WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.200 --> 00:00:05.240 When you feel like you cannot get through this, then 2 00:00:05.320 --> 00:00:08.919 listen to these words, my dear one, because I want 3 00:00:08.960 --> 00:00:13.240 to remind you of something very simple, very tender, and 4 00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:18.800 very true. Even when life shakes, even when someone leaves, 5 00:00:19.519 --> 00:00:24.079 even when a plan collapses, even when your heart feels tired, 6 00:00:24.600 --> 00:00:28.280 you are still here. And that matters more than you know. 7 00:00:29.320 --> 00:00:35.719 Because everyone may not stay, circumstances may change, people may 8 00:00:35.719 --> 00:00:40.280 not always understand. But you can become the one presence 9 00:00:40.320 --> 00:00:44.880 in your life that does not walk away when everything shakes. 10 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:48.679 I can become the one who stays with me. So 11 00:00:48.759 --> 00:00:52.560 take a long breath out, put your hand over your heart, 12 00:00:52.920 --> 00:00:56.759 let your shoulders soften just a little, and ask yourself 13 00:00:56.799 --> 00:01:00.880 this gently. If I stood on my own side today, 14 00:01:01.560 --> 00:01:06.200 what would begin to feel lighter, My dear one. That 15 00:01:06.319 --> 00:01:10.920 is where healing begins, not when the whole world changes overnight, 16 00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:14.319 but when you stop abandoning yourself in the middle of it. 17 00:01:15.359 --> 00:01:18.640 I love and support myself. I am here for me. 18 00:01:19.480 --> 00:01:23.439 All is well. So many people are waiting for love 19 00:01:23.519 --> 00:01:27.840 to arrive from the outside before they allow themselves to soften, 20 00:01:28.439 --> 00:01:33.560 rest trust, or feel worthy. They are waiting for someone 21 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:39.239 to choose them, reassure them stay with them, understand them, 22 00:01:39.359 --> 00:01:43.719 or save them. And of course love from others is beautiful. 23 00:01:44.359 --> 00:01:49.079 Support from others is beautiful. But the deepest turning point 24 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:52.239 comes when you begin to offer some of that to yourself. 25 00:01:53.120 --> 00:01:57.879 Because once you begin loving and supporting yourself, your choices 26 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:03.400 begin to change. Your energy begins to change, your standards, 27 00:02:03.439 --> 00:02:07.480 begin to change. The way you allow life to treat you, 28 00:02:07.599 --> 00:02:12.560 begins to change. The way I treat myself teaches life 29 00:02:12.599 --> 00:02:16.240 how to meet me. That is such an important truth 30 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:20.879 because life often reflects the relationship you have with yourself. 31 00:02:22.120 --> 00:02:29.879 If you are harsh, neglectful, abandoning, dismissive, constantly critical, constantly doubting, 32 00:02:30.039 --> 00:02:34.560 constantly overriding your own needs, then that becomes the atmosphere 33 00:02:34.599 --> 00:02:38.240 you live in, and from that atmosphere you will often 34 00:02:38.319 --> 00:02:41.800 accept far less than you deserve. But when you begin 35 00:02:41.879 --> 00:02:45.240 to love yourself, you stop agreeing with so much pain, 36 00:02:46.319 --> 00:02:50.360 You stop making excuses for what depletes you, You stop 37 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:56.439 calling neglect normal. I am the mirror. I love that line. 38 00:02:56.479 --> 00:03:00.319 I am the mirror. The world often reflects what you 39 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:06.240 have practiced inside. That is why self love creates real change, 40 00:03:06.599 --> 00:03:10.080 not because it is merely a pleasant idea, but because 41 00:03:10.120 --> 00:03:14.400 it becomes a new foundation for your decisions. A person 42 00:03:14.400 --> 00:03:21.599 who loves and supports herself rests differently, speaks differently, chooses differently, 43 00:03:22.719 --> 00:03:29.159 leaves differently, begins again differently. She no longer begs where 44 00:03:29.159 --> 00:03:32.879 she used to beg She no longer stays where she 45 00:03:33.000 --> 00:03:36.439 used to stay too long. She no longer turns against 46 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:41.560 herself the moment something hurts self. Love raises the standard 47 00:03:41.599 --> 00:03:46.240 of what I allow, And that, my dear one, changes 48 00:03:46.280 --> 00:03:50.120 a life from the inside out. So if you are 49 00:03:50.120 --> 00:03:56.240 going through something difficult, something disappointing, something lonely, something uncertain, 50 00:03:56.960 --> 00:04:01.599 do not underestimate the healing power of simply beginning to say, 51 00:04:02.240 --> 00:04:06.080 I am here for me. Those are not small words. 52 00:04:06.599 --> 00:04:11.800 Those are stabilizing words. Those are reprinting words. Those are 53 00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:15.759 words that tell the nervous system you are not alone 54 00:04:15.919 --> 00:04:20.800 inside this body anymore. And now I want to begin 55 00:04:20.920 --> 00:04:23.519 walking with you through some of the ways we become 56 00:04:23.560 --> 00:04:28.319 stronger in the middle of life's hard places. The first 57 00:04:29.079 --> 00:04:33.680 is acceptance. Ah, yes, my dear, this is such a 58 00:04:33.720 --> 00:04:37.720 loving strength, because suffering so often grows when we keep 59 00:04:37.759 --> 00:04:44.079 fighting what has already happened. We ask why me, why now? 60 00:04:45.120 --> 00:04:49.279 Why this this should not be here, This must not 61 00:04:49.399 --> 00:04:53.319 be true, and all of that resistance drains the very 62 00:04:53.439 --> 00:04:56.680 energy we need in order to take the next step now. 63 00:04:56.720 --> 00:04:59.600 Acceptance is not giving up. It is not saying you 64 00:04:59.720 --> 00:05:02.360 like what what happened. It is not saying the loss 65 00:05:02.399 --> 00:05:07.439 did not matter. It is not passive. Acceptance is not 66 00:05:07.519 --> 00:05:13.519 surrendering your power. Acceptance is conserving your power. It is 67 00:05:13.519 --> 00:05:16.600 the moment you stop arguing with reality long enough to 68 00:05:16.639 --> 00:05:20.920 meet it. It is the moment you say, this happened. 69 00:05:21.480 --> 00:05:24.399 I may not like it, I may not understand it, 70 00:05:25.279 --> 00:05:28.720 but I am willing to face it. That is strength, 71 00:05:29.319 --> 00:05:34.839 real strength, quiet strength, useful strength. So if you are 72 00:05:34.879 --> 00:05:39.560 in a difficult place, breathe and say softly, this happened. 73 00:05:40.360 --> 00:05:43.519 I can handle the next step. Not the next year, 74 00:05:44.040 --> 00:05:47.480 not the whole future, just the next step, my dear one. 75 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:51.360 That is how strength often works, one truthful step at 76 00:05:51.399 --> 00:05:55.160 a time. You see, Denial may feel protective for a moment, 77 00:05:55.399 --> 00:05:59.399 but it keeps you frozen. Resistance may feel powerful for 78 00:05:59.480 --> 00:06:03.920 a moment, but it keeps you leaking life force. Acceptance 79 00:06:04.000 --> 00:06:07.680 brings you back into motion. It says I do not 80 00:06:07.879 --> 00:06:10.720 need to waste this moment fighting the fact that this 81 00:06:10.920 --> 00:06:14.279 is my life right now, and the moment you say that, 82 00:06:14.720 --> 00:06:20.319 even through tears, even through trembling, something steady, Because now 83 00:06:20.360 --> 00:06:24.240 your energy is no longer being spent on arguing with reality. 84 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:29.199 It can be used for healing, for choosing, for breathing, 85 00:06:29.800 --> 00:06:34.879 for asking for help, for resting, for beginning again. I 86 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:38.120 accept what is here, and I keep my strength for 87 00:06:38.199 --> 00:06:43.199 the path ahead, my dear. That is self support in action. 88 00:06:44.879 --> 00:06:47.639 And then there is mirror work, which I love so 89 00:06:47.800 --> 00:06:50.519 deeply because it is such a direct way of changing 90 00:06:50.519 --> 00:06:55.879 the relationship you have with yourself. Often when something goes wrong, 91 00:06:56.399 --> 00:07:00.720 when we feel rejected, abandoned, embarrassed, frightened, or we think 92 00:07:00.759 --> 00:07:04.560 we have failed, the first voice that rises inside is 93 00:07:04.639 --> 00:07:09.560 not kind. It is sharp, It is disappointed, It is impatient. 94 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:13.720 It says, see, you should have known you are too much, 95 00:07:14.240 --> 00:07:20.560 not enough, foolish, weak, And that is the exact moment 96 00:07:20.639 --> 00:07:23.920 when you need yourself most. So I want you to 97 00:07:23.959 --> 00:07:28.519 imagine standing before the mirror, not to inspect yourself, not 98 00:07:28.639 --> 00:07:33.240 to judge yourself, not to criticize your face or your life, 99 00:07:33.360 --> 00:07:37.439 but to meet yourself, to look into your own eyes 100 00:07:38.160 --> 00:07:43.040 and speak like someone who intends to stay. My eyes 101 00:07:43.160 --> 00:07:47.040 can become a place of safety. That is such a 102 00:07:47.079 --> 00:07:52.240 beautiful possibility, because when your own eyes become kind, the 103 00:07:52.319 --> 00:07:57.079 whole inner world begins to change. So when you are triggered, 104 00:07:57.560 --> 00:08:01.759 when life feels heavy, when someone disappoints you, when you 105 00:08:01.800 --> 00:08:05.000 make a mistake, go to the mirror, if you can 106 00:08:05.879 --> 00:08:09.399 look into your own eyes, even if it feels awkward, 107 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:12.439 even if you only manage it for a few seconds 108 00:08:12.480 --> 00:08:16.079 at first, and say, no matter what happened, I still 109 00:08:16.160 --> 00:08:21.120 love and support you. Pause, let those words land. Then 110 00:08:21.240 --> 00:08:26.000 say you are not alone because I am here, my 111 00:08:26.120 --> 00:08:30.319 dear one. Those are healing words. They are not empty, 112 00:08:31.600 --> 00:08:36.039 they are not childish, They are exactly what the frightened 113 00:08:36.080 --> 00:08:40.879 parts of you have longed to hear. When you say them, sincerely, 114 00:08:41.360 --> 00:08:45.399 something in the body begins to unclench, something in the 115 00:08:45.480 --> 00:08:49.440 heart begins to believe that, maybe, finally, there is someone 116 00:08:49.559 --> 00:08:53.080 here who will not run at the first sign of pain. 117 00:08:54.159 --> 00:08:58.440 I am here for me. That is not selfishness, That 118 00:08:58.559 --> 00:09:03.960 is emotional maturity. That is healing from within, And perhaps 119 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:08.320 this is what changes everything. You stop asking every wound 120 00:09:08.399 --> 00:09:12.000 to prove that you are unlovable, and you begin using 121 00:09:12.039 --> 00:09:16.600 each hard moment as an opportunity to love yourself more consciously. 122 00:09:17.200 --> 00:09:20.960 You stop saying this pain means I am broken. You 123 00:09:21.000 --> 00:09:24.120 begin saying, this pain is where I need to stand 124 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:28.840 closer to myself. You stop saying no one is here 125 00:09:28.960 --> 00:09:32.679 for me. You begin saying I can be here for 126 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:37.039 me now, my dear one. I know that may sound simple, 127 00:09:37.600 --> 00:09:42.279 but it is profound because the moment you stop abandoning yourself, 128 00:09:42.879 --> 00:09:47.759 the whole healing process changes direction. I do not need 129 00:09:47.799 --> 00:09:51.440 to wait for rescue to begin caring for myself. You 130 00:09:51.480 --> 00:09:56.399 can begin now with one kind sentence, one hand on 131 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:00.919 the heart, one breath, one look in the mirror. That 132 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:05.480 does not punish one moment of choosing not to leave 133 00:10:05.519 --> 00:10:09.960 yourself just because life has become difficult. So if you 134 00:10:10.000 --> 00:10:13.759 are in the middle of something painful right now, let 135 00:10:13.799 --> 00:10:19.360 this be your beginning. Accept what is here without turning 136 00:10:19.399 --> 00:10:24.200 it into your identity. Say this happened, I can handle 137 00:10:24.240 --> 00:10:27.679 the next step. Then meet yourself in the mirror and say, 138 00:10:28.200 --> 00:10:32.200 no matter what happened, I still love and support you. 139 00:10:32.200 --> 00:10:36.720 You are not alone because I am here, my dear one. 140 00:10:36.879 --> 00:10:41.120 That is not weakness. That is the foundation of inner strength. 141 00:10:42.159 --> 00:10:45.200 And in the next part I want to keep walking 142 00:10:45.240 --> 00:10:48.120 with you through more of these beautiful ways of becoming 143 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:53.000 stronger from within, Because once you begin staying with yourself 144 00:10:53.120 --> 00:10:58.279 like this, something deep starts healing, and life begins to 145 00:10:58.360 --> 00:11:06.639 feel less like something you must survive alone. My dear one, 146 00:11:06.960 --> 00:11:10.159 let us keep going together, because once you begin to 147 00:11:10.279 --> 00:11:14.840 love and support yourself, there are very real, very practical 148 00:11:14.879 --> 00:11:18.840 ways that love starts becoming visible in your daily life. 149 00:11:19.399 --> 00:11:22.399 Self love is not only a feeling. It is not 150 00:11:22.559 --> 00:11:25.600 only a beautiful sentence you say in the mirror. It 151 00:11:25.639 --> 00:11:28.519 becomes a way you think, a way you choose, a 152 00:11:28.559 --> 00:11:31.519 way you respond, a way you care for your body, 153 00:11:31.879 --> 00:11:34.360 a way you interpret the world, A way you hold 154 00:11:34.399 --> 00:11:37.879 yourself when life becomes difficult. And that is what I 155 00:11:37.919 --> 00:11:40.919 want for you, not a lovely idea that disappears the 156 00:11:40.960 --> 00:11:44.480 moment you are triggered, but a living practice that stays 157 00:11:44.519 --> 00:11:47.559 with you when you need it most. I love and 158 00:11:47.600 --> 00:11:51.799 support myself. I am here for me. All is well. 159 00:11:52.559 --> 00:11:55.440 One of the most healing things you can do is 160 00:11:55.480 --> 00:11:59.559 to begin cleaning your inner mirror. You see, the world 161 00:11:59.639 --> 00:12:04.320 often reflects back to us the beliefs we quietly carry inside. 162 00:12:04.919 --> 00:12:08.480 If somewhere within you there is an old thought that says, 163 00:12:09.759 --> 00:12:13.679 I am not enough. You will often notice life through 164 00:12:13.720 --> 00:12:18.799 that lens. You will interpret people through that lens. You 165 00:12:18.799 --> 00:12:22.559 will hear a delay as rejection. A criticism is proof. 166 00:12:23.240 --> 00:12:27.480 A silence is abandonment, not because life is trying to 167 00:12:27.519 --> 00:12:31.279 punish you, but because the mirror through which you are 168 00:12:31.320 --> 00:12:35.480 looking has been clouded by old beliefs. You do not 169 00:12:35.720 --> 00:12:39.039 need to fix the whole world first, You need to 170 00:12:39.039 --> 00:12:42.879 clean the mirror. That is such a loving place to begin, 171 00:12:44.159 --> 00:12:47.720 because when the mirror changes, what you see begins to 172 00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:51.720 change too. So I want you to sit down quietly 173 00:12:51.799 --> 00:12:55.440 sometime and write out one old thought that has been 174 00:12:55.480 --> 00:13:00.600 hurting you. Perhaps it is I'm not good enough, or 175 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:06.360 nobody really stays, or I always have to struggle, or 176 00:13:06.919 --> 00:13:10.440 I must be perfect to be loved. Write it down, 177 00:13:11.080 --> 00:13:14.200 look at it, do not pretend it is not there. 178 00:13:15.039 --> 00:13:20.399 Then gently cross it out, not angrily, lovingly, and beneath 179 00:13:20.399 --> 00:13:24.480 it write a new truth. I am worthy of love 180 00:13:24.519 --> 00:13:28.919 and respect, starting with me, my dear one. That is 181 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:33.759 how healing begins. One old sentence noticed, one old sentence released, 182 00:13:34.320 --> 00:13:37.759 one new sentence planted. Now, at first, the new sentence 183 00:13:37.759 --> 00:13:40.919 may not feel fully true. That is all right. You 184 00:13:41.000 --> 00:13:44.559 do not have to force yourself into instant belief. Start 185 00:13:44.600 --> 00:13:50.480 with willingness, Start with practice, Start with repetition, because old 186 00:13:50.519 --> 00:13:53.639 beliefs were learned through repetition too, and now we are 187 00:13:53.679 --> 00:13:57.279 simply teaching the mind a kinder language. I am worthy 188 00:13:57.279 --> 00:14:01.320 of love and respect. Starting with me, say that slowly, 189 00:14:01.840 --> 00:14:04.639 Let your heart hear it, Let your body hear it, 190 00:14:05.080 --> 00:14:08.120 Let the nervous system hear it. The point is not 191 00:14:08.200 --> 00:14:11.519 to create a shiny fake thought. The point is to 192 00:14:11.600 --> 00:14:15.639 interrupt the old cruelty and begin introducing a better truth. 193 00:14:17.240 --> 00:14:19.960 Every time you do this, you wipe a little more 194 00:14:20.039 --> 00:14:23.919 dust from the inner mirror. Every time you do this, 195 00:14:24.559 --> 00:14:29.120 you stop handing the old wound the microphone. Every time 196 00:14:29.159 --> 00:14:32.559 you do this, you say, I am no longer willing 197 00:14:32.639 --> 00:14:38.240 to see myself only through pain. The world often reflects 198 00:14:38.279 --> 00:14:42.039 the way I have been seeing myself. So let yourself 199 00:14:42.120 --> 00:14:48.600 see yourself differently, my dear, more kindly, more truthfully, more lovingly. 200 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:53.360 And this leads so beautifully into nurturing the inner child, 201 00:14:54.200 --> 00:14:57.399 because so often what gets triggered in the present is 202 00:14:57.440 --> 00:15:02.039 not only the present. A dis appointment happens now, yes, 203 00:15:02.960 --> 00:15:07.919 A rejection happens now, yes, A failure, a loss, a conflict, 204 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:13.240 and uncertainty. Yes, all of that may be happening now, 205 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:16.519 but what often rushes up through the body is very old, 206 00:15:17.240 --> 00:15:22.159 an old loneliness, an old fear, an old hunger to 207 00:15:22.240 --> 00:15:26.559 be chosen, an old terror of being left, an old 208 00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:30.720 ache of not being protected enough, soothed enough, understood enough. 209 00:15:31.519 --> 00:15:34.080 That is why I want you to begin thinking very 210 00:15:34.159 --> 00:15:38.480 gently of the child within you, not as a dramatic idea, 211 00:15:39.720 --> 00:15:43.399 just the younger self, still living in some quiet chamber 212 00:15:43.480 --> 00:15:47.919 of your being, still carrying impressions, still waiting to know 213 00:15:48.000 --> 00:15:52.440 whether someone kind will come. My dear one, Now you 214 00:15:52.559 --> 00:15:55.879 can be that someone. You can place your hand on 215 00:15:55.960 --> 00:15:59.720 your heart and imagine holding the little you, not fixing, 216 00:16:00.240 --> 00:16:05.559 not lecturing, just holding, just asking softly, what do you 217 00:16:05.639 --> 00:16:10.039 need right now? Do you need comfort? Do you need rest? 218 00:16:10.879 --> 00:16:14.279 Do you need reassurance? Do you need someone to say 219 00:16:14.720 --> 00:16:17.440 it was not your fault? Do you need someone to 220 00:16:17.480 --> 00:16:19.919 say you do not have to be strong all by 221 00:16:19.960 --> 00:16:23.639 yourself any more. When I support the child within me, 222 00:16:24.200 --> 00:16:27.879 I stop borrowing worth from the outside world. That is 223 00:16:27.919 --> 00:16:31.639 such a powerful shift, because when the inner child has 224 00:16:31.679 --> 00:16:35.120 not been comforted, we go out into the world trying 225 00:16:35.120 --> 00:16:39.159 to borrow support from everyone and everything. We borrow approval, 226 00:16:39.919 --> 00:16:45.879 we borrow attention, we borrow permission, we borrow identity, we 227 00:16:45.919 --> 00:16:50.480 borrow worth. We keep reaching outward for what inwardly has 228 00:16:50.559 --> 00:16:53.879 not yet been given enough space to grow. But when 229 00:16:53.879 --> 00:16:58.759 you begin to nurture yourself, the reaching changes. It becomes softer. 230 00:17:00.000 --> 00:17:04.799 It's desperate, less dependent, not because you no longer need anyone, 231 00:17:05.400 --> 00:17:08.000 but because you are no longer asking the whole world 232 00:17:08.039 --> 00:17:11.079 to do the job of your own inner care. I 233 00:17:11.079 --> 00:17:13.960 can give myself the support I have been asking life 234 00:17:14.000 --> 00:17:18.640 to bring me. And that is not isolation. It is stability, 235 00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:22.279 It is wholeness. It is the beginning of a deeper 236 00:17:22.400 --> 00:17:28.200 emotional freedom. Then there is self compassion, which I believe 237 00:17:28.279 --> 00:17:31.720 is one of the most underestimated healing powers in the world. 238 00:17:33.119 --> 00:17:36.720 So many people think they will improve faster if they 239 00:17:36.720 --> 00:17:41.480 are harder on themselves. They think shame will motivate them. 240 00:17:42.599 --> 00:17:46.680 They think guilt will purify them. They think if they 241 00:17:46.720 --> 00:17:53.200 criticize themselves enough, they will somehow become better, cleaner, stronger, 242 00:17:53.680 --> 00:17:58.480 more lovable, more successful. But my dear one, guilt does 243 00:17:58.519 --> 00:18:02.720 not heal. Shame does not heal, harshness does not heal. 244 00:18:03.240 --> 00:18:07.960 Guilt does not heal kindness heals. That is a truth. 245 00:18:08.000 --> 00:18:10.480 I want you to keep very close to your heart, 246 00:18:10.799 --> 00:18:14.519 because when something painful happens, when you make a mistake, 247 00:18:15.079 --> 00:18:18.480 when you break down, when you cry, when you do 248 00:18:18.559 --> 00:18:21.480 not handle something the way you wish you had, that 249 00:18:21.599 --> 00:18:27.640 is precisely when you need compassion most not indulgence, not denial, 250 00:18:28.279 --> 00:18:34.039 Compassion the kind that says, yes, this hurts, Yes, I 251 00:18:34.079 --> 00:18:38.279 am human, Yes I may begin again. You are allowed 252 00:18:38.319 --> 00:18:42.200 to be sad without making yourself small. You are allowed 253 00:18:42.240 --> 00:18:45.920 to cry without deciding you are weak. You are allowed 254 00:18:45.920 --> 00:18:49.079 to be disappointed without making it a verdict on your worth. 255 00:18:49.920 --> 00:18:54.000 My pain does not reduce my value. My tears do 256 00:18:54.079 --> 00:18:57.759 not diminish my dignity. So when you are having a 257 00:18:57.799 --> 00:19:01.319 hard day, speak to yourself the way you would speak 258 00:19:01.359 --> 00:19:05.079 to a dear friend who is frightened, tired, or heartbroken. 259 00:19:06.400 --> 00:19:10.480 Would you tell your friend you are ridiculous, you should 260 00:19:10.519 --> 00:19:15.000 have known better, you are hopeless. Of course not. You 261 00:19:15.039 --> 00:19:18.480 would say you did the best you could. Let us breathe, 262 00:19:19.039 --> 00:19:22.039 let us take the next step, let us be gentle. 263 00:19:23.200 --> 00:19:26.960 So offer that to yourself, Offer yourself the reset sentence, 264 00:19:27.240 --> 00:19:30.559 I did my best. I can begin again. There is 265 00:19:30.599 --> 00:19:33.839 so much mercy in that I did my best, I 266 00:19:33.880 --> 00:19:38.160 can begin again, My dear one, Beginning again is one 267 00:19:38.200 --> 00:19:41.960 of the most powerful privileges of being alive, and self 268 00:19:42.000 --> 00:19:45.440 compassion is what lets you use that privilege instead of 269 00:19:45.480 --> 00:19:50.920 wasting days or years punishing yourself for being human. Kindness 270 00:19:50.960 --> 00:19:56.599 makes healing possible, not because it erases accountability, but because 271 00:19:56.640 --> 00:20:01.279 it creates enough safety for growth to happen. Now, let 272 00:20:01.359 --> 00:20:05.440 us talk about the body, because loving and supporting yourself 273 00:20:05.599 --> 00:20:09.720 must include the body. The mind and the body are 274 00:20:09.720 --> 00:20:14.200 not separate little worlds. They are in conversation all the time. 275 00:20:15.160 --> 00:20:19.400 A tired body makes the mind more fearful. A dehydrated 276 00:20:19.440 --> 00:20:25.160 body makes emotions harder to regulate. An untouched, unwalked, underrested 277 00:20:25.200 --> 00:20:28.839 body often struggles to support the kind of clarity you 278 00:20:28.960 --> 00:20:33.720 need during a difficult season. My dear one, your body 279 00:20:33.799 --> 00:20:37.400 is your temple, yes, but it is also your companion, 280 00:20:37.920 --> 00:20:42.839 your instrument, your house, your atmosphere. And when you are 281 00:20:42.880 --> 00:20:45.680 in the middle of pain, it is not the time 282 00:20:45.759 --> 00:20:48.880 to neglect it. It is the time to steward it 283 00:20:48.960 --> 00:20:53.200 more carefully. A well cared for body helps the mind 284 00:20:53.359 --> 00:20:58.880 choose more wisely. This matters because in times of upheaval. 285 00:20:59.200 --> 00:21:04.680 People often stop sleeping well, stop drinking enough water, stop moving, 286 00:21:05.119 --> 00:21:10.920 stop grounding. Then they wonder why everything feels heavier, louder, darker, 287 00:21:11.319 --> 00:21:16.680 more impossible. Start small, sleep a little earlier, if you can, 288 00:21:17.559 --> 00:21:20.799 drink water before you pick up your phone, take a 289 00:21:20.839 --> 00:21:24.759 ten minute walk, let warm water run over your body 290 00:21:24.799 --> 00:21:28.119 in the shower, and tell yourself, I am caring for 291 00:21:28.240 --> 00:21:33.400 my own life now, my dear one, do not underestimate 292 00:21:33.440 --> 00:21:37.240 these little things. They are not separate from healing. They 293 00:21:37.279 --> 00:21:41.960 are part of it. My body deserves my kindness too. 294 00:21:42.200 --> 00:21:45.039 You may think that drinking water or taking a short 295 00:21:45.079 --> 00:21:48.000 walk is too small to matter when the heart is hurting, 296 00:21:49.000 --> 00:21:52.640 but that is not true at all. Small acts of 297 00:21:52.680 --> 00:21:56.920 body care tell the nervous system I have not abandoned you. 298 00:21:58.000 --> 00:22:00.559 They tell the mind we are still ill on our 299 00:22:00.640 --> 00:22:05.119 own side. They tell the whole being, even now, even 300 00:22:05.160 --> 00:22:09.960 in difficulty, even in uncertainty, I will care for this life. 301 00:22:10.880 --> 00:22:17.160 And that creates a quiet strength, not dramatic, perhaps, but steady, real, 302 00:22:17.720 --> 00:22:22.880 useful loving. My healing lives in small caring choices. One 303 00:22:22.920 --> 00:22:26.720 glass of water, one warm bath, one walk around the block, 304 00:22:26.960 --> 00:22:30.359 one extra hour of sleep. These are not tiny things. 305 00:22:30.960 --> 00:22:34.319 They are acts of allegiance to yourself. And then there 306 00:22:34.400 --> 00:22:40.079 is something I love so much, micro joy. Oh yes, 307 00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:43.680 my dear one, this matters. So many people think they 308 00:22:43.759 --> 00:22:46.559 must wait until the storm passes before they are allowed 309 00:22:46.599 --> 00:22:50.720 to feel joy again. They say, once I am healed, 310 00:22:51.160 --> 00:22:54.720 then I will enjoy life. Once this is solved, then 311 00:22:54.759 --> 00:22:58.279 I will laugh. Once the pain is gone, then I 312 00:22:58.319 --> 00:23:02.839 will allow beauty. But no, that is too long to wait. 313 00:23:03.640 --> 00:23:07.279 You do not have to postpone all sweetness until after 314 00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:11.400 the hard season ends. In fact, one of the kindest 315 00:23:11.400 --> 00:23:13.799 things you can do in a difficult time is to 316 00:23:13.839 --> 00:23:18.279 create little moments of light. A song you love, one 317 00:23:18.359 --> 00:23:21.839 page of a beautiful book, one flower on the table, 318 00:23:22.559 --> 00:23:26.720 one candle lit on purpose, one cup of tea sipped slowly, 319 00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:30.480 one bit of morning light on the wall, one walk 320 00:23:30.680 --> 00:23:34.680 under the sky. Joy is medicine. I want you to 321 00:23:34.720 --> 00:23:39.519 remember that joy is medicine. Not because joy denies your pain, 322 00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:42.599 but because joy reminds the body that pain is not 323 00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:46.359 the only thing happening. It reminds the heart that beauty 324 00:23:46.440 --> 00:23:50.319 still exists. It reminds the nervous system that life is 325 00:23:50.359 --> 00:23:55.240 not only threat, loss or effort. Small joy is how 326 00:23:55.279 --> 00:23:59.599 we begin to rebuild trust in life, and my dear one, 327 00:24:00.279 --> 00:24:03.799 trust is built in very small bricks. It is not 328 00:24:03.920 --> 00:24:08.960 always rebuilt through one massive revelation. Sometimes it is rebuilt 329 00:24:09.000 --> 00:24:13.359 through one song, one kind sentence, one glass of water, 330 00:24:13.960 --> 00:24:17.680 one crossed out belief, one loving look in the mirror, 331 00:24:17.720 --> 00:24:21.839 one hand on the heart, one walk, one reset phrase, 332 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:25.799 one flower, one breath. That is how we come back, 333 00:24:26.400 --> 00:24:29.559 That is how we support ourselves, that is how we 334 00:24:29.640 --> 00:24:33.240 heal from within. Small joy is a brick in the 335 00:24:33.279 --> 00:24:37.480 rebuilding of trust. So please do not dismiss the little 336 00:24:37.559 --> 00:24:42.799 things that make your spirit exhale. They matter, They matter 337 00:24:43.000 --> 00:24:47.000 very much. So now let us gather these together. My 338 00:24:47.079 --> 00:24:51.240 dear one, clean the inner mirror, notice the old belief 339 00:24:51.279 --> 00:24:55.400 and replace it with a kinder truth. Nurture the child 340 00:24:55.440 --> 00:24:59.000 within you, and ask what that little one needs right now. 341 00:24:59.720 --> 00:25:03.759 Pra to self compassion instead of self attack. Care for 342 00:25:03.880 --> 00:25:08.519 your body with rest, water, warmth, and movement. And let 343 00:25:08.519 --> 00:25:13.000 yourself have one small joy each day. Not after life 344 00:25:13.119 --> 00:25:18.640 becomes perfect, but now I love and support myself. I 345 00:25:18.680 --> 00:25:23.039 am here for me. Joy is medicine. All is well. 346 00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:26.400 And if you carry only one thing from this part, 347 00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:29.599 let it be this. You do not have to heal 348 00:25:29.680 --> 00:25:34.960 by becoming harder. You heal by becoming kinder, steadier, more present, 349 00:25:35.039 --> 00:25:39.680 and more devoted to yourself. That is where real strength begins. 350 00:25:40.640 --> 00:25:43.920 That is where the whole inner world begins to rearrange 351 00:25:43.920 --> 00:25:48.279 itself around love instead of fear. And my dear one, 352 00:25:49.079 --> 00:25:53.880 once that begins, everything starts changing in waghs far deeper 353 00:25:53.920 --> 00:25:57.000 than the eye can see. Repeat with me, now, my 354 00:25:57.119 --> 00:26:04.880 dear one, slowly, gently, lovingly, not as a performance, not 355 00:26:05.039 --> 00:26:07.880 as a way to force yourself into becoming some one else, 356 00:26:08.680 --> 00:26:11.960 but as a way of returning home to yourself, as 357 00:26:11.960 --> 00:26:14.319 a way of letting your own voice become a place 358 00:26:14.319 --> 00:26:18.640 of comfort, As a way of teaching your heart, your mind, 359 00:26:19.240 --> 00:26:21.839 and your body that you are no longer alone inside 360 00:26:21.880 --> 00:26:26.599 your own life. Take a long breath in and let 361 00:26:26.599 --> 00:26:31.319 it go slowly, Let the shoulders soften, let the jaw loosen, 362 00:26:32.400 --> 00:26:34.839 Place your hand over your heart if that feels good 363 00:26:34.839 --> 00:26:37.279 to you, and just notice for a moment that you 364 00:26:37.319 --> 00:26:42.480 are here. You are still here. After everything you have felt, 365 00:26:43.359 --> 00:26:46.839 everything you have carried, everything you have tried to survive, 366 00:26:47.799 --> 00:26:52.039 You are still here. And that matters. It matters so much. 367 00:26:53.359 --> 00:26:55.799 Now I want you to let these words come in softly, 368 00:26:57.079 --> 00:27:01.759 do not rush them, Let them land, let them settle, 369 00:27:02.880 --> 00:27:06.720 let them become more than words, let them become a 370 00:27:06.759 --> 00:27:10.920 new atmosphere within you. I love and support myself. I 371 00:27:10.960 --> 00:27:15.240 love and support myself. I love and support myself, My 372 00:27:15.319 --> 00:27:18.079 dear one, stay with that for a moment. I love 373 00:27:18.200 --> 00:27:22.680 and support myself not only on the easy days, not 374 00:27:22.720 --> 00:27:25.640 only when I am doing well, not only when I 375 00:27:25.680 --> 00:27:31.319 am calm, productive, beautiful, strong, spiritual, patient, or pleasing. No, 376 00:27:32.319 --> 00:27:36.039 I love and support myself now in the middle of learning, 377 00:27:36.720 --> 00:27:39.920 in the middle of healing, in the middle of becoming, 378 00:27:40.720 --> 00:27:43.519 in the middle of not having everything figured out yet. 379 00:27:44.599 --> 00:27:49.160 I love and support myself. That means I stop speaking 380 00:27:49.160 --> 00:27:52.920 to myself like an enemy. That means I stop turning 381 00:27:52.960 --> 00:27:56.200 my pain into proof that I am unworthy. That means 382 00:27:56.200 --> 00:27:58.880 I begin to become a safe place for my own heart. 383 00:27:59.839 --> 00:28:04.079 My dear there is such healing in that, such real healing, 384 00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:07.240 because so much changes when you stop waiting for the 385 00:28:07.279 --> 00:28:10.319 world to be kind to you first and you begin 386 00:28:10.400 --> 00:28:15.119 being kind to yourself. Now, now say softly, I am 387 00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:20.400 here for me. Pause, breathe, I am here for me. 388 00:28:21.440 --> 00:28:24.400 Those are powerful words. They mean I do not leave 389 00:28:24.440 --> 00:28:27.519 myself when life gets hard. I do not disappear for 390 00:28:27.680 --> 00:28:32.640 myself when I feel ashamed, frightened, disappointed, or hurt. I 391 00:28:32.680 --> 00:28:36.559 do not become my own abandoner. I stay. I stay 392 00:28:36.559 --> 00:28:39.920 with my tears. I stay with my fear, I stay 393 00:28:39.920 --> 00:28:42.960 with my confusion, I stay with my hope. I am 394 00:28:43.039 --> 00:28:46.720 here for me, my dear one. Even that one's sentence 395 00:28:46.759 --> 00:28:50.480 can begin to heal years of inner loneliness, because what 396 00:28:50.519 --> 00:28:54.440 the heart longs for so deeply is not perfection. It 397 00:28:54.559 --> 00:28:58.640 longs for presents. It longs for someone to say, I 398 00:28:58.680 --> 00:29:02.599 am still here, I'm not going anywhere. We will get 399 00:29:02.680 --> 00:29:07.000 through this together. And now you can become that voice 400 00:29:07.039 --> 00:29:11.960 for yourself. Now say I am worthy of love and respect. 401 00:29:12.880 --> 00:29:16.440