Speaker 1: Welcome back to The Doctor Wendy Walls Show and KFI
Speaker 1: AM six forty Live Everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. My
Speaker 1: guest is someone who has been spending a great deal
Speaker 1: of her life helping women transform their own lives. I've
Speaker 1: actually been honored to be a guest on her podcast,
Speaker 1: Conversations with Warrior Women in the past, although now it's
Speaker 1: called The Liz swat Oh, I'm gonna say it wrong, Liz,
Speaker 1: how do I pronounce your last name? Love?
Speaker 2: Swatik?
Speaker 1: Swatik Like I'm gonna swatick you out of my way
Speaker 1: so I can go forward to be a warrior right.
Speaker 2: Swatik Liz Swatik.
Speaker 1: Liz is a healer and rapid transformation coach. Rapid I
Speaker 1: love that word, and she basically is all about resilience
Speaker 1: and when she, just like myself as a journalist, brings
Speaker 1: knowledge to the masses, it is from the world's of neuroscience,
Speaker 1: human design, and sometimes mastering our own illogical, irrational and
Speaker 1: downright wrong beliefs. Liz Swaddick, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: being with us.
Speaker 3: Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker 1: I am curious to know how you found your own
Speaker 1: passion and what you did before this that led you
Speaker 1: to this place of being a healer and transformation coach.
Speaker 3: Well, the better question might be what haven't I done?
Speaker 2: I have a resume like that too.
Speaker 3: I know, Oh my gosh, I have been. I was
Speaker 3: a stand up comedian, I was an actress. I was
Speaker 3: in luxury marketing. I had a social media company that
Speaker 3: I ended up selling because it was just too much
Speaker 3: for me. All this to say, I think, you know,
Speaker 3: you hit a certain age. I'm fifty five, Double Nickel,
Speaker 3: just had my double Nickel birthday, Happy birthday. I thank you.
Speaker 3: I think when you know, when you're in your forty
Speaker 3: fifty sixty, I start to realize, you know, maybe the
Speaker 3: things you were doing before, just because you're good at
Speaker 3: it doesn't mean you want to keep doing it. And
Speaker 3: I think I learned that and I kind of hit
Speaker 3: a wall at forty nine and I realized I'm not
Speaker 3: I'm just kind of going along, just doing kind of
Speaker 3: whatever comes to me. I'm not really making these choices
Speaker 3: that I want to make. And then I had some
Speaker 3: guilt and shame about this that i'd done. I felt
Speaker 3: like I was the Jane of all trades and the
Speaker 3: master of None. You know, I've done everything and had
Speaker 3: some success, but really, now when I look back on it,
Speaker 3: I've now it seems like this beautiful mosaic my whole life. Now,
Speaker 3: everything I'm doing now I use every single thing I've
Speaker 3: ever done in my coaching and my healing. It's almost
Speaker 3: like Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz, like I went
Speaker 3: down the Yellowick road and here I am and I
Speaker 3: have arrived. So it's I think I was always curious
Speaker 3: about transformation. I think I've always been curious about healing
Speaker 3: and transforming and changing and evolving, and I think now
Speaker 3: I get to do it for a living, and that
Speaker 3: just is amazing.
Speaker 1: Well, what's interesting is I think often of my own
Speaker 1: media work. I think of that wonderful saying from is
Speaker 1: it from Jonathan Livingston Segull in that book where he
Speaker 1: says we teach best what we most need to learn.
Speaker 1: And for people like you and I, Liz, who are
Speaker 1: extroverts who process externally as we are going through our
Speaker 1: own life, navigating of life, we're like shouting it from
Speaker 1: the rooftops for people like, oh my goodness, this is
Speaker 1: what this is how you do it?
Speaker 2: Look I'm doing it, and it sounds like you went.
Speaker 1: Through your own transformation to get to this place to
Speaker 1: want to share it with other warrior women.
Speaker 3: No, that's exactly right. It's because I have walked this
Speaker 3: path that I am an expert in transformation. And also,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm also an expert expert of getting knocked
Speaker 3: down and getting back up again, which I know you
Speaker 3: are as well. I think I think that's kind of
Speaker 3: you know when people come to me like, well, Liz,
Speaker 3: I can't do it because I'm going through this or this,
Speaker 3: and I say, yes, I've done that, Yes me too,
Speaker 3: Uh huh, Yes, I've heard this, you know. So I
Speaker 3: think because I've been through so many things, everything from
Speaker 3: infertility to marriage issues too. I've got a child with
Speaker 3: a physical difference. I've got a child with altered of colitis.
Speaker 3: I mean, I have things, you know. I've had a
Speaker 3: kid with ADHD who's struggled through high school. I've had
Speaker 3: so many things. So I think because I've had so
Speaker 3: many things, I have a unique way of using my
Speaker 3: stand up comedy, using my humor, and really understanding where
Speaker 3: women are in midlife and what they what the unique
Speaker 3: challenges are of that of that zone.
Speaker 1: And I don't need to tell you that we are
Speaker 1: a very unique species in that we are the only
Speaker 1: one of three species on the entire planet that has
Speaker 1: men upon us a time of a woman's life where
Speaker 1: she is wise, experienced, energetic, fun and also sterile and evolution.
Speaker 1: Mother Nature was so perfect she was she created the
Speaker 1: stage of a woman's life.
Speaker 2: I believe well.
Speaker 1: Evolutionary psychologists would say to help nurture the next generation,
Speaker 1: but that includes getting involved in politics, building businesses, building charities.
Speaker 1: That's all nurturing the culture. We become custodians of the
Speaker 1: culture because we now have the time to do that.
Speaker 1: But figuring out it sounds to me like the people
Speaker 1: who follow you and read your work and listen to
Speaker 1: your podcast are people who are trying to figure out
Speaker 1: how to create that important meaning during that special third
Speaker 1: of their life.
Speaker 2: Am I right?
Speaker 3: You're one hundred percent right. I call it legacy work.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of women think of legacy of
Speaker 3: what happens after we're gone. I believe that we live
Speaker 3: our legacy now in our thoughts are actions, how we
Speaker 3: make people feel, how we feel, All the choices that
Speaker 3: we're making every single day is leaving a legacy. And
Speaker 3: I lead women to that many different ways, but the
Speaker 3: first step is always there's needs to be some healing.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 3: Sometimes we have to go back into our past to
Speaker 3: look kind of at how we got where we are,
Speaker 3: how did we get here. And when you look at
Speaker 3: your past, it's not to live there, right, to not
Speaker 3: live in the hood, as I say, the victimhood. Not
Speaker 3: live in the hood, but to look at it and
Speaker 3: find the diamonds. What are these points of wisdom? And
Speaker 3: like exactly, like you're saying, there's a unique wisdom that
Speaker 3: comes to us in our forties, fifties and sixties because
Speaker 3: we have lived. We have lived and we have wisdom.
Speaker 3: And I think there's this kind of prevailing knowledge that
Speaker 3: we're supposed to shrink away or feel bad because we're aging.
Speaker 3: It's like, no, this is the juiciest period of your life.
Speaker 3: This is the time where you need to be sharing
Speaker 3: your wisdom. And I have these safe spaces where women
Speaker 3: can come and share their wisdom, and you know, there's
Speaker 3: everybody gets to, you know, be together and feel safe
Speaker 3: enough to expand and grow and try things right and.
Speaker 1: Evolves exactly, And let me tell you, there is so
Speaker 1: much opportunity for all women to be effective, to create
Speaker 1: change and have meaning. And definitely we are not meant
Speaker 1: to wither away. We're in what I call our power stage.
Speaker 1: This is definitely our power stage. So when we come
Speaker 1: back Liz, Liz Swatick, there's a via there by the
Speaker 1: way that she says sounds like a W so she
Speaker 1: apparently has rewritten the alphabet as well.
Speaker 2: That's how. Yes, this woman's super powerful. Your new book is.
Speaker 1: Called Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior
Speaker 1: is revealed. I got cut my spears and the Warrior
Speaker 1: appears there literally one word got cut off and my
Speaker 1: printed thing. I was like, I know something happens with
Speaker 1: this Warrior. I know she comes out somehow. Welcome back
Speaker 1: to the home stretch of the Doctor Wendywall Show on
Speaker 1: KF I am six forty. My guest is Liz Swatik,
Speaker 1: dealer and transformation coach. Her new book is called Finding
Speaker 1: Your Diamonds, Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears. First
Speaker 1: of all, Liz, when I saw your new book cover,
Speaker 1: I was thrilled. It's gorgeous. You're gorgeous. The colors are great.
Speaker 1: We're not afraid of pink anymore?
Speaker 2: Are we.
Speaker 3: No? Tell unafraid?
Speaker 1: Tell me how you chose this title and what does
Speaker 1: it really mean? Finding your diamonds?
Speaker 3: So yeah, first of all, I love it because to me,
Speaker 3: when I see this cover it's pink and white, it
Speaker 3: just would I would want to buy this cover just
Speaker 3: because it looks delicious. It looks like a dessert. But
Speaker 3: don't don't hear what I'm not saying, because this is
Speaker 3: a very deep book. This is a very very deep book,
Speaker 3: despite all the pink and every all the things on
Speaker 3: the cover. But Finding your Diamonds is about finding the wisdom,
Speaker 3: going back in the ashes of your past, maybe even
Speaker 3: things that you thought really went terribly or things you
Speaker 3: have regret or shame about, and unearthing excavating the diamonds
Speaker 3: of wisdom. Because how are diamonds made? Of course through pressure, right, force, heat,
Speaker 3: you know all the elements.
Speaker 2: And we've had a lot of pressure. Liz. Let me
Speaker 2: just say, oh my god.
Speaker 3: Oh my god. I mean, there's no listen to the
Speaker 3: truth is women are just standing on diamonds, that's what
Speaker 3: they're doing. And I think they don't understand that. They
Speaker 3: think that all these things that have happened to them,
Speaker 3: you know, it's ruined parts of their lives, or they
Speaker 3: have regret. There is no regret because everything that you
Speaker 3: have been through is a diamond. And I think it
Speaker 3: takes some distance and time right to hit those juicy
Speaker 3: forty fifty sixties, so you can really look and find them.
Speaker 3: But I'm encouraging women to find the diamonds that they
Speaker 3: can stand on and build a foundation on and then
Speaker 3: heal the girl and the warrior appears. I am a
Speaker 3: big proponent of little girl work. Back in the day
Speaker 3: they called it, you know, inner child work. I call
Speaker 3: it little girl work because I work with women. But
Speaker 3: that she is really the key. That little girl, when
Speaker 3: you reconnect with her, it brings back the playfulness, the energy, lightness,
Speaker 3: and then also guess what, you get to feel your feelings.
Speaker 3: I mean, every woman I work with, they tell me
Speaker 3: their tears are stuck in their throat and they're apologize
Speaker 3: for crying, and I say, no, it's okay, right, Like
Speaker 3: we're supposed to feel the full range of human emotion.
Speaker 3: So that little girl is really the key to our healing.
Speaker 1: And let's talk about some news you can use. Can
Speaker 1: you share a couple strategies from the book Finding Your Diamonds.
Speaker 3: Yes, and I will tell you. In this book, I
Speaker 3: have included a little girl meditation, so you get to
Speaker 3: in the kindle, you just click to it. Otherwise you
Speaker 3: can see the website to go to, but there is
Speaker 3: a meditation. So I'm a big proponent of using meditation
Speaker 3: to reconnect with your little girl because I know it's hard, right,
Speaker 3: it's hard to kind of imagine sometimes or we're afraid
Speaker 3: to do this work. So I've made this gorgeous meditation
Speaker 3: that you can do. Also, in every single chapter, I
Speaker 3: have exercises everything from boundaries to little girls work, to
Speaker 3: legacy work, and questions that you can ask yourself. So
Speaker 3: even though I'm using my story to kind of illustrate it,
Speaker 3: every single chapter has questions and things you can do
Speaker 3: in journal about But one thing I would say if
Speaker 3: I had, if I had to give a tip, I
Speaker 3: would definitely say that it's getting it's getting quiet. You know,
Speaker 3: I think we're really busy. We never slow down.
Speaker 2: We are very busy, Barbie Sias.
Speaker 1: We have people to take care of older people, young people,
Speaker 1: work people.
Speaker 2: We barely have time to take care of our own bodies.
Speaker 3: Yes, and we are we are the caretakers, and so
Speaker 3: I get that. But if you do not slow down,
Speaker 3: you cannot hear your intuition. You cannot hear your own voice.
Speaker 3: So that's that's the first thing you have to do.
Speaker 3: You have to slow down and start letting your feelings
Speaker 3: and your thoughts catch up with you. Not that you can.
Speaker 3: You don't have to believe every thought you're thinking, because
Speaker 3: guess what, that mind is tricky, So I wouldn't believe
Speaker 3: every thought comes to your mind. But at least here
Speaker 3: hear yourself right, and slow down and a long enough
Speaker 3: so that you can actually feel and know where you are.
Speaker 2: Where can people get the book?
Speaker 1: Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears.
Speaker 3: Right now. You can get it on Amazon. It's available kindle, paperback, hardcover,
Speaker 3: and actually for the next four days it's free on
Speaker 3: your kindle.
Speaker 1: Wow, you should have told me to bring my kindle
Speaker 1: to work. Wait, I think I have the Kindle app.
Speaker 1: It might even work on the Kindle app. Right, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna try to figure this.
Speaker 3: We can do it.
Speaker 1: Try to figure this out. It's interesting that you will
Speaker 1: close by talking a little bit about meditation. For any
Speaker 1: of our listeners out there who think that meditation is
Speaker 1: woo woo California silly stuff, there is. I teach a
Speaker 1: section on meditation in my health psychology class to university students,
Speaker 1: and I teach what the research says. And what's really
Speaker 1: fascinating about the research is, not only does it make
Speaker 1: you more empathetic more than anything, you have less rumination
Speaker 1: about your stress. Those are thoughts spinning around. It creates
Speaker 1: a nice little gap between Oh, a bad thing happened
Speaker 1: and what should I do next? There's it slows your
Speaker 1: brain enough. It's like you know, you know how Liz.
Speaker 1: They call it a practice, right, And I always say
Speaker 1: that you know what you're practicing for stress in life?
Speaker 1: When you meditate, your practicing for the stress. So I
Speaker 1: use the metaphor of like, you know, you don't go
Speaker 1: on a StairMaster or a run on a treadmill only
Speaker 1: to look good. It's because one day that car is
Speaker 1: going to careen at you while you're in a crosswalk
Speaker 1: and you're gonnaed to jump out of the way, and
Speaker 1: if you've been working out, you'll be able to do that.
Speaker 2: So the same thing with.
Speaker 1: Our minds and meditation is if we stop our thoughts.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're not supposed to stop our thought. You're
Speaker 1: suposed to just watch your thoughts and acknowledge them and
Speaker 1: respect them. But it gives you a chance to just
Speaker 1: create a little gap or a space between feeling and behavior,
Speaker 1: and it gives you, like this little time to think
Speaker 1: it out, which is so right. And I'm just so grateful, Liz,
Speaker 1: that you do the work you do because I know
Speaker 1: this is important to many many women. They feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, our culture talks about agism like we're somehow
Speaker 1: irrelevant if we can't have a baby yet. Now our
Speaker 1: babies are the entire globe of babies and adults. We're
Speaker 1: taking care of lots of people right.
Speaker 3: Absolutely. And you know it's funny about meditation. You just
Speaker 3: made me think of something. When you think about meditation,
Speaker 3: you know, you think about all the things you're like
Speaker 3: you're saying, you're practicing. We're always practicing what we don't want.
Speaker 3: We're always worried, we're focused on what we don't want.
Speaker 3: Rarely do we focus on what we do want and
Speaker 3: how we do want to feel. No one to ask
Speaker 3: women how do you want to feel? But that's the
Speaker 3: question you can ask yourself in midlife, and that's what
Speaker 3: you get to do when you meditate. You get to
Speaker 3: actually focus on what you do want practice what you
Speaker 3: do want to feel when you're meditating. So and you're
Speaker 3: and meditating brings brain coherence. Everybody tells me, oh my god,
Speaker 3: I feel like my brain is scrambled. I can't remember anything.
Speaker 3: They're using meditation with Parkinson's now, they're literally helping people
Speaker 3: with Parkinson's with brain coherence. It literally tells the centers
Speaker 3: of your brain to come back together. So listen. I
Speaker 3: went kicking and screamings. I did not want to do it,
Speaker 3: but boy, is it important. You're one hundred percent right.
Speaker 1: Liz Swadik, thank you so much for joining us today.
Speaker 1: The book is Finding Your Diamonds. Heal the Girl and
Speaker 1: the Warrior appears. You can get it on Amazon, Kindle anywhere,
Speaker 1: and it's free for the next four days. I'm going
Speaker 1: to punch it into my Kindle app Liz right away.
Speaker 1: Thanks for being with us and that and that brings
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