893
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 1: Or no, she nobody really had the space to be

894
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:52,920
because my mom, you know, she took up all the

895
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,119
year in the room so nobody could like swoop in,

896
00:39:55,239 --> 00:39:57,239
but people tried to it. It was my mom's mom,

897
00:39:57,519 --> 00:39:59,960
and she was stunning and I loved her to piece it.

898
00:40:02,519 --> 00:40:05,639
Speaker 2: What was I saying in London British?

899
00:40:06,199 --> 00:40:09,159
Speaker 1: Oh, she's yeah, So she was in London during the

900
00:40:09,199 --> 00:40:12,960
Second War, and or not London, I forget where she's from.

901
00:40:13,119 --> 00:40:15,480
She was in England during the Second War and then

902
00:40:15,559 --> 00:40:17,920
came over here on a boat during World War two.

903
00:40:19,159 --> 00:40:23,159
So she came in through Ellis Island, And I think

904
00:40:23,159 --> 00:40:25,679
about that sometimes when I'm in New York. I'm just like,

905
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:30,679
that's so crazy that my grandma, like this young, scared child,

906
00:40:31,039 --> 00:40:33,880
came on a boat to like start a new life

907
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:36,320
here and was had to go through so much. I

908
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:39,360
mean even just a boat over here. I can't even

909
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:40,400
be on a cruise.

910
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 2: Like literally, I'm like, I can't campaign me enough.

911
00:40:44,559 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: Yeah no, I mean the the poverty levels of cruise.

912
00:40:48,639 --> 00:40:51,039
Speaker 2: Ships's right that my career was going on.

913
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 1: But year yeah no, But I'm just like, you know,

914
00:40:56,199 --> 00:40:57,719
she went through so much so that I could be

915
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:58,400
so spoiled.

916
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 2: Oh I think about that all the time. Yeah, or

917
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:02,480
even when I was your parents came or not your

918
00:41:02,519 --> 00:41:05,199
parents grandparents came from. I just went back to Sisse.

919
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:06,760
First of all. You go back and it's like they

920
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,280
came from like a town twenty minutes from Taramina with

921
00:41:09,679 --> 00:41:14,440
overlooking the Ionian see the most beautiful village ever And

922
00:41:14,559 --> 00:41:17,480
you're like you saw this, and we're like the Bronx's

923
00:41:18,119 --> 00:41:22,119
that's that's sake. But like imagine the level of poverty

924
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,760
that they had to go through to wanna leave for.

925
00:41:25,159 --> 00:41:28,960
But I think about that all the time, like it's

926
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:30,639
why to Italy? Thank God?

927
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:32,320
Speaker 1: I go to Italy and I'm like, I can go

928
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:32,800
back now.

929
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you know love Italy.

930
00:41:35,599 --> 00:41:36,639
Speaker 1: Remember I went to Milan.

931
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,039
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean that was an exceptional that was an

932
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:41,840
exception to the role I should say.

933
00:41:42,039 --> 00:41:45,039
Speaker 1: No, I mean Italy's great. I think it's just you know,

934
00:41:45,199 --> 00:41:49,400
it's old and historic and beautiful and not for me.

935
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:55,039
Speaker 2: Right south of France though we Yeah. In fact, I

936
00:41:55,159 --> 00:41:58,159
stayed there doing white lotus this year. Because you're such

937
00:41:58,199 --> 00:42:00,840
a fan of the hotel I stayed in at the

938
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,079
hotel I stayed in in Sancho Pin. I'm so upset

939
00:42:04,559 --> 00:42:06,800
because when not that people didn't know about it. But

940
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:08,719
when I left there, I told my I go tell

941
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:11,880
nobody about this hotel. Yeah, because it's I just need.

942
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,840
I don't want to see anybody I ever know here ever, Yeah,

943
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:17,239
and like this is going to be my place because

944
00:42:17,519 --> 00:42:19,800
I'm not that many people that I know would actually

945
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:20,119
go there.

946
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, how many of your friends can go to.

947
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:26,840
Speaker 2: And to this hotel? Forget it? Yeah, and now it's

948
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:28,400
going to be the everywhere.

949
00:42:30,159 --> 00:42:33,199
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, yeah, you should protest.

950
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 2: It's too late. They really should be released it. So

951
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:39,119
I have to show all my videos online. Now I

952
00:42:39,199 --> 00:42:42,239
can share them at least. I was like, we're nowhere.

953
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,400
We didn't go anywhere. It was so magnificent this place.

954
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: Oh I've heard Santa Pez great, like an old castle.

955
00:42:48,679 --> 00:42:52,800
And that's where Max was when I was Yeah, in Wisconsin.

956
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:54,920
My dad was getting open heart surgery and MAXs and

957
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:56,280
Sancho Pez getting high.

958
00:42:56,559 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 2: Yeah with his father though, So it's not a no, it's.

959
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:01,159
Speaker 1: The most his dad's the most fun.

960
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,039
Speaker 2: Still jealous, Yeah, we're both of our dads.

961
00:43:05,159 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: Both of our dads are high. Just differently, right, just different.

962
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:13,599
Speaker 2: My dad's doing IVY and yeah, same but different. I

963
00:43:13,599 --> 00:43:15,239
actually have to go to that psychic that told you

964
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:15,920
all those things.

965
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:18,599
Speaker 1: Oh you should. I actually just saw him in Miami.

966
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,360
I have to tell you what he said to me.

967
00:43:20,639 --> 00:43:23,679
Speaker 2: Oh yes after this, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's one eleven

968
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:24,360
angel numbers.

969
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:29,119
Speaker 1: Do you want to talk about? Do you talk about

970
00:43:29,199 --> 00:43:31,920
the your household growing up?

971
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:32,679
Speaker 2: Yeah?

972
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:33,639
Speaker 1: Are you open about that?

973
00:43:33,639 --> 00:43:34,280
Speaker 2: I'm very open.

974
00:43:35,199 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 1: Can you explain a little bit what that was like

975
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:41,320
and how being raised in that sort of chaos maybe

976
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,960
might have led you towards both therapy and comedy.

977
00:43:45,119 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 2: Yeah? Sure, Well I raised by a single mom. Oh

978
00:43:50,639 --> 00:43:52,519
as you get older, you look at your parents in

979
00:43:52,559 --> 00:43:54,320
a different light, and I go, she did the best

980
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,320
she could with what she had. Ye. My dad was

981
00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:58,000
an alcoholic.

982
00:43:59,519 --> 00:44:01,639
Speaker 1: It's yes, just so drinking.

983
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:05,280
Speaker 2: I just no sober nine twenty years this July. I

984
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:11,440
just took him to Sicily his eightieth birthday and it

985
00:44:11,559 --> 00:44:15,840
was really very emotional trip. But he was an alcoholic

986
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:20,320
my entire life. And I was glorified him like sun

987
00:44:20,639 --> 00:44:22,079
you know set.

988
00:44:22,559 --> 00:44:26,119
Speaker 1: And yeah yeah, and then was it because he wasn't around?

989
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:28,519
Speaker 2: I mean probably my mother said have fits you know,

990
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:31,360
every time he'd leave temper tantrums, I'd break things in

991
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:35,119
the house. It too, So there were always signs. My

992
00:44:35,199 --> 00:44:37,679
husband calls me vambam because I'm like, I'm like, well,

993
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:43,960
it started it too, Yeah, but my my dad was present.

994
00:44:44,119 --> 00:44:46,199
Oh you know, but you know, you know, when you

995
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:49,320
can't rely on people or what the situation is. And

996
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:53,840
my mom married a guy who was not good really

997
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:57,880
for me or for her. It was a tumultuous relationship.

998
00:44:58,119 --> 00:45:01,920
They were on and off constantly. She'd leave him, then

999
00:45:02,039 --> 00:45:04,199
we would leave, and then we'd go back into the house.

1000
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:08,559
And he just was you know, old school Sicilian just

1001
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,800
you know, he had kids who were you know, I

1002
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,480
guess you know, they're coming from divorce. Their mother was

1003
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:17,800
you know, wanted to be with my stepfather. So it

1004
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:25,760
was just a constant like negative vibe. And I, you know,

1005
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:29,480
I just I was lost. I think by fifteen, I

1006
00:45:29,679 --> 00:45:31,119
was like completely lost.

1007
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, no direction. Did you move out before you were

1008
00:45:34,599 --> 00:45:35,760
eighteen or did you stay posed?

1009
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:39,639
Speaker 2: No, I stayed. I wasn't. I got into the best

1010
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:44,719
high school in like the country and then went to it,

1011
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:49,280
but just didn't have the just there was no really stability.

1012
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:52,280
It was Bronx High School of Science. It was that

1013
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:57,239
in Stuyvesant, and the best high school in the country

1014
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:00,159
is in the Bronx. The second best, but the the

1015
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:02,480
best at the time was Brooklyn, which is Divesant.

1016
00:46:03,199 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, huh and uh, but I never guess so do

1017
00:46:07,039 --> 00:46:10,800
people like it's like like Kurt, kids in from other

1018
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:12,159
parts of the hundred, Well.

1019
00:46:12,039 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 2: Well they'll you can't. You could do it through New

1020
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:16,000
York State, Okay. So like if I would have gotten

1021
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:17,280
to Brooklyn, I would have been able to go. And

1022
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:19,199
kids who got in from Queens were able to go

1023
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:22,119
to the Bronx. It was usually schools or zones when

1024
00:46:22,159 --> 00:46:24,679
they're public, but this wasn't. This You had to like

1025
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:29,480
take a test to get into, okay, and I just couldn't.

1026
00:46:29,559 --> 00:46:32,199
I couldn't. I had no real direction in my life

1027
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:36,880
till I got myself out of I guess my hormones

1028
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:40,320
and you know, we had my own free thinking minds

1029
00:46:40,679 --> 00:46:42,400
by the time I hit college and was like, all right,

1030
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:44,599
I have more direction. Now I can take control of

1031
00:46:44,639 --> 00:46:45,199
the situation.

1032
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 1: Where'd you go to college?

1033
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:49,679
Speaker 2: Just a local pace university? I wanted to go to

1034
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:51,559
UCLA wait pace.

1035
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: I feel like Max went.

1036
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 2: There maybe there's one in the city.

1037
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think he went to Rolland in Florida and

1038
00:47:00,079 --> 00:47:01,960
needed too much coke and then he had to come Well,

1039
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:03,239
you had to go somewhere else.

1040
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:06,760
Speaker 2: I think it was based probably downtown, yeah, uh huh.

1041
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,920
And then I just was like, you know, wanting to

1042
00:47:10,079 --> 00:47:14,679
do something creative but needed to like get out. Yeah,

1043
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:16,599
so I could like get my own place and get

1044
00:47:16,639 --> 00:47:19,639
a real job. And then yeah, so that's how I

1045
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:24,800
did the counseling. Yeah, and and listen, it's yeah, it's

1046
00:47:26,599 --> 00:47:29,079
it was a different time too, Like I think back

1047
00:47:29,159 --> 00:47:31,000
to like the things that were said and done and

1048
00:47:31,079 --> 00:47:34,039
how we were raised compared to now it is.

1049
00:47:34,159 --> 00:47:36,039
Speaker 1: It's a different time. It's so funny because, like, you know,

1050
00:47:36,119 --> 00:47:38,079
I always remember when I was growing up, my mom

1051
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:40,360
or dad would be like, you're so lucky you weren't

1052
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:42,760
raised when I was raised. You'd have a fucking I'd

1053
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:46,199
be beating you with a spoon or whatever. And I

1054
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:48,800
was just like, oh, please, it hasn't changed that much,

1055
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,079
you know. And then it's like, no, now that I'm

1056
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:53,119
you know, the age where I should have a kid,

1057
00:47:53,159 --> 00:47:55,599
but I don't, I'm like, yeah, it has changed. Do

1058
00:47:55,639 --> 00:47:57,000
you want eh?

1059
00:47:58,039 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 2: Do you do you think that's because of what we

1060
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:01,920
do or because.

1061
00:48:01,639 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: Of like, no, I will quit comedy tomorrow. I don't

1062
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:10,840
have any there's no fire in my belly to keep

1063
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:18,079
going with that. I think it's just how I was raised,

1064
00:48:18,559 --> 00:48:22,039
and I didn't experience any joy in childhood. And I

1065
00:48:22,199 --> 00:48:26,239
also think being alive is my life sentence. And I

1066
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:28,320
didn't didn't ask to be here, and I guess on

1067
00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:30,760
some soul level I did and I needed to come

1068
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:32,639
here to learn my lessons and to evolve in the

1069
00:48:32,679 --> 00:48:36,519
ways that I'm evolving or whatever are. But yes, but

1070
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:40,039
also exhausting boohoo. Don't want to make someone else do that.

1071
00:48:41,039 --> 00:48:42,880
So clip this in two years when I have a kid.

1072
00:48:43,039 --> 00:48:48,280
Speaker 2: But it's give me my kids graduation, the christening exactly.

1073
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:50,719
But yeah, there's a part of me that just has

1074
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:53,760
no desire. Yeah, and then there's a part of me

1075
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:57,119
that goes, well, you know, I could do it different.

1076
00:48:57,199 --> 00:48:59,159
And then I go to I wanna I want to

1077
00:48:59,159 --> 00:49:00,960
put in any more? Do I want to work any

1078
00:49:01,079 --> 00:49:02,360
more towards anything else?

1079
00:49:02,519 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 1: So there's this theory that so we are raised how

1080
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:08,320
we're raised, and we don't like what our parents do,

1081
00:49:09,119 --> 00:49:12,360
and we think our parents have shortcomings as parents, so

1082
00:49:12,559 --> 00:49:15,599
that we then when we have children, reverse and do

1083
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:19,039
the exact opposite, and then our kids will not like

1084
00:49:19,119 --> 00:49:21,920
what we did, and so they will reverse and do

1085
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:25,119
the exact opposite, which then is doing parenting the same

1086
00:49:25,159 --> 00:49:27,239
way the grandparents. And it just is like that on

1087
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:31,199
a loop through civilization. Do you agree or disagree?

1088
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think there's so many different I

1089
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:38,480
don't know. I think environmental impact is just different. Of course,

1090
00:49:38,519 --> 00:49:40,000
you're always going to say I want to do things

1091
00:49:40,039 --> 00:49:41,639
differently than my parents, But I don't know if you

1092
00:49:41,679 --> 00:49:45,079
go the complete opposite. I think some reasons why I

1093
00:49:45,119 --> 00:49:46,480
don't want to have kids because I don't think I

1094
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:49,760
can know the complete opposite. Yeah, doesn't make a difference.

1095
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:53,519
If I was a psychologist, I mean I literally was

1096
00:49:53,639 --> 00:49:57,840
maternal to other people's children my whole life. Yeah, I

1097
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:01,320
made a career out of it, right, But it's I

1098
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:07,039
still have the like, very little room for era right mentality,

1099
00:50:08,079 --> 00:50:09,440
And I just don't know. I don't know.

1100
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: You can't have that with kids, right. I think you

1101
00:50:12,039 --> 00:50:13,840
just have to have so much grace. And I also

1102
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,639
think to a certain extent that if you are not

1103
00:50:17,079 --> 00:50:19,840
dying to be a mother. You should not be a

1104
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:24,920
mother because it is so all encompassing and it is

1105
00:50:25,119 --> 00:50:27,440
exhausting and it is going to challenge you in the

1106
00:50:27,519 --> 00:50:31,559
most profound ways. And if you don't want that, and

1107
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:33,880
you know yourself well enough, and you don't have the

1108
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:34,679
patience for this.

1109
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 2: So I haven't done it. I have eggs on ice,

1110
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:38,079
so do I yeah.

1111
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:42,039
Speaker 1: And we'll be eating them like funny, Like I just

1112
00:50:43,559 --> 00:50:46,400
literally so, I just I just think it's such a

1113
00:50:46,599 --> 00:50:48,599
you know, I think people are a little too reckless

1114
00:50:48,639 --> 00:50:51,000
with it and they don't give it much thought and

1115
00:50:51,119 --> 00:50:52,840
they just go for it. And I'm like, I think

1116
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:54,440
I feel like there should be a test that we

1117
00:50:54,519 --> 00:50:57,960
have to pass as people in order to procreate, because

1118
00:50:58,000 --> 00:50:59,719
it shouldn't just be anyone who can have a kid

1119
00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:01,840
can have a kid like you should be able to

1120
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,519
You should have to pass some sort of test.

1121
00:51:04,639 --> 00:51:05,280
Speaker 2: It wouldn't pass.

1122
00:51:05,519 --> 00:51:08,400
Speaker 1: So I bet you would, though, I bet you really would.

1123
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:10,840
I mean, you're you worked in.

1124
00:51:11,079 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 2: I'm aternal with my friends, I'm a ternal with my husband.

1125
00:51:13,519 --> 00:51:16,159
I'm eternal now with my parents because I have to be.

1126
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,079
You know that, you know so, but I just don't

1127
00:51:19,079 --> 00:51:22,360
know if I want to enough. And it's like I

1128
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:24,239
think this is my area. I always said forty six,

1129
00:51:24,599 --> 00:51:27,679
forty six, forty six was going to be the year

1130
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:30,800
my final decision, because I have those eggs, you know,

1131
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,360
and I'm not opposed to surrogacy or any other way

1132
00:51:33,400 --> 00:51:37,000
that science can help the situation. But I just don't know. Yeah,

1133
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:39,440
I don't know. My husband's going fifty one.

1134
00:51:40,119 --> 00:51:42,159
Speaker 1: One year to figure it out. I think Kristin Wiggs

1135
00:51:42,159 --> 00:51:45,000
started her parenting journey in her late forties.

1136
00:51:46,039 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 2: Now that I talk about on stage, so many people

1137
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:49,480
come over to me after yeah, and they're like, I

1138
00:51:49,599 --> 00:51:51,599
did it at forty six. I did it. My girlfriend

1139
00:51:51,679 --> 00:51:52,920
just did it at fifty on her own, and oh

1140
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:53,840
my god, well you know.

1141
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:57,559
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a different time. Well, wait, we have to

1142
00:51:57,599 --> 00:52:00,159
do Word of the Week. I almost forgot again. In

1143
00:52:01,360 --> 00:52:04,039
Word of the Week, we're trying to make everyone smart.

1144
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:09,199
Speaker 2: Oh I love this, Oh how much I know I'm

1145
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:09,960
be able to get it?

1146
00:52:10,599 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 1: Okay, hang on, Mike picked the words this week because

1147
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:17,599
I forgot my book. Mike, I feel like you didn't

1148
00:52:17,639 --> 00:52:22,679
pick English words. Did you pick a different language? No,

1149
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:26,599
they were just creative words that not everyone knew. Okay, Fika,

1150
00:52:27,079 --> 00:52:28,960
f I k A do you know what that means.

1151
00:52:30,239 --> 00:52:33,840
Speaker 2: Speak them out, manner, speak about it.

1152
00:52:36,559 --> 00:52:37,199
Speaker 1: It's a noun.

1153
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 2: Am I supposed to guess?

1154
00:52:38,679 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 1: No?

1155
00:52:39,119 --> 00:52:40,320
Speaker 2: Can we put it in a sentence?

1156
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:44,920
Speaker 1: Okay? Hang on, you picked a lot of Swedish words.

1157
00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:47,159
Did you look at a Swedish dictionary.

1158
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:51,039
Speaker 2: Mike, No, but I didn't spend too long googling either.

1159
00:52:51,559 --> 00:52:54,559
Speak of your words. I picked some that I like.

1160
00:52:55,039 --> 00:52:56,840
Speaker 1: Go feak of yourself okay, Fika is a.

1161
00:52:56,920 --> 00:53:00,199
Speaker 2: Nanda sorry, speak of card.

1162
00:53:00,519 --> 00:53:06,079
Speaker 1: Okay. We feak yourself literally a moment to slow down

1163
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,199
and appreciate the little things in life.

1164
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:09,639
Speaker 2: Well, look at you.

1165
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 1: I gave you sweet words.

1166
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:14,599
Speaker 2: If you just get over the sound of it. I mean,

1167
00:53:14,679 --> 00:53:20,559
at the end of this, that's like the perfect message. Fica, fica, babe,

1168
00:53:20,639 --> 00:53:24,079
take a fica. I'm gonna go feka myself. That's actually

1169
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:27,280
I'm gonna go, and that's a good thing. Take a moment.

1170
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:29,239
I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go fica.

1171
00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 1: It's like I grabbed a bunch of words from like

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shitty lower back tattoos.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's one. That one's an Asian that's an

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Asian symbol somewhere.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're just hard to pronounce. F I k a fica.

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It's a noun. Most words we didn't know. Right, well,

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Mike stop yelling at me. Mike get spicy after he

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hits just a little bait pen. Too many times you

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came at me, You texted me, You asked me to

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do a bunch of things that weren't my responsibility. You forgot.

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You just asked you to pull three words. I didn't

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think we were going to fist fight about it. I

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bought you a cheese I gave you all those words

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to choose from cheese steak.

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Speaker 2: You love cheese steak.

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Speaker 1: I love a cheese steak. I bought him a cheesesteak,

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and he's still mad at me. Can't make him happy.

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You can't make these men happy.

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Speaker 2: I swear to God, at any level.

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Speaker 1: At any age, it can't be publicly attacked.

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Speaker 2: We could have had this conversation off air. You need

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to fek up. You need to go, You need to

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go take a fica.

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Speaker 1: You need to feak up. Nobody's attacking you. We love you.

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I appreciate you so much. Tell everyone where they can

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follow you.

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Speaker 2: You can follow me at Tara Jokes.

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Speaker 1: Tara Jokes have Instagram and TikTok.

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Speaker 2: TikTok Tara Jokes Instagram Tara Jokes, Oh my gosh, I.

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Speaker 1: Love you so much.

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Speaker 2: I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, See you next week. Besties,