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Speaker 1: Hither. Welcome back to Van v Ferrah. My name is

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Chris Fair. We're talking Nine to Day Fiance, Season twelve,

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Episode nine. Actions speak louder than words. So show me,

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don't tell me, show me, don't speak about it, be

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about it all right. I hope you enjoyed part one.

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We are moving along, so Katie and Josh. Now, I

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think Katie and Josh have broken the Internet. People are

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just dumbfounded, and it makes sense. I don't know did

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Katie know that she was going to grab the internet

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by this? And is she okay with it? She's been

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posting a lot with her friends. But if you can

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you follow both of them, you can tell that he's there.

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He's in Portland. So I think that they are just

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doing their due diligence, but that they're together. Now. Of course,

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we have seen her celebrate her birthday the way that

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she likes to celebrate her birthday, which is full of

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booze and full of kisses, full of people's tongues in

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her mouth. And some of them were situations where they

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were like no thanks, and some of them were people

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like don't kiss me, Katie. We were like, if you

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weren't just on camera, right now, And I don't know.

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I think that if the cameras weren't here, some of

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these people would have absolutely kissed her, and even if

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Josh was there. And I can't quite tell if Josh

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didn't like it or not. We're supposed to believe he

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didn't like it. But if you didn't like it as

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much as we think you shouldn't like it, you wouldn't

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be there the next day, right Just think about it.

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Just think about you. Just think about you in that position.

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If you who were with someone who on their birthday

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did this thing that they're not supposed to do, which

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is horrible that they do it to you. If this

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is that bad for you, which is get drunk and

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embarrassed and cuckled you by making out and forcefully anyone

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they can in the room, including people sheet this person

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has cheated on you with, and you just moved there

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for this person. If, first of all, if the genders

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were reversed, I don't even know what I would do

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with myself. I can't even stand Debbie and Meto, who

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we don't have this episode, which is tragic, tragic. That's

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why we had so much Pala and Thomas because they

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were like, oh shit, you know, in't need Debbie and

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meta we got to fill in time. But I mean,

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like in the embarrassment, I feel for Debbie, Like it

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would be crazier, you know, if Josh was a female,

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but only because you know, there's just I don't even

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know what I would do, but Josh, you know, I

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I feel like it would make sense if Josh was

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like to camera and a confessional, just a slight wink

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and was like, I don't mind it, No, Katie, it's

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still bad. Don't do it. You know, it's fine. But

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she is hungover. She says she's unwell. She says her

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stomach hates her, and he says last night was super embarrassing,

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and she's like, was it I don't know. Here's my

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present from Ryan? Oh Ryan, Oh, oh, oh oh oh.

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She just keeps blinking, blinking a lot, processing and blinking

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a lot, even though she says later she doesn't remember

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what happened, which we have heard before, and actions speak

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louder than words. Her actions are make out with someone.

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Her words are I hope I don't, but even I

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hope I don't is and I'm not going to isn't.

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I'm gonna make sure I don't put myself in that

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situation anyway. She says she is just dying and she's

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just cringing over last night and doesn't remember again what

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she did. And he's like, let me tell you what

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you did. You were trying to make out with anything

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that moves except me except me. I guess I don't move.

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I wouldn't make out of me. That's why it's so

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interesting to me. Why doesn't he at once just be like,

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how about me? You can make out? How about just listen?

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Do you just need to go into the bathroom with

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me and just get it in? Fine, if you're drunk

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on your birthday and you get Hansy Wansay's and you

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want just a little company, let's just go to the bathroom,

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take off her MIC's or leyla mon, you freak, and like,

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get it in and you'll feel so satisfied, hopefully taking

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care of in a way because she feels insecure and

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you're like, Chris, don't enable her. But I'm like, well,

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this is a couple that's going to transcend this obvious problem.

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And she's spoken that she does this because she's insecure

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in an insecure place, and then she either gets too

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happy or too sad, so it's either one of those

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and or she just really wants affection. It makes her

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feel good. So what I'm saying is, why doesn't he

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just go take care of that for her? Then when

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she wants it out and about and then all these

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people could see like her partner is stepping up and

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taking care and sex sexually satisfying her or romantically satisfying

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her or physically affectionately satisfying her. You know, she likes

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a sensory thing, and this is one of her sensory things.

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You know, then like, you know, put up her shut up.

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Actions speak louder than words, Josh, get to make it out.

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She wants to make out with you for four minutes

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and you're not into making out. That alone should tell

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you this relationship isn't for you. There's some things in

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this universe you gotta do. And if you like making out,

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be with someone for the rest of your life that

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you like making out with. Like I like making out,

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and I'll tell you why. I think I'm a good kisser.

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I think I'm great anyway, and I like to be

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with someone who also thinks they're great and they're right

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I hate being with someone who thinks they're great and

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they're wrong because I know what I'm doing, So you

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better fucking put up her shut up, Like I said,

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that's the thing I know about Katie. Okay, I'm not

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saying she's a good kisser. I think I think that

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if she truly probably not, because she wears too much

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wet lip gloss for that unless that clip gloss is

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like made from actual strawberries, And I don't know why

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I'm like making something like but like made from fruit

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and taste yummy. I don't want all that in my mouth. Okay,

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that's the other thing. She wears wet runny lip products,

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and then as the day goes on, lips that were

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just slightly overlined start to bleed. And I have been

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wronged by this personally, by doing it to myself, and

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it's just, you know, it's hard to line things. So okay,

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She's like, oh my god, I'm so embarrassed. And she

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doesn't really apologize to Josh, but what she does say

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is I let me you a question, and he's like probably,

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being like, well I leave you, No, obviously not, and

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she's like, was everyone uncomfortable? And how is their experience.

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I don't want them to like be mad, and he's like,

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well they're one me, I'm your fiance. I was humiliated,

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you know, like you're not gonna ask about me. She doesn't.

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She feels like she cares more about their experiences. And

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then she's like, I just get really scared about being abandoned.

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I don't want people to just suddenly run away and leave,

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and she starts crying, crying. It's like we fully get

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a Katie breakdown, Katie with tears. It's interesting though, because

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there seems to be like a habit loop that surely

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needs to be remedied. And then I really need her

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now to be like which is why I'm taking this

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tape right to my therapists, because I just had a

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breakthrough of what I'm doing and I have to have

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someone work on I'm thinking so I can change this,

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probably not not drinking so much amongst people. Also like

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keeping hands to myself. Also because like this is something

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that's kind of true, like Katie is like, you know,

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a lovely, ginger young girl. If Katie was a male

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who got so drunk that he just forcefully tried to

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push himself on person after person in a bar. That

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person would get kicked out of many a bar and

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might even like have nights in jail or like charges

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against them because of like consent and stuff like that.

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Why does Katie have the wherewithal to like only do

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it to like her friends or people that she knows

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she feels safe too, Or has there been situations where

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people have like press charges. I'm just honestly asking at

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this point, and she has used this, I don't remember situation.

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I've like an excuse a little bit too much for me.

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You have to take accountability and responsibility for your life,

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like after a certain age. Also just interesting that I

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feel like no one in her life at her birthday

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party was anyone soup's close to her for like a

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long period of time, Like no cousins, no sisters, no brothers,

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no anyone that she seemingly went to a school with.

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They were all like run club buddies and people that

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she met a traveler. I want to see someone that

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she's known for a long time, Katie says, I don't

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like it when things happen that are bad, which same girl,

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sameh but speaks to like a level of expression and

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understanding that I feel like could also use further circumspection. Okay,

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so let's just say this. Definitely, people tend to escape

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or use things to escape. So if you are feeling something,

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you don't want to sit with the emotion because you

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assign too much meaning to it, like that, it's like

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going to be here forever means a certain hard truth.

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You will ever not feel this feeling. You hate this

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feeling so much, you know you're trying to fight it

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with you know, everything within you if there isn't a way,

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and this is what I'm working on in my own

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therapist's office of just being like, you know what, Feelings

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are a part of human nature. They come and they go,

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and you just have to have compassion for yourself in

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the moment. If it's a feeling that you don't love

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to feel, that it should happen, that you can't run

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away from it. That if it's discomfort, if you know

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that it's meant to be felt, it's meant to be here,

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just be with it and then let it pass or whatever.

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sometimes when you can't process things well, you can really

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try and escape those feelings in a bunch of ways,

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and I wonder if all of the drinking and things

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are Katie's way, which is another reason why I need

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her to know. I want I want to know what

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her level of understand standing of her triggers and what

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she's doing, and what her help is in her life,

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like with her structured help and I mean like her

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psycho therapist or her psychologist's degree to help her with this,

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because it does feel like she's skating by. She seems

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like a nice enough girl, but she has some problems.

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And I think that, you know, it's time to take

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care of ourselves because she's gonna be a seasoned woman

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at some point. At the same time, if she wasn't,

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I mean, you know, a woman, and she had it,

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and she's really dealing with like now kiss kan sorry

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no consent, making out and touching and groping. I mean,

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it's not good. Okay. I don't know how Josh is

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going to get us to believe that she's overcome any

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of that without again telling us that he doesn't mind it. Okay,

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Asha and Maxwell, So they're now going to dinner and

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wearing coordinating outfits. It feels like it's all beige and browns.

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It's like very like earth tones, God bless. We're going

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to Mantra restaurant. What's your mantra? He says, to stop

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flinging her hands, because she's done that a lot, and

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then she says that she does that when she's aggravated, So,

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you know what, stop aggravating me and I'll stop doing it.

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She doesn't seem to want to take any sort of

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like note, definitely no criticism. She's wildly defensive. She doesn't

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hear anything he says to being like, can you stop

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doing that? Stop doing that? This is why she takes

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everything to be like viscerally you to your core bad.

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And therefore the options are ignore and tell me why

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I'm stupid, or burn it all down because you feel

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too hurt to look inside yourself without like ruining everything

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about you. You know, which is I don't know, you

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know it's it's indicative of, like, yeah, just emotional immaturity.

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She's crazy. We know that because she believes crazy things. Okay,

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he feels like he's over it. He gives us a look, honey,

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like I cannot believe I'm dealing with this shit. His

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head is on his hands. He has really lovely bracelets,

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and she looks at him and she's like, I need

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clarification over your statement of whether God wants us to

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get married. She says she can't believe that he said that,

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and he said that he cannot stand when she disrespects

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his family, and she says hush, and he's like, no,

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don't tell me to be quiet like that. You're disrespectful

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to me, and she's like, fuck your family. You should

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think about letting go of your family. I'm your family now,

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it's me or them. In the Bible, they say go

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go to your woman, and you will be with the

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woman now that I am the rib of you, and

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you know it's me and you. I'm your rib. You're

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not your mom's rib. You know. Like she really is

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like forget those people. She really last episode was like

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I'm not even supposed to be here to deal with them.

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You were supposed to be in America just dealing with

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my mom Juliette, who's lovely, funny, great skin, and also

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me and he I mean, she yeah, He's like, I

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wonder if he knows what she's going to be like

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in America. He's getting a taste because I feel like

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it's different. She's very similar. I'm just saying when he's

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in America because the least he can move around and

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he has like freedom in you know, like Africa, he

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knows what he's doing and he has like you know,

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access to things, and he can like pay for things

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or whatever. But you know, in America he's gonna have less, well, liberty,

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I guess to like move and do do his shit.

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She's like, you've changed. I'm going to go back to

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the Maxwell you were. Maxwell. Used to be so loving,

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so nice, so like not cynical, not criticizing me all

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the goddamn time. Used to be great because you never

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talked bad about me. You only let me talk bad

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about you. Of things I want to change, you were

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okay with that and did some of the things. That's

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the guy I like, the one that just behaves, listens

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to everything I say and does it most of it.

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He's like, Okay, here's the thing. Right now, you're an

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Africa and you have to act accordingly. And that's obviously

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some not something that she's doing. And she's like, no,

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you pick me or Africa and your family? And also

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what side is God on my side? Remember me, I'll

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tell you what I'm doing speaking in tongues on the

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phone on the phone with you're gonna say no to that.

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He's like, you're right, I choose you. She's like, say

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you choose me every day, Say you choose me every day.

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He's like, I choose you, choose you, choose you every day.

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She's very controlling. Yeah, she's it's yeah, she gives like yeah,

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she's like Marissa kind of right. She's very demanding. If

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that's not one thing, she's just aal and she has

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the power of God on her side. So it's like

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what God wants for her exactly what she wants for

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her is also the same thing, which is coincidental. That's

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why she knows she's God's favorite. Whatever she thinks God wants,

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they're the same mind. So anyway, shay, oh wait, oh no,

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I'm not done yet. So they also have to go

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over you know, business talk. The business talk is what

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they should do about the whole visa situation. And of

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course we know they have two options, either the fiance visa,

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which they can't get they've already tried, and the spousal visa,

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which means they would get married in Nigeria, which would

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further cement them into you know, this union, which we

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know doesn't look promising, but it's the thing they have

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to do to move on what they want to do

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that's going and in turmoil, we think, okay, so guess

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what they're like, Yep, you know what spousal it is.

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That's the only way to do it. And we're like,

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mm hmm. That's why there's gonna be like fourteen more

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episodes in the season. Anyway. Shay and annabel So, he

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is driving his truck because he's hauling a bunch of

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stuff in the back, and he's like, let me give

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you an update of what's happening. Everything sucks. She's mad

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all the time. Annabelle is giving me resting bitch face.

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Twenty four to seven. I'm right now having to go

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dump a bunch of Nicole's stuff because annabel wanted it

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out but also wanted Nicole to deal with it in

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like twenty four hours and Nicole is not about that.

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And I have all this stuff, so I'm going to

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like dump it for her or whatever, sala dump it.

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Annabelle hasn't talked to him and also is upset because Allison,

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his daughter, told her that frequently, if not every time

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they're on the phone or see each other, they always

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say how they still have feelings for each other and

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will you know each other? So like that's a hard

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thing to swallow. I'm sorry. They just say that they're

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just gonna be perpetually in love with each other, and like,

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just like two tormented souls where there's Romeo and Juliet

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just one block away from each other. That's what I

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would have to live with, is what you're saying. That's

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a nightmare. That's some Sister Wives shit, that's this is

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this is some poly shit. So she comes back and

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Anna Pell's in a lovely two piece, you know, like

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what looks like Barley knockoff or whatever. It's just like

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a jogger outfit, you know, like let's get some athleisure

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where going, honey, And he's like, do you want to

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go get some coffee? And so she yes, you know,

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and she's like, I just feel like our whole relationship

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is a lie and he's like why it's Oh, it's

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because your daughter, Alison told me you do nothing but

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lie to me. And he's like, aren't that bitch Alison

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who I love to drink with? And has my face. Hm,

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I just got her my free manicure and paid for

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her groceries. You know. She says the craziest defense, which

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is that, no, it's not that I say I love you,

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Nicole and I want to marry you know, I just

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say when I'm drunk, just that I can't be with you,

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but I love you for the rest of time and space.

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You're like, what, so why can't you be with her?

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I so, yeah, Like, if you love someone, is it

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just that you both like I must say? And why

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won't Nicole? Does the cole want to be with you?

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Or does the cole also think that you can't be together?

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And you just don't want to be with her because

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you want to fuck other people, but you still want

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to fuck her. So this is just your way of

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saying it. And you can't even give that up to

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get married to Annabel, who I'm assuming he just thinks

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he can cheat on. It's so interesting to me. Annabel's like, Okay, well,

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I'm gonna have to set some boundaries and if you

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don't agree with them, I'm going to go home. He's like, boundaries,

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what's that? She's like break up with Nicole, which is

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a crazy way of saying. He's like, she's like, never

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talk to her or ever see her again. He's like,

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well they do have a child together. I'm like, how

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old is this child? Is this child thirteen? Is this

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child four? Is this child twenty one? Something about this

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is a little fake to me. So next shot, they're

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getting ready for a party at the lake and we're

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so happy. We're like, oh my God, put the king

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back on his throne. Honey, we got to see what's this.

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Whole town loves this man for what's happening Paduca honey

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at this lake. So she's like, what am I gonna

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wear to the lake? She's wearing? So she brings out

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a cream sweater. It's like very Chanelle esque of the

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gold buttons. He's like, yeah, put something on. You're gonna

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have something underneath that, right, She's like yeah, totally dah.

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He's like, what are you wearing? She's like Calvin Klein,

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you know, it's a clueless reference. And he's like, Okay,

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you bring that. I'm gonna bring what I need to bring,

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which is a thirty pack. I've never heard of a

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thirty pack. Is there such a thing as a thirty pack?

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A thirty pack of beer. I've heard of a twelve pack?

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Is there a even? I'm there's a twenty four pack,

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and then on top of twenty fourth there's a thirty pack.

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She's like, who's coming, and so he's like, oh, just Barbara, Stacy, Nancy, Darita, Lucy.

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You know, you're just like a lot of girl names.

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She's like, yeah, not one guy. How come Anngie's dad

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never comes to these things? Jangie's dad's your friend, right,

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how come Anngie's dad never gets an invite? Notice that?

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What does that? Real good? We see their lake house,

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which is on a beautiful lake, you know, I'm sure

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when it changes colors. It's beautiful, and it's a very smart,

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charming cabin. It has like a little cute kitchen area

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and dining room area, and she loves it, you know.

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And she's like somewhat tickled because she's like, in the Philippines,

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I live basically in a one bedroom with my entire family.

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Or did she say one house? Maybe she's in one

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house with my entire family. And here we have two

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homes Shae and I and only one family, me and him.

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Fuck Allison, Fuck Allison's kids. And his other family, you know,

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God bless, which I'm sure they don't live in the

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first part, but I mean the lake house, you know,

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is for everyone, right it does. Only Shay have the keys.

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Probably Alison of course joins them. And Alison knows what

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happens at a lake house party, so she brings her

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own seat and it probably has like one of those

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seats that has a little like coozy nest so she

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can put a drink in there, probably one on the

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other side. He's like, uh, Annabell, start the chili. I'm like,

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start the chili. She just knows she's gonna make just

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fresh chili or what she's cutting things? But is it

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just like opening a bunch of stags just pouring them

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in a crock pot and uh. While he's like, I

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want to get the beer, but he actually just wants

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to talk to Alison about like fucking being a snitch.

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What the hell are you doing telling Annabelle all of

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my business? And she's like, well, I think that someone

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should know the truth before they get married. And he's like, well,

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we might not get married or we almost didn't get

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married because of you, and she's like, no, because of you.

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Dad also you like my lip filler looks good. It

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does look good. Alison's face is kind of like an

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Annabelle face, both the girl. Both women could rock being

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on a soap rob but because both have like come

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the kind of face that likes to sit like this.

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That's annabel this is Alison. It's just so smirky. She

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loves a smirk. So then Annabelle comes back in from

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making the chili and she's like, I'm he wants her

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to clean, and then it's Alison makes this comment like

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come do your job and clean to Annabelle. And at

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first you would assume that she's being horribly like racist

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and mean, but I think that she's being subversive to

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her dad, being like, yeah, come do what you're good at.

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And this is why I think I'm telling you this

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stuff so that you are well informed. And this is

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how my dad is treating you, like go make the

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chili and go do that. I wonder if other people

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are going to talk about this, but that's how I

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inferred that comment. I need to know your thoughts, though

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I think Alison knows what she's doing. I don't think

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Alison's a bad person, but I think that she thinks

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her dad is a bad person. She thinks that her

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dad shouldn't ever get married, at least without the person

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knowing exactly who her dad is, and is then being like,

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I'm okay with it. I get a lakehouse. I want

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access to the lakehouse. I'm okay with that. There, it's

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like we need Josh to be like, I like a

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little something fun in the bedroom, and I don't mind

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her Katie making out with people. It's fine, and so

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we can be like, okay, okay, then we'll never ask.

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Now we get it. Now, we get it, now, we

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understand it just because you went on this show. You

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went on the show that like the showcases of behavior,

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so we can only like wonder, like why so you

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told us? And now we know so we can go

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to bed well tonight just thinking about everything having a

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rhyme and reason, you know. So people start coming to

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this party and again they know what to bring, which

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is like they're rolling up with drinks already in their hands,

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with koozies, and then they can just throw that drink

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away and get that koozy filled with a new drink.

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One girl rolls in with a Stanley Honey like a

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fake Stanley and that girl's name is Sabrina and she's

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like a blonde lady that is very performative, and it's like, Annabel,

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we just can't wait to meet you. Let's do a

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jaeger Meister bomb shot. Jaeger bomb, that's what it's called.

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Jeger Meister bomb. I'm so sorry, guys, a Yaeger bomb together.

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So Annabel has to do a Yaeger bomb. Now I

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have done one. It's just been a long, ast minute.

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It's like that thing where it like burns because it's

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like some is Yeger whiskey. Yeah, so that's what I remember.

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It burns, not in the way tequila burns in a

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different way, in a hot way. Now, later on to

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the confessionals, she's like, I'll tell you, Annabell didn't hate it,

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even though she gave that face like she had two

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telling her business. So we also see this shot. I

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took it of another blonde lady who is just fully

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glossy lipped in her own bottle of like vodka. I

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don't know if she brought this vodka bottle because it's

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wrapped in black wrimen. It feels like she just gifted

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it to her friend. And then opened it upon arrival

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and is now drinking from it with her own mouth

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out of nowhere, and it does feel that way. Suddenly

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some guy has a mic. We're like, what huh. And

465
00:31:29,519 --> 00:31:31,480
there's like a guy with a mic in like a

466
00:31:31,519 --> 00:31:35,119
stage or's like an amplifier. We're like, oh, okay, so

467
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,359
this okay? So I mean, okay, is this where is

468
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:42,680
the lake in relationship to where these people are partying?

469
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:48,119
For some reason, the houses like feels like it's in

470
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:54,240
the back. I'm assuming that your lake parties happen overlooking

471
00:31:54,279 --> 00:31:58,400
the lake, So don't know why, for instance, there's not

472
00:31:58,519 --> 00:32:00,279
any shots or is there any shots? And I'm just

473
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:03,640
dumb of the deck because the deck is the best

474
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:07,319
part of the lake house. But we seem to be

475
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:11,799
like in the parking area. Okay, do you guys notice that?

476
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:15,319
Is that weird? But I'm really bad spatially? Okay. So

477
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,359
some guy right is like, we just want to tell

478
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,839
everyone it's Shaye's birthday and he's never asked for anything,

479
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,240
and one guy's like, he definitely have for a beer.

480
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:31,680
People are like, oh, that's our Shae, always asking for things. Anyway.

481
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:36,559
It's also welcome to America. To annabel party and then

482
00:32:36,599 --> 00:32:40,960
she's like, yep, not just my birthday, but more importantly Annabel,

483
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:46,359
welcome to America. And then Annabel's like, I'm shy, and

484
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:50,920
then she's like that's how I like him, and we're like,

485
00:32:51,119 --> 00:32:57,400
oh my god, no, Also, you're not shy. Why I

486
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:59,640
know you're like your speech she says, she's speechless, but

487
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:01,160
I kind I don't want her to, like, you know,

488
00:33:01,759 --> 00:33:07,000
say something, because she's funny. Maybe she I would love

489
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:11,640
her to be like, I'm drunk. Sorry, I've had two

490
00:33:11,759 --> 00:33:22,279
yaeger shots. Anyway, we get the worst scene possible, which

491
00:33:22,359 --> 00:33:29,359
is disgusting, which is Shay is surrounded by like high schoolers,

492
00:33:30,079 --> 00:33:35,000
people look very young. One girl is twenty one, and

493
00:33:35,039 --> 00:33:38,799
then he looks right at Annabelle while hugging that girl.

494
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:41,200
One arm around that girl and one I'm around her

495
00:33:41,319 --> 00:33:46,279
friend for some reason and says, I'll tell you right now,

496
00:33:46,359 --> 00:33:50,519
if I was twenty one looking at Annabel, you wouldn't

497
00:33:50,519 --> 00:33:59,000
be here after finding out that hot girl was twenty one.

498
00:33:59,359 --> 00:34:02,799
Why do you I think that's appropriate or respectful to

499
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:11,239
say when you look like that. I want Anna Abole

500
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:14,599
to be like, oh, I'll tell you right now. If

501
00:34:14,639 --> 00:34:19,000
anyone was richer or younger than you or hotter right

502
00:34:19,039 --> 00:34:23,079
now here in giving me an option and I can

503
00:34:23,159 --> 00:34:26,519
still you know, be in America and be comfortable. Yeah,

504
00:34:27,199 --> 00:34:29,679
oh for sure, me too. Buddy. You're not the first,

505
00:34:30,599 --> 00:34:33,039
You're not the last. You know what I'm saying? Like

506
00:34:33,039 --> 00:34:37,559
that makes me really upset. He's gross and the girls

507
00:34:37,599 --> 00:34:41,239
around him are like ha hahaha. And I also don't

508
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,760
like that's that's crazy to me because I feel like

509
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,559
so many young people that, at least what I'm assuming,

510
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:51,719
are given a sort of power and a tongue that

511
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,840
like far exceeds what I had, you know, like the

512
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:57,880
power to say. I feel like I'm surprised none of

513
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:01,519
these them are like what, buddy, gross? Gross? What are

514
00:35:01,559 --> 00:35:05,800
You're like eighty five? He's like, I'm sixty four. You're

515
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:11,559
like no, well you don't look at buddy. Yeah, that's

516
00:35:11,639 --> 00:35:15,239
so gross. Why why doesn't he know it's gross yet? Like,

517
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:18,760
and I really need this scene to be I need

518
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,760
him to sit down, and I needed to put like

519
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,519
toothpicks and his eyeballs. I need him to watch this

520
00:35:23,639 --> 00:35:28,039
scene for seventy two hours straight so he realizes that

521
00:35:28,119 --> 00:35:30,440
he is gross for thinking this and for saying that

522
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,440
he can do this and how dare he? And she

523
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,679
didn't want to hear that, no female did not the

524
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,280
twenty one year old, because just think about this, that

525
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,599
you are supposing then that if he was just the

526
00:35:41,639 --> 00:35:44,320
same person in twenty one, you'd be able to fuck

527
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:49,000
this one girl. She'd have no consent of her own

528
00:35:49,039 --> 00:35:50,920
to make that choice or to see if you're she's

529
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,239
into you. All it would take is for you to

530
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:57,239
be younger? Would you be so charged? Like, it's just

531
00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:59,880
there's a lot it supposes, okay, and I hate every

532
00:36:00,039 --> 00:36:08,599
thing it's supposes. She's understandably horrified, as we all are,

533
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:16,480
and she says I can't marry him, I can't live

534
00:36:16,519 --> 00:36:18,440
a life like this, and we are supposed to be

535
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:22,280
like yeah, girl, well yeah, you and Josh have some

536
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:26,079
thinking to do, because these people have showed you who

537
00:36:26,119 --> 00:36:29,239
they are and they're not gonna change. They either don't

538
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,280
want to change or they only say they want to change.

539
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:36,159
But actions speak louder than we're you know, Like, these

540
00:36:36,199 --> 00:36:39,599
actions are the actions of someone who's like take it

541
00:36:39,679 --> 00:36:45,239
or leave it. Take me as I am who else?

542
00:36:45,519 --> 00:36:48,280
Man toothy? Sorry, I'm just in a singing mood, but

543
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:54,679
that's Brent obviously. I'm just really excited to see what

544
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,280
happens next. And uh, I also want to know, like

545
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,360
who Alison's hooking up with. I want to see, like

546
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,440
who Allison's guy, because is there a guy that she

547
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:05,199
gets to be Like come to Daddy's beach house. I

548
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:09,719
have those kids are with a sitter. Come fuck me

549
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:14,679
at Daddy's beach house. I don't know. Do you for

550
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:20,360
think about that? I don't Why would I? All right?

551
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:24,719
My loves listen join me on patreon dot com. Won't

552
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,360
you consider giving me five dollars wherever you can? I

553
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:29,320
would really appreciate it. At the same time, you can

554
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,719
follow at Chris Silfera on Instagram and on TikTok, and

555
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,719
I have a YouTube page, I have a Facebook page,

556
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:38,440
and I have a Facebook group Vanity Farah. I exist

557
00:37:38,599 --> 00:37:41,360
on all planes, in all galaxies, and all space all time.

558
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,239
I really appreciate the time we've spent together. Thank you

559
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,599
so much for downloading my episodes and for sharing them.

560
00:37:46,639 --> 00:37:48,800
It really means a lot. I'm trying to grow my

561
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:51,800
podcast and also just trying to take care of myself,

562
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:53,880
you know, the best I can, and I'm hoping that

563
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,760
any amount of joy I give you know that you

564
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,639
have given it back to me, and I appreciate, like

565
00:38:00,679 --> 00:38:03,559
anyone who wants to listen to me talk, I'm going

566
00:38:03,599 --> 00:38:05,559
to try and get back to you two breaths, two

567
00:38:05,639 --> 00:38:08,639
moments of hopefully bringing yourself into the present, or two

568
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,960
chances for a brief respite to all of our worries

569
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,480
and fears and all of our sensory overloads, but also

570
00:38:17,679 --> 00:38:21,320
a sort of compassionate gift of kindness you can give

571
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,679
to yourself by putting your hand over your heart and

572
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:28,199
being like, let's bring ourselves here right now together and

573
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:33,639
just breathe two breaths and be like we are fine,

574
00:38:34,039 --> 00:38:44,360
We're doing it okay, wetting it all out and then

575
00:38:44,400 --> 00:39:12,119
in out one more dime. Oh alright, my babes, take

576
00:39:12,159 --> 00:39:14,360
care of yourselves and one another, stand up for what

577
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:19,239
you believe in. Make art. Bye.