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Speaker 1: called how to deal with how You Feel?
Speaker 3: The Bible says in so I'm twenty six to two,
Speaker 3: Lord Cross, examine me, Test my motives and my affections.
Speaker 3: What are your affections? There are your emotions? Test my
Speaker 3: motives and my feelings? What I feel my affectations, my emotions.
Speaker 3: So you ask God to help you evaluate it. But
Speaker 3: let me give you another one that's even but more personal.
Speaker 3: Get a friend to help you, and that is sometimes
Speaker 3: it's best to have a friend who can challenge what
Speaker 3: you're feeling. Now, you've got a pretty close friend to
Speaker 3: do that. Have you given anybody in your life the
Speaker 3: permission to challenge your feelings? Or does everybody just have
Speaker 3: to be a yes man or yes woman to you
Speaker 3: that if you feel a certain way, there's no.
Speaker 2: Room for are you sure? Are you sure? Are you sure?
Speaker 3: That's a correct understanding? A true friend is somebody you
Speaker 3: give permission to say are you sure about that? You
Speaker 3: give them the ability to challenge your emotion and say,
Speaker 3: you know, Rick, I don't think I don't think you're
Speaker 3: thinking correctly right now. I don't think what you're feeling
Speaker 3: is actually true. Job had a friend like that. His
Speaker 3: name was Elfhaz, and in Job fifteen, verse twelve, Elifaz
Speaker 3: asked Job, why has your heart carried you away? And
Speaker 3: why do your eyes flash? Now that's a poetic way
Speaker 3: of saying, how come you've run off the deep end?
Speaker 3: And why do you get so angry? Do you have
Speaker 3: anybody who could ask you that question and you wouldn't
Speaker 3: get mad at them that you know they're doing it
Speaker 3: out of love. You need partners in your life. You
Speaker 3: need not only a small group that's a good place
Speaker 3: to find them, but you need a spiritual partner, not
Speaker 3: a lot, just one person who you've given the right
Speaker 3: to challenge what you're feeling and saying, you know what,
Speaker 3: I don't think you're thinking correctly, that's not right. Why
Speaker 3: are you going off the deep end on this? And
Speaker 3: why are you getting so angry about it? Give somebody
Speaker 3: that permission. Now, let me give you three questions to
Speaker 3: ask about your own emotions when you're trying to figure
Speaker 3: out how to deal with how I feel. Okay, so
Speaker 3: let's say you're going let's say you're angry, or you're upset,
Speaker 3: or you're irritated, or you're frustrated, or you're depressed or whatever.
Speaker 3: You ask three street questions. Number one, what's the real reason,
Speaker 3: the real reason that I'm feeling this? And that goes
Speaker 3: back to what we were talking earlier. You know, maybe
Speaker 3: it's fear, maybe it's worry, Maybe it's hooked into something
Speaker 3: that your dad said to you.
Speaker 2: Years and years and years.
Speaker 3: Ago, and when your husband said it to you, all
Speaker 3: of a sudden, boy, he gets all the wrath that
Speaker 3: you'd pent up against your dad or vice versa. What's
Speaker 3: the real reason I'm feeling this? Second question, ask yourself,
Speaker 3: is it true? It's what I'm feeling right now?
Speaker 2: True.
Speaker 3: There's a point where Elijah in the Bible gets so down, discouraged, oppressed,
Speaker 3: and he comes crying to God and he's complaining. He says, God,
Speaker 3: I'm the only one in the entire nation of Israel
Speaker 3: left serving you, and God challenges us, Are you kidding me?
Speaker 3: I got all these people who still serve me. Why
Speaker 3: are you asking acting like this? You're acting like you're
Speaker 3: the only one trying to do the right thing in
Speaker 3: the whole world. No, that's not true. So what's the
Speaker 3: real reason I feel this way? And in that case,
Speaker 3: he was tired, and is it true? In that case
Speaker 3: it wasn't true. Then the third question, this is really important,
Speaker 3: is what I'm feeling helping me or hurting me? Sometimes
Speaker 3: this is the s simplest thing to changing an emotion
Speaker 3: by simply saying, is what I'm feeling right now going
Speaker 3: to help me? Get what I want to get or
Speaker 3: is it actually going to hinder me getting for what
Speaker 3: I get? In other words, well I get what I
Speaker 3: want by continuing to feel this way. A lot of
Speaker 3: feelings that we have feel natural, but they're actually they're
Speaker 3: actually self defeating. For instance, let's say you go in
Speaker 3: and you sit down at a restaurant and the service
Speaker 3: is slow.
Speaker 2: And I mean it's slow.
Speaker 3: And you're waiting and you're waiting, and you're waiting and
Speaker 3: waiting to be served, and then a couple comes in
Speaker 3: like fifteen minutes after you and sits down and then
Speaker 3: they get their meal before you do, and you look
Speaker 3: at your wife, You're going, are you seeing this?
Speaker 2: You watching this here?
Speaker 3: And you're starting to get a little irritated, and all
Speaker 3: of a sudden, you feel an emotion welling up inside
Speaker 3: of you. Now you go, what's the real reason I'm
Speaker 3: feeling this? I'm hungry? Okay, okay, is it true?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 3: I'm frustrated because the service is slow here. So that
Speaker 3: one is particularly true. But then is it helping or
Speaker 3: is it hurting?
Speaker 2: Okay? Question?
Speaker 3: Do you get better service by getting angry at a waitress?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Absolutely not, And so get it you know, it feels
Speaker 3: good to get angry. It's like, how come this place?
Speaker 3: Blah blah blah blah blah blah. You may feel better,
Speaker 3: but you just got worse service. You don't get it.
Speaker 3: That's usually the exact opposite of what you want. Driving
Speaker 3: to services today, I had the radio on and I
Speaker 3: was hearing one of the chief of police is the
Speaker 3: chief of police in Long Beach, and he was saying
Speaker 3: he was teaching.
Speaker 2: He said, we teach.
Speaker 3: Our cops in a crisis, you lower your voice, not
Speaker 3: raise it. Well, naturally, in a christ you want to
Speaker 3: raise your voice. And he said, no, No, what's that?
Speaker 3: That's just going to escalate the problem escalated. So you
Speaker 3: ask yourself, is this emotion actually getting me where I
Speaker 3: want to go? So let's say you want to change
Speaker 3: your husband, or your kids, or your wife or somebody
Speaker 3: who works with you. Does nagging work? Has it ever
Speaker 3: worked anywhere? Let me ask you this, Does nagging work
Speaker 3: on you? When somebody comes and tells you all the
Speaker 3: things that you're doing wrong? Doesn't that just make you
Speaker 3: want to change?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: No, all it does is make you defensive. So you
Speaker 3: need to ask yourself. I know I'm frustrated right now
Speaker 3: with this person in my life, but is expressing my
Speaker 3: frustration to them going to actually make the change and
Speaker 3: I'm going to get what I want out of this?
Speaker 2: No, it is not.
Speaker 3: That's called managing your emotions. You've got to name it.
Speaker 3: Here's what I'm feeling, and here's the trigger. And then
Speaker 3: you've got to challenge it. What's the real reason I
Speaker 3: feel this way? Is it true? Is it helping me?
Speaker 3: Or is it hurting me? And then the third thing
Speaker 3: you got to do is you've got to tame it
Speaker 3: or change it. You've got to change it. You've got
Speaker 3: to make the change in the emotion that you want
Speaker 3: to make when you have that unwanted emotion. Now, as
Speaker 3: I said, last week, we talked about managing your mind.
Speaker 3: This week we're talking about managing your heart. If you
Speaker 3: want to succeed in life, you must learn how to
Speaker 3: master your moods. And when you have a mood, when
Speaker 3: you have an emotion that isn't getting you where you
Speaker 3: want to get, you've got two options. You either change
Speaker 3: it or you channel it.
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Speaker 3: When you have a mood, when you have an emotion
Speaker 3: that isn't getting you where you want to get, you
Speaker 3: got two options. Change it or you channel it. Change
Speaker 3: it or channel it. Let me talk to you about
Speaker 3: both of these things. Some emotions are so destructive, so damaging,
Speaker 3: so hurtful, so non effective. The only attitude only thing
Speaker 3: you can do is just change it. You got to
Speaker 3: change what you're feeling. Philippians two five says this, Your
Speaker 3: attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.
Speaker 3: So your attitude that includes your emotions, what you're feeling,
Speaker 3: should be the same as that of Jesus. So you
Speaker 3: ask yourself, how would Jesus feel in the situation. Would
Speaker 3: Jesus get irritated with this waitress?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Would Jesus be yelling at the person.
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Would Jesus be giving up, wringing his hands and worrying
Speaker 3: that it isn't all going to work out.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: Would Jesus be fearful, No, would Jesus be worried.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: So the bottom line on this one is I instantly
Speaker 3: dismiss any feeling that doesn't make me more like Jesus.
Speaker 3: Your attitude should be the same as Jesus. So if
Speaker 3: I'm feeling an emotion, I've identified it, and I go,
Speaker 3: would Jesus have this emotion? No, then that's not the
Speaker 3: way I should be responding to my wife right now,
Speaker 3: because Jesus wouldn't respond that way. So I instantly dismiss
Speaker 3: any feeling. Jesus would not be prideful, Jesus would not
Speaker 3: be envious, Jesus would not be bitter. Jesus would not
Speaker 3: be enraged. I would instantly drop that attitude. But sometimes
Speaker 3: you can even take a negative emotion that you're feeling
Speaker 3: and rather than change it, you channel it. You channel it.
Speaker 3: What does that mean you use it for good? For instance,
Speaker 3: let's say you have been the victim of injustice. You
Speaker 3: have experienced prejudice, maybe racial profiling. You have experienced unfairness
Speaker 3: in the classroom, unfairness because you're a man or a woman,
Speaker 3: or a different color from somebody else, or whatever. But
Speaker 3: you've had something unfair in your life and you naturally
Speaker 3: the emotion's going to come up in you is anger.
Speaker 3: That's a legitimate response. Is my anger going to get
Speaker 3: me what I want? Probably not? But can my anger be.
Speaker 2: Used for good to help other people? Yes?
Speaker 3: And all of a sudden you become a champion for
Speaker 3: justice because you know what it means to have experienced injustice.
Speaker 2: Does that make sense?
Speaker 3: And so you take a negative emotion anger, And when
Speaker 3: you use your anger for your benefit, that's selfish anger.
Speaker 3: That's a sin. When you use your anger for the
Speaker 3: benefit of people, that's righteous anger. See, anger is not
Speaker 3: a sin. The Bible says in scripture, be angry and
Speaker 3: sin not. It's what you do with that anger, and
Speaker 3: it's the reason you're angry that makes either sin or not.
Speaker 3: You can get angry. If somebody hurt my wife and kids,
Speaker 3: I'd get angry. I would because anger is sometimes in
Speaker 3: evidence of love. If you never get angry about anything,
Speaker 3: it means you're apathetic. It means you have no love
Speaker 3: in your life. Because if you love something or someone
Speaker 3: and somebody hurts them, you're going to get angry. That's
Speaker 3: the natural thing. Love gets angry. God gets angry. The
Speaker 3: only reason you have the ability to get angry because
Speaker 3: God gets angry. God gets angry at sin, God gets
Speaker 3: angry to evil. God gets angry when women are rape.
Speaker 3: God gets angry when children are molested. God gets angry
Speaker 3: when people are abused and misused and injustice. And so
Speaker 3: you could take a negative emotion and you can use
Speaker 3: it in a positive way.
Speaker 2: Let me give you another example. Many of you.
Speaker 3: Have wanted to be married and it just didn't happen,
Speaker 3: and your love has been blocked to date. Some of
Speaker 3: you are married and you've wanted to have children and
Speaker 3: it hasn't happened, and your love.
Speaker 2: Has been blocked to date. What do you do with
Speaker 2: a blocked love?
Speaker 3: Do you pull yourself back into a prison, lock the door,
Speaker 3: pull up the drawbridge, fill the moat with alligators, and
Speaker 3: say I'm never going to let anybody hurt me again. No,
Speaker 3: what do you do? What do you do with a
Speaker 3: blocked love? You rechannel it. Maybe you didn't get to
Speaker 3: love the person you wanted to love, but the world
Speaker 3: is full of people who need your love. Maybe you
Speaker 3: didn't get to have the children you wanted to have,
Speaker 3: but there's one hundred and thirty seven million orphans in
Speaker 3: the world, and there are children on your street who
Speaker 3: need your love. You rechannel a blocked love. You use
Speaker 3: it for good. You don't stew in your hurt. You
Speaker 3: use it for good. If you don't change the emotion,
Speaker 3: you channel the emotion.
Speaker 2: And you use it for good.
Speaker 3: When Matthew died, I entered into the most deep possible
Speaker 3: grief you could imagine. I'm still not out of it,
Speaker 3: and I cry every day for the death of my
Speaker 3: son and the loss of his life. But I decided
Speaker 3: from the first moment that I was going to channel
Speaker 3: that grief for good, and that I would use my
Speaker 3: pain to help other people. And CA did too, and
Speaker 3: we have been doing it because I'm not about to
Speaker 3: waste hurt. I'm not about to waste any pain that
Speaker 3: I go through. If I'm going to have it, I'm
Speaker 3: going to use it for good. What pain in your
Speaker 3: life are you using for good? Maybe you have been
Speaker 3: in so much pain you didn't even want to talk
Speaker 3: about it. Then you need to learn to manage your emotions.
Speaker 3: You need to name it, you need to challenge it,
Speaker 3: and then you need to channel it. If you're not
Speaker 3: going to change it and use it for good, and
Speaker 3: God can use it in your life. Your greatest ministry
Speaker 3: could come out of your deepest pain. Your greatest ministry
Speaker 3: will not come out of your strength and successes. You
Speaker 3: do your strength and discusses, people just go, well, goodie
Speaker 3: for you, you're good at it. But if it comes out
Speaker 3: of your pain, then it could help others. So you
Speaker 3: change it or you channel it. Now, what about those
Speaker 3: ones that need changing? How do you tame a wild
Speaker 3: emotion you got? You say, I am a worrier and
Speaker 3: I cannot stop worrying, and I can't stop that.
Speaker 2: I just worry, worry, worry.
Speaker 3: Where I am a perfectionist and I can't stop it.
Speaker 3: I just criticize and judge and pick and nag, and
Speaker 3: I am lazy and I just tend to be ill
Speaker 3: these emotions.
Speaker 2: In my mind.
Speaker 3: Fear, I'm a fearful person. Anger, I'm a naturally angry person.
Speaker 3: And I lose my temper either blow up or I
Speaker 3: clam up. And there are different kinds of uh. You know,
Speaker 3: there's the there's Mountain Vesuvius, and there's the mute, and
Speaker 3: there's the martyr poor me. There's lots of ways. But
Speaker 3: it's a problem in your life. How do you tame
Speaker 3: a wild emotion? Well, not by willpower, not by willpower,
Speaker 3: the Bible says, this is Zachariah.
Speaker 2: Or six.
Speaker 3: You will not succeed by your own strength or power,
Speaker 3: but by my spirit, says the Lord Almighty zachar For six.
Speaker 3: You don't change an emotion by willpower. I'm going to
Speaker 3: force this change emotion. It doesn't work that way, he says.
Speaker 3: It's not by power, it's not by might. It's by
Speaker 3: my spirit, says the Lord. Well, how does that happen?
Speaker 3: How do you let the Holy Spirit change an emotion
Speaker 3: that's hurting you and hurting other people in your life.
Speaker 2: Let me give you two starter suggestions.
Speaker 3: Number one, every day, ask God to fill me with
Speaker 3: his spirit. I don't get out of bed, my feet
Speaker 3: don't touch the ground without me saying, Holy Spirit, fill
Speaker 3: me today. I need your spirit in my life because
Speaker 3: it's not by might, nor by power, not willpower, but
Speaker 3: by my spirit. I'm going to be able to manage
Speaker 3: my moods and my emotions today. Galatians five twenty two
Speaker 3: in twenty three says this, when the Holy Spirit controls
Speaker 3: our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us.
Speaker 2: Love, joy, peace. We could stop right there.
Speaker 3: I'll just take those three.
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