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Speaker 7: I am obviously starting to with Nayla at the age
Speaker 7: of three, be invited to, you know, birthday parties for
Speaker 7: kids and that type of thing. I didn't even know
Speaker 7: that this was a conversation. I had no idea that
Speaker 7: people were chatting about this online, that this was trending
Speaker 7: and this is a big thing. But I guess there's
Speaker 7: this new rule that on a kid's birthday that everybody
Speaker 7: at the party has to get a gift so that
Speaker 7: nobody feels bad.
Speaker 3: Usually what happens is that you leave the party with
Speaker 3: like a party gift, like a like a little bad
Speaker 3: with a bunch of yes, fine, they do it.
Speaker 7: I've seen that, right, like a little I've seen that
Speaker 7: I did it at my wedding. You know, at weddings
Speaker 7: they do that. They might give you like a little
Speaker 7: but it's the one kid's birthday. Like that kid's gonna
Speaker 7: get the gifts. I don't happen, but.
Speaker 3: That kid's gonna get the best gift, probably like all
Speaker 3: the present. But then you leave like a little bag
Speaker 3: would like or something.
Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, okay, so people do party favors.
Speaker 2: It's a birthday party. Those kids who are gonna leave
Speaker 2: with the gifts come with the gifts, don't they. Yes,
Speaker 2: but then they're given gifts to leave away with. Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 2: you're giving a party changing gifts pretty much, you give
Speaker 2: it a party favor. I'm spending all this money for
Speaker 2: the party.
Speaker 1: Anyway.
Speaker 7: Well, this, this whole conversation started because wait, no.
Speaker 1: Wait for and you're not ready. No, you're not You're
Speaker 1: not ready for this.
Speaker 7: So just to set the scene here, this woman went
Speaker 7: viral because she had her daughter's birthday at Build a Bear.
Speaker 1: We all know what build a Bear is, right, it's
Speaker 1: a store in the mall. You go, you stuff the animal,
Speaker 1: you dress it, you pick it out. Whatever.
Speaker 7: I will let her explain her thought process. But again,
Speaker 7: her daughter's birthday party at builde Bear.
Speaker 8: The other moms are mad at me at school and
Speaker 8: said they won't be bringing their child to my child's
Speaker 8: birthday party next year. So this year, we had a
Speaker 8: birthday party at builde Bear for my daughter and everyone
Speaker 8: had a thirty five dollars limit on my dime, and
Speaker 8: everyone built their bears and it was really cute and fun,
Speaker 8: and I thought it was a really great idea. Some
Speaker 8: moms decided to spend extra on accessories out of their
Speaker 8: own pocket, which was completely their choice, and I thought
Speaker 8: they were being really sweet and thoughtful. So after we
Speaker 8: checked out at Bildebear, I said, all right, everyone like
Speaker 8: turning your bear to my daughter. I don't want to
Speaker 8: save her name on here, and some of the moms
Speaker 8: started acting really weird. Well, we went back to our
Speaker 8: house for cake and the rest of the party, and
Speaker 8: one of the moms had the audacity to come up
Speaker 8: to me and say, you know, I was under the
Speaker 8: impression that the bears we built were for our own daughters.
Speaker 8: And I'm like, it's a birthday party for my daughter.
Speaker 8: Why would you build a bear for yourself for my
Speaker 8: daughter's birthday?
Speaker 1: Like if it was my.
Speaker 8: Birthday and we went to one of those like glazed
Speaker 8: under fire places, like some of my friends would probably
Speaker 8: give me what they made, Like if we go to
Speaker 8: a wine bar for my birthday party as an adult,
Speaker 8: like my friends like, buy me a glass of wine?
Speaker 8: Like I don't know, Like if you're a guy with
Speaker 8: your buddies at the bar, don people buy you around
Speaker 8: or something. So the mom that approached me left and
Speaker 8: then shortly after the rest of the parents just wrapped
Speaker 8: it up, and I guess decided my daughter's birthday was over.
Speaker 8: And now they're basically saying, none of their kids are
Speaker 8: coming to my daughter's birthday next year.
Speaker 5: What do you think, because I.
Speaker 1: Think you're terrible, is what I just just as.
Speaker 7: Okay, So they go to build a bear with these
Speaker 7: little kids, all right, the little kids make bears.
Speaker 1: They think they are making the bears for them cause.
Speaker 7: They're picking, Oh, I want that Hello Kitty bear, and
Speaker 7: I want to put her in that dress, and she's
Speaker 7: gonna hold that bag. Then they get back to the
Speaker 7: house for cake and ice cream, and the woman goes
Speaker 7: give me the bear.
Speaker 2: Yeah no, what do you what do you mean?
Speaker 1: Do you like she picked out all of her favorite things?
Speaker 9: What do you mean?
Speaker 10: Now?
Speaker 7: Mind you, she probably thought that because she was putting
Speaker 7: up the thirty five per bear. That's exactly what it was,
Speaker 7: so it should have been discussed prior to Hey, if
Speaker 7: this is the way she want it now, mind you,
Speaker 7: I bet you have.
Speaker 1: The people wouldn't have come.
Speaker 3: I would not have gone.
Speaker 7: It's weird, but you can't how am I supposed to
Speaker 7: explain to my little kid who just built a bear
Speaker 7: that that that's not their bear.
Speaker 1: It's weird.
Speaker 3: It's very weird. It's very selfish too, because I think
Speaker 3: this lady thinks that her kid is the center of
Speaker 3: the universe, and that's the way she's raised me.
Speaker 2: On this day.
Speaker 3: He is. Yeah, but it's also not above because all
Speaker 3: these young kids took the time to go to the party,
Speaker 3: do all these things things, go back to the house
Speaker 3: for ice.
Speaker 2: Cream, let me play Devil's Agogate. But it's my party
Speaker 2: that I put together. I went and got the location,
Speaker 2: I went and spent the money for every So you're
Speaker 2: not you're just bringing your kid along. We're having a
Speaker 2: Kumbaya moment with my kids. I still don't get the
Speaker 2: part where I'm leaving the bed with you because we
Speaker 2: built it. I think I should just take it home,
Speaker 2: because again, it was a community thing, right. But I
Speaker 2: can understand how theory that I spend all this money
Speaker 2: for everybody to build a bed, and all the bed
Speaker 2: stayed with me.
Speaker 1: I'm going to just say this, and people might think
Speaker 1: this is crazy.
Speaker 7: If I'm having a birthday party for Layla at Build
Speaker 7: a Bear, I'm not going to invite a lot of people,
Speaker 7: maybe five, yes, and I'm they can pick out whatever
Speaker 7: bear they want, but not covering the costs because it's
Speaker 7: a party. And at Build a Bear, and that's what
Speaker 7: you do because there's kids and it suck you, So
Speaker 7: don't invite she invite.
Speaker 1: Like nine people. Don't invite that many. Cut it down.
Speaker 1: Don't invite that many kids.
Speaker 7: You can't have it at that location and then attack
Speaker 7: them to take their bears.
Speaker 3: And what are you to do with that many bears?
Speaker 2: That doesn't make sense. It was weird, like you could
Speaker 2: take them to any other situation painting something. The kids
Speaker 2: are gonna leave with whatever they created. Why as with you?
Speaker 2: That's weird.
Speaker 1: Not even a party.
Speaker 7: But I do a lot of play dates with my
Speaker 7: friend Courtney, who lives in my neighborhood in Marshfield.
Speaker 1: She's she puts my mom into shame. She's so good
Speaker 1: about like I'm so thoughtful with the kids.
Speaker 7: Every time we go over there, she's gone to like
Speaker 7: the dollar store and bought a bunch of stuff for
Speaker 7: them to do crafts and stuff. And I always in
Speaker 7: my head, I'm like, damn, never asks me for a dollar.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
Speaker 7: Like, because she bought the stuff and we're coming to
Speaker 7: her house and she's doing I need to get better.
Speaker 1: I gotta buy some plate over or something.
Speaker 7: But my point is is like, it's not like I'm
Speaker 7: going over there and she's saying, well, if you want
Speaker 7: to come, you have to give me money for these supplies.
Speaker 7: Like it's it's kind of like we just it's a
Speaker 7: thing that we do when she comes to my house,
Speaker 7: I offer the kids snacks.
Speaker 1: I'm not asking her. Can you give me five for
Speaker 1: the fruit snacks?
Speaker 3: Note now, if there's a parent that wants to leave
Speaker 3: the bear there, that's a nice thing, thank you. But
Speaker 3: you don't go there with the expectations.
Speaker 1: You don't ask, you can't.
Speaker 7: It's because you chose that location that I think makes
Speaker 7: this all weird.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Again, it would be like you have a party at
Speaker 7: Dave and Busters and then the food comes and all
Speaker 7: the kids start eating, and then you say, oh, you
Speaker 7: have to pay for that.
Speaker 1: But wait, we're at a party. I'm under the assumption that.
Speaker 3: Actually I went to a party like that about two
Speaker 3: weeks ago and the kid was turning ten. And what
Speaker 3: the parents did. They gave each of the kids, like say,
Speaker 3: like twenty bucks worth of tokens to go play. They
Speaker 3: didn't ask that money back. It was a part of
Speaker 3: the party, right.
Speaker 1: And then beyond that.
Speaker 3: And then after they took the tickets out there when
Speaker 3: they turned the niff for whatever that they didn't ask for,
Speaker 3: like the prize that they won and all that stuff back.
Speaker 2: No, it was a weird part.
Speaker 1: That's weird. And then and then probably was.
Speaker 2: Like, dude, I spent like mad bread. That's a lot
Speaker 2: of money.
Speaker 1: No it is. That was her choice. Why she thirty
Speaker 1: five per she had like nine or ten kids. That's you.
Speaker 1: It's the you can't have it at that spot and not.
Speaker 7: Yes or you do, and you in the card are like, hey, guys,
Speaker 7: we'd love for you to come to our party at
Speaker 7: Build a Bear. You can feel free to make your
Speaker 7: own what you kind of have to put that. But
Speaker 7: that's still weird.
Speaker 2: You got to say, son, like you know, let's all
Speaker 2: come and build bears for my son.
Speaker 1: I'm going to put twenty dollars to.
Speaker 3: Half those people ain't showing up. The mom crazy if
Speaker 3: you like, think about it. So she made a drive
Speaker 3: to build a bear, and then when the party was done,
Speaker 3: when that part was done, we attracted to the house
Speaker 3: that can way too much for transport. I'm leaving off
Speaker 3: to build a bear with my bear.
Speaker 7: I wonder if anybody has a I went to a
Speaker 7: kid party and there was a weird like thing that
Speaker 7: happened where because I'm telling you, people spend so much money.
Speaker 7: Me being one for Layla's first birthday, I had a
Speaker 7: boozy brunch like I spent money, but I'm not ever
Speaker 7: going to ask anybody else for money, and I'm certainly
Speaker 7: going to send them home with a party.
Speaker 3: For There's a new thing now too. Also to you
Speaker 3: have to invite the entire class. You can just invite
Speaker 3: two or three, you get invite everybody.
Speaker 7: And I agree with that because I see videos of
Speaker 7: these kids where they're bawling, crying because they're the only
Speaker 7: kid in classes on anybody that's you can't do that, Chanelle,
Speaker 7: I mean, this is this is crazy. You're gonna invite
Speaker 7: everybody to a party at Build a Bear and then
Speaker 7: yank the bears from the little kid's grips.
Speaker 9: What absolutely, And then you're gonna be like the worst
Speaker 9: mom of the year when they talk about you, ask ooh,
Speaker 9: how you stole the little kid's beers. Yes, that's their
Speaker 9: takeaway present, like you know, the little gift bags you
Speaker 9: give to go home.
Speaker 1: The party favors. You know what.
Speaker 7: I keep thinking of Chanelle too, when she said at
Speaker 7: the end, and now no one's come to the party
Speaker 7: next year, like you ruined it for your daughter.
Speaker 1: And by the way, half.
Speaker 7: The party at Build a Bear and maybe say listen,
Speaker 7: I can throw ten dollars towards each bear.
Speaker 1: Whatever it is. I don't care.
Speaker 7: But now this poor girl, everyone hates mom and they're
Speaker 7: not gonna come to the party next year.
Speaker 9: But now I'm in that they already brought the gifts
Speaker 9: for the daughter.
Speaker 1: True, I didn't even think about it. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: you're so right. We didn't even you know, they all
Speaker 1: showed up with a gift for the kid. You're so right. Wow,
Speaker 1: she was.
Speaker 9: Just being selfish and wanted that money go back to her.
Speaker 4: You gotta do her better.
Speaker 9: When they come as a guest. You have to serve
Speaker 9: them too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, that's so true. Wow, I can't even
Speaker 1: think about that.
Speaker 7: No one's showing up empty handed to a party. They're
Speaker 7: all going to bring something, all right. Six one seven
Speaker 7: nine three one one nine four five six one seven
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Speaker 1: I'm just getting into this realm of my life. But
Speaker 1: what is going on with these kids parties?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 1: What do I.
Speaker 11: Rather lie the lose?
Speaker 1: I run a live I rather?
Speaker 3: I rather I rather lie the loose?
Speaker 7: Hi, everybody, good morning. It's Ashley and the jam In
Speaker 7: Morning Show. It's so funny. I had no idea that
Speaker 7: there was such a conversation around kid's birthday parties. I
Speaker 7: just got a DM from a girl and she's like,
Speaker 7: ash I'm in a mom Facebook group and a very
Speaker 7: like a common question that I'm seeing in there is
Speaker 7: I'm having my kid's birthday party soon. Should I have food?
Speaker 7: She goes, Ashley, what who has a party invites people
Speaker 7: doesn't have food? More recently, the woman goes, well, my
Speaker 7: party's from one thirty to three thirty, so it's after
Speaker 7: lunch and before dinner, so I shouldn't have to have food.
Speaker 1: Excuse me, what you have to have food at a part,
Speaker 1: like you have to have a party.
Speaker 3: It is something, and I bend to them where they
Speaker 3: don't have anything, and it is talked about, that is
Speaker 3: for sure.
Speaker 7: Obviously, you invite a bunch of little kids to build
Speaker 7: a bear, you ask them to build a bear, say
Speaker 7: here's thirty five bucks per bear. They build the bears,
Speaker 7: and then you say, give me them their mind. What
Speaker 7: Tina is in Brockton, Tina, this is this is a
Speaker 7: little weird.
Speaker 12: Hi, listen, I would leave the bear because of course
Speaker 12: I gotta be in the presence for the little one yup,
Speaker 12: thinking that my kids bring their beer back, So I would.
Speaker 4: Leave it there, pick up my present and come back home.
Speaker 1: With no but that that's so true.
Speaker 7: And thank you to the woman who called him. Was
Speaker 7: like Chanelle, She's like asked. They all bought present. That
Speaker 7: is so true. No parent came their empty handed. They
Speaker 7: all brought a gift. So of course you would think
Speaker 7: that they were gonna be able to keep the bear.
Speaker 7: You're right, fine, here's your bear. I'm taking my present.
Speaker 7: But again, all of this, all of this, hut's the
Speaker 7: little kid though, And that's why it's sad that mom
Speaker 7: did this.
Speaker 4: It does that is very sad, very sad. I bought
Speaker 4: my daughter.
Speaker 12: Know she's twenty eight, so I'm sure little I took
Speaker 12: her to build a bear, you know. Oh my gosh,
Speaker 12: she was crazy about that bear. She came home like
Speaker 12: she was great, showing off to everybody. Yeah, because it's
Speaker 12: not right.
Speaker 7: It's not Gina, thank you for the call. Because they
Speaker 7: go to build a bear and they build a bear
Speaker 7: for themselves, so she's not They're not picking up Oh
Speaker 7: little miss Molly would like this on their bed. No,
Speaker 7: they're picking up what they like. Zena or Zia is
Speaker 7: in Cambridge.
Speaker 4: Yep, it's Xina Xena.
Speaker 10: The same thing for my granddaughter. I build a bear
Speaker 10: and she had about eight gaps.
Speaker 1: Oh tell us everything. Okay, so how did you what
Speaker 1: was the layout?
Speaker 10: So what they do a great job. So they have
Speaker 10: all kind of activities and they pick out what they want.
Speaker 10: My daughter let them.
Speaker 4: Pick out whatever they wanted.
Speaker 10: And then afterwards she also made a reservation at UNO's
Speaker 10: and had the parents and the kids. She had adult
Speaker 10: food and pizzas for the kids afterwards, and everybody bought
Speaker 10: a gift. But nowadays I noticed that people are saying
Speaker 10: don't bring gifts.
Speaker 1: Excuse me?
Speaker 7: Well, first of let's let's go back. Did she pay
Speaker 7: for everybody's building?
Speaker 13: Bear?
Speaker 1: Or did yees?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 10: Tay for everything?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: And how many how many kids would you say, we're there?
Speaker 10: Eight?
Speaker 2: Wow?
Speaker 7: So that even if we're saying, like, let's just say
Speaker 7: forty of bear probably that okay, that that's a lot
Speaker 7: of money. But again, like if you're having your party there,
Speaker 7: I would I would do the same thing your daughter did.
Speaker 13: It was worth it.
Speaker 10: We don't have to clean up, we don't have to
Speaker 10: do any of that.
Speaker 13: You're really worth it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't even think about that. That's actually a
Speaker 1: solid point.
Speaker 7: So then and then you go and you go to
Speaker 7: UNO's and you guys eat there, and you obviously and
Speaker 7: you cover that bill because you invited people.
Speaker 13: Yeah, adults got cocktails.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the only reason I'm going to parties these days.
Speaker 1: But what is this narrative now they're saying, don't bring
Speaker 1: gifts for what?
Speaker 7: Why?
Speaker 13: Yeah?
Speaker 10: I noticed my daughter, my granddaughter got invited to him.
Speaker 10: Outher told me she got invited to three parties this
Speaker 10: year and all of them said don't bring gifts.
Speaker 1: Okay, fine, I'm not good I mean, yeah, okay, but
Speaker 1: that was probably.
Speaker 2: Because they're footing the bill for everything. They probably like,
Speaker 2: we're gonna cover everything for y'all. There's no need for
Speaker 2: y'all to bring a gift. Just come enjoy without without kids.
Speaker 1: I'm never you know, gt me too.
Speaker 7: Hey hey, hey, you're never gonna hear those words come
Speaker 7: out of this mother's mouth bringing your gifts.
Speaker 1: Thanks for the call, like we change.
Speaker 3: Somebody got offended with some gift and then they just banned.
Speaker 2: But it's probably that that little thing where it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: everybody feels like maybe the kids started complaining like oh,
Speaker 2: comes they get a gift and I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like shut up.
Speaker 7: My favorite thing is when and I do this all
Speaker 7: the time, if the if the party is for a
Speaker 7: kid that's like under a certain age, like they might
Speaker 7: not need another firetruck.
Speaker 1: So I always text the mom and be like, what
Speaker 1: do you need?
Speaker 7: And I love when people do that to me because
Speaker 7: then we're not like doubling gifts or we're getting maybe
Speaker 7: they need whatever.
Speaker 3: You know, two hours max. That's the length of the party.
Speaker 3: Anything beyond that is hell because none of the parents
Speaker 3: want to be there.
Speaker 1: Couldn't it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, well it's a problem the party and if there's
Speaker 7: no I went to a party. I went to a
Speaker 7: party over the weekend. It was a ten thirty to
Speaker 7: twelve thirty perfect. Great, it was in the morning. I
Speaker 7: was I walked in at ten thirty. No one's drinking, like,
Speaker 7: not even a mimosa.
Speaker 3: I mean not everybody has a problem.
Speaker 2: So it wasn't an alcoholic Yeah, it was a birthday.
Speaker 3: If you want an alcoholic child imosa.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like come on, party sucks.
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Speaker 2: Good Mornia, Happily Thursday, she got forming in here. My
Speaker 2: brother Santy holding it down for our queen. Actually, who's
Speaker 2: out sixty day with a stomach bug. Actually, we hope
Speaker 2: you get better sometime. I got some bad news for
Speaker 2: you though. Yes, this is gonna be very disappointing. Actually, uh,
Speaker 2: you're not You may not be able to enjoy Glizzy anymore.
Speaker 3: Oh I heard about this.
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, for all you Glizzy fans that go to
Speaker 2: Fenway and have yourselves Glizzies. The Fenway staff apparently is
Speaker 2: about to strike and stop doing any kind of concessions
Speaker 2: at Fenway for any kind of events, whether it's baseball
Speaker 2: or concerts. And you know what the reason is A while.
Speaker 3: I guess they're getting paid, they're not going to be enough.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean again, in this kind of economy, bro,
Speaker 2: I mean there's a lot of companies I feel like
Speaker 2: that might go through this because you know, inflation is real, bro,
Speaker 2: Like you go to the grocery store, everything is expensive.
Speaker 2: Life is expensive now. But yeah, these guys are saying, hey, listen,
Speaker 2: we we were not serving up no hot dogs, no beers,
Speaker 2: no nothing unless you pay us small.
Speaker 3: Listen. I understand that inflation and all that, but at
Speaker 3: the same time, like for a team that's worth probably
Speaker 3: over a billion, they can afford to pay some people.
Speaker 3: And then you also take the consideration that they pay
Speaker 3: their players and then saying amount like saying you can play,
Speaker 3: you can give them a raise. I don't think they're
Speaker 3: asking for a crazy amount, but they're just asking for salvage.
Speaker 2: I don't go to baseball games. What's the average ticket
Speaker 2: price for a baseball.
Speaker 3: For a Red Sox team for a good seat or
Speaker 3: a bad seat?
Speaker 2: A decency say the metal I would say about one
Speaker 2: hundred dollars and a good seat, a good good seat
Speaker 2: about plus one point fifty. Oh yeah, okay for a
Speaker 2: good say thank you. So they make it money.
Speaker 3: Yeah, games are always pats and then the concessions are
Speaker 3: super expensive. I think Fenway is one of the most expensive.
Speaker 3: So for a beer you're probably paying like nine bucks
Speaker 3: at least.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. I didn't see it
Speaker 2: in the article. Maybe you did, but I didn't see it.
Speaker 2: But I didn't see what they were getting paid now.
Speaker 2: But yeah, but the Fenway staff is saying that they
Speaker 2: want they want, especially the concession people. They want more
Speaker 2: money than not making enough money when you put it
Speaker 2: in that kind of context, Yeah, like while we being
Speaker 2: cheap with the people who actually are bringing you income.
Speaker 3: Right now, I have to imagine that they're going to
Speaker 3: figure something out for the games, because you can't just
Speaker 3: now and not have any right. Yeah, so I got
Speaker 3: to think they're going to hire some people just for
Speaker 3: those two games or whatever, because it's a forty eight
Speaker 3: hour strike. So that's what they're saying now. It is
Speaker 3: it through a union like an union?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, yeah, pay these people, man, please come on, man,
Speaker 2: stie needs his Glizzies pay them Sash and.
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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 7: I don't know if you're anything like me, but you've
Speaker 7: come across this trending thing called a trad wife and
Speaker 7: you're like, what the hell is tradwife? Actually wrote it
Speaker 7: down on a posty because I was like, what the
Speaker 7: hell is a trad wife? But I had seen so
Speaker 7: many people making the little comment about it. Well, I'm
Speaker 7: a track wife. I'm a tradwife. If you don't know
Speaker 7: what one is, I'm still learning myself, or maybe you
Speaker 7: consider yourself one six, one seven nine three one one
Speaker 7: nine four five to join in the convo, This saying
Speaker 7: trad wife has been trending in its easiest, simplest terms,
Speaker 7: it's a traditional wife. This is a woman who considers
Speaker 7: herself a trad wife. And this is what she claims
Speaker 7: is the number one rule for all tradwives.
Speaker 14: Number one rule as a trad wife, This is your
Speaker 14: duty as a wife. A man's home is his castle,
Speaker 14: so he should be treated as a king. He's working
Speaker 14: a stressful job, maybe working long hours just so he
Speaker 14: can provide for you and the family, so he rightfully
Speaker 14: deserves peace. At being said, it's every wife's duty to
Speaker 14: appreciate her man and all his hard work.
Speaker 1: Show him how much you truly appreciate him. Okay, he
Speaker 1: is your king and you are his queen. That is
Speaker 1: your duty. If that's the duty, being a trad wife sucks.
Speaker 1: It's very one sided.
Speaker 3: I don't like it. It doesn't feel like a true partnership.
Speaker 1: Like listen, I think there's something to it.
Speaker 7: We all want a little peace at the house, but
Speaker 7: that's gotta go both ways.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like the piece is just a one
Speaker 3: sided thing. Now, going back to the fifties, maybe this
Speaker 3: work then, I think society has completely changed and it's
Speaker 3: well bound.
Speaker 2: Cause back then was you know, the wife is staying
Speaker 2: at home, takes care of the crib. You handle the crib.
Speaker 2: I bring the money to supply whatever we need to do,
Speaker 2: and I just come sit down, get my feet rugged,
Speaker 2: get fed, We chill. I'll go to bed, wake up
Speaker 2: the next morning and do the same thing. You take
Speaker 2: care of the household.
Speaker 7: I do not mean to offend when I say this,
Speaker 7: because there are some women out here that that's the
Speaker 7: goal for them to be a stay at home mom,
Speaker 7: to be a stay at home.
Speaker 1: Wife, to trad wife.
Speaker 7: It up that if that brings you joy, and that
Speaker 7: brings you happiness, that's cool.
Speaker 10: Me.
Speaker 7: Nope, that's not bringing me joy. That's actually that's sucking
Speaker 7: the life about me.
Speaker 3: I will say, Like in other culture, tradwife is still
Speaker 3: a thing Like Dominicans, I can tell you they're still
Speaker 3: going by traditionals and those men can do whatever they
Speaker 3: want there and the like the why is my complaint,
Speaker 3: But they're still like they they're they're just adherent to
Speaker 3: all the men. It doesn't sound fun.
Speaker 1: Sounds spooky to me.
Speaker 7: Uh. And again, I want I do want my husband
Speaker 7: to feel like the man of the house. There's no
Speaker 7: there's no like, I have no qualms about that. You
Speaker 7: are the man of the house for sure.
Speaker 3: I wantn't you let them.
Speaker 1: But I do think there needs to be a little
Speaker 1: bit of a partnership.
Speaker 7: Here's her main thing is like my husband needs he's
Speaker 7: the king, he deserves peace, but I deserve peace too.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: Mary is in Rhode Island, Mayor. It's tough. The trad
Speaker 1: wife thing. Oh it is god golf.
Speaker 4: I just can't believe this is a trend happening right
Speaker 4: now in this moment.
Speaker 1: Oh, it's big.
Speaker 11: It's in this political climate that women are still right.
Speaker 4: If you think that way, great and that's what you
Speaker 4: want to do. But I'm tired.
Speaker 7: I work full time. I'm a mom.
Speaker 4: I want my house to be a castle too, right.
Speaker 7: Right, call me Cinderella because I definitely want to feel
Speaker 7: that as well.
Speaker 4: Yeah, here's a trad husband is a tad.
Speaker 1: I can't listen, I can't pick.
Speaker 11: Yeah, not the same.
Speaker 1: You know what's messed up? Though, this is very messed up.
Speaker 7: If my husband was like I want to quit my
Speaker 7: job and be like a trad husband and stay at
Speaker 7: home dad, that my vagina would shrivel, which is messed up.
Speaker 1: I don't want that either. I don't want that either,
Speaker 1: truly though.
Speaker 4: No, I want you out in contributing to hear we
Speaker 4: could build the castle together.
Speaker 7: Yes, let this be our kingdom. Mary, thanks for the call.
Speaker 7: Uh Staph is in Chelmsford, Hey staff, good morning.
Speaker 4: Good morning.
Speaker 1: Had you heard about the trad wife thing.
Speaker 11: I've never heard of it anymore, because you know what,
Speaker 11: I don't hear about traditional men do tell go on,
Speaker 11: So it's like okay, And I feel like a lot
Speaker 11: of men are entitled now these days. They want women
Speaker 11: to duel the whole nine while they're doing the bare minimum.
Speaker 11: And I can understand if there's like these real hard
Speaker 11: working men and they're paying all the bills and you're
Speaker 11: staying home and you're taking care of the kids, But like, nowadays,
Speaker 11: where do you even see that? Like I can understand
Speaker 11: men who are probably like in the late thirties that
Speaker 11: they probably still exists, But I'm twenty five years old.
Speaker 11: I could, I could probably maybe I'm looking in the
Speaker 11: wrong areas, but I do not see traditional men nowadays.
Speaker 11: They just want to feel entitled. And I'm working just
Speaker 11: as munch as ill as they are. I'm just as
Speaker 11: tired as they are. Where's my treatment? Where's me being
Speaker 11: treated as a queen? You want to be a king?
Speaker 11: Where's my queen treatment?
Speaker 7: Well? Listen, stuff I do. They're out there and thank
Speaker 7: you for the call. I think a lot of women
Speaker 7: that listen to this show sometimes give off like broken
Speaker 7: and hurt and you guys have been through things, so
Speaker 7: have I. But they're out there and I just refuse
Speaker 7: to not say that there is another side to this
Speaker 7: where I do believe, like I married a great man
Speaker 7: and you can that too.
Speaker 1: They're out there.
Speaker 7: It might be hard to find, yeah, but there isn't
Speaker 7: a decide to this.
Speaker 1: They're not all bad.
Speaker 3: I also think like, if you have a bad experience
Speaker 3: with one dude, you should like change your pattern for
Speaker 3: the other one. I think some girls go back to
Speaker 3: the same consistency that they've always known, expecting a different
Speaker 3: and that makes.
Speaker 7: Me sad because stuff's like guys won't be out here
Speaker 7: doing the whole nine when they're doing the bare minimum.
Speaker 7: I think eventually she's just twenty five. Eventually she'll find
Speaker 7: somebody that will meet here in the middle. But I
Speaker 7: do feel like a lot of the women sometimes and
Speaker 7: we have these topics, they call him.
Speaker 1: They're hurt.
Speaker 2: They hurt from a place right, Yep.
Speaker 7: Melissa is in Pavty, Hey Bliss. Hello, are you a
Speaker 7: trad wife? No?
Speaker 1: I am not. What do you do you feel about it?
Speaker 7: Oh, you hadn't got this is crazy because this is
Speaker 7: a big thing, and I'm shocked that we haven't had
Speaker 7: somebody call in being like I'm a traded wife.
Speaker 1: And I love it.
Speaker 15: Yeah, I wasn't going to give my two cents, but
Speaker 15: I was listening as to as you put up that
Speaker 15: saying like the number one rule, I was like, all right,
Speaker 15: I gotta call in now.
Speaker 16: And but I just wanted to say. I just wanted
Speaker 16: to say to go off of like what you were
Speaker 16: saying too about how there are good men out there
Speaker 16: and I recently just found one, and like I'm twenty
Speaker 16: six now, so going like, after all of these just
Speaker 16: you know, relationships that didn't work and whatnot, and dealing
Speaker 16: with all these horrible men, there are good men out there,
Speaker 16: and there are men that will.
Speaker 15: Treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.
Speaker 15: You just have to be patient and wait for it.
Speaker 15: But but yeah, I totally agree with the sense of
Speaker 15: treating your man like a king. And you know, I
Speaker 15: totally agree with all that, but if it's reciprocated.
Speaker 7: Agreed, I like, I like that narrative. And you know,
Speaker 7: one Millist, what sounds to me is you were messing
Speaker 7: with boys and you found yourself a man, which is
Speaker 7: they're out there that's nice exactly. Yeah, And listen again,
Speaker 7: I'm not I'm not saying that to not treat your
Speaker 7: to your significant other like they're a king or a queen.
Speaker 7: But again, I'm including the queen in there that we
Speaker 7: both have to we gotta, we gotta find a middle ground.
Speaker 7: I want a trad wife, though, I want to hear,
Speaker 7: I want to hear. I'm gonna Can we play another
Speaker 7: song science if you can get six one seven nine
Speaker 7: three one one nine four five. Don't be shy trad wives.
Speaker 7: I know you're out there. You're probably out running some
Speaker 7: errands for the house, and that's cool. Six one seven
Speaker 7: nine three one one nine four five. You consider yourself
Speaker 7: a traditional wife and you are just running the kingdom. Hi, everybody,
Speaker 7: we're talking about being a trad wife. It's a it's
Speaker 7: a trending thing on social media. I had heard it referenced.
Speaker 1: A few times. What the hell's this? So we were
Speaker 1: doing a little bit more digging today.
Speaker 7: Essentially, in it's in its simplest forms, it is a
Speaker 7: traditional wife. It is a stay at home mom, a
Speaker 7: stay at home wife who you know, does all of
Speaker 7: the household things while big Daddy goes out and makes
Speaker 7: the money. If it, if it's for you, that's cool.
Speaker 7: I'm not throwing any shade, but not for big mo mom,
Speaker 7: not for me, uh, but it is for beck and
Speaker 7: Cambridge back. Good morning, babe, Hi, how are you good?
Speaker 7: I said, listen, I need to talk to a traditional
Speaker 7: wife because it's it brings happiness to some You, in fact,
Speaker 7: are a tried away Now had you heard the term before?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 13: Not till this morning.
Speaker 7: Okay, So talk to me stay at home mom, stay
Speaker 7: at home wife, Like, what does your.
Speaker 1: Day to day look like?
Speaker 13: Well, I recently started working part time in the morning
Speaker 13: because my children have not gotten older. Okay, but when
Speaker 13: when they were younger, you know, I was a saying
Speaker 13: home mom. I took care of the house. I did
Speaker 13: everything for my husband and my children. You and out.
Speaker 13: He paid all the bills. He's a wonderful father, coach
Speaker 13: the kids teams. So it brought me joyce. Not it's
Speaker 13: one of those things. He has to be the right man.
Speaker 13: He has to be the man that makes you feel
Speaker 13: good about your role in life.
Speaker 1: And what about you?
Speaker 7: Did you ever feel like lost in that? Did you
Speaker 7: ever feel like you didn't have an identity in that?
Speaker 7: Like you never had anything for or yourself that you
Speaker 7: were constantly just giving to everybody else? Or was that
Speaker 7: enough for you.
Speaker 13: No, because I did have my own identity as well,
Speaker 13: which was what we didn't. I was still my own person.
Speaker 13: I still had my friends, and.
Speaker 7: It wasn't and you weren't like you got that you
Speaker 7: got out of the house and did your own things
Speaker 7: as well, by yourself of course.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 13: And I always went to mom's groups. We have a
Speaker 13: lot of local moms groups in Cambridge, okay, where you
Speaker 13: can meet with other moms and it's wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 7: Well, and like I said, beg for it is it
Speaker 7: is for some people. It's it's like I'm not the
Speaker 7: type that could do it. But talking to you, like,
Speaker 7: it's not like as if you're calling me being like
Speaker 7: I hated it and I regret staying at home all
Speaker 7: of those years, like you didn't.
Speaker 13: Oh no, I love it, Like it was great. Yeah,
Speaker 13: I got to spend so much time with my children.
Speaker 13: You didn't have to worry about daycare that. Yeah, I
Speaker 13: didn't have to worry about any expenses.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I did you ever have a moment where you were
Speaker 7: how many kids you got?
Speaker 13: I have four?
Speaker 7: Did you Jesus, did you ever have a moment where
Speaker 7: everybody was crying and going crazy? And you just were like,
Speaker 7: get me the hell out of here, because I have
Speaker 7: those daily and I only have two, so I didn't.
Speaker 1: I just didn't know.
Speaker 13: I mean, yeah, it's usually by like kind of the
Speaker 13: end of the day when he's coming home, and then
Speaker 13: he comes home and you know, he takes it on.
Speaker 5: Did he he helped out?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 2: He did?
Speaker 1: Okay, So would you do the dinners and stuff too?
Speaker 1: Or would he help cook?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: You would.
Speaker 13: I usually did that because he'd be out playing with
Speaker 13: the kids and like trying to give me a personal break,
Speaker 13: and I love cooking, so it was like my time.
Speaker 1: All right, Becky, Well thank you for that.
Speaker 7: I mean, listen the way Becky's describing it, it still
Speaker 7: doesn't sound something for me.
Speaker 2: But she's probably the closest you're going to get to
Speaker 2: the upple of how it's supposed to be.
Speaker 3: Yes, I don't like it. I don't think I could
Speaker 3: be the person who wants to be like that. I'm
Speaker 3: so used to have being with my wife who's into
Speaker 3: her into like just to work and everything like that.
Speaker 3: To have a traditional wife like that.
Speaker 1: Right, But that's all you know, maybe it's also on.
Speaker 2: The flip these women who want to just stay home
Speaker 2: because they're lazy and they don't want to do nothing.
Speaker 7: By the way, and I've seen there's people will create
Speaker 7: content around that. Yes, like I don't. There's a girl
Speaker 7: that I follow that she's married, she's a trophy wef.
Speaker 7: She doesn't have a job, she has they don't even
Speaker 7: have kids. She's like, this is what I do all
Speaker 7: day while my husband works and she goes.
Speaker 2: And so it's the opposite side because yes, some guys
Speaker 2: who want that the traditional wife, but they kind of
Speaker 2: using it to you know, kind of just have somebody
Speaker 2: to watch the kids. They don't talk to you, they
Speaker 2: don't show you no love. This guy, the last example
Speaker 2: sounded like the perfect gentleman, right Yeah. But then on
Speaker 2: the other side, there's the wives who are just like, bro,
Speaker 2: I don't want to work, just go make money, give
Speaker 2: me a card, I can go shopping, do whatever I
Speaker 2: want and just chill. Might even have a nanny if
Speaker 2: they have kids, right, and she's just chilling.
Speaker 7: I think we can all wrap our head around a
Speaker 7: stay at home mom because again, like that that daycare,
Speaker 7: all those things they cost. So if you're somebody who
Speaker 7: has that in you, that you can do it. Like again,
Speaker 7: I love my cad. It's more than anything on this planet.
Speaker 7: But I need this time outside of like the house,
Speaker 7: because you can only play like zombie so many times
Speaker 7: before you do go crazy. But stay at home wife
Speaker 7: with nothing like that's a special breed because what are
Speaker 7: you doing?
Speaker 3: It just sounds so alring and just looking out the
Speaker 3: window when kids are done and folding.
Speaker 7: That's like, oh, I can't say it like that.
Speaker 1: Well, hey, that's at all.
Speaker 2: How many times can you go to home Goods and
Speaker 2: get something different every day? If it's every Wednesday?
Speaker 1: I cool?
Speaker 3: How do you know.
Speaker 7: That that's what shops the new Goods every Wednesday?
Speaker 14: Foreign is lying, he's a little trophy wife.
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Speaker 1: All right, everybody, let's check in with you. What's going on?
Speaker 1: How are we?
Speaker 7: Six one seven nine three one one nine four five
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Speaker 7: You call me and we're talking about anything you want.
Speaker 7: It's all about your life. Our Lenny is in stow in.
Speaker 7: She's going to start the check in for us. Uh.
Speaker 7: Things are a little rocky right now between you and
Speaker 7: the father of your children. So how long have you
Speaker 7: guys been separated? What's the setup? Do they live with?
Speaker 9: You?
Speaker 10: Like?
Speaker 1: See set the scene for us?
Speaker 4: So basically, I met him back in my space days
Speaker 4: when I was like twelve, yeamn, and I know, and
Speaker 4: we were we stayed together until I think I was
Speaker 4: like twenty twenty one. But throughout that whole really like
Speaker 4: throughout the whole relationship at the time, it was just toxic,
Speaker 4: all types of toxic. I was just young.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: When you're saying relateships the red flash you guys were
Speaker 7: never married or anything like that.
Speaker 1: Oh no, okay, okay.
Speaker 4: So after I turned obviously twenty, I got like, I
Speaker 4: put my big girl pants on. I said, Okay, this
Speaker 4: is not what I want. You know, my son is walking.
Speaker 4: This guy has no chill about what he says about
Speaker 4: my around my son. I had a just walked day.
Speaker 10: He made.
Speaker 7: By the way timeline wise, you said you had a
Speaker 7: one year old son around the age of twenty, so
Speaker 7: you were really young.
Speaker 4: Yes, so I had my son at seventeen. Sorry, I
Speaker 4: had him at seventeen.
Speaker 18: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Wow, so you had to ground like that's crazy. Seventeen
Speaker 1: is young.
Speaker 7: You have this this kid, You're like you automatically knew
Speaker 7: after about a year's time with the baby, this is
Speaker 7: not He's not going to be a good role model
Speaker 7: for my son.
Speaker 4: Exactly. You couldn't say it anybody. That's what I said
Speaker 4: to myself, because it's like you date someone you want
Speaker 4: your son to be like if that makes sense, like
Speaker 4: you don't want more, if you don't want your child
Speaker 4: to be like the specific person's like why are you doing?
Speaker 1: What are we doing?
Speaker 4: Or you don't want your daughter dating this type of guy?
Speaker 4: What are we doing here? Yeah, So that's the thing.
Speaker 4: When when I turned twenty twenty one, a couple of
Speaker 4: years went by, he you know, tried to get back
Speaker 4: with me at like twenty five. He tried, and I
Speaker 4: kind of believe everything he was saying that he changed
Speaker 4: or whatever, and we ended up getting back together and
Speaker 4: we had another baby. She's a beautiful girl. But it's
Speaker 4: like things just got worse, Like he kind of came
Speaker 4: in like, oh, you know, I love you. I'm sorry,
Speaker 4: and now it's like you're this, you're that, and it's
Speaker 4: like what happens overnight?
Speaker 7: M So, yeah, you let him back in, which, you know, okay,
Speaker 7: we have a whole other baby.
Speaker 1: So now we have two kids with this man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and do we feel like obviously.
Speaker 7: You felt like there was a little bit of change,
Speaker 7: and I'm sure that's why he took him back and
Speaker 7: all the things. And now he's kind of reverting back
Speaker 7: to the initial reason why you left.
Speaker 4: Him exactly and what I mean by changing. I've seen
Speaker 4: him solber, not drinking, not smoking, because I noticed back
Speaker 4: in the days when he was drinking, he'll get very
Speaker 4: angry than the next morning not remember what he did
Speaker 4: or said, you know, and that physically and mentally destroyed me.
Speaker 4: And he wouldn't understand because he's a man. He's like,
Speaker 4: oh you she got over it. She's a woman. And
Speaker 4: I don't like that type of mindset.
Speaker 7: So where are you guys at today? Like you don't
Speaker 7: live with each other, you live with each other?
Speaker 4: Like what's not we don't live with each other? That like, yes,
Speaker 4: so we don't live with each other, went out together
Speaker 4: and he just won't kind of like co parent in
Speaker 4: a healthy way like he was. You won't talk to me.
Speaker 4: It's either work together or he just don't want to
Speaker 4: talk to me at all. And I think that's just
Speaker 4: a sick mindset because at the end of the day,
Speaker 4: it's the kids now, and I feel like the kids
Speaker 4: shouldn't know if you don't like their mother. I believe
Speaker 4: in that old school love. Whatever we go through, our
Speaker 4: kids don't need enough period.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I agree on that, and that's Honestly, the
Speaker 7: way I was raised, my parents were divorced, but.
Speaker 1: Until I was of age, they were best friends.
Speaker 7: In my eyes, they just weren't together anymore and they
Speaker 7: co parented. And you know, I would agree with you
Speaker 7: on that, but that has to be and I know
Speaker 7: foreign that's kind of that was your mindset, but both
Speaker 7: parties have to.
Speaker 1: Agree to that.
Speaker 7: So if he's not, then now are you comfortable, Like
Speaker 7: does he take the kids by himself?
Speaker 1: Are you comfortable with that? Do you mentioned the drinking
Speaker 1: and stuff.
Speaker 4: So I'm not comfortable because of my personal reasons. It's
Speaker 4: been like the family co signed him with his behavior.
Speaker 4: That's what makes it even worse. These are not people like,
Speaker 4: oh you're wrong, They're like, okay, you know what it is.
Speaker 4: What it is. So it makes me not like I
Speaker 4: don't feel comfortable around like my kids being around like
Speaker 4: the family and stuff, because like when I'm telling you,
Speaker 4: when they get lit, they're like punching each other, doing
Speaker 4: all types of stuff. And I don't want my kids
Speaker 4: around ghettleness. Not that I'm being petty, but it's like
Speaker 4: I'm trying to protect my kids.
Speaker 1: So what do they see him?
Speaker 5: Then?
Speaker 1: Under your supervision or how are you guys handling that?
Speaker 4: So I so I offered him that, but it's like
Speaker 4: when he's around me, he's just saying a bunch of
Speaker 4: stuff and the kids are there, so I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 4: this is not going to work out. So that's where
Speaker 4: I'm stuck at right now. Like he's not respecting me.
Speaker 4: I don't really talk to any of the family, and
Speaker 4: it's deep like that.
Speaker 5: So I'm like, suck, yeah, And.
Speaker 1: How old are the kids?
Speaker 4: Eleven and ten months?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I mean, it's a hard leg to have
Speaker 2: because unless he's physically abusing them, or mentally abusing them,
Speaker 2: or even verbally abusing him to the extent where they
Speaker 2: feel like, oh nah, you can't be around him. You
Speaker 2: can't really stop him from, you know, taking the kids
Speaker 2: and going to the like you said, ghetto house. You
Speaker 2: get what I'm saying. So if everybody over there is
Speaker 2: like rowdy and have a you may not like it,
Speaker 2: but do you really have a legal leg to stand
Speaker 2: on to be like, nah, I don't want him to
Speaker 2: take my kids because I don't feel safe. There has
Speaker 2: to be a safety concern. Just because they loud and obnoxious,
Speaker 2: isn't safety concern.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, So there's been like other stuff is
Speaker 4: just I'm on lie. So I don't like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: so things have gone like that route not safety, like
Speaker 4: where I don't feel safe and I feel like if
Speaker 4: I'm not safe, why should my kids be around that?
Speaker 7: And it's not like I just listen, you and I
Speaker 7: both have babies around the same age, and I can't
Speaker 7: picture a day where they he doesn't see her dad,
Speaker 7: and I know that you want there to be that relationship.
Speaker 7: He deserves for there to be that relationship. I don't
Speaker 7: know how you guys come to that, but I think
Speaker 7: that is of the utmost important for the kids, and
Speaker 7: especially for an eleven year old boy, like he needs dad,
Speaker 7: you know. And so I don't know how you guys
Speaker 7: come to that, and you guys figure that out. But
Speaker 7: it doesn't seem like he's making it easy for you
Speaker 7: mom and that at all, because it's.
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, like I let him, you know, with the kids,
Speaker 4: I've fell allowed it. But it's like it seems like
Speaker 4: he's more focused on my personal life honestly, and it's like, yeah,
Speaker 4: it's a not an end in story, and it's like
Speaker 4: I want him to be there. I want him to
Speaker 4: see the kids, but then I.
Speaker 18: Want to ask her.
Speaker 7: I want to see for and if you ever, like,
Speaker 7: did you ever go through that when you and your ex,
Speaker 7: Like when you guys first decided to split, and you
Speaker 7: guys are trying to figure it, like, did you have
Speaker 7: to have a conversation like, Hey, I'm not going to
Speaker 7: ask you about what you're doing in your personal life
Speaker 7: because could seehere that would be a hot button.
Speaker 2: But I don't know if it was really a conversation.
Speaker 2: Maybe it came up in an argument, But that's the
Speaker 2: understanding though, you know what.
Speaker 1: I mean, anyone's business.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're going on separate ways. What you do on
Speaker 2: your side and what I do on my side of
Speaker 2: two different things. Now, if you've got a toxic partner
Speaker 2: or something like that, or a toxic egg and they
Speaker 2: stop coming at you the way you know old Boy's
Speaker 2: coming at you, then it's different. But you have a
Speaker 2: ground to stand on. I understand in the moment it
Speaker 2: doesn't seem that way. It's easy for us to talk
Speaker 2: about it from the outside, but you got grounds to
Speaker 2: stand on and ways to be able to make that happen.
Speaker 5: R Lenny.
Speaker 7: I feel like when we first started this combo. You
Speaker 7: kind of insinuated he still wants to be back with you,
Speaker 7: and I think that's we need we need to squash
Speaker 7: that first and foremost, like.
Speaker 1: That's that's not the future for you guys.
Speaker 7: But that's okay. You can still be really good parents. Man,
Speaker 7: you have a literal baby in the house.
Speaker 2: You know it can happen. It's gonna take a lot
Speaker 2: of work.
Speaker 4: No, and I agree, and that's what I told him.
Speaker 4: But he has this mindset like ask this girl I
Speaker 4: don't want to talk to. But he texted that to
Speaker 4: my son's phone. So that's where those toxic comes, Like
Speaker 4: why are you texting our son that you hate me?
Speaker 1: And eleven years? That's a loser's he's heard.
Speaker 2: He figures the way to get to you. It's to
Speaker 2: hurt yous to get through your kids. You got to
Speaker 2: sit your kids down and be like, listen, pop, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean. This is what's going on with
Speaker 2: me and your dad. And you know he may say
Speaker 2: some mean things and you know that. Don't take it
Speaker 2: to heart. You know I'm and you show them the
Speaker 2: opposite side of love. You get what I'm saying. Don't
Speaker 2: stoop down to his lit don't.
Speaker 7: Ever talkers sucks so much sometimes, God, and you have
Speaker 7: to do it, letting it, I know, and I hate
Speaker 7: it for you because it's terrible.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just not easy. But you you have like
Speaker 1: you got it. It's just eventually will.
Speaker 2: Get there, because these kids are going to become teens
Speaker 2: and then they're going to become adults and they'll they'll
Speaker 2: see for themselves. Right now, it's so impressionable that you
Speaker 2: know Dad is trying to make it. Trust me, you
Speaker 2: do not got to defend nothing. He says. Kids know
Speaker 2: a lot more than we think they do. I learned
Speaker 2: that by experience, and as they get older, they'll realize, Yo,
Speaker 2: Dad is always the one with negative and Mom is
Speaker 2: all those one who's positive. We see what side of
Speaker 2: the scale that this is on.
Speaker 7: And I just want to take a second to to
Speaker 7: say like, and I don't want to. It's gonna make
Speaker 7: me emotional just to say it. You have a ten
Speaker 7: month old like that that this should really be highlighted here.
Speaker 7: I know how much work that is. You can't look
Speaker 7: away for a second. You're doing all of this with
Speaker 7: no help, and you just want him to be a
Speaker 7: part of it. And that that's that's also like a
Speaker 7: whole added layer to this too. So I really hope
Speaker 7: for your sake you can you got you know, he
Speaker 7: can figure this out, because doing that by yourself is
Speaker 7: that's a lot.
Speaker 1: That is a lot.
Speaker 4: And then to make it worse, he lives fifteen minutes
Speaker 4: from me, and I've been doing this on my own,
Speaker 4: you know, for me, she was born.
Speaker 2: That's crazy that Yeah, he's a bully, and you got
Speaker 2: to ignore the bully. That's really what you got to
Speaker 2: do at the end of the day. I know it's hard,
Speaker 2: I know it's tough. Again, talk to your kids, but
Speaker 2: don't react to everything he does, because then he knows
Speaker 2: he's getting under your skin and that's what he's thriving
Speaker 2: for the moment you start.
Speaker 4: I got a question for you guys. Sorry, So if
Speaker 4: if you guys, because you know, this system is all
Speaker 4: messed up, you know, this court system, this whole this
Speaker 4: whole family courts, all that stuff. I did conversate with
Speaker 4: a couple people they you know, looked in the background,
Speaker 4: and they honestly felt like supervised visits is like the
Speaker 4: best way, you know, if things have gotten physical with
Speaker 4: the mother in the past, like that's what they recommend.
Speaker 4: And what would you guys suggest.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I give you two ways. You got
Speaker 2: to protect your kids, okay, but there is a thing
Speaker 2: about involving the government in your family. They will be
Speaker 2: in every nook and cranny of your business. A lot
Speaker 2: of people don't like to go that way because that's
Speaker 2: that's the feeling. But if you're genuinely like, if there's
Speaker 2: really a problem and a safety for concern for your children,
Speaker 2: you as a mother got to do what you gotta
Speaker 2: do to protect yourself and your children.
Speaker 7: I just don't know if necessarily we can answer that
Speaker 7: for you. We're not there. That's a gut decision that
Speaker 7: you got to make for yourself. Like you know, it's
Speaker 7: like a mom can understand every kid has different types
Speaker 7: of cries, right, but only the actual mother can decipher
Speaker 7: through the cries. I think that's the same kind of
Speaker 7: sentiment here. We're not there, We don't know what it is.
Speaker 7: We can only give you our outside opinion. You're in there.
Speaker 7: You got to trust your gut. No one's going to
Speaker 7: know better than you, ay man.
Speaker 4: So that and I appreciate that, And I should have said,
Speaker 4: like an opinion, because no one can decide for myself.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and listen, honestly, I could just tell you just
Speaker 7: wanted to call invent and get this off your chest.
Speaker 1: So I'm glad you did.
Speaker 7: I don't know if we helped it all, but I
Speaker 7: know it probably feels good to at least be able
Speaker 7: to talk about it.
Speaker 1: So the best of luck.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 7: I just want you to know I see you, and
Speaker 7: I know how hard it is, and you know, just
Speaker 7: keep putting those kids first.
Speaker 1: That's really all you can do.
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you so much, Good luck, good luck.
Speaker 3: To your point, I feel like she's already said the words,
Speaker 3: like that guy is telling her exactly what to do.
Speaker 7: Yeah, And I think again, if it's a tough situation,
Speaker 7: if he still wants to be with her, and now
Speaker 7: he's coming in, who are you with texting the.
Speaker 1: Eleven year old talking about I hate your mother. That's
Speaker 1: like legit diabolic though.
Speaker 3: But then also she's already gone through the steps of
Speaker 3: talking to somebody, through the courts and all that stuff.
Speaker 3: I feel like she knows what she needs to do
Speaker 3: for her kids. Yeah, it's you know, hesitation, and I
Speaker 3: understand it. It must be impossible for I know, day.
Speaker 5: And the jam in Morning shot with DJ Foreign. It's
Speaker 5: Santy Morning.
Speaker 6: Gotin's number one for hip hop. He am in ninety
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Speaker 2: Hey, happy Thursday. The money she got Foreign Santy. We're
Speaker 2: in here only a few more days till the weekend.
Speaker 2: I got Offset. Oh did you see this? Offset went
Speaker 2: for the first time live on TikTok. Now, yeah, he
Speaker 2: went for the first time. He didn't know again, Novice
Speaker 2: didn't know what he was doing. And at first people
Speaker 2: are just kind of giving him like a little I
Speaker 2: don't know what you I'm not on TikTok live like that.
Speaker 2: But eventually they started throwing him money.
Speaker 3: Okay, yes, because if you start like doing like the
Speaker 3: hearts and the.
Speaker 2: Flowers hats on yeah mask weird things on people's face.
Speaker 2: Because he was always like, what am I supposed to
Speaker 2: do with the hat on my face? And but eventually, yeah,
Speaker 2: he was on there for a while and he started
Speaker 2: making money. The reason I bring up Offset, by the way,
Speaker 2: is because cardy b is they.
Speaker 3: Divorced right or they were never married?
Speaker 2: Yes, they were married. There were officially Like you see
Speaker 2: now you got me thinking I thought they.
Speaker 3: Were all right, Well, whether they are there, but they're
Speaker 3: broken up.
Speaker 2: Yes, they have been separated. It's clear that Cardy has
Speaker 2: finally finally moved on, because you know, we will disclaiming
Speaker 2: her for going back. She talks smack about him and
Speaker 2: then go back and then talk smack about him. But anyway,
Speaker 2: she has her own issues now that she she does.
Speaker 3: Do you remember in twenty twenty three when she was
Speaker 3: in Vegas and threw the mic at somebody when she
Speaker 3: was performed hard too?
Speaker 2: Yeah, baseball, and I'm pretty.
Speaker 3: Sure that somebody threw a drink at her and she
Speaker 3: threw the mic back. We hit the wrong person. Well,
Speaker 3: that woman is suing her for assault and battery over
Speaker 3: the incident.
Speaker 2: Really, yes, do we have a number? Do we have
Speaker 2: a figure?
Speaker 3: We don't have a number. We just know that the
Speaker 3: lawsuit has been filed.
Speaker 2: Oh that was a minute ago.
Speaker 3: Twenty yeah, I mean it was two years ago.
Speaker 2: While we wait in two years to sue.
Speaker 3: I mean why, because I don't know. Do you assume
Speaker 3: that maybe she tried to get money from her and
Speaker 3: then she just never reached back out to her, and
Speaker 3: now she took the steps to hire like a lawyer. Maybe,
Speaker 3: like I don't know, Listen, I understand that you can
Speaker 3: be upset, But I don't know if I'm suing Cardi
Speaker 3: b for I'm getting really what.
Speaker 2: You payday? But do you have pay?
Speaker 3: Do you have to like have an injury or just
Speaker 3: because you threw the mic at you, like say you
Speaker 3: threw the mic and you were fine?
Speaker 5: Number one.
Speaker 2: Here's the thing, right, I think about it from this aspect.
Speaker 2: Number One, if the bike was thrown and nobody ever
Speaker 2: talked about it, she probably would have definite suit because
Speaker 2: the moment went viral. You're gonna be you feel embarrassed basically,
Speaker 2: so you got to get paid for your embarrassing.
Speaker 3: Well, I guess to your point too, you're gonna it's
Speaker 3: an easy win because there's video evidence of it, like
Speaker 3: happening the.
Speaker 2: Mic at me. Yeah, I paid money to come into
Speaker 2: your venue, and I'm not even the one who threw
Speaker 2: the drink at you. How much are you asking for? Oh,
Speaker 2: I'm asking for what they do, paying and suffering. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm doing all that my bills, my hospital bills, and
Speaker 2: I'm cool with a hundred.
Speaker 3: Thou I feel like you could get more, Okay, how
Speaker 3: much more? I think you asked for a million and
Speaker 3: you settle on two and fifty.
Speaker 2: Damn, that's a that's like a three quarter cut. Yeah,
Speaker 2: a million. I'm suddenly at a half a million. Okay, fine,
Speaker 2: face injury. I can't see no more. My DJ skills change.
Speaker 2: I can't talk on the radio like I used to.
Speaker 2: Or that's funny. I think that was a radio host.
Speaker 1: It I think so.
Speaker 2: I think the person who got hit in the face
Speaker 2: was a radio host.
Speaker 3: I'm doing it. If you're an average person, are you
Speaker 3: doing it?
Speaker 2: Listen to my voice? I am suing the hell out
Speaker 2: of Cardi b It's I'm smiling at first, I'm crying
Speaker 2: as soon as I get behind closed doors, I'm like, Yo,
Speaker 2: we getting paid? Who do I need to call? Who's
Speaker 2: the who's the sleeve? But who's going after a diddy
Speaker 2: with all the funny cases? Busby? What's his name? Buzzby?
Speaker 2: I'm calling Buzzby. I'm like, yo, we are going after
Speaker 2: this chick. I need to get paid. Daddy needs a party.
Speaker 5: It's Ashley in the jam In Morning Show with DJ
Speaker 5: Foreign and Saunty.
Speaker 6: And it's time for another DM dilemma.
Speaker 1: We're doing DM dilemma and I just put my phone
Speaker 1: down and pushed it away.
Speaker 7: I was I was writing to concentrate on this conversation
Speaker 7: in which my phone all right, first and foremost. I
Speaker 7: think it's fair to say that everybody goes through things
Speaker 7: in life, and sometimes it's hard to talk to the
Speaker 7: people in your circle because they're too close to the
Speaker 7: situation they might already have, Like are they know Santi?
Speaker 7: So you come to complain about Santi and they're like, well, yeah,
Speaker 7: I hate him, Like I don't why why were we
Speaker 7: even talking about him? So a lot of times people
Speaker 7: will come to us and say, like, here's my situation.
Speaker 7: Can you talk about this? Have people called in weigh
Speaker 7: in on it. If you want to do that, can
Speaker 7: of course stay anonymous and you can DM me at
Speaker 7: Ashley Feldman a s H L E E F like
Speaker 7: Frank E l DS and dog m A n D
Speaker 7: M me and we'll do our best to help you.
Speaker 7: Like I said, anonymous is the key here. So this
Speaker 7: girl she wants to stay anonymous. She said, my husband
Speaker 7: is leaving me after sixteen years and four kids. This
Speaker 7: has been in the works for months.
Speaker 1: He said.
Speaker 7: We aren't on the same page with anything, and we
Speaker 7: have no common interest. We don't have deep conversations. Unfortunately,
Speaker 7: we own a business together, but on my end, I
Speaker 7: technically have no income. We planned to sell our company
Speaker 7: pay off the house, and he said he would help
Speaker 7: me financially. I got scared and mentioned about wanting to
Speaker 7: know where certain finances are going, and he flipped out
Speaker 7: of me. We've never thought about money ever, But now
Speaker 7: I'm left here with four kids and feeling like he's
Speaker 7: going to screw me. I don't want to think that
Speaker 7: would happen, but I know it can. I need advice.
Speaker 7: I'm so heartbroken that my family is being ripped apart.
Speaker 7: I'm sad and I feel so sick, you know. I
Speaker 7: wrote back to her and I said, I'm just so sorry,
Speaker 7: you know. I said, is he a good dad? Do
Speaker 7: you really feel like he would do that? Because if
Speaker 7: he strips her financially, then he knows that the kids
Speaker 7: are going to be with her, you know. And she said,
Speaker 7: he is a great dad. My kid love him, and
Speaker 7: I know he loves them. I really don't think he
Speaker 7: would screw me over like that, but men are idiots.
Speaker 3: This one is almost like two parts, because I feel
Speaker 3: like the relationship is one thing in the business parts another.
Speaker 3: I think the relationship is actually gone. I don't know
Speaker 3: if she could have to get that part back, but
Speaker 3: the business part and the family part, I feel like
Speaker 3: she should consult a lawyer on that one because I
Speaker 3: feel like she has rights in the money, but she's
Speaker 3: not on the lead or she's not on like the
Speaker 3: title of anything. So I think she needs to contact
Speaker 3: like a lawyer.
Speaker 7: I'm not gonna sit up here and yeah, I don't
Speaker 7: know about the legalities behind that. I want to believe
Speaker 7: again that he's going to think in his head, well, yea,
Speaker 7: the kids are going to be spending a lot of
Speaker 7: time with her.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do this to her.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's not his plan. Yeah, maybe he's planing's the
Speaker 2: strip of all the bread and get full custody and
Speaker 2: the kids stay with him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what, that's a good point. By the way,
Speaker 1: this this sticks out to me. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you got this has been in the works for months.
Speaker 7: He said, we aren't on the same page, we have
Speaker 7: no common interests, we don't have deep conversations. I don't
Speaker 7: know why I read that, and I think he met somebody.
Speaker 7: I don't know what about that makes me feel like
Speaker 7: there's somebody else that he's getting those things.
Speaker 3: From things those are specific. Yeah, but I think if
Speaker 3: you couple that with like what he's been feeling. And
Speaker 3: again I'm not siding with him by any means, but
Speaker 3: like they aren't connected at all, and you made that
Speaker 3: super clear, but maybe that's what led him down another path.
Speaker 2: I mean, does she agree with that statement? Does she
Speaker 2: agree that they're not connected that I just that they
Speaker 2: don't have deep come.
Speaker 7: I just wrote her back and I said, we're talking
Speaker 7: about this right now. If you want to, like you
Speaker 7: add anything into it. She just said, it can't stay
Speaker 7: this bad forever.
Speaker 2: Here's what I'm gonna say. If you feel like you're
Speaker 2: about to get screwed out of a situation because you
Speaker 2: guys are married to, anything that you guys own is
Speaker 2: both of y'alls. It doesn't matter who has more income
Speaker 2: or stuff like that. That might play out in a
Speaker 2: divorce code when it comes to maybe alimony or maybe
Speaker 2: child support. Yeah, but for the most part, y'all are
Speaker 2: tied in together. So if I will always advise people
Speaker 2: try to sit down, mediate these things on your own
Speaker 2: and just separate yourselves and try to come to a
Speaker 2: fair conclusion. But if she feels like Bro's about to
Speaker 2: screw protect yourself at all times.
Speaker 7: Unrelated to this specific situation, but one of my other
Speaker 7: good friends is going through it right now, in the
Speaker 7: midst of a divorce, and she texts me this, and
Speaker 7: I was like it just the line stood out to me.
Speaker 7: She said, the person you marry is not the person
Speaker 7: you divorced. And people because people switch up, because everybody
Speaker 7: is in it for themselves. Then, right, you're trying to
Speaker 7: protect yourself. You're trying to figure out what that's going
Speaker 7: to look like for you now personally outside of this relationship,
Speaker 7: and I think people get nasty.
Speaker 2: And even if you're not that vindictive to the most part,
Speaker 2: you will not. You don't like this person no more.
Speaker 2: You're not feeling this person no more. Me and you
Speaker 2: are not connected no more. I don't feel what we
Speaker 2: had when we were married now. So because of that,
Speaker 2: we got to split, which is a good decision because
Speaker 2: you don't want to be in a toxic relationship. But again,
Speaker 2: if you feel like he's about to school you, and
Speaker 2: well only getting her side of the story, right, yeah,
Speaker 2: but if you feel like he's about to school you
Speaker 2: protect yourself. But to try to work this thing up
Speaker 2: amongst yourselves.
Speaker 7: I'm all about you know, if you're not happy in
Speaker 7: your relationship, getting out of it, especially if there's kids involved.
Speaker 7: I think you'd be a better parent if you were
Speaker 7: a better you. But I also understand that there are
Speaker 7: so many logistics that go into this for people. I mean,
Speaker 7: she has they have four young kids and a business,
Speaker 7: so how does like, how do they? Hey, the world
Speaker 7: also is expensive. It's not easy nowadays where people just
Speaker 7: be like, I'm gonna go get another apartment. I'll go
Speaker 7: get a two bed, I'll get your she needs a
Speaker 7: four bed, you know what I mean. Like, it's just
Speaker 7: not it's not easy. And I think the financial part
Speaker 7: holds a lot of people back too.
Speaker 3: But you would think because the kids are involved that
Speaker 3: he would be a little bit better with like making
Speaker 3: her feel at least if we're we're done, you guys
Speaker 3: are gonna be fine.
Speaker 2: But that's why I'm saying there's two sides to the story. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and there's something on his sideway. He's like, nah, shurety,
Speaker 2: you ain't You ain't been pulling your weight for X
Speaker 2: amount of is and I'm not about to do this
Speaker 2: with you.
Speaker 3: It's so crazy because I've been married for twenty years now,
Speaker 3: and like, I can't picture me and my wife going
Speaker 3: through this if we ever got to this point. But
Speaker 3: you hear that so often that people in my situation,
Speaker 3: I have thought the same exact thing. They get a
Speaker 3: divorce and all of a sudden, like they're fighting at
Speaker 3: this point, and it's like super sad that she's there.
Speaker 7: Though, one hundred percent, and I think it's probably such
Speaker 7: a roller coaster of like, okay, like this is what
Speaker 7: it is. This is horrible, horrible, horrible, let's work it out.
Speaker 7: Oh now, one person says one thing. Now I'm p off.
Speaker 7: Now we're being mean. Now we're trying to one up
Speaker 7: each other. Well, then my name's on the business, yours isn't.
Speaker 7: And you just keep going back to there are kids involved,
Speaker 7: and God willing, they could figure it out, but I
Speaker 7: don't know. This just seems something seems off here to
Speaker 7: me about this whole thing, That's what I'm saying. Sixteen years,
Speaker 7: four kids, and how about her. Well I got scared
Speaker 7: and mentioned about wanting to know where certain finances are going,
Speaker 7: and he flipped out. We have never once fought about money.
Speaker 7: But now I'm left with four kids and I feel
Speaker 7: like he's going to scrib me.
Speaker 2: It might be why you're getting divorced. You might not
Speaker 2: be pulling your weight. I know we want to look
Speaker 2: at the guy and make him look like a demon.
Speaker 2: But maybe you haven't been pulling your weight for sixteen
Speaker 2: years and he's been quiet about it and he's fed
Speaker 2: up now.
Speaker 3: But to the line, though, the more I think of that,
Speaker 3: we don't have deep conversations. He's having those conversations with
Speaker 3: someone else.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so too.
Speaker 2: But that's what happens when you fall apart. Yeah, what
Speaker 2: happens when you're not pouring one hundred percent into the relationship,
Speaker 2: You find what you're missing someone else.
Speaker 1: Six one seven nine three one one nine four or five.
Speaker 1: I feel like in the last.
Speaker 7: Two months, we've talked about divorce so much, so many
Speaker 7: people are kind of going through it right now. Six
Speaker 7: one seven nine three one one nine four five. If
Speaker 7: you want to weigh in, Chris is in Brockton. Chris,
Speaker 7: when I read that message you heard, why is she
Speaker 7: stressing out about this?
Speaker 1: If the man is saying, hey, I'm going to take
Speaker 1: care of.
Speaker 18: You, right, and then why didn't she take care of
Speaker 18: the man as well? As If you've been put someone
Speaker 18: for sixteen years and he's telling you, we're not having
Speaker 18: deep conversations. Why not seek therapy and have those decomversations
Speaker 18: with them?
Speaker 7: Yeah, but we don't have that answer, right, So we
Speaker 7: don't know if he came to her three years ago
Speaker 7: and said we're not connected on this level anymore, like
Speaker 7: we need to work on this, or it came out
Speaker 7: of the blue.
Speaker 1: I mean, we don't know.
Speaker 7: Now.
Speaker 18: I don't think it came out of the blue. I think,
Speaker 18: especially if they own a business, I believe this relationship
Speaker 18: has been going down of you know, a bad path.
Speaker 7: It could for sure, But again we do No, we
Speaker 7: don't have all the answers and say it didn't Chris.
Speaker 1: Let do that.
Speaker 5: Yeah, let's let's you know, let's say that.
Speaker 18: But the information she gives it sounds like she's only
Speaker 18: giving her part on financials and money. She's not really
Speaker 18: saying what she did and what she didn't do.
Speaker 7: Maybe she was a full time mom, Maybe that was
Speaker 7: her job. Maybe she wanted to hypothetic as a wife.
Speaker 18: You can't be just a full time mom. You got
Speaker 18: to be a wife and a mom. Get married, Get
Speaker 18: married for a reason. You could just be a baby mother.
Speaker 1: Then no, I get it.
Speaker 7: But like you know, I'm using let's use my life
Speaker 7: as an example for this. Right now, I don't think
Speaker 7: that I at this point in my life, my number
Speaker 7: one priority is the girl. They're young, they're little, I'm breastfeeding,
Speaker 7: I'm doing on things. Do I think that my I'm
Speaker 7: the best possible wife I could be right now? No,
Speaker 7: I'm trying and I'm doing my best. But maybe they're
Speaker 7: in that little spell right now where it's like they
Speaker 7: have a baby.
Speaker 18: We don't know which which Okay, let's let's grant her that.
Speaker 18: Let's let's grant her that, and she has a baby,
Speaker 18: and you know it's a little hard for at the
Speaker 18: same time that she should seek therapy before the marriage
Speaker 18: gets too bad. She should seek therapy, and when she
Speaker 18: was having the baby should have start therapy, like maybe
Speaker 18: fifteen years ago, five years ago, two months ago, therapy.
Speaker 7: Okay, but I like, I don't need therapy, you know
Speaker 7: what I mean? But I and I try my best.
Speaker 18: Now that you need therapy, it's like you need someone
Speaker 18: else to talk to so you can you know understand
Speaker 18: what this other mad, what this other person may be missing,
Speaker 18: or what the other person isn't seeing that you're mistake
Speaker 18: totally and.
Speaker 7: Listen, I will say with say this to you if if,
Speaker 7: if it was vocalized to me, Hey, Ash, I need
Speaker 7: you to communicate better, hay Ash, I don't feel like
Speaker 7: we're doing ABCND I would do those things we don't know,
Speaker 7: but you don't you.
Speaker 18: Know that means you would have a great man. I
Speaker 18: mean everyone will be great. No one's gonna obviously communicate
Speaker 18: like that one hundred percent of the time, you know
Speaker 18: what I mean. That's why I always say, you know,
Speaker 18: getting an outside store for someone else that can come in,
Speaker 18: someone that's fit in that same situation, like another couple,
Speaker 18: another married couple will be good too.
Speaker 2: What was what was a line about her not having
Speaker 2: a job. Technically she said something like technically I don't
Speaker 2: have What does she say?
Speaker 7: We own a business together and on my end, I
Speaker 7: technically have no income. We plan to sell our company,
Speaker 7: pay off the house, and he said he will help
Speaker 7: me financially. I got scared, and I mentioned wanting to
Speaker 7: know where hold on, hold on, hold on. We plan
Speaker 7: to sell our company, pay off the house, and he
Speaker 7: said he will help me financially. I got scared and
Speaker 7: I mentioned about wanting to know where certain finances are going,
Speaker 7: and he flipped, we have never once thought about this.
Speaker 3: Listen, it sounds like their businesses family owned to the
Speaker 3: point where she probably works. They're part time, full time
Speaker 3: doing whatever like that. Yeah, that's what it.
Speaker 7: Was agreed upon, like you stay home with the kids,
Speaker 7: you do this, I'll do that, I'll run this.
Speaker 1: But whatever. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't take it as a fine. This guy has
Speaker 2: issues with finances. There's an issue that he feels a
Speaker 2: way about how the finances are running in that crib.
Speaker 2: So maybe he doesn't like the fact that she's technically
Speaker 2: not working. Finances is an issue for him.
Speaker 1: Well, then that should have been told to her.
Speaker 2: How we know it wasn't.
Speaker 7: Yeah, we don't, that's the thing. And but again that's
Speaker 7: why we don't know. She could have been thanks for
Speaker 7: the call. Christ by the way, she could have been
Speaker 7: completely blindsided. She could have No, she's not responding. The
Speaker 7: last she said was it can't stay this bad forever.
Speaker 7: She's she's not well.
Speaker 3: Listen, on the therapy part, I don't think it should just
Speaker 3: be her getting therapy. I think they should have gone
Speaker 3: as a couple together and adjust both have problems here.
Speaker 7: Do you know what I'm trying to say where it's like,
Speaker 7: I don't, we don't know what. Like I think that
Speaker 7: there was a time where being a wife was my
Speaker 7: only responsibility.
Speaker 1: I didn't have kids.
Speaker 2: That was my change.
Speaker 1: It changed it things change right like you know.
Speaker 7: And not to say I'm a bad wife right now,
Speaker 7: but my wifely duties are getting you know, the baby
Speaker 7: and the kids are yeah. Yeah, So I don't know.
Speaker 7: I just don't know where they're at with that. But
Speaker 7: I mean her responds of it can't stay bad forever.
Speaker 7: She's not good.
Speaker 3: I know she's not good. But I do not think
Speaker 3: this this relationship can be saved. But I do think
Speaker 3: financially you can get some help there.
Speaker 7: Though the person you marry is not the person you divorce.
Speaker 7: That stands out to me. Six one seven nine three
Speaker 7: one one nine four five six one seven nine three
Speaker 7: one one nine four five. If anybody is going through
Speaker 7: this right now, has been through a divorce and wants
Speaker 7: to offer up some wise words, hit us up. Good morning,
Speaker 7: it's Ashing the jym Winshew. Hi everybody, Good morning, it's
Speaker 7: Ashing the gym in the morning show. I got a
Speaker 7: DM from anonymous who basically is like, ash, I'm going
Speaker 7: through it. She was like, this can't be this bad forever.
Speaker 7: And that's how bad it is. Her husband is leaving
Speaker 7: her after sixteen years and four kids. They have a
Speaker 7: business together, but technically on her end. She isn't on
Speaker 7: the PaperWorks, she doesn't have any income. They're going to
Speaker 7: sell the company to make enough money to pay off
Speaker 7: the house. She asks him about the finances throughout this.
Speaker 7: He snaps, and she's scared, and she's she's sad and
Speaker 7: she's worried. I feel like lately we've been talking a
Speaker 7: lot about divorce. I know three people close to me
Speaker 7: that are going through it. And you know, a line
Speaker 7: I was saying that really stuck out to me is
Speaker 7: that the person you marry is not the person you divorce.
Speaker 7: People switch up, they start to like protect themselves. Jenn's
Speaker 7: in Rhode Island, Jenna, I was. I was saying, if
Speaker 7: anybody had been through it.
Speaker 1: To kind of offer her some advice.
Speaker 7: We have so many follow up questions for but we
Speaker 7: obviously are not going to get the answer. I just think,
Speaker 7: you know, it would be good for her to hear
Speaker 7: from somebody away from all of it.
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts hearing all of this?
Speaker 19: So we don't know the whole story, But what I've
Speaker 19: learned after a ten year failed relationship is your spouse
Speaker 19: comes before your kids. Not not like before your kids,
Speaker 19: but your kids are going to grow up, they're gonna
Speaker 19: get married, they're going to leave, your parents are going
Speaker 19: to pass. Your spouse is going to be there with you.
Speaker 19: You have to take care of your spouse and then
Speaker 19: your children.
Speaker 3: I don't disagree with her, I actually don't.
Speaker 1: I don't disagree.
Speaker 7: I think obviously your relationship with your partner should be
Speaker 7: as important as that of your kids. I just think
Speaker 7: that there are certain instances where you know, there's eras
Speaker 7: of your life, or there's chapter of your life where
Speaker 7: taking care of the kids is of the utmost important.
Speaker 7: If they're paid, you know, there's just it's just as life. Yes, yes,
Speaker 7: but yes, I think valuing your relationship and making it
Speaker 7: as important as possible is important.
Speaker 1: Jen. If that's what you're saying, I get that for sure.
Speaker 19: So I always was my kids at first. My kids
Speaker 19: are first. My kids are first because that's how I
Speaker 19: was raised. Their kids at first, Your kids are first,
Speaker 19: and I let my relationship slide.
Speaker 4: And then by the time, you know, I.
Speaker 19: Would see these old couples like married sixty seventy eighty years,
Speaker 19: and they're like, we never stopped, We always came first.
Speaker 19: We worked together, it was one hundred percent. We disciplined
Speaker 19: the kids together, we took care of the kids together.
Speaker 19: And that's just not how anybody is nowadays. Everybody is
Speaker 19: just almost for themselves.
Speaker 18: I don't believe that.
Speaker 1: I don't believe that.
Speaker 7: I think, well, yeah, I think in some relationships, and
Speaker 7: I think those are the ones that probably aren't doing well.
Speaker 7: But you know, I think there's a lot of relationships
Speaker 7: that do try to be a team and be partners
Speaker 7: and try to do it all together.
Speaker 1: You know, I've noticed two, you know, little things in
Speaker 1: the house.
Speaker 7: You know. She'll say to me, can I have chocolate?
Speaker 7: And I will say, no, it's eleven am. You're not
Speaker 7: having any chocolate. And she'll go into the other room
Speaker 7: and she'll say to my husband, can I have chocolate?
Speaker 7: And he'll be like, your mother just told you. You know,
Speaker 7: we echo each other, and that I think, you know,
Speaker 7: I think there are people that have that, and the
Speaker 7: bottom line is, wouldn't it be great?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: To be able to.
Speaker 7: Say, my relationship with my partners are the utmost important
Speaker 7: as well as my kids, and you can do it all,
Speaker 7: but it's a lot, and I think one of them
Speaker 7: is going to fall by the wayside.
Speaker 1: You just have to work on it as hard as
Speaker 1: you can, right, No, I.
Speaker 19: Agree, I just I think I heard it. And now
Speaker 19: that my kids are older and I'm in a new relationship,
Speaker 19: and it's different because they're teenagers, so I don't have
Speaker 19: to really take care of them, but I will, you know,
Speaker 19: put my happiness a little bit before theirs, instead of
Speaker 19: being like, oh, I have to do this for them
Speaker 19: before I take care of me.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 13: I don't know that.
Speaker 7: It feels weird for me, and I don't know if
Speaker 7: maybe it's because your kids are older, like I don't.
Speaker 7: I can't even fathom putting my happiness ahead of.
Speaker 3: Here's what I say, because we've been in your party.
Speaker 3: What I think she should be saying, or what I
Speaker 3: would say, is like, yes, kids come before, like it
Speaker 3: just doesn't taking care of them all, but still make
Speaker 3: the effort. And sometimes it's super hard to date your husband,
Speaker 3: date your partner because that's that still matters, and that
Speaker 3: builds the relationship there. I think a lot of people sometimes,
Speaker 3: well they don't do that, and then ten.
Speaker 1: Years goes easy to get lost.
Speaker 3: Yes, and that thing. It is so hard to keep
Speaker 3: a good marriage, especially when you have kids. And I
Speaker 3: think that's what she was trying to say.
Speaker 2: And if you don't communicate, I almost feel like that's
Speaker 2: what's going on with this DM dilemma. I'll be honest
Speaker 2: with you. I think I think financiers was a problem
Speaker 2: for them for a while or whatever. The husband was
Speaker 2: not happy with and he just kept quiet about it,
Speaker 2: or maybe he said something, but it wasn't communicated. They
Speaker 2: didn't sit down and talk these things.
Speaker 3: That's the thing.
Speaker 2: And I think now sixteen years later, he's just he's
Speaker 2: fed up. And you might be he might have found
Speaker 2: out in somebody else and he's like, what, Oh, so
Speaker 2: this is the way love's supposed to be. I'm out
Speaker 2: of here.
Speaker 7: Marriage is so hard, dude, Like it's so hard on hard, Yes,
Speaker 7: and then you add kids into it and jo crazy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and nobody just gets married and then you're just
Speaker 2: a honeymoon for sixteen years and a job.
Speaker 3: And then you're at financing. Then you add jobs and
Speaker 3: you add all the things in life.
Speaker 7: And this sentiment is hard to articulate, Like I'm having
Speaker 7: trouble figuring out the right words because I don't like
Speaker 7: the verbiage of I put my happiness in front of
Speaker 7: my kid's happiness, because that's I don't and I would never.
Speaker 7: But I do see what everybody's saying is we have
Speaker 7: other calls being like I agree, like your partner should
Speaker 7: be your number one priority. If your partnership in your
Speaker 7: house isn't good, you're not gonna parent well because things
Speaker 7: aren't good.
Speaker 1: Like the base of this, like the rock is rocky.
Speaker 3: Here's what I'll say. Our kids are our priorities like
Speaker 3: number one, but each other. Maybe we're one point two,
Speaker 3: we're not two, we're not three, but it has to
Speaker 3: be like very important.
Speaker 2: And I think people taking it literally like, oh, what,
Speaker 2: so they're sick. You don't take no. Yeah, health is good.
Speaker 2: You know you're making sure that your kids are growing
Speaker 2: up to be a good adults and good people in society.
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I kind of hear what
Speaker 2: she's saying, because when it's all said and done, everybody
Speaker 2: leaves the nest and it's just you and your partner
Speaker 2: and now you're looking at each other like, oh, I
Speaker 2: don't know who you are. Yes, for the last twenty
Speaker 2: something is we've been just focused on the family, the house,
Speaker 2: and the kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've also heard that too.
Speaker 3: Divor at that age it's a it's askuta.
Speaker 1: Because you really literally just stayed because of the kids.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I know this is This is such an interesting
Speaker 7: conversation because it's and again it's hard to articulate because
Speaker 7: at the end of the day, they're your babies, so
Speaker 7: you're of course going to be protective of them, but
Speaker 7: you also have to be protective of the person that
Speaker 7: gave them to you.
Speaker 3: You know heard the staff that by the time your
Speaker 3: kids are twelve, you've already spent seventy five percent of
Speaker 3: the time with them that you have.
Speaker 1: That makes me want vomit.
Speaker 3: And but to that point, it's like, all right, twelve,
Speaker 3: so from twelve on you're left with seventy five percent
Speaker 3: of your partner. Now, it's like, so that's why that
Speaker 3: foundation is so important through those years. Yeah, but that's
Speaker 3: stat mess me up.
Speaker 1: Damn.
Speaker 3: Let's all have a cry.
Speaker 7: I might, I might shed a tear or go home
Speaker 7: and like do something weird with the farm man. Keep
Speaker 7: her more spicy because now everybody's listening like she doesn't
Speaker 7: prioritize him priority Up there tonight.
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Speaker 2: Wow, we made it happy Thursday. Thank you everybody for
Speaker 2: the DMS, the talk bats to call in checking in
Speaker 2: on Ashley as well, Santy for anybody who might just
Speaker 2: be tapping in now. Our girl Ashley was out today,
Speaker 2: a very rare thing by the way, Yeah, which I
Speaker 2: know she probably tried to fight through it before she
Speaker 2: could call out, but she's she has some kind of
Speaker 2: stomach bug or whatever's going on. And again, when you
Speaker 2: got kids, you know, you start getting other kind of
Speaker 2: sicknesses that you normally wouldn't get. But Ashley, I hope
Speaker 2: you're feeling better. She says she'll be back tomorrow feeling great.
Speaker 2: On a Friday, I think, Loky, she just wanted.
Speaker 3: To day off.
Speaker 2: I mean, she should have called out sick on Friday.
Speaker 3: At this point, it's gonna be Friday tomorrow. Get sick
Speaker 3: like you don't be here with the stomach bugget honestly too,
Speaker 3: I don't want the.
Speaker 2: Stomach bug stay home again, but yeah, shout out to
Speaker 2: actually make sure ya show all the love at Ashley
Speaker 2: Felman and yeah again, shout out to anybody that tapped
Speaker 2: him with us all throughout the show, Santy, go ahead
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Speaker 3: Shout out to the stomach bug man, because it's a
Speaker 3: serious thing and all joking aside. When you have the
Speaker 3: stomach bug and it's like it decimates you, it's awful.
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