WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.240 --> 00:00:04.040 We have a question from Doylene Taiprobu and he's asking, 2 00:00:06.719 --> 00:00:10.080 if we say that Mahaprabu and Nityananda Prabu are the 3 00:00:10.119 --> 00:00:14.919 most merciful avatars of Bagawan, why Mahaprabu was so strict 4 00:00:15.000 --> 00:00:17.679 with Choda Harri Doas for me, it's the kind of 5 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:22.640 scandalous that Mahapabu got satisfied with his suicide. And why 6 00:00:22.679 --> 00:00:26.519 did Janando prop got so angry with Shivananda because he 7 00:00:26.760 --> 00:00:31.000 was late. Please explain these two pastimes Choda Harry does 8 00:00:31.359 --> 00:00:34.359 chastisement and Nityananda Prabu kicking shivanandas. 9 00:00:35.439 --> 00:00:44.960 So we have to understand the word meaning li lah pastimes. 10 00:00:47.000 --> 00:00:51.359 There is our divine pastimes. Just like in a movie, 11 00:00:52.079 --> 00:00:58.679 a play, a drama, there has to be some dramatic 12 00:00:58.840 --> 00:01:08.159 tension so that the and ones, the heroic aspect can 13 00:01:08.840 --> 00:01:14.400 rise and be seen, be in the spotlight the heroic 14 00:01:14.480 --> 00:01:23.200 aspect and Leelah means devotion. The connecting thread between all 15 00:01:23.239 --> 00:01:27.680 these pastimes is the spotlight will be shin, will shine 16 00:01:27.719 --> 00:01:36.680 on devotion. That is what is important. So in the 17 00:01:36.719 --> 00:01:42.040 case of Chota hearted Us, we see for not only 18 00:01:43.560 --> 00:01:46.599 what we call it a minor offense, really no offense 19 00:01:46.640 --> 00:01:51.359 at all, and that underscores the importance of this pastime. 20 00:01:52.359 --> 00:02:00.000 We're told that he on the plea of begging round 21 00:02:00.519 --> 00:02:04.319 from Harperable, he approached one lady Andy. 22 00:02:05.120 --> 00:02:08.560 He keeps sucking his teeth. I don't like the way 23 00:02:08.599 --> 00:02:13.520 he talking. I like spiritual talk. But did he just 24 00:02:13.599 --> 00:02:19.599 have woodies or something? You see? And what had happened 25 00:02:19.879 --> 00:02:27.199 was with marhapaboots. Listen, it's holdness Wednesday. The voice of 26 00:02:27.360 --> 00:02:32.039 reason has returned to the scene of the conversation, and 27 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:35.759 he brought his right and eye in the building. You 28 00:02:35.759 --> 00:02:40.759 already know who's here, precious Miguel, that's in the building. 29 00:02:42.120 --> 00:02:42.840 How y'all doing. 30 00:02:43.080 --> 00:02:46.280 Tonight's topic is a heavy one, and he was about 31 00:02:46.280 --> 00:02:48.120 to broach it. He just kept. 32 00:02:51.000 --> 00:02:52.400 Getting that barbecue out of his teeth. 33 00:02:52.599 --> 00:02:58.000 Yeah, I didn't like it, but to get in the moxtails. 34 00:02:59.319 --> 00:03:03.000 Let me tell you so, tonight's topic is deep because 35 00:03:03.960 --> 00:03:06.280 we've heard this topic in many different ways, but not 36 00:03:06.439 --> 00:03:14.000 quite like this. H you've heard Shakespeare The world is 37 00:03:14.039 --> 00:03:20.479 a stage, right, everybody has their interests entrance and exit right. 38 00:03:21.319 --> 00:03:26.759 The world is a play. I heard Guru say something 39 00:03:26.800 --> 00:03:33.240 about his miracles before Guru by the name of Setya 40 00:03:33.240 --> 00:03:39.759 Sai Baba and you know Rod Sterling and all these 41 00:03:39.800 --> 00:03:44.599 people like studied this guy. Okay, scientists went to live 42 00:03:44.639 --> 00:03:48.159 with him and study him because of the sheer, mass 43 00:03:48.240 --> 00:03:55.879 and volume and value of the things he was materializing 44 00:03:55.919 --> 00:03:56.599 out of thin air. 45 00:03:56.960 --> 00:04:01.800 Oh wow, I've heard yes, yes, yes. 46 00:04:01.759 --> 00:04:11.120 Yes, documented guy, and well it's interesting. He said to 47 00:04:11.439 --> 00:04:17.240 the scientists. He used the Sanskrit term leila. He said, 48 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:22.720 the miracles are my leila. And then the scientists was like, well, 49 00:04:22.720 --> 00:04:26.160 we don't speak can do or Sanskrit, so what is that? 50 00:04:27.680 --> 00:04:36.279 And he said, leila means play sport, right, my divine play. 51 00:04:37.439 --> 00:04:41.000 He said, if you were to understand the immensity of 52 00:04:41.040 --> 00:04:44.439 my being, you would see that the miracles are like 53 00:04:44.600 --> 00:04:49.199 a mosquito on the back of an elephant. So he 54 00:04:49.279 --> 00:04:53.720 was explaining this stuff to these scientists and I was like, oh, 55 00:04:53.800 --> 00:05:01.800 this is it the intimate leela or divine play? M right. 56 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:06.000 We jump into these relationships for a purpose to play 57 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:12.600 a role that maybe we are unaware mostly right of 58 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:16.759 which role we're supposed to play or why we're there. Right, 59 00:05:18.360 --> 00:05:26.160 the intimate leela divine play trying to stabilize intimate impermanence 60 00:05:27.959 --> 00:05:31.360 oh my God. In Sanskrit, leela means play, sport, or 61 00:05:31.399 --> 00:05:35.600 divine play. In Hindu philosophy, it describes how the entire 62 00:05:35.759 --> 00:05:41.160 universe and all existence are created by the Divine out 63 00:05:41.199 --> 00:05:46.959 of spontaneous joy and freedom, rather than necessity or need. 64 00:05:47.360 --> 00:05:52.519 So the question became, what if God provides the mirrored 65 00:05:53.160 --> 00:05:59.759 intimate play i e. The relationship while conditioning our conditioning 66 00:05:59.800 --> 00:06:07.160 our wounds, writes the protective false self script, we keep 67 00:06:07.199 --> 00:06:13.279 performing inside of this divine play called relationships? Right? What 68 00:06:13.399 --> 00:06:17.800 if the thing you keep demanding from the person in 69 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:22.959 front of you is the exact capacity life is calling 70 00:06:23.000 --> 00:06:29.639 you to reclaim within yourself a divine play. So you 71 00:06:29.680 --> 00:06:32.560 got to play this thing out pretty much. You got 72 00:06:32.560 --> 00:06:35.800 to get in it with somebody and figure out why 73 00:06:36.439 --> 00:06:39.120 you were attracted to that person, And oh, here we go. 74 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:42.079 What if the person you called the love of your 75 00:06:42.120 --> 00:06:45.920 life entered carrying the key to the place where you 76 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:52.279 still believe you are incomplete? Human beings begin life dependent 77 00:06:53.120 --> 00:06:59.879 That dependence is innocent. A child requires regulation, protection, recognition, touch, present, 78 00:07:00.199 --> 00:07:07.879 and care. When those needs remain unfinished, adulthood can inherit 79 00:07:08.040 --> 00:07:16.279 more than pain. It can inherit an assignment find somebody 80 00:07:16.319 --> 00:07:23.600 who will finally make the old absence stop hurting. Then 81 00:07:23.639 --> 00:07:28.120 attraction can feel like destiny because conditioning recognizes a familiar 82 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:36.000 role before consciousness recognizes the script. The divine mirrored intimate 83 00:07:36.279 --> 00:07:45.199 play forces another free changing human being close enough to 84 00:07:45.279 --> 00:07:52.360 activate what solitude can keep hidden. Their distance can uncover abandonment. 85 00:07:53.120 --> 00:07:59.680 Independence can expose control. A boundary can reveal entitlement. Desire 86 00:08:00.079 --> 00:08:05.040 can expose the hunger to be chosen. Change can uncover 87 00:08:05.160 --> 00:08:09.600 the fear beneath your demand for permanence. See the fear 88 00:08:09.759 --> 00:08:15.079 needs permanence. Don't leave, don't go. That's coming from home. 89 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:18.959 Uh oh, so you mean to tell me the relationship 90 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:22.360 is a divine play designed to take you back home 91 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:25.199 so you can break up with home so you can 92 00:08:25.240 --> 00:08:29.000 now move forward in an unconditioned talk to me, precious, 93 00:08:29.000 --> 00:08:29.839 it's the short. 94 00:08:29.680 --> 00:08:32.279 End the long of it. Essentially, it's the short end, 95 00:08:32.279 --> 00:08:37.399 the lung of it. And it is the divine piece 96 00:08:37.399 --> 00:08:42.039 about it is it's a default that we have right 97 00:08:42.399 --> 00:08:50.720 We subconsciously, unknowingly choose the precise brand of pain that 98 00:08:51.320 --> 00:08:56.759 we're healing from. Now Here's the thing about it is, 99 00:08:57.000 --> 00:09:03.879 the closer we get to remedying ourselves of that pain. 100 00:09:05.639 --> 00:09:10.559 It might get real ugly, right, So it may manifest 101 00:09:10.600 --> 00:09:12.960 in certain ways, like, for example, you could have a 102 00:09:13.080 --> 00:09:15.960 guy that has a mother that is dealing with mental 103 00:09:15.960 --> 00:09:21.679 health challenges and she's undiagnosed and she is wreaking havoc 104 00:09:21.759 --> 00:09:25.399 on the family, and his sole desire from age eight 105 00:09:25.600 --> 00:09:28.399 is to get out of dodge, start a life of 106 00:09:28.440 --> 00:09:31.720 his own, not be in a space where he has 107 00:09:31.759 --> 00:09:35.639 to be subject to that energy from a woman. And 108 00:09:35.960 --> 00:09:41.159 so he's playboy, play around, not really attaching, which is 109 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:44.679 also avoiding. And then he gets to a place where 110 00:09:44.679 --> 00:09:48.399 he feels like, you know, I'm you know, in my forties. 111 00:09:48.480 --> 00:09:51.360 Now I want to kind of start to settle down 112 00:09:51.559 --> 00:09:54.080 or I want to think about settling down, and so 113 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:57.759 he begins to choose, and then it's like, look, I'm 114 00:09:57.799 --> 00:10:03.679 finally being good to this person and she's talking to 115 00:10:03.720 --> 00:10:08.159 me crazy, she's speaking about things that have no clue 116 00:10:08.159 --> 00:10:12.240 about Well, you are for her her trauma, she is 117 00:10:12.279 --> 00:10:17.960 for you yours, right. And it's not until you enter 118 00:10:18.200 --> 00:10:22.559 into relationship where these types of dynamics start to play out, 119 00:10:22.600 --> 00:10:26.600 Because if you're just touching go, you're avoiding connection, you're 120 00:10:26.639 --> 00:10:31.639 going for feeling got me, and it's like, what did 121 00:10:31.679 --> 00:10:36.440 I do? Actually, you did nothing. She's being triggered by 122 00:10:36.720 --> 00:10:40.759 her trauma, but what you're witnessing in her is yours. 123 00:10:41.039 --> 00:10:44.799 Oh Lord, here go to question is what if the 124 00:10:44.840 --> 00:10:48.120 person you thought broad God sent to you? 125 00:10:49.360 --> 00:10:52.120 Oh my God, I would say that God did send 126 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:52.679 them to you. 127 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:54.840 Wait, let me give it a questions. What if the 128 00:10:54.879 --> 00:11:00.360 person you thought God sent to complete you was fine 129 00:11:00.559 --> 00:11:06.200 tuned to expose the part of you that still believed 130 00:11:06.399 --> 00:11:08.120 completion was necessary. 131 00:11:08.720 --> 00:11:12.480 And I would say they are got a godsend because 132 00:11:12.600 --> 00:11:16.120 they expose, They peel back the layers that you are 133 00:11:16.200 --> 00:11:21.480 dealing with. So you know, a person could feel abandoned 134 00:11:22.120 --> 00:11:24.960 and there is no abandonment there because this person is 135 00:11:25.039 --> 00:11:29.480 triggering it for you. Maybe they're a secure attached, securely 136 00:11:29.519 --> 00:11:33.639 attached person and they don't walk around with their phone 137 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:36.639 in their hands, so you know they didn't even see 138 00:11:36.639 --> 00:11:38.799 that you called here. It is hours later you didne 139 00:11:38.919 --> 00:11:43.039 crashed out right. Well, if I could just get you 140 00:11:43.080 --> 00:11:45.080 to be more mindful that I'm going to be calling, 141 00:11:45.440 --> 00:11:47.080 tend to your phone so that I won't have to 142 00:11:47.120 --> 00:11:54.360 experience this. No, you mind your business. You tend to 143 00:11:55.120 --> 00:11:58.879 whatever is coming up with you because I'm triggering it, 144 00:11:58.919 --> 00:11:59.919 but I'm not doing it. 145 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:07.120 Gosh, did God write a role script a role for you? 146 00:12:07.159 --> 00:12:08.799 No, I would say aloud. 147 00:12:09.639 --> 00:12:12.159 Here we go. We can't stay right there, don't go nowhere. 148 00:12:12.200 --> 00:12:14.159 We cook it, and we cook it. When the voice 149 00:12:14.159 --> 00:12:18.279 of reason returns, Holeness Wednesday, gonna turn the heat up 150 00:12:18.279 --> 00:12:21.799 on the grail. Let's go. 151 00:12:22.080 --> 00:12:27.720 The truth of face, not living delusions. 152 00:12:29.200 --> 00:12:30.559 Were about to get cussed out. 153 00:12:31.759 --> 00:12:31.840 And. 154 00:12:33.639 --> 00:12:38.159 Without delusions, it's very difficult to observe. 155 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:49.080 For gludy yourself and not fashing actualities. Then you said, 156 00:12:49.120 --> 00:12:51.440 becomes impossible to recut once. 157 00:12:53.120 --> 00:12:59.639 I sped. But we like delos, salusions everybody form of deception. 158 00:13:00.039 --> 00:13:00.480 Mm hmmm. 159 00:13:04.639 --> 00:13:11.799 Because you have flicked to look at ourselves, as we said, 160 00:13:14.120 --> 00:13:19.559 to look out ourselves very clearly, accurately, precisely. 161 00:13:21.960 --> 00:13:32.200 It's only possible in a mirror of relationship. That's the 162 00:13:32.279 --> 00:13:33.559 only mirror that we have. 163 00:13:35.440 --> 00:13:38.519 When you look at yourself, we have combed your hair, 164 00:13:38.799 --> 00:13:42.080 shaving or doing whatever you're doing to your face. 165 00:13:44.320 --> 00:13:52.919 Sorry, ay Man, Marty, I told you he was going. Gosh, 166 00:13:53.799 --> 00:13:57.960 so again, relationship. The only mirror you have is what 167 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:04.960 he said, This divine Leela, this play Shakespeare, The world 168 00:14:05.039 --> 00:14:08.440 is a stage. Everybody has their entrance and their exits, right, 169 00:14:09.000 --> 00:14:12.320 So the intimate relationship who wrote the script? 170 00:14:12.960 --> 00:14:15.679 When you say the intimate, you mean between two people. 171 00:14:15.480 --> 00:14:19.600 Between two people, between a family, friend groups, soul groups, 172 00:14:20.720 --> 00:14:22.080 because there's conflict there. 173 00:14:22.639 --> 00:14:26.159 Have you ever heard of the concept of co creators? 174 00:14:27.320 --> 00:14:31.919 We are co creators, right, We are in creation with God, 175 00:14:32.639 --> 00:14:39.519 expanding through experience, right, Like Jim Hendrick say, are you experienced? Right? 176 00:14:40.120 --> 00:14:47.879 It's the It's not about being good, it's about the learning. 177 00:14:47.919 --> 00:14:53.559 It's about the expansion, you know, being intentional, about healing 178 00:14:54.200 --> 00:14:56.399 the part of your life that you had no control 179 00:14:56.480 --> 00:15:00.200 over with the exception of you choosing this experience. I'm 180 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:05.240 a soul standpoint, you know. But even the time that 181 00:15:05.320 --> 00:15:10.159 we spend unintentional and just following our feelings of being 182 00:15:10.200 --> 00:15:13.039 in love, you know, that high of being in love, 183 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:19.320 there's something divine about that too, because you learn at 184 00:15:19.360 --> 00:15:22.720 some point that feeling for me became like a red flag, like, uh, 185 00:15:23.399 --> 00:15:26.120 you know, that's feeling real good. But let me pay attention, 186 00:15:26.399 --> 00:15:30.720 you know, because I'm a lover girl. I love love, 187 00:15:31.559 --> 00:15:35.120 but it means something vastly different to me now than 188 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:38.919 it did when I was twenty five. Oh right, because 189 00:15:38.919 --> 00:15:43.159 I've done a lot of expanding learning, and when you 190 00:15:43.240 --> 00:15:47.080 first start that learning process, you are looking at your partner, 191 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:49.879 so you can kind of like how we talked about 192 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:53.320 the wound vetting, so you can make a different choice. 193 00:15:53.919 --> 00:15:56.039 And then what you realize is what you have to 194 00:15:56.080 --> 00:15:59.840 choose is yourself, gosh right, not yourself and other people, 195 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:06.519 but paying attention in choosing yourself and honoring yourself in relationship, 196 00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:11.279 not avoiding them, but honoring yourself inside relationship. 197 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:15.159 What if the relationship keeps changing because the play is alive, 198 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:19.639 while the same relationship keeps repeating because the false self 199 00:16:19.720 --> 00:16:28.480 refuses to improvise. When we come forward the voice of reason, 200 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:30.039 we're gonna keep this barbecue. 201 00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:36.720 I came up with a way of understanding this what 202 00:16:36.759 --> 00:16:41.960 I would call this magnetic attraction of personality types. And 203 00:16:42.000 --> 00:16:45.559 what I what I what I what I created is 204 00:16:45.559 --> 00:16:49.759 what we all already know. I came up with an explanation, 205 00:16:50.200 --> 00:16:54.279 a word created for something that fits our own experience, 206 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:59.080 that there is a personality type match that pulls people 207 00:16:59.080 --> 00:17:04.079 together into a real relationship, whether it's healthy a relationship 208 00:17:04.119 --> 00:17:08.319 attraction or unhealthy relationship attraction. And in the case of 209 00:17:08.400 --> 00:17:12.720 a codependent, someone who is connected to everyone else's needs 210 00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:19.240 over their own is seemingly and always attracted to someone 211 00:17:19.319 --> 00:17:22.480 who is a narcissist who's always connected to their own needs. 212 00:17:23.759 --> 00:17:24.920 Just like a. 213 00:17:24.880 --> 00:17:29.000 Professional dancing couple, we think about if they're going to 214 00:17:29.119 --> 00:17:32.720 dance for a living, their roles must be perfectly matched. 215 00:17:33.240 --> 00:17:37.160 You cannot have two people leading a dance because it's 216 00:17:37.400 --> 00:17:39.880 just won't happen. There's gonna be a tug of pull. 217 00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:42.480 You can't have two people following in a dance because 218 00:17:42.480 --> 00:17:44.799 they're going to step on each other's toes. For this 219 00:17:45.039 --> 00:17:47.799 dancing experience to work, you have to have a perfect 220 00:17:47.839 --> 00:17:54.519 matching of opposite roles. And for a dysfunctional relationship to work, 221 00:17:54.640 --> 00:17:57.240 to come together, and to stay together, there has to 222 00:17:57.240 --> 00:18:01.200 be a perfect pairing of dysfunctional opposite. The person who 223 00:18:01.279 --> 00:18:05.799 is a natural caregiver, who reflexively loves, cares, and respects 224 00:18:05.799 --> 00:18:09.599 for others at the expense of their own always, and 225 00:18:09.680 --> 00:18:13.319 I really mean always, is that I'm that specific and confident, 226 00:18:13.680 --> 00:18:17.720 is always unconsciously attracted to someone who's all about their 227 00:18:17.720 --> 00:18:20.519 own needs, who need someone to love, respect, and care 228 00:18:20.559 --> 00:18:25.440 for themselves. These two opposites don't know that one is 229 00:18:25.640 --> 00:18:28.599 a narcissist and the other is a codependent. They just 230 00:18:28.680 --> 00:18:33.240 fall in love. It's chemistry. But in reality, what we 231 00:18:33.359 --> 00:18:37.680 find out in these relationships it could only work, the 232 00:18:37.720 --> 00:18:43.079 attraction could only work, and then the persistence, the stability 233 00:18:43.079 --> 00:18:49.079 of this dysfunctional relationship stays because the codependent matches perfectly 234 00:18:49.599 --> 00:18:55.480 with the narcissist. The caregiver needs a care needer, and 235 00:18:55.519 --> 00:18:59.640 without the two, the relationship would not last. It's paradoxical. 236 00:19:00.440 --> 00:19:05.400 It come on Rossenburg something there, that's Ross Rossenberg from 237 00:19:05.400 --> 00:19:09.519 the human Magnet syndrome. And you know he had to 238 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:14.359 clinicalize Christian Emerti's relationship as a mirror. There you go, 239 00:19:14.519 --> 00:19:16.880 that's all The relationship is a mirror, right. 240 00:19:16.759 --> 00:19:19.559 But I like the context of it, yeah, he cooked, Yeah, 241 00:19:19.640 --> 00:19:24.119 because it begs the question, well, what role are you 242 00:19:24.160 --> 00:19:27.279 playing in the relationship? Your partner's this, your partner's that, 243 00:19:27.359 --> 00:19:29.440 your partner's this? What about you? 244 00:19:29.799 --> 00:19:30.079 Right? 245 00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:32.000 And if you can get to the what about you? 246 00:19:33.200 --> 00:19:35.599 That's effective that's where work can be done. 247 00:19:35.799 --> 00:19:40.440 And then who wrote your script? This is a divine 248 00:19:40.599 --> 00:19:45.000 play because because you hear people say this all the time, right, 249 00:19:45.920 --> 00:19:49.759 you chose this reality before you came here. You chose 250 00:19:49.799 --> 00:19:53.119 the parents, you chose the situations and what you're going 251 00:19:53.200 --> 00:19:55.240 to go through. You chose all of this because you 252 00:19:55.279 --> 00:19:58.000 wanted expansion and growth, and you wanted to be able 253 00:19:58.039 --> 00:20:01.720 to return back to your true self that is devoid 254 00:20:02.119 --> 00:20:03.880 of all of the stuff you went through when you 255 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:08.720 chose this life. This is growth. This is God rediscovering 256 00:20:08.759 --> 00:20:12.720 different parts of itself while already knowing the journey, while 257 00:20:12.759 --> 00:20:15.319 revealing the journey to the un known parts of it. 258 00:20:15.720 --> 00:20:18.319 Do you see how this works? So if that is 259 00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:26.880 the case, who wrote the script and why and why 260 00:20:26.880 --> 00:20:27.920 are you playing this out? 261 00:20:29.200 --> 00:20:29.319 So? 262 00:20:30.799 --> 00:20:35.720 I from my perspective, it's a part of the soul's journey. 263 00:20:35.839 --> 00:20:40.319 It's carrying over karmic lessons. You know, it's to me 264 00:20:40.400 --> 00:20:42.599 a little lazy when people say I just want what 265 00:20:42.680 --> 00:20:45.920 God wants from me. Well, perfect, God wants for you 266 00:20:45.960 --> 00:20:47.960 what you want for you, So what do you want right? 267 00:20:48.480 --> 00:20:55.240 Those needs, wants, desires, the behavior, the situation predestined not 268 00:20:55.440 --> 00:20:58.759 by God, well by God, but the part of you 269 00:20:59.359 --> 00:21:02.440 that is the nation of God, that is choosing the 270 00:21:03.440 --> 00:21:08.960 soul lessons that are carried over and over like for example, 271 00:21:09.000 --> 00:21:11.279 without getting on your head too much there's someone that 272 00:21:11.319 --> 00:21:14.519 I know that you know, and there's a deep soul 273 00:21:14.559 --> 00:21:20.200 connection there. Right, There's been lifetimes of this type of connection. 274 00:21:20.920 --> 00:21:23.519 You can't get away from it. Even if you stop 275 00:21:23.599 --> 00:21:26.480 seeing the person in this lifetime, you will see them 276 00:21:26.519 --> 00:21:31.680 in the next. This is why there's a part of 277 00:21:31.759 --> 00:21:36.640 us that feels drawn to a person. Right. I know 278 00:21:36.799 --> 00:21:42.920 that I've had very few but very intense connections with 279 00:21:43.000 --> 00:21:46.759 a very few people, and it doesn't really make sense 280 00:21:46.880 --> 00:21:50.039 why I will be in connection with this person, right, 281 00:21:50.160 --> 00:21:53.079 But there's something to the soul. There's something that the 282 00:21:53.119 --> 00:21:56.920 soul is attempting to learn. And when we're in the 283 00:21:56.960 --> 00:22:01.880 soul state, without the body, without the being, right, we 284 00:22:02.000 --> 00:22:06.000 are just the soul. In a soul state, these agreements 285 00:22:06.079 --> 00:22:09.759 are much more amicable. Hey, I need you to disappoint 286 00:22:09.759 --> 00:22:11.119 me in this next lifetime. 287 00:22:11.160 --> 00:22:14.119 Can you do that for me? I got same up, 288 00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:19.960 I got you. I got a good disappointment, yeah, right right, yes. 289 00:22:19.680 --> 00:22:24.079 And in relationship to our last experiences together, it might 290 00:22:24.160 --> 00:22:26.559 help balance me out if we go in this way, 291 00:22:27.200 --> 00:22:30.279 you know. And this is why I tell people when 292 00:22:30.279 --> 00:22:33.759 they ask the question, am I gonna end up with 293 00:22:33.839 --> 00:22:36.680 my person? That remains to be seen? 294 00:22:36.799 --> 00:22:38.160 But to me. That's womb talk. 295 00:22:38.400 --> 00:22:39.839 It is the wound talk. 296 00:22:39.960 --> 00:22:40.720 That's womb talk. 297 00:22:40.759 --> 00:22:42.400 It's because it's attachment, because. 298 00:22:42.160 --> 00:22:47.799 The wound is like permanence, stability, consistency, don't change. All 299 00:22:47.799 --> 00:22:51.559 of that's born out of need. When you start dealing 300 00:22:51.680 --> 00:22:55.720 with the higher levels of consciousness, need goes away. 301 00:22:56.000 --> 00:22:59.880 Yeah. It you enter in a space where I use 302 00:23:00.119 --> 00:23:03.480 to wonder why they would say this. If you love something, 303 00:23:03.519 --> 00:23:05.880 you'll set it free right now? 304 00:23:05.920 --> 00:23:06.759 You know? Right now? 305 00:23:06.839 --> 00:23:10.599 I know because I'm working at setting people free, loving 306 00:23:10.720 --> 00:23:15.880 and setting people free, even in an intimate connection. It's like, 307 00:23:16.200 --> 00:23:20.079 allow this person to be who they are without my expectations. 308 00:23:20.079 --> 00:23:23.079 So I won't run down to a person what it 309 00:23:23.119 --> 00:23:25.480 is I need from you? Well, tell me what you need. No, 310 00:23:26.160 --> 00:23:27.920 and now, because I'm trying to play a game, I 311 00:23:27.920 --> 00:23:31.319 don't want to manipulate you out of your experience of 312 00:23:31.359 --> 00:23:33.799 being show up authentically. 313 00:23:33.799 --> 00:23:40.200 Intimate, mirrored, divine, orchestrated leila. 314 00:23:40.920 --> 00:23:42.759 Yeah, oh my goodness. 315 00:23:42.880 --> 00:23:46.440 This is a miracle God put together so that we 316 00:23:46.519 --> 00:23:52.359 could discover the God in us, the needlessness in us. 317 00:23:52.440 --> 00:23:57.920 When we come forward the voice of reason on wholeness Wednesdays, 318 00:23:57.960 --> 00:24:00.680 when Precious Miguil, we gonna keep God again. 319 00:24:01.640 --> 00:24:13.640 The question is about intimate relationships, how to how to 320 00:24:14.599 --> 00:24:17.880 how to leave these relationships from this pure love and 321 00:24:17.960 --> 00:24:22.319 not like in my personal experience, it's always coming back 322 00:24:22.359 --> 00:24:26.599 to the ID identification as soon as I it doesn't 323 00:24:26.640 --> 00:24:31.119 come from pure love. And in the end, of course, 324 00:24:31.160 --> 00:24:34.559 I'm disappointed because I have projections and. 325 00:24:39.119 --> 00:24:40.400 I have a. 326 00:24:42.039 --> 00:24:45.279 Yeah, I need something from from the person, and it 327 00:24:45.319 --> 00:24:48.359 seems like and since I'm disappointed, I go back to 328 00:24:48.400 --> 00:24:51.359 this advitor. I said to myself, Okay, I withdraw and 329 00:24:52.160 --> 00:24:55.680 that's where I really feel the piece of my true beating. 330 00:24:55.799 --> 00:25:01.480 But it seems like there is something something, yeah, something missing, well, 331 00:25:03.400 --> 00:25:18.279 like as if I'm cutting some part of life. 332 00:25:19.039 --> 00:25:23.039 I think the Church of England should rewrite their wedding 333 00:25:23.160 --> 00:25:33.160 vows and instead of vowing to obey and all that 334 00:25:34.400 --> 00:25:41.559 we should, we should take a vow to love each 335 00:25:41.599 --> 00:25:47.880 other unconditionally, which is simply another way of stating that 336 00:25:46.160 --> 00:25:51.640 the prior nature of our shared being, we don't actually 337 00:25:51.680 --> 00:25:55.640 have to vow. It's an acknowledgment of what is already 338 00:25:55.680 --> 00:26:00.839 the case, an acknowledgment of the fact that behind our 339 00:26:00.920 --> 00:26:07.480 differing thoughts and feelings and sometimes conflictual activities and ways 340 00:26:07.519 --> 00:26:18.880 of relating a being as shed That would be the first. 341 00:26:15.119 --> 00:26:17.039 Get professor snape out of here. 342 00:26:17.799 --> 00:26:19.839 Six and one hand, half a dozen and another. 343 00:26:20.000 --> 00:26:27.640 I mean, what in the Hogwarts relationship advice, I see 344 00:26:27.640 --> 00:26:30.400 what he was trying to get at. Yeah, and I 345 00:26:30.440 --> 00:26:35.839 even understand her question. But she's highlighting something that I 346 00:26:35.920 --> 00:26:40.200 keep saying. This is why it's a divine play. You 347 00:26:40.480 --> 00:26:45.119 think you need something? Yes, she was labeling it. I'm 348 00:26:45.200 --> 00:26:48.960 looking for this person because of something I need, and 349 00:26:49.000 --> 00:26:53.880 this is why I call need the original sin. So 350 00:26:53.960 --> 00:26:57.119 now I have the question, what if your relationships have 351 00:26:57.240 --> 00:27:03.880 been telling you you the truth about you that your 352 00:27:04.119 --> 00:27:09.960 identity right currently has been organized to conceal. So you 353 00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:16.039 had to become somebody to survive the somebody's that molded you. 354 00:27:16.160 --> 00:27:17.079 Yes, indeed. 355 00:27:17.279 --> 00:27:20.720 So now when you get into a relationship and it's 356 00:27:20.880 --> 00:27:25.079 operating as a mirror, it's exposing to somebody you had 357 00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:27.839 to become, and it's saying, oh, no, no, no, I 358 00:27:27.839 --> 00:27:32.599 don't want to date that. There's something on the other side. 359 00:27:33.480 --> 00:27:36.880 Is that you? Who is that? Talk to me? 360 00:27:37.119 --> 00:27:42.240 It's more of a this, right, it's the rub that 361 00:27:42.279 --> 00:27:46.359 you feel. The rub is what you're in relationship with. 362 00:27:47.519 --> 00:27:51.839 I've been disrespected. I've been abandoned. I've been hurt. They 363 00:27:51.839 --> 00:27:57.079 don't value me. I self abandon I don't value myself. 364 00:27:58.240 --> 00:28:01.519 I don't respect myself. I'm not loving myself. I don't 365 00:28:01.559 --> 00:28:04.039 know how to show up for myself. You know, the 366 00:28:04.079 --> 00:28:08.440 first time I heard that concept when someone told me, well, 367 00:28:08.480 --> 00:28:12.000 they're just mirroring in you how you feel about yourself, 368 00:28:12.039 --> 00:28:15.119 because I'm like, hell no, you know, I'm a fly chick. 369 00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:17.880 I don't feel like I love me what I marry me? 370 00:28:18.240 --> 00:28:20.880 It is a different question than would you marry you. 371 00:28:21.519 --> 00:28:24.119 It's more like, if you married you, what would you 372 00:28:24.160 --> 00:28:24.559 be getting? 373 00:28:25.319 --> 00:28:25.519 Right? 374 00:28:25.640 --> 00:28:31.599 Because what you feel in relationship to another person's behavior 375 00:28:31.640 --> 00:28:35.920 says everything about what you need to heal inside of yourself. 376 00:28:35.960 --> 00:28:39.160 And that's an unpleasant look because we don't think that 377 00:28:39.240 --> 00:28:41.920 we would do that to ourselves. But what I'm saying 378 00:28:42.000 --> 00:28:45.759 is indeed, you're doing it to yourself by not looking 379 00:28:45.799 --> 00:28:51.079 at it in yourself. And so you are attracted chemically, 380 00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:54.559 even to someone and it's like something's different about them. 381 00:28:54.960 --> 00:28:57.359 They have an exotic look. No, it's not really what 382 00:28:57.400 --> 00:29:00.200 the person looks like on the outside. It's the and 383 00:29:00.279 --> 00:29:03.920 the trauma that they're carrying that matches the magnet. It's 384 00:29:03.960 --> 00:29:06.599 the metal for the magnet that's in you. That is 385 00:29:06.640 --> 00:29:08.279 your unhealed trauma. 386 00:29:08.880 --> 00:29:09.279 That's it. 387 00:29:09.400 --> 00:29:09.960 That's all. 388 00:29:10.440 --> 00:29:18.680 When different lovers keep activating strangely familiar fears, desires, defenses, attractions, 389 00:29:19.160 --> 00:29:20.839 and emotional roles. 390 00:29:21.200 --> 00:29:25.640 Are you repeatedly choosing the wrong people or are different 391 00:29:25.759 --> 00:29:32.839 people being cast into an unfinished psychological script you keep 392 00:29:33.039 --> 00:29:37.559 carrying from relationship to relationships. You got a script. That 393 00:29:37.599 --> 00:29:44.119 script is your type vibrationally, a frequency. Oh, you got 394 00:29:44.119 --> 00:29:47.279 a frequency type and it's all lined in, and you're 395 00:29:47.319 --> 00:29:52.079 calling it in because you refuse to go with the 396 00:29:53.000 --> 00:29:55.000 Talk to me about that refusal. 397 00:29:55.119 --> 00:30:00.480 Yeah, it's like if you are the orchestrator or you 398 00:30:00.559 --> 00:30:05.400 are the conductor of this musical group, you ever had 399 00:30:05.440 --> 00:30:10.039 to replace the bass player ten times, but they're still 400 00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:12.599 playing the bass no matter how they're showing up. Their 401 00:30:12.680 --> 00:30:16.119