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<v Speaker 1>Two things going on that have nothing to do with

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<v Speaker 1>the emails and things like that. I talked about this

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<v Speaker 1>on the show this morning. Getting a tattoo later today

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<v Speaker 1>of my dog Josie's pawprint on my inside of my

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<v Speaker 1>arm inside my forum. And I got it with a

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<v Speaker 1>kit on Amazon, probably three or four months ago, because

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<v Speaker 1>somebody said, what you don't want to do is when

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<v Speaker 1>they're gone, is to be struggling to get their pawprint,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's just sad and it's kind of pathetic that

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<v Speaker 1>they're gone and there you are. So I ordered the

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<v Speaker 1>paw print kit and it's one where you don't get

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<v Speaker 1>ink on the paw. It kind of it's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>hard to explain. There's no need, but it gives you

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<v Speaker 1>like several different pawprints and I got three and I

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<v Speaker 1>picked my favorite one and then I smudged it because

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<v Speaker 1>I picked it up with my thumb and I smudged it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think I can still salvage it.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone texted in saying that you should print it, and

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<v Speaker 2>I actually did print it for you, so it's out

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<v Speaker 2>on the printer.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you print it?

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<v Speaker 2>I just took a screenshot of your Instagram. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm not sure if it's going to turn out.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, why are you so nice and sometimes and then

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<v Speaker 1>so difficult other times?

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<v Speaker 3>I like to switch it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, that is so funny. Okay, So that's today, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I'm going to get a tattoo with Carson. He's

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<v Speaker 1>obviously going to get something on his own. And then

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<v Speaker 1>the other announcement is my daughter Allison's having.

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<v Speaker 2>A third baby.

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<v Speaker 3>So she's we did kind of know about this her

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit. Yeah, but she's kind of far along

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<v Speaker 3>now at this point, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd say four ish months or so something like that.

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<v Speaker 2>She's showing I don't know, definitely showing. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And then Gwen took her first step yesterday. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's Chase's daughter.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, she's little.

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<v Speaker 1>Though, right, she's not even a year old. I think

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<v Speaker 1>March twenty eighth is her birthday.

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<v Speaker 2>That normal to walk around before you're a year old.

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<v Speaker 1>It depends, Yeah, it depends on the baby.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Some babies walk it ten months, some walk it like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like much older.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>My niece took a while to walk, but my nephew

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<v Speaker 3>learned pretty quickly. But I think he learned because he

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<v Speaker 3>was watching my niece.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you know what I mean. So I think that

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<v Speaker 4>that helped him.

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<v Speaker 3>But also he's like a very he's either going to

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<v Speaker 3>be in jail or like a professional athlete, or like

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<v Speaker 3>a CEO.

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<v Speaker 4>There's like, we're not entirely sure, yeah, because he's just

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<v Speaker 4>a rebel. But he's really smart. But he's also a

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<v Speaker 4>little shit so yeah, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I will tell you this though. This is what I've

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<v Speaker 1>noticed with with kids and what they turn out to

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<v Speaker 1>be like when they grow up. Sometimes there's a vast

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<v Speaker 1>difference and sometimes there's not. Carson was a wildly funny, entertaining,

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<v Speaker 1>weird kid. Talked all the time, and I used to

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<v Speaker 1>have to say, Carson, stop talking. And I wonder if

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<v Speaker 1>that affected him, because now he's sometimes painfully shy, and

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<v Speaker 1>he's grown up and he's matured, and he realizes that

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<v Speaker 1>you can't be shy and be all the things that

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be. Yea, you can't be a shy CEO.

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<v Speaker 1>You got to kick some ass and you know, bust

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<v Speaker 1>some balls if you want to be a CEO. So

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<v Speaker 1>he's learned to kind of fake it, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's kind of what I learned to do. I was

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<v Speaker 1>very shy when I was just like him. I was

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<v Speaker 1>an obnoxious little fuck of a kid, always trying to

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<v Speaker 1>be funny, always getting in trouble, never serious trouble. But

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<v Speaker 1>then I became shy around high school, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>stayed shy until I learned how to not be shy

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<v Speaker 1>by talking to people on the radio. And now I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not shy. But I'm also not extroverted, right, No.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel that. I I mean, I've always been super obnoxious.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom would be like uh huh uh huh every

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<v Speaker 2>time I talked, and I think same thing. She thought,

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<v Speaker 2>this kid talks the way too much, but she never

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<v Speaker 2>called me out on it. And I still talk too much,

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<v Speaker 2>but now I am self conscious about it, so, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>just cute.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think talking too much is a good thing

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<v Speaker 1>in radio, and I always tell people in radio, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>rather have you talk too much and then have somebody

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<v Speaker 1>coach you to back it off a little bit than

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, give me something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like give me anything.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think three girls? I think anybody who

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<v Speaker 1>has two girls or two boys probably wants the third

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<v Speaker 1>one to be the other job.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I didn't think about that. Are they bombed?

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<v Speaker 1>No, they're not bummed.

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<v Speaker 2>At all.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but they girls run so heavy in my family.

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<v Speaker 1>I could read you the statistics from my grandparents, Helen

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<v Speaker 1>and Fred. They had probably Of all the siblings that

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<v Speaker 1>have expunged from uteruses since then, I'd say probably ninety

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<v Speaker 1>percent have been girls. Nice Chase had a girl, Beth

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<v Speaker 1>had one girl and a boy. Allison's got three girls.

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<v Speaker 1>My dad had four girls. His brother had four girls.

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<v Speaker 1>His other brother had four girls, three girls and an

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<v Speaker 1>adopted boy.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>So girls are very prevalent in our family.

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<v Speaker 2>Cool. They run the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, let's see what we got here. Are going to

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<v Speaker 1>push the right tab. Okay, here we go. Now this

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<v Speaker 1>goes back a little bit, and I promise to give

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<v Speaker 1>you an update on Wanita. Months ago did a rant

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<v Speaker 1>about how she was at Target and ran into a

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<v Speaker 1>little kid who was calling a bitch and a stupid

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<v Speaker 1>bitch and I want this, you bitch, bitch been so

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<v Speaker 1>Wannita stepped in and said, I am your worst enemy.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you talk to your mom that way. Fast forward,

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<v Speaker 1>they're at this convenience store somewhere Onannita runs into this mom.

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<v Speaker 1>The mom says, oh my god, you changed my kid.

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<v Speaker 1>He is now like you know, so much better, and

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<v Speaker 1>one Nita wrote in and told us about that. Now

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<v Speaker 1>we hear from the mom Wow, who also chance in

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<v Speaker 1>a million listens to the Minnesota Goodbye, and I promise

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<v Speaker 1>you I'm not making this up. I wouldn't make this up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not that creative. Please don't say my name. It's

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<v Speaker 1>my first time writing to your show. As a matter

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<v Speaker 1>of fact, I just started listening to your podcast since

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<v Speaker 1>I've been on medical leave. I heard a podcast featuring

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<v Speaker 1>Miss Juanita from December third entitled I'm Your Worst Nightmare.

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<v Speaker 1>This particular episode was very interesting to me because I

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<v Speaker 1>am that woman who had the unruly child target. I

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<v Speaker 1>always wanted to know who she is because she's my hero. Backstory,

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<v Speaker 1>my son is nine and for years all he heard

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<v Speaker 1>was his father called me all kinds of names like bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>hohor good for nothing. His dad was very negative and

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<v Speaker 1>physically and mentally abusive, and he would do this right

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<v Speaker 1>in front of our son, so quite naturally, my son

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<v Speaker 1>picked these names up from him. My husband, now, my

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<v Speaker 1>son's stepdad, is the complete opposite, and my son loves

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<v Speaker 1>him because he is still very but he still becomes

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<v Speaker 1>very disrespectful to me. In public when I don't let

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<v Speaker 1>him have his way. My current husband's tried talking to him,

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<v Speaker 1>and it works for a little while, and he goes

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<v Speaker 1>right back to the same thing. Fast forward to Jannita.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything she said in the podcast was true. She looked

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<v Speaker 1>my son dead in the eyes and said, if you

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<v Speaker 1>call this lady a bitch one more time, I will

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<v Speaker 1>rip your tongue out and wipe it with a clorox wipe.

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>He then tried to get smart with her and literally

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<v Speaker 1>pushed me to the side and got even closer to

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<v Speaker 1>his face, and she said, I'm the last woman you

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<v Speaker 1>want to curse at, because I can make your life

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<v Speaker 1>very hard. I'm your worst fucking nightmare. The whole store clapped,

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<v Speaker 1>and even though I was so embarrassed, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>thank her for doing that, because I've been not been

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<v Speaker 1>able to control him ever since that incident. I've not

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<v Speaker 1>heard a peep out of him at Homer in public.

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<v Speaker 1>Whenever we go go out. He looks around as if

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<v Speaker 1>he's looking to see if she's around, if she's listening.

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<v Speaker 1>If you read my email, I want to say say

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, miss Juanita, for straightening out my kid. I

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<v Speaker 1>also want to say I love your show and everyone

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<v Speaker 1>on it, and keep doing what you do. Also, if

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<v Speaker 1>there are any parents out there who have children that

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<v Speaker 1>are out of control, call Juanita. That is such a

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<v Speaker 1>great story that kind of came ship. Yeah, I will

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<v Speaker 1>say at nine years old, that little kid, it was

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<v Speaker 1>time he learned respect. I can almost see that from

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<v Speaker 1>a four or five year old, not that it's okay, no,

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<v Speaker 1>but from a nine year old.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you ever have friends that like kind of talk

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<v Speaker 2>back to their parents. I did, because every time I

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<v Speaker 2>went to a friend's house and they even like were

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<v Speaker 2>sarcastic to their parent, I would be like, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>believe you're talking to your mom like that. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>would not. I mean, I'm never got like whooped or anything,

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<v Speaker 2>but I can't imagine talking back to my mom. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't imagine I would have gotten into so much trouble.

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<v Speaker 2>So when I witnessed other kids doing it, oh believe it.

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<v Speaker 3>Never forget a Christmas one year, my older sister Rachel

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<v Speaker 3>said something kind of snarky to my mom, and the

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<v Speaker 3>next thing I know, I see like her and my

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<v Speaker 3>uncle coming out of like one of the bedrooms down

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<v Speaker 3>the hall, and she looks like frazzled. And then I

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<v Speaker 3>find out later that my uncle like pulled her to

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<v Speaker 3>the side and like scolded her and freaked out on

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<v Speaker 3>her for like disrespecting my mom.

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<v Speaker 4>And honestly, it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like a normal like kids situation, but he

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<v Speaker 3>was like going through some shit with like his kids

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<v Speaker 3>in a divorce and stuff, and I think he took

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<v Speaker 3>it out on my sister.

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<v Speaker 4>But for a while, it was really awkward.

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<v Speaker 3>With our uncle Joe, and he was like our favorite.

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<v Speaker 3>We loved him, and he like, in my opinion, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't think it was his place to do what he did,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was like a little bit awkward at family

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<v Speaker 3>holidays for a while because we were like kind of

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<v Speaker 2>Because he got mad. Yeah, okay, yeah, I was never

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<v Speaker 2>ever disrespectful of my dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Never he caught me flipping him off one time because

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<v Speaker 1>he was not I didn't expect him to show up

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<v Speaker 1>around the corner, but we were doing it's a long story.

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<v Speaker 1>He wanted me to do something. I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>do it, and so he said get outside and do

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<v Speaker 1>it now. So I had to go outside and do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was putting my shoes on and I flipped

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<v Speaker 1>him off from around the corner. And he came around

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<v Speaker 1>But my mom I would mouth off to her all

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<v Speaker 1>Lisa and if I could go back and tell my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>before they were finished. Anyway, I was listening. I want

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a woman, and I at the moment don't

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<v Speaker 1>makes me emphasis empathize with women who've had to endure

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<v Speaker 1>such a tragedy. I can't help specifically with this type

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<v Speaker 1>is trying to find something you know you love doing,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter what, and making time each day to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>When my father passed during COVID, I had to force

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<v Speaker 1>myself to go outside. Luckily, I have dogs that needed walking,

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<v Speaker 1>allowing me to clear my mind and get fresh air

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<v Speaker 1>listening to music that makes me happy. Like Dave says,

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<v Speaker 1>motion equals emotion. Again, I'm not saying this is the

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<v Speaker 1>did as part of my grieving process. Another suggestion from

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<v Speaker 1>my therapist is to give yourself some time alone where

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<v Speaker 1>you allow yourself to cry. Instead of bottling up those

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<v Speaker 1>a necessary part of grieving. So allow a few minutes

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<v Speaker 1>clean yourself up, and move on to another task you

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<v Speaker 4>That's really nice advice.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give you some advice on when your parents die. Okay, Now,

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<v Speaker 1>neither of you two are parents, so you wouldn't quite

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<v Speaker 1>and if you're a parent, you will understand this too.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a friend, Denise, that I've known since junior

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<v Speaker 1>high and Denise's you know, about my age and her

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<v Speaker 1>and that's wonderful than whatever. But as a parent, I

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<v Speaker 1>Because if I think of like when I die one day,

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<v Speaker 1>I demand it. I demand they be sad and cry

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<v Speaker 1>it for a short time. But then I want them

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<v Speaker 1>to be happy because I do not want the idea

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<v Speaker 1>So one day, if you you know, if you lose

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<v Speaker 1>they will want you to be okay. They will not

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<v Speaker 1>want you to eternally be affected. They want you to

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<v Speaker 1>be the same person. They want you to be happy.

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<v Speaker 1>So one day, when Sin goes to the big landscape

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<v Speaker 1>in the sky, you can be you know, she demands

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<v Speaker 1>that you'd be sad for a period of time, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>and then get on with being Jenny. Yeah, okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's going to do it for the Minnesota Goodbye. What

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<v Speaker 1>do we miss? Is there anything that you thought of

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<v Speaker 1>that we should talk about? Send an email to Ryan's

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<v Speaker 1>show at kadiwb dot com.