Speaker 1: Two things going on that have nothing to do with
Speaker 1: the emails and things like that. I talked about this
Speaker 1: on the show this morning. Getting a tattoo later today
Speaker 1: of my dog Josie's pawprint on my inside of my
Speaker 1: arm inside my forum. And I got it with a
Speaker 1: kit on Amazon, probably three or four months ago, because
Speaker 1: somebody said, what you don't want to do is when
Speaker 1: they're gone, is to be struggling to get their pawprint,
Speaker 1: because it's just sad and it's kind of pathetic that
Speaker 1: they're gone and there you are. So I ordered the
Speaker 1: paw print kit and it's one where you don't get
Speaker 1: ink on the paw. It kind of it's kind of
Speaker 1: hard to explain. There's no need, but it gives you
Speaker 1: like several different pawprints and I got three and I
Speaker 1: picked my favorite one and then I smudged it because
Speaker 1: I picked it up with my thumb and I smudged it.
Speaker 1: But I think I can still salvage it.
Speaker 2: Someone texted in saying that you should print it, and
Speaker 2: I actually did print it for you, so it's out
Speaker 2: on the printer.
Speaker 1: How did you print it?
Speaker 2: I just took a screenshot of your Instagram. Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: but I'm not sure if it's going to turn out.
Speaker 1: Well, why are you so nice and sometimes and then
Speaker 1: so difficult other times?
Speaker 3: I like to switch it up.
Speaker 1: Now, that is so funny. Okay, So that's today, and
Speaker 1: then I'm going to get a tattoo with Carson. He's
Speaker 1: obviously going to get something on his own. And then
Speaker 1: the other announcement is my daughter Allison's having.
Speaker 2: A third baby.
Speaker 3: So she's we did kind of know about this her
Speaker 3: a little bit. Yeah, but she's kind of far along
Speaker 3: now at this point, right.
Speaker 1: I'd say four ish months or so something like that.
Speaker 2: She's showing I don't know, definitely showing. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And then Gwen took her first step yesterday. So
Speaker 1: that's Chase's daughter.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's little.
Speaker 1: Though, right, she's not even a year old. I think
Speaker 1: March twenty eighth is her birthday.
Speaker 2: That normal to walk around before you're a year old.
Speaker 1: It depends, Yeah, it depends on the baby.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Some babies walk it ten months, some walk it like,
Speaker 1: you know, like much older.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 3: My niece took a while to walk, but my nephew
Speaker 3: learned pretty quickly. But I think he learned because he
Speaker 3: was watching my niece.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I mean. So I think that
Speaker 4: that helped him.
Speaker 3: But also he's like a very he's either going to
Speaker 3: be in jail or like a professional athlete, or like
Speaker 3: a CEO.
Speaker 4: There's like, we're not entirely sure, yeah, because he's just
Speaker 4: a rebel. But he's really smart. But he's also a
Speaker 4: little shit so yeah, you know.
Speaker 1: I will tell you this though. This is what I've
Speaker 1: noticed with with kids and what they turn out to
Speaker 1: be like when they grow up. Sometimes there's a vast
Speaker 1: difference and sometimes there's not. Carson was a wildly funny, entertaining,
Speaker 1: weird kid. Talked all the time, and I used to
Speaker 1: have to say, Carson, stop talking. And I wonder if
Speaker 1: that affected him, because now he's sometimes painfully shy, and
Speaker 1: he's grown up and he's matured, and he realizes that
Speaker 1: you can't be shy and be all the things that
Speaker 1: you want to be. Yea, you can't be a shy CEO.
Speaker 1: You got to kick some ass and you know, bust
Speaker 1: some balls if you want to be a CEO. So
Speaker 1: he's learned to kind of fake it, and I think
Speaker 1: that's kind of what I learned to do. I was
Speaker 1: very shy when I was just like him. I was
Speaker 1: an obnoxious little fuck of a kid, always trying to
Speaker 1: be funny, always getting in trouble, never serious trouble. But
Speaker 1: then I became shy around high school, and then I
Speaker 1: stayed shy until I learned how to not be shy
Speaker 1: by talking to people on the radio. And now I'm
Speaker 1: not shy. But I'm also not extroverted, right, No.
Speaker 2: I feel that. I I mean, I've always been super obnoxious.
Speaker 2: My mom would be like uh huh uh huh every
Speaker 2: time I talked, and I think same thing. She thought,
Speaker 2: this kid talks the way too much, but she never
Speaker 2: called me out on it. And I still talk too much,
Speaker 2: but now I am self conscious about it, so, you know,
Speaker 2: just cute.
Speaker 1: But I think talking too much is a good thing
Speaker 1: in radio, and I always tell people in radio, I'd
Speaker 1: rather have you talk too much and then have somebody
Speaker 1: coach you to back it off a little bit than
Speaker 1: to be like, give me something.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like give me anything.
Speaker 1: What do you think three girls? I think anybody who
Speaker 1: has two girls or two boys probably wants the third
Speaker 1: one to be the other job.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I didn't think about that. Are they bombed?
Speaker 1: No, they're not bummed.
Speaker 2: At all.
Speaker 1: Okay, but they girls run so heavy in my family.
Speaker 1: I could read you the statistics from my grandparents, Helen
Speaker 1: and Fred. They had probably Of all the siblings that
Speaker 1: have expunged from uteruses since then, I'd say probably ninety
Speaker 1: percent have been girls. Nice Chase had a girl, Beth
Speaker 1: had one girl and a boy. Allison's got three girls.
Speaker 1: My dad had four girls. His brother had four girls.
Speaker 1: His other brother had four girls, three girls and an
Speaker 1: adopted boy.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: So girls are very prevalent in our family.
Speaker 2: Cool. They run the world.
Speaker 1: Uh, let's see what we got here. Are going to
Speaker 1: push the right tab. Okay, here we go. Now this
Speaker 1: goes back a little bit, and I promise to give
Speaker 1: you an update on Wanita. Months ago did a rant
Speaker 1: about how she was at Target and ran into a
Speaker 1: little kid who was calling a bitch and a stupid
Speaker 1: bitch and I want this, you bitch, bitch been so
Speaker 1: Wannita stepped in and said, I am your worst enemy.
Speaker 1: Don't you talk to your mom that way. Fast forward,
Speaker 1: they're at this convenience store somewhere Onannita runs into this mom.
Speaker 1: The mom says, oh my god, you changed my kid.
Speaker 1: He is now like you know, so much better, and
Speaker 1: one Nita wrote in and told us about that. Now
Speaker 1: we hear from the mom Wow, who also chance in
Speaker 1: a million listens to the Minnesota Goodbye, and I promise
Speaker 1: you I'm not making this up. I wouldn't make this up.
Speaker 1: I'm not that creative. Please don't say my name. It's
Speaker 1: my first time writing to your show. As a matter
Speaker 1: of fact, I just started listening to your podcast since
Speaker 1: I've been on medical leave. I heard a podcast featuring
Speaker 1: Miss Juanita from December third entitled I'm Your Worst Nightmare.
Speaker 1: This particular episode was very interesting to me because I
Speaker 1: am that woman who had the unruly child target. I
Speaker 1: always wanted to know who she is because she's my hero. Backstory,
Speaker 1: my son is nine and for years all he heard
Speaker 1: was his father called me all kinds of names like bitch,
Speaker 1: hohor good for nothing. His dad was very negative and
Speaker 1: physically and mentally abusive, and he would do this right
Speaker 1: in front of our son, so quite naturally, my son
Speaker 1: picked these names up from him. My husband, now, my
Speaker 1: son's stepdad, is the complete opposite, and my son loves
Speaker 1: him because he is still very but he still becomes
Speaker 1: very disrespectful to me. In public when I don't let
Speaker 1: him have his way. My current husband's tried talking to him,
Speaker 1: and it works for a little while, and he goes
Speaker 1: right back to the same thing. Fast forward to Jannita.
Speaker 1: Everything she said in the podcast was true. She looked
Speaker 1: my son dead in the eyes and said, if you
Speaker 1: call this lady a bitch one more time, I will
Speaker 1: rip your tongue out and wipe it with a clorox wipe.
Speaker 2: Jesus.
Speaker 1: He then tried to get smart with her and literally
Speaker 1: pushed me to the side and got even closer to
Speaker 1: his face, and she said, I'm the last woman you
Speaker 1: want to curse at, because I can make your life
Speaker 1: very hard. I'm your worst fucking nightmare. The whole store clapped,
Speaker 1: and even though I was so embarrassed, I wanted to
Speaker 1: thank her for doing that, because I've been not been
Speaker 1: able to control him ever since that incident. I've not
Speaker 1: heard a peep out of him at Homer in public.
Speaker 1: Whenever we go go out. He looks around as if
Speaker 1: he's looking to see if she's around, if she's listening.
Speaker 1: If you read my email, I want to say say
Speaker 1: thank you, miss Juanita, for straightening out my kid. I
Speaker 1: also want to say I love your show and everyone
Speaker 1: on it, and keep doing what you do. Also, if
Speaker 1: there are any parents out there who have children that
Speaker 1: are out of control, call Juanita. That is such a
Speaker 1: great story that kind of came ship. Yeah, I will
Speaker 1: say at nine years old, that little kid, it was
Speaker 1: time he learned respect. I can almost see that from
Speaker 1: a four or five year old, not that it's okay, no,
Speaker 1: but from a nine year old.
Speaker 2: Did you ever have friends that like kind of talk
Speaker 2: back to their parents. I did, because every time I
Speaker 2: went to a friend's house and they even like were
Speaker 2: sarcastic to their parent, I would be like, I can't
Speaker 2: believe you're talking to your mom like that. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: would not. I mean, I'm never got like whooped or anything,
Speaker 2: but I can't imagine talking back to my mom. I
Speaker 2: can't imagine I would have gotten into so much trouble.
Speaker 2: So when I witnessed other kids doing it, oh believe it.
Speaker 3: Never forget a Christmas one year, my older sister Rachel
Speaker 3: said something kind of snarky to my mom, and the
Speaker 3: next thing I know, I see like her and my
Speaker 3: uncle coming out of like one of the bedrooms down
Speaker 3: the hall, and she looks like frazzled. And then I
Speaker 3: find out later that my uncle like pulled her to
Speaker 3: the side and like scolded her and freaked out on
Speaker 3: her for like disrespecting my mom.
Speaker 4: And honestly, it wasn't.
Speaker 3: It was like a normal like kids situation, but he
Speaker 3: was like going through some shit with like his kids
Speaker 3: in a divorce and stuff, and I think he took
Speaker 3: it out on my sister.
Speaker 4: But for a while, it was really awkward.
Speaker 3: With our uncle Joe, and he was like our favorite.
Speaker 3: We loved him, and he like, in my opinion, I
Speaker 3: don't think it was his place to do what he did,
Speaker 3: but it was like a little bit awkward at family
Speaker 3: holidays for a while because we were like kind of
Speaker 3: nervous to be around him.
Speaker 2: Because he got mad. Yeah, okay, yeah, I was never
Speaker 2: ever disrespectful of my dad.
Speaker 1: Never he caught me flipping him off one time because
Speaker 1: he was not I didn't expect him to show up
Speaker 1: around the corner, but we were doing it's a long story.
Speaker 1: He wanted me to do something. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: do it, and so he said get outside and do
Speaker 1: it now. So I had to go outside and do it.
Speaker 1: And I was putting my shoes on and I flipped
Speaker 1: him off from around the corner. And he came around
Speaker 1: the corner and he saw me double flipping him off.
Speaker 1: Oh no, and he didn't say anything because he knew
Speaker 1: that now, that would really be trouble and I was
Speaker 1: already in trouble. But I never disrespected my dad ever.
Speaker 1: But my mom I would mouth off to her all
Speaker 1: the time. I don't know why, because she kind of
Speaker 1: let me get away with it. I was a little
Speaker 1: Lisa and if I could go back and tell my mom,
Speaker 1: and I think I did, like, I'm so sorry for
Speaker 1: being such a little shit. Yeah, but I got away
Speaker 1: with it.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: I think because I was the youngest and I was
Speaker 1: her favorite. Okay, we're gonna move on to something completely different.
Speaker 1: Catching up on the podcast, I noticed there were two
Speaker 1: episodes back to back that cut off before the end
Speaker 1: of the podcast, literally cutting off Jenny in the first
Speaker 1: one and Dave in the second one. They were I
Speaker 1: Get It Now and fish Porn.
Speaker 2: Yes I am, I've been told about it and I'm
Speaker 2: going to try and fix it.
Speaker 1: Okay. Not sure if you all caught that, but I
Speaker 1: thought i'd let you know because they abruptly ended even
Speaker 1: before they were finished. Anyway, I was listening. I want
Speaker 1: to share some advice after hearing about the woman who
Speaker 1: wrote in and talked about her miscarriage and how it happened.
Speaker 1: I'm not a woman, and I at the moment don't
Speaker 1: have any plans to pro create, but hearing these stories
Speaker 1: makes me emphasis empathize with women who've had to endure
Speaker 1: such a tragedy. I can't help specifically with this type
Speaker 1: of loss, but what I can suggest because this helps me,
Speaker 1: is trying to find something you know you love doing,
Speaker 1: no matter what, and making time each day to do that.
Speaker 1: When my father passed during COVID, I had to force
Speaker 1: myself to go outside. Luckily, I have dogs that needed walking,
Speaker 1: so it wasn't that hard. I also loved riding my bike,
Speaker 1: so I'd go on long bike rides so that I
Speaker 1: could do something that didn't require much thought, while also
Speaker 1: allowing me to clear my mind and get fresh air
Speaker 1: listening to music that makes me happy. Like Dave says,
Speaker 1: motion equals emotion. Again, I'm not saying this is the
Speaker 1: best way for her, but this is something that I
Speaker 1: did as part of my grieving process. Another suggestion from
Speaker 1: my therapist is to give yourself some time alone where
Speaker 1: you allow yourself to cry. Instead of bottling up those
Speaker 1: tears or holding it all in, letting those out is
Speaker 1: a necessary part of grieving. So allow a few minutes
Speaker 1: or whatever amount of time you feel is right to
Speaker 1: let those emotions come out where you know you can
Speaker 1: feel safe, be unbothered, and not need to explain to
Speaker 1: someone why. Then when time is up, clear your mind,
Speaker 1: clean yourself up, and move on to another task you
Speaker 1: need to tackle. I hope this helps all right, Dart
Speaker 1: Liquor extraordinary.
Speaker 4: That's really nice advice.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you some advice on when your parents die. Okay, Now,
Speaker 1: neither of you two are parents, so you wouldn't quite
Speaker 1: get this. But one day, if you are parents, you'll understand,
Speaker 1: and if you're a parent, you will understand this too.
Speaker 1: I have a friend, Denise, that I've known since junior
Speaker 1: high and Denise's you know, about my age and her
Speaker 1: and she's single. She had a bad marriage, no kids,
Speaker 1: and she doesn't have a lot of money, so her
Speaker 1: social options for vacation and things like that are sort
Speaker 1: of limited. And her parents both died pretty close to
Speaker 1: each other. Ten or fifteen years ago, and she has
Speaker 1: kind of put her life on pause because she's so
Speaker 1: sad that her parents are gone and she misses them
Speaker 1: all the time and she thinks about them all the time,
Speaker 1: and that's wonderful than whatever. But as a parent, I
Speaker 1: will tell you, when your parents die, the last thing
Speaker 1: your parent would want you to do is to be
Speaker 1: so eternally sad that you can't get on with your life.
Speaker 1: Because if I think of like when I die one day,
Speaker 1: I demand that my kids be sad for a certain period.
Speaker 1: I demand it. I demand they be sad and cry
Speaker 1: and pull out my old things and cry. I demand
Speaker 1: it for a short time. But then I want them
Speaker 1: to be happy because I do not want the idea
Speaker 1: of my kids being eternally affected by me being gone.
Speaker 1: So one day, if you you know, if you lose
Speaker 1: your parents one day, and you know that's the situation
Speaker 1: for most of us, just know that as a parent,
Speaker 1: they will want you to be okay. They will not
Speaker 1: want you to eternally be affected. They want you to
Speaker 1: be the same person. They want you to be happy.
Speaker 1: So one day, when Sin goes to the big landscape
Speaker 1: in the sky, you can be you know, she demands
Speaker 1: that you'd be sad for a period of time, of course,
Speaker 1: and then get on with being Jenny. Yeah, okay, and
Speaker 1: that's going to do it for the Minnesota Goodbye. What
Speaker 1: do we miss? Is there anything that you thought of
Speaker 1: that we should talk about? Send an email to Ryan's
Speaker 1: show at kadiwb dot com.