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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to The Doctor Wendy Walls Show and KFI

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<v Speaker 1>AM six forty Live Everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. My

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<v Speaker 1>guest is someone who has been spending a great deal

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<v Speaker 1>of her life helping women transform their own lives. I've

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<v Speaker 1>actually been honored to be a guest on her podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>Conversations with Warrior Women in the past, although now it's

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<v Speaker 1>called The Liz swat Oh, I'm gonna say it wrong, Liz,

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<v Speaker 1>how do I pronounce your last name? Love?

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<v Speaker 2>Swatik?

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<v Speaker 1>Swatik Like I'm gonna swatick you out of my way

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<v Speaker 1>so I can go forward to be a warrior right.

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<v Speaker 2>Swatik Liz Swatik.

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<v Speaker 1>Liz is a healer and rapid transformation coach. Rapid I

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<v Speaker 1>love that word, and she basically is all about resilience

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<v Speaker 1>and when she, just like myself as a journalist, brings

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge to the masses, it is from the world's of neuroscience,

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<v Speaker 1>human design, and sometimes mastering our own illogical, irrational and

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<v Speaker 1>downright wrong beliefs. Liz Swaddick, thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 1>being with us.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.

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<v Speaker 1>I am curious to know how you found your own

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<v Speaker 1>passion and what you did before this that led you

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<v Speaker 1>to this place of being a healer and transformation coach.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, the better question might be what haven't I done?

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<v Speaker 2>I have a resume like that too.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, Oh my gosh, I have been. I was

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<v Speaker 3>a stand up comedian, I was an actress. I was

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<v Speaker 3>in luxury marketing. I had a social media company that

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<v Speaker 3>I ended up selling because it was just too much

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<v Speaker 3>for me. All this to say, I think, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>you hit a certain age. I'm fifty five, Double Nickel,

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<v Speaker 3>just had my double Nickel birthday, Happy birthday. I thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>I think when you know, when you're in your forty

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<v Speaker 3>fifty sixty, I start to realize, you know, maybe the

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<v Speaker 3>things you were doing before, just because you're good at

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<v Speaker 3>it doesn't mean you want to keep doing it. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think I learned that and I kind of hit

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<v Speaker 3>a wall at forty nine and I realized I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just kind of going along, just doing kind of

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<v Speaker 3>whatever comes to me. I'm not really making these choices

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<v Speaker 3>that I want to make. And then I had some

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<v Speaker 3>guilt and shame about this that i'd done. I felt

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<v Speaker 3>like I was the Jane of all trades and the

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<v Speaker 3>master of None. You know, I've done everything and had

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<v Speaker 3>some success, but really, now when I look back on it,

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<v Speaker 3>I've now it seems like this beautiful mosaic my whole life. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>everything I'm doing now I use every single thing I've

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<v Speaker 3>ever done in my coaching and my healing. It's almost

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<v Speaker 3>like Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz, like I went

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<v Speaker 3>down the Yellowick road and here I am and I

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<v Speaker 3>have arrived. So it's I think I was always curious

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<v Speaker 3>about transformation. I think I've always been curious about healing

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<v Speaker 3>and transforming and changing and evolving, and I think now

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<v Speaker 3>I get to do it for a living, and that

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<v Speaker 3>just is amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, what's interesting is I think often of my own

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<v Speaker 1>media work. I think of that wonderful saying from is

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<v Speaker 1>it from Jonathan Livingston Segull in that book where he

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<v Speaker 1>says we teach best what we most need to learn.

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<v Speaker 1>And for people like you and I, Liz, who are

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<v Speaker 1>extroverts who process externally as we are going through our

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<v Speaker 1>own life, navigating of life, we're like shouting it from

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<v Speaker 1>the rooftops for people like, oh my goodness, this is

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<v Speaker 1>what this is how you do it?

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<v Speaker 2>Look I'm doing it, and it sounds like you went.

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<v Speaker 1>Through your own transformation to get to this place to

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<v Speaker 1>want to share it with other warrior women.

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<v Speaker 3>No, that's exactly right. It's because I have walked this

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<v Speaker 3>path that I am an expert in transformation. And also,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I'm also an expert expert of getting knocked

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<v Speaker 3>down and getting back up again, which I know you

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<v Speaker 3>are as well. I think I think that's kind of

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<v Speaker 3>you know when people come to me like, well, Liz,

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<v Speaker 3>I can't do it because I'm going through this or this,

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<v Speaker 3>and I say, yes, I've done that, Yes me too,

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<v Speaker 3>Uh huh, Yes, I've heard this, you know. So I

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<v Speaker 3>think because I've been through so many things, everything from

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<v Speaker 3>infertility to marriage issues too. I've got a child with

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<v Speaker 3>a physical difference. I've got a child with altered of colitis.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I have things, you know. I've had a

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<v Speaker 3>kid with ADHD who's struggled through high school. I've had

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<v Speaker 3>so many things. So I think because I've had so

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<v Speaker 3>many things, I have a unique way of using my

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<v Speaker 3>stand up comedy, using my humor, and really understanding where

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<v Speaker 3>women are in midlife and what they what the unique

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<v Speaker 3>challenges are of that of that zone.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't need to tell you that we are

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<v Speaker 1>a very unique species in that we are the only

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<v Speaker 1>one of three species on the entire planet that has

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<v Speaker 1>men upon us a time of a woman's life where

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<v Speaker 1>she is wise, experienced, energetic, fun and also sterile and evolution.

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<v Speaker 1>Mother Nature was so perfect she was she created the

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<v Speaker 1>stage of a woman's life.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe well.

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<v Speaker 1>Evolutionary psychologists would say to help nurture the next generation,

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<v Speaker 1>but that includes getting involved in politics, building businesses, building charities.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all nurturing the culture. We become custodians of the

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<v Speaker 1>culture because we now have the time to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But figuring out it sounds to me like the people

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<v Speaker 1>who follow you and read your work and listen to

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<v Speaker 1>your podcast are people who are trying to figure out

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<v Speaker 1>how to create that important meaning during that special third

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<v Speaker 1>of their life.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I right?

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<v Speaker 3>You're one hundred percent right. I call it legacy work.

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<v Speaker 3>I think a lot of women think of legacy of

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<v Speaker 3>what happens after we're gone. I believe that we live

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<v Speaker 3>our legacy now in our thoughts are actions, how we

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<v Speaker 3>make people feel, how we feel, All the choices that

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<v Speaker 3>we're making every single day is leaving a legacy. And

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<v Speaker 3>I lead women to that many different ways, but the

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<v Speaker 3>first step is always there's needs to be some healing.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes we have to go back into our past to

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<v Speaker 3>look kind of at how we got where we are,

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<v Speaker 3>how did we get here. And when you look at

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<v Speaker 3>your past, it's not to live there, right, to not

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<v Speaker 3>live in the hood, as I say, the victimhood. Not

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<v Speaker 3>live in the hood, but to look at it and

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<v Speaker 3>find the diamonds. What are these points of wisdom? And

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<v Speaker 3>like exactly, like you're saying, there's a unique wisdom that

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<v Speaker 3>comes to us in our forties, fifties and sixties because

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<v Speaker 3>we have lived. We have lived and we have wisdom.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think there's this kind of prevailing knowledge that

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<v Speaker 3>we're supposed to shrink away or feel bad because we're aging.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, no, this is the juiciest period of your life.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the time where you need to be sharing

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<v Speaker 3>your wisdom. And I have these safe spaces where women

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<v Speaker 3>can come and share their wisdom, and you know, there's

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<v Speaker 3>everybody gets to, you know, be together and feel safe

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<v Speaker 3>enough to expand and grow and try things right and.

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<v Speaker 1>Evolves exactly, And let me tell you, there is so

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<v Speaker 1>much opportunity for all women to be effective, to create

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<v Speaker 1>change and have meaning. And definitely we are not meant

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<v Speaker 1>to wither away. We're in what I call our power stage.

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<v Speaker 1>This is definitely our power stage. So when we come

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<v Speaker 1>back Liz, Liz Swatick, there's a via there by the

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<v Speaker 1>way that she says sounds like a W so she

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<v Speaker 1>apparently has rewritten the alphabet as well.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how. Yes, this woman's super powerful. Your new book is.

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<v Speaker 1>Called Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior

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<v Speaker 1>is revealed. I got cut my spears and the Warrior

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<v Speaker 1>appears there literally one word got cut off and my

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<v Speaker 1>printed thing. I was like, I know something happens with

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<v Speaker 1>this Warrior. I know she comes out somehow. Welcome back

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<v Speaker 1>to the home stretch of the Doctor Wendywall Show on

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<v Speaker 1>KF I am six forty. My guest is Liz Swatik,

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<v Speaker 1>dealer and transformation coach. Her new book is called Finding

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<v Speaker 1>Your Diamonds, Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears. First

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<v Speaker 1>of all, Liz, when I saw your new book cover,

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<v Speaker 1>I was thrilled. It's gorgeous. You're gorgeous. The colors are great.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not afraid of pink anymore?

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<v Speaker 2>Are we.

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<v Speaker 3>No? Tell unafraid?

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me how you chose this title and what does

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<v Speaker 1>it really mean? Finding your diamonds?

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, first of all, I love it because to me,

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<v Speaker 3>when I see this cover it's pink and white, it

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<v Speaker 3>just would I would want to buy this cover just

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<v Speaker 3>because it looks delicious. It looks like a dessert. But

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<v Speaker 3>don't don't hear what I'm not saying, because this is

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<v Speaker 3>a very deep book. This is a very very deep book,

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<v Speaker 3>despite all the pink and every all the things on

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<v Speaker 3>the cover. But Finding your Diamonds is about finding the wisdom,

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<v Speaker 3>going back in the ashes of your past, maybe even

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<v Speaker 3>things that you thought really went terribly or things you

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<v Speaker 3>have regret or shame about, and unearthing excavating the diamonds

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<v Speaker 3>of wisdom. Because how are diamonds made? Of course through pressure, right, force, heat,

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<v Speaker 3>you know all the elements.

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<v Speaker 2>And we've had a lot of pressure. Liz. Let me

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<v Speaker 2>just say, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god. I mean, there's no listen to the

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<v Speaker 3>truth is women are just standing on diamonds, that's what

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<v Speaker 3>they're doing. And I think they don't understand that. They

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<v Speaker 3>think that all these things that have happened to them,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, it's ruined parts of their lives, or they

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<v Speaker 3>have regret. There is no regret because everything that you

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<v Speaker 3>have been through is a diamond. And I think it

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<v Speaker 3>takes some distance and time right to hit those juicy

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<v Speaker 3>forty fifty sixties, so you can really look and find them.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm encouraging women to find the diamonds that they

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<v Speaker 3>can stand on and build a foundation on and then

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<v Speaker 3>heal the girl and the warrior appears. I am a

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<v Speaker 3>big proponent of little girl work. Back in the day

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<v Speaker 3>they called it, you know, inner child work. I call

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<v Speaker 3>it little girl work because I work with women. But

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<v Speaker 3>that she is really the key. That little girl, when

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<v Speaker 3>you reconnect with her, it brings back the playfulness, the energy, lightness,

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<v Speaker 3>and then also guess what, you get to feel your feelings.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, every woman I work with, they tell me

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<v Speaker 3>their tears are stuck in their throat and they're apologize

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<v Speaker 3>for crying, and I say, no, it's okay, right, Like

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<v Speaker 3>we're supposed to feel the full range of human emotion.

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<v Speaker 3>So that little girl is really the key to our healing.

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<v Speaker 1>And let's talk about some news you can use. Can

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<v Speaker 1>you share a couple strategies from the book Finding Your Diamonds.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and I will tell you. In this book, I

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<v Speaker 3>have included a little girl meditation, so you get to

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<v Speaker 3>in the kindle, you just click to it. Otherwise you

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<v Speaker 3>can see the website to go to, but there is

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<v Speaker 3>a meditation. So I'm a big proponent of using meditation

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<v Speaker 3>to reconnect with your little girl because I know it's hard, right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's hard to kind of imagine sometimes or we're afraid

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<v Speaker 3>to do this work. So I've made this gorgeous meditation

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<v Speaker 3>that you can do. Also, in every single chapter, I

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<v Speaker 3>have exercises everything from boundaries to little girls work, to

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<v Speaker 3>legacy work, and questions that you can ask yourself. So

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<v Speaker 3>even though I'm using my story to kind of illustrate it,

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<v Speaker 3>every single chapter has questions and things you can do

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<v Speaker 3>in journal about But one thing I would say if

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<v Speaker 3>would definitely say that it's getting it's getting quiet. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>I think we're really busy. We never slow down.

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<v Speaker 2>We are very busy, Barbie Sias.

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<v Speaker 1>We have people to take care of older people, young people,

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<v Speaker 2>We barely have time to take care of our own bodies.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and we are we are the caretakers, and so

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<v Speaker 3>I get that. But if you do not slow down,

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<v Speaker 3>you cannot hear your intuition. You cannot hear your own voice.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's that's the first thing you have to do.

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<v Speaker 3>You have to slow down and start letting your feelings

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<v Speaker 3>and your thoughts catch up with you. Not that you can.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't have to believe every thought you're thinking, because

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<v Speaker 3>guess what, that mind is tricky, So I wouldn't believe

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<v Speaker 3>every thought comes to your mind. But at least here

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<v Speaker 3>hear yourself right, and slow down and a long enough

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<v Speaker 3>so that you can actually feel and know where you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Where can people get the book?

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<v Speaker 1>Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears.

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<v Speaker 3>Right now. You can get it on Amazon. It's available kindle, paperback, hardcover,

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<v Speaker 3>and actually for the next four days it's free on

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<v Speaker 3>your kindle.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, you should have told me to bring my kindle

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<v Speaker 1>to work. Wait, I think I have the Kindle app.

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<v Speaker 1>It might even work on the Kindle app. Right, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna try to figure this.

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<v Speaker 3>We can do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Try to figure this out. It's interesting that you will

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<v Speaker 1>close by talking a little bit about meditation. For any

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<v Speaker 1>of our listeners out there who think that meditation is

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<v Speaker 1>woo woo California silly stuff, there is. I teach a

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<v Speaker 1>section on meditation in my health psychology class to university students,

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<v Speaker 1>and I teach what the research says. And what's really

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<v Speaker 1>fascinating about the research is, not only does it make

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<v Speaker 1>you more empathetic more than anything, you have less rumination

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<v Speaker 1>about your stress. Those are thoughts spinning around. It creates

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<v Speaker 1>a nice little gap between Oh, a bad thing happened

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<v Speaker 1>and what should I do next? There's it slows your

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<v Speaker 1>brain enough. It's like you know, you know how Liz.

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<v Speaker 1>They call it a practice, right, And I always say

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<v Speaker 1>that you know what you're practicing for stress in life?

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<v Speaker 1>When you meditate, your practicing for the stress. So I

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<v Speaker 1>use the metaphor of like, you know, you don't go

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<v Speaker 1>on a StairMaster or a run on a treadmill only

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<v Speaker 1>to look good. It's because one day that car is

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<v Speaker 1>going to careen at you while you're in a crosswalk

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<v Speaker 1>and you're gonnaed to jump out of the way, and

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<v Speaker 1>if you've been working out, you'll be able to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>So the same thing with.

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<v Speaker 1>Our minds and meditation is if we stop our thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we're not supposed to stop our thought. You're

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<v Speaker 1>suposed to just watch your thoughts and acknowledge them and

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<v Speaker 1>respect them. But it gives you a chance to just

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<v Speaker 1>create a little gap or a space between feeling and behavior,

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<v Speaker 1>and it gives you, like this little time to think

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<v Speaker 1>it out, which is so right. And I'm just so grateful, Liz,

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<v Speaker 1>that you do the work you do because I know

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<v Speaker 1>this is important to many many women. They feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, our culture talks about agism like we're somehow

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<v Speaker 1>irrelevant if we can't have a baby yet. Now our

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<v Speaker 1>babies are the entire globe of babies and adults. We're

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of lots of people right.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely. And you know it's funny about meditation. You just

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<v Speaker 3>made me think of something. When you think about meditation,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, you think about all the things you're like

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<v Speaker 3>you're saying, you're practicing. We're always practicing what we don't want.

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<v Speaker 3>We're always worried, we're focused on what we don't want.

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<v Speaker 3>Rarely do we focus on what we do want and

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<v Speaker 3>how we do want to feel. No one to ask

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<v Speaker 3>women how do you want to feel? But that's the

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<v Speaker 3>question you can ask yourself in midlife, and that's what

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<v Speaker 3>you get to do when you meditate. You get to

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<v Speaker 3>actually focus on what you do want practice what you

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<v Speaker 3>do want to feel when you're meditating. So and you're

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<v Speaker 3>and meditating brings brain coherence. Everybody tells me, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like my brain is scrambled. I can't remember anything.

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<v Speaker 3>They're using meditation with Parkinson's now, they're literally helping people

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<v Speaker 3>with Parkinson's with brain coherence. It literally tells the centers

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<v Speaker 3>of your brain to come back together. So listen. I

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<v Speaker 3>went kicking and screamings. I did not want to do it,

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<v Speaker 3>but boy, is it important. You're one hundred percent right.

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<v Speaker 1>Liz Swadik, thank you so much for joining us today.

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<v Speaker 1>The book is Finding Your Diamonds. Heal the Girl and

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<v Speaker 1>the Warrior appears. You can get it on Amazon, Kindle anywhere,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's free for the next four days. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to punch it into my Kindle app Liz right away.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for being with us and that and that brings

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<v Speaker 1>the Doctor Wendy Wall Show to a close. It is

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