Speaker 1: I was. I use this app called Marco Polo, and
Speaker 1: Marco Polo is basically it is a video messaging app
Speaker 1: where it's one way at a time. It's not like FaceTime.
Speaker 1: I send you a video message and then you send
Speaker 1: me a video message and back and forth. It's it's
Speaker 1: really cool. It's free. It's called Marco Polo. So I'm
Speaker 1: Marco Polo with a couple of friends through the week
Speaker 1: and a friend of mine yesterday, she's a teacher. She said,
Speaker 1: I woke up in a terrible mood. Oh, and then
Speaker 1: she went to school and she had a terrible day
Speaker 1: at school, and and so I think I wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about waking up in a terrible moody. I never
Speaker 1: wake up in a terrible mood. And I think it's
Speaker 1: because I have happy dreams and I can't remember them specifically.
Speaker 1: But I have pretty happy dreams. And I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's like I'm seeing like old friends or family
Speaker 1: or what it is. But do you wake up in
Speaker 1: a good mood? Do you have happy dreams? Jenny? Do
Speaker 1: you remember your dreams?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 4: I do remember a lot of dreams, but usually I
Speaker 4: don't usually have very happy dreams. Oh no, really, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm a pretty anxious person, so sleeping's not my friend
Speaker 4: A lot of times.
Speaker 1: Oh really yeah.
Speaker 4: Usually I get through like the first handful of hours
Speaker 4: where if I am dreaming, I don't remember it, but
Speaker 4: the later hours where it's like starting to approach me
Speaker 4: waking up, those usually turn into like more nightmares for me.
Speaker 1: Odd really yeah.
Speaker 4: Especially if I if I wake up on the weekend.
Speaker 4: I'll wake up at like six a lot of times
Speaker 4: in the weekend, and then maybe I'll fall back asleep
Speaker 4: for like an hour or two sometimes, and those times
Speaker 4: I always have crazy dreams because my body's like, just
Speaker 4: get up at six, yeah, and I don't, And so
Speaker 4: then I go back to sleep and it's kind of
Speaker 4: like punishing me for not getting up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well that sucks. I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but what about you, Bailey.
Speaker 2: I don't really dream a lot, so I don't really
Speaker 2: remember my dreams. But I can wake up in a bad,
Speaker 2: bad mood only because it's hard for me to get up.
Speaker 2: But once I am up, I'm fine, But like just
Speaker 2: the getting out of bed is hard, and I'll be like, no,
Speaker 2: I don't want to.
Speaker 1: I've learned over the years not to lay in bed
Speaker 1: and languish about how it sucks to get out of bed.
Speaker 1: I maybe lay there for thirty seconds, then I stretch
Speaker 1: a little bit and then I'm up because you know,
Speaker 1: for people, yeah, I guess. So. I mean, I've been
Speaker 1: getting up out of bed early for forty one years.
Speaker 1: And was talking to another friend and she is around
Speaker 1: my age, and she's like, I can't wait to retire
Speaker 1: so I don't have to get up. She's like, I've
Speaker 1: been getting up early for forty years, and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it sucks. And one day you I guess, you know,
Speaker 1: you look forward to the day you don't have to.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but then you are bored anyway.
Speaker 1: Well, then I look at somebody like fallen or cold,
Speaker 1: and they don't have to get up early. I mean,
Speaker 1: Falin's got a kid, not that young of a kid.
Speaker 3: Well, she also does the Jason shows.
Speaker 1: Well she does. She's not up at four thirty.
Speaker 3: Oh not that, but I mean she's still up, yeah.
Speaker 1: But probably realistically, like what wouldn't it be great to
Speaker 1: sleep until six thirty? Hell yeah, I mean that would
Speaker 1: be great if I could sleep until six thirty. That's
Speaker 1: sleeping late on a weekday. People are like, I got
Speaker 1: up early. I got up at six thirty. Yeah, that's early,
Speaker 1: but not compared to like four thirty is when I
Speaker 1: get out of bed.
Speaker 4: I think anytime before six am is too early. Yes,
Speaker 4: I think six am is kind of the cut off
Speaker 4: for me where I'm like, Okay, I could do this
Speaker 4: regularly and not hate it, But before six am, I'm like,
Speaker 4: fuck this when my alarm's going home.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And the dream that I have, and I usually
Speaker 1: have very happy dreams, and they usually consist of about
Speaker 1: the same thing. I'm trying to go somewhere, but I'm
Speaker 1: not packed, and I got to get packed, and I
Speaker 1: got to get all my stuff together, and some of
Speaker 1: it's over here and some's down the street. But it's
Speaker 1: not a stressful dream. That's a happy dream, I guess.
Speaker 1: So No, And they never make sense because I'm back
Speaker 1: at my mom and dad's house in the yard. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I've got to go get like the chickens and
Speaker 1: put them in the truck and we'ich is stupid shit
Speaker 1: that doesn't make any sense. But one that I have consistently,
Speaker 1: and it's radio people call it the dream. But I'll
Speaker 1: bet a lot of people have this in your career too,
Speaker 1: And that is the dream where you're on the radio
Speaker 1: but you don't have anything ready, long is running out,
Speaker 1: there's dead air, you don't have anything to play. Everything
Speaker 1: you try to play doesn't work, or it's two seconds long,
Speaker 1: or it's a song like that you shouldn't play on KATIEWB.
Speaker 1: Last night, I had a dream that I kept playing
Speaker 1: the same song over and over while I was looking
Speaker 1: for something else to do, and I was trying to
Speaker 1: edit something. So it's the dream where nothing is going right.
Speaker 2: That's the actor's dream where you find out that you're
Speaker 2: going to go on stage but you don't have your
Speaker 2: lines memorized because they're telling you last second, like you're
Speaker 2: going on for Juliet and you're on in twenty minutes,
Speaker 2: and you're like, ooh, so that's I think funny because
Speaker 2: that's the actors the dream.
Speaker 3: Is that O great?
Speaker 4: Yeah, every industry has that because there's server nightmares too,
Speaker 4: where you literally can't get to your table on time
Speaker 4: to greet them. They're waiting for thirty minutes, and then
Speaker 4: somebody needs a ranch and for some reason you can't
Speaker 4: get to the kitchen to get the ranch for them yeah,
Speaker 4: every industry I think has some form of a dreamage.
Speaker 1: I'll bet it's true, and I'll bet most people. And
Speaker 1: we've brought up this several times on the show. Where
Speaker 1: it's a few days before graduation. You haven't gone to
Speaker 1: class in months, you don't know where your locker is,
Speaker 1: you don't know what your combination is, you're not sure
Speaker 1: what your schedule is. But you need to go to
Speaker 1: the front office to find your schedule and get your
Speaker 1: locker combination. And you've only got three days until you graduate,
Speaker 1: and you haven't been to school since last October.
Speaker 2: You were like, I was enrolled in that class. I
Speaker 2: didn't even remember I was enrolled in that class.
Speaker 1: Yeah, gosh. Yeah. The funny thing is my dad lived
Speaker 1: into his eighties and he said he had that dream
Speaker 1: still in his eighties.
Speaker 2: Wow, Like wow, most of your life?
Speaker 1: Yeah, school? All right, email, Here we go with some
Speaker 1: of the emails on the Minnesota Goodbye. Let's start off
Speaker 1: with this one. I listened to the I'm Still Fun podcast.
Speaker 1: I heard Jenny talking about her breakup, Jenny talking about
Speaker 1: being friends with different life stages now that she is.
Speaker 1: Then Jenny spoke about her friends being at different life
Speaker 1: stages than she is now with her recent breakup. I
Speaker 1: got divorced at twenty nine years old. Everybody else was
Speaker 1: settling down or having a ton of fun in their twenties,
Speaker 1: and I felt like this old man because I was
Speaker 1: divorced and young. Now I'm in my mid thirties, I'm
Speaker 1: still single, and I can relate to Ginny when she
Speaker 1: spoke about feeling like a burden to people who are
Speaker 1: settled down, tell me more about that.
Speaker 4: I just feel like, you know, the last time I
Speaker 4: was single, people were still out doing a lot of
Speaker 4: fun things and whatever, and now everyone's partnered up and
Speaker 4: I am obviously not going through like a great phase
Speaker 4: of my life. So I feel like I need support
Speaker 4: from people. I can't just sit at home by myself
Speaker 4: because I'm honestly not super happy right now. So I
Speaker 4: feel like I'm a burden asking friends to hang out
Speaker 4: who have a full life. They're married and they have kids,
Speaker 4: and they have a full schedule, whereas, like my schedule
Speaker 4: just completely changed to be wide open. I have no
Speaker 4: one to talk to and hang out with every day anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 4: so I feel like a burden when I reach out
Speaker 4: to my friends.
Speaker 1: Uh, Okay, well, they go on to talk about this.
Speaker 1: They said, I can relate to that. It sucks. Your
Speaker 1: life is so different than everybody else is around you,
Speaker 1: and you never planned on it being like this. The
Speaker 1: one mistake I made throughout the years when I felt
Speaker 1: lonely was to sit by myself. As you transition into
Speaker 1: this phase, realize you are not a burden and don't
Speaker 1: sit alone. I don't have a ton of advice to
Speaker 1: give because you got to do what's best for you.
Speaker 1: Everything will be good and you will adjust.
Speaker 3: Thanks. Yes, okay, I'm working on that.
Speaker 1: Another one. Let's see there was somebody who had a
Speaker 1: big list of piece of advice for you. Okay, here
Speaker 1: we go. Uh, Jenny, I know you've probably had numerous
Speaker 1: people reach out since you made a public that you
Speaker 1: are single again. I am another voice in the sea
Speaker 1: of people who've experienced immense heartbreak. Many of these messages
Speaker 1: will say you're not alone, But I understand that none
Speaker 1: of these messages mine included, will take away from the
Speaker 1: emptiness of losing your best friend. The cold spot in
Speaker 1: bed will not be replaced by any of our words.
Speaker 1: Believe me when I'd say I've been there and just there,
Speaker 1: just there is exactly how I felt numb to the
Speaker 1: world around me. I analyze beyond comprehension. I search for
Speaker 1: answers among security and countless other things that could not
Speaker 1: be found. I wish I could say I navigated the
Speaker 1: journey of losing my very soon to be husband like
Speaker 1: a pro. I wish I could say that I completely
Speaker 1: recovered and give you promises of a fabulous future you deserve.
Speaker 1: The truth is I can't and nobody can. What I
Speaker 1: can say is the whole in my heart has become
Speaker 1: smaller over the years, and while the scars remain, I
Speaker 1: learned how to love myself more. Still a work in process,
Speaker 1: and even as a fellow anxiety beneficiary, I like that
Speaker 1: I found a peace and contentment that never existed before. Life,
Speaker 1: for better or worse, it's full of twists and turns,
Speaker 1: and all we can do is try our best to
Speaker 1: roll with the punches without letting it drag us down.
Speaker 1: I could throw out countless cliches that we've all heard before,
Speaker 1: but the truth is you will find your own way.
Speaker 1: We all do. Having been an avid listener for many years,
Speaker 1: I feel confident in knowing the strength you possess. It
Speaker 1: shows whether you believe it or not. Take the time
Speaker 1: to grieve, cry, search, engage, and heal your heart. And
Speaker 1: if you need a good heartbreak playlist mainly country, I'm
Speaker 1: your Girl. Godspeed from Lisa.
Speaker 3: Thanks Lisa, I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's see if there's anything else there are. I
Speaker 1: just had to go. I'm trying to go in certainly
Speaker 1: different kinds of order here. Okay. Random thought. I realize
Speaker 1: today that my life is completely mundane. When I tell
Speaker 1: you this is a different one, it's a different one.
Speaker 1: Here we go. I came to this realization driving down
Speaker 1: the same boring roads I always do, and I've found
Speaker 1: myself creating stories that I made up in my head
Speaker 1: about people who live in the houses. For example, I
Speaker 1: made this up. There are these two neighbors who hate
Speaker 1: each other, probably hide fish heads in the air filter
Speaker 1: of each other's cars. One puts up Christmas lights, the
Speaker 1: other puts up a crazy Manger scene, and the other
Speaker 1: steals Baby Jesus. Recently, one painted the outside of their house.
Speaker 1: Two days later the other one did. The battle has
Speaker 1: gotten so bad that they literally on the same day
Speaker 1: both had for sale signs in their yard. Today, one
Speaker 1: Indica hate soul. The other has the for sales sign removed,
Speaker 1: then of course I zillowed that shit. Now, remember this
Speaker 1: is all made up in her head. None of this
Speaker 1: is real, needless to say, the only truth to this
Speaker 1: is the sale of the home and the one removed.
Speaker 1: I just want to hear about other people's drama. I
Speaker 1: don't want it in my life directly. I can't be alone.
Speaker 1: Do you guys make up random shit for your own entertainment?
Speaker 1: That is from Shannon? I do not, but I admire
Speaker 1: that you found something to make your life a little
Speaker 1: bit more fun and exciting.
Speaker 2: I don't go to that extreme, but I definitely look
Speaker 2: inside of people's houses when I go on really long walks,
Speaker 2: and you can see inside their houses, and I imagine.
Speaker 3: A new Steve Latar, I believe almost.
Speaker 2: Okay, sometimes those people, like if it's getting dark and
Speaker 2: you're like at dusk and they have all the lights
Speaker 2: on in their house, they want you to look in
Speaker 2: their house, like so you can see their piano or something,
Speaker 2: because it's always a fancy house.
Speaker 1: Well, I think we have the lights on in our house,
Speaker 1: you know sometimes at night, and I don't there's nothing
Speaker 1: that we're hiding so people want to look in Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it probably looks nice from the outside.
Speaker 2: I don't care if people look at single light like,
Speaker 2: first of all, why you got all the lights on?
Speaker 2: Second of all, yes, I'm going to make up what
Speaker 2: you're doing with your life and what you do for
Speaker 2: a living. Not to this extent, hey, I mean I
Speaker 2: commend you to this extent. That sounds fun. I love
Speaker 2: a day dream. I love that for you.
Speaker 1: There is a neighbor in our neighborhood that their lights
Speaker 1: around all the time, and they've lived there as long
Speaker 1: as we have. We've lived there twenty years and their
Speaker 1: lights and their kids are all grown now it's just
Speaker 1: the two of them. Every light on every floor is
Speaker 1: always on, and I wonder if it's not once in
Speaker 1: a while, it's all the time, except probably in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night. And I just wonder, do they
Speaker 1: have a fear of dark rooms or maybe he's got
Speaker 1: an anxiety about walking into a dark room or something,
Speaker 1: because that's not only it's expensive and it's not there's
Speaker 1: no need for it.
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, unless they're just like forgetful, they turn on
Speaker 2: a light, walk out, forget that they had it on.
Speaker 1: I got one more quickie. I'm catching up on a
Speaker 1: previous PEP episode and listening to a conversation about which
Speaker 1: job is the worst to do? Hungover, I got a story.
Speaker 1: I was twenty one, got drunk to the point of
Speaker 1: puking for the first time in my life. Next morning,
Speaker 1: at church, I was scheduled to serve communion. I was
Speaker 1: so hungover. I went up to the altar, hoping they'd
Speaker 1: give me the plate of wafers, but instead they gave
Speaker 1: me the platter of wine. Oh my gosh, so they
Speaker 1: could smell the wine. It took everything in power not
Speaker 1: to vomit all over in front of the church. I
Speaker 1: was gagging in between saying Blood of Christ, Blood of Christ,
Speaker 1: Blood of Christ. We still laugh about this a lot today.
Speaker 1: Have a great day. Thanks for always brightening my day.
Speaker 1: You're welcome, Sarah. Thank you for listening. Love to hear
Speaker 1: your emails. Send them to a Ryan Show at KDWB
Speaker 1: dot com for the Minnesota Goodbye.