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Speaker 1: I made a dicsion.

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Speaker 2: Sunny sound on my head vision.

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Speaker 1: It's nice. Hello everybody, and welcome to for crying out loud.

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If this sounds a little bit different, it's because it's me, Stephanie,

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and I'm opening the show and Lynette's not here because

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she's out of town on vacation horn around. I don't

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know what she's doing, but Julie Casem is here with me.

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Here I am.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna try and help help float the boat over here. Stephanie,

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I'm so excited about it.

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Speaker 1: You are the easiest because you're not really a guest,

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you're your co host. You're just my friend. Yeah, totally,

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we'll just shoot the ship. I don't mean just my friend.

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From the first time you ever came on this show,

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I don't even think you were nervous at all. You

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were just like, okay, what's up.

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Speaker 2: Well, you make it a very easy, chill environment, and

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your show is really just two women like chit chatting.

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Speaker 1: It's literally that.

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Speaker 2: That's why, like when you asked me to be on,

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I think last week, I was like, Okay, I'm not

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gonna call you so that we can just like talk

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here today and it's easy.

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Speaker 1: It is so easy. And we have a history. Yeah,

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we have so many stories and just so many random things.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking, so Bella's twenty one today, Oh my god,

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deser birth yes, and I know, and I was thinking, like,

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we celebrated Bella's second birthday together.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and now she's twenty one. I was just like,

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oh my god, almost twenty years of birthdays. This is crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So she's the first one of our, of the

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three of us, you, me and Laura, that's turning twenty one.

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So she's spending her birthday in London and she's just

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having a party at her apartment.

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Speaker 1: So she's like, she's so cute, love it. She's such

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like a betty homemaker.

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Speaker 2: She's like she went and got like decorations and two

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different kinds of cakes, and she's making because you know,

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it's close to her birthday. So she's making these little

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mummy hot dogs with little eyes on them, and she's

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doing little different like cocktails and then putting little signs

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for what the names are.

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Speaker 1: For all the cocktails.

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Speaker 2: And she's like, I'm very busy mom running around and

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she's very much like my mom because my mom was

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an event planner and so it's so cute to see

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her like momming it up and just like adulting out there.

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Speaker 1: So it's super cute. But yeah, twenty one. So what

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did are you getting her birthday present? Or did you

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just give her money or what?

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Speaker 2: So her birthday present was before she left. She left

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in August, and right before she left, there was I

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think it was Jesus Christ Superstar. Oh yeah, what it

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was at the Hollywood Bawl with like you know, Adam

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Lambert and I'm I am going to Butcher the woman

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who played Alpha in Wick. Oh my god, I can't

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give you Cynthia Revo. Oh yeah, yeah, And it was

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supposed to be someone else, but that person got COVID,

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so John Stamos.

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Speaker 1: Took his place. Anyway, it was the thing to see,

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Speaker 2: Surprised her with the tickets and she was like, oh

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my gosh. You know, so that was her birthday present.

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And then of course I felt bad that she didn't

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have anything over there, so I sent her the new

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everybody wants these pair of pajamas called roller Rabbit. Have

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you heard of this brand, Roller Rabbit? No, they're ridiculously expensive.

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Oh I mean not ridiculous, but they're very high priced

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pajamas with monkeys all over them.

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Speaker 1: I don't freaking know. So I got her a pair

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of roller rabbit pajamas. I have to say, through the years,

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you have always been my gift guide. Yeah, yeah, don't.

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I always call you every year before the holidays. What

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are you doing? What are you getting the kids?

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Speaker 2: And oh it's just like experiences. I think last year

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called about Xander. I was like, dude, is there a concert?

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Speaker 1: Don't know anymore I what they want? So yeah, that's

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so cool. So she loved that. But so you just

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called her for her birthday. So we hap she.

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Speaker 2: Happened to be awake at midnight London time, and so

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we facetimed her. Well literally, we were talking to her

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at eleven forty five pm and I was like, okay,

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i'll call you in fifteen minutes and we'll say, you know,

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happy birthday. So the three of us, Sophie, Jamila and

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of it, and we.

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Speaker 1: Just said happy birthday, and that was it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was super cute. And then I mean we

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talked like every single day anyway.

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Speaker 1: Then of course I called her when I woke up.

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I'm like, happy birthdays. If I didn't just talk to her,

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you know, six hours prior and like what else, that's it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's kind of weird, but she actually Okay. So

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my best friend Andrea Stephanie knows her well.

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Speaker 1: She was on your show. Do you remember she was

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on your show? She was on Parnal Discretion. Yeah, yeah, Yeah,

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she's very funny.

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Speaker 2: She's actually a lawyer by trade, but she should have

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been on SNL.

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Speaker 1: She did a bunch of hidden camera. Yes, she was

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our hidden camera person and she killed it. She's so

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funny and she's very deadpan. Yeah, and she's kind of

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I was I was almost going to say she's kind

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of Asian. She's Asian, so she has that like people

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just don't expect. Yes, it'd be like pocket right, So

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she seems really earnest, so yeah, should ask people questions

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and then they would just play it not know that

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she was fucking well.

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Speaker 2: I remember one of the skits was because I think

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she had had Stella at the time, who is now twelve.

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Speaker 1: Stella her daughter. So she had Stella in a babyborn right,

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and wasn't she.

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Speaker 2: Like at a hot dog stand at the Post Pinks.

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Speaker 1: And she was Stella was literally a baby.

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Speaker 2: I mean, this is you're not chewing food as a baby,

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eating baby food and nursing.

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Speaker 1: And she was like, huh, should get her the hot dog?

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Speaker 2: And she was like in line like asking people like

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I don't know, she get her a hot dog or

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like a hamburger, and everyone's like what, like they were.

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Speaker 1: Just and she played it so well. It was so awesome.

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And then she also did one that was really funny

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where she was at like Porto's Bakery and she was

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playing a really paranoid new mom. So she was asking

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everybody to stay a what like stand back from her,

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and she had like a little ruler. She was like

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I need I'm so sorry, I need everybody to be

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like at least a foot apart from me. And then

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she would pull out a role a ruler like measure

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measure and like go, could you hold this and like

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then stand at the end of it. Yeah, so good,

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did she ever break? I mean she was so good,

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doing it? She's so good.

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Speaker 2: So my point is, so she's been my friend since college,

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and she lives in Wales with her family now because

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her husband's he's from London, but they lived in Wales

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at one point anyway, so he's back in Wales. So

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Bella went and spent the weekend with them, and she

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made a cake for them and did all that stuff.

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Speaker 1: So that was kind of like her family birthday portion

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of the birthday. So oh, I thought you me and

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Bella made a cake for them. Oh no, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: Andrew made a cake for Bella and they like celebrated

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her birthday with her over the weekend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just rounding out the birthday story. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: So that's that's it, dude, your your daughter's next mine's

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coming up.

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Speaker 1: I know, so crazy. And I teached that night, so

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I was just saw lb she came home. I have

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to brag on her for a minute because I know

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I already said this on the podcast, but she I

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told you she was very close to quitting her job

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because she was like, I don't know how supposed to

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be in UCLA and drive out to Calabasas to work.

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It's just going to be impossible. And I understood.

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Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, I get it, you know, especially

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in traffic. Like if she's doing a night, like an

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evening shift, and she's leaving at like three pm from UCLA,

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that's an hour easily.

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Speaker 1: Yes. And I had told her I wasn't happy about

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it because I don't have that much money to burn,

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right on top of the tuition and paying for her

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apartment and her phone a lot with all her bills.

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I was like, this is her last year in college?

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Am I going to really like the problem was that

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the restaurant wouldn't give her like very reduced hours. Oh okay.

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They were like, we can't. We can't be short a hostess,

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this is what she wanted to do. So anyway, and

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then I think I told you on the podcast that

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she'd gone in there and they had said, hey, maybe

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we could move you to a different location. Oh yeah,

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or maybe and then she might get trained as a

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food expediter, which pays a little more. Long story short,

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she didn't quit. She's making it work. She's working like

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three ships a week. Wow, she's being so responsible. So yesterday,

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but she's don't worry. She's not sacrificing. She's going to raves.

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I think what she likes about it is now her

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life isn't which I kind of thought it would be,

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like or it's she gets to combine it. So she

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still has her friends, you know, her LA friends. Yeah,

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they're not at school with her. She has her UCLA life,

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but she's also able to still go to Raves because

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she has many yeah yeah, yeah. She goes to work

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and she has her coworkers, and personally, I think it's

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kind of the best thing. You know.

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year of college too, you're kind of like moving on

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a little bit from like being so like invested in

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the college atmosphere and you're kind of like, Okay, I'm

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so involved in the school and more about like setting

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up what's coming after.

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Speaker 1: So I think that's that.

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Speaker 2: Makes a lot of sense for her. Because like I

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think when you're a freshman and maybe a sophomore, there's

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so many more like Okay, we're gonna go to Rockos tonight, Okay,

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we're all going to this party, and Okay, you know,

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by the time you're a senior. So I think for her,

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it's probably less temptation at school to want to do

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all things UCLA because like I feel like, by the

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time you're a fourth year, you're kind of been there,

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done that. I mean, I know she's it's her second

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year at UCLA, but still, but right, it's kind of

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like everybody's doing their own thing at this point. A

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lot of people love boyfriend and girlfriends and they're like,

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you know, spending time there. I feel like you're kind

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of matured to the point where you're kind of like

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been there, done that, and you're just like ready to

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move on with your life. So maybe she's also found

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like it's less of a pull to like, no, no, mom,

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I need to be invested with all the time because

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there's so much going on. Maybe she's kind of less

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in that mode too, so it's easier to leave and

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go to work because you're like, well, there's not that

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much going on at UCLA anyway for seniors, you know,

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Speaker 1: Said before, I think like what Bella's doing, Bella's being

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in London and she's you know, having all these experiences,

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and school becomes a smaller part, especially if they're not

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training for an actual career, like if you're not going

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figuring out what you like, and you know, so I

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and networking with people, and she's always meeting with people,

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better place for me. Yes, yeah, And if she was

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to give up everything and be in school like well, because.

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she knows she wants to be either a social worker

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or going to psychology or human resources, and she's looking

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for grad school, well then she would be right now

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taking for the most some you know schools require the

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gr gre and then she's doing applications right now for

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graduate school, and like she her her major is not

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her career, right now. So yeah, it can just be like,

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let me get through these classes, let me take you know,

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what I need to take, and just take my tests,

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and it's a I feel like it's a little different

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mindset because she now wants to go more into music,

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the music industry right ideally in an ideal world.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't know. I think she just wants

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to have like a like we all do. She wants

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to have a fun job around the kind of stuff

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that she's interested in interested in.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so I kind of I kind of get

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where the like you said, the focus is less about

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school for her, because it makes sense she's not like

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on a specific track at this moment to hit up

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graduate school or law school or med school or exactly.

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Speaker 1: So before I think she was in a good place

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before she went to Pierce. I mean she met with

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a counselor who basically gave her the advice do whatever

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you do in college, just do something that is interesting

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to you and comes easily to you. It doesn't matter

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for your career because, like you said, you can go

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to grad school. Yeah, unless unless you have a really focus,

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like you want to get you know what, you're a lawyer,

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are very specific. It doesn't matter. Yeah, it really doesn't matter.

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She's like, do something that you will do well in. Yeah,

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it's important that you get good grades.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and something you're interested in, right, And I think sociologies.

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thought it was really interesting.

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Speaker 1: Olbie loves it. Yeah. Right now she's in a sociology

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of crime class. Oh, oh my gosh, how cool. Yeah,

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and my friend Tamra did one that was like sociology

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of deviant deviants, which she recommended to LB. Oh cool,

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look out for that. Yeah, because Tamra is and she's

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in school to be a sociologist as she's taking she's

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majoring in sociology right now, went back to school. Does

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she want to be a social worker? Is that what

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she's No, she originally thought she wanted to be a librarian. Okay.

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Speaker 2: I actually a really good friend of mine is a

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full on library and has a master's degree in it.

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Works at a public library in the valley.

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Speaker 1: She's a full on library at level. Yeah. Tamra's not

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sure if she now if she wants to do that,

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but she is going to go to she is going

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to get a master's. Yeah, I love that. Oh my god,

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how fun. Good for her? I know?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so LB So she's still going to raves

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and still doing her thing.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, listen to this, Like you're not going

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to listen, Well, let me take off my headphones because

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I really don't want to listen. She went to a

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rave in San Diego this weekend by herself.

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Speaker 2: What I like, She drove three hour went to a raven,

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drove home, yes, by herself.

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Speaker 1: Were you freaked out? I wouldn't. I didn't so scared.

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I didn't know it until after the fact because me

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here's how it went down. She was like, yeah, I'm

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gonna go to this. She went to a show the

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night before. She's she's on a little kick, okay, and

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then she the next day she was she slept at

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our house, and then in the morning she got ready

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and she was like, I'm gonna go do my makeup

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at my friend Lizzie's house. Lizzie's and I was like, okay,

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and then they're gonna, I guess they're gonna drive together

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to San Diego to this rave. Well it turned out,

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and I, like I said, I didn't.

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Speaker 2: Because Lizzie lives down south right, Lizzie is in school

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at Irvine. Okay, so yeah, so she lives down but

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we're yeah, so that's halfway to say, not halfway yes.

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Speaker 1: But it turns out that she was literally going to

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visit say hi to Lizzie on her way to this rave.

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I guess she had another friend that was gonna come,

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but then at the last minute couldn't. So she was like, well,

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I'm gonna go.

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Speaker 2: This is the same kid that was could not go

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to the beach, couldn't do so many things, hated Dora

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at my at Bella's second birthday, scared the crap out

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of her is driving down to San Diego and going

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to a rave with thousands of people. Randos Wow, I wow.

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Speaker 1: Said that to her. I was like, Lbie, I cannot

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believe how far you've come. I am. Oh, my god,

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a way that you went by yourself. Yet she was like,

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I know, I was really proud of myself. She said, Oh,

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the worst part was just the anticipation of, like God,

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figuring out like where I'm going to park, and like

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the same thing that everybody with anxiety feels, especially you. Yeah,

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but she was like, I knew I really really wanted

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to see this show. Wow, a couple of DJs that

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I guess she really likes. I won't even pretend to

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know know who they are. I will say knock Too

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was one of them. Okay, yeah, So apparently she didn't

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like not tell me on purpose, but it just didn't.

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So she drove down there. She went and said hi

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to her friend. So I spoke to her at like midnight,

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I guess because I was like, hey, are you still

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coming home? Yeah, because she said the show ended at

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ten and then she was going to sleep at home. Okay,

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she did sleep at home, so like I guess it

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was like midnight, she still was in San Diego. So

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I got her and I was like, are you still

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sleeping at home? I want to know if we should

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not set the alarm. Yeah. She was like, yeah, I'm

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just grabbing. I'm just I was star of some grabbing McDonald's.

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And I said, oh, I said are you Are you

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not with Lizzie And she was like no, it's just me.

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Oh my god, Oh my god. Were you so scared

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for her to drive home? Oh my mind? I was like, oh,

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I guess Lizzie is with her boyfriend. Like I guess

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they all met down there driving separately because they're going

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I don't know what I was thinking, but I wasn't

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thinking she was by herself. So I didn't find out

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till the next day. So she got home.

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Speaker 2: My god, are you so happy she didn't tell you?

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Because I write, how would you have slept knowing she's driving.

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Speaker 1: I knew that she wasn't drinking and she wasn't going

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to do anything. And because I knew, she said, I'm driving,

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so I'm not going to be drinking at all. Yeah,

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but she can't. So the next morning I was going

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to go to breakfast with her. I ended up taking

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her and Sadie and Xander to breakfast. And I only

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found out like in the morning. I was like, wow,

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where's Lizzie, Like where's Lizzie so? And she was like,

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I wasn't with Lizzie. And I was like, oh, who

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did you go with? And she goes, I just went

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by myself. And that's when I was like, I'll be

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what what I cannot I? Oh my god, I cannot

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believe she did that.

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Speaker 2: And to drive home from San Diego at midnight, I

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mean it probably took two hours because there's no traffic.

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Speaker 1: Two and a half maybe maybe less, no, less less,

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that's still crazy exactly two hours? Wow, wow God.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if she loves it that much, it'd be

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so great if she could get into like concert promotions.

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I mean, because if you're loving it that much, you

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want to hire someone like Elbie who knows everything about everything,

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wants to go to all the shows, wants to.

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Speaker 1: Like just be in it in the environment. That's amazing. Well,

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remember I told you she applied for an internship at Insomniac,

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which is yeah, copy that puts on all these shows.

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But then she was too nervous to walk in there

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and give her give a resume, yeah flight online. Yeah,

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I get it. They'll never know how cute you are,

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Like you don't walk in there. And she was like, mom,

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it's just not nobody does that. What if she's like,

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you're like, put on your.

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Speaker 2: Rave outfit, walk in there and just be like, oh sorry,

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I just got back from a rave.

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Speaker 1: I just want to hand this in totally. I mean,

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they would have to hire her just based on that list. Yeah,

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that's so funny, douse, Bella. Is Bella still like auditioning

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for stuff?

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Speaker 2: No, she actually told so she hasn't an agent that

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is for acting and voiceovers. But this agent is more

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for like eighteen and under and Bella's like twenty one.

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But they're kind of like friends of friends, so they're like, well,

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we'll send you out, you know, for things that we have.

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So she's not a doesn't have a full on like

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acting agent where she's going on a million auditions, but

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she does get acting auditions, but she said, I'm can

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I you know, they call it booking out for the

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whole time that she's in London, and so they're like, yes,

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book out, Go enjoy yourselves and we're not.

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Speaker 1: Going to send you anything. Just go have fun. And

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so she's not auditioning right now. I feel like she

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would want to maybe audition for some local like some

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plays in London.

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Speaker 2: In London, not really because you know, you have to rehearse,

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right and then you have to do the shows. And

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if they're like, well we're rehearsing now for a January

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show or whatever, she can't really do that. And I

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don't even know where you'd begin trying to find the

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shows besides online. And just like you've been auditioning your

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entire life, and you've been in shows your entire life,

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like just go enjoy, because she wouldn't be able to

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really enjoy the full experience if she was in a show,

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then she wouldn't be able to go away on the weekends,

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and she wouldn't be able to, like, you know, just

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enjoy the friends she's meeting and go to pubs, like

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you know, she's going to like pubs and like just

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living trying to like live like the London life, you know,

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to certain extent.

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Speaker 1: And so she wouldn't be able to.

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Speaker 2: Because if you're in a show, you're rehearsing seven days

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a week, and it's NonStop, and it's seven to eleven

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pm every single night, and then you're there all day

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Saturdays and Sundays, and then forget tech rehearsal.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's just you know, you know, you've done

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all that with LB and the kids and stuff.

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Speaker 2: So she have like a fake accent, yet could you

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imagine she's like mom she starts calling.

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Speaker 1: Me, Mommy, I've got to take the lift. Yeah exactly,

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I'm in the tube.

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Speaker 2: Not at all actually, because you know, she's around all Americans,

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right for the most part, right, right's going to come

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home for Christmas, or she's saying she's done.

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Speaker 1: She comes home in December because it's just a semester.

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Oh yeah, that's like a short semester. August to December.

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It's like a typical semester. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Wow, she just flies by, I know. So we'll go

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out there in November and then two weeks later she's home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but she loves it. She's like, she's so cute.

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She sent a text She's like, thank you guys so

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much for letting me come here. I love it here.

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I'm so happy. Like she's like, I could live here.

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She loves it so much. She just loves it. She's

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just such a positive kid though. In general, she's just

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like when she went to New York, she was like,

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I'm a New Yorker. I want to live in New York. Yes,

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I tell yeah.

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Speaker 2: She's Elvi's the same way, Like they're just she was

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born with eyes wide open for the world, and she's

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just like I just want to see and experience everything,

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and everything is magical and amazing. She's got rose colored glasses.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, let's let's take a moment to talk about

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her hers because everywhere you look and case in point

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and I'm very seriously considering, I mean thanked about it

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last week and everybody gave me so much positive reinforcement

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of how much they love it. And Hers is transforming

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and plan purchased. I had to say that, Yeah, So.

481
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Speaker 2: Any anything new with Sophie, Okay, let's see so Sophie

482
00:24:30,039 --> 00:24:32,440
applied to her school, the one she wants to go

483
00:24:32,559 --> 00:24:33,559
to early decision.

484
00:24:33,799 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm excited about that.

485
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:37,599
Speaker 2: I wish we could just find out so we could

486
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,039
just stop the rest of the applications if she gets in,

487
00:24:40,279 --> 00:24:41,240
because it's.

488
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: Such a pain in the ass.

489
00:24:43,519 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 2: When are they So, when did they tell you? Early December?

490
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:47,799
Sometime in December?

491
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:48,279
Speaker 1: Okay?

492
00:24:48,519 --> 00:24:51,279
Speaker 2: She looked it up and it said late December. But

493
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,680
I don't know how that works if everybody's on vacation.

494
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 1: Around the holiday.

495
00:24:54,319 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 2: So I don't know if it's like mid December or

496
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,640
like when everybody gets back from holidays. Actually I don't

497
00:24:58,640 --> 00:24:59,960
really know, but it's in December.

498
00:25:00,799 --> 00:25:01,599
Speaker 1: So she's doing that.

499
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 2: What else is going on with her? She's same old,

500
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:05,839
same old.

501
00:25:05,839 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 1: She's cheerleading.

502
00:25:06,519 --> 00:25:08,640
Speaker 2: So we're going to all the football games on Friday nights,

503
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:13,319
which honestly is so cute and like it's really fun.

504
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:17,240
I mean, our team is, you know, we're not great,

505
00:25:17,319 --> 00:25:20,559
we're all right, but it's more fun to like hang

506
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:22,799
with all the parents and just chit chat while the

507
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:25,960
game is going on and watch art girls cheerleading and

508
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:27,640
so that's fun.

509
00:25:27,759 --> 00:25:31,119
Speaker 1: So she's doing that and kind of same old, same old,

510
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:31,720
just applying.

511
00:25:31,799 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 2: Really, I mean, I feel like applications are like taking

512
00:25:34,279 --> 00:25:36,000
over our lives to a certain extent.

513
00:25:36,079 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, really so because Xander and Sadie have

514
00:25:40,559 --> 00:25:43,680
only applied to one school so far. Yeah, so Sophie's

515
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:48,160
done a bunch. Well, she's done a few, that's the thing.

516
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 2: No, because like then there's Chapman, which you have to do,

517
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,960
uh supplementals, and you have to do a creative portfolio

518
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,960
because she's she's applying as a creative producing major to Chatman.

519
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,160
Oh wow, yeah, so you have to have some sort

520
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:07,480
of like portfolio. Honestly, I don't even know. I wish

521
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,279
I knew, but she's like, I have to record something

522
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,240
for it, blah blah blah blah blah. So those she's

523
00:26:12,279 --> 00:26:15,079
still working on. But ones that she can knock out

524
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,799
that have like one supplemental, you know, one extra question.

525
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,200
Those kinds of ones, she can like get those out

526
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,160
of the way. But the ones that are a little

527
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:26,640
more and like USC has all these you know, when

528
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:30,160
you're going to creative major, you have you know. So anyway,

529
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:31,920
so she still has to do all of that. Which

530
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:32,799
ones did they apply to?

531
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 1: Xander applied to SDSU. Nice, Okay, he applied to ce soun.

532
00:26:40,519 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 2: Okay, great, Okay, I'm so curious what is is she

533
00:26:43,559 --> 00:26:45,920
is Sadie applying with a major or is she just

534
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:47,519
applying undeclared?

535
00:26:47,599 --> 00:26:50,079
Speaker 1: Does she kind of know? I am not one hundred

536
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:53,799
percent sure she might have done undeclared? Okay, okay, I.

537
00:26:53,799 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 2: Don't even know if you have to apply for the

538
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,160
cal States. I don't know if you have to have

539
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:57,960
a major when you apply.

540
00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 1: I wants to do some kind of visual arts, yes,

541
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,759
as she should he or something like that, but she's

542
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:08,000
not gonna, I don't. I think she is trying to

543
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,480
build a portfolio.

544
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 2: Nice a photography, Yes, that's so awesome. Step Sophie's friend

545
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:18,759
is applying in photography so like or just just in

546
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,440
general yeah yeah, yeah, so yeah. I think he has

547
00:27:21,519 --> 00:27:22,680
like some sort of portfolio.

548
00:27:22,799 --> 00:27:24,799
Speaker 1: That's so cool. I love that for her.

549
00:27:25,599 --> 00:27:27,759
Speaker 2: I think she would be so I mean she's just

550
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,440
seeing her and how she dresses and her hair and

551
00:27:30,519 --> 00:27:31,039
her makeup.

552
00:27:31,039 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just like in her to do something

553
00:27:33,759 --> 00:27:33,960
like that.

554
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 2: I know.

555
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:37,319
Speaker 1: I think she would be so happy. And it's my

556
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:40,039
kids are not the biggest go getter. I mean Xander

557
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,680
is a go getter. But he told me the other

558
00:27:42,799 --> 00:27:47,240
day he was just like I feel and you know, relatable,

559
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:51,160
but he's like, I just feel kind of overwhelmed and

560
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,079
sort of stuck. Like he's like, I don't feel motivated.

561
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,799
There's so much stuff I have to do, work and

562
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,240
obligations and the college stuff that I feel like when

563
00:28:02,279 --> 00:28:04,160
I have time to do it, like I don't want

564
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:05,240
to do it. Well.

565
00:28:05,319 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 2: It's also because the college applications are not just sitting

566
00:28:08,039 --> 00:28:10,279
down and filling stuff out. I mean you have to

567
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,359
like we know, you have to write the essay and

568
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,680
then you have to write supplementals and it's like it

569
00:28:14,759 --> 00:28:18,519
takes a lot of brain power and creativity and it's

570
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:22,160
I would imagine it sounds when you go to sit

571
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,599
down you're just overwhelmed with the.

572
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,759
Speaker 1: Sheer number of things you have to do. And did

573
00:28:26,799 --> 00:28:27,720
you get your transcripts?

574
00:28:27,759 --> 00:28:30,880
Speaker 2: And did you fill out your the sra or whatever

575
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:32,599
it's called the sra ar where you have to like

576
00:28:32,839 --> 00:28:34,319
put every I don't know if you still have to

577
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,640
do this, but you put every single class you took

578
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,519
and the grade you got in that class, and it's

579
00:28:39,279 --> 00:28:43,079
it sounds overwhelming. So I'm sure for for Xander when

580
00:28:43,359 --> 00:28:46,319
when he says that it's it's real. Those that's real,

581
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:49,200
you know, and they don't they have school counselors, but

582
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:52,599
they don't have the extra counselor, right, like helping them,

583
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:54,400
Like you didn't pay for a counselor this year, right

584
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:58,839
because they their school has a better like most schools

585
00:28:58,880 --> 00:28:59,599
don't have good.

586
00:29:00,119 --> 00:29:02,559
Speaker 1: Right. They have a program where you have a humbler

587
00:29:03,279 --> 00:29:05,920
who founded the school who sits down with each kid.

588
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,680
You get two different meetings with her, Yeah, and then

589
00:29:08,799 --> 00:29:10,799
she guides everybody along the way, and then there's a

590
00:29:10,839 --> 00:29:14,039
bunch of stuff for parents. But it's still like he's

591
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:18,160
working on his essays. Yeah, for his piqs. That's okay,

592
00:29:18,519 --> 00:29:23,079
Insight questions for the UC system for anyone who's not familiar,

593
00:29:23,279 --> 00:29:28,160
it's three hundred and fifty word maximum. So it's really

594
00:29:28,279 --> 00:29:30,279
like a question that you have to answer, but you

595
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:32,720
have to there's a weight you have to gain the system,

596
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:35,720
Like there's a way to answer those questions that hits

597
00:29:35,799 --> 00:29:39,039
on these like seven things that they're looking for. Which

598
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:40,839
that woman Melissa that I think I.

599
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 2: Yes, Sophie used her for her ny USA, Oh and

600
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,720
y I think Laura told me about her Sophie loved her.

601
00:29:48,559 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's the one that Amarol Amarole. That's her name,

602
00:29:52,519 --> 00:29:55,559
Melissa Amarol Ama r A L.

603
00:29:55,920 --> 00:30:00,599
Speaker 2: I think she did like admissions for some league schools.

604
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:02,400
At one point she was on the admission board for

605
00:30:02,519 --> 00:30:03,960
this and so she knows she's good.

606
00:30:04,039 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 1: She knows what they're looking for with the with the

607
00:30:06,599 --> 00:30:09,519
you with because I originally came to her just last year,

608
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:13,000
just for LB, just for the UC. Okay, she needs

609
00:30:13,039 --> 00:30:16,200
somebody who can help her like home run, Yeah, sees,

610
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,920
because I was not that helpful to her, I think

611
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:20,920
the first year. Yeah, I was like, you want to

612
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,480
be creative, you want to have a great like a

613
00:30:22,519 --> 00:30:26,440
funny opening line like now, I don't think so. I

614
00:30:26,559 --> 00:30:28,880
think I was dis guided, But.

615
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 2: That doesn't seem unreasonable that you would want a little creativity,

616
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,039
you would want it to be a little humorous. Like

617
00:30:36,039 --> 00:30:38,119
it's too bad that they're kind of like, nah, don't

618
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,960
go that route because like, Okay, So my friend Andrea

619
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:43,799
that I was telling you guys about, she's in Wales

620
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,079
right now and she's my best friend. She literally wrote

621
00:30:47,119 --> 00:30:51,039
her college essay about wanting to drive an Oscar Meyer

622
00:30:51,079 --> 00:30:54,279
Wiener truck around the country.

623
00:30:55,039 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, I didn't read it, but that was

624
00:30:56,799 --> 00:30:58,160
her slant.

625
00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,799
Speaker 2: And like how you know. And so she ended up

626
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:03,519
starting out at Boston University in the Honors dorms and

627
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,680
did really well, and then she transferred to Pepperdine with me.

628
00:31:06,799 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 1: But it worked for her, I guess, is what I'm saying.

629
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,839
Speaker 2: So I feel like someone who's reading these essays has

630
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:17,160
got to appreciate that and go finally something different, finally

631
00:31:17,279 --> 00:31:19,880
something funny or you know, right, you.

632
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 1: Would think, yes, you would think. But I felt like

633
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:27,680
Elb's first her essays were pretty good and a little

634
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:31,200
bit quirky. Yeah, she made a couple of jokes, and

635
00:31:31,279 --> 00:31:34,119
then she ended up like taking them out. Yeah, it's

636
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,960
too bad. She had one. I remember that she wrote

637
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:41,720
an essay about anxiety and about how she got the

638
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,039
treatment for it, you know, being in therapy for it

639
00:31:44,119 --> 00:31:47,480
and doing like the exposure therapy, and she described how

640
00:31:47,519 --> 00:31:50,680
the therapist would have her go into like Starbucks or

641
00:31:50,759 --> 00:31:54,240
Coffee Bean and tea Leaf whatever and order something by herself.

642
00:31:54,759 --> 00:31:56,640
And then I told her that I told her to

643
00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:00,480
put don't worry it was decaf or something, and she

644
00:32:00,759 --> 00:32:03,559
did for a minute, and then she was like she

645
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:05,720
took it out. I was like, that's freaking funny.

646
00:32:05,799 --> 00:32:10,079
Speaker 2: Though that's really funny. Actually, in Sophie's college essay, she

647
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:14,359
did keep in a joke. It was a but she's

648
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,039
a creative producing major. She wants to go in to

649
00:32:16,079 --> 00:32:19,400
film in television production, so she did a joke. She

650
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:20,839
quoted a joke from.

651
00:32:20,759 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: Anchorman and just kept it in.

652
00:32:22,839 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 2: But now that makes a little more sense if she's

653
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:27,559
going into film production to do something. But for Elvie,

654
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:29,799
I'm sorry, that's funny, Like why does that need to

655
00:32:30,079 --> 00:32:31,640
get out? And I get that it has to be

656
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:33,400
more serious, but I don't know.

657
00:32:33,599 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 1: I love that. I think that's hilarious. I think she

658
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,720
should have gotten into like more schools the first time around.

659
00:32:38,839 --> 00:32:41,400
I get that. I'm sorry she should have got into

660
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:42,519
all of the schools.

661
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 2: It's pretty it's still kind of who takes ten aps

662
00:32:46,839 --> 00:32:50,240
and works twenty hours a week and still gets an

663
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,000
amazing GPA and doesn't get in.

664
00:32:52,559 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 1: Those schools read except ridiculous only school. And she took

665
00:32:56,599 --> 00:32:59,480
so many AP's that she she took a year off

666
00:32:59,519 --> 00:33:01,640
of call, shouldn't even have to do a year of college,

667
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:04,640
took nine AP tests, she took ten AP's. But then

668
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:07,640
she did end up taking the physics AP test. I

669
00:33:07,759 --> 00:33:10,680
needed it. She took nine AP tests and she I

670
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,880
think she passed at least eight of them.

671
00:33:14,839 --> 00:33:18,079
Speaker 2: I just the fact that she took in high school

672
00:33:18,559 --> 00:33:22,559
ten college level classes enough should be enough for people

673
00:33:22,599 --> 00:33:24,519
to go, yes, we want you in our So only.

674
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,599
Speaker 1: A's and B. She never got a C. And then

675
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:31,480
she got flat out denied Davis, Like all the crazy

676
00:33:31,759 --> 00:33:37,079
ucs that she applied to Irvine, Davis denied, flat out denied.

677
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,319
I mean, I get that the second time she got

678
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:44,000
in everywhere, but it's just it was very traumatic. It

679
00:33:44,119 --> 00:33:48,880
was a really traumatic experience. It makes me so mad. Denied, denied, denied,

680
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:50,160
deny every school.

681
00:33:51,279 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 2: But that's just a good example of how are where

682
00:33:56,279 --> 00:33:59,680
the education system is in our country that that's not enough?

683
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,680
How are you work twenty hours a week and took

684
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,759
ten aps and did really well in all of them. Yeah,

685
00:34:04,839 --> 00:34:09,440
that's great, but we also need these ten boxes checked

686
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:13,519
off for what? Because it's a game. It's so frustrating.

687
00:34:13,679 --> 00:34:16,559
Speaker 1: You sure we think that having a job would be

688
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:19,679
a bigger deal than it is. And you know, I

689
00:34:20,039 --> 00:34:23,679
was kind of pushing Xander to getting a job because

690
00:34:24,199 --> 00:34:26,320
being not to be that person. But that's going to

691
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,239
look good for college, And then I'm no, who cares.

692
00:34:29,599 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 2: It's not even what looks good for college, that's the problem.

693
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,360
Oh no, But are you, you know, president of this

694
00:34:35,519 --> 00:34:38,280
club and that club? And where's your all of your

695
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,239
philanthropic work? Did you start a charity? Have you built

696
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:42,480
a house in Guatemala?

697
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 1: But you didn't.

698
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 2: I mean it's like, I literally it's such a game.

699
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:51,440
It's such a game. And it personally, I think most

700
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,639
employers would say, we want the kid that worked twenty

701
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,079
hours a week, you know, had responsibility at work, showed

702
00:34:58,159 --> 00:35:01,039
up to work even though they were exhausted from you know,

703
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:04,039
a really long school week, and still showed up every

704
00:35:04,119 --> 00:35:06,360
day and gave it one hundred and ten percent a

705
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job for three years.

706
00:35:07,559 --> 00:35:09,639
Speaker 1: And I want to see a let.

707
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Speaker 2: Of recommendation from her boss. Yeah, that is going to

708
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,320
show so much character and drive as opposed to you know.

709
00:35:16,519 --> 00:35:18,559
I mean, look, I it's nice to do all the

710
00:35:18,599 --> 00:35:20,760
other things. I'm not, you know, shitting on those, but

711
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:23,079
I think they need to be weighted exactly the same.

712
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,599
Speaker 1: That's what I want. It's so funny because Xander the

713
00:35:25,679 --> 00:35:28,920
other night was he's been having the worst. You know what,

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Speaker 1: Does she does?

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ut r afol dot com promo code fc OL. That's

746
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neutrophol dot com promo code fco L. Anyway, I was

747
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Xander and I were. I told Xander he was he

748
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:13,559
was having writer's block about these piqs, And I said,

749
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,280
so there's this website that list has a bunch of

750
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:20,280
sample piqs that got kids into colleges. Yeah, you got

751
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,360
kids into UC's. And I was like, let's look at

752
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:27,519
some so the way that you see piq's work, I

753
00:37:27,639 --> 00:37:28,719
have to I prompts.

754
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,159
Speaker 2: Can I pause for one second? If anybody listens to

755
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:37,960
armchair Expert DAXX and Monica talk about PQ's the I hate,

756
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:38,880
I don't even want to say.

757
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:39,559
Speaker 1: It, pussy quivers.

758
00:37:40,599 --> 00:37:45,280
Speaker 2: Okay, they'll always be like PQ's PQ's uh huh. I

759
00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,039
don't know if anybody is with me on this one,

760
00:37:47,039 --> 00:37:49,960
but every time you say p IQ, that's.

761
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 1: All I can think of, just having pussy quivers.

762
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:54,800
Speaker 2: So if anybody listens to them, you'll be laughing along

763
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:57,719
with me. But yeah, anyway, I'm sorry. So they have

764
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:01,280
eight piqs, they have eight prompts. Okay, I have to

765
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:02,159
choose four of them.

766
00:38:02,199 --> 00:38:05,199
Speaker 1: Okay, got it. So he was looking at some of

767
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:07,880
the examples, and I swear to god, it's just like

768
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:12,679
what you're saying. All the samples are like, you know,

769
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,719
how how do you, uh, how does how do you

770
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,320
express leadership or something? Tell us a time where you

771
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:22,440
showed leadership and it'll just be like, well, there was

772
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:24,880
this one time that I was in Guatemala building a

773
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:29,559
house for like, you know, the needy, and you know

774
00:38:30,199 --> 00:38:32,280
one of the people that I was working with, you know,

775
00:38:33,079 --> 00:38:35,639
was having trouble. I mean it was just like that,

776
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:40,280
like it was all humble brags. Yes, yes, anyway, I'm

777
00:38:40,599 --> 00:38:42,519
I'm from like a really big family. Like there's like

778
00:38:42,599 --> 00:38:45,119
fifteen of us and like they're all we're all adopted

779
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:49,159
and like you know, and you know, we all have

780
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,280
like disabilities, and we all came from different countries. Yeah,

781
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:55,719
you came here so together as if we just got

782
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:58,039
we just got together as a family and decided to

783
00:38:58,119 --> 00:39:02,400
start helping people like in Kuay. I mean, it was

784
00:39:02,599 --> 00:39:05,519
it's like insane. And Xander's like, what am I supposed

785
00:39:05,519 --> 00:39:09,320
to write about? Like I know, being a privileged, like

786
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,599
white middle class kid and you know, I mean it's just.

787
00:39:13,519 --> 00:39:16,079
Speaker 2: Although he could talk about like maybe he already did

788
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:20,360
like leadership in his band. That's kind of a big deal.

789
00:39:21,119 --> 00:39:23,920
I feel like he's kind of like the outgoing, outspoken

790
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:25,400
one in the band who probably like.

791
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,840
Speaker 1: Is he did. He picked his topics, which I think

792
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:32,320
are fine. Is for creative how do you express your

793
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:35,360
creative side? He's going to talk about having loving comedy

794
00:39:35,599 --> 00:39:39,000
and doing like like improv classes and he was a

795
00:39:39,039 --> 00:39:43,880
little kid, and then eventually doing groundlings, yes, and then

796
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:46,920
culminating with taking a stand up class. Yeah, and like

797
00:39:47,079 --> 00:39:50,000
having a show. You know, so I think that'll be

798
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:53,119
like fun for that one and he could like even

799
00:39:53,159 --> 00:39:55,360
include like a couple of jokes or like, you know,

800
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:58,320
he could be funny. Yeah, yeah, that'll have room to

801
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:02,360
be funny. And then he's going to do one about

802
00:40:02,679 --> 00:40:06,559
like being trans, and that's because you get to put

803
00:40:06,639 --> 00:40:09,320
one about a big challenge you've faced in your life.

804
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 2: That's kind of a huge deal. So yeah, I think

805
00:40:13,039 --> 00:40:16,440
it's not he it's not gratuitous or whatever the word is.

806
00:40:16,559 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 1: It's not exploative. It's like, oh, let me think of

807
00:40:19,559 --> 00:40:21,960
something I can really you know, yeah, now this is

808
00:40:22,119 --> 00:40:22,679
real life.

809
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,639
Speaker 2: This is what he's had to deal with, and he

810
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:29,400
doesn't really talk about it much, right, no, ever.

811
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:34,159
Speaker 1: Not at all. But it is funny because well it's

812
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:37,599
not funny, it's kind of sad. But it's like you

813
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:41,440
would think that could be something that could really stand

814
00:40:41,519 --> 00:40:44,360
out in a crowd, but now there's a lot there's

815
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,480
trans kids. And then also you have the people that

816
00:40:47,559 --> 00:40:49,960
are like, yeah, why are there so many trans kids?

817
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:54,239
It's because of the liberal agenda. All the celebrity is yeah,

818
00:40:54,679 --> 00:40:57,719
it's crazy. Right, So then it's like you wonder if

819
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:00,920
people are going to be like, oh, another one. Somebody

820
00:41:01,039 --> 00:41:05,119
got to him, somebody made him change, somebody made him trans.

821
00:41:05,599 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 2: Like it's his story is so genuinely him, Like, this

822
00:41:12,159 --> 00:41:14,760
isn't someone at twelve years old that was like, Oh,

823
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:17,079
I'm in middle school and I'm not even.

824
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 1: Saying people do this, but this is what I don't

825
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,920
watch a ton of anime and like from.

826
00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:26,599
Speaker 2: The outside in, I think a lot of people say,

827
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:29,639
oh god, it's a fat everybody's doing it. You know,

828
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,119
this isn't like Xander being in middle school and being like,

829
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:33,920
I want to be different, so let me do this.

830
00:41:34,159 --> 00:41:36,840
Like I know that's how some people think, right that

831
00:41:37,039 --> 00:41:41,079
trans kids Like no Xander from the time he was

832
00:41:41,519 --> 00:41:43,559
I mean, I don't I feel like I tell this

833
00:41:43,599 --> 00:41:46,199
story all the time to people that I'm talked to about,

834
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:50,840
you know, his story, but the one I will never

835
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:54,280
forget this when we went to a movie, I probably

836
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:55,199
said this something I don't even know.

837
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:55,639
Speaker 1: I don't think.

838
00:41:55,679 --> 00:41:57,280
Speaker 2: So, okay, we all went to a movie, all the

839
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:02,000
kids everything. Xander was eight at the most. It was

840
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:04,920
just around the time that he told his second grade class,

841
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:07,599
you know, to refer to me as he him, and

842
00:42:08,079 --> 00:42:10,519
those kinds of things. We get out of the movie

843
00:42:10,519 --> 00:42:11,880
and everybody's like, oh, I gotta go to the bathroom.

844
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:13,840
I go to the bathroom, and Xander's like, I got

845
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,159
to go to the bathroom and at eight years old,

846
00:42:16,519 --> 00:42:19,480
he went into the men's bathroom. There is no eight

847
00:42:19,599 --> 00:42:23,559
year old girl in this world that would willingly walk

848
00:42:23,599 --> 00:42:26,440
into a men's bathroom by himself if they didn't truly

849
00:42:26,599 --> 00:42:29,039
feel inside that they were.

850
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 1: Male, right, Never in a million years. And it was

851
00:42:31,519 --> 00:42:36,280
like be a predator and like attack right exactly, attack

852
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:39,199
or innocent innocent men. Yeah, yeah exactly.

853
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 2: But like to me, that was that was so clear

854
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:48,039
in my mind that this child is one hundred percent

855
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:52,079
feels like they are a man at eight years old,

856
00:42:52,199 --> 00:42:53,760
And it's like I just want the world to go

857
00:42:54,039 --> 00:42:56,880
to see that and go like, wow, you're right. This

858
00:42:57,039 --> 00:42:59,760
isn't a fad. This isn't something that's cool. This isn't

859
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:03,280
something thing that Stephanie are like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah,

860
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:06,920
you yeah, that's good because you're feeling like a man

861
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:08,960
go into the men's mathom and let's let's really get

862
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,000
you trans let's trans you up. Like, I like, who

863
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:17,000
what is this narrative that liberal parents are like pushing

864
00:43:17,079 --> 00:43:20,760
this on their children. There is no no eight year

865
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,760
old girl in a millionaires that would walk into a

866
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:26,360
men's bathroom unless they felt that way about themselves.

867
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:30,599
Speaker 1: No, parents, Yeah, you were probably with my kids on

868
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,159
your own. Maybe I don't know. I don't remember.

869
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:36,159
Speaker 2: But it was just very clear and he was very

870
00:43:36,199 --> 00:43:38,159
happy to do it and came out like it was

871
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:39,880
no big deal. Nobody made a big deal about it.

872
00:43:40,039 --> 00:43:43,400
Speaker 1: All right, let's go. Yeah. Yeah, And I don't I

873
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:47,840
don't think there's any amount of liberalism, like there's that's

874
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:51,440
what I'm feel proud. Oh, we're so liberal that we

875
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,840
let our kids just choose their gender. Yeah, you don't

876
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,440
if people don't understand that, we as parents had a

877
00:43:58,519 --> 00:44:02,000
freaking heart attack about it, and we're like, no, like

878
00:44:02,159 --> 00:44:05,679
this is this is the worst thing that could happen.

879
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:10,639
Who's going like, yes, some sign my kid up for

880
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:13,199
a No, it's isn't that cool? I have a trans kid?

881
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,199
Speaker 2: Like, what is this is? Like?

882
00:44:15,599 --> 00:44:19,360
Speaker 1: People think that people think it's cool, people think that

883
00:44:19,559 --> 00:44:22,880
liberal people think that other maybe yeah it's some badge

884
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:28,960
of honor, right, it's not. It's it's not an easy

885
00:44:29,079 --> 00:44:33,159
path for any kid or any family. But when people

886
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,760
if you have an actual trans kid, then you you

887
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:42,239
would know well, and I think and he's going to

888
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:45,199
talk about it in speech and debate this year. Oh wow.

889
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:48,679
And I'm worried for him, But I also think that

890
00:44:49,559 --> 00:44:53,400
he's kind of giving a gift because I would say

891
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:57,679
that for my people like you, Laura Cecily, people that

892
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:02,159
my kid has grown up around. Yeah, you know, a transport,

893
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:07,079
like you know firsthand, like, oh, no, that's a thing. Yes, yes,

894
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:11,239
you know, Oh that's not just a fad because you've seen, Yes,

895
00:45:11,519 --> 00:45:14,320
somebody who you know, from the time they were a

896
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:18,119
little kid only wanted to dress in boy clothes one

897
00:45:18,199 --> 00:45:21,360
hundred percent. I mean I remember Laura giving me a

898
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:24,679
hand me down suit from Danielle. Yes, I remember that

899
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:28,360
little three piece that was for like a three year old,

900
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:32,400
little pants and it had a little shirt and then

901
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:37,360
a little vest vest and he would never take it off. Remember, Yes,

902
00:45:37,559 --> 00:45:40,880
he was so happy. Yeah, and he was like a three.

903
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:45,679
This was different than when he was like seven and

904
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,280
I bought him a couple of little suits, right, But

905
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:50,599
this was just Laura was just like, do you think

906
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,079
that the amber would want this? And I was like,

907
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,159
I mean sure, and I put it on his bed

908
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,079
and then he was like and he got so excited,

909
00:45:59,159 --> 00:46:01,679
and it's an a bunch of our family pictures. I

910
00:46:02,039 --> 00:46:03,119
love old beige suit.

911
00:46:03,519 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 2: Yeah.

912
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 1: In fact, I told this story.

913
00:46:05,559 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 2: So Jamille and I were down in Malibu a couple

914
00:46:08,039 --> 00:46:10,880
months ago and we were sitting at like a bar

915
00:46:11,039 --> 00:46:13,800
area because there was nowhere else to sit. And there

916
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:18,400
was this man that was living in Tennessee, moved from

917
00:46:18,559 --> 00:46:20,559
LA but like a lot he'd been there twenty years

918
00:46:20,599 --> 00:46:23,719
now and raising his family there. I didn't realize maybe

919
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:27,719
I should, but Tennessee, I know it's you know, it's

920
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:31,079
in the South, but you think that it's because of Nashville.

921
00:46:31,199 --> 00:46:34,920
You just think that it's more maybe more middle of

922
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:36,920
the road. But he said, oh no, no, no, no, no.

923
00:46:37,199 --> 00:46:41,119
Everybody's you know, very conservative, and everybody's going to church.

924
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,280
And the minute you move in, because he's a real

925
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,199
estate agent, so he's like, the minute you move in,

926
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:46,800
the first thing they ask is what church do you

927
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:47,119
go to?

928
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:48,159
Speaker 1: You know, those kinds of things.

929
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:53,079
Speaker 2: So he was also talking about LGBTQ things and this

930
00:46:53,199 --> 00:46:56,000
and that, and I said, I need to tell you, like,

931
00:46:56,320 --> 00:47:00,519
I have a very good friend whose son is and

932
00:47:00,599 --> 00:47:03,159
I told that exact story about going to the bathroom

933
00:47:03,199 --> 00:47:03,639
and this and that.

934
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, that is not a choice, like that is

935
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just something that is within this child. Like I truly

936
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truly believe that.

937
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Speaker 2: And I don't know if you know it made him

938
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:16,880
think any differently about it, but like I just think

939
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,239
that's such a powerful story. And so for Xander to

940
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:22,039
tell his story, I think it's powerful.

941
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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's going to tell a story about stereotypes and assumptions,

942
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:32,199
but he's going to include his experience within it, so

943
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:34,800
it's not going to be like just about him about

944
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:37,719
me being yeah yeah, which I think is a good

945
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:41,039
way to attack it, because he doesn't want to like write,

946
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:43,559
do a whole story about like.

947
00:47:44,079 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 2: Well, I remember from way back when the whole idea

948
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:52,679
was I'm Xander, I'm a boy, Like there's nothing to

949
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,039
talk about, right, I'm just a boy, Like we don't

950
00:47:55,079 --> 00:47:56,920
need to like you know what I mean.

951
00:47:57,039 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 1: Like he was very much like this is who I am.

952
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:03,039
Speaker 2: And if the more I taught, it's almost like the

953
00:48:03,119 --> 00:48:07,639
more he talks about it, the less like he put Maddie.

954
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,119
I don't want to speak for him, but Maddie was

955
00:48:10,199 --> 00:48:13,159
one person and Xander I'm Xander, so like I don't

956
00:48:13,159 --> 00:48:15,800
want to keep bringing up that I'm I was somebody else.

957
00:48:16,119 --> 00:48:17,639
Speaker 1: This is who I am kind of thing.

958
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so maybe for him, he's like, I don't

959
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:22,440
need to talk about being trans because I'm just me,

960
00:48:23,159 --> 00:48:24,039
Like this is who I am.

961
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:25,800
Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm trying. I don't know if I'm

962
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:27,920
saying it right, but no, you're totally saying it right.

963
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,880
And that's how he felt. And even I will say

964
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:34,440
as a parent, like any time I've brought up the

965
00:48:34,599 --> 00:48:37,800
name he had before, he literally flinches, he hates right,

966
00:48:38,079 --> 00:48:41,000
much like, that's not that's not who I am anymore.

967
00:48:41,159 --> 00:48:45,079
That's that's it never was who he was. It never was.

968
00:48:45,519 --> 00:48:49,559
And he figured out what transgender means and what that is,

969
00:48:49,639 --> 00:48:51,800
he was like, oh, well, then that's what I am,

970
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:55,840
like from beginning, like I've never right, I've never been

971
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,960
a girl, yeah, like never Yeah, Like I wasn't a

972
00:48:59,079 --> 00:49:01,559
girl back then and now I'm a boys. I've always

973
00:49:01,679 --> 00:49:06,079
been who I am, right, And yeah, it's I hope more.

974
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:11,079
I hope it becomes. I mean with Trump and this

975
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,639
administration and what they're trying to do, and they're trying

976
00:49:13,679 --> 00:49:19,159
to like get rid of the existence of anybody who's different. Yes,

977
00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:23,719
that's true any oppressed groups obviously, but yeah, transgender being

978
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:25,559
one of them. And it's so insane to me because

979
00:49:25,599 --> 00:49:28,079
it's like you're not going to get rid of like

980
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:31,039
that is just who people are. I guess I want

981
00:49:31,119 --> 00:49:35,159
to go back into hiding and like band together to

982
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,880
try to like and I guess they just won't have

983
00:49:38,159 --> 00:49:40,440
the same rights as other people for what reason. Like

984
00:49:40,559 --> 00:49:43,519
I will never understand why we're so obsessed with what

985
00:49:43,639 --> 00:49:47,960
people's genitals are, Like who cares? How does like a

986
00:49:48,079 --> 00:49:52,719
trans person person's existence affect anybody else in any way?

987
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:56,840
And if people want to say, like well sports, you know,

988
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,360
most of the people that say that are not even

989
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:01,800
directly affect by it. They're just offended by it because

990
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,159
they've been told to be offended by it by like

991
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:07,000
what's in the news and the things they listen to,

992
00:50:07,119 --> 00:50:09,239
and they're told to be scared of something that's different.

993
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:11,639
None of the people that are complaining about it have

994
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:15,280
an actual daughter, like in middle school or high school

995
00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:19,920
that's been defeated by a transgender person and not allowed

996
00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:24,400
to like live their dreams of being, you know, a

997
00:50:24,519 --> 00:50:28,079
basketball star because of one trans person's existence on another team,

998
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:28,840
right right?

999
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:32,800
Speaker 2: I mean I just think in general, like whether you

1000
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:35,559
marry a woman or man is marrying a man or whatever.

1001
00:50:35,639 --> 00:50:39,800
Speaker 1: It's like it doesn't affect you. Who cares. Now, if

1002
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:41,159
you are in.

1003
00:50:41,199 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 2: A solo sport, Let's say and there is someone that

1004
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:50,320
you're facing that is, you know, clearly physically you know,

1005
00:50:51,199 --> 00:50:54,599
more superior or something that that is a case by

1006
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:55,719
case basis.

1007
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 1: You know that we already have so many rules about that.

1008
00:50:59,599 --> 00:51:03,440
They are already measure testosterone those kinds of things. Yeah,

1009
00:51:03,519 --> 00:51:06,920
and also have you seen, like, not to be offensive,

1010
00:51:07,039 --> 00:51:10,199
but have you seen some of the biological women that

1011
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:14,679
compete in sports, like they're going to be superior to

1012
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:17,360
some of the other women and maybe they were born

1013
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:22,320
with you know, different muscle mass or whatever. There are

1014
00:51:23,039 --> 00:51:27,119
women that are very masculine in appearance that are not

1015
00:51:27,360 --> 00:51:30,280
trans Like what do you regulate that too? Do you

1016
00:51:30,639 --> 00:51:34,199
like nobody who's like extra strong gets to compete? Like

1017
00:51:34,519 --> 00:51:37,320
how do you decide that? Yeah? Yeah, the only way

1018
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:40,679
you can decide it is through like as testosterone levels. Yeah,

1019
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:44,400
so if you all meet the criteria, then you know

1020
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:46,519
what I mean, because otherwise you get to a point

1021
00:51:46,519 --> 00:51:49,760
where and you've seen this in sports where people start

1022
00:51:50,079 --> 00:51:53,320
going crazy talking about like all that person looks like

1023
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:57,639
a man, well, guess what they got tested right, because

1024
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:02,360
that rule is in effect. I don't care. Andrew's not

1025
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:04,639
going to be competing in any sports, so like, whatever

1026
00:52:05,639 --> 00:52:09,639
do you want? But it's right, it's and I understand

1027
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,760
what you're saying. But it's a weird thing to latch

1028
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:17,880
onto to regulate all people existence over the fact that

1029
00:52:18,079 --> 00:52:21,079
your your butt hurt, over the possibility that a high

1030
00:52:21,079 --> 00:52:25,440
school kid or even an Olympic person, what do you care?

1031
00:52:26,000 --> 00:52:28,840
Let the people in the sport like decide saying that

1032
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,079
to you. I know, I stand you're bringing up a

1033
00:52:31,159 --> 00:52:36,119
point that many people make, but like whatever, it's all crazy. Yeah,

1034
00:52:36,679 --> 00:52:40,239
now we brought this show to a dark place. Friday.

1035
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:44,960
You're going to tell a story about something that happened.

1036
00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:48,480
You guys need to tune in for for Friday for sure,

1037
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:53,519
because Julie's got a really good story. Hold on, I'm

1038
00:52:53,639 --> 00:52:55,760
looking for my Yeah.

1039
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:58,559
Speaker 2: So I have a kind of a story, yeah, personal

1040
00:52:58,599 --> 00:53:01,599
story that I didn't share on the last show that

1041
00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:04,920
I got permission from my husband to share on this show.

1042
00:53:05,079 --> 00:53:08,920
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, yeah, it's good. Okay, But before we go,

1043
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,599
let us say hi to our fabulous friends. Stephanie's stinker

1044
00:53:13,679 --> 00:53:16,639
Rinker and Sandra Green and Jennifer Falls and Aaron's the

1045
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:20,599
Dirty Sanchez and Leslie's still coughing. You know that Leslie's

1046
00:53:20,599 --> 00:53:24,159
been on this list since like the first since we

1047
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:28,760
first started Patrion. Yeah, that's that. Alicia Ascalante and Kelly

1048
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:33,760
Brandt and Rebecca Lubin and and Gabby and Missy and

1049
00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:37,719
Katerina check that, Moller and Valerie, Bubba Fenwick and Polly

1050
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:40,679
We Love your Pancakes and Rita Rocks the Basinette with

1051
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:43,360
Elizabeth Williamson's kids and Nikki call you a girl, and

1052
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:46,960
Dick is frolicking. Sorry, I'm hot. I'm gonna turn theo it.

1053
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:50,440
I'm so hot as soon as the show is over.

1054
00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:54,760
And please don't sleep on. Courtney Moore, who is with

1055
00:53:55,039 --> 00:53:58,719
I e embroidery and you can check her on Facebook.

1056
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:03,840
They do custom hats, polos, they do like they embroider logos.

1057
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:05,880
Oh nice on stuff. Yeah, and she did a bunch

1058
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,760
of stuff for Xander's band that they all went crazy for.

1059
00:54:09,400 --> 00:54:13,320
There's pictures of that on my Instagram. Also, my friend

1060
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:18,280
whose name I won't say, writes a medium column medium

1061
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:22,400
dot com called at Unbecoming Stories, and it's about being

1062
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:28,079
married to this crazy marine. Oh yeah, and there's so

1063
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:31,719
many crazy stories in there. Also, The Family Skeptical is

1064
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:34,599
a podcast about raising kids without religion, So if you're

1065
00:54:34,679 --> 00:54:38,119
any stripe of non believer, welcome to their podcast. They

1066
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:42,960
put out an episode every three weeks. Will Menfrida Palm

1067
00:54:43,039 --> 00:54:45,920
Springs and have you ever been there? No? But I

1068
00:54:46,039 --> 00:54:47,639
want to go there. I mean, I've been to Palm

1069
00:54:47,679 --> 00:54:50,360
Springs in so long, but next time. Yeah, it's really

1070
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:55,880
really good. And then Marin has Sugar Skull, which is

1071
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,719
a small bakery and gift shop on the island of Kawai,

1072
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:01,599
So if you're there check them out. You can also

1073
00:55:02,360 --> 00:55:05,760
go to their Instagram page at Sugar Skull eight oh eight.

1074
00:55:06,119 --> 00:55:08,599
And if you want to get to Hawaii but you're wondering,

1075
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:11,159
like how do I book my travel? Why not use

1076
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:16,039
waves and wonder travel. That's our friend Christine B. Her

1077
00:55:16,159 --> 00:55:19,760
instagram is Travel with Christine B. Or just find her

1078
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:24,239
on our Facebook page. Jacob Crowley my friend. Love this man.

1079
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:27,760
He's giving his shout out for the ACLU, which is

1080
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:31,000
super amazing to give them. They're fighting a lot of

1081
00:55:31,159 --> 00:55:33,679
court battles as we speak. They're going to the Supreme

1082
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:38,719
Court they're fighting for our rights, they're fighting for LGBTQ stuff,

1083
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:42,519
they're fighting for immigrants, they're fighting for women's reproductive rights.

1084
00:55:42,599 --> 00:55:48,800
So check them out. And then our friend Heather Hoyight,

1085
00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:50,920
who I feel like you might have met before, but

1086
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:53,440
I'm not sure, she is giving her shout out to

1087
00:55:53,559 --> 00:55:57,480
the Holder Wide Foundation. It was created in honor of

1088
00:55:57,599 --> 00:55:59,920
two of the boys who are killed in the Borderline shooting.

1089
00:56:00,199 --> 00:56:03,920
Oh god, I know so sad. Sydney. You're close friends

1090
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:08,800
with the Dingmann family, Heather and her daughter Sydney, and

1091
00:56:08,960 --> 00:56:11,920
they started the foundation in honor of their son Blake,

1092
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:16,119
And they choose a recipient every year, someone who's been injured,

1093
00:56:16,599 --> 00:56:19,559
usually paralyzed from like an off roading accident, and they

1094
00:56:19,599 --> 00:56:24,400
give them money to retrofit their homes wowet wheelchairs and

1095
00:56:24,559 --> 00:56:27,880
medical care. So to donate, go to Holder h O

1096
00:56:28,159 --> 00:56:32,079
L D E R Wide WI d E dot org.

1097
00:56:33,679 --> 00:56:38,559
Also Adam Lerner Adam's got a car. Yep, he got you,

1098
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:42,239
he got he got Sophia a car, got me a car.

1099
00:56:42,519 --> 00:56:46,159
I'm loving my ID four. Yah. It's so cute. I

1100
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:49,360
like the color and everything. It's really cute and it

1101
00:56:49,559 --> 00:56:53,159
drives like a dream and it was way less expensive

1102
00:56:53,199 --> 00:56:55,760
than even the car that we were just driving. He'll

1103
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:58,519
find out a deal, he'll do the financing whatever. Adam's

1104
00:56:58,559 --> 00:57:03,280
got a car dot com and Ferncandle. That's my friend Kelsey.

1105
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,239
She runs this business out of her home. She makes

1106
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:10,400
delicious smelling soy candles like tobacco, sage, lavender, sandalwood. They're

1107
00:57:10,440 --> 00:57:13,800
better for the environment. Check her out on Instagram at

1108
00:57:14,039 --> 00:57:18,199
Ferncandle or ferncandle dot com. And yeah, I'll do the

1109
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:21,400
rest next week anyway. Thank you so much Julie for

1110
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:24,800
coming in so fun. Love you guys. You're a parent now,

1111
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:32,559
don't f it up. It's good. Many goo